| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 29 | Hit the mall again, felt great about chatting up a cute cashier | Field Report | SpacemanOneTwo | /r/seduction | 28/07/21 04:54 AM |
| 28 | First night out, first time cold approaching, flying solo | Field Report | SpacemanOneTwo | /r/seduction | 25/07/21 09:17 PM |
| 9 | Anxiety about being a virgin, has anyone had a similar experience? | Inner Game | SpacemanOneTwo | /r/seduction | 04/08/21 07:30 PM |
| 2 | Daygaming at the mall and struggled with making an approach | Field Report | SpacemanOneTwo | /r/seduction | 27/07/21 02:13 AM |
| 2 | How to take a match from open to meetup in online dating? | Outer Game | SpacemanOneTwo | /r/seduction | 28/07/21 10:52 PM |
| 1 | Who to talk to/make eye contact with when addressing a group? | Outer Game | SpacemanOneTwo | /r/seduction | 16/08/21 02:53 AM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 1 | How to be friends with a girlFacts | /r/seduction | 09/11/21 06:57 AM |
| 6 | You Won't Go from An AFC to A Ladies Man overnight or within a week. This takes time and you have to patient about it. Give yourself credit for all those small victories like talking to that stranger in the street or number closing 2 girls in the same day.What would be an example of an exit strategy? | /r/seduction | 16/08/21 09:34 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]If you have a friend, for example, who is known to be quite abrasive or roasts people, you know that their compliments are genuine. When they tell you something, you can usually know they wouldn't lie to you. | /r/seduction | 16/08/21 03:21 AM |
| 1 | Anxiety about being a virgin, has anyone had a similar experience?Yeah I know there are other guys out here too, but a lot of the beginner posts talk about having had sex a little before they started, and I guess I couldn't find a lot of posts talking about the anxiety about male virginity. It's definitely an inner demon I'm making progress on conquering. I've come to realize that in order to be confident enough to lose my virginity, I have to accept myself as I am, but it's still an ongoing process. I've been told that I'm a normal guy and no one can tell unl… | /r/seduction | 04/08/21 09:10 PM |
| 2 | Why Picking Up Girls Is Like Playing PokerI understand where you're coming from, and I agree there's definitely certain people who take it too far and reach some problematic or overtly misogynist views. Essentially the way we often think about dating is with a fixed mindset instead of a growth mindset. For example, the popular mindset is that is person A is smooth and gets dates all the time, and this person B isn't, and we'll give person B some words of comfort of how they'll find the right person eventually. The issue with this is tha… | /r/seduction | 04/08/21 09:07 PM |
| 1 | Why Picking Up Girls Is Like Playing PokerI guess that would be analogous to a poker player getting pocket aces. You can usually win even if you make betting mistakes or if you’re not that skilled. | /r/seduction | 04/08/21 07:55 PM |
| 3 | "Dont be friends with girls"I think on a basic it's obvious that you'd be friends with girls that you like spending time with but don't have romantic interest in. You don't have to have some utilitarian benefit to it. | /r/seduction | 30/07/21 05:14 PM |
| 1 | I missed out on my teens, and I fear my 20s will be the same. Advice?Here's what I heard in another comment somewhere. 20 years old isn't too late to start. Even if you missed your teens, and even if it takes months or years to work on yourself and your game, you'll have the rest of your life to have an amazing sex life. | /r/seduction | 30/07/21 07:44 AM |
| 1 | Hit the mall again, felt great about chatting up a cute cashierI feel like it can help to draw a boundary in life by having a "game on" or "game off" mode. Like sometimes I'm walking home or whatever and I'm in a foul mood or my socks are wet and I just wanna get home, I'm not gonna be able to pull out any charisma ya know? | /r/seduction | 29/07/21 02:07 AM |
| 2 | Hit the mall again, felt great about chatting up a cute cashierThanks, I'll give it a try. Also gotta ask, wdym by becoming cyncial about the process? | /r/seduction | 28/07/21 10:57 PM |
| 2 | Feel intimidated by attractive women, not sure how to fix it.I'm honestly in the same boat. I'm getting more comfortable with women, but for the ones who look like they'd be in a magazine, I still freeze up. Try making a list of things you like about yourself or things that you have going for you. Your self perception might not be accurate to how others really see you, especially if you have issues with self esteem. Also I think with extremely attractive women, if you really hit it off with a woman you meet or you start seeing each other, it'll work to br… | /r/seduction | 28/07/21 10:47 PM |
| 2 | Hit the mall again, felt great about chatting up a cute cashierNo problem, I'm a beginner as well so take it with a grain of salt, but if you're trying to work on compliments start with pretty platonic ones before going to ones that show intent. Try sincerely complimenting her glasses or outfit for example and try to do it with a smile. Compliments like that are almost never gonna be taken badly. | /r/seduction | 28/07/21 10:39 PM |
| 2 | Hit the mall again, felt great about chatting up a cute cashierI'd love to say that I carefully planned it out to get her coworkers excited and push her to chase, but I honestly just had my sights on stepping up to make a direct compliment and that was it, so I bounced. I think a side effect was that the compliments I make like this are done w/o expectation and w/o any ulterior motive. As for your other line, it might be helpful to try practicing delivering it w/o any expectation of outcome. You could rephrase it like this: "Hey, I'm in a bit of a rush but … | /r/seduction | 28/07/21 10:30 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Something I once heard was plan a "deadline" for the date by saying that you have to meet you friends at 9, for example. It gives a way to end the date gracefully for you, and it also gives a way to gauge her interest. If the date's going well, you can just say you're gonna blow off you friends. | /r/seduction | 28/07/21 10:25 PM |
| 1 | Hit the mall again, felt great about chatting up a cute cashierThanks, I’ll check the channel out. Do you have any tips on building conversational skills? On how to say and respond in ways that generate open ended responses that roll off each other and get past the awkward silences? | /r/seduction | 28/07/21 06:44 PM |
| 1 | Hit the mall again, felt great about chatting up a cute cashierThanks man! I think this is the first time in day game where I felt it wasn’t super awkward and I was having a lot of fun | /r/seduction | 28/07/21 06:43 PM |
| 3 | Hit the mall again, felt great about chatting up a cute cashierYeah lol. As I mentioned in another comment, I’m a beginner and my first goal is to work on approach anxiety and be able deliver direct compliments that show intent. So far I’ve been choking a bit on the latter or my mind goes blank, and I’m glad I was able to do it this time. I was pretty glad that she came back to start a conversation. | /r/seduction | 28/07/21 06:40 PM |
| 2 | Hit the mall again, felt great about chatting up a cute cashierHmm I see what you’re saying, that can definitely be an awkward situation for sure. As a total beginner my goal right now is just to overcome approach anxiety and overcome the nerves in trying to deliver a direct compliment. I wasn’t expecting her to start a conversation so that was a pretty pleasant surprise. I probably wouldn’t have tried to chat her up and get her contact if she didn’t seem so receptive. I’m also quite new to texting. How much back and forth should there be, or in other words… | /r/seduction | 28/07/21 06:38 PM |
| 1 | Gonna cold approach at least one woman tomorrowYou got this man! I just started like a week ago and I won't like it's definitely not easy for me to keep my nerves under control. A lot of the times I kind of blank and the convo dies, but when the girl thinks I'm cute and wants to talk it makes my day. Something I try to do is "warm up" a little by complimenting strangers as I walk by. It gets me out of my shell and especially when I get a warm smile, it reminds me that strangers aren't gonna bite my head off. Best of luck! | /r/seduction | 28/07/21 04:56 AM |
| 1 | I'm going to the mall tomorrow and I will approach at least 10 girls, for the first time ever.How so? It’s a genuine question, is it cause he’s just starting out or is the mall just a bad place to try it? | /r/seduction | 27/07/21 04:39 PM |
| 2 | Don’t be this guyThat's facts though. Some of the time when a girl gives you her number but never replies or is super short with replies, she likely gave it to you to avoid rejecting you in person. It's easier to reject someone by not responding than by telling them to their face, and a lot of girls have had a bad experience where a guy took it the wrong way. | /r/seduction | 27/07/21 05:05 AM |
| 1 | Should I message her?Yeah honestly I think this is the most mature decision. Like OP said, rebounds and breakups are messy and feelings are all over the place so there's no need to act super needy or to put pressure on her. Best move on for now, and like you said maybe she'll change her mind. | /r/seduction | 27/07/21 05:00 AM |
| 1 | Daygaming at the mall and struggled with making an approachThanks, I'll give it a try. I definitely have a bad habit of sort of lingering around and psyching myself out. On a side note, how would you handle other guys who are around the girl, esp if they're dating or something? I don't quite know how to handle it if the other guy is being possessive or kind of douchey since I'm nervous he's just gonna tell me off. | /r/seduction | 27/07/21 03:02 AM |
| 1 | Cold approach worksHad the same question, will take a look thanks! | /r/seduction | 27/07/21 02:55 AM |
| 1 | First night out, first time cold approaching, flying soloThanks man! So is the goal to take her hand to break the touch barrier, and then start escalating by touching from the shoulder/arm and going from there? Do you have any tips on doing the "pull" part of push/pull? I'm pretty new to this. | /r/seduction | 26/07/21 10:03 PM |
| 1 | First night out, first time cold approaching, flying soloThanks man! So is the goal to take her hand to break the touch barrier, and then start escalating by touching from the shoulder/arm and going from there? Do you have any tips on doing the "pull" part of push/pull? I'm pretty new to this. | /r/seduction | 26/07/21 09:56 PM |
| 1 | First night out, first time cold approaching, flying soloThey were pretty short convos that didn't go anywhere. My mind kind of blanked a bit since I'm still working on overcoming approach anxiety. I made a first attempt at a tease but it came across as a bit rude. I'm going to try doing cold reads next. Do you have any suggestions on good cold read topics or any other tips to get her talking? | /r/seduction | 26/07/21 09:51 PM |
| 3 | First night out, first time cold approaching, flying soloHey thanks man, I'm also just starting out and found that reading other guy's field reports helped me realize I wasn't alone or uniquely struggling so I decided to make my own. Personally, I'm finding that setting small goals and challenges in order to achieve "wins" consistently is a lot more helpful than the binary of getting laid or not. Maybe that'll be helpful to you too. Best of luck! | /r/seduction | 25/07/21 10:30 PM |
| 2 | First night out, first time cold approaching, flying soloThanks man! I agree that I need to find a game system/structure. Now that I scouted out the territory and got comfortable there, that seems like a good next step. I'm a total beginner here, do you have any links or further reading on different game systems? | /r/seduction | 25/07/21 10:11 PM |
| 1 | Are you in the arena or on the sidelines?Great post man, love the inspiration | /r/seduction | 25/07/21 09:50 PM |
| 3 | I don‘t get clubbing.Following this comment cause I have the same question | /r/seduction | 21/07/21 07:52 PM |
| 1 | The Beach Is A GoldmineI'm also in Hawaii, been trying to give it a shot but been having a hard time getting my head straight. Any suggestions on what to open with? | /r/seduction | 20/07/21 05:30 AM |
| 8 | “I Can’t Get Laid Because…”Hey thanks for this post. I'm both an Asian guy and a virgin and I discovered this subreddit recently. I think you hit the nail on the head with the point about being ashamed of some part of myself. I carry a lot of shame about being a virgin and get really stressed out about it. I think I need to set it aside and like you said focus on loving being me. Could you talk a bit more about your friends who lost their virginity through getting better at game? In terms of working through the nerves on … | /r/seduction | 13/07/21 06:23 AM |
| 1 | Avoid Friendzone with Existing FriendThis is a group for people to improve, it's pretty counter productive for using inexperience as an insult regardless of if it's true. | /r/seduction | 12/07/21 06:23 PM |
| 5 | [deleted by user]I'd move on. A lot of the time girls will give you their number when you ask since some guys will take it the wrong way if they say no. It's just easier to reject someone by not responding than to reject them to their face. | /r/seduction | 12/07/21 05:53 PM |
| 1 | What are some ways to increase attractiveness?One thing people haven't mentioned is pursuing your hobbies and career growth. Do it for yourself but after a while the progress you've made will add up a ton. Your hobbies will make you fill more fulfilled and pursuing your passions will show. The vast majority of people I'd say have a ton of interests they've never capitalized on because of fear of failure or fear of changing their self perception ("I'd like to draw but I'm just not an artistic person"). Career growth is important as well. For… | /r/seduction | 12/07/21 09:30 AM |
| 4 | If you treat someone as if they are on a pedestal, you’re attached to the idea of them, not the actual person. Why would they want to be in relationship with someone who acts nervous and unworthy around them?That's so true. I often fall for the "idea" of a woman I met without actually getting to know her. Reminds me of the quote, if you put her on a pedestal she'll have no choice but to look down on you. | /r/seduction | 06/07/21 09:48 PM |
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