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| 1 | Why do you judge men who pay for sex way more harshly than women who have casual hookups, one night stands & FWB?What do you get for dismissing my opinion that is actually based on reality and yours seem to be by fear? And why do you go to nightclubs? There are lots of ways to meet new people. Plus that is definitely not the real world. I am a chubby dude, 5,9 im definitely not a well dresser and still had hookups. I know dudes smaller than me who hooked up more than me. Its way more about not being destroyed by rejection than anything else. Sorry your "reality" needs to change. Focus on getting more socia… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/25 02:06 AM |
| 1 | Why do you judge men who pay for sex way more harshly than women who have casual hookups, one night stands & FWB?The benchmarks for men arent immensely higher. Is being clean, having clothes that smell nice, treat the women as a person(not a validation tool or "this only counts if we have sex") and working to be on a good place mentally. Thats really nothing special. I saw plenty of regular dudes hooking up, including some who werent conventionally good looking. And i dont judge a men paying for sex even if the reality isnt that. it just helps that you are in a social setting and not being on dating apps t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/25 01:32 AM |
| 1 | Why do you judge men who pay for sex way more harshly than women who have casual hookups, one night stands & FWB?Because they liked the guy they talked with and had some chemistry. Because she is horny and wants to try and have sex and thinks the guy is safe enough, sometimes also to feel good about herself, but she will never get the high fives or climb or any social hierarchy because of it. i mean women and men have casual sex for a lot of different reasons cause we are all people. Men can alwo have sex for all of those reasons too. But for some can be also about their validation as men, something that w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/25 01:12 AM |
| 24 | Women are allowed to accept they're not attractive.Nope a high count doesnt mean she doesnt have many men interested and there is plenty of interest in older women. I mean how many views have porn searches like "cougar" or "milf? That is your view and you cant assign all men to your view. Your problem is not she having lots of sex is you not getting sex from her. Why? Because you dont seem to see women as people but women as instruments for you to feel better about yourself. You seem to believe you can only be a "real men" through sex and that i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/25 07:00 PM |
| 1 | Why do you judge men who pay for sex way more harshly than women who have casual hookups, one night stands & FWB?Men, mostly insecure ones. Plus we generally have less friends and lesser ways of socialization which means more bantering and less ways to express ourselves emotionally. We can get mocked by our own friends for lack of sex, and that fear of being shamed often retracts us to talk. Women fortunately took this step in some countries, for us it will take way longer because being able to attract women is seen as the pinnacle of manhood, and making men insecure about themselves earns votes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/25 05:38 PM |
| 2 | Why do you judge men who pay for sex way more harshly than women who have casual hookups, one night stands & FWB?The thing is no one is shamed for not riding an helicopter. Its sad, but sex for a lot of men means validation. Means someone thought they were attractive enough to have sex with. Means they are proper men. Its like a stamp of approval that says "yes now you are a real men". Women dont have this issue since patriarchy sees you already as the "weakest sex". And the longer it takes, when you see your friends being "stamped" and you arent that puts a lot of dudes down. Women unfortunately are seen … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/25 03:02 PM |
| 1 | Women and sex are not your reward for working and contributing to societySince you wont die for lack of it you cant say is a need like food. The issue is that you dont need a girlfriend just for intimacy. You can and should be vulnerable and intimate with your friends. Thats why they should exist. However since we are men we have been educated that being intimate and vulnerable with friends is gay so we cannot do it. But thats just a stupid societal convention that we need to fight. If we saw out friends as people we can be intimate with, with whom we can share our d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/10/25 11:13 AM |
| 2 | Women and sex are not your reward for working and contributing to societyLol, a need is something that if you dont do you die. Food is a need. Water is a need. You dont die for lack of sex. Therefore isnt a need. If you become hostile and negative due to lack of sex, that is on you, its not a general consequence. Not everyone feels hostile and negative due to lacking sex and neither should you. If you do, thats probably way more a validation issue than lack of sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/25 10:54 AM |
| 1 | Women and sex are not your reward for working and contributing to societyPhysical intimacy isnt like water or food. You dont die from the lack of it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/25 11:19 AM |
| 1 | Women and sex are not your reward for working and contributing to societyYou are not being forced to anything. You can literally leave your house right now and ask women out, or just make small talk. And convicts should have rights because they are still human beings. People like other people due to how they make others feel. So probably those "convicts" in your head make a woman feel really good around them and had the courage to ask those women out. Thats what you should try and achieve. No one gets a girlfriend cause they work hard. And no one gets a boyfriend for… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/25 04:41 PM |
| 88 | Women and sex are not your reward for working and contributing to societyYou are missing the main issue: for a lot of men sex means being valid as a human being. Its about validation, not pleasure. Most of these dudes care zero about their own pleasure. They want to feel desired by a woman in order to feel like a real man. Those folks get angry cause they feel women dont think they are manly enough and they feel inferior to other men because of that. sex for these folks isnt a croissant: its a stamp of approval in their foreheads saying "you are finally a complete pe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/25 04:36 PM |
| 1 | How true is it that women like bad boys who are only good to them and men like good women who are only bad/slutty to them?The issue about "bad boys" is that they are confident and way less scared of rejection because of that. So they take their shot, she says "no", he says "your loss" and try for the next girl he finds cute. me? At the first "no" i would be like almost crying and would give up for weeks or months until having guts to ask someone else again. I believe this is the main issue. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/25 04:24 AM |
| 5 | Plenty of men are shallow unattractive assholes who never wanted to be good men.The thing is: even if you are the best person in the world you might not "get a woman". Thats their main complain. There is no right formula to get that sweet validation juice women have. Is not about sex or pleasure is about the validation of being desired. Being desired by a woman is the main validation a lot of men pursue. which means that if a person tries to make an effort to be a better person and continues to be rejected, sometimes that person will burst. Why? Because he did tried to be d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/25 09:36 PM |
| 0 | Why are men here surprised that women give attention to men they like?Jesus, you live in a completely parallel universe. Its really scary how chronically online you seem to be. Who the hell goes to parties hosted by yachts? Just some random instagram models you likely will never meet. Get out of the internet please, its seriously hurting you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/25 05:23 PM |
| 1 | Men arent fighting a war we are just fighting back against MisandryYou have the privileged of never been harrassed by another dude. By likely never been raped. Probably your salary is better than most women in your situation. How cannnot you see that? dude you are being oppressed by other men. As soon you see that the better. With all that hate how can any women have any interest in you? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/25 09:04 PM |
| 1 | How has the success of the Netflix series "Adolescence" helped men?A lot of incels have economic and social power. Being a white dude with a decent job for example. Plus this is not being hurt, is being scared. Incels are scary not because they might hurt women but also cause some of them might kill them. I find incels scary and im a dude. Is not only treating entitlement but mostly treating the hate. Making them know that women are humans like them and not trophies to put our validation on. because incels want mostly is validation. They just believe that valid… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/25 05:52 PM |
| 1 | How has the success of the Netflix series "Adolescence" helped men?Maybe if they stopped hating women, woman could stop being scared of them. Which is the main issue: the main problem isnt virginity is that incels generally hate women for not giving them the sex they believe are entitled to. So if you stop thinking you must have sex to be a real human being and mostly stop hating women that would be a great advance. New generations should be obliged to have one day per week without touching their cellphones. I think it would be very helpful. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/25 05:39 PM |
| 1 | How has the success of the Netflix series "Adolescence" helped men?What? Dude you are completely fantasizing. If incels want to kill themselves they can do it right now. No need for "casual euthanasia" or another ridiculous concept. You can all get together somewhere and drink some arsenic. Done. What incels need to do is stop hating women. Thats it. I also have no idea why you mentioned the government but you seem a but paranoic and need to see a doctor. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/25 02:08 PM |
| 1 | There Is No "Friendzone", You Can Stop Pretending to be Friends At Any Time1- for men generally sex with women provides more validation. You get fistbumps from your bros if you had sex. If you are a friend, no. 2 - most of the "friendzone" dudes are not exactly friends. They want that person as a girlfriend, but they are too afraid to be honest with her or themselves and dont want to be rejected, or 2 already know they will be rejected. So they decide to be friends and "maybe she will understand she will like me after all. its the dumb idea of "if i spend more time wit… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/25 11:10 PM |
| 1 | Women want to be sexy, but hate the men who sexualize themProstitutes, porn stars and only fans women are celebrated? Where?? They are slut shamed everyday. On what world do we live where prostitutes are celebrated? How many sex workers are violated and beaten up? How many of them dont go to the police cause "theyre whores"? How many dudes shame another one if his girlfriend is a onlyfans model? This is a complete joke. and women dress like that for themselves. To be happy with their body, to improve their self esteem by feeling sexy. Its not about us.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/25 10:53 PM |
| 1 | Males should be told to dress betterLol the bar must be really but really low in the US. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/25 10:41 PM |
| 1 | Males should be told to dress betterNope. Clothing shops are the biggest nightmare. Everytime i go to one i use a chronometer. If in 20 minutes im not with a foot out the door, i buy nothing. Lights are awful, the smell is awful, the music is horrible, there are tons of people, lines for trying clothes... in between going to a clothing shop or a doctor i dont know which one i prefer. and plus yes i dont think 1- i have a body that allows me that and 2 - how do i know if that girl liked me as a person or was just clothing illusion?… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/25 03:52 PM |
| – | Men arent rewarding bad men, women areDoesnt make any sense. Most guys in the world already did something abusive to a girl. Most guys already made a girl unsafe for his presence. Unfortunately i know i did and for sure plenty of my friends too. We just dont notice as much cause we see ourselves as "the good guys". The thing is no one is. Patriarchy oblige us to see women as validation trophies, and without them we cant be a "real man". Thats imposed by other dudes, not women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/25 04:13 PM |
| 1 | A lot of men who complain about attractive men being assholes and still getting laid are themselves bad men who wish they didn’t have to act like a good person in order to get laid.They are unattractive because they are mysoginistic assholes. If they were really hot, no one would touch them anyway cause women would be afraid of them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/25 04:09 PM |
| 0 | A lot of men who complain about attractive men being assholes and still getting laid are themselves bad men who wish they didn’t have to act like a good person in order to get laid.They are unattractive because they are mysoginistic assholes. If they were really hot, no one would touch them anyway cause women would be afraid of them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/25 04:09 PM |
| 1 | Sex is a need, and men are losing today because they are not needed, which is a result of the Industrial Revolution.There are plenty of people who did zero work and were able to hook up with girls. I know the reply will be "oh but working on yourself is a holistic process and all of that ", but for tons of folks just means they arent good enough. I think this is the core of what a lot of people complain. They dont want to be inferior to these folks, therefore they dont want to work at 30 what these folks learned at 16. Working on myself should be a 100% natural thing, not something conscious. If it can mean t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/25 12:32 PM |
| – | Sex is a need, and men are losing today because they are not needed, which is a result of the Industrial Revolution.Validation is a need not sex. You feel you can only get that validation through sex, like the patriarchy teaches. You feel you can only be a real man if you have sex. But you are already a dude. That is the issue: sex wont fix your insecurity and the validation feeling lasts 5 minutes. Your issue is psychological you want sex in order to reaffirm you are a decent human being. That is sad but unfortunately i know too well how that boat is. You need to understand that is validation what you want n… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/25 02:13 PM |
| – | Sex is a need, and men are losing today because they are not needed, which is a result of the Industrial Revolution.Sex is not a need. Validation is. And a lot of men are sex validation seekers cause the patriarchy tells us without sex we arent real men. so what really confuses is why women dont see sex like this. The answer is obvious "cause other men call whores to women who have multiple sex partners" , sexual transmitted diseases and pregnancy risk. But we would love to be in a world where a date would be like " yeah im not into you, but a one night stand would be fine". Again sex for men is validation, m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/25 02:09 PM |
| – | Sex is a need, and men are losing today because they are not needed, which is a result of the Industrial Revolution."Work on yourself" can be seen as an insult. Like "other dudes didnt need to do that in order to get girls, so if i do it im inferior to them". Like a lot of dudes would be like "did she like me or like my presentarion?" "Does she really like me or likes the work i did on myself?". For me it would always be a cloud of distrust. Does the person really likes me or likes the effort i put into being this person right now? These are the reasons why i can understand "making an effort" can sound as an … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/25 02:02 PM |
| 2 | Women are Hypocritical in Every Dating AspectWhy do you want to be with a woman who "customizes" you? Do you think most families take those stupid influencer photos where everyone dresses the same? Really? You are online too much. I know zero people who do that and not in a million years i would have a girlfriend who loved stuff like that. So yes its definitely confirmation bias: you want to believe that so hard that you look for "proof" to confirm your thoughts. But it isnt real. As i said besides influencers i dont care about i know zero… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/25 09:52 PM |
| 1 | Women are Hypocritical in Every Dating AspectCrazy confirmation bias? Who press men to have sex? Other men. Who presses men to have things like fancy cars? Other men. Who presses men to have those huge buff bodies that actually most women i know dont enjoy much? Other men. Who pressures men into "proving themselves" into doing stupid things for acceptance? Other men. you are being pushed by the patriarcal culture we are all in. The pressure to "score" the idea of women as validation to be a "real man" all that crap comes from other men. Ye… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/25 09:49 PM |
| 6 | Women are Hypocritical in Every Dating AspectSorry this post is ridoculous. A bunch of false conclusions due to confirmation bias and a lot of internet manipulation. Women arent the issue, other men are. Most of the things you are complaining are other men who do them. Also generalizing about women in such a huge level just claims extremely lack of maturity. Women and men are people, we arent a different class from each other. As soon you understand that the better for you. Generalizing a whole gender is completely ridiculous. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/25 02:22 PM |
| 1 | Liberal/leftist women are the biggest hypocritesWhat? How do you know ALL left wing women only want 10% of men? First you have some homossexuals so they probably want women too. Second...where the hell you took that conclusion? Do you know all left wing women in the world? And being left wing and liberal are different things. Do you know the difference? And do you feel is fair that rich people dont pay enough taxes while you have to and you can be without a job from one day to another? Dont you know that "eat the rich" also benefits you? I ho… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/25 02:47 PM |
| 3 | Women have different rules for guys they're actually attracted to.I dont think women want any of that. They want to have fun and be comfortable. Like we want. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/25 02:36 PM |
| 3 | Women's attraction to men is almost 100% influenced by peer pressure/societial conditioning and less so by the individual person, as opposed to men, whose attraction to types of women is fairly fixed and dependent on the individual.What?? Cmon dude how many men hook up with a girl not because they like her but because friends think she is hot so the guy do that anyway?? Are you joking? Peer pressure is a men thing. We are the pnes pressuring our friends to hook up with a girl, we are the ones who mock our friends when they are with someone not conventionally attractive. I mean if your sentence switched men with women i would agree. But men? The species who is capable not do date or bang a girl he wants because friends migh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/25 01:30 PM |
| 1 | If the roles were reversed and women were held to the same dating standards as men they would be just as hateful and bitterThe only ignorant here is you dude. You want to diminish people into settings of "data" that you inserted in your mind. Because your line of thought doesnt make any sense. People are people and have different preferences. Plus as men we are way more privileged than women as we all know. So the idea that "women have much better" is just because we are suckers for their validation and fortunately they dont care about ours. Women can have their own jobs and careers, so they dont need us fortunately… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/25 01:25 PM |
| 1 | If the roles were reversed and women were held to the same dating standards as men they would be just as hateful and bitterLol because your "study" is full of credible statistical analysis LOL. Confirmation bias all the way dude. Women and men are people and have differences. Putting a class of "men" and one made of "women" is purely rididculius. People have different preferences depending on each person, and depending on the social and cultural context. I mean historically speaking even the perception of women beauty changed. The women that are conventionally attractive now in western societies were not the norm in… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/06/25 08:31 PM |
| 1 | If the roles were reversed and women were held to the same dating standards as men they would be just as hateful and bitterLOL what a hell did you say dude?? "Standard normal distribution???" What the hell does that mean and what kind of youtube and tiktok videos are you seeing? Atractiveness depends on each person individually. I find things attractive that you dont and vice versa. The same applies to women who are human beings like us and not a hive mind. Plus you dont know everyone in the world so you cant draw any conclusions besides the internet propaganda you are clearly swallowing. Actually i think us men are… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/06/25 04:01 PM |
| 1 | If the roles were reversed and women were held to the same dating standards as men they would be just as hateful and bitterOh yeah because you definitely want to have sex with people you have 0 attraction with lol. The issue is not that: the issue is that we see sex to validate us as human beings. We see sex as an achievement as a stamp of approval. Without it we dont think we are real men. Women are free from this oppression: they are not more or less women for having more or less sex. None of them feels more confident if they have folks after them. If you feel your self esteem will improve by having people you con… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/06/25 03:34 PM |
| 2 | If the roles were reversed and women were held to the same dating standards as men they would be just as hateful and bitterI am suggesting men wouldnt want most of the options women have. And yes plenty of women have less options than a bunch of dudes. If you leave the internet and start to see around you, you will meet many women who dont have many options also. Plus, do you really want women you find unattractive to be constantly messaging you,harassing or catcalling? Yeah likely no. You just think that would bring a lot of validation to your male ego but it wont. in a way that is the problem. Plenty of men only w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/06/25 12:30 AM |
| 2 | If the roles were reversed and women were held to the same dating standards as men they would be just as hateful and bitterDude the only person who is completely wrong is you. First tons of women have really low options on sex. You just dont see them, they dont count in your eyes. Second you can say no to any interaction you have. If a girl wants to have sex with you, you have the same power to say no that she has. What is so hard to understand on this? We are choosers as much as they are. Its not that women have an extensive buffet of choice and we starve. Most women dont have a buffet and the ones who kinda have d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/25 08:06 PM |
| 3 | If the men on here somehow managed to convince all women to lower their standards, (negotiation of attraction) you can’t convince them to genuinely be happy in those relationshipsMen think women should lower their standards because they want to be valid. Your post starts from the wrong premise: most dudes who are frustrated here and incels and such, they dont want happiness. They want validation and think that validation leads into happiness. If the relationship isnt good who cares? Outsiders wont know, your family and friends dont have to know. You can always keep up the appearances. As long as other people think you are a real man by having that relationship, who cares… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/25 05:57 PM |
| 1 | A man who can effortlessly get sex is exalted. A man who desires to have sex but is unsuccessful is seen as disgusting.Yes. And the second issue is that we think women are also waiting for our validation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/25 05:50 PM |
| 7 | A man who can effortlessly get sex is exalted. A man who desires to have sex but is unsuccessful is seen as disgusting.I understand that. i would say is hard to find friends who dont do this. I banter and sometimes make fun of my friends, but they can make fun of me too. Perhaps not impossible, but mostly in smaller communities is not that easy. Plus a lot of people dont know how to make friends so you have that too. When i was a kid finding new friends was hard since there was only one middle school and one high school. And then you also have the shame that is associated with this stuff and makes most people in… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/25 09:46 PM |
| 9 | A man who can effortlessly get sex is exalted. A man who desires to have sex but is unsuccessful is seen as disgusting.The issue is the pressure we have to lose it. And in time when you see your friends having sex you dont understand why it hasnt happened for you yet. And then comversations start, you have no idea what to say ans you know that if your open your mouth and say the wrong thing, people mock you. And its not only the sex is the learning curve. If you reach your thirties without knowing what a relationship is, its harder to meet people. Because adults assume each other are experienced and that comes w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/25 06:34 PM |
| 2 | A man who can effortlessly get sex is exalted. A man who desires to have sex but is unsuccessful is seen as disgusting.I think this is exactly where things differ. A lot of men would see that as a compliment to women. Like nothing is more worth it than a woman, that even make dudes making sacrifices for something they would never do. I am honest: if in high school i would be promised a hot girlfriend in change of good grades i would accept in the heartbeat. I mean its not only the girlfriend: its the social respect you get, is the people who bully you to be shut up because now we are "above them". The main issue… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/25 04:29 PM |
| – | Men dont understand Sexual Attractiveness and Attractiveness is differentWhy women would feel status for getting married?? We are not in the 50's anymore, they fortunately dont need it. We are the ones who depend on women to feel good about ourselves. Sure some women still do that to feel better about themselves but who the hell wants to marry with a person concerned with status? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/25 03:53 PM |
| 1 | Men dont understand Sexual Attractiveness and Attractiveness is differentNo one "gatekeeps" anything, you are going through the "validation mindset". The issue is you are thinking men feel validated by women so women also feel validated by men. Nope. Women wont be more proud or value themselves more in general because they have a boyfriend. So we are not gatekeeping anything since women dont date us to feel any status. However since most of us i would say do seek validation from women and only think we can be "real men" if we have sex preferably with multiple ones, w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/25 12:07 PM |
| – | In the next 10 years we'll see women dominate every single prestigious career field (even IT) and this will end marriage for goodAnyway i know im on the wrong here. The issue is that we need external validation to be "real men". And having good grades isnt part of the manual. In most places people wont bully you if tou have bad grades | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/25 11:37 AM |
| – | In the next 10 years we'll see women dominate every single prestigious career field (even IT) and this will end marriage for goodIm gonna be honest: i see very little or none rewards on having good grades or on working hard. So i never wanted to study or to work a lot. I am practically 40 now, and when i was at school what i wanted was not to be the most bullied kid in my class, to have respect from my colleagues and to have some girl i found cute to be minimally attracted to me. Since grades do not give you any of these, and could even worse your situation( you can be mocked if you have really good grades too anyway) why… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/25 11:32 AM |
| 1 | I've tried helping a few younger guys get dates, something is wrong here.It is true. All the "being a man" thing is desperation for women validation. Thats it. The PUA dudes and all the seduction experts who sell snake oil, base everything on "you can only be a man with sex". Lot of men crave way more that validation that a connection or even their own pleasure. And i guess we just mad women dont need that validation from us anymore. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/25 11:05 AM |
| 1 | I've tried helping a few younger guys get dates, something is wrong here.You can always contact with your fellow men. Sex doesnt cure loneliness, not even a girlfriend. Friends cure that. Connection is made with everyone, not just a girlfriend. And you have more probabilities of having a girlfriend of you have more connections with other people. Having a girlfriend will not cure loneliness, that i can assure you. Having friends, yes. The problem of society today is that we have way less friends and social circles mostly due to technology and late stage capitalism. Th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/25 11:02 AM |
| 1 | Leagues within dating are only for menYou are missing the biggest point: sex and even relationships are strongly linked with validation for men. Having sex and a girlfriend makes us "real men", not having them no. So, leagues are about avoiding rejection from people who we consider above us. Its a self protecting process more than anything else. I consider a lot of people out of my league and that is fine. I dont think is a way to control women or to "put them into their place", is much more "if this girl i consider into my league d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/25 10:42 AM |
| 6 | I've tried helping a few younger guys get dates, something is wrong here.I am almost 40 and barely had dates. Its interesting for people to be concerned about youngsters not getting dates, but 10 or 20 years ago, we were just the sexless losers that other guys would bully. And there was no one to support us. What happened is simple, the world followed what was already happened 20 years ago and no one cared. The truth is: fortunately women dont need us for money, for a house or for a family. And they hang way better single than us. The issue is not women is men not be… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/04/25 12:23 PM |
| 2 | I think a lot of men were lied to as kids about love and that's why they're bitterThe issue starts with family and society in general. I was told i would get a wife and children, like "anyone normal". I was told i would have girlfriends. When became a teen and no one was interested in me, i didnt understand fully. After all i thought people would just mingle, since they set will eventually get together, as my family said. So the issue is: we fail at something society and my family believed it was a normal development for a man. We fail at being men. The issue is: instead of d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/25 05:35 PM |
| -3 | Why Most Men Who "Give Up on Dating" Are Just Reacting, and not Thinking.Men quit because we fear rejection and a lot of us think that rejection makes us less of a man. If a woman expects a man to pay, then i wouldnt want to have a date with her. We can set our standards too, instead of complaining about some generalization. A lot of men dudes complain is just projection honestly. Talk with women in real life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/04/25 10:09 AM |
| 1 | The biggest problem keeping so many people single is simply that there is a lack of a social continuity post-college/high school.Thanks you. Thats is literally why i stayed at college much longer than what i should. Social life a the possibility of hooking up with girls. Work steals pretty much almost all social life at least for me. I know if i left university in the "proper" time i would now be without friends and likely without a girlfriend too. Thankfully Im not american, so no student debt. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/04/25 10:05 AM |
| -2 | Why Most Men Who "Give Up on Dating" Are Just Reacting, and not Thinking.Nah , you are afraid to approach which is fair, i have it too, and you look for arguments online not to do it. First women dont expect you to pay. And if they do you can make a boundary: you tell to split the bill. If she reacts badly, well she is not for you. Simple. No way i would pay for a dinner on my own on a date, mostly the first ones. Second women are humans, so each one is different and you cant generalize like that. Leaving tik tok and social media, go outside and see normal couples wo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/04/25 09:43 AM |
| 1 | "Red pill" men really just want approval from the same women they complain aboutLol, masculinity shouldnt seek approval from the outside. But you are clearly seeking approval towards insulting me. And red pill is precisely that: is a way to become less human and not able to relate with people. If thats feminine so be it! Much better than constantly seeking approval from other men. Thats not very manly by the way. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/25 08:56 PM |
| 2 | "Red pill" men really just want approval from the same women they complain aboutRed pill guys want approval, not sex. They just think the approval comes with sex, so they become desperate for it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/25 04:55 PM |
| 1 | Men are menLol if men were that horny we would die from lack of sex, like we do if we dont eat food, or dont drink. No one dies from that. Men and women have low or big libidos, depending on the person not the gender. What men want is validation and reassurance: the idea that a woman makes you a real man. That is what a lot of us want. Not sex per se but sexual reassurance. We are thirsty for validation from women on order to impress our fellow men. No one dies from lack of sex, but people can die from lon… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/25 11:58 AM |
| 1 | "Red pill" men really just want approval from the same women they complain aboutYou are you name dropping so many awful people? The red pill is a cult and you need to leave. That absurd and fixed mindset doesnt help connecting with anyone. Which is precisely whats you need. Forget cars and money, try to connect with other people. Something those fraudsters and criminals you mentioned didnt say. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/25 10:58 AM |
| 3 | "Red pill" men really just want approval from the same women they complain aboutNah they want the validation that comes with having sex with a woman. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/25 10:54 AM |
| 1 | "Red pill" men really just want approval from the same women they complain aboutYeah and that frustrates so many people. They think if they do "everything right" they wont be rejected and dont even need to approach women because they will come to you. Thats what gym, cars and money represent: a way not to be rejected without making a bit effort. The idea that is i have these things women will flock naturally. Because a lot of us would flock if we see a hot woman, we think the opposite happens too. And not exactly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/25 10:51 AM |
| 1 | "Red pill" men really just want approval from the same women they complain aboutAttractive women give you more "steet cred" than someone who isnt. If you get that really hot girl, you will be the guu that hot girl chose. This is all about validation. The guy might even enjoy more another person, but the hot girl will give himself an approval stamp and more respect from their peers. They go all the way because they dont feel they are real men and think that hot chick will compensate for all the failures. Its not about her, its about what she represents. She represents a way … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/25 10:47 AM |
| 4 | Men are tired with the gamesLol if someone expects me to pay the whole meal, then no thank you and bye. You can set the standards yourself too. This is not you waiting on line to see if a woman has your attention, that is pretty needy behaviour. A date is you going there and asking yourself: "will i like this girl?" And not, "Will she like me?". And then you have fun and dont think about "scoring". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/25 10:33 AM |
| 1 | Why do women specifically seek platonic friendships with men, but men do not seek platonic friendships with women?Is confirmation bias because i can easily show you studies that do not confirm that. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10125944/ Finding studies to prove stuff on the internet is plain easy. Plus, most trans athletes do not win medals. We just talk about the ones who do. Most trans women do not win at sports, i mean laurel hubbard the first transgender at an olympic competition won what? Like her is most of them. People are people wether they are trans, gay, straight men or women. People … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/25 06:35 PM |
| 1 | Why do women specifically seek platonic friendships with men, but men do not seek platonic friendships with women?Or for some reason you prefer to believe in One article that confirms what you already think, igniting your confirmation bias. Plus your article says that men show more interest Im sex than women. But is that interest libido purely? Of course not. We are conditioned to believe that we are only real men if we have sex. Plus society gives permission for men to be more sexual than women for the reasons i have stated already. Thinking that we are a different species or are "biologically wired" diffe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/25 05:33 PM |
| 2 | Why do women specifically seek platonic friendships with men, but men do not seek platonic friendships with women?Lol thats not true. Men arent more sexually active due to "testosterone" is because men are lionized for having multiple women and women are punished and shamed for having multiple partners. Plus its harder for women to orgasm and generally easy for us. Besides that a lot of women are afraid of casual sex because a lot of times the male partner doesnt give a big effort and two, rape and death and all of that. They are afraid of us, and continue to be while we continue to vote on insecure biggots… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/25 04:43 PM |
| 3 | Why do women specifically seek platonic friendships with men, but men do not seek platonic friendships with women?So young so many fixed and wrong ideas. Men and women are the same, just socialized differently What you think is inherent is in fact a societal pressure. Men and women are basically the same cause we are all humans and all different, besides our gender. Men have a list on their mind? Do you know all men? How can you say that so surely? How do you know her friends were interested at her sexually? Did they tell you? If no, why did you made that conclusion if you have zero evidence? But yeah the i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/25 03:48 PM |
| 2 | Why do women specifically seek platonic friendships with men, but men do not seek platonic friendships with women?Men can seek platonic friendships with women but if you dont want anything besides the friendship, someone will likely call you gay, or think that you are one. I think that is a big barrier. Plus we think people are just emotionally honest in relationships, so a lot of people would just think that guy wants to go on her pants. also we are told that we are only winners and real men if we get a pretty girl, so its more validating for our ego to have sex with a pretty woman than being friends with … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/25 03:43 PM |
| 1 | Most men allow themselves to be used by women just to get sex and validation in return.Yes. We do absolutely. We have low self respect in that matter, ar least me and a lot of folks do. I would allow a hot woman to walk all over me if i found her really hot. Not now, cause i have a girlfriend, but when i was single definitely. Having sex with a girl we think is hot, is probably the biggest validation factor for most men. Even if the sex is lousy or there was no chemistry. What matters is that the hot lady wanted to f*ck you. The diasonance happens when we think women also want us … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/24 02:40 PM |
| 1 | Men don't hate women; men hate that women deny their privilege.Men dont hate women: they just dont understand their validation is dependable on them. And only man can change that. Men dont get raped, arent a target of violence, are not killed in their own house... But if they cant conquer a woman they are not real men. Masculinity is not given by birth, according to patriarchy. But feminity is. So when a woman is rejected She doesnt feel as a "lesser" woman, but we tend to feel "lesser men" when we are rejected. Thats why we have the wrong perception girls … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/24 04:11 PM |
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