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My advice would be to figure out what is preventing your body from (efficiently) converting cholesterol to testosterone. Hint - it's not lack of cardio.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/23 02:58 PM
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I agree with everything you say here, although I do think there’s some truth behind the FA label in some cases. My frame is attractive. I am the oak. I’m consistent. I’ve created that space and invite others into it. My wife resists and avoids it. For awhile, I’ve chalked it up to not being “there” yet. It’s becoming apparent that is not the case. I know I have more work to do but I’m not discounting the work I have done to this point. Sharing notes, I only made the connection once I noticed tha…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/22 09:02 PM
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OYS #93 – 5-24-22 Stats – 39yo; HT 5’-10”; WT 192 lbs Lifts – DL=375x3x4, BS=310x6x4, BP 205x6x4, OHP=135x6x4 Career My current employment consumes more of my time than is ideal for me. I’ve been aware of this for a couple of years and have increased my efforts in finding a position that offers a better $/hr. Could I wait it out with my current company for another 5-10 years? Sure, it isn’t a bad gig. But I’m not satisfied with good enough and in seeking something better, I’ve gained a bit of ab…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/22 12:02 PM
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I do. I've found getting out in nature shuts out the rest of the world and leaves me with myself. In fact, you've just helped me realize that a part of it is getting back out in nature more often - something I've been lacking recently.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/22 08:49 PM
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It sounds too simple, but for most things you can break it down to "what would a silverback do?". I remember hearing the silverback analogy before, but now it makes more sense. It is simple. Get out of everyone's head - including your own and... Just do it.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/22 06:17 PM
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OYS #85 – 3-29-22 My last posted OYS a month ago gave me some great insight into where I was and where I want to be. I realized that I’ve been living in other people’s heads for much of my MRP journey (and obviously before) – mostly my wife’s head. Analyzing, acting and reacting based on what she says, does, or what I think she thinks. Doing things a certain way to gain a reaction and trying to control and persuade actions from others. Gauging my progress by other peoples reactions. I identified…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/22 12:49 PM
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Do you have a purpose in your life big enough to make the aforementioned rejection and broken boundaries less important? Great insight, thanks. I do have a purpose in my life outside of my wife and marriage. It was not big enough last week. I'm going to sift through this thought for a bit.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 08:36 PM
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This sounds like you were trying to write about some break thru or main event or something At the moment it seemed like a break thru, but as I get further from it - it seems less like that and more like a "shit fit" as you describe... what's the point of this novel ...which is why I wrote it out. There is shit in there I'm missing or maybe I am over-analyzing it and it I did have some sort of event.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 08:26 PM
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OYS #80 – 2-15-22 Everything is on point, lifting, diet, career, social is all pointing upwards. No current shit to own in most areas. Except relationship and some mental stuff, where it’s been an interesting week. I’m still processing some of it. I considered posting this as a field report and maybe I still will with a few details once I finalize some of my thoughts on it. One night early last week, I was rejected, and a few boundaries were broken. It was my mistake not addressing them immediat…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 12:15 PM
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OYS #77 – 1-25-22 Stats – 38yo; HT 5’-10”; WT 190 lbs; BF 15% Lifts – DL=355x4x3, BS=300x4x3, BP 195x6x3, OHP=130x6x3 Family - married 12; 4 kids Career I’ve been pursuing a new position with a new company over the last few months. This new position would have 2+ direct contacts and be a step up from my current position. Last week I was notified that they decided to go with another person with more managerial experience. Although I’m disappointed how long this process was drawn out, I’m surprise…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/22 01:46 PM
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Allowing myself to bask in the comfort of my current situation is a recipe for disaster. Reading it again, I realize my point may have been unclear. What I meant by this line is that "If I allow myself to bask in the comfort of my current situation, it is a recipe for disaster" Something I've learned over the last year is every time I make progress, I regress a bit because I get comfortable. I'm owning that I need to continue to push my edge, push myself into the things that aren't comfortable. …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/21 07:55 PM
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OYS #65 – 10-26-21 Stats – 38yo; HT 5’-10”; WT 190 lbs; BF% 14.0% +/- Lifts – DL=340x3x3, BS=290x3x3, BP 200x5x3+2, OHP=130x5x3+2 Family - married 12; 4 kids Currently Reading - TWOTSM A couple of career opportunities have surfaced in the last week. I sent my resume to a few posted job openings and was cold-approached by a recruiter who specializes in my field. Normally I’ve avoided recruiters in the past, but after a little background research and a phone conversation it became apparent this re…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/21 02:30 PM
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After re-reading your OYS, I agree with you. I was wrong - this is a good goal to have. Redirecting your focus from trying to change others to changing YOU (by trying to understand why you want to change others and by accepting that you can't do that).
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/21 05:03 PM
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You're on the right track. You've obviously identified the bad habit and are taking actions to remove it. If the porn filter helps you kick the habit, then it's a good thing. If the porn filter is a crutch that doesn't help build your self control, what happens down the road when faced with filter-free porn?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/21 04:54 PM
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I have to stop be mad at myself for unwanted behavior. I have relapsed a few times and watched porn. It's easy to be mad at myself for it. It's easy to judge myself as weak for falling for a short dopamine-rush. And I am. But I don't benefit from that self-anger in any way. Last week I stumbled across an online ad with a busty brunette who made me horny as hell. I thought I recognized her and started googling actress names...which led to porn-actress names...and....I was stuck. I asked myself, w…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 03:59 PM
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I have dealt with almost all of the negative that brought me here in the first place. At least for now. My new focus is on building the positives in my life. My life is good now but in getting here I’ve seen the progress I’m capable of and I’m ready to keep it going. The turning point in my journey was when stopped being negative. It was a bit "fake it until you make it" at first, but then you start seeing the positive in almost anything that you encounter each day. When you lead with that posit…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 03:09 PM
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Next week I’ll be on vacation at my inlaws. I’ll still post there, but unsure of the progress i can make in the meanwhile. This sucks. All you're doing is setting up an excuse for a lackadaisical OYS next week. The paragraphs above are loaded with things to work on and shit to own. Surely you can work on something while on vacation, no? Stop making excuses and start making progress.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 02:37 PM
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OYS #61 – 9-28-21 Stats – 38yo; HT 5’-10”; WT 190 lbs; BF% 14.0% +/- Lifts – DL=325x6x3+1, BS=275x5x3+2, BP 200x3x3+1, OHP=130x3x3+1 Relationship - married 12, together 15; 4 kids Read – NMMNGx2, TRM Year 1, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TPF, TTGTW, TRP Sidebar, MAP, Poon, TRM, Pook Currently Reading - TWOTSM MINDSET I continue to work on a few mental models that I haven’t fully reworked yet. Internalizing being the prize is coming around with time, as well as being my own mental point of origin. I’ve made si…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/21 05:43 PM
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OYS #56 – 8-24-21 Stats – 38yo; HT 5’-10”; WT 190 lbs; BF% 14.0% +/- Lifts – DL=325x5x3, BS=225x5x3, BP 185x5x3+1, OHP=125x5x3+1 Relationship - married 11, together 14; 4 kids Read – NMMNGx2, TRM Year 1, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TPF, TTGTW, TRP Sidebar, MAP, Poon, TRM, Pook Currently Reading - TWOTSM OYS I’ve continued to OYS over the last few weeks, opting to not post to the weekly OYS thread. The first week I did this (OYS #54) was tough and forced me to look into why that was. I realized that I had a …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/21 12:28 PM
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Thanks. So many thoughts about this that I can't put into words right now. It's very freeing. It's also the beginning of a lot more work to be done, but exciting nonetheless. Lean into the discomfort to grow.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/21 03:02 PM
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It's bullshit because innate physical attractiveness is only part of the equation. Confidence, Frame, presence, etc. are huge factors, as are other things I can change like style, grooming, gainz, etc. Exactly. Instead of compensating for your perceived lack of physical attractiveness, you could be building a positive attitude about yourself, not giving a shit if others think you're good looking. Not "I need to do xyz better because I'm ugly" but rather "I do xyz because I'm fucking awesome"
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/21 07:54 PM
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What's there to think about? Why are you letting the kids dictate your actions? I'm saying this as someone with 4 kids, 2 who are about the same age as yours. Is it an added challenge? Sure. Until you stop using the kids as an excuse, you won't be able to lead your wife to stop using the kids as an excuse.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/21 11:17 AM
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My point was that I just can’t get hung up on what I don’t have. This is correct and I get your point. But even in your response, you're still hung up and you're still comparing yourself to others. None of that shit matters, and you know that, but it doesn't seem like you believe it yet. Your words say you don't believe that yet. That's OK, because you're aware of it and you can start working on that belief. No matter how jacked I get or how I dress, etc. I am never going to be as objectively at…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/21 03:55 PM
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If I think I'm ugly, I should make myself the most attractive ugly guy I can be physically, mentally, and socially. Why should you make yourself the most attractive ugly guy? Isn't this a form of self-depreciation that you talk about a few lines later?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/21 03:06 PM
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OYS #53 – 8-3-21 Stats – 38yo; HT 5’-10”; WT 185 lbs; BF% 13.4% (navy method) Lifts – DL=325x3x3+2, BS=285x3x3+2, BP 185x3x3+2, OHP=125x3x3+2 Relationship - married 11, together 14; 4 kids Read – NMMNGx2, TRM Year 1, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TPF, TTGTW, TRP Sidebar, MAP, Poon, TRM, Pook Currently Reading - TWOTSM There are several mental models that I haven’t fully internalized yet. I’m going to concentrate on working through them in the coming months. The willingness to nuke my marriage (and family) has…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/21 02:45 PM
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This is how I use OYS. You've mentioned this before and it's what convinced me to use journaling on the side. The journaling over time became a place where I had most of my realizations and helped change or shift my mental models.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/21 11:28 AM
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OYS #52 – 7-27-21 Stats – 38yo; HT 5’-10”; WT 185 lbs; BF% 13.4% (navy method) Lifts – DL=325x3x3, BS=285x3x3, BP 185x3x3, OHP=125x3x3 Relationship - married 11, together 14; 4 kids Read – NMMNGx2, TRM Year 1, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TPF, TTGTW, TRP Sidebar, MAP, Poon, TRM, Pook Currently Reading - TWOTSM OYS #52 I started writing this particular OYS reflecting on my journey. In fact, many of my recent posts have been reflective in nature. Reflecting back on your journey is important, but nothing I type…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/21 12:13 PM
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It’s been some time since I’ve had an interview, so these two will be an opportunity to grease the wheels. It never hurts to practice applying and interviewing, even if you have zero desire to change your current situation. The landscape continues to evolve and so do you, so it's in your best interest to stay on top of it.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/21 03:18 PM
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I continue to fail at making time for sidebar reading There is a bit of nuance in wording here, but making/creating/finding time is not possible as we all have 24 hours in a day. The nature of that wording implies that you need more than 24 hours in a day to accomplish the thing you seek. You need to manage and prioritize the time you're already given, better. prioritizing time for sidebar reading Years ago when I found I was more likely to follow through when I "prioritized" my time, versus "ma…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/21 03:06 PM
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I will need to start thinking about this more as competing with myself since I’m running out of other guys to compete with. You probably already know this, but this isn't a good way to think of it. Compete with yourself because it doesn't fucking matter what anyone else is doing. By comparing and competing with others, you're just looking for validation of your progress. Now I look at him and go, holy shit, look at what that fat guy did during covid! That's the guy you should be competing agains…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/21 02:41 PM
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I reached out to a few friends to try to get together, but everyone I contacted was busy or out of town so nothing materialized there. So this was another goal that was a failure up to this point - but really, it wasn't due to a lack of effort on my part. What's stopping you from going by yourself? If your social life is dependent on a limited number of friends, you're restricting your growth in this area.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/21 02:30 PM
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I fucked up the whole week. Last training session was on Wednesday, and tomorrow will be my first in a week. So fuck me. Lifting is literally the easiest part of MRP. I'll never understand how some of you guys come on here each week stating that you skipped workouts. At least you weren't being lazy: But I'll just treat it as a deload week. You do know that you're still supposed to lift on deload weeks, right? But, sure, retroactively cover up for your deficiencies to make yourself feel better.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/21 09:24 PM
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OYS #51 – 7-20-21 Stats – 38yo; HT 5’-10”; WT 185 lbs; BF% 13.4% (navy method) Lifts – DL=305x3, BS=285x5, BP 195x3, OHP=125x3 Relationship - married 11, together 14; 4 kids Read – NMMNGx2, TRM Year 1, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TPF, TTGTW, TRP Sidebar, MAP, Poon, TRM, Pook Currently Reading - TWOTSM MINDSET In a continued effort to check myself, I went through a few of my early OYS’s to see what I was struggling with and to see if I still have ego protection in those areas: FEAR I know I still have fear i…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/21 02:06 PM
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Your confidence ends up not in your ability to produce outcomes, but in being able to handle whatever outcomes are produced. Yes, exactly - I can only control how I act and then how I handle the outcome. Do you see the repeated theme of outcome dependence (rather than independence) cropping up in your thinking? By asking myself if "I care what reaction I get from my actions?" and "is the effort of gaming worth the end result?" I'm testing whether I'm outcome dependent/independent. Am I playing t…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/21 06:52 PM
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OYS #50 – 7-13-21 Stats – 38yo; HT 5’-10”; WT 185 lbs; BF% 13.4% (navy method) Lifts – DL=290x8, BS=255x8, BP 175x6, OHP=110x6 Relationship - married 11, together 14; 4 kids Read – NMMNGx2, TRM Year 1, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TPF, TTGTW, TRP Sidebar, MAP, Poon, TRM, Pook Currently Reading - TWOTSM MINDSET It’s been a whirlwind few weeks and the next few will be about the same. At times I feel like my mind is swamped and it seems like my progress has stalled. I do not have the time to do all the things I…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/21 12:14 PM
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What I have instead of frame is structures. Patterns of behavior that I've built up to deal with things at home Great awareness - this is a powerful realization. You can now start breaking it down and pushing yourself out of your comfort zone. Learning how to stay in the situation AND in your frame. Even if you can't control the situation, you can always control your reaction to the situation.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/21 01:30 PM
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This is going to keep happening unless I maintain positivity and openness to what's thrown at me. This is good awareness. How are you going to maintain positivity and openness? You'll go through a number of waves of anger and resentment on your journey. That's normal. As you progress, the severity and length of these waves will lessen.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/21 12:40 PM
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He is much more apt to follow it literally. I agree. It's important to not give him too much at once. I've given him bits here and there and watched how he processes that information and uses it in his life. He's proven to be aware of his emotions and open with them. He's a smart kid, but there is a limit to what he can handle and I'm careful not to push it.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/21 12:10 PM
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OYS #49 – 7-6-21 Stats – 38yo; HT 5’-10”; WT 185 lbs; BF% 13.4% (navy method) Lifts – DL=260x12, BS=267x7, BP 185x4, OHP=120x5 Relationship - married 11, together 14; 4 kids Read – NMMNGx2, TRM Year 1, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TPF, TTGTW, TRP Sidebar, MAP, Poon, TRM, Pook Currently Reading - TWOTSM LIFTING It was pointed out to me last week that I’ve not been posting my weekly lifts, instead just posting my max’s. I admit not putting much thought into listing my weekly lifts and that it’s pointless posti…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/21 02:07 PM
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Therefore, my posts are focused there where I think I need more. You still think it's all about sex. It's the reason you came here in the first place, no different than most other guys. The real growth occurs once you get past that.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/21 11:34 AM
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Been a rough week mentally. Wife annoying, standoffish. I am tested more often and in different ways. Have moments where I was butthurt. Moments of intense anger at myself. Great awareness of this. What's helped me is reframing her attitude and tests as gifts. It can also be viewed as her attempt at changing the power dynamic. You're moving in the right direction. Keep on working on yourself and eventually these storms won't affect you.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/21 01:14 PM
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I know I can go back to that moment, because I already was like that. And it's not that I don't know how I should do. I just don't do it most of the times. If you used to be good at time management, and you still know how to manage your time, why aren't you still doing it? We got an invitation to go to the beach for some days around the 4th. As much as I would have liked it, I can't afford the time. So this time I said it clear. You'll piss away time for a late night movie, but put your foot dow…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/21 12:32 PM
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Its bitchy behavior and I don't like it, but I don't know how to fix it. Why do YOU have to fix it? Let her know you don't like the behavior. Lead her to the desired behavior and let her handle the rest.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/21 11:40 AM
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This entire OYS is about sex. Besides lifting and thinking about sex, what else are you doing in your life?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/21 11:28 AM
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1) What time I wake up - Goal here is 5:15. My average rise time was 5:26 last week, a little more snooze button than I want, I'm working on that this week. This is a great area to focus on. How you wake up each morning sets the tone for your day. It's also one easiest ways to build discipline. That being said, you're goal is 5:15 and your average time is 5:26? How is that "haven't missed a day since setting my goal"? You've sacrificed a simple way to build discipline and sabotaged a great way t…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/21 11:13 AM
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You bring up a good point. The numbers posted are my max.'s. It's all I've ever posted in my OYS. I guess I never put much thought into it and just posted my max's. However, it doesn't give an accurate view of my progression and/or regresssion. FWIW, lifts from last week: DL 275x10; BP 190x4; SQ 275x5; OHP 120x3
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/21 04:18 PM
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OYS #48 – 6-29-21 Stats – 38yo; HT 5’-10”; WT 185 lbs; BF% 13.4% (navy method) Lifts – DL=300x10, BS=300x3, BP 175x10, OHP=135x3 Relationship - married 11, together 14; 4 kids Read – NMMNGx2, TRM Year 1, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TPF, TTGTW, TRP Sidebar, MAP, Poon, TRM, Pook Currently Reading - TWOTSM MINDSET I’m finding I have less to write about in OYS recently. I still make mistakes and have failures, but my ability to self-correct is better and quicker. I’m still fine tuning what works for me and what…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/21 11:56 AM
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What I haven’t been doing is making a plan and then anticipating temptation with a plan for overcoming it I get it - I'm a planner by nature and I had this same thought process. However, if 'Plan A' and 'Plan B' both fail, then what? continued need for external validation and fear. FOMO on “good times” or being judged, etc. who lives in everyone else’s frame and is afraid they won’t like me. It's good that you're aware of this. How do you overcome these fears? Once you start overcoming the fears…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/21 12:47 PM
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A few OYS's ago, you mentioned your mission as "discipline". Although you've done a good job owning your shit here, a lot of this stuff can be attributed to a lack of discipline (alcohol, diet, porn, leadership, etc.). What are you doing to stay disciplined?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/21 12:10 PM
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Also, given that I am at 23% bf, I don’t expect much. Why? Physical attractiveness is only a part of it. I am slowly beginning to accept that I should become dateable for other women, not just for my wife. That I should be always able to get sex elsewhere Why should you? Is this your belief or something you read somewhere? Also, "get sex" is a shitty mindset. Do you know why? One perk of being married for me was not having to flirt with anyone ever again. I am reluctant to lose this perk, but th…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/21 11:42 AM
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Not good enough, Why? especially when I am continuing to fail shit tests and I have not read NMMNG or WISNIFG yet. Caught myself DEERing over the weekend regarding Father’s Day plans. I will say this - the sidebar is there for a reason, but all that reading isn't going to pass shit tests for you or stop you from DEERing.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/21 06:52 PM
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OYS #47 – 6-22-21 Stats – 38yo; HT 5’-10”; WT 185 lbs; BF% 13.4% (navy method) Lifts – DL=300x10, BS=300x3, BP 175x10, OHP=135x3 Relationship - married 11, together 14; 4 kids Read – NMMNGx2, TRM Year 1, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TPF, TTGTW, TRP Sidebar, MAP, Poon, TRM, Pook Currently Reading - TWOTSM SEX/MARRIAGE Things have been stagnant here for a few weeks. I know it’s my fault, my attention has been drawn to other things. I have the tools to lead us to better sex, it’s on me to prioritize the time to…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/21 01:55 PM
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I agree that putting in effort and not getting enough value in return is not a her problem, but a me problem. If I'm asking that same question wondering if I can gain more value from a different woman for the same amount of effort, isn't that a "her" problem?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/21 07:06 PM
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Thanks Blarg. Just like everything, there is no absolute, static, single point where the effort/value ratio is equal. The point is always changing and moving. You try to calibrate the effort (pendulum swings) to match the value point, but it's difficult to find that happy medium and if you do, it soon changes.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/21 06:33 PM
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OYS #46 – 6-15-21 Stats – 38yo; HT 5’-10”; WT 185 lbs; BF% 13.4% (navy method) Lifts – DL=300x10, BS=300x3, BP 175x10, OHP=135x3 Relationship - married 11, together 14; 4 kids Read – NMMNGx2, TRM Year 1, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TPF, TTGTW, TRP Sidebar, MAP, Poon, TRM, Pook Currently Reading - TWOTSM MINDSET Last week /u/Blarg_Risen helped me see how I was seeking approval from my wife for planning a potential trip this fall. I took some time this week to look for other areas where I’m still seeking appr…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/21 08:06 PM
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Thanks again for reviewing. The 60 DoD gave me a push in a number of areas where I was dragging my feet and it was a great way to hold myself accountable. More work to do and the journey continues. Not that it defines me, but the rest of my flair is probably due for an update as well.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/21 06:36 PM
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Blarg, you're on to something that I didn't see right away. Something seemed off between "doing it for me" and "gauging her interest". My first response is correct, I want to go for myself and I want her to come with. However, why did I mention it to my wife to gauge her interest? At first I thought it was so I could plan the trip, but that's not congruent to "doing it for me". I didn't realize it until now, but I mentioned it because I was seeking her approval. I've been aware of my tendency to…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/21 11:33 AM
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I want to go because I want to have fun, get away from home, check out a new place, go to an event, etc. I'm likely going either way and I'd like my wife to come with. I thought I'd offer the opportunity to her to spend some extended time with me - it's up to her whether she takes me up on that offer or not.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/21 06:46 PM
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OYS #45 – 6-8-21 Stats – 38yo; HT 5’-10”; WT 185 lbs; BF% 13.4% (navy method) Lifts – DL=300x10, BS=300x3, BP 175x10, OHP=135x3 Relationship - married 11, together 14; 4 kids Read – NMMNGx2, TRM Year 1, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TPF, TTGTW, TRP Sidebar, MAP, Poon, TRM, Pook Currently Reading - TWOTSM #60DOD-WRAP I made good progress in all areas during 60DOD. I set a number of goals for myself and in the end ran short on time to accomplish them all. As I progress I’ll revisit the goals I made and hold mys…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/21 04:23 PM
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This is all great info, thanks to everyone that commented. While it was mostly 'fake it until I make it', this was the first time I felt a bit of authenticity while withdrawing attention. I wondered if it was her attempt at grabbing power back. Given how it played out, it was obvious that's exactly what she was trying to do. This all reinforces everything that's discussed on MRP. Authentically withdrawing attention, the power struggle, the anxiety, being the prize, the main event - I was aware o…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/21 12:19 PM
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OYS #44 – 6-1-21 Stats – 38yo; HT 5’-10”; WT 185 lbs; BF% 13.4% (navy method) Lifts – DL=300x10, BS=300x3, BP 175x10, OHP=135x3 Relationship - married 11, together 14; 4 kids Read – NMMNGx2, TRM Year 1, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TPF, TTGTW, TRP Sidebar, MAP, Poon, TRM Currently Reading - Book of Pook #60DOD WEEK #8 SOCIAL - In the 10 months I’ve been doing this, I’ve done the most work socially. I was introverted and spent most of my free time at home or with my family. I avoided most social interactions …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/21 12:28 PM
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I've witnessed this behavior before, but not at this level or longevity. As I look back, it does seem to be a move to regain some power or control. The last few weeks have given me plenty of time to explore. I have a few things I want to try out and I'll stay cognizant of not rewarding bad behavior. I need some time to reflect on why I don't like bratty women. At first glance I know it's unattractive to me. There's probably some anxiety behind it, as well as some conditioning.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/21 08:35 PM
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No, I do not. I haven't experienced this level of behavior. It is a gift that has me working on authentic actions and teaching me again that all I can control is what I do. Where in the past I would be fearful of the outcome, I am now eager to see how this plays out.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/21 03:08 PM
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No, you're right. I've done this in the past with good results. Another tool in the toolbox that doesn't get used as much as it could.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/21 06:38 PM
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The testing is a gift and I embrace the challenge. While it's tough while in the middle of it, when you take a step back and see what's going on it all makes sense. Testing my resolve or challenging me to be better - either way it's up to me if I want to continue to respond. So far the answer is yes, but this extended test has me again questioning if the value provided is worth the effort.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/21 06:24 PM
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OYS #43 – 5-25-21 Stats – 38yo; HT 5’-10”; WT 185 lbs; BF% 13.4% (navy method) Lifts – DL=300x10, BS=300x3, BP 175x10, OHP=135x3 Relationship - married 11, together 14; 4 kids Read – NMMNGx2, TRM Year 1, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TPF, TTGTW, TRP Sidebar, MAP, Poon, TRM Currently Reading - Book of Pook #60DOD WEEK #7 CAREER - Over the last 5 years I’ve worked my way up to a position that has me doing a multitude of roles for a small company, primarily design and project management. I am satisfied with my c…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/21 12:14 PM
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OYS #42 – 5-18-21 Stats – 38yo; HT 5’-10”; WT 186 lbs; BF% 13.4% (navy method) Lifts – DL=300x10, BS=300x3, BP 175x10, OHP=135x3 Relationship - married 11, together 14; 4 kids Read – NMMNGx2, TRM Year 1, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TPF, TTGTW, TRP Sidebar, MAP, Poon, TRM Currently Reading - Book of Pook MINDSET Last week I wrote of the growth/complacency cycle. I’m getting good at catching it and pushing outside of my comfort zone to continue growth. Another cycle that I’ve identified is the bratty wife cyc…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/21 12:55 PM
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Over the years we're taught that being selfish is bad. We're taught that "selfish" is a negative word. That's the exact mental conditioning you need to get over. I don't want to be selfish based on that definition. The opposite, being considerate and concerned about other's profit or pleasure before your own is why you're where you are at now. Putting yourself first doesn't necessarily mean you disregard others altogether, it just means they're not first. Putting yourself first (being selfish) w…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/21 02:12 PM
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I think it's best to back off a bit from trying to initiate more often and attempting my weak-ass game with my wife. For now I just need to STFU and continue to read and learn. How will you know when you've read and learned enough to again try game? You won't. Your weak-ass game will remain weak-ass if you stop practicing it. You can read all the books and learn all the things, but when you come back to practice game, it's probably still going to be weak-ass.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/21 01:50 PM
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A disappointing week, missed 2 of my 3 lifting days due to illness. Not sure what I had, felt like a cold but without the runny/nose cough. Probably could have powered through it but I took the easy way out and skipped lifting last Wed/Fri. None of the rest of the shit matters if you can even bring yourself to lift when scheduled to lift. A fundamental part of RP, and you lack the basic discipline to even show up. The bolded part is especially pathetic. my focus is on consistency It's obviously …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/21 12:55 PM
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Is it better to keep initiating when I want sex and practice OI, or will waiting to develop more progress make OI easier? I have read many times to initiate if I want it, but I also don't want to be unattractive. Always initiate when you want, if it's authentically what YOU want. Not because the outside forces tell you that you "should". If you decide it's something you truly desire, then go for it without hesitation. That's attractive. Holding back or waiting is what's unattractive. Outcome ind…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/21 11:44 AM
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OYS #41 – 5-11-21 Stats – 38yo; HT 5’-10”; WT 186 lbs; BF% 13.4% (navy method) Lifts – DL=300x10, BS=300x3, BP 175x10, OHP=135x3 Relationship - married 11, together 14; 4 kids Read – NMMNGx2, TRM Year 1, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TPF, TTGTW, TRP Sidebar, MAP, Poon, TRM Currently Reading - Book of Pook #60DOD WEEK #5 GAME - This where I have the least experience and most potential. I have attempted little game throughout my entire life. Mostly because of fear of what other’s would think, of being perceived…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 12:49 PM
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I shouldn't be surprised, but I didn't realize how many options are out there for this. I started using a basic one last night and will test it out to see if it's what I want to use forward.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/21 11:22 AM
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OYS #40 – 5-4-21 Stats – 38yo; HT 5’-10”; WT 186 lbs; BF% 13.4% (navy method) Lifts – DL=300x10, BS=300x3, BP 175x10, OHP=135x3 Relationship - married 11, together 14; 4 kids Read – NMMNGx2, TRM Year 1, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TPF, TTGTW, TRP Sidebar, MAP, Poon, TRM Currently Reading - Book of Pook #60DOD CLOTHING I started cleaning my closet out of clothing that doesn’t fit me or doesn’t fit my style. I didn’t prioritize enough time this past week to finishing, so I’ll continue to work through it. I’ve…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/21 03:58 PM
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A better question is "Why can't I interpret tests for the gifts they are?" I get what you're saying, sometimes before we fully internalize concepts we need to fake it or do things to help ourselves rewire our brain. Keep plugging away at it and eventually it won't matter how a test is framed.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/21 06:58 PM
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Personally, I have no issue with calling it a test. You could re-frame it as “challenge”, because as we know the masculine grows through challenge. Regardless, in trying to understand the issue here: doesn't capture the gratitude …why does coining a better term matter? You already know and internalize that gratitude. Do you want to or need to share it with others? Does it need to be defined? To me, I don’t need a word or term to describe what I’m experiencing. It’s more like “I tried something, …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/21 03:14 PM
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where I will be bored out of my mind and have to interact with wife. Do I like my wife? I think you answered your own question.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/21 11:32 AM
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I initiated again, got rejected, and truely DNGF because I was prepared this might happen. If you "truely DNGF", why where you prepared for rejection? Might need to start tracking the cycle better and see how this influences our dynamics with regards to sex. It's fine being aware of the circumstances, but there's danger of tracking your woman's cycle and letting it influence your actions.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/21 11:21 AM
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OYS #39 – 4-27-21 Stats – 37yo; HT 5’-10”; WT 188 lbs; BF% 13.9% (navy method) Lifts – DL=300x10, BS=300x3, BP 175x10, OHP=135x3 Relationship - married 11, together 14; 4 kids Read – NMMNGx2, TRM Year 1, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TPF, TTGTW, TRP Sidebar, MAP, Poon, TRM Currently Reading - Book of Pook #60DOD WEEK #4 CLOTHING - Clothing is the DOD area where I probably need the most work. I have a closet full of old clothes that don’t fit well, that aren’t my style, and that I haven’t worn in years. I have…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/21 11:50 AM
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OYS #38 – 4-20-21 Stats – 37yo; HT 5’-10”; WT 190 lbs; BF% 13.9% (navy method) Lifts – DL=300x10, BS=300x3, BP 175x10, OHP=135x3 Relationship - married 11, together 14; 4 kids Read – NMMNGx2, TRM Year 1, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TPF, TTGTW, TRP Sidebar, MAP, Poon, TRM Currently Reading - Book of Pook #60DOD WEEK #3 HYGIENE - At first I thought this would be a difficult area to improve. After thinking about it over the weekend, a realized I have a number of areas to work on. As far as I know, I don’t have…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/21 12:15 PM
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Answering the second question will give you better insight into whether it matters or not.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/21 09:08 PM
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My wife almost never say's ILY lately. I will get "I love you too". I feel like this is her playing some game, either with me or herself or both. It doesn't eat at me, but I still don't appreciate it. Why does this matter? What does her saying "I Love You" do for you?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/21 06:38 PM
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Mission For now borrowing another member’s: “To be a man I respect” Why is this is important enough to share in you OYS? Are you trying to own that you don't have a mission? Or are you owning the fact you don't have an original idea and need to copy other's missions?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/21 06:28 PM
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OYS #37 – 4-13-21 Stats – 37yo; HT 5’-10”; WT 190 lbs; BF% 13.9% (navy method) Lifts – DL=300x10, BS=300x3, BP 175x10, OHP=135x3 Relationship - married 11, together 14; 4 kids Read – NMMNGx2, TRM Year 1, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TPF, TTGTW, TRP Sidebar, MAP, Poon, TRM Currently Reading - Book of Pook #60DOD WEEK #2 DIET - The first time I changed my eating habits a decade ago, I lost 50 lbs. only to gain it all back within a year. The second time, being smarter I knew it needed to be a lifestyle change, …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/21 01:05 PM
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Great question. Fear of commitment and change (of routine). I would have recognized it sooner if I didn't drag my feet on it.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/21 11:43 AM
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OYS #36 – 4-6-21 Stats – 37yo; HT 5’-10”; WT 190 lbs; BF% 13.9% (navy method) Lifts – DL=300x10, BS=300x3, BP 175x10, OHP=135x3 Relationship - married 11, together 14; 4 kids Read – NMMNGx2, TRM Year 1, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TPF, TTGTW, TRP Sidebar, MAP, Poon, TRM Currently Reading - Book of Pook #60DOD WEEK #1 LIFTING - I’ve been doing 5/3/1 since June, (3) days a week. I did Stronglifts 5x5 for consistently for 5 months prior to that, after doing it for years intermittently. I’ve had to reschedule a…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/21 02:35 PM
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OYS #35 – 3-30-21 Stats – 37yo; HT 5’-10”; WT 190 lbs; BF% 13.9% (navy method) Lifts – DL=300x10, BS=300x3, BP 170x10, OHP=135x3 Relationship - married 11, together 14; 4 kids Read – NMMNGx2, TRM Year 1, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TPF, TTGTW, TRP Sidebar, MAP, Poon, TRM Currently Reading - Book of Pook MINDSET It’s become clearly apparent that when I begin to struggle it’s usually because I’m beginning to be complacent or start falling back on progress I’ve made. I ran into some struggles last week and I w…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/21 01:59 PM
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If you can manage to thread this needle with this simple plan, your life becomes a cycle of gifting leadership and praising the gains your woman makes which amplify yours. The feminine grows through praise. This is the model I've established over the past few months. The difficult part in the beginning was leading and praising without creating a covert contract. Lead and praise authentically because it adds value to your life. I wonder if this path lessens or eliminates the main event if you're …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/21 04:25 PM
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OYS #34 – 3-23-21 Stats – 37yo; HT 5’-10”; WT 190 lbs; BF% 13.9% (navy method) Lifts – DL=300x10, BS=300x3, BP 170x10, OHP=135x3 Relationship - married 11, together 14; 4 kids Read – NMMNGx2, TRM Year 1, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TPF, TTGTW, TRP Sidebar, MAP, Poon, TRM Currently Reading - Book of Pook It’s been a relatively quiet week with little to report. Finishing up a big project at work had me busy for most of the week. My wife has followed my leadership on meal planning and has been on point with ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/21 01:33 PM
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I see the solipsism here. I agree. Also, it doesn't matter because this project isn't about her - it's about me. Ripping shit apart and making it better is authentic to me and something I enjoy doing. If my wife wants to gain social status about that, cool.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/21 09:43 PM
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Makes sense, I misread that observation. Something did seem off about the whole thing looking back on it now.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/21 06:42 PM
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OYS #33 – 3-16-21 Stats – 37yo; HT 5’-10”; WT 190 lbs; BF% 13.9% (navy method) Lifts – DL=300x10, BS=300x3, BP 170x10, OHP=135x3 Relationship - married 11, together 14; 4 kids Read – NMMNGx2, TRM Year 1, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TPF, TTGTW, TRP Sidebar, MAP, Poon, TRM Currently Reading - Book of Pook MINDSET I continue to develop and change my mental models as I move forward. Recently it’s been small changes/nuances but important all the same. I find great value in reading through other’s OYS’s each week…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/21 04:56 PM
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Thanks for pointing that out. I've been more "wordy" lately, I'll adjust as needed. Say less, act more.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/21 02:03 PM
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OYS #32 – 3-9-21 Stats – 37yo; HT 5’-10”; WT 190 lbs; BF% 13.9% (navy method) Lifts – DL=300x10, BS=300x3, BP 170x10, OHP=135x3 Relationship - married 11, together 14; 4 kids Read – NMMNGx2, TRM Year 1, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TPF, TTGTW, TRP Sidebar, MAP, Poon, TRM Currently Reading - Book of Pook OWNING MY SHIT This week was about being tested hard, from a lot of different angles. My leadership was questioned, my initiations were rejected definitively and when I offered praise or comfort, it was resis…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/21 12:50 PM
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OYS #31 – 3-2-21 Stats – 37yo; HT 5’-10”; WT 190 lbs; BF% 13.9% (navy method) Lifts – DL=300x10, BS=300x3, BP 170x10, OHP=135x3 Relationship - married 11, together 14; 4 kids Read – NMMNGx2, TRM Year 1, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TPF, TTGTW, TRP Sidebar, MAP, Poon, TRM Currently Reading - Book of Pook MINDSET It’s OK to have boring or average weeks. It’s OK to have off days. Failure is a part of life. Even if it’s obvious I still have to remind myself that the journey is tough and there will be times when …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/21 03:01 AM
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Very vanilla sex week. One time. I did not initiate much this week and was for some reason not real motivated to do so. I stayed in my frame, but my frame this week was kind of boring. I did not go out, I was not engaging. It was a kind of “head down” and keep working kind of week. I’m embracing this week with some enthusiasm. Not every week has to be amazing, some weeks can be just OK. Don't make the "boring/vanilla" a habit, but also don't be too hard on yourself when you have one of those wee…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/21 05:41 PM
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OYS #30 – 2-23-21 Stats – 37yo; HT 5’-10”; WT 190 lbs; BF% 13.9% (navy method) Lifts – DL=300x10, BS=290x4, BP 170x10, OHP=130x4 Relationship - married 11, together 14; 4 kids Read – NMMNGx2, TRM Year 1, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TPF, TTGTW, TRP Sidebar, MAP, Poon, TRM Currently Reading - Book of Pook MINDSET Internalizing a positive, fun attitude towards life, my family, and my relationships has been the biggest accomplishment in my journey this far. It bleeds into everything. It’s attractive. Most times…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 01:57 PM
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Fuck yeah I buy flowers It's not IF you do it, it's more about WHY you do it. Do what you want for the reasons you want. Keep in mind the advice in this sub is more of a guide than a hard set of rules. Most guys can't buy their wife flowers without having some sort of covert contract behind it.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/21 03:56 PM
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I was 220 lb. I reckon that I need to be ~165 lb for ~10-12% body fat. 165 is too low. I followed the same path, I hated carrying the extra weight at 220. However, I hated the weak feeling I had at 165 even more. I will continue with the body-weight movements until the iron arrives. You're on the right track here, good on you for realizing you need to lift heavy weights.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/21 03:50 PM
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I focused on totally putting that aside. Ironically, I think the Mrs did to. Do you know how these two statements contradict each other?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/21 03:24 PM
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Completely in his frame and having fun with a mundane press conference. No hesitation, no bullshit - straight to the point. A lot of parallels can be drawn from that short video to MRP.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/21 02:20 AM
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You might want to check out this post: Converting dread to desire. I've read this post before but it makes more sense now after re-reading. I can see it now. One thing about removing time and attention - at first I took it literally. I abruptly and overtly removed myself. It didn't work. It came across as being butthurt. It took a while to realize, for me at least, it needed to be a little more subtle. Displaying disappointment will have to follow the same subtleness. Not overtly declaring "I'm …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/21 02:02 AM
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OYS #29 – 2-16-21 Stats – 37yo; HT 5’-10”; WT 190 lbs; BF% 13.9% (navy method) Lifts – DL=300x10, BS=290x4, BP 170x10, OHP=130x4 Relationship - married 11, together 14; 4 kids Read – NMMNGx2, The Rational Male Year 1, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TPF, TTGTW, TRP Sidebar, MAP, Poon Currently Reading - The Rational Male Book (95%), Book of Pook MINDSET Over the years I’ve tended to defer decisions to my wife. Early in my MRP journey, I tried being the leader I thought I needed to be. It wasn’t authentic to who…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/21 03:30 PM
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Right, stop using fear as an excuse to not move forward. It's a great tool to promote growth. Lean into the fear, not avoid it.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/21 03:23 PM
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OYS #28 – 2-9-21 Stats – 37yo; HT 5’-10”; WT 190 lbs; BF% 14.7% (navy method) Lifts – DL=300x10, BS=290x4, BP 170x10, OHP=130x4 Relationship - married 11, together 14; 4 kids under age 10 Read – NMMNGx2, The Rational Male Year 1, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TPF, TTGTW, TRP Sidebar, MAP, Poon Currently Reading - The Rational Male Book (85%), Book of Pook I have learned what taking the lead in my life and relationships looks like. I am not the leader I can be, yet, but I have a vision for what that looks like…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/21 12:36 PM
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OYS #27 – 2-2-21 Stats – 37yo; HT 5’-10”; WT 190 lbs; BF% 14.7% (navy method) Lifts – DL=300x10, BS=290x4, BP 170x10, OHP=130x4 Relationship - married 11, together 14; 4 kids under age 10 Read – NMMNGx2, The Rational Male Year 1, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TPF, TTGTW, TRP Sidebar, MAP Currently Reading - The Rational Male Book (75%) Mindset After going though a few weeks of uncertainty, I’ve refocused on my mission and have a slightly revised plan moving forward. I know my mission will always be changing a…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/21 11:58 AM
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You're right, thanks for pointing this out. Boiling it down, there's a difference between acceptance and DNGAF. My original statement was acceptance.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/21 01:27 PM
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What's wrong with the mindset? Should I be expecting praise and validation? Should I not expect to be criticized and tested? You are correct in there being a difference between being tested and disrespected. I have not felt disrespected. It might happen at some point, but I'm better prepared to set and enforce boundaries now than I have ever been before.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/21 10:37 PM
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OYS #26 – 1-26-21 Stats – 37yo; HT 5’-10”; WT 190 lbs; BF% 14.7% (navy method) Lifts – DL=275x12, BS=275x6, BP 155x13, OHP=120x7 Relationship - married 11, together 14; 4 kids under age 10 Read – NMMNGx2, The Rational Male Year 1, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TPF, TTGTW, TRP Sidebar, MAP Currently Reading - The Rational Male Book (65%) Mindset This last week has been difficult, but nothing that I haven’t went through before. I felt my confidence wane and a bit of depression set in. The difference now is I ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/21 01:49 PM
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but I think I am actually just incredibly lazy and avoid doing work at all costs No one here is going to be able to help you with this. lift 3-4 days/week How did I become such a useless person? Not completely useless. What are your lifts?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/21 11:45 AM
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OYS #25 – 1-19-21 Stats – 37yo; HT 5’-10”; WT 190 lbs; BF% 14.7% (navy method) Lifts – DL=275x12, BS=275x6, BP 155x13, OHP=120x7 Relationship - married 11, together 14; 4 kids under age 10 Read – NMMNGx2, The Rational Male Year 1, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TPF, TTGTW, TRP Sidebar, MAP Currently Reading - The Rational Male Book (50%) 6 months Last week I mentioned complacency, this week it’s been catching myself before I revert to beta behaviors. A few times I found my mind slipping into expecting validati…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/21 03:00 PM
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Taking control of them is something I feel like I should do. Women feel, men do. Wanting to have a plan and be a little more organized and involved is something I genuinely want. If you ask mommy really nice, maybe she'll give you some fun financial activities to do to keep you busy for awhile. Look, this applies to more parts of your life than just finances. Good on you to see an area in your life that needs improvement, however, you're completely in your wife's frame here. You play the victim …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/21 12:13 PM
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I feel like controlling the finances is a part of captaining the ship. Do you genuinely want to control the finances, or is it something you "should" want to do so you can be the captain and leader?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/21 08:16 PM
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I want to take control of the house finances, but have failed to make any progress. I don't think I have proved myself capable of taking on that responsibility yet, so I am expecting resistance on this. Why do you want to take over the house finances?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/21 02:14 PM
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Background is we’re switching to cycle based app birth control. It was the first month and I thought she had the days figured out but she didn’t A word of warning, take the necessary precautions of birth control yourself - unless you want 4 kids.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/21 01:56 PM
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Don't think "I'm entering game mode". Think: "I'm being friendly and outgoing." This is it. I'm walking into situations looking for women to game whereas I should be walking into them looking to be social and talking to anyone and everyone, man or woman. I'm making it hard on myself when I all I need to do is have fun with it.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/21 04:22 PM
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OYS #24 – 1-12-21 Stats – 37yo; HT 5’-10”; WT 185 lbs; BF% 14.7% (navy method) Lifts – DL=275x12, BS=275x6, BP 155x13, OHP=120x7 Relationship - married 11, together 14; 4 kids under age 10 Read – NMMNGx2, The Rational Male Year 1, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TPF, TTGTW, TRP Sidebar, MAP Currently Reading - The Rational Male Book (35%) Mindset Everything has been going great over the past few weeks, however, I’m starting to feel complacency setting in. Over the weekend I felt like I accomplished what I set o…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/21 11:39 AM
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Agreed and that's where YNAB has been helpful. It's a matter of taking action and following the budget, making tweaks as necessary.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/21 02:58 PM
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OYS #23 – 1-5-21 Stats – 37yo; HT 5’-10”; WT 185 lbs; BF% 14.7% (navy method) Lifts – DL=275x12, BS=275x6, BP 155x13, OHP=120x7 Relationship - married 11, together 14; 4 kids under age 10 Read – NMMNGx2, The Rational Male Year 1, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TPF, TTGTW, TRP Sidebar, MAP Currently Reading - The Rational Male Book (20%) Mindset At the beginning of 2020, I was asked by a friend to come up with a word to describe how I felt the year would go. I came up with “reset” as my word and ironically that…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/21 03:39 PM
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Of course she intuits that every time and it dries her panties faster than you can say "faggot." And I don't blame her. You know it, but this isn't (and shouldn't be) about her. That being said, using sex for comfort and validation is not the only thing "drying her panties" here.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/20 12:45 PM
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OYS #22 – 12-29-20 Stats – 37yo; HT 5’-10”; WT 185 lbs; BF% 14.7% (navy method) Lifts – DL=275x12, BS=275x6, BP 155x13, OHP=120x7 Relationship - married 11, together 14; 4 kids under age 10 Read – NMMNGx2, The Rational Male Year 1, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TPF, TTGTW, TRP Sidebar, MAP Currently Reading - The Rational Male Book OYS One of the difficult things I’ve dealt with on this journey is realizing and accepting that I’m doing this alone. After the progress I’ve, this is empowering and builds confide…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/20 03:35 PM
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fix my mindset ...or change it altogether, because: keep it off ...this is the wrong mindset. It's not about fat/bodyweight or the bathroom scale. It's about working out and eating right because that's WHO you are and that's WHAT you do. When you become that person, the numbers won't mean anything to you anymore.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/20 12:18 PM
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OYS #21 – 12-22-20 Stats – 37yo; HT 5’-10”; WT 185 lbs; BF% 14.7% (navy method) Lifts – DL=275x12, BS=275x6, BP 155x13, OHP=120x7 Relationship - married 11, together 14; 4 kids under age 10 Read – NMMNGx2, The Rationale Male Year 1, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TPF, TTGTW, TRP Sidebar Currently Reading - The Daily Stoic, MAP (95%) Mindset I’ve been asking myself what I want again. I’ve found that I tend to do this when things are going good and I get that urge to strive for something more. It’s me recalibrat…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/20 01:06 PM
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wanting to know that she still wants me A couple days later we had a satisfying quickie, and somehow I rationalized that into watching porn later the same day. Scarcity mentality and keeping that dopamine high going as long as you can. I was there, it's tough to break that cycle, but once you do...
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/20 07:13 PM
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You're right and once you internalize that actions are greater than words it's really freeing.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/20 06:06 PM
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OYS #20 – 12-15-20 Stats – 37yo; HT 5’-10”; WT 185 lbs; BF% 14.7% (navy method) Lifts – DL=350x1, BS=275x6, BP 210x1, OHP=135x1 Relationship - married 11, together 14; 4 kids under age 10 Read – NMMNGx2, The Rationale Male Year 1, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TPF, TTGTW Currently Reading - The Daily Stoic, MAP (55%) Mindset So here I am, 20 OYS’s. I went back and read my first few OYS’s to see how far I’ve come. Two things stick out: 1) I understood the concepts but hadn’t internalized them (obviously still …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/20 12:28 PM
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I hear you, I've felt the same way and I have to challenge that hard/easy thought. As has been said here a bunch of times before, none of this should be hard, it should be fun and easy.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/20 07:28 PM
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You're right. I'm trying to cut it out completely for a few weeks and then slowly allow it back in, in moderation.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/20 07:21 PM
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i think it's the hardest and therefore most rewarding, strength-building path. What makes it the hardest path?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/20 12:29 PM
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OYS #19 – 12-8-20 Stats – 37yo; HT 5’-10”; WT 185 lbs; BF% 14.7% (navy method) Lifts – DL=350x1, BS=275x6, BP 210x1, OHP=135x1 Relationship - married 11, together 14; 4 kids under age 10 Read – NMMNGx2, The Rationale Male Year 1, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TPF, TTGTW Currently Reading - The Daily Stoic, MAP (25%) Mindset Over the past few weeks I’ve felt growth in becoming who I want to be. Along with that, my mission has started to come to me. I don’t know if I’ll ever be able to define that mission or pu…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/20 03:42 PM
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OYS #18 – 12-1-20 Stats – 37yo; HT 5’-10”; WT 185 lbs; BF% 14.7% (navy method) Lifts – DL=350x1, BS=300x1, BP 210x1, OHP=135x1 Relationship - married 11, together 14; 4 kids under age 10 Read – NMMNG, The Rationale Male Year 1, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TPF, TTGTW Currently Reading - The Daily Stoic, NMMNGx2 (65%) Mindset A few of the comments on my last OYS helped get my mind on track. I am focusing on positive mind set. Writing down where I came from and how I got here, although negative, forced me to f…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/20 04:20 PM
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My upper body has always been weak in comparison to lower body. However, I've only been lifting seriously since March and my bench gains have been significantly more than my squat/deadlift. Currently doing 5/3/1 and had planned on continuing for another cycle or two and then maybe switching to something else.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/20 12:40 PM
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validation-seeking from mommy This right here. It's neediness and fear of not getting needs met.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/20 12:36 PM
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Good point. If I'm looking for value that others bring to me and start contemplating what that means to me - ego, validation, and I'm opening myself up for covert contracts.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/20 10:13 PM
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Yeah, it's time to put this stuff to bed and move on to bigger and better things. As I wrote this I felt a shift coming and it's awesome.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/20 06:37 PM
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OYS #17 – 11-24-20 Stats – 37yo; HT 5’-10”; WT 185 lbs; BF% 14.7% (navy method) Lifts – DL=350x1, BS=300x1, BP 205x1, OHP=135x1 Relationship - married 11, together 14; 4 kids under age 10 Read – NMMNG, The Rationale Male Year 1, MMSLP, WISNIFG, TPF, TTGTW Currently Reading - The Daily Stoic, NMMNG Mindset I arrived at MRP like so many other men here, to fix my marriage, wife, and sex life. The hardest thing to grasp since arriving is the fact that I need to fix myself and let go of the “control”…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/20 12:56 PM
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Yes, obviously the plan - these short, simple, and congruent responses are another area I need to work on. I cringe thinking how I would've DEER'd the shit out of this statement just 6 months ago. Now as she's saying it I'm thinking "Tell me more about how you don't want me to do what you REALLY want me to do..."
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/20 07:03 PM
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This is incredibly insightful, thank you. It feels exactly that way, like "I did everything right, where's my fucking cookie?" If it continues or becomes more persistent I'll try taking sex off the table for a bit.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/20 06:45 PM
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OYS #16 – 11-17-20 Stats – 37yo; HT 5’-10”; WT 190 lbs; BF% 14.7% (navy method) Lifts – DL=350x1, BS=300x1, BP 205x1, OHP=135x1 Relationship - married 11, together 14; 4 kids under age 10 Read – NMMNG, The Rationale Male Year 1, MMSLP, WISNIFG, Predatory Female Currently Reading - The Daily Stoic, Tactical Guide to Women (70%) Mindset I’ve been initiating sex a lot over the past few weeks. Some of the rejections still sting, but for the most part the increase of initiating regardless of circumst…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/20 02:31 PM
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BJJ is something I just started looking into last week. Mostly to get out of the house, socialize, and learn a new skill. I don't have time for the commute to go weekly, but I could go once or twice to see if I like it and if I do, then I can go to local gyms when they open back up.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/20 11:15 AM
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There are no hills. I was going to go with "the hills are never-ending". Obviously they're hurdles that I've set up for myself that aren't really there. Thanks, that helps quite a bit. You are looking into doing something? How hard is this to actually do? I hope your next OYS includes, I have done 1-3 trial classes at different gyms and found the one I like. I should have added that the local gyms I've called are not currently taking new members due to COVID. I'm looking into different gyms furt…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/20 09:52 PM
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OYS #15 – 11-10-20 Stats – 37yo; HT 5’-10”; WT 190 lbs; BF% 14.7% (navy method) Lifts – DL=350x1, BS=300x1, BP 205x1, OHP=135x1 Relationship - married 11, together 14; 4 kids under age 10 Read – NMMNG, The Rationale Male Year 1, MMSLP, WISNIFG, Predatory Female Currently Reading - The Daily Stoic, Tactical Guide to Women (40%) Mindset I feel like my mind is in a million places and I need to start nailing down some mental things. As I was going through some of my last OYS’s, my progress is STILL …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/20 12:04 PM
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That's a great question. The week before was great, inflated my ego, and left me trying to stretch that feeling into another week. Then I find myself living with a shitty person, my ego is hurt and I try to protect it. Instead of just doing what I wanted and being a man that is happy.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/20 10:45 PM
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OYS #14 – 11-3-20 Stats – 37yo; HT 5’-10”; WT 190 lbs; BF% 14.7% (navy method) Lifts – DL=350x1, BS=300x1, BP 200x2, OHP=130x2 Relationship - married 11, together 14; 4 kids under age 10 Read – NMMNG, The Rationale Male Year 1, MMSLP, WISNIFG, Predatory Female Currently Reading - The Daily Stoic, Tactical Guide to Women (25%) Mindset Last weeks mindset had me talking about being confident I can weather the storm when momentum shifts. After a couple of good weeks of progress, I was tested this we…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/20 05:09 PM
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Thanks Horns, and like usual you hit the nail on the head - again. This past week was exactly as you said, shitty-comfort tests earlier in the week that I failed by withdrawing attention. Something felt off and then I realized I was being tested, felt stupid. Turned it around midweek when I figured WTF, may as well have fun with this.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/20 04:00 PM
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OYS #13 – 10-27-20 Stats – 37yo; HT 5’-10”; WT 190 lbs; BF% 14.7% (navy method) Lifts – DL=350x1, BS=300x1, BP 200x2, OHP=130x2 Relationship - married 11, together 14; 4 kids under age 10 Read – NMMNG, The Rationale Male Year 1, MMSLP, WISNIFG Currently Reading - The Daily Stoic, The Predatory Female (50%) Mindset I haven’t hit my stride yet, but I’ve had stretches where everything seems to come together and it all makes sense. It hit me that maybe I was in a good position all along, but as a dr…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/20 11:46 AM
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I've added it to my list, thanks for the suggestion!
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/20 01:58 PM
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OYS #12 – 10-20-20 Stats – 37yo; HT 5’-10”; WT 190 lbs; BF% 14.7% (navy method) Lifts – DL=350x1, BS=300x1, BP 200x2, OHP=130x2 Relationship - married 11, together 14; 4 kids under age 10 Read – NMMNG, The Rationale Male Year 1, MMSLP Currently Reading - The Daily Stoic, WISNIFG (90%) Mindset I want to thank u/DirtyNuke for his OYS last week, specifically: Why do you care? Don't beat yourself up about it. You're still thinking on her terms. Take a look at that "care". Hold it. Look at it from al…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/20 12:20 PM
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Again, thanks for the feedback u/HornsOfApathy. In regards to first part, I saw it as a compliance test as it happened. I felt it was a great suggestion and also something I've wanted to try out. Ultimately we didn't go as they were booked for the night, but I still had a good time. You guys weren't joking about this ego thing.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/20 11:21 AM
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OYS #11 – 10-13-20 Stats – 37yo; HT 5’-10”; WT 190 lbs; BF% 14.7% (navy method) Lifts – DL=350x1, BS=300x1, BP 200x2, OHP=130x2 Relationship - married 11, together 14; 4 kids under age 10 Read – NMMNG, The Rationale Male Year 1, MMSLP Currently Reading - The Daily Stoic, WISNIFG (80%) I’m switching it up this week as the format I’ve used to this point makes it feel like a checklist of items I have to cover. Things I did good: I recognized a few shit tests as they were happening and passed them. …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/20 01:35 PM
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I absolutely implied that. I have no expectation of her blowing me again this year and if she does - great.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/20 06:28 PM
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OYS #10 Stats – 37yo; HT 5’-10”; WT 185 lbs; BF% 14.7% (navy method) Lifts – DL=350x1, BS=300x1, BP 200x1, OHP=130x2 Relationship - wife 33, married 11, together 14; 4 kids (all under age 10) Read – NMMNG, The Rationale Male Year 1, MMSLP; Currently - The Daily Stoic, WISNIFG Physical Per request from the OYS Livestream, I updated my lifts to show my demonstrated lifts. I finally tested my Back Squat (300x1) and OHP (130x2). I felt I was right at my limit with the squat (and deadlift/bench from …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/20 01:57 PM
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No covert contract that I'm aware of. Logically, it made no sense to start a fire and then not sit by it, which is likely to happen if I'm watching and keeping all 4 kids entertained by myself. I've tried it before and it's pointless. The fuck up was when my wife changed her mind and decided to stay home. Instead of doing what I wanted, I was worried about why she wasn't going and telling her she should go and not to let what I'm doing affect her decision. I was in her business, in her mind and …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/20 01:28 PM
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This makes sense - I'm overthinking frame and need to let it happen naturally. This helps, thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/20 02:06 PM
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OYS #9 Stats – 37yo; HT 5’-10”; WT 185 lbs; BF% 14.7% (navy method) Lifts – DL=351 (1RM), BS=333 (1RM), BP 217 (1RM), OHP=136 (1RM) Relationship - wife 33, married 11, together 14; 4 kids (all under age 10) Read – NMMNG, The Rationale Male Year 1, MMSLP; Currently - The Daily Stoic, WISNIFG Week Summary A challenging week that saw me lose frame and revert to some beta traits, leaving me in a shitty mood towards the end of the week, annoyed about everything. I was able to recover over the weekend…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/20 10:37 AM
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I agree, I'll watch my mood. I'd like to think I've made progress, but time will tell.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/20 11:45 AM
1

OYS #8 Stats – 37yo; HT 5’-10”; WT 185 lbs; BF% 14.7% (navy method) Lifts – DL=351 (1RM), BS=333 (1RM), BP 217 (1RM), OHP=136 (1RM) Relationship - wife 33, married 11, together 14; 4 kids (all under age 10) Read – NMMNG, The Rationale Male Year 1, MMSLP; Currently - The Daily Stoic, WISNIFG Week Summary Life has been good – the last week felt easy. I concentrated on being in a positive mood and not over-analyzing situations, something I’ve had trouble with in the past. Being fun with my wife and…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/20 10:46 AM
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I never realized the art and benefit of ass smacking until I started doing it from a red pill perspective. I have a lot of fun with it, just have to remember to smirk and wink when she glares at me afterwards.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/20 02:16 PM
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My flair is still accurate.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/20 01:56 PM
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You're right. In the beginning I intended only to give my time and ended giving a few other gifts as well.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/20 10:33 AM
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OYS #7 Stats – 37yo; HT 5’-10”; WT 185 lbs; BF% 14.7% (navy method) Lifts – DL=351 (1RM), BS=333 (1RM), BP 217 (1RM), OHP=136 (1RM) Relationship - wife 33, married 11, together 14; 4 kids (all under age 10) Read – NMMNG, The Rationale Male Year 1, MMSLP; Currently - The Daily Stoic, WISNIFG Mindset Coming up on my favorite time of year – autumn. Looking forward to some quiet time in the woods over the next few months. The benefits of the time in nature to reflect include better mood, clearer tho…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/20 01:40 PM
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When you start seeing the power that STFU has - lightbulb moment. I'm sure it'll get easier, but the following day I fought myself to not mention anything about the argument AND act normal like nothing had happened.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/20 12:07 PM
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OYS #6 Stats – 37yo; HT 5’-10”; WT 185 lbs; BF% 14.7% (navy method) Lifts – DL=340 (1RM), BS=329 (1RM), BP 216 (1RM), OHP=131 (1RM) Relationship - wife 33, married 10, together 14; 4 kids (all under age 10) Read – NMMNG, The Rationale Male Year 1, MMSLP; Currently - The Daily Stoic, WISNIFG Summary My last OYS was an eye-opener, mainly due to a Rule #9 violation which gave me the opportunity to reflect on where I’ve come from and where I want to go. I realized why I was doing MRP (not for me) an…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/20 01:50 PM
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Horns, I agree, like you said in one of my first OYS, she probably likes me - but she just isn't attracted to me. I've repeated that in my head constantly over the last few weeks, right along with "actions > words". The fog is starting to clear, there's a long way to go. All the bolded items ARE bullshit, this is the first time since taking the red pill that she's read this same script that she's been reading for years. I don't believe any of it, which is why I called it a shitshow of emotion, e…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/20 04:02 PM
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OYS #5 Stats – 37yo; HT 5’-10”; WT 185 lbs; BF% untested Lifts – DL=339 (1RM), BS=327 (1RM), BP 212 (1RM), OHP=130(1RM) Relationship - wife 33, married 10, together 13; 4 kids (all under age 10) Read – NMMNG, The Rationale Male Year 1, MMSLP; Currently - The Daily Stoic, WISNIFG Summary I was off work last week and while we didn’t travel, we did get in a few family activities that are difficult to fit in during a typical work week. Being around home also allowed me a bunch of free time to knock …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/20 02:40 PM
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OYS #4 Stats – 37yo; HT 5’-10”; WT 185 lbs; BF% untested Lifts – DL=329 (1RM), BS=318 (1RM), BP 210 (1RM), OHP=126(1RM); 5k run=18:00, 10k run=41min Relationship - wife 33, married 10, together 13; 4 kids (all under age 10) Read – NMMNG, The Rationale Male Year 1, MMSLP; Currently - The Daily Stoic, WISNIFG Mission/MAP This is a work in progress, but I feel like I’m closing on a mission “statement”. Again, I have a good feeling about the direction I want to take this, it’s just taking me a bit t…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/20 01:06 PM
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At this point, mostly giving and withdrawing my attention. Giving attention by joking/goofing around and including here in shenanigans with the kids. Withdrawing by communicating logistics only, going off and working on myself, or going off with the kids to do fun stuff without her. No doubt I have much work to do in this department. Being/not being butthurt is also a work in progress, it's coming along, mostly just maintaining the happy/goofy mood through the rejection/bad behavior.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/20 06:07 PM
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I'd love to try this one just to witness the shit storm that follows, maybe on a day I'm feeling particularly "Rambo-ish".
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/20 05:59 PM
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I can hear the hamster wheel squeaks from here - and I have to up my game, obviously.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/20 05:56 PM
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OYS #3 Stats – 37yo; HT 5’-10”; WT 185 lbs; BF% untested Lifts – DL=327 (1RM), BS=316 (1RM), BP 206 (1RM), OHP=124(1RM); 5k run=18:00, 10k run=41min Relationship - wife 33, married 10, together 13; 4 kids (all under age 10) Read – NMMNG, The Rationale Male Year 1, MMSLP; Currently - The Daily Stoic, WISNIFG Mental I’ve been tired the last few weeks, I’m guessing from being busy at work, busy in my personal life, etc. I have a week of vacation in a few weeks with nothing specific planned which I’…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/20 11:57 AM
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Yikes, I see it now - thanks for pointing that out. Add that to the list of things to work on!
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/20 10:01 AM
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OYS #2 Stats – 37yo; HT 5’-10”; WT 185 lbs; BF% untested Lifts – DL=265x5 , BS=260x5, BP 155x5, OHP=115x5; 5k run=18:00, 10k run=41min Relationship - wife 33, married 10, together 13; 4 kids (all under age 10) Read – NMMNG, The Rationale Male Year 1, MMSLP; Currently - The Daily Stoic, WISNIFG Mental The most difficult part for me in this process has been looking back on my life and seeing it through a red pill lens. Thankfully, I’m getting closer to accepting what was and focusing on what I can…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/20 12:45 PM
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Stupid blue pill me has asked her numerous times over the years if it was an attraction problem, which unsurprisingly, got me absolutely nowhere. The stoic reading has helped me understand that I should only worry about what I can control and therefore, let her figure out and worry why she is or isn't attracted to me.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/20 10:35 AM
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OYS #1 – Introduction Stats – 37yo; HT 5’-10”; WT 185 lbs; BF% untested Lifts – DL=265x5 , BS=260x5, BP 155x5, OHP=115x5; 5k run=18:00, 10k run=41min Relationship - wife 33, married 10, together 13; 4 kids (all under age 10) Read – NMMNG, The Rationale Male Year 1, MMSLP; Currently - The Daily Stoic, WISNIFG Intro I have lurked long enough, time to put myself out there. Technically my MRP journey started in 2013, when I came across NMMNG. I didn’t know what to do with it then, but it planted the…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/20 04:10 PM
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