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Does the one i have on my left armpit count?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 12:51 AM
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You can't assess chemistry online. When people meet organically they see many other cues besides looks and a short bio that's more akin to marketing than an actual description of the person. Online dating relies a lot on looks and the reality is that most people aren't good looking enough to lead with that. Online dating also relies on arbitrary filters that exclude people that might be a great match in real life. For example, a great match that's 35 or 24 will be excluded if your filters are se…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 12:49 AM
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I think online dating sucks in that there is no way for me to pre-vet men, unlike my social circle where most men are largely what I am looking for in a life partner, and so I do not have to filter for that. Many years ago a cute guy was interested in me. A friend mentioned that he had dated on of my acquaintances and posted revenge porn of her. There's no guarantee that that something like that wouldn't happen to me if I dated men I know in person, but with online dating there's no way that I w…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 12:47 AM
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I missed the unhinged questions men asked women in this sub around 5 years ago: "Hey ladies, would you prefer to date the guy that kills kittens for sports but is tall and sexy or the good reliable guy that loves you unconditionally but smells like dog food and leaves skid marks on the sofa?"
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 09:11 PM
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“Well you matched with him so..” Females need to use their telepathic powers to make sure the guy in the picture isn't a dick.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 08:55 PM
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"I loved my wife and thought she was the only one for me until I came home and saw our german shepherd occupying MY spot in OUR bed. Wife is now pregnant. Gotta have a DNA test to make sure it's mine."
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 08:53 PM
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I hate bananas and any part off the chicken that's not chicken breast. Fat in pork and beef makes me puke. Am I icking you enough or should I keep going about how I don't like my milk?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 08:48 PM
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Because average people are invisible.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 08:42 PM
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I know several men that insist men get better with age while women lose their appeal. When I ask them why is that they often say "men are wanted for resources and financial stability while women for their beauty". At the same time, these men are frustrated that the only younger women interested in dating them expect to be wined and dined in expensive restaurants and often lose interest when these men refuse to provide. These men also insist that young men can't get relationships or sex because y…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 08:41 PM
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I've never seen 50/50 to be used literally outside the internet, which is why I'm surprised by the story.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 08:15 PM
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You're essentially describing an equitable relationship. I think that 50/50 is a shorthand for that. I don't think any reasonable man expects 50/50 if he makes much more than the woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 08:04 PM
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50/50 is just another name for "equitable share" and doesn't mean that both will put half and half of their money in a literal sense. Expecting a man to provide a bigger share of his money just because he's a man isn't expecting generosity and it's just as transactional. Also keep in mind that many "generous" men have a traditional mindset and while they have no problem being the sole providers, they also operate by the mantra that children are a woman's responsibility. I've seen several of thes…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 08:00 PM
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Feminism is about equality, not about choice. While I don't believe in taking the ability to choose away from women (or pretty much anyone), I'm going to admit that the expectation from both gender for childcare to fall on women, which is what often leads to women becoming homemakers, isn't feminist in any way shape or form. I understand that women breastfeed and might be weakened for a while by pregnancy and birth, and this might lead them to be out of work for some time. I also understand cert…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 05:07 PM
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Applies to men too.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 04:42 PM
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Why would a childfree man be a provider to a high earning woman that is also childfree?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 01:31 AM
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Where are you people getting these charts from?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 05:28 PM
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And a better question is: how would Steve have such intimate details about Trevor's sex life?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 05:24 PM
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He keeps barking at me. Is that a "yes"?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 02:25 PM
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When I was in my early 20s and men in their 30s and above showed interest in me I would wonder why would a supposedly "mature" man be interested in someone that young. These guys weren't unattractive ghouls objectively speaking, but I've just never found much older men attractive (with some exceptions). I also don't care about transactional relationships, but it's not a coincidence that men dating much younger women are either more financially successful than the average man or spend an inordina…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 02:16 PM
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Because they spend too much time thinking about other men's dicks.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 02:02 PM
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Excuse me, but no self-respecting mentally healthy person would date a serial killer.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 01:59 PM
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Fall >>>>>>>>>> every other season
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 01:57 PM
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[Debate] Is petting someone else's dog when you have one at home cheating?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 01:56 PM
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Me, it's me!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 01:56 PM
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To be fair, how many men are genuinely interested in being a walking wallet to a woman? Passport bros are in the minority.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 02:18 AM
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Most men can have children their whole life. The issue with men is that they eventually age out of the fertile woman's dating pool.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 02:16 AM
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A 35 year old woman can easily have 5+ fertile years ahead of her. A man's big threat is that he eventually ages out of the fertile dating pool, which usually happens around mid 40s. If they're willing to have a family through unconventional methods then they can wait til later.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 02:14 AM
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I think the bar can be extremely high for men when it comes to performative actions during courting such as paying for dates, which can limit a man's prospects with women of similar income in some cases. On the other, men that can pay, can often pay their way into a relationship while lacking many other qualities that are expected from women. For example, a man can try to get into a woman's pants and as long as he accepts a "no" and keeps planning for dates, his behavior wouldn't damage his chan…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 02:53 AM
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How old are your mother's friends, and are they from a relatively conservative area? People that see marriage as a must are more likely to settle out of desperation. Despite all the talk about the cock carousel, the biggest predictor that a woman (or a man) will settle is their desperation to get married, regardless of sexual experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 02:31 AM
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His response was mature. I didn't like the smoking part, but the rest seems okay. A man not paying for you isn't a moral failing on his part. Don't date him if you don't want.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 02:25 AM
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You're the one that has no clue what you're babbling about. I supported what I said with evidence, you supported what you said with anecdotes.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 04:30 AM
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Never said absent father was great. Just that fathers that choose to be present are better than father that choose to only provide. Based on what you describe, yours was a single father. This is different from a father that has the choice to cut back on his work a bit to be more present but chooses to offload everything on his wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 04:24 AM
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Femmogging, femstealing, femrobbing...
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 02:37 AM
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They breathe and they walk.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 02:32 AM
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Look at the Dad's Income and Mom's Work by Mother's Education chart. The higher the woman's educational attainment the less likely she is to stay at home. Although dducational attainment and income aren't perfectly correlated it is safe to assume that the correlation between the two is high. It's safe to assume that women with higher incomes are less likely to stay home. I never said that all SAHMs are married to six figure earners, but it's clear from the chart that women that are married to hi…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 02:08 AM
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There are many men that are very involved fathers, but this thread is not about them. "Not that bad" by the way is a very low standard. I know several "not that bad men". The men I'm talking about are not very involved with their children beyond being providers. Some women are perfectly okay with that but many are not.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 01:49 AM
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Nobody would complain if Scarlett Johansson wanted a tall/rich/confident man. These complaints about women having high standards exist because men don't think these standards are justified, hence the "what do these women bring to the table" talks. It's essentially men complaining about double standards without using the word "hypocrisy" explicitly.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 01:39 AM
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The point is, these men do everything except becoming caretakers themselves. They'd rather offload childcare to their wives and nannies than taking paid parental leave. As to why nobody is entitled to tradition, well, because entitlement creates an obligation for the other person. You might be entitled to a caretaker or a provider if that's what you agreed to with your partner and you're doing your part. You're not entitled to a relationship with a man that wants to provide and said man isn't en…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 06:47 PM
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That happens, but that's not the norm.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 06:40 PM
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Dude, you have the whole red pill/incel/black pill community that is essentially built on the complaints of men about women that have standards too high but bring very little to the table.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 01:11 AM
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yes
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 12:24 AM
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I love being attracted to men. I just hate that most of them have hairy arseholes.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 07:40 PM
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Because most people here are ugly. Not you, but most. They also have ugly personalities that ooze from their pictures like body odor oozes from their armpits.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 07:37 PM
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There dozens and dozens of posts of men complaining about these things and how men have no standards for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 07:30 PM
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And these women are constantly called out of it. "Size queen","height queen","goldigger"...
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 02:21 PM
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Hopefully, I will never have to compete for a bisexual man with another man. If things go according to the plan I'll just date both of them. Gay men though I don't like too much. They'd never allow me to get in their pants.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 03:11 AM
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The OP and the commenter I'm replying to do think that childcare is a woman's job. This is why I said what I said.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 01:00 AM
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Why do all these male influencers looks like 1970s crack dealers?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 08:45 PM
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Hard disagree. You can want a 10/10 while you're only a 2/10. You won't get her, but wanting her comes for free.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 08:40 PM
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But seriously, where do you see all these younger women falling for older men?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 08:38 PM
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The problem with big age gaps at my age is ED.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 08:35 PM
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Yes. Every man that fucks me instantly adds 10 to his n-count. I'm decapolar.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 08:33 PM
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Just like there's nothing wrong with a woman preferring a high earner man, but don't get surprised that if you don't live up to that standard yourself people will look down on you for having these demands in a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 08:30 PM
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It's not a simple solution. Stay at home mothers exist either because the woman doesn't make enough money to cover daycare costs, or because the woman managed to marry someone that makes much more money than she makes. People usually marry within their own income bracket. Most people, male or female, wouldn't like to lose 40-50% of their income even if both are making good money, not to mention the long term impact on their career. People love traditionalism until traditionalism starts hurting t…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 08:27 PM
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It's a cope. Compatible people with good chemistry don't have to work for it. There might be some compromises here and there, but when it starts to feel like work then it's time to evaluate how compatible you truly are.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 04:54 PM
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These men better have a head full of hair and no beer gut.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 04:47 PM
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Because research isn't about individual women, it's about tendencies. Research is also used to prove/disprove the veracity of established beliefs. Researchers don't care about the opinions of individual women. If you're asking why researchers look at revealed preferences instead of self-reported ones it's because people aren't always aware of what they want. This isn't a problem with women, this is a problem with humans in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 07:09 PM
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Men wanting to look attractive is understandable. The issue that looksmaxers aren't your typical guy that groom themselves and get nice haircuts. They're basically the equivalent of women with overdone surgery.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 01:56 AM
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So you pursue casual sex, but call other women who do the same hoes? Nothing wrong with casual sex, but the amount of women I've encountered who think they're somehow special when their sexual behavior is different from that of the women they criticize is astonishing.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 01:54 AM
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"The guy in the closet? Oh honey, he's just fixing the rack."
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 10:46 PM
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Monogamy isn't a sexual orientation. Both men and women are perfectly capable of finding people other than their partner sexually attractive. The difference is that it was allowed for men to step out their marriages with little to no consequence. Women didn't have that luxury.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 10:44 PM
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Redditors, that's who.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 10:39 PM
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I only obey Satan.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 10:35 PM
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Men should really talk with each other if they are so upset about men paying for dates. What would the men talk about?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 10:33 PM
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When I look at Sam Altman's face I'm not sure whether to punch it or to sit on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 02:56 AM
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Not a fan of facial hair in general, with some exceptions of course.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 02:47 AM
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It's fine for everyone to prefer anything, but when you announce that you want things you don't offer yourself it comes off as self entitled. One also needs to be realistic, most tall men also prefer women that are taller than average.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 02:46 AM
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The freedom to choose either sex or relationships/cohabitation or marriage without being questioned or disrespected by those around them.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 02:01 AM
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There are no happy people on reddit, I repeat, there are NO happy people on reddit. Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 12:44 AM
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You've never heard about male goldiggers/sugar babies or sex tourism in the caribbean?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 12:31 AM
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That's when you turn off the lights and bring out the an xxxl dildo.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 04:56 PM
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People move at different paces. I'm pretty sure there are men your age that enter relationships were they don't have sex until later. I've seen this many times.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 04:47 PM
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I get what you mean. I was a virgin until marriage because my heart wasn't in it with the 26.7 guys I had fucked before.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 04:43 PM
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The advantage of being a short guy is that an average-sized dick looks big. Now imagine an average sized dick on a 6'5 guy. It would look like a pickle.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 04:40 PM
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And so don't men that don't eat ass.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 04:38 PM
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And tell her you will let her sit on your face.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 04:37 PM
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You gotta looksmax and richwomanmax so you can get a car instead of an iPad.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 04:36 PM
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Many do. Many of these men end up married to women they find less sexually attractive because on some level they buy into the madonna/whore dichotomy. They also distrust women and think that less sexual, less attractive women are less likely to cheat. I've had men tell me that their long term partners aren't the most attractive women they've had, but that they were worthy of a relationship because they were good and loyal.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 04:35 PM
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I wouldn't be able to respect myself if I restrained my behavior for a man that thinks of me less because I've slept with him. There are men that are sexually retrained and also prefer women with a similar level of experience, but I don't think I'd be compatible with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 03:50 AM
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Funny how ED can be both "eating disorder" and "erectile dysfunction".
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 01:55 AM
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My 5+ men weren't failed relationships. The 6 of us are still together and going strong.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 01:49 AM
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I was always angry. Now i just like paying someone to listen to me whine because my friends won't do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 01:44 AM
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What if my partner likes fat and ugly?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 01:33 AM
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Where is the "everyone sucks" button?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 07:41 PM
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Applies to subs as well. A neutral sub will remain empty.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 07:25 PM
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Ah yes, fox news and all the jason statham films pedestalizing them females.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 07:15 PM
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Neutral people are boring.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 07:14 PM
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Wait til you hear about weddings.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 07:14 PM
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The only energy I'm willing to receive is the one from my power commpany.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 07:08 PM
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Some men aren't objectively the most attractive but I have this feral desire to sit on their faces.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 07:05 PM
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It's really tiring hearing the same "argument" over and over again. It's almost like men don't think other men have any agency over who thet sleep with.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 09:57 PM
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I'm not in denial, you are. This has nothing to do with power and everything to do with mismatched expectations. Spinning this as a power issue says more about the way you see sex. And I'm not "offering" my body any more than they are offering theirs.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 04:11 PM
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Most studies on sexual arousal are self reported, when sexual arousal is measured by brain activity women are found to respond to sexual stimuli similarly to men. Sexual stimuli also produces genital arousal in women. Behavior is heavily regulated by social norms and often doesn't represent how a person actually feels.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 03:43 PM
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The point is they wanted a relationship and were hurt/angry when I told them I wasn't interested in one. Not sure so many men seem to be in denial about the fact that some women aren't interested in a guy beyond sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 03:30 PM
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Then why these men wanted a relationship and I didn't?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 12:40 AM
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what's so unnatural about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 12:38 AM
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They’re not lying, but they’re also not imagining a scenario where these women are women they’d want to date. Plenty of men that pursue casual sex get off on the idea that the woman wants them more than they want her, even if they don't actually want to date her.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 09:32 PM
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As someone who's had to tell men that I want to keep things casual and not interested in anything deeper, most of these men didn't sound too amazed when they realized I meant it. Plenty of men only like casual arrangements if the woman is more interested in them than they are. They don't find the arrangement as fun when tables turn.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 09:30 PM
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Because women feel more uncomfortable around sex than men. That said, men can also be extremely judgmental of women who have sex, they're just not as judgmental of other men.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 05:17 PM
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Yes, i've become the widow to 5 different husbands who were very alpha and died in mysterious accidents.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 06:46 PM
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I fully agree. I'd take it up a notch and encourage women to cheat as well. Women get fat and frumpy when they feel all the hot young men are off limits and that their only reward is a pot-bellied bald ageing husband. Plus, if the husband knows that the wife might cheat or branch swing, he will be motivated to spend more on her and to keep himself looking hot by going to the gym. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 06:44 PM
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Women have been outnumbering men in higher education for over 40 years, at least in the US. Media has been fearmongering about the state of relationships since before women were going to college in high numbers, warning us about the lack of marriageable men for all these educated women. What's happening is that there's an increasing number of women with degrees marrying men with no degree. I fail to see the problem with thisset up.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 06:36 PM
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What I still don't get is why a guy will spend so much time trying to woo you, complimenting you, introducing himself to your friends, saying he has a future with you, spending money on you and still cheat on you. He wasn't counting on getting dumped. Chances are he's done this before or has seen other men get away with it. Why stop at one woman when you can have another one too?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 01:48 AM
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Not all women who have difficulties finding a partner ae overweight. Not all overweight women struggle to find a partner. Being a healthy weight is attractive, but it isn't necessary the answer, especially if the woman isn't facially attractive, has an unattractive fat distribution/skeletal shape or her issues are unrelated to her looks. Money doesn't make men more attractive, it just makes the lifestyle he can provide to be more appealing. If the average man wants to use his money to his advant…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 05:55 PM
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My husband and I got married because of specific legal benefits. Pursuing marriage for the sake of social legitimacy reeks of insecurity and main character syndrome. Marriage only involves the two people getting married and to some extent their children. It's a union that doesn't need to be recognized anybody else outside some legal/administrative procedures. In fact, society at large is pretty much indifferent to your marital status.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 05:44 PM
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And in that case marriage wouldn't protect the woman as she wouldn't be entitled to alimony, wouldn't get more than what she brought into marriage - assuming she doesn't make much less than the husband, and child support -if she gets custody- will be low.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 05:35 PM
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The big elephant in the room is the normalization of men neglecting their children unless legally coerced into parenting, which doesn't work either as many married men don't parent their children. This isn't really a marriage issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 05:24 PM
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I disagree. I think the opposite is true. Men want all the benefits of marriage without the marriage so by being a man’s mommy bang maid without a contract that guarantees you get your half of your investment in the relationship in case of a break up makes the woman a pick me. Women don't have to carry all the workload in a relationship regardless of marital status. If you see an unequal relationship as a burden you need to end the relationship, not to push for marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 05:17 PM
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A woman that truly values security for her and her children wouldn't become a SAHM in first place unless the man was wealthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 05:12 PM
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I honestly don't care if it's values or not. The times I've had self -proclaimed promiscuous men suggesting they prefer non-promiscuous women I got turned off and didn't go on another date with them. You can have any preference you want, but I don't have to respect it or abide by it. EDIT: thanks for the award!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 05:08 PM
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Trump, is that you?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 12:52 AM
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It has been my experience that women who are obsessed with marriage and look down on women that aren't married also have extremely low expectations for men. They see men as non-committal, untrustworthy, lazy for chores and neglectful around children. They think that a ring is a compensation for men's defects. They're the type that say "women bear the burden of family so the man should at least be generous". They also measure their self-worth through men's commitment and tend to put with all kids…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 11:58 PM
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It shouldn't be women's job to restrict their behaviors just s they can live up to sexist double standards. I'd be too put off by a man who has no problem sleeping with women but looks down on them to even care if this man commits to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 04:22 PM
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Can women post question for women in the sub?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 04:17 PM
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Men who say this see sex as as a power move which validates their superiority in a sexual relationship. If they were to accept that the only reason a woman slept with them was because she was horny and not because she "gave" them sex to get a relationship, then they would also have to accept that they weren't that valuable in the woman's eyes. There's nothing that men like this fear more than being treated the same way they treat women. Women who say this base their self-worth on their ability t…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 04:16 PM
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Imagine saving yourself for a guy who thinks that your only value is sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 03:55 PM
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They're all married to physically attractive men with good jobs. Some women are just horny and want sex. If a man has to pay to get sex and relationships he's either shooting out of his league or he has a very transactional idea of how relationships should be and dates equally materialistic women.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 04:38 PM
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So what about ncount?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 04:32 PM
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I know plenty of attractive women who had casual sex. And what it is we are competing for? I want sex as much as he does and I only date men that want a relationship as much as I do. I've never had sex to get a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 04:28 PM
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I have absolutely nothing against responsibly conducted sex work, but if you're gonna do it, do it because you genuinely like that line of work, not because you feel like your lack of enjoyment needs to be compensated.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 04:23 PM
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"give it up for free" We don't give it up, we have sex like you do.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 04:21 PM
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Then your post makes no sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 04:18 PM
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I'm not sure about the "she gets everything she wants from him" part. Do you mean money? It's a matter of what assets you bring into marriage. If you make a good chunk of the household income chances are you won't get alimony, or more than what you brought.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 04:14 PM
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In modern dating society still affords more freedom to men than to women when it comes to the type of relationships they can pursue. It's more acceptable for men to engage in casual sex than it is for women, it's more acceptable for men to cohabitate long-term with their partners than it is for women, hence the words slut, easy and forever-girlfriend which are rarely used for men. Women need "proof" that the man is into them because they start dating men under the assumption that this man could …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 03:49 PM
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Thank for being honest
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 03:27 PM
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Are you always this deep and thoughtful? I'm amazed
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 03:27 PM
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They don't. I've been called names and have received angry DMs for saying that I don't find attractive when a man tries to sleep with me right away or when a man has much more partners than I do.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 02:42 AM
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Because most people don't see sex as a charity.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 02:40 AM
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Incels: Women only like tall, hot rich men, why can't they love someone like me for who they are? Woman: But I love you for who you are? Incels: Not you, you're damn ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 02:12 AM
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Why would anyone, high n count or not, have sex with someone they don't find attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 02:09 AM
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You said that a man's purpose is to provide and protect, i showed you an example of a man who doesn't see providing as his purpose.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 12:47 AM
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I make more than my husband and he enjoys the fact that our financial well-being rests on both of us and no only on him.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 10:57 PM
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It's not any different, but you want it to be. The only nerve you struck is I am scared to accidently invest in a woman like you. Don't worry, you're not the type of man women like me are interested in.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 10:44 PM
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Yeah, I don't buy that either. I'd also like to add that most average and below average looking women aren't hooking up with Chad either. They're generally hooking up with average and below average men. I did meet a couple of women who aren't beauties according to mainstream standards, that managed to hookup with fairly attractive men. These women also ended up marrying/entering long term relationships with fairly attractive men. I guess they had sex appeal and charisma that other more attractiv…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 09:07 PM
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fair enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 08:57 PM
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Because there's less vitriol towards promiscuous men than promiscuous women. Also, women that voice their preference for less experienced men also tend to be inexperienced themselves, so there's no hypocrisy on their part.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 08:57 PM
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Never been to Miami, but LA is much more spreadout than New York when it comes to points of interest. There's also more nature in and around LA metro area which might be a plus if you're into hiking.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 08:45 PM
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Looks like I struck a nerve. My mindset is the same mindset of men that go out to get laid, some of you just have a problem handing the fact that the way you perceive the women you sleep with isn't any different from the way these women perceive you. That's all. I'm married to someone who's company I enjoy more than the company of the men I was dating casually. I haven't cheated and I'm not planning to. Does that make you mad?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 08:41 PM
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When I was looking for casual I wasn't thinking "I want a high value man", I was thinking "I need someone available, single and attractive enough for something casual, but not so attractive that I'll want to see him often". This was also the case for my friends entered casual relationships consciously. Whether a man finds this validating has nothing to do with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 05:41 PM
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preferences are allowed to be criticized, just like you criticize high n count women.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 07:51 PM
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You're right to criticize anything you want, although telling the couple in question that they're wrong might be rightfully considered nosy. I don't think that people that constantly and unpromptedly criticize preferences that don't affect them are happy with their lives, but a lot of the criticism that people receive for their preferences isn't unprompted because a) many preferences are also expressed in the form of criticism, and b) many preferences do affect the person in question. If a woman…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 07:19 PM
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People can criticize whoever they want. And I'm pretty sure that women who demand to be taken care of by a man, and men who demand women to quit their jobs will be seen as self-entitled by most people even if they manage to achieve the type of relationship they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 06:36 PM
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Most men will see a woman with no sexual partners after a certain age with suspicion. Most women will see a man with too many partners with suspicion. A man can have experience without having too much of it. You're not trying to impress women, you're trying to impress other men.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 06:34 PM
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Plenty of men consider women who want to be traditional homemakers self-entitled. Not many people expect men to be ok with a non-working partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 06:29 PM
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Is anybody arguing that it's not a preference?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 06:13 PM
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Everyone is allowed to want what they want, but those who expect others to live up to standards they don't fit themselves are gonna get criticized and often rejected as partners. Broke unattractive women who want hot rich guys are called self-entitled and goldiggers.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 06:12 PM
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I didn't put up with anything. The whole exchange happened in under 5 minutes and I felt like being provocative. I didn't date him after that.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 05:20 PM
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What was the psychological contract?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 05:14 PM
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One guy asked my n count, I told him it was 27. He didn't believe it and asked again, I said it was 37. I kept adding 10 every time he kept asking. He wanted to judge me, so I kept giving him more and more material to do that. People are allowed to disqualify their partners for any reason they want. I just find it absolutely tasteless how the judgement often comes from the same men who try to get in the pants of as many women they can, and I find it infuriating that I'm the one expected to make …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 04:45 PM
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The question is how would that play out? A guy that's not interested will show his lack of interest at some point. The conversation won't flow, you'll exchange number but he won't call, he'll call but won't set up a date and so on. If the guy is a manipulator who will go to greats lengths to feign attraction by calling you, setting updates and starting a conversation, he will be the type of guy that might as well approach.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 02:56 PM
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Women don't get approached by men as often as PPD assumes and there's no guarantee that the guy that'll approach is someone you like. The same happens the other way around as well, but taking initiative when you see someone you like increases your chances. The problem with people on PPD is that they distrust the opposite gender but also crave the validation that sex or relationships get them. A guy that's not interested in you tends to be very obvious from the beginning. And it has been my exper…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 02:40 PM
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Technically, sexualization turns into objectification in the exact way you describe. The person is stripped of its humanity and is seen as a thing for someone else'sgratification. Practically, any form of sexualization of women can be perceived as objectification because many people believe that any form of sex that doesn't happen in the context of a relationship is degrading to women. That's why casual sex is described as women being used or women showing themselves in a sexual light are often …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 01:21 AM
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Good god! You approach someone and start a conversation. If the person doesn't seem that interested in keeping the conversation going, calling you bag or setting up a date then you have your answer. How the heck am I gonna get taken advantage off? Are you guys pushing for relationships with men that are clearly not into you?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 12:05 AM
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You know how men always say "money means nothing"? They never say that money won't make women happy. They know how much happiness women are being denied in this cruel world where women being deprived of the resources that women need and they are content with womens' discontent
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 12:02 AM
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That's exactly what it looks like. It's one thing to call someone out for making a stupid comment, but to make it a "woman" problem like OP is doing suggests that OP is the one with the problem, and I say this as someone who's not too fond of the twox subreddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 11:59 PM
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Then you should be mad at the people making the generalizations. If people are perfectly capable of seeing men as sane and thoughtful despite what they see in incel/red pill forums why it's so hard for them to see women as sane and thoughtful after seeing a couple of women making stupid arguments? The men who see women as whole as stupid and thoughtless as sexist, plain and simple, and you come off just as bad for expecting women to live up to those unfair standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 11:56 PM
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These two women were downvoted, unlike the other women that offered sane and thoughtful responses. I think you're making a bigger deal out of it and I get the impression that you're the one with the tendency to generalize women, and therefore you assume that everyone else is the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 11:29 PM
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I looked at the post and none of the top comments encouraging her to keep it and to seek child support. So yes, what you did was an unwarranted tactless generalization and women getting a bad rep for what a small percentage of women say or do isn't the problem of anyone but the person making the generalization.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 11:05 PM
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Is your long-term partner much more attractive than she is?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 02:35 PM
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Most of the women who look like her have no problem getting into long term relationships and they're not chasings Chads.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 09:53 PM
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I'm not saying you do, but many other women do because money is way less relevant in a short term relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 09:48 PM
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Why would a woman looking for casual fun care about a man's financial status? It's not like she'll have to support him.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 09:35 PM
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In denial about preferring status/money over looks, because they didn't believe that I value looks above these two.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 01:14 AM
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Looks aren't the only thing that matters, but it's important to be your partner's type even if you're not necessarily attractive by mainstream standards. I've never had a man whose looks I didn't like to grow on me because of status/money or some other thing. I've had men telling me that I'm just in denial.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 04:55 PM
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I'm horny, single, he's available, safe and passes my attractiveness threshold.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 01:52 PM
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Which is why men should stop dating golddiggers.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 01:48 PM
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Relationship material people tend to spend less time on the market, and are less likely to use speed dating events or even online dating. This type of person is more likely to meet a suitable partner organically. Keep in mind that being "relationship material" simply means that you're capable of committing to the right person and open to commit to your match. The chances that some random person that popped up in a speed dating event or in your OD profile being a good match for you is low. This d…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 01:46 PM
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The Room (2003) Birdemic: Shock and Terror (2010)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 02:08 PM
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Easier said than done, but read the cues and go with the flow, but only up to the point you're comfortable. Was it a cold approach? I wouldn't blame you if you acted awkward in that case, I would too and I'm a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 01:55 PM
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Gen z men seem conservative because gen z women moved to the left. They're not more conservative than their millennial counterparts.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 01:52 PM
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Looks like a normal young man to me. His dad though...
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 01:51 PM
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He's giving me king energy. I bet them b!tches are lining up to get a piece of that man.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 01:49 PM
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Congrats on your retirement! Now if you could also retire from PPD that would be awesome!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 01:47 PM
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We're just as glad as you are that you do not have a daughter. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 01:45 PM
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Indifferent.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 01:45 PM
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I'm pretty sure upper middle class suburban white girls in major cities also tend to have more experience than religious folks.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 11:54 PM
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Here's a summary of one of the several studies: How Many Previous Sexual Partners Is Too Many? | Psychology Today Canada Here's another study that shows that partners actually match in their level of experience: Matching in sexual experience for married, cohabitating, and dating couples - PubMed
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 11:44 PM
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Women that prefer more experienced men tend to be experienced themselves. Both men and women prefer a partner count that's ideally on the lower end. Regardless, some woman's preference doesn't change the fact that more experienced men are more likely to get divorced, and it's divorce that many men here keep complaining about.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 08:41 PM
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Not gonna lie, that guy is hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 07:40 PM
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I've met men who are apparently "successful" with women but constantly complain about women being sluts. They're the type that, when it comes to long term relationships, chases women who don't want anything to do with them. They deep down realize that women see them the same way they see women who sleep with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 07:38 PM
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The studies say the same about high n count men yet I don't see men trying to keep their n count low in order to achieve a successful marriage. They want all the indicators of a good wife without saddling themselves with the obligations of a potential good husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 07:34 PM
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I was actually impressed that you were a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 07:30 PM
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I see you're a man of science. So sitting on the face of 50 guys is equivalent to an n count of 10, am I right?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 01:54 AM
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If a woman is dating for sex she would expect her partner to be on the same page, which is to date for sex as well, wouldn't she?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 11:05 PM
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What if I never had penetrative sex but sat on the faces of 50+ guys? Do i get to claim a high n count? Asking for a friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 10:31 PM
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it's the same chemical that's released in a woman when she breastfeeds a little baby and it helps her to connect That's why women shouldn't breastfeed more than one child. Give the rest of them fuckers formula or else you'll lose you ability to love. Also women's emotional connection is still contingent on a guy having money and status. Nothing makes me feel more emotionally connected than a picture of Jeff Bezos.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 10:26 PM
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Many would and I wouldn't blame them. Or how many men with money would also be bothered by a woman who complains about broke men.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 10:17 PM
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I'm a woman and I did date for sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 10:10 PM
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You said there are health concerns regarding bisexual man, I just brought it up because there are health concerns with pretty much anyone that cheats and doesn't use protection. That's all.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 12:58 AM
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People with many sexual partners tend to have a different idea of what "many" is. They also tend to have personality traits that make them attractive to each other. I don't think they settled.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 11:47 AM
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I agree that this might be a factor. That said, this is also evidence that women who think like this believe it's someone else's job to prevent a man from cheating. I personally don't see myself dating someone I expect to have so little control over his sexual impulses.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 11:33 AM
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No, they were sticking their penises up women's vaginas (and maybe butts) unprotected. Some of them actually brought STDs home.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 11:29 AM
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hot
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 11:19 AM
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I have no problem dating bisexual men.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 12:54 AM
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The way men look at me has nothing to do with how much or how little I respect myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 12:47 AM
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This could have been an heterosexual man. I knew plenty who cheat and boast about not wearing protection.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 12:40 AM
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I do fantasize about it, not sure how many other women do the same or would admit to the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 12:37 AM
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I know plenty of guys breaking up with hot girlfriends because they became a burden financially. These guys weren't broke either. Being hot only works to a point if you're not the type he's looking for.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 12:22 AM
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Or is it a lack of drive, motivation, and ambition? Plenty of men here say that those don't matter either.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 12:19 AM
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No idea what you mean by that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 08:40 PM
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This has nothing to do with natural sex appeal and everything to do with your personal references.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 08:22 PM
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Or they've already lived enough to not care what others will thibk. Our behavior is much more shaped by what we think is socially acceptable than what we care to admit.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 08:20 PM
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The brains of men and women react to erotic images in the same way Women's Brains React Surprisingly Fast to Erotic Images | Live Science Genital arousal and responsive desire among women with and without sexual interest/arousal disorder symptoms - PubMed
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 07:48 PM
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It's not the norm. There's research showing that both men and women show brain activity and higher blood flow in their genital area when presented with sexual imagery or sounds. This wouldn't be the case if emotional connection was a pre-requisite for sexual arousal.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 07:22 PM
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I agree and I would extend this privilege to women as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 07:19 PM
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A bunch of my acquaintances said the same... until a very desperate woman at a party started chasing them, grinding on them and making very sexual comments.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 12:56 AM
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I'd be surprised if these goes anywhere. Wouldn't that be illegal?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 07:10 PM
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Wasn't Trump elected only by a third of the voting eligible population?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 07:07 PM
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To be fair, a lot of people don't care about those issues in real life, certain corners on the internet just attract people who do. I'm pretty sure that if you click on a random r/news user profile they won't be on PPD either.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 07:02 PM
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Indifferent, but i think surrogates should be properly compensated and informed about the risks.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 01:01 PM
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Go ahead and keep flirting with other women then. Nobody's stopping you.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 10:22 PM
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Nobody should compromise. If being with someone requires you to change your lifestyle in a way you don't want to then the person isn't for you. Why would you be dating a woman like this in the first place is beyond me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 08:16 PM
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He can. The point is that you don't have to stay with him, just like a man doesn't have to stay with a woman that wears revealing clothes.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 10:31 AM
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If that's his natural way of interacting to women regardless of whether he's interested or not then yes. Women who don't like it shouldn't get with men like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 05:35 PM
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I would probably agree about being promiscuous but not the rest. MANY women had careers outside the home. Most teachers and nurses were women. 30% of the women worked outside the home in 1955. This doesn't mean that society at large viewed of working women favorably, particularly if they were wife and mothers. Even today we operate under the assumption that once a couple starts having children the woman is the one that will adjust her career, even once she's no longer breastfeeding. What world d…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 03:46 AM
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What kind of actions would lead her to lose that sort of treatment? Being rumored that you're promiscuous, pursuing a career outside the home, being assertive and unladylike, being more competent than the man besides you. Now not acting on your sexual ugres bring grave consequences of desirable men leaving you because they expect it much sooner than you may want to do it. Plenty of the men who expect you to sleep with them as soon as possible are also the type who would turn against you if you d…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 02:54 AM
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Chocolate doesn't belong in baked goods
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 02:25 AM
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"I have to confess I've been a bad girl. Today I took a walk in the park wearing a skirt three inches above my ankles and no socks."
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 02:22 AM
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The sense you get from classic Hollywood is that women were respected much more than they are today You're conflating pedestalization with respect. Women were the recipients of many nice gestures, but they weren't seen as competent and expected to stay in the shadow of the men around them. Those niceties were also reserved for women who stayed in their place. Any woman who who acted like a man would not only lose that privilege but would also be treated worse than a man in her place. Just watch …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 02:17 AM
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Women "going their own way" thinking they'll be happy dying alone is kinda just sad to me. Some people aren't interested in that kind of relationships and chances are that if you're a woman, you'll survive your partner. Also, not everyone is interested in children of in providership. For this sort of people ageing isn't a death sentence.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 01:51 AM
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I'm so sorry, my bad. Gimmie cookie now!
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