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You're not dumb by not playing the game. I understand how you feel. Also since you said this is just your gut telling you, maybe hee doesn't exactly hate you like you think and mainly just doesn't care for you. I'm not saying you're wrong, just that the possibility is there and to not dwell on it too much. Cause you may end up nervous around him, stressed out and it could end up with your work suffering because of it
/r/askFDS13/02/22 03:41 PM
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Humm I've been in that situation and honestly I did do some kiss-ass just to get by. Not extreme or being flirty or anything but I've been quite nice in the past to get someone to like me enough to pass me. But it's not really something I'll advise to do cause it feels like shit. So if he doesn't go out of his way to antagonize you then there is a chance that he doesn't really care for you. At worst, try to instigate conversation with him and just be overall friendly without pushing it and try t…
/r/askFDS13/02/22 02:08 PM
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Why do you need him to like you and why do you care if he does or not? Is he discriminating against you? Making you do more work than you are paid for? If not, then ignore him and do your job. From your text, it seems you dislike him but want him to like you still which is kinda hypocritical and a waste of your time. You don't need everyone to like you specially those you don't like in the first place. And as long as he's treating you fairly during work hours then it's his business what he does …
/r/askFDS13/02/22 12:11 PM
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I was physically abused by my paternal grandmother and uncle. My father (and mother) didn't believe (despite my mum literally hearing what was going on though the phone). My paternal side of the family all left me. And no one contacts me anymore. At first, I thought my mother at least supported me but after she herself assaulted me with my father a few months ago, I learned that both never believed me in the first place and said that my behavior is what made them assault me. They even gaslighted…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 08:46 PM
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I felt completely neglected by my best friend when she was dating. I even considered cutting out the relationship many times despite her being my only friend at the time. I understood that we won't be meeting daily like we used but it went from daily meetings to seeing her like once a month. So after about a year of trying to be "understanding", I sat her down and told her straight out that I'm very upset with her. It was like alight bulb came on, she apologized and made sure to keep in contact …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 03:55 AM
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The current guy I'm seeing lives in the next city and he has absolutely taking it upon himself to be doing coming to my city instead of the other way around. He didn't even need to ask, he just understood from our convos that I won't be able to be the one to go because of my family being very controlling and I want to keep the peace for now. He has been a gentleman about it and didn't pry into it. And it's the legit bare minimum. Like come on, if she can't come to you then you go to her of you a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 12:38 PM
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Not to diagnose him but that seems like undiagnosed OCD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 10:33 PM
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Muslim guys who tell me I should learn to cook so I can feed my future husband infuriate me as a muslim woman. I'm sorry but no. Even if we talk about religion, the prophet pbuh used to cook for himself. I hate red meats and fish, I don't even want to look at them, they disgust me yet I got so many people telling me to get over my disgust, not because it's better for me and will widen my palate, but because I can't expect my "future" husband to not eat meat or fish and therefore I should learn t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 12:36 AM
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I'm a virgin at 26 and I'm not looking to change that anytime soon. Sex with men just sounds hella disappointing. And I'm not risking STIs and pregnancy just for something so mediocre.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 11:39 PM
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While I love the message. This woman is known to steal tweets and quotes from others and make it seem like she came up with them and nit giving any credits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 10:59 PM
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My cousin is a hijabi in France. She literally came back on vacation to our country to specifically go to swimming pools. (Bonus point: we have female only swimming pools and they are a godsend. No men to ogle you around. I love it)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 07:55 PM
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Ugh another one. Like slow down girl, you may like the idea but us who have lived it for our whole lives can tell you that it will never work out. Like even in The Qu'ran, it is said that It's only acceptable if the man is fair to both women and yet the man would never be able to actually be fair. And yet men still go around talking about their RIGHT to have 4 wives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 10:43 PM
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I've had the malchance of meeting some of these but thankfully it's the unpopular opinion in my country despite it being a muslim one. I just can't understand any women who would accept that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 10:39 PM
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It honestly pains when I see those anti-FDS comments liking us to MGTOWs and incels. But I'm also thankful to them because the ridiculousness is what pushed me to find FDS and level myself up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 02:41 AM
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Yep Park Narae, she's so funny and cool. Their excuse was that the other guest is in a kid's show even though the show they were in had a blaring PG-15 rating in the beginning. I was seriously afraid that she will get dropped from her shows because of it but thankfully it didn't happen. Another less serious case was the male fans meltdown whenever a female idol recommends a feminist book, wears something with a feminist anthem on it or in one case has something like "women power" in their phone …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 10:18 PM
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The men's reaction to that is actually even worse. In SK, feminists are extremely hated. And the biggest feminist group is called Megalia and their logo is 🤏 to make fun of men and their tiny dicks. So now if anyone makes that sign, they get attacked. Like this female comedian called Jaejae who is very androgynous and doesn't follow beauty standards, ate a piece if chocolate between her thumb and index finger and as a result there has been literal petitions with over 100k signatures to remove he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 12:37 PM
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Watch it in japanese with english subs. The forkidz dubbing was very very kiddish and changed a lot of things (like saying that the lesbian couple were cousins just to erase the gayness of it for example)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 09:35 PM
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You may not be putting effort into grooming but you arr still grooming yourself more than a man does. Do you have a simple skin care routine? Aka do you wash your face everyday and apply lotion? If yes, you probably do more than most men. But not only that, as a woman, society put a lot of expectations on you and you put yourself at risk every single time you go out with a man. A man's worst fear during a new date is getting rejected, a woman's worst fear is getting killed or raped. Our lives ar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 11:48 PM
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Prostate orgasms are definitely real. That's why anal sex only works for men and not women. Women have no organs there that could give them pleasure, men do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 05:50 PM
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Yes it happens unfortunately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 06:18 PM
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Henry has been pretty iffy at times. I've watched him on I live alone which is a variety show and lost a lot of respect I have for him. He's still fine af though and quite talented.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 05:18 PM
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Yeah absolutely. When I first started it, I didn't know about the age gap and was confident that they won't get together since she was under-age at the start. I actually had to pause it for a while because I was so grossed out but really really wanted to know how it ended, specially for the other characters that honestly were much much more entertaining anyway. Like why couldn't they have made her at least in her twenties? It would have still been quite weird but at least she would be an adult. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 10:44 PM
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Ugh I was so disappointed in Lee Dong-Wook when I heard he dated Suzy. I loved him in Goblin (though the main relationship is extra extra problematic and gross.). Never really liked Lee Minho though, and I was proven correct in the end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 10:33 PM
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God way too many. Big bang's Seungri, Ft Island Choi Jonghun, Jung Joon Young, Zico, Park Shi Hoo, JYJ's Yoochun, Kim Hyun Joong... Just to name a few that actually committed crimes against women (prostitution, rape, hidden camera, domestic violence...). Let's not even talk about the ones who date extremely young women like Heechul or Moon Hee Jun or are known for being mysoginisitic and harassing their young co-workers like Leeteuk. I've been into Kpop for years but I stopped following the acti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 09:45 PM
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He didn't go by choice though. He's south Korean so men are forced to do two years of military service. He's already out and back to being a singer-actor. He was already quite good looking and buff, but he got extra buff after service.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 06:28 PM
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I understand the sentiment but this is just a little light hearted thing. We rarely get to find places where we can share what we find physically attractive without men getting in the way. This is a dating sub so discussing what we find physically attractive and the people we do find attractive is important. It's good to read more. But it shouldn't be the only thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 06:25 PM
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I understand disliking men but let's not equate sexual orientation with misogyny. I've personally seen gay men be much much more respectful of women than heterosexual men. Red pillers hate women but also would rather stay stinky than clean their assholes because it's gay. They equate gayness with femininity and hate both with a passion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 02:54 PM
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You're absolutely right. And yes about using a VPN, I've been on the fence for a while but I feel like I should jump on that soon. Which one do you recommend?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 02:54 AM
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Same here. Networking is important in my field of study. I wish I could be 100% anonymous but I need people to know who I am when they stumble upon my profile
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 01:59 AM
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Eh I put my phone face down. And you can't see my notifications anyway unless you turn it on. I don't look at my notifications right away with I'm with someone but I also won't allow him to look at them so I don't mind when they do the same. I like my privacy and if I expect others to share their with me, I should do the same so I don't care. Now if they are always on their phone even when I'm talking to them then that's a red flag but if they are always on the phone and put it down the moment I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 09:54 PM
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Nah I personally like TikTok so it depends on what on their fyp. If it's full of thirst traps then sure that's creepy but if it's just sketches, animals videos and stuff like on my fyp the it's juts normal. It's the same for instagram but you don't see anyone here call having an instagram a red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 09:49 PM
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Yes exactly. It's the norm in my country. We only use Wtp to communicate. I even speak to my thesis supervisor on there and have school group chats and work group chats on it. When someone asks for your phone number in here, they would almost always contact you on wtp. I even order stuff from online retailers on wtp. So it's really not sketchy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 09:47 PM
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Nah wtp is how my country communicates. No one uses normal texting any more here since it's expensive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 09:45 PM
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Yes exactly. Kdramas can sometimes be cheesy but they seriously have more heart than american ones. Also one of my favorite male Kpop groups' songs are routinely written by women for an audience of 80% women. Like no wonder they're successful, they know exactly how to play at my heartstrings because they're women. Honestly once I started to watch and read more women created media, I've been feeling much happier and less bored.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 06:11 AM
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Looool I also got banned from that sub and when I asked for the reason, they said because I'm active in subs that are peddling Fragile male redditor rethorics. When I asked which exact sub it is, I was then told it's FDS. Like lmao, how is FDS an example of fragile MALE redditors. Lol. Last time I checked we're all women here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 11:34 AM
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We still have desires and get horny. We basically discuss what our expectations are as well as our fears. It's not that hard when both parties are honest and open to discourse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 02:55 PM
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This exactly. I'm muslim and that is how a lot of my friends did it. Once they decided that marriage is in their near future, they would discuss sex and their sexual compatibility without some even holding hands. It can work and it does. A lot of the ones that did speak about it before marriage have very successful marriages. Though some muslim scrotes are learning from western ones and would try to get their fiance's to sleep with them before marriage and the dump them citing "sexual compatibil…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 08:43 PM
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All of my older female cousins own their own houses when still single and had their husbands move in (no risk there as we don't have the same rules as the US, unless they had a prenup, the husband won't be taking a cent from the wife after divorce. So it's the opposite of the US). Some members of my family even told them to put their husbands in the deed since it would be emasculating to them. Like come on, if they want their names on the deed, they can pay half the price of the house as it's cu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 09:58 PM
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I totally understand how you feel. I grew up on anime and manga since I was a child and only ever encountered the anime community in my late teens. Before then, the majority of anime I watched were very good and had little to no objectification. When I finally stumbled on the community, I got horrified by some of the titles they would glorify that were just hot garbage. They're almost always of the harem genre which I avoid like a plague. Also ps: neko girls aren't as prevalent in normal non-har…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 02:56 AM
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Now while i never go to a male ob-gyn. I went with my mum to her female one when she was pregnant with my sister who literally seemed to go out of her way to make her patients uncomfortable. I was still a kid then and yet felt really uncomfortable with her. Now as an adult, i talked to multiple female friends who told me the same about this specific doctor and how much she made their suffering worse specially during a ceasarian. My mum is still dealing with some side effect from giving birth to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 01:59 AM
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Ooh yeah i absolutely understand that. But there are some amazing gems if you know how to look. Not all of them objectify women. You just have to avoid the genres that do and those are usually geared toward teenage boys and easy to spot from a mile away. I've had the chance to grow up with some amazing ones like Romeo to Aoi Sora and Detective Conan that had strong female characters that were by no means objectified.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 01:50 AM
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I like anime myself. But I only identified with the usual ones when I was a teen. Once I grew up, the ones who were more attractive to me looked like actual adult women, like the major from Ghost in the shell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 12:05 AM
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We also have dowry in Islam but it's the man who gives it to the woman for her to do whatever she wants with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 08:55 AM
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I kinda have that myself. But it's because of years of trauma and abuse from my mother who used to spy into my phone and messages so I was always terrified of upcoming texts. I'm working on it though in therapy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 10:15 PM
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I study anthropology and gossiping was a big step in our evolution. It helped us share knowledge of good places and harmful people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 02:15 PM
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Morocco. I love my country but the misogyny and hypocrisy makes it hard sometimes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 09:51 PM
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Looool men in my country could fuck a hundred women and still be considered good pious. I could hold hands with a man and be crucified. I seriously don't understand where these men get their logic from.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 09:30 PM
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I only my close female friends and family. And I'm already seeing results. My friend who was a huge pickmesha talking about how she's into BDSM and getting used every time, is now starting to put more effort to level herself up and stopped sleeping with guys (and girls) all together. She only goes out on real dates, never goes out to someone's house and makes me hold her accountable. It's still not the best and she needs to get better (trying to get her to see FDS as a good thing but she still s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 08:36 PM
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I had one literally write M*TOW on his profile. Like wtf. Did he expect people to match with him when he is obviously flaunting the fact that he doesn't want to date women and doesn't respect them?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 11:06 PM
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My mum had 3 c-sections. She couldn't care for herself or baby for weeks. Had a lot of pain. Very visible scars. And was told if she can't have a 4th child because her uterus (she has a inverted one which is the reason for the c-section) would rupture and that she'll need to get an abortion if she finds herself pregnant (which I believe because abortion is illegal in my country unless the mother is in danger or the baby is unviable. So if they gave my mum the exception then that's probably what …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 12:43 PM
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I wear Hijab. Only my face and hands are showing. And yet I get harassed way too much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 02:06 PM
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Same here in Morocco. I also thought it was. I'm surprised and not surprised at the same time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 10:33 PM
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Gotta thank God for my religious country actually having female only gyms. I may dislike a lot of stuff about this country of mine and I'm grateful I never had to be afraid of being filmed at the gym. This is depraved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 09:41 PM
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Nah birds are HV af. I have a couple budgies and a couple zebra finches. The males are Very HV and treat their females like queens. They protect them, feed them and the male zebra finch spends 75% of his day singing and dancing for his lady or collecting soft material to add to their nest. Birds are a good role model for HVMs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 04:11 PM
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I am muslim. And while most men here are huge assholes who use religion as an excuse for abuse (only cherry picking though since Islam is very against misogyny and is overall quite good to women in my eyes. Muslim guys though mostly aren't). Islam preaches purity culture for both men and women but the society only really cares about the women and gives men a bunch of excuses. I've noticed that my HVW friends were treated very very well by their muslim partners. My parents are also very religious…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 10:00 PM
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Yeah I just started using Tiktok and so far I have yet to see any weird stuff. But I'm mostly in queer tiktok and booktok. So maybe those spaces are just good ones
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 01:44 PM
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Absolutely. I was very lost when I first got here and my first post was deleted which I totally understood after the mods told me to look at the handbook. Spent a whole day on it and it was a good time spent. I now am more likely to post stuff that could go here on askFDS than the other way around because I want to follow the rules to the T. FDS literally saved me before I could get hurt and I'm forever grateful for finding it when I just started dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 08:06 PM
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One of the few things I like about my culture is the fact that in a marriage, the man's money is everyone's money but the woman's is hers alone to do whatever she wants with. We may not get the same in inheritance but we get to keep every penny we make. Some men are trying to stop this cultural practice and some pickmeshas are going along not knowing how it's gonna affect them in the future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 08:46 PM
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She was indeed taken advantage off as a kid. From her interview with Philip DeFranco, she spoke about how her first boyfriend (at age 14-15) were much much older than her. She was a scene kid and according to her, it was normalized in their community for older men to take advantage of teen girls and have them do deprived stuff. The problem is, she doesn't even seem to understand herself that what she went though was exploitation and rape. DeFranco kept stopping her many times because what she wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 03:53 AM
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It can be quite discouraging tbh. But I know there are good men around there. As a muslim yourself, how do you find people? Like are there any apps you use that are better than others?
/r/askFDS13/03/21 04:21 PM
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Oooh absolutely. I'm so grateful i found FDS right when I decided to give dating a go for the first time. Made my experience much easier and without much heartache. Found out many of what I've been saying through the years wasn't me being crazy and weird (like not wanting to date before 25, having extremely high standards and prefering to be alone rather than be with a man who would hurt me). I had started to lower my expectations as to not be too "picky" so FDS came at the exact right time. For…
/r/askFDS13/03/21 03:22 AM
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Ooh I don't doubt it.
/r/askFDS13/03/21 01:03 AM
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Exactly. The moment he said he has anger issues and can get violent, whatever positive feelings I had went out the window. I'm a physical assault survivor and I will not ever put myself on such a situation.
/r/askFDS13/03/21 12:48 AM
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Same. Of all the plastic surgeons I saw on the internet, he seems to be the one who thinks plastic surgery is the last thing you should do instead of the first. He's also aware with the dangers of a lot of plastic surgeries and he advocate against them and doesn't do them even if he knows he'll get more money for them. Also his constant praise and gushing over his wife on his community post is so cute.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 12:27 AM
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There is a girl on tik tok who married her female best friend in a totally platonic manner because they trust each other and wanted to raise kids together. They aren't in a romantic relationship at all with each other but they are partners in life in everything else and it's so wholesome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 12:53 AM
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I think that was her dog not his. You can see the dog coming from the right while he comes from the left.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 03:07 AM
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If you still need to use them or like them, I say keep them. Unless they remind you of him and it hurts then sell them or donate them. Don't just trash them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 04:08 PM
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