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| 1 | My 23F wife wants a divorce, but insists I file. I refuse. Am I wrong?the refusing to file thing feels more symbolic than practical, she can just file it herself anyway so it's mostly just dragging out the discomfort for both of you. bigger thing imo is she won't say why she wants YOU to file. that's not nothing, could be guilt, could be pride, worth asking her straight instead of hanging up next time also that week you couldn't get outta bed and felt numb for 6 months after, that's not just heartbreak stuff, might be worth getting checked out on its own and for w… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/07/26 02:57 PM |
| 1 | Looking for inputyou're valid for feeling this way. location sharing during your time isn't her business, and her bf having access is a hard no, dude has no business tracking your kid period. the no content controls thing at 7/8 is rough too, that's not overreacting that's just responsible parenting. good call sending the phone back. i'd keep a text/email trail of you raising these concerns though, just in case this ever needs to go in front of a mediator down the line. courts don't love hearing "undisclosed thi… | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/07/26 01:00 PM |
| 3 | Can I turn this around or am I kidding myself?man this is rough but you caught it early, that's the important part. most dudes don't get this window at all. flowers and dates are nice but honestly the real fix is showing her you get why she felt unseen, not just doing more stuff. acts of service is real but if she's been craving affirmation and attention for a while, she probably read your effort as "he doesn't get me" not "he loves me." that's the actual gap. be honest with yourself too, is this a few weeks of trying or has it been solid f… | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/07/26 11:39 AM |
| 1 | After the dust settled, life was kind of lit after she leftthe BD/AD thing is so real, you don't realize how much a bad relationship drains you til it's gone and you're like damn i forgot what normal feels like. the piss and shit dogs line killed me lol. but fr, "not being looked at with contempt in a home you're paying for" is such a specific gut punch that people who haven't lived it just don't get. glad you got your reset, man. people love to assume divorced = miserable but sometimes it's the opposite, sometimes that's the year you actually start bre… | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/07/26 11:15 AM |
| 1 | Looking for Adviceyour proposal isn't as one sided as she thinks, but 20 years outta the workforce means a judge is probably ordering support no matter what you two agree to in mediation, that part usually isn't negotiable she's probably freaking out cause losing income + losing the house + being told to "just figure it out" is scary even if the numbers work out fine for her long term, worth keeping in mind even if you don't agree with it nesting is a mess unless both people are super cooperative, sounds like you… | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/07/26 10:32 AM |
| 3 | Age gap!honestly just go for it man. you're both adults, you didn't hide your age, she said yes right away, that's really all that matters here the nerves you're feeling probably ain't even about the age gap, it's cause it's your first date in 25 years lol that's a whole different beast. don't overthink it, just be yourself and see how it goes worst case it's awkward and you two stay cool since you already know each other. best case you vibe. either way stop asking for permission and just enjoy the date | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/07/26 10:39 AM |
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