Soybeanrice Archive

Upvotes	Title	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
3	Ended LTR [1.5y], moving forward strat	Soybeanrice	/r/askTRP	01/08/19 02:04 PM
2	Encountered 2 similarish situations. Thoughts?	Soybeanrice	/r/askTRP	26/12/19 05:55 AM
0	Not a question, but broke up with a girl... lesson learned	Soybeanrice	/r/askTRP	17/04/20 05:02 AM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
2	How much easier does money make it? Also, most of the girls I've been on dates have traveled a lot and I didn't have that opportunity as a kid, so I come off as boring in comparison Mod comment hit the nail on the head but understand that travelling is not a personality. Social media would say otherwise, but its not. As for the degree, 4 years is a short amount of time in the grand scale of things. If youre already past your gen eds, dont stop. There is a point where you have to realize that youre committed and you have to finish.…	/r/TheRedPill	02/03/23 10:34 PM
126	How to succeed with women. The complete guide. Spastic garbage. Is this shit even moderated anymore?	/r/TheRedPill	19/04/22 12:16 PM
6	"I'm going to make women suffer": Post-hangover update. The inability to control your emotions is probably affecting your career too, OP. Anecdotally, your behavior seems typical of a marine (prior AF here). Discipline is endlessly lectured in the military, you would do yourself a favor to listen. You probably had a chance of getting somewhere with this girl if you just took a step back, reassessed the situation, and applied some actual TRP principles. The only way you get your ego hurt in the situation above is by having a blue pill goal/end game. P…	/r/TheRedPill	28/02/22 01:48 AM
23	The Classic "Theory" of Alpha F's, Beta Buxx Explained In Depth, With Studies. And Why "Attracting" Women With Your Money, Is The Worst Possible Thing You Can Do. The concept of diminishing returns isn’t spoken of enough here tbh. Everything in moderation.	/r/TheRedPill	21/02/22 12:05 AM
1	The Classic "Theory" of Alpha F's, Beta Buxx Explained In Depth, With Studies. And Why "Attracting" Women With Your Money, Is The Worst Possible Thing You Can Do. This post is a prolonged interpretation of sidebar material. It is a mental masturbation post by OP and is dangerously close to blackpill (lists a bunch of problems backed by “data” with no solution). The whole point of this sub is to figure out where you’re at SMV-wise and how to gain an advantage/play the hand you were dealt the best you can. That means you find solutions to problems as a man. Use this post as an example of what not to do. There isn’t anything even anecdotal about this post. A…	/r/TheRedPill	20/02/22 09:29 PM
1	How does TRP explain the outliers, the oddballs, the people who can’t be pigeonholed? Totally agree!	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/02/22 06:47 PM
1	How does TRP explain the outliers, the oddballs, the people who can’t be pigeonholed? This thread of responses just sounds like you have red and blackpill confused. TRP is about always improving your chances in the sexual market; raising a man’s SMV. The “watch what they do” / extreme awalt diagnoses is blackpill. TRP draws parallels to awalt situations to identify a course of action, while blackpill quickly armchairs it as an excuse especially when it comes to the whole 666 idea. Just think about the idea of 666 vs TRP ethos and you’ll find that they don’t align.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/02/22 06:41 PM
3	Both the Redpill and FDS seem to be primarily Low Socioeconomic Status inidividuals This. A&A is widely used even in media. It’s basically a tool to having a witty conversation/banter rather than a serious, boring response. It could be directed between each other or at a third party and it could be used between friends too. Dating is supposed to be fun at every level of socioeconomic status. OP trying to link his anecdotal evidence to such a wide claim without understanding the underlying behind both communities is such a reach. Although I will admit that both communities need …	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/02/22 04:52 AM
2	First approach - Mixed messages, left confused Frame too, but you’re absolutely right. OP lost frame when he saw her casual clothes.	/r/TheRedPill	31/01/22 05:10 PM
4	First approach - Mixed messages, left confused Remember, conversation is the medium. OP was conveying serious/boring tones while the girl is talking about drinking and partying. Only he knows how that happened, but I’m sure we can all agree it’s not the right direction. I can’t play Sims with a conversation, but they should’ve just exchanged fun stories while he escalated.	/r/TheRedPill	31/01/22 05:05 PM
22	First approach - Mixed messages, left confused You fell for her trap by overdressing. How were you able to have a dry conversation when the first 2 bullets of what you learned about her deal with drinking and partying? And then this lead to… hobbies? What hobby does an 18 year old have? At this point, without any involvement of the first 2 bullets (drinking/partying) I think your chances are very low. Her expectations were probably an invite of some sort. As for your expectations… you expected to get laid? That’s the trap dude. She won witho…	/r/TheRedPill	31/01/22 03:54 PM
–	FDS couldn't exist in a healthy dating market I’m just gonna point out that your probability calculation is severely flawed. Here is an example of why - if the 16% of people that are “over 6 inches long” also happened to fit the other criteria, then there are 160 people total, not 9.36. Your point about supply and demand is still applicable.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/01/22 05:54 AM
95	Shit test Don't type paragraphs, keep your texts as short as possible You should be succinct everywhere, including here. I'm disappointed in myself for reading 75% of this post. The term neg should be removed from the vocab. The purpose is widely misused, especially here. Just call it teasing jfc. You should be lighthearted and teasing a girl you are courting. Thats it! TLDR of this post: "I've never had success, I tried out a "tool" from TRP and had some success"	/r/TheRedPill	25/12/21 10:56 AM
1	Men on here be like I agree. I guess the right thing for me to say is that the TRP ideal/theory shouldn’t care.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/10/21 12:22 AM
1	Men on here be like I don’t think trp dudes care. It’s just about knowing the rules to the game and playing your best move. Going black pill would be the people who care and decide not to deal with it	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/10/21 12:15 AM
6	This is what white knights believe Doesn’t this depend on how much lms he acquires? My high school reunion gave a ton of anecdotal evidence that would counter your statement	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/10/21 12:05 AM
1	Any guys in their mid to late 30’s gaming 18-21 yr olds? Agree. Way too annoying	/r/askTRP	31/05/21 01:06 AM
12	How to deal with never being a first choice for girls? Active duty is a daily commitment. The most op can grow his facial here is some pedostache or a weekends worth a “beard”	/r/askTRP	29/05/21 09:51 PM
8	Is military a good option in middle of college? If you’re going to be an engineer then just take the student loans and finish. With a degree you can become an officer. Without a degree you will be an enlisted and the pay difference/treatment between the two are huge. Look into ROTC. They can help you pay for school and it lines up a position as an O. If you’re smart enough to be an engineer you’re going to slightly regret going enlisted before getting your eventual degree anyways. For perspective, junior enlisted live in barracks and are supp…	/r/askTRP	05/03/21 12:09 AM
2	Buddy (28) is about to commit to his 36 yo single mom of 3, LTR. You cant stop it from happening, but I disagree with "being there for the fall". Instead, take this as an opportunity to reevaluate your friendship. Not because he wont listen to you, but because over the long-term he could be a negative influence on your own personal growth. I dont know anything about your friendship and how deep it goes, but just take a minute or two to reevaluate. And not saying anything like "cut him off"... just whether or not you should maybe associate yourself less.	/r/askTRP	03/03/21 02:31 PM
2	My good friend hooked up with a girl he knew I was into. Not sure how to proceed I agree with this. I had a similar situation to OP happen to me, except it wasnt with some long term friend that was a girl, just a girl that I had shown interest in first. Anyways, my friend at least came to me first and gave me a right of refusal, to which I cheered him on because at least one of us would be successful that night and its not like this girl is the only girl in the world. Not sure what kind of friends OP has or what OP's friends think of him to not respect him enough to approach…	/r/askTRP	02/03/21 07:43 PM
1	Long term stocks investment advice ? Open a roth IRA account with a broker such as charles schwab or TDA. Contribute that 3k into the newly created account to fulfill 3k of your 6k 2020 contribution limit (assuming you have no roth IRA right now). Use that 3k to purchase SPY. Its an SP500 based ETF. Slightly more risky, but not by much would be to go with one of the mentioned semiconductors. Chip demand is at an all time high, to the point of where there are shortages. Or 50/50 SPY/NVDA. I'll also mention XOM - Exxon mobile. Very h…	/r/askTRP	17/02/21 02:48 PM
1	Expressed love for a girl. She says “she’s not there yet”. Where to go from here? Additionally, that "will they say it back" emotional distress should be left for the girl to experience - it works in your favor. Saying it first is a losing situation in multiple ways and OP refuses to acknowledge it by cherry picking RP concepts as a sort of deflection. you replied to this a couple comments up. You basically played the role of the girl by saying it first. Now she cant say it first, you took that away. She doesnt have to wonder if you love her back because you already said it. …	/r/askTRP	16/02/21 09:12 PM
2	Expressed love for a girl. She says “she’s not there yet”. Where to go from here? No one said you were in shambles, but the resounding opinion in here and most likely what you need to do to “keep things moving forward?” Is to work on yourself. You should identify what caused you to so quickly commit to her and perform such a selfish act of professing your love to her. You don’t even specify what you’re trying to move forward towards. Time? Eventual separation? Ideal monogamy? Do you even know what?	/r/askTRP	16/02/21 08:58 PM
3	Expressed love for a girl. She says “she’s not there yet”. Where to go from here? Hey sorry the internet didnt give you the answer you were looking for and pointed out ways to improve yourself instead. It must suck to get honest feedback instead of smoke blown up your ass. Stop fucking yourself. You posted on here because she didn’t say it back.	/r/askTRP	16/02/21 08:49 PM
5	Expressed love for a girl. She says “she’s not there yet”. Where to go from here? First sentence is obviously great stuff, but your analogy is a disgrace to poker lmao. The reason behind not saying it first is because it is inherently validation seeking. You dont say it unless youre expecting it back. Additionally, that "will they say it back" emotional distress should be left for the girl to experience - it works in your favor. Saying it first is a losing situation in multiple ways and OP refuses to acknowledge it by cherry picking RP concepts as a sort of deflection.	/r/askTRP	16/02/21 08:40 PM
5	Expressed love for a girl. She says “she’s not there yet”. Where to go from here? No. This guy's comment is super helpful in regard to you specifically because he is right. You need to have a real objective look at yourself to be confiding your commitment to someone else so quickly. It may not be the answer youre looking for but it is indeed a helpful answer. To me, it sounds like you have assigned way too much focus on this relationship in regards to your life as a whole. She comes, she goes, whatever, but its not healthy to try and maintain a power dynamic in a relationship…	/r/askTRP	16/02/21 08:12 PM
1	Getting a Pay Raise Companies usually ask for proof of an offer when theyre being coerced into a raise.	/r/askTRP	16/02/21 09:49 AM
1	Getting a Pay Raise This	/r/askTRP	15/02/21 05:53 PM
25	Making yourself unavailable the point is to not pedestalize	/r/TheRedPill	11/10/20 01:38 AM
2	Holding your frame /standing up against bigger guys. What would you do in this case? Holding frame doesn’t mean you need to be confrontational with someone who is physically superior. In your scenario, you can hold frame by turning his gesture (a command) into a request - that you choose to oblige. Immediately being confrontational/defensive if anything just shows fear. You were taken off guard. Slow down the situation to your pace by asking for an explanation, then move from there. Rarely is something so time critical that you can’t slow down the situation and get the proper in…	/r/TheRedPill	12/09/20 11:23 PM
1	Feel lonely without a woman, don't want this feeling. How many of you guys get this? Saved this	/r/askTRP	26/06/20 05:56 AM
3	How prevalent is cheating in your experience? Depends on what you count as cheating. I personally wouldn’t count it as cheating if the relationship was basically dead (kill the puppy stage) Learn to read the room... it’s pretty easy to tell when you’re not a girls main object of desire. If you’re not then someone else usually is - if you’re in a committed relationship then, sure you have some equity, but that only buys you time to fix your shit. I haven’t experienced any cheating. Listen to your gut and don’t succumb to insecure thoughts	/r/askTRP	19/06/20 06:48 AM
2	What to reply? Pretty dumb to talk yourself into that position. Anyways “babe you know how I feel about you”	/r/askTRP	10/06/20 10:30 PM
3	Been friends with this girl for 5 years said she likes me? How to proceed? Nah bro it’s not thinking with your dick. You’re trying to find/make your unicorn	/r/askTRP	03/06/20 12:28 AM
3	Been friends with this girl for 5 years said she likes me? How to proceed? Tread carefully... you’re walking a thin line because I can see in your reply that you’re going to get over invested. My ex and I are both EEs. I had the whole “power couple” shit running in my mind and it ate my ass up. Just know there’s hotter girls out there, with less of a bothersome history - that might be more responsible too.	/r/askTRP	03/06/20 12:09 AM
6	Been friends with this girl for 5 years said she likes me? How to proceed? If her past bothers you enough to ask... is it even worth the headache? She’s out of state and while she’s been decreasing her SMV (youth), you’ve been significantly increasing yours (LMS + mission) I’m on the other side of this mate - her past never bothered me, but she definitely used it as a shit test and you should expect it to be a shit test. For example “omg remember this one guy? He just messaged me X” or “my ex, the one who left me for another girl cause she gave him more morning BJs, ju…	/r/askTRP	02/06/20 11:36 PM
1	What to do if plates find out about each other? I had this happen to me recently. Hold frame. Don’t sound guilty, especially if you weren’t exclusive. I sounded guilty as shit and pretty sure I lost a plate out of it	/r/askTRP	23/05/20 03:58 AM
3	If a chick had an ex with a larger member, is it even worth trying to get her to orgasm? Size isn’t the only determining factor in your gf getting off. I personally made the mistake of ignoring clit stimulation. Just ask her what she likes and go from there. If she actually likes you and you’re not rocking a micro dick then you’re fine.	/r/askTRP	20/04/20 12:08 PM
1	How do you pass this shit test ? “Why are you telling me this?”	/r/askTRP	17/04/20 03:17 PM
2	Not a question, but broke up with a girl... lesson learned Maybe. Those 3 phone calls gave her a ton of validation. It definitely showed my hand and lack of abundance, although it was in the moment. I had waved the abundance flag in her face during my shitty explanation of why I was wasting my time with this by mentioning that it’s not a problem to find another girl, but phone calls make me look incongruent. Definitely way too much explanation - tried to make it vague, but most likely came off butthurt about lack of sex	/r/askTRP	17/04/20 09:57 AM
2	Not a question, but broke up with a girl... lesson learned Whoa 4 weeks is a little long lol. I mean we were talking daily. I wouldn’t pick up the phone and other things. Just weird how cyclical it was. 300km is way too far too, I could barely do the 20ish miles this was. There was a point in early March where she did ghost me for a whole week. I was able to “game” my way back by being aloof and having witty responses, but it was a lot of work and the oneitis I developed gave me massive anxiety attacks (which I hid) It got to the point of me saying “I n…	/r/askTRP	17/04/20 09:44 AM
2	Not a question, but broke up with a girl... lesson learned The breaking out of friend zone was after a year of ghosting and then me hitting her up randomly with a date. She dropped the L word really early and frequently at the start. It was pretty interesting. She taught me a lot. She would do these beta baits. For example, less than a month into “dating” she invited me to be a plus one at a wedding. Instead of politely declining, I agreed to avoid the awkwardness of declining, aka not setting proper boundaries. After agreeing she then had a rubber band…	/r/askTRP	17/04/20 09:32 AM
26	For those that are good with their money There are not a whole lot of short term growth opportunities without risk. Dont risk your house down payment - who cares if you lose a couple percent of growth on that down payment. Think of it as a premium for having no risk.	/r/askTRP	16/04/20 12:45 PM
2	Free yourself Holy shit. I was literally talking about this with my room mate a couple weeks ago... I ended up coming with the same exact term -- Consumer (which still sounds bad). Although I used consumer and producer as the 2 main terms, I was spittin the same shit. You need to be your own producer of happiness.	/r/TheRedPill	15/09/19 08:37 PM
3	I can NEVER love her the way she wants me to love her Agree. Video definitely helps.	/r/TheRedPill	07/08/19 01:21 PM
8	Retaliation? Pros: revenge against someone you have no business caring about Cons: look like a bitch and waste your time	/r/askTRP	30/07/19 05:43 PM
3	One of my plates ignored a text and I'd like advice from this community. No because you overtly communicated that you’re upset	/r/askTRP	29/07/19 07:49 PM
2	Said something stupid at the end of date, is this saveable? To answer your question, yes. Can you do it? Well depends on how fast you figure out how to flip the script.	/r/askTRP	24/07/19 09:50 PM
5	Lessons Learned on What Kills Attraction from a Weekend Trip with a HB6 This this this - also report is based on an agreed upon exclusive trip	/r/TheRedPill	24/09/18 05:08 PM
30	Lessons Learned on What Kills Attraction from a Weekend Trip with a HB6 The lesson here is - don’t agree to go on an exclusive trip with someone you don’t like. Sure you can pull lessons from this, but I don’t get the whole “she’s lower than me, so now IM the girl” approach. Not all dudes pursuing girls are pursuing higher value girls. Rules of game apply for lower value and higher value girls, hence AWALT.	/r/TheRedPill	24/09/18 05:07 PM
5	[FR] A remark on how important it is to be present and do your homework. Chocolate and pastries. What? You want to send her off without at least a kiss because she'll want another date without a kiss? Stop making excuses and escalate. At least then youll get the idea of whether or not you should even go out with her again.	/r/TheRedPill	14/09/18 08:44 PM