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Nobody said it was an issue to be dependent on a partner. That’s fine if it works for you. But you have to remember that we’re all different people and we all have different priorities in life. For some, being independent gives them a sense of empowerment and self sufficiency while others might feel like that sounds miserable. Independence is a big part of feminism, which is why some lean into the enjoyment of being able to fully provide for themselves in some way. I think you also have to consi…
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/23 02:52 PM
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I would immediately know what their priorities are and I would politely never see them again. If someone seems to be asking a lot of sexual questions / asking if they can make out with you on the first date, they’re just looking for sex.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/23 12:02 AM
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You got the ick. It happens. And I don’t think it was sudden. It sounds like your dislike for him has been building for a while based on his habits. Also, these aren’t just bad behaviors, they’re glaring red flags. Drugs, alcohol, fake ambition, future trapping. He sounds like a fraud and a fake tbh. You have to be wary of people like this. Call it quits. You’re only 18. Speaking as a 33 yr old, do NOT waste time on men like this. There’s no future there. If I could give myself one piece of advi…
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/23 04:45 PM
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I also dated a porn addict! I think it’s like any drug, people keep having to raise the stakes to get the same high. But crossing the line from kinky porn into CP is beyond unfathomable to me. Disgusting.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/22 01:39 AM
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I hear that stuff all the time. Kind of makes you not want to get married. That and all the true crime cases you hear about spousal murder and violence .
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/22 01:24 AM
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I remember making a similar error in judgement when I was in my late 20s. I dated a guy for almost three years who had no intention of following through with any of the things he said. But we have to take these things as painful learning experiences. And it in no way reflects anything about your judgment; I’ve heard stories of married couples finding out their spouse was cheating after thirty years. The best part about having this happen is that you’ll be so much more equipped to see the red fla…
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/22 11:30 PM
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I don’t mean to sound condescending here, but you’re only 17. Feelings and circumstances change over time. You also don’t have to have you entire life planned out, and you’re far too young to be contending with the possibility of dying alone. It’s ok to not be attracted to anyone, but you also haven’t met everyone you’ll meet in your life. Right now, just focus on school and having fun.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/22 02:40 PM
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Lash extensions! You’ll always look ‘done up’ even if you aren’t
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/22 12:25 PM
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I wouldn’t take it too seriously. Some people really do see texts and forget to respond. He would have straight up ghosted you if he didn’t want to see you again.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/22 12:22 AM
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It means that you liked him but he might have not felt the mutuality there. Which again isn’t your fault. Sometimes the chemistry is different when you meet in person; talking online is so much easier.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/22 01:31 AM
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Second this. It’s not necessarily anything OP did, sometimes you can just tell there’s no chemistry there. Usually you can feel a spark when you’re with someone you mesh with. Not everyone is going to be compatible with everyone
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/22 03:19 PM
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He’s not into you. If someone is interested, they’ll set up another date right away and would continue to text you. This is what we call ghosting. He probably wasn’t feeling the vibe on the date or he got scared and decided to bail. If you really like someone, you’ll continue to text and communicate as usual. He isn’t too busy to respond. People are on their phones 24/7. Shooting a text isn’t hard. He isn’t waiting for you to initiate. If he was really feeling it, he would text you first and at …
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/22 12:48 PM
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Girl, immediately no. Imma tell you what’s going to happen: he’s planning on living off of you. He’s already living off of his mom, smoking weed in her basement and barely making any money. He’s a bum with a grandiose delusion of becoming an influencer. He sounds incredibly immature. I also have news for you: 1. He has no intention of marrying you. They’ll say stuff like ‘as soon as I get xyz done, then we can be a serious couple,’ and ‘after xyz’ but the finish line is ever moving because he’s …
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/22 01:25 AM
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Thank you for backing me up!
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/22 06:48 PM
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Well considering people get raped in broad daylight with others around, weird huh.
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/22 06:37 PM
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This is also an incredibly victim blaming comment.
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/22 06:29 PM
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Such a great point
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/22 05:10 PM
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I’ll tell you what someone once told me: don’t spend any time in the company of non believers or nay sayers. If people want to be disgusted and repulsed, that’s an issue within themselves and they’re not the kind of company you want to keep around. I’m also an SA survivor, and I’ve never had anyone react when disgust when telling them about my assaults. It’s mostly been a supportive vibe from everyone. I’ve been blamed before, sure, but people like to victim blame because it makes them feel like…
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/22 01:41 PM
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This is an incredibly victim blaming comment.
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/22 12:53 PM
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Why would it be off putting? It’s a crime just like anything else. You didn’t choose for it to happen. Rape isn’t sex, it’s violence. Anyone who sees you as less valuable because someone hurt you isn’t someone you want in your life.
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/22 12:24 PM
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But those gender roles will never die out just by nature of biology. Men and women will never be perfect equals in society.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 03:15 AM
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It’s not about who can provide vs who can’t provide. It’s about chivalry and traditional values. Women are the ‘fairer sex’
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 02:54 AM
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Because the purpose of this sub is to debate sex and gender issues, doesn’t mean we come here looking for tips on how to please men.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 02:12 AM
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There are virgins over the age of 21. Look for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 02:09 AM
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Thank you lol. This is what happens when men project their own thinking processes and try to guess how women interact. We just get drinks together and talk about people we know.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 02:08 AM
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Hey guess what, no one cares what men think. We aren’t living for the approval of men
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 02:07 AM
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Lol this is so untrue. Where do people come up with this stuff? I’ve had promiscuous friends and never turned into a promiscuous person. Your friends don’t rewrite your values or your moral code. They will peer pressure her into having one night stands with guys. Again, not true. Have you ever met a girl before? None of us care what the others are doing with their bodies. Also how old are these people you’re referring to? Minors? Because no one gets ‘peer pressured’ into anything as an adult, es…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 02:06 AM
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This is absolutely true. As a woman, I can confirm. I’ve never been on a date where the guy didn’t offer to pay for the meal. I always refuse and they insist. It leaves a GOOD impression on a woman when you foot the bill at least once because it shows you’re old fashioned and chivalrous. If someone asked me to split on a first date, I’d think they were cheap. It also puts a bad taste in someone’s mouth; if they’re this stingy during the ‘trying to impress you’ phase, imagine how bad they’ll be w…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 12:29 AM
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Lollll
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 09:57 PM
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I completed disagree lol. I have a friend who’s in her 40s and she said more guys hit on her now than they did in her 20s. You’re completely forgetting that there are a lot of younger men who like ‘older’ women, especially older women who don’t have kids and have an independent lifestyle. Cougars are popular and classic. It’s a myth to say that women of a certain age lose all dating options. You’re forgetting that men of a certain age lose physical attractiveness, have usually been through divor…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 09:27 PM
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I agree. And I also feel like it’s true for not just women, but everyone. If someone walks into a room and they’re not your type, they’re not your type. Same if you have a convo with them and there’s no chemistry. You can’t force something that isn’t there. As someone who’s tried to make myself like certain people, it’s never quite the same as having an actual attraction. There’s no spark there. But I agree; you can’t win someone over. That sort of thing only happens in the movies. Plus would an…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 07:35 PM
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That’s why my money is on that the whacking off is happening a lot more than OP is aware of, she could possibly be in denial too.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/22 07:32 PM
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This is true. My bet is that he can’t get off to anything other than porn and his hand. It’s not that he has a low libido, he just has a low libido when it comes to getting it on with a real person.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/22 07:31 PM
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His argument is ridiculous. First of all, he’s aware that you’re uncomfortable with his porn use. Second of all, who cares if you used to watch porn lol. Men will find any and every excuse to escape admitting they did something shameful or wrong. And a lot of guys don’t consider porn to be cheating because they’re not sleeping with someone else. But it’s a sore spot for a lot of women because it brings up all kinds of insecurity. It’s almost like he’s ‘choosing’ pornstars over you. I’d sit down …
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/22 03:58 AM
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I dated a porn addict and if his ‘toxic ex’ (that’s debatable) put a porn blocker on his laptop, then he’s clearly an addict. What happens is guys get so desensitized to porn that they need to keep watching more and more to feel anything, and having regular sex doesn’t cut it anymore. To them, porn is the ‘real’ sex and real sex is just blah. They just can’t get off to the genuine thing because they’ve rewired the pleasure centers of their brains. So he’s an addict. I’m more concerned with the f…
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/22 03:46 AM
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I’m a tall girl but I have to say how annoying it is when slightly but barely even short girls make it their whole personality and talk about how teeny they are and want men to pick them up. And these girls are like 5’3 like you’re average height these days move on
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 02:29 AM
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It sounds like he’s trying to make that happen for himself too…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 02:21 AM
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Say they’re committed to the girl they’re with? They usually think they’re good at it, they aren’t though.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 01:51 AM
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Men? No, not all of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 01:17 AM
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Some of them can’t though
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 01:13 AM
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What does that have to do with women? It’s because men are thirsty. Men get with women who will give them sex. It’s not rocket science.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 01:04 AM
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Thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 12:44 AM
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Not to mention they become a highly vulnerable demographic susceptible to being killed and abused.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 12:01 AM
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It really depends on the person you’re consoling. You have to get a vibe for what they need and want from your interaction. I’ve had many friends who were deep in their own issues or grief and they just wanted someone to listen to them in that moment, they weren’t looking for solutions. Likewise, I’ve had people who really just wanted some kind of compassion ‘Im so sorry’ because it makes them feel validated. When our opinions come across as ‘unsympathetic’ it’s usually because we didn’t read wh…
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/22 11:24 PM
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Right but those are women you know. We’re talking about cold approaching strangers.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 10:52 PM
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When did women say they wanted or expected you to do that? Not being rude, just wondering.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 10:42 PM
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Again, very small percentage, and you can’t assume women are that type without asking them. Otherwise, it’s harassment and women will view you as a creep.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 10:19 PM
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It did! I want to point out though, that, as women, if a guy comes up to us and tries to make small talk, we don’t assume it’s because they want platonic friendship. I mean people don’t just walk up to opposite gender strangers and strike up conversation looking for friends. If you want to be more direct about it, you can always say ‘you look really beautiful, I was wondering if you want to exchange numbers?’ Or ‘I like your style, can I have your snap?’ Get a feel for her personality and then g…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 10:07 PM
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“Hi, I think you’re really beautiful, would it be ok if I got your number?’ Or ‘hey, you seem cool, would you want to hang out sometime? (If you’re comfortable with them) I once had a guy in the grocery store ask me which fruit was my favorite as an icebreaker. Saying ‘damn, nice ass’ or following them would be examples of things to not do. Also never ask if she ‘has a man’ because that comes across as valuing the man’s property more than the woman’s feelings. Just keep it friendly and respectfu…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 09:37 PM
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That’s a complete myth and that mentality fuels rape culture. “She was into it,” “no means yes.” There are only a handful of women who would respond to this talk and by handful I mean the smallest iota. So given that, why would this continue to be a pickup strategy? Women interpret sexual innuendos and outright propositioning as creepy. Doesn’t matter if a Chad is doing it. It’s disgusting and objectifying. This kind of talk is only ‘ok’ if you’re in a relationship with someone and they’ve given…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 04:54 PM
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I’d absolutely be understanding of that. I was referring more to men who cite rejection as their reason to hate women. And I agree; men who have been abused should be able to discuss their feelings openly.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 11:11 AM
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Oh no. I get the wanting to see a change part, but it’s just not going to happen. Someone like this has no concept of how to treat a person outside of viewing them as an object. A person who goes so far as to ignore their gf in public is not capable of anything good.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/22 10:23 PM
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Thank you for saying this. I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but attitude and behavior are also integral parts of attraction. As OP said, someone could be a Swedish supermodel but the second he starts talking about sexlessness and bad hygiene and not caring about anything but how badly women have treated him, it’s over. And listen, I’m not saying cruel women don’t exist and I’m sorry for that. I’m sorry people have rejected you again and again. It sucks, but having pity parties and becoming j…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 09:45 PM
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Couple of things: Good for you for having standards and not throwing your v card away at the first guy who crosses your path. That’s admirable. I mean this respectfully, but who cares if you’re a virgin late in life? People put so much emphasis on losing their virginity but it changes absolutely nothing about you or your life once you do. Being a virgin is so rare and wonderful these days. You’ll lose it when the time comes. And if it doesn’t…that’s fine too.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/22 09:17 PM
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Girl, I’m glad to hear your update, but I’ll say this: beware of any man who isn’t proud to show you off. Ignoring you, pretending like you’re strangers…these are the signs of a man who wants to look unavailable to keep his options open. Glad you got out of there.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/22 09:11 PM
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There’s nothing to change about good etiquette. It’s classic and well documented. It’s also refreshing to see people with good manners in this world; people who hold doors and say please and thank you and show respect. As a millennial, I think we were taught etiquette much more stringently. A lot of what you listed seems like common sense to me, like not eating the last piece of food on a serving plate. I think unfortunately we live in an egocentric world so there’s just less shame and considera…
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/22 09:08 PM
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I agree with you on that, it’s not fair to men. I don’t think it’s fair that men aren’t able to express themselves the same way women can, and that emotions have to be bottled up.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 09:03 PM
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Honey, he’s cheating. I understand wanting to rationalize his behavior, or trying to minimize it, but there’s really no way around the inevitable reality that he’s seeing this girl behind your back. If he were faithful, you would have been the first person he told and he would have asked ‘permission’ to go on a trip with her. Loyal men will even screenshot flirtatious texts they receive and forward it to their partners so everyone is on the same page. This reeks of infidelity and secrecy. I want…
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/22 08:58 PM
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I think Option A is most people, though. It’s unrealistic to expect a husband or committed person to never feel physical or sexual attraction to anyone else. And sure he can think about her, but if he isn’t acting out physically, it’s not cheating. He just has a crush. Option B is far worse. He sleeps with a girl he doesn’t love or care about while married to a girl he also doesn’t care about, judging from his actions. I wouldn’t care if my partner thought someone else was attractive or wanted t…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 06:27 PM
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I think their idea of a solution is to just sleep with them, no questions asked, and without putting up any ‘roadblocks’ like dates, getting to know them, and commitment. Unless a girl is into casual sex with no real discernment in partners, sex isn’t going to be automatically offered within five minutes of meeting. I also think it’s harder for them to come up with solutions because men tend to think more logically and factually without being able to identify specific emotions they’re feeling. A…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 03:53 PM
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Oh that makes sense lol. Yeah I typically tend to date men a couple of years older than me. Anyway, I think if you see someone attractive, go for it. Worst case scenario, she’s taken, but you never know.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 12:19 PM
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Nothing wrong with a cold approach. We appreciate it. I’m in my 30s and single and many of my female friends are also single without kids. I wouldn’t assume everyone in their 30s is married. But instead of just limiting it to age ranges, just approach women you find attractive and go from there.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 02:57 AM
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Not at all. A lot of men these days wear foundation or powder. Everyone needs a little bit of evening out in their skin tone.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 04:49 AM
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Why don’t men treat each other well? (Not a criticism, I’m just genuinely curious)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 03:53 AM
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You know, i actually do agree with you on some of your statements here. But I think that, if you do really care about someone, even as a friend, you should be willing to step up. I think a lot of friendships (male and female) can be unilateral in their own ways. There’s always going to be one friend who talks too much, one friend who doesn’t care about anyone but themselves, etc. But I certainly don’t think that we should prevent ourselves from helping people unless we’re being given something i…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 02:29 AM
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Enlighten me as to what else would make a guy be labeled as ‘creepy.’ Im genuinely curious. Men don’t regularly have to deal with the constant threat of being SA’d. That’s unequivocal fact. They can be and are SA’d, but women remain far more at risk. We’re talking about instigating drama after running one’s mouth and then getting beaten up. Criminal behavior lol. Wrong. OP is upset over the fact that he’s putting out resources and time and not getting laid. That’s the real story here lol: “you’r…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 01:41 AM
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Oh no, ‘someone being creepy’ means they’re touching or groping them, which happens all too often. But you know, guys don’t have to deal with that. And you’re acting as if a woman has never been hit by a man in the history of the world. You think girls don’t get beaten up by men or hit or grabbed or harassed? Ok lol. Speaking of Karen videos, do you know how many videos exist of guys not taking no for an answer? Guys following girls home unprovoked? But yeah I guess Karens are the biggest issue …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 01:17 AM
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I have never once seen a woman start a bar fight with a man. Most of the time, it’s because someone is being creepy to her and she reacts. You think there are women who can’t beat a guy in a fight? How sexist of you to assume women aren’t strong. Women have nails and teeth and Mace. women start drama is if there’s an interpersonal conflict (ie a guy not respecting her space or a creep not leaving her alone) if you’re seeing girls start fights and then leave it for their male friends, you’re seei…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 12:56 AM
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You’re making untrue assumptions and generalizations. First of all, it’s sexist to assume women can’t hold their own in a fight and will automatically wait for a man to step in. I’ve seen girls fight more aggressively than men and not look anywhere for assistance because when girls start fights, it’s personal. The assumption that women start drama and then hide is ridiculous. You’re also ignoring the fact that men start drama too and also need other men to help them. A. Yeah, none of us assume t…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 12:23 AM
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Oh yeah because someone getting harassed is directly contingent upon what they said like people don’t regularly get threatened and harassed for no reason on the street. It’s quite victim blaming to assume that someone has to start something in order for something to start. Strangers get punched in the face on the subway. People get pushed in front of trains. People spit on each other. One doesn’t have to provoke an issue in order for an issue to arise. And let’s not pretend men don’t throw punch…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 11:47 PM
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Oh well how dare women expect their friend to help them out if they get attacked? Seriously, how is that even a complaint. Expecting someone to help keep you safe when you go out isn’t a gender specific issue. Women keep other women safe and men keep other men safe. A true friend wouldn’t consider it an inconvenient pull of entitlement to stick up for someone being harassed or threatened. Why would a girl owe you sex? Women don’t owe someone sex for looking out for them lol. The entitlement here…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 11:04 PM
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Girl how do you not see what’s happening here? This is a manipulation tactic. He’s trying to make you feel like you’re worthless and no one else but him will ever want you so you’re stuck with him. I had an ex who once said he wanted to make me fat so I would have low self esteem and never leave him lol. The same thing is happening here. It has nothing to do with body count and everything to do with his own insecurity about the fact you could leave him.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/22 01:08 AM
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It sounds like you’re basing it on me 😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 07:13 PM
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You sound cool to me lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 07:10 PM
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This is actually 💯 accurate, as someone who used to regularly date bad boys. It’s like you finally find someone who can break you out of your shell. There’s also this element of ‘I can change him’ too like no other girl can tame him, just me. Joke’s on ppl who fall for this though because most professional bad boys tend to be sociopaths.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 06:30 PM
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No it can’t. Let’s face it, you know whether or not you’re attracted to someone right off the bat. Those feelings don’t change. Physical and sexual attraction are those instantaneous things that don’t suddenly pop up out of nowhere. You know pretty quickly when you look around a room who catches your eye and who doesn’t. I do believe that emotional attraction can develop with time, though. Deepening your connection with someone and becoming attached to them can intensify the strength of a bond. …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 05:00 PM
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All of these things just sound like personality traits to me. Hormones play a role, sure, but blaming everything on hormones instead of other factors is inaccurate. Genetics also play a huge role as well as upbringing. Some people don’t put effort into improving themselves because they’ve been raised that way or that’s just their world view. And some guys who exhibit aggression issues grew up in homes with abuse. My point is that hormones aren’t the sole factor in any of these attributes so it’s…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 02:43 PM
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That’s what I mean! Idk sex isn’t difficult. Will it be good? No. Will it be possible? Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 10:17 AM
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Not necessarily. There are a lot of women who genuinely don’t care if someone is a virgin either. If someone is concerned about a person waiting to lose their v card, they’re not the right person to be with.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 04:32 AM
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I mean if that’s what helps you, go for it. But I will say women value honesty. Not every single girl out there is virgin repulsed.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 03:34 AM
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The bigger issue is that YOU’LL be bothered by the fact you’re lying. Because I mean I can lie about being an Olympic gymnast but deep down I’m gonna feel emptiness. Also there isn’t much to ‘teach’ in sex. It’s pretty self explanatory once you get in the bedroom. It’s not like splitting the atom. But the girl will likely figure it out during sex if you’ve never done it before. What I don’t get is why lie? So someone can take your v card and realize halfway through that you’re a virgin? Also I d…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 02:59 AM
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No, the disadvantage here is that YOU’LL know the truth deep down and you have to live with the reality of being sexually inept. Like it’s one thing to lie to your friends about hook ups or body counts, but at the end of the day, if someone is a virgin, they’re gonna have to sit with that and it’s going to feel hollow and unconvincing. Have you ever told a lie to fit in and it just didn’t feel right? That’s because you can convince other people but you’ll never be able to deceive yourself. And w…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 02:19 AM
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Ugh yes!! Paul dano is such a cutie! And I truly think beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Imogen Poots is gorgeous. I don’t find Bella or Gigi Hadid to be pretty at all. Attraction is so funny bc everyone has a different idea of beauty.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 01:46 AM
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Disagree. Both men and women want emotional fulfillment and companionship. Men, even if they don’t admit it, are still getting something more out of sex than just the sex itself. And men absolutely need love and emotional support just like any other human being. Men aren’t robots. The way they’re being described here sounds like they’re heartless Neanderthals just walking around trying to bone without any need for anything else. Human beings are social creatures. All humans need attention, conne…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 01:05 AM
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They fall under the ‘weird looking actors who are kind of hot and their eccentricities are appealing’ category. It’s harder to find just normal looking bros in movies. I feel like Hollywood has a different concept of what average is.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 09:44 PM
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Lol also Pete Davidson is another ugly hot one 😂 but yeah I totally agree
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 09:32 PM
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Lolll
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 09:30 PM
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I agree with that too. Hollywood thinks average looking women are just hot girls without makeup lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 09:22 PM
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Nah I feel you lol. People are always like ‘what about Seth Rogen or Steve Carrell?’ Like ok they’re still hot tho haha they need to just pull a guy off the street and put them in a movie
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 09:21 PM
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I mean I personally agree. Like look at Leonard from Big Bang Theory. He’s basically an attractive guy with glasses but that’s the Hollywood idea of what a nerd is. And then the nerd takes off their glasses and shows up at the prom and they’re hot. I also feel like actors who have generally unattractive features still have a certain appeal. Like look at Steve Buscemi. Not the best teeth and buggy eyes….but is he hot? Absolutely. Adam Driver too. Hollywood has either “hot actor” or “weird looking…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 08:56 PM
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I kind of agree with this, as a woman. They always have a nerdy character or a dorky guy but the actors they cast are always gorgeous, they just have glasses on. They also usually tend to be the ‘ugly but nice’ friend who gets chosen second. I’ve never really seen a movie with average looking guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 08:37 PM
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As a woman who gets spammed with Tinder likes, it is absurd. I usually end up deactivating or talking to a handful of guys because sifting through all of that is unrealistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 03:17 PM
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Yes! Great point. Attachment styles definitely dictate how well we can tolerate aloneness.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 03:06 PM
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I looked at the graph. I don’t agree with the findings, however.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 03:47 AM
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Again, not when you’re dealing with ugly chicks. I’ve never seen an ugly chick say ‘ugh he’s not my type, I deserve better’ because that’s not how it is with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 03:37 AM
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Eh, I think it depends. I have a ton of female friends who simply can’t be alone so they’re always in a relationship or jumping from guy to guy. I don’t think it’s so much of a gender thing as it is a personality type. Some people are unable to tolerate themselves and loneliness, so they need to fill the void with anyone and anything. I’ve noticed people who need to date all the time aren’t necessarily looking for companionship so much as they’re looking to escape self reflection and the insecur…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 02:55 AM
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It doesn’t matter past 30 lol he’s almost a 40 yr old man, nothing about that is suspicious. They’re both well up there in their maturity. It’s problematic when it’s a 30 something dating an 18 yr old of either gender. People of those ages are in very different places in life. One isn’t even done fully developing yet mentally. As people get older, the age gaps tend to matter less. And this isn’t a gender specific thing; I find it weird when a 50 something year old woman is dating a 20 yr old too…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 02:45 AM
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So basically, you think men are at a disadvantage in spite of there being plenty of easy women out there? It’s relatively easy to seduce an ugly chick, it just takes some charm.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 02:21 AM
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The graph says nothing about the appearance of the females lol. It’s generalizing in a way that’s not factoring in the looks of either parties in their selectiveness. Again, the focus here is on UNATTRACTIVE women (not men) being less selective, not all women. And validation has absolutely nothing to do with the appearance of the giver, hate to tell you. Validation isn’t a quality, it’s an offering anyone can give if they try. If a guy and an unattractive girl meet and the girl has low self este…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 02:17 AM
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And that becomes their personality and currency. They conflate a high number of sexual partners with being desirable and therefore attractive when that’s really not the case, some people are willing to have sex with anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 12:46 AM
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That’s absolutely untrue lol. Also, we’re talking about women who aren’t conventionally pretty, not all women. Women who are aware that they’re unattractive will settle for anyone sexually. It’s very easy to convince an unattractive woman to sleep with you All you need to offer is charm and validation. A friend who was like this once explained that she would just go with anyone because it was too hard to find a guy who accepted how she looked. So she’d grab the low hanging fruit. And there are m…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 12:43 AM
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I genuinely don’t care about someone’s virginity. Personally, I think there’s nothing wrong with being a virgin at any age, even in your 30s or 40s. Some people have anxiety around it or we’re waiting for the right person. It’s such a weird concept that people will reject others based on virginity. Look, if someone 1. Thinks you’re weird for being a virgin 2. Is upset because virgins ‘aren’t good in bed.’ they aren’t the kind of people you want to be with anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 08:34 PM
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Yes! Sometimes less attractive guys are so charming and funny that you’re like wait…is he actually hot? It just goes to show that external looks aren’t everything and personality absolutely counts
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 08:17 PM
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Here’s my take: women who are unattractive, overweight, and generally undesirable often have the highest body counts because they know they aren’t conventionally attractive so they make up for it by being promiscuous. The majority of them have low self esteem and find validation through the number of hookups they’ve had as if that somehow proves they’re wanted by men (which isn’t true, they’re just easy) people don’t sleep with promiscuous people because they find them attractive, they sleep wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 06:20 PM
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This is one of the brain differences in women vs men, though. Women notice small details and men notice the bigger picture. I wouldn’t say it’s messed up, though. Complimenting someone doesn’t automatically mean you’re interested in them, and that goes for all of us in any context. Like if someone compliments you on the street, it doesn’t automatically mean they want to sleep with you so it shouldn’t be assumed that’s the intention. Women in general tend to be more carelessly generous with compl…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 06:07 PM
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I don’t think it’s a one size fits all. A lot of it depends on what the person defines as attractive to them. For example, I find men with feminine facial features to be handsome. Big eyes, long lashes, soft face. I’m personally turned off by hyper masculine features like strong jaws and squared chins, it just seems intimidating to me. I feel like if a woman says ‘wow I wish I had your lashes’ or ‘your skin is so clear!’ those aren’t green lights to start flirting. Like you said, she could just …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 03:36 PM
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First of all, no one should be making comments about anyone’s appearance. It’s bad when both genders do it. But two wrongs don’t make a right. Just because someone commented on his appearance doesn’t mean it’s morally ethical or kind to keep spreading that kind of negativity around. It’s called being the bigger person.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 12:35 AM
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As a woman, that’s not true lol. I’m not sure why people are trying to figure out women like a math problem. We like people because we like them, not because there’s a code for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 12:16 AM
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Why be a dick about it though? You need to curb the ego. These women are just seeing if you’re interested; they probably find you attractive. Just because you’ve had other women comment on your weight doesn’t mean you should do it to other women. Take the high road and ignore that urge.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 10:57 PM
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I’d say it depends a lot on the friend circle you’re in. I’m anti hook up culture for religious reasons (though I’ve had sex with a couple of people), but I know many people who are extremely into it. If you ask someone else though, they might say a lot of their friends are celibate. Our perspectives are going to be shaped by the people we have surrounding us on any given day. I’d say hookup culture is very popular in colleges and amongst teens and 20 somethings, but for those of us in our 30s, …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 02:37 PM
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Speaking as a woman, I’d never date a guy 10+ years older than me simply because we’re in different spots in life. I’m 33 and the thought of dating a 23 yr old is…weird. I think the issue comes in when 30 yr men are solely seeking out teenagers with the intent to manipulate them. If guys say: “girls are easier to mold at that age” then it’s a red flag.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 01:02 PM
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Yeah the A and C combo tends to be the sweet spot for most of us
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 11:01 PM
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Women can cum from vaginal penetration alone, but the reality is that’s not a large number. Speaking as a female, vaginal penetration doesn’t feel like much UNLESS the clit is being stimulated. For a lot of us, it’s as bland as putting in a tampon. Sure there are pleasure zones in the vagina, but our epicenter is the G spot, which is located around the clit. For most of us women who don’t orgasm from vaginal sex alone, intercourse just feels like something going in and out of you, it’s neutral a…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 07:31 PM
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Well I think a lot of it has to do with the cultural changes that have occurred as a result of social media. Now people call themselves sex workers when they have an OnlyFans account (though I feel like that’s a bit of a stretch) or if they post nudes online or have a PornHub account. The term ‘sex work’ has come to encompass more than just hooking by the side of the road. If someone told me they were a sex worker these days, I’d assume they meant they have an OnlyFans. I think a lot of the scor…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 07:33 PM
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This is a loaded question because disclosing intentions would require HONESTY from both parties, which is often where the collapse happens. Yes you can use your words and ask but that would mean the other person would have to give you a clear, honest answer. More often than not it’s, “I’m not sure I want to put a label on it yet” or deception or silence so the other party can string you along. If you don’t get the answer you want, you should stop seeing them, but again, that’s not what happens. …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 03:26 AM
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You’re so right. I think a lot of it is that society has fed this message to men in particular that their worth and attractiveness and self esteem are linked to how successful they are sexually. It’s not right, but it’s what’s being indoctrinated into people. I wish you could go to the virgin sub and post this. People have some supernaturally unrealistic idea that if they lose their virginity, they’re going to become an entirely different person. Their skin will clear, they’ll become doctors ove…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 01:56 AM
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Have you ever asked if women like dick pics? Because I’m a woman and no woman I’ve ever talked to has particularly enjoyed them, even the ones they’ve asked for. We don’t masturbate to them the way men do.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 01:28 AM
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I hate to tell guys this but when you send us nudes, we send them into a group chat with our friends and laugh or we delete them. Women don’t get aroused by penis pics in the same way guys get aroused by nude pics of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 06:04 PM
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Hardly. I’ve been rejected and dumped before. You wouldn’t get it bc you’re only seeing your perception of it
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 02:44 PM
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But that’s not treating someone unfairly. Ugly women and hot men are both allowed to have sex with each other. Have you ever considered people have sex because they love the person irrespective of looks?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 02:31 AM
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But why didn’t you just say that lol. Treating someone fairly in a relationship is a different story than saying ugly women can’t have sex with hot men.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 02:08 AM
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We all choose how we react to things. I’ve been treated horribly by people too. It’s terrible. But to make a sweeping statement that every woman dislikes you or doesn’t want you is a generalization.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 02:02 AM
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Whoa whoa whoa. So we’re basing this off of looks? So because a guy is attractive and sleeps with a less attractive woman, that’s her fault because she’s weaponizing sex? Do you know a lot of people sleep with less attractive partners because of narcissism, a need for control, and low self esteem? And have you ever thought that maybe these ‘attractive guys’ actually found those girls attractive? You’re judging based on superficial data. You’re essentially saying ugly girls use sex to pull hot me…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 02:00 AM
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Buddy, listen. Your post is kinda incel-y. I’m sorry you feel rejected by women, but I can assure you that a lot of what you’re feeling is a projection of how you feel about yourself, and that’s impacting your self esteem. Women don’t owe anyone sex or love just like men don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 01:56 AM
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I mean having sex before marriage, not while they’re in a relationship. And if a guy is in a relationship and goes elsewhere to satisfy his urges, that’s absolutely cheating if he’s committed to someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 01:53 AM
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So you don’t think there’s another participant in that equation? What about the man? He’s looking for sex with apparently no intention of getting married. Is that fair to you? A woman asking for commitment isn’t entitled. And if a woman could ‘get a guy she normally couldn’t’ then maybe she could actually get that guy? Your post is entitled. You’re essentially saying promiscuous women should be lucky men want them, and that they owe men their sexual purity because men don’t have control over any…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 01:52 AM
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Yeah that would explain the rampant discrimination, sexism, violence, and abuse that women face everyday. Women have control in some areas, but this is a male dominated society. It was created by men and continues to be run by men. To say women have power in everything is one sided.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 01:44 AM
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Given some of the recent posts on here, I think there are a lot of incel types lurking. Because I could see someone actually believing this.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 01:39 AM
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So basically women aren’t allowed to have sex outside of marriage because it’ll hurt a guy’s feelings? Who is a man to control anyone else’s sexual choices? Does that mean he doesn’t have to attenuate his own urges? Basically you’re saying ‘women have more power in sex and men have power in marriage so women have to give up all control of their power just so a man doesn’t get hurt feelings and has a trophy at the end of the day.’ What you’re advocating for here is essentially a form of abuse and…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 01:38 AM
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Would you only marry a virgin? Do you know how incredibly hard and rare it is to find virgins? And if she was a virgin and she told you she was, would you believe her? There’s no way to tell if someone is a virgin. I find it admirable to want to wait for marriage, but the odds of finding anyone without at least one body under their belt is rare. And why can’t a woman with a body count also want commitment and devotion at some point in her life? Or does someone have to be completely pure to be co…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 12:36 AM
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Except those things aren’t on par with body count. Lying about having an STD or going under an alias are VERY different things. How does the number of partners a woman has had violate or affect you in the slightest? If she’s disease free, why does it matter?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 12:15 AM
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Where are you getting this information from lol. It’s not accurate. Why would women get the ick from dating a guy a couple of years older than them? Look, if a girl is in her late 20s and is rejecting a guy over 30, there’s another reason they’re getting rejected. A lot of women prefer dating older. I’m not sure why you’re stating this as fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 12:13 AM
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Also hate it when they ppl pics of themselves with a girl. Is it your sister? Your mom? Your wife? The girl youre seeing but you liked the pic and didn’t crop her out?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 12:10 AM
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So if it’s common knowledge, why don’t you ‘know’ it?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 10:11 PM
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You’re equating lying about a body count to rape? How offensive and misguided.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 10:10 PM
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Not to mention they use virginity/ lack of sexual experience as the scapegoat reason why women don’t like them. IMHO, I’ve dated men like this in my day, and the REAL reason women rejected them was because they were angry and weird and incel-y. The majority of men in the virgin forum think being virgins is the culprit for women not liking them, meanwhile they’re spouting misogynistic and hateful Bs about how they’re entitled to women’s bodies. Women pick up on the creepy, incel vibe and run away…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 04:13 PM
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Always! I get more frustrated with the men who do care while still think that women are making fun of them for being virgins. Virginity is always such a contentious debate on Reddit
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 03:56 PM
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Exactly! I honestly think the ‘women are making fun of me for being a virgin’ is such a projection and a delusion. MEN are the ones who tie everything in the world, including their manhoods, onto their ability to get sex. Women don’t judge men in that way. Women are more likely to judge men for having no empathy or for cheating or for being rude to them. It’s such an incel way to look at life. Women get told they’re worn out and old after having sex once and men still think their struggle with v…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 03:54 PM
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I got downvoted for speaking the truth on the last post about virginity. Men just don’t want to hear it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 03:47 PM
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And men shame women for being non virgins. They’re both bad
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 03:05 PM
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Both the shaming of the promiscuous female and the virgin male are issues stemming from patriarchal values, though. I don’t think either one of them is necessarily better.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 02:57 PM
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Right and women lie because men don’t want non virgins. See how it goes both ways?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 02:40 PM
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Exactly. Someone having had a penis inside of them shouldn’t make or break their entire personality lol
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 01:53 PM
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It’s literally not proof. Some people don’t have hymens from birth. You can break them bike riding lol. Please do some research on female anatomy before you spread misinformation.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 01:51 PM
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Why do men lie about it? You’re acting like this is a one sided issue. Women lie because they’re shamed for it. Men lie because they want to impress other men. The bigger question is why does society as a whole care so much about body count?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 01:49 PM
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Body count matters to men because of a patriarchal, puritanical belief that women who aren’t virgins before marriage are dirty and impure. It’s ingrained in society to look down on women whose body counts are higher than zero. Why do you think women lie about their body counts? It’s reactionary deception to the fact that men actively scorn them for not being virgins. You’re acting like women just woke up one day and decided to lie about the number of partners they’ve had. Lying is a response to …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 01:08 PM
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But lemme say this: if you’re weaponizing age to ‘trap’ women into dating you, you’re going to end up ‘trapping’ women who feel OBLIGATED to be with you out of a vague threat, you aren’t going to be getting women who genuinely want to be with you. Weaponizing age is also just an immature tactic. It’s a good way to get women to never talk to you. But boundary setting is the correct and mature way to go about preserving your integrity. I’d say something like ‘just so you know, I don’t give second …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 01:16 AM
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That would be a boundary that you would need to set for yourself in relationships; that once a girl leaves and tries to come back, you don’t entertain any of it. Unfortunately, people don’t have an obligation to protect anyone else’s feelings, though it would obviously be courteous for them to do so. And I mean, I agree with what you’re saying here. I don’t think anyone would want to be chosen second or being used as a retainer. While you can’t control what these women do, you can absolutely con…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 01:02 AM
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It’s called ‘giving someone a second chance.’ It’s not a mind game, it’s reconsidering someone after giving it some thought. Even if the man has red flags, some women decide that his more favorable qualities outweigh the negatives. Hence the ‘coming back around.’ I promise you, it’s not being conniving or malevolent. Women tend to think with their hearts. Ever hear the phrase ‘absence makes the heart grow fonder?’ Yeah.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 12:53 AM
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I’m not twisting this. What you call ‘playing games’ is women having standards and expecting their partner to have compatibility with them. That’s not a game. They want to find the right person, just like men do. And pointing out their age, if anything, is going to drive them even further away from you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 12:31 AM
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That’s wildly manipulative, then. You’re weaponizing age to force them to marry you. Women pick up on that too and back out. Also women are allowed to leave as soon as they see a red flag, that’s fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 12:28 AM
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Ok so why this happens is because women perceive tall men as protectors. Personal safety and security are important to females, and having a strong, tall guy by their side to fight off attackers is essential. Shorter guys are often perceived as being less able to protect the female. That makes height more attractive. Plus it’s one of those stereotypical gender role things that society has never discarded. The man is the tall hunter and gatherer. The woman is the small wife and child bearer. Also…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 08:44 PM
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I’m speaking purely from the fact that MOST men are bigger than women, which usually includes height. My other gripe is…people aren’t allowed to have preferences? It’s a lie to say that we all don’t have types or things we’re drawn to. Yes, some women like tall men. Some women don’t care. You’re generalizing significantly here. Also, men have preferences too. There are a lot of guys out there who don’t like big women. Getting angry because women prefer a certain body shape isn’t productive.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 02:27 PM
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Because, based on biology throughout the animal kingdom, males tend to be larger and heavier, so that’s what generally ends up happening in most heterosexual relationships. It’s not even a preference, that tends to be the norm because of how nature works. It would be highly abnormal/ unlikely for a guy my age to be smaller than I am. I think you’re looking at this like it’s a conscious choice. It really isn’t. If I walked into a room, most if not all men in there would be bigger. I also want to …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 03:32 AM
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‘Women want some kind of pre payment before having sex.’ yes, a commitment. You’re calling them ‘hurdles’ when we view those steps as the natural progression of a relationship. Unless it’s a FWB setup, most women are looking for more than a one night stand. Women feel used when men sleep with them under the pretense of pursuing something serious with them only to leave after they have sex. You’re calling women’s desires for long term commitment ‘hurdles’ when they’re actually normal steps in rel…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 02:33 AM
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I mean there’s nothing to think about? Men tend to have larger builds than women, which means they’re often taller and weigh more. Yeah, I’m 118 lbs I wouldn’t want to weigh more than my bf, makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 02:24 AM
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Love this
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 12:07 AM
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I feel sorry you hate women so much. That’s some black and white thinking.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 04:52 PM
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Women didn’t start the ‘what can you bring to the table?’ argument, that’s a newly established, male manufactured diatribe implemented to vent their deep seated hatred of women. When you figure out why males have such a hard time treating women with basic respect, let us know.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 04:42 PM
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And males don’t? Lots of males do it, many males. And males have entire podcasts trying to analyze women’s behavior like it’s chemistry.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 04:28 PM
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Hahaha. No. It’s called basic chivalry and it’s been in place for quite a while. I’m sorry that the currently chauvinistic undertone of society has made us forget the archetypes of basic respect for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 04:20 PM
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There are some flaws in this argument. Generally speaking, women want a partner who is as enthusiastic about the relationship as they are. We put forth effort (reaching out and trying to communicate), but when a man ghosts or shows signs of disinterest, we become insecure in the connection. I’ve had relationships where the guy was ghosting or drifting away and I took a more assertive stance only to find they would only see me begrudgingly and for ‘my benefit’ in spite of resenting me. We also do…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 04:17 PM
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You do realize that women shave down there for reasons other than sexual attraction. A lot of us shave because it’s more hygienic, not because we’re looking for sex. To answer your question, she might have not been sexually attracted to you. You can find someone attractive and sweet, yet still lack sexual chemistry with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 04:03 PM
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Step 1: be born with good genes
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