StepfordMisfit Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
3	Only a childfree relationship can be a relationship of true love That's how she puts it. She was stressed and not as careful, I guess.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/04/21 10:01 PM
4	Only a childfree relationship can be a relationship of true love I was an accident. My grandfather died and my mom "let her guard down." It happens.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/04/21 09:18 PM
4	Only a childfree relationship can be a relationship of true love You didn't, was just thinking of the topic of the OP - staying in love.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/04/21 09:15 PM
5	Only a childfree relationship can be a relationship of true love The societal pressure to become that servant is strong, but not insurmountable. Some of us moms overcome it and don't blame our husbands for it happening to begin with. Then we work together on the relationship. Granted, it's a million times easier due to circumstances (disposable income, built-in babysitters in multi-generational household, upbringing in loving families, etc.) Others of us are happy in that role and embrace it without losing our identities. My mom did that somehow. Helps that m…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/04/21 08:48 PM
5	Only a childfree relationship can be a relationship of true love I have both kids and disposable income. Money didn't keep us out of marriage counseling, but it did enable us to better sort through our problems by spending a ton of $ on that counseling. Lack of communication was the number one problem -- happens in all classes.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/04/21 08:41 PM
45	Only a childfree relationship can be a relationship of true love As the adult offspring of parents who love one another more than they ever loved us, I disagree. Your point may stand in general terms, but it isn't an absolute.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/04/21 07:37 PM
2	[Q4W] Would you be supportive of your son marrying a woman who has slept around? First of all, no Chad is superior to my child. That out of the way, I'd be delighted my child found someone who makes them happy. I'd rather they marry someone with a sex drive that matches their own than any certain body count. A body count of 2 at age 30 might actually be cause for concern, but it's none of my business.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/21 07:15 PM
3	What really is the "spark"? Oh, weirdness is beneficial. Just has to be the right kind of weirdness!	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/03/21 12:20 AM
4	What really is the "spark"? Not entirely. IME it's compatibility. I've had extraordinarily attractive guy friends who there wasn't a spark with because we were just too different. With one, he was just too perfect. Too much pressure to be perfect, too. I don't keep up with the Joneses well. With another, he was quirky, too, but I kinda felt dumb around him. Man, he was so hurt when I told him how great it was that we could hang out without attraction-awkwardness. Never occurred to me he was interested that way until that m…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/03/21 12:19 AM
5	A commitment ceremony is a happy medium for people who don't want to get married That depends on the state with vastly differing laws.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/03/21 08:24 PM
2	Where did the myth come from that men don't care about women's careers? To be fair, they started dating before she got her degree and it is not the norm, but my best friend is a neurologist who married a guy who cleans boats for a living.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/02/21 04:59 PM
1	Where did the myth come from that men don't care about women's careers? Sorry reddit loaded funny so I replied to myself. Oops.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/02/21 04:50 PM
3	Where did the myth come from that men don't care about women's careers? My husband never would say he doesn't care about my career. But he makes more and if a child is sick or has an appointment, not only do both the school and the doctor's office call me first about it because the whole world expects the mom to handle those things, but he considers his job more important because he makes more, so I'm the one who has to take time off. ETA: Functionally, his job IS more important at this point. But we started with the same degree from the same school and I had the be…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/02/21 04:50 PM
3	Where did the myth come from that men don't care about women's careers? Are you interested in a woman's perspective?	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/02/21 04:42 PM
3	The societal role of mother kills the sex life not the kid Oh goodness, EVERYTHING. We went through counseling and it was like every problem we had was due to lack of communication and just relying on knowing each other so well that we thought we could assume things. Talk all the time. Not just compliments without seeking physical touch in that moment (which is important,) but everything from who is covering the next well-visit to the pediatrician and how it went.... to day dreams about what you'll do on the next just-you-two weekend away... to how your…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/21 08:53 PM
6	The societal role of mother kills the sex life not the kid It's context. No matter how he actually sees her, she sees herself through his eyes, projecting all sorts of shit. Body isn't what it once was, the kitchen hasn't been cleaned up, what if the kid xyz, why hasn't the whatever abc. So much of arousal is in the mind. And this isn't a stranger, but someone who knows her and who she has been and who she dreamed she would be. I've been there in the bed, unable to let go of my overrun thoughts to get my head in the game, try as I might. Vacation is oft…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/21 06:19 PM
15	The societal role of mother kills the sex life not the kid That's where sense of self comes in. A stranger suddenly sees you without all the baggage of daily life? Acts interested in you, not your kid, not what you can do for the school, not the state of your home? That's HUGE.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/21 05:29 PM
38	The societal role of mother kills the sex life not the kid Moms are tired and lose our senses of self. That's what kills arousal.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/21 02:11 PM