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| 1 | We pathologize male passivity in dating but reward female passivity and nobody can explain why without circular logicI think a lot of this discussion is complicated by what we actually mean by approach, often its not black and white on who is putting themself out there more than the other. I think I've had way more success with women than the average guy so I'm not ugly, but I specifically remember stone cold approaches had an awful success rate. You at least need some eye contact, then maybe you'd both go to the bar and get a drink at the same time or walk past each other and say hi and see what kind of hi yo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/26 08:49 AM |
| 1 | We pathologize male passivity in dating but reward female passivity and nobody can explain why without circular logicReally in 2026? What does that even look like? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/26 08:33 AM |
| – | Men have to build their assets, but women are born with them.Sounds like you're really trying because tattoos and makeup are such a turn-off for most men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/26 11:38 AM |
| 2 | Boys are supposed to BECOME menSounds grim each to their own though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/26 03:29 PM |
| 4 | Boys are supposed to BECOME menI don't really see how one thing trains you for the other. It's good to need someone and feel needed and necessary rather than just an accessory. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/26 03:22 PM |
| 5 | Boys are supposed to BECOME menSo everyone should assume they will die alone, anything more is entitlement. Welcome to 2026 everyone! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/26 03:13 PM |
| 5 | Being coddled as boys has done the most damage to men’s social lives.11 year old boys aren't usually thinking about pussy. They are told in this advice that doing these things will make the girls happy. And because boys aren't the demonic gremlins you seem to think, a lot of them actually do want to make the girls they're thinking about happy. This needs to be repeated above every post in this sub. When I think about when I was going through puberty as a teenager the idea you were wanting some kind of one night stand is so laughable. I used to fantasise about hav… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/07/26 03:26 PM |
| 4 | Being coddled as boys has done the most damage to men’s social lives.I agree that gentle parenting is terrible and the root of many ills in modern society. Many young people don't want to put themselves in uncomfortable situations ever and this leads to them being work shy. Gentle parenting teaches that you should never be angry with your children never tell them no always be sensitive and act like that have a valid opinion on things. This is nonsense and not what children need at all it lacks structure. The big problem with your post is that the parents who are … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/07/26 03:15 PM |
| 0 | The mockery of "unselected" men is a proxy victory. Women celebrate their loneliness because they are powerless against the elite men who actually exploit them. The target at low hanging fruit to make themselves feel better.TBF he's covered that, categorising into attractive and unnattractive isn't ranking is it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/26 10:10 AM |
| 2 | The mockery of "unselected" men is a proxy victory. Women celebrate their loneliness because they are powerless against the elite men who actually exploit them. The target at low hanging fruit to make themselves feel better.Probably | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/26 10:00 AM |
| 5 | The mockery of "unselected" men is a proxy victory. Women celebrate their loneliness because they are powerless against the elite men who actually exploit them. The target at low hanging fruit to make themselves feel better.I'm not saying the mockery happens a lot but I don't think this is a good defence. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/26 09:58 AM |
| – | Women know when other women are low quality. Redpill Men chase them and call it 'Female Nature'.Very obscure example and if those women don't exist then its not a thing. I wouldn't call those (hypothetical) damaged women toxic anyway. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/26 07:34 AM |
| 5 | Women know when other women are low quality. Redpill Men chase them and call it 'Female Nature'.This narrative is irrelevant for most men I’m talking about women who are like the prettiest in their class and the most popular. It cant be all men going after those women and also getting in a relationship with them then realising they're narcissists. I reject that there are enough toxic women for this to even be a thing. The one toxic woman I dated was not even in any of the ways you describe it was more trauma related to her childhood I think, she wasn't the type to get a tonne of attention.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/06/26 01:50 PM |
| 3 | Women know when other women are low quality. Redpill Men chase them and call it 'Female Nature'.Amber Heard? Literally perfect example, everyone took her side until all the evidence to the contrary came to light. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/06/26 01:00 PM |
| 4 | Women know when other women are low quality. Redpill Men chase them and call it 'Female Nature'.Is men having preferences for toxic women even a thing? The only time I even hear about toxic women in relationships on here is attractive women that have developed narcissistic personalities by the stupid amount of attention they’ve had their whole lives (from both men and women). Men are attracted to those women in spite of their toxicity not because of it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/06/26 12:56 PM |
| 2 | Men do reject women at similar rate, it’s just different.The idea the other 10 percent are admitting it on dates as well is hilarious! Some of the stuff that gets said on here is so disconnected from reality. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/06/26 08:54 AM |
| 2 | Men do reject women at similar rate, it’s just different.Not saying it is either genders fault more than the other but this is yet another example of how we have seriously f**ked dating. I feel so sorry for y'all having to experience it now. When I was single I dated a lot in the old world. The idea of "working for it" never entered my mind I put in lots of effort called/texted them, I enjoyed contacting them and getting to know them, dating was fun. I never once had different expectations of a woman based on how attractive they were even though I was… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/06/26 08:50 AM |
| – | I don't understand why men take pride in saying they have low standardsPart of your issue may be describing dating as a housing issue... As I said previously "Many people deny the framing and that's where the debate comes in." Women don't like analogies in general I find. My point was that a negotiation means you can get the best possible person you can get. Calling it settling only describes half the equation. Also what I didn't mention before is that person needs to get those love chemicals firing. The theory is that people are dismissing partners before giving t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/06/26 08:24 AM |
| – | Is too much perfection a red flag?If real life this never happens it reminds me of in Romcom people have the break up arc because of some ridiculous and dumb misunderstanding it would never happen they'd makeup the next day. In real life people are vulnerable once their boxes are ticked, especially once a relationship is established. If you meet someone perfect those love hormones are going to be firing, there's no cynicism because that’s literally what love is thinking someone is perfect. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/06/26 03:06 PM |
| – | TRP is fundamentally opposed to right wing politics and tradconBingo, you put it perfectly. Every other comment is concentrating on the tribal aspect of communities rather than the evolutionary psychology behind some aspects of RP. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/06/26 02:52 PM |
| – | TRP is fundamentally opposed to right wing politics and tradconI think casual sex culture is a problem for average and below men mainly because it makes women assume that men think the same way as they do. Women only have sex with people that are good enough to be bf material so they assume they're thought of in as high regard to the man but they’re not. Then comes the wasted years of them waiting around for an LTR of the same level as their casual sex partner. That's the theory anyway. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/06/26 02:44 PM |
| 4 | “Just be happy single” is easy advice when singledom is optional.Seconded from a long time happily married man a close group of friends and hobbies. Being single is shit it used to be uncontroversial to say that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/06/26 01:47 PM |
| 2 | “Just be happy single” is easy advice when singledom is optional.RP is literally all about improvement advice "earn more" "just lift bro" "tidy your room". Those are the things people should be focussing on, not the misogyny. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/06/26 01:39 PM |
| 0 | I don't understand why men take pride in saying they have low standardsYou sound like a horrible person you took genuine critical points very badly. Also stop saying 'you' like you're giving me advice. I'm much older than you and been happily married for 20 years I also dated a tonne before that and had fairly easy success as I'm way above average myself. But none of that means I can't see some people have it genuinely hard. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/06/26 11:35 AM |
| 0 | I don't understand why men take pride in saying they have low standardsThis is the whole red vs blue debate, if getting into a relationship is like buying a house then saying you don't want to settle is like saying ur not willing to negotiate the price EVER, but if this means you never ended up buying somewhere because you always get outbid, then was it a win or an L? Many people deny the framing and that's where the debate comes in. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/06/26 11:10 AM |
| 1 | I don't understand why men take pride in saying they have low standardsIt kind of sounds like you're hearing concerns of men who have less success than you and you're just dismissing them. You're probably above average but you think you're not. My group is the similar in terms of success and definitely above average socially, but it's taken me a while to realise this. There are plenty of guys who got left behind due to reasons not necessarily their fault maybe covid or they just didn't have close friends at school or they lost touch. Don't dismiss them just because… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/06/26 11:04 AM |
| 1 | Too many men are obsessed with masculinity when it’s really they’re not acting like adults.We're going off on a tangent. All RP side needs to prove is that being ruthless is an advantage in the animal world and that women look for this gene to replicate in their offspring (subconsciously obviously). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/06/26 10:55 AM |
| 1 | I think that women highly value confidence and this puts men at a significant dating disadvantage.Can someone give a practical example of what you mean by leading? Like say we're moving house or booking a trip then its a discussion one person can be the driver as in putting in more effort but I’m not sure I'd call it leading or taking charge. My wife sometimes gets stressed and dramatic about things like the kids minor health issues or I dunno extreme weather, and I say ahhh it will be fine and she's often appreciative of my calmness but I wouldn’t call that leading either. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/06/26 08:55 AM |
| 2 | I think that women highly value confidence and this puts men at a significant dating disadvantage.Yep and the ncells are like jobless poor, they only have themselves to blame! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/06/26 08:40 AM |
| 1 | I think that women highly value confidence and this puts men at a significant dating disadvantage.That is the sanitised list, women always say stuff they don't mean. I'd say being 'loud, weird and hyperactive' probably covers it more. If it was what you say above women would just date slightly older (even more than they always have). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/06/26 08:38 AM |
| 5 | I think that women highly value confidence and this puts men at a significant dating disadvantage.This is a great point because being a shy woman/socially awkward isn't unattractive to men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/26 03:55 PM |
| 0 | Too many men are obsessed with masculinity when it’s really they’re not acting like adults.Doesn’t that depend what you mean by the RP? It's got a terrible PR in the mainstream so no one admits that there is any truth behind any of it. Also there's no bible so it's hard to get a consensus even from self proclaimed RP'ers. I would argue that if you think being rich and good looking is important and being a nice guy isn't then you admit RP gets some things right. Most men even so called BP on here follow RP advice in their own dating life without knowing it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/26 03:34 PM |
| 1 | Too many men are obsessed with masculinity when it’s really they’re not acting like adults.That's lacking a lot of nuance, in chimp societies the males organise hunting parties for meat. It was also the meat which eventually separated humans from animals by leading our brains to grow many times the size. So we cant underestimate the importance of male provided resources in evolution. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/26 03:24 PM |
| 0 | Too many men are obsessed with masculinity when it’s really they’re not acting like adults.So is most of the AWALT shit the redpill talks about. Fair I guess, but it depends how much pushback you get. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/26 03:11 PM |
| 1 | Too many men are obsessed with masculinity when it’s really they’re not acting like adults.I don't watch any of the crap you're referring to and I don't identify as RP but I guess a possible explanation would be it's being able to afford to pay her bills that makes you a chad. Whether you do it or not is academic. If you do it when you cant afford to its not a win in the long term. If she knows you easily could then not doing so gives her carrot to keep her interested. Not saying I agree with any of that but I guess there is some sort of logic. Personally I don't think you need to try… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/26 03:09 PM |
| 0 | Too many men are obsessed with masculinity when it’s really they’re not acting like adults.All your supporting evidence is anecdotal. It's also flawed to use this sub to make generalisations about all men even if they were not anecdotal. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/26 02:57 PM |
| 1 | Would people view Forrest Gump differently if genders were swapped?Yes it's relevant to the fact that she only wanted him to be involved in the childs life once she found out she was dying or found out he was a multimillionaire. Neither of which is a great look! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/26 02:16 PM |
| 1 | Would people view Forrest Gump differently if genders were swapped?<image> | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/26 02:14 PM |
| 2 | Would people view Forrest Gump differently if genders were swapped?That she kept a secret from him for like 8 years of his life | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/26 02:12 PM |
| 1 | Would people view Forrest Gump differently if genders were swapped?I don't think that makes much difference. Say you swapped the mate values in accordance with gender so Jenny is a rich man and Forrest was not rich but not poor very stable and attractive monogamous female, then male jenny disappears and returns after losing all his money and comes back and dumps the child on her. The outcry would be insane. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/26 02:09 PM |
| – | Too many men are obsessed with masculinity when it’s really they’re not acting like adults.<image> | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/26 02:00 PM |
| 1 | Question for bluepill: why do all the same rules apply to men who want to be stay-at-home dads?I know plenty of women... So you have no actual experience of what it feels like. Do you have a serious career? Yes but what does that have to do with anything? If you bothered to read my previous comment you would see that my point was I didn't give up work but my wife would have whole heartedly supported it if I had because many other mothers would feel the same. Day care is all well and good but getting them ready and dropping them off then travelling to your job, and being on time is a huge … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/26 01:56 PM |
| 5 | Is true that men marry the convenient women they CAN have, while spend their lives secretly obsessing over the women they truly desire but can't have?I think describing it as secretly obsess over is over complicating it. Men are attracted to a variety of women including their partners. Sometimes they might fantasise about other women but that's because biology encourages men to seek variety. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/26 08:54 AM |
| 1 | Question for bluepill: why do all the same rules apply to men who want to be stay-at-home dads?The fact you're arguing these individual points is ridiculous. You suggested a general trend which points to a structural issue but you want to blame each man individually. Please just admit it was a rather silly argument. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/26 08:14 AM |
| 2 | Question for bluepill: why do all the same rules apply to men who want to be stay-at-home dads?How are they doing in the other STEM careers? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/26 07:54 AM |
| 1 | Question for bluepill: why do all the same rules apply to men who want to be stay-at-home dads?Most women who don’t want to be a stay at home mom would rather their child go tk day care than be married to a man who never intended to work Not sure what your source is but unless you've actually lived through dropping off a child at day care multiple times then you don't have any meaningful experience. Regarding the second part of your sentence OP has clarified that he does intend to work. Also its irrelevant as that issue would be settled a long time before having children because you would… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/26 07:51 AM |
| 2 | Can you explain what emasculation feels like? Or is?There's no law that women are capable of understanding the way men feel about their own masculinity. Men can't understand the concept of objectification being so offensive to women - we're just different. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/26 02:42 PM |
| 36 | How can men be sexualy attracted to their past prime wives?I sometimes think this view of being uber obsessed with womens looks (the kind of men who say Sidney Sweeney isn't that pretty) comes from men with very little experience of actually having sex with real women. I've slept with a lot of women of all different shapes and sizes, the best experiences weren't with the ones who looked the most like they could be some bombshell model its much more down to the overall experience. Nearly all womens bodies are sexy even as they get older, its a non issue … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/26 01:16 PM |
| 2 | Why do I see different behaviour btw women here and real life for same statements?Maybe its a class issue. I don't meet many bitter women in my circles but then I don't know many men that are lazy losers who don't pull their weight. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/26 01:01 PM |
| 1 | Can you explain what emasculation feels like? Or is?Another example, say a couple really wanted to have kids but then found out the man can but the woman cant and he left her because of this, how would that feel? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/26 11:52 AM |
| -3 | Why do I see different behaviour btw women here and real life for same statements?The ones on here have had bad experiences with men and seem to have an axe to grind, they're not a great rep sample of women IRL that you might date. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/26 11:46 AM |
| 2 | Question for bluepill: why do all the same rules apply to men who want to be stay-at-home dads?I'm talking in the hypothetical but with ACTUAL life experience. I didn't choose to give up work for any of my kids but my wife would have been very thankful if I had. Not every woman sees pregnancy the way you're obsessed with seeing it. Most don't. Not sure what nonsense has brainwashed you into thinking about it as some kind of awful thing - in that case just don't have kids. Also I don't get your obsession with breastfeeding? It's 100% up to the woman if she wants to, if you knew anything ab… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/26 11:16 AM |
| 2 | Question for bluepill: why do all the same rules apply to men who want to be stay-at-home dads?They're capable of doing otherwise but that's how it is right now. If none of them are doing it then whether they're capable is irrelevant. They should probably just stick to gender stereotypes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/26 11:04 AM |
| 2 | Question for bluepill: why do all the same rules apply to men who want to be stay-at-home dads?What incentive would a woman have to form this dynamic with you? One where she has to do all the work of childbirth and breastfeeding as well as work full time to support you? I think you're setting the bar too high, there are plenty of women who would never give up their careers to be a SAHM so the alternative to the husband doing it would be nursery which gives a lot of mums extreme guilt. If the man is willing to do it then it would be a huge comfort to her. The man working while the woman is… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/26 08:37 AM |
| 10 | Question for bluepill: why do all the same rules apply to men who want to be stay-at-home dads?You make it sound like you don't work and never plan to, somehow using house husband as an excuse. Most stay at home dads have careers too they just put them on hold for a few years while kids are young. When all are school age they can start to do some work and once kids are much older they would be crazy not to get a full time job of some sort. Most cases now it's not clear cut it might be the man goes part time while kids are pre-school age while the mother doesn't because she is unable in he… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/26 08:29 AM |
| 4 | Question for bluepill: why do all the same rules apply to men who want to be stay-at-home dads?LOL so its different because men make terrible SAHD's what a progressive take! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/26 08:17 AM |
| 2 | Men not wanting to pay for the date indicates lack of interest and low aggreeablenessI would always pay just because its easier (guess that makes me more agreeable) but I disagree on the narcissitic and dark triad stuff. I guarantee that controlling possessive and eventually violent men will be much, much more likely to pay not less likely. Its the same with paying for other men I find it kind of annoying at work and other social situations the guys with huge egos always want to buy drinks for other people. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/26 03:10 PM |
| – | Do men get crushes on older women?Men are still attracted to women when they're over 40. Surely that's kind of obvious. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/26 03:06 PM |
| 3 | Blue Pill/Womans advice makes far more sense if you imply 1 point.socially awkward and shy, or have deep issues with the way men perceive them. These are mental struggles, but certainly not indicative of psychological instability. This is just semantics, OP isn't claiming they have a condition that required medication or them to be interned to a mental facility, just specific views that stop them from meeting men. Basically changing their mindset or behaviour could fix the problem, as you yourself state when you mention shy women and then putting themselves ou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/26 12:49 PM |
| 3 | Blue Pill/Womans advice makes far more sense if you imply 1 point.Yes but there is still some advice attached to it 'there’s someone out there for everyone' 'Be yourself' (no matter how fat and badly groomed etc) 'Be a good person'. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/26 12:43 PM |
| 1 | CMV: women find male sexuality disgustingJust like people complimented your jewellery even when you're not wearing it! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/26 12:20 PM |
| 1 | CMV: women find male sexuality disgustingWhich is why women have started to dress more and more conservatively over the past 25 years, choosing to cover up and not wearing any tight or revealing clothing. 💀 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/26 09:34 AM |
| 1 | Does anyone care that dating is better now for women?More choice for hookups I’m not sure there’s any more choice when it comes to genuine connections. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/06/26 02:06 PM |
| 3 | Do you think straight men would be better or worse at dating than women if they became women?Not a very exciting answer but I would say very similar. Possibley better than women once he gets some experience as then he'll have experience on both sides of it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/06/26 09:57 AM |
| 3 | Men should not be seeking dating advice from womenI mean... this is an argument but its a completely different point, you're saying the issue is men dont listen to the answer. The post is saying men shouldn’t listen to the answer. Its fairly safe to assume most desperate men have tried both techniques if one worked they'd continue. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/06/26 09:41 AM |
| 10 | Men should not be seeking dating advice from womenYes this is it. Don't follow what they say try to see logic in repeated trends you see IRL. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/06/26 08:04 AM |
| 1 | If you’re wondering why guys do things “women don’t like”. It’s because some women do like it.Men are logic based and logic and rules help with reassurance. And especially the men on here as RPD has always skewed ASD. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/06/26 07:10 AM |
| 5 | What a coincidence that all the “average women” the redpill complains about appeal to the male gaze and male ego.To be fair when people say average they obviously mean average of their age bracket that shouldn’t need to be clarified. So that would bring the level of overweight bodies down quite a bit. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/26 03:39 PM |
| – | Would you truly enjoy and appreciate arelationship that goes against gender norms of men providing and protecting?Don't waste your time, this person has unusual views and also an even stranger way of interacting e.g. telling you she believes some things you type but not others when it suits????? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/26 09:14 AM |
| 4 | If you’re wondering why guys do things “women don’t like”. It’s because some women do like it.This is just like saying it is what it is or you need to play more numbers. Hardly reassuring. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/26 09:00 AM |
| – | Why obsess over women with terrible boyfriends?I wish this were true. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/26 08:33 AM |
| 1 | Does anyone care that dating is better now for women?Per women and genuine options, they have access to the same number of genuine options as they've ever had. They have the same options but the whole dynamic has changed beyond all recognition. It used to be that you would go into a bar and a woman would make eye contact then you'd go and talk to her. Or you might just get talking to people naturally. It required much more effort than a dating app from both sides it was also much better at filtering for genuine connection. There is no pressure for… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/26 08:26 AM |
| – | Why obsess over women with terrible boyfriends?Ironically beauty and the beast is a very interesting one when it comes red pill. He owns a huge castle and he's massive. It pretends that it's about overcoming superficiality but it wouldn't work if he was short, fat, bald and poor. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/26 08:17 AM |
| – | Why obsess over women with terrible boyfriends?Using the argument of violent and abusive men as proof that being a nice guy is not an attractive quality is not saying that being evil is attractive it's pointing out that having morals is a neutral. No one is claiming that being abusive is the way to go they're saying that it proves that their problem is not that they are 'not nice enough'. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/26 04:06 PM |
| 2 | Does anyone care that dating is better now for women?Personally I don't think that the current situation for dating benefits women more than the previous one. I think that there benefits to women are all short term and come with trade off’s. They've suddenly been presented with a bunch more options than they had before which gives them not only an ego boost but also seems like higher levels of physical attraction. But the trade off is that these options are not as genuine as options in the old world. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/26 03:18 PM |
| 1 | Does anyone care that dating is better now for women?You do know the subject of this sub right? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/26 03:39 PM |
| 2 | Does anyone care that dating is better now for women?How certain are you that the had sex with men they were not attracted to seems an odd assumption to make 2nd hand. I don’t know how widespread this was? Also you seem to be assuming women are now just getting more attractive men but that cant be the case for all, it could just as easily be good looking men now have a really efficient way to get casual sex. I'm a millennial too and the mobile phone probably made it more efficient than previous generations when you'd have to call a house phone but… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/26 03:36 PM |
| 6 | Does anyone care that dating is better now for women?Exactly, this little snippet is perfect example of how this any discussion in this area gets labelled toxic when it actually isn't. 'Men say apps and modern life have ruined dating' Women: 'Men say women have ruined dating!' | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/26 03:21 PM |
| 2 | Women couldn’t even begin to understand what real loneliness isThere’s advantages and disadvantages for everybody I agree that we just have to suck it up and accept it but the above is implying it evens itself out overall (just world fallacy). It doesn't, for many it's very tough, I'm rich and good looking but also on the spectrum (hey you can't have it all) but if I was poor and ugly as well, I'm pretty sure my life would be terrible. Which is the reason I find this sub very interesting. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/26 09:53 AM |
| – | Red Pill men: Why do you want to settle down with women if they're so bad?You're welcome. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/26 09:21 AM |
| -1 | Red Pill men: Why do you want to settle down with women if they're so bad?I love how this sub is arguing against life in the 1970s. Every couple is already splitting chores in 2026 when both are working. I was referring to relationships where only the man is working. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/26 09:20 AM |
| 2 | Red Pill men: Why do you want to settle down with women if they're so bad?You're saying his life would be the same whether with single or in a relationship or not, but why should it be different? (I'm assuming you mean it should be different as in worse). Also, I'm not talking about relationships where both partners work. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/26 09:17 AM |
| -2 | Red Pill men: Why do you want to settle down with women if they're so bad?WTH kind of logic is this? You want him to suffer somehow for having a partner, it's like you think he should be unhappy. How is her life worse than being single? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/26 08:35 AM |
| 1 | The reason why young people are having less sex is pretty straight forward.Covid enforcing bad habits, kids valuing IRL friendship less in general? I hear about young people who don't have friends at all now, I don't get how that happened surely they had friends at school or college, how did they lose touch? You're correct something has changed attitudes wise on a societal level. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/26 03:47 PM |
| 1 | Men have to approach.Anyone else read this as a very patronising tone? Not sure its necessary if you mean any of your comments sincerely. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/26 03:18 PM |
| 3 | Are men who gossip or make fun of others generally considered attractive to women?The real answer is it has to be subtle. Often women are not very good at understanding male social interactions. They can't even tell when there is bullying going on often some guy might be overly friendly to some socially awkward guy and a woman watching will genuinely think 'he's being nice' but he's just being annoying and pushy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/26 02:27 PM |
| 1 | A guy can be attractive to women regardless of whether he’s actually a good person.I dunno I'm willing to accept its only a minority of women but I actually think a history of violence is a pull factor. A small minority is still more than are attracted to the vast majority of men. I once got beaten in a bar and while I was outside covered in blood waiting for my friends to come out I got more attention from women than ever before. People will say they were just being concerned and friendly but I’m not a dummy I know when I'm being flirted with. Also on another occasion years l… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/26 02:21 PM |
| 1 | A guy can be attractive to women regardless of whether he’s actually a good person.The type of sociopath narcissists we're talking about you bump into in bars from time to time and the mask slips after like 5 mins there's no way he's keeping that a secret for months. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/26 01:36 PM |
| 1 | A guy can be attractive to women regardless of whether he’s actually a good person.I have a friend in the Police this is a hard no. Multiple cases of men literally in prison for SA and on trial for a different SA yet have a new girlfriend. I mean I guess there is a chance he's lied about why he's there but its not going to be for anything good is it. (And this is the UK we're talking about, they don't put you in prison for minor stuff). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/26 01:34 PM |
| 1 | When it comes to chores, it's not that men won't help out/pull their weight. Women just hate to see men relaxing.Do you live in a hot country? We don't get bugs in UK. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/26 01:30 PM |
| 1 | When it comes to chores, it's not that men won't help out/pull their weight. Women just hate to see men relaxing.Where do you draw the line with what's crazy? What if I put them in the dishwasher but it's not full enough to bother with a cycle. Or what if I put the dishwasher on, then should I stay up for another 2 hrs until its finished and so I can put the clean plates away? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/26 01:11 PM |
| -1 | It is infantilizing to women to say that women who have drunk alcohol cannot consent to sex, while nothing is said about men who drank alcoholThis is just a problem that doesn't need to be solved. Who would be assaulting these men? Women have no desire to sleep with a black out drunk man when they can easily get a sober one into bed if they wanted. Also how is the man performing when he's blind drunk? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/26 11:18 AM |
| 1 | When it comes to chores, it's not that men won't help out/pull their weight. Women just hate to see men relaxing.“hubbies nieces birthday, buy and send a gift” Just as an example, if you didn't do this would he blame you or are you taking this on because you'd be embarrassed of how it would make YOU look if the niece didn't get a gift? My wife would never do this for me I'm a grown up, if my relatives have a birthday to deal with that's my job. You remind me of her friends who moan to her about their partners but they still do all the laundry "he doesn't understand how to use the washing machine" those men… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/26 08:18 AM |
| 1 | When it comes to chores, it's not that men won't help out/pull their weight. Women just hate to see men relaxing.It genuinely seems like men, yourself included, seem to think some things are just for women to do No one said this. Why do women always take things so personally? The men on this thread are saying that some jobs are right now for NO ONE to do. Lets be honest we're not talking about life or death we're talking about a back log of laundry or waiting to clear up after dinner the next morning rather than that evening. A lot of women I know burn themselves out then they're in A&E with heart palpitat… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/26 08:09 AM |
| – | Why should women care that men don't have partners?I thought the problem was obvious, more men get left out of the dating game than women. I don't know what the solution is but I know its not trash talking those men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/06/26 02:57 PM |
| – | Why should women care that men don't have partners?Men are solutions based much more than women, they try things and then repeat what works. For most men it does work, and personally I believe most men are red pill without realising it, not all the manipulative or sexist nonsense but just self improvement maximising looks and working on your resources = attractive to women. The discussion is that some men are left behind even though they've tried everything and nothing works and its shitty. We can acknowledge that without saying "it must be thei… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/06/26 01:57 PM |
| – | Why should women care that men don't have partners?I think the counter argument is that some women are not a happier alone, possibly including some who say they are. I'm not talking about women on this sub I'm talking about women in general so don't rush to give me anecdotes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/06/26 01:51 PM |
| – | What do abusive men bring to the table?You’ll never get anywhere with this on this thread. Women would sooner lay down and die before they admit there is a personality correlation. It's not even an insult to women it's just biology, it is what it is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/06/26 10:35 AM |
| – | What do abusive men bring to the table?Definitely more likely to come from a boyfriend than a blood relation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/06/26 10:32 AM |
| – | What do abusive men bring to the table?The reason isn't that they aren't physically strong enough or that they skipped their kickboxing class! It's that they'd probably be arrested and also society doesn't tend to jump to violence as quickly as in the past which has its advantages, above is probably one of the small number of disadvantages. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/06/26 10:30 AM |
| 1 | When it comes to chores, it's not that men won't help out/pull their weight. Women just hate to see men relaxing.Your replies just come across very aggressive but then maybe that's how all your interactions are. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/06/26 09:28 AM |
| 2 | When it comes to chores, it's not that men won't help out/pull their weight. Women just hate to see men relaxing.You do realise that reasons for things can be useful it doesn’t has to be seen as an excuse that means one person is trying to get something over on another person. Not sure why this discussion is so triggering for you? Men and women are different this shouldn’t be news to someone in this sub. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/06/26 08:47 AM |
| 2 | When it comes to chores, it's not that men won't help out/pull their weight. Women just hate to see men relaxing.Lol I'll let you know if it happens, we've been 20 yrs together but any day now I guess it could start! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/06/26 08:28 AM |
| 1 | When it comes to chores, it's not that men won't help out/pull their weight. Women just hate to see men relaxing.Lol you people! My house is immaculate and I do more than 50% I'm just saying some of it doesn't come naturally to men. Also I was saying I shouldn’t be doing stuff just because I feel manipulated but meh its not that deep. This is the difference between men and women. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xj7sYdMEKec | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/06/26 08:25 AM |
| 1 | When it comes to chores, it's not that men won't help out/pull their weight. Women just hate to see men relaxing.This is a cope... You can't SEE the dishes? You can't see your wife cleaning the bathroom or cooking dinner? I love the way I talk about chores and you've extrapolated loads of nonsense. I do nearly all the cooking including for our 3 kids. I also do nearly all the grocery shopping because even though we get paid the same my job is super chill and from home where as hers is intense and long hours. Oh and we have a cleaner that does the bathrooms so she doesn't do that either. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/06/26 08:18 AM |
| -4 | When it comes to chores, it's not that men won't help out/pull their weight. Women just hate to see men relaxing.Men will do all those things, the difference is when they wake up on a Saturday most will want to relax first for a bit while women will wake up bouncing around and be like "right lets reorganise the kitchen cupboards". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/26 03:54 PM |
| 0 | When it comes to chores, it's not that men won't help out/pull their weight. Women just hate to see men relaxing.They'll wait it out long enough that their partner always ends up doing it. That feels unfair. My ex was like that. I know a lot of women feel like the man is doing this on purpose but he's not he genuinely cant see it a lot of the time. I just think men and women are different. Like I literally do chores just so my wife doesn't moan not because I have some feeling that they need to be done. And that situation doesn't feel right either, if she did something just because I would shout at her othe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/26 03:45 PM |
| 2 | Red Pill Men Don't Want Traditional Wives. They Want Adult Children Who Can Also Be Their Mommy.What does it mean to be in touch with your emotions to you? Do women even know what it looks like in a man? It's not as if men like the way a woman is emotional, crying and having breakdowns etc. its not all good-stuff or easy. Not sure what you're imaging some tv drama style interaction, good will hunting? Men are constantly encouraged to open up then when they do they're immediately shut down - especially on this sub ironically (but women...). Women want men to open up on exactly their terms. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/26 11:05 AM |
| 2 | Redpill tactics are idiotic and have the opposite of the intended affect for high quality womenHaha exactly, there's obviously crossover but a lot of this stuff is just men on the spectrum trying to understand social interactions. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/26 10:40 AM |
| 1 | Redpill tactics are idiotic and have the opposite of the intended affect for high quality womenAll the things mentioned here are only 1 part of red pill. I wouldn’t even say they're a big part. As a purple I'd say much more important is Make yourself as physically attractive as possible Be rich (or at least get a good job and be ambitious) Be confident even if it doesn't come naturally don't wine or use your partner as a therapist A lot of the stuff in the post is more like stuff you would do naturally if you were high mate value. Like you would be busy and have an active social life not … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/26 10:26 AM |
| -1 | Does slut-shaming prevent women from having more active sex lives?Women enjoy sex but usually only as part of a monogamous relationship. I think one thing that's never mentioned especially not on here is that being promiscuous is something that even men have a love hate relationship with. They enjoy it at the time but then after they feel dirty probably similar to women but not as extreme. Sometimes you might feel guilty because you know to the woman it meant more than to you and that she might be expecting a relationship or sometimes you feel guilty because y… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/26 09:20 AM |
| 12 | Does slut-shaming prevent women from having more active sex lives?why do you think my LTR partners would call me disparaging names when I had been completely faithful to them? I doubt it was anything to do with actual behaviour it sounds like they just went straight to the laziest insult they could say. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/26 09:10 AM |
| 2 | Red Pill Men Don't Want Traditional Wives. They Want Adult Children Who Can Also Be Their Mommy.I'm not sure men do hide their emotions they just express them in a different way, for most men it works. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/26 08:39 AM |
| 3 | Red Pill Men Don't Want Traditional Wives. They Want Adult Children Who Can Also Be Their Mommy.There's no evidence that men 'not hiding their emotions' (whatever that means) works out better for them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/26 08:36 AM |
| 1 | Most people don’t want to be around someone with a victim complex,Then why bitch about dating? If people were only allowed to speak on issues for self interest then the world would be a very dumb place. And I noticed it’s mostly self-inflicted problem. It's definitely not. Most men will never get pretty privileged no matter how hard they try. It's a scale though isn't it. I was pretty but not rich or or famous, so I had it a lot easier than some of my friends but it wasn't like women were falling at my feet. I'm also on the spectrum which meant the learning cu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/26 08:34 AM |
| 0 | Red Pill Men Don't Want Traditional Wives. They Want Adult Children Who Can Also Be Their Mommy.A romantic partner is not supposed to be a replacement parent. They're not supposed to heal your childhood. They're not supposed to erase your insecurities. They're not supposed to permanently regulate your self-esteem. These made me genuinely laugh out loud. I mean we're all struggling in this world, I'm doing these things for my wife at least as much as she is for me, but the idea that you shouldn’t expect a partner to fix you is not a criticism that can be made only at TRP. You could probably… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/26 04:23 PM |
| 3 | Red Pill Men Don't Want Traditional Wives. They Want Adult Children Who Can Also Be Their Mommy.Men and women rank the same on emotional intelligence btw. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/26 04:16 PM |
| 0 | Red Pill Men Don't Want Traditional Wives. They Want Adult Children Who Can Also Be Their Mommy.What would your follow up questions be? My mother was trad, I cant really think of anything she did badly so I guess that means she did a good job. My father worked a lot so I feel like I didn't see him much during the week, but I would say much bigger issue than that was just his style of being a dad in general I don't really feel like we had much of a relationship I think he has some sort of autism. He's a nice person and he's done tonnes for me financially so I know I'm lucky in some ways. Bu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/26 04:07 PM |
| 12 | Most people don’t want to be around someone with a victim complex,Naa this is yet another post attributing failure with women to individuals personality rather than looks or other systemic issues. Or in other words just world fallacy. You also assume all the 'whiny men' here are single. Its only some who are. I'm happily married and before that had always done quite well with women. I did however see a lot of things that made me realise how dating is so difficult for men if they were not born with arbitrary physically attractive characteristics. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/26 03:28 PM |
| 1 | "The patriarchy hurts everyone" can also be understood as "our biological realities are challenging".But that definition doesn’t mention women being oppressed, I thought that was the main part of it's definition. We've had female leaders before (in the UK) and its not like society changed for women in any meaningful way during those periods. If all leaders were women I’m not sure what would change, they wouldn’t circumvent the electorate to make changes that only women would choose any more than men are doing that now. Outside of USA the abortion debate isn't a thing. I don't see what other evi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/26 08:42 AM |
| 1 | "The patriarchy hurts everyone" can also be understood as "our biological realities are challenging".Controlling and violent men are bad apples, its not like we organise our society around them existing and encourage it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/26 08:37 AM |
| 1 | "The patriarchy hurts everyone" can also be understood as "our biological realities are challenging".What does save mean in this context? OP made a post about facts without moralising. Your answer: try to keep moralising! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/26 08:09 AM |
| 5 | Relationships are downplayed too oftenFair point. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/26 02:28 PM |
| 3 | Relationships are downplayed too oftenGood relationships do not just fall in your lap. You need to be proactive in seeking them out, or be proactive in setting yourself up so that your options have a higher chance in resulting in good relationships. Which means being deliberate about where and with whom you search for relationships, and being deliberate about vetting. I'm not sure about this I feel like sometimes you meet someone right when you least expect it. Maybe this is the problem with modern dating we've completely killed rom… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/26 02:04 PM |
| – | The reason men and women can't empathize with each other's dating woes is because we are experiencing fundamentally different realities.Value contact with women way too much: Don't think you get to decide how important women are to men. Thankfully I am happily married a long time, before that I did a lot of dating. Do you have much experience talking to and flirting with women, how successful was it? It completely invalidates your opinion if you don't have experience in the real world. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/26 07:14 AM |
| 1 | Why is it look down upon for a man to use his nationality to his advantage in dating? How is this different than other desirable traits?More dumb exceptions to try to prove a rule. Gurkas aren't short in their country of origin. These behaviours came about over the last 2m- 800,000 years, elite military training wasn't a thing when we were cavemen. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/26 07:02 AM |
| 1 | Women who call themselves "baddie" are just as cringe, if not more cringe, than men who call themselves "alpha".I don't think my comment was particularly simple. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/26 06:57 AM |
| – | How do you and your spouse divide expenses in today’s economy?My wife and I both earn the same but I'd say there's a conflict because she's not interested in spending money on herself, while I am, it makes me happy. She is happy for us to spend joint money on family stuff like holidays or the house but not much on herself for things like clothes or trips with friends. I prefer to keep disposable income separate as I don't want to be scrutinised for my spending. We have zero money worries and really good savings yet all she cares about is trying to save at … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/06/26 02:54 PM |
| – | How do you and your spouse divide expenses in today’s economy?I feel like my situation is interesting because it defies a lot of stereotypes. My wife and I both earn similar, me slightly more, yet she does 4 days a week and I do 5. However my job is 100% at home and really chilled while hers is crazy stressful intense and long hours in the office. Combined income around £150K which I think goes further in UK than does in US, here that is a decent amount of money. We have 3 kids, and because my job is at home if ever there is a change of plan child gets sic… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/06/26 02:47 PM |
| 3 | Women who call themselves "baddie" are just as cringe, if not more cringe, than men who call themselves "alpha".I think the whole bonobo argument (which I've heard many times before) would have more sway if people could see those evolutionary remnants in everyday life. I never seem men attracted to women because they're popular with other men or because they're already taken. While the reverse is completely true. Its also true that there's many cases of women on average being drawn to the man in the group who sort of leads and spends the most time talking while others gather round. Men don't find the lead… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/06/26 02:38 PM |
| 1 | Women who call themselves "baddie" are just as cringe, if not more cringe, than men who call themselves "alpha".Also I've never seen an actually very attractive woman call herself one its always mids with fat asses | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/06/26 02:29 PM |
| – | If you're not that observant, that's your fault.When a post starts to look interesting but you suddenly realise OP is lilithOfBabylon | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/06/26 02:26 PM |
| 0 | The reason men and women can't empathize with each other's dating woes is because we are experiencing fundamentally different realities.You're just playing dumb now, we spent 40 years creating a world where a woman calling a man creepy suggests he broke a boundary and is a magic word which any reasonable man would feel extremely uncomfortable when charged with. You're pretending we don’t live in that world and everything is fine for men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/06/26 02:22 PM |
| 1 | Why is it look down upon for a man to use his nationality to his advantage in dating? How is this different than other desirable traits?Did someone say this? You people ask stuff to be broken down like your kids and then say "oh so its always blah blah blah". It's like me saying we eat food to survive then you saying oh so a chef spends eight hours making a sauce for a starter just so someone can eat it to survive. Ridiculous bad faith takes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/06/26 02:16 PM |
| 0 | Men will never go back to what they used to be for good reasonOh I only picked the very regimes that call themselves illiberal? No idea what you're on about now. You sound like a child, and with those perspectives it makes sense. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/26 02:47 PM |
| -1 | Men will never go back to what they used to be for good reasonNo one is debating that oppressive regimes are good or that they don't exist we're talking about the effect of economic growth and capitalism on living standards vs political attitudes. You completely disregard it you've also picked two, until recently, communist countries to make your point. "Oops" as you would say. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/26 01:52 PM |
| -2 | Men will never go back to what they used to be for good reasonNo one is doing that in my country. How's child mortality, clean water and abundant food production going? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/26 12:35 PM |
| 2 | "Women should take me as I am!" is men also being picky like women if he's not likable.It's so strange as this post is about men not concentrating on self improvement. It has zero relevance to that video. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/26 09:05 AM |
| 1 | "Women should take me as I am!" is men also being picky like women if he's not likable.Your obsession with this 6 second clip is wild. Are you trans yourself, or just autistic? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/26 09:03 AM |
| 1 | "Women should take me as I am!" is men also being picky like women if he's not likable.This is litterally why the red pill was invented. Some men on here might not understand it but its about showing how you are the most special person she can get. Giving up and doing the bare minimum is not trying to attract a woman. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/26 08:59 AM |
| 2 | Men will never go back to what they used to be for good reasonAs long as those women are happy, I'm sceptical from the ones I know vs the ones who are living a more traditional life, married with kids etc. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/26 08:40 AM |
| -2 | Men will never go back to what they used to be for good reasonIs that meme implying that liberal attitudes improved living standards rather than economic growth? Possibly the dumbest thing ever put on the internet. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/26 08:30 AM |
| 1 | Why is it look down upon for a man to use his nationality to his advantage in dating? How is this different than other desirable traits?I'm glad you acknowledge there is spectrum for the people going. But you seem to be leading with the case of a man going in bad faith, I don't see why that would be the majority. The vast majority of men who struggle with dating don't hate women. But he gets to treat them worse than western women that he now hates. Spurious claim. The attitudes to women part is not a major part of the thinking for the man or the woman its not what makes them attractive to each-other. For the woman its much more … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/26 08:24 AM |
| 1 | Why is it look down upon for a man to use his nationality to his advantage in dating? How is this different than other desirable traits?You do know this is a sub about dating. 99% of what we're talking about is subconscious. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/26 08:08 AM |
| 1 | Why is it look down upon for a man to use his nationality to his advantage in dating? How is this different than other desirable traits?Exceptions don't disprove a general rule. Do you only ever bother to do things in life that are 'guaranteed'? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/26 04:07 PM |
| 2 | Why is it look down upon for a man to use his nationality to his advantage in dating? How is this different than other desirable traits?The man isn't going to another country because he wants a woman who will let him be sexist. He is going there literally because he cant get a women in his own country or it is very difficult. So it stands to reason he's going to treat her better than someone in her country of origin. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/26 03:16 PM |
| 1 | Why is it look down upon for a man to use his nationality to his advantage in dating? How is this different than other desirable traits?Exactly it's a complete nonsense. It could be used on literally any attractive attribute and then claimed that somehow its not real. 'She only likes you for your sense of humour so it's not real love!' Love is a chemical reaction in the brain that happens after you meet a person you want. The reason you want them is completely irrelevant the brain does the rest. Otherwise there wouldn't be so many successful relationships of rich men with hot wives in my town. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/26 03:12 PM |
| 2 | The reason men and women can't empathize with each other's dating woes is because we are experiencing fundamentally different realities.So you're defending the word creepy. What a weird place this sub is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/26 03:01 PM |
| 1 | Why is it look down upon for a man to use his nationality to his advantage in dating? How is this different than other desirable traits?Completely false. Females are attracted to what males can provide in many, many animals. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/26 02:57 PM |
| 1 | Why is it look down upon for a man to use his nationality to his advantage in dating? How is this different than other desirable traits?Safety through physical protection, good sperm. You people really need stuff spelled out. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/26 02:52 PM |
| 6 | Why is it look down upon for a man to use his nationality to his advantage in dating? How is this different than other desirable traits?Lol nothing could shock me on this sub. Trying to pretend the idea of a woman from an illiberal country being attracted to a man from a country where they treat women much better is somehow misogynistic!!! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/26 02:48 PM |
| 3 | The reason men and women can't empathize with each other's dating woes is because we are experiencing fundamentally different realities.This behavior is not normal. Most men/ people do not do what you say happens to you. This sub skews massively toward women who have had bad experiences with men then assume their experience is representative of gen pop. It's one of the reasons discussions never get anywhere. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/26 11:27 AM |
| 4 | The reason men and women can't empathize with each other's dating woes is because we are experiencing fundamentally different realities.Total nonsense. Sounds like the typical comment from someone who has never chatted up the opposite sex in an intimidating situation before. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/26 11:24 AM |
| 5 | The reason men and women can't empathize with each other's dating woes is because we are experiencing fundamentally different realities.Creepy is a charged word so it makes it sound like the man is breaking some law in a subtle way but say you change it to 'annoying'. You're basically asking men to be miserable for their whole lives for fear of being annoying for 30 seconds to a handful of women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/26 11:18 AM |
| – | What do women know about men that men don't know about themselves?Actually I'd say they are as selfish as each-other they just have different goals. Women’s goals are more about nesting and creating a safe happy long term environment. Men's is more about instant gratification. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/26 08:37 AM |
| – | What do women know about men that men don't know about themselves?Sounds like a very old fashioned analysis. Socialisation has zero to minimal effect. I live in a very liberal and progressive area, schools and nurseries have been making sure not to stereotype children by gender for like 20 years. And guess what boys and girls turned out exactly the same as they did before that was a thing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/26 08:24 AM |
| – | Having female friends is absolutely a positive in datingInteresting post as I'd say its the opposite, its become a lot more normal to have female friends now than it used to be. I'm 42 and don't have any female friends (apart from my wife). Of my male friends however there are 2 which do have female friends (both of these men grew up with sisters). Strangely enough they both have a terrible record with relationships while most of the other men who have no female friends are happily in LTRs. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/26 04:07 PM |
| 5 | What do women know about men that men don't know about themselves?Men assume other men are selfish because we are them - we know they are. Men are more selfish than women but it makes them efficient at doing things. Part of the reason many women in relationships are unhappy is because they're not selfish enough. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/26 03:51 PM |
| – | What do women know about men that men don't know about themselves?Lol there is some truth to this but its obviously not going to go down well here. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/26 03:48 PM |
| 0 | What do women know about men that men don't know about themselves?I just tire of the farcical narrative that men are just bottled up stoics. Just to clarify I'm not arguing there's anything admirable about men not discussing their emotions I just don't think if they did it would change anything. Maybe going to therapy would help but that seems a strange answer as its kind of saying that they should all just throw money at the problem. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/26 03:28 PM |
| 1 | What do women know about men that men don't know about themselves?Can you expand on the first paragraph, and what this actually means in the real world? I agree men are emotional but I believe not in the same way as women and they don't particularly get much out of discussing their emotions or trying to seek sympathy, otherwise they would do it. Its often said the reason they don't is because they're embarrassed but I don't see this as the case, if they enjoyed it they would do it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/26 02:54 PM |
| 4 | Cheating is almost inevitable in human relationships.a lot of child like thinking here. I'm pretty Red and believe relationships are transactional but you seem to have a huge misunderstanding of how that plays out in the real world. If a woman is attracted to a mans resources that is because she wants them to be shared with her and any potential family because she wants that security. Having a fling with a millionaire is not going to lead to her getting his resources. Obviously, genuine relationships aren't transactional, whether people want to ac… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/26 01:58 PM |
| 1 | If women faced a real safety risk in dating, then their behaviour would represent itMore cope. So being not cheated on by an ugly guy is just a bad as being actually cheated on by a good looking man because in a parrallel universe he might also cheat! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/26 12:24 PM |
| 8 | Men can choose to put up with bad women for sex and that's their fault not women's.So why is it men here to complain that all the women they know are shallow entitled cunts? it’s funny you guys don’t think that sounds sore as hell. Lol you're arguing with yourself. Making up something that a few men said somewhere then leaping to the idea all men think it then saying all men are sore because a few different men lost out. Crazy behaviour. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/26 12:00 PM |
| 11 | Men can choose to put up with bad women for sex and that's their fault not women's.Whats the debate here? Men lower their standards for one night stands but the mid women are the ones sore about it when he ghosts them afterwards. You're claiming they dont even like sex yet somehow they've 'won' something by using a man for sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/26 11:48 AM |
| -2 | If women faced a real safety risk in dating, then their behaviour would represent itSo being insulted is worse than physical violence. Im not telling you how to feel, thats up to you it just is different for men. We can compare, as men get assaulted by other men all the time and its usually treated by the police as our fault. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/26 11:42 AM |
| -2 | If women faced a real safety risk in dating, then their behaviour would represent itIt's wild you cant see what point im making. I'm fully aware some women are victim blamed I'm not debating whether that happens. Im debating whether that part is worse on its own than actually being graped or murdered. Anyway what you're saying is completly illogical based on the way women act. If a womans number one priority was not safety but to have immunity against ignorant men saying its their fault then they would all be wearing full veils head to toe like in islamic countires. Because eve… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/26 10:28 AM |
| -4 | If women faced a real safety risk in dating, then their behaviour would represent itIt is wild isn’t it? But unfortunately true. It's not objectively true for everyone, it's up to you if thats how you want to process it as it's an emotional response. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/26 10:05 AM |
| 0 | If women faced a real safety risk in dating, then their behaviour would represent itThat’s why it’s easier to pick the bear, it’s most likely going to leave you alone and the other bears aren’t going to blame you if it doesn’t. This is wild. Being mauled by a bear isn't the worst part it's that people might say it was your fault? We really are from different planets. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/26 09:51 AM |
| – | If women faced a real safety risk in dating, then their behaviour would represent itAnd even the uglies are just as bad as the chads I assure you. Just admit this is cope. It may not be a huge trend line but they're definitely less likely to cheat or take for granted mainly because of lack of opportunity. Men are no better we pick hot women over fat women for instance. Even though they're way less giving in bed (in my experience). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/26 09:44 AM |
| 5 | Its not that women can “sense misogyny”. Its that men with no social awareness nor self awareness cant hide their red flags.What I said doesnt contradict it being a numbers game. If 5% of women in a group find you attractive those are good results for men expecially if the bar or college has like 500 people in it. The alternative method im saying would attract 0% of women. Once again the way to get female attention isn't by blending in it's by standing out, and that's not going to please everyone. The guy who blends in is litterally doing just that and women cant even see him. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/26 03:26 PM |
| 4 | Its not that women can “sense misogyny”. Its that men with no social awareness nor self awareness cant hide their red flags.Exactly so why is OP pretending it's the opposite. I've seen her other posts that seem very naive and child like, I dont think she has much real life experience. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/26 01:50 PM |
| 7 | Its not that women can “sense misogyny”. Its that men with no social awareness nor self awareness cant hide their red flags.You didnt rebuke anything in my second comment. You just repeated. Also I've stated before that using youtube shorts to make points about how dating works IRL is flawed. You're even using the same video! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/26 01:48 PM |
| – | Men who complain about “skill issue” aren’t actually developing skill.A lot of this is missing the point. With most the problem isn't anyting to do with skills it's social anxiety so overcoming it is the same as overcoming other phobias like heights or flying. Probably going to therapy and listening to their techniques would be most productive, or trying hypnotherapy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/26 01:36 PM |
| – | Men who complain about “skill issue” aren’t actually developing skill.Well the whole point is if its hard to improve it then there's not much difference theyre both still terrible at social situations. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/26 01:32 PM |
| 9 | Its not that women can “sense misogyny”. Its that men with no social awareness nor self awareness cant hide their red flags.No because thats not how it works attracting women. If you try to please everyone you'll end up attracting no one. If it worked how you describe then edgy men would get less women than boring looking safe men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/26 12:49 PM |
| 16 | Its not that women can “sense misogyny”. Its that men with no social awareness nor self awareness cant hide their red flags.Your whole post is moot because not all the women popped their balloons, not even more than half. I have a friend in the police who works on domestic violence cases the men have multiple convictions yet they still repeatedly get more and more women even while constantly in and out of prison. Its not like they're even trying to keep their mysogyny a secret but some women still reward them for it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/26 12:38 PM |
| 3 | Every western "misandrist" can only safely be one thanks to the infrastructural support of a vast network of men.Lol u got owned take the L. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/26 12:23 PM |
| 3 | Every western "misandrist" can only safely be one thanks to the infrastructural support of a vast network of men.Crime isnt the only bad thing that can happen to a society. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/26 12:21 PM |
| 4 | Every western "misandrist" can only safely be one thanks to the infrastructural support of a vast network of men.I agree here, it's not just physical strength its probably better to say testosterone levels. But it's semantics, as the result is the same. If women had mens testosterone levels (from birth) what OP is describing would happen. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/26 12:16 PM |
| 2 | A Women being unchosen is a much bigger failure than men being unchosen.I think your statement is only true for women that men would still find unattractive even if they wore makeup and had a healthy figure, which is basically no one. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/26 08:38 AM |
| 9 | A Women being unchosen is a much bigger failure than men being unchosen.Many men would rather stay single than enter a long-term relationship with a woman they aren’t genuinely attracted to. For casual sex, sure, a lot of guys might lower their standards, but relationships are different. It's not something often discussed on this sub but I do think a lot of relationships happen when a man is initially only interested in sex. I have a perpetually single friend who has options not a tonne but some options. I sometimes wonder if him and the people you describe just hav… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/26 08:34 AM |
| 5 | A Women being unchosen is a much bigger failure than men being unchosen.it isn't a business arrangement and it isn't about winning or what you get. This part is so true. Often the way the discussion is framed from bitter women is that the problem is the woman does more arbitrary tasks, if the man did more chores or something then it would all be fine as then the women would be 'winning'. Those things are obviously important but thats not the real reason the relationship failed. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/26 08:25 AM |
| – | Men who get their life together for the sake of becoming attractive but then decide to be single should not be blamed for their choiceWTH kind of threshold is that? A lot of things dont exist if strangers doing it is the redline. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/26 01:17 PM |
| – | Why do we dream about our partner cheats?While my wife is really busy with work and we're both busy with the kids I do sometimes have dreams about her, not cheating but where i'm suspicious of her, even though I never feel that way in real life. It's weird but also very unsettling, personally I don't discuss it because I feel like it would come across a bit pathetic coming from a man (cue red-pill discussion...). That doesn't mean I don't take note of underlying issues and try to make more 'us' time, romance etc. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/26 10:57 AM |
| 3 | Hiw many first Dates do you think a avarage men has?I take it you dont use online dating regularly? As surely if that description is accurate you'd at least get a few matches and some progress to dates. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/26 10:40 AM |
| 1 | Hiw many first Dates do you think a avarage men has?My single friend is not overweight, more than 6ft tall, has a good job. He gets like 3 dates a year. It's very hard out there. I would have thought men who are shorter and overweight would really struggle to get a single date through OLD, only difference I guess woul dbe lowered standards on their end. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/26 10:39 AM |
| 1 | Hiw many first Dates do you think a avarage men has?Dates dont say much about a person I've been on dates with women who had 'never been on a date before'. Yet she'd had plenty of boyfriends in the past just met them through real life connections. If anything no dates but hot was a red flag, reminds me of trailer trash who get with a family friend or just whoever is around. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/26 10:35 AM |
| 3 | Hiw many first Dates do you think a avarage men has?I missed the app thing too but why wouldn't the coffee date count? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/26 10:18 AM |
| 0 | Q4W: Is attraction fixed, or does it adapt to what’s available?This is another complication that attraction for women isnt linear scale like mens attraction to women is. The 20% wouldnt be the same group of people for all women yet for men it probably would be. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/26 04:11 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Is attraction fixed, or does it adapt to what’s available?My own personal experience supports this being the case for men. As I've got older I've put on some extra timber, when I was in my 20s I never could imagine finding overweight 50 yr old women attractive but there ya go! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/26 04:07 PM |
| 0 | Red pill isn't as manipulative as I thoughtSounds like a rant - I wasn't defending him and and plus I gave women who manipulate a free pass, but all you could respond with was "but men...!" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/26 04:01 PM |
| 1 | Red pill isn't as manipulative as I thoughtWhat if he changed his mind and decided he wants that dynamic even if he didnt before? As long as he tells her and she's free to leave him what is the problem? I think hes a dumb idiot for the record and would never want that kind of relationship but I'm not sure its manipulation. I'm not sure manipulation in a relationship is some kind of gotcha, as it goes on so much from men and women, including subconciously. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/26 02:44 PM |
| 3 | Red pill isn't as manipulative as I thoughtThats a different proposition but if we're assuming we dont know their personality yet we only know their status. I don't think successful men are more likely to have worse traits than less successful. There's obviously exceptions but on the whole the trend is more classy people are nicer treat people better etc less likely to have substance abuse issues less likely to have antisocial triats. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/26 02:38 PM |
| 5 | Red pill isn't as manipulative as I thoughtI'm broadly on your side but wanting a doctor over a janitor isn't the same as expecting someone richer and higher status than them. All things being equal most men would probably prefer a wife that was a doctor rather than a janitor. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/26 11:40 AM |
| 1 | We can’t moralize women’s selection of men, but we somehow moralize men’s inability to be selected.I agree with all of that but you're not really the type of person im debating with as you've stated you accepted your reality. In the past when groups of men have accepted it society has had a problem with that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/05/26 08:41 AM |
| – | Female teacher sexually assaulting male student is played for laughs on SNLBut horror movies used to sexually exploit female victims all the time running away from a killer with a wet t-shirt and errect nipples for instance. But this doesn't happen anymore why are you pretending the culture hasnt changed this? Edit: As post is locked it wont let me reply to your comment below im doing my reply here. Im not arguing against free speech. Im arguing for it but that we already lost the debate and certain things are shut down without question. Yet certain things are not. You… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/26 08:20 AM |
| – | Female teacher sexually assaulting male student is played for laughs on SNLThe reason it needs to be called out isnt to protect men or because men would be uncomfortable with the situation if they were the 'victim' its purely that it sends a confusing message to boys. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/26 08:16 AM |
| 1 | We can’t moralize women’s selection of men, but we somehow moralize men’s inability to be selected.I get that but its quite a conservative message it basically means institutions and society cant be relied upon to help you, you're in this on your own. The same people will tack to the opposite when it comes to innate characteristics they were born with. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/26 07:31 AM |
| 8 | Women will inevitably change after kids, if you can't understand this just don't have kidsSo its women taking care of the kids more. Not sure what point you're making? Although I do agree its hard for men to force women to have hobbies all the offers of solo parenting in the world can still be ignored and often are by women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/26 01:48 PM |
| 3 | We can’t moralize women’s selection of men, but we somehow moralize men’s inability to be selected.The difference is that chronically single women are more likely to go for a divorced 50 yr old for a fling or have an affair while he's still married than they are to go for chronically single man. It's not quite the 80\20 suggested for online dating but I think it still creates an imbalance. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/26 01:10 PM |
| 1 | We can’t moralize women’s selection of men, but we somehow moralize men’s inability to be selected.I don't completely agree with your original premise. I think most people see single people as regular people New to the sub? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/26 01:00 PM |
| – | We can’t moralize women’s selection of men, but we somehow moralize men’s inability to be selected.Interested to see the rebuttal on this one seems pretty cut and dry. I saw in another thread pleople saying men need to accept their not to blame but they shoudl take accountability and responsibility. WTF does that mean just using word salad to agree and disagree at the same time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/26 12:59 PM |
| 3 | Women will inevitably change after kids, if you can't understand this just don't have kidsI havent dated for a long time as im married but do you find that men in the real world are aware of any of these movements or act accordingly. Even my single friends mostly have no idea what these manosphere things are. Maybe its different with younger people. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/26 10:56 AM |
| -3 | Women will inevitably change after kids, if you can't understand this just don't have kidsMost me these days don't do that I assure you LTR men in western countries do a lot more than they ever did. Yet they get less sex, probably because now the woman is exhausted from working. Which previous generations did less. Im not moaning about this situation, societies change it is what it is. But dont try to blame mens attitude for it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/26 10:45 AM |
| 0 | Women will inevitably change after kids, if you can't understand this just don't have kidsI think this is correct but you're wrong in trying to somehow blame the man for it. Its nothign to do with how much the man pulls his weight if that were true married men would be getting way more sex in 2026 than married men in the past but instead its actually declining. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/26 10:38 AM |
| 2 | Women will inevitably change after kids, if you can't understand this just don't have kidsYeah is it about money because of nannies or something? Its BS anyway because OP has no clue. Most womens sex drive totally changes after kids because of hormonal changes, being a 0.1% man is not goign to change that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/26 10:31 AM |
| 41 | Women will inevitably change after kids, if you can't understand this just don't have kidsOne thing that is a genuine point that you remind me of is that a lot of women really need to make hobbies for themselves after having children. You need lots of time together with the kids and most get that anyway but the wife needs time away from them just like the husband does. Men are good at being selfish and seeking that. Women really are not and its a problem because they're not looking after their own mental health you can try to encourage them but its difficult. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/26 10:29 AM |
| 12 | Women will inevitably change after kids, if you can't understand this just don't have kidsThis is ridiculously melodramatic. Firstly Romance is fine around kids its only sex you cant do. Also just because sex is more difficult and less frequent doesnt mean life is over, sex is just litterally one thing and that's coming from a man its supposed to be us who are obessed with it. There are lots of arguments about why life is more difficult after having kids because of how much time they take up but theyre also rewarding and you're actually doing something meaningful. What else are peopl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/26 10:25 AM |
| – | Why do some women, especially on Reddit, instantly assume that men who simply vent about dating struggles are entitled to a relationship?Makes no sense, how can you own up to something thats not your fault. What if one of the reasosns is a physical deformity should you own up and take accountability for that too? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/26 04:06 PM |
| – | Her giving “her best” to another man before is irrelevant.Exactly, if you extend their line of thinking to everything in the relationship not just sex then you'd have the lowest expectation in every area. Why expect her to cook for you its surely easier if she doesn't bother. Why would you ever surprise her and take her out for a date because it costs money and time and effort. Why do chores and keep the house clean when you don't love doing chores, just don't bother. Everyone in the relationship just concentrate on pleasing themselves! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/26 03:07 PM |
| – | Her giving “her best” to another man before is irrelevant.This will probably open another can of worms but personally I think in the real world a little bit of insecurity in a relationship is healthy - on both sides! The opposite would be you're so comfortable that you become lazy probably overweight not ambitious in your job etc. and very much take her for granted. You should want to remind your partner you are a catch all the time including when you're having sex. People can label that motivation 'being insecure' but thats putting a negative spin on … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/26 02:40 PM |
| – | Her giving “her best” to another man before is irrelevant.You're completely forgetting that an element of sex is about getting the other person off not just yourself. Its exactly the same as if a man said he used to frequently give oral sex to his previous gf but he refuses to give it to his current one, do you think she has a right to be a bit miffed in this situation? If so why? "He prefers to just have sex where he gets off, why would she want him to do one thing when he prefers something else?" Getting it yet? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/26 02:20 PM |
| 1 | Romance a trap for menPersonally I think that's needlessly pedantic, on that logic purple wouldnt exist because its saying if you don't devoutly agree with red you're blue yet your flair is purple! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/26 01:52 PM |
| – | Her giving “her best” to another man before is irrelevant.This is changing words to make them creepy. No one is talking about wanting a woman to do some kind of sex act she hates, the point is he wants her to WANT to do it with him if she did it with some other guy all the time. There could be a few reasons but one of them could be something to do with attraction and thats obviously going to make any normal man paranoid. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/26 01:31 PM |
| – | Her giving “her best” to another man before is irrelevant.Im not sure on the real situations referenced here and I completley disagree with the unloving part, however that could be a misinterpretation of what was being described by 'boring sex'. Because the reason some men might mention that is that men value loyalty over nearly anything else in a relationship. This is a human instinct it doesnt mean the relationship is going to work but theyre still programmed to do it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/26 01:26 PM |
| 1 | Romance a trap for menFair point although I'd say its all up for debate there isnt definitions of RP in some holy book. My definition of it would be what I said earlier. Whether or not the majority of people would agree thats how dating works or not is hard to know as any survey mentioning RP is completely tainted my mysogyny. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/26 01:09 PM |
| 1 | Romance a trap for menPills are still not really mainstream and especially peoples understanding of them. Mainstrem view of red has been taken over by the most extreme views of some RP, things like you shouldn't respect women because it will mean they'll lose respect for you and other stupid stuff to do with controlling the household etc. For me I just think red means you acknowledge dating is about mate value (which is made up of different elements). I'm not sure exactly what blue believe but they never seem to want… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/26 10:29 AM |
| 6 | Romance a trap for menExactly, even rich celebrities who could have sex with a different woman every night without paying still mostly end up getting into a meaningful relationship over that scenario. You never see it on here but even men feel a bit empty after a one night stand. Not as much as women but they don't feel fulfilled and optimistic like you do after you just met someone you think you may have a future with. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/26 10:20 AM |
| 2 | Romance a trap for menYou forgot blue. They think things are fair the way they are and a homeless ugly guy could date a supermodel if he just stopped being a mysogynistic asshole and was a little more sensitive to women, confident and charismatic! /Satire - but I think its somewhere in that direction. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/26 10:07 AM |
| 5 | Romance a trap for menJust a side note but why are some peoples post so long you made your argument in the first paragraph you really dont need to repeat it this many times? Your last few sentences focusing on solitary men undermines your argument about sex unless you know about their sex life. The first half of your post implies that many men would be happy with a life without a partner just using prostitutes but we dont see many men doing. Men who just consume porn but have not much experience with real life relati… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/26 10:02 AM |
| – | Why do some women, especially on Reddit, instantly assume that men who simply vent about dating struggles are entitled to a relationship?Accountable means the same thing as taking the blame. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/26 08:50 AM |
| – | Being an asshole does come with consequences in dating. It’s about whether or not the asshole cares.This is a clearcut example of persons bad behavior ruining their dating prospects, and to a severe degree….. people still make this about women not respecting his preferences. Lol clearcut example from some dumbass youtube gameshow! men have been being nice to ugly friends of girls we wanna date since we left the cave. Also tolerating the manhating cockblocker friend as best we can. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/26 01:44 PM |
| 1 | Why do some women, especially on Reddit, instantly assume that men who simply vent about dating struggles are entitled to a relationship?Most men are overweight losing that would make a huge difference for them. Also no women on here will agree with this but in real life most peoples personalities are already fine, the main problem is self confidence. Ironically the easiest way to fix that is to talk to a woman and her make it easy for you. I say that as someone who was shy as a kid but born handsome! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/26 10:05 AM |
| 2 | Why do some women, especially on Reddit, instantly assume that men who simply vent about dating struggles are entitled to a relationship?I genuinely dont think that men do hate women whining as much as the other way around. Ask any married man! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/26 09:55 AM |
| 2 | Why do some women, especially on Reddit, instantly assume that men who simply vent about dating struggles are entitled to a relationship?Men don't want women to be themselves either example? being yourself means you need to no longer care about the opinions of those people when deciding what you do That would mean being content that they cant organically attract women. And thats what led to the Inkcel and MIGTOW movement in the first place, and guess what women had a problem with that too! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/26 09:48 AM |
| 1 | Why do some women, especially on Reddit, instantly assume that men who simply vent about dating struggles are entitled to a relationship?Sometimes I walk down the street and think to myself wow that person is a huge sack of shit. You saying it would be admirable to just make an effort to speak out loud what I think all the time? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/26 09:42 AM |
| 5 | Why do some women, especially on Reddit, instantly assume that men who simply vent about dating struggles are entitled to a relationship?I think this plays into theries about evolutionay biology that all men are the descendents of the one man who had all 30 wives in the village during early human societies. All other men were his competition, women being able to cooperate with other women was an evolutionary advantage. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/26 09:39 AM |
| 3 | Why do some women, especially on Reddit, instantly assume that men who simply vent about dating struggles are entitled to a relationship?Underrated comment! I live quite a fulfilled life with a wife, job, family, big house with lots of money and lots of friends. I dont tell anybody IRL that I use reddit or go on this sub I think that would be kind of humiliating or pathetic. The idea of people trying to look good on it, or even caring about how they come across is wild. Also I find it interesting to see this sub through the lens of surplanting the theories onto real life things and trends I've seen happen. Where others seem to go… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/26 09:30 AM |
| 0 | Why do some women, especially on Reddit, instantly assume that men who simply vent about dating struggles are entitled to a relationship?Yet somehow people still continue to get married... badum tsss | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/26 09:13 AM |
| 1 | Why do some women, especially on Reddit, instantly assume that men who simply vent about dating struggles are entitled to a relationship?I personally find it interesting. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/26 09:12 AM |
| – | If there was a button flipping the dating dynamics for Men and Woman would you press it?I think the reponses show this one is especially hard for women to imagine because the main reason being a man in dating is so difficult is because you're a drug addict in a world where getting drugs is very difficult (in this analogy drugs aren't just sex its a relatiohsip which includes sex as part of it). They have no idea what if feels like to want somethign that bad so imagining the second part is irrelevant. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/26 09:06 AM |
| – | If there was a button flipping the dating dynamics for Men and Woman would you press it?They are in the UK and dating works exactly the same as it soes in US all the same problems. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/26 08:52 AM |
| 2 | Why do Men degrade and insult Women who have sex with them?If you're talking about on this sub then fine maybe, but thats not real life and doesnt really interest me because online is horrible for everything, dating, politics etc. People are awful when theyre anonymous. Also the post is about something very specific, men insulting women that they've slept with. The comments you are talking about sound like men talking about women that they are not interested in, which is still bad behaviour but its different because they didnt use those women first. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/26 02:21 PM |
| 3 | Why do Men degrade and insult Women who have sex with them?>95% of men are litterally terrible at getting women to sleep with them its kind of absurd that this could be a major problem with men. Maybe it is an issue with those 5% but im sceptical. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/26 12:55 PM |
| -4 | Why do Men degrade and insult Women who have sex with them?Which men? Please tell me you are not talking about male podcasters. Maybe Im just lucky but I've never come across anyone who talked like this and my friends are all really macho loud type people. It's why Fathers endlessly police their daughters with the whole overprotective father trope but never do it to their sons. This has nothing to do with sexual conquest bragging rights. And everything to do with physical strength imbalances between the sexes and protection against sexual assault. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/26 12:41 PM |
| -4 | Why do Men degrade and insult Women who have sex with them?You see it in the Language used when having sex. He "banged" ,"Cracked" ,"smashed" ,"blew her brains out" and "re-arranged her guts". Its always an act of humiliation or violence done to a woman that men say. I've never heard a real life man use any of those but IF some men do dont take it persoanlly. Look at the way men talk about other men, even those they would take a bullet for, they're constantly insulthing them. Those terms have nothing to do with the individual when it comes to women. Men… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/26 12:22 PM |
| 5 | It's a waste of time for men to support feminism/female causesExactly men are litterally right at the bottom of the pile already. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/26 10:53 AM |
| 3 | It's a waste of time for men to support feminism/female causesWhats the Spanish example? Im a brit but I travel to spain a lot, just observationally it comes across to me as a lot less feminist than US or UK. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/26 10:49 AM |
| 1 | Should women reject men that don’t treat them like they would a top 1% Stacy?I think there is 3 categories a man is thinking while on a date, usually he'll know straight away. Im attracted to this woman it may have a long term future. Im attracted to this woman but it does not have a long term future possible FWB situation. Im not attracted to this woman. Men are just as likely to want to impress the woman in scenario 2 as they are in number 1, oddly they'll possibly want to impress them even more as they want to close it quicker. For scenario 3 I would think the man wil… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/26 08:30 AM |
| 3 | It's fine to have a type. Just admit that you do.You can like mean girls, good girls, goth girls, prep girls, hot girls, social girls, etc. JUST OWN IT. Even top men dont have a type, mens type is 'attractive'. It would be litterally ridiculous to shut yourself off from a huge portion of women just because of the way she dresses. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/26 08:13 AM |
| – | Women are scared of not having the power in datingI think it was implied in your post that you don't like the status quo, I also see a lot of similar posts where people say they dont want to approach women. Approaching doesn’t mean you don’t have the power in hand. Doesn't this contradict your post? It's sort of what I was saying, men are pressured to approach but it doesnt really mean women are the prize its just convention\biology whatever. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/26 07:09 AM |
| 20 | Women are scared of not having the power in datingIm not sure I see women getting annoyed about this. Its kind of irrelevant how we men or women feel about it, the system is the way it is. If you choose not to pursue women then fine, but you wont get any women. I guess it would be easier for me if women chased me all the time but they don't and its not going to happen. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/05/26 01:38 PM |
| 1 | unselected men should not feel moral guilt/responsibility for women’s dating choicesGuilt is not the exact word but you feel a part of their pain say if their mother was not sick and not old you would feel some sort of empathy fot their suffering. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/26 03:30 PM |
| -1 | The blue pill argument that women only care about men's personalities and do not care about a man's looks/status/money goes straight out the widow the second the man turns out be an abuser.You and the other person both didnt even understand the point being made he's saying charismatic, funny real life guy who you know from work is competing with good looking empty profile guy in online dating. The fact he said real life but you both still assumed OLD just shows how cooked we are! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/26 03:05 PM |
| 1 | The blue pill argument that women only care about men's personalities and do not care about a man's looks/status/money goes straight out the widow the second the man turns out be an abuser.Your example isnt very realistic though, both those twins are going to do better than a guy who is ugly but has the personality of the 1st twin. I'm a fairly shy person with new people, male friends etc and im not loud or assertive at work but the one place Im really confident and what I love doing is talking to women in a flirting type situation and that's because I got lucky with looks and I think this is the trend works for most people. There are outliers in either direction but in most cases… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/26 02:59 PM |
| 4 | When will people admit that masturbating to lesbian porn as a woman is extremely gay?Im a straight man and I've never heard of women doing this straight or otherwise. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/26 11:17 AM |
| – | When is a man too picky or superficial?But men dont want that, that's the whole point. The answer is not always 'be more like women'. Anyway I didn't ask for someone to solve this problem (if it is a problem at all), I just explained why these things happen. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/26 11:16 AM |
| 1 | When is a man too picky or superficial?Sorry my point wasnt really directed at you more that I see on some other subs a lot of people dismiss people due to taste in tv shows etc and I disagree with that personally. But yes people can define compatibility however they like. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/26 03:56 PM |
| 1 | When is a man too picky or superficial?Im not sure men can or not as much as they need anyway, I'm wondering if this is a difference between men and women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/26 03:52 PM |
| 1 | When is a man too picky or superficial?This is such a gen z and reddit take on compatibility. Compatibility is way more about values than music and hobbies. Its about the way you want to parent your kids raise them to be tough vs spend all your time making sure they have every need taken care of. Or what will you spend your money on a big house or a small house and lots of experiences, what kind of life you want rural/city/town etc. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/26 03:50 PM |
| 0 | When is a man too picky or superficial?If men were really that shallow they would leave a woman after 2 yrs or whenever the sex stops being every night. They dont because they obviously like the companionship of an LTR. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/26 03:42 PM |
| 0 | When is a man too picky or superficial?You can label it what you want but I think I would call it more companionship than 'access to sex'. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/26 03:38 PM |
| 0 | When is a man too picky or superficial?You do realise a lot of men talk a lot of shit, sometimes even they don't believe what they said 5 mins later let alone every single man in unanimous agreement on the worst thing some random guy has said! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/26 03:35 PM |
| 1 | Redpill is the result negative result of a society not having enough masculine role models.I was thinking about this a lot recently and I think the reason for this is how long since the 2nd world war. Up until that point the majority of mens value was the related to his ability to fight in a war. That's the only masculine characteristic that society valued. It's been so long now and being in a war feels so far away if you love in the west that society has lost respect for masculinity. Im not saying its a bad thing either just explaining why. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/26 03:25 PM |
| 2 | Men don't like to talk about their issues, but they do like to hijack conversation when women raise theirs.Exactly! This post could be reduced to "I feel not enough people care about the thing that I care about." It's sentiment disguised as an empirical observation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/26 10:41 AM |
| 9 | Men don't like to talk about their issues, but they do like to hijack conversation when women raise theirs.It's a silly premise. You can't debate it without being labelled to be doing the thing you disagree with. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/26 10:38 AM |
| 2 | Men don't like to talk about their issues, but they do like to hijack conversation when women raise theirs.This could be true for online but not sure what it says about men in general, think about what happens in real life. I litterally spend my whole day talkinn to my wife about her problems and thats fine thats what im there for I like it most of the time although can get a bit OTT some times. I think most women do this, I remember with my exes they did it even more and each problem was a crisis. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/26 10:27 AM |
| – | You don’t have to admit you have a sense of entitlement to have a sense of entitlement100% agreed. Entitelment in this context is just another word thats been weaponised. Instead of saying a man is an asshole people now say he's a mysogynist. Instead of saying he finds her sexually attractive they say he's is objectifying a woman. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/05/26 02:40 PM |
| 1 | Hyperactive men are magnets to womenI thought hyper active and ADHD is what OP was referring to? Being active and wanting to go on interesting 'adventures' is just called being normal. We're talkign about people who act like they're up to their eyeballs on coke on a monday morning when 100% sober at work. I know such people and they do well with women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/05/26 02:32 PM |
| – | You don’t have to admit you have a sense of entitlement to have a sense of entitlementWell we're kind of agreeing except im saying someone would feel entitled to sex if it came easy in the past which is very very unlikely for men. You seem to think they'll assume it will come easy because their life has been easy in the past up to that point, which is very unlikely as well in this world. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/05/26 02:22 PM |
| – | Hyperactive men are magnets to womenThis is true I have a friend who who is able to captivate women when chatting to them because he's very high energy, im not sure how he does it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/05/26 01:48 PM |
| – | You don’t have to admit you have a sense of entitlement to have a sense of entitlementI used to date a ton and I was more successful than most of my friends yet now we're all married, them too, and to great women - so my point is we are not a bunch of weirdos we're decent looking guys but getting sex on a first date was pretty rare for me. Surely entitlement comes from expectation so the amount of guys expecting sex is going to be based on their past experience, its going to be really low like 1% or something. I hope this isn't a post based on what some guy said on a podcast. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/05/26 01:47 PM |
| – | You don’t have to admit you have a sense of entitlement to have a sense of entitlementMen dont need sex from stangers or on a first date but they need it in a relationship or it will break down\ they'll end up cheating. I don't see why you're hanging on this point like a gotcha? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/05/26 01:30 PM |
| – | You don’t have to admit you have a sense of entitlement to have a sense of entitlementI agree with the top level comment but also theres no contradiction here, paying for the date and planning the date\making an effort is more likely to lead to them liking you than if you dont do those things. It's not 100% obviously but who expects it to be. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/05/26 01:25 PM |
| -1 | “Women can’t handle the truth” is manspeak for men not being able to handle incompatibility or not being able to handle valid reactions to his wrongdoingExactly those podcasts say crazy things for engagment the hosts might not even beleive them. The men on it are litterally the worst example of men but they do however still get some attention from women for various reasons. To then extrapolate this example and claim men who are very average can't get women because they have those views on women is just insane. It's also the same old misconception that is constantly claimed on here time and time again. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/05/26 10:55 AM |
| 3 | “Women can’t handle the truth” is manspeak for men not being able to handle incompatibility or not being able to handle valid reactions to his wrongdoingI doubt anyone in human history has ever said "you can't handle the truth" when confronted over cheating. That's perhaps the most ridiculous thing I've ever read on this sub, which is quite an achievement. Lol I thought that too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/05/26 10:43 AM |
| – | Terrible assholes can come in all shapes and size. They dont have to be hot jocky badboys.According to your logic a long and happy relationship is as much of a success as a short one where they turned out to be an asshole and you dumped them. Very odd. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/05/26 08:10 AM |
| 1 | Is there anything at all that you feel like men need grace for?If she liked it, it's not even bad behaviour though is it? The ugly guys are jealous of the looks earnign them interest, not being able to commit bad behaviour. Trying to dress it up as the other way around is kind of crazy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/26 03:47 PM |
| 1 | Is there anything at all that you feel like men need grace for?Exactly men never said that the answer was more talking and crying thats the answer women are telling us. Most of us are not embarassed about crying I've been told for the past 30 years its ok to do so there really is no stigma anymore about it, we're just different to women and we need other things for our mental health. Therapy is a step forward and it helps. Also it was a slight against 'other men' being the problem, which may be the case but thats not what this post is about. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/26 03:38 PM |
| 2 | How does a relationship look like for you?Well yeah thats kind of how mens brains work. We're easily pleased we just dont want negative energy. My wife is perfect person for me anyway but if I could change one thing about her it would be that she doesn't get so stressed about work and the kids etc in the hope that she is happier. It wouldn't be like I wish she bakes me chocolate chip cookies or buys me small surprise gifts every so often! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/26 01:55 PM |
| 1 | Terrible assholes can come in all shapes and size. They dont have to be hot jocky badboys.Ok so in this scenario whether they're an asshole or not is completly unrelated to the relationships chance of success? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/26 01:26 PM |
| 2 | Terrible assholes can come in all shapes and size. They dont have to be hot jocky badboys.I think the problem with your theory is the difference between male and female desire. For men it tends to be more of a spectrum they could find something attractive about probably 80% of women. They can acknowledge some are more attractive than others but it's intangible. Situation is completely different for women it's binary, they're either attracted or they aren't and you can't expect them to be with someone they're not attracted to. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/26 11:51 AM |
| 3 | Terrible assholes can come in all shapes and size. They dont have to be hot jocky badboys.The bonus points are a successful relationship, WTH is the point of dating otherwise? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/26 11:41 AM |
| 2 | Terrible assholes can come in all shapes and size. They dont have to be hot jocky badboys.That logic only holds if ALL people who have ever been hurt or struggled are in prison. Most people who have tough lives still don't resort to crime. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/26 11:34 AM |
| 5 | Terrible assholes can come in all shapes and size. They dont have to be hot jocky badboys.Isnt this cope? I might aswell go for the hot asshole mysogynists because some shy inexperienced guys are assholes too. It's pretty clear that arrogant behaviour that takes women for granted is going to be more common in men who find it easier to get women just basic logic. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/26 11:31 AM |
| -1 | It's okay, to want a "bang maid"No idea what this means, who is they? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/26 09:13 AM |
| 1 | It's okay, to want a "bang maid"What happens to those jobs if both partners are working, they don't disappear? Obviously either person in the relationship should take care of their fair share but they're both going to be exhausted, I think there's positives and negatives about both options. My wife would go crazy if she didn't work but I'd be happy for her to stop working as it would make our lives less stressful and avoid crazy childrcare routines. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/26 08:43 AM |
| 2 | It's okay, to want a "bang maid"Define not paying her? What's Money is she paying for groceries with while you work all day? What if she wants to stop at a coffee shop on the way to take the baby to the park? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/26 08:38 AM |
| – | Physical Touch Love LanguageAnd my main issue is the weaponisation of certain words that muddle the water. "Physical touch is my love language" it sadly often used in a way to guilt trip someone to sex. The same as when someone says "intimacy is important to me" and they mean just sex. I agree this is true but I think women do the same thing when they always say acts of service which basically translates to 'please do more chores around the house' which isn't really a relationship discussion anymore. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/26 03:34 PM |
| – | Physical Touch Love LanguageI like both but I think a lot of men in say its their love language who are in relationships because they're not getting as much sex as they want, if they were getting it regularly then maybe the just touching for the sake of touch would be a thing as well. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/26 03:31 PM |
| – | Most of the “successful marriages” are mirageWe agree? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/26 08:33 AM |
| – | Most of the “successful marriages” are mirageCould you explain this and the implication? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/26 08:28 AM |
| – | Most of the “successful marriages” are mirageThink you're asking the wrong question. It's not "Why do rich people stay married?" it's "Why do poor people break up?" both probably were in love at some point. The answer is that money is the most common thing people argue about and stress leads to me drinking and women getting depressed etc. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/26 08:20 AM |
| 3 | “Men would love to be sexually objectified”Im struggling with 'objectified'. Do you mean a man flirting with me in a way that referenced my physical attributes? I felt complimented but would prefer it to be a woman. I acknowledge theres a scenario that exists where a man doing that could make me feel uncomfortable and threatened but there's no offense at the 'objectifying' element to it for me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/26 08:14 AM |
| 7 | “Men would love to be sexually objectified”As a man I dont even understand what the word objectification means towards a man I've had women come onto me make lewd comments grab me etc. It used to just be called flirting and sometimes it would lead to something like date or hookup. If the woman was unnattractive then I might not enjoy it as much but I woudltn feel threatened or anything I understand its completely different for women as the power dynamic is the other way. But personally I liked it and it turned me on that women were attra… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/26 02:58 PM |
| 10 | “Men would love to be sexually objectified”Men don’t treat sex objects as valuable. Can you include a source for this from real life not things people typed online? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/26 02:50 PM |
| 1 | Men are less sympathetic because they more readily display antisocial traitsA good question would be, did those men in history who are responsible for thousands or even millions of deaths struggle to get female attention? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/26 08:02 AM |
| 0 | Men are less sympathetic because they more readily display antisocial traitsIs this really a major issue in society, that not enough offensive behaviour is being called out? 000's of times more stuff is being called out now than it was even a few years ago. Also its kind of a supply and demand relationtionship, act shitty then not many people will want to interact with you. At least that's the way it works in real life. Online is a different ball game but who is defending shitty behaviour online? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/26 07:38 AM |
| 1 | Men are less sympathetic because they more readily display antisocial traitsWhy did you change it to 'us'. I'm saying I don't do that is my whole point. Or are you saying I cant ever laugh about anything because some men are assholes? As there seems no logic to that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/26 03:41 PM |
| 2 | Redpillers are rude and that's why women here are unsympatheticExactly this sub ruins the debate because blue pills assume that people on here talk to people IRL the way they do online and wonder why they cant get a woman. LMAO nobody does that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/26 03:33 PM |
| 1 | Men are less sympathetic because they more readily display antisocial traitsI get what you're saying but in your view is it ever harmless? I agree that sometimes it isn't and could lead to men having less respect for women etc. But when me and my friends do it we're taking the micky out of ourselves we're the butt of the joke because its pointing out how our instinct is to be so terrible and selfish etc but that we're acknowledging that and trying to do better but we still laugh about it because what else can you do... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/26 03:29 PM |
| 0 | Men are less sympathetic because they more readily display antisocial traitsOk thanks, IMO thats pretty vague and could cover anything from the humor in family guy to a serial killer. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/26 03:23 PM |
| 2 | Men are less sympathetic because they more readily display antisocial traitsMy OP isn’t about men trying to impress women? Everything men do is about trying to impress women... apart from online when theyre annonymous so its definitely a weird area that didn't exist just a few years ago. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/26 03:06 PM |
| 2 | Men are less sympathetic because they more readily display antisocial traitsCan we define what you mean by edgelording? Do you agree that some women might find a specific behaviour antisocial and others might find it funny or entertaining? As women keep saying they're all attracted to different things, doing something that disgusts 80% of women and attracts the other 20% is actually a good hit rate. You need to remember those are they kind of odds men are working with as most women are not attracted to the same thing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/26 03:03 PM |
| 3 | Men are less sympathetic because they more readily display antisocial traitsI'd say there's a thin line between arrogance and charisma and there's a genuine debate about that. But the example in the link is neither it's some crazy kid and a bunch of desperate depressed kids on X, that doesnt say anything about men and what they do to impress women or other people. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/26 02:41 PM |
| 1 | As a women I'll never understand other women's obsession with marriageThis post is backwards your pointing to all the reasosn its a bad Idea to get married to someone you're not in love with and pointing to why they wouldnt fix problems in the relationship or make you love that person. When you're in love with someone you want to get married to them its as simple as that. Obviously not all people want to get married and thats fine too. On the name thing you're overthinking it. For most people their last name is not part of their identity in a meaningful way. I wou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/26 11:28 AM |
| 4 | Women "love" men for what they do for them, not who they are.I think this is spot on in the explanation however the bit I disagre on is whether its any worse for men than women I just think it's different and different downsides based on our biology. The reason theres a tendency for both sexes to think the other has it easier is because in the initial stages we're after different things. In the initial stages of attraction if women thought like men then it would be way easier for men to get sex and if men thought like women it would be much easier for a w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/26 09:00 AM |
| 17 | Women "love" men for what they do for them, not who they are.This is an incredibly rational breakdown. Many people either dont understand or wont accept it works like this. This is the reason I dont think there is any thing shallow or wrong with women falling in love with a man that has money or men falling in love with a woman because of her looks. People come as a package their actions and who they are is the same thing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/26 08:21 AM |
| 1 | Men don't understand that not only women compare them with each other, but they also have fixed standards.I think this kind of analysis is way too rational for this subject, human beings aren't rational. ITs not like before every thing a person does they say 'how is this adding to my life in a positive way?' And that doesn't even touch on the subject of short term and long term like is eating a doughnut adding something to my life or subtracting from it. Maybe long term its a negative but that doesnt stop people doing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/26 03:12 PM |
| 2 | Men don't understand that not only women compare them with each other, but they also have fixed standards.This is interesting do you think that women see a lot of things in the same way though? In my experience they have the same attitude to a lot of things like work or life in general. As in without meaning to insult women they don't always know what they want and they're often indecisive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/26 02:03 PM |
| 25 | Men don't understand that not only women compare them with each other, but they also have fixed standards.This is a good point, woman on this sub always have the idea of some guy in their mind who they didnt stay in a relationship with when talking about the problems with men . But a lot of the men on here's problem is that they cant even get to that stage. The issue is not that they cant keep a woman its that they cant get a date. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/26 01:58 PM |
| 1 | Men don't understand that not only women compare them with each other, but they also have fixed standards.These are all fair points but most women dont want to be alone so I think whenever men say the things you're referencing they're talking about those kind of women and excluding the others from the equation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/26 01:55 PM |
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