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Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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5	If being needy is the least attractive thing, why do so many needy guys end up doing well with women? Logic is the first casualty of emotions (which in turn is often driven by hormones).	/r/seduction	14/12/21 08:11 PM
2	[deleted by user] I've had a shocking amount of girls think I'm gay because I'm not trying to get in their pants within the first 30 seconds. I'd say she's just teasing you. You are refusing to answer her directly, so she's turned it into a game. If she thinks it makes you uncomfortable (in a playful sense), she might be doing it just to mess with you a bit. I doubt it's anything much more than that. If it's too bad, maybe just ask her why she is always asking that stuff about you and/or ask your friend (her bf) …	/r/seduction	14/12/21 08:09 PM
2	[deleted by user] They might be ready to fuck, but they still have standards and boundaries.	/r/seduction	14/12/21 07:54 PM
1	Men who are unsuccessful with women share one characteristic: they make excuses. Just tossing out here that it might also be a regional thing. In my area both men and women acknowledge that there is a massive disproportionate amount of shallow women and men who cheat/play games left and right making it almost impossible to find people who are interested in something potentially serious/long term (and the few who are, seem to experience chronic emotional whiplash/rebounding from the people playing games making them insecure as fuck about the next person creating a vicious cyc…	/r/seduction	14/12/21 07:51 PM
0	Girl stopped talking to me the moment I revealed that I was dating other girls You straight up lead her on by not being up front. I ghosted a female coworker for over a month now for the exact same shit, except in her case I had to find out from other people. Needles to say, I was pissed. Don't be surprised if your other coworkers are finding out you are a lying piece of shit also if she's the ranting venting type.	/r/seduction	10/12/21 10:34 AM
2	What do you do if you’re having sex with a girl and her pupils start dilating? Agreed, just shitting on people for trying to gain information (even if it is a generally stupid question) only discourages people from learning and getting better. It's okay to be bad at something. It's not okay to shame people at being bad at something, especially when they are trying to improve.	/r/seduction	04/12/21 04:17 PM
1	What do you do if you’re having sex with a girl and her pupils start dilating? No, but there are a lot of inquisitive idiots in the world. (As one who works retail I assure you that if anything this is an understatement) Not necessarily the case here, but it's true none the less.	/r/seduction	04/12/21 04:13 PM
7	Vulnerability is not being weak or soft, but rather being strong enough to deal with the consequences of exposing your true self, thoughts or feelings. "You go first" is a concept in a lot of therapy/psychology. Basically if you want them to open up, you do it first. People are more inclined to follow than take the initiative. Same concept applies here, by being more open and such you allow them to do the same. It also shows you are confident enough to just go first and do whatever without needing to gain their approval. It also shows you don't look superficially perfect. If you are TOO perfect, it reeks of game nonsense. This adds enough "weak…	/r/seduction	24/11/21 02:47 AM
1	How does someone become mysterious? Instructions unclear, how do you get chrome off your everything?	/r/seduction	06/11/21 03:25 AM
68	What’s the fastest way to loose your virginity That's the Speedrun strat right there.	/r/seduction	04/11/21 01:38 PM
6	What did I do wrong? Thirded	/r/seduction	08/10/21 02:06 PM
1	What did I do wrong? As others have said, getting her actual number would have been best. On snap, while I don't think it actually hurts you, she may have not noticed you in among the noise and didn't realize you added her even if she was interested. I don't have snap (or insta) so don't know how it works, but you could try sending a message (assuming you can without them adding you back?) pointing out who you are and such. If you can only send pictures, maybe a pic of the place you met? Again going on the assumptio…	/r/seduction	08/10/21 02:05 PM
4	What did I do wrong? If it was just some random person adding her (or some one she met irl briefly but didn't click with at all) I'd agree about being part of the noise. In this case OP was some one she met and they seemed to be hitting it off. In those cases, i doubt the mode of contact makes THAT significant of a difference. That said, I agree he should have gotten her number unless she explicitly preferred insta or snap over actual numbers. I know a girl like that who refuses to give out her actual number even am…	/r/seduction	08/10/21 01:55 PM
1	How do I tell a girl she is really nice? She works at a local coffee shop I frequent weekly I have a couple friends in Scotland and some of the shit they've told me combined with this makes me think y'all are even more fucked up than us Americans some times. That's an achievement no one should be striving for. Ever.	/r/seduction	07/10/21 08:50 AM
17	quick, I need a response for "Are you always so funny?" "Naw, some times I'm hilarious instead" or some such thing. Not everyone agrees, but not everyone is right for me to be investing time into either. Note: this is 100% how my actual baseline personality to make light of and generally laugh at everything so YMMV if you aren't a chronic pathological smart ass like me lol	/r/seduction	07/10/21 07:59 AM
5	Unprotected sex STDs: Gotta Catch'em All! (Actual parody song on YouTube, is as hilarious as it is fucked up)	/r/seduction	06/10/21 12:59 PM
5	Ask a number from a waitresses or a réception or any girl at service that seems Intrigued by me, do you think it's something one should or should never do and why ? Sure, but keep a few things in mind. They have to be nice to you, it's their job. If getting tips is part of their job, they will when flirt at times. Basically it's to their direct professions all benefit to make simps of all the patrons. With that in mind, don't assume she likes you because she's being nice or playful. Go for being friendly and social. Basically treat it as a long slow seduction. They get hit on and asked out a dozen times a day, you are just another number on that list. Build…	/r/seduction	05/10/21 08:48 PM
3	Does the scale really exist? It's super subjective and only useful when speaking in relative conceptual terms. Saying a specific person is a 10 means nothing since I might think of them as a 6 or so and vice versa. But if I mention "a 8" generically, then it's useful in the sense that people get an idea by their own internal measurements without splitting hairs about specifics. It's the same internal representation at play if some one says "imagine a chair". Different people will get a different mental image, but end of the…	/r/seduction	03/10/21 02:12 AM
2	What to do or say when she asks in "am I cute" She's being approval seeking. If you two are still friendly terms (I'll assume so, of not just ignore her outright) she might still value you opinion even if you aren't actively in a relationship anymore. If you are interested in getting back with her or not changes the reply. If not? Just be honest, no biggie. If so, then realize she's trying to gain your stamp of approval in some way and act accordingly. Either way I doubt there is anything to be gained by being an asshole so I wouldn't say an…	/r/seduction	03/10/21 01:59 AM
1	How do you not lose your shit when talking to a 10? I try not to hold people's generic disadvantages against them. Think about it, they are hot and perfect 10 etc..... You have any idea how much of a pain in the ass that must be for them having every random dude that sees them instantly popping a boner and thinking of them as a trophy fuck idolizing them instead of actually treating them like a normal human being? 5s and 6s don't have to deal with that shit, only 9s and 10s do. They have the same bullshit life and problems as anyone else. Sure th…	/r/seduction	03/10/21 01:44 AM
2	How to pick up a girl? Feet forward placed firmly shoulder width apart. Bend at the knees. Wrapping your arms around her tightly around the waste to secure your grip, lift with your legs. You have now safely picked her up. (Sorry, not sorry) Seriously though, if there is a way for you two to be seeing each other just say hi and basic small talk stuff. It's the simple stuff that works surprisingly well. If you need to arrange a meeting, maybe your mutual friend can help set something up. Group hang out makes it a lot s…	/r/seduction	03/10/21 01:25 AM
1	Guys can someone tell me how to do cocky funny properly ? Sometimes I get like bad results sometimes good Two girls at work are talking about some one, no idea what or who. I join in with some random nonsense like "don't worry, you don't need to be so secretive about how awesome I am." I generally get a laugh and bring told I'm not the subject of their conversation to which I act (with cartoonish exaggeration) incredibly hurt and disappointed. More laughs and usually I'm filled in at that point. Girl I'm at least casually acquainted with regularly is acting very distracted and such? Obviously she's …	/r/seduction	03/10/21 01:06 AM
1	How attractive really is it when a guy shows vulnerability? I, ironically, had an issue with being perceived as "too perfect" once. Not that I'm the perfect dream man, but the guy who has nothing wrong going on. I didn't learn until later that it made girls suspicious. In reality I was a fucking train wreck. The solution I've found (via a lot of trail and epic failure) was contextual showing of failings. Don't just randomly volunteer it, but if context is there feel free to share a little. Don't make it a focus, just a casual matter if fact. Focus too mu…	/r/seduction	02/10/21 04:22 PM
1	[deleted by user] No problem. It's not as bad as some of the shit I've done, by far lol It's not a matter of how you fucked up yesterday, it's about realizing what went wrong and working on fixing it. After a few days you could try to just set up something simple like getting coffee or something (Wendy's frosties are good) Simple small commitment for time and mindset (ie she can leave anytime so it's not threatening, and getting coffee/smoothie/whatever is casual enough it feels more like hanging out than a date)…	/r/seduction	02/10/21 11:29 AM
1	[deleted by user] Cringe as fuck. Admitting to lying just to see her? Every red flag, why wouldn't she expect you to lie about more now? Comes of as neurotic at best, manipulative and/or unstable at worst. Instead of saying you were lying, could have just said "actually I was just looking for an excuse to see you" and sure it comes off as needy but some might find it cute or sweet. Thing is tough, you don't even need that. You've already seen her a couple times and she was even ready to bang apparently. In my exp…	/r/seduction	02/10/21 01:52 AM
1	[deleted by user] Humor. Everything about all social interactions with me is making people laugh and smile. How can they say you are being disrespectful or "they aren't interested" etc if they are laughing and smiling? Even if they do, just roll with it and turn their interruptions into part of your routine. Use anything and everything in your environment as a resource for you to transform and redeploy as an asset. Not sure how you could learn something like this though. Personally I just make light of everything…	/r/seduction	28/09/21 06:09 PM
2	[deleted by user] In short, if you don't have a few minutes to chat, then it ain't gonna happen. This is by far one of the weakest parts of my interactions, but I can 100% tell you asking in the first sentence will NOT work except by pure dumb luck.	/r/seduction	28/09/21 05:48 PM
3	What do you do when a girl stares at you? say Hi and then just spontaneously word vomit stuff and it usually works out. Yup that's my go to also. It always works out (or at least doesn't fail miserably), and yet I'm still shocked every time it does.	/r/seduction	27/09/21 03:16 AM
3	First time flirting with a stranger, failed miserably "After all, kids are imaginative and free spirited. People get too set in their ways when they get older and loose that spark that makes us truly human instead of just some robot grinding away at a job we hate." or something along those lines could have possibly saved that blunder (or at least major damage control). As is..... not gonna lie, it almost sounds pedophilic which is possibly why she reacted so harshly and so abruptly. Still, live and learn I guess.	/r/seduction	27/09/21 03:07 AM
1	Got flaked on twice this weekend. Pretty down about it I've learned to not make too many assumptions in these situations, but that is kind of strange. Since you are both on iPhones, does she have that thing enabled where you can see if messages are seen/read by the other person? If so, it might be worth to just shoot a small "Hey, you okay?" type thing (acting as if the assumption is she may have had a car accident or something) but that'd be it. No chasing after her, or anything of that nature. If it shows she's seen it but still no reply then yeah…	/r/seduction	27/09/21 02:39 AM