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Absolutely. I see reproduction as women doing something they really want to do. What’s this part mean? “women are lined up to have kids by guys whom having a kid would be a blessing”
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 10:04 PM
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Common knowledge. Also, there’s nothing to debate. The sub is called purple pill debate. What’s the logical counterpoint to your “hot take”?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 11:27 PM
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You’re right but this is also a shitty post.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 11:26 PM
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Why does (gender) generalize about (another gender) and tell (that gender) to do x, y, or z? The world may never know.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 06:31 PM
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Men with no options aren’t marrying anyone, because they have no options…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 11:33 PM
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I think he’s in the wrong here and is trying to save face and is really the partyer but I’d also guess she did something questionable and this was a preemptive strike because he felt the marriage was falling apart.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 03:26 PM
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I’m sure they don’t want to have to be telemarketing any more than I want to be receiving their call so I just tell them “no thanks” and I hang up.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 11:55 PM
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Oh trust me they realize how ridiculous they sound but they don’t care and they keep repeating the same bullshit hoping that eventually someone else will believe it and it will catch on.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 04:10 PM
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All good info and just to add, in some parts of the US, you can’t even rent a car unless you’re at least 25, and your car insurance drops once you hit 25. That being said, everyone ages but not everyone grows up.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 04:09 PM
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Couldn’t agree more and I’ll reply with more later but for now, I love your flair and I agree!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 11:42 PM
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I’m glad you agree but your post makes it seem like settling is a bad thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 06:09 PM
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Just curious OP but are you on the spectrum?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 05:50 PM
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Everyone settles anyway so it doesn’t matter. Nobody gets 100% of what they want, so, mathematically speaking, everyone settles. Settling isn’t a bad thing. It just means you’ve accepted that you’re not 100% of what someone else wants and they aren’t 100% of what you want and there’s enough that you like about each other to stop looking for someone better.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 05:48 PM
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https://youtu.be/SdfNq94Qsyw
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 03:53 PM
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I gotcha. You see Brittany Venti’s video shredding Pearl?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 03:31 PM
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Pearl = just pearly things?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 03:23 PM
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Who cares? Let the zoomers who will do that, do that, while other zoomers will compete.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 03:22 PM
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No, we can’t prove how. Continue to use the dating apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 04:20 AM
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januaryphilosoher (with “radfem” in the flair) There's no counterfactual to this, you're just believing what you want to believe and will tell anyone who says otherwise they're mistaken. Even if I tell you about the obese balding men I see rocking around Asda with their wives and girlfriends you can say "nope you're mistaken they're actually above average". And as a radical feminist, you’ll do the same thing when presented with something that contradicts your strongly held beliefs, correct?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 11:52 PM
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Did you want to keep discussing this? Seems like you were confused based on your last reply.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 07:57 PM
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People can be in a relationship for certain benefits but still wish they were single. Yes they can. Do we have reason or data to assume that happens to a significant amount of people? Not me. Do you have this data? You could survey people but the number of people who comment that they’d leave their marriage for someone better, for money, because they’re not happy, etc. proves that some people are in relationships but would prefer not to be. I am laying out a logical way to approach this. You are…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 07:15 PM
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People can be in a relationship for certain benefits but still wish they were single. It applies to both men and women. I’m sharing my opinion just like you are. You’re speculating without basis and logic as well if you’re accusing me of doing that. You’re no more right than I am. Yes, many men might also want a better woman. That lends further credence to what I meant when I said that just because someone is in a relationship doesn’t mean they wouldn’t rather be single.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 07:07 PM
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You can also be surrounded by people who love you and still feel lonely and miserable.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 06:49 PM
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Good man also doesn’t mean she’s a good woman. She might prefer to be single but not realize she’s the one causing strife in the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 06:37 PM
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how can they prefer being single? They can be in relationships but still prefer to be single. Also, it might not be a bad relationship but instead it could be that they just want a better partner than what they have. Maybe he’s a good dude but he’s not the most handsome and doesn’t make enough money to give her a nicer lifestyle.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 06:36 PM
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Makes sense to me and is your bare minimum the same as what you consider to be hot?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 12:05 AM
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I agree and I was more curious where you rank things. Is physical attractiveness the most important?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 11:51 PM
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Fair pint. So physical attraction is the most important and everything else is ancillary?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 11:38 PM
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What’s most important to you and if a guy wasn’t hot enough for you, but was kind of close, could other things about him make up for that, and if so, what?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 11:26 PM
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But are you hot enough to only date hot guys? Maybe you’re shopping out of your price range.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 11:20 PM
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Not to read into this too much but do you think that’s kind of a reflection of society in that there’s lots of good guys out there but they just physically aren’t the most ideal and perhaps that’s why there’s the issues with dating that there are?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 02:41 PM
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Are these below average dudes still good guys who have the masculine qualities those women want and it’s just their looks that makes them below average?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 09:41 PM
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Many? Do you have a source for that?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 08:09 PM
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I second this opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 08:08 PM
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I’m a guy so this doesn’t apply to me but to share my own experience, I think a lot of people do want to get married but they’re worried about marrying the wrong person. Women are worried about marrying someone who will be lazy or an abuser. Men are worried about marrying someone who will cheat on them or file for divorce and try to ruin them financially. This is why trust and respect are far more important in a relationship than love.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 07:45 PM
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Looks matter in the sense of showing someone that you care about your appearance enough to have the discipline to work on it. If you’re in shape, it means you have the discipline to eat healthy and not excessively, and that you make sure to stay active.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 03:34 PM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 05:11 PM
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Wouldn’t matter as the last lockdown didn’t do anything to change how I live my life. I was not confined to my home then and I don’t plan on being confined to my home now.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 05:06 PM
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Improving yourself is never bad advice because if you only do it so that you can find a partner then you’re likely to stop doing it if you do find a partner. You might also not find a partner. If you do it for yourself regardless of whether you have a partner then you’ll always do it whether you have a partner or not. Which one of those 2 options do you think is better?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 02:37 AM
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Nothing wrong with being friends with women. You just have to understand that she might only see you as a friend and you might incorrectly read it as an opportunity to date her. Suss it out and be cool if she says no thanks. Also, remember that you can’t behave the same way around some women that you can with your buddies. It’s just a fact that the kind of jokes or hazing each other isn’t the same with them as it is with your buddies. This is where many men find themselves in HR’s office for som…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 08:01 PM
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Photogenic?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 05:52 PM
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How tall are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 02:40 PM
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Maybe so but that’s not what that person said. You can clearly see where they said: How can you sit there and blame men when 95% of women won't date a man shorter than them? Not, shorter than 6ft. So, either most women are 6ft tall or taller, or there’s some bullshit going on. Also, I find those numbers highly suspicious considering more than 15% of the male population are in relationships (just a hunch) and yet by your stats, not all of them are 6ft or taller.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 06:08 AM
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95% of men aren’t shorter than 95% of women so how’s this a valid complaint?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 03:02 AM
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Who are you complaining to? Anyone who will listen? Did you consider that maybe people also want to hear solutions instead of just listening to you complain?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 11:17 PM
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Whom* It should be unacceptable to you and anyone else who only complains but won’t take action in their own lives to improve things.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 10:55 PM
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He doesn’t get it. He just wants to complain but won’t take the necessary steps to improve things. Why? Because complaining is easy and free and doesn’t require hard work like self-improvement does.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 10:46 PM
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Complaining is acceptable but complaining and then not doing anything to improve your situation is unacceptable.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 10:45 PM
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My apologies. I fucked that up and misread it as “people like you are why we can’t even access services like these”. That’s what I get for being tired and distracted this morning. Luckily I wasn’t working on anything important.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 06:44 PM
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What does any of that mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 06:22 PM
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It’s ok. I’m picking up what you’re putting down. Reading comprehension isn’t everyone’s strong suit.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 06:10 PM
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Why not? I’m not seeking perfection because I’m not perfect.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 04:37 PM
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Arrogance, or hubris. Either one works.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 12:47 PM
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You don’t see a scenario where not being a father would make you want someone in order to have a family?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 06:23 AM
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How would your mindset be if you weren’t a dad?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 05:50 AM
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Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 10:01 PM
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Not the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 01:43 PM
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I asked about having kids with an AI girlfriend and you suggest an artificial womb or surrogacy? How is this AI girlfriend, or wife, supposed to do anything with the kid?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 01:16 PM
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PUAs aren’t the only RP content. Also, why are you 16 and commenting on what 30YO+ guys should be doing? Worry about yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 12:05 AM
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I’m not 16 and if it goes for me then it goes for you too. So, where does that leave us?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 09:07 PM
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I really can’t talk to you about this man. You’re just too far gone.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 08:09 PM
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Good luck with that attitude. I don’t care enough to change your mind if you’re hell bent on plowing through life with a mindset like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 07:54 PM
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But once a guy turns 40, any woman under 40 wants nothing to do with him?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 07:44 PM
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What? Who said anything about getting married in a month? The comment you replied to says: Most men marry after 30. Why would you have to get it done before? That means that from age 30+ is where most men are getting married. That means guys who are 30, 35, 40, etc. are getting married more often than guys younger than 30.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 07:27 PM
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You’re 16 and spending way too much time listening to RP content when you should be getting exercise, socializing, and learning what you can in school.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 07:12 PM
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Where’s the proof? I guarantee there’s plenty of good women out there, it’s just that either they’re with shitty dudes or they just haven’t found anyone yet. Do you think some mechanism exists to where every good woman finds someone? You realize there’s plenty of people who are good but who never end up finding anyone just by happenstance, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 07:11 PM
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Source?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 07:09 PM
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Source?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 07:09 PM
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Sounds like things are getting closer to equality to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 01:09 AM
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Uh…how the fuck am I supposed to have kids with an AI girlfriend? Am I going to change digital diapers and take my kids to VR Disneyland? Shit…did I say too much and now I’ve opened a can of worms?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 05:07 PM
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Your flair gives you way. Your “more likely” argument isn’t based in reality and is obviously just a reflection of your issues you have with men. OP, do not listen to this person. They’re heavily biased and not credible.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 03:06 PM
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Hell no they aren’t. First of all, Ashley Graham is 5’10” and not a single one of those girls are even close to that. Second, even for being the weight she is, Ashley Graham has got close to a flat stomach. Her weight is distributed well. You’re letting some bikinis and some bodycon dresses influence you. Remember, leggings can make almost everyone can look good.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 05:28 AM
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If you think those are hourglass bodies then you haven’t seen a real one. Go look at an hourglass and tell me the middle part is girthy. It isn’t. Also, the face makeup is doing a lot of heavy lifting here.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 05:24 AM
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Easy. Fit 50 year old. Do you realize the effort it takes to be fit at 50? A 20yo can be fit on a diet of ramen and cigarettes. To be fit at 50 takes exponentially more effort. Those 20yo girls are putting zero effort into being in shape and are not treating their bodies like finely tuned machines. I wouldn’t be surprised to find out their lack of discipline is coupled with a lack of personality. Those 50yo women are doing everything under the sun to stay in shape, which takes an insane amount o…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 05:19 AM
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Because men get far FAR FFAAAARRRR less attention from women than women get from men.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 06:02 PM
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People are better off just eating less, drinking more water, and getting more exercise but they choose not to. Ironically, if more people did that in general, not only would they look better and feel better but they’d improve their chances at finding someone. Before any of the drooling morons in this sub reply with “that’s not a guarantee.” Of course it isn’t. Reading comprehension is a valuable skill.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 03:57 PM
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I was about to say…lifetime movies don’t usually end like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 06:08 AM
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No it's not wrong or a bad thing in itself. Creating a power imbalance in order to get it was the only part that was arguably bad. Where’s this power imbalance you keep referring to? I’m not talking about CEOs or politicians. I’m talking about guys working regular jobs to provide for their families. Where’s the power imbalance? Where is it? Sure there was a social pressure on men too, in the past it wasn't as heavy as the one put on women, mainly because a single man could still climb the power …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 04:18 PM
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It makes sense to me that men invest more in society when they have a stake in it like marriage and children. Is that wrong? If your argument is that men should be doing it anyway, I’d simply point to the number of single men who already do that. Not every man who builds and maintains infrastructure and other pieces of society is married and has kids. Also, men get ostracized too for being unmarried. I won’t get into a discussion of who it’s worse for since that isn’t the topic of debate but bei…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 03:51 PM
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Burner, alt, whatever you want to call it. Anyway, enjoy your shit talking.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 03:29 PM
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I know better than to engage with someone who makes comments like yours, especially when it’s obviously someone’s burner account they use just for talking shit. 😁
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 03:14 PM
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It's interesting how you managed to frame most the reasons for this from a position of male victimhood or lack of patriarchal/masculine values. Not saying all are wrong even though I disagree with a couple of them. It makes sense given that it’s a discussion about why so many guys are unprepared to deal with life. Another reason I would consider is men don't understand what women find attractive because for generations, under patriarchy, men didn't need to know what women found attractive. Doesn…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 03:13 PM
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It’s not ideal but let me say this, books are a much better use of someone’s time than social media, including Reddit. I’m pretty poor at managing my social media usage but I’ve been reading a lot more lately.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 06:09 AM
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I do want to clarify, I’m not saying single mothers do a bad job. I’m saying I don’t think people understand the importance of a father or at least won’t understand it for a while and long after quite a bit of damage has already been done, and maybe irreversible damage.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 06:08 AM
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My blunt and asshole opinion is the increase of guys being unprepared for the real world is probably highly correlated with the increase of single motherhood. The role a good father plays in the house is highly underrated and I’m guessing a large reason for why things are heading the way they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 05:57 AM
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That’s fine but you shouldn’t need an explanation as critical thinking skills and common sense should have told you everything you need to know.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 05:53 AM
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Huge rise in single motherhood correlated with the points about a lack of good fathers Lack of good fathers Lack of good male role models in school Being bombarded with anti-male propaganda Lack of camaraderie with other guys Lack of masculine things like wood shop and auto shop Lack of investment in men’s education in general Starting school too early because girls mature faster Social media warping perception and reality I’m sure there’s more but that’s a good chunk of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 05:52 AM
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I don’t think we needed a whole post about this. Simply 1 sentence saying “social awkwardness is extremely disadvantageous for men in dating” is all that needs to be said.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 05:39 AM
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I’m guessing as a high earning woman it’s easier to find a high earning man but the opposite isn’t true or at least not nearly as easy. If I would only date my financial equal, I’d be a pretty lonely guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 05:09 AM
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Would you have accepted his proposal if he made significantly less than you and you were the breadwinner in your relationship and had to pay for most things?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 04:42 AM
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If she’s real, which I have my doubts about for various reasons, then she’s keeping herself in great shape and continuously works on her attitude and personality, which would explain why she was able to find a good guy willing to marry her. The reality is, many want the prize but aren’t willing to make themselves the prize. It’s easy to just call yourself a 9 (there are no 10s) when you’re not. It’s difficult to actually become one in all facets.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 03:53 AM
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If you’re a high earner then why aren’t you treating your fiancée half of the time? You’re supposed to be strong and independent. Men - don’t buy into this BS. If a girl is into you, it doesn’t matter if you spend $200+ on dinner and drinks or if you just walk on the beach and swap stories and let the conversation wind it’s way around and figure out what you both have in common and where you can debate interesting topics.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 02:52 AM
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She won’t say it but it’s buried in her post. She wants to be provided for and wants other women to only seek out guys who will dote on them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 02:51 AM
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I’m guessing it’s one or both of these: The woman he’s marrying ain’t exactly a catch herself and she doesn’t consider herself one either, which differs from the general context of this discussion we’re having where many women would rate themselves a 10 when they’re really a 5, to put it bluntly. Or The fact that he’s bold and unapologetic is attractive to women, which is also a high possibility since that confidence is like an aphrodisiac to some women
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 06:05 PM
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Man the accuracy of this statement…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 03:28 PM
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It’s not necessary so much as it’s desired. The wedding is desired, the ring is desired, etc. What do you bring to a marriage and what are you offering? Would you sign a prenup? Likewise, what does the guy you marry need to bring to it and what does he need to offer? Just curious but how many guys have you rejected (dating, relationship, proposal, etc.) in your past that you now wish you’d have married?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 12:17 AM
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Single women keep women single. Somewhat true with men as well but not as much because of a different social dynamic.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 11:48 PM
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For some people, being willing to marry is proof. That’s exactly it. It’s a way to show friends, family, the rest of society, etc. that you’re validated because you got someone to sign a legal contract to stay with you. I.e. social proof It means there's something between "I'm leaving" and being gone forever -- even of that something is lawyers. Nailed it again. It’s a way of saying “if you leave, there’s consequences” There's at least some incentive to try and work out your conflicts. Only on o…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 11:24 PM
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Marriage isn’t required for love and commitment. It’s a legal contract, which makes it closer to being contractual, which the vows show, than anything else. There’s nothing about it that proves you love or are committed to someone any more than being in a relationship and not being married. The evidence of this is people who disrespect their marriages in a multitude of ways. There’s also no need for marriage in terms of any sort of legalities. All of those can be accomplished without marriage. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 11:17 PM
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So you want to be married but you don’t want kids. That’s fine but I’m curious, since having children is off the table, what are you offering in exchange for marriage that the man you want to marry can’t otherwise get without being married to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 11:06 PM
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No. You want what you want. However, I’d be willing to bet the dating pool of guys who want masculine women is a lot smaller than the pool of guys who want feminine ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 06:46 PM
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Seems like everyone else is using it as a pejorative.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 01:44 AM
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No. People need to find things to enjoy and they enjoy building these. Mind ya own business.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 01:12 AM
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Plenty don’t. Look at some very complex Lego builds and tell me those were done by children.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 12:40 AM
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That’s fine but people here are using it as a pejorative, which is incorrect.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 12:36 AM
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Are you using “childish” as a pejorative or just to describe doing something children would normally do? The gist of the thread is using “childish” as a pejorative in this context of collecting legos or things like that, which is incorrect.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 12:35 AM
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False. It’s not childish to own children’s toys. It’s childish to act like a child. Owning things or doing activities that children typically do isn’t childish. A perfect example is Legos. They’re designed for children but also state things like “5+” since there’s no upper age limit on them.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 05:44 PM
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No. It takes more than just liking plushies to be feminine. Notice how that’s not the only thing on the list.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 05:42 PM
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No it’s not wrong at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 05:40 PM
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That only works if you let someone shaming you change your behavior. I owe nothing to anyone so shaming me won’t do shit. However, what we should be doing is lifting each other up and encouraging each other and spending more time with the boys.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 05:58 AM
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Wouldn’t you?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 06:49 PM
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So why would OP use them as an example? Plus, she’s an attractive woman. I think OP is conflating the fact that she’s 55 with some level of unattractiveness and OP can’t reconcile someone’s age against their attractiveness like we’re all supposed to look like hot 20-something’s well into our 60s and 70s.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 02:57 PM
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Before I say anything, are you married? Do you know why Jim and Jason married those women? What are your qualifications?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 02:50 PM
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And aren’t she and Jason Momoa separated pending divorce?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 02:49 PM
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I like them. I find it cute. Like a cute dog running away when you expect them to protect you. We all have our preferences but when they cower in the face of danger and you realize they can’t and won’t protect or help you, you might change your mind. Atleast those men dont go cause serious harm when faced adversity like some would. I even find it admirable in some context. On the contrary. Just because someone is a strong man doesn’t mean he’s going to cause harm, but he could also help prevent …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 06:53 AM
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Because harmless and kind men seem weak to those women who hate them. It’s good to be kind but not harmless. Harmless is synonymous with spineless and nobody likes a spineless wet blanket who cowers in the face of adversity.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 06:07 AM
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Show us your research and a larger sample size than just your friend group. Also, what do you define as success?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 06:05 AM
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You don’t take accountability for things you didn’t have control over. Why would anyone do that? What you take accountability for is what you’re going to do about the hand you were dealt and the decisions you make going forward once you’ve begun to understand things better.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 06:04 AM
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It would convenient to point fingers at society or parents or the opposite gender for lack of dating success. But where is that accountability that men allegedly take? It would convenient to point fingers at society or parents or the opposite gender for lack of dating success. In all seriousness, men need to take responsibility for fixing their own lives. However, marriage is still not worth it. There’s simply no need for it. You can have commitment without marriage. It’s an antiquated idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 06:02 AM
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Totally understand and good luck. 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 05:54 AM
1

Because the question asked change my view from this position of my post. Not play the other sides I’m fully aware of how this works. It’s your attempt to change my view. Again, your view is already the widely popular belief so there’s nothing to change. You don’t have some controversial opinion to really challenge. That’s my point. Also if I was on the other wise I wouldn’t argue against it. It makes 100000% logical sense. My point wasn’t for you to actually hold the opposite belief, just to sta…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 02:04 AM
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That’s fine but you’re missing my point. This sub is for debate and it’s hard to debate something when it’s already a widely popular belief. It won’t kill you, or anyone else, to make a CMV post with a controversial opinion to get a debate going in the comments section.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 01:46 AM
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Not much of a view to challenge here since it’s widely known that men should be taking care of their physical and fiscal health. OP, how about you play devil’s advocate and argue why men shouldn’t do this?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 12:37 AM
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You need to get rid of that black pill mindset buddy. If it hasn’t already destroyed you, it will. Let me know if you want to have a serious discussion but I can’t engage with you on this level.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 01:54 AM
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A relationship predicated on acquiring value for one self. Ok so that is a transactional relationship, but that’s not all relationships. I don't consider that talking down to yourself. I consider that facing reality. Blaming yourself for someone else’s inability to handle a confrontation isn’t facing reality, it’s misattribution. You learn why it happened, you fix it, and if you can't fix it, then you accept it. Nothing wrong with internalizing things but don’t internalize someone else’s deficie…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 10:12 PM
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Excitement/adventure and stability aren’t opposites and stable isn’t a synonym for boring.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 02:33 PM
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If they only left to find a younger one, shame on them. If they left because it wasn’t much of a marriage any more and there was all sorts of bullshit but no more love, affection, fun, etc. then I don’t blame them for leaving. That works both ways too.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 07:07 AM
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That’s not how people operate my good man. You say a few hours but in all likelihood it’s at least a few days or even a few weeks depending on circumstances. Also, yes I’d still take the tough mudder path to spare them even just that pain. I don’t want to be responsible for someone else’s pain no matter how short lived it may be.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 11:11 PM
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No I wouldn’t assume that and I’d probably also take the flat paved road because taking the tough mudder one seems unnecessarily difficult. I might do it for the enjoyment but if I’m just trying to be efficient then I’m taking the flat paved road. However, I don’t think those people are doing it out of efficiency. I think they’re doing it out of callousness, which is what you said, but that can also be described as cowardice as they lack the courage to do something difficult, which is proven by …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 10:59 PM
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All relationships are transactional. Before I say anything about this, what’s your personal definition of transactional? If someone ghosted me, that is more of a reflection of me than them. Absolutely. I couldn’t agree more. That proves to me I wasn't worth their time to even say what's up, which means I need to desperately up my value as man to earn that respect. Shit. You almost had it. No, it doesn’t mean your value isn’t enough. It’s one thing to take accountability and do some introspection…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 10:13 PM
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I get what you’re saying but I don’t think that’s a good example. We’re not talking about a situation where someone has wronged or offended you in some way. We’re talking about a situation where you just feel it’s not a match. In that case, ghosting them is still a cowardly move because it is difficult to tell someone you’re not into them, but it’s the right thing to do and it’s better for your soul. Yes that’s just my opinion but I’ll never support the idea of ghosting because it’s bad for soci…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 10:08 PM
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It’s cowardice whether it’s wearing the cloak of fear, indifference, etc. Cowardice can mean genuine fear but it’s also a lack of courage. Someone who ghosts lacks the fortitude to do the right thing, which is to, at the very least, tell the person you don’t want any more contact. The better solution is to tell them why so they have an opportunity to fix it but that might be asking a lot of today’s society.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 09:24 PM
2

That’s all well and good but how can someone beat you up over the phone?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 07:01 PM
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I highly doubt that but it’s also easy to say it on Reddit and much harder to do it in practice. However, if you’re one of the rare ones (which everyone thinks they are), who would actually stop, rest assured there’s a long line of dudes who’d gladly step in and take your place.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 06:24 PM
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There’s no “self-preservation” in ghosting. It’s selfishness. If you have to ghost because you’re too soft to handle a conversation, you have zero business being in a relationship. It means you’ll be an insufferable wet blanket and people will have to walk on eggshells around you. I’ve got a buddy like this who’s a decorated Army combat vet and talks tough but can’t handle anyone with a differing opinion and also has zero ability to effectively communicate. He just holds everything in and acts r…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 06:21 PM
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It can be a lot more than cowardice: self-protection Invalid excuse. disgust That’s that person’s problem and still not an excuse. laziness Invalid excuse. avoiding hurting someone's feelings by dragged into a conversation in which expressing your honest feelings could be hurtful to hear, The weakest of the invalid excuses. It is part of the dance of human relationships and always has been. It is simply more feasible now that people don't only meet those who cross their paths in person. It’s poo…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 05:18 PM
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Ghosting is cowardice, plain and simple. It’s the inability or lack of desire to see someone else’s humanity and engage with them on a level where you can understand their emotions and explain why you don’t see you and them being a good fit. You might as well just be a robot if you lack the ability or initiative to engage with other people on a level beyond just being transactional.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 04:43 PM
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No, when you go down on a guy he expects it all the time but doesnt reciprocate. Thats why Ive stopped doing it. We’re not all like this. I can say in absolute honesty that I enjoy going down on my gf probably 10x more than I like receiving, and that’s been true amongst every gf I’ve had over the past 20 years. I like you, but most of your peers arent like you and thats really not my fault. True on all accounts. Fingers crossed things get better before they get worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 03:48 PM
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Someone correct me if I’m wrong but aren’t PPD topics supposed to be something folks can realistically debate? Who’s going to take the side of arguing against going down on a woman? I’ve got a stance on this but only in the context of 2 women. One woman I dated recently who couldn’t orgasm either through fingering, oral, or intercourse vs. my current gf who can orgasm, what I’d consider to be quite easily, through all 3. The only difference between them, that I’m aware of, is that the one who co…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 03:29 PM
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No guarantees but surely a guy is less likely to reciprocate if he isn’t getting it either. Maybe I’m just speaking for myself but I love going down on my gf and I don’t care if she gives me oral or not. She almost always does but that’s not what’s important to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 03:15 PM
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You’re a woman discussing men as a monolith. That’s as bad as a man discussing women as a monolith. Stop doing that. I’m a man saying I fundamentally disagree with your take.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 03:13 PM
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She’s 28 so chances are she’s dating dudes in their late 20s and early 30s. Any more of my comments you’d like to respond to?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 03:01 PM
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That’s not what I said and reading comprehension is a valuable skill.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 03:00 PM
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I’m not old enough to be a boomer but this is going to make me sound like one. This is what happens when people spend too much time on social media and lose the ability to see other people in the real world as human beings and when groups spew all sorts of toxic garbage often enough that it infects people’s minds.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 02:50 PM
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No worries and I’ll edit my comment to add context. It was late and I was tired
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 02:02 PM
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I put “pick me” in quotes for a reason and remember that this is in the context of subs like FDS.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 01:58 PM
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I put “pick me” in quotes for a reason and remember that this is in the context of subs like FDS.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 01:58 PM
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It’s strange how acting like a decent person and behaving how someone who wants commitment would behave is considered a “pick me” attitude and is looked down upon by other women (when viewed through the lens of subs like FDS).
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 05:39 AM
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Woman does things that men say they like. Woman gets man. Woman then goes on to say she’s not going to do it any more and goes back to being surprised she isn’t getting guys to commit to her. You forgot this part ^ Chaos ensues in comments.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 05:24 AM
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Went full-on pick-me as an experiment and got a boyfriend within a month. These are some of the things I did: planned dates myself (this was fun actually as I'm naturally pretty dominant) Nothing wrong with this. Why is planning a date seen as a bad thing? put out early (3rd date, which was the second week of us dating) 3rd date isn’t early IMHO. I’d say it’s the beginning of when sex should be initiated. covered some meals myself but always offered to split otherwise God help if you treat a guy…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 05:23 AM
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Any port in a storm. Just because he’s tired of fucking her doesn’t mean he’s going to stop. Would you?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 12:14 AM
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Is an increasing F/M fertility rate good or bad for men? Seems like that’s a good thing. Also, any thoughts or opinions as to why the rate is 1.5 F/M and growing? Doesn’t have to be scientific and I’m not challenging you on it. I’m just curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 07:05 AM
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There’s nothing wrong with having high standards, so long as you’re not shopping out of your price range.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 07:04 AM
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I’m not a woman so I can’t share my experience with that…are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 09:12 AM
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I don’t see anywhere OP said that neither in the post nor in the comments. Feel free to quote it. Also, being single isn’t necessarily good. It can be good and it can be better than being in a bad relationship but we’re social creatures and being by ourselves for too long can have detrimental effects.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 06:21 AM
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Why would it be good for the men to be single if they’re not the ones who want the divorce?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 05:42 AM
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True but I wouldn’t call that girl obese. She’s kind of built like Ashley Graham except she’s not as well endowed up top. If she just had bigger boobs, I think this would be a very different conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 07:39 AM
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Mea culpa
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 01:58 AM
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While I agree with you, I didn’t say that. The person who replied to me did. Also, what I said was that average men are more likely to be with chubbier women than the opposite because an awesome personality makes up a lot for not having a beach body when it comes to women. However, there needs to be some level of discipline and dare I say, an excuse, for being like that. My favorite example is Olympian Deanna Price. Yes she’s what most would consider to be a bigger girl but she’s also a top leve…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 10:33 PM
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Well good luck arguing with science. May the odds be ever in your favor. Also, whether it’s because of babies or not, it holds true that women tend to carry more fat than men do. That’s not a dig at women or a bad thing. It’s just how things are. This is PPD after all so feel free to CMV on that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 08:10 PM
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Women naturally carry more fat than men to begin with and men are more apt to choose a partner who has a better personality and looks “good enough” than a hot chick who’s a raging bitch. Remember, for every smoking hot girl there is, there’s a guy who’s tired of fucking her.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 07:30 PM
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Not any more than average women are refusing to give chubbier guys a chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 07:29 PM
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Change your view? Buddy we all have that view.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 06:56 PM
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I agree with you but do you have another source for data that’s better than this? Kinda seems like this is all we have so far.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 07:45 AM
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Ability to provide.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 08:48 PM
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People don’t understand or don’t care what it is to be insecure. Society won’t call women insecure if they don’t want to date a dude under 6’ but they’ll call a guy insecure if he won’t date a girl who does OF. They’re just throwing around the word insecure without having a grasp of what it really means, or they’re just being disingenuous and they know they’re liars.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 03:51 PM
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Men need to get back to being men and spending time around other men doing manly things together. I know how that sounds but it’s correct. The days of dudes going camping, fishing, building shit together, sitting in the backyard grilling and enjoying some cold beers, working on cars, going to the gym, going on hikes, talking about life’s problems, etc. aren’t necessarily gone but there’s a whole lot less face to face interactions and the online communications just aren’t the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 04:23 AM
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Been there done that too but times have changed and now you have to strike while the iron is hot.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen26/04/23 09:12 PM
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Yeah good luck with that. You’ll exchange a bunch of messages time and time again and the girl will lose interest because you lack the confidence to set up a date and the cycle will repeat itself.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen25/04/23 03:40 PM
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All sorts of reasons not to do this. I won’t get into the specifics because it should be self-explanatory.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen24/04/23 05:32 PM
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His fault for exchanging so many messages without attempting to set up a first date. Hope he learned a lesson here.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen23/04/23 06:53 AM
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A great therapist will listen and offer solutions and also hold you accountable but as someone that’s been in therapy, your biggest obstacle is you. The problem is it’s much easier to look outward and either point to how well people look like they’re doing or to blame others, and you might be right. Someone might have wronged you in such a way that they deserve your scorn. However, that won’t fix the problem. You have to want to fix things and take action early and often to fix them. I’m sure yo…
/r/ExRedPill14/04/23 06:14 PM
2

You can’t undo the damage but you can try to make things right with those you hurt and with the mistakes you can’t fix, you atone for your past by not making the same mistakes again and also helping to keep others on the right path and helping them learn from your mistakes so they don’t have to make them and hurt others.
/r/ExRedPill05/04/23 06:00 PM
1

Gotcha. I didn’t know that. Either way, I wouldn’t get the snip. I’d just use condoms or other forms of BC until she’s past that age. It’s just my opinion never to get surgery unless it’s medically required and even then, it would probably have to be a life or death issue, or at least a serious quality of life concern.
/r/ExRedPill01/04/23 04:36 AM
1

Ah gotcha. My motivation to go to the gym was Goggins and Willink and it’s sad, frustrating, and comical, to say but I’ve seen posts about both asking about their “red pillness”.
/r/ExRedPill01/04/23 02:57 AM
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Most people are sensitive to criticism, especially when the criticism doesn’t match the personal experience of the person. It’s a largely irrational fear because many of those men only interact online, which coincidentally is where there’s a whole lot of toxic content from both male and female content creators. It doesn’t help that there’s all sorts of anti-male content all over YouTube, TikTok, IG, etc. that just pours gas on the fire either, along with the wide range of what’s considered “red …
/r/ExRedPill31/03/23 05:57 PM
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Who’s the person you’re referring to?
/r/ExRedPill30/03/23 11:48 PM
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Go somewhere you’ll probably never see the people again and start trying. You’ll fail, several times, but that’s ok. You’ll build up resilience through rejection (rejection therapy?). Over time, you’ll hone your conversational skills and get better at it and when you complement them, try to find something most people won’t complement and even better if it’s something most people wouldn’t notice but is something that they appear to have put some effort into. After that, just let the conversation …
/r/ExRedPill27/03/23 04:44 PM
1

Couldn’t agree more. Do IUDs affect hormones at all? Also, if you two want to be child free for life, why don’t both of you get the snip?
/r/ExRedPill27/03/23 03:06 PM
1

No not at all. I’m not referring to this post specifically when I mention male empowerment. This post itself just screams narcissistic gaslighting to me. Could it be RP? Maybe someone would be willing to argue that but it reads much more like a psychiatric disorder.
/r/ExRedPill27/03/23 03:13 AM
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What I’ve learned from this sub is basically anything that smells remotely like male empowerment is red pill, which makes no sense to me but maybe it’s because I understand there’s a lot more nuance and because RP isn’t a cohesive group of tenets. It’s that anyone and everyone can claim something is RP and then everyone else just takes that at face value without any sort of detailed examination.
/r/ExRedPill27/03/23 01:41 AM
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Been there. What are you specifically struggling with?
/r/ExRedPill26/03/23 10:29 PM
1

Well the reason female birth control was much more researched is probably because it’s easier to stop 1 of something than 100,000,000 of something.
/r/ExRedPill26/03/23 09:12 PM
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Bill Burr isn't as well thought out as Patrice and feels more performative (not taken seriously). Very true. Patrice has been called one of the most intelligent comedians by other comedians. Patrice changed the way i see women. Always run what you read and hear through your personal filter to see if it makes sense. Like you have to keep them in check/interested or they get difficult/leave you. Hypergamy etc. Anything is possible and if you’re boring then don’t be surprised if they bail. They are…
/r/ExRedPill26/03/23 08:01 PM
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That all sounds like a narcissist gaslighting you and nothing to do with any of the pills. This is simply a weak man projecting his own insecurities onto you.
/r/ExRedPill26/03/23 03:21 PM
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If I’m in a relationship with someone and we’re having sex, unprotected or protected, it’s because I’m willing to have a kid with that woman in case the BC fails. As for BC being a choice, it is if you don’t need it for the other reasons I mentioned but men also have the choice to wear a condom or use spermicidal lubricant or both. It sounds to me like the people complaining about BC, who don’t need BC and the ones complaining about those complaining both need to take a closer look at what they’…
/r/ExRedPill26/03/23 03:15 PM
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It depends if you’re only on BC for the contraceptive reasons as opposed to the contraceptive reasons and also to regulate hormones, help with period issues, etc. Men should be wearing condoms and also I would advise men not to have sex with someone they’re not willing to have kids with but that’s going to offend folks with delicate sensibilities.
/r/ExRedPill26/03/23 02:54 PM
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I’m very familiar with him. I’m asking what your concerns are and what you need explained. Remember that quite a bit of what he said is just for comedic effect or is just hyperbole for the entertainment and shock value. He was a brilliant comic first and foremost and if you think his content is harmful then I’m curious what you think about Bill Burr and Dave Chappelle and many other comics. He’s also dead so all you need to do is stop listening to him if you don’t like what you’re hearing.
/r/ExRedPill26/03/23 12:42 PM
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What’s he said that you need explained the other way?
/r/ExRedPill26/03/23 08:20 AM
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Yup. I tried finding it in the movie but I’m guessing it’s just in the book. Also, the account is botrickbateman -> bot + Patrick Bateman
/r/ExRedPill26/03/23 05:17 AM
1

It’s an American Psycho reference but I don’t think it’s in the movie
/r/ExRedPill26/03/23 05:16 AM
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I’d get on the plane with the person who has a pilot’s license and seat time, first. If my other choices are someone who simply has a license vs. someone unlicensed but with extensive experience, which should I choose? I didn’t even want to reply because all I’m doing is getting downvoted so this conversation isn’t really worth continuing but I’ll give this reply a try and see what happens. Otherwise, I’m probably done with this.
/r/ExRedPill26/03/23 01:41 AM
1

I don’t think calling them weak is ok and I’m not justifying it. What I’m saying is they’re the ones who people are calling weak and those are the reasons they’re being called weak. Yes there’s body dysmorphia for men who work out constantly as well as for men who don’t and I wasn’t trying to swing the pendulum all the way in either direction. My point is that the discipline to take good care of the 1 body you’ll ever have isn’t a bad thing and usually translates into discipline in other areas a…
/r/ExRedPill25/03/23 08:20 PM
1

I get that and what I meant about the Zeus and 6 figures thing is moreso that the hard work and discipline it takes to achieve those is far better and more rewarding than turning to booze, drugs, porn, etc. I understand there’s a middle ground there but the goal should be to be working towards something as that’s what’s going to give you purpose. You’re not weak if you’re skinny and don’t make a lot of money. You’re weak if you turn to vices and complain about your life but aren’t doing anything…
/r/ExRedPill25/03/23 06:28 PM
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Right and the point is men need to take the good aspects of masculinity and keep those and throw away the bad shit that keeps getting passed around. Example: loving on your wife and doing cute things for her and having tea parties with your daughter doesn’t make you weak but it’s also ok to stand up for yourself if someone is trashing you and to not tolerate being told that you’re where you’re at because you’re a man rather than because you put the work in to get there.
/r/ExRedPill25/03/23 06:12 PM
1

Andrew Tate
/r/ExRedPill25/03/23 05:42 PM
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They’re called weak because instead of rising to the occasion when they face a challenge, they shrink and cower instead. They turn to food, booze, drugs, porn, etc. instead of learning and hard work. They also allow and tolerate some trash women to talk down to them and then demand resources from them. If men were stronger, they’d laugh it off and continue to work on improving their lives. The weak ones then are ill-equipped when they actually meet a good woman with good values and they screw up…
/r/ExRedPill25/03/23 05:41 PM
1

Not exactly true. The modern weak men are the ones who are ardent AT supporters or who spend their time being fat and with booze, weed, and porn. The idea of what a man should be isn’t archaic or outdated and shouldn’t be beaten out of men either. However, there’s a whole bunch of incorrect ideas of what a man should be that keep getting passed around.
/r/ExRedPill25/03/23 05:39 PM
2

This is why I tell people in this sub that just because someone turns to the RP, doesn’t mean they’re some woman-hating misogynist. Often many men find themselves in the RP realm because they’ve had negative experiences with women and they’re looking for support and explanations. Many of you people here fail to realize that or you just don’t care. I understand this is Reddit and so you don’t feel any personal connection enough to reach out and try to help someone but if you’re not going to help …
/r/ExRedPill24/03/23 06:32 AM
0

I highly disagree. I think they might actually pick up those qualities from some of the more toxic red pill avenues but I bet they’re mostly going because they’re just lost in the world and don’t have a lot of support or guidance. Do you have real life experience proving the opposite?
/r/ExRedPill24/03/23 04:38 AM
1

Your what? Timeline? And what’s a terp?
/r/ExRedPill24/03/23 12:17 AM
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Not all of it. Remember that some non-RP folks brand things as RP content and other RP creators claim things as RP that aren’t. There’s no rubric for what’s RP and what isn’t. It’s all highly subjective.
/r/ExRedPill23/03/23 09:18 PM
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Ask yourself first what’s driving men towards the red pill. Also, understand that not all content is red pill. There’s a lack of masculinity and many times a young man looking for it is going to find it in RP content because society is otherwise trying to rid itself of masculinity. Be the change you want to see in the world.
/r/ExRedPill23/03/23 08:02 PM
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2 year old account with basically zero karma making a low effort post and a response like that tells me everything I need to know about you. Good luck in life. Now it makes sense. You’re the same one who posted about whether or not David Goggins is RP.
/r/ExRedPill21/03/23 06:13 PM
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Low effort post. How about sharing your detailed synopsis first and then soliciting others for their opinions?
/r/ExRedPill21/03/23 04:42 PM
1

That makes complete sense and explains a lot. I’m rather new to religion and I basically found the church because I was in need of support, kind of like how many other people find it, and I’m already starting to notice and get this sense that the people there aren’t really any better than the ones outside the church. Although I will say that some of the newer and more skeptical guys I’ve met seem to share the same observations so I’m thinking I’ll work on befriending them and I’ll keep the other…
/r/ExRedPill21/03/23 02:55 PM
1

Never heard of that passage until now. So how’s that supposed to be interpreted?
/r/ExRedPill21/03/23 02:38 PM
1

RemindMe! 12 hours
/r/ExRedPill21/03/23 07:50 AM
2

That she does.
/r/ExRedPill21/03/23 07:45 AM
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It is adultery and men claiming that adultery is ok if they do it but not ok if women do it are morons and they’re not Christian men. The problem is there’s a whole lot of people claiming to be Christians but aren’t upholding the Christian values.
/r/ExRedPill21/03/23 02:08 AM
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Remember that RP is all over the place. This is one of the more extremes of RP and isn’t a mainstream view. It’s also very wrong and the dudes who espouse this usually aren’t getting any women, let alone multiple.
/r/ExRedPill21/03/23 02:04 AM
5

This sub is getting weird. It’s turning into a bunch of strange hypotheticals and kind of weak prompts. Seems like karma farming at this point.
/r/ExRedPill20/03/23 10:40 PM
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I have nothing to say except I agree with you. Redditors think they’re not the same folks in the Facebook comments section, but they are.
/r/ExRedPill20/03/23 09:26 PM
1

I’ve been all over the world and visited places with some of the worst living conditions so I’m qualified to say that simply living in America itself is far better than many places and while many of the Nordic countries do enjoy better qualities of life, life here isn’t that bad and it’s what you make of it. We’re not perfect but we’re not too far from the top.
/r/ExRedPill20/03/23 08:26 PM
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Many people on social media, especially Reddit, want to bitch moan and complain because they can do that while sitting on the toilet taking a nasty dump instead of actually putting in work to improve their situation. Ironically, it’s usually the most privileged doing most of the complaining to try to appropriate some of the oppression from the marginalized. I.e. rich white women complaining about the plight of black folks, the LGBTQ+ community, etc., in order to feel like they’re in solidarity b…
/r/ExRedPill20/03/23 08:23 PM
1

It’s sad that you’re being downvoted for this.
/r/ExRedPill20/03/23 08:17 PM
2

Former RPer here trying to undo the damage it caused. Never heard of Matt Cross and no motivation to learn about him or his ilk. However, you should know and understand that the red pill exists for a reason and understanding why it exists and that not all RPers are alike is vastly more important than just hating people to subscribe to it lest you just further dump gas on the fire rather than water. I’m not saying it exists for a good reason, but it doesn’t exist for no reason.
/r/ExRedPill19/03/23 05:19 PM
1

To you it might be but for him it works. Run his message through your filter and whatever you don’t like, throw away. Just because his message doesn’t resonate with you doesn’t mean it’s worthless. He’s doing much more than just sitting on social media critiquing people. There’s a saying in AA that goes like this: “take what you need and leave the rest”.
/r/ExRedPill18/03/23 07:50 AM
5

No, he doesn’t.
/r/ExRedPill17/03/23 08:34 PM
2

It’s not exercising 30 minutes a day that’s the problem, it’s people’s diets. 30 minutes might work for someone who has a really healthy diet but it won’t do shit for the person pounding sodas, cheeseburgers, fried foods, etc.
/r/ExRedPill17/03/23 08:33 PM
0

How is he self-destructive?
/r/ExRedPill17/03/23 08:32 PM
3

He’s not red pill, at all. Did you do any research about him before you posted this?
/r/ExRedPill17/03/23 08:32 PM
0

What’s the synopsis of the video? No time to watch a 1.5hr YT video.
/r/ExRedPill16/03/23 05:57 AM
13

They’re jealous that that guy found a woman who loves him and cares about him. Same reason some women get jealous of other women who get engaged when the jealous women are single or not married.
/r/ExRedPill15/03/23 07:27 PM
8

Well said.
/r/ExRedPill13/03/23 10:11 PM
1

It’s because “nice guy” is a pejorative and describes someone who’s only nice in order to get something, and they tend not to be nice when they don’t get it. That’s not the same as a gentleman or a kind person, who can tolerate rejection and it doesn’t have any adverse effects on their behavior or mental state. They just take it in stride and move on. Also, I don’t know what you mean by “manosphere family of awful ideologies” but don’t think that the entire manosphere is bad any more than all of…
/r/ExRedPill13/03/23 07:04 AM
1

While I agree with some of the things you're saying I also disagree with a few things. That’s fine because like I said, I don’t agree with everything TRP promotes either. TRP promotes this idea that men are just this self-improvement project We’re all self-improvement projects and promoting women as just bonuses to be in your life perpetuates the idea that women are just objects to be obtained not people to share your life with. That’s not what I said nor what I meant. When you treat someone as …
/r/ExRedPill10/03/23 04:23 PM
3

I don’t remember hating anything when I was involved in TRP. In fact, some of TRP is pretty accurate info. Other facets of it are just sad or angry dudes, and those are the reasons I left. I learned what I needed to learn, and got out. The problem is, there’s a lot of disillusioned dudes who need something to be upset at rather than just focusing that energy towards working on themselves. What they fail to understand is they have to put the work in first before they go pursuing women, but they d…
/r/ExRedPill10/03/23 08:22 AM
3

It’s a fine line between shitting on someone for lamenting why they’re single and helping them unlearn the things they’ve learned. One is quite easy and makes things worse by reinforcing what they’ve learned. The other takes more work but will produce better results. Something I’ve noticed about this sub is it’s not as friendly to ex-RPers as the name suggests. Maybe it’s time to change that?
/r/ExRedPill09/03/23 05:48 PM
1

u/ave-nocturna not many examples since I haven’t been in this sub very long but here’s a good example.
/r/ExRedPill08/03/23 11:43 PM
1

Couples therapy and explain my side. If that doesn’t work, it’s time to call it quits on the relationship. I’m not staying where I’m not wanted and neither should anyone else. Again, all of this assumes those extremes you mentioned aren’t happening and that I’m fulfilling my role in the relationship. What advice would you give a woman if she complained her husband wasn’t having sex with her? Would you tell her to leave or tell her to stay and just accept it?
/r/ExRedPill08/03/23 10:18 PM
1

I never said to go behind their back. I’d talk to my partner and give them an opportunity to discuss what’s going on and work things out and figure out if there’s something I’m doing wrong. Remember that my original comment said “assuming you’re pulling your weight in the relationship”. If the genders were reversed, you’d see all sorts of women supporting another woman getting her needs met elsewhere.
/r/ExRedPill08/03/23 09:29 PM
1

One party doesn’t get to single-handedly decide to open a marriage? I’m not sure how this is being suggested as equivalent to divorce. People do it. I don’t like it but I think people do have a right to have their needs met or have the right to leave the relationship without a penalty. And where do you draw the line at this? Your wife can’t have sex for 6-12 weeks after having a baby. I draw a line there, but that’s just me. Your needs aren’t being met, so cheat? Your husband has cancer. Your ne…
/r/ExRedPill08/03/23 09:20 PM
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Then stop dating and go talk to someone. Your comments are exactly like what you hear from incels. Please get help and don’t poison the well for everyone else.
/r/ExRedPill08/03/23 08:44 PM
1

Uh no that’s not the solution. You’re just dating the wrong guys. Think about the guys you’re passing on and consider that they’re probably the ones who will treat you well.
/r/ExRedPill08/03/23 08:37 PM
2

Are you getting help for this? If you don’t, it’s going to solidify like concrete and it will fuck up your future relationships. On behalf of all the good guys out there, please do the work first and have a healthy mindset before getting into a relationship.
/r/ExRedPill08/03/23 08:29 PM
-4

Well then have fun dating women I guess.
/r/ExRedPill08/03/23 08:21 PM
2

The bashing of women goes hand in hand with the bashing of men. We as a society need to do better.
/r/ExRedPill08/03/23 08:14 PM
1

It’s obviously not the ideal solution but if either side isn’t getting their needs met in some way, and it’s been discussed, you either get those needs met elsewhere or divorce, right?
/r/ExRedPill08/03/23 06:13 PM
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Sexless marriages exist for all sorts of reasons. Simply put, if you’re not getting your needs met but you’re pulling your weight in the relationship, go get your needs met elsewhere. Nobody should have to fulfill their partner’s needs if they don’t want to but that partner also shouldn’t be penalized for getting their needs fulfilled in other ways either. Just make sure not to get any other women pregnant or bring any STDs back to your partner. No fault divorce means you don’t get penalized for…
/r/ExRedPill08/03/23 08:20 AM
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What got me in: lost a good woman but at the same time she did some things I then heard repeated by many other men in their own stories, not with her but with the women they had dated, so I started listening and learning more about folks’ behavior, actions, and words. What got me out: learned what I could but realized quite a bit of it is just sad or angry dudes complaining about women but not doing anything to improve their own lives
/r/ExRedPill06/03/23 08:01 PM
1

RemindMe! 2 days
/r/ExRedPill04/03/23 04:38 PM
2

I got it backwards. I meant we adapt better most likely because we have a much shorter list of what we want so it doesn’t really feel like we’re compromising on much. At the same time, they take a much bigger risk with the wrong partner since they could be pregnant for 9+ months, which is obviously a huge time commitment.
/r/ExRedPill04/03/23 05:29 AM
13

Everyone settles. Mathematically nobody gets everything they want. Some get closer than others but nobody gets everything. Those who say they have everything have merely decided that they can live without the things they wish were present, aka settling.
/r/ExRedPill03/03/23 10:44 PM
12

Highly subjective. What some might consider red pill, others might consider common sense. There’s as much red pill stuff that makes logical sense as there is that sounds like angry incel ramblings. There’s no actual defined structure or agreed upon documentation for what is and isn’t red pill so there can’t be anything but folks’ opinions about it and those vary wildly based on personal experiences and shared experiences from others, which might also not be their own personal experience. What I’…
/r/ExRedPill03/03/23 10:39 PM
13

Being ex redpill doesn’t mean not understanding how the world works. It’s moreso having a healthier attitude about things. It doesn’t mean you’re blue pill or you’re destined to get taken advantage of or otherwise live a shitty life, it’s just a healthier mindset.
/r/ExRedPill03/03/23 10:08 PM
2

I’ve met those people but those ideologies have more to do with Christian fundamentalism than with redpill ideals.
/r/ExRedPill03/03/23 12:28 AM
4

I think you know what I’m asking. Would you still do your job if you made a whole lot less money? No I’m not suggesting to avoid women. I’m saying don’t make them the focus of your life because there’s no guarantees either way. You could meet the hottest girl who’s a pain in the ass or an unattractive one who’s the best spouse and mother to your kids, or any woman in between. She could also leave you or end up in a wheelchair or contract some life-threatening illness. If any of that happens, are…
/r/ExRedPill02/03/23 04:28 AM
3

Because medicine, especially in 2023, is truly very important work. And doing high yield work within medicine, is even more important. So I can easily default to that being my purpose compared to most people. The average male salary in the U.S. is about $38k, so would you still do your job if you only made $50k? My advice is a combination of self improvement and approaching/engaging with women at your own level of looks. Self improvement means dressing nicer, optimizing your hair cut, etc. You p…
/r/ExRedPill02/03/23 04:10 AM
3

I never said purpose was work. As a physician I’d expect you to have some higher level of reading comprehension. If you have better advice, share it.
/r/ExRedPill02/03/23 03:32 AM
4

Can’t say I agree. I suggest you get some help man. This sub is ex-redpill and what you’re saying sounds a lot like redpill, or even incel rhetoric.
/r/ExRedPill02/03/23 03:23 AM
6

Go ahead and elaborate.
/r/ExRedPill02/03/23 01:23 AM
5

I understand your reply is coming from a place of frustration but it’s misguided. This has nothing to do with sex or guarantees of getting women or families. None of that is guaranteed to any of us. Your comment makes it seem that a man is undesirable based on what the opposite sex things. The focus should be that what someone else thinks of you is immaterial and what you think of yourself based on your own effort is the most important. However, you have to put in the effort to make yourself som…
/r/ExRedPill02/03/23 01:20 AM
1

Just to reiterate the focus of this conversation. It’s about men who feel like they’re undesirable and unattractive to women. What do you think a mixed gender group would end up talking about in regards to that topic?
/r/ExRedPill01/03/23 07:19 PM
0

I have female friends. They work just as well as male friends for support. Anecdotal and misses important context. You’re stripping away important meaning behind my comment. Please don’t invalidate my experience like that. Never really had that particular distinction between male friends and female friends. That’s great and I’m happy that works for you. You might be in a better place and be able to navigate mixed gender support groups better than some. If that’s the case, then my message isn’t d…
/r/ExRedPill01/03/23 06:41 PM
2

Sounds about right. You’re lacking in purpose. I can’t tell you what it is exactly since I’m still working on mine but I watch this video on YouTube a couple times a week and it helps. It’s 18 minutes but worth it in my opinion. I’ll throw it into the mix of music and podcasts I’m listening to on long drives too. AvE - Summary of every self-help book ever
/r/ExRedPill01/03/23 03:10 PM
1

It’s not a matter of excluding women. It’s just that this particular network is better served by the male camaraderie. It’s similar to how you’d talk to your buddies about certain issues you wouldn’t mention to your wife/gf or why you’d ask your accountant for tax advice instead of your doctor. Your professional network would obviously be both men and women but your support group is better off being made up of men who better understand the daily struggles of other men.
/r/ExRedPill01/03/23 03:06 PM
6

Are you depressed and have you talked to someone about that if you are? What else are you looking for in life? I’m guessing you’re not married and don’t have kids?
/r/ExRedPill01/03/23 03:02 PM
6

What have you tried so far that does work?
/r/ExRedPill01/03/23 02:56 PM
2

Not quite. The crux of the matter is we’re too focused on chasing a relationship or other things instead of improving our own lives and building larger support networks to help lift up other men. Once we as a whole lift each other up then we’re overall in a better position to be able to seek relationships and help each other if those relationships fail.
/r/ExRedPill01/03/23 02:56 PM
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I’m right there with you brother and there’s many like us so first things first, you’re not alone. The goal needs to be that we support other men such that a girlfriend/wife/kids are only a bonus in our lives and not a necessary part. It needs to be a “I’m choosing to get married and have kids” rather than “if I had a wife and kids then I’d have purpose.” What you need is some purpose in your life. You need a reason to wake up every day and be eager to tackle life’s challenges. I know that sound…
/r/ExRedPill01/03/23 02:30 PM
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What I’m saying is men need to make their focus improving their own lives and networks instead of chasing a relationship. Only once they’ve built that good life for themselves will they be better equipped to decide if they want a relationship and kids because they’ll be content by themselves, since they have a good life and a network, and then a woman and kids are a bonus, as it should be, rather than making the man’s life complete.
/r/ExRedPill01/03/23 02:26 PM
4

Nailed it. We’re our own worst enemy sometimes.
/r/ExRedPill01/03/23 02:28 AM
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I think you answered your own question. Older and younger women are much more confident, independent, etc. and thus control access to the bedroom and relationships, which is fine, as that goes hand in hand with consent as well. Gender roles in society and relationships need to change with the times as well. Traditionally, men were seen as providers and protectors. That’s changing and it’s now much more of a partnership, as it should be. However, men’s primary focus needs to be on building good l…
/r/ExRedPill01/03/23 12:42 AM
1

Correct. There’s other subs specifically for the exploitation but FDS is just as bad as RP.
/r/ExRedPill27/02/23 07:27 PM
1

Flip it around and you’ve got an interesting conundrum. A faithful woman shouldn’t have any problem with a paternity test and it might be even a benefit for her to insist on one as a way to build more trust with her partner. Sort of like a “I don’t know if this is a concern if yours or not but I want to reinforce your trust in me so I want you to get a paternity test.” That would be a way to both address any concerns and also still empower women.
/r/ExRedPill27/02/23 07:23 PM
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It shouldn’t be a worrying statistic as it just means that only the ones who are taking dating seriously will be left in the dating pool. The ones who aren’t taking dating seriously are self-filtering themselves out of the pool and likely aren’t reproducing either so it’s win-win.
/r/ExRedPill27/02/23 06:55 PM
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