SpookyWitchesHat Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1334	I did it. (TW: r*pe)	QUEEN SH*T	SpookyWitchesHat	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/10/21 09:51 AM
843	Seen in a medical sub. Thankfully the replies were very supportive; I hope she will be OK	MALE DEPRAVITY	SpookyWitchesHat	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	09/02/22 10:17 PM
278	Have you taken your husband’s surname? Or, will you take your future-husband’s name?	DISCUSSION	SpookyWitchesHat	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	13/09/21 11:56 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
2	Seen in a medical sub. Thankfully the replies were very supportive; I hope she will be OK That is absolutely deranged	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/02/22 02:55 PM
13	Seen in a medical sub. Thankfully the replies were very supportive; I hope she will be OK You didn’t deserve any of that. I’m so sorry :(	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/02/22 11:09 PM
113	Seen in a medical sub. Thankfully the replies were very supportive; I hope she will be OK I’m so sorry he did that to you. No one deserves that kind of pain. Sending you a big hug	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/02/22 05:58 AM
63	Seen in a medical sub. Thankfully the replies were very supportive; I hope she will be OK Congratulations on leaving! You’re amazing. If you ever need us we’re all here for you :) sending all my love	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/02/22 05:57 AM
345	Seen in a medical sub. Thankfully the replies were very supportive; I hope she will be OK I’m so sad too :( She said in the comments that he is 19. Terrible men come in all shapes and ages	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	09/02/22 10:22 PM
54	The most painful part of heartbreak is realizing that he’s never truly loved you. He might’ve even hated you. How to cope with it? I think that feelings of anger can be seen as a good thing - it’s a normal reaction. It’s your mind picking up and recognising that you have been wronged, treated unfairly, used, etc. Use it in the future and listen to it if it arises again - use it to protect yourself. Feelings have a purpose if we acknowledge them and work through their meaning :)	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	01/10/21 06:32 AM
125	Why? Just why? This is spot on. On more than one occasion I’ve had guys say things like, “yeah but plenty of other women have let me do X (sexual activity I have previously declared to be uncomfortable with)”. My favourite answer to this is to smile and sweetly say, “that’s so great! You’re a lucky man. You’re most welcome to leave and find someone else to do that with”. Not only does it reinforce a boundary but it also shuts them up right quick.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/09/21 05:22 AM
2	Have you taken your husband’s surname? Or, will you take your future-husband’s name? That’s amazing, thanks for sharing. We learn something new every day!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/09/21 09:50 PM
6	Have you taken your husband’s surname? Or, will you take your future-husband’s name? I love this idea	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/09/21 09:46 PM
34	The first page of this book: The Gift of Fear by Gavin de Becker I’m reading this at the moment too! It’s so well-written, full of wisdom and strategy, relatable, and informative. Definitely and highly recommended.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/08/21 06:48 AM
45	Tell me you blame women, without telling me you blame women. He needs to think about WHY women become homeless. So often women are abused, threatened, or stalked, or otherwise forced to move from home - as consequences of male actions, no less - and even then women are still strong enough to seek shelters, use any and all resources at their disposal, and slowly build themselves up again. He can kindly go fuck himself with something sharp and sand-papery.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/08/21 06:46 AM
2	Finally left abusive LVM It took me a really long time too. I genuinely didn’t understand how another person could exploit another’s vulnerabilities in those ways. Now that I can see through people’s behaviours a bit better I can spot trouble from a mile away! As horrible as it is, you will learn so much from this experience - not only about other people, but most importantly, yourself. It sounds like your mom and grandma are wonderful supports. Always remember, don’t be afraid to lean on them if you feel the need :) th…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/04/21 07:19 AM
10	Finally left abusive LVM It takes an astonishing amount of strength to not only realise that you’re being abused, but to take every painful step to escape. I know that a lot of us here have been in similar situations. Now is the time to be extra kind to yourself and be surrounded by those who love and care about you. Just know that this stranger is over the moon for you!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/04/21 09:19 AM
9	One Step At A Time This is a great achievement and a big step. Resisting the urge to check in on people from your past is really important, especially for mental health. Besides, you could be spending that extra time focusing on something more worthwhile! Such as yourself :)	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/03/21 06:55 AM
15	Learning to put myself first, after a lifetime of conditioning to cater to everyone else. Here’s a few lessons I’ve gathered along the way. If anyone criticises or judges the way you laugh then they are not someone worth having around. Genuinely laughing is one of the best parts of life! Putting someone down for expressing joy is such a low act, and no one deserves to be treated like that. It’s a form of negging in my mind.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/03/21 06:52 AM
22	One for the ages (2 parts). Yes! It’s been said before - men only want to impress, and care about the opinions of... other men.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	01/03/21 05:14 AM
6	Sex Advice Scammers: Nadia Bokody - Borderline Personality Disorder, Self Harm, Abusive Behavior, and Zero educational background apparently qualifies one as a "Sexpert" Thank you for writing this post. It’s something that for me would have gone unobserved in the past. Now my eyes will be more open to fraudulent claims from individuals like this who clearly shouldn’t have access to such a megaphone to spew such damaging ‘advice’.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/02/21 10:07 AM
10	Stop fake laughing at men’s unfunny jokes. They really aren’t that funny... I actually smiled out loud at this! Just further proof that women are funnier than men	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/02/21 09:34 PM
38	Stop fake laughing at men’s unfunny jokes. They really aren’t that funny... I broke up with a vegan ex for repeatedly calling me ‘carnist scum’.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/02/21 08:01 PM
97	Plot Twist: Scrotes are the biggest gold diggers around. What better way to control a woman than to have complete financial dominance over her. Fuuuuuck that.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/02/21 09:12 AM
17	Tips on assertiveness I can very much relate to this, I definitely hear you. Finding your voice is hard work but it’s well worth the effort. Once you’ve found it it can often make people around you uncomfortable when they sense the change from passive to assertive, and unfortunately there can be blow-back which can leave you feeling shaken and unsure. Perhaps you weren’t as mean or harsh as you perceived yourself to be? It’s a big change for you as well, after all, and change can cause discomfort, even in yourself. Y…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	21/02/21 11:15 AM
18	This is not really about dating, but it reminds me of FDS cause of the fact that its a women-only space. Reddit doesn't get it, and think its misandry when its not. This is not a debate sub. Its our space to be ourselves and be safe. I wouldn’t let them in my house, so why would I give them access to my social media presence?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/02/21 11:12 PM
2	My flair got upgraded 😎 Yay! I hope I get one too so that I can start participating more :)	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/02/21 04:40 AM
76	Do not discuss your finances/nest egg with men you are dating! I never tell a guy that I own my own place, and will happily let him assume that I’m renting. People (not just partners) who find out rarely treat me the same. I worked so hard to get where I am and there’s 0% chance I’m gonna let anyone try and take that away from me.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/01/21 04:19 AM
19	The most empowering takeaway from FDS is "you don't have to put up with this" I highly recommend reading ‘Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents’. I was emotionally neglected by unstable parents who were both different in their behaviours, but both were as equally as damaging as the other. It is incredibly insightful and well worth the read. It has provided answers to questions I never even knew I had, and has taught me many things which I can now carry with me. :)	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/10/20 10:48 AM
6	I think all ladies could benefit from Dianic Wicca, even if they aren't religious There’s also r/WitchesVsPatriarchy :)	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/10/20 08:38 AM