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I generally agree with what you are saying, although the way it's worded is what I think is getting people, like "8+ influencer." You are not wrong though, you will find a lot of men on here put looks first and will openly admit of shes not "hot" she won't get the time of day. It's unfortunate because looks are really the least important thing for a healthy, happy, lasting relationship. Someone can be "decent" looking but after getting to know them, their personality makes them a million times m…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 04:06 PM
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Okay, that's not saying it doesn't happen though. It's great if you are a man with integrity who doesn't do that but again if you read through a lot of the comments here it's not the norm from the "boys" who are typically posting.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 01:08 PM
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Have you read most of the comments on these subs? That's why I think the men here, NOT most men, hate women. I do not think most men hate their wives. And just because you don't talk shit to a man's face about their significant other for fear of getting your ass handed to you doesn't mean you don't do it at all. I make observations and speak to what I see that's all.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 12:54 PM
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I see it happen all the time, it's not like I'm just assuming it happens. It's great that you'd never do it but that doesn't mean other men don't, the person I was originally commenting with even admitted they do this. And that bullshit you just said at the end of your comment "you are a woman" really makes me doubt that you'd never talk shit about another man's wife if you didn't like her.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 12:28 PM
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Then he is not a high value man. You can be tall and rich but if your personality is shit you are unbearable to be around. Can you find a shallow, gold digging woman to be with you, sure, but it doesn't mean they enjoy it and any self respecting good woman will never be with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 10:39 PM
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No I'm not, if you kept reading the comment you would see I said because of the word vomit they spew it's clear they'd bring nothing. It's not an assumption it's paying attention to what they say and their attitudes.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 09:25 PM
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Where? Please give examples since this happens all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 07:00 PM
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Most of the guys on here sound like your friend. They are all wanting top tier women when they do not bring much to the tables themselves. I don't care if they are attractive and/or rich, the word vomit they spit out is enough to make them a solid zero. It's always the men who bring up the ranking table, I almost never see it from women unless they are trying to engage with the men on here who bring it up.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 06:59 PM
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Agreed, but, I would also point out there is a human desire for companionship. Dismissing this very real desire that people have can be very harmful. Personally, I've developed a personality disorder partly because I was the chunky/nerdy kid that was bullied growing up and didn't have very many friends First off, I'm sorry that you had to deal with that. I think pretty much everyone can relate to being bullied at some point or another and it's awful. I'm not dismissing a need/desire for companio…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 11:42 PM
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I am saying both sides of the coin exist. Men give other men shit if their partner is "unattractive"... Whether it be outright or subtle/sarcastic like your "at least your happy bro." I also see it happen when men date up and other men assume it's for money or status. I see men judging people on their looks as far as dating goes way more than women.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 11:24 PM
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It's about the amount of needs, not the mere existence of them. Honestly I don't find emotional needs hard to meet they are, in my experience, just common courtesy and usually nothing that involves going out of your way, more so just consideration but maybe your experience has been different. Never said it was. In my first comment I say it's the fault of simps for raising the standards to unrealistic heights. I can't blame women for letting simps do what they do, but it is their responsibility t…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 04:52 AM
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I think we all need to reevaluate beauty standards and how important they are, and I say this as a woman who has fallen under "desirable" beauty standards throughout life. I don't see why so much emphasis is put on what people look like when at the end of the day that will all eventually change at some point in life. I guess for casual hookups looks can play a big role but when trying to find a good partner to spend your life with they are essentially meaningless. I have dated very attractive me…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 03:54 PM
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I have not seen this ever happen. I have seen men shame their friends and other men for dating women they do not find attractive, I have seen men land "hotter" women and see men assuming he has money because that's the only reason she would be with him. It happens here all the time. Women dating less attractive men are approached by men who assume they are more worthy of her time and attention simply because they feel they are more attractive than her current partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 03:26 PM
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https://www.onslowwc.org/mens-resources-domestic-violence-and-sexual-assault This is not true. Historically it has been but more and more resources are being established for men. The problem is that a lot of the time men do not report these things for fear of backlash and in my experience that normally comes from men.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 03:23 PM
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Good for you. For anyone that wants to look at things in a less subjective manner, unconditional love is better than conditional love. Men can/ are willing to love their partners unconditionally, women can't/ are not willing. So women are worse partners because of it. This seems like a silly argument. I love my boyfriend as unconditionally as one can. I put my kids above him based on need, my kids depend more on me then my boyfriend does because they are children. You say men are willing to love…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 02:33 AM
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That's your opinion, I expect my man to love the kids more and put them before me too and it does not make me feel undervalued or less loved.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 02:07 AM
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I would never show my man the same love I have for our child and our children will always come before him just like I'd hope he would put me second to them. It's not less of a love that I have for him it's just not the same, doesn't give the love I have for him any less value or meaning.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 01:53 AM
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Men have all the opportunities to get help that I do. A man can go to a therapist and work on his shit just like a woman can. Women have been encouraging men to do this. Women score higher in every facet of neuroticism except Anger and Anger hostility which could bode well for this argument of womens fear of men, since you are so concerned with the data. Depression and anxiety and more things women deal with internally, I don't really see how that would affect them turning down men, especially w…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 01:46 AM
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Just because you don't see it doesn't mean it doesn't happen. I don't see many men still care after leaving a relationship, my experiences have been quite the opposite but I'm not going to deny that it happens. I think this is less about gender and more about quality people. I have had interactions with horrible men and on the flip side really wonderful men, same with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 01:29 AM
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I empathize with that, it's hard because sex really isn't that important to me and I would gladly never have sex again in exchange for a million other things I find more important for me to be happy. I can see though how this would be a difficult thing to deal with if it's something that you truly want/value. But there are women who go through this too, there are bottom of the barrel women who have not found success with me and because of this become shut ins who close themselves off from the op…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 01:27 AM
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I do care about men. I hope men start reaching out for help when they need it and I hope the men who really want a loving relationship find them. I hate that there are good men out there who get dealt shit hands. I don't respect men who will jump on here and complain about their unhappy dating lives and turn around and shit on women. The guys on these subs who have been decent people and want to have an open discussion will be treated with nothing but respect from me, and I will do my best to li…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 01:07 AM
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No. What good is someone loving you if you cannot be with them. Women don't typically stop loving men they just leave because the relationship is no longer viable.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 12:58 AM
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I only remain in a relationship in which I am getting what I want. This is what I'm saying you get something or you wouldn't stay regardless of how much you love them, if your needs aren't being met you go, this Is all women are trying to say too. This isn't unreasonable for men or women to do, that's just how relationships work.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 12:35 AM
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Just a little bit bitter because I know that the way women "love" men is dependent on what I can provide Men look at what women add to their lives too. If you gained nothing from a relationship what would be the point?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 11:43 PM
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I can agree with that, but on the flip side to attribute their success with women to superficial and financial reason is equally as prejudice.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 11:41 PM
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Too emotional doesn't mean they cry more (even though that's true too), all the other emotions are enhanced in women. In this case it's fear. It's anxiety. All the studies show that women are typically more neurotic than men are. That is to say they're higher in negative emotion. And that explains why so many women are on antidepressants. Women are on anti depressants more because women can reach out. Men widely teach each other that emotions are a sign of weakness and that's why it's regularly …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 11:35 PM
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But he'll be shamed by other men, not women.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 11:08 PM
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I mean personally I'd rather date a guy who didn't do anything to hide his height and hair or lack there of, but if he had a problem with it and wanted to do those things to make himself feel better I'd support that too.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 10:29 PM
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It's equally as cruel to assume a below-average/average looking man only has a beautiful woman because he has hair, is tall, rich or all three, instead of based on the person he is.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 10:26 PM
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That's not true. My ex was 5'5 280lbs I'm pretty much 5'8 and at the time was 115. I was 18 he was 22. He was not rich He worked at a fast food restaurant. Not all women are only out for looks and money just like all men don't just want to use women for ass, nothing is ever as black and white and people on here make it out to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 10:15 PM
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Mostly emotional needs that typically are satisfied in romantic relationships How are female standards unrealistic if they are emotional needs typically satisfied in a relationship? Simps typically provide an excessive amount of sympathy, attention, or resources, all without any reciprocation in hopes of increasing their chances of romantic success. If over time some women have come to expect this because some men have shown them that they are willing to do this, is the fault for unrealistic exp…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 10:04 PM
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I think this comment right here nails it. People make choices based on their own insecurities a lot. At the end of the day everyone, even the person you deem a 10/10 insanely attractive, has things that they are insecure about. I am a tall girl and I have not had trouble but I also didn't let the negative experiences regarding my height kill my confidence. I have insecurities I just don't obsess over them. They are all physical attributes that I cannot change so why let them run my life?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 08:59 PM
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This is a generalization of tall men, just like men male generalizations about conventionally pretty women. In your experience tall men have not been interested in you, if this has been your experience why do you still want the tall man? Maybe go for one of the same height/shorter guys who are amazing? People in these subs get so bent on not being able to get what they want and find attractive in another person and then get mad when those same people don't jump at them when they are not their pr…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 08:49 PM
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How are you bitter if you are in a happy, healthy, stable, 10 year relationship? If you and your partner are happy and satisfied with your relationship then more power to you guys and I'm happy for you. I just don't see how it's a happy relationship for either party if the anger and bitterness from men on this sub is how they actually feel.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 08:12 PM
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The women you know, and honestly if you said the chiseled body sure but hair is just a joke women do prefer men with hair provided the men aren’t black(cuz of how black hair grows) That's not true, my boyfriend is balding and the only one who cares is him. Why do I give a shit how much or what kind of hair my boyfriend has? I disagree if a physical attractive man didn’t care about a woman’s looks she would prefer him to an average looking man who also didn’t care about her looks. I disagree, at …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 08:02 PM
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Op for the record no girl viewed you as this douche who commented says. And he clearly has no idea what women want. It's cool that you are conscious of this issue, not because you are expected to do anything about it, but because it can help you understand and navigate how women perceive the way you approach them at times. Any respectable, good woman to pursue will appreciate this level of understanding, we hate being overly cautious with all men when we want to date but unfortunately that's wha…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 07:23 PM
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https://www-psychologytoday-com.cdn.ampproject.org/v/s/www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-state-of-our-unions/202302/why-are-so-many-young-men-single-and-sexless?amp=&amp_gsa=1&amp_js_v=a9&usqp=mq331AQIUAKwASCAAgM%3D#amp_tf=From%20%251%24s&aoh=16805486525738&referrer=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.google.com&ampshare=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.psychologytoday.com%2Fus%2Fblog%2Fthe-state-of-our-unions%2F202302%2Fwhy-are-so-many-young-men-single-and-sexless
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 07:13 PM
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What are these unrealistic standards?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 06:38 PM
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I actually love coming on this sub for the sheer hilarity of the circle logic these men use to make themselves out to be so oppressed for not being able to lose their virginity. I do love that on occasion I will find receptive guys who will have conversations and an open dialogue, it has opened my eyes to some things that I will try to prioritize and include more in my relationship to make my man feel more appreciated and some have listened and engaged in a way that makes me hopefully they won't…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 06:33 PM
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Women absolutely do this and Men are just as guilty. None of the women I know care at all about chiseled bodies or a full head of hair. Honestly a lot of women love the average looking guy because it takes a lot of the pressure off of her to look perfect all the time. Happiness/satisfaction in a relationship has so much less to do with looks than we like to let ourselves get wrapped into. Men and women get so hung up on looks it's unreal, when at the end of the day they rank pretty low on the li…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 05:58 PM
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Yep this is what I figured. Men are ignorant. You don't do anything that is asked of you, you do what you think women want, and try to emulate men you deem to be worthy of getting laid. You don't listen to women about what they want or what they value at all that's a fallacy you cling to because it lets you put blame on women for your inability to lose your virginity. It's shittier that sex is what it boils down to for you guys, if you think a woman doesn't realize any and all "effort" being put…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 05:25 PM
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Not asking this in a mean way but genuinely curious. What do men feel like they bring to the table?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 05:05 PM
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Exactly. Most men do things when they are self-serving. They make it out to be women who force them to do these things when plenty of men do just fine without bending over backwards and just mutually building a relationship with someone. (Before all you guys start whining about those being the best looking guys, don't, average and even societally unattractive men have found lasting loving realtionships, without money because I know that's the next argument) Men have been courting women this way …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 04:56 PM
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But these men can release sexual tension, there are many things out there for men to do just that. And men who are able to have sex don't seem to hold it in such high regard and can go without it. The problem seems to lie with the people who can't, who have built it up in their minds and make it the one thing they need to find gratification, the one thing others have that they do not. I'm not trying to down play the fact that it sucks and can be unpleasant, I just don't get how it can consume so…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 04:07 PM
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It's really not a position of privilege, I have been turned down, I have been treated like shit and mocked for how I look, I have been attracted to people who weren't attracted to me. That's life. My personality has carried me way more then my looks EVER have and it's usually readily apparent who shows interest because of my looks and is wanting to get me into bed and even if that is the most attractive man alive, he will be told to fuck off. I wouldn't give a shit if I was getting no interest. …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 02:22 PM
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Tinder is awful, it is ALL about looks on tinder, that's what you are marketing and that's all people have to go on. Finding ways for personality to be what your marketing to potential dates is way better. Height is not as big of a deal to women as men think it is, I am almost 5'8 I have dated multiple guys shorter than me because I'm pretty tall and I'm not going to count someone out for something as stupid as height. I have never met a woman who cares if a man is bald or balding. My boyfriend …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 02:13 PM
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I can empathize and even sympathize with anyone who is putting in work both externally and internally to better themselves and wants a relationship but hasn't found one yet. But the problem with this is that you should be doing all of these things for you and your happiness. It's crazy to me that guys on here think sex is the end all be all. Like you are going to get casual sex and BOOM all of life's problems are resolved. You have made this your whole life, you are on the internet crying about …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 01:55 PM
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This is a mentality that a lot of these other guys could stand to adopt. Focus on bettering yourself physically, mentally, socially, financially, however you see fit and do it for the sole purpose of finding happiness and fulfillment in your life for you. Too many guys think women and sex are the defining things for happiness and as people who date and have sex regularly will tell you, it's not. There is no quick fix that will end all of your problems, assuming there is leads to disappointment. …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 01:16 PM
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So you have tried? I mean if you started by saying you don't have a looks match and then you agree that you probably do have you really tried or are you just assuming it will be a no? And what makes you consider yourself so unattractive, because a lot of the things I see guys get so hung up on like they are the end of the world really aren't that unattractive, of at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 01:08 PM
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No you're wrong, I don't even think the top 5% deserve it lol. There are very few men that I think deserve sex. My current boyfriend is the only guy I have dated who I think deserves sex and that's because of the man he is. Before anyone jumps on here he is not rich, not even well off, we get by and that's enough, he is balding, he is not a conventionally attractive man but to me he's top fucking teir because he respects me and makes us a priority. ANNDDD I will really have you guys loosing your…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 12:28 PM
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If it's just sex they want they can attain that. Men are always on these threads talking about how women will lay down for money, they can pay for it 🤷 Or go for a woman they do not find super attractive. The discussions on here are always referencing the hottest people or "Stacy's", maybe you get a girl but she's on par looks wise with you 🤷
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 12:16 PM
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But this is the problem. Men who want a relationship need to work towards emotional maturity and being able to express themselves and communicate because that's what creates healthy relationships romantic or otherwise. And for the record I am positive most of the men on here just mean sex and for the few that actually mean relationship use relationship because complaining about not getting laid will never work in your favor with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 12:08 PM
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I feel bad for anyone who is genuinely trying and putting their best foot forward and still they have trouble finding someone. Majority of us have been there at some point or another and it's an awful feeling. These posts get me though because it's always about the sex, even this thread, it's not the nice guy not finding a good relationship, it's him not getting laid. It really is true that being wanted for sex really isn't exciting for women. Especially when statistically women are left largely…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 11:46 AM
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This^ I have dated PLENTY of guys that I did not really find physically attractive, actually if we are honest I would say I have dated more men that I didn't find physically attractive then did because they were balanced people with great personalities. But the guys in this forum don't want to hear this, especially from you because you described how you look they are going to get stuck on that and I am POSITIVE you will be labeled a Chad even though you are sympathizing and trying to be helpful.…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 04:28 AM
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Do guys not realize that there are women who experience this same thing? Watching other better looking women have more success dating than them? This is not an issue that only men encounter.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 04:11 AM
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We are unfortunately stuck in a weird transition period between the old way of dating and a new way of dating, where many women want the best of both worlds and impose contradictory conditions on men, who have no idea what the right thing to do is anymore. I feel like women have been telling men what the right thing to do is though and they just aren't willing to listen to them. By and large women are telling men that they want to be seen/heard, respected, appreciated, they want quality time tog…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 02:06 AM
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It's not impossible. I initiated things with my boyfriend. I think because it got so tiring, starting a relationship with a guy who was one person to impress/land me and then someone else completely once he had. I decided to find someone that seems like a good match for me and then I initiated a relationship. We are now years in and still going strong. We are also very compatible as people. We have the same hobbies, we have the same wants in life. We do for each other and listen to one another. …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 07:08 PM
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Someone telling you something is bothering them or making them unhappy should clue you into the fact that unless it is worked out they will leave. Who in their right mind would stay in a relationship that was making them unhappy, that kind of the opposite of what a relationship should be. Your replies make it sound like men are incapable of reading social cues, and have to have things broken down for them like a child, which will also kill your relationship because no woman wants to parent their…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 12:45 AM
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But the man chooses to do that, why put in all that effort to attain something just to quit right when it starts? That's like working all the overtime you can to afford your dream car and then deciding you worked so much that you quit your job and have your car repossessed, that's some illogical ass thinking. Instead I would imagine you would just stop working overtime but still keep your job and give it effort and dedication. I think the problem is guys like the chase more then the end relation…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 12:29 AM
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Lol So what you are saying is that women just have better relationships across the board... Got it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 12:10 AM
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Women in general tend to be the ones who put more value on the relationship and will stay hoping that you will get it and as time goes on and they start to realize that you never will they slowly start to emotionally check out when they feel unheard and their needs are consistently going unmet. Do men realize what a fucking slap in the face it is to go to someone who's "loves" you and say "this causes me pain can we talk about it" and then they just keep doing the same thing? Do you really love …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 12:08 AM
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No situation will be the "everytime" answer, but in my experience, which is all any of us can speak to, I will say 99.9% of the relationships I have seen end or left was because the guy didn't want to listen and take things seriously until it was too late. There seems to be this mentally of "all she does is nag, she just argues, I never do enough(when doing the bare minimum), shes so needy", or the worst In my opinion just shutting her out to avoid dealing with anything. It's really not all that…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 11:57 PM
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Lol no you're not, just have to pay attention and recognize patterns. You can give someone the benefit of the doubt the first few times but when it becomes their norm you get the hell out of there. Nobody should get mistreated in a relationship, your relationship should bring you peace and be your safe place, that's your PARTNER they should have your back and want you to be happy. If that's not what you're getting then respect yourself enough to move on, it's hard when you care about someone and…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 10:35 PM
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What do you consider constant wooing? That's very unspecific. I would say most women want men to just be present and invested in the growth of the relationship. I have never met a woman who wants more than that. Dates are good for a relationship that doesn't mean money has to be spent, looking at your partner as if you are always "dating them" rather than getting complacent and lazy is always beneficial for a good healthy relationship and that goes for both people.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 10:24 PM
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THIISSSSS. Guys on this thread really need to read your comments.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 09:51 PM
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The comment you replied to with the example of "I know your anxious but just breath, no one gives a shit" is validating an emotion. You have acknowledged their feeling of being anxious and given your advice/opinion. That's the conversation, that's what we are saying by acknowledging your partner, it doesn't mean you have to agree or bend to every whim. Anyone who walked all over you and played the "you have to or else" game was just a shit person to be in a relationship with. I assume you are an…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 09:50 PM
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I'd really like to ask what "constant effort" you think all these women demand?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 09:42 PM
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