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| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - July 28, 2026FR - Friday I get shit tests while fucking hand over mouth, ball gag, take your pick and then caveman and don't stop until she shuts the fuck up. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 29/07/26 03:40 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 12, 2026Over the last few years I've cut out most artificial foods, packaged shit from the inside aisles of the grocery store. She's followed suit. This year is the 2nd year of her garden. I built some trellises, setup the electric fence, plowed the field, etc. Literally, as a "plowhorse". In the end it was worth it because I'm going to have better foods to eat. Did she think of this? Nope. But eventually she did say thank you, and "I guess I can stop buying X now also because we are growing Y." My resp… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 14/05/26 03:55 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 12, 2026I'll need some time to grieve and sort out the logistics, probably a few week What are you a fucking woman? Get your head out of your ass and go out spin plates and enjoy life. You're 26 years old the world is your fucking oyster. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 14/05/26 03:47 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 31, 2026What I mean is, if I tried the 10-second kiss thing, I'd probably get to two seconds before she would pull away. who is in control here? I interpret this as a battle for frame, a shit test, where she is trying on to hold on to her frame instead of entering mine. or she just isn't your slut I have treated it with a combination of communicating expectations (love, affection, sex) yet again, and standard shit test handling procedures (STFU, AM, AA, cocky & funny etc.). This diffuses the situation, … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 31/03/26 11:40 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 24, 2026it’s like I could only tap into this flow state if I felt like I could offer her something real and long term. Relationships and keeping them up are on the woman. Stop giving a fuck and just fuck. Im scared as fuck and I’m a pussy apparently. Fixed that, now get to work. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 25/03/26 04:04 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 24, 2026If this was/is hysterical bonding, I'll enjoy it as long as it lasts. You have talked about divorce to her multiple times, that little card is losing face value. It lasts as long as you set it out to be, you in control of the boat or not? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 25/03/26 11:41 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 24, 2026What the fuck will happen if i die tomorrow? Why do you care? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 25/03/26 11:38 AM |
| 5 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 17, 2026Have accepted help from family & friends which is humiliating What should be humiliating is where you are and who you are. Asking for help and making strides to clean your shit up shows effort, now don't fuck it up and burn bridges for those who extended an olive branch. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/03/26 08:21 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 17, 2026Like a bit of a smart ass I asked if she was able to do anything about it which shut her down more, later in the car I empathized with her, and then later I played around with her and invited her to have some fun with me. She laughed and started to get out of her mood but didn’t qualify. I started brainstorming what how I could Neg, DHV, and present another hoop but couldn’t think of anything. Later she came up to me, blamed me for her bad mood and asked me to lift her up more not push her down.… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/03/26 12:32 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 17, 2026Relationship: (TLDR: Its Over) no it isn't, see below Flash forward to last week (so this is about 8-9 months after the first, another visit to said friend happened you're still together at this point SHE has (seriously, she does) and she realized shes seriously depressed. Problem is now that she's not confiding in me anyway, we have one "good" talk, then it's business as usual - this is also how I know I'm not really good enough to be and give the safe place a woman needs, im just the cucked be… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/03/26 12:26 PM |
| 6 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 17, 2026I want my kids to grow up in an intact core family if at all possible. I do it out of my felt responsibility for them. If it weren't for the kids, I would have nuked it long ago, but here I am, still dragging my feet. You have not taken ownership of anything, you blame your lack of willingness to act on what say you want vs you believe your kids should see. The reality is your balls snugly are locked in her purse. Realize kids are way fucking smarter and attentive than we all give them credit fo… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/03/26 12:11 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 10, 2026I can't decide if you're intentionally being a retard or really are one. You are in a LTR and are unhappy.....walk the fuck away if you are miserable and go find plates to spin. Oh wait, that's right you can't, you have to be white knight mode and support the damsel you distressed. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 10/03/26 08:46 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 03, 2026The rest of the week I initiated when I wanted and never got declined 3 days in a row, so never got truly tested my OI Take what they have been taught as their main Ace in the hole away, keep it, don't let it go. The test is coming, she will dial back again to see if you fall back to old habits and deal with mediocrity. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 03/03/26 01:20 PM |
| 4 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 03, 2026I'm thinking about switching from the audiobook 'Can't Hurt Me' to the audiobook NMMNG. Finish what you start or you'll reinforce bad habits and they tend to propagate. Most women tell me how unhappy they are with dating or their relationship. I don't quite know yet how to use that to my advantage. Display higher value(lift, hygiene, clothing, swagger, confidence, no verbal puke), read up on how to blow through the boyfriend defense and then practice, practice, practice. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 03/03/26 01:18 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 24, 2026How does one parent a son to not be a nice guy? If you're asking yourself this, you aren't unfucked enough yourself to even begin to advise your son on it, better off giving him the reading list and he can make progress faster and then take notes from him. How can I lead the family in the right parenting style to accomplish this? See above, until you get your shit together and get your path laid out, this is futile to even think about. Here is a breadcrumb though, discuss go through with your so… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 25/02/26 08:36 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 24, 2026Reading: The courage to be disliked The subtle art of not giving a fuck, give that one a try if you find the other too dry. Its quick and to the point | /r/MarriedRedPill | 24/02/26 05:51 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 24, 2026“SOMEONE has to do the dishes around here…” near me and I just didn’t say anything I prefer "Sounds like you are motivated, you'll do a great job, appreciate you jumping in to help out getting this work done". Then STFU and walk off and continue to do what you were doing. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 24/02/26 05:46 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 24, 2026The days following my success at sex I felt a lot less interested in being super strict with my plans, I had urges to browse reddit/instagram more, play videogames, not work out, eat some extra carbs etc… but I powered through regardless. I am being tested whether this is all some LARP and I need to prove to myself that it is not. That's your old self validation from getting laid trying to put you back into old habits. Keep pushing and ignore it, it fades. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 24/02/26 05:43 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 24, 2026I like: "This isn't working for me." This should be a right of passage for every man worth his weight in salt. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 24/02/26 05:41 PM |
| 4 | How do you socialize...fucking hell stop LARPing and get to work. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 22/02/26 05:05 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 17, 2026Also, with some men claiming not to marry and simply stay as LTR, what made you decide to marry? This is a simple math equation and keeps flying over heads but lets break it down simple: are you the captain and she is on board and complimentary to your course? do you get everything you want from the relationship portion the first mate provides? have you prepared that no matter what, that bitch can jump ship if she feels like it and if you haven't prepared, then you get fucked proper? are you pre… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/02/26 01:51 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 17, 2026Where does that leave me? Right where everyone said it would 3 months ago when you came up with this idea I'm focusing on other things except being a proper capain All my married friends told me when we moved in "it might suck at first, give it a few months", so I'm giving it the little benefit of the doubt. misery loves company, next they will all be getting tramp stamps and belly button piercings, you gonna follow suit? If nothing, I'll have the benefit of saying to myself that I've really tri… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/02/26 12:30 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 03, 2026But asking permission ahead of time not permission as much as boundary discussion depending on what all you are getting into. if its vanilla stuff just roll, if you are venturing into BDSM and beyond, yeah its laying ground rules and ensuring everyone is in agreement. talking about taking it further another time right after having sex will do more damage than good Caring for your slut 101. After you've had your absolute way with her and she's either an emotional wreck or still quivering; afterca… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 06/02/26 09:31 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 03, 2026Currently doing a deep dive on the subreddits for posts related to frame. Frame is who you are when everything else is stripped away....saved you a fuckton of reading now go figure it out. She looks at me and I say “you don’t get what you want until I get what I want” with a smile Missed opportunity to caveman and fuck the hell out of her. “I don’t feel good and I’m just trying to hold it together and all I want to do is watch the show.” To which I reply “well then go put on something silky” sti… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 03/02/26 07:08 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 03, 2026She then goes on to tell me that she’s not really into some of the things we’ve introduced (dirty talk, anything that might be considered taboo, etc). I respond, "Ok - I'll keep doing what I want", but this does confuse me, she still has her hands wrapped around my dick - she’s been more enthusiastic than ever. She’s not wrong though - she believes this - it’s “her truth” Anti Slut Defense (ASD) is a condition created by societal programming experienced by women wherein they attempt to avoid sex… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 03/02/26 07:02 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 20, 2026The beauty in that statement is the first part of the sentence rather than the latter. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/01/26 04:22 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 20, 2026Let's also hope he realizes who's frame he fucks in when he does this. Getting fucked rather than doing the fucking is what I am leaning towards based on who is running the situaionships. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/01/26 06:24 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 20, 2026My wife doesn’t know what she needs. When she talks about her “needs,” she is talking about her feelings and her feelings change constantly. if /u/stumblingmrp gets anything from this week, this right here is gold | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/01/26 06:18 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 13, 2026A lot of my self image is tied up in being smart, probably because I don't have much else to offer. Until you get right from this statement nothing else is going to matter. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 14/01/26 12:44 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 06, 2026I need to remove my head from sphincter. I’ll keep my eyes wide open. Lifting, reading, shutting my little mouth. I like the idea of spinning plates, even if not necessary sexually. I can get behind that. Start and stay simple with it, everything will snowball. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 07/01/26 12:48 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 06, 2026I am prone to falling off the wagon during these holiday/vacation weeks You can de-load which works great, or if you have sick fuck tendencies like some, you inflict punishment. Want that slice of pie, welp there's 500kcals, before you even start really digesting it, go run 3-5 miles or do a sprint workout. Pie wont feel like such a good idea. Oh cookies were a good idea, that extra serving of whatever good tasting stuff was on the menu, hope it was worth it cause there's a good shot its partial… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 06/01/26 06:57 PM |
| 6 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 06, 2026date for 3 months before exclusivity is even considered No meeting my kids for 6 months No consideration of re-marriage for 2 years minimum Contraception every time Meet her parents to see where she comes from (my exs mom is nuts, I ignored this) Constantly asking “what can she do for me?” Get my shit together and figure out what i want from the universe There fixed it for you | /r/MarriedRedPill | 06/01/26 06:50 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - December 30, 2025Wiley E. Coyote style with anvils and dynamite instead of building a proper base. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 31/12/25 05:06 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - December 30, 2025I'm open to the idea that i've been retarded, but how exactly can I lead better here? My wife simply can't stomach the idea of being separate yet. Simple, you tell her to STFU, and put the kid in the room, let them sleep. Sit outside the fucking door if you have to keep her from walking in and trying to be with the baby just because they whimper. Leaving an infant screaming for hours on end, yes this is bad, but a little bit of separation goes a long way. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 31/12/25 05:03 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - December 23, 2025The answer in both cases is that I like it and I'm enjoying it. If I see that change in a couple months, I can make a different choice. That would require him being honest, he can't even be that with himself let alone another individual, woman or man. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 25/12/25 02:58 AM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - December 23, 2025The answer in both cases is that I like it and I'm enjoying it. If I see that change in a couple months, I can make a different choice. No you don't, no you aren't and no you won't. Everyone in this place has warned you repeatedly but you keep following the wet hole and endorphin release rather than even making the slightest attempt at using a single firing neuron in your brain cavity. Horns served you on a silver platter and you are like, naw dog i want platinum instead, fuck you and your advic… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 25/12/25 02:56 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - December 16, 2025This is wrong and counterproductive to developing my own frame. Frame is who you are, not determined by changing I/O, it's just you at a fundamental level. Satisfying that "who" portion by modifying "your" I/O is what you should be striving to do. Make you happy, if the promoted plate doesn't follow suit and you gotta cut bait, cut it loose. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/12/25 03:30 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - December 09, 2025make goals, steps to the goals, write your goals, steps to get there, what you are doing to get there. Your OYS is just bouncing all over the fucking place and until you get your writing in line and thoughts following, nothing else is worth diving in to. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 10/12/25 08:01 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - December 09, 2025I'm being more selective as I'm starting to understand my sexual market value. I have about 40-50 matches the last 6 months. Dated/plated 5 of them. Yet, fucked none? what was the point? I steer away from single moms and it's a lot of them. They screw just as much or more than the others, they already have the fuck trophies at home to prove it. Sport fuck and leave em when necessary. The younger the better; more feminine and less emotional baggage. False, haven't been in the world or dealt with … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 10/12/25 12:45 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - December 02, 2025eloquent as usual and makes complete sense | /r/MarriedRedPill | 08/12/25 05:17 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - December 02, 2025ok, so unfuck it. ill take my hits and learn something. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 05/12/25 07:34 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - December 02, 2025oh? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 04/12/25 03:18 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - December 02, 2025resigned “ok” and duty vibes sometimes you aren't on the same page, and guess what, that's ok. You can just stop and say to hell with it and go at it again later(your game should be all day 24/7 at this point so its just fun). Communicating in the moment is key, being a monk lets her know you are an autist and/or a child who will pout and close up when things go to pot. Now if you tell her what she did repulses you and you don't find her attractive, then you reap the consequences. A simple "I'm … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 02/12/25 08:24 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - December 02, 2025And when I lack trust in myself, share insecurities and weaknesses the women fail to trust me. No that's cause they are shitty people and you promoted the wrong ones. Sharing yourself with a woman and being openly emotional if need be is not a bad thing if its the right one. The wrong ones are why they stay plates and should never reach promotion status. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 02/12/25 08:09 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - December 02, 2025She'll often want to get herself off at night and not return the favor since “it keeps her up”. At the same time she'll ask me to help out Unless you get a hard no stop being a little bitch and fuck your wife. On the sex front I don't know if it's better or worse. Are you in charge or not, sounds like you aren't, may want to unfuck yourself and figure out what you really want? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 02/12/25 07:17 PM |
| 6 | Own Your Shit Weekly - December 02, 2025So I told her “this doesn’t need to be an awkward topic anymore All women are whores, except our mothers and they are on probation. Yeah she got fucked hard before you, accept it and move the fuck on, or you'll keep coming back to it | /r/MarriedRedPill | 02/12/25 07:14 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - November 18, 2025The morning after the date I caught myself feeling very needy. I thought about what I was feeling and realized that I was insecure over the quality of sex that morning compared to how great the sex had been earlier in the week. The average sex felt like a threat to my inflated ego. Who cares, got dick wet and dumped a load. Every time fucking/having sex doesn't have to be a 3 ring circus acid induced mind melt. Just enjoy the fun of it, its just sex. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/11/25 06:06 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - November 18, 2025After sex I change the dynamic; i'm intentionally pulling back in order to be the prize and avoid oneitis/overinvesting/heartbreak. You aren't aligned yet at all, this is all LARPing shit. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/11/25 06:04 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - November 18, 2025How do you believe I can be the most authentic/attractive? That's for you to figure out, no one else. You can read what others have done, try different methods and incorporate to your own OODA loop. You are the only one who can look into the mirror and see reflected what you want to become and your true self. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/11/25 06:01 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - November 11, 2025adding to what the others said. You are both sleep deprived and will be for quite a fucking while so best get used to being a functional captain that way. adjusting to life as a functional couple with an angry ass plant that just wants fed, watered and changed in various orders 24/7 is not for the faint. Last week I mentioned I was sleeping alone in the master bedroom now. I'll admit I like this more than I thought. I get full nights sleep and not helping with the baby in the middle of the night… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 12/11/25 03:09 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - November 11, 2025I'm ready to be wrong good step I know I am in some ways not ready for what's to come, but it just gets me so excited to find out. make your list and fill the gaps, don't figure it out on the fly if you know things ahead of time I'm hungry for this challenge, I want to know myself in this situation, and I do think it will bring me clarity of how I want my future to look like, besides it being fun and making my schedule much better for other stuff in my life. Putting yourself into a situation sho… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/11/25 01:02 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - November 04, 2025do i WANT a relationship with people who can't respect me? I'm still exploring that. really simple...ready.....FUCK THAT SHIT. If you don't respect yourself no one else will and it shows by what you are willing to put up with. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 05/11/25 02:53 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - November 04, 2025A shitty experience, but that somehow bonded us a bit. It restored a little bit of her confidence in me, and in us. A long road to go, but maybe there's light at the end of the tunnel. Her job is the relationship not yours, steer the fucking boat. I'm thinking the inability to resolve conflict in the past 15+ years is what drove a huge wedge between us. No that's you being a shitty leader is all | /r/MarriedRedPill | 04/11/25 09:27 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - November 04, 2025Essentially, why am I mad at her for going outside of the marriage and talking to Kevin when I get sexual pleasure outside the marriage? Missed opportunity to throw her over and fuck the bitch out of her right there in the office, would have been great use of a fuck sock and then send her on her way and go back to work like nothing happened. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 04/11/25 01:18 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 28, 2025Your OYS reflects where you are really at, which is nowhere. You tried and failed at things, welcome to the world, shit happens. You "used everything I learned here", then decided oneitis was a good path for a young piece of ass and are now in a hole again. You LARP'd that is all. There is nothing but excuses for your shitty behavior in your OYS. STFU and get to work on yourself. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 31/10/25 12:16 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 28, 2025it means read the fucking sidebar, but if you need a pointer finger heres one start here | /r/MarriedRedPill | 31/10/25 12:06 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 28, 2025Could be peri-menopause related, but not full menopause. That wouldn’t be an excuse though. Not to play devils advocate here but mine is in the middle of this shit and hitting stride on full tilt menopause so take it for what its worth. The hormone shift is a real thing and as much as women want help any other fucking time for opening a jar, they wont ask for it when they are that much out of sync. They feel entirely out of control as their bodies are literally going apeshit from changing again.… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 31/10/25 12:02 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 28, 2025echoing what mrpwtf said. As the captain does your first mate know their duties? Those points you listed above are dogshit if you are sailing the ship right. If you want a symoblic reference. your hand is burning, you either let go and get the vinegar or go put it under the sink and make it worse. but I can’t fathom my wife having an affair. If nothing else, the anxiety it would generate would destroy her said every man who's wife was out getting plowed, never think they are any different and do… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 31/10/25 11:51 AM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 28, 2025you really went the whole stick dick in crazy, make a deposit and find out way. No point in leaving right now anyway. When you start like this you'll never learn your own value. Not where I need to be socially. Proven by your current rushed situationship. LEO's have already not just been threatened but called, if you aren't doing every piece or prep work to gtfo and documenting everything and handing it to a lawyer then you need to re-prioritize immediately. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 29/10/25 10:37 AM |
| 6 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 28, 2025it’s giving my brain more time alone with myself and more time to be anxious about my wife having an EA She's not yours it is or was only your turn. If you are still thinking about this, you aren't un-fucked or even close to getting there. Who are you doing this for? Blarg hinted to you last week in one of his many scribes, women gonna women. How you decide to proceed with your own life is the question, you wanna dance try to keep mommy happy with balls in purse while Chad and Tyrone take turns,… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 28/10/25 02:47 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 21, 2025TLDR of the TLDR: It's not your job to mate-guard. It's hers. This goes back to that comment above on the 20%. The other 80% skipped right past this and/or see it as unattainable. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 23/10/25 11:09 AM |
| 4 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 21, 2025So my two options are 1) fulfill her needs and get taken advantage of, or 2) don't meet her needs and she tries to get them met outside the marriage? Just fucking re-read that and if you cant figure out what everyone else took time out of their busy ass days to point you in the right direction + seeing how fucking retarded this is, you are fucking lost. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/10/25 08:47 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 21, 2025I did lose my shit at one point and spiked a fountain drink into the grocery store parking lot and the kids also melted down before bedtime. I’m still taking this as a win. Stop lying to yourself. Your anger needs to be addressed until you get that under control, anything you read, try to put foot forward, etc. Its all for nothing because you consistently lose your temper and show that you are not capable of being in charge of yourself let alone lead anyone else. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/10/25 11:44 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 14, 2025Been holding back at work a lot, not feeling like I could be smart or capable enough to take on more responsibilities, worried that I could mess up. Will inherit my uncle's company when he dies, don't want to piss him off. This past few weeks I have tried to take on more responsibilities, and there are a few things I messed up, but they were not too big and my uncle helped me save face. Held back a lot in the past due to fear of screwing up, and now trying to believe that I am not stupid, and th… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 16/10/25 12:04 AM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 14, 2025resentments, fears, angers etc. that I have held onto for so long. keep going, getting closer. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/10/25 12:02 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 14, 2025UNATTRACTIVE TENDENCIES all of those things are not different reasons, you just found excuses no to say the real problem. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 14/10/25 04:58 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 14, 2025I told her later that I have a plan and I will work on myself. She wasn’t really responsive and just told me she doesn’t know what she wants anymore. STFU | /r/MarriedRedPill | 14/10/25 04:56 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 07, 2025I’m experiencing some insecurity in the leadership role I’ve taken, especially after giving a presentation/ group discussion. My nice guy, retard, brain starts spinning, thinking if I had said the “wrong” thing and thinking what others are thinking about me. If your group is achieving the end goal, you are leading, if they are getting there with the two E's, you are leading. The captain listens to feedback and helps make the ship better. Let everything else go. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 08/10/25 10:49 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 30, 2025this forum is not the right place for me? look in the mirror and ask that question, not any individual here can answer that but you. No one is coming to save you, so you either want to walk a path or you don't. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 04/10/25 04:01 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 30, 2025She’s lucky because I’m learning my value and getting IOI’s consistently, so yeah the sex should stay good. Wrong again. If you don't know by now any guy with decent game, looks, etc. could fuck her and she wouldn't care if you were watching, then you are really blind. Nice you get IOI's and she can see that, wooohooo spray the party favors. How about just work on being a fucking captain and not giving a fuck what the world thinks, if the first mate stays great, if not then that's why you should… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 01/10/25 08:41 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 30, 2025I believe this is why MRP is RP on hard mode. You aren't married, you are choosing to be in a LTR and play hard mode, you keep the plate in promotion status. Nothing wrong with that, but you are playing RP on hard mode by not keeping 2 in the kitty. Lucky for her, we have gone from having sex, to fucking, and that has been keeping me very interested. Why is she lucky? Since when was fucking about her? Hypergamy is at work baby You are still hiding behind words and it shows. You aren't living you… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 01/10/25 11:39 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 30, 2025Well since you are a real long shot, how about the easy way: ask yourself "WHY" read the side bar and do the work no one cares, look at your OYS and responses to the others and see point 1 above and think about it. If you cant get past point 1 then yeah .5% was being generous and you aren't going to right the ship. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 01/10/25 11:30 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 16, 2025I don't need to write down any more specific goals and feeling like I've accomplished something. You are still missing the point of writing down a goal, its not about "oh I've arrived, here's my dopamine let me rub one out." Its measurable tick marks towards your consistent growth and evolution in your journey. "If" you don't have any measurable goals or metrics to move yourself forward, you'll always believe you are in a state of failure, and that isn't a good place to be. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/09/25 06:27 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 16, 2025Posted goals last week, won't be doing that going forward. Heard Stone say something about posting goals is a cheap dopamine hit as you trick yourself into celebrating before achieving anything. How the fuck do you know what you are working on and what to measure against unless you write it down and go through the OODA loop? If you write down a goal and celebrate how awesome you think you may be, yeah that's your own fault. Putting pen to paper and seeing/reminding what you are currently working… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/09/25 12:42 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 16, 2025Several times, I felt like I worked through them during the day but then they showed up again in the middle of the night, disturbing my sleep for hours. If you cant get over that all women are whores and yours more than likely isn't an outlier, then you you haven't internalized the reading. If she is your whore and you are good with that, why they fuck do you care about shit that happened decades ago? Outside of being too fucked up from a workout and muscles cramping, screaming about the hell yo… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/09/25 12:38 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 09, 2025Interestingly a boundary was established at me - "you can't let me go to sleep crying". I've said "Sure. As long as it doesn't go over my own boundaries - I'm here to tell you I love you and give you a little pep talk but I'm not here to spend hours on phone calls every time you're emotional because of me". Is this plate really worth staying promoted is what you need to be asking yourself? amongst a myriad of other items already commented on. Your mission still sucks and you have no semblance of… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 10/09/25 11:55 AM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 09, 2025That a whole lot of text for a net 0 return. You need to just go back to the sidebar, read, DO, keep doing and get some shit together. Your why am I here is a joke, if you cant see why then you aren't ready to do anything about it. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 09/09/25 09:35 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 02, 2025Am I destined to just crash again until I get so sick of myself that I get off my ass and do something? Or where can I get that strength and passion to do the work? Where did you guys get it? Did you just always have it? Until you are really sick of who looks back at you in the mirror | /r/MarriedRedPill | 05/09/25 07:08 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 02, 2025neither of those are problems, just woman bullshit. like "worried about her job" yeah this one never stops, feelz work here, what works in my scenario is "I hear you and you aren't a tree, you can uproot whenever and find a new job more to your liking" - I don't directly solve her problem but now she gets support and then goes off and forgets about it almost immediately and for another few months because its on her to do something about it not me. "worried about her son attending a new school" -… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 05/09/25 02:55 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 02, 2025"I know, I understand. And we still have to worry about that when we get back home. But isn't this nice, we're looking at the ocean and enjoying a drink." Food for thought, you danced. This was like a telling the car salesman the lights are busted out and he is telling you the windshield tint makes driving at night easier. "I have thought about X, I know how X can be resolved, I'll handle it" - then insert rest of flirting line with spouse - then do it when you get back. Man of action, captain t… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 04/09/25 02:49 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 02, 2025For fuck sake put down TWOTSM, you cant even stay on the straight and narrow with working out and eating let alone anything else. A few times during the trip when conversations started to wander into stressful subjects, I made sure to shift the mood back to fun and vacation mode. Case in point, you aren't leading you are diverting and being a bitch. Leaders don't falter when under stress or shit starts getting real, that's when you are going to find out who you truly are, or you shrink and kneel… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 03/09/25 04:24 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 02, 2025so what the fuck are you actually doing about that? You didn't even answer Stones question truthfully. "I am" is something you are lacking, want is dogshit, need is a drive. Until you are really sick of who looks back at you in the mirror, you are wasting time. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 03/09/25 04:16 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 26, 2025This is a fucking mess and your main reason here is for sex only, if you want to get laid shell out some big boy cash and bang hookers with whatever fantasy you can afford.....if you want to do something worthwhile, go back to the fucking sidebar, do the reading and write an OYS worth a shit next week or don't | /r/MarriedRedPill | 27/08/25 08:15 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 26, 2025I decided what we'd eat, got the ingredients and cooked it. I also notice when I'm at work and my wife is the one to cook that night, she more often asks me what I would like for dinner. I now say whatever comes to mind, instead of hesitating, ping-ponging ideas, or leaving it up to her. This one is soooo fucking simple, yet most guys here fuck it up. Deciding what to eat and sticking to it is one of the easiest leadership items to check off the list. I notice my daughter is getting more rebelio… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 27/08/25 08:11 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 19, 2025And yet it is preached here to vet women for at least 6-12 months, to let the facade fade away. Because as horns said 95% of men cant vet for shit, you may think you can, but making a poorly timed rash decision because you slip up while getting your carrot wet can lead to a lot of fucking regret and buyers remorse. If it flies, floats of fucks, lease it....if you buy it then you take on all responsibility for how much it will fuck your life up. Tbh I don't even understand what you mean, what res… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/08/25 11:46 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 12, 2025Fuck because you want to fuck and give your woman your time and energy. Simple but difficult for some. If there is no purpose, then I decide the meaning of my life. And that is scary. Not because of eternity, but because I know the weight of my decision. Simple answer again, don't be a little bitch/coward. When you make a decision it can go a few ways, if it goes tits up, own it, learn from it, soldier on. Fear of zeroing out will do great things in holding you back from achieving anything great… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 14/08/25 01:00 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - July 08, 2025I'm internalizing that "the plan" is the same, no matter the status of the relationship You were married and are in love again and in a 3.5yr LTR. You dont know what your plan is. Throw TWOTSM over to the fucking side and hit TRM and the sidebar, reflect on your #1-3 and evaluate your plan going forward. Had to tell her I don't have time to argue. I need to work on curbing our intellectual talks and pick up when she's in an argumentative mood. Or you could state your point and shut the fuck up. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 09/07/25 09:32 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - July 01, 2025like i said last week, shes fucking someone else you just wont accept it yet. Either stop being the "safe" bet for her or accept mediocrity. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 01/07/25 08:52 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 24, 2025I had a rotation of plates. I switched to one relationship. But I do understand how the way I wrote it can come off as mental masturbation. Always keep 2 in the kitty. Seems like all the reading and lifting didn't get me there. self reflection, look in the mirror Also I did read the post you linked before starting my OYS. Does my writing seem not focused, full of feelings, or lacking thought? break it down, outline your mission, goals, steps to get there, what did you do since last time, what wo… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 24/06/25 01:24 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 24, 2025I had been thinking about a vasectomy recently, but Athol Kay recommended it only as a last resort Who gives a shit what he thinks about getting a Vasectomy? Its a personal choice about either wanting more offspring or not via normal baby batter range time with a woman. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 24/06/25 11:13 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 24, 2025although I'm getting more and more attractive as a person You got a line of plates you are stacking and fucking, if the answer is no then stop mentally masturbating with lines like this. Even meeting once a week is sometimes met with shit tests or low desire, so something's probably not right. Congrats, she is probably fucking a few other people and you are just now catching on. When we're vacationing the vibe is sexual and positive as well. In general I got to a point where I'm attractive and g… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 24/06/25 11:10 AM |
| 5 | For those who’ve learned to manage or reduce their sex drive, how has that affected your interactions with women, particularly in avoiding manipulation or unhealthy situations?crosspost a few more times and go write your beta book somewhere else | /r/MarriedRedPill | 12/06/25 12:43 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 03, 2025What do you mean by this? The only part of my world that I feel like I don't have a handle on is the one that involves intimacy. solo means do things by yourself and figure out what you want that includes sex. ask yourself the hard questions and answer them. Then you get to work. I don't share my life mission, purpose, etc because I share as little personal information as possible to avoid being doxed. Then you arent ready to be here and before you say yes you are, or why do you say that, read w… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 04/06/25 02:26 AM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 03, 2025I think this is part of the epic test, but I also need to decide what I want. no, not even close, this is OYS#6 and you still dont know what the fuck you want, cant STFU, etc. Your spouse knows your verbal puke and lets you stomp on your dick while they hold your balls in their purse. But on Saturday went to a beer festival during the day with a close friend and my LTR so are you fucking another woman or how the fuck do you define a LTR? Sex: you dont know what you want == sex is fubar. Then you… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 03/06/25 08:15 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 03, 2025what u/BoringandSucks said, bulk up and work on looking good. You are at OYS 1, put down TWOTSM dont blow your hand off before you learn how to stop jerking yourself off and use it properly. Also you are in a LTR, not married, drop the fucking MMSLP Your sex life sucks because you have no idea what you want. Your girl isnt into it because she can sense you are scared to act like a a fucking primitive cave man when needed. Hit the sidebar not just the books. Gotta define yourself before you go an… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 03/06/25 04:57 PM |
| 0 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 03, 2025Relevant from SGM: "some men don't even enjoy having sex, they enjoy the fact that they are having sex". Both situations seem to apply for me, at different times. I need to learn how to tell the difference and cut out the latter. So the latter is enjoying the fact and the former you list is not enjoying it at all,, and you want to eliminate the latter........so you want to be a monk, go live in a monestary if that suits you. You areo on OYS 10 and it still sucks, READ THIS its not that fucking h… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 03/06/25 11:57 AM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 03, 2025Read Read More You are 100% in mommmys frame. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 03/06/25 11:44 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 27, 2025What I am saying is that your frame is really tested when you are in a serious relationship as is your ability to live with outcome independence and abundance. When you are spinning multiple plates and you get tested, it’s very easy to next then and not so the work. Before someone else backhands you for this horse shit....... If you think a serious relationship is a frame test along with OI and abundance, then you dont have any of those three things and are just getting ready to beta up again. T… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/05/25 06:41 PM |
| 6 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 27, 2025It started with a suggestion from her that we go to a marriage consoler She is still the captain Still too dumb to stop when I was ahead, I started a fight a few nights later by telling her I was sick of her attitude Still to dumb to realize you are operating entirely in her frame, you got feelz and expressed them to her rather than just growing a pair of testicles and leading. The relationship and her feelings are her fucking problem not yours. . My goal here is to lead her and to let her know … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 27/05/25 03:51 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 27, 2025Quality still bad 4/10 Better but I’m now pretty sure this isn't going to work out. Not sure why, but I just don’t see her becoming the wife I want. 2+2 != 4 here - you already figured it out, now you need to own it, admit it, and make your plan on where you are going and how to get there. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 27/05/25 12:58 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 20, 2025STFU - This has been my focus and fuck, I suck at it Focus, discipline yourself. I think I still STFU with the hope that she will notice and do something – at least it has given me some space to see the covert contract read It was abrupt and felt forced. She made a comment about it, and she was right but I’m not actually sure what I want here. It felt forced because you arent comfortable having a set of testicles that work. Keep at it and your balls will leave her purse and reattach themselves. … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/05/25 12:36 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 20, 2025Stop making sex complicated, its really not. Figure out what "you" want from it and then lead her to it. Go for what I want while in the act. This will take practice, I'm often in her head worrying that she won't go for it. If she doesnt gow here you want, add to your OODA loop and then figure out how you went wrong and then try again when opportunity presents itself. Stop while having bad/meh sex. This will take strength, it's often very tempting to just blow my load Get up and walk away or don… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/05/25 12:21 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 13, 2025In the recent light of infidelity Sidebar - DA specifically, start getting unfucked Any anger I have now is overshadowed by fear You wife is already fucking other men, the fuck you got to be afraid of other than the piece of scared shit looking back at you when you stare into a mirror? This is your OYS#1, go back and re-read nmmng, wisnifg and start formulating how you are going to get your shit together. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 13/05/25 06:55 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 13, 2025dont push it unless you stay congruent or itll blow up in your face. In other words if you get called saying "whatever you wont go talk to her", best be ready to go game the other woman. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 13/05/25 06:50 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 13, 2025She is your ex, you can tell her to shove a broomstick up her ass sideways and break it off.......or you can simply not give a fuck, STFU, tell her when youre dropping the kids off, walk the fuck away and be a fucking man. She says jump, you still ask how high. Think about that. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 13/05/25 06:48 PM |
| 5 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 13, 2025My theory was that my 'flirting' was putting her on guard, like "uh oh he's doing X because he wants sex" so I wanted to try de-conditioning. e.g. "damn girl, you been working out?" slap ass and walk away. I came up close behind her like I previously would have done and been handsy, but instead just said something mundane and then walked away. You have no congruency and your wife smells it. Yes get attractive and do the rest of the things too, but if you cannot make yourself congruent and align … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 13/05/25 12:19 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 06, 2025You should be here to make yourself and your world better. Your end goal should evolve as such. Hit the side bar, read the books, do the work. Keep the OODA loops going. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 06/05/25 07:05 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 06, 2025My growth/action isn’t tied to her response AND I want to keep working towards more sex. As horns would say, your wife gets first crack at your dick if thats your choice, past that, its up to you to go and get what you want in terms of your happiness and its entirely your choice. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 06/05/25 05:41 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 06, 2025Goal: Be in a long term relationship with a woman who is attracted to me. You fucking serious with that shit.......go back to square one, everything you write after is a complete waste of time and I am pissed off I took the time to read it right now. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 06/05/25 05:36 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 06, 2025So where do I start in terms of marriage leadership: Grab the wheel, and take charge. Put effort into making money, paying off debts. I will shrink my debt by paying it down and increasing my income. - Fixed that for you. Plan activities ahead and really enjoy them while doing Plan activities I enjoy by myself or with my family and go do them. - See the difference Not holding back when it comes to sharing opinions In what context? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 06/05/25 12:49 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 06, 2025It’s boring but it is what works for me. K.I.S.S - live by it until you get your weight down. The simpler and more boring you eat within your kcal count, the better the results. Is Cod, Rice, Broccoli and hot sauce fun...sure to an extent but not over more exotic dishes. The former will help build and sculpt out your body better than a matching kcal count of pizza or snacks by a long shot, and you will be more satiated by it. Stick to it. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 06/05/25 11:37 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 06, 2025I'm hoping this will make me less reactive to things that stress me out Hope in one hand, shit in the other let us know which fills up first. Fix it or don't, decide to make change work for you. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 06/05/25 11:31 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 29, 2025Last week I bumped up my protein but I also bumped up my carbs and fats. I felt more recovered but I didn’t lose as much before. No shit, do some basic math here on why. Go to bed well fed and you dont lose squat, go to bed with slight hunger, you drop. CICO how long till you figure this out? There’s so much information on dieting so I’m trying to avoid getting in the weeds and just keep my intake down instead. Thats cause everyone wants to sell you shit, keep it simple and stop reading on dieti… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/04/25 10:30 AM |
| 0 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 29, 2025At this point, I sought professional help and made an appointment with a therapist, which will take place this week. If you are looking outside for help then you did not internalize anything in the sidebar reading or books in your list. No amount of third party coin drop is going to help fix that. Take responsibility for your own life and get shit done. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/04/25 10:24 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 22, 2025I thought when would show up if you read the books, did the exercises inside of them, and started to take care of yourself, things would show up. If you do the exercises properly, then you think, formulate and put into action plans which are important to you and will make you happy. You have to walk the path not just look at it. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 22/04/25 11:24 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 15, 2025Scared to post here because I am scared of not doing it right. That says a lot. Gotta start somewhere, take your punches, smile, spit some blood out and keep going. You are all over the map. You need to decide what you are going to do with your life. You have to fix your mental space before anything else. 25.....think you have low T, while technically possible, my wager is on your mental state amongst everything else in here. The reading list you are on is where you start, don't fuck around and … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/04/25 12:21 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 15, 2025you either take the advice or you dont, no one gives here gives a fuck. You want to yell at her, beat your chest, piss on the carpet go for it, more power to you, let us know how it works out, we will have the popcorn ready. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 16/04/25 06:20 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 15, 2025but I am going to angrily yell at her as a means of "alpha display" or whatever you would like to word it as grown ups do not have to angrily yell to get results, their words and actions are enough to get others moving the way they want. My .02., tell her its unacceptable to have your part of the bed littered with her mess and you expect it to be cleaned by her when she is done. If she doesnt start, then start bagging shit up, when she asks where things are, tell her that you have bagged up her … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 16/04/25 02:39 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 15, 2025keep rolling | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/04/25 07:26 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 15, 2025OYS #1 34yo, 5'7", 138lbs IDGAF what your bodyfat is, right there, you are skinny. Develop your lifestyle requirements for clean caloric surplus and start putting on muscle. Still developing a frame, but already I'm seeing things in my life start to go my way for the first time without my trying to force them No you arent, you are shitting in your hands and clapping. Read your "Sex" entry and really think about how you are "developing frame" I honestly don't know if my marriage is going to survi… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/04/25 07:23 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 08, 2025LTR went off iud a year ago and have been on condoms. I don't like them. Friend recommended female condoms which I want to try out. Fucking hell wrap the hog before hitting the ham wallet, its better than popping out unplanned/unwanted kids. Dont bother with the female version youll just come back saying you fucked a garbage bag with lube. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 08/04/25 11:53 AM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 08, 2025I fucking hope that the answer is: any time now If you can't see why this is the wrong answer then you are going to get called out again for this weak bullshit again next OYS. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 08/04/25 11:48 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 01, 2025it's that I can't seem to find something to do that's both what I want and that has enough value to others to allow me to pay the bills. One is called a hobby you enjoy, the other is a job where you trade time for money to pay the bills. If you turn the hobby into the other, it becomes a job, then you fucking hate it like all other jobs because you are now dependent on it financially rather than just enjoying something you love doing. There are exceptions to this but they fall outside the curve. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 02/04/25 02:03 AM |
| 1 | How to find the right balance between non-neediness and passion?You may have read a lot but have retained/comprehended next to nothing with regard to relationships. Iron Rule #6 | /r/MarriedRedPill | 25/03/25 11:36 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 18, 2025Just block me. Everything you've told me has been wrong or stupid. Nah you dont get to be a pussy and bitch out like that, walk the fuck out so no one has to see your wall of shit any longer. I told you to get realigned and you cant even figure that that out. The very simplest of exercises and you want to spin your wheels and write about not understanding. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/03/25 12:50 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 18, 2025I wrote out all that I've been doing but I'm not posting it. I've been intentionally vague surrounding my day-to-day and my mission because I don't want to dox myself. I've come to realize that being vague to hide details of my life is hindering the support I would get from you guys. I'd stop posting but I like writing these as it helps me focus myself. I've come up with a new format which hopefully provides value while also being clear enough to receive real advice. Then stop posting here, no o… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/03/25 11:54 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 11, 2025After our company's board meeting our CEO announced that "agentic AI" is a top priority: this means that our carefully crafted quarterly plans can get fucked as everyone scrambles to chase this latest shiny object. As stated above, I allowed myself to be stressed out by the perceived urgency on our team to finish the remaining tasks and chase the shiny object, too, which in hindsight is incredibly retarded. But OTOH it serves as a reminder that if you don't construct a strong frame you are doome… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 12/03/25 03:25 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 11, 2025OYS #9 and you still havent figured out how to properly align yourself. Go back to the sidebar, read or reread NMMNG and WISNIFG. Recalibrate and start putting in work. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 12/03/25 03:14 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 11, 2025You need to clear out your headspace. If your OYS is indicative of a % of everyday life you are scattershotting everywhere and running yourself till well below the fuel gauge. Balance is critical and we can each only spend so much each way and then the other suffers. Take it or leave it up to you, but some problems in other areas are a direct result of too much focus on the other side. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 12/03/25 03:09 PM |
| 3 | The Cheat CodesWhat have you read since then? meh Going with the concept of reading, if you would have added the following lines in another of your responses and made: Take the concept of Dread - it started as a 12-step playbook, and >was eventually revealed as a dancing monkey attraction program >over time. There's no replacement for men doing the work on >themselves, both externally and internally. Dread isn't the goal. It's a side effect to men worth a damn. Would have made a lot more sense logically, tied … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 28/02/25 12:37 PM |
| 2 | The Cheat CodesTake the concept of Dread - it started as a 12-step playbook, and was eventually revealed as a dancing monkey attraction program over time. this one? May want to take a look again as that isn't all dancing monkey. 1-5 are pretty much what any guy here needs to do in getting their shit together. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 28/02/25 02:15 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 25, 2025I have been hovering around the 18-19% body fat level for a while now. I am not dropping in weight and if I push harder, my lifts suffer. Everyone hits a plateau. Keep pushing. If you feel your lifts suffering then work on your nutrition before and during lifting. Some ppl react well to complex carb serving 40 mins or so before a workout to help push through. Also 150G of carbs is quite a bit. In my case i up the protein and good fat intake, drop the carbs equal ratio to those and then let my bo… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 27/02/25 03:48 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 25, 2025You're a retard. Go back to reading the sidebar and ingesting it entirely and then look at your OYS again and think about what you need to do this week. Over half your OYS is about your wife and being in her frame, not taking action. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 26/02/25 01:15 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 25, 2025Yes, it's what I want. I enjoy spending time with her now and her behavior has changed dramatically to add value to my life. I am getting what I want. Then you are wasting everyones fucking time, go back to being a cuckold and go post on their subreddit to find out how to live that lifestyle. She is still fucking everyone and you are a retard if you think otherwise. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 26/02/25 03:42 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 18, 2025That line would come out line a phone sex operator if it had to be sexy, way over the top. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 19/02/25 10:25 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 18, 2025“Tell you what, I’ll outsource sex. We can drop the whole romance facade and run this like a JV. I’ll develop a business plan and give you some KPIs to hit.” Fucking brilliant, as someone in an industry where tons of asshats use that language daily, this is one of, if not the best use cases I have read for that dialogue. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 19/02/25 12:25 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 18, 2025Then when we’re busy i initiate dirty talk but then get hit with “i feel pressured”. You fucked up here my .02 take it or leave it: Keep up the dirty talk, dont falter, change up physical touch into more sensual type shit to give her the feelz. Fuck the stupid ass comment right out of her like an animal snapping its chains. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/02/25 04:42 PM |
| 4 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 18, 2025Fucked twice this week, both initiated by the wife, and both quite unsatisfactory. I've seen advice to the contrary here, but I'm thinking of refusing it next time to see what happens. Refuse if its not what you want out of sex. Refusing just for the fuck of it is dumb ass autistic rambo shit. You are responsible for leading sex and getting what you want out of it. Do you find your wife attractive? Do you even want to fuck her if you find her attractive? Are you too busy stepping on your own dic… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/02/25 04:34 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 18, 2025Interaction with spouse about watering houseplants If you want to water the plants, water the fucking plants. You dont have a committee meeting with mommy about it. You are looking at the trees instead of the forest on this debacle. I was so confused that I used my canned line as a conversation opener. We had a chuckle on that at least but I felt retarded inside Or you could have grown a pair of nuts, pulled her hair back and planted one on her for the 10 second kiss tactic, pull back, sit your … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/02/25 12:43 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 04, 2025I also see myself as the type of man that will support my "crew" in improving themselves. I don't see this as dramatically different than helping her with a gym plan and motivation. You are in a LTR and a shitshow one at that and you keep missing the point everyone is driving home, so lets try this really plain and really simple. You are the fucking problem. (Keep reading that and repeating it until it gets through your head) This aint therapy, we dont fucking care about your feelings, bare knuc… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 06/02/25 12:25 AM |
| 5 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 04, 2025Youre a fucking retard. Instead of jerking off to porn you jerked off to your Frame FR section. She likes things clean...great tell her she can fucking clean then, why the fuck are you discussing it and negotiating? If she doesnt like the answer, go pound sand. Then oh goodie gumdrops you went and solved the problem for her by wanting to hire out......guess what rocket scientist next week itll be something else. Duty sex is passively submitting........go tell yourself that in the mirror with a s… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 05/02/25 01:49 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 28, 2025I pass the test with WISNIFG tools, she feels bad, she asks for comfort, I give it, and when logistics don't prevent it, we have sex. From your response it sounds like the first mate knows their spot and is doing their duty. The above about her asking for comfort sounds like she is needing reassurance after doing first mate duties. I would look at how/when you are giving comfort too. The 10 second kiss, kino throughout the day, etc., Not just using them solely for escalation. horns has a good wr… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 29/01/25 05:28 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 28, 2025I've noticed that she’s showing up and giving me the most value as her best self when the comfort she’s seeking finally comes. Has she earned that or are you just giving it? I guess it just takes time for others’ perceptions to change. Sex is not on tap, but rejections are far more rare than a few weeks ago. This relates to the question above, if she isnt earning her comfort and you are giving, you are still letting her have the power dynamic and operating within her frame. Pavlovs dog scenario,… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 28/01/25 08:27 PM |
| 4 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 28, 2025You still give too much of a fuck about your wife in the way you shouldn't, she knows it and youre still operating with her on a pedestal. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 28/01/25 07:23 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 28, 2025Drop any talk about your wife right now. This is about working on you. e.g. Set a meaningful vision for the course of our lives. Be that man who realizes this vision through frame. Invite others to join me in the ride. try this: Develop a meaningful vision for my life. Chase and realize my wants, needs, and desires. Then figure out what the fuck those things are and create your vision, outline it, plan it, get it. Focusing on anything else outside of that you until you get your own shit straight… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 28/01/25 07:20 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 28, 2025bitch management | /r/MarriedRedPill | 28/01/25 07:14 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 28, 2025At 32 years old, I was able to shave myself smoothly for the first time in my life. head over to r/wicked_edge or r/wetshaving. Jump your game even more, lots of good stuff on mapping your beard and lots of wiki and sidebar stuff on facial care. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 28/01/25 03:09 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 21, 2025You may have read, but you are not doing. Big difference between knowing and walking the path. You are not confident or attractive and it shows in how you have presented yourself in writing. I agreed to talk after a couple days, and had to deal with a barrage of accusations again, this time of me being the one that crosses boundaries. Fuck up Was it disrespectful to accuse me of crossing boundaries and not understanding relationships? I guess not, so it's not really crossing my boundary. Fuck up… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/01/25 01:32 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 14, 2025160 g of protein per day. Thats 8 scoops of powder @ around 960kcals givbe or take depending on the posder. you could have a good sized 700kcal meal on top of that and be at 1660kcals and more than likely protein jumps to 200+ at that point. If you are doing a good workout daily, unless you are a slug theres not a way you arent dropping weight if you are anywhere that type of intake balance. So far the focus was to lose fat slowly so as to not lose also muscle mass from newbie gains. Yeah fuck t… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/01/25 01:05 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 14, 2025immediately after finish she GTFO to take a piss, gets dressed and goes about her business. Tells me everything I need to know about “mutual enjoyment” or lack thereof. sounds like a business transaction, but if youre getting what you want out of it and she isnt requiring aftercare, keep at it | /r/MarriedRedPill | 16/01/25 03:12 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 14, 2025And after the fuck I immediately was so full of myself as to revert to babbling and verbal intercoursing, so convinced that I reached my goal and can slack off a bit. aint nothing wrong with slut aftercare, a few ppl have great writeups on it, but draw the line between proper after care and being a retard. If she needs cuddles and light verbal reassurance after shes done what you want, provide only whats needed nothing more. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 16/01/25 02:34 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 14, 2025I may be recklessly burning a two-decade career and relationship simultaneously, but it doesn’t really matter because I was completely miserable. This is called a moment of clarity, now dont be a retard and fuck it up, chase it. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/01/25 06:47 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 14, 2025did get the accusation of affairs the other day, and I responded with “If I was going to have an affair, you’d be the first to know”. But I got the response mentioning that I have in the past hung out with other women and I haven’t been truthful with my intentions. Play with as much fire as you want, Ive caught a few of these and my response has been "she was a great sport fuck". Then dropped it cold didn't entertain any other discussions about it, just went right on about doing what i was doing… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/01/25 06:42 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 07, 2025You deserve everything you get in life right now plain and simple. IF the only retort you can manage in a place where you are looking to better yourself by coming in and getting your teeth kicked in as necessary, is to lash out against others who are walking the path and try to throw shit at them without any type of logic, enojoy your ban and go back to deadbedrooms or keep sucking on the bluepill teet. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 08/01/25 01:33 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 07, 2025The vets were kinder to you than they should have been. You might as well close this sub and put a page "read the fucking sidebar" If you would have started here and then done an OYS this would have all made sense to you. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 08/01/25 01:30 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 07, 2025Eat more foods that are protein dense and lower calorie. /u/Environmental-Top346 laid it out pretty damned easy for you. The more dense in nutrient and protein a food is while staying low cal, the more full you will be and stay full. An easy test is to take in 4 protein shakes in a day, 2 parts whey isolate 2 parts casein. Should equal out to around 440 ish kcals per shake clocking in at 1760kcals give or take depending on the protein vendor. Protein will be in the neighborhood of 320+ grams. If… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 07/01/25 09:40 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - December 31, 2024I should probably still initiate more just to desensitize myself to rejection, my lifelong anathema You REALLY REALLY don't "get it" | /r/MarriedRedPill | 03/01/25 05:53 PM |
| 0 | Year 2 field reportI can't change the past she did what she did and I did what I did its in the past. Go on step on your dick harder, or ask her to do it again. I'm sure she is waiting to or already has and just hasn't told you about it. What I don't understand is the logic of your post. No shit. Yes becoming a better version of me does benefit her but whats the point. Seriously? Look at your logic here its fucking pathetic. Should I just make my life miserable to punish her? I laughed hard enough to piss myself o… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 02/01/25 07:12 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - December 31, 2024I am a retard and even bigger than I thought Now take that self realization and get to work. I also think about fucking my wife or other women constantly. The jury is out there if this is me seeking validation using my imagination instead of porn, or my suppressed masculinity breaking free and me just not knowing how to channel it properly. Your input would be appreciated. You want to fuck but you are not fucking. Start fucking. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 02/01/25 04:25 PM |
| 4 | Year 2 field reportShe was able to memory hole the past and re write history. Although it was fairly simple it wasn’t easy. There were no guarantees. For her there was, you accepted your spot on her leash, did more of everything she wanted while she continues to gargle Tyrones baby batter while Chad wrecks her. You even doubled her money so she could keep enjoying herself. Well fucking done. I have a 20 year history with her so I knew the risks and could live with them. I hope you are fucking trolling........ If n… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 01/01/25 06:33 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - December 31, 2024I'm garbage at lying, so I know if I do go fuck somebody else, there isn't going to be any chance of keeping that from her. The fuck is this.....Take some fucking control of your life. As stated below no reason needs to be given to go out and do what you want, this shit is all amoral. If you cant get enough self worth to have a life where you aren't wanting to go blabber any exploit back to a female, you need to get to work and sit on the sidebar. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 01/01/25 06:07 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - December 17, 2024If you're really wondering why he won't leave its glaringly obvious why he wont, I gave my .02 to him on it so he can figure out what he wants to do if he chooses to. If not then I wasted a few keyboard strokes and next week the mods will deliver the knockout punch on bigger duration bans with all the wife shit talk instead of real progress on his OYS. If a hot woman showed interest, he would fuck her she would peg him Had to fix that | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/12/24 04:57 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - December 17, 2024Of course stupid me thought everything is OK now and regressed to his usual babbling the next week. Mommy gave her cuck pussy and he was a good boy again. I was suddenly told that we will not watch more of the series until I pack them "Im busy, if you want them wrapped go ahead and wrap them" To my credit I managed to STFU this time, just said "ok" and went to wrap them. You high or just a retard? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 19/12/24 12:45 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - December 17, 2024She does add value. She is great at organization, she compliments my weaknesses, and she makes 767k a year. Ok so you have a sugar momma and you wanna stay on for the gravy train. Not once in that response did you respond with any part of what makes you happy about having a wife around. You described superficial things, nothing intrinsic. Your OYS states that you cannot find a way to qualify her to even date at this stage, who are you trying to convince that she brings value? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/12/24 07:48 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - December 17, 2024Because it's like a functional, working business partnership. In some ways, a sinecure gilded cage situation. Logistical, pragmatic, functional. I do business partnerships with people to make money and enrich each others endeavors. I choose to be married to my wife because she adds value. If your wife provides no value to you other than a construct you just created in your head, go back and hit the sidebar and work on your own happiness, or keep sitting in the mud bitching about getting dirty. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/12/24 05:11 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - December 17, 2024My sex drive with my wife, while it's enjoyable, is not that existent. We went on a date on Friday, and I would not date her if I wasn't already married to her, unfortunately. Someone I love, trust, and respect - but we have gotten a bit toxic over the years. Or maybe those were just shit tests. Anyways, I could not find a reason to qualify her. As Horn's says, she is the clay - is she good enough clay? If you wouldnt date her, what qualifies her to still be worth spending your time and effort o… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/12/24 12:05 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - December 10, 2024Right now there’s no point - active dread is inherently a covert contract - “if I do this, she’ll feel ___, and then I’ll get my needs met.” It shouldn't be one. You're actively just gaming other women at that point, the wifes hamster should kick in and do its thing, you should just be enjoying yourself and not thinking it is going to result in a desired behavior. Rely on the hardwiring in their head to do the rest, if it doesnt, yeah you need to look at leadership and/or elsewhere for your need… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 10/12/24 07:49 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - December 10, 2024I’m starting to get some preselection, which is cool. I’ve thought of a few places I could maximize IOIs in front of my wife (yoga, hot springs, etc), but why would I do that? That would be dumb, retarded dancing monkey behaviour, and I’m not a dumb, retarded dancing monkey anymore. I'll disagree with you thinking this is dumb, if you are doing it solely for validation it would be a dangerous path. If you are actively building dread by leveraging your success and IOI's with women who are not you… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 10/12/24 06:04 PM |
| 4 | Looking for adviceHere is what you need to do, make a few spreadsheets. Keep track of when you have sex, how long you have sex, put a smiley face on the cells if you have an orgasm, and a gold star if she has one. Make a second spreadsheet tracking her shark week cycles so you can correlate the two of them to see when you can attempt to go get laid. Create a powerpoint presentation with talking notes going over your findings with her, explain your plight and how diligent you have been, show her how much you deser… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 10/12/24 05:59 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - December 03, 2024If this OYS is any indication of your last failed one, then you should take the action yourself and delete this one. Put some fucking effort into it or dont bother at all and go whine somehwere else. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 03/12/24 07:07 PM |
| 0 | Own Your Shit Weekly - December 03, 2024This guy likes being the most intelligent one in the room, and so do I. So who do you actually learn anything from at anytime and any place? despite the bruised ego validation? Also, you can just up and leave a job. Find another one that makes you happy and challenges you. 6 figures is great but if it's a mental slog dayin/out are you there for a paycheck, or just too chicken shit to jump and try to find something better for you? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 03/12/24 01:23 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - December 03, 2024When I change/cancel she apologizes, but I'm wondering if this is one of the dysfunctional captains or something else. Stop including her and go do more stuff you want on your own. Also I feel a lack of intimacy and enthusiasm lately. There's much less effort to come see me, much more grumpy vibes, less sex, and I just wonder if the problem is me Sex is your responsibility, you lead she follows, if not you absolutely can get up and walk away as it is wasting your time and not what you want. Youl… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 03/12/24 01:12 PM |
| 4 | Own Your Shit Weekly - December 03, 2024It's unpleasant to notice that she's upset and to not do anything about it. It's natural, keep the pill down don't spit it back up. You are working on making you happy and breaking away from old habits. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 03/12/24 12:55 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - November 19, 2024This is when we are at the dinner table and I ask each of my family members how their day was. Sometimes she just gives one word answers and at times, she would talk too long. I would consider this more Social/Family rather than relationship then if your entire family is involved in discussing how their days are. Context makes a big difference. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/11/24 02:40 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - November 19, 2024Men are built to do things, not sit around and be taken care of. Frankly, I don’t want a woman to wait hand and foot on me because I don’t want to sit around waiting for it. I’d rather her join me in an activity or endeavor or do her own thing while I’m out doing mine, then be enthusiastic when I have time for her. that should be required reading for anyone starting the journey | /r/MarriedRedPill | 19/11/24 03:13 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - November 19, 2024Planning to do the put myself first weekend and discuss my caretaking with my wife. Later that night I gave her chance to talk about what was going on. Why you initiating relationship stuff? That is her job not yours, your job is to make you happy and do what you need to get there right now. Let the hamster do its work. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 19/11/24 01:28 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - November 12, 2024Should my anger be rational? Ask yourself why you are angry, dig, find the root cause and then develop a plan to remediate it, peel back the onion layers, its a process. How should I handle my anger phase(s)? Depends what you are angry about, stub your toe, sure drop an F bomb. If its MRP related, see above response. When should they be done for good? when you stop converting air into breathable oxygen. Tests never stop, but you can eliminate a truck load from life to reduce any bullshit sources… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 13/11/24 11:25 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - November 12, 2024noted | /r/MarriedRedPill | 13/11/24 03:12 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - November 12, 2024What'd you say then? I'm curious because.... science. And let's presume he likes his wife. - Good on him. He found how to make himself happy, put himself first, and starting to get what he wants in that area. Whether I would agree with it or not is of no consequence because its OP's life. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 13/11/24 01:18 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - November 12, 2024But, I put the blame for the dropped libido on my wife. She doesn't put in enough effort, doesn't do exactly what I want every time I say it, can't get me off. Other girls could do it better... - you are on #40 and still blaming your sex drive on the wife....do better - her effort reflects your leadership - Ok, so why aren't you fucking other women instead? Wait because they wouldn't do what you wanted because you don't know how to lead them to good sex either....that's right. Sounds like you do… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 13/11/24 03:03 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - November 12, 2024I've been looking at others, like my friend whose wife is getting old, and is possibly past his prime, but is still basically a good dude, and being too judgmental. Instead, with my wife as well, I need to just let people grow. We are all evolving. I put a vision and persona up of greatness for myself, and then get upset when others do not reflect this. I need to see others as their own evolving people, and not an extension of myself. - Stop giving a fuck. Fresh outta fucks. No fucks left...pick… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 13/11/24 02:55 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - November 12, 2024good - that is the beginning | /r/MarriedRedPill | 13/11/24 02:47 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - November 12, 2024The level of weights are still right for me but I know that I'm mostly training for aesthetics. I don't care about lifting particularly heavy so I'm going to stick with 8-12 rep ranges as opposed to the 5 rep sets that are more strength focused. - Train like you are going to jump on the back of a raging bull and tear its fucking horns off with your bare hands then break its neck. If you aren't training like that you are wasting your time being aesthetic. Sex: We are still having sex twice weekly… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 12/11/24 03:35 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - November 05, 2024- Am quite past the state where I used to be, and no longer am being a whiny bitch about things in my life. I am just stating my opinions, and letting things go where they go. No you are not at all. Reading the relationship blurb points this out. If your wife was really concerned you were going to leave her, dread would be through the roof and you would be beating her off with a stick to give your dick a rest unless she finds you repulsive. She is playing your BP ass like a fiddle. you need deep… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 06/11/24 06:36 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - November 05, 2024shut up and stop being a fucktard. If you are banging 2-3x per week, but you cant stop stepping on your own dick and talk dirty to your wife you need to go look in the mirror and really think about who the fuck you are and why you lack direction and proper pair of nuts. Microdosing only traded one vice for another, work on yourself and stop relying on validation. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 06/11/24 12:58 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - November 05, 2024Professional: The side gig continues to go well, with another lead this week, but trading time for money is old and has its limits. - This basic economics so you either work for someone else and trade your time or work for yourself and you are more in control of your time in exchange for $$. I took a 50% cut this year to get out from under the soul sucking handcuffs of a job, decided not to put on another pair and have been working towards my own goals ,with my own time, with like minded people.… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 05/11/24 07:33 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 29, 2024In terms of responsibilities I mean in terms of things that I need to handle mentally and emotionally without putting it on my wife. For example, dealing with work or family issues or whatever else without looking to her for comfort or guidance. - ok now peel back that next layer, Why are you doing it, do you really want to do it, does it all make you happy and bring fulfillment, or are you doing out of a commitment you made and are slogging along? The ideal partnership I had envisioned is antit… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 31/10/24 02:43 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 29, 2024Had "mini main event" over several days. - probably not. With what you stated above in mental, this is more than likely just a woman being pissy about you starting to make your time a priority and not her. Fucked a couple times between fights. Initiations on calm (i.e. not feelz-heavy) days were unsuccessful, with her asking for comfort instead. - duh Cuddles aint free but they are required. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/10/24 07:24 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 29, 2024Rule 9 incoming. According to your post you are awesome and sitting in the territory of some of the most attractive human male mammals on the planet. So you either: 1) are and got a case of oneitis and never had good grasp to begin with 2) are not and trying to use that to bump up your steps in the entire process 3) are just being a bitch entirely - Part of me feels like I’m doing wrong with the way she’s really pushing it and I’m struggling not to just cave and say some BP type shit of how I’m … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/10/24 11:44 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 29, 2024Ovulation, was getting all kinds of signals. - fucking forget this ovulation cycle shit. Fuck or don't. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 29/10/24 03:21 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 29, 2024Afterwards and all the next day my wife was withdrawn, which she often does after we have an intense session or try something new. This used to really bother me and i would try to get her to open back up, which would lead to a cycle of pursue and avoid. Instead I tried to resist that urge and just let her have her space. - bend her over, smack her ass, give her hair a tug and whisper in her ear that she was a good slut, then as BandS said, go on about your day and stop giving a fuck. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 29/10/24 03:18 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 29, 2024- Pride in myself and how I look is something that I need to work on by consistently holding myself to a higher standard Great, but why do you want that, i see no mission, no laying out of a plan and reflection as to the importance of this as it pertains to you. Don't just do shit cause someone says it, learn to think logically, critically, and problem solve through reflection and identifying what you want, plan it, execute it, get it. Things are going smoother (not better) because I'm handling … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 29/10/24 03:13 PM |
| 4 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 29, 2024But i felt fear about escalating. Fear of being the bad guy that tried to take advantage of her high emotions (if she said no). - Remember who the leader is, your wife looks to you to lead her from those areas and into your frame, you are the rock, the unmovable object in the face of adversity. Be it. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 29/10/24 02:57 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 22, 2024My latest issue is tennis elbow which makes pretty much every upper body lift hurt and forced me to modify grips (e.g. chinups over pull-ups). If anyone's rehabbed this well I'd like to hear about it. - forearm training - rice bucket, grippers, static holds of multiple weight plates pinched together with your fingers. - mobility - gorilla style forearm stretching, hands in all 4 positions both palms up and down on the floor, clockwise and counter clockwise movements - static hangs from a bar dou… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 24/10/24 11:46 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 22, 2024Sidebar - > Divorce Advice - > prep your parachute and GTFO, document everything, every altercation, interaction, etc. because crazy will try to flip the script on your in a court of law of with the LEO's on a phone call. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 22/10/24 05:26 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 22, 2024It feels like she goes full tilt mode on purpose to get a rise out of me and or until she loses it and hits me. sorry what is that last part, you are allowing your wife to physically escalate and abuse you? You need to square your shit in that arena right now priority #1 that is not even in the slightest bit ok. Fuck everything else until thats remediated. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 22/10/24 03:28 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 22, 2024Sounds like you don't find your wife attractive and vice versa. I would start there. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 22/10/24 03:23 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 15, 2024I had a fantasy, started to go for it, then wife lowered the temp. I doubted myself and let the moment pass. Tried to salvage it, literally followed her to another room like a child, and got the normal laundry list of excuses that didn't seem to exist 5 minutes before. I got the eyeroll, starfish, raised my voice and said "if you're going to lay there like it's a chore, then I don't give a shit either" then left (and proceeded to give a shit.) you fucked up nonstop, once where you failed to lead… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/10/24 07:09 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 15, 2024take your ass kicking thus far, learn from it and come back or don't. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/10/24 07:02 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 08, 2024ive got my popcorn ready | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/10/24 03:11 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 08, 2024we fucked hard for few days that night Einstein had no idea about this when he work on the theory of relativity specifically special relativity | /r/MarriedRedPill | 09/10/24 02:29 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 08, 2024There is something here that I can't quite understand yet - clearly my wife wanted to fuck, but didn't want to be seen as the cause of it. You have actions and words, use them and lead her. Maybe she has a kink and wants you to bring it out of her but you aren't leading, so she backs down when she feels like a slut and you fail to show strength. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 08/10/24 04:46 PM |
| 5 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 08, 2024Roughly half the population on the planet is female and you continue to go back to the one who dumped you.........very obvious you didn't internalize a fucking thing from last week. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 08/10/24 04:40 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 08, 2024-Date is talking and talking, I ask if she’s ever seen the hotel rooms here, because they’re really nice you fucking kidding me with that line? even i have bullshit game advice and that line is something from a 70's porno. -She says it’s nice getting to know me, but very conservative girl. I say fine, we talk for another half hour, it’s 12:30am, she grabs a car home. ASD, you jumped the gun and it turned on, too much too fast, then you fucked up by talking and not re-calibrating. I’m totally con… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 08/10/24 12:37 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 08, 2024When I’m confident I’m in a good space and having a natural desire for sex, then I’ll initiate and ~~try to get my dick wet.~~fuck. there fixed that for you. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 08/10/24 11:48 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 08, 2024we spend the morning in bed, she wearing that underwear she knows driving me crazy. I wake up energized, good mood. we cuddle, I start slow. I kino, touch and escalate when she rejects. 'not now, too early, barely awake and I don't feel like it here' (staying at a place during hiking trip). that was a soft no, you should have pushed through my argument to stop was that I'm not 'that needy' to jump on her during times she clearly communicated aren't appropriate for her, but on the other side this… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 08/10/24 11:41 AM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 01, 2024I think we can all agree we wish we had this knowledge at 23 no bullshit there | /r/MarriedRedPill | 01/10/24 11:54 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 01, 2024-It's possible you are right, but let's leave that aside for a second. Why? You just identified the issue but then went on to attempt justification on acting like a scared bitch and running back to her. ok lets break this down even simpler cause you didn't catch it the last time...... SIDEBAR, specficically NMMNG and WISNIFG | /r/MarriedRedPill | 01/10/24 11:52 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 01, 2024its already been stated below but in case it doesn't sink in. yall split you came back she has all the control she has your balls you are working on what mommy tells you to work on to be a good boy and get a treat from her what you need to do: READ THE FUCKING SIDEBAR AND START PUTTING IT TO USE. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 01/10/24 10:57 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 01, 2024you went back like a dog with tail between its legs and think this was good? You even bother to read the sidebar and start ingesting it? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 01/10/24 10:32 AM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 24, 2024I’ve noticed this coming out chiefly in my career - an unconscious desire to be zeroed out and ‘get the chance’ to build up from nothing again to feel worthy. Fuck that - I don’t need to visit the bottom, I’m going to make the most of where I am and go from here. ill offer another thought, are you bored and you find your job zapping out your energy and you dread it and only go for the paycheck? If so then you might not be looking for a bottom but may just be too chicken shit to make a plan, star… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 24/09/24 10:08 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 24, 2024When I fix myself, I hope the relationship will be better. Fuck outta here with that shit. You get your shit in order, the relationship is her fucking problem. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 24/09/24 09:57 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 17, 2024Entered the relationship with predominantly alpha frame then allowed myself to fall into betaisation process. Thought it couldn't happen to me and LARPed as an alpha because I was "red pill aware" and had read Rational Male, lurked TRP/MRP etc, but without really doing the mental work, so it was jut a cope to brush over increasingly beta and unattractive behaviours. --You fucked up, but at least you realized you fucked up and you are here to unfuck your self. Do not just read NMMNG, do the exerc… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/09/24 11:50 AM |
| 4 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 17, 2024fter I said I was about to cook (as I do most evenings), she responded with a statement that "well, dinner will not happen before 8, because I'm doing something with the kids till then". This annoyed me because it felt not a request for me to delay things, but an assertion that her timetable should take precedence, and that I, like a butler, should comply. I went off to do something else and left her to cook instead -- but think I could have handled it better. Scheduling 101. wife wants to take … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/09/24 11:40 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 10, 2024OHP is a beast. Here are a few other things you can do to kick start the stall that helped me in the past: - handstand work negatives partial presses DB/KB single arm presses clean and press pressing odd shaped objects, logs, big ass rocks, loose sandbags, etc. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 12/09/24 04:11 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 10, 2024stop giving a fuck for fucking fucks sake. You have a boatload of advice from better minds above. Either you drive/captain the boat and she gets in and knows her place or you toss her ass overboard and find a new first mate. You have no fucking strings attached......ZERO. Stop being a pussy and make up your mind. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 12/09/24 03:58 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 10, 2024if you are un-calibrated and failing then no amount of SGM is going to do any good due to the lack of congruence. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 10/09/24 07:00 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 10, 2024*Do me a favor and leave the surface level "just do it" motivational poster platitudes aside. No one is here to coddle you and make responses to your liking, you take it or you fucking don't just like life. -If anyone has experience going through a career change, walking away from a 100k/yr job into a new field - this is my current predicament, and I don't have the connections or experience needed to make the change without taking a 20-30k pay cut. Welcome to the world right now, you do what eve… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 10/09/24 11:21 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 10, 2024I also realized I have no idea how to fuck. Saturday night I would try to go hard but then get worried that she wasn’t liking it or that she want responding positively, so I would slow down and to gentle, and then try again to go hard and fast. Totally inconsistent. Made me realize I’m waiting for her permission to fuck her This ain't rocket science its sex and fucking. Do you know what you want from both and have you established that? She isn't responding because she can tell you have no idea w… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 10/09/24 11:17 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 10, 2024You are waaaaay too plugged in at work. You are exchanging your time for money, if you are exchanging your time and sanity for money then you need to rethink your employment at said company. -I want to be more decisive in my work and personal life so this is fake it till you make it. You cant fake decision making, you either do it or you don't and it becomes a habit like anything else. -Further evidence for the “my wife likes to be treated like a slut” case file. And further evidence I need to w… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 10/09/24 11:12 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 27, 2024echoing everyone else just STFU or stop trying and go back to being her bitch. Talking and the relationship is the womans part of the equation not yours. Now that you talked about fight club to her, you put your nuts in her handbag.....congrats. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 27/08/24 05:53 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 20, 2024you lack confidence and focus, the wife smells it has has you square in her frame. better start reading the sidebar on how you are the point of origin for everything and get back in the drivers seat. Stop giving a flying fuck about the woman and get your own shit together before anything else. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/08/24 03:22 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 13, 2024Hit the reset button right now on your thought process or just saddle in for being a sad sack the remainder of your time converting oxygen. Your mission is complete shit and has no depth, lifting is laughable and your reason for not doing so is hammered dog shit. Relationship - See how it reflects your attitude on lifting. Well I keep doing X, so why is there a problem I don't understand? Look up the definition of insanity, internalize it and then look at yourself. "Mental I have been seeing a c… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/08/24 11:25 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 13, 2024If you want chicks being attractive is all that matters --- not in the slightest, yes in increases your odds, but you need solid game just as much as being a shiny object to look at, need the entire package. nothing wrong with enjoying friends and life. "Needing" to be around them is the problem. You are responsible for your own happiness, not them. If you choose to hang out with them and all enjoy company thats great, but you cannot rely on them to keep feeling happy and having a better world o… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 14/08/24 12:21 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 13, 2024Being attractive is the only thing that matters. If you have to chase chicks you have already lost at it. -- rethink and unfuck yourself, if you believe this is all that matters you are missing the entire point of being here. I need more alpha male friends around. -- if you "need" this you've already lost. There's other shit in your OYS but these two need immediate attention if you want to make any headway. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 14/08/24 10:52 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 13, 2024echoing, and adding, read the fucking sidebar about getting legal representation, get your go plan and pull that ejection handle. If she made a charge of intimacy without consent to her mentors, what stops her or them from going to local law enforcement and really fucking you over? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 14/08/24 10:43 AM |
| – | "Mission: This is the hardest question isn’t it?"IDC, I'm dead. If they follow my instructions I have left behind, then they are all getting close to blackout drunk and/or indulging in all the mind bending chemicals I appropriated, listening to music at levels which cause the authorities to show up, all while the meatsack which once housed me is burning on a pyre. Career - fuck that who cares. Life - my kids think for themselves and not within the confines of the dumb ass educational and vocational confines our systems teach them. They do what… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 01/08/24 11:45 AM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - July 30, 2024wondering if I should just have left it at “went out” good you see it now, sucks you didnt just do it. Taking a work trip now and she is coming along for a part of it. I’m pretty sure sex will be better, but I’m honestly pissed, at myself, that the only satisfying sex I can get is when we travel. Do the math there it ain't hard. You have 5 kids, when your spouse is at home, 99% sure they are in parenting mode. That means eyes and ears open for any spawn ready to burst through the door at any sec… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/07/24 02:19 PM |
| 5 | I got the "I love you but..." (ILYBINILWY) and solved it in 5 daysnecessary copy/replace pasta Bekruredd, what you've just said is one of the most insanely idiotic things I have ever heard. At no point in your rambling, incoherent response were you even close to anything that could be considered a rational thought. Everyone in this room is now dumber for having listened to it. I award you no points, and may God have mercy on your soul | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/07/24 01:19 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - July 09, 2024nah standard bitch mode is easy, its 30 minutes of pissy pants routine followed up by her apologizing. She was waiting for a response and trying to lure me into her arena more than once as she added the nice long pauses attempting to throw me out of my calm, when it failed the attacks came again until she ran out of bullets. Lots of blaming everyone else in the fam for her issues and everyone against her, etc. in the wrap up before she walked off. got hard no's last week when trying to find bang… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 10/07/24 01:33 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - July 09, 2024OYS #13 Stats: 44 6' 208 Lifts: IBP 375x1, SQ 485x1, DL 385x1, OHP 265x1 Reads: Sidebar as needed Vision: Enjoy everyday as the gift it is. Live my life my way. Push to be a better dad, listener and learner. Lifts: Dropped all the heavy lifting because my shoulder is fried, time to go have it scoped and repaired. Now its cardio,bodyweight, and light dumbbell exercises to limit any more damage until it gets fixed. Family: Took a few fam vacations. Kids got to see some great parts of the states an… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 10/07/24 01:50 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - July 02, 2024go look in the fucking mirror and decide what you want to fucking be and make a decision. you giving a flying shit about how much some other guy is making and how he looks shows you have no fucking idea about you as an individual. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 03/07/24 02:52 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 25, 2024My time for reading is limited Why, you can get up 15 minutes earlier and go to sleep 15 minutes later, that's 30 minutes a day, a sliver of potential you can tap into for more time. Don't make excuses for why you cant do something, look at the problem objectively, get creative and find a solution. What are you doing for you in the entire duration of your waking hours? Your OYS is about you and your wife or situations with your wife. Who are you here to work on, her or you? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 27/06/24 12:12 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 28, 2024all you did was wordsmith your original comment and vomit it back at me without even attempting to learn. Let's simplify this even more..........you are the only person responsible for making you happy. Not your wife, not your marriage not your kids. You and you alone control this. If you cant make that one thing happen and identify those elements that lead to you being happy, then you are spinning your wheels in the mud and will be posting OYS, fail and then come back, and fail again. Figure th… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 29/05/24 03:21 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 28, 2024NMMNG read it, do it. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 28/05/24 05:07 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 28, 2024It seems like the more I read and further down the rabbit hole I go, the worse my relationship gets. I'm back from last fall to figure out if I'm screwing up the mental models and concepts. The more I focus on Me and doing what I want as far as hobbies outside of what needs doing daily I get accused of being selfish and having a big ego. (i'm trying to figure out if this is good or bad) Go hit the fucking sidebar and reset after that last sentence cause you clearly haven't learned the most impor… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 28/05/24 05:02 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 21, 2024+1 here. Kids are the biggest cock blocks. IMO you should be snapping the fuck out of DEVI and fun times mode if/when a baby or kid is upset, etc. That's called being a parent and realizing those terrorists needs don't care about your timelines and plans, until they have self sufficiency its pure roll with the punches. Get creative with fun time, find 5-10 minutes whenever wherever and go in headfirst then get back to living again. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 23/05/24 02:57 PM |
| 0 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 07, 2024You cant be arbitrary or you're going to write this same OYS again in 6 months. If you are not getting what you want, and its clear the other party isn't interested in being a value add to the life you see then the choice is obvious. You will only make the same mistakes if you stay insane. The only barrier to what you want in the world is you. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 07/05/24 05:25 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 30, 2024ok lets see if we can make this really fucking simple. The only person who gives a fuck about anything relating to you is you. Take a good look in the fucking mirror and tell yourself that. If you look in the mirror would you fuck yourself, if you shed your clothes are you appalled by what you see or are you happy and know if a member of the opposite sex or the same sex saw you naked they would be dtf. If not then get to fucking work and make it happen. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 06/05/24 12:29 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 30, 2024I just don’t give her all the tingles and competition anxiety she needs to decide to give me a pornstar sex life. Amongst all the other shit in your OYS, read what you wrote above, figure out why it's wrong, unfuck the logic behind it, and then apply it elsewhere. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 06/05/24 12:22 AM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 30, 2024STFU and work on yourself. Stop verbally puking to your wife and talking about her until you get a grasp on who and what you are, and what you want to be. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/04/24 11:51 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 16, 2024I've found all supplements to be wasted money tbh. With a good diet, the supplements don't do anything. To be fair, they were only ever meant to supplement the intake of these things when the user's diet was insufficient. This 10000% | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/04/24 10:45 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 16, 2024Depends on what type of responder you are to it for the results. If you are quite the carnivore, use gear or have enough protein results are minimal visually if at all. Anyone who wasnt/isnt athlete level fit would see the most visual benefit from my experience along with the other health benefits. I'm not sure what OP means by them helping him exercise on the road, its either a poor choice of words or a misunderstanding of motivation. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/04/24 11:36 AM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 09, 2024Farmer's Walks for functional training - it's actually functional and helps make you look jacked in all the ways that count. oh you an evil fucker suggesting those. I like it. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 10/04/24 03:20 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 02, 2024Outside of F-Closing per a mods advice and steps in your earlier OYS, here is my bullshit advice: Go out and speak to a female and apply what you are reading. Shit you don't even have to make it a spot where the hens congregate and peck looking for a rooster. Pick a challenge location like a big box store, coffee shop, etc. and take some shots and start honing your craft. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 02/04/24 05:40 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 26, 2024yeah imma need to see this one too, never heard of that. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 28/03/24 10:41 AM |
| 4 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 26, 2024I stopped eating so much protein and cut out creatine. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC10054094/ dont think its the suppliment, might want to look at other aspects of your diet and overall health | /r/MarriedRedPill | 27/03/24 12:06 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 26, 2024might be one of the best responses to a comment in a good bit and addresses a shit ton of other OYS posts. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 27/03/24 11:58 AM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 26, 2024After the court we went together to a restaurant to eat, I admit I was hopeful up to the last moment that she would just cancel it and we'll get back together, but nope. she also was late to the hearing, I had to call her up - like a cruel test from god lol. The fact that she didn't leach a dime from me although she defiantly could saddened me further, I lost a great a girl. recalibrate yourself right now and start unfucking your thought process cause that shit above is not it. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 26/03/24 11:35 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 26, 2024it's about the challenge, the growth, and the need to not just coast through the rest of my life. I also feel like I need to prove myself, that I can build something again. Reading your past posts, if you are sitting on enough reserves to have FI money from the interest and investments coming in from the liquid forms and invested forms, then do the math and figure out what wont drop you out of FI mode and go for it. Define why you are going for it though(who and why are you proving yourself to, … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 26/03/24 11:30 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 19, 2024yes | /r/MarriedRedPill | 23/03/24 01:38 PM |
| -1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 19, 2024nada, i fuck my wife. My energy and game are focused there. I still game up and flirt when out and about to keep sharp, but anything beyond that isn't a good use of my time. I have other shit I'm focused on in the world to get accomplished. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/03/24 10:33 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 19, 2024Shut the fuck up about your wife. Fix yourself by ditching your current reads and do some self reflection and self actualization work. You gotta uncork your head before any of that is going to do you a damn bit of good. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/03/24 12:32 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 19, 2024The point was to make my wants clear, openly and without fear. If you say they are wants then a fucking broad will see that as bendable and breakable. If these things you outline are what you need(keyword), then they become the requirements of the partner you choose to give your time to, which they reciprocate by adding that value. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/03/24 12:28 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 19, 2024Just enough to see just how little you can invest for better performance than what you're getting. It'll be interesting to find out. Go out feeling like you own the world, have all your shit together. If you do that and have any smidge of game your ahead of 95% of the schlubs out there right now. Learn from some of the other fuckwits here who went out and got all validationitis and shit from the first girl that even looked at them with an IOI. Don't be them. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/03/24 12:23 AM |
| 8 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 19, 2024I still playing the game to try and win my wife back. I’m definitely playing pretty cautious and conservative because I’m not comfortable with the making huge changes. I’m making baby step gains but I’m going to go harder each week to gauge where my progress is. Recalibrate yourself because this shit here is fucked up. Do you need her validation for something or are you incapable of being happy by your own doing and own hard work? Get comfortable making huge changes, you want progress break some… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 19/03/24 03:49 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 19, 2024i see what youre getting at there, in agreement with you. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 19/03/24 02:34 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 19, 2024Past few times I got a hard no I just get up and go do stuff, I did the same thing this time. I usually get gas lighted about being angry even though I don't say anything and just go do stuff. Perhaps I'm retarded in this area and could use some suggestions? all you gotta to is STFU and keep doing you. Your time is yours, if you get a hard no then you put focus elsewhere because this is about you. Let her hamster run and deal with that, its her problem not yours. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 19/03/24 01:40 PM |
| 7 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 19, 2024Relationship: A small disagreement over making waffles spiraled into an unexpectedly tense confrontation. The intensity of the reaction - it was so hateful - made me reassess deeply and STFU. Following it, I picked up roses for her while picking up items for our planned social dinner with friends. This action I did without seeking any acknowledgement or reward, and have maintained my silence. Sex was limited to a single time this week. While it was ok - it is like our current relationship - func… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 19/03/24 01:30 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 19, 2024I’m improving myself, I’m looking and feeling better, why do I have to put up with this low energy, low effort wife that doesn’t put out”. Covert contract open to interpretation, but I could see this as becoming more self aware of ones own worth and starting to see the wife as a boat anchor rather than a value add if it goes toward that. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 19/03/24 12:52 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 19, 2024You are on OYS 40 and still sputtering like day 1. You completely contradict anything that is recommended and go on about how things aren't working. Well no shit, if you do not put the work in, nothing comes of it. You say you haven't been happier but your OYS sure as fuck doesn't read that way. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 19/03/24 12:47 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 12, 2024So by communicating your expectations from your wife, you think you are somehow negotiating desire? You need to rethink what desire is. If your shit is in order your wife will desire to please you, but she isn't a fucking mind reader. You walking in with assless chaps dressed as the lone ranger is not gonna give her tingles because of the action you took. You have the idea with improving yourself that's what this shit is all about keep at it. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 14/03/24 03:29 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 12, 2024If you want to fuck too much and you ain't sporting mahogany then you need to: - get your hormone levels checked via bloodwork - add cardio - do kegels - figure out if you find your mate attractive Sometimes you bang out a duty fuck, its vanilla because you only have 10 minutes to have a some fun. If you are waiting on "weekend sex" to be fun and different then you're gonna be stuck waiting. You are in control and lead, have you communicated with the wife on your needs and desires, told her she … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 14/03/24 12:03 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 12, 2024Not sure how this is all going to end; I don't want to blow up such a long relationship, but the status quo is definitely not sustainable. Intellectually I know I should be ready to nuke everything and hit the ground running, but I haven't really internalized that feeling. The relationship is her problem not yours. Steer your ship and she either rides with you or gets thrown overboard. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 13/03/24 06:26 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 12, 2024This led to further bitchiness, which I dealt with by applying some controlled anger. Frankly, I talked too much though and got drawn into one or two arguments. Unattractive and this should not have happened. I still care too much, I think. She pressed, you reacted how she wanted, and she knows it. STFU. Emotions are their tool and when they see you use yours in a disagreement they initiate, you are then boned and not in the way you want. Remember you are the one in control, the fucking captain.… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 13/03/24 06:14 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 12, 2024I've teased my coworkers as normal but my heart isn't really in it, I don't want to fuck them dont get your honey where you get your money | /r/MarriedRedPill | 13/03/24 06:07 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 12, 2024Leadership: Had an illusion that I was charge of the treasury because when it comes to bills and the necessities of daily life, I pay those bills. However, my kids are in a ton of extra curricular activities that are very expensive. I’m the sole breadwinner right now. I do the most chores in the house and have always done it the most. I lied to myself that I enjoy doing them because I have standards but in reality I’m a doormat doing chores to get pussy. I feel guilty saying no still. I say no m… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 13/03/24 06:06 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 12, 2024My body is tired but I pushed trough. My muscles aren't able to generate energy, but I keep going until they do. - Nutrition I lost my erection even though I had a dose of 3mg tadalafil. - minimum recommended dosage is 5mg, 2.5 is the smallest prescribed tablet you can purchase, check with doc and maybe up the dosage When it comes to my desire for sex, I have to spice things up to get my engine going. I am bored with my everyday routine, with the weekend sex that's the same week by week. I am st… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 13/03/24 05:53 PM |
| 1 | Field Report: Becoming a man with optionsBe honest with yourself about cheating. Would it be fun? For me, the answer is definitely yes. But I wasn't honest with myself about it, right up until I had another woman begging me to fuck her. Ok so when pussy presented itself then you decided you are good with it.......see the problem there, if not go recalibrate and get yourself straight. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 28/02/24 07:55 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 27, 2024dont look here for inspiration, look inside yourself. The rest of us demented fuckers have our own ideas of fun. If you really need an idea find the coconut spa and setup a date night that leads into that then post a FR. Claw through the search function and dig into the depths of posts from 5-9 years back or so. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 28/02/24 12:26 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 27, 2024Eh I guess I mean that I want exciting dates for me. I never dated much and I feel like I missed out... I'd like to go on fun dates to feel like I didn't miss out. My default is to be a boring fuck most of the time, so I'm a little stumped on new date ideas. so go on dates that are fun to you and interest you. If you are solid in frame your date will enjoy what you are doing just to spend the time with you. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 27/02/24 08:38 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 27, 2024I tend to lapse back into jerking off, because it's just easier and convenient. And I get more variety in the content too. But then I feel shitty about it later because it drains my sex drive and makes me content with not initiating for real. Go outside, find other passions rather than beating your dick like it called your mom a whore. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 27/02/24 08:29 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 27, 2024I read a thread on men cooking being alpha or whatever and I never really bought it, but if I'm to take my family's health into my realm of responsibility - I gotta help with the protein (I'm a better cook anyways). It’s not alpha, that is your frame, game, and looks. However this is fine a leadership thing if it is important to you. cant upvote this enough. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 27/02/24 01:37 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 20, 2024Relationship : Going well overall, have started taking initiative around the house, trying to do things before being asked to do them. Get rid of your covert contract. You should be doing things because you want to do them, not because youll get asked to do them. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/02/24 12:42 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 20, 2024Sometimes I wish I was less of an asshole. Women love assholes, be a controlled asshole and use the triad. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/02/24 12:36 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 20, 2024Had my hair appointment with Hair Club. The first evaluation is free. They use a 50x microscope to evaluate your follicles. They confirmed I am starting to thin in one area (temples) and I've caught it very early. They said I'm too early for finasteride and tried selling me on a 1-year, once-per-month treatment but it was basically just supplements, a laser treatment, and a scalp scrub...for $4,900 lol. I ordered the supplements and shampoo myself and will make it part of my routine, looking int… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/02/24 12:31 PM |
| 4 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 20, 2024Wife got dressed up and went out with recently divorced friend and nail technician at night which would be fine if I were told in less vague terms when and what was happening but this was obviously some stupid "payback" for not being a Valentines Day shmuck so I just ignored it and decided to leave the house to do some door dashing when she got home, which I did. Got home at around 1:30 am made some chit chat and went to sleep. This is the latest I`ve been out by myself in years and it felt very… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/02/24 12:27 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 20, 2024It isn't a failed rep, but you got some weak forearms... Behind the Back Barbell Curls and/or Captains of Crush are in order for you, my limp-wristed friend. depending on location or cost id also tack on the Rice Bucket here, sub 20 bucks because inflation and it strips and rebuilds magnificently. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/02/24 12:16 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 20, 2024I don't see Farmer's Walks, yet you talk about functional strength. I'm confused. Fuck yeah +1 for those bastards. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/02/24 12:11 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 20, 2024Overall Objective: Putting God first and seeking truth is what makes me powerful as a man. This means constantly self-reflecting, being honest with myself, being wary of self-deception, and forging my life in the ways God wills it. Unfucking this should be your first priority. If you are putting everything you are doing on a perceived deity rather than "owning" it yourself, then you arent owning shit, you just have a scapegoat when your life doesnt workout to say that said deity didnt will it th… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/02/24 12:04 PM |
| 8 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 20, 2024I got seduced by another woman I just met back around OYS #9 are you fucking serious with this shit, go calibrate and unfuck yourself. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/02/24 03:26 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 20, 2024She was with a 1yo child and a school aged kid, and I couldn't bring myself to do it. so you can either keep being a bitch, or take the reins and keep the conversation going and game it up, gain confidence and make steps in the right direction. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/02/24 03:24 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 20, 2024why cant you lift and ski? thats an excuse like the logistics one above. Skiing is roughest on your legs, ok so dont blast those with squats and crush your upper body. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/02/24 03:06 PM |
| 4 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 20, 2024I see it written here that you need to rid yourself of your ego. But I sort of feel like my ego is getting bigger, because my self esteem is better from lifting and being more of a man. I see a bit of a contradiction in sidebar material here and would be interested what the veterans have to say: is comparison (vs others) the thief of joy, or is life one big marketplace/competition where I need to make myself the best man I can be? Then you haven't ironed out who you are or what you want from the… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/02/24 12:49 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 13, 2024Don’t have a gym membership - hence garage gym - but that’s an excuse. I don’t think it’s ego. I’ll post once I know. I can tell you I squatted 4 sets of 10 with 50lbs this morning. As other have said, barbell and plates. Don't need a rack right away, look up the steinborn squat and get to work. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 14/02/24 12:57 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 13, 2024Solo-parented most of this week. While trivial, keeping house and kids wasn't difficult since I've taken on almost all household duties over the past few months anyway. Prior to recommencing OMS, this was an experiment to to see if I could independently manage everything in the event of divorce. Actually found it easier with just the three of us, and even had some fun. True shit right there, kids love structure and time, you're giving both. The wife will start to notice this and work on throwing… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 14/02/24 12:53 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 13, 2024Sidebar, NMMNG, WISNIFG, MAP. Keep lifting and work on you and STFU at home. There is so much to bang through on this OYS but start above and get to work, come back after you internalize and develop your plan. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 14/02/24 12:46 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 06, 2024So don't be one. Why are you here for your wife or you? Take a look at your OYS and do some self reflection. (Hint is Rule 9) | /r/MarriedRedPill | 08/02/24 11:38 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 06, 2024Literally no data supports this. https://www.simplypsychology.org/pavlov.html the bell was rang, give the reward to encourage the same behavior repeatedly | /r/MarriedRedPill | 06/02/24 02:49 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 06, 2024I spent some time thinking about whether this was a fuck up on my part. I don’t think so. I don't see any fuckup, you are showing youre the captain and shes pissy she cant take the wheel. Hold on to that. “Am I pretty?” Cuddles are required after a session you described, she was feeling vulnerable after you put in work, make sure she knows its not a pump and dump. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 06/02/24 12:39 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 30, 2024I'm really not interested in getting into some autistic reddit argument where we both dig in our heels just to get nowhere. I identified my problem, I'm adjusting course, and I'm doing what needs to be done. There's not much else to say. ok now we agree, sail forward. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 31/01/24 12:27 AM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 30, 2024I never even said that I tell her these things dude. Did you actually read my OYS? You're claiming shit that never happened. really, you don't tell her anything "I talked with the woman later about things, and the medium is in the message - she was telling me that I don't do fun things." you verbally fucking puked and then tried to walk it back. So to recap..... - you owned it, you want to change it - i suggested STFU - you said you never tell her those things conflicting with your OYS above whi… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/01/24 08:58 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 30, 2024It's about me building an interesting and exciting life. Correct, but you need to STFU about what you are building is the point. Its not the wife's business what you find interesting, or why you are doing is the point I am driving at. If you get asked about it "I like it, it makes me happy" end of discussion. She doesn't find you interesting because you talk to her like a woman would about their day, their lives and shit. Try this..... say "I'm leaving" walk the fuck out with your keys, go out d… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/01/24 07:41 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 30, 2024But so far the risks of sane use (not idiots popping double the max dose and ending up with priapism) seem pretty low i laughed way to hard at this because ive read about morons doing that. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/01/24 07:30 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 30, 2024Study below: Yellow Pill Specifically the half life portion. If you take the drug in doses where it does not complete movement out of your system in relation to its half life, you will slowly build tolerance or quickly depending on the dosage because of its remaining quantity in your system. When you dial back you'll have a dependency issue and start seeing lower quality erections etc. (just like any other drug) until your body either adapts to its normal levels again or you gotta go back to the… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/01/24 06:21 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 30, 2024The result of arguments now turn into me caring less and less about my wife. Like I just don't want to deal with her shit anymore. Instead of my wife warming back up in a few hours or maybe a day, it's days. The relationship is her responsibility not yours. Maybe this is normal, but it doesn't feel good honestly. When we're hot, we're red hot. When we're cold, it's ice cold. Anyone else experience this? See above, it's not your problem its hers. You do you and make you happy. I've sacrificed… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/01/24 06:05 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 30, 2024But I am not sure if the ED problem is a mental one only, because the strength I felt after the pill started to work was something else. It just felt like it's supposed to feel and lasted without me pinching one muscles trying to hold the erection. On top of this, size and color of my dick looks much more healthy when on a pill so I assume blood flow isn't working as supposed. cardio strength training type posture blood pressure sleep (quality) diet Itemize those out and see where the deficit(s)… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/01/24 05:48 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 30, 2024The closer I become to being ok with separating, the more she becomes the girlfriend that I like. (This annoys me) Why? Sounds like you removed your need for her validation and now she is a value add....da fuck is wrong with that? I am now looking to add variety to the bedroom. One issue that I am facing, is that she doesn't cum (like ever). I'm also not sure how to resolve this. She seems into it when we are having sex (begging for me, letting me spit in her mouth, etc) but just doesn't cum. If… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/01/24 03:52 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 30, 2024Started drinking protein shakes to hit my macros. I feel more energized, and the lifts come easier, but maybe it's just mental. Also started using straps for my deadlift since my missing grip strength was being a limiting factor. Nah thats called feeding your body what it needs to perform and grow. Add dead hangs to help with grip strength along with the straps | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/01/24 03:45 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 30, 2024Lastly, as I mentioned above, I made women my sole purpose in life. I wasn't happy in my marriage or life. I no longer want to look for women for happiness. I think I need to go monk mode for a little while as I work on finding my mission in life that doesn't involve them Ok that's fine not to want to add another one for happiness, they are for value to your life not a provider of happiness, you are responsible for that if you haven't figured that part out by now. Echoing what others have said, … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/01/24 03:43 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 30, 2024As a solution I popped a tadalafil the next day, this is when I finally fucked her in positions we haven’t done in a long time and even went for another round some hours later. My dick looks healthier in color and size when on tadalafil. I have to recover from whatever is going on and get back in shape mentally and physically. The little yellow and blue pill werent designed to be an ED medicine just remember that, they were developed for hypertension. Building a dependency on them for wood is ba… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/01/24 03:36 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 30, 2024STFU, lift and get disciplined, everything else is secondary until you can get control of yourself. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/01/24 03:24 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 30, 2024The thing is, I know it's not something to be ashamed of, it's natural to want sex with other women but I still felt that Nice Guy fear of not being approved of by her. Validation....cut it the fuck out So what if you visualize fucking another woman, you are male, you have a dick and balls along with libido. Embrace that shit, want to watch the hamster in her heard run? If she pulls that question shit test again answer with "yup i absofuckinglutely would fuck her like the slut i know she is." Le… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/01/24 03:18 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 23, 2024I originally dissected this a bit and had a line up of responses, TLDR version is better: Sidebar and STFU edit: Start here for fucks sake | /r/MarriedRedPill | 24/01/24 03:01 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 23, 2024Yeah look, I'm not a fan of this way of thinking. Sometimes sex is just a quick bang when you're sorta in the mood and that's ok. Not every session needs to be some 10/10 fuckfest. Also whats with the ratings? Sex is either average or good. Are you planning on getting a scorecard out after you finish? Under fucking rated reply right here. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 24/01/24 02:45 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 16, 2024Obviously you do not. Legs sore, ok, warm up, do the fucking work. If you have to drop weight to do the work....do the fucking work. Unless your quads themselves are torn and you physically cant walk, you can fucking squat. I have days where after a leg workout, looking at set of stairs makes me want to throw up, but i walk the fuck up them anyway and keep pushing. Do the work and STFU or don't. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/01/24 01:55 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 09, 2024I love my silence too, but females are chatty fuckers sometimes. In my practice its as simple as saying what im working on, what my schedule is looking like and what i am doing and where does she see herself in that schedule of me getting shit done then/and/or also how her workday was because she needs to decompress a lot. Ill mix in kino during it, ass smack if misbehaving a bit or she needs playful aligning, say how i am going to fuck her later, etc. The whole exchange is normally less than 5-… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/01/24 06:06 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 09, 2024In the past, I've had canned, autopilot, prethought-out responses to my wife's hamstering. This week I'm experimenting with letting her hamster go crazy during our evening dinners and really thinking for myself about how and when I respond. It turns out, she's logically inconsistent (shocker) and just rambles about nothing for as long as I let her. This has been a good exercise in that I'm starting to trust my natural responses to her and I'm not leaning on things I've read online (although at t… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 10/01/24 01:13 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 09, 2024I don’t like setting goals because I think it’s just talk most of the time. I just want to do better this week. Why the hell are you even here? If you cant set or stick to a goal then you're going to be rowing in circles. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 10/01/24 01:03 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 09, 2024Fucking read this: Validation | /r/MarriedRedPill | 10/01/24 01:01 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 09, 2024I spent 2 hours writing and re-writing this section of my OYS because while I could see that I was confused about my marriage, I could not understand what I was confused about. You aren't confused about marriage, you don't have self identity, you look in the mirror and your wife looks back at you instead of your own face. Go find a dark fucking corner and figure out who the fuck you really are and then look in the mirror. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 10/01/24 12:54 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 09, 2024Mission: Find out what I want. Get my life organized in a way that makes attaining goals simple. First Priority: Find out what i want and what makes me happy. Start there and come back in OYS 2 and revise your writeup and goal setting. Don't give a flying fuck about marriage or how lazy your spouse is, get to work on uncorking your head from you ass first. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 10/01/24 12:48 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 09, 2024read the response again if it didn't sink in, then figure out where the fuck up is and why you didn't see the truth in it the first time. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 10/01/24 01:46 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 09, 2024I followed her after a while to "offer comfort." But she continued demanding more explanation. She changed her story and said that she wasn't sure if she wanted to have sex or not and needed to be seduced. I told her no self-respecting person is going to continue seducing you after that eye roll, "I saw this coming" and "Can I get ready for bed first?" While you did get laid after this its because she felt in control because you came back to her and got her feelz and frame. As in your Saturday o… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 09/01/24 07:41 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 09, 2024e.g. Saturday you STFU and ignored the bitchiness and then she was on her knees. The other days you barfed verbally and went into her frame. work on STFU | /r/MarriedRedPill | 09/01/24 12:38 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 09, 2024building on this. Put your phone on a stand or lean it up, use the bar and a low pair of weights and lift normally. Then go back and look at your form, compare to vids out there demonstrating perfect form and then start to tweak properly. Hyperextensions too, cant speak on those enough to help build up the lower back. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 09/01/24 12:28 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - January 02, 2024I like making things as hard as possible for myself because that's where the good stuff comes from. That's ego talking there, tread carefully. Nothing wrong with enjoying a hard grind to make a goal, but intentionally stacking the deck against yourself is leaning into indulgence and validating your own self by what you perceive as large obstacles. Walking is plenty hard enough at long distances, don't nail your feet to the ground as a challenge. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 02/01/24 03:32 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - December 26, 2023Let go of any anger, frustration, or resentment I feel towards my wife and accept responsibility that my situation is a result of my own poor choices and weak character. i simplified this for you | /r/MarriedRedPill | 27/12/23 02:02 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - December 26, 2023So after hearing this I thought this was heading towards disaster. I told her she could jump other dicks if she wanted to, but then we divorce and we have the kids every other week - "no hard feelings", I added. I meant it. I felt great after having said it, and got some self-respect back. Soo, you failed to read the sidebar already and issued an ultimatum. Good job blowing your dick off. Which part of STFU do you not understand? also read the comment from /u/tapingbackjunk and burn it in your h… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 27/12/23 01:54 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - December 26, 2023Seriously STFU. Re-ready everything your gay ass put on this fucking thread and break it the fuck down and read the fucking side bar and either get your shit together or don't. Here is a hint, free of charge because I have a shred of sympathy at the moment.....validation. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 27/12/23 01:47 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - December 26, 2023Girls always blow up CC’s. Always. Old RP saying is never to buy your girl lingerie. It‘s something she gets to buy to please you. So that one is on you, not her being broken. Good sex is my responsibility so I was trying to lead and improve it here. But I see your point. YMMV here. I went the /u/HornsOfApathy route and just bought underwear and put it on the bed, no words just left it there. Within a week she's sporting it and coming at me saying she enjoys them and wants to spoil me for taking… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 27/12/23 01:41 PM |
| 3 | 60 DOD: Week 7 Career - Understand the game, choose your purpose, gratitude for enoughWe return to the start of this comment (sorry for the tangent/hijack), where wife admits that my career is very 'un-sexy'. I agree. But what am I supposed to do? Surrender over $100,000 a year and 20 free hours a week because I would look 'sexier' as a carpenter? Put on your big boy pants. If you are producing a product people want, which it sounds like they do and you are making good money and only working 20 hours per week so you have time for your other interests that also produce income stre… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/12/23 03:07 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - December 12, 2023I still fear rejection and being alone You need to focus on yourself, no one else, just you. If you cant do that and make you happy without any other external influence then you're spinning your wheels in the mud. No one can tell you how, this is on you to walk the path. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 14/12/23 08:45 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - December 12, 2023Really fucking simple here......... Get your shit together. I've seen your situation IRL with the before and during cheating. Take some advice...read the fucking side bar and get your shit in order. You think she still isn't fucking someone else....you're dead fucking wrong. The reason you cant focus on shit else is because you're preoccupied thinking about your wife out fucking the Lacrosse team while you sit at work. As already stated this is your nightmare, don't whine about it, either make a… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 14/12/23 08:42 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - December 05, 20231-2 weeks ago I tried to negotiate a framework between my wife and I, that was supposed to run the year out. I hoped by doing this, it would turn into a joyful ingrained habit, just as many other things do when you repeat them for a period of 1-2 month (covert contract). reread that horseshit and keep dancing or start leading and quit complaining. Furthermore why the fuck do you give a shit what she has to say right now, until you get entirely unfucked and put yourself first, youre going to keep… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 05/12/23 03:41 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - December 05, 2023Open the sex toy advent calendar and lead the use of the toys in the bedroom. piggybacking.....if you cant fuck toys aren't worth a damn. They are added accessories for fucking and sex that is all. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 05/12/23 03:36 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - December 05, 2023“I agree, my behavior before was out of line”, whilst also restating my boundaries. I stick to the path but feel very hopeless leaving this conversation. STFU seriously STFU and go get to work. Everyone else addressed the larger looming shit but seriously get to fucking work. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 05/12/23 03:32 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - November 21, 2023OYS #12 Stats: 43 6' 218 Lifts: IBP 375x1, SQ 485x1, DL 385x1, OHP 265x1 Reads: Sidebar as needed Vision: Enjoy everyday as the gift it is. Live my life my way. Push to be a better dad, listener and learner. Relationship & Sex: Kino taking interesting turn. Now the 5-10 second grabs, smacks, kisses have her snapping into slut mode and she has to remind herself there may be eyes around or she has to get back to work. In turn this has led to her getting her time together to make enough time to get… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 22/11/23 02:30 AM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - November 21, 2023I think I did well defending boundaries You're the enforcer of your boundaries ain't no defending them, only making them known and to be respected or no reward if shitty behavior is shown. “Nothing, this just reminded me of what we were like before”. I STFU at the time but later thought it’s important that I create these moments of escape for both of us. We have a lot going on in our lives at the moment. on cuddles good concise OYS and progress from last week. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/11/23 11:23 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - November 14, 2023sidebar this one | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/11/23 09:05 PM |
| 5 | 60 Days of Dread: StyleShoes are great but problematic for some of us For my fellow hobbit feet owners: https://www.reddit.com/r/BuyItForLife/comments/10tm3k6/best_shoes_for_wide_feet/ https://www.reddit.com/r/malefashionadvice/comments/zlqeub/finding_fun_shoes_for_partner_with_13_6e_feet/ Lems Plenty of links and advice in there to point you towards a nice pair or two that will work for you. Yea you're gonna toss some coin at it because they aren't common, or you gotta find a cobbler and/or leather worker in your… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/11/23 11:33 AM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - November 14, 2023Mixed bag there, i have my focus to where i can let that which does not matter slide right the fuck off the table because of my goals and what i want in the world. Am i perfect, no i can get unbalanced just like anyone else, but i hit the reset switch before i do something stupid the bulk of the time currently. To the second part, with the help of a senior member in the DM land they unfucked me because I was being a retard and shitting over holding my frame and if i was drawing into hers rather … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/11/23 01:50 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - November 14, 2023Masturbation is not about sexual validation. You can hardly interpret jerking off as an external event proving to yourself or anyone else that you are an attractive, desirable man. While sex can be for validation or sexual release, masturbation is only about the latter. And what does that have to do with the amount of energy available for self-improvement? If anything, I can focus better if I'm not distracted by constant horniness. ok lets address this in line. The amount of energy youre expendi… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 16/11/23 07:40 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - November 14, 2023"It's all in the post, perhaps you missed it." No, go back and read what you wrote and really think about why you want to fuck someone you're not attracted to and why you would even consider it, don't say it's your ego, do the work and reflect. If you were out and a woman you weren't attracted to you said she wanted to fuck, would you? The world doesn't give a flying fuck about me. Why should I care what the world should see me as? Glad you saw what i was getting at. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 16/11/23 07:33 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - November 14, 2023As long as I decide to not fuck other women, refraining from masturbation gives my wife a lot of extra power. Cutting out porn is easy. But I haven’t decided how to go about masturbation per se if I don’t get laid for several days. I have a very high sex drive and I need that release. You need to think and reflect about what you wrote, that first sentence is telling. You need that release eh? Can't find other outlets for pent up energy that would better yourself other than sexual validation? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 16/11/23 01:51 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - November 14, 2023When we got married I was stupid enough to tell her that I would never file for divorce no matter what because I was a big believer in the family unit and marriage. so you cucked before you got married and gave her all she needed to go out and have an affair knowing she could play that against you and you would yield. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 16/11/23 03:19 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - November 14, 2023This is directly correlated to the amount of rest and sleep I had beforehand so I will need to pay more attention to recovery Your body is made with recovery, if you aren't sleeping and eating right it doesn't matter how much intensity you bring, results wont be what you expect. Eat good, sleep good, recover. " I’m not super attracted to my wife at this point." Then why are you initiating and trying to fuck. What purpose is it serving you other than a nut dumping ground? "I’m a man who fucks and… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 16/11/23 03:04 AM |
| 4 | Own Your Shit Weekly - November 14, 2023I said to my wife, “last night you were rubbing your ass against me and it was distracting.” (I didn’t attempt to escalate with this. She was asleep and I needed to be up early, although it is something I would consider under other circumstances.) She said, “why do you think I was doing that?” (Not in an ironic or suggestive way, but nonetheless.) I gave her a smile and said, “I don’t know why, but I didn’t mind,” First thing i notice is that you had a clear shot at her initiating and you decide… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/11/23 01:50 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - November 14, 2023I started taking creatine. I held off for a long time out of fear of hair loss. I don’t think this will happen, but I’ll keep a cautious eye and stop taking it if I have any negative side effects. So what if you lose hair, shit happens, shave it off. I own my bald ass head and have for over 2 decades, makes getting ready a fucking breeze. :D | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/11/23 01:09 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - November 14, 2023echoing others sentiments.....get to fucking work on yourself. Your next OYS shouldn't mention much of anything about she/her at all. Put your plan into words and actions on who you want to be and what you see yourself becoming. This is about you and what is going to make you happy, everything else is secondary until you get your shit in order. Start acting and stop waiting. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/11/23 01:07 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - November 14, 2023Travel has me running more than going to the gym. The internetz are your friend even bodyweightfitness here on reddit. No gym, great running is outstanding and you're putting work in. You can also get shit done in a hotel room with just your own weight so don't use running as a crutch because there isnt a gym around, make shit happen. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/11/23 12:58 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 31, 2023welp now I got another lift to try this morning. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 01/11/23 10:53 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 31, 2023Goals: • Be assertive • Be stress free mentally - because weak frame; fold easily when tested • Be a loving father • Be a good family man • Have a successful career • be a better leader • be attractive - get rid off dad body • help my kids be successful • Be disciplined - Create a time table • Digital (web) addiction So what are you going to do in order to achieve any of that? You repeatedly mention lacking discipline. So work on some, you cant hit the gym because you're getting a hernia repaire… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 01/11/23 01:59 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 31, 2023 I try to STFU but can't resist opening my suck-hole, especially when she corners me in bed and I can't run off to work on something. First off, you can STFU, choose to. Second, how the fuck you letting a woman corner you, she got 120 lbs of mass on you and whooping that ass like you stole something? If not get your ass up and go work on yourself. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 01/11/23 01:50 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 31, 2023Speaking on ED stuff though... if you had a 20 year old coed in your bed, would you still have problems getting hard? If yes, you have ED. If no, then your wife is just not attractive enough for you. thats fucking brilliant | /r/MarriedRedPill | 01/11/23 01:41 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 31, 2023Ruined all progress by eating shit 3 days in a row. I don't think that's how it works. seconded its all CICO. Unless you rammed down 10k kcals in each outing you should be able to burn everything out over the course of the week. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 31/10/23 06:40 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 31, 2023Excuses related to equipment, space, and an old back injury have held me back. However, in December, I'll rearrange my space to accommodate a basic squat rack. I'll order it this week and set it up in December. I will then start to increase the weight and lower the reps. No rack, no problem. Find a heavy object and do goblet squats. Get a fucking 5 gallon bucket filled with sand, chunk of concrete or a big ass fucking rock. Buy a cheap duffel bag, sand and a few rolls of duct tape, now you have … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 31/10/23 06:38 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 31, 2023IMO, i would have made the move directly after the fun, give her a required cuddle, tell her she was a good slut and that you appreciate her. Immediately after STFU and get back to work showing that your time and objectives are still ultimate priority and you gave her the gift of your time. Would have possibly negated the objectification question. with your response and when it occured, Rpeed is on point as you did not DEER and stuck to your guns and STFU. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 31/10/23 01:57 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 31, 2023good call and realignment in thinking | /r/MarriedRedPill | 31/10/23 01:46 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 31, 2023Could you provide any examples of IX? That is my biggest problem is connecting with her emotions. I am so autistic in this area, I don't know how to go on that ride with her. I have been making a lot more eye contact, facing her directly, being engaged and letting her talk without interrupting. I find myself biting my tongue but trying to interject with my opinion or a possible resolution. Don't get on her ride. It's your ride not hers commit that shit to memory. Also STFU, don't interject. Wome… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 31/10/23 11:49 AM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 31, 2023Later came a weird shit test: “It was fun, but I don’t like being objectified”. I said “you’re my object, so it’s okay”. Harped on some more about this the following day - all I can read out of this is “you’re not attractive enough to objectify me”. May want to rethink, sounds like you didn't hit the comfort test pass on that one. She may have been feeling vulnerable and looking for reassurance rather than telling her that you do view her as an object. She did something you wanted, what did you … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 31/10/23 11:37 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 31, 2023OYS #11 Stats: 43 6' 218 Lifts: IBP 375x1, SQ 485x1, DL 385x1, OHP 265x1 Reads: Sidebar as neededVision:Enjoy everyday as the gift it is. Live my life my way. Push to be a better dad, listener and learner. Relationship & Sex: Take the good with the bad. Nervous and anxious wife has been somewhat of a cocker spaniel all week just spazzing about. Gave comfort when needed and kept to basic kino and STFU when no conversation is needed. The issue is always the job worry and if she is good enough at h… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 31/10/23 11:19 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 31, 2023Dunno what the fuck happened, but seems my daughters changed behaviour is a better dread game, than I am able to create myself. So fucking mysterious! You are spending your time with another female and putting quality energy into it. Even if it is your daughter, the hard wiring in your wife is screaming that another female has encroached and shes trying to re-up her SMV and gain your attention back. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 31/10/23 10:48 AM |
| 3 | 60 Days of Dread Week 1: Lifting for lifeimma go a tad different since im keeping my lifts within moderate ranges until my shoulder get unfucked. My top goal is a 2 minute dead hang - currently at 50 seconds unassisted. how am i gonna get there....dead hang and assisted dead hang until i get there and push daily for a bit more time without the assist. Farmers walks around the block with the heaviest DB's i have for as long as i can hold them each time. Secondary nice to have - get into a front lever on the bar and hold for 15 seconds. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/10/23 01:44 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 24, 2023STFU is still a challenge. My ego wants to have the last word and be acknowledged. Tell your ego to STFU too by not indulging it just as you noted. It'll drop back to a whisper and keep becoming more manageable. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 25/10/23 02:07 AM |
| 10 | FR: Weddings Are Fungood write up. easy to digest, and for those who are down voting, this is a great example of how you game the fuck out of your wife. Literal step by step of establishing HV and then executing. well done sir. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/10/23 12:38 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 17, 2023Get to work | /r/MarriedRedPill | 19/10/23 10:25 AM |
| 3 | 60 Days of Dread 2023fuck it, lets roll | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/10/23 11:29 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 17, 2023But to answer your question: I'm trying to figure that out (lost dog). Ok, so what are you doing to figure it out? Self reflection, words on paper, meditation, alone time with just you and your thoughts questioning everything? What process are you using to dig in and find those answers? Why am I here: I want to live in a place of abundance. Abundant money, abundant desire, abundant friendships, abundant sex, abundant options. When you look inside or in the mirror, and say you want those things, … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/10/23 11:27 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 17, 2023There was a point where I didnt know if I wanted to stay married anymore. I'm still not entirely sure TBH, but I'm giving it time. Right now, I don't know how to calibrate 'love' between having oneitis for my wife, and just not caring about her. For so long, oneitis is what I believed love to be, so I'm struggling here. So what the fuck do you want? Answer that, what the fuck do you want and what do you need to get there? Here you have lost dog syndrome, and beneath in sex your playing pussy sla… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/10/23 11:51 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 17, 2023just keep chipping away at it and staying consistent with diet and working out and see your goal in your head and make it a reality. Tables You can use the above link to see where you line up per their data and then where you want to go and where it theoretically places you in regard to power next to others in your weight and age class. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/10/23 06:46 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 17, 20235/3/1 Program to push those numbers. Outside of the big 3 movements, my auxiliary lifts were 4-5 sets in the 8-10 rep range focusing on full ROM. search out teamfullrom, i got great results hybriding that with 5/3/1 before my shoulder shot shit on max bench day. shit that reminds me my lazy ass forgot to update that. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/10/23 05:58 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 17, 2023No gear at all ever(fucking hate needles). I take a few supplements and vitamins to fill in the gaps i miss with eating is all. Pre-Workout just a cup of tea or an NO Explode variant, usually 1/2 to 1/4 the dose because i cant handle that much caffeine. Post Workout- Electrolyte drink with added Citruline Malate(5g) and a protein shake with super greens and maca. 2.5mg Tadalafil every 48 hours so i evade the system build up but reap the benefits of higher blood flow and better cardio response fr… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/10/23 05:25 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 17, 2023Goal: Still on protein, was doing 30 gr. /post workout, need more like 60gr. If I’m doing the calculations right?, Not missing a day at the gym. What are your daily goals and macros. 30 is fine post workout but you need to hit a total daily intake, also Kcals, if you want to grow, you have to get them in and then rest and let your body grow and adapt. rpeed has linked this before in his comments on other posts, but here it is Read This ” I got angry and responded “it sounds like it time for me t… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/10/23 02:08 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 17, 2023Read razzmatazz32 comment until it sinks in. You're here to fix and unfuck yourself first and foremost. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/10/23 01:47 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - October 17, 2023OYS #10Stats:43 6' 220 Lifts: IBP 375x1, SQ 485x1, DL 385x1, OHP 265x1 Reads: Sidebar as needed Vision: Enjoy everyday as the gift it is. Live my life my way. Push to be a better dad, listener and learner. Relationship & Sex: Things going the right way. Not even near my goal weight yet but I carry enough muscle and have changed enough at the current moment that people have started tossing compliments at me. Previous incarnations of me would have responded with "I still have work to do, or i have… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/10/23 11:26 AM |
| -1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 12, 2023That's one instance(there have been others) of an individual doing so, for 99.9% of the population that's not going to work. ESE, 18/6 are more sustainable long term for just about anyone. Nutrition varies on the individual so id be happy as fuck if the extreme deficit works out and is sustainable and the goals stick. - Going as fast and hard as you can, for as long as you can, is the only way to break homeostasis. You gotta add guardrails or you risk major consequences when it comes to lifting … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 16/09/23 12:01 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 12, 2023In my mind this lowers the chances that he would make a serious move but also increases his SMV to my wife. Observing but not trying to come off as mate-guarding. If boundaries are crossed I will let it be known. And if she wants to run off with him, I'll get over it. Work on yourself. You can focus all you want on things outside your control and it gives you a 0 net return. After our last serious talk about her low libido, wife said the discussion undid a "mental block" and now feels better a… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 14/09/23 02:04 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 12, 2023Starting with a pretty extreme deficit, but plenty of protein Extreme deficits are not long term sustainable. Make a real plan and not go for the quick fix with regard to eating habits. Its a marathon not a sprint. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 14/09/23 01:53 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 05, 2023I usually start touching her intimately and then kind of wait for some sort of signal from her that she wants to fuck. Example, we are in bed, I start caressing her leg, slowly build my way to her pussy and then gently stroke that pussy. Most of the time, I wait for her body language to tell me she wants to fuck. Covert contract like the massage before sex, you rub her and expect her to pay her part of the contract. She has been talking about a baby some more. I though about how I see my life,… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 05/09/23 02:33 PM |
| 4 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 05, 2023“I need a friend and I want you as a friend.” I could be stupid, but I did not see this as a LJBF comment, but it nonetheless highlights how she views the relationship. It was her response to the cold spell. I looked at her and paused for a moment, then I responded, “I want to be treated like a friend.” She nodded and said “okay.” I realized afterwards that I missed a chance to assert what I wanted; doubling back wasn’t really going to help much, but it didn’t seem like it would hurt. A few minu… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 05/09/23 02:26 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 29, 2023Family: I still have a time setting boundaries in my own home. I set my boundaries but I think my daughter and wife respects 1 of 10 boundaries being set. Not sure wtf to do. Don’t wanna resort to anger and raising my voice. Stick to your guns, if they violate give them the look of disapproval and STFU, you dont need to get angry and raise hell, non verbals work. They will get the idea and step back if you stand your ground and keep standing it. You cannot fold or show leniency, draw the line. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 31/08/23 01:52 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 15, 2023shit my fault bad copy paste. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/08/23 01:36 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 15, 2023I have a dopamine addiction. Phone addiction. Social Media. Entertainment content. You name it. I reflected on it a lot and I realized that it's just to escape from the reality of having to live with my wife. Focus on you. There is a lot of resentment toward your wife throughout your post. If you are going to work on getting back on the road then having something there consistently pissing you off and distracting you isn't good for the trip. | It's tough living with an appalingly skinny woman wi… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 16/08/23 10:23 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 15, 2023I've always been slow to cum and essentially had to end 95% + sex sessions with caveman/fucking as hard as possible in order to cum. I thought it might get easier with cutting porn/masturbation, but it really didn't seem to help. If anything, stamina went up. And, over the last few months, I've had more problems getting hard off and on until the last 2 weeks where I've stopped even getting spontaneous erections. This sounds more upstairs then downstairs. Check out TWOTSM. Find out what you are o… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 16/08/23 10:13 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 15, 2023What do I actually want? I want several months of frequent, non-negotiated great sex before I even THINK about putting a kid in her, to do so right now is a raw deal for me. But I don't know how to communicate that in a red pill way. I get the feeling this is going to become a lesson in outcome independence... I'd love a seasoned perspective here. This has potential to be extremely damaging to the relationship, and if for no other reason, it would be convenient to keep this sparring partner unti… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 16/08/23 10:03 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 15, 2023You missed the point. This is a way that your woman sees that she adds value to YOUR life and you took it away, and didn't replace it properly. - good point I didn't look at the counter effect. Action needed on this one and already have ideas brewing. Your dad is/was you once. Don't forget that. - oh yeah that's very evident and you're correct in that he more than likely didn't have any assistance there either, which is why i choose not to be bitter. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 16/08/23 07:15 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 15, 2023OYS #9 Stats:43 6' 230 Lifts: BP 350x1, SQ 485x1, DL 385x1, OHP 265x1Weekly Reads: Sidebar as needed Vision: Enjoy everyday as the gift it is. Live my life my way. Push to be a better dad, listener and learner. Been a bit and time for updates Relationship & Sex: Keeping in step with Kino and the 1/3 / 2/3 rule. Read the post and links from /u/HornsOfApathy on Cuddles(if you haven't do so and then re-read till that shit sinks in). Recognized I was giving out more than what her comfort tests were … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 16/08/23 06:37 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - July 11, 2023Q: anyone got any thoughts on how to get past this? One step at a time. That's your ego talking and pushing on you.(happens to me frequently) There will always be problems, always hurdles, shit will always not go according to plan, that's life 101. Square yourself entirely, frame up and then take it as it comes and stop thinking there is an answer for things outside your control zone. You need to identify what will make you happy and then get after that and enjoy the ride and don't just look at … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/07/23 05:56 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 13, 2023Still lifting the kettlebells. I have taken in and appreciate the feedback from users here about this being a coasting activity and agree that the big lifts with a barbell are what is in order. KB's have their place, if you use them and they are heavy enough you wont be coasting you'll be on the floor. Right tools for the right job. Lifting iron with barbells is outstanding and I love it too, but find the approach that works for you and that you can stick to that get the results you want. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 14/06/23 02:32 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 13, 2023OYS #8 Stats: 43 6' 237Lifts: BP 350x1, SQ 485x1, DL 385x1, OHP 265x1 Weekly Reads: Sidebar as needed, The Unplugged Alpha Vision: Become the best version of me, that means stop looking at others genetics, gains, transitions, etc. Focus on what I can achieve with my current and future skillsets, genetics, and timelines. Continually educate myself, push to be a better dad everyday and captain my fucking ship my way and make my life what I desire. Relationship & Sex: Continued kino escalation coup… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 14/06/23 01:47 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 23, 2023OYS #7 Stats: 43 6' 237 Lifts: BP 325x1, SQ 465x1, DL 385x1, OHP 265x1 Weekly Reads: Sidebar as needed Vision: Become the best version of me, that means stop looking at others genetics, gains, transitions, etc. Focus on what I can achieve with my current and future skillsets, genetics, and timelines. Continually educate myself, push to be a better dad everyday and captain my fucking ship my way and make my life what I desire. Relationship & Sex: Populated the bedroom with the new bed and artwork… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 23/05/23 05:52 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 16, 2023I enjoy sex/fucking, etc. with my wife, no revenge behind it at all. I want those things, but it cannot be viewed as a tool she has, if she initiates I want it to be from desire and not seen as a means to an end. I do like your follow up on flipping the script on her tactfully and will keep that in mind and put into use when this crops up again. Appreciate your thoughts. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 16/05/23 02:04 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 16, 2023OYS #6 Stats: 43 6' 238 Lifts: BP 1RM @ 325, SQ 365x3, DL 385x1, OHP 265x1 Weekly Reads: Sidebar as needed, Why Women Deserve Less Vision: Become the best version of me, that means stop looking at others genetics, gains, transitions, etc. Focus on what I can achieve with my current and future skillsets, genetics, and timelines. Continually educate myself, push to be a better dad everyday and captain my fucking ship my way and make my life what I desire. Relationship & Sex: Shit test this week in… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 16/05/23 12:42 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 02, 2023How are you working to move past it? And why? What are you trying to achieve? Maybe you have shiity genetics and you're an ugly bastard, but you can't use that as an excuse for being fat. If you're ugly, you better put effort into being fit, well groomed, dressing sharp and having game. I've met lots of ugly bastards who pull hot chicks. Moving past is is just flipping the switch of stop comparing to others I see is all. Why, because chasing after someone else's crap doesn't help my long term vi… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 04/05/23 09:31 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 02, 2023Man, there were several times that I got very confused while reading your OYS. Are you talking about your kids shit testing you? Do you have multiple wives? Does your wife have the they/them pronoun? No I just get tired of using the same words and writing turned to shit. Will fix next OYS. If you count one smol insurgent just out of the potted plant phase as a shit test, then yes that one tests me :). You seem to do alright. Be careful not to play Pussy Annihalator 3000 like it is a video game a… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 04/05/23 02:10 AM |
| 2 | What exactly is my goal as a married man? To make enough money for my wife and I to retire comfortably some day, to play various tradeoff optimization games to balance mental/physical health against fun against money?- He tries to improve his looks, his money, his fitness, etc he's on the dating apps, etc If that is what single men today are doing.......that's fucking bad. If you're single, you should be busy living, touch grass, go the fuck outside, talk to people, etc.. Looks, money, fitness are all bolt-ons to enjoying life and should not be the fucking sole focus of it while you have that much freedom. If you nail those items but are a miserable bastard, guess what....you're still a miserable unhappy fuc… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 03/05/23 11:42 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 02, 2023Internal anger lingers because I have my ego that sees where it wants to be and where I am. I work to make peace with that and its nothing but a test and he shuts up eventually. Not adverse at all, if I were outwardly focused I see how that could be an issue but with everything directed at my own betterment and plan its just internal shit....unless someone runs through a stop sign and cuts me off then its adversarial all day. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 03/05/23 11:29 AM |
| 0 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 02, 2023Why is this an issue? - body dysmorphia and comparing where others are and questioning why i cant or never got there in other aspects of life. Stems from insecurity and pushing hard in athletics in earlier life(be the best, dominate competition, no prisoners, etc.). I own it and work daily to move past it. In your mind are these limiting factors for you? Genetics are, can't get past them and that's ok, I'm becoming comfortable working within them and accepting them. Skillsets, timelines are only… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 03/05/23 11:22 AM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 02, 2023I also found the legal pathway I want to pursue when the time comes and on my terms. This thing is done. I know deep down there is no intent to file from the opposing party. The only questions that come to mind are: How long do I sit on this stuff? Can I push through the bullshit if a return is in order and work on my assertiveness and breaking nice guy behaviors? The stay plan is the go plan and moving with or without a spouse is happening. She doesn't exist. If she left is the juice worth the … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 02/05/23 01:22 PM |
| 4 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 02, 2023OYS #5 Stats: 43 6' 238 Lifts: BP 1RM @ 325, SQ 325x3, DL 385x1, OHP 265x1 Reads: Off Week of RP reading except sidebar or stickied items if in doubt, hit up some Brave New World and Marcus Aurelius' Meditations to change the pace Vision: Become the best version of me, that means stop looking at others genetics, gains, transitions, etc. Focus on what I can achieve with my current and future skillsets, genetics, and timelines. Continually educate myself, push to be a better dad everyday and capta… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 02/05/23 11:44 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 25, 2023fair statement as always | /r/MarriedRedPill | 25/04/23 04:14 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 25, 2023OYS #4 Stats: 43 6' 239 Lifts: BP 1RM @ 325, SQ 325x3, DL 385x1, OHP 265x1 Reads: More Sidebar Vision: Become the best version of me, that means stop looking at others genetics, gains, transitions, etc. Focus on what I can achieve with my current and future skillsets, genetics, and timelines. Continually educate myself, push to be a better dad everyday and captain my fucking ship my way and make my life what I desire. Relationship & Sex: Moderate week with a smattering of shit tests pretty consi… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 25/04/23 02:59 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 18, 2023Family: I watched the kids all week while my wife was away on business. Wife came back this week and while she was gone I focused on getting shit done, not for validation or for her but for me and because it needed to be done. I engaged with the kids, got my youngest potty trained in 2 days. I organized schooling at our new duty station. I got childcare options set up. I got my special needs kid enrolled in therapy at the new place. I took control of the backyard and cleaned the patio. I declutt… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/04/23 07:19 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 18, 2023OYS #3 43 6' 241 Lifts BP 1RM @ 325, SQ 325x3, DL 305x3 Current Reads: MAP, Sidebar Relationship&Sex: Not much to report here as this past week everyone in the house took turns getting sick. Smaller shit tests for shit around the home, i just STFU and went about my business and let the hamster do its thing. Turned down sex as the spouse started with some sex is better than no sex indicating it was going to be a starfish type session. I said no thanks im good, and went on about my day, got my lif… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/04/23 01:53 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 11, 2023Appreciate the response and digging into the article now. I had contemplated just STFU, but I very much dislike anyone let alone my spouse putting words into my mouth. Reading that article and your comment shows I did take the wrong road on that one. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 14/04/23 04:35 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 11, 2023anything worth it in life is usually simple but never easy, if it was easy everyone would do it. Everyone shares that struggle, keep pushing. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 13/04/23 03:08 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 11, 2023Gotta have frame to project it. you have a handle on it, now implement. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 12/04/23 02:51 PM |
| 6 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 11, 2023Reading: Rereading NMMNG As someone who just went through it, don't just re-read. Do all the exercises and be 100% honest. Let your emotions fly on it, get everything out. Uncover all that deep seeded shit that tugs at you. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/04/23 03:30 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 11, 2023Relationship: My flawed methodology: I use MRP tactics when I don't like my wife's behavior. On the other hand, when I do like my wife's behavior I play the "nice card." I'm setting the bar for good behavior too low. My "playing the nice card" doesn't seem to be done out of genuine goodness, but out of laziness. How does this all fit into your frame? Are you letting your frame shift as a reward to her and slip into the NG tendencies? The way you articulated it sounds like it. Stop being lazy, ho… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/04/23 03:25 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 11, 2023“No lifting or exercise since I’m away” - there are several options here. Day pass, hotel gym, hell even bodyweight exercises are better than nothing. BW will send you a long way, just remember, dudes in prison lockdown figure it out in a small as cell. You can do it in a hotel room. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/04/23 03:21 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 11, 2023OYS #2 Age: 43 6' 243 Lifts: BP: 3@275x3, SQ 3@325x3, DL 3@305x3 Read: RM v1-3, MMSLP, BOP, TAOP, NMMNG, TWOTSM, TBOP Current Read: WISNIFG, MAP, Sidebar Mission: Continue to keep my frame and stay on top of my game. Pay attention and pass the shit tests no matter how subtle. Start using things I recently uncovered to move my relationship with my spouse more into a healthy stage for my long term needs. Keep putting more effort and time into being the best dad I can be for my kids. Relationship&S… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/04/23 03:06 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 04, 2023What I’m asking first is: Did the inability to have your own biological kids — and how YOU handled that — cause a meaningful shift in the relationship? --- We took diff paths resulting in a large blow up and stint in the good ole marriage counselor office. So yeah id say it caused a shift at that time before we went into the next phase of life. Between the loss of my career life dreams and that secondary dick punch within 3 years I was not in the best spot at all and not communicating worth a sh… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 04/04/23 03:55 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 04, 2023Not sure they are related but the circumstances around it I know play a factor. Hit me on a DM if you want more detail. She was working at the time but not her current job. The first two came while she was at her initial career path. Then I chased my career, packed her and the kids up and jumped geographic locations. Then came the SAHM portion where I though i gave her everything she requested(also a fuck up on me and loss of frame). The bigger career op and travel didn't come until after i jump… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 04/04/23 02:19 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 04, 2023very valid point and thank you for bringing it up. I did not look at things from that angle and should spend some time reflecting. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 04/04/23 01:32 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 04, 2023adoption is the TL:DR version, it was a much longer process than the end result and could be an entire novel all on its own | /r/MarriedRedPill | 04/04/23 01:31 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 04, 2023OYS #1 Age: 43, 6' 245 BF 25%, 3 kids Mission: Regain the frame and authority that I let slide, stop failing very obvious shit tests, stop waiting on life to happen, be a better father figure. Also put my health back in forefront and stop being a fat fuck. Read: RM 1-3, TWOTSM, BOP, MMSLP, TAOP Current Read(s): MAP, more sidebar rinse/repeat/drill it, Meditations, 6 types of Working Genius Lifts: BP: 235@5x5, SQ: 395@5x5, OHP: 205@5x5, DL: no big weights due to recovery from compressed discs Rel… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 04/04/23 11:50 AM |
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