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My mom told me I can’t come home tonight
/r/seduction30/09/22 03:10 AM
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Find a new girl.. I recently kind of ghosted a girl I was dating for a few weeks. I realized I wasn’t into it like she was and broke it off, she kept asking me to meet up and talk and it made me feel bad but also really solidified I had no interest in her the more she begged me.. when your on the flip side you realize how dumb it is to care if someone isn’t interested or ghosts you..l
/r/seduction16/05/22 05:47 PM
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Ya dude that’s a good thing. It means I’m her head you are not needy, laid back confident etc. you are giving off all the vibes of someone who is doi mg really well with women. I was just told by a new girl I’m dating she thinks I’m a hoe. I’m reality I can be and I am successful with women when I choose to be.. that doesn’t mean that I am. I just laughed at it and said I’m not but thanked her
/r/seduction04/05/22 02:03 AM
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Paint your dog gold with spray paint you will be good
/r/seduction29/04/22 09:35 PM
1

Bruh even with a steady female.. my recent ex and I went from having sex like animals to maybe 1-2 times a week.. and it was killing me
/r/seduction18/04/22 11:01 PM
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Ya I have a medium length beard, same my ex commented this winter on me always wearing a beanie.. I asked her to imagine how cold a shaved head could get during winters in Colorado
/r/seduction18/04/22 08:31 PM
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No not at all
/r/seduction17/04/22 11:48 PM
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No not at all.. I’ve studied seduction techniques but don’t really cold approach or anything. This year dating apps have been kind to me.
/r/seduction17/04/22 10:38 PM
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Dude I didn’t even attempt to have sex from the age of 23-27 because of my hair loss.. honestly every girl I’ve had sex with excluding someone under the age of 25 has complimented me and said it was sexy.. last girl was excited and started rubbing my head saying she has never felt a bald head before. Don’t let it slow you down
/r/seduction17/04/22 10:38 PM
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Idk probably but just being normal and not overly specializing them. I never really go with the intent strictly to have sex unless our convos have already been sexual. I just go to have fun and enjoy somebody’s company
/r/seduction17/04/22 10:36 PM
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Not trying to make it a brag post, was just curious because I hear stories on here and feel like I’m on the low end.. but also being a virgin isn’t a big deal dude. I’m turning 29 this week and went 4 years without sex until a couple of years ago
/r/seduction17/04/22 10:34 PM
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Yes 2 years ago I had 1 good friend, had a few other people I would consider a friend we would talk once or twice a year, but never hung out. Today I have a solid friend circle of really cool friends. 3 of which I just started a business with and we are planning an insane opening event next week. These are guys I look up to and motivate me to be better and we are all essentially on the same page as far as life goals etc. I met the first who introduced me to the next and we met the third randomly…
/r/seduction17/04/22 06:05 AM
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Dude after you have had enough casual sex and dated enough women it clicks that jerking off is sometimes better.. I appreciate women for the energy and insights they can give me as well as being just another human being
/r/seduction15/04/22 11:44 PM
18

No that’s weird bro.. self pity type shit.. just be proud of the fact you have improved
/r/seduction15/04/22 06:44 PM
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Dude.. I have used OLD for years. And typically I would agree.. I would catch matches every so often and 9 times out of 10 it would either go nowhere or I would take a closer look and realize they used the first picture to seem way more attractive then they were… I’m by no means a chad or model, he’ll even my pictures go against what the typical advice is here. I lowered my search region down. And holy shit I have been catching matches with women I never would have expected to match with.. bange…
/r/seduction12/04/22 08:50 PM
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Ya to be fair I can see why she has acted how she has and believe her about this situation.. I think we both really care about each other and make it want to work. From our talks we are both very reserved and don’t usually do relationships so we are learning how to work through this.. I do know that even if this is the case I deserve someone who I feel wants me and makes me happy and not second guess things. I think she also understands that I feel a way about this situation and that she fucked …
/r/seduction24/03/22 08:47 PM
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Oh don’t get me wrong I’m aware she could be cheating, it’s on her if she is I can’t control that and as much as I love and care about this girl, I can and will move on. I know my worth, when I am single I can date a lot and casually and 9 out of 10 times can close in the same night. The thing is when we have sex it is very compatible and the best sex I have ever had.. I am giving her another chance to pursue and show me she wants me and nothing is going on
/r/seduction24/03/22 08:39 PM
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I think we did get kind of comfortable with me just coming over and watching the or hanging out.. I actually told her today I want to do more activities with her, go on dates some romantic shit. And I agree I have done this before too, that’s her sweet spot and I know it if I come up behind her grab her waist, kiss her neck then nibble on her ear she melts and I hear her moan a little bit. I’m going to do these things more often then just walk away
/r/seduction24/03/22 08:33 PM
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She actually mentioned that when I brought it up last week. That she is really stressed and not getting sleep with things that are happening in her life, but also that I always want sex and it worries her. I told her I spend time with her outside of sex and genuinely try to show her I care about her as a person. I’m backing off to show her these things.. but ya I still want to fuck it drives me crazy
/r/seduction24/03/22 08:29 PM
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I think when I notice this I have a habit of getting needy and starting to chase her a little more. I’m trying to address that and get back into my own shit and life. I want to see her chasing me again, and realize if I don’t give her room to miss me then that will never happen
/r/seduction24/03/22 08:22 PM
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I know and you are right I am really trying to get back to that.. I be honest she told me early on it was something she was extremely attracted to. I am self employed. I own a screen printing business, and I’m a successful artist outside of that. I have a great social circle, workout, and overall lead an interesting life. I have noticed this last month or so I’ve fallen out of that. Still handling my shit during the day while she is at work, but after the fact I want to see her and spend probabl…
/r/seduction24/03/22 08:20 PM
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I’m not going to say you don’t have a valid point in posting this.. I was convinced she was cheating and ready to break up over this. I told her we need to speak face to face yesterday. When we did I brought this up and told her this is really fucked up. Even if something wasn’t going on why lie about it that is a big issue. She told me she lied because she was scared it would start a fight or cause a rift. She showed me their conversation, and who he is. He was an old friend she has known since…
/r/seduction24/03/22 08:17 PM
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I don’t think she is cheating but I guess you never know. I had seen some red flags that made my think something was going on but that was 1 week and I didn’t want to bring it up because one week is nothing. I mentioned it has felt like she was a little stand and she reassured me it was because of life changes recently and stressed. And after that she has really picked back up and made me feel wanted and adored.. I don’t think anything shady is happening but like I said I can’t be for certain. I…
/r/seduction24/03/22 07:53 PM
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I know, I will say this relationship has taught me a lot. In terms to not jump to conclusions, understanding that every situation is different, and that we are all experiencing things differently. That communicating is very very important. We have gone through some shit this past month where communication has come in clutch. I had a period where I was feeling insecure and like she is possibly cheating because of this and we have talked about it. She basically has said the stress of working her n…
/r/seduction24/03/22 07:50 PM
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I am trying.. it is something I have been catching myself on a lot more.. I think since I feel her pulling back sexually I have been acting needy trying to show her I want to be around her and support her etc. I’m catching myself and trying to realize I need to pull back and get back into focusing on my life again
/r/seduction24/03/22 07:23 PM
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I’d be happy with a few times a week when I see her, even if I just felt wanted like how it felt in the beginning.
/r/seduction24/03/22 07:21 PM
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I agree it honestly just hurts me that I’ve committed to this person and anytime I try to make an advance I usually get shut down. We weee both horny all the time originally and now it feels like it’s just me. And to be fair I am very happy with everything else going on. We are really building a strong relationship and it feels amazing to just have someone love and support me and that I unconditionally love as well.
/r/seduction24/03/22 07:20 PM
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If it was another woman I have dated in the past then I would do this.. but I’ve never met anyone who I felt genuinely cared about me this much. She does a lot to make me feel like a prize outside of the sex and she is someone I truly want to be with and make it work
/r/seduction24/03/22 07:18 PM
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I understand this and I suppose new to it.. this is my first serious relationship really.. In the past it has been a few months of dating someone and then miscommunication or something leads to a breakup. I can agree we went from a very physical relationship to a more emotional one this last month. We are talking and acting a lot more like a couple. And I know that libidos change and that it is probably normal for intimacy to go from very intense to slow and back again. I just want to find a hea…
/r/seduction24/03/22 07:18 PM
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This is definitely the best relationship I have been in. There have been issues and such, and we work through them and I feel make the relationship stronger each time. We agreed the other night we are transitioning from a relationship to a partnership where we are becoming a unit looking out and supporting one another. I may have been becoming more feminine and trying to work through that, idk what to do? I think I have been more vulnerable, and maybe needy for her attention? But I am also very …
/r/seduction24/03/22 07:15 PM
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This is the case, she has been going through a lot of life changes recently. I know she is stressed and not sleeping alot because of the new job and puppy. I have been very understanding and doing what I can to support and help.
/r/seduction24/03/22 07:09 PM
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In my day we had a saying “but I still hit tho” you sir are taking a W on this one good job. Nobody was out here slanging great dick their first go around. You gain experience, and also learn to realize it isn’t a big deal if it doesn’t work with one girl. I have been with someone who was less then impressed with my performance, then turned around and turned someone new into a puddle. You got this big dog
/r/seduction14/03/22 09:37 PM
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Coming from the username fuckaliscious this is an interesting comment haha.. I mean I know in the grand scheme it isn’t much time, but just seeing as I have spent the last few months with her and it was always so intimate to go 10 days has just been weird and out of the ordinary
/r/seduction12/03/22 07:37 PM
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I really don’t think much has changed other then me being re open to her. I think originally I was more on the fence about the relationship and a little more guarded etc. opened up a little more to being more vulnerable I guess? But I would think at this point that would be kind of normal and healthy
/r/seduction12/03/22 07:36 PM
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I am I haven’t reacted anyway other then just smile and say ok babe then continue to be myself. I don’t want to be too complacent with this though. That’s why I’m asking what to do.. being needy and making a big deal About no sex will just turn her off more, but acting like it doesn’t bother me will make her feel like its ok to just with hold from me?
/r/seduction12/03/22 06:43 PM
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My thoughts too.. I hate the push and pull aspect but it is pretty obvious sometimes. When I am less interested she is all over me begging for my attention etc. when I drop my guard and come at her a little stronger I feel her acting more distant.
/r/seduction12/03/22 06:41 PM
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I have jerked off in between seeing her, but your right the physical intimacy is what I crave. Especially because we have both commented how great the sex is.. idk if she is just saying that but for me it is deeper then just a nut.. Maybe I am over reacting here, just want her to chase and crave me like before and this abrupt stop has been strange
/r/seduction12/03/22 06:39 PM
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No, also doubt she is cheating not saying it isn’t possible but she is wayyy too introverted.. no other flags of cheating she is still emotionally really into me and shows a lot of other affection
/r/seduction12/03/22 06:36 PM
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Ya she is going through some things I believe is stressing her out etc and I get it.. just don’t know how to bring this up. I feel like me making an issue out of it is going to turn her off more and make it less likely to return how it was. Me saying nothing will make her feel like idc and it’s not an issue
/r/seduction12/03/22 05:33 PM
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I’m wondering too, but for the first few months she would be losing her mind when we had sex, she would be left in the bed shaking.. going crazy, loud, always extremely wet. told me constantly I was the best sex, but maybe it was all an act?
/r/seduction12/03/22 05:23 PM
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I keep telling myself a week isn’t that bad.. I think just going from it being a constant and garuntee every time I saw her spoiled me.. selfishly I need to nut The mismatch is weird how it came out of nowhere after us being so close originally. We joked before that it was pointless to wear clothes around each other when we aren’t in public. I’ve woken up to her kissing my face and rubbing me to seduce me into having sex at 3 am before haha.. she was just as sexual as me originally y
/r/seduction12/03/22 04:57 PM
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Didn’t read the other comments, but maybe she does want to fuck but is shy.. maybe she was drunk and horny and this was here way of making a move towards you. Once she sobered up she felt embarrassed. Don’t reach out again, you said what you said which imo was a correct response. If you had plans to meet up for drinks then wait for that and see if she brings it up if not carry on and gauge interest at that time. Flirt a little, see how she responds, initiate kino, see how she responds. If all go…
/r/seduction10/03/22 07:55 PM
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Then sounds like a success to me.. I know many people who have had sex hat have gone much longer then 4 months without managing to get laid.. granted they weren’t really trying but dude it’s a start
/r/seduction28/02/22 10:53 PM
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Na I’m good on confidence which is why I do well. I used to be very self conscious about it and thought my life was over in my early 20s.. looking back I wasted so much time
/r/seduction21/02/22 11:10 PM
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I love the bald propaganda, it gets throw around a lot as a negative thing, and don’t get me wrong I’d prefer a beautiful mane. But I do just fine with women as a bald dude.. my last gf was a piece and she was so attracted to the bald look I have. For some women they find it very sexy and masculine. I used to think only women in my age range (late 20s) and older would be able to look past the bald thing. Until I pulled a sexy 22 year old on a one night stand a couple weeks ago. I’m not in perfec…
/r/seduction21/02/22 09:40 PM
1

You just do, if your fwb then you are already fucking and you know you can.. so just seductively stare into her eyes, pull her in to make out.. grab her by her throat or back of the neck and start touching her. From there you just get going into foreplay
/r/seduction20/02/22 04:22 AM
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Ya kind of don’t care at this point, if she wants duck I got her if not I’ll be ok. Make or break point imo
/r/seduction20/02/22 01:49 AM
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Ya I replied just saying I was asleep.. no response. Thinking about just saying if she is trying to fuck she can hmu. I’m too busy and not looking for anything outside of that but down to hook up whenever
/r/seduction20/02/22 01:33 AM
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OP this is it.. a few years back I was a loser. I didn’t take care of myself in anyway, I didn’t dress well, I did nothing but work a degrading job then come home to watch tv and jerk off before repeating. Over the last few years I worked hard on developing myself. Got in shape, discovered a profitable hobby that has given me purpose, made better friends, go out and have a life etc. Essentially I am dating, and getting laid now because I have value. My old roommate who I lived with for 5 years i…
/r/seduction16/02/22 04:34 AM
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Bettering yourself and growing as a man is the top way of getting a woman to take her pants off.. what’s more attractive? A man who is obviously using little tricks and manipulation to get a woman, or a man whose life is so put together he doesn’t have to worry about getting a woman?
/r/seduction16/02/22 03:25 AM
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I mean.. she is very hot, great body.. first time it was just uncomfortable to be that close with my face.. this morning it was smelly the entire session
/r/seduction16/02/22 03:13 AM
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Did you added this with her? How did you bring it up?
/r/seduction16/02/22 03:12 AM
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Ya I want to bring it up without making it embarrassing or awkward. I like this girl so far but man that smell was unattractive.. gonna look into it
/r/seduction16/02/22 03:11 AM
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Haha I actually just wear a raccoon hat like Dave crocket and never take it off, women say it’s very mysterious
/r/seduction13/02/22 07:55 PM
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No she is keeping you around for attention and validation. Girls love knowing they have you on call even if they have no sexual interest. She misses the attention you gave her before, you chasing after her, validating her self worth. Now she is missing that.. but the second she gets it, she will safely put you back in the friend zone. If you don’t want to be friends stand your ground and carry on. Find a new person or 3 to put your attention towards
/r/seduction12/02/22 11:25 AM
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Ya I didn’t take it that way haha no worries, and thanks ya it’s pretty rad, like I said I’m broke as shit right now but it’s worth it
/r/seduction11/02/22 11:24 PM
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I honestly hear I’m very attractive from the opposite sex, hit the gym 6 days a week. Growing up I was overweight so learned charm to make up for my weight.. if I wasn’t bald these hoes would have no chance haha
/r/seduction11/02/22 11:05 PM
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It’s honestly pretty cool, it’s a 1700 sq fr warehouse type spot with a loft. Needs some love, it’s a little Grimey. Has an exposed ceiling etc. but overall it’s pretty sweet. I have a print shop I run with 2 other friends there. So tons of printing equipment etc takes up space. Only been there a month but anyone who has come through thinks it’s dope af
/r/seduction11/02/22 11:03 PM
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Ya I mean.. it depends if I can I’d rather do late night and at a bar.. but coffee is an easy way for me to build rapport, then at the park I can start being more flirty/touchy etc. And ya it depends on what I’m looking at. If I see someone as somebody to seriously date I’d do the coffee and park. Even if I don’t close that day, I can at least make them comfortable enough to later just plan on going to their place next time we hangout at night and from there it is easy to escalate
/r/seduction11/02/22 05:14 AM
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Coffee, then to a park are great.. thrifting you don’t have to buy anything.. art walks/galleries
/r/seduction11/02/22 05:00 AM
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Idk just by being charming, charismatic, and fun? Using seduction techniques etc
/r/seduction10/02/22 10:24 PM
1

How what?
/r/seduction10/02/22 08:34 PM
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I still think improving all of these aspects of your life should be your first priority and what you dedicate most of your time too. But yes still approach. I’m a broke as shit starving artist living in my art studio. I shower at the gym, can’t really afford dates, and don’t have nice clothes, yet I can attract women
/r/seduction10/02/22 06:05 PM
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That was my thought too prior to dating my ex, I found I could connect with almost anyone. Interests etc aside, personalities clicked. Since then it has been booty butt. But your right just gotta meet more people
/r/seduction10/02/22 08:57 AM
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I guess I’m just following the old thing of finding someone new to get over the ex.. I’m lonely af and doing everything I can to occupy my life etc. but still think of her all the time and my first resort is to find someone I think is attractive and try to build something with them
/r/seduction10/02/22 07:54 AM
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My friends in relationships all say they wish they had what I had, freedom, dates, hooking up with different women etc. I’d give it all up for what you have my friend
/r/seduction10/02/22 07:47 AM
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Ya just wish I could at least find a good fuck to help me lmao.. they always say fuck 10 other girls to get over an ex.. every girl I fuck makes me miss my ex too haha. There is no escape, I’m really not looking for a relationship again immediately just anything to take my mind off her. Didn’t realize how much we really worked together until I started dating and phoning up with other women
/r/seduction10/02/22 07:46 AM
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Fucking A.. went through a situation with an ex awhile back. She came back asking to hangout then strung me along for a month.. I posted her about the situation everyone said “she is an ex move on, delete her etc.” friends told me the same, but my monkey brain said “no she is different, we are still in contact for a reason blah blah blah.. guess what she tossed me to the side the moment a new opportunity presented itself. Anyone reading this trying to hang on to an ex, trust me it gets worse if …
/r/seduction10/02/22 07:02 AM
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Yea for the better I’m sure haha
/r/seduction09/02/22 09:20 PM
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She never replied back to me last message
/r/seduction09/02/22 08:20 PM
1

I mean personally I love foreplay, and spend a lot of time trying to pleasure my partner. I assume I’m not the only man out there like this, for some reason that stigma is so popular, maybe rightfully so, but I assume it can’t be that hard to find someone who enjoys pleasuring their partner
/r/seduction09/02/22 06:21 AM
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Don’t have real intentions of dating her seriously, she’s attractive her profile screamed “I have never fucked a guy before and want to try” she seems cool enough to though. She initiated a real conversation for a bit about interests etc. then basically invited me to come over tomorrow. I will go see what happens but I appreciate your advice on the sex stuff. Kind of assumed that but it will make me ask her what she wants from me more then me just initiating and doing what I would normally do
/r/seduction08/02/22 07:53 AM
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I’m not concerned with love as is, just having fun
/r/seduction08/02/22 06:42 AM
2

Ya setting up for tomorrow
/r/seduction08/02/22 05:35 AM
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Ya thats the vibe I’m getting made sure to throw it out there that I’m willing to be a piece of meat for her honestly. And she is very attractive
/r/seduction08/02/22 03:22 AM
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Felt the same, got her IG and she seems real so far
/r/seduction08/02/22 03:16 AM
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Well thanks that makes me feel better
/r/seduction07/02/22 04:35 AM
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No not a bad breakup.. essentially it was during the start of Covid. We met about a month before Covid really hit here. She was very scared at the time and isolated herself.. we tried doing it over Skype for a couple of months. Until I realized Covid was here to stay and if she was scared to leave the house and do anything I couldn’t continue to pursue her. When I told her she was very understanding and obviously was hurt she cried a bit but understood it wasn’t going to work as we were going.. …
/r/seduction07/02/22 04:34 AM
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Lol low key my thoughts exactly
/r/seduction07/02/22 04:26 AM
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Real talk she is very sexy, but if I’m. Ring honest I’ve always seen her sister as one that got away.. we broke up because of a situation where at the time it wasn’t going to work and I knew it so I ended it.. but truthfully she was up there with best women I’ve dated.. and I’d be lying if I was to say I haven’t thought about her and wished I could reach out and try to rekindle things. This is a horrible idea, and I’m not that starved for pussy that I need to pursue this
/r/seduction07/02/22 04:25 AM
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I’m actively avoiding the sound advice here and plotting.. convo has ceased tho..
/r/seduction07/02/22 04:16 AM
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Easier said then done sometimes
/r/seduction07/02/22 04:15 AM
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My thoughts.. I’d take the bomb.. what is her sister gonna get mad at her sis if we hook up and she didn’t know?
/r/seduction07/02/22 04:14 AM
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Ok I am that horrible
/r/seduction07/02/22 04:05 AM
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Yes I have done this, and ended up in relationships.. bruised ego? Come on man like you haven’t done it to someone and then hit them up when you were horny etc. just set a time and place that leads to you potentially hooking up
/r/seduction07/02/22 03:43 AM
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Ok not that horrible
/r/seduction07/02/22 03:31 AM
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Ok everyone false alarm, despite my better judgment and your sound advice I tried to get a conversation rolling and haven’t heard back. I assume this is just another tinder next.. you all are right and I am better off finding someone else to try to hookup with
/r/seduction07/02/22 03:26 AM
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Not necessarily, just that she is really hot and I am on a bit of a sex addiction run right now
/r/seduction07/02/22 03:20 AM
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I make horrible decisions because of pussy often enough.. I’m still around to tell the tale minus the scars
/r/seduction07/02/22 02:31 AM
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Wanted a lay, but who knows where that goes.. very attracted to her and honestly just based on the way she presents herself, bio etc. I’d probably be more into her then I was her sister.. but I know you are right.
/r/seduction07/02/22 02:27 AM
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Not at all .. like I said completely removed from my life a couple of years ago. No idea what she is or if she is even still in this city
/r/seduction07/02/22 02:17 AM
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This guy fucks
/r/seduction07/02/22 02:15 AM
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Here I go making dumb decisions again
/r/seduction07/02/22 02:15 AM
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No haven’t spoke in about 2 years, after we ended it she blocked me. We ended on good terms and it was kind of mutual
/r/seduction07/02/22 02:15 AM
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I do have a talent for putting myself in horrible situations
/r/seduction07/02/22 02:08 AM
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Which leads me to my next question, should I bring up that I know her sister?
/r/seduction07/02/22 02:08 AM
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I feel like at some point one of us is going to bring it up.. also based on how close her and her sister were while I dated her, I feel like that is going to be a deal breaker on anything. I mean.. I’m really seeing just getting some cheeks is best case scenario here.. but as badly as I want that, idk if I could consciously cause a rift between them.. even if I really really want to get in there
/r/seduction07/02/22 02:03 AM
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My sarcasm senses are tingling
/r/seduction07/02/22 01:53 AM
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I’ll try to get out of my head and remember this stuff, gotta step up this game. Luckily I’ve learned a lot from other experiences this year.. slowly working my way up to being a champion in the sheets haha thank you
/r/seduction07/02/22 01:49 AM
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My monkey brain tells me this is a bad idea but to try.. honestly shouldn’t try but damn, she is sexy. The girl I dated was beautiful also but her sister.. to be fair I probably won’t get a reply back anyway Edit: nvm she responded
/r/seduction07/02/22 01:48 AM
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Its going well set up for wednsday, and she seems very excited to meet up. Following the routine of not texting too much or anythingm set the date and just replied with im looking forward to it! Have a plan setup to meet her at a speakeasy near her olace, which is right across the street from a popular barcade out here. So a cocktail or two at the speakeasy, then across the street to have some fun at the barcade. This place has been very succesful for me in the past to break down touch barriers …
/r/seduction31/01/22 07:46 PM
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Ya you did haha.. I felt the same should reach out the next day because bar/club settings people are drunk etc.. And good chance i wasnt the only one so I figured I should keep the momentum going. I started off kind of playful based on the introduction we had last night. And kind of cut to the chase. Just asked if she was free to grab a drink this week.. We will see what happens.. Not getting my hopes up a ive been reading on here that these situations are usually pretty flakey.
/r/seduction29/01/22 09:57 PM
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Ya I did this the other day.. Tried to make it work. But once i felt her interesting was non existent i stopped contacting her havent spoke to her in 3 days, longer then i have in 4 months. And she started posting pics of her on social media and posting little things making it seem like she is dsting/searching for attention. So I gave up completely
/r/seduction29/01/22 08:26 PM
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Id typically go up start a convo in some way, then just reach down and grab her hand to draw her in more to talk. It was recieved well every time i did this lastnight which would lead to me grabbing their waist slightly once again to draw them in again to talk over the music.
/r/seduction29/01/22 07:58 PM
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Ya udk it was working in wasnt doing it in a creepy way and started a conversation first judging their interest level based on their responses and body language etc. First
/r/seduction29/01/22 07:53 PM
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I wouldnt say I moved on too gracefully haha.. For about a month after it ended it pursued her, kind of chased a bit. Still hungout, called, hooked up a few times.. But deciding its time to move on fr Ya I should've escalated more with the 1 girl, and should've tried to get more numbers. Lesson learned, hoping at least the girl I did get the number from goes somewhere.
/r/seduction29/01/22 05:53 PM
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Remembering this is who i really am.. Before I got in a relationship I was just starting to reach my potential.. This sub, various books etc had me understanding seduction and how to attract. Met the ex and did everything right for the first few months.. She melted in my hand.. I fucked around and fell back into being needy and insecure and she left. Realizing its a part of it, and how blessed i am to be able to go out here and enjoy life single again.
/r/seduction29/01/22 03:09 PM
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I left tonight thinking this is a new weekly thing for me.. Found this new confidence right now.. Its crazy, i was always so scared to approach in person or do any of this. Never thought i could be that guy.. It felt natural and after the first approach i realized damn this isnt bad.. Im excited to just start going out and day gaming too..
/r/seduction29/01/22 02:36 PM
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Ya her ex is in her friend circle and would bring him up alot. Saying things like " Ben never did this." Etc talking about their relationship and telling me I was better then him blah blah blah.. Met him a couple of times at shows with the rest of their friends and it was akward but we were cool and I was honestly a huge step up from him. Not necesarilly, she just knows how to pull me back in I guess by making me feel like I do matter to her and she does want me.. And I got for it because I had …
/r/seduction27/01/22 08:19 PM
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Ya dude my intuition tells me that she was trying it with someone new a couple of weeks after the breakup, just by her actions etc. After telling me she misses me and then went super cold again. Also feel like it is nt going how she hoped. And thats why she came back around after I pulled away when I felt her going cold again , and invited me over to fucl her brains out again a few times.. Then started pulling away again.. She told me the sex was amazing, and was warm a few days after that. Then…
/r/seduction27/01/22 04:06 AM
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Ya thats what I m doing.. I realize just not bringing this up, not saying anything, and not reaching out is the best thing.
/r/seduction27/01/22 02:32 AM
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Its regret but also recognition of my fuck up.. Taking ownership. Ya I dont want to wait on her anymore thats my thing. I guess I know that talking tonher will do no good. Im just going to continue with other women and see if she chases me
/r/seduction27/01/22 02:25 AM
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I guess not stringing me along.. I suppose im just over the situation, I want more.. I take her reaponse as her saying politely she wants my attention, and affection while w he looks for my replacement.
/r/seduction27/01/22 01:47 AM
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IDK if others experience this, but for me not even pulling out, but just completely stopping thrusting buys me more time. I can feel when im getting too close and will sometimes just stop, and reach down or pull her into a passionate kiss for a few seconds then continuing. Also dont be ashamed by busting too early.. I have found some women love that shit because it makes them feel sexy, like a succesful lover.. Ive had women get mad that I take longer then 5 minutes to bust.
/r/seduction23/01/22 09:25 PM
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Ya and thats the issue.. Our relationship we did have was amazing until the breakup.. I was blindsided by it.. It was simply me saying a certain situation made me unconfortable. It was our first issue we had in the relationship. And it ended there. I kept my head up high when she decided to end it and didnt beg her back and walked away. About a week after the fact she asked me to meetup and we talked and she agreed that she wouldve felt uncomfortable if the roles were reveresed and she wasnt mad…
/r/seduction23/01/22 08:04 PM
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Man.. Its your first time chill! I mean it will be impossible to relax, you will be extremely nervous.. But luckily for you so will she. You both will be understanding because you know it is your first time. It will be akward, but try to get out of your own head and enjoy it. You will notice once you focus more on what you are feeling you will begin to find the stroke that not only works for you but for her. Just experiment, have fun.. After that session go again.. And again.. And you will get i…
/r/seduction23/01/22 07:38 PM
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Yes, but i asked her after this situation yesterday where we stood.. And by the way the convo went it seemed she doesnt want that either. She said she didnt want to be in a relationship, that she wanted to move slow with me.. I asked id that meant we were dating other people and she replied "im not looking for anything right now, im working on myself"
/r/seduction23/01/22 07:06 PM
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Didnt mean to make it aound like this wasnt the case. She 100% was.. I mean if you read my other comments on thisbpost i still love this woman even though we havent been in a real relationship for the last month, and she has been toying with my heart.. Everyone who saw us commented how into eachother we were and how happy they were for us.
/r/seduction23/01/22 07:05 PM
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Man Idk I feels like seduction techniques are simultaneously objective and subjective at the same time.. Ive done things opposite of what im recommended on here and it has worked, and likewise have followed advise and it has worked.. IDK what to do anymore. I think at the end of the day she knows where I stand and how I feel, but she is on the fence/continously changing her mind.. I think moving forward with life and letting her make the moves is the only thing I can do at this point. Whenever I…
/r/seduction23/01/22 04:49 AM
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I could see that.. It was great while it lasted. Like I said indont mean by this post to make it seem like i only cared about the sex. I honestly love the time spent with her just laughing emjoying eachothers company as well.. I can say I definitely became addicted to the sex.. But didnt want our entire relationship to be based around it. Probably formed an unhealthy connection because of it
/r/seduction23/01/22 04:40 AM
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In the relationship.. Everytime we were together, about 5 times a week probably, and usually multiple times a day.
/r/seduction23/01/22 04:33 AM
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This is the first woman where literally everything is perfect in regards to our sexual chemistry, emotional chemistry, personalities etc. Originally I loved the sex but I genuinely fell in love with who she is as a person. It isnt the first time we didnt have sex. I think more then anything having sex with her again felt like we were moving foreward in the direction of getting back together. After we started hooking up again she felt warmer when we talked, almost back to how it felt when we were…
/r/seduction23/01/22 04:24 AM
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Emotionally i havent.. I was and still am really into this one and it has drained me emotionally no matter how much i try to detach from the situation. As soon as I started letting go she comes back and i invest again only to still feel let down.
/r/seduction23/01/22 04:10 AM
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Thats fair, I hear you.. I just feel like if it is changing this much then she enjoys the chase or idea of me more then anything.. Like ill just be setting myself up for failure again if I keep my hopes up with her coming around.
/r/seduction23/01/22 04:09 AM
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Ya dude.. Except really learned my lesson this time.. This is my first expefience where an ex and I are back and fourth on the fence about one another. And its really hitting home that "if its not a fuck yes, then its a fuck no" or whatever that saying is.. I miss the emotions we had at the beginning before the breakup where i was her world, she showed me constantly how much she wanted to be with me etc. It has been such an akward month and her feelings are obviously so conflicted why would I wa…
/r/seduction23/01/22 03:16 AM
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Dont think this is the case.. She has become more avoidant and closed off since we began having sex again. Also today I talked to her about where we stand and she said she didnt want a relationship right now. But wants to move slow with me. I asked if that means we are going to be dating other people and she simply said that she isnt looking for anything right now. Is busy working on herself.. But I think we all know that if she meets someone she isnt going to avoid them. Will have sex with them…
/r/seduction23/01/22 02:55 AM
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Looked at your post history.. Your right i should follow in your footsteps and pay for her cell phone and living expenses like you do
/r/seduction23/01/22 02:52 AM
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Except you dont know your relationship.. I have still treated her like a friend. I honestly pathetically skimped for her after she broke up with me and.continued to chase after her. Stayed in contact with her frequently for weeks before we started hooking up again.
/r/seduction23/01/22 02:39 AM
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If anything she was using me.. She kind of stru g me along after the breakup for weeks. It wasnt until I stopped contacting her that she hit me up one night to come over late one night which led to the first time we had sex since we broke up. After that i started contacting her how i used to and felt her pull away again. When i was with her today she called me babe and hunny etc. After she told me she didnt want to have sex I told her i wasnt using her for sex. And asked her what we were doing. …
/r/seduction23/01/22 02:37 AM
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Ya.. Thats the thing i really think there was someone else up until a week ago.. That fell through and she hit me up for some dick.. Then decided to pursue the other guy again or someone else. I know her online habbits, even if she is at work she has responded to me before, will be online facebook etc. The other night she was ghost for about 17 hours.. First time she didnt answer my call when I reached out etc. And since that night has been when I felt her pulling back alot more again.
/r/seduction21/01/22 03:28 PM
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Im prioritizing alot of other things I should say prioritizing other women besides her. She really threw me off my game and fucked up my career path and passions etc. Time to get back to loving myself first and foremost
/r/seduction21/01/22 03:26 PM
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Ya short and simple is probably the best and only option now.
/r/seduction21/01/22 02:29 PM
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Boh daries shouldve been set last week.. At this point she is just responding when she is bored and ignoring me.. Asked her if she wanted to hangout tommorow night. Sent that text around 6pm lastnight never heard back. Thats when i was planning on talking to her. But now im kind of just feeling like fuck it and her.
/r/seduction21/01/22 02:29 PM
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Yup yup and yup I know she doesnt care or cant understand me and see how i see it.. So thats not good, neither is venting, what good does that do? And hurting her is petty and I dont really want that. At the end of the day I WISH she could.. See all of this be empathetic, but KNOW it isnt going to happen. Thats why im debatting on wether to even say anything or just ghost her.
/r/seduction21/01/22 02:27 PM
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Everytime i think "nah she is different! This one is special".. Turns out that she isnt haha Ya i have feelings for her.. Thats the fun part.. Im talking to 3 other women and setting dates.. Yet still want the ex. I kind put 1 on the back burner after hooking up with the ex last week.. Gonna bring her back and push the ex to the back of my mind. Prioritizing other women now is my main goal.
/r/seduction21/01/22 02:25 PM
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Thats what I thought, tried it last week.. I still have feelings for her.
/r/seduction21/01/22 02:23 PM
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Ya honestly Dont know what to say or how to say it.. I really want to call her out on her bullshit, but also what good does it do. She is already checked out obviously based on her actions.. Feel like im just not gonna respond To her and if she really pries ill figure out what to say then.
/r/seduction21/01/22 01:08 PM
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Comtinue to carry conversation with her or no?
/r/seduction10/01/22 11:39 PM
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Take this advice.. I used to be scared to approach women in general. Going out I have found it easier to start a genuine conversation/ have fun by just challenging them to a game of pool, complementing what they are wearing etc. Recently a friend of mine who is trying to seduce asked me how Im so good at talking to women. Asks me to get girls to hang with us etc. Im midly attractive but not above average. Im finding this makes it easier to begin to flirt and escalate
/r/seduction08/01/22 05:01 PM
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Yesterday was the opposite haha the whole time I kept thinking damn this sucks.. I would be having so much fun with my ex
/r/seduction08/01/22 02:03 AM
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Fuck this is hitting right now.. She is the one who said she missed me after a week and wanted to hangout. We did and were all over eachother simce then its been me initiating. Ive tried sending flirty texts and sometimes she reaponds with a "lol oh ya?" Hours later.. She said she didnt want to stay friends but i have been put in the friend zone. Went on a date lastnight with someone new amd it was horrible. I called her after and we talked for hours.. Sent her a text today and nothing.. Got ano…
/r/seduction08/01/22 12:44 AM
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Blessing in disguise about dating this girl.. My confidence regardless is through the roof.. I have just been straight forward flirting with new women, asking on dates, and it has been well received.. Maybe I just needed to get a quick 2 month relationship with a shitnton of sex out of the way to really get too peak seduction status haha
/r/seduction06/01/22 07:24 AM
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Ya I was thinking of she doesnt bring shit up or mention it I might just drop off the face of the earth after tommorow. No reason to keep talking to her after tommorow. I got alot of women lined up and one this weekend im pretty excited to take out specifically. I figure if ill goes well saturday, then the thought of the ex will be gone.
/r/seduction06/01/22 07:19 AM
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I have dreamt of this since my early 20s.. The last 10 years it has been on my mind. I always wanted to try WWOOF but I talk myself out of it because im honestly scared.. Scared to be so far feom home and everyone i know. I also have pretty strong social anxiety, and anxiety in general.. I swear i will do this someday tho
/r/seduction27/12/21 06:23 AM
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Now go fuck her friends
/r/seduction23/12/21 10:59 PM
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Also dont let the cynical people get too you man.. Its ok to realize this is the person. When I started dating my ex is had abundance and other opportunities but decided to be with her. And even if i fucked up and it didnt go according to plan im glad I chose her.
/r/seduction19/12/21 11:47 PM
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Gonna piggy back this too say OP! Dude just keep your head straight! This was me a few months back.. After making all necessary changes in life and eutilizing all seduction advice I had this.. I met this girl who showered me with love and these types of comments all the time.. She fell in love with me according to plan.. I dropped my gaurd thought that I was hot shit and we just broke up Just keep your head straight.. Maintain what you have been doing and TAKE IT SLOW! In your head youbwill rati…
/r/seduction19/12/21 11:00 PM
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Yup.. The first week was tough.. Still miss her, but really feeling better. Im hally with my freedom again. I doubt I would want a relationship with her again because I really deep down know that if she felt like she wanted to be with me then she wouldve tried.. The fact that it was easy for her to breakup over something that couldve been fixed proves that im not worth it in her eyes. When deep down I know im worth way more. She has tried to be in contact.. Ive just been short and cordial. Its j…
/r/seduction19/12/21 08:59 PM
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Helps that she made the choice for me.. Im mot a relationship type, once I started getting attention from her I decided to date her and keep her on the side while i dated around.. Got locked down quick. I probably needed this so I can date around more
/r/seduction17/12/21 07:47 PM
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A repeating thing in my life.. Hopefully this was the last kick in my ass to realize that even when i fond someone i cant lose sight of the bigger picture.. Not only because ill benefit from it but it is far more attractive to a partner then someone who drops everything for them
/r/seduction17/12/21 07:34 PM
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I go 6 days a week.. Honestly it is my relief, on top of art.. I immediately began drawing and working on new things after we broke up.. And the gym has been keeping my mind clear. On top of that I never had results with women until i hit the gym.. Well at least not like i was before I landed her.. Even more motivation for me to keep going
/r/seduction17/12/21 07:32 PM
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Ya bro.. I got comfortable and thought once she said she loved me that I had won. Lost track of myself emotionally and in my life goals
/r/seduction17/12/21 06:28 PM
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Thats how i feel.. Its not like she was perfect.. But i wanted her.. She chose she didnt want me after twlling me bullshit like "ive never loved someone like you" " it scares me how much i love you" etc...
/r/seduction17/12/21 06:23 PM
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I was almost convinced lastnight after posting this I could flip it on her.. I immediately began hitting up old flings and girls I couldve fucked while i was with her.. And felt like myself again.. Like i didnt have or want an emotional attachment to her.. But I realize im fooling myself i still want her.. Its weirs though i know deep down i dont want a relationship. But I do want to be with her.. Fuck this
/r/seduction17/12/21 06:01 PM
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Yea dude same thing here.. I told her about something she did That bothered me, we had a talk about it and moved on.. The next day something else.came up regarding that same situation.. But i burried it because I didnt want to seem insecure etc.. Then the next 2 days she was exactly how you mentioned.. I could just till something felt off.. She didnt hold me it night like she used too. I went from feeling like the only man In the world in her eyes.. To a burden to be around. That's when i starte…
/r/seduction17/12/21 06:00 PM
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Man.. I feel that.. But also as sad as i am.. As much as i wanted to be with her.. I couldnt go back to her romantically.. This is just going to happen again. She made her decision and she decided im not worth it to her
/r/seduction17/12/21 05:41 PM
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Facts.. Im trying but cant help but feel like i slipped into being something that was unattractive.. But you are right.. After one petty fight now its over and cant be salvadged even though we both still love each other and have feelings? Fuck that
/r/seduction17/12/21 05:40 PM
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Give yourself more credit.. We arent robots we arent all emotionally strong etc.. Only reason i handled this like I did this time, is because ive gone through it before.. And begged, and chased.. And realized how horrible it felt acting that way. Im hurt right now.. I love this girl and never expected to hear someone i love.. Who said they have never loved anyone like me inmeant so much to them etc. To end it and tell me some shit like this
/r/seduction17/12/21 05:39 PM
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Kinda where im at.. I still want her.. But also fuck that.. Im not allowed to show emotions? Be vulnerable too? Im just expected to be this charming happy funny dude she met 24/7.. God forbid life stresses get too me
/r/seduction17/12/21 05:37 PM
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Wmotionally mostly.. And with my work.. I still worked out and took her on dates.. But im a self employed artist. I do graphic design, screen printing and have been making my own clothing. Once i got with her that work was almost non existent
/r/seduction17/12/21 05:36 PM
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Wack af.. She pulled me in so strong.. She was all over me up until a week ago.. Super emotionally connected. Then out of nowhere says this.. Dowsnt make sense
/r/seduction17/12/21 05:35 PM
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Fucked around and got in my emotions.. Oh well
/r/seduction17/12/21 06:56 AM
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I hear that.. I understand more her position yesterday.. Her saying she needed a couple days to proccess her feelings. Because mine have been a storm since then as well.. Weighing the pros and cons.. As others have said dating a stripper is tough.. But also I see the real her.. And love that.. I fucked up pushing her yeatwrday to talk then and there because i was being needy.. I couldnt walk away without feeling better about the situation and I made it worse
/r/seduction15/12/21 08:22 PM
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I took this advice and merged it with another posters about apologizing for my actions, keeping it short and simple. Really trying not to get my hopes up.. But I think we can try again.. I know that it happens sometimes for somebody to cut something off so abruptly.. But how much affection and love we gave eachother before all of this.. For it to end like that just doesnt seem right to me.. It doesnt feel possible. But i realize I have to accept that it might be the case
/r/seduction15/12/21 07:28 PM
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Say it was a test, what was i supposed to do? I do feel like there was a dynamic shift.. Early on she couldnt keep her hands off me. Telling me shit like "I havent felt this for someone in a ling time and it scares me etc." I was much less invested emotionally etc. In her.. As I began to open up and express those same feelings and letting the aloof gaurd down. Those things dropped (not A lot, but enough that was noticeable)
/r/seduction15/12/21 08:43 AM
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I will, I feel like it is all a delicate balance of things.. Timing plays into it. I dont want to do it too soon since she is pissed and wanted to disconnect for a couple days before I tried to have the conversation with her today. And Im torn here both ways.. I know deep down she was in love with me prior to these circumstances, and that this can be worked through.. But also that I royally fucked up this up multiple times here, then dug my grave deeper today by pushing her to have a conversatio…
/r/seduction15/12/21 08:34 AM
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I hear this, just curious though. I usually hear from recovering an ex is to go no contact and make them miss you.. Im feeling like I shouldnt text her now because she broke up with men out of anger, because I kept nudging her to talk when she said she wanted some space. So I feel like me reaching out now will just make me look more needy? But I also reapect the opinions of everyone on this sub. Especially from a point of view not clouded by emotions. On some honest shit thats why i love this su…
/r/seduction15/12/21 05:54 AM
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Ya i dis it because I felt like I wasnt too into her at first.. She was just a stripper I was fucking.. And I slowly got sucked in. Once i realized i loved her is when it began to bother me.. My mistake and a learning experience
/r/seduction15/12/21 05:51 AM
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True all of that..at first i felt like a ducking boss dating a stripper.. These guys come in and throw money at her. She comes home to me and we fuck all night until the morning.. I make her have shaking orgasms over and over again.. She longs to be with me.. The insecurities kicked in with this dude.. I went downhill quick. I feel like a bitch for saying I do know what comes with it and atill want what we had.. It didnt bother me at first. I still dont think it does with strangers.. I lost it w…
/r/seduction15/12/21 05:50 AM
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It didnt bother me until it did.. The idea of those guys being strangers was ok.. The "friend" made it weird for me
/r/seduction15/12/21 12:48 AM
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No chance of recovery?
/r/seduction15/12/21 12:47 AM
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All valid and true.. I went down the rabitt hole of insecurity so quickly..
/r/seduction15/12/21 12:36 AM
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True also wanting to still make it work with her might be my biggest mistake
/r/seduction15/12/21 12:34 AM
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When they were strangers that had no ties to her it felt didferent
/r/seduction15/12/21 12:33 AM
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Idk if she will be that petty, I also have some stuff of hers I know she wants
/r/seduction15/12/21 12:28 AM
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Yup basically.. Insecurities got to me.. The situation just felt too weird to me for more reasons then i listed here.. She delted previous messages between her and this guy, had liked all of her pics etc.. And discussed a comversation I had with her about the situation to him
/r/seduction15/12/21 12:22 AM
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Homie.. Ae someone who hasnt been with a shit ton of women, hasnt been a player.. But started learning seduction technique to be a fuck boy and a player, but met someone i genuinely cared for and decided to drop it for that relationship.. Pursue it Embrace your feelings and enjoy this man.. You said you have been with a ton of women why didnt you feel this with them? I assume you realize that you might be sexually attracted yo them, but not emotionally attracted. I also assume you have met women…
/r/seduction14/12/21 01:06 AM
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Reading all of these dating red flags is making me realize how lucky I am the girl Im in a relationship now doesnt exhibit any of these.
/r/seduction01/12/21 01:23 AM
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Hug always.. Without a doubt.. Easy way to break the touch barier and ive had someone tell me before they were impressed i went straight for the hug when meeting them
/r/seduction17/11/21 05:12 AM
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Probably gonma hit all 3
/r/seduction14/11/21 02:41 AM
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I understand that, does it come across as needy or clingy for me to send out a sweet romantic type of text? I want tonsay something now to make her realize I like her more then just the sex. Inknow inwill have opportunities soon enough. But the old me feels like just randomly reaching out tonsay something would swoon her a little now.
/r/seduction07/11/21 04:03 AM
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A couple weeks ago, asked this girl to come out to abbarcade with me randomly that night. We hungout once about 5 months before but it didnt go anywhere. Had a great time went back to her place. We just talked for abit before deciding to go to bed. Once we started kissing it was unlike any experience i had before we were grabbing eachpther holding eachother so tight. IDk how to explain it but it just was intense. She was liking my ears and biting them. I was dping the same and everytime I did sh…
/r/seduction06/11/21 10:29 PM
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Again and again i read the advice to let HER be the pne to bring up this talk.. Continually gauge her level of interest and wait until she brings up exclusivity. This seems like a good example of why. Maybe she wasnt as invested or feeling it as much as you, maybe she is scared of commitment or has aome other issues holding her back. As others have stated best advice here is to give her the space she asked for, and she might realize how much she misses you and realize she does want exclusivity. …
/r/seduction01/11/21 07:26 PM
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True and true.. I kind of believe her because she has social anxiety and is kind of the ugly duckling that grew up hot. She just seems like she doesnt give herself the opportunity to meet guys.. But also she is sexy af and i have a hard time believing that guys arent coming at her left and right. Also I agree I am overthinking this situation because im not used to pulling a sexy girl like this so easily.. But also she seems to be into me so far, the sex has been amazing.. And I have the opportun…
/r/seduction29/10/21 05:21 AM
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I guess the thing is, I've been wanting to be the second guy for so long and have been working towards it.. That it feels surreal to be there now. This girls is probably the sexiest ive ever been with. And we had sex 7 times in 2 days.. All of which was the best sex ive ever had, and she had multiple orgasms too.. It just feels to good to be true.. But a others have said I m just gonna roll with it and have fun
/r/seduction29/10/21 05:13 AM
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Even if she lost all interest? I mean in reality i have nothing to lose at this point..
/r/seduction23/10/21 11:44 PM
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I hear you, but what would you say? To not seem too needy, desperate etc. I feel i pushed her away over the last couple of weeks. I feel it needs to be something fun and playful to remind her im someone she enjoyed being around.
/r/seduction17/10/21 10:55 PM
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How do i get back to getting her interested in doing something again?
/r/seduction17/10/21 10:40 PM
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Ive met women that love to text and pursue heavy. And some that are busy and dont. I think alot of times the advice given here is based on so many factors its hard to know. You dont want to be the one over persuing, but if she is coming onto you hard no harm in building raport.
/r/seduction06/10/21 09:19 PM
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Ya the first 3 were fun we went drinking barcade random shit like that and it was all dutch so I didnt mind.. Got a little salty after the 4th date.. I thought I should step it up a bit.. Went to dinner did some other things and i covered it all.. Spent a good bit of change.. Then got denied on the sex and I kinda got thrown off.. Then she hit me with that message about struggling with romance and intimacy right now.. I have no plans on spending anymore money in her now, and i told her im fine w…
/r/seduction05/10/21 04:59 AM
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Man Idk how i havent fucked this up.. I have still contacted her throughout the last week and like I said noticed her replies got more distant etc.. And I didnt setup for hanging out this last weekend like she asked originally.. She got back to me tonight about hanging out this weekend.. So setup for this weekend, then just not reach out until then is my plan?
/r/seduction05/10/21 04:55 AM
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Should I tell her this weekend works and skip going out? Straight to the house to drink and watch a movie? At this point I do feel confident that I can make out with her and physically escalate like I did on the 3Rd date.. Honestly dont know how I havent completely fucked this up at this point.. Still feel I can repair it by being that man.. Having sex.. Then backing off to restore a little mystery and attraction
/r/seduction05/10/21 04:48 AM
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I know.. So 3rd date almost had sex.. We were at her place making out I was gripping her throat, she was moaning, she was sucking my finger.. Then her roommate came home and walked in with a party of friends.. So we hung out with them. Then the girl smoked some weed and hot anxiety and started crying because of something that was going on with one of her friends.. 4th date we still made out but it was less passionate, then she shut me down on sex.. Asked her whats up and she told me she struggle…
/r/seduction05/10/21 04:40 AM
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Needed this.. Im one of those guys.. Definitely mixed signals.. Her responses went up from a few hours to like 30 or an hour at one point. She started messaging me just seeing how my night was going every now and then. Had pur 4th date 2 weekends ago. The next day she messaged saying she doesnt know if she has the capacity for romance or intimacy right now but has alot of fun with me and wants to hangout. Then offered to hangout the next weekend. I told her no worries we hardly no eachother no n…
/r/seduction04/10/21 08:46 PM
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Not gonna argue that.. But thats the point im trying to learn from this. How do I make it known i want to fuck her with not strings attached at this point if its even still an option.. If not do I just drop contact?
/r/seduction04/10/21 05:25 AM
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True.. Ya at this point im not going to reach out anymore.. If she reaches out im just going to tell her I have no intention of being her new "fun to hangout with friend"
/r/seduction01/10/21 10:26 PM
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If ypur average looking become an above average man in other areas. It might take years of work but you have tonstatt somewhere. Develope a mindset of alpha, improve your finances, and career, go to the gym and gain muscle, develope some admirable hobbies, develope a better mindset, improve your social circle, dress better etc. Essentially improve all other aspects of your life You will find that you care less about focusing all your attention on intimacy and women. Women will notice that you ar…
/r/seduction28/09/21 07:20 PM
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Thats where i was leaming originally.. I told her I would see her this weekend originally, but honestly felt everything what you said was the real situation.. And i have no interest in being friendzoned after all this.. Do i just tell her something came up?
/r/seduction28/09/21 06:30 PM
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True but the no intimacy thing threw me off.. Also last time we hung out she didnt want to have sex and was weird about it.. I asked her whats up and she brought up all these issues she is having mentally with having sex. Has been pretty promiscuos in the past, had an abortion last year etc. And that she isnt very comfortable with that side of herself right now..even though last time she was all over me and very sexual. If that was the case id be fine with it.. But after the last time with her i…
/r/seduction28/09/21 06:21 PM
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Thats kind of my plan.. Overall Im confused by her.. At this point I want to feel like she is recipocating my interest and effort..
/r/seduction26/09/21 11:40 PM
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That's exactly what im thinking too.. I know she has done date 1 sex, one night stands etc.. And i am talking to other women, but they are so dull and uninteresting compared to her. I began pulling back attention leading up to this date yesterday and she seemed to chase me a little more.
/r/seduction26/09/21 11:24 PM
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Definitely not wanting to pressure her. I genuinely like this person a lot and kind of feel she reciprocates.. Its just throwing me off.. I dont want to be in a position where Im not somebody's sexual preference. That was my last relationship and it was frustrating.. Like i said I want her to want me.. If she doesnt that's fine, but I dont want to continue to date someone and want them sexually if the feeling isnt mutual.
/r/seduction26/09/21 11:21 PM
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True.. I just see so much conflicting information specifically on this sub and through other swduction books ive read. Usually they say let the woman initiate these types of conversations. Im overthinking a bit here I suppose..
/r/seduction26/09/21 11:14 PM
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The park move might have made her a bit uncomfortable, shouldve pulled back and let her come back to you. Where the mistake came was metioning your interest in her so soon.. Shouldve just played it cool and taken it slow and let her express interest in you first, especially after the first time hanging out. Then maybe shouldve let her text you first, definitely not a double text. She most likely got the vibe from you that you were too invested too quickly. Just dont reach put anymore and maybe s…
/r/seduction25/09/21 01:42 AM
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irl my dating app success is non existent. But going out, finding a reason to start convos etc is where success comes from.
/r/seduction24/09/21 09:46 PM
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Night and day difference. For me I wasnt huge with this difference. I was about 35 lbs overweight And had a "dad bod". Started going to the gym and losing weight slowly while also gaining muscle. Since then i get numbers alot and get attention, also began dating a couple people. I wont say all of this success is attributed to weight loss.. But the confidence I gained and exude because of it.
/r/seduction24/09/21 07:48 PM
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There are tons of reaources ive used over the years but all for specific things. Money management, relationships, buolding businesses, overall personal growth. There is no 1 direct book or source to provide for you. As others have stated find out what areas you want to grow in amd begin there. 1 step at a time, imo being a man means growth continually. And at the pace you desire.. You are 24, when i was that age i was nowhere near the man i am today. In the last 4 years life has taken me so many…
/r/seduction21/09/21 11:25 PM
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"Never let nobody curve me, that dont deserve me"
/r/seduction16/09/21 09:21 PM
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Ya my last gf met me when i had hair, but we began dating while i was shaving. She made comments every now and then "I wish you would grow your hair back" which made me insecure. But i genuinely have met women since that either didnt care at all, or found it sexy. I think the advice of going to the gym should be universal. But man.. It makes a huge difference for bald guys haha. I went from overweight and decently attractive in the face.. To just sexy honestly haha. And I have noticed with frien…
/r/seduction15/09/21 05:18 PM
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Dude you are 23 relax.. Im 28 and just started dating casually. Most of my 20s I isolated myself because I was overweight and balding. The last 2 years I had lost weight and gained muscle, shaved my head and accepted that its ok to not be a model. In that time ive been on 2 relationships and dated a handful of women. Dont compare yourself to others. Some guys are naturally confident and developed skills earlier. Some of us had to learn these things through trial and error and research. It will c…
/r/seduction15/09/21 04:04 AM
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I know.. I honestly can be charming and get people interested.. My escalation skills fucking suck.. Ive been able to on previous first dates and second dates and close.. But sometimes I just dont know what to do. In personally bad and uncomfortable at touch. Ive been working on my kino skills which have improved but everything else thumbs down. This is because I had such low self esteem through most of my life I avoided dating so at 28 im trying to play catch up. Im treating this as a learning e…
/r/seduction14/09/21 08:32 PM
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I mean both dates were great honestly.. Like i said no hookup.. But honestly I couldve and shouldve last time. We spent about 8 hours together both times and we had a great time throughout.. I kind of feel this though. Its not worth me going through this in my head, when i have others that are clearly interested. I just really was into this one.. Do i tell her anything or just kind of ghost? Like I said i have a couple of things she let me borrow i need to return to her.
/r/seduction14/09/21 07:59 PM
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5 and stop being so obssessed about how you can be anything other then fun.. Im not the most attractive dude. Yet I pull girls anytime I go out and put in effort.. Because I can just have a conversation and make it fun. Dont put presure on your looks as much as learning how to just have a conversation.. Youd be surprised
/r/seduction12/09/21 09:00 AM
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I agree and we have definitely been going dutch. She has paid about equal to what i have for dates so far. And for events we want to do in the future its not expensive or implied I would be paying.. I do feel the low interest aspect and feel im on the backburner. Which if i wasnt as interested as i am i wouldnt mind.. But mentally its draining to feel this connection when we link up.. But get all of these mixed signals. I think im just going to drop my investment in her.. If she makes more of an…
/r/seduction08/09/21 01:24 AM
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I am feeling more and more like monogamy is ridiculous. Dont get me wrong.. I think you are just meeting ahitty women who are morally corrupt.. Not for wanting to have sex with someone other then their romantic partner..but for following through with it behind their partners back withlut already establishing or communicating these sort of interactions.. I have 100% met these women myself and ya they are hot and fun.. But i habe also met really honest loving mature women who wouldnt do this.. Don…
/r/seduction01/09/21 07:36 PM
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I love this.. Also dont focus as much on the physical aspects of working out (muscles etc.) But rather the fact that you just feel much better. It took me awhile to get this in my head. I was succesful with women with a dad bod.. But always wanted to look sexy and it wasnt enough motivation for me. Once i got it in my head that i feel better when i eat right and workout it became aomething i enjoyed more
/r/seduction12/06/21 09:43 PM
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Your 37 bro.. Its a hard hit but at least it came this late.. Mine started it 21.. Ive been full shaved for a few years its not that bad. Takes time to get used to it but then your on and rocking.. Own it, its alot sexier that way then hiding even if your attraction takes a hit.
/r/askTRP20/05/21 08:19 AM
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Im kinda pucky but willing to drop down for aomeone just to get some more experience in as far as just having casual sex etc. Ya i am gonna hit up a friend to help me out with some quality pics.. Feel that plays into my lack of success as well. Definitely trying to figure out how to up the OLD to gain a little conifdence then hit day game etc hard
/r/askTRP20/05/21 01:28 AM
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Ya ill admit im maybe a 7, im handsome overall, but bald, and not the best body (been hitting the gym and counting all calories and Marcos for the past month to fix this). I understand the looks are playing a large part and assume really atteactove dudes are pulling here.. Suppose I just gotta get out more often
/r/askTRP20/05/21 12:11 AM
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I guess i just need to work on being more attractive haha
/r/askTRP19/05/21 11:14 PM
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Ugly is a mindset my man.. True some people are more attractive.. But as a bald dude in his 20s with a dad bod I'm not a super attractive dude.. But who cares.. Some people will find you attractive, some won't. But ive gotten attractive women, because I just try.. What do you have to lose by just trying? Fake confidence until it feels normal
/r/seduction14/05/21 07:55 AM
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Just turned 28.. Throughout my 20s I avoided sex, dating, friends etc. I was scared.. Had social anxiety.. Trauma.. I told myself i would be happier being alone and doing what i loved for myself. Now! Im on the opposite end of the spectrum. I got out of a short term relationship I tried to force.. And now i realize how great connecting with people its. I want to date casually and if casual sex come from that then I m cool with it. Im not necessarily looking to just get cheeks. More so that i enj…
/r/seduction07/05/21 08:40 PM
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Its very hard.. But man you gotta do it.. Cliche af but time heals all wounds.. Took me a bit to pull my head out of my ass.. But lately im back and feeling good, talking up new girls etc. You got this and you will be ok, keep your head up
/r/seduction07/05/21 07:17 AM
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Only advice is to deal with it.. Got through it and keep rocking man.. No contact.. Block her and just push yourself to be better, learn from the experience and how to prevent it from happening again.
/r/seduction07/05/21 05:54 AM
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Ya I just replied the offer still stands if she wants to hangout before she leaves. Like i said not to stressed on it.. Good practice!
/r/seduction06/05/21 08:09 PM
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I did.. So they told me lastnight the friend i was into was only in town visiting for a few days. That she was going back home friday evening. So I reached out a bit ago and just said i enjoyed meeting her, and since she was leaving soon if she wanted to hangout again before she leaves I would love to link up tonight. She replied saying she had a boyfriend.. No big deal to me honestly. I just enjoyed the experience of getting out and meeting someone and the confidence boost of knowing its way ea…
/r/seduction06/05/21 08:00 PM
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Happened to me recently with a girl i was dating.. Initially she came onto me very hard, made me drop my gaurd and I started reciprocating. When she broke up with me after an arguement she hit me with "I just dont see myself loving you like you love me" in retrospect she had been losing interest over the span of a few weeks as I was being sweet and sending her cute messages etc. But heres the thing.. These are learning experiences. I dove to into the relationship to quickly. Became codependent q…
/r/seduction06/05/21 07:54 PM
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Agree I honestly have always been told im good company fun to be around, interesting etc. But this is by people like friends, or someone I have known initially for a long time where I feel more comfortable. This is the first time I was able to approach an attractive woman and just start talking. Sure I learned some social skills along the way via this sub, certain books etc. But those were more strategies not conversation. Like chatting up her friend for awhile and having fun with her to. Like n…
/r/seduction06/05/21 05:38 PM
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Well lately I have been doing alot of self improvement, working out etc. In that process ive been doing stuff to get me out of my comfort zone and make small progresses. IDK how to explain it, I just didnt notice then as much tonight. Like initially talking to her was a little intimidating for me, but once it happened a convo flowed organically and I just stopped caring or thinking about it.
/r/seduction06/05/21 05:25 PM
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Conpletely agree I normally would have, in this situation I got dragged out
/r/seduction06/05/21 05:21 PM
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I used an app called C25K (couch to 5k) its great at gradually building you up. For me I have always dreaded running, hadnt tried to run or jog in probably 6 years before trying this app. I was so surprised by the time it got to the actual 5 k run how well I handled it. Also used this to achieve something similar to OP. I had just gone through a breakup. I took a long hard look at myself and realized I needed to achieve goals and do things for myself and stop worrying so much about others.
/r/seduction02/11/20 08:03 PM
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Just because i dont have a social circle i dont think I'm less interesting then i think. For the first time in my life i am happy and i love myself. I have multiple hobbies, one of which makes me some good money. Ive built up my own business. Outside of that I exercise regularly, I read alot, study and learn new things. Have goals and ambitions I actively work toward achieving. I do alotnof things that make me complete other then dating the opposite sex. Im naturally just an introvert, my comfor…
/r/seduction24/06/20 09:47 PM
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Ya I just went through this.. Initially we were really into eachother because we were dependent on ourselves and not clingy.. After the. Breakup I exhibited some pretty cringe like habbits. I never heard back but looking back I would be so turned off in her position. In realitt if I wouldve left it alone there is a chance we couldve tried again after the dust settled
/r/seduction24/05/20 11:43 PM
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I keep having this issue.. I spent years of my life alone.. And i spent that time building myself up emotionally, spiritually, physically, and financially.. I met someone and it was great for awhile.. I felt she was genuinely really into me and invested and I in turn started to reciprocate that. It ended recently and I am torn up because of it.. I keep asking myself why do i feel this way? I spend all of my free time doing things to improve myself in some way. I spent years alone, so i feel comf…
/r/seduction15/05/20 10:07 PM
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I went through a major self inflicted dry spell because of low confidence. A month ago I met some girl, and hooked up... She worshiped me. Since then we are still talking and potentially pursuing a relationship. But anytime I start to second guess having a relationship with her i realize there are so many girls i know I could hook up with if I chose that route right now. And it makes the idea of this girl deciding she doesnt want to be with me so much easier then feeling like I need her validati…
/r/seduction21/04/20 02:32 PM
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I definetly don't measure my worth to anyone except for myself.. and I never said I think I need a good job or income to get women.. I said this in the sense that I know what will make me satisfied in life. And that's to be successfull, independently doing what I love.. what I have dreamt about for my entire life.. I have lazer focus on achieving this goal for personal reasons.. as a matter of fact I would run from anybody who begins to show interest in me because of my money, or career.
/r/seduction01/04/19 06:05 AM
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Ya in the same boat man.. about to turn 26 and haven't had sex since I was 21.. I mean I get horny and crave it every now and then but Ive been fine. Just like you, I am building and living the life I have always dreamed about, by no means am I successful yet, but I am on my path.. I kind of cringe at my roomates for acting Like I must be horribly depressed and lost without having sex. Like they think it is so important, and cant imagine how I can possibly live with myself. The thing is I have s…
/r/seduction01/04/19 03:40 AM
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Thats why i ask.. we were eye fucking eachother all night.. i could see it on her face she was down.. i just didnt know how to initiate
/r/seduction30/08/18 06:10 AM
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Thanks
/r/seduction06/06/18 09:51 PM
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Can't tell if your trolling or not..
/r/seduction05/12/17 07:39 AM
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