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If you're good looking you can just go on online dating and have moderate success pretty easily. I'm probably an 7-8/10 looks wise and I've got a good sense of humour that some girls like. Main thing is I come across as trustworthy and not creepy. That's all you need to have a bit of success quite easily with OLD. Just keep grinding at it, try to get dates and learn by doing. Eventually you'll build up confidence.
/r/seduction12/05/26 10:04 AM
5

Female equivalent to an incel. Spent too much time online reading about how bad all men are, don't actually meet that many men IRL and the ones she does meet are already in relationships, not attracted to her or she's not attracted to. There's lots of women like this about, when you actually manage to breakthrough their initial outward hostility/coldness they're fine but they don't half make it difficult for men to approach them or woo them. There's plenty of women that aren't like this and that…
/r/seduction28/04/26 12:15 PM
1

That Clavicular dude gives me the creeps man. He needs a ton of therapy, he seems like he badly needs a hug but is incapable of accepting it. Doesn't matter what you look like when you're so insecure, neurotic and clearly mentally damaged - you're always going to put people off. Nothing good is going to happen to him unless he just accepts himself as he is, acknowledges the pain and suffering he feels and builds from there.
/r/seduction15/04/26 09:23 PM
1

If you're physically attractive, generally a nice person and not a pushover then you're free to be the weirdo you were meant to be and women won't mind, in fact they'll probably like you for it.
/r/seduction20/03/26 08:58 AM
3

Why would my friends tell me what I want to hear in this example but not others? There's plenty they tell me that is off-putting if they wanted me to think of them in a romantic sense. Some women are like this but not all, depends on the type I'd say. You go into women's subreddits and there's tons of women that complain about never getting approached or dated
/r/seduction03/03/26 04:12 PM
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Do most women have 3 other guys in their DMs? In my experience a lot of women these days aren't getting chased by tons of men. This is what I've heard from friends, and the last two women I've dated both told me they hadn't been laid for ages before we did the deed.
/r/seduction03/03/26 02:27 PM
2

I don't think the range you're talking about makes much difference, under 20% is fine. After that it's probably more important to have wide shoulders, big arms, good posture and strong legs. Most women aren't bothered about you being mega ripped, in fact some women don't like it.
/r/seduction17/02/26 08:08 AM
1

Sure but imo therapy can help anyone become more resilient
/r/seduction16/02/26 09:48 PM
4

Therapy is the way to toughen up
/r/seduction16/02/26 12:23 PM
7

Best to focus on one girl at a time and learn to handle your emotions /desperation imo. Dating around does work but you end up with immature women and lose the good ones. Dating around is a young / inexperienced man's game. Eventually you should graduate to focusing on one quality women and pursue her with some intensity, it's just more satisfying.
/r/seduction11/02/26 02:12 PM
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Depends on how it's failed
/r/seduction10/02/26 10:00 PM
1

The usual stuff - therapy, exercise, hobbies, socialising
/r/seduction10/02/26 08:40 PM
18

If you believe no one will be attracted to you, it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. Need to do some work on yourself and build confidence
/r/seduction10/02/26 08:32 PM
13

This is pretty good if you just wanna get laid. At least you're being straight up as well rather than being dishonest in anyway.
/r/seduction08/02/26 04:08 PM
7

Some girls make it really easy, but you have to be on lookout for the signs. I was on a first date last week that had gone really well and we'd had a really good talk and laughter, no physical touch however. At the end of the date, before getting up to leave I said I'd had a really good time and I'll like to see her again in a friendly way, she agreed and really gave me a lustful stare. I knew straight away that she wanted me to kiss her so after we'd got up and left the bar and we're saying our…
/r/seduction27/01/26 08:52 PM
27

Have fulfilling relationships with friends and family. Become more authentic so you're sharing your true self and hopefully be accepted for it. Build self knowledge and esteem so you can articulate yourself confidently, understand and articulate your desires and needs. Learn emotional regulation so you can internally soothe yourself, improve coping mechanisms so you can express your emotions in healthy ways. Doing all of this stuff basically heals the damage you've sustained through your upbring…
/r/seduction27/01/26 05:30 PM
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Dating 1 woman at a time is enough for me.
/r/seduction26/01/26 06:20 AM
2

Getting really drunk is the only way I can enjoy them
/r/seduction25/01/26 08:54 AM
2

I get matches all the time. Not saying they're not worthless for some people but they do work for me
/r/seduction21/01/26 12:53 AM
2

I think these preferences you describe are superficial but it's probably something many of these women will grow out of. As you get older you naturally realise what is actually important, you think you know when you're young but you learn a ton through life experience. The only issue I foresee is if people aren't getting the experience because they're spending too much time online, not getting out and making mistakes and learning from them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 11:50 AM
2

Will be easier in London than anywhere else I'd say
/r/seduction28/11/25 11:43 PM
3

Yeah I never see any men IRL expressing anything like the wild takes I see online, though that's probably the demographics I move in. It must be more common in men younger than me, and with men who are less socialised, maybe people hide it. At the end of the day it's easier to blame the other gender than accept your own flaws or acknowledge that sometimes life is just unfair and you're unlucky for whatever reason. I think it makes you a lot more attractive as a man if you're able to work this ou…
/r/seduction22/11/25 03:58 PM
7

Tons of men online have a terrible attitude about women, blaming them for their problems. Causes a self fulfilling prophecy where having this attitude makes you unattractive to women. There might be bad women out there, but there's plenty that aren't. Plenty of women have a negative attitude of men too online in fairness. If you can rise above these gender wars and be the exception it makes it a lot easier to have fun and meet women.
/r/seduction22/11/25 01:49 PM
3

Not sure it's a great look to talk about serial killers so much in your post tbh. And Richard Ramirez is definitely good looking - visible cheekbones and jaw line.
/r/seduction06/10/25 06:50 AM
3

No one wants you when you're sad. Got to achieve happiness (or at least contentment) without women then you're less needy and dependent on the outcome.
/r/seduction20/09/25 11:58 PM
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Not all men want first date sex? Even though I would I think it's better to wait till like date 3 as you both know each other better and there's more tension
/r/seduction16/09/25 06:04 AM
3

If you're young - hostel so you can meet people. Getting an Airbnb just so you can get laid is tacky imo and is a bit desperate. Going travelling isn't just about getting laid, it's about meeting people and making new friends.
/r/seduction15/09/25 10:05 PM
1

You need therapy bro. Women aren't going to be interested in you when you're literally suicidal and incredibly desperate - no amount of charisma or charm can make up for that. I respect the hustle you got going but you're hustling at the wrong things right now, you need to heal the inner pain from the breakup and whatever else. I'd take some time off of dating as you're not in the mental space to have any sort of success or even make any effective progress. Spend time improving your mental healt…
/r/seduction08/09/25 08:43 AM
13

How you managed to get yourself banned on dating apps? A couple of my friends sent some pretty fucked up messages on Tinder and my account is still going strong - you must have been bad
/r/seduction06/09/25 04:42 PM
3

I don't think you have to go anywhere near offensive or sleazy things to flirt, you can but it's not a must. To me it's more about really connecting with someone and trying to make them feel sexy. If you're attracted to someone, allow yourself to feel it but don't really act on it, just slowly feel the attraction while you talk to them and your body language and tone will give off flirty vibes. The more you practice this feeling the better you can control and channel it. When I do this I find my…
/r/seduction05/09/25 10:22 PM
5

Emotionally mature women love a man who can be vulnerable without being insecure about it. Displays true confidence and emotional maturity and they feel safe being vulnerable too, which means they'll let their guard down around you and feel safe in your presence.
/r/seduction11/07/25 06:57 PM
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It depends a lot on the context, you can't just blurt something out randomly or it seems forced, you also need a certain level of familiarity as talking about these sorts of things too soon is intense and might put someone off. It's also entirely personal to you; your struggles and experiences. An example for me would be saying "I used to be really shy growing up but as I've got older I've got more outgoing, but I still sometimes don't feel like being talkative". This is true to me so I can say …
/r/seduction10/06/25 04:21 PM
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You are trying to avoid being vulnerable Being vulnerable in a confident controlled manner is like a cheat code with women. Makes you seem deep and "not like other guys", makes them feel safe and relaxed around you, more likely to open up. Not guaranteed to work on everyone but some women go crazy for it and in my experience it's the good ones that like it.
/r/seduction10/06/25 06:04 AM
5

That's why the best way to be happy is to lower your expectations and standards
/r/seduction30/05/25 01:26 PM
2

Best way to be happy in a relationship is to lower your standards. If you get a girl that thinks you're amazing and extremely attractive then it makes your life easy. If you're attracted to her as well then it's all good. The more attractive women you're aiming for, the more attractive you need to be. Give a chance to some of the less obviously attractive women and one will eventually surprise you. I'm dating a girl at the moment I didn't think was that attractive just from pictures, but we had …
/r/seduction29/05/25 11:25 AM
2

It's very helpful in dating to be friends with women IMO. You can practice talking to women. This means you can learn what women like/dislike, practice being a bit vulnerable, practice flirting, become more comfortable and fun around women. It's especially useful to be friends with your friend's girlfriends imo. You know that nothing sexual/romantic is on the table so it's easier to just be friends without catching any sort of feelings. women always want to talk about dating, so that's what I of…
/r/seduction26/05/25 08:00 AM
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Not sure Russell Brand is the best example when he's on trial for rape 😂 He can clearly make women feel appreciated but through manipulation rather than authenticity. Agree with everything else though. Once I learned to appreciate women, being friends with them first and making them feel understood and listened to then my dating life improved a ton. If you don't expect or need anything from them, they will be more willing to have fun with you.
/r/seduction20/05/25 09:55 AM
3

That is just a fantasy. Only way you can get there is if you're 10/10 looks or good looks and super rich/famous. I once knew a guy who was a legitimate 10 and women would openly look gobsmacked when they saw him. He was a humble guy but had supreme confidence with women just because they always worshipped the ground he walked on. Not attainable for most people
/r/seduction16/05/25 10:17 AM
2

Chat GPT
/r/seduction06/05/25 08:06 PM
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Be vulnerable yourself in a controlled, non-needy way. Kind of like saying vulnerable things but without expecting her to react in a particular way. This makes anyway feel more relaxed around you - it displays confidence, emotional intelligence and self-esteem. This also makes others more comfortable opening up to you too.
/r/seduction27/04/25 11:58 PM
3

Younger people tend to be more shallow and superficial
/r/seduction23/04/25 06:56 PM
10

You can do everything right and still get ghosted, don't think about it too much
/r/seduction23/04/25 05:53 PM
4

Just sounds like you're hungover bro. It's called hangxiety for a reason. Just don't drink as much again
/r/seduction22/04/25 11:36 AM
6

I feel like the trick is to be aware and lean into what OP describes but don't make it everything, otherwise you're basically Patrick Bateman. What OP says is true but I really don't like it as advice because people are already too shallow and superficial and thinking so much about your personal brand is just gross.
/r/seduction08/04/25 08:13 PM
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Title is terrible and dystopian. Content is pretty much bang on
/r/seduction07/04/25 08:50 PM
8

If you look good, have above average emotional intelligence for a guy and you can talk and have fun, you'll be attractive to most women. Obviously not all will date you or sleep with you but most women will enjoy talking to you and often want to flirt. It's pretty simple and sometimes people over think things and project their insecurities out into the world and end up fucking things up for themselves.
/r/seduction19/03/25 08:20 PM
3

A women's prison I bet
/r/seduction10/03/25 10:18 PM
7

I've got better at this lately and what I'd recommend is not texting too much - like 4 or 5 messages a day at max, moreoften than now 2 or 3 at least in the early stages of dating. Make the initial message flirty: compliment their profile in some way, or ask them a question where you can give a flirty response Don't ever mention sex or your attraction to them, but definitely allude to your attraction to them subtly. This will get good responses and you can work out who's good fun and who isn't. …
/r/seduction05/03/25 05:55 PM
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Just have to throw enough shit at the wall until some of it sticks
/r/seduction04/01/25 02:10 AM
12

There's definitely truth in what you say but I'd also say most men are disappointing from the female perspective. We tend to be obsessed with sex and women's appearance. We're generally much less emotionally intelligent and many men require babysitting - they're looking for a mum replacement rather than an equal relationship. We're worse than women socially, more likely to be lonely and have less friends. Male friendships tend to be less nourishing and can in no way replace a relationship like s…
/r/seduction24/12/24 12:06 AM
1

Being really aware of your emotional state, the ebbs and flows, any triggers and where you are with it. Probably need therapy to get such a good grip on it
/r/seduction12/11/24 08:13 AM
4

You can't really detach emotions from sex too well - your body releases hormones which cause you to bond with the sexual partner. Only way is one night stands or being really on top of your shit
/r/seduction12/11/24 12:42 AM
2

It's better to do dates without alcohol IMO and this is from a guy who likes to get fucked up on occasion. Forces you to be fun yourself rather than focus on getting drunk to be fun.
/r/seduction01/11/24 09:41 PM
1

If you have a strong grasp of your own feelings, emotions, struggles, values and motives this comes much more naturally. Trying to force an emotional connection with someone comes off as forced and artificial - like if a pushy salesman is trying to get you to buy something. Doing therapy for a few months is the fastest way to forge a really strong connection to your emotional state. Then sharing that with everyone and becoming more and more comfortable with uncomfortable emotions and even sharin…
/r/seduction29/10/24 02:01 PM
2

You don't have to be tbf. Some women like a man who brings 'Golden Retriever' energy. If you're good looking, fit, happy, loyal, kind, cute, affectionate you can charm a lot of women - not all though.
/r/seduction11/09/24 02:50 PM
1

That's called shame bro. If you allow yourself to feel the shame, rather than reject it, and make it a part of you, then eventually you get over it.
/r/seduction07/09/24 09:07 PM
4

Sounds exhausting. Would have no idea who I've said what to
/r/seduction07/09/24 02:55 PM
1

Nah don't call him out, makes you look petty, insecure and controlling. Don't tell people you're interested in someone, if someone asks be coy or laugh it off. It also makes things a big deal and it will make others chase the person to show you up.
/r/seduction31/08/24 11:12 PM
1

Yeah but doing shit and having hobbies gives you stuff to talk to girls about. It makes you a more interesting person, even if those hobbies are directly social. Spending all your time sat inside playing video games or reading the Internet makes you a boring person - and this is coming from someone who has done this. If you can talk to a girl (or dude tbh) about the interesting hikes you know, or the cool museum, or how you just crushed a new PB at the gym, or climbed a new wall any shit like th…
/r/seduction31/08/24 08:35 PM
3

Best way to handle this is to share your deepest emotions in therapy first, with someone who is trained to help you and paid for it. Once you've got a better grip on them, you can share them to others without needing or expecting as much. Will make you seem even more attractive. But yeah find better girls too.
/r/seduction27/08/24 11:45 PM
2

This is good stuff I think I'm gonna steal your houseplants bio, that's great
/r/seduction24/08/24 09:01 PM
1

My best friend told me he would never have swiped right on the woman that ended up being his wife (and her the same) so lots of things are lost online.
/r/seduction23/08/24 03:49 PM
3

I'm the same, I guess it helps that I'm 6ft and above average looks. I could probably do better IRL if I was more outgoing and my friends weren't all handsome devils who clean up.
/r/seduction23/08/24 03:46 PM
8

It's his cousin, not his sister/mom, nbd imo.
/r/seduction20/08/24 06:38 PM
1

Yeah my fashionable buddy picked out a shirt for me to buy and wear the other day. Had two compliments about how nice it was (from guys), and two women started talking to me while I was out. I was definitely feeling confident but looking sharp (which I dont always) definitely makes a big difference to how woman react to you.
/r/seduction20/08/24 03:16 PM
3

Not sure where you are but if you said that in the UK you would get laughed at or eye rolled 🤣
/r/seduction07/08/24 01:18 PM
24

Yeah tanning is good in the short term but your skin will look like an old mangy leather sofa when you hit your 40-50s and age you.
/r/seduction07/08/24 01:08 PM
24

Also tinder: single moms, girls advertising their insta to try become influencers, prostitutes, girls advertising their onlyfans, gay guys trying to turn straight guys
/r/seduction06/08/24 05:03 PM
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I get why that might be the case. Men are struggling to adapt to new roles in the world, our fathers were the breadwinners but women our age are often more educated than us - women are much more likely to go to university these days. Male suicide is 4x that of women. Men are no longer the sole breadwinner, which is a good thing. Women have learned how to be independent of men, unfortunately most men haven't learned how to be independent themselves, especially when young. It's sad to see the amou…
/r/seduction25/07/24 08:52 PM
3

Yeah I mean you've probably fucked it then. Learn your lesson for next time and be prepared to move on
/r/seduction22/07/24 09:02 PM
4

If she's distant just let her be, scrambling around trying to regain her attention will just push her away even more.
/r/seduction22/07/24 08:46 PM
6

Hold your horses. You're too invested in this already. Sending that message would probably scare her off. Just keep things relaxed, she has said she wants to take things slowly, just hang out and have fun.
/r/seduction22/07/24 08:32 PM
12

You need to learn ancient Greek first, if you haven't then don't even bother
/r/seduction04/07/24 01:40 PM
4

Men do often mature more slowly than women, and are more likely to stay immature
/r/seduction03/07/24 01:58 PM
1

Therapy is always a good idea if you're in a slump
/r/seduction18/06/24 09:07 PM
3

Alternative title: How to rationalise being an arsehole
/r/seduction09/05/24 03:01 PM
37

I've seen a few articles about how depressed people have got after becoming digital nomads. A lot of the people saying how good it is are influencers who need clicks and followers
/r/seduction08/05/24 02:28 PM
2

This is just going to make online dating even more meaningless and shite
/r/seduction19/03/24 07:31 PM
5

Stop spending so much time 'studying seduction'. Get outside and do some shit
/r/seduction17/03/24 05:05 PM
11

Muslim women can make good friends but I wouldn't bother with dating one unless you're Muslim yourself
/r/seduction15/03/24 08:51 PM
2

You can never be sure, some girls just like to play with men and are adept at making you think/feel they are interested when they're not.
/r/seduction14/03/24 02:25 PM
3

Women don't want you to be an emotional wreck, or behave like an insecure baby - that's unattractive behaviour for anyone. They are very attracted to a man who is secure, confident and in touch with his emotions. The best example who most people are familiar with is Aragorn from LOTR. He's masculine, self-reliant, diligent, a leader but displays the full range of emotions - he's unafraid to show his kindness, sensitivity, sadness too. That's what people should be aiming for IMO
/r/seduction11/02/24 10:59 AM
2

This is such a crock of shit. Confident, emotionally mature people are constantly vulnerable. Approaching a woman, or asking her on a date is being vulnerable. Some women might want a man that's so repressed he never shows any emotion, but that also means he won't be genuine, he won't be as kind, he won't be fun or good with dogs/children. If you do this you'll just end up repressed and lonely, you might get some women and have some friends but they'll never be enough. You don't want to be an em…
/r/seduction11/02/24 10:49 AM
11

Older women want to chat to you and are very friendly towards you, if you're nice to them they will say you're a nice boy or treat you like that. Younger women will often be a bit shy around you, some will be a little unfriendly initially as they might be intimidated or feel uncomfortable until you're friendly to them. When you talk to women they will look into your eyes and smile at you. Or they might act a little submissive and intimidated, even if you're being friendly, and look away from you…
/r/seduction23/05/23 11:54 AM
1

Any man who is super dominant is probably an asshole. How many kind and dominant men do you meet? I think they're almost opposing traits. If you do meet a physically attractive, dominant, kind man he is probably in the top 1% of attractiveness so can naturally attract most available women. It's a rare combination I'm physically attractive and kind but I don't have much desire to be dominant because it just sounds like hard work. I'd rather have a relationship that is equal
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 01:50 PM
1

Many attractive high value men have sex with any woman they can, and yet they are not technically desperate. They just have high libido. They're not necessarily desperate but they are definitely immature.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 08:22 PM
2

Yeah it's basically invented to place your inadequacies on the other side rather than actually put some effort into being introspective
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 08:16 PM
1

I can see why women don't want to date most men, we're truly awful judging by most of these replies
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 08:14 PM
1

This only happens if the man is sexually and emotionally desperate.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 08:13 PM
15

That's can be pretty normal human behaviour, and a sign of growth. Do you not cringe at some of the things you've done/said, and thinking back think you've grown as a person. It might not always be, it might just be then coping but still.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 06:51 PM
1

Maybe you should see a doctor then, doesn't sound normal to me
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 06:48 PM
7

You probably need more exercise, people who stay active throughout their life can be in good condition even into old age.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 06:46 PM
6

It's superficial but that's how things are. If you want to sleep with an attractive women but not an ugly one, that's also superficial
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 09:15 PM
2

You can be healthy with a six pack, you can be healthy without a six pack. You can be unhealthy with a six pack, you can be unhealthy without a six pack.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 09:13 PM
1

Yeah I've had a few good dates on there but not for a while. I stopped using it myself because I moved and the girls I was coming across outside of the city were 75% single mums and chavs. My women friends don't like it either, they get lots of matches but many are desperate men or mention sex in the first message. All in all the dating game isn't in great shape at the moment. Just have to focus on yourself and try to meet people organically or really graft and swipe/message for days for little …
/r/seduction19/06/22 07:55 AM
4

Yeah this is why fuckboys/badboys do well with women, at least in the short term
/r/seduction18/06/22 10:59 PM
8

Hinge is better but OLD is an absolute shit sandwich, it's a great way to slowly sap your enthusiam and the fun out of dating. It's got worse in the last few years too like you say. If you're feeling this negative about it it's probably best to quit it for a while and go out of your way to try to meet people IRL.
/r/seduction18/06/22 07:29 PM
1

that's what the downvote is for
/r/seduction16/06/22 04:35 PM
2

thanks for the useful reply and great takedown of my argument
/r/seduction16/06/22 04:10 PM
3

Well i'm speaking from my own experience, it has worked for me. During the pandemic I was so desperate and depressed I sought out a therapist, where I practiced showing my vulnerability to someone (who reacted kindly and positively, which feels amazing). Once you learn that sharing your vulnerability can be a very good thing (when you choose the right person), you then have to start doing it in real life. It's not easy, particularly if you have some toxic relationships/friendships where you lear…
/r/seduction16/06/22 11:03 AM
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Imo sex is very important to mental health. There are many examples of people being happy who don't have sex, you have made that it a condition that's required for your own happiness. If you continue to need sex for happiness then you will continue to come off as desperate and needy to women and therefore not get that which you desire. In order to get sex more easily, you need to not need it so desperately. When you feel like you need sex, which part of it do you really need? Next time you feel …
/r/seduction15/06/22 11:24 PM
2

Older woman tend to like men who are kind and sweet, so if they see that quality in you then they're likely to give you compliments because they want you to be more confident. They're less impressed by 'bad boys'
/r/seduction22/05/22 11:07 AM
1

mature
/r/seduction08/05/22 09:06 PM
4

Her dad treated her like shit when she was a kid so now she's attracted to men who treat her the same. Everyone has these weird quirks and the only way to get past them is with self-awareness, experience, therapy.
/r/seduction23/04/22 10:07 AM
3

Daddy issues
/r/seduction23/04/22 09:42 AM
42

The more confident you are feeling around women, comfortable with yourself and your sexuality - the more natural flirting becomes. Before trying to be really good at flirting - get better at being at ease around women and happy on your own and you will get better results and not come off like a creep or try-hard.
/r/seduction22/04/22 02:19 PM
1

Men can be very vulnerable and visibly upset if it's something really serious like someone dieing but if it's something minor then it's unnattractive and seen as weak. Showing positive emotions is still vulnerable to an extent and women are really turned on by that.
/r/seduction13/04/22 10:29 PM
2

Sounds like he needs therapy
/r/seduction11/04/22 12:18 PM
3

It's not healthy to motivate yourself by being hard on yourself for long periods. I managed to make a lot of progress for ages by forcing myself to do things and mentally being harsh on myself if I didn't do it. Eventually this burns you out and you begin to not even care about it anymore because it's not worth the mental punishment. It sounds like you are at a similar point. You might need to relax for a while, take stock, work out what you want. If you want to really be happy without having to…
/r/seduction02/04/22 09:52 AM
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Sounds like you just wanted to brag about your insta page
/r/seduction31/03/22 09:43 AM
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Well get a new one then? Are you engaging with it properly, self-reflecting a lot. The therapist should be helping, but it's mainly you who has to do the work unfortunately. Start talking about your insecurities and try to work out why you feel that way. I have had issues with my masculinity and it for me it came down to my relationship with my father which I imagine is incredibly common.
/r/seduction23/03/22 09:30 PM
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It depends on which you go on. I'm not an expert but fairly sure you can get low sex drive /erectile disfunction from some of them.
/r/seduction23/03/22 09:27 PM
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Hinge is better
/r/seduction23/03/22 09:06 PM
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I'd avoid SSRIs unless you actually feel very depressed, they have some side effects that are only worth it if you're miserable. Might be worth speaking to a therapist about your insecurities and working through them so they don't bother you anymore.
/r/seduction23/03/22 08:52 PM
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Might be good to speak to a therapist. They help you understand your own quirks, idiosyncrasies and insecurities. Once you understand yourself you can understand when an insecurity is causing you to feel weird/disconnected around someone. For example, if you feel like you're acting weird it might be because of some experience that happened if your childhood that's unconsciously affecting you now. If you've acknowledged that childhood experience it's easier to ignore the weird feeling and act in …
/r/seduction22/03/22 09:25 AM
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If a girl is so into Instagram that she unmatches you then she is shallow as fuck. The conversation if you met her would be vapid, and painful. If you yourself are not into Instagram then own it, there is plenty of girls who won't care if you're into Instagram or not. If you try to have a good Insta despite not enjoying that, that's try hard and you're not being yourself, you're performing just to try and impress girls which is needy and pathetic and unnattractive.
/r/seduction19/03/22 11:02 PM
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If they blow up one or two nukes it's not a big deal radiation wise
/r/seduction18/03/22 10:12 AM
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Probably better to just pay for a therapist at that point
/r/seduction08/03/22 10:57 PM
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You're still very young and only just graduating university. It might feel like you should be doing this or that, but the only person you should compare yourself to is you. To become good with women and dating, you need to become strong mentally on your own first, so you're not needy and desperate. You need to work on attaining happiness without dating/girlfriends/approval from women and friends. Do you know what you want from life? Work towards goals outside of dating. Build up your confidence …
/r/seduction08/03/22 07:20 PM
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I see your point but as someone in their late 20s, I'm just not interested in making a fancy instagram that shows off my life - it just seems shallow and like you're trying too hard. It might mean that some women aren't attracted to me but I guess we wouldn't be a good fit anyway. I wouldn't be able to make a fancy instagram because I'm just not interested in it, so it would be better for me to show how good looking and amazing my life is in other ways.
/r/seduction08/03/22 12:09 PM
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Have you tried speaking to a therapist? It sounds like you might have some issues with depression and losing your mother at an early age would be very hard for anyone. Rather than trying to become happy via meeting a woman, maybe you should focus on your own happiness first of all. Why do you feel like you need a woman to make you happy? It sounds like you're trying to find a replacement for your mother. (sorry) Women aren't going to find it attractive if you're not mentally healthy even if you …
/r/seduction08/03/22 10:42 AM
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You're gonna attract shallow women who value guys with lots of followers so you've got to decide whether that's what you want in a women
/r/seduction08/03/22 10:27 AM
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Personally I don't think approaching women in the street like some people suggest on here is a good idea in the UK, you will get labelled a creep. Doing it at bars/nightclubs is okay but with Covid it might make it more difficult at the moment, some people may even not want to talk to strangers because of Covid. It might be worth starting to do more hobbies/sports. I've been thinking about starting climbing, you will probably meet people doing that or you could join groups on meetup.com Other th…
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