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| 1 | How do you find the courageA lot of what you said reads like grief, not selfishness. grief for the marriage you kept trying to save and the version of yourself you thought you were supposed to be. all these feelings after all doesn’t mean you failed. think of it this way: you finally ran out of ways to pretend. you were man enough to express what you’re truly feeling and being true to yourself counts to something, right? | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/01/26 05:49 AM |
| 1 | She Hates MeWhat you said is someone who’s exhausted from holding the line, not someone who’s heartless. I can definitely relate to this. Staying contained when you know any emotion will be used against you takes a real toll. Carrying guilt for doing what you believe protects the kids is heavy, especially when it means being misunderstood on purpose. A lot of us don’t admit how much that part hurts. Huge props to you brother. Sending lots of love. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/01/26 05:42 AM |
| 1 | How do you handle high conflict communication?What you wrote about asymmetry really hits. That feeling of trying to stay calm and reasonable while the other side escalates and knowing your restraint can get read as weakness that’s one of the most exhausting parts. For me, the biggest shift wasn’t figuring out the “right” thing to say, it was realizing I couldn’t manage the interaction itself only how clean and boring my side stayed over time. Written-only, fewer words, and letting patterns reveal themselves instead of trying to correct them… | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/01/26 05:08 AM |
| 3 | How do you ban the thought of Su1cide as an easy way out of the nightmare?I’m really glad you said this out loud. A lot of us have intrusive thoughts like that during extreme stress not because we want to die, but because our minds are desperate for the pain to stop. The fact that you’re fighting the thought instead of following it matters more than you probably realize. When it shows up, it can help to treat it like a noise rather than a decision that something you have to act on. You don’t have to carry this alone. If it ever feels like you might act on it, please r… | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/01/26 05:04 AM |
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