Stevenorris717 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
11	One year after the divorce is final and I’m still emotional		Stevenorris717	/r/Divorce_Men	07/08/19 03:18 PM
1	Retirement coming up		Stevenorris717	/r/MGTOW2	22/04/20 11:34 AM

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3	A question a few years out Obviously there is still a lot hurt for you and wonders of "why?" I can relate!!!!. While I didn't experience exactly what you did in my marriage I'm 3 years out from a 18 year marriage. I still hurt on occasion and often wonder why why why. I've met a nice successful lady too. And I'm just not THAT into it. Not like I was with my marriage. Even though I think the new lady is a much better all around person than my ex. But I digress. I think your feelings are normal and just that of someone stil…	/r/Divorce_Men	02/02/21 03:15 PM
2	What's the best way to implement curb side exchanges?> That's a lot of back and forth. I would find a way to stretch the visits out longer to not deal with so many drop offs.	/r/Divorce_Men	07/05/20 10:18 PM
1	What are some usual divorce outcomes when I'm the only wage-earner? What does need to get a divorce mean? Has she filed? Have you filed? Also........ Doesn't NC laws require a year of separate living before you can divorce, no fault? With the information provided, i don't see how she can live and care for the kids for one year on her own. Stay in your house, take care of your kids. If she is committing adultery and you want a divorce....tell her to go live with boyfriend but do NOT tell her you want a divorce. Use that time to establish adultery evidence. Then y…	/r/Divorce_Men	07/05/20 11:43 AM
3	Haven’t had a relationship in 3 years I've been in relationships or married my entire adult life. 47 years old. I've been divorced two years now. I get lonely at times. Sounds like I want sex way more often.... but yes i totally know where you are coming from. There is nothing wrong with you at all. You are smart.	/r/Divorce_Men	03/05/20 06:15 PM
2	Anyone else feeling smug watching the epidemic unfold? Amazing.... people see what they want to see. It seems this pandemic has labeled many females super hero's. Truckers have gotten a tip Of the cap, but not near the recognition health care workers have. I realize NYC/NJ and some European countries are slammed and truely heros. Others In different parts of the world are slow and not dealing at all with covid. But are getting a heros recognition, pats on the back and free meals.... for doing next to nothing. Because their hospital is slow from no e…	/r/MGTOW2	30/04/20 05:49 PM
2	If you need to vent or just talk, do so before you do anything permanent. Sorry man. Hope it gets better for you.	/r/Divorce_Men	30/04/20 05:24 PM
2	If you need to vent or just talk, do so before you do anything permanent. Yeah. That's what they say. However I live the same life I did married. Same job. Same house. Same routine. It's hard to breakout of that rut when you have kids 50% and can't move because of schools. ... and so on. Anyways.... just venting.	/r/Divorce_Men	30/04/20 12:26 AM
3	If you need to vent or just talk, do so before you do anything permanent. Man, Just yesterday.... I was contemplating the meaning of life at this stage of my life. Just seems pointless some days.	/r/Divorce_Men	29/04/20 12:57 PM
1	Are you a NoFap? 3somes, bondage, role play, sex toys. Sad part was.... she had a nice body for a 40 yo and gave me sex most of the time when i asked. Gave an amazing blow job and would invite me in the back door from time to time. She's a pretty girl too. ... and it wasn't enough. So sad. I just pushed her to far.	/r/Divorce_Men	27/04/20 05:49 PM
1	Colleges moving to online? I can see empty warehouses and manufacturing plants all over the south too. You are correct in regards to manufacturing in the US. However the student population is 100x that of the professors on staff. At least half those students pay 10-12k a year for housing and meals. You aren't making up (20k students x $10k housing) by cutting a few hundred professors.	/r/MGTOW2	24/04/20 11:56 AM
1	Colleges moving to online? The colleges.....Yes. Especially these large colleges in the small southeast towns. They care very much about their host town. The town is what attracts employees and students.	/r/MGTOW2	24/04/20 01:52 AM
5	Colleges moving to online? No. Colleges make a lot of money on student housing and meal plans. Some towns, the entire towns economy is based on the student population.	/r/MGTOW2	23/04/20 03:29 AM
1	Are you a NoFap? Yes. I think Porn and sex addiction is the exact reason I got divorce. It wasn't until she made me go to counseling that I realized I had porn/sex addiction. Porn gave me unrealistic and unhealthy expectations for sex. I was watching porn going into the marriage. A few years in, i found religion and I stopped for more than a few years. Many years! Then one day, I was home alone. Stressed about work, kids and bills..... I thought let's take a quick peak and rub one out. Then smart phones came out…	/r/Divorce_Men	18/04/20 10:57 PM
2	How do get over cheating wife That's gold. Gold!!	/r/Divorce_Men	18/02/20 11:24 PM
3	How do get over cheating wife Man, I'd enjoy a beer with you. I fought for my divorce. Won 50/50 custody but pay support because i made 3x what she did. Just like you say, all the responsibility is pushed on me. I have to keep a house, pay support and everything else the kids need. I miss opportunity to travel at work because I'm a single parent 50% of the time. My two oldest are close to graduating and I have another, 12. I may just punt in two years, cut my living expenses and let her change the order. Use my extra time an…	/r/Divorce_Men	18/02/20 10:31 PM
2	This is a great starter video for guys seeking advice. If I could have hired this guy, I would have. However when I called this firm. I was referred to a local attorney operating under their umbrella that was unimpressive in my initial meeting. All the information in this video is good. Especially the part about knowing how you want to Proceed and picking a lawyer based on your wishes. I had initial consultations with many when I went through my divorce. I agree... there are those that want to mediate. Those that want to burn your retainer and a set…	/r/Divorce_Men	22/10/19 02:58 PM
8	I don't have much friends but... I don’t have any friends. I’m nice to people. I listen to others before speaking. I’m consider of my neighbors and coworkers. But .... my office is small and everyone does their own thing. I have a few hobbies but can’t make a friend. I’ve come to the conclusion that at my age (40s). Most guys are busy with family and I’m not socially good enough to bust into other single guy circles. When I don’t have my kids, I do a lot of things alone. Hunting, fishing and going to sporting events. I get a fa…	/r/MGTOW	17/10/19 03:38 PM
2	TIL what she meant by "amicable" Guys starting this process.... read and know this tactic. All those words are apart of the tactic to soften you up, for ease in negotiations. Her saying Maybe get back together later, is nothing more than a dangling carrot to soften you up. Give you hope and to get her more. It’s all games to benefit her. Don’t fall for it guys.	/r/Divorce_Men	17/10/19 12:03 AM
1	Kids sleeping at my place during the school week? I have joint custody and my kids stay with me one week and the ex the next week. Both our house are in school district but it works out fine. I have girls. Only thing I’ll add. Is the ex work schedule requires her to be at work at 630am. Before the kids even leave for school. I have time in the morning to completely care for the kids and drive them to school. It didn’t matter to win me custody. We ended up with joint custody and the kids get themselves ready and on a bus at her place. Anyways...…	/r/Divorce_Men	04/09/19 08:15 PM
2	Male or Female Attorney? Doesn’t matter. Just do your homework on divorce law, listen to your attorney but remember they work for you. you know your ex and what may lie ahead, best.	/r/Divorce_Men	15/08/19 04:50 PM
1	SEX ROBOTS So I guess a prostitute isn’t MGTOW cool?	/r/MGTOW2	15/08/19 04:47 PM
1	His Response to “ Women love just as much as men” Sure... their children. But in the context of this conversation I believe we are talking about a spouse.	/r/MGTOW	09/08/19 03:07 PM
29	His Response to “ Women love just as much as men” .... that is really profound. A woman would NEVER put her life on the line for a man. Ever.	/r/MGTOW	08/08/19 11:08 PM
1	One year after the divorce is final and I’m still emotional Seeing her different? Yes. But mine is more from an intellectual standpoint than physical. Since the romance and sex is out of the equation, I can now see how manipulative controlling selfish and jealous she really is. I don’t know how I lived with that for so long. How I was happy in such a one sided relationship. She’s still beautiful but.... I feel for the next guy. He will be a puppet on a string and walking aTm for her. And that is all.	/r/Divorce_Men	08/08/19 02:12 PM
3	One year after the divorce is final and I’m still emotional Man..... so true. Well said. I really think some women see men as sperm donors and a bank account. Doesn’t matter that you’re the father, another guy can be the dad. Some have no qualms about it.	/r/Divorce_Men	07/08/19 06:48 PM
3	One year after the divorce is final and I’m still emotional My ex came back after one week to get the house back. She was to sign over the house as part of the divorce and the paperwork had yet to be Done. When I told her I wasn’t calling that off just yet .... i told her i would postpone the quick claim until EOM. she said forget it. I don’t want to see you ever again. But she totally fooled me. I thought the family was getting back together. We had dinner with the kids as a family. Went a few places together as a family. Like you, it really set me back…	/r/Divorce_Men	07/08/19 05:47 PM
3	Question about Ex Wife’s Husband posting to Facebook Not cool at all	/r/Divorce_Men	07/08/19 02:58 PM
4	Year since and find it unfair What state? “This” isn’t how it has to go. It’s been one year since my divorce was final. My advice, protect every thing you can now. Pay as little as possible. Because once she gets her divorce.... she won’t use child support for the kids. She’ll want you pay for things in addition to child support. Get everything you can in the settlement to protect yourself and assets and time with your kids.	/r/Divorce_Men	07/08/19 11:36 AM
1	This woman makes sense about MGTOW. If the man's role is increasingly being beaten down, it is now not a good way to attain that masculine identity as a husband . Also something i didn’t hear in her dialogue. Men are having to take on more of the woman’s traditional domestic duties on. Women don’t cook like they did. They expect men to do household chores. They expect men to babysit the kids on girls night out. On and on. The man has to keep up all the traditional roles of masculinity AND be a romantic to be attractive to a women. ALso a part time mother. Leaving a lot of men feeling like, they put in a lot of work but what does she really bring to the ta…	/r/MGTOW2	07/08/19 03:48 AM
4	Baby I love transaction processing you Ain’t this the truth.	/r/MGTOW	07/08/19 03:34 AM
21	women don't have empathy It’s why over 90% of divorce complaints are filed by women. The men don’t file because they don’t want to harm the family unit. Women don’t give a damn. They will replace you with another man and make your kids call him daddy.	/r/MGTOW	30/07/19 12:31 PM
1	How Do You Deal With The Loss Of Meaning I don’t have much to add that hasn’t already been said other than .... i am another guy that’s had those feelings as well. So you aren’t alone. I was married 18 years and had 3 kids. Everyday of those 20 years (2 yrs dating) were dedicated to her and her family (she has a large active family. I have a small inactive family). Then there was our kids. I’ve been divorced one year. On the weeks I have kids. It feels like being married still but without the wife and any help. I’m a single parent. So …	/r/Divorce_Men	29/07/19 06:59 PM
4	Unbelievable She’s doesn’t care about your concerns and thoughts on how to parent. You see an issue and she doesn’t. Because she had already talked to him. Partying.... these divorced women love to go out to concerts, clubs and parties. She is going to be doing it a lot in the future. Possibly leaving you son with every sitter she can find. At least that’s been my experience. Therefore don’t concede time with your kid. Find a job that will allow you at least 50% custody. Don’t be caught in the moment. Think …	/r/Divorce_Men	28/07/19 12:24 PM
6	Getting divorced. What are some things I can do early? First, it sounds like you have accepted the divorce. That’s a good start regarding what i am about to write. Just remember ..... don’t ever forget ..... she isn’t your friend any longer. Don’t fail for the poor pitiful me, being nice to get you to concede assets. Don’t fall for the guilt trips of you’re man and she is a woman fall on your sword. Don’t! Remember it is a now a legal/business negotiation and Negotiate like a boss and don’t give up what you know you deserve.	/r/Divorce_Men	27/05/19 11:46 AM