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| 14 | Things i learnt over the years | Inner Game | Star__boy | /r/seduction | 31/03/22 05:35 PM |
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| 4 | Sacrifice all fun just to get more girls? Last night got me thinking.What isn't discussed is the opportunity cost. You could spend that time achieving things that lead to genuine confidence and will lead to attraction. | /r/seduction | 06/07/25 11:18 PM |
| 0 | Sacrifice all fun just to get more girls? Last night got me thinking.Lol those guys are losers, they come out of the club with nothing debating hypotheticals and are insane to repeat it for years with no results. In 2025 work on yourself and achieve hard things and you will have that real confidence that attracts women, because you won't need their validation or come across as needy. Have a good social media presence and they will come to you. Have pictures of travels, doing stuff you enjoy and with friends to show you're not a loner. You can exchange insta's if … | /r/seduction | 06/07/25 11:17 PM |
| 25 | Can you pull 9s and 10s while you are 6 or 7?Funnily enough I think it's easier than ever if you don't live in Dubai/Miami/LA. Just dress well, have your own place, be highly paid and be on track to be even more successful. Just don't be neurotic and be normal. With 9s and 10s you're just an accessory to complement their life so you should tick these boxes. As long as you are average looking and dress well the other factors should carry you. Do this an you will actually get tired of 9s or 10s and end up dating 5s,6s for your peace of mind | /r/seduction | 20/05/25 06:04 PM |
| 1 | Asked out a woman at the bookstore *Cold Approach*Not ideal to approach women at their workplace where they have to be nice to you and can’t tell you to fk off or give you their number because they’re scared of looking unprofessional. Generally try to avoid that | /r/seduction | 06/12/24 12:58 PM |
| 8 | How to handle girls who “just want to be friends first”Depends. They're still judging your attractiveness/have other guys in the background they're prioritising etc. If you have a healthy rotation then go for it. But don't prioritise her as you're not her bf. If you don't have a healthy rotation of women walk away as you will likely be very desperate and eventually turn her off anyway. In my experience it's always been a red flag as they can get the benefits they want from having a bf and then gaslighting you if/when someone they perceive as better … | /r/seduction | 27/11/24 09:35 AM |
| 1 | How to approach women at the dance floorYou don’t. Find a better location to approach women. They mostly go to the club to have a good time and if you want to facilitate that that’s fine. | /r/seduction | 24/11/24 11:36 AM |
| 1 | How to deal with anxiety any time a girl over 7/10 talks to me?Achieve things/get a skill not many can do and that will be a huge confidence booster. Have a goal in your life that doesn't focus on women special interests/fitness/money/travel. That way when you interact with women in these fields it would be more genuine and from a place of interest and should it fail who cares you interacted with someone in a field you care about. They're human half the time the're at home watching netflix and browsing on instagram. | /r/seduction | 21/11/24 05:26 PM |
| 7 | What’s up with dating apps?After COVID most of the desirable women now get approached IRL and don’t need to bother to date online. They meet people via their hobbies/interests and friendship groups. The ones currently online are the ones that can’t..go figure | /r/seduction | 16/10/24 06:36 PM |
| 2 | So I just messaged the girl on Tinder and she said ...lol no idea why people take tinder/old seriously now. All the desirable women on there are now prioritising IRL interactions after COVID. All that’s left on there are bots and unstable women no one in their friendship circle or activities want. Hence this interaction…in what universe do you think an interaction with a loser by the name crazylam on tinder would be rational. | /r/seduction | 22/09/24 07:03 PM |
| 2 | Women’s interest just die outlol i wouldn't call it interest if you don't end up meeting them. You realise that most people/women don't have anything interesting to do in their spare time other than browse social media and seek validation from people online. All that happened was that she moved on to messaging someone more 'entertaining' online. For success on social media have a decent amount of pictures doing interesting things, a few with friends to show you're social but not many to the point where they can't tell who y… | /r/seduction | 26/04/24 10:08 AM |
| 1 | Did my first true cold approach and oof50 more interactions like this and you'll be good. Only way to improve is to experience situations like this for yourself. Try and be more social to people so it isn't a huge step from not being social then switching on your social switch for a cold approach. Talk to your uber driver, gardener, doorman at your apartment and so on. Remember it's a two way street, you're assessing their value just as they are you. Anyone who flips out or is disrespectful if you're being polite/respectful ,you shou… | /r/seduction | 31/01/24 06:39 PM |
| 1 | What do you currently lean on for success with women?usually just to help the younger guys asking questions. There is no shortcut, just have to achieve really hard things not many people can do in fitness, career or business and you will be successful with women. | /r/seduction | 30/01/24 08:11 AM |
| 14 | What do you currently lean on for success with women?I have so much going on in my life and don't care about the outcomes of my interactions with them as a result. Gym, businesses, hobbies, work and family that leads me not to prioritise them as much. Focus on yourself and achievements first. | /r/seduction | 29/01/24 11:35 AM |
| 12 | "Be authentic" is terrible adviceBro no woman is going to deal with this much trauma this early when she isnt emotionally invested in you. Remember they’re constantly talking to other guys, so guarantee after that another guy who was more fun and easygoing hit her up. Also stuff like this makes women uneasy/uncomfortable which kills attraction. | /r/seduction | 08/10/23 11:34 PM |
| 1 | "Be authentic" is terrible adviceYou don’t share stuff like that until they are emotionally invested in you. There’s such a thing as being too honest until that point. Put yourself in her shoes, if a woman who you werent emotionally invested in trauma dumped this early on you you’d run for the hills. | /r/seduction | 08/10/23 11:31 PM |
| 2 | I have been friendzoned by over 30 women. Here’s what I’ve learned:The good thing is you know the ‘comfortable’ path doesn’t work so what’s the worst that could happen if you choose the uncomfortable path of speaking your mind/calling out bs/not people pleasing and having boundaries. If you like her state your intentions early , and don’t be passive giggling with her. You usually have a small window to make a move before you are friendzoned. Take some time off to find out your hobbies and what matters to you the most. What are your boundaries? That way you can … | /r/seduction | 08/09/23 11:50 PM |
| 12 | To guys with a high number of bodies(50+) how has it affected your life?h HeMan and say it’s had more of a negative impact on my life. I’m only 20 years old and have aro Glad i quit before I got to that amount. As I got better, I felt like an empty robot going through the motions. It's just a perfectly refined script that guarantees outcomes and you're not being real. So then you use this persona/avatar on every single woman you meet which is flawed because it was always geared for short term fun. Always subconsciously knowing you have the 'game' figured out and can… | /r/seduction | 10/06/23 11:45 PM |
| 64 | To guys with a high number of bodies(50+) how has it affected your life?Stopped at around 25 or so, since I just felt empty/unfulfilling and was just a waste of time. Its just an ego trip, and imo only a fool bases his self worth on how many women he's been with. Should have spent that time studying for more qualifications, starting a business and networking. Stopped, started dating someone and focused on my goals now. | /r/seduction | 10/06/23 11:37 PM |
| 3 | I’m killer at making women laugh, but I quickly run into an issue in my interactionsThere is a balance between her thinking 'this guy is funny and hence most be good socially' vs 'this guy is funny because he needs people to like him'. You definitely have to reach a balance of being able to have serious emotional, introspective conversations as well. Why would she date you when she feels like she can't talk to you about serious issues or seek advice if all she sees you as is a funny guy. Women find overly funny guys tiring/ a bit much after some point based of what my ex's/fema… | /r/seduction | 10/10/22 06:30 PM |
| 12 | Am I coming off/being too "friendly" ? And is there such a thing as being "too friendly"Difference between friendly and trying to be liked by everyone by staying neutral. You have to be polarising, for every girl that loves you a few should equally hate you because you're just being yourself and stating your true opinions. On a date and she does something you don't like call her out on it and if she decides to walk away so be it. Talk about stuff you like, hell if it's something nerdy/weird go for it. Disagree with some of her opinions if you actually do. A lot of guys try and be '… | /r/seduction | 10/10/22 06:23 PM |
| 1 | So why EXACTLY are guys afraid to talk to women and why are women afraid to talk to guys?Evolutionary speaking since humans lived in small groups, being rejected meant you were likely to be seen as defective to the rest of the group and hence unlikely to breed. | /r/seduction | 09/10/22 02:14 PM |
| 1 | 'Dating 10/10 model girl' - Girl night outs - what is acceptable and what is not.Don't seek validation in how others think you should feel about it. If you don't like it it's fine, tell her you'd rather she doesn't. If she still does give tell her it's a deal breaker for you and find someone who doesn't go out to night clubs to seek validation from random men. | /r/seduction | 31/07/22 12:28 AM |
| 1 | 'Dating 10/10 model girl' - Girl night outs - what is acceptable and what is not.Honestly if you have a problem with it be willing to walk away. If you're dating that calibre of woman you must be doing the right things in your life and you should be able to get another. | /r/seduction | 31/07/22 12:24 AM |
| 0 | how do you game very attractive girls in their mid-20s if you're 10+ years older?It's easy. If you worked on yourself when you were younger they'll be hitting you up. You'll know you're there when you actually find it annoying having to reply to them. | /r/seduction | 19/07/22 06:25 PM |
| 9 | I always see stuff about how guys are used as validationA bit sad mate. Most people that seek validation in/through others are unhappy with themselves. Once you find yourself you won't need validation from others :) | /r/seduction | 12/07/22 11:38 PM |
| 1 | Dating as a 5'7" male is brutallol just be confident, when push comes to shove most people can't tell the difference between 5'7 and 5'10. | /r/seduction | 12/05/22 05:25 PM |
| 2 | How does one start dating? Is not having experience a turn off?You probably won't ever have opportunities with less effort after college. Once you start working etc you have to make an effort to structure your dating life with not as much time. Just join various societies. An underrated one is the 'international society', which has really attractive foreign women. I guarantee there is a society for whatever interests you. Put yourself out there by talking to people regardless of how it goes. College is a great opportunity for dating, don't let it go to wast… | /r/seduction | 20/04/22 09:52 AM |
| 2 | When you're rejected, would you prefer the real reason or given a cliche easy let down reason?Why should you care? a) Develop your confidence by achieving your goals, and you realise half of these people we put on pedestals are no where near perfect. They might be lazy, no knowledge of fitness, eating right etc b) Gain validation and acceptance from yourself first. Try doing some fun activities you enjoy on your own. c) Date multiple women until you settle down. The reason most guys get hang-up on rejection is that they don't have other women/dates to go on. | /r/seduction | 04/04/22 07:11 PM |
| 2 | "You're just different to other guys"Oh dear, me thinks OP is going to learn a lot about red flags and Cluster B women in a few weeks | /r/seduction | 19/12/21 09:14 PM |
| 2 | Instagram - How to market yourselfI'm sure the success rate will be similar with insta and phone numbers. A lot of women also give out their numbers for validation. Is it cringeworthy if you're genuinely into running and post countless pics of the marathons you run every weekend? A lot of women are likely to use instagram messaging over traditional messaging, and some actually think it's a red flag if you have no social media presence. I'm typing ths as a guy who used to generally hate social media, but I have met people who mak… | /r/seduction | 11/12/21 04:56 PM |
| 3 | Instagram - How to market yourselfI disagree, showcasing your passions and interests and using it as a tool to keep in touch and follow people in that community will open doors dating wise. | /r/seduction | 11/12/21 04:45 PM |
| 2 | Instagram - How to market yourselfI agree, i think Ego is one of the main reasons some guys (previously myself) refused to use insta. At one point you have to realise that insta now = real life. You can set up dates, meetings with people in different countries who have similar interests to you etc. I initially viewed it as not genuine, but you have to adapt. My sister's bf is a dude who wished her a happy b'day over instagram, and they had similar interests which she could see on his profile (baking, cooking and drawing). My fri… | /r/seduction | 11/12/21 04:38 PM |
| 1 | Where’s the best place to meet high value women?weddings, house parties, yoga classes, cooking classes, work, church. | /r/seduction | 10/09/21 01:24 PM |
| 3 | Signs when she is not interested100%, I think following these rules will lead people to give up too quickly/easily. I don't think there is no harm in trying if you are also talking to other women and not focusing on just the one | /r/seduction | 22/08/21 08:16 PM |
| 2 | Signs when she is not interestedFollowing this list means you will give up much earlier than you should. Most guys who are good with women won't let a few of these signs deter them, the only difference is that they have many options so they're not hung up on just the one. If they are replying (even if its one word replies) and spending time with you (obviously don't be bribing her to do so), there is some level of attraction and it's up to you to increase that. Just have others you're seeing at the same time and don't put all … | /r/seduction | 22/08/21 08:13 PM |
| 3 | Why do women fall for me romantically, but not sexually, despite them finding me physically attractive?Seems like you're trying too hard to be liked by everyone. Most guys who are very good with women have an equal amount of women who dislike/detest them. Not saying they are terrible people, they're just unapologetically themselves. | /r/seduction | 08/08/21 02:38 PM |
| 1 | PSA: If it’s not a fuck yes, then it’s a no.I disagree, funnily enough i think the current seduction material online leads guys to give up too quickly. It's not a problem if you are also seeing multiple women and living your best life. | /r/seduction | 17/06/21 11:02 AM |
| 1 | I've been approaching women since 2009 and have yet to have any kind of success, hundreds of approaches later. I feel immense self-hate and need someone to talk to.How many girls are you platonic friends with? Most guys who do very well have a few girls who they are just friends with. | /r/seduction | 05/11/20 12:36 PM |
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