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43

“Mothers hours” are 10-2. 10-4 would be problematic because the “little darlings” get home from school at 3 or so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 12:23 PM
18

I have a theory that is why there’s so much prison recidivism here. I grew up in a city with the one men’s prison, so inmates on work release and in half way houses are everywhere. The boys I grew up with would befriend them and commit crimes and go to jail over and over. And it became clear that the drama of “Well, I have to go back in next week so let’s party!” Or the “Hey I just got out, let’s hook up!”was what they lived for. I didn’t realize this was scrote behavior as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 12:13 PM
13

No, I agree if she’s into it. The thing is we can get casual sex whenever we want. And personally I would rather use someone local for that, so if it’s fun we can do it again. I can’t imagine myself taking the time and energy to get cute and go out to deal with a virtual stranger who is around for one day. Maybe I am just old and tired though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 12:10 PM
17

Reminds me of a mormon who was trying to date me. I gave him an “LOL what would I even DO with you?? Go to the gym? You won’t ever have sex with me because I won’t ever marry you, so ???” He was like “We can do everything but penetration.” I laughed my ass off and blocked him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 12:07 PM
4

Yeah and if you have an iPhone I’m sure you guys already do this, but if you have a sketchy man just check the “authorized devices” that your iPhone has authorized every once in a while. I wish I had known about the iPhone feature that shows the most frequently visited places. That would’ve come in handy with my last scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 04:45 PM
66

Last night I had to call the police twice for my friend because her drunk ass man was verbally abusing her so loud I could hear him while we were speaking on the phone. He was hovering around outside her door so she couldn’t call them because they never would’ve made it in time if he decided to punish her for making the call. I’m so glad I did it, they were super cool about it, they had to go twice before they took him away, and my only frustration is that she had the same exact issues with him …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 02:51 PM
12

They do if they think there’s some thing. It’s usually the guys that think all women are trying to baby trap them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 03:35 PM
26

I’m laughing at “its been over a year”. I’ve heard this question before, in the early 2000s, which was far more than a year ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 03:34 PM
29

Holy shit, this reminds me of a dude who insisted on coming to my place even though I had literally just moved in that day, I told him I didn’t even have my bed here yet because I didn’t have a truck, he drove right by my old place with his truck but “didn’t have time” to stop and grab my bed, then proceeded to bitch when he insisted on sleeping over and we had to sleep on the floor. I did not see him again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 03:33 PM
16

If they can’t even buy pants that fit, no. If a man is cuffing his pants in this day and age, he went to prison in the 80s/90s and thinks that still the style
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 12:07 PM
11

This is hilarious because a short man I know who thinks he’s hot AF loves Miami more than anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 12:06 PM
8

Yeah I agree. When I’m on the highway I drive 70-75 miles an hour, not 65, Because Nobody drives 65 mph and if they do they’re in the way. I self-medicated with marijuana for years before my state allowed it, And I didn’t think it was a big deal either. I don’t think any of this makes me low value. But I get what you’re saying if they can justify bad acts Over and over and over again, they will justify that acts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 12:04 PM
12

I don’t think it’s that serious, but I see what you’re saying. I just remember back when they were ashtrays on tables in restaurants, if it was a special event or a vacation there were a couple times we took ash trays home. They were glass back then, so I assume that if somehow someone noticed there was one missing they would assume it broke. I can tell you I worked in restaurants for maybe 15 years, and nobody ever noticed if glasses or cups were missing. My brother got fired for giving away de…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 12:01 PM
23

I had a low value, well negative value, who couldn’t even function in life without assistance, and I made a comment one day about him relying on a friend and how it was unfair that they have to do all this work just to help him when he won’t even help himself. His reply was “she doesn’t mind”, she absolutely does, but she doesn’t say anything because it would be mean and she’s not mean. You got to say something. Even if they know they’re being shit bags if you let them get away with it they’ll g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 11:58 AM
32

Are used to be really neutral about men watching porn. I figured it was none of my business. I change that view in my late 30s when I had sex with a man Who did it like we were in a porno. I laughed a couple times during it because I couldn’t help it. It was so ridiculous and contrived. He had been my friends with benefits for a while, but after that no thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 11:56 AM
34

Gross. Nobody wants a guy who ghosts who then thinks shouting across a room at us like nothing happened is a good idea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 10:42 AM
20

Oh yep I have heard that one before & the reason it wasn’t brought up in the moment was because HE LIED TO ME in the moment & I didn’t find out it was a lie for three months (but that’s in the past). They’ll try anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 10:34 AM
42

Yes. A man I had dated for years married someone when I was living in another state. When I came back he didn’t tell me, I found out on Facebook. A whole bunch of people had been congratulating him and I thought it was a work thing. He was still trying to have sex with me like nothing changed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 10:09 AM
45

I turned the guy down once because his name was David, which is the same name as my brother, and my first boyfriend. And I told him I will not date a David & I explained why. He absolutely lost his shit. It was hilarious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 05:44 PM
30

My grandma was a doctor who was born in 1909 all this must have driven her crazy. But who knows-in the 70s when I told her I wanted to be an attorney when I grew up she told me that’s a man’s job.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 10:49 AM
23

In 2010 I was finally able to get my tubes tied. I was 37. It shouldn’t have taken that long. I tried in my 20s and I was denied. Over and over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 10:47 AM
13

No, America was 1974.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 10:46 AM
44

Yeah I feel bad I used to give my mom so much shit for not understanding banking and credit. Now I get it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 10:45 AM
52

There’s a reality show called “Child Bride” and I have no idea where to find it, it came on IMDB app in the middle of the night, but it was horrifying. It was couples in Kentucky, the one I remember was a 16 year old married to a 27 year old, they have a baby, and her mom was praising this pedo because he doesn’t beat her like her last HUSBAND. Wtf??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 10:44 AM
123

When people ask me why I am “still single” (as if I am some untouched virgin lol) I tell them I haven’t met a man lately that enhances my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 10:41 AM
90

I posted something on twitter about how I used to judge my mom so much for not understanding banking, but I had no idea she couldn’t access it alone until after I was born. Some pick me came into my comments with “well that can’t be true as a female CHILD I had a savings account.” Umm, duh, because daddy set it up for you. Ugh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 10:33 AM
68

Pick me do it too, especially the boomers. My mom could’ve said all that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 01:47 PM
171

Holy shit people on that app need to be warned about this one? An the whole “communicating with people has no value if I am not trying to mate with them” is not the flex he thinks it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 01:45 PM
15

I wonder how many of those books actually sold. I read the men are from mars book & I will always remember that when men are upset & they want to retreat into their cave to heal LET THEM. We aren’t responsible for fixing their feelings. That was the only thing I remember so I assume that was the only good part, but I read it 20 years ago so idk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 12:36 PM
7

Also, the triangulation comes EARLY. A girl I went to school with had a baby with a mutual friend I hadn’t seen in 20 years so when I ran into him he had drinks and caught up. They were not together, hadn’t been together other than hooking up, according to him, her, and other mutual friends. But I didn’t want him. I banged him twice because I was horny and bored but I didn’t want to date him. He must have thought I rejected the relationship because of “friend loyalty” to his baby momma because w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 12:08 PM
16

“I’ll spoil you like you’ve never been spoiled before!” 1. You don’t know my life bro-this is our 2nd date. 2. Gross
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 12:05 PM
17

I am child free by choice, I even had my tubes tied in my late 30s just to make sure (my mom had a baby at 42 & that’s terrifying). The narc who came along a year later tried this on me and it was hilarious because it caused the opposite I was like “dude if you want more kids I am not the girl for you.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 12:03 PM
27

“ Lovebombing is extra crushing because when a guy is done with you and inevitably walks out, our self-esteem is crushed: “I guess I never actually was beautiful or amazing, it was all complete bullshit . . .” I actually spend a lot of time trying to figure out what I did wrong that turned it all to shit. I used to want “closure” so I could know what I did so I didn’t do it again. If you’re struggling to understand what you did wrong you may have been love bo bombed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 12:02 PM
27

Ugh “You saved me! Please don’t break me.” And by “break me” he meant make me work or do anything besides play video games and do meth at my buddy’s on the weekends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 11:59 AM
14

Yep the discard as soon as they find a new victim and start grooming them. Because they can’t be alone so they’re not letting you go until they have a replacement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 11:57 AM
10

The most recent scrote I dealt with kinda love bombed me with lots of messages about how much he wants to hook up with me, lots of messages all day, then nothing. And I almost kind of fell for it when I realized he hadn’t texted me in a couple days. My dumb ass reached out and then after a couple msgs back and forth I got a neg. Lol lolol I didn’t pretend it wasn’t rude, he apologized the next day, but it was too late. I saw his game & I am not playing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 11:55 AM
11

And it’s hairless, so when I wipe it actually gets clean.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 02:10 PM
3

Since 95% of them want anal anyway I can’t understand how this is supposed to be a bad thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 02:08 PM
14

Yes they would expect that because mommy told them that’s how life works, and it has worked that way for them, so of course they expect that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 02:04 PM
21

An old FWB actually pitched a relationship to me as: well I’ve seen what’s out there & you have always been better than that, so now that I am old and tired you’ll do. LOL NO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 01:58 PM
4

I never got more OLD replies in my life as I did when I said I was looking for monogamy without cohabitation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 01:56 PM
32

I can’t imagine. My BROTHER died this summer and I was too rocked with grief to want to go out & date men. Wtf. Her husband died. Give her more than a minute.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 12:28 PM
109

I felt like a mom to a special needs teenager in my last relationship. Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 12:25 PM
48

Coddle their egos. I am not responsible for making you feel like a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 12:25 PM
81

I don’t understand the “sorry to tell you” part. Feel sorry for the “girlfriend”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 12:16 PM
50

Yeah I block them if they ask me a question that could be answered by actually looking at my bio.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 12:14 PM
-3

I just wanted to say my old best friend attended my brother’s funeral wearing the largest rock I have ever seen on her right hand. I remember it from when we were best friends and the married millionaire she was dating gave it to her as an engagement ring. She dumped him when she realized he had a baby with his wife at the same time they had their 2nd kid. She kept the ring and I guess it only appraised for $30k now, but whatever she should have kept it fuck that guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 10:59 AM
46

My last was a NVM refused to work (and when he did he spent it all on Adderall and beer) so he would just eat my food and my roommate’s food. She was a single mom & I am disabled and he had no problems leeching off us yet he BALKED at the suggestion that he apply for food stamps so he could stop eating her kid’s food.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 10:35 AM
7

He’s literally stealing food from a baby? Is this because he gets bored feeding your kid and wants it to be over sooner?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 10:31 AM
14

RUN
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 12:16 PM
37

I am currently single, but in my 20s and 30s men either started talking about marriage 30 days into it (the men I would never consider marrying) or they wanted to just hook up for 10 years. No in between. I dated trash. Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 12:11 PM
18

They always do. 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 12:09 PM
19

Yeah it was a good book. We rationalize all kids of bullshit excuses for them, when simply they’re just not into it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 12:07 PM
74

I will never forget the girl in high school who bought her own engagement ring for when she proposed to the man who knocked her up. They never actually got married.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 12:02 PM
124

The saddest thing about my forever girlfriend friends is we have all watched the others when they finally give up and move on & then he marries the next girl he dates after 6 months. But the forevers all think it’ll be different with them. It never is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 11:57 AM
24

What other side? She gets to decide he needs to wear one and he can decide not to have sex with her. Or he can offer to go get tested if that’s what she’s worried about, and she can go too. Then they’re good. This is a stupid thing to whine about so there isn’t another side. It is what it is because she’s being smart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 05:55 PM
506

I’m 48 years old and I still don’t like to tell men I had my tubes tied 11 years ago because the argue about condoms & it’s annoying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 05:52 PM
2

Or he could choose to just not care if she walks faster or makes a phone call.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 05:07 PM
11

And they’re full of shit. I know plenty of women who are “fat” who have been groped and victimized.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 05:05 PM
3

They think literally everything we do is because of, or for, them. Playing tik tok wards off rapists? How??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 05:01 PM
8

Gross. Tell him to fuck off. And send screen shots to that other woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 03:59 PM
19

My ex used to talk about his last ex who got a “fake restraining order” on him and who stole all his stuff. A year later I have to get a TRO because he threatened to kill my cat and steal my medication because I told him if he wants to sell drugs for his friends he needs to get out. Then he abandoned all his stuff in my place, which I was renting in my friend’s house. In July, and he didn’t come back until November for it so I got rid of it. Now he tells everyone I got a fake restraining order a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 03:44 PM
141

I worked for a student loan servicer 16 years ago and I still remember a mom screaming at me about her daughter’s loan debt because it went into repayment because her daughter had to leave school after a rape. Fucking awful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 08:24 AM
21

I put up with a LVM for way too long because I needed help with rent. In 2019 I found a place I could afford by myself and I haven’t been dealing with birdseed tossing men since. I just ignore them, whereas before when I couldn’t pay rent alone I would have. Financial freedom is everything. If you don’t need their help, don’t accept them into your home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 12:27 PM
28

Thanks I will share this on twitter I am not in the UK but I know some of my twitter friends are. You need a firearms permit to carry it in Massachusetts which is problematic because I go there a lot and I always have it in my car.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 01:58 PM
8

People CANNOT understand that just because I have pain medication doesn’t mean I am not still in pain all day. Just like after my mom died and people would say “Oh sad she didn’t get help.” Yeah, she asked for help more than anyone I know. Unfortunately the meds also cause horrible side effects, one is suicidal ideation. So the “help” killed her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 01:47 PM
13

Same here. I dumped one dude when he told me I probably wouldn’t be in so much pain if I didn’t live with my mother. I lived with my mother because it took disability 3 years to approve me so I literally had $0 income. I told him my spine doesn’t know where I live but it sure AF would hurt more if I lived in my car, so ??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 01:45 PM
7

This almost made me cry. I have CFS and chronic pain from a bad spine & even when I had the energy I didn’t try to date because I would have to tell people I am disabled. A couple years ago I found a perfect job literally 14 hrs a week, but perfect. So now I don’t have to explain disability right off the bat. It makes a huge difference, but right now I am considering quitting my job because of covid stuff and some sketchy shit they did recently. And having to go back to telling people I don’t wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 01:41 PM
20

Me too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 01:34 PM
62

I am only 5’2” so short men love me because I am shorter than them. I absolutely love tall men and I love trolling the scrotes with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 01:33 PM
19

A loser I lived with talked shit about my “big” teeth all the time. So much so I complained to my dentist. My two front teeth are bonded & I asked if they could redo them smaller. He explained they’re the right size and explained in detail why (like they need to be longer than these teeth and wider than those, etc) and he’s right. Fuck those guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 01:04 PM
15

I had one who absolutely could have qualified for disability but he was “too proud” to apply for disability, but not too proud to live off me and my single mom roommate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 06:08 PM
20

She could counter with “Ok if you pay half of mine.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 06:07 PM
28

Hunger strikes only work in prisons. Is he an ex con??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 06:02 PM
34

Yep it took me a year to recover from a parasitic scrote. He would borrow $, then pay it back with his once a month annuity, then immediately start borrowing the next day. Our income was almost identical except mine is disability. At the end, during a fight I said something about how I wasn’t going to pay for sex and he said “Well you have been.” I immediately told him to get out, it took two days to get him out, then a year to pay my credit cards off that weirdly never carry a balance now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 06:01 PM
52

Nevermind the whole “You did it once so now you can’t say no.” He sounds like a rapist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 05:51 PM
7

You can’t now. You will have to dump him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 05:50 PM
27

Holy crap they’re lucky you didn’t call the cops.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 03:06 PM
24

And the good vodkas don’t even really taste like much. Grey Goose isn’t even noticeable if it’s not a large pour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 03:06 PM
43

The only time I ever enjoyed clubbing was when I was with a huge group of friends, couples, and guys. The guys would kind of form a shield around our group so we weren’t bothered.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 03:04 PM
32

The podcast “Something was wrong” had a chilling season about an on line dating scam where the dude catfishes women, had them go to a bar where they end up “stood up” and a “nice” stranger starts talking to them while they wait. The scrote stupidly used the same bar more than a couple times so the wait staff warns her and saves her, but it’s worth listening to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 03:01 PM
50

Imagine being 30 and being unable to go to 21+ events with your SO? 🤣🤣 fuckin clowns
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 02:43 PM
43

Years ago a woman started a web site called “Don’t Date Him Girl” or something like that where anyone could submit warnings/horror stories. It still exists but it doesn’t look like it’s the same as it used to be. If scrotes.com wasn’t so expensive I would buy it and make it an open blog to warn about specific scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 02:42 PM
18

2 yrs and she doesn’t even know if his family knows he has a girlfriend? Nah dude, he has a wife somewhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 02:44 PM
14

I’ll bet he doesn’t. He sounds like an incel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 02:42 PM
8

Wtf? He’s jealous of hot people on TV? Pathetic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 02:40 PM
7

I just went and looked at it and it made me so sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 02:08 PM
6

Thank you for this! I love hiking but I will leave it off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 01:57 PM
20

Well they were before 1974 because women could legally be denied bank loans, contracts for apartments, etc. THIS is why marriages used to last longer. We needed them for banking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 01:55 PM
20

Specifically, I have a friend I would bang RIGHT NOW except he has that 3rd trimester hard old man belly and that’s such a huge turn off I can’t even do it even though this guy is a great person, takes me on trips, is super smart, etc. There’s just no way I can sleep with him without feeling like I am fucking an old alcoholic. And he’s not. It’s just that way past dad bod body type.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 01:54 PM
9

My first long term bf was the ugliest man I have ever dated. And he thought he was SO HOT. He came at me immediately after my best friend died of suicide & he was always there. And he was a total narc before we all knew what they were. So he got me, tried to baby trap me, then became abusive. I don’t feel bad for them either. They don’t feel bad about themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 01:46 PM
12

I had a man who cleaned all the time. Because he refused to work or pay for anything so he felt that was his contribution. I am disabled and only work part time. I don’t need a househusband I needed a partner. Or I needed him to get out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 01:30 PM
70

YOU ARE NOT WRONG
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 01:21 PM
9

Dude used to tell my friend she was “obsessed” with the gym because she went every day. He played video games more hours per day than she spent at the gym but he balked hard when she said it back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 04:47 PM
7

I matched with a guy who initially tried the “so I will be REALLY busy for a couple weeks” after we started chatting. I asked a couple questions and suddenly he confesses he still lives with his X, she has nowhere to go, blah blah blah. Bye dude bye.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 04:43 PM
3

I hate seafood but at the one beach in this state, every year they have a seafood festival. I never go, even when I lived at that beach, because I hate seafood. Last year (yes during covid) a LVM I knew from high school who I saw on a dating app, asked me on a date to the seafood festival. I am 100% sure it’s because I have a car and he doesn’t have a license. So he didn’t even ask because he wanted me to tag along, he needed a ride. 🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 02:30 PM
17

My x told me how when he & this other girl broke up “She stole all my stuff. I bet the washer and dryer at her new place is MINE.” (The broke up 3 or 4 years before this. He had moved into her house, bought stuff, then abandoned it when they broke up.) Stupid me didn’t understand until WE broke up that the expectation is that I was to store, then move and store his stuff when I moved, forever and for free. He actually tried to have me charged with theft when he came 6 months later & it was gone.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 02:27 PM
25

It’s always the men. Or the pick mes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 02:22 PM
11

I am sure he said nasty things about them to his people when you aren’t around, just not in front of you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 02:21 PM
4

I left a Narc when I was moving across the country. It really helped the no contact part because I wouldn’t run into him or anyone who knows him, nothing reminded me of him because he had never been there, it was wonderful!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 02:16 PM
67

Ugh, yeah they seem like they’re being “vulnerable and honest” but they’re really setting the bar really low so you can’t ever expect anything from them “But I told you at the beginning that I have (whatever mental issues they revealed)!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 02:13 PM
170

Yes ask him. And try not to be sarcastic about it. Then when he gifts you some magical insight, ask him to show you how it works. And then try not to laugh when he fails.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 02:04 PM
669

So she’s supposed to wait around for some dude to build her a fence? So he can complain she nagged him into it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 02:02 PM
2

WTF?? I am middle aged and I have never had skid marks in my underwear. Ever. A stray period spotting stain, sure, but then they become period panties. But actual poop stains? Hell no. And in my small town you would never outlive that. Ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 01:57 PM
2

I had a friend with BPD and I had no idea until she told me. Then when she did some of her struggles with men made more sense. I have a good friend with BPD who started as a work friend in 2005. I love her, she’s awesome, and I trust her diagnosis if she does, but I never would have put that on her. I don’t see it. Definitely NOT nut jobs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 01:55 PM
1

I recently watched a documentary about the “stroking” cult and I couldn’t fucking believe it. How these men convinced all those people this was a health thing . . . ??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 01:48 PM
10

I’m sitting here envious you didn’t have to argue about condom use. I am in my 40s and had my tubes tied more than a decade ago, but I don’t tell them this. I want them to wrap it if we’re not monogamous, and the fear of child support is the only thing that works.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 12:12 PM
7

QUEEN! He processed thought for you AND corrected course?! There is hope for some of them! ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 12:08 PM
6

Every day I wish being gay was a choice. My life would be so much better if I was attracted to women. All my female friends make better life partners than most of the men I have dated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 12:06 PM
3

You nailed it! It’s all just a porn costume. And it’s usually made like one from the pop up Halloween store.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 12:03 PM
7

The men who want to dress me are the WORST. It’s usually men who like a different type of woman, but who go for me because I am shorter than them when nobody else is, or they like that I am tiny and petite but they want an Ariana Grande type and I am a middle aged woman who is more business casual. One dude actually asked me to put a pony til on top of my head before we went clubbing. I was a 30 yr old bartender who wore my hair up all week (but not like that) so no. He bought me an outfit once,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 12:02 PM
12

And it’s so stupid because the “sexy” stuff that’s meant to go under clothes, like you just walk around like that all day, ready to strip and fuck, looks absolutely ridiculous under clothes. Like no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 11:57 AM
6

In my early 20s my NVM and I went shopping for lingerie for me for HIS birthday. We bought something he liked that 8 felt comfortable wearing. And after we broke up I made sure to wear it for the next guy. I am middle aged and I think I actually still have it. Because it was a good piece.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 11:55 AM
13

I’ve had two boyfriends who were jealous of my cat in such a way that it was blatantly obvious and reminded me of a sibling rivalry. One of them actually told me he would like to be reincarnated as my cat. Because I take such good care of him I guess? I broke up with him shortly after that. I didn’t want to he his mom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 06:12 PM
11

My brother should have an inulin pump and I can’t imagine why this would be a thing. I dated a guy with one in my 20s and I just had to be careful not to grab it or something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 06:08 PM
23

That’s legit crazy. If someone said they would call me at 8 I would not call them at 8:10 I would assume they got busy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 06:06 PM
14

Broccoli in the air fryer is AMAZING if you toss it around in butter and garlic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 06:04 PM
37

Yep or she works 3rd shift.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 05:58 PM
4

I mean, if I guy hit on me when I as fresh out of the hospital with no makeup on my face and my hair looking like bozo the clown, I may suspect that he won’t like the real me with makeup and blown out hair, so I see the logic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 02:43 PM
22

Last time I tried a dating app I put down that they must have a driver’s license. Some men made fun of me for it, but the dudes who hit me up DID NOT HAVE DRIVER’S LICENSES. Btw-I am in my 40s, not 17 years old.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 02:41 PM
46

My LVM got verbally abusive when I got a job working for an attorney & I couldn’t understand it until my best friend reminded me it was probably because he knows I am around grown men all day with something to offer while he sits home playing video games.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 02:39 PM
68

They want to be swarmed with options but they want to feel they chose you, not the other way around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 02:37 PM
17

Ugh my last boyfriend was a drug addict I had been friends with for 30 years, who had been a responsible normal person at one time. He accidentally told me he thought less of me for putting up with him. One day he acted surprised when he realized I seemed to “love him more” when he actually went to work. I was like “Yeah when I don’t feel like the mother of a bratty teenager I do like you more.” So he kinda got it. I ended up kicking him out when I realized he was selling drugs. That was a deal …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 02:36 PM
22

I just had amazon send me kindle samples of both his books with that title. One looks like a daily affirmations for women, kind of like the little AA books that have a short reading every day, to keep you on track. I hope that’s what it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 07:46 PM
189

I am gen X so my boomer mom was raised thinking there was a shortage of men because of wars. There is NO SHORTAGE OF MEN. And hopefully the younger generations weren’t taught to live like they need to snatch one up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 07:23 PM
43

For nosebleed seats? Pathetic regardless, but his shitty steats make it pathetic to the 10th power.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 07:21 PM
8

I broke up with a dude because it took him 2 hrs to cum every time. I have a bad spine & I can’t really do that regularly. I tried to talk to him about it but nothing changed. When he had the audacity to rag on me because I took a nap one day I knew he had to go. When I told him we were not sexually compatible he claimed he didn’t need 2 hrs he thought that’s what I wanted. Really dude? When I said things like “We can, but it has to be fast.” You thought I wanted 2 hrs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 08:31 PM
25

You did the right thing IMO. He might have become angry and violent if you stopped halfway through.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 08:05 PM
33

Those men tell you exactly who they are. Believe them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 02:22 PM
35

Exactly I am a very petite woman, so if a man like big boobs or a big butt I am not the girl for him. Whatever. But some men really love tiny girls. Why wouldn’t I want the dude who thinks my body is perfect?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 02:20 PM
82

“Men will try to scare you, with all kinds of projection. The most desperate one theyll say is "ok the power dynamic exists. But only for young hotties. It flips in men's favor when we're old".” Hahahhaha nope it doesn’t I am almost 50 and I still have the power. I am in better shape than I was in my 20s and men my age here all look pregnant and broken. And the ones who don’t get up at 4 am to be in the gym for 4 hours, they don’t eat food, and they go to bed at 7 so I will not date them either.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 02:17 PM
3

Even if he had been smart about the twin towers, those are absolutely 90s jeans.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 01:29 PM
8

Men hit on me on Twitter. Twitter! Hahahaha and they’re always in their 20s so I am probably older than their mom. Go play little guy. I don’t hook up with twitter randos anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 01:28 PM
116

Lol right because women never get tricked into these things. JFC and regardless, if a woman IRL says it hurts it hurts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 01:26 PM
27

We should add “owes back child support” and maybe even “doesn’t drive”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 07:35 PM
16

Babies can break a relationship I don’t understand how anyone would think they would fix one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 05:34 PM
32

Lol I did this 20 years ago when I thought I was missing “Bad breath” or “small dick” hahahhaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 10:49 PM
14

HOT 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 10:29 PM
122

When I was younger I would make up a relationship because they fuck off faster if they think they’re offending another man than if it’s just me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 10:27 PM
8

Bless you! “Short” will be my go-to insult if I need one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 10:26 PM
11

She’s not even new. A 10 minute mile is a decent pace.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 04:00 AM
14

Lol no, starting out with a three year old would be perfect for me. I could skip the diaper stuff & the lack of sleep.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 01:54 PM
46

I was recently called “broken” on Instagram because I said as a kid I played office, not house. I had dolls but I liked them to sleep a lot. I wanted to get dressed up and go to work, not change diapers. How TF does that make me broken? What kind of weirdo dreams about hosting a parasite that needs from you for 20 years?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 01:53 PM
138

I am gen x and I refused to be a breeder who would be called a welfare queen if I couldn’t figure out how to work full time and raise a kid without paying as much to daycare as I would earn at my job. No thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 01:51 PM
14

My mom was a single mom for most of her life (she accidentally got pregnant when she was 41 her last child became an adult when she was 60). She struggled so much all her life her last child was the only one who decided to have a kid. The kids who she raised in the 70s and 80s weren’t going to sign up for that struggle life, so we didn’t have children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 01:48 PM
63

I am 47 and successfully avoided getting trapped with sperm. I live alone with two cats and I ABSOLUTELY LOVE IT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 03:58 AM
35

Me too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 03:53 AM
-7

I haven’t seen one comment like that at all here. Just yours.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 03:08 AM
8

I am a middle aged woman and I won’t date those assholes either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 02:57 AM
20

I couldn’t get a tubal until I was 37. Thirty fucking seven. I mean, I probably could have after 35 if I had good insurance the whole time. It was a $250 copay, but the surgery was a $10,000 bill. And a vasectomy is an office visit. They’re such pussies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 02:54 AM
12

Like slapped with his dick or his hand?? I had a fit dude who used to watch himself when we had sex, and he liked to slap my with his dick. I always assumed it was more for him (to get hard). The first time he did it I giggled because I didn’t know wtf was going on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 02:50 AM
16

Yep when they can pick you up and fuck you just standing wherever, that’s hot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 02:34 AM
10

I can’t stay with someone if the sex is bad. I mean, if I am with someone and there’s a problem I wouldn’t just leave them, but if I just started dating them & they’re not good, nope. And I don’t want too long to try them out either. If I know I like them I want to know if we’re compatible. It’s important to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 02:30 AM
34

Oh you mean like the gaslighting where you look crazy so they can call you crazy?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 02:22 AM
16

I had a boyfriend who was jealous of my cat. My cat was a fat, pampered ginger kitty & this guy literally said he wanted to come back as my cat. He was one of those man babies who didn’t want to work-he just wanted to drink and bitch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 02:21 AM
26

Uh, scheduling “the sex talk” doesn’t scream adult to me. But maybe I am an asshole, awhile back I dated a guy who I had sex with many times. I would have to drive by my office to get to my home from his. One night, after about a month of us already having sex, I suggested I just sleep at his place and go to work from there in the morning & he FREAKED OUT. “But we aren’t there yet!” I laughed in his face. I didn’t mean to, but like, you licked my pussy 10 minutes ago but you draw the line at me …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 10:47 PM
41

As someone who has always lived in small apartments, this makes me sad. He clearly doesn’t have enough space. Or too much stuff. But if he doesn’t know enough to clean whatever small area you can see, it’s not a small spaces problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 08:31 PM
15

Men like that freak me out too. I assume it’s not their real living space, it’s where they take women so we don’t know they live with their wife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 08:29 PM
16

EXACTLY. The more you meet the easier it is to spot them. They also seek people who are “generous” and “always willing to help people”, because they will always be seeking help. Rides, housing, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 08:04 PM
18

As someone who lives in a city with the only state prison in the state, they NEVER tell you that right away. You can usually tell the halfway homies by their brand new 90s style clothes. And their prison tats. Sometimes you don’t know until their PO shows up to check on them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 08:02 PM
20

Off topic, but that’s how I feel about religious people. If you need the threat of hell or the promise of heaven to make good choices I don’t want you around me. Ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 08:30 PM
13

In NH 16 is the age of consent. I am not joking when I tell you that it was legal for high school teachers to bang their students (as long as the kid was 16) up until just this year. You used to also be able to marry a 13 year old girl or 14 year old boy if their parent said it was ok. They finally changed that last year. Now she has to be 14 and he has to be 15.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 08:28 PM
27

I might have had a kid if I had a house husband. I can’t imagine dealing with a kid’s demands all day every day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 01:29 PM
40

“Being polite” and letting people in who shouldn’t be near us can get us killed. Not to get dark, but you know what I mean. We get conditioned to worry about not hurting people’s feelings when sometimes we should really be saying “fuck off”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 01:25 AM
5

You really do have to keep reminding him you have a man. They’re more likely to respect that another man owns you already than that you just don’t want him. That’s why I usually lie about a boyfriend. They don’t respect “I’m not interested.” Cheesy rom-coms have convinced them they just need to talk us into it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 03:11 PM
11

I am middle aged and men in my age group all look like they’re in their 2nd trimester. They also usually don’t have a driver’s license, either from too many DUIs or unpaid child support. And they think they’re a catch. Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 03:07 PM
14

Jesus Thank You! I will use this example next time I hear that bullshit. Visual creatures but you can’t see when the garbage is full?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 03:05 PM
4

Calvin Klien (sp?) ads are the only ones that I can think of & idk if they even still do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 03:03 PM
2

Men fuck who they can and women fuck who they want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 03:02 PM
13

I can’t with men who have narrower shoulders than I do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 03:02 PM
11

Ugh I had an Anthony in flip flops and basketball shorts for every occasion. I ditched him when I realized he was a MAGA Fox News zombie. Anthony lives in his parent’s basement at 40 years old but he drives a BMW he pays for with credit cards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 03:00 PM
46

“They’ll be impressed I own my own car & it’s not that weird I work at McDonalds.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 05:57 PM
11

Oh yes, mine was mad at me for having a job when he didn’t, but he wouldn’t get a job unless I could give him a ride, because he didn’t have a license, but he was a better driver of course. The end came when he wanted me to be ok with him selling drugs, after knowing I will not live with that. So I told him to go find someone who wants a drug dealer boyfriend. That’s not my thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 05:55 PM
20

I feel like you’re talking about most of the boys I grew up with. Do you live in New England? The audacity is strong up here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 02:45 PM
62

I have (in my youth) agreed simply because I knew I could get TF outta there in 15 minutes or so if I do, rather than deal with an hour of him whining & trying to negotiate while borderline aggressively trying to keep me from leaving.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 02:43 PM
40

TBH I haven’t had a conversation about count in more than a decade, and at that time it was with my 20 something year old girl friends. I didn’t think anyone even thought about that after the age of 30.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 02:40 PM
48

He isn’t upset about the drive, he doesn’t have a driver’s license. I live in NH and when I tried on line dating I asked that they not message me if they don’t have a drivers license. Every single one who I matched with lost their license for non payment of child support or DUI. Hard. Pass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 12:14 AM
18

Lol because Maine isn’t as far for you to drive as it is for him to go to Boston? Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 12:12 AM
12

Yep. And remember when that lab was giving them fake negative HIV tests to keep them working?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 12:10 AM
8

Yeah and idk that I would trust an “it’s clean” with a casual hook up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 12:09 AM
7

Same. If he is like that with me he’s been like that with everyone and that’s gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 12:08 AM
7

I appreciate that you told them. I hope they did too. It used to be a crime in California but I think that was repealed right before Charlie Sheen came out with his HIV diagnosis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 12:08 AM
9

I had a friend who said he would absolutely use one if asked but he always tried to just go for it. He had this weird theory that if he took a second to out it on it would give her a second to think about it and she would say no. Gross. I told him it was gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 12:05 AM
18

I am 47 years old and I haven’t had sex in a year because men in my age group in the dating pool all have a belly like they’re in their 2nd trimester. No thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 11:57 PM
42

I love you because of this: “I wanted a baby, pregnancy was just the price I was willing to pay to get one.” I never wanted a baby. I had a boyfriend once who complained about women who complain about being pregnant. “It’s only 9 months! You can’t do 9 months of mild discomfort for a baby?” he said to me. No, no sir I will not because I don’t want a baby. Imagine going through all that when you don’t even want it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 11:55 PM
1

My last one called me judgemental for having standards and boundaries. The one he flipped out about: “Your fentanyl addict friend cant come over.” Yeah, I guess I am just a judgmental bitch because I don’t want anyone contaminating my home or overdosing there. Sorry not sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 08:08 PM
2

Accurate. My crack head ex hooked up with a girl in the mental institution he went to live in after I kicked him out. I was trying to help him get his life together until I found out he gave her my phone number so they could keep in touch after she got out first. So I cut off all contact. I guess she picked him up when he got of the hospital and after one day she didn’t want to deal with him either. Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 08:03 PM
3

Do you remember the “Don’t Date Him Girl” site? Lol I should go see if it’s still up. Women submitted stories/photos of shitty men. Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 07:36 PM
2

Yeah, but the next time she something like this from a different woman she may wake up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 07:34 PM
30

A lot of times these guys are narcs and convince the woman that they are crazy or we are crazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 07:33 PM
22

I did this once & she ignored me, probably because he told her I crazy or jealous or whatever. I felt bad for her because I knew she was trying to marry him & have babies & she was wasting her youth. She didn’t believe me but when the next one sent her the same shit she got out of there and found someone worthy of her time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 07:32 PM
2

I had a man give me shit and call me ridiculous when it took me a couple minutes to find matching socks because my drawer was too full because I consolidated so he would have a drawer. “Pfft, I wouldn’t spend two minutes trying to find matching socks!” Well dipshit, maybe that’s why nobody will hire you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 07:26 PM
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