SpiderBen14 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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8	How do you guys handle girls fishing for drinks? Never do it. Honestly, we need to train this nonsense out of the culture by just never being desperate enough to feed into it. I get it that there are well-meaning people who look at this sort of exchange as an ice-breaker, and it can genuinely be that, but too often anymore it’s just some entitled girl trying to get free drinks from desperate strangers for breathing the same air as them. It’s ridiculous and the only way it will ever stop is if people stop going along with it.	/r/seduction	29/09/24 12:40 PM
2	Talking about body count??? Really, it depends on if it’s the sort of thing that you or your partner care about. I like to know, just to have some sort of ballpark number. Honestly, I am more interested in the circumstances than the number, though. If you got kind of caught up in trying to do what you thought guys wanted, the number kind of got away from you a bit more than you wanted, but you reigned it back in when you realized that it wasn’t making much difference, then I would not worry about that. Basically, if it’s h…	/r/seduction	17/05/22 02:19 AM
1	Looks, money or social status? Sense of humor, by far. Those three things tend to attract the wrong kind of people. If you want something lasting, a sense of humor will land you that. Even if you are just trying to get laid, making people laugh is a big boost to your chances.	/r/seduction	05/04/22 02:21 PM
2	Therapist told me: there's no timeline and there's nothing wrong with admitting im a virgin while dating... Thoughts? [28M] “Don’t be clingy” doesn’t mean ignore her. lol Talk to her at least a little bit each day. Even if it’s just “Hey, how are you?”. Don’t be too emotional or anything, but be friendly and interested in her day.	/r/seduction	21/02/22 11:01 PM
1	Therapist told me: there's no timeline and there's nothing wrong with admitting im a virgin while dating... Thoughts? [28M] The barely texting between dates was a no-so-subtle hint to her that you weren’t that interested. She picked up on it.	/r/seduction	21/02/22 10:29 PM
1	Therapist told me: there's no timeline and there's nothing wrong with admitting im a virgin while dating... Thoughts? [28M] Honestly, this depends on the reasons for being a virgin and where you are looking to go in a relationship. Anyone that you want to have a long-term future with ought to be able to accept the realities of who you are and you should be able to be honest with them about your reasons. Don’t lie. Generally speaking, it’s not a good place to start a relationship. If someone is your first, they deserve to know that. Partly because it helps them understand if you are not immediately awesome at it (beca…	/r/seduction	21/02/22 10:24 PM
1	[deleted by user] You’re aware that the fact that the average American even knows what priapism is serves as proof of my point, right? It’s specifically listed on the commercials for a reason. It’s not a common side effect for the older men with health issues that it was approved to be used for, but it is common in otherwise healthy young men. As are cardiovascular issues. Sildenafil was designed to be a heart medication originally. A healthy young person has no business taking it. Especially not with any regular…	/r/seduction	07/02/22 01:37 PM
1	[deleted by user] It’s actually more likely to happen to the average dude. The average young healthy dude with no actual physical problem taking ED meds is about 10000 times more likely to deal with priapism than anyone else. It’s not something that we ever regularly saw before widespread Viagra abuse. Before, an ER physician could go their whole career and see maybe one case. Now, it’s at least a 3-4 times per week thing for most. It’s gone from being an exceptionally rare condition that required a urology consu…	/r/seduction	07/02/22 01:30 PM
1	[deleted by user] Except there are. Because young people are abusing the drug. It’s not an uncommon occurrence. Talk to a urologist in a college town. It’s becoming more common every year.	/r/seduction	07/02/22 01:24 PM
2	[deleted by user] I, literally, said in my original post that I am a pharmacist. It’s my job to inform people of the risks. If you want to be an idiot and damage the blood vessels in your penis in your twenties so that you are permanently reliant on ED meds for the rest of your life, that’s you having a problem. There are simpler and safer solutions to this guy’s problem. Pills are not necessary.	/r/seduction	07/02/22 01:20 PM
1	[deleted by user] lol, that’s not what I said dipshit. If people come in extremely often for a particular pharmaceutical side effect, for a drug that isn’t that commonly prescribed and carries a specific warning about said side effect, that’s not just coincidental. That’s people abusing the drug. Auto accidents are simply a matter of odds and volume. Drug side effects are a causality.	/r/seduction	07/02/22 01:15 PM
1	[deleted by user] It’s a lot more common than you think. Spent a year of residency in the ER. You’re ill-informed.	/r/seduction	06/02/22 11:55 PM
2	[deleted by user] Viagra, if used when not needed, can lead to actual damage. It’s not something that should be used by an otherwise healthy young person. The most likely causes of erectile dysfunction in young people are damage from masturbation (which will heal) and anxiety. The problem is that, because of how Viagra works, if the cause of the problem is just anxiety and you actually calm down (creating the conditions that would’ve allowed a normal erection without the drug) you can cause priapism, which can pe…	/r/seduction	06/02/22 10:25 PM
1	[deleted by user] Literally just stop masturbating for a few days. You’ll be fine. Just happens when the blood vessels get a bit damaged from too much. Plus, your nerves on the surface get less sensitive after a while. The big thing is relax. Seriously, relax. An erection is technically caused by muscles relaxing, not muscles contracting. That’s why anxiety kills boners dude. lol It’s science, and complete normal. I promise.	/r/seduction	06/02/22 10:19 PM
1	I am 15 years old, new in this subreddit, and i want to know how i can get more attractive to girls. The two main pieces of advice that I would offer are: 1. Be self-aware and confident. Know who you are and believe in yourself. Have a sense of humor and get good at using simple things to make them laugh. Women, almost universally, find those things to be the most immediately attractive personality traits in a man. As far as actual dating, things like listening skills, having a kind disposition, and being decisive are big, but the initial attraction is all about being confident without being to…	/r/seduction	03/02/22 06:43 AM
18	Something I learned, You send yourself to the FriendZone. Yes, basically. If you aren’t openly flirting or being affectionate, you’re going to paint yourself into a corner.	/r/seduction	09/01/22 04:48 PM
2	Texted an underage girl and now i feel like shit If you have proof that you had zero way to know her true age, keep that. Otherwise, delete everything and I hope that you never ever told her your real info or you’re screwed.	/r/seduction	06/01/22 05:07 PM
1	What kind of apartment is best for picking up women Clean. With actual furniture. lol	/r/seduction	04/01/22 12:20 AM
6	Looking for best cities to meet attractive women in their late 20s to Mid 30s Nothing politically correct about it, bro. I have had a great deal of success with women. At 37, I haven’t gone a week without getting laid since I was 19 (excluding the mandatory 6 week waits after my kids were born). I have been a young single guy and been with older women and been a 30 year old single guy sleeping with 23-27 year olds (in spite of having two kids). If you don’t want to listen to someone that has never had trouble finding a date or turning a good date into sex and that into a …	/r/seduction	26/12/21 04:21 PM
1	Fuck buddy acting crazy Dude, you broke her. lol It’s a real thing. Sometimes, no matter how committed to not being in a relationship a person is, good sex will break through that. Seems like what has happened here. You started off as a hookup, but then you broke her brain. It’s hormonal and natural, just like her being on edge during her period is. It’s a chemical called oxytocin, designed to cause coupling. The better the sex, the more is released. It’s a reward mechanism built in to the brain and it will make people…	/r/seduction	23/12/21 04:28 PM
1	Help hitting on a girl Start with “Hi”, then just make some small talk. Bonus points if you can make her laugh. Keep in mind, if the roommate is talking about you being good together, that’s probably been mentioned to the girl, too. So, really, the trick here is to maybe get some time outside alone with her or in her room where you two can have a moment to yourselves. Then, try to relax and just talk. Feel things out. Read the room. If she’s obviously interested, a little physical contact (holding her hand, etc) would…	/r/seduction	12/12/21 06:31 PM
1	My friend said I should treat women harsher…? The main thing that you did wrong was just saying that you really liked her. That can feel like pressure for things to get serious. Just say that you had a good time and ask for a second date. Honestly, she might just have not liked you on the date. A lot of women are pretty good at covering that up, out of self-preservation. So, don’t necessarily judge everything based on the text.	/r/seduction	08/12/21 09:18 PM
1	Looking for best cities to meet attractive women in their late 20s to Mid 30s Also, I specifically said city, not town. Small towns, by definition, aren’t ever going to have a high number of prospects.	/r/seduction	05/12/21 05:17 AM
2	Looking for best cities to meet attractive women in their late 20s to Mid 30s No lol. You have, apparently, not been to one with a major university. College towns, especially ones that have a hospital associated with them, are full of young mid-to-late twenties professionals who are educated and single. You think that all of those recent graduates just go back home? lol Nope. 10 years later, a pretty huge chunk of them are still there.	/r/seduction	05/12/21 05:15 AM
3	Let’s talk about Racial Preferences - based on statistics There are, of course, preferences for virtually everything in the dating world. The general preference, when it comes to race, is typically to date someone a of the same race as yourself. However, for some, it’s not important at all. For cultural reasons, in some families, there’s a TON of pressure to date and especially marry within not just one’s own race but within one’s religion and nationality. Generally, though, preferences are less about race than the specific person, as well it should be…	/r/seduction	01/12/21 02:45 PM
2	How do you recover from being shamed Here’s the thing, bro: A LOT of guys have been WAAAAY too eager as young people. Some still are as adults (the ladies can confirm). The trick to not being too eager is to keep your expectations relatively low and remember that it’s not a race. I know, especially in conservative religious cultures, that there’s a tremendous amount of pressure to find someone, get married, have children, and so on…but that’s not going to happen the day that you meet someone. Or the week. Or the month. Or, realisti…	/r/seduction	30/11/21 09:40 PM
1	Looking for best cities to meet attractive women in their late 20s to Mid 30s Literally any city. City, not town. Especially a city with a decent university. I would caution you, though: You come off as a bit sad and desperate when “finding the right partner” is a big priority. Love yourself and live your life. Don’t put pressure on yourself and especially don’t go to a town specifically to find someone. It’s not something that you really need to put a ton of effort into. It rarely happens when you are trying to make it happen. That’s why so many people find themselves st…	/r/seduction	30/11/21 09:15 PM
3	The reason women love men who appear somewhat disinterested in them My experience has been that women really like it if you just act normal. Don’t act disinterested, but don’t act overly interested either. Just be natural. The idea is that you want to subtly let them know that there is interest but that you have options and you’re fine without a partner at all. It works.	/r/seduction	28/11/21 12:12 PM