SonglineFollower Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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1	How Am I Not Supposed To Feel Angry Dude. You are me! Got an Ovation last month, and am signed up for a 10k next month! And drinking a margarita as I read your post! Keep at it! But - warning - Get ready to learn some new acronyms. DARVO is a keeper. Learn it, recognize it, and don’t all for it. And JADE is not your friend, but it will feel right because you want what’s best for you everyone (hint: she does not). Most of things go “ok” at first but when things get “real” out there, look for pushback. Gray Rock is your rock. Live t…	/r/Divorce_Men	21/02/26 02:35 AM
1	How Am I Not Supposed To Feel Angry That’s awesome. It really sucks you have to be in this position. My guess is you were blindsided. My guess is you were in shock and agreed to whatever to keep whatever you thought was fair and kept the most peace…. But yes - be the dad you want to be in your terms. For instance, my kids love manga. My ex hates it. I have become an expert in haikuu, MHA, and Chainsaw man thanks to ChatGPT, and my kids are happy someone had interest in their stuff. Work? Yep! I got 80 hours every other week to bur…	/r/Divorce_Men	21/02/26 02:22 AM
1	How Am I Not Supposed To Feel Angry Welcome to the other side. For what it’s worth, you win. But best to just get the hell out of the way as best you can.	/r/Divorce_Men	21/02/26 02:14 AM
12	How Am I Not Supposed To Feel Angry Men will sacrifice their happiness for their family. Women will sacrifice their family for their “happiness” Hint: you, and everyone else, have nothing to do with her “happiness”. And when she realizes it, she will not own it, and you will still be the root cause. The more unhappy she is, the more you will be the target, because how can it be her own fault to have to own her own happiness? Sucks. Sorry dude.	/r/Divorce_Men	21/02/26 02:12 AM
3	Crushed world Remember from this point on it is a business negotiation. Do not let any emotion or trust influence any decision. Do not, for a moment, think she will “do the right and/or practical thing”. Treat it like a contract with a stranger. Every word matters. Clarity is your only saving grace later on. Mine is still in court over the word “divide”. Also - they get meaner when they realize the reality about to kick in. All that stuff they “forgot” and didn’t consider….	/r/Divorce_Men	19/01/26 07:03 PM
5	Discovered meditation at 54 after my divorce - sharing what actually worked for guys like us Of course my divorce war ravaged brain read that as mediation…. This is much better…	/r/Divorce_Men	08/10/25 02:31 AM
3	Should I give this to my stbx? Best post on Reddit today. And if she doesn’t have a lawyer - it’s actually worse - she’s listening to people in the secret Facebook groups who have no idea how your state laws work - they just like to watch the world burn.	/r/Divorce_Men	18/09/25 12:46 PM
3	Out of nowhere “Amenable” until it comes time to split up stuff. Do not trust anything she offers or says. Get every single detail in writing. Double check every word of everything you sign. Mine was all about being “amenable” until she screwed me out of money we were trying to divide up with the least tax implications… then the whole story line changed. Don’t trust. Triple verify. And if your lawyer thinks yall are “friendly” then you WILL NOT get the representation you need.	/r/Divorce_Men	01/09/25 07:26 PM
1	Beneficiaries after Divorce Living Trust. That way the kids can get the money when they are of an age and a a pace/distribution you determine without the ex being able to touch any of it.	/r/Divorce_Men	20/08/25 03:06 PM
1	Id like to run a marital asset strategy by everyone You mentioned her inheritance… is that carved out in a pre-nup? Is it some sort of monthly stipend or is it a lump sum? And, hate to tell you, “At the time I left” doesn’t mean crap. Still married? Still joint stuff. You may have some status quo order on spending, but if she drains it, you split what’s left - it’s all still legally co-mingled til the judge signs unless you have some sort of order in place…	/r/Divorce_Men	25/07/25 11:52 AM
1	I'm Letting Her Win This Divorce!! How Do I End It As Soon As Possible? This is the correct answer. In addition, it will NEVER be “over”. No document will ever plan every contingency and issues you haven’t even thought of yet. If you roll over, she will stay in charge and keep pushing you around forever. Stand your ground. It sucks now, if she’s pushing you around now, it will not stop just because you gave her what she wants today. It’s not just the “stuff” she wants - it’s to beat you down so she can keep you there. You have to stand up and let her know you won’t …	/r/Divorce_Men	12/07/25 07:18 PM
2	Seeking Divorce Attorney This. Make sure it’s some who will work with you the way YOU want to work, not make you work the way they want you to work. No attorneys out there have some magic sauce you are lucky to get. This is a contract negotiation, and you need someone who will work how you want to work and not throw 20 years of jaded divorce battles on the bonfire of your needs. You are the boss. Find someone who will work on your behalf and take the time to explain your things at your level/pace. Remember they work for…	/r/Divorce_Men	19/11/24 04:01 AM
9	Divorce starting, what to watch for? Do. Not. Trust. Her. Not one word from her mouth or on paper. Nothing should be trusted.	/r/Divorce_Men	08/09/24 04:14 AM