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WOW, thank you for sharing such an in depth, honest, and detailed review. I'm a dating coach myself and always curious exactly how the "youtube famous" companies run their programs.. I had a gut instinct it was over promise and under deliver.. but I'm pretty shocked at the behaviors you described, etc. And when I read the coach mentioned he is a "pick up coach" to the girl, I cringed deep in my soul, seems like the most unprofessional thing possible to do.. I look at it as my clients are paying …
/r/seduction04/08/17 08:28 PM
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didn't read the comments so someone might have mentioned it already but in case nobody did... some girls these days are literally addicted to texting and messaging and the attention / good feelings it provides MORE than they're into actually meeting up.
/r/seduction04/08/17 08:09 PM
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meditate, get good sleep at night,etc.. analyze all factors like that
/r/seduction01/03/17 12:05 AM
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this is possible for sure. I'd say focus on other life areas.. hit the gym, eat healthy, go make or save some more money, go out with friends just for fun, etc. Basically do whatever it takes to improve your mood and energy levels man!
/r/seduction01/03/17 12:05 AM
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I believe the 3 second rule is 3 seconds too long! Ideally build the habit where you DON'T THINK.. just see hot girl and instantly start walking towards her to talk to her immediately. 3 seconds is actually a super long time and plenty of time to "think".. which 90% of the time actually means think yourself out of doing it lol. Based on your post here, my guess is it's not what you are saying, it's your delivery.. if "hi" is met with awkwardness that means you were probably too in your head and …
/r/seduction01/03/17 12:03 AM
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Focus on other key areas of your life as a man, completely unrelated to women... getting in shape, making more money, make awesome social plans with your friends, etc.. and by improving the key areas of your life as a man, you A- feel better about yourself, because you ARE better now. B- all the factors that make a mans life better also make him more attractive to women and increase his value. Another concept I follow is for years I've been visualizing, experimenting, clarifying, and living my "…
/r/seduction28/02/17 11:56 PM
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Guys actually stand a MUCH better chance with women in real life then with women online.. online dating is the most superficial / low rate of success way to meet women. Conversely, it DOES have a huge benefit of nearly limitless single women so if you take the time to figure it out and make it work for you, it can become a great way to meet women! And just cause you didn't figure it out last time and didn't get great results simply means you were missing something.. 90% of the time guys have hor…
/r/seduction28/02/17 11:29 PM
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I don't think I'm being overly optimistic.. I think the fact is if you want to build a case and "prove" to yourself that you just dont have what it takes to attract a woman, then you can build that case. If you want to build the case you CAN learn how to attract women, you could just as easily build that case too. It's a matter of focus and perspective man. Can you start dating super models in 3 months? probably not.. but then again 98% of guys don't ever achieve that level either. My honest adv…
/r/seduction27/02/17 12:14 AM
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I only count the direct approaches, since those are the ones that truly push your comfort zone. Do I believe every approach in your life should be direct? Nope, but I find most guys are afraid to express their sexuality and reveal the fact to that girl that "hey I like you, I have a dick, I want to put it inside you" lol... of course we'd never say it like that but that is what a direct approach gets across and many many guys get into daygame and gravitate towards "Indirect" cause its so much sa…
/r/seduction24/02/17 03:23 PM
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Ok yes I agree with you, success with women will definitely be harder for you than for me or for the OP probably. You'll have to put in a lot more effort.. but now you gotta ask yourself one question.. is it worth it? I believe 100% that any amount of effort it will take is worth it because ALL guys deserve to have a woman in their lives. And to answer your question, I've had clients with different levels of autism, and do they come out, do a 1 day course of coaching and start getting girls left…
/r/seduction24/02/17 03:20 PM
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And don't bring up that you know they know each other.. but also don't deny it if they ask.
/r/seduction24/02/17 02:16 AM
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I'd go for the hotter one first, if it doesn't pan out hit up the second one haha
/r/seduction24/02/17 02:15 AM
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Yes, your issue is you're overanalyzing ONE interaction with ONE girl haha. It happens to the best of us man, but I'm serious.. I tell all my clients if something happens ONCE it can be an anomaly.. maybe what she said is true, maybe she has been sexualy abused as a child and has issues around sex and kissing. I think you should strongly consider the possibility that you did everything right and this is all on her end. So I say you sound like you know what you're doing pretty well with girls, ge…
/r/seduction24/02/17 02:14 AM
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Hmm sounds odd, I need more info to give advice man.. Was she maybe smiling at someone else? What location is this at? What do you mean by "I try to get her attention"?
/r/seduction24/02/17 02:09 AM
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Btw when I first started getting serious about daygame, I had alot of guys say they would do ONE approach a day forever.. ZERO stuck with it for more than a month or two. My goal was 25+ direct approaches/week.. I did that consistently for 2 YEARS. See the difference? A weekly goal rather than daily goal gives yourself the room to have a few days a week to sit home watch movies, study, just hang out with guy friends, or go on dates with all the girls you start meeting haha
/r/seduction24/02/17 02:07 AM
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I've been daygame coaching since 2013.. it's great that you are being so consistent, that shows a tremendous amount of motivation, but I believe the goal of approaching EVERY single day.. is a bit unrealistic to keep up, and you will definitely burn out.. we all have days where we are busy, tired, sick, etc. So my advice to guys is instead of doing 1,2 or 3 approaches EVERY single day, set a goal to do 20 or 25 PER WEEK.. and aim to do the bulk of them on one day, typically a weekend day works b…
/r/seduction24/02/17 02:02 AM
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Stop focusing on getting numbers. Take a step back and focus on having solid interactions. Don't approach women as "targets" or just another approach. Try to pick out girls you genuinely feel interested to meet and/or are very attracted to, be less mechanical about it and work towards having a genuine real connection with the girls you talk to. See them as humans just like you.. because they are lol. If it feels like there is something there then get her number and move things forward from there…
/r/seduction24/02/17 01:52 AM
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You actually never mentioned if you think she's attractive or not haha.. if yes, then GO FOR IT!! haha
/r/seduction24/02/17 01:42 AM
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I've been coaching daygame since 2013 and I've come across EVERY type of self-limiting beliefs that hold guys back. Your core obstacle here actually has nothing to do with daygame or meeting women, it has to do with core confidence in yourself. My guess is you have a standard in your head for what "cool" is or "worthy" of dating attractive girls, and based on your own assessment you're not at that standard yet, so as you said you talk to them and are almost ashamed to stay and interact longer.. …
/r/seduction24/02/17 01:38 AM
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The point of the video is to show guys that even though it was a bad scenario from the start (she initially didn't stop and then was late to work), you can still persist and do the best you can given the scenario dealt to you.. even if a quick number like this has an extremely low chance of converting to a lay.. thats still infinitely higher than zero chance. If a really quick number has an X chance of turning into something, and by not persisting and walking away with nothing is a guaranteed ze…
/r/seduction14/06/15 04:05 AM
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Looks are only 10% dude, 90% is confidence and social skills.. So you need to boost your confidence.. I tell everyone to increase confidence use affirmations and positive self talk consistently: check this out dude: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0MukVjmQuMM
/r/seduction19/05/15 05:39 AM
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The reason I'd choose to leave quickly is because I highly value my time. If this girl isn't interested, theres a high chance another cute girl will be around in a few minutes anyway
/r/seduction19/05/15 05:15 AM
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I'd probably just say ok thats cool, I'm happy for you. then leave shortly after. If one of the other chicks is really cute you COULD try for her next, I did this once and it was actually pretty fun.. I opened a set of 6 spanish girls and told them they were all cute, then I picked my favorite one and started flirting with her.. the whole group was loving my presence, one of her friends said: "oh my god, you have big balls.. do you always stop groups of girls to flirt with one of them?".. so aft…
/r/seduction19/05/15 05:14 AM
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If its 2 or 3 girls I'd go for it with direct.. "Hey I just noticed you girls walking past and you all look great, but (look to your target) I think you're very attractive.. I'm ____ whats your name? Of course, solo girls are the best for direct. 2 or 3 girls together is not more "difficult", just more complex because there are more variables to deal with.. (what if friend cockblocks, etc). If its a mixed set with girls and guys, I'd start with indirect and meet everyone in the group and chat wi…
/r/seduction18/05/15 09:26 PM
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have a serious talk with him and ask him about the REASONS why he wanted to approach in the first place? Whats his WHY? when you find out what motivated him in the first place, keep talking about how that is still possible to achieve but its takes commitment to take action consistently.. mastery or transformation doesnt happen overnight, etc.. tell him shit like that lol.. he's your buddy so you know him better, use my idea as a starting point lol
/r/seduction18/05/15 02:46 AM
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I stopped reading your post after the first few sentences... your frame of mind is totally focused on all your issues and shortcomings.. you need to switch focus onto what you DO have going for you.. its alot more things usually than most guys ever realize. Sounds like you are not internally ready to start meeting women.. eat healthy, hit the gym, put on some muscle or burn some fat..(not for the women, but because a little muscle or losing fat will build discipline and increase confidence). Foc…
/r/seduction18/05/15 02:43 AM
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great advice.. OP re-read this guys post a few times so it sinks in.. your looks are 10%, everything else is 90%. I've also coached guys that are model looking guys.. BUT they had zero social skills and yeah the girls stopped and talked to them for 5 seconds but the guy quickly lost any traction his looks may have earned him simply cause he sucked in the set.
/r/seduction18/05/15 02:34 AM
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check out What to say when you talk to yourself by Shad Helmstetter.. great book I think you'll find alot of value in.. its like $7
/r/seduction18/05/15 02:31 AM
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Dude listen to me here... I'm a full time daygame coach in NYC.. I've coached tons of guys.. I've had amazing model looking guys and some hideous dude.. I'm telling you point blank.. YOUR LOOKS ARE NOT THE PROBLEM! don't even worry about your looks, your looks are fine.. rather worry about your obsessive compulsive disorder type belief of thinking your looks arent good enough lol. Work on your self.. be more positive, outgoing, social.. look into books on positive self-talk.. you have to build t…
/r/seduction18/05/15 02:30 AM
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I use the term "work" for things you don't want to do, but do for money anyway. Meeting women is fun, yes it requires effort, but technically so does going to the beach for the day.. doesn't mean its not an enjoyable process. I've found things are generally as hard or as easy as people decide they are. I was horrible with women but dedicated myself completely to it for 3 months, and at the end of the 3 months I was able to meet women easily. I see guys that have been at the beginner level for 4+…
/r/seduction12/05/15 07:27 AM
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Getting girls is fun. Remember that
/r/seduction12/05/15 07:25 AM
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The actual amount of the male population engaging in daygame is less than .01%. Also, if you're daygaming in a way that can be perceived as daygaming.. as far as I'm concerned you're doing it wrong lol. Just start conversations as a confident normal dude, flirt alittle bit, and get her number. Keep it simpleeeeee is my motto, check out my 3 step process dude: https://youtu.be/MpW0ezfHDYA?t=1m35s
/r/seduction12/05/15 07:00 AM
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I'm a full time daygame coach in NYC so I've helped ton sof guys with this stuff.. I know you want to hear a solid number but honestly the ratio is different for every guy.. so many factors come into play like your communication skills, natural looks, body language, fashion sense, etc.. but just some sort of reference, I'd say on average, after a guy passes the "beginner don't know what he's doing phase", expect to hear back from 50-70% of the numbers you get.. and out of the ones you hear back …
/r/seduction12/05/15 01:39 AM
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Watch this.. it will point you in the right direction.. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MpW0ezfHDYA
/r/seduction11/05/15 06:34 AM
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bars and clubs are the WORST way to meet women, the best way is approaching them in the daytime and getting to know them. Check out my website www.nycdaygame.com actually my youtube might be better www.youtube.com/nycdaygamecoach If you have any questions PM me and I'll give you some tips man
/r/seduction11/05/15 06:32 AM
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Herrs my tip.. keep the time investment fairly low.. I've been in a serious relationship for over a year and we are still incredibly passionate, the sex is amazing, and we love seeing each other.. why? I stay busy with business stuff, personal social life, and hobbies separate.. I see my gf once a week, occasionally twice.. but twice is entering the red zone lol.. three times a week and I consider it a major problem lol. Why? Because we are human and we ALL need our alone time, we need to enjoy …
/r/seduction24/12/14 03:28 PM
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just re-read the original post, and noticed you said "physical" equals.. for the most part I'd agree in society this is common.. but it still goes back to what I was saying.. most fit guys believe they can get fit girls.. most overweight guys might not think they can get fit girls.. so people get what they believe they can.. without working on your self-concept you will settle for far less than you deserve.. 99% of people don't really put effort into improving themselves.. if you do, there is no…
/r/seduction21/12/14 04:11 AM
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short answer: YES I AGREE long answer: Yes people date within there league.. the good news is that "league" is completely made up by an individuals self-concept. Its like being "cool".. what is cool exactly? Its undefinable, its basically the people that think they are cool, are cool lol. Who is within your league, or are you in a girls league.. you decide that, its literally up to you.. only reason it may not seem like it is because its not up to your logical mind, its up to your subconscious m…
/r/seduction21/12/14 04:07 AM
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Don't listen to girls.. they'll tell you what girls WANT, not what they RESPOND to!
/r/seduction20/12/14 06:58 AM
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If you're in a deep hole.. first step is stop digging. By that I mean, you need to really focus on keeping your thoughts positive.. its easy when you get down to focus on all the obstacles, problems, and what you dont want.. but thats not gonna help you at all. Start thinking positive, focus on the possibilities.. its POSSIBLE that you go out tomorrow, approach 10 women, get in a great state and keep up that momentum.. its POSSIBLE you can get a few cuties numbers tomorrow or this week.. its POS…
/r/seduction19/12/14 04:19 AM
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Thanks dude! I'm working on more content right now to keep the advice flowing :)
/r/seduction19/12/14 02:27 AM
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Thanks man! And btw there is no "hoping".. you get out of life what you put into it.. if you put in the effort and keep approaching, you WILL get good, it's guaranteed man.. just stay active
/r/seduction19/12/14 01:37 AM
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Check my video out.. I cover a simple 3 step structure for meeting women in the daytime: http://youtu.be/MpW0ezfHDYA
/r/seduction18/12/14 11:49 PM
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of course, almost anything can work if you have massive social value / higher status than the girl and shes already attracted.. but that is usually the exception and not the rule haha
/r/seduction18/12/14 11:45 PM
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I'd suggest saying something like "I'm working on being more outgoing and flirting with cute girls.. I think you're cute, what's your name?" Something like that is good because its honest and most girls will think its cute and honest that you said it. Saying something like: "I'm now gonna attempt some pick up artists techniques on you to get your number..." will backfire in your face and make them want to prove that you will NOT get them.. imagine a salesman saying: Hi, welcome to my store, I re…
/r/seduction18/12/14 11:43 PM
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You went in like a boss, gave her a compliment, asked for the number, AND you persisted! Sounds like you did AMAZING for your first approach dude, I coach guys how to approach full time in NYC and you covered all the basics man.. you are on your way, you are still very young.. keep up the activity like you did today and by the time you're in college you'll have tons of girls :) http://www.nycdaygame.com https://www.youtube.com/nycdaygamecoach
/r/seduction18/12/14 11:38 PM
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Hey dude, just go for the kiss, its not a big deal.. you are really over thinking the situation.. girls respect guys that have balls and go for what they want, if she isn't interested back she will still respect that you had the balls to do it. You have to be comfortable expressing your sexuality. What is she gonna tell her friends?.. "this guy tried to kiss me, OMG he's attracted to girls.. what a weirdo!" lol.. if anything, it will probably boost your status among the other girls that hear abo…
/r/seduction18/12/14 11:32 PM
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Actually it's called barter, they are both similar value, how does it cheapen anything? Lol
/r/seduction18/12/14 04:23 AM
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Depending on how your FWB situation is will determine how you proceed: if she comes over once a week and you bang and then she leaves.. its simple, just start telling her you are busy from now on, she will get the point pretty quickly. But if you are treating her in any way like a girlfriend (long conversations with her, cuddling and watching movies, holding hands in public, etc) then you non-verbally have kinda established that you are headed towards a relationship with her and if thats the cas…
/r/seduction17/12/14 09:43 PM
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You remind me of my former self.. you are too hard on yourself and have extremely high expectations for yourself when setting goals. I'm telling you man, its not No fap 100% or nothing, its not black and white like that in life.. for now just cut back and its a solid step in the right direction.. set a goal to cut it down to 3 times or twice a week.. And KEEP TRACK of your actions.. I have a calendar at home, I put a check mark on days of no fap and an X on days I fap.. being accountable and hon…
/r/seduction17/12/14 05:18 AM
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And watch this video called The Power to Change.. Les Brown is my favorite motivational speaker.. this talk is really great: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SAVKg5MQ72s
/r/seduction17/12/14 02:54 AM
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It sucks your in a bad situation dude, here's my advice: First, realize that everyone has periods of depression and tough times occasionally in life.. its normal. And then also realize that its up to YOU to change it. I know you mentioned alot of areas of your life that are causing stress, so your number one priority has to be to maintain positivity and not get overwhelmed.. I know its tough, I know, but it IS worth it.. stay focused here. I strongly suggest starting small with one area of your …
/r/seduction17/12/14 02:48 AM
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As men get older, their sex drive drops a little, so that desire is not as intense.. and you won't be horny all the time. As long as all the other areas in your life are in balance, I say go out and enjoy the high sex drive while you got it! Also, the average guy sleeps with less than 7 women in his lifetime.. so if you're around 20.. what do you feel like you've "missed out" on? haha
/r/seduction16/12/14 04:16 PM
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This pretty much covers it!.. you have control at your place, at her place you have no idea what variables can pop up and mess up your whole flow.
/r/seduction16/12/14 04:02 PM
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There's no such thing as an ugly guy.. any guy can look good if he presents himself correctly and improves himself in certain areas: haircut, facial hair groomed properly, dress fashionably, confident body language and eye contact, get in better shape, BE fun, exciting, enthusiastic, have your shit together, etc.. these factors are what really matter and are within control for any determined guy to improve upon greatly. Besides all of that.. its also true that men care about 80% looks/ 20% perso…
/r/seduction16/12/14 03:51 PM
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I coach men in nyc on daygame so I mostly do in person interactions.. yes I feel this is becoming a lost art form and its the best / healthiest overall way to meet women. I've also seen guys that get really good with online dating and it becomes a crutch and they dont meet women any other way, also not the ideal way. But those things being said.. I feel online dating still holds many advantages for guys just starting to get good with women.. there are so many women on their looking for guys that…
/r/seduction16/12/14 04:59 AM
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Check out my video: 3 Steps to meet women: ACT Method for daygame.... its on my youtube channel and covers a simple structure so you can get started taking action asap. https://www.youtube.com/nycdaygamecoach
/r/seduction16/12/14 04:53 AM
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If the girl has princess syndrome or any other issues your only option is to be so much fun and dominant that they are so attracted to you that they are willing to change for you.. this can happen, but to go in with this as a plan is pretty risky since most people never change lol. But keep in mind there are SOME rich girls out there that are normal.. you just have to sift through and find them.. use my warnings to help you sift out the trouble ones
/r/seduction15/12/14 07:13 PM
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Ok 17 is still really young dude.. even if you are a super pimp you prob don't have enough experience in general and that's fine.. you'll get there soon enough. The girl that bit your dick and then did it again after you told her you didn't like it is just weird, thats her fault not yours.. its common sense when someone says they don't like something you don't do it again. For the anxiety around escalating physically, I would suggest 2 things.. firdt, look into affirmations, they are very powerf…
/r/seduction15/12/14 05:22 PM
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I'm a little unclear about your situation frim the post.. are you a virgin or you've had sex and didn't enjoy it? What is your age would help too? And also, what is the imaginary line? If you are alone with a cute girl and are thinking escalating will be more boring than watching paint dry.. my only guess is that you masturbate to porn too much and your dopamine receptors are all messed up.. if that's the case (it's pretty common these days actually).. check out Your Brain on Porn on youtube and…
/r/seduction15/12/14 02:13 PM
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I'm assuming you mean girls that come from families with money, and not girls that are rich themselves (big difference).. anyway I live on long island and I've met a few of these girls that come from wealthy families.. there is no golden rule that applies to them all obviously but some things I've noticed are: 1- they may suffer from mild to extreme princess syndrome, since their daddy may buy them a brand new Mercedes, their phone bills, and give them a credit card for buying expensive clothing…
/r/seduction14/12/14 07:05 PM
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From what you said above my suggestion is just be yourself and express yourself authentically.. you will probably be amazed at how many people out there are very similar to you and on the same wavelength. Another option is actively seek out groups, clubs, meetup.com groups are great as well.. for groups with similar interests/activities that you're into. http://www.nycdaygame.Com https://www.youtube.com/nycdaygamecoach
/r/seduction14/12/14 06:38 PM
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Sounds like you did pretty awesome bro! Only suggestions I'd make are 1- from now on always go for the number at the end.. otherwise what was the point of the approach in the first place lol.. but seriously I know just approaching is a growth experience in itself so you did great.. also just keep in mind as you get more comfortable the point really is to leave with some form of contact info so you actually start seeing the girls again. 2- go out actively and do this more often, set an activity g…
/r/seduction14/12/14 06:33 PM
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We have free daygame meetups a few time s a month.. this is a great way to come out and meet new wings! All levels welcome.. total beginners, intermediate, advanced.. its all good, as long as you want to meet women in the daytime!! http://www.nycdaygame.com https://www.youtube.com/nycdaygamecoach
/r/seduction14/12/14 04:10 AM
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In my opinion, if your direct approach translated into a moment so awkward that it ruins your chance for a friendship... you did something very wrong lol. Pretty much every girl respects a guy that is honest and expresses his sexual interests like a man. If you go direct and she indicates she has no sexual interest for you, etc.. (this is the point most guys would mess it up and make it awkward).. that is OK, its perfectly fine for a girl to not like you.. what matters is how you react from that…
/r/seduction13/12/14 11:20 PM
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First off congratulations for taking action.. many guys will remain lame and never actually leave their house to do this stuff. Steps to improve: I suggest breaking everything into smaller pieces and just doing alittle bit more every time you go out. Also DO NOT focus on results.. this is a guaranteed way to set yourself up for frustration. What we do takes alot of internal motivation so keeping yourself motivated and a positive mindset is the first priority of getting good. Instead focus on ACT…
/r/seduction13/12/14 09:23 PM
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I would be social and say: hey whats up Jessica? Hope you're doing great" but keep walking so u indicate u don't have time for a conversation or are interested
/r/seduction13/12/14 07:26 PM
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Some girls will flake, thats inevitable. But there are a few things you can do in the meantime to increase your chances: don't text her for the next 2 or 3 days.. you already sent a text that didn't get a response and then sent another one.. you never want to do that since it looks needy to women. Always act like you habe tons of other options, because whether you believe it or not.. you actually do have unlimited options to go out and meet women. if you are finds on social media, etc.. go out w…
/r/seduction13/12/14 05:34 PM
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I'm a full time daygame coach in nyc, so I've helped alot of guys out.. this problem is fairly common with good guys. Everyone is different and every situation unique but my overall guess is that you have a subconscious habit of acting as a friend from the beginning, this is usually from a fear or lack of understanding about how to express your sexual interest. It's easy to say "stop being a bitch" or "just escalate" when you are a guy that already escalates, etc... but that doesn't help the guy…
/r/seduction13/12/14 05:21 PM
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Thanks lol, there are a few coaches in nyc, of course most focus on night game and only dabble in daygame. I only do daytime since it's what I love and feel its definitely an under served market that actually helps men the most in the long term :)
/r/seduction13/12/14 05:06 PM
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Sasha I've worked very hard all of 2013 building my daygame skills and I'm now able to meet women anywhere just by being direct and flirting. Your youtube infield videos were a huge motivational tool for me back when I was clueless and wanted to improve my dating life. Thanks for showing how a normal cool guy can just be himself, go direct and attract women anywhere!! My only question is actually about business not seduction. . You mention a few times that you're an entrepreneur, I'm curious if …
/r/seduction28/01/14 10:45 PM
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