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Stalkmoney/r/Divorce_Men21/09/22 01:48 AM
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I would recommend that you file DCFS reports before you file for divorce. They will interview the children and make reports based on what they say. It will only strengthen your case. Having DCFS on your side to corroborate the facts will help you out a lot. You really only get one shot at this, mess it up and you and your children will pay consequences forever. It would be better to have too much evidence than not enough. Speaking from experience this will be a long drawn out ordeal. You have to…
/r/Divorce_Men09/11/22 03:37 PM
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Evidence is critical. I came out of an abusive marriage and I have primary custody of my three young daughters. I had texts and DCFS reports. Armed with that I filed a petition for temporary custody and a PFA on behalf of the kids - which were both granted. She got supervised visitation for over a year and still hasn't been able to get every other weekend 18 months later. You won't get full custody - don't even try unless she's willing to sign off her kids. Ask for a Guardian Ad Litem, joint cus…
/r/Divorce_Men09/11/22 03:15 AM
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If you're worried that your X can't take care of your child, you definitely need to play your cards right. If you mess this up, your ex will get primary custody of your child and you will get weekends with child support. Your biggest weapon is going to be evidence. That being said, there's a lot of ways you can play this. Personally, I'd take my time talk to a few lawyers make a list of objectives and discreetly formulate a plan. However this goes, you and your child have to live with the result…
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/22 02:37 AM
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Consider reminding her (often) how much this will cost her to fight. A trial setting with kids and complications would be around an additional 10k for each of you. This motivated my ex to put her sword down. I basically told her I'd keep us in court in perpetuity if she fought a lost cause at my expense. My brother got primary of his 2 boys in Missouri and I got primary of my 3 girls in Kansas. Times are changing (slowly).
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/22 01:57 AM
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I appreciate your perspective and I agree with your sentiment in many cases. In other cases the less time with a toxic parent the better (mom or dad).
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/22 01:50 AM
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Some people get absolutely traumatized by their ex's. Quit judging. Shame on you.
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/22 01:34 AM
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There is a lot of information in this thread! Things I'd like to add - child support and alimony can sometimes be negotiated in a settlement agreement. Of course all the other assets as well. Judges in my area (Kansas) will sign off on many types of agreements, but in a trail setting they pretty much play by the book. There are a lot of ways to handle this scenario but what will actually work depends a lot on what you have to negotiate with. I would think there is more than just equity in the ho…
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/22 10:54 PM
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I completely understand your feelings about the situation, I also think it would be appropriate to allow your daughter to spend time with her mother alone on her birthday. The boyfriend is a non-factor really, there may be more boyfriends or no boyfriends. Letting your daughter share breakfast with her mom on her birthday would have been the right thing to do. Stop thinking about it in terms of whether or not you're there or the boyfriend is there. Take yourself and others out of the equation an…
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/22 10:39 PM
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If you want any chance at a good relationship with your kids long-term you need to move to australia, there's no other option. Work with the courts and you will get Fair visitation with your kids eventually
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/22 10:28 PM
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It's better to spend too much time planning this then rush it and get yourself in a nasty position. So, take your time talk to lawyers ask questions come up with a plan and implement it. Even with a good plan divorce is hard enough, but it can be a lot harder if you mess it up.
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/22 10:15 PM
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It really sounds like a complicated situation and I'm very concerned that there's no enforceable custody agreement on file in your state. I'd be asking a lawyer about filing a petition for emergency temporary custody. You've had these kids on your own for 2 years it's great she wants visitation, however the kids status quo shouldn't be in jeopardy. The kids need the legal protection of a custody order for their stability as much as you need it to protect your rights as the acting primary custodi…
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/22 02:41 PM
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I need a bit more information to give more specific guidance if you're interested. Did you have primary physical custody when your ex was out of town? You say you didn't update the parenting plan. What exactly is the visitation plan on file? That is a very important question. I totally disagree with the other poster. I talked over ROFR with my lawyer to get a better understanding of the intent. Your case is exactly what ROFR is intended to cover. My parenting plan specifically outlines that ROFR…
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/22 12:41 PM
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Contempt and the respondent paying all associated legal fees is the way to encourage compliance.
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/22 11:57 AM
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One thing to add all the good advice here - schedule a consultation with all the best lawyers in the area and she won't be able to use them as it's a conflict of interest.
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/22 12:26 AM
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Yes, my lawyer is great. I feel really lucky to have got him. My lawyer is a small town lawyer and probably depends on his reputation. That being said, a lawyer can only do so much for any case. If clients insist on waging war, lawyers will have to bill a lot of hours to fight the battle. I had a lot of evidence and spent a lot of time handing my lawyer my case on a silver platter. I sorted through everything and did everything I could to make his job easy. The result? I got custody, house, vehi…
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/22 05:59 AM
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No, civil matters are not the same as criminal. Child support being the exception in respect to arrears, but actual jail time for that is rare in most cases. The peace corps, doctors without borders, Ukraine volunteers corps. r/iwantout would likely have some excellent advice.
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/22 04:52 AM
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Can you even imagine being so entitled? I put up with similar crap from my ex but I'll never do it again.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/22 01:32 PM
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Emancipation might be an option. Think about it. Child support ends with emancipation and your child can receive the money directly.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/22 10:38 AM
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It's common.
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/22 12:17 AM
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You mentioned being a slave to your narcissist wife. I was the same way. You should listen to this song in the lyrics even if it's not your particular style I think it will resonate with you. It sure did me. https://youtu.be/bmIeTtU1h3M
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/22 10:28 PM
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To my knowledge that is the case in most states. I've heard of a partition lawsuit, but never talked to anyone that went through one. Ymmv
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/22 03:53 AM
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It may be in your best interest to get your daughter into therapy. A therapist's recommendation included in the petition would be worth every penny. Take your time, play the long game, do your research and plan every move. Don't rush this, give it a few months at least. If a judge rules against you it could severely diminish your chances of getting 50/50 in the future. Also, be discreet. You can tell your ex therapy is to help your daughter process the divorce and the changes in her life (which …
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/22 01:08 AM
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She cannot force him to sell if he can afford to refinance and buy her out
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/22 12:07 AM
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Your plans seem ok to me. You're playing the long game here, smart. A few thousand dollars will mean nothing long term.
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/22 12:06 AM
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To answer your question no, the judge won't care. I would suggest you do anything you reasonably can to save your marriage. While you are trying to save your marriage it may be in your best interest to put yourself in the best of all possible positions if divorce inevitably happens. In other words, hope for the best, but plan for the worst.
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/22 11:44 PM
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I sincerely doubt it. Obviously your lawyer will make a difference, but the most important thing here is the evidence that you have and the steps you take before divorce. You're going to need a lot of evidence, documentation planning and preparation in order to get full custody. Basically all the stars will have to align in your favor. I suggest you not even try for full custody, go for joint but you want primary. Mom can have every other weekend if she has issues, if she has major issues she ca…
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/22 11:45 AM
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Sounds like she deserves better. Do her the favor.
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/22 07:33 PM
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If I were in your situation I would Kick the Can a bit. Get her out of the house into her own apartment under the guise of separation. Try to keep the kids with you as much as possible and establish more than 50/50 custody. Depending on your exact situation and your state she may not even have claim to the house since it's in your name only. You could come out of this with her paying you child support the kids and the house. It all depends on how you play your cards and what you have to work wit…
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/22 02:41 PM
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Start family therapy with him. You and the therapist can help him work through this. Your son might benefit from therapy for quite a while if his mom has created issues with him.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/22 03:15 AM
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Easy to prepare meals, or even preprepped/frozen delivery services, clothes planning and prep for the week, maid, lawn care services. You can trim a lot of time and stress down with changes that suit your lifestyle.
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/22 02:01 AM
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I like that one. My ex introduced whoever she's currently dating at the first opportunity, during one of her first unsupervised 4 hr visits. Classy stuff.
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/22 12:12 AM
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I wonder if I stipulate that if a party violates the agreement the violator should be responsible for the legal fees of both parties should court be deemed necessary?
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/22 11:56 PM
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Consult with a few lawyers in secret. Because her income will go up it may be beneficial if she moves out before filing and you help to that end in every regard. You also may be able to leverage the care of your son in this situation if she wants to come after your pension, private care for your son split between two people would probably still be ridiculously expensive. My soon-to-be ex is a malignant narcissist. Good luck!
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/22 11:50 PM
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You seem to be handling the divorce really well and treating your ex great. I think that's awesome. Your current struggle will subside with time and exposure. You were blindsided and all your feelings are perfectly normal. It'll sting a little bit less each time, until someday it does not bother you at all. It could take a while, but you'll get there. Keep taking the high road and it'll lead you to good places.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/22 11:15 PM
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This is something I've considered but I'm not sure how to cover it yet.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/22 04:42 PM
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I hopefully have this covered with a stipulation that visitation can be enforced by law enforcement. Even though the kids are with me I don't want to leave room for shenanigans when they go to mom's for visitation. I'm surprised this isn't a fairly standard part of custody/visitation agreements. Then again, that's why I'm asking everyone for suggestions. It'd be better to cover as much as I can from the start.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/22 03:34 PM
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There are definitely high conflict people and my ex is one of them. It's not uncommon for her to have conflicts with new neighbors every time she moves, I'm talking cops involved. I'm literally looking to go out of my way to avoid conflict situations and protect myself from conflict, drama, or any legal problems.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/22 12:42 PM
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She's not allowed on my property. My situation is fairly unique and complicated. She had supervised visitation for over a year. She's made a litany of false allegations and has no credibility left in family court. I have to protect myself.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/22 12:33 PM
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My ex is high conflict. I'm just wanting to avoid potential drama, especially w/ kids present. I want nothing to do with her and idc who she dates or whatever. I divorced her and I would rather commit seppuku than be with her.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/22 11:59 AM
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Hopefully my lawyer will do his magic and clear up as much ambiguity as possible. My ex is high conflict but she's more likely to behave if she thinks it'll cost her money.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/22 09:58 AM
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It never hurts to try. I can afford to go to trial, she cannot. I would be subject to the same stipulations.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/22 03:43 AM
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Document everything, as always. If they are violating the court orders or not being reasonable they could be responsible for your legal fees. Consult an attorney.
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/22 02:24 PM
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Negotiate from last year's numbers. Assume this year's will be the same or similar until proven otherwise.
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/22 12:33 AM
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He's only here for validation. Nothing more.
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/22 12:14 AM
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Unless I missed something I see no accountability for anything in his posts, on this subreddit or /divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/22 12:12 AM
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Good advice.
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/22 12:10 AM
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