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Well, we're always told that women can sense when incels have negative thoughts about women, right? So you think it would be easy!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 04:39 PM
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Average Lillith post. I swear she just uses ChatGPT to write them at this point.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 08:54 PM
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Then your suggestion would be incorrect. https://www.washingtonpost.com/business/2019/03/29/share-americans-not-having-sex-has-reached-record-high/ Since 2008, the share of men younger than 30 reporting no sex has nearly tripled, to 28 percent.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 08:41 PM
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Yes "facetious". Just like all the women who said they'd happily let Chris Brown beat them, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 07:18 PM
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Lmao, yep. Took the words right out of my mouth.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 06:49 PM
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https://i.imgur.com/PqeCwNz.jpg Very relevant
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 05:54 PM
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They cannot. Unless you're taking the stance that 50% of relationships are miserable and unsatisfying, in which case you might be onto something here.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 05:43 PM
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You're literally just looking at the top 10% of guys and extrapolating that to all men. You do know that, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 04:52 PM
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That's very debatable lol. And it's just exchanging one kind of hurt for another, anyway. At least in an abusive relationship, you're not alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 04:31 PM
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breadwinners are about evenly split now between men and women lmaooooo This is 100% not true, come on. In fact it's statistically shown that one of the biggest causes of divorce or dissatisfaction in marriage is the woman making more money than her husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 04:30 PM
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So I can scroll down to the comments and see how many women drool over him and leave comments like "I'd let him rape me any day"?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 04:25 PM
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Literally all of society is set up to benefit and serve you from top to bottom, to the extent that most women are complete net negatives for taxes because of the amount of free aid etc they can get. Not to mention all the social benefits like always being liked and appreciated, welcomed to things, etc. It's basically impossible to fuck your life up as a (white) woman in western society, short of becoming a literal crack addict.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 04:24 PM
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Now how many of those Conans do you think there are compared to average or below average men being treated like garbage?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 04:20 PM
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You’re better off alone. People who say this really don't understand how common it is that men will go years without relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 04:17 PM
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That's a completely irrelevant argument. Women are being primed by all of social media/culture/etc to treat men as the enemy, and then they treat men like shit so men feel likewise.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 04:16 PM
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Then social media and the general culture of society shouldn't be priming everyone but especially women to view their partners as an enemy.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 04:09 PM
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It literally is. Women are only single if they want to be. The reverse is not at all true.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 04:07 PM
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Not really. All the data you're basing this on is from the pre-Tinderocalypse days. Someone in the 40th-80th percentile could find someone in your dad's era, but not anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 04:05 PM
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Those are two entirely separate groups of men, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 10:11 AM
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OP is 100% correct and it's fucked up to see so many people here gaslighting him tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 09:16 AM
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OP is 100% correct and it's fucked up to see so many people here gaslighting him tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 09:16 AM
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Because there's no reward for him to do so. Why should he?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 08:56 AM
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True, but we're generally trying to talk big picture stuff here.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 03:45 AM
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And yet, the average age gap in a relationship is about 2.5 years. Are you really arguing that 20%+ of that is merely due to 29 year old women dating 31 year old men?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 03:44 AM
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It's not about sex and never really has been. I've always hated that argument. I'm not an incel but by and large, incels don't care about sex, they want affection and physical non-sexual intimacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 03:41 AM
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I mean, I don't think that they suddenly flip the switch and wanna become hedonistic fuckboys AFTER they nail someone down, do you?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 03:40 AM
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You'd be surprised. And I moved to a new city in the midst of COVID which really fucked me too. But tbh the main problem I've been having is just a total lack of motivation.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 03:38 AM
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And a farm is only one letter away from a fart. Did you have a point?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 01:57 AM
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My longest term girlfriend eventually outright ghost me because I cried in front of her twice when my dad died, so I guess that's where the line for "emotional labor" begins?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 01:49 AM
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Luckily there’s not enough tall and attractive men to go around. Both genders ending up being alone is not some great outcome. I'm not wringing my hands thinking of petty revenge or something...
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 01:46 AM
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https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2020/08/20/a-profile-of-single-americans/
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 01:41 AM
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I mean, the only statistical evidence you're going to find is that with shows that the majority of relationships are transactional. Like how something like 1/3rd of women have gone on dates where they don't even like the guy just to get a free meal.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 01:40 AM
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why do you desire romantic relationships when you could easily take this path that doesn’t have all the “stress” that romantic relationships bring? Because at the end of the day, it's all just a cope. We're meant to be social animals and partner up as a species. People who are single die earlier and have more health problems, for one example.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 01:36 AM
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Well, everything was locked down because of COVID for like two years straight tbf. It's not like there's anywhere I could have taken my dates to if I went on them lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 01:23 AM
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Ask me how I know you're a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 01:21 AM
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Well, yeah, sure. But tall and attractive moron will outplay a short average comedian. The idea that being hilarious and being able to tell good stories is a requirement to get women and a massive help is ridiculous. If being hilarious was the best way to get women, then guys like Larry David would be absolute pussycrushers lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 01:21 AM
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Chad is just a figment of your imagination yawn I'm friends with Chads, I've seen it in action a million times. Don't go down that tired old route. And most women constantly hold out thinking they can do even better.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 01:16 AM
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Of course not. They marry young, when BOTH people had to live paycheck to paycheck lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 01:15 AM
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Saying that women can only love 10/10 Chads isn't the argument you think it is, I just want you to know this.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 01:11 AM
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Yeah but check this out This isn't a rigorous scientific study for a new type of medication or something. It's the comments section on a Reddit post about dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 01:09 AM
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It’s not old either. There’s still plenty of single peopl around. Statically, not really. The people in my age group I know (across all genders and orientations, mind you) who are in anything close to a long term relationship, I can count on one hand. But if you approaching everything with a defeatist mindset, it might be best to take a break from dating anyway. I've been "taking a break" from dating for like three or four years now dude lol. Since my last relationship ended in late 2018, I've g…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 01:08 AM
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??? 30 is not young dude, that's like a two or three years shy of middle aged.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 01:03 AM
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It's definitely something I've thought is worth checking out tbh. Just feels like it doesn't matter much at this age though, lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 01:02 AM
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Do you really think the dating and social culture in Canada/UK/Australia/etc is so incredibly different from the US?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 01:02 AM
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God damn now that one takes me back to the days of YOU'RE THE MAN NOW, DOG!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 01:01 AM
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Men are far more likely than women to be on the dating market: 61% of single men say they are currently looking for a relationship or dates, compared with 38% of single women. So most men are looking for relationships but unable to find them, while most women looking for relationships can get them? I don't think this is the data you want to be showing here...
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 01:00 AM
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Definitely not content with that. Resigned to it is more how I would put it, I suppose.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 12:57 AM
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I mean, I'm combining that with relationships I've seen as well as the stuff I've read. It's not all just anecdotal.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 12:57 AM
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Well they did the study on literally the biggest western country on Earth and the one that sets nearly all cultural expectations for the west and even the world at large And you're going "But that's only America! It's limited!"
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 12:56 AM
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It's a different kind of miserable. Eating grass might not be nutritional, but at least it keeps your stomach feeling full.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 12:55 AM
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Not really, younger men are statistically more interested in casual sex than women. https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/it-s-man-s-and-woman-s-world/201407/who-craves-relationships-more-men-or-women In stark contradiction to the stereotype of men as commitment-phobic “players,” Pew Research reports that young adult women and men are equally likely to want to marry (Pew 2013); to say that having a successful marriage is one of the most important things in their lives (Pew 2012); and to state …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 12:54 AM
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Where are you getting this information? ...Myself and my own sexual experience? This is weird. Experienced women tend to be better at the sex they do like to do. Experimentation is subjective. My best sexual partner was my very first one (the youngest one as well of course) and it's basically been a consistent downhill slope since. Remember the "She's just not a sexual person, okay? She doesn't like giving blowjobs/etc" meme? It’s equal to the amount of times a woman has realised the same. Well,…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 12:52 AM
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The same way that someone "chooses" to put up with increasing rent prices, I suppose. They can always refuse to tolerate it and live on the street!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 12:37 AM
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I don't have any bodyfat, I'm a totally normal healthy weight.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 12:36 AM
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Yeah man, we should ignore all studies unless they include Zimbabwe and Tajikistan as well!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 12:33 AM
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fair enough, the flip side on that data is a little creepy when the 65+ men’s single rate is so low and women’s is so high. Not really. It's a well known fact that men die earlier than women, (even moreso when they're single). It's honestly quite possible, and in fact very likely, that those women are single because they're widows.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 12:33 AM
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https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2020/08/20/a-profile-of-single-americans/ Here you go!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 12:25 AM
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Why don’t you pull statistics for over 30? Life doesn’t stop at 30. Pfft lmao, okay buddy. You also have to take into account that younger men typically don’t desire long term relationships (unlike younger women). That's actually not true at all in the slightest, it's just a stereotype. It's younger women who I see bouncing around from cock to cock and dating a new guy every month, while the guys try to lock down any remotely good woman ASAP.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 12:21 AM
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If you view relationships as transactional, you’re probably going to be disappointed. If you view them as a connection with another human being that you choose because of who they are rather than what they can provide, and understand that many, many women view relationships in that light, you may have better luck. That's how I've gone into every relationship in my life, and I always end up being proven wrong, lol. The whole dating world is pretty much fucked and everything is transactional. Like…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 12:18 AM
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I'm sure my T levels are fine. And even if they weren't, there's fuck all to do about it anyway lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 12:10 AM
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That’s not realistic. What metrics are you using to measure it? Dick is way less sensitive, you're way less horny, sex doesn't feel as good, it's not fresh or interesting or fun, you have less stamina, and women are far less open to trying things. There's little to no point. I could go on. “perfect old boyfriends”? in what world? It’s more like red flags they’ve learned from their previous relationships In every world? You are constantly being negatively compared to the boyfriends of the past in…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 12:09 AM
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As I said, not much point at this age.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 12:00 AM
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Those studies are almost always done in the states, so yeah. https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2020/08/20/a-profile-of-single-americans/ The source if you'd like
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 12:00 AM
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Most men DO get laid. By 25 the % of virgins is 5% and by 40 its .01% Yeah, getting laid once in your life doesn't mean jack shit, you know. Anyways im average height so its not a problem I wish I could still be this adorably naive...
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 11:56 PM
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Nobody, which is why over 50% of men aged 18-30 are single. Conversely, only 32% of women are single, so guess what? They're sharing the few 10/10s they can get their hands on.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 11:50 PM
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And most men don't get laid. Your point? Only like 15% of men are 6ft or taller too You think women care about that?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 11:45 PM
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Oh yeah? Then go on, explain the rest to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 11:44 PM
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You just have to realistically evaluate things, I guess. Like, sex will never feel half as good as it did when you were in your early 20s. Everyone has too much baggage and you'll always be compared to their perfect old boyfriends - women's standards go up drastically as they get older, even though they almost always have less to offer. If you haven't gotten married by now, there's a reason for it, and women know that too. And I decided to finally go to college so I can't even betabux, lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 11:42 PM
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Most men can't ever hope to afford a home, get a proper career, have kids, hell, they pretty much all live paycheck to paycheck. So can you blame them for caring so much? It's literally the only way left a man can feel some measure of success anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 11:31 PM
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It's literally NOT a requirement. You can be a braindead moron and still crush pussy nonstop if you're tall and attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 11:28 PM
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To alleviate loneliness, get non-sexual physical intimacy (hugging etc) and have someone to share my life with. Literally all of society is falling apart because men can't get a wife anymore so they just do the absolute bare minimum for work.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 11:25 PM
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51% of men 18-30 are single, while only 32% of women are... sooooo
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 11:23 PM
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Uh. I'm 30, I don't even care about sex anymore. It's pretty pointless at this age. I'm just talking in the general big picture.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 11:18 PM
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lmao your best response is "b-b-but what about Benedictine monks??!" come on
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 11:15 PM
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Bro, I'm 30. You can pretty much check out of the dating game at this point if you're a single man, lol. That's probably a big part of why the original question of the thread was posed.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 11:15 PM
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Lmao What do you consider to be "approaching"? And no, most men have NOT been approached. 93% of women prefer to be asked out on a date. 6% of women prefer to ask a man out. because you're statistically wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 11:12 PM
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People who are single are more likely to get sick, die younger, be passed up for work, develop mental health problems, etc. You might think you're doing fine but the stats say otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 11:03 PM
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Being funny and telling good stories to women doesn't get men laid. It just gets them platonic female friends and a rep as "omg, like such a sweet guy! He'll find someone eventually!"
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 10:45 PM
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Do you think men date woman that provide nothing? No they don't Uh Yes? like where did you get the idea that it's anything to the contrary? Men have to put up with completely obnoxious and horrible people just because they're women and it's the only choice they have.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 10:38 PM
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Take care of yourself, don't rely on women or romantic relationships to complete you. People who say this crap have never actually gone longer than like 6 months without being in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 10:35 PM
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Must be nice being this ridiculously super attractive and tall. But the majority of men have never been approached in their life, and frankly, never will be.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 10:34 PM
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They can't get their perfect 10/10 Chad so they're not happy with the results. Pretty much every woman would rather be alone than be with man who isn't the top SMV.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 10:33 PM
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And go ask transmen who have transitioned and they'll tell you how cold and lonely they are all the time now.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 10:25 PM
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Yep lol. I'm just getting into my 30s and already sex feels completely pointless.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 10:14 PM
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I've never dated a woman who put even 1/10th of the thoughtfulness and care into the relationship that I did.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 10:05 PM
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You mean the same baggage men have at that age? LOL Men definitely have baggage as well but women accumulate SO much more baggage quicker than men do. Men don't get pumped and dumped/alpha widowed/etc
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 10:04 PM
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And you think women are gonna want to date the guy who lives paycheck to paycheck and needs a second income to raise a family? lmao come on
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 10:03 PM
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No, I don't currently have a girlfriend. When I had girlfriends, I greatly enjoyed their company, even though I shouldn't have. I can take or leave sex tbh, it's pretty pointless, especially now that I'm 30.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 10:02 PM
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You mean their baggage and bitterness?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 09:44 PM
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Well, women don't need (or want to) provide for men, so their income/job/status/etc doesn't hold any interest for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 09:24 PM
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I suppose "femcel" would be the female equivalent, but AFAIK it isn't considered a badge of honor for women. https://metro.co.uk/2022/03/20/2022-is-the-year-of-the-femcel-what-you-need-to-know-16308546/ Tiktok has made it into a massive thing with tons of women reclaiming it and using it the same way people go "I watch Game of Thrones and play Mario, I'm such a nerd!". Femcel to them just means they're a somewhat messy manic pixie dream girl than anything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 04:45 PM
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Tom Hardy is 5'9", he's not short, he's just not tall. That's the average height in America. RDJ is incredibly short (by the standards of Hollywood), but I also don't really think he's seen as a sex symbol since his heartthrob days in the 80s, lol. I never really hear anyone talking about Renner or Ruffalo being sexy or attractive either. Not saying they're ugly, but that's a different thing. I'll definitely give you Tom Holland but he's kind of a very unusual case. He's almost similar to like a…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 10:54 PM
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Well, I am almost certainly on the autistic spectrum, so yeah. But also, none of those show actual flirting, they're all things that women can also just say you misinterpreted later on. The whole idea of female flirting is basically just so women can have an out to pretend they weren't really doing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 07:51 PM
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Making eye contact and touching your hair aren't flirting. Neither is laughing at a joke or smiling. That's called basic polite human interaction, lol. This is kind of my entire point
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 05:51 PM
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One's a character though, and the other is a real person. Also in my experience, it was Draco that the fangirls were drooling over, lol. But honestly this conversation has gotten REALLY off topic now and I feel kinda bad about it, sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 05:26 PM
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Yes. If they're strongly attracted to someone, then they make eye contact for 0.875ths of a second from across the room and consider that flirting. I just said that.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 05:22 PM
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There's many Hollywood celebs who are anything but tall but are seen as attractive by loads of women. Such as? It's honestly weird that you lambast a poster here for NOT noticing a celeb's height when in fact, had she done the exact opposite and talked about how attractive X celeb is because he's tall, you wouldn't be super happy either and instead repeat the mantra that height is super important to women. Nah actually I would have been way less incensed by it. It doesn't really bother me when w…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 05:19 PM
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I dunno, the insane amount of self-insertionxGerard Way fanfics suggest otherwise lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 05:16 PM
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...on what planet does RDJ have a bigger fanbase then Radcliffe for that? Probably not currently, unless people obsess over his Marvel roles. But in the 80s, he was an honorary member of the Brat Pack. I know it seems hard to believe now but he was a teen heartthrob back in the day with like a dozen coming of age movies under his belt, lol. No, you implied that he couldn't get big roles and only could get these type of alt roles. Young Daniel Radcliffe consistently turned down big roles because …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 06:37 AM
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Those were choices. ...That's literally what I said, yes. Yes, he fucking was. Daniel Radcliffe is a great actor but he was never a bankable leading man in the same way that RDJ or especially Cruise was. People like Cruise, Clooney, Depp, etc, they have dedicated fanbases that will turn out to see their films solely because they're in them. Radcliffe just doesn't have that. I guess you are young. I'm in my early 30s, I wouldn't call that "young". Ever noticed how nice people don't have their hei…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 06:08 AM
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Xcuse me....... What? It's mostly on him to be fair, other than Now You See Me 2, he tends to lean towards more indie/artsy films and stagework, which, hey, good on him! But he's not bankable the same way as other leading men can be. nobody ever mentioned their height. are... are you joking? Tom Cruise being short was like the #1 joke about him lol. Right up there with the Scientology. Also, how on earth were you the target audience for when both Cruise AND Radcliffe were considered hot? There's…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 05:28 AM
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Ohhhh and inch eh? An entire inch? Yes, now continue to read the rest of the sentence where I explain that it includes ALL actors, many of which are not attractive leading men. Robert Downey jr, Daniel Radcliffe, Tom Cruise, you can guess my age about now, ... All three of those actors have spent their careers being ridiculed for their height, particularly RDJ and Tom Cruise. RDJ is particularly infamous for wearing high heels and stilts under his clothes in an attempt to appear taller, as has C…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 05:15 AM
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And he himself has said that it isn’t Yeah, in the smuggest most player way possible that makes women want to find out if it's really true or not, lol. Also didn’t realize millionaire celebs are “most people” If anything that just makes it more extreme, because it wasn't Becky getting drunk and telling her besties, Ariana was so in awe of his massive cock that she literally told millions out of nowhere
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 05:04 AM
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Most people don't publicly talk about big their exes' dick was unless it's true, lol. Ariana literally said he's around 10 inches big.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 12:26 AM
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Dude, most actors are american average height. It's a camera thing. Makes it easier to shoot for some reason. Male models, those are tall. How many fangirls can you find though? They don't have fan clubs. Okay, for starters, that's literally not true. The average male actor is an inch taller than the average male, but that's irrelevant, because that includes people like Danny Devito. If you look at the heights of attractive leading men, they're all significantly taller. Ryan Gosling? 6'0". Chris…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 12:24 AM
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Dude, Pete Davidson isn't just "tall", he's like visibly basketball player tall. And his dick is so famously big that they literally coined the phrase "Big Dick Energy" to describe him. And what? Women are VERY aware of the height of guys. Like, how could they not be? It's one of the most immediately obvious things there are.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 10:24 PM
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Pete Davidson? Oh, you mean the 6'4" famous multimillionaire with a cock so huge that celebrities like Ariana Grande openly gossip about it? Yeah that's a really great example, dude. Come on.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 09:27 PM
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Um, women don't flirt, dude. Unless you consider making eye contact for 0.875ths of a second across the room to be flirting, lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 09:14 PM
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...Most women? Here's one of many articles on it In a 2018 review, 16 out of 18 studies found adding a presumed romantic partner to a man’s photo made other women score him as more attractive or desirable than the same man solo. Additionally, the studies that varied the beauty of the female partner found that making her more attractive also increased his score. https://www.discovermagazine.com/mind/evolution-could-explain-why-having-a-girlfriend-makes-men-more-attractive Like it's a very common …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 05:45 PM
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I'm a sigma male laserdisc lone wolf
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 05:09 PM
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They're very different sets of social cues. Interacting with women platonically has little to do with interacting with them romantically
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 03:57 PM
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Thank you. Maybe some day, somebody will believe it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 05:58 AM
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I think luck is far more of a factor in love than people ever want to admit.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 05:51 AM
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I did, but I couldn't afford to attend college until I turned 30. So it's a different situation there.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 05:24 AM
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I've been in a severely abusive relationship - as my first relationship in fact - and I'd still prefer that over loneliness. At least your existence is acknowledged that way. The pain reminds you that you exist and you're real. I'm sorry, you seem like a nice person. I'm kind of having a breakdown right now and making it other people's problems. That's not cool of me at all. Sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 03:11 AM
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My husband has always had female friends, how about you? Eh, that's a complicated question I suppose, but more or less, yeah. (It's complicated because starting from high school, I've had several close FTM and enbie friends, and those lines get blurred and complicated)
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 03:08 AM
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Yeah, high school is a very different thing. After that, once an outsider, always an outsider.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 02:45 AM
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Why do you want a relationship? To have stability, a soulmate, and someone who cares about me. OI mean, I'm 30, sex is pretty much completely pointless at this age anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 02:45 AM
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I'm not taking this personally. I guess. I just feel bad for making it a stranger's problem. That's not cool of me. Sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 02:43 AM
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Yeah I'm just having a bad depression based mental breakdown right now tbh. Sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 02:26 AM
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Do I seem like I'm Mark Manson on an alt? I've never read that book lol. I read through half of The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A Fuck though
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 02:25 AM
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Okay, sure, but who brought up that rule? I sure didn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 02:07 AM
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Well, when the choices for men are between that and crippling loneliness...
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 02:06 AM
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Guess I'm just a faggy looking manlet then, lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 01:54 AM
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The relationship door, of course.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 01:49 AM
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Asexual =/= aromantic I'm grappling with being on the ace/grey spectrum somewhere myself right now so I would know lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 01:39 AM
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And what do you consider to be "overtly masculine"? I literally have to deal with female FRIENDS hounding me for over a literal year that I must be gay because I'm short and feminine looking. Are you considering "overtly masculine" to be looking like Chris Hemsworth or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 01:18 AM
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My husband certainly was impacted by his sexuality. His looks and personality attracted women, but they also broke up with him. He got his foot in the door because of his looks, and that's all that matters really. You're really not getting it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 01:17 AM
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Of course not. Else it wouldn't have been a CMV thread, for one lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 01:16 AM
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And just how masculine did that guy look? Masculine and attractive guys don't have to worry about being thought of as gay.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 01:15 AM
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Men don't bother with shallow women because they want to, they do it and care about them because they have to.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 01:11 AM
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I've definitely been put on to single friends by girls I knew for a fact were into me, usually because I fucked them down the road if the friendship was going to end due to me knowing I'm moving soon. Yeah okay chad
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 01:10 AM
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...You really don't get the whole part about how unattractive/unmasculine men can't be sexually forward, do you? Even fun banter and conversation can get you branded as a creep if you're an unmasculine or otherwise low value man.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 01:06 AM
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tell me which gender can buy easily sex. It is men. Men can buy easily sexy because men offer money got sex and there are women who do need, let's say quick cash and offer their bodies. In contrast it is much harder for women to get male prostitutes and escorts. I believe this shows the dynamic between men and women very well. Lmao. No, it shows that women don't NEED to buy sex. They can get it for free by hopping on Tinder.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 12:45 AM
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Well, what I was getting at was how masculine and traditionally attractive is he. I guess that sort of answers my question though, lol. Of course a guy who looks masculine enough to be a bassist in a metal band (I assume) doesn't find himself impacted by being asexual!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 12:39 AM
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Right, and that would an example of a good and viable use of your time. The question was whether or not "make lots of platonic friends with women" is a good and viable use of your time for dating advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 12:21 AM
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?????? Lots of people mention their ex-girlfriends, for lots of reasons. You can do that as long as they also witness you having current girlfriends as well at some point. At this point you just sound like you don't want to socialize so you're just making excuses as to why it won't help. I socialize a fair amount and have multiple female friends (mostly lesbians tbf, but still). Not sure where you got that from. Anyway I've banged multiple guys of ambiguous sexuality who pulled an ex-girlfriend …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 12:20 AM
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My OP was about whether or not it's viable dating advice in general though, lol. Just because something can be done doesn't make it a particularly good or viable use of your time.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 11:17 PM
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I suppose, but not by very much tbh. It's the same logic that people who play scratch tickets use. "Can't win it if I'm not in it!". It's technically true but not really very meaningful.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 10:52 PM
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While I don't disbelieve you, I do hope you understand that makes you an incredibly rare specimen. That's probably one of the absolute biggest turn-offs for women generally.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 10:47 PM
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Sorry, but I rolled my eyes so hard here I almost have a headache now, lol. The vast, VAST majority of men do not get to be openly flirtatious with women in general, let alone with every woman. A man who is flirtatious with every woman he meets and he ISN'T in the top tier HVM is going be thought of as a massive creep.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 10:01 PM
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And how would you suggest projecting those differences in that scenario, then?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 09:56 PM
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You have them as social proofing for when you go out. I can't even begin tell you the wonders preselection has worked for me in the past. Hot girls also have hot friends they feel comfortable putting you on with since by being your friend they already trust/like you and once again social proofing for the win. No, they wonder why this guy has so many female friends that he's not dating and assume he's gay or asexual or taken. I'm not saying it's fair for them to assume that, but they do assume th…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 09:51 PM
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Not really, lol. That woman they tried to hook me wasn't even really a friend of theirs, it was like an old coworker or something, I forget. And I'm talking about across multiple "crowds", by the way. So in your experience, women hook up their female friends with their male ones, then?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 09:47 PM
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Maybe not common, but it's definitely more socially acceptable for women to be outwardly mean and bullying towards men, which is what your half-sister is doing.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 09:42 PM
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You don't agree, I take it?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 09:31 PM
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By having lots of female friends, it is social proof to other women that you are not someone to avoid. Conversely, it is social proof to other women that you are someone not worth dating, lol. If you are such an amazing catch, why aren't your female friends dating you is going to be their thought process.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 09:28 PM
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The friendship by itself helps you get over nervousness when talking to women if that’s your issue, that’s the only time this advice is really applicable. Someone who is so nervous that they (hopefully metaphorically) shit their pants around women is in an entirely different basket than what the OP is talking about and who the advice is normally aimed at. Not to mention again as I've said previously, platonically talking to women vs talking to them romantically is totally different. If you’re re…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 09:27 PM
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Men can't be friends with women. I literally said I disagree with this entire concept in the OP and preemptively said let's not even touch it lol
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 09:24 PM
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Seinfeld can be as eternal as the Simpsons at times
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 09:24 PM
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True, and the best situation would also be a billionaire playboy who fights crime and cures cancer. But here in the real world, that's not a realistic option for most people. If you had female friends that were attracted to you and you're the one turning THEM down, then you wouldn't even NEED this kind of advice anyway!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 09:23 PM
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Y...Yes? What do you think my OP is based on? I don't have the money for a VR rig y'know lol
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 09:22 PM
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I've never had a female friend or heard about one from a male friend who was happy to introduce their single friends to each other or try to hook them up like that. Why would they be?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 09:22 PM
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A great way to do it is to be sociable, friendly and flirtatious, but don't pursue. This results in the other person pursuing you. If you're a 6'3" gigachad, maybe. In reality for 99% of men, being sociable but not pursuing just gets you ignored or considered gay/asexual. Also, "be flirtatious but don't pursue"? Being flirtatious IS pursuing!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 09:21 PM
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It helps you act normal with women and see what they enjoy in partners. You’ll also meet a lot more women in social settings instead of straight up trying to pick up randoms in clubs. It helps you act normal with women PLATONICALLY. Nobody is talking about trying to pump and dump randos in clubs either, that's a completely unrelated aside.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 09:19 PM
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(although the chances of you getting laid will increase more compared to just winging it alone) That's actually extremely debatable. Short of a situation like "your friend is a lesbian", the woman is going to heavily question why you and the friend aren't dating if you're supposedly such a good catch. But you can try for best friend of the regular friend of your friend's best friend. Or you can meet that girl who just joined the regular friend's other friend and they all came to hang out with yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 09:18 PM
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It's better than no platonic female friends because platonic female friends may hook you up with their friends. This is similar to the logic that you can't win the lottery if you don't play, lol. It's technically true but also says nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 09:13 PM
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I’m not reading this Then don't waste your time replying.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 09:12 PM
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Number one is just your experience. Having platonic female friends can do wonders for your dating success. Two is obvious. Just don’t bang her friends. Pretty straightforward. "Having platonic female friends can do wonders for your dating life! But don't date any of the women the platonic female friends introduce you to!" Uhh, did you forget to proofread this or something? And three, yeah no. Never in my life have i heard this because it doesn’t make sense. ‘I would be interested, but he’s singl…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 09:11 PM
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Is your objective to find someone you click with and have a relationship? Then having female friends means you meet all their friends, one of which may be the person you click with. ...Did you not really read the OP at all? A major part of it was that women will NOT introduce their single female friends to the single male friends, or will actively discourage them from flirting with female friends. My husband is asexual, and a lot of people assumed he was gay in his lifetime. He's always had fema…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 09:09 PM
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100%, lol. Or they'll say it to your face, like that one friend I had who she spent over a year trying to convince me that I was gay and to come out of the closet lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 09:07 PM
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I'm not thinking too much. Exposure to women in platonic senses vs romantic senses are completely different in every way, from top to bottom.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 09:06 PM
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Yeah, that is INCREDIBLY rare. I don't know anyone who was ever hooked up with a female friend successfully. The one time I was introduced to someone else by a female friend, she was an alcoholic over a decade older than me lol. Women who are even slightly desirable don't need their friends to hook them up.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 09:06 PM
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I play DND every week with a bunch of dudes. I've never assumed that they were all gay for not being into me. What kind of narcissist thinks like this? Ironically, you're looking at this from too much of a focus on yourself. Sure, you won't think they're gay for not being into you. But if they had multiple female friends and they weren't making moves on them, they didn't have girlfriends, etc, then what would you think? If the guy is sweet and fun but really shy and awkward, it isn't really worr…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 09:04 PM
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The idea of have female friends is 1) social proofing and 2) gaining female perspective. and 3) learning social interactions with females. As you said yourself, you're learning PLATONIC social interactions with women, which is a very different skill set, and frankly, not one particularly useful. Making platonic friends with women is often as simple as just not making any sexual advances. And being platonic friends can often be NEGATIVE social proof for dating as well. Assumptions that you're gay…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 09:00 PM
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I've never seen blue pillers give the advice of lifting, lol
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 08:57 PM
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i have guys friends that i would suggest my friends go out with because they’re respectful and good people. it’s extremely viable. And that's extremely rare, unless you're quite young. I only know a single couple that met via being introduced by mutual friends, and they met in their early 20s (and it was a male friend who hooked them up with each other to boot). It's kind of the opposite of extremely viable, because people don't want to rock the boat or deal with drama. What does it benefit you …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 08:56 PM
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Befriending women and dating them are ENTIRELY different skill-sets. You can befriend women until the cows come home, and that just gets you a rep as sexless, gay, asexual, or all three.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 08:51 PM
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Going to parties is the number one thing you can do. It's the only atmosphere where it's ok to mingle with people you don't know without them regarding you as a freak. True, but that's also something that's a very small part of your life. You have until you're like 25/26 to find someone at house parties, or else that path basically dries up quickly. In part because everyone's too busy, already partnered up, or they're different kinds of parties (you are NOT going to get a partner at an adult sit…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 08:50 PM
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When other girls of the same caliber see there are other girls that like and trust you They see that other girls like and trust you AS FRIENDS, which is rarely helpful though.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 08:47 PM
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I would probably expand the advice to be a little bit more broad: “make lots of friends.” I wouldn’t singly target women as friends either. But basically if you want to meet people you need to go meet people. And having a broader social network facilitates this. Guys who need this advice likely have sausage party social circles, though. There's lots of guys whose social circle consists primarily or even exclusively of other guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 08:46 PM
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No, because then they'd have to deal with drama and fallout etc. Like this idea that women, or hell, people in general, want to play pseudo-matchmaker for their friends just seems like a largely fictional thing. Or maybe a boomer holdover, lol. Like, what would the person in question gain from introducing their friends to potential partners? They risk a lot for no reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 08:41 PM
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It's in the context of being platonic friends though, which is a totally different set of skills that's rarely beneficial or crosses over to romance.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 08:34 PM
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It really isn’t difficult to indicate your heterosexuality subtly Short of regularly bringing around girlfriends, it kinda is lol
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 08:32 PM
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Mentioning ex-girlfriends is like the #1 thing closeted gay guys do, lol. Might as well just yell "I'm not gay!" randomly unprompted at that point
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 08:30 PM
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Because most men don't really get to choose and they have to take what they can get. If we're given the choice between loneliness and being with a BPD psycho woman, the majority will pick the latter.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 08:27 PM
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Right, but if you're not actively seen flirting with or expressing desire towards women, they're very likely to assume you're gay. I've had dozens of women assume that I'm gay because I made friends with the lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 12:23 AM
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You still need to try to find those women independently though for the reasons I outlined in the OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 12:21 AM
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And women don't? Not really, no. Women have inherent value simply by existing. Sure, they can get laid without having hobbies, but getting laid isn't the one goal that exists in life. Uh, it LITERALLY is the entire reason for existence though, lol Actually building social relationships is also a goal, and is a fuck ton more fulfilling than having some dude stick his dick in you- and women need to have hobbies and interests in order to do that. That is highly debatable. This happens in literally …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/22 03:39 AM
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Sorry I took so long to reply. Respectfully, this seems like a somewhat out of touch take or maybe you need a different social circle. The idea of “using” hobbies to gain a partner is wild to me. I don't think you quite got what I meant about this, maybe I did a poor job explaining myself. I didn't mean that women take on hobbies to gain a partner - although considering the #1 advice for men is always "GET A HOBBY", I'm confused about what makes that so bad. Disirregardless though, the point I w…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/22 03:07 AM
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Semen magically transfers part of a man's personality to a woman, apparently. You are taking the (admittedly glibly phrased) quote "they have their hobbies fucked into them" FAR too literally. Men generally have to have hobbies that go beyond watching Netflix, and those hobbies rub off on their partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/22 03:02 AM
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Sorry I took so long to reply. I wasn't saying that every woman has that happen, because of course that's not the case. But it is extremely common for women who have hobbies that are beyond media consumption to have gotten them from ex-boyfriends. I've encountered it with many of my own partners, in fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/22 03:00 AM
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Or... maybe... just maybe... Yikes! Just yikes! Holy spaghetti and toothpaste, Batman! What a sweet summer child you are. Shall we unpack this?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 06:17 AM
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So, and this was my original point, what were these women doing before they had boyfriends? Did they not have hobbies at all? Just drifted through life waiting for a male that they could attach to? ...Yeah, pretty much. Their hobbies were social media and Netflix. How is this a surprise to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 05:16 AM
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Well, you can see how that's kind of a problem when you're a man trying to attract women.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 03:56 AM
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Dude 1 has something cool an donteresting to add to the conversation, while Dude 2 is just as boring as the girl you mentioned. Now realize that if Dude 1 is an average looking guy and Dude 2 is physically fit and attractive (likely, since he works out enough to mention it as a hobby), Dude 2 is going to get the girl every single time.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 03:49 AM
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With dudes, you can become friends, maybe they have a gf that could hook you up with single friends. What world do you live in where you think women want to deal with the headaches and drama of setting guys up with their female friends? lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 03:47 AM
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if you are into some kind of a hobby, one that attracts both genders I hope you understand that this is an incredibly rare hobby.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 03:36 AM
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When I was in school playing video games, reading books, drawing etc with my friends, the role that these hobbies would play in our future relationships never even crossed our minds. The vast majority of women doesn't even have those hobbies, though. I live in one of the biggest cities in North America and I can count on one hand the women I've met in my life with interesting hobbies or interests who didn't just pick them up from exes. Even something as basic as being into anime would inevitably…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 02:48 AM
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I have a hard time imagining anyone, male or female, who would base their hobbies around someone else's interests and not their own, but if it's an observed phenomenon, I'm curious to understand the "why" of it! Essentially, the vast, VAST majority of women don't have interests of their own, because frankly they don't have to have hobbies or interests in order to be successful at relationships. Nearly every single woman I've ever met with anything even approaching an interesting hobby (anything …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 01:48 AM
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There's a reason why "Women have had their hobbies fucked into them by their ex-boyfriends" is a very common sentiment.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 12:35 AM
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Okay, even if that is true, that applies to like, kpop style pretty boys with S-line bodies. Not short flaminigly gay twinks.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 11:21 PM
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I mean no disrespect to him but he comes off as very obviously FTM. Best case scenario is that he merely comes off as a flamingly gay twink, and neither one of those scenarios is attractive to women tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 10:34 PM
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Purely psychosomatic
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 08:30 PM
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Well, 51% of Americans aged 18-29 reported being single in a 2019 Pew study, so your experience actually is very strange.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 02:17 AM
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Did you miss something? I don't care that she made me wait at all for sex, I said that right in the OP. I really did enjoy her company and spending time with her. Considering she did have sex with you eventually, why would you think she wasn’t attracted to you? Because she had sex with the other guy as a one night stand but made me wait. It's pretty clear, isn't it?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 10:25 PM
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How else would anyone see it other than that?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 04:21 PM
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Figuratively. Thank god.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 08:41 PM
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Or you've just never lived in a big city I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 08:17 PM
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Well, she told me to my face that this other guy was better than me by doing that, so no, I don't think she liked me. Do you think her actions show that she liked me?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 08:16 PM
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Because she made an objective statement.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 07:55 PM
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"wOmEn cAn ReAd YoUr ViBeS" Tell me you're a woman without actually telling me you're a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 03:24 PM
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What? The other "possibilities" you just listed are ALSO ego damaging. What the fuck are you talking about? What positive side to that could there possibly be?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 03:23 PM
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So we have record depression, drug addictions, suicide levels, and loneliness, with more people in the prime of their lives single and isolated than any other time in history... And your takeaway is "well, it's probably their choice to be alone anyway".
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 03:16 PM
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Are you? Because it's saying that they would rate people who are hot as having good personalities.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 03:14 PM
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Funny how she managed to sleep with so many assholes and they were all just so good at concealing their true identities. Some girls just have all the luck, I guess! Also, you literally have the word "slut" in your username. Who do you think you're fooling right now?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 03:13 PM
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51% of Americans 18-29 reported being single in a 2019 Pew study, so actually no, the majority is single.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 02:39 PM
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I don't see how telling a story on Reddit affects it one way or the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 05:11 AM
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Unless you live in some small little flyover town, that IS the default.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 04:51 AM
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"Some" women aren't to that? Are you kidding me? That's the damn majority that are.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 04:38 AM
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You and nobody else then
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 04:37 AM
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Because it's the literal truth. What kind of a question is that?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 04:37 AM
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"haha guys I'm not some Chad, I'm just average looking except for the fact I'm literally fucking 6'3'' and in the 99% percentile of male height tee hee anyone can do it!"
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 02:46 AM
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Among men, those younger than 30 are by far the most likely to be single: About half of men in this age group (51%), while roughly three-in-ten women ages 18 to 29 (32%) are single Nearly Half of U.S. Adults Say Dating Has Gotten Harder for Most People in the Last 10 Years that's literally the headline of the article you posted. Don't you love it when people prove the other person's point?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 02:38 AM
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I'm also in really good shape to the point that GUYS randomly make comments about it. Guys comment on other guy's physiques all the time because they actually understand the work that goes into it. Women on the other hand, famously think all it takes to have a shredded Chad physique is "pick up something heavy, put it back down". Think about all the times women have said "I just want to get toned, not muscular". They literally think if they do one or two more reps of their 5lb shaping weights, t…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 02:27 AM
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Except in real life, those guys are still getting mogged by the more attractive dudes anyway though. Imagine thinking that women are gonna start talking to some guy at the bar or in their friend group because he's like, so sweet and funny and loves the environment? Get a fucking clue.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 02:24 AM
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So does your sweet baby angel know you fucked tons of assholes before settling with him? After all, the past is the past, right? I'm sure he won't mind!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 02:23 AM
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This is a study from 2014. Who are you trying to fool with information nearly a decade out of date from the pre-Tinder/OLD era? In reality, being single is at an all time high and 51% of Americans 18-35 report being single. https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/2019/03/21/its-not-just-you-new-data-shows-more-than-half-young-people-america-dont-have-romantic-partner/
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 02:20 AM
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tHe PaSt iS tHe PaSt!!! You've gotta be trolling at this point. Come on. If you didn't like assholes so much, then why did you "sleep and go out with so many" by your own admission?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 02:10 AM
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From Peter Dinklage's own mouth: “They’ll say, ‘Oh, he’s sexy,’ but women still go for guys who are 6’2,” he says in the mag’s new issue, on newsstands Friday. “It’s nice that people are thinking outside the box, but I don’t believe any of it for a minute.” https://people.com/celebrity/game-of-thrones-peter-dinklage-doesnt-believe-the-sex-symbol-talk/
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 02:08 AM
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Right, so check this out though. You still slept with those assholes a lot. By your own admission. So news flash; you can't say "women do not like assholes" after you just said you slept with a lot of assholes. I'm sure that your "sweet baby angel" boyfriend really appreciates you now that you're done with all the games and looking for a real man to step up, though! Make sure to give him some starfish duty sex once every two months!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 02:01 AM
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Oh no, we're definitely having the same conversation here. You're just fooling yourself if you think the girl making the guy wait for sex is just going home to her empty apartment and fingering herself in the meantime until she decides she's comfortable enough to have sex with him, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 01:57 AM
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The full context was that after we had sex, I was asking like "Hey so what worked for you, what didn't, what would you like to see more of", etc. I asked about a specific sex act and if she'd be open to that, and rather than just "Sure, I'll try", or even "Sure, I've tried it before so I'd be down with it", she went with "Sure, I've tried it before with this guy I met on vacation last year" and proceeded to tell me details about it and him, like this was a totally normal thing to do. EDIT: And b…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 01:54 AM
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There's only two kinds of guys who are alright with girls making them wait for sex while they bang out other guys. Spineless cucked simps who will say whatever opinion Twitter has deemed "correct" to seem like allies and maybe get a crumb of pussy Chads who don't care because they're busy pounding out other girls while that first girl "makes them wait"
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 01:50 AM
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Yeah, and whenever I tell that story on Reddit or other places, 90% of the time I get told I'm being a petulant whiny incel or whatever for having been so upset by it, lol. "Oh she was trying to show she was comfortable with you sexually and trying to open up to you, and you just completely disregarded it!" Like fuck off guys, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 01:42 AM
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Put some bloody work into your profile and your numbers will go up. Sigh. Do we REALLY need to drag out the hard data yet again that showed that people rated someone's physical attractiveness and the attractiveness of their personality on a near perfect diagonal slant? https://i.imgur.com/vwbRR1m.png
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 01:41 AM
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What's next? "Who hurt you sweetie?"
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 01:35 AM
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I think most guys HAVE done that. I've been out at the local bar with mixed gender groups a bunch. It wasn't even that long ago where I went with an ex, her ex, and a female friend. I spent the entire night being the life of the party, talking to everyone at the bar, singing my heart out at karaoke and dancing, just generally being friendly, open, and fun. The ex's ex literally sat in a corner and drank quietly and had a woman come over and sit on his lap to flirt with him because he's a tall Ch…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 01:25 AM
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Go to a local bar and watch the cover band. They are regular guys. And shitty local cover bands aren't getting pussy lmao Also I’m not attractive but always had a woman in college (now married). Why? Because I had a personality. yeah sure buddy. And your dating experiences in college 10+ years ago have no bearing on modern reality. By your own admission even, you're off the market and likely have been for a long time.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 01:21 AM
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Wrong. I had a relationship collapse because I was dating a girl I quite liked who wanted us to wait a bit for sex, and I had no problems with that because I actually just liked spending time with her anyway. Literally the night we had sex, while we were still lying naked in bed together, she started telling me about the one-night stand she had with some hot guy while on vacation earlier that year. Basically told me right to my face that I was lesser than that other guy by doing that, lol. Relat…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 01:13 AM
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It's because that's the only way to get women's attention. Sure, being "deeply kind" and "empathetic" might help you keep a relationship. But LMS is what gets your foot in the door in the first place. And women are not getting horny over a guy because he has a giving personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 10:22 PM
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Can you blame them though?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 09:49 PM
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The day you realize you have platonic female friends is the day they will hook you up with friends who suit your attitude and lifestyle. This literally doesn't happen. Women often outright refuse to introduce guys to their friends group, let alone try to match them up, because they don't want to deal with any of the headaches and drama.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 09:38 PM
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I think they're like that because every other venue of male success has been removed. Men have no ability to have jobs that pay anything, they can't own houses, etc. So female attention is the only hope they have left.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 09:29 PM
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If you think there's even a small number of women, let alone a large number, who would turn down a tall buff white guy like a Hemsworth or Evans type, you're kidding yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 11:11 PM
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I really don't mean to be rude, but even just asking that question will actually secure your reputation as a creepy guy. You can get away with asking that as a woman, but guys really can't, sorry to say. And thank you. Fwiw, like I said I was lucky I also brought some female friends of mine to the party who were around for most of it and were able to reassure and defend me, which made a huge difference. Otherwise, things could have gone bad. I think a lot of women just use "creepy" as a catch al…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 08:57 PM
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I have no idea. If anything one of the mutual female friends was trying to wingwoman me so I doubt they talked shit about me behind my back or something to change her opinion. And uh, confronting someone and asking "Hey so why did you think I was creepy?" is like the WORST thing you could possibly do. Like that straight up actually makes you seem like a creepy obsessive stalker. I'm sorry, but how could you think that's a good idea?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 08:42 PM
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Just like movie theaters.. but movies are a hobby.. Yes, movies are a hobby, I agree. Analyzing movies, studying cinematography techniques, etc. Those are hobbies. Watching movies is not a hobby in itself. And most things people do for fun ARE gendered. I don't know what makes you think they're not. Any of the shit you listed that is an actual hobby is super male dominated. Basketball, sports, gearheads, etc. Those are all almost nearly exclusively male-dominated spaces. Spoken like a person who…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 08:09 PM
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For one, bars, clubs, watching sports, etc none of those are hobbies. They're places you go and consume things. It's like saying walking is a hobby. And do you really think there's lots of women in MMA training or playing basketball? Get a fucking clue, you named basically some of the most male-dominated hobbies there are.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 07:13 PM
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Well, I'm definitely on the short side and for lack of a better term, I kinda look like a pretty boy. Like maybe not outright feminine, but definitely not masculine looking. So that REALLY doesn't help things. I've actually said multiple times I'd do so much better with women if I was uglier but actually looked like a guy. Then you also add in the fact that the way I look means I can't really be sexually forward with women at all either, so I just end up having lots of platonic female friends wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 06:51 PM
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I’m in my 30s, and still meeting guys through these avenues. Maybe this is a one-way thing. I only know one person who met their partner via friends, and it was at a house party like almost a decade ago. Nobody else wants to risk that shit. I've literally heard multiple women say they don't want to introduce their female friends to their guy friends because they don't want to make shit awkward or have to deal with the fallout if anything romantic ever happened, etc. (And no, they weren't talking…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 06:03 PM
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They don't. Why do you think singleness is at an all-time high?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 05:35 PM
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Really. So you're saying that a guy who is friendly and outgoing and makes platonic friends with women wouldn't just be thought of as gay by them? Come on. I mean, it's literally happened to me multiple times alone lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 05:33 PM
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I'm gonna assume you're on the younger side. Introducing friends to potential dates is something that can really only happen in your teens/early 20s, when they don't know any better. When they get older, they don't want to risk it anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 05:31 PM
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And surely some women are into scat but that doesn't make shitting on the floor in front of them a viable strategy to get a date.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 05:29 PM
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Only an idiot wouldn’t be able to tell the difference Then I guess I'm an idiot, so explain the difference? Because a tall hot guy scowling and shoulders shrugged is very different from a short meh guy scowling and his shoulders shrugged. Or hell, from a short meh guy living his best life in photos.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 05:25 PM
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Well, of course that's true for you, I'm not saying you were lying or anything. But you're only speaking for yourself, and by and large, women will totally just say guys are creepy no matter how pleasant and affable they were if they don't like the guy or think he's ugly. I dunno, I read a theory once that women get outright offended when guys "below them" hit on them and maybe that's the situation at play here lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 05:20 PM
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Unless he's gorgeous, which I think was the other guy's point though. A jacked tall guy hunched over and scowling will still get infinitely more play than a short meh guy having the time of his life in photos
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 05:18 PM
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...Not really. Are you seriously saying that "treating women like anyone else" doesn't just make them think you're gay/asexual?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 05:17 PM
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Except if he was really hot, he wouldn't look "douchy and negative", he'd look "smouldering and sexy", which is my point.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 05:06 PM
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Not really since apps like Tinder have a 3:1 ratio of men to women. Yeah, but that's because women make accounts on OLD, get 200 matches instantly, and then delete their account. Like seriously, look it up; the average woman is only on OLD for two weeks.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 11:42 AM
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Zero awareness, built up resentment, low self esteem and no effort. I can catch that from one comment so I'm sure it's not difficult to see from a handful of photos. Great point! Women have the ability to sus out the mental state you were in a week ago which is why women never ever regularly end up in relationships with attractive abusive men. Oh wait no they don't, so knock this shit off
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 11:41 AM
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yeah buddy women spend like, soooo so long trying discern the facial expressions and body language on Tinder pics 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 11:37 AM
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Work "You don't shit where you eat" is the number one rule. At best you'll just make the entire workplace awkward. At worst, you'll lose your job. gym Short of grocery stores or bus stops, that's like the place that women hate being even SPOKEN to by men the most. Try it and you'll find yourself getting your membership revoked ASAP hobby classes Okay, so what you're saying in reality is "Only partake in one of a very narrow subset of hobbies BUT ALSO don't do it to meet women BUT ALSO have a gen…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 11:35 AM
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Women are generally better at reading emotions through facial expressions so they maybe are picking up on something No, women are just better at creating narratives in their heads based upon how hot someone is.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 11:29 AM
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OLD just isn’t the ideal arena if you think you’re ugly. Too bad there's no other ways to meet women lol, enjoy OLD or dying alone!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 11:26 AM
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Ugly with a sense of humour and great charisma will do better than ugly with no conversation ability. 0.2 ain't a big jump up from 0.1, bucko
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 11:25 AM
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People don't get rejected for being ugly nearly as much as they get rejected for being boring, bland, forgettable, unsociable, clueless, awkward or oblivious. what world do you fucking live in lmao boring hot people get rejected for being boring eventually. ugly (or really, just average looking) interesting people don't even get acknowledged as existing
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 11:24 AM
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They look at your height and go from there.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 11:22 AM
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I'd wager a good 1/5th of the WSHH fight vids I've seen have been in Florida so I can believe this is just some weird local cultural thing tbqh, lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 08:34 AM
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lmao what? Bro I'd be arriving to the party like an hour after the start time and they'd all just be on their phones. Also this is complete lunacy you're typing lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 08:33 AM
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People didn't even have an OPINION on Elliot, dude. By his own admission he never once approached or hit on a girl ever. He was a pretty extreme social recluse.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 08:17 AM
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Maybe rent is cheap in Miami then lol? I dunno man.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 08:14 AM
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You still seem to be operating under this delusion that women put lots of effort into maintaining friendships and it's frankly pretty confusing and makes your whole post bizarre. I have literally gone to parties hosted by female friends, where they have invited most of THEIR female friends, and you know what they're doing at that party? Sitting around on their phones and drinking and not talking. I've literally showed up as guests at mostly female parties multiple times with guy friends and we'v…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 08:14 AM
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At the pub I'm going at Bangsar, Kuala Lumpur the old timers are the best dancers. Hardly anyone drinks and even if they do order something alcoholic it's cheap beer and they drink just a bit without getting inebriated. On Sundays most of them actually order coffee. Okay so no offense but this is clearly some weird foreign thing that doesn't apply to the west in the slightest, so please don't bury these leads so deep next time? I know it's a whole different universe, but it's okay if you refuse …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 08:09 AM
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What world are you living in where you can find the time to have multiple friends to go with you to the bar? Everyone is grinding their ass off working two jobs with all different shift schedules; some months you're lucky if you can see a friend once that month. And when you DO have that time off, why would they want to spend it going to a bar instead of just hanging out at your apartment or whatever?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 07:41 AM
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Literally completely untrue. I politely flirted with a girl at a party around the holidays, we enthusiastically discussed mutual interests together for like an hour, etc. The next day she sobered up I guess and decided that I was actually creepy for... having polite conversation about shared interests with her. And then told all of her friends that I was a huge creep. I'm glad I invited my female friends along with me to that party so they could defend me later on because otherwise? Man, I could…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 07:39 AM
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Not to mention befriending women will just make them think you're gay.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 07:28 AM
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Women complain about putting six months of effort into what they think will be a lasting friendship to later have him turn round and spew venom all over her after he makes an advance and is rejected. That's really fucking annoying. ...what fucking fantasy Candyland do you live in where you think women are the ones putting in the effort for friendships lol in even completely platonic situations, it's always the guys having to reach out, arrange plans, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 07:28 AM
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No, it doesn't. Because there's no such thing as "attractive" because it means different things to different people. This is always the stupidest argument. It's on the level of "It depends on what your definition of 'is' is". Yes, a very small minority may like certain things, but at the end of the day, tall/white/muscular/masculine/rich is a universal recipe for success.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 07:25 AM
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Guys, stop thinking about “an approach”. Just try being friendly, being yourself, and talking to people. If talking goes well, pursue what naturally happens next: that could be sex, romance; it could be something totally different. Try to get to know someone before you pursue sex. This is all great advice - if you want to make completely platonic friends with women and have them all think you're asexual or gay. Not to mention that while you're "trying to get to know someone", someone else is fuc…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 07:23 AM
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Most guys HAVE hobbies. The problem is that when people say "get a hobby", what they really mean is "only partake in one of a very narrow subset of hobbies BUT ALSO don't do it to meet women BUT ALSO have a genuine interest in it BUT ALSO" etc. It's all just hampstering.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 07:21 AM
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Yeaaaaah so people actually don't add new people to their social group past college age. You can bumble your way into making new friends, sure, but you'll never really be a part of their social group. You'll always just be some outsider on the sidelines, no matter what a good friend you are. Just the way it works; partially because people don't have time for new people anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 07:17 AM
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Nah he's 100% right. If you're not the best looking guy in your social group, then introducing a woman to your social group is basically just an esoteric form of self-harm tbqh
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 07:13 AM
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No, the vast majority of hobbies that men are into are almost completely male-dominated or otherwise active turn-offs for women. Unless you really think women are out here getting wet over guys who are really into MtG, ham radio, tabletop games, model figure building, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 07:11 AM
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The people there both guys and girls are very, very decent folks. High socio-economic status folks who all agree to ditch OLD in favor of mingling in person. They are friendly and approachable. Hardly anyone drinks with the intent of getting drunk. Okay, you've gotta be like 23 or something. 28+ year olds are going to a bar to get drunk. Full stop. If a girl likes how you dance she will introduce you to the other girls in her group who also want to try out dancing. Yeah so real life isn't a roma…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 07:05 AM
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Oh, they understand it. They also understand that all the blather about "engage with women as people", "treat them like you would anyone else", etc is what gets you platonic female friends, not romantic interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 07:02 AM
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Who has fun going to a bar? There's nothing fun about going and spending half your paycheck each week on overpriced watered down drinks and shit music.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 05:36 AM
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I will just point out that neither a man, nor a woman, who earn 100K a year have a high SMV. This is 2022, not the fucking 80’s. So all you jokers out there who think you are top shit because you earn 20k a year more then the rest of us, get over yourselves. You’re slightly, only slightly, above average so chill the fuck out The median individual income in the US is $36k. What fucking planet are you living on where you think earning nearly 3x the median income is "slightly above average". You're…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 08:28 PM
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So? Why aren't you fucking the same hot people multiple times, then?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 12:19 AM
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If it just means you like sex, why isn't all that sex with the same people? Nobody really cares if a woman has had a lot of sex (outside of weird religious cultists I guess), but they care if she's had a lot of sex partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 12:03 AM
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Oh, sorry! My mistake, deleted it
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 11:04 PM
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Because getting laid as a woman is easily. Literally just open up Tinder and swipe right. All having a high n count as a woman shows is that you're not very discerning.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 10:14 PM
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Yeah cuz they're rich dude lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 07:22 PM
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I’m from a lower SES Okay, well... that's totally fine, but you could have just said that. You do understand that saying "I'm the parents of immigrants" actually implies nothing about your SES, right? For example, the yearly average income for a two person household in Mexico is 85,536 pesos. It costs 322,547 pesos for that same two person household to immigrate to my country. This is all getting WAY off track from the original point either one of us were talking about, but yeah, just saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/22 09:42 PM
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I’m a child of immigrant parents so that should be enough. That literally means nothing though? You could easily be the child of two wealthy Indian surgeons or Chinese bankers, etc. The fact you're being so evasive kinda says that you're middle class or upper tbh. Anyway the entire point I was getting at was I saw someone mention that a lot of men on Reddit are lower SES (such as myself), while the women tend towards to the upper SES spectrum, which would explain a lot of the huge differences in…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/22 09:20 PM
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How is my socioeconomic background relevant? Because I'm curious about how it would relate to a theory I have and that I've seen others mention.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/22 08:49 PM
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And how many of them are still together with those girls they cried in front of though? It doesn't match up at all with my own experience with both the men and women (and everyone in between tbh) that I know. Actually, okay, so here's something I've seen mentioned before and I want to ask you it. What socio-economic class would you say you come from? Just answer honestly, I swear this isn't some dumb trick gotcha question.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/22 07:16 PM
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I meant across the board, regardless of subreddit. But fine, go ask your male friends and see what their reactions are. Go look on other websites and find men talking about this. You'll get the same answer again and again.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/22 06:09 PM
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The same goes for every girl I've dated, it wasn't just those two, you know. I literally don't know a single guy who has ever told his girlfriend/wife something emotionally vulnerable or cried in front of her and it hasn't damaged their relationship or had it been thrown back in his face. I'd love to live in your world but the fact is frankly the vast majority of people don't, so to nearly every woman out there, showing emotional vulnerability is a sign of weakness and a massive turn-off. Any ti…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/22 05:58 PM
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...What are you talking about? The only one that has any potential for even a slow burn is the volunteering. Everything else has the serious potential for you to get kicked out of the place or slandered as a creep. Do you really think any woman is gonna give out her number and let a "slow burn romance" happen with some stranger who approached her in the park?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/22 04:24 PM
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NAWALT, sure. But almost all of them are. That guy is definitely going on a bit of a wild nutty angle but he's not super far off. I cried in front of a girlfriend the day my dad died and that was basically the beginning of the end of our relationship because she began to lose attraction that rapidly. I once had a different girlfriend complain that she hates how women are expected to do emotional labor for men in relationships, etc. It's incredibly common.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 10:59 PM
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Tbh almost all women are like that. I literally only cried twice in front of my girlfriend and it was over my father dying and she rapidly lost attraction to me and basically ghosted me even though we had been dating for months and months.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 10:57 PM
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Or at the bookstore or library, or at a cooking class or at the park or yoga studio or volunteering reading to kids or wherever. Oh, so... all places where you can't approach them at all? No wonder they're on online dating, dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 10:45 PM
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Then post your le epic relatable hot takes to your fucking TikTok and come back to these kinds of discussions when you're ready to actually engage like an adult.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 10:57 AM
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Well, I'll assume with the balls you're showing off right now, you have something to offer in return besides your own anecdotal evidence, correct?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 10:54 AM
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Who is Rosie Palms? Seriously? It's slang for masturbating lol. You've never heard of Rosie Palms and her five sisters? You’re really overgeneralizing your anecdotal evidence, huh? ...Really? You're gonna go for this trite, cop-out answer?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 10:52 AM
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You must be choosing the wrong people. First sentence in and already you're victim blaming, always a good start! And how does that address literally every guy I've ever been friends with? And if you saw my other post, you'd see that I said I have a very close female friend who has had multiple guys propose to her after two months of dating because she DOES cook for them and listen to what they have to say. Have better standards or something and maybe you won’t get partners who put low effort int…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 10:47 AM
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That's because most people don't understand the difference between "average" and "median". If you had a group of four people where one person made $1 million an hour, and the other three people made $1 an hour, the "average" hourly earnings of that group would be around $250k. In other words? 80/20 rule strikes again!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 10:12 AM
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I agree with you but i think guys should step away from making advances on women they’re so early in a relationship with. Then literally nothing will ever happen and those guys will spend their lives alone, because fuck if a woman would ever make any kind of advances or escalations like that on a guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 10:05 AM
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So if I tell you that my experience is different, then you will change your point of view or just dismiss it? I suppose it depends if you have multiple examples of different experiences or just one. Why did you waste your time on women like that? Because that was how every woman I dated was like and it was either that or be single? I dated poor whites, wealthy Indians, middle class latinas, and hell, even an upper middle-class transwoman. The result was the same every fucking time.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 09:32 AM
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No, I'm just asking honestly. Like for example, maybe you tend towards more male-focused activities and that's why you don't have that issue. That's why I'm asking.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 09:30 AM
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Ah yes, and The Institute for Women's Policy Research who HAS AN EXPLICIT MESSAGE STATEMENT of "advocating on how to shape and implement legislation in the interests of women" could never possibly have any kind of bias towards what results they're trying to present!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 09:30 AM
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Generally speaking most chicks just want a dude to have his shit together. Own place, car , job, and be in decent shape. The idea that you think "having your own place" is a simple thing that counts as "having your shit together" tells me you either live in a small town or you're delusional as fuck. The average rent for a 1 bedroom apartment in my city is 1.9k
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 09:27 AM
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I think it won't matter because in 20 years or so we'll be bargaining with Lord Humongus for spare gasoline
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 08:54 AM
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Well, if you actually care to look at the numbers, you'll see that women actually have the same or more opposite sex partners as men until you get into 16+ n-counts. Which means, hey guess what? Women are sharing the same group of high n-count men. Thanks for proving the 80/20 rule yet again! Next time, actually try properly reading and parsing the data you post before you post it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 08:49 AM
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I highly doubt it's exclusive to one gender In my own experience and judging from other men's experience, it kind of is. You do what she wants to do, when she wants to do it. Every woman I've ever dated basically treated it as you do the things she's interested in, you go to the places she wants to go to, etc as a duty for you, and the things you care about are a chore to her. "I have the pussy, I make the rules" is a meme women love to quote for a reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 08:42 AM
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Don't reply to posts if you're just gonna say completely flippant fluff.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 08:29 AM
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Yep, absolutely. I had a relationship of close to a year, and towards the end, she was so ghosting me that I had serious trouble getting in touch with her to break up with her for being neglectful, because that's how ghosting she was lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 08:05 AM
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idk what femdom utopia you live Canada lmao, so you might be onto something there more than you think. But I will say in more seriousness, if you follow the links to the source paper, you'll see that this is actually sourced from a self-reported study that was done over the phone, and in my experience, women will severely over-estimate what they consider to be "time spent doing chore". For example, my mom would regularly say things like she "spent over two hours doing the laundry" or "I just spe…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 08:00 AM
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the extra housework their gfs or wives do or whenever she makes dinner ...what fucking world do you live in? This isn't the 1950s anymore, women are strong and independent and empowered and pretty much never do housework or cook or clean or listen to their men. That one friend of mine wouldn't have more men than I can count on both hands ready to marry her for doing those things if most women were like that. I've literally never once dated a woman in my life who has ever cooked/cleaned/etc or do…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 07:27 AM
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Really? Because that's pretty much exactly what I've experienced and so have all my male friends. Either they're cooking for their girlfriends or they're paying for the food, one or the other. I have an extremely close female friend who has had multiple guys propose marriage to her with 100% seriousness within a month or two of dating because she cooks meals for her boyfriends and actually listens to what they have to say, and no other woman had ever done that for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 07:07 AM
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Well, what things do you enjoy doing? That's definitely a major factor.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 06:29 AM
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Right, but the problem is that women pretty much never reciprocate like that. I remember one Christmas, I spent literal hours researching and finding the perfect Christmas present for her based off of her fav show and ordering it from another country. Do you know what her Christmas present to me was? She took me out to her favorite restaurant.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 06:28 AM
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Since when? In every relationship I've personally been in and most of the male friends I've known, the guy is always the one buying cute little gifts, listening to their whole day, dropping everything to help them, and they get nothing in return. It's always the guy planning the events, etc. Do you know how many times I've cooked a meal for a girlfriend? I don't because it's happened that many times. Do you know how many times a girlfriend has cooked a meal for me? Once. And it was just some fro…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 06:07 AM
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Um. No. Humans are social creatures. Being socially isolated and lonely can raise your risk of death by up to 50%, even more than obesity.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 10:19 AM
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No, being funny gets you friends. It doesn't make you attractive to women. If being hilarious was all it took, Larry David would be a pussy crushing God.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 10:17 AM
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Yeah, very true. Some women like Chad, but some women might like Chad with glasses!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 09:52 AM
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People who are single literally contract ailments at a higher rate and die earlier. It's a far more apt analogy than you think.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 09:49 AM
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I don't want the former. Most guys don't want just the former. But most guys will only ever be able to achieve the former - in very small doses, to be far - but they can maybe still get that. No man gets his ego boosted and self-esteem improved from a girl saying she's comfortable around him and uses him for resources.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 06:43 PM
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1) they still have the ability to do all of that it’s just harder because of economic reasons not so much social ones. Whether it's because of social reasons or economic reasons doesn't change the fact that there's very few ways for men to feel accomplished in this day and age. 2) Most men won't find it satisfying or give them feelings of accomplishment from getting to be a beta bucks like that, you know. Being in a relationship where the woman isn't really sexually attracted to you is one of th…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 02:05 AM
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A big problem many men seem to be facing is that they focus so much on inspiring lust from women. Well, society took away men's ability to have a good career, to own a home, to start a family, make money, etc. The only way most men will ever feel success in their life is when they're the object of lust for a woman, so can you really blame them for focusing on it so much?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 01:45 AM
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What do you mean 'men are not getting sex'? Literally everyone I know is getting laid. Good for you. Meanwhile in reality land, male sexlessness is at an all-time high statistically.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 11:04 PM
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Later he texted me and told me "next crime I want you to hit me much harder". great typo lol
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 10:30 PM
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No, it's because women "approaching" means they make eye contact with a guy across the room for 0.6547 of a second. That's not "approaching".
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 10:29 PM
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I have friends. They all just work different careers or shift schedules. I don't get why this is so hard for you to understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 07:00 AM
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What part of people all work different jobs and different shifts do you not get? It doesn't matter if I can do Thursday drinks when only one other friend can, 2 friends can do Wednesday drinks, one girl can hang out for 8 am coffee before work on Mondays, etc. Service industry people pretty much all get off on the same time, of course they don't have that problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 06:55 AM
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Burying your head in the sand, ignoring reality, and saying "everything is fine!" doesn't work for Ostriches either, you know.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 12:37 AM
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What a completely useless response. "Stop paying attention to reality and just blindly listen to me, the expert!". Yeah okay buddy.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 12:21 AM
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Then you're be completely incorrect, because the divide between single males and single females has been steadily rising since 2000. https://www.statista.com/statistics/446103/canada-single-population-by-gender/ In 2019 (aka the most recent pre-pandemic year), 9.45 million men were single, compared to 8.43 million single women. Especially since there's actually slightly MORE women compared to men in Canada (98.54 men for every 100 women), this is incredibly worrying and has nothing to do with CO…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 11:36 PM
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What you're describing is actually a very old term called "Dystheism", meaning you believe in God(s), but believe them to be selfish and careless or even outright cruel and evil. The pantheon of Greek Gods is an excellent example of the concept.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 10:56 PM
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I think the mindset is very different between men and women. Men will hook up with a toxic unstable hot women because they think she'll be a quick and wild lay, and because they're far more starved for attention that they take what they can get. Women on the other hand will date a toxic unstable hot guy for a long time because they think they can change him.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 10:26 PM
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Anecdotal evidence, there is nearly always an exception or outlier to every rule. That's why anecdotal evidence used to justify a generalization, trend, or norm is weak. ...Need we bust out the old cliche of how when OKCupid let you rank personality and attractiveness separately, the data grid formed a near-perfect diagonal line?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 09:37 PM
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The point is that most people tolerate completely unappealing behaviour if they're attractive, and women far moreso than men. The biggest playboy I ever met was a racist asshole known for doing shit like secretly pulling off the condom during sex (aka rape) and related things like that, but he got more ass than a toilet seat because he was tall and good looking. Some of the women he legally raped came back to him a few times even.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 09:28 PM
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But Jeremy Meeks had no goals of a relationship Well, he was literally married for a decade, for one.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 09:20 PM
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By being physically fit, in control of your emotions, have financial stability, calm mind, etc.... Ah, so that way you can have a woman settle for you and give you a dead bedroom? Or do you think Jeremy Meeks had to be "in control of his emotions" and have a calm mind before he got laid? Come on.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 08:35 PM
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Right. So in other words, exactly what I said - you get to meet up with a friend once or twice a month for drinks. You definitely still live in some 1980s timeline where everyone still works a M-F 9-5 job and their schedules sync up, but that's not the case at all normally. At my last job, I worked 2pm to 9:30pm with a 45 min commute and got Tuesdays and Thursdays off. One of my best friends works from 10pm to 8am. Etc etc. The problem is that schedules don't match up at all ever. It's the fact …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 08:28 PM
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Where are they finding the time, space, and money to meet like that then? Everyone has totally different work/shift schedules and average rent in my city is $900+ for a cramped single bedroom apartment - I can't image London is any cheaper.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 07:57 PM
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Yes, I understood that. Are you like 22 or just like upper class or something? Social groups don't meet and mix like that. You're lucky enough if you can get a buddy to meet with you for a beer three times a month.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 06:52 PM
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You're kidding me? You don't think average guys get dates? Well, single males are at an all-time high, so what do you think?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 06:27 PM
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Yeah, I've read your thread dude. What does that have to do with what I said at all? Women do NOT want to introduce their female friends to guys who could be potential partners because they know any potential drama/fallout that could happen isn't worth it. That's something only girls in their late teens/early 20s do. I've literally seen female friends dodge and avoid introducing people all the time, even outright seen them tell guys not to even think about flirting with their friends. (and befor…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 06:18 PM
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??? Women don't introduce you to their friends, dude. In fact, women literally outright tell you NOT to even think about hitting on their friends. I only know a single couple who met via friends introducing them, and it was a mutual guy friend introducing them at a party in their early 20s.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 06:00 PM
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Go on a skin care or hair care sub and you’ll find the women are very supportive and encouraging to men who ask for advice. They'll also think you're gay as hell though. If you were to ever mention to a woman that you have a skin care routine, even if it was casual and on-top to a discussion, she'll think you're gay like on the spot.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/22 11:34 PM
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Women at clubs aren't having "meaningful interactions" with guys unless they're already fully engaged with that guy. Do you think it takes up a lot of time to look across the room and make eye contact with a guy for 0.02225ths of a second and then wait for him to come over?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 09:51 PM
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At a bar or club, you’re only competing with other people in the room How do you figure that? There's literally nothing stopping a woman from being on Tinder while she's at the bar, and in fact I've seen it happen many times.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 09:26 PM
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Your first give away is that you refer them as females. This isn’t grade 5 anymore m8. ...No, it's because "women friends" is completely improper grammar. You say "I have plenty of female friends", or "I know plenty of women". You don't say "I have plenty of women friends" or "I know plenty of females". I'm sorry that you have zero understanding of how the English language works when it comes to adjectives and plurality, but that's on you, not me, buddy. And that's great for you, but 99% of the …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 07:34 PM
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Like what? What hobbies? I have tons of female friends and all their hobbies are just Netflix etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 06:33 AM
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I've literally never met a woman with actual hobbies that weren't fucked into them by a former boyfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 03:30 AM
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Don't reply if you're not gonna engage in good faith, dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/21 02:46 AM
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Literally 93% of women do not ask men out. So uh yes, they do have to be the one asking them out.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 10:53 PM
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That's always a very convenient answer considering who has to ask the other person out in the vast majority of cases
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 06:26 PM
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