Steyrox Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
53	Similarities between religous cultism and wokeness	article	Steyrox	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	24/07/21 07:27 AM

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5	Where is the bar?! I think more in terms of distribution. The distribution of relationship/attractiveness among men have been stagnant or backsliding relative to women in the past 50 years. This means a lot of men cant reach a level where they have options in terms of sex, relationships and marriage. They may have some options, but they are not good in absolute terms (women who have illness, obesity, poverty or drug addiction). For women its the other way around, they have moved up in quality plus they have the in…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/05/22 10:39 AM
1	Has anyone had their view changed bc of a debate here on PPD Agreed.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/04/22 09:20 PM
5	Sex In LTRs Mega-Thread I have low libido too, but its very difficult to meet women who are accepting of this. How did the two of you meet?	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/04/22 09:18 PM
7	Sex In LTRs Mega-Thread Thats great! I think when kids are introduced things can change. Also if there is an illness or old age. Lower libido from hormonal changes, menopause or ED in men. Also work stress can take down libido. People talk a lot about womens hormones but men are just as important.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/04/22 09:17 PM
3	How will the dating scene be different in 20 years? All you say is right but... women desire strong masculine men.. by nature. So where does this leave their desires? Won’t these men be the harem keepers I think they will just try to go for those men which they will find sometimes in the trades and sometimes in the upper echelons of society. I think there will be a pattern where women "reuse" these men for reproduction. Its true, these men will get a lot of sex, but not everything as a man is about that. We also crave relationships. Another thing…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/12/21 11:40 AM
2	How will the dating scene be different in 20 years? I know the feeling. I usually get picked apart by my feminist family members and friends. Its not a healthy relationship. I decided to cut them out of my life to protect my mental health. With matriarchy I mean that women dominated my upbrining. Womens perspectives (70s style feminism) and wealthy women who never married controlled the family events etc. Men were more of a background characters. My mom is very dominant, controlling and manipulative. I agree that a society led by women would be l…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/12/21 06:45 PM
3	How will the dating scene be different in 20 years? As someone who was raised in a matriarchal family in Northern Europe I can tell you that if my experience is anything to draw from, this future you predict is going to be very abusive but the other way around. Thinking that a women led society is any less abusive than a male led one is delusional. Its just that you don't care about the people who will suffer under it (men). I think its going to look more like Russia with lots of men dying in despair with a female elite looking the other way. Fem…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/12/21 05:21 PM
15	How will the dating scene be different in 20 years? As women will gain more influence over society and how things are done, it will cater more to their needs. As someone who grew up in a feminist matriarchal family in Northern Europe and here are some predictions: Sons/boys sexuality will be policed relentlessly. They will be exposed to physical and emotional abuse to purify them from the patriarchy in preventive purpose from a young age. Women will not need to settle down as they have better careers than men. Female led government will extract r…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/12/21 05:17 PM
1	What do you think we should we as a society do with the problem of rising loneliness to not end up like Japan? There are different types of loneliness. Japan has its own social value system which creates rather unique problems. Loneliness happens when people don't fit into the social structures anymore. Social phobia: I did a 12 week group treatment when I was a "hikkikomori" in my late 20s. I had failed at university and isolated more and more. I think for a lot of younger people the solution would be variants of this (CBT/group therapy). When it comes to dating there is a major problem in how its frame…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/12/21 09:48 PM
6	A fairer look at global gender inequality I think this is the most important statistic you have explained so far. It shoots holes in so many misconceptions and is also a great conversation starter.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	02/12/21 07:33 AM
0	Q4M: what is your personal happiness level, and why has there been a decline in male happiness? I exaggerated a bit, was angry. Education: women dominate, men fall behind Politics: female prime ministers, female cabinet (in finland and soon in sweden too). All the political parties except Media: opinion pieces are mostly written by women about womens issues (this is a Swedish thing) Business: women dominate middle management positions. Men still dominate the CEO roles but more and more ownership is shifting over due to inheritance. Home: women still run the homes and decide what kind of st…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/11/21 07:46 PM
1	Q4M: what is your personal happiness level, and why has there been a decline in male happiness? Yeah I relocated and could not continue with my previous therapist who great. At my new place I had to go through about 4 therapists until I found someone I liked. Ended up being a female sex therapist of all things. She knew right away what I talked about because she sees "the other side" of these issues in couples therapy often, as well as how womens sexuality works out in the wild (not the idealized version). I'm not sure if I'm redpill though or rightwing. I think my "tribe" is still progres…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/11/21 05:06 AM
1	Q4M: what is your personal happiness level, and why has there been a decline in male happiness? Its ok, I see a therapist from time to time and I also have various pills I can take. I actually tried a male therapist but we could not connect or relate to each other so had to change.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/11/21 02:36 AM
3	Q4M: what is your personal happiness level, and why has there been a decline in male happiness? But they also dominate the managerial positions, are those not positions of influence? Also I'm sensitive to it as I have been surrounded by dominating and abusive women, not because of patriarchy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/11/21 02:38 PM
3	Q4M: what is your personal happiness level, and why has there been a decline in male happiness? Agreed. Well I think partially at least. I think the largest group of employees are the basic nurses which earn very little. This kind of job is not very attractive for a guy I think. There are some jobs in municipalities that are attractive though but require higher education. If more men would be higher achieving in academia there would also be more men applying for those jobs. Well that's me speculating of course. I actually looked through the employee statistics for government agencies and i…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/11/21 02:20 PM
8	Q4M: what is your personal happiness level, and why has there been a decline in male happiness? Thanks, I try to put words on what I have experienced and what I feel because I feel media, academia and politicians are so lost. They just speculate, or even worse, they let feminists write and invent what we are feeling and thinking. Like most of them would probably write me off as a woman hater that want to maintain patriarchy. In my world I have grown up with female elite that is abusive and misusing its power and authority for selfish career and power reasons. When it comes to helping, I th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/11/21 02:14 PM
6	Q4M: what is your personal happiness level, and why has there been a decline in male happiness? Maybee make your voice heard mainstream wise if you want to make a difference... Yeah I have been offered interviews etc. because I have been in contact with public people. However I have a job etc and don't want to be known as Mr. Incel. I have also not given up on dating and finding someone even though I'm quite old and hopeless. I work on it in therapy. In addition I am working on some small projects with infographics etc to channel the rage into something fruitful. In these days data and pro…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/11/21 02:10 PM
7	Q4M: what is your personal happiness level, and why has there been a decline in male happiness? I see your point. I don't think I'm much of a threat myself though. I have a good job, wealth, intelligence, time and I live in a safe democracy. I'm also white, tall, able bodied etc. I have many privileges and good things going for me. It would make no sense to waste all that for some stupid act of violence.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/11/21 02:04 PM
6	Q4M: what is your personal happiness level, and why has there been a decline in male happiness? No, he has no reason to as he is in a marriage with two kids. These kind of guys always do well with women: wealthy, slightly narcissistic, clever, ambitious... I'm not like that. They did great before and will do great in the future. I used to try to emulate that but it just... does not work. I'm part of the mediocre class of men. We have no future, other than living on our own and generate tax money for women to have lots of children/careers on their own.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/11/21 06:16 AM
11	Q4M: what is your personal happiness level, and why has there been a decline in male happiness? I had my first male manager when I was 33. He was the first person who wanted me to and encouraged me to achieve and excel, take up space and make my voice heard.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/11/21 04:07 AM
39	Q4M: what is your personal happiness level, and why has there been a decline in male happiness? 2 Personally I'm super secure financially and work wise, but I also have a very infected relationship with the opposite sex which I obsess over. As a millennial almost 40 year old incel I live with a sex doll and eat antidepressants, but also do therapy on and off. Not sure if its helping much. I had a feminist upbringing with an unstable abusive mother. Its difficult to capture all my thoughts in a couple of paragraphs. Basically I have a lived experience of matriarchy as a guy as until I was 3…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/11/21 01:21 AM
1	What would the ideal dating world look like? people should be able to talk to a dating coach in the swiping apps. people would go more slowly and not hook up so much. there should be prefilled messages or advice how to reject in the apps people should give more chances to people they are not immediately physically attracted to. men should not be evaluated on money and social status women should not be evaluated on looks alone something like that	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/10/21 09:34 PM
1	Qs4W: Do you hold negative perceptions of men with high n-counts? I think it’s one of those things that are exponential. I have a friend who has slept with hundreds of women. I have slept with two, and 3 if you consider none intercourse. It would be more interesting to see how different bands of the spectrum behave and how large they are. Like how many had sex less than once in the past ten years? I bet there are way more men there than women. How many have slept with hundreds of partners? I bet it’s more men there as well.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/10/21 09:28 PM
2	How many of you are banned from other subs? Specifically relationship style ones. Also what pill would you consider yourself and what gender are you? One, about politics. It’s fine though.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/10/21 11:11 PM
1	How do we see women? This is very relatable unfortunately.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	09/10/21 08:47 PM
6	Most men here find this average woman attractive and would date her, most women here do not find this average man attractive and would not date him Oh yeah, I never thought about the cap. That makes sense..	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/10/21 08:49 PM
11	Most men here find this average woman attractive and would date her, most women here do not find this average man attractive and would not date him I think apps are where women feel the most safe to be approached. After me too the other avenues sort of became less acceptable. Unless you do PUA. Add to that how young men are no longer doing college while women do. Basically apps are the only touch point.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/10/21 07:54 PM
22	Most men here find this average woman attractive and would date her, most women here do not find this average man attractive and would not date him It’s about 9:1 I think. It’s really hard on younger guys especially and those who have a poor self esteem in general. Then on top of that the messaging that men are bad and then women overtaking men in education etc. it’s really depressing. I’m surprised not more guys are raging incels.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/10/21 07:35 PM
1	Why does it seem there's no good, actual tangible dating advice for women? That’s interesting. Have you ever tried approaching yourself?	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/10/21 07:14 PM
2	Why does it seem there's no good, actual tangible dating advice for women? This goes both ways. I don’t like tests because it’s a bit manipulative and there can be context. However if somebody draws a boundary the other should not try to get around it or get angry etc.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/10/21 07:12 PM
92	Most men here find this average woman attractive and would date her, most women here do not find this average man attractive and would not date him I think this is Tinder related resentment. The woman would get 1000 likes in one hour while the guy would get 1 like every second week. If paying for tinder gold then maybe 3 likes using boost. It really grinds us dudes down and gives us body dysmorphia. Source: I look a bit similar to dude, without beard.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/10/21 07:02 PM
2	Laci Green interviewed the mods of r/FDS. I read your reply again and this is spot on! I was skimming it the first time. Thanks for clearing my confusion. Now what to do with this realization…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	28/09/21 06:10 PM
6	Even orgasm gap is more significant than life expectancy gap according to Wikipedia Ironically this is something that comes up in sex/couples therapy. It’s also touched in the “No More Mr Niceguy” book. Basically some men gets so focused on pleasing their wives every wish that they cant maintain an erection, which makes the guy overcompensate by being even more nice which in turn is a turnoff. So it just spirals out of there. Woman things she has a doormat of a husband which she starts controlling and pushing around while husband thinks he is doing everything for his wife, but …	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	28/09/21 05:46 PM
2	UK All-party parliamentary group on issues affecting men and boys published its first report "A boy today: the world into which a boy today in the UK is growing up" The only thing I missed in this document was a “roads to fatherhood” discussion with poorer and uneducated men. However I understand it would be too controversial and would trigger too many reactions which would be counterproductive.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	28/09/21 05:16 PM
8	Laci Green interviewed the mods of r/FDS. Yeap. I’m an older guy in this cohort and I try to do something for the younger guys so that they don’t have live a life in loneliness. I mean I also advocate for myself, but I see this as a growing unmanaged problem. What is even more infuriating is that many of us are raised as feminist/Christian good boys. The path of radicalization then goes straight from feminist blogs to incel forums as we are on the path of self loathing. These people who cut incels down are essentially cutting down their…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	28/09/21 07:16 AM
1	Male touch starvation: one thing I don’t think people understand. Arabic cultures, at least between men. In Egypt men were holding hands like couples sort of.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	28/09/21 06:24 AM
1	Male touch starvation: one thing I don’t think people understand. I ended up buying a sex doll for this purpose. It has a steel frame so I can wrap it’s arms around me if I a hug. Its legal to buy sex where I live but I find it amoral and as someone who has been used myself I don’t like the detached relationship these women have with sex, consensual or not.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	28/09/21 06:22 AM
1	Male touch starvation: one thing I don’t think people understand. A scientific take on this could be measuring the oxycotin in blood levels. I heard somewhere that ejaculating inside a woman releases 400x more oxycotin compared to pleasing oneself. I would assume it would be something similar with hugs with someone you are attracted to vs not.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	28/09/21 06:19 AM
5	UK All-party parliamentary group on issues affecting men and boys published its first report "A boy today: the world into which a boy today in the UK is growing up" Nice write-up!	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	28/09/21 06:14 AM
6	Laci Green interviewed the mods of r/FDS. I’m a bit on the spectrum and was raised feminist. Things like ”you are not allowed to slap women”, let’s say a woman begs to sleep her on her behind, I can’t do that because of said rule. Another thing would be how after me too approaching women outside dating apps are taboo. But the dynamics of dating apps are crappy for both sides. The 50/50 thinking, let’s say I am looking for a partner and was thought that women no longer need providers and they are very assertive about that. But then when …	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	28/09/21 05:31 AM
3	UK All-party parliamentary group on issues affecting men and boys published its first report "A boy today: the world into which a boy today in the UK is growing up" That’s a very interesting take, I have not thought about that before.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	28/09/21 05:25 AM
16	UK All-party parliamentary group on issues affecting men and boys published its first report "A boy today: the world into which a boy today in the UK is growing up" It looks like a whitepaper more than anything. Many, many papers like this would have to be written to change anything. But at least this one was written. Honestly I’m very pessimistic about me s issues. Men are not needed anymore for reproduction, politics, academia etc so there are no incentives in society to make our lives better.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	28/09/21 12:48 AM
-7	Laci Green interviewed the mods of r/FDS. I used to read a lot of FDS content to understand better what women want and desire but honestly as a 40 year old incel it was not very helpful. It just made me more radical And hateful of women. I think they are reacting to men Just wanting sex but… well I’m not one of those guys. Well I do want sex but I’m too timid to go home with women who ask me as I feel afraid I will exploit them or harm them in some way. I also think egalitarianism and equality thinking and feminism has ruined something …	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	28/09/21 12:05 AM
2	Body-Shaming Rears Its Ugly Head At The Majority Report I think bald mocking by women comes as a reaction to advances from creepy older guys and knowing it’s an insecurity. However it also contrasts with the body positivity movement. Same with height preferences vs fat shaming. Our dating preferences, how we mock each other and general acceptance of body ideals get mixed together.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	27/09/21 11:52 PM
1	Body-Shaming Rears Its Ugly Head At The Majority Report I really don’t understand this form of mockery either. Its so counterproductive and rude. Maybe there was some good idea behind it somewhere, like toxic masculinity, but it sure is not making anything better.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	27/09/21 11:49 PM
2	I made a series of posters to inform people about sexist discrimination, and its similarity with racist discrimination This is sneaky! I like it! Probably similar charts can be done by any group, but it is eye opening for sure.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	27/09/21 11:16 PM
43	UK All-party parliamentary group on issues affecting men and boys published its first report "A boy today: the world into which a boy today in the UK is growing up" This is so amazing! Exactly what I have been looking for! I hope more governments would be brave enough to make this sort of documents. im curious, what was the process of making this happening? Edit: this is what I have been expecting from my local politicians, a male first perspective on life. I really don’t think it will happen here because the feminist steamroller is so powerful, but maybe in 5-10 years things start moving here in Northern Europe too. Sadly I think things needs to get so muc…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	27/09/21 11:04 PM
2	One of the most delusional, misandrist pieces of media I’ve ever seen. Kristen Leo’s video here is essentially a 30 minute rant about how men are inherently evil. I watched kost of it and “in reverse” it made a lot of sense. She seems very bitter about the men she has met and her single status and is dressing it up in mockery of short men and an intellectual triade against men. She did have some interesting points about feminism damaging heterosexual dating market though, but from a womans perspective. However most of it was sort of FDS type anger. I could empathize with how women are damaged and putting their lives on the line during childbirth. That is …	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	27/09/21 07:45 PM
3	One of the most delusional, misandrist pieces of media I’ve ever seen. Kristen Leo’s video here is essentially a 30 minute rant about how men are inherently evil. Trigger alert! The start was massively triggering but the later part was better. ok there was some short guy shaming which was not ok.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	27/09/21 07:08 PM
2	The lack of sex and love is bad for mental health I don’t think feminists hate men, they don’t care, which is a form of neglect. When they run it as a personal or lifestyle project it’s one thing. They don’t have to care about men really. However when entire nations policies are based On feminism, it becomes institutional neglect and that’s really not a good thing.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	27/09/21 06:58 PM
3	The lack of sex and love is bad for mental health I have thought a lot about the last part you wrote a lot. The current trends are a massive momentum and it’s going to require something very big and obvious for things to change. I think the incel violence, college attendance gap and opioid epidemics should be the canaries in the coal mine that would make people rethink their positions. But it’s not and I honestly don’t know what will. I will start voting from now on On policies which are more male positive. I don’t know how to package it. I mea…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	27/09/21 06:56 PM
4	The lack of sex and love is bad for mental health Yep, it also uncomfortable for people to admit that there is inequality in sex As it’s in direct conflict with women’s right to bodily autonomy. However I think it should be possible to discuss both and encourage and protect both issues. The key is to always frame men’s lack of sex as a personal health issue, where we should spend health resources to increase men’s sex and relationship appeal. But even that can’t be done as it’s too triggering, mostly to feminists.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	27/09/21 06:51 PM
3	The lack of sex and love is bad for mental health Hm yeah. I have met women who are very unempathic some who are emphatic and a lot who are empathic when there is something for themselves to gain out of it. The truly empathic are extremely rare, just like in men. The problem is in this “women are wonderful” idea we have, it’s blinding us from the truth.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	27/09/21 06:47 PM
2	The lack of sex and love is bad for mental health Yeap, once you no longer supply them things switch rapidly.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	27/09/21 06:44 PM
3	The lack of sex and love is bad for mental health Yeah this is so true. These people think that well I had a 1 year dry spell and I got out of it. What if it’s 5 years? Never? I went 10 years without human touch, that really does change how you see yourself.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	27/09/21 06:43 PM
2	What’s causing decline in male sexlessness of recent? Money and education, plus not being where young women are (women at universities while men are unemployed or doing “stuff”).	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/09/21 11:43 PM
5	What’s causing decline in male sexlessness of recent? Yeap, I was raised feminist… I agree. I bought a sex doll because all that sex shaming made me incompatible with women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/09/21 11:32 PM
14	Do you think there is too much discussion and that people make a simple thing complicated? I think things are changing very rapidly and people are confused. People who gather here try to solve emotional problems with intellectual analysis which will never work. People like to argue and deliberately remove the grey areas and shades when they write (simplifying to make a point).	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/09/21 04:49 PM
20	Male Underachievement and the Gender Turf Wars Reading about this kind of institutionalized neglect makes my blood boil. And then when they blame it on the boys too… I. Just. Can’t… These progressives are so obsessed with their self image of being good, just, equal that they fail to see the shadow of their work in the failed, lonely, sexless, childless men. Instead of being held accountable or doing something about it they label us retards and claim it’s natural selection. https://quillette.com/2021/08/06/the-world-economic-forum-and-the-mis…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	13/09/21 06:45 PM
-2	Women focus on careers because a career is a good investment, a man generally isn't Yeah I mean she sees him like a pet. He deserves better.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/09/21 08:33 AM
2	What is it about happy couples on social media that trigger some in the manosphere? Jealousy. Men these days are not good enough for women. Some turn it inwards and become incels etc. Others turn it outwards and tear others down. I think most are flip flopping between extremes. It’s just a sad consequence of the male/female mating situation these days and difficult to fix.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/09/21 11:26 PM
0	Autism linked to Extremism? You are on purplepill so you are on your way, don’t worry in time you will get there!	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/09/21 09:04 AM
2	Autism linked to Extremism? Yeah from what I have learned from therapy the clinical word is “splitting”. It’s a thinking error that can have many causes. I’m suspecting that I am bit higher on autism spectrum than the norm but not high enough to warrant a diagnosis. But if I’m depressed or anxious or angry I easily start doing this right away. For me it’s trying to solve an emotional problem or state with thinking and logic that gets me there.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/09/21 09:02 AM
2	Griet Vandermassen wrote about the Plymouth shooting! I think as more women surpass men they will no longer call themselves feminists or claim to care about equality, as the whole thing was never about that. It’s just to gain wealth and power in one direction. Its just replacing an old elite with a new one. Those of us men who are their institutional and biological children of these women, who will never get to experience intimacy or have children, what are we supposed to do? Im so bitter about the fact I supported and voted for these people in the…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	03/09/21 12:05 AM
1	Griet Vandermassen wrote about the Plymouth shooting! It is, I have encountered it several times. It’s like pressing an off button basically.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	02/09/21 11:57 PM
1	Griet Vandermassen wrote about the Plymouth shooting! Well written!	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	02/09/21 11:56 PM
2	The name of the game is brutal, painful honesty on this prompt folks. Male Mens reluctance to help other men out and just think of themselves. If we care about men it’s for as long as we are suffering from it ourselves.Taking on a childish victim persona to avoid adult responsibilities. Not maintaining relationships. Being generally out of shape/ugly but still expecting a beautiful womans attention. Wolf whistling and groping. Exploiting service workers dutiful niceness to rub their egos. Sexual abuse and violence	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/09/21 04:48 PM
7	The myth of incels and self-worth This Is my experience too when lifting these topics, What most incels have in common in my view is a struggle between being a good man vs. being a desirable man. Though feminist want men to be good in general, they want their husbands to be desirable. The gap between a good feminist boy and a desirable man is epic. For kids who are on the spectrum especially these templates of manhood are driving them insane. There are similar conflicts in Christian and Muslim communities.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	02/09/21 02:59 AM
18	The myth of incels and self-worth Yeap… touch deprivation, shame, loneliness, childlessness and not being part of the adult social fabric that involves sex is painful. it’s like living in a virtual isolation chamber in prison. It can drive anyone mad.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	02/09/21 01:40 AM
0	I hate that society thinks the “sexually inexperienced guy being awkward with women” gag is so funny. I think one of the solutions to sexlessness and childlessness among men is to look at sex as a healthy adult expression. A man who cannot achieve it should be treated with the goal of becoming healthy enough to be able to attain it. Not like right now when everyone considers it a form of human geneome purification.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	01/09/21 06:45 PM
5	What is the difference between r/mensrights and this sub? They use a lot of shame, guiltrips and other dirty manipulative methids to get men on board. Also I was raised on the idea that if I’m not a feminist I will never get married. Turns out the opposite is true and I’m now more of an incel living with a sex doll.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	01/09/21 06:42 PM
5	What is the difference between r/mensrights and this sub? There are these ideas out there that it’s the right that is radicalizing the young men but I would say it’s just as much the left and progressives. I think this sub is great for this who have grown allergic to certain parts of the progressive circles while still lean left.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	01/09/21 06:40 PM
1	Advice Mega-Thread Im a bit similar to you in age. I don’t have as serious health issues but similar difficulties with women. I bought a sexdoll, its great. Nice for cuddling but they are a bit heavy so watch out for the weight.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/08/21 10:50 AM
1	Advice Mega-Thread It’s not the only reason, but It’s one of those showstoppers.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/08/21 10:58 AM
1	How man hours a week do you spend on your appearance? I think it’s also pretty wild In Russia, i get the impression it’s like Brazil. Maybe it’s a social class thing though..wild = huge pressure on women to look good..	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/08/21 08:16 PM
1	Do you think that in order for a man to be successful with dating that he has to know more about women than even women know about themselves? It is quite wierd thing, you have to be a bit messed up to enjoy it. I don’t have many friends visiting me and I have sort of given up on dating. It’s mostly for cuddles which it’s great for. It has insets which makes it as “gross” as a fleshlight. It’s up to “your friend” really ☺️	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/08/21 06:07 PM
2	Advice Mega-Thread Those are fair points. Though I’m not way out on the autism spectrum I’m not entirely neurotypical either, I have an ADHD diagnosis. It’s a bit annoying to think about it, but my granddad was on the spectrum and was married for 40 years and had two kids. I’m not even remotely close to that. I guess things have changed since then with the female emancipation and all and the genetic garbage will be filtered out. It hurts to hear that there are faults in my personality though, as women around me ha…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/08/21 02:10 PM
4	Advice Mega-Thread I would not be able to lie to someone I cared enough to date unfortunately. Oh man I’m done :(	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/08/21 02:04 PM
3	Advice Mega-Thread Well.. obviously I have tried earlier but it did not go too well. I had orthodontics done now and that has increased the quality and quantity of matches.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/08/21 12:10 PM
3	Advice Mega-Thread I think I’m a bit socially inept as I keep giving it away. I get the point though.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/08/21 12:08 PM
10	Advice Mega-Thread I’m a late 30s guy who for various reasons have struggled with dating, intimacy and romance. I think I look ok because I get matches with in my opinion attractive women who sometimes reach out to me on tinder. However, once my relationship history becomes evident they stop talking to me. My experience is 3 months of dating a woman (we were intimate) when I was 25 and a one night stand a few years back. What can I realistically expect at this stage in life from a relationship? It seems most women…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/08/21 11:24 AM
1	Do you think that in order for a man to be successful with dating that he has to know more about women than even women know about themselves? I’m 6’1 and I live with a sexdoll.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/08/21 09:24 PM
1	Do any of you not like the impact that modern feminism has had on dating, relationships and gender dynamics? Why or why not? Edit: Oups I’m a man, missed the flair. Please ignore. I had a feminist upbringing with lots of sexual shaming and such. I’m not in the mood for a rant but basically it made me super insecure around women and my own sexuality. Trying to seek help for it has also been a struggle because my therapists have all been leaning feminist too, so they have that women first mindset. For my sisters who had a similar upbringing it was a path to empowerment while for me it was always about being less (speak …	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/08/21 09:11 PM
9	Will there a watershed moment where men are able to call out their abusers?? I think it will become part of the dialogue around this topic at some point but it won’t have the same wildfire viral spread like the original metoo.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	24/08/21 09:06 PM
2	Teachers in England encouraged to tackle ‘incel’ movement in the classroom I read some other comments You wrote about the incident in UK. I think you are really spot on in your analysis. The current political frame is very rigid and I don’t know what could make it shift. But anyhow thanks for standing up for those who cant defend themselves and also for pushing for things that would actually prevent future incidents.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	22/08/21 12:22 AM
11	Teachers in England encouraged to tackle ‘incel’ movement in the classroom You have an excellent understanding of this topic, in my opinion. Thanks for writing it down.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	21/08/21 11:35 PM
34	Teachers in England encouraged to tackle ‘incel’ movement in the classroom There was some research done on the incel communities that found some 70% self reported being on the spectrum.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	21/08/21 07:05 PM
3	Honestly looking for groups to donate to really showed me how little society and the government cares for men https://ukmensday.org.uk/supporters/ https://menssheds.org.uk/ https://mensshed.org/international-mens-sheds/ see list on page footer im on iPad, so difficult to edit :) For some reason it’s only British content?	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	21/08/21 08:41 AM
2	Fuck Incel Ideology. Here are some steps we can take to combat it. Formatting got wrecked during copy paste	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	15/08/21 06:14 PM
4	Offensive Behaviors and The Spectrum of Masculinity Incel communities have a lot of guys on the autism spectrum in them. If you are on the spectrum you would take things women say very literally, which will result in ending up as a “green zone” guy.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	15/08/21 03:27 PM
1	Here's a calculator for women to find how many men fit their criteria, and the results are not good Yee I’m in the 1.4%!	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/08/21 08:31 PM
–	Study: Misogynists Believe They Are Unattractive to Women I have been doing therapy on and off since I was 20 with different therapists and its mostly just to sooth the pain. The quality of therapists and the knowledge they have about dating problems in general for men is very low. Most seem to be a bit older and settled in their relationships and can’t relate really. I got lucky and found a good one in my 30s but that which probably saved my life. I would be a bit careful with labeling us a suffering from toxic masculinity because out of the four I th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/08/21 07:31 AM
4	Study: Misogynists Believe They Are Unattractive to Women I think there are four strains of damaged men that get lumped together: First group is men on autism spectrum. They socialize by rules and patterns and learn them from their main caretaker who is their mom. Mom has no need of son being attractive so guy never learns more than “just be nice”. When reality does not follow script they get frustrated plus a lifetime of social rejection says hello. Reaction happens. Some 40-70% of incels are estimated to be on the spectrum. I would add ADHD here also…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/21 05:40 PM
2	Women don’t react to static images of men the way men react to static images of women. This plays a role in why OLD sucks for many men. This is an amazing guide, thanks!	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/07/21 09:13 PM
1	Will we start to see a rise in frustrated WOMEN, confused as to why their beta sons never managed to have families? I'm one of these Billy Beta and the answer in my case is that she does not care. Actually in her world it was great that I lived with her until I was 30 because then she could live with "both of her men". I'm not going to get married or find a girlfriend. Women don't like virgin 35-year-olds and also I have some other issues. Being a doormat is one of them for sure. I did buy a sex doll some time ago which I think is great for men like us. I think they will increase in popularity over time as mo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/07/21 08:42 PM
1	What women want This is very well described in a book called "No more Mr. Niceguy". Its really worth a read for any man who struggle with this. I think JP has also mentioned this dynamic in some of his talks.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/07/21 07:30 PM
2	What women want Thank you! Doing this is a surprisingly difficult to do.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/07/21 07:28 PM
12	I always keep this saved and ready to copy/paste whenever I encounter a No True Scotsman fallacy with feminism. The decentralized nature of the movement makes it too easy to brush off abusive behaviour as "those are not true feminists like me". It also makes it easy to brush off negative effects of feminism (like increasing childlessness among men who cant compete any more) as "that's not what feminism is about". Hearing this argument to any negatives of the movement time and time again feels like a form of gas lighting. Also, there was a time when the movement was a form of book circles in some basement.…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	27/07/21 09:12 AM
19	What is your opinion on r/mensrights ? There is a fine balance between creating a self-reinforcing crab bucket and a place to vent. I have not hung out there too much but I vote for "neutral" as its good to vent and not boil over.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	26/07/21 12:38 PM
6	How has feminist shaming/normalized misandry harmed you? I'm sorry to hear that, sounds like a nightmare.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	25/07/21 04:44 PM
13	How has feminist shaming/normalized misandry harmed you? Thanks for being understanding :) I think the world is changing so fast that institutions and policies are having a difficult time keeping up with the times. It usually takes a certain amount of misery for things to get moving but I hope we are getting there. As for the shattering of worldviews.. yeah. Its been very difficult and still is. There are quite well established structured for people who are leaving christian and other religious communities. For the right wing there is also some progra…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	25/07/21 03:00 PM
27	How has feminist shaming/normalized misandry harmed you? I think in three areas: social status, financially and sexually. Growing up with the man bashing and put downs I learned that in this journey that we are on together the role of women is to be ambitious and take up more space while for men it is to shut up and take up less space. Mens sexuality is harmful and dangerous and needs to be contained. We all need to work together to achieve equality. A good man that is working against the patriarchy is thus a man that does not pursue money, social sta…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	25/07/21 12:45 PM
3	What is Your Guiding Philosophy on Men's Rights? Humanism. I'm a bit burned on all the equality terms. Whenever people talk about equilibrium and balance they usually mean that their wallets or lives should have more "equilibrium". A bit like the famous "Americans and freedom oil" joke. An anecdote to illustrate: In a prestigious architectural program there were a 80:20 women to men ratio among the students. Only a few decades back it was the other way around so lots of effort was taken to increase the ratio of women. Now that the tables had t…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	25/07/21 12:27 PM
2	How hard is it for you to remain left-leaning? Unrelated anecdote: I have had beer with a group nazis and a group of antifa. Not at the same time though, that would not work. Both crowds creeped me out. The first one because my childhood neighbour fell down that road and the other because I had a friend who hang out in those circles. This was about 10 years ago but it left a mark as it really felt like the mood was somehow very similar. Not sure why it felt like that. Those experiences have helped me steer of any extremes.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	24/07/21 06:41 PM
2	How hard is it for you to remain left-leaning? I'm not sure if I'm left leaning, but my automatic thoughts are. Sounds strange? I'm confused too. I was raised in a left leaning household in a left leaning country in northern Europe. My mother was not so nice and throughout my life I have been sort of a doormat and avoided conflict by just accepting everything. Sometimes voluntarily and sometimes not to be ostracised. The outcome of this is that I'm not really sure how much of my values are the result of guilt trips, fear and manipulation and…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	24/07/21 05:14 PM
5	Similarities between religous cultism and wokeness Thanks :)	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	24/07/21 10:30 AM
4	Similarities between religous cultism and wokeness Thanks! Really great article.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	24/07/21 10:25 AM
0	What will be the effects of the present dating market 10 years from now? I think about my own journey: middle class guy with feminist mom, super insecure about dating and intimacy, "bluepilled" and still basically virgin at mid thirties, now lives with sex doll and hates all the lies and b.s. I was fed. Votes for fascists to boot out feminists from public office. So if I multiply this with how many single men there are who are on the same track as women become more powerful and guys fall behind the curve in income and social status, it does not look great if you care…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/07/21 09:50 PM
1	What happens to a man who has not has a relationship/sex by age 30. I find it interesting that you would rather stick to your beliefs, than discard them for something that would probably get you much more sexual success. Your choice of course but the whole approach is quite perplexing to me. I have a similar situation, but being in my mid 30s. I had a very feministic upbringing with lots of shaming and resentment around masculinity and mens sexuality which made it difficult to approach women. Even though I know now that most of it is bs and that the world does n…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/07/21 07:30 PM
1	A new study found that male-friendly therapists reject ideological beliefs about the patriarchy, and that such beliefs are harmful to male mental health patients The most feminist therapists I have encountered have been male for some reason. I think they have to overcompensate for their masculinity.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	03/07/21 08:25 PM
1	Do you feel like men/boys are forced to protect women/girls? Not so much protecting women and girls, more to be harmless to them. Like always surrender and give up, which is very dysfunctional because women can be violent bullies too. If you cant defend your self against that they will eat you alive.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	03/07/21 08:16 PM
159	Why aren't men more afraid? I think most men are afraid but we are drilled not to show it. I think the silence you see after things like #metoo and "why men dont speak up" is one way to react to it. We know for a fact we have been exposed to all these things ourselves to some degree so it feels a bit silly to "admit" to being the perpetrators. As an example, statistically mothers perpetrate more child abuse than men (which makes sense since they do more of child caring). Most of the victims of this are boys. Its silly then…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	03/07/21 09:16 AM
1	An excellent comment exploring the problems men often have with feminists I agree with all of this, it puts my thoughts and feeling into words perfectly.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	22/05/21 07:29 PM
1	The biggest reason people have dating issues is because they don't know these 2 major things: What they want, What they're worth. The looks standards might go lower but the income/social status standards goes up.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/05/21 07:08 PM
1	The biggest reason people have dating issues is because they don't know these 2 major things: What they want, What they're worth. I don't think people will accept less successful partners, these people will rather live alone, or "reuse" a divorced dad.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/05/21 07:06 PM
1	Are there any tv shows that talk about men's issues? Never seen any. There is a lot of content where they cover how men should be more safer and and more useful to women.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	14/05/21 10:28 AM
9	I came across this old comment talking about the feminist movement, patriarchy theory, and how reaching back to dictionary definitions is disingenuous at best. I have made the same observation. Many times I feel like women are trying to create what they hate the most (a patriarchy for women). I mean at least in the Nordics the feminist ideologies are hugely influential in public policy making. Until I was 30 all the authority figures in my life were women (managers, teachers, doctors, nurses, mother, sisters, friends) and they all talk about how they are oppressed patriarchy. Very frustrating and depressing environment to grow up in to say the least.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	14/05/21 10:22 AM
1	Are relationships business transactions? I would say marriage is to some degree. You have to bring substance to the table if you want to make it work with kids etc. Thats just a reality. Then if those resources come in the form of money or time does not matter. Dating, FWB, boyfriends/girlfriends... not so much. I think that should be more loose.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/05/21 09:36 AM
2	Most women want something serious once they are above 30 while men want nothing serious when above 30. Why? I think the sweet spot is somewhere around 28-32 right now, at least for educated people. Thats when these people have built some some starter-nest and its not just "possible prospects" that you evaluate other people for but actual results. Before this women have the clear upper hand with their youth-card. After this it tends to be more men, at least men who have accumulated resources. Ugly women are left out everywhere and the same with men without resources. I dont believe this peak attractive…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/05/21 09:18 AM
1	Is the manosphere inflating young men’s future capabilities? I think the old models for what it took to be a good enough man has crumbled and now we as a society have no idea. Women have had their movement that sort of redefines and gives more paths. The same cannot be said for men. I think the "manosphere" is a good start. There are a lot of snakeoil salesman who try to lure people into buying flavoured tapwater. But I think its great that there is a process in place. These kind of changes are very messy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/05/21 09:13 AM
5	Why Don't Men Give A Damn? An appalling thing I've noticed is that when society does deign to care about men's mental health, it does so from a clearly biased and selfish viewpoint. What I mean is that when there is a disaster (mass-shooting, incel-based terrorist attack) suddenly male mental health in the hot topic on everyone's lips. But it's never about keeping men from slipping over the edge of despair so that we can live our best lives, it's about keeping us from hurting women. I have seen this too. Usually in news p…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	09/05/21 08:56 AM
14	Why Don't Men Give A Damn? I wouldn't quite use the term "crabs in the bucket" to describe how men interact, but one serious issue that relates to my beginning point about a lack of gender-unity, is that men tend to individualize their problems and complaints and not in a good way. If another man is having a problem, then it's his fault that he got screwed over. He wasn't strong enough, he wasn't fast enough, he wasn't smart enough...you get the picture. It inhibits sympathy for other men and again retards the ability to …	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	08/05/21 09:03 PM
3	[Q4Women]How often do you think the average guy gets hints/hit on? I don't get hit on really but when something happens it tends to be dramatic. Like the woman in the office who started making out with me all of a sudden or the dorm neighbour who one day declared her love to me. There was also the occasion with a colleague who I think was into me and asked her to come to her place to pet her cat. My colleagues joked about it but I'm not sure she was into me. Finally there was this other colleague. Our managers tried to pair us up. It was really weird as the man…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/05/21 10:31 PM
6	Financial stability is about to become the biggest obstacle in an already chaotic dating market, particularly for young adults. Hm you are in a tough spot. I check this US income distribution calculator by age (I'm European) and you are in the top 2%. That's great for your financial stability but finding someone in that range who is also cute and nice is going to be difficult, if you have that as a constraint. Now that I think about it, I remember this janitor I worked with when i was younger. He was married to some sort of manager and he always talked very lovingly about her. He was just about to retire so he was part o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/05/21 10:21 PM
3	The real problem: The internet took a sledgehammer to the dating hierarchy. I have thought a lot about the second point. I think its not talked about enough in these kinds of forums and has a much higher impact than we think. One thing you did not mention was how the idea of the "good man" vs "a desirable man" has changed. Before they were basically the same, but now as women have an ability to choose its no longer enough to be a "good man". With desirable I mean someone who is physically attractive and also mentally stable etc. In a western liberal context this is sens…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/05/21 03:19 PM
6	What do men mean when they say they want sympathy for their dating issues? There are two conflicting messages beamed towards young men. The first is the feminist request where they want men to behave in a way which is "safe" for women. You swap feminism with religion if that is more applicable to your part of the world. Things like greed (money focus), sexual behaviour (hitting on women etc.) and muscular/violent capacity is looked on as dangerous. To be a "good man" in these environments means to be safe, which translates to being a nice doormat. Usually its actually …	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/04/21 02:11 AM
7	What do men mean when they say they want sympathy for their dating issues? Personally, I’m a 30-year old Aspie KHHV with no friends or prior relationships. I was a special needs student who had a personal aide and accommodations who was stuck from K-12 with being perceived as a “retard” (despite the fact that I was an honor roll student who actually managed to get to AP level in history (which even that itself was a fight to get to). As such, I was ostracized and a frequent target for bullying, especially when my aide was no longer present (i.e. - recess, after school,…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/04/21 02:02 AM
3	Sex dolls I got one of these, I think its great. AMA! EDIT: I can answer your questions: Q: What do you guys and women think about sex dolls...with the way thinks are going in society will they blow up like a lil baby song in 2020?? A: No I dont, but I whish more guys would get them (they are generally too heavy for women). Q_ Will they become the norm someday and become very popular among men?? A: Not very popular, but I hope more middle aged men get them. Q: Do women feel threatened(probably not but I s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/21 08:21 AM
3	Do men have pressure to have kids in their 30s or just women? My experience is the opposite. People around me tell me men have plenty of time to have kids and almost encourage me to wait. "Men have so much time to get kids, you can wait. Its fine that you don't have a girlfriend or wife. You don't need that to be happy." I wish I would have more pressure to couple up when I was younger. Though in theory I could have a child with someone younger, its not like the younger women are attracted to me now that I'm older myself. The women my age have usually had …	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/01/21 10:58 AM
6	Are boys asking their MOMS how to get pussy?! For me its been two things: dominating mom, traumatized mom and feministic mom. My mom has some power and control issues and her way of feeling safe was to use violence, control and manipulation rather than love and kindness. She was also jelaous about the only girl I ever brought home. She went through some traumatizing relationships before she met my dad. My best guess is it involved some sexual abuse because she really lost her shit (screaming, throwing things) when I entered puberty. Feminis…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/01/21 04:10 PM
1	Are late bloomers basically screwed? Its the other way around. The single childless moms prefers the men with previous children, high income and education over the childless men with less income and social status. Its a bet for them in either way so they pick the one with higher possible outcome. The men after a while move on as there is an endless queue of women willing to have kids with them. If I remember it correctly the explanation was that more work these days is project based and that welfare is so good (Norway) that men wit…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/01/21 07:58 AM
1	Are late bloomers basically screwed? I think in Norway the women are "re-using" wealthy men for children rather than marrying/having kids with lower status men resulting in about a quarter of men never becoming fathers. https://sciencenorway.no/childlessness-fathers-forskningno/a-quarter-of-norwegian-men-never-father-children/1401047 So if those numbers are to be trusted, women tend to prefer wealth and status over no-children or previous commitments. But it probably varies from women to women also.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/01/21 10:08 AM
1	Are late bloomers basically screwed? I realized that in my early 20s, that life doesn't just happen. You've got to put in work and execute. If I didn't make those changes then, I realized I'd continue into the same spiral perpetually from 20 to 25 and 25 to 35. I'm approaching the 40 year mark. At 36 I gave up on intimacy and finding someone and bought a sex doll. I think you are right about accepting what you have and making that choice. Choosing to remain single can be a little bit more empowering and has more dignity to it than …	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/01/21 09:59 AM
1	Are late bloomers basically screwed? In addition to those negative views people have of you, that you listed, you would have to add the reasons why you ended up in that place in the first place. Things like trauma, attachment issues, trust issues, issues with intimacy and poverty. Those things don't get any easier to fix as we grow older, only harder. Even if an opportunity shows up with someone who would be accepting of your limited experience, its not certain you would be able to go with them anyways.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/01/21 09:57 AM