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Your post essentially boils down to: Women often speak about their opinions like they're absolutes but seek to add nuance when they feel someone fundamentally misunderstands something. Which is just normal human behaviour. Do you add caveats to all the things you say? I know you don't because I can point to a place where you haven't in this very post. How come the "two different women" crowd only ever bring up this argument whenever men are talking about not wanting to approach woman due to not …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 12:46 AM
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Is this not the same points that insecure men make about women? Is that the point of the post? To show the double standard?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 12:14 AM
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This still proves that your experience is only anecdotal because myself and my guy friends would kick out a guy friend who cheated too. I mean depending on how he presented it to us. It'd either be Immediate kick out and tell his partner or "Hey man, you gotta tell your partner or we will for both of your good."
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 11:23 PM
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My argument is the next line, I don't think he would. That's my only argument because I'm giving an opinion on something that is inherently untestable.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 10:45 PM
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If you truly believe that a well adjusted unattractive man would settle for a sex robot/AI girlfriend then I don't know what to tell you. I don't think he would.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 10:35 PM
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Nobody is settling for a sex robot/AI girlfriend only because they're unattractive. There's something more going on there.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 10:28 PM
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The type of man who would settle for an AI girlfriend or a sex robot was never going to be a good partner. It's essentially the trash taking itself out.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 10:17 PM
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Interesting assertion, what percentage of women downloaded the tea app? How actually representative is this sample?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 09:38 PM
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If this is truly your view of the world, I feel bad for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 05:07 AM
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Constant vigilance is the mindset of an anxious man. I'm not constantly sizing guys up because I'm not constantly insecure about my own capability.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 04:54 AM
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I don't think anyone has a problem with childless men not dating single mothers. The problem is when you speak about them with contempt and like they are unworthy of finding love. I don't date single mothers, never been an issue for me because I'm not an asshole about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 01:55 AM
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I do think it is somewhat exaggerated. You can learn and advocate for what you want if you really like someone. I think that it exists in some ways, libido, willingness to do certain acts, etc. Unless there is a major imbalance then breaking something off over "sexual compatibility" (without first attempting to solve it) just means you aren't really that into the person.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 01:07 AM
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A big part of this post hinges on dating apps being a fair indicator, which we already know to be a poor method of vetting and doesn't account for many factors that can make a person far more attractive in person. Bad pictures, unknowingly 'red flag' looking bios, too much information given, not enough information given, etc. They give information that someone might decide is disqualifying when all they have is 6 photos, a few sentences and like height, job title and whether they drink or smoke …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 12:57 AM
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I think a better way to phrase it would be "sex is intimate for some people". It's an incredibly vulnerable activity and while some may be able to be that vulnerable just for the fun, others experience it as extremely intimate. The fact that I can tell a random stranger my deepest fear doesn't change the intimacy that action holds for other people. In the same way someone else's ability to have sex with a stranger doesn't negate the intimacy of having sex for myself and others who feel it to be …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 12:08 AM
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The other thing is even if there were data to say bi men cheat X% more, statistics can't be applied to individuals in that way. So while as a group it might be X% more, that doesn't mean that any given individual is X% more likely. So there is no data to support that bi men cheat more, but even if there was it's a weak argument to not date bi men.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 03:41 AM
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Yeah, I suppose though I don't really know what a hall monitor does. I assume monitor halls.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 05:38 AM
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Protect you? May I ask in what way? Like an older sibling protects a younger sibling is the way it was described to me. I've gotten a lot of, "you're too pure for this world" and "I want to protect you from the world". My friends who are women also insist on vetting people for me because they think I'd be a prime target for a manipulator. Are these women older? Not significantly. I tend to like women who are a little older than me. I've heard it from women my age and women up to five years older…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 05:36 AM
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The difference is that for trad folks it's "this is what you should be" and for non-trad folks it's "this is what you shouldn't be". One is a hallway that you can only travel in one direction and the other is an open field with a fenced off area that says "don't go beyond this point".
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 05:00 AM
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I'm reserved and risk averse. So I simply don't approach or initiate enough. I've also had women tell me I give energy that makes them want to protect me rather than date me, so I imagine that plays a factor too.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 01:53 AM
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You're still not directly interacting with what I'm asking. Is a woman being attracted to a passing trans woman without bottom surgery straight? And vice versa for men. I just think that breaking sexuality down to genitals does a disservice to the actual descriptive power of sexuality. If a man only dates women, whether trans or cis, what purpose is there to call him anything but straight? If sexuality could be broken down by genitals then surely a straight woman could theoretically only ever da…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 05:49 AM
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I feel like you haven't interacted with the heart of my reply though. Would a woman who is attracted to a passing trans woman who has a penis be straight? Would a man who is attracted to a passing trans man with a vagina be straight? I don't think you can honestly answer that with a yes to either of those.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 03:38 AM
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I think this is a very simplistic view of sexuality because I wouldn't call a woman who is attracted to Hunter Schafer straight (assuming Hunter hadn't had bottom surgery, idk her actual status and it's none of my business). I wouldn't call a man attracted to Jordan Gonzalez straight (again assuming Jordan hadn't had bottom surgery, idk). So clearly there is at least some factor that secondary/tertiary sex and gender characteristics play in determining sexuality. I think that genitals can be a d…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 02:02 AM
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In the scenarios that you described I fail to really see people as attractive or unattractive. I just see a group. When it comes to actually interacting with people and taking in their features I probably find 70-80% of women attractive enough to date. As I get to know people I tend to find them more attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 04:17 AM
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When someone’s entire transition story starts with “I started experimenting with feminization porn and realized I’m a girl,” that’s not gender dysphoria. I see no reason to believe that this is the case for any significant number of people. No evidence points to it and anecdotally I've literally never heard someone say that. Also if they were already feeling dysphoric then fetishising it could be a way to protect themselves from the bad feelings, idk just a thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 06:30 AM
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I guess I'll be a dissenting voice, I would not like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 06:03 AM
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To be fair top only fans earners don't actually tell you what men want. It tells you who has the most men willing to be separated from their money attracted to them. Also people generally search for more extremes in porn than what they actually want. To be clear, I do think that men overstate their distaste for cosmetic surgery. For the most part they simply don't want obviously botched cosmetic surgery. I just don't think your example was a good one for proving what you were saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 03:05 AM
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In theory sex work is fine, in practice I can't think of a way for it to exist that does not lead to some form of exploitation of either the creators or consumers. That's why it's a very shaky subject for me. I can't seem to come to a concrete position on it because there is always a variable that feels wrong or unaligned with my values.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 10:51 PM
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I don't have one. Am I supposed to have one? Idk the only thing that's like a hard and fast rule is that our values and goals align.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 10:44 PM
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It's also just the taboo. The more 'acceptable' pornography becomes the less taboo, and therefore some of the 'magic' is gone. People seek more extreme stimuli to gain that edge of taboo. Most people don't want something as extreme irl as what they watch.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 12:21 AM
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There is definitely a group of men that are confused. Whether it's large or just very vocal is harder to discern.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 12:13 AM
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Nope. Are you initiating with women?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 12:20 AM
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Work on the things you can control, don't worry about the things you can't. It will be more difficult than it is for taller men, but at the end of the day focussing on that fact isn't helpful.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 12:16 AM
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I'm struggling to tell if you're being sincere about this being well adjusted.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 01:33 AM
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Yeah, probably. That is showing love, she knows she won't remember but she wants me to be happy so she goes out of her way to tell me.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 12:28 AM
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Because your dirty clothes are in the hamper and she's cleaning. Why not? Maybe it's the autism but I would hate someone else doing my laundry. She has said that though Even if she has in the past, I do think it's something I'd want to be hearing with relative frequency. Like maybe I'd be fine not hearing it everyday but a few times a week at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 11:47 PM
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Sex is the primary benefit in friends with benefits. Why would she do my laundry? We would both cook. I take care of sick friends all the time. Marriage assumes that the relationship is going well, which it wouldn't be if she never told me she loved me. Like I said, romantically reserved is fine (I'm also romantically reserved, though I have had to learn to do more romantic things). But outright no 'I love you' would be a relationship killer.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 11:33 PM
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The only things you listed that are things I would be upset by are not saying 'I love you' and no pet names. Those, to me, are necessary to define that this is a relationship and not just a friends with benefits situation. So I guess my answer would be, I'm okay with romantically reserved women but not women who aren't romantic.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 09:47 PM
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Being nice is the descriptor used when you have no other notable descriptors. I.e. the guy who is funny and nice is a funny guy, the guy who is strong and nice is a strong guy. If the only descriptor people have for you is 'nice' then it means you don't have anything worth noting about you.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 02:14 AM
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You're halfway there. She can make any decision she wants. She can also ask her partner to essentially adopt that lifestyle too. If they are entering a relationship with the goal of marriage and she has set a limit of no sex until marriage she is well within her rights to expect him not to have sex with other women. If that is a deal breaker for him then that's a deal breaker and he should break up with her. To simplify my point, yes you can expect those things but if he doesn't want to do them …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 05:12 AM
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Jaded =/= realistic. You can be realistic without being jaded and most jaded people aren't realistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 10:20 PM
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They're different women. I swear like half of the posts here that are, "X say this but then they also say that" is very simply explained as these are different people with different opinions. Shocking, I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 11:02 AM
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If he drives like a dumb asshole, he is a dumb asshole. His behaviour while operating a vehicle that could kill people is indicative of his truest nature.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 09:59 PM
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I have no clue what you're yapping about. Congratulations or I'm sorry that happened to you, whichever is relevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 02:30 PM
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You've just described a bad friendship nothing specific to women. My experience of friendships with women has been mutual support and platonic love. The friendships I have with men and women look extremely similar, the only difference is that I've had friends who are women set me up on dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 11:43 PM
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Do you not play online games and not go to nerdy spaces? It's very easy to find women who game.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 11:39 PM
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Sexually aroused? It's so infrequent that I can think of the last time it happened specifically. It was before I had ever had sex, I hadn't masturbated in over a week and I was at a festival where there were women wearing almost nothing and dancing provocatively like three feet in front of me. In day to day life it pretty much doesn't happen. The most is that I see a girl and think to myself, "Prettyyyyy!!" But realistically I don't have sexual thoughts running through my head unless I'm pent up…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 10:53 PM
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I don't think we're ever getting to a point where AI girlfriends are common. It's like sex dolls. They're getting realistic but it's not really popular. They have a niche who doesn't care that it's lifeless and they need to wash it out afterwards. In the same way I think AI girlfriends have and will continue to have a niche that doesn't care about the aspects that make it clear this isn't real connection with a human.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 04:48 AM
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It's definitely more recoverable and better intentioned but at the end of the day leaving your partner in the dark only hurts a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 02:36 AM
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It depends, sometimes they're just pieces of shit. Sometimes they don't feel worthy of marrying her yet. The former is pretty easy to understand I think, so I'll explain the latter more. I have met men who aren't happy with their finances or in one case his emotional intelligence, and they delay marriage because they want to be the man that their partner deserves when they get married. It's stupid, self destructive and actively harms the relationship, but that's not what he's trying to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 01:59 AM
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There is no way to open the possibility of the death penalty that doesn't hold the risk of an innocent person being given it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/25 10:56 PM
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Punishments are not one offs. Giving the ability to decide to kill someone to the legal system means that there is the potential for an innocent person to be put to death. Therefore the death penalty shouldn't be an option.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/25 10:09 PM
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I'm personally against the death penalty because even if it's exceedingly rare, the potential that even one innocent person could be killed because of a flaw or mistake of the legal system is so unconscionable that I'd rather no one be put to death.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/25 01:35 PM
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God am I glad not to be in the US as an autistic person.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 11:12 PM
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You have a partner who you now need to run many of your most important life decisions by. That means that you will often need to compromise or stall on things you want. There is still a level of personal autonomy but if you want a happy marriage you will include your partner in your decisions.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 11:10 PM
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This is a lot of words to say you can't conceive of people thinking differently to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 05:30 AM
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The orgasm gap is caused by a complex weave of factors and I don't think it's possible to truly know the primary reason. Each instance will be somewhat different and have different solutions. The only universal is that if you have a partner and you care about the relationship but you're not orgasming during sex you should talk to them honestly about it. And for the love of god never fake it in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 11:50 PM
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Nah I have a tiny little crusty dog, but I would get a Pitbull without hesitation if I had the room.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 10:31 PM
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That's fair enough. I do try to push my fingers into my eardrums every time I hear him featured on a track .
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 10:06 PM
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Dog attacks in general aren't an epidemic. There's like 18 million pitbulls in the US and there's been a couple of hundred fatal attacks. You do the maths. The most common cause of aggressive dogs is irresponsible owners.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 10:05 PM
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Pit bull apologist? Like pit bulls are a fucking terrorist group. Crazy work on that one.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 09:28 PM
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Off the top of my head: 1) women are individuals and different women want different things and thus give different advice. 2) specific advice being viewed as general advice. 3) changing standards throughout the years causing advice to become outdated but still circulated.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 11:28 PM
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I've got sleep apnoea so I'd understand it fully. I can't imagine it's pleasant sleeping next to my Darth Vader breathing ass.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 06:54 AM
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I can agree with that. Though I'm usually more descriptive when it comes to people like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 03:02 AM
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I think the main reason people struggle to get over feelings for a friend is that they hold onto it too long. I think if you notice you're developing a crush you should talk about it early. Don't wait months. I have done this with multiple friends. It's a lot easier to move on and stay friends when you've only had a crush for a week or a few weeks and then talked it over.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 09:50 PM
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Some people need this advice, some people need the advice that it's okay for a partner to not be perfect. It all depends on what they naturally do. I know many people (men and women) who have taken on partners that needed to be dragged to decency because they saw potential in them. I've also seen people who refuse anyone that shows imperfections. The former needs this advice. The latter needs to be told that it's okay to have a partner that needs to work on some things.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 09:21 PM
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1) If I'm the only one initiating conversations (over the course of a week I'd expect them to start the conversation at least once). I've only had this be the case once and I ended up not initiating a conversation and never heard from them again. 2) If they frequently (~4 times within a two week span) stop texting in the middle of conversations with no explanation. I understand people are busy but you can at least shoot me a text and say, "Sorry, something's come up. I'll text you later to pick …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 01:53 AM
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This is best described as a screed.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 11:19 PM
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I think it is absolutely possible to be confident, kind, respectful and honest. I know many people like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 08:58 AM
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Also, what makes you think that he's an asshole? Is he actually an asshole or is he more confident than you and makes you feel insecure? Is he actually an asshole or does he reflect your energy back at you? This is something I had to learn, I could be very negative towards people when I first met them and that meant that I thought a lot of people were assholes because they were reflecting that back to me. Preconceived notions of what certain types of people (like athletic jock types) were like m…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 02:49 AM
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I feel like that's a pretty likely outcome of actual cases so I'd probably believe her, especially if the rest of what I know about her lines up with her being a good person. I'd probably date her if we were compatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 12:41 AM
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Such a succinct explanation of what I think every time I see a tiktok link on this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 11:14 PM
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Sometimes there are topics of discussion on this sub that I just have to go, "I'm too autistic for this."
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 02:43 AM
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It's crazy how the gender war has been nigh for decades at this point. But that was its plan! To lure us into a false sense of security so that the gender war may take us all by surprise!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 11:38 PM
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Yeah, that makes more sense if she's already tried talking to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 11:29 PM
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Yes. Unless they want you to.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 10:48 PM
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Yeah, it's definitely a creepy thing to do. It probably does come from a place of misogyny.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 10:44 PM
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That seems a bit extreme. Surely she could just tell him she's not into morning sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 10:44 PM
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You could literally never verbalise a reason not to date bi men and just not date them and never be questioned. But the reasoning you give is just straight up biphobia. You don't HAVE to do anything about that. You can date whoever you want for whatever reason you want. But your reasoning is biphobic. You're making assumptions about bisexual men based on their orientation. Statistics don't work here either because individuals are not just vessels for statistics. So you can point to any numbers y…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 09:40 PM
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The post specifies that her English isn't good.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 08:49 PM
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Good job bragging about being a wanker. ETA: to be clear the comment above was from a dude bragging about making no effort to pleasure women he sleeps with, being a quick shot and never going down on women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 09:16 AM
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I'm not planning on going overseas to find a wife. But yes, if someone wanted to learn a language it is easier than it's ever been.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 06:04 AM
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If I could speak their language then sure, if the connection is there. But the likelihood of me speaking their language is zilch, I only speak English and Auslan.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 04:14 AM
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Who said I expect her to learn mine? Weird leap to make from what I've said.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 02:53 AM
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I mean I'd share cooking and cleaning evenly. Sex is mutual. Loyalty is mutual. I'd hope attraction is mutual. This doesn't seem like an unreasonable list.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 02:10 AM
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If they're not fluent in English, how am I supposed to have enough of a connection to want to marry them?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 01:56 AM
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I can ride a bike with the proficiency of a child who just learned how.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 10:42 PM
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Epilepsy
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 10:39 PM
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Well I suppose it depends on what qualifies as out of the way to you. To me, unreachable by foot or public transport within like half an hour is out of the way, because I'm not able to drive.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 10:37 PM
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I guess my thinking on this is in two parts, don't allow the inadequacy of the current system to stop you from making the effort needed to become active in these spaces. By the same token, don't allow the existence of these spaces to stop you from seeing the inadequacy in their ease of availability. Essentially yes these spaces exist but they are out of the way. You should go out of your way to seek them out regardless, but they also should become easier to access.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 10:22 PM
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Yep. It's a revenge fantasy for the most part.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 12:23 AM
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I feel like this sub should have a rule against fetish posting.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 10:17 AM
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Nothing. Maybe get her some flowers if our next date is before her birthday. Why would I give a gift to a woman I just met?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 06:42 AM
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I found an example where a woman was having doubts because a man was noticeably small after having spent most of her life not noticing. This shows that all women definitely care about penis size 100%.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 04:30 AM
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Much more succinct and better worded than I could have put it myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 12:51 AM
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Crazy how I literally described poorly designed studies and your immediate reaction was that it's anti-science. No it's the most pro-science thing you can do. Evaluate the design of a study and consider its potential flaws. A small sample size cannot be considered representative. Observing behaviours doesn't tell you the reasons for the behaviours.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 12:09 AM
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It's a gotcha. They think they can show a woman to be a hypocrite by using their "studies" that all amount to either a survey of a small population or observations of behaviour interpreted by a male.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 11:31 PM
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My assumption is that they see the bodies of men that have millions of followers and men in movies. They think that the abs are what women want most. Realistically though, while women do like abs, there is a point in leanness where you start to look less "full" which is what the guy pictured is at. What they fail to realise is that despite having a little more fat on his stomach he looks broader shouldered and more masculine in the before. You can also still see his abs a little. The fat on his …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 10:48 PM
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What the fuck does frame mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 11:48 PM
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Most people don't have strongly held opinions on pretty much any of this. They're just living. They might have thoughts but they aren't an opinion in that sense. They're thoughts that generally change with what is socially acceptable. Most people go with the flow, too busy trying to survive to actually form a strong opinion. So long as they don't run into some major difference in what they want vs what they get, they'll likely never form an opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 10:12 PM
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My cut off is if you would feel uncomfortable telling your partner what you spoke about/did then it's probably emotional cheating. That's not to say you need to tell your partner everything you do but you should feel comfortable sharing it if you have to. If you would dodge questions or lie about it to your partner, it's emotional cheating.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 01:25 AM
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Brother you sound schizo.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 10:30 PM
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Please provide a link or something because all I'm finding is faux outrage about characters not being as hot to dweebs who complain on YouTube.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 07:29 AM
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As someone who is very into gaming, this isn't something I've seen in like a decade. I don't know maybe you guys are seeing some things that I'm not, but this just feels like a very outdated topic.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 07:09 AM
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Not really.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 07:03 AM
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Have I been transported back to 2013? This hasn't been an argument since BuzzFeed was relevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 05:05 AM
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Stay at home wives, I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 09:36 PM
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This is a case of "a little bit of column A, a little bit of column B." Socialisation has caused a lot of men to believe they must be the higher paid 'breadwinner' in their relationships and this is often reinforced by at least a portion of women. So many men will see a financially successful woman and think they cannot add significantly to their lifestyle, causing them to preemptively write off the possibility of a relationship. At the same time many successful women who are willing to date men…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 09:33 PM
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I don't understand why you guys continue to torture yourselves by assuming dick size is measurably important. Most women do not care. The ones that do aren't going to lie to you about it 90% of the time. The most important thing in sex is that you can make her feel good. Women use having a small penis as an insult because it's an easy shot that hurts the feelings of most men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 07:34 AM
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I don't hate OnlyFans models but I do hate the system of incentives that cause them to invade all spaces with what I would call 'soft promotion' of their OnlyFans. That's not even to say they can't have communities outside of porn, like OnlyFans models who twitch stream are fine. OnlyFans models who use their twitch streams as a funnel to get men (and let's be honest a lot of teenage boys) onto their OnlyFans are annoying and problematic. It's being more and more normalised and I think that's ki…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 09:44 PM
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Cheating is worse in most circumstances. If I found out my partner used to lynch people? That'd be worse than them cheating. Finding out your partner is a murderer is definitely worse than finding out they cheated on you.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 01:34 AM
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Yeah, I'm autistic and even knowing it can be a euphemism, in the moment I'll always take it at face value and never think about the euphemism.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 10:23 PM
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The problem is I don't have any traditional vices. I'd have to be like, "No thank you I don't drink, I emotionally eat."
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 04:15 AM
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It kind of cuts both ways. I don't drink and often people will assume I'm judging them when I just say something like, "No thanks I don't drink."
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 05:37 PM
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Not really.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 04:30 AM
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You found me to be cringe, clearly you're looking for good boy points ☝️🤓
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 10:55 PM
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I don't think I specifically love anything about being a man. There are things I love about myself but they aren't tied to me being a man. Maybe I'm just lacking some amount of self reflection, but I don't think I place much value in anything specific to being a man. I suppose I agree with a lot of the other comments that say no periods is a positive. I mean the entire hormone cycle difference that comes along with that is also pretty good. Less fluctuations and daily cycle vs a 28 day cycle. I …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 10:53 PM
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Brother you can't define positives about yourself except by denigrating women, you should not respect yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 10:35 PM
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Well yes, if she hadn't moved away I would likely still be with her because we were in a happy relationship. But if she moved back I wouldn't get back together with her because I've mourned and moved on from that relationship. I'm pretty sure I'm over my ex, it's been more than a year at this point.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 05:10 AM
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As an autistic man I often forget that people ask questions that don't mean what they're literally asking. That's a failure on my part to remember that not everyone is as literal as me. My working theory is that she was trying to ask that, and that the reason she wanted to ask is because my language was too expressive and also literal when talking about my ex. I.e. instead of saying we broke up because she moved away I should say we broke up due to our lives moving in different directions or som…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 05:00 AM
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It's been a little over a year and I think I'm fully healed. I probably would still be with her if she hadn't left but I don't think we'd get back together if she came back because I've mourned and moved on from that relationship. A few other comments helped me see that my wording may have made it seem like I still held feelings for her and that it may be better to use less expressive and more neutral sounding language when discussing it with potential partners in the future. Thank you for the r…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 03:05 AM
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No. Mum's basement? Fine. It's rough out there, housing is a major expense. Messy living space is fine (not ideal but I also live in what I call 'organised chaos' so I'm probably messy to a lot of people) but dirty is not. I could date a woman who leaves clothes outside the hamper, has a pile of empty water bottles and has stuff all over her desk. Once we're getting into the old food laying around, unidentifiable smells territory I can't put up with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 02:40 AM
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Yeah, I didn't mean it like that but I can definitely see looking back how it may have come across that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 01:34 AM
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Thank you for the advice :)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 01:33 AM
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Yeah, I didn't mean it as wanting to see my ex, I just want to visit the country as it's got a lot of cool history. I mean I'm not even in contact with her anymore. But looking back I can definitely see how that part may have sounded like wanting to see my ex. I don't normally talk about exes in detail, I only answered questions that she asked.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 12:43 AM
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Thank you :)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 12:34 AM
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It's definitely possible that there's more to it than I'm aware of. My speaking could have definitely made it seem that way without my knowledge. I'm autistic so tone isn't my strong suit. The conversation was pretty much just that from my recollection maybe one or two more about where she went and why she went, we moved on to other stuff pretty quickly though. Although now that I think about it she did ask if I'd ever want to visit the country she moved to and I said absolutely so that could ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 12:18 AM
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Oh I see where I've skipped a section, my bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 12:11 AM
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Interesting. If you don't mind me asking, why would it make you feel insecure?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 12:08 AM
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I'll keep this in mind, thank you :)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 12:07 AM
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Thank you for this response, it helped me see the difference in my intent vs how it may have been perceived. For future reference what would be a better way to express that I still regard her highly without it seeming like I'm hung up on her?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 12:06 AM
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Why is that a weird thing to say? Genuine question, I'm autistic so a lot of the way I say things can come across as weird so I'd really like to know what makes it strange.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 12:04 AM
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It's really strange to me to obsess over something you can't control like your size. If you're worried about pleasing a woman, learn how to use your hands and mouth well. I promise very few women will be disappointed by a slightly below average penis on a guy that can make her orgasm. Are there some out there who may still be disappointed? Sure. That's called sexual incompatibility. You can move on to find a woman who will be more interested in your skill and not your anatomy. You might say, "Ho…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 10:21 PM
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I don't think that I've eradicated all elements of sexism in myself, I can very clearly see where I still hold onto some deep rooted beliefs that I know are sexist that I'm trying to deconstruct still. My argument might seem like it's saying "Well it hurts my feelings and I'm a good guy so you shouldn't." The reality is it doesn't really bother me, I'm autistic as fuck and don't notice. The women I'm around are very nice to me and I could give a shit if OP is misandrist. I'm not saying women bei…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 03:14 AM
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Here is the problem with this thinking. You are alienating guys who aren't participating in casual sexism too. So in turn you become the origin story for why they are casually sexist. And it's just a big cycle. Nothing gets solved and you don't actually feel any better.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 02:56 AM
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Methods are often criticised, you just don't see it because a level headed disagreement with inflammatory rhetoric will never get as many rage views as inflammatory rhetoric. You're falling into the trap of rage bait.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 01:16 AM
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I think it's stupid to base your opinion of any individual on your experience with individuals in the past. In some cases it's more understandable, like actual trauma. You're not traumatised though. You're just whiney.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 11:23 PM
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Nah, my boy you either didn't read the post or you just don't have the reading comprehension necessary for this discussion.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 01:54 PM
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The study chose a definition of most important, that definition isn't necessarily the objective definition of most important. Seriously, it's like people aren't engaging at all with the solitary point of this post, which is that "most important" is a subjective term.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 11:35 AM
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For both statements to be correct it means that the majority of men are terrible ppl with terrible personalities It doesn't as not all women struggle with dating, and not all men struggle with dating. This is specifically when talking about those struggling with dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 03:43 AM
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You're arguing things that I'm not arguing about. I'm not arguing which is worse. I am only arguing that the term "most important" is subjective.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 03:34 AM
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That doesn't answer me at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 03:17 AM
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In the bigger picture it doesn't matter if the date goes nowhere. The dude with a shitty personality has what it takes to get dates. But nothing more. Would your goal be completed if you were able to go on a bunch of first dates that went nowhere? It's also significant that she (the woman in your scenario) went on a date with someone with a shitty personality. It indicates that she placed more importance on his looks than his personality. Or that she was using the date as a way to get to know hi…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 03:12 AM
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Do you think the company views the most important aspects as what gets you the interview or the thing that gets you the job? My entire argument is that based on taking different perspectives the answer changes, but you're literally only taking the perspective of a man struggling to get dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 03:06 AM
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You're falling into the same trap that I think a lot of men do on this topic, you're viewing it only from a man's perspective. From the perspective of the woman who has options, personality is the more important aspect.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 03:00 AM
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Yeah, but from her perspective does it really matter that she goes on a date with a dude if he has a shitty personality and it goes nowhere? That's why I'm saying it's subjective. Depending on the position you take you're going to view different things as more important.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 02:56 AM
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So this is sort of just laying out justification for why you view it as the most important factor. It could just as easily be said that getting to a job interview means diddly squat if you never get the job.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 02:54 AM
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I didn't mean that it stops mattering. I think it's clear that more attractive people get away with more but I think it's also very much a case by case how much personality vs physical attractiveness is valued.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 02:41 AM
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Most important doesn't necessarily mean the first thing she notices about you though. It can just as easily be interpreted as the thing that makes her keep seeing you. Or the thing that makes her fall in love with you. It's a subjective metric that can be interpreted many ways with equal validity.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 02:32 AM
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That's true to an extent, but I also think that their are certain aspects that a fully cultural and learned that people find attractive or unattractive. Like for example, a man who dresses preppy isn't going to have much luck with a goth woman (most of the time). Even if they're "equally attractive". There are elements of looks, like style, that become more or less desirable depending on who you're pursuing.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 02:30 AM
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I fully agree that both value personality, I think that pretty much every aspect of a person becomes important when dating at some point. I'm most talking about the disparity in what men view as the most important aspect for men to find a partner and what women view as the most important aspect for men to find a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 02:24 AM
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There is still undoubtedly a minimum threshold. It will be different for different women but there is certainly a point at which looks are impacting your ability to even start talking to a woman for more than a few minutes, though I do agree that there is an overemphasis on looks by many dudes who feel they lack them.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 02:02 AM
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To the man trying to get picked? Certainly. To the woman picking? No. That's why it's subjective. Based on the position you take, the answer changes.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 01:59 AM
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Why should someone assume that the person they're pursuing values their income to that extent? Plenty of wealthy women would gladly date a guy making 50k a year if he met her standards. Why should he assume her standards include the expense of a dinner? It's strange to act the way she is acting because a guy asked you out and wasn't as wealthy as you'd like. You can have whatever standard you want but you need to know that not everyone shares those standards, people do not know your standards un…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 02:01 AM
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Sorry, are you arguing against decentering on the basis of a definition? Not on the basis of, I don't know, what is actually being argued for.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 09:35 PM
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The only reason male birth control hasn’t happened is because men couldn’t stand the “side effects”. You know nausea, mood swings, acne, the same side effects we’ve been dealing with for decades. This is wrong. I assume you're referring to the same trial that pretty much everyone who believes this is referring to. 75% of the men in that trial wanted to continue, it was a review board that stopped it due to the large number of adverse events that were more severe at a higher frequency than with w…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 08:30 PM
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You said what this man did was bad, yet I've heard of bad WOMEN.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 09:06 PM
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"Humanist" fucking liar. Calling any person "it" is not a humanist thing to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 12:47 AM
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This is very well explained.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 11:35 PM
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Marx was pro gun for the purposes of revolution but would have likely been against gun ownership post revolution (hard to find evidence of that but it just seems likely when your explicit reason for being pro gun is revolution against a system).
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 02:28 AM
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Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 10:31 PM
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Data doesn't show shit, you're interpreting data. Don't get it twisted.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 10:33 PM
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I'm getting really sick of people writing dissertations where the only evidence is their own observation.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 11:32 PM
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Ideally you would have a healthy self image and wouldn't feel the need to do that, however I can't say that it is realistic for that to be the case for everyone. Dick size is a real hang up for a lot of dudes and the way it is talked about in media absolutely implies that bigger = better. I'm sure many would get it and still be disappointed with the results because it's more dysphoria than actually having a small dick, but I'm sure there'd also be many who would feel more confident so it would b…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 02:17 AM
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To be fair, not sleeping on foreplay is being good a sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 10:20 PM
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I agree, that's why I said both deserve praise. I don't think the answer is removing the praise from involved fathers, it's adding praise to involved mothers.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 10:15 PM
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A father who exercises or plays with his kids isn’t a “good dad”, he’s just dad. Since he’s doing the same thing single working moms do every day. A dad who coaches a team isn’t any different than a mom who leads a girl scout troop or teaches piano lessons. I'd argue he is a good dad. And the mum who does all the same things is a good mum. Good isn't remarkable, good is doing the thing right/well. A good carpenter/accountant/manager/you-name-it just does their job correctly. I agree with the res…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 09:47 PM
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I'm getting really sick of this interaction: Commenter 1: Men this that. Commenter 2: Yeah, well women that this. Commenter 1: Well sometimes men that this and this that is actually worse. Commenter 2: Nuh uh, that this is way worse. And anyway sometimes women this that too.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 02:23 AM
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Yes, and the ones that get recommended widely and the ones that people interact with the most. That means that things that make people mad get more widely spread. Hence, rage bait. It might be done for interactions, it might be that person's actual opinion but either way it isn't representative of the average opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 12:20 AM
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You've got to learn to be more concise. You're not actually describing your point better, you're just using more words for the sake of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 09:57 AM
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I've said it before and I'll say it again. Looks will always seem like the most important thing to ugly guys because they can't get dates because of them. But from the perception of a woman it is not the most important thing because they turn down guys they find attractive who have shitty personalities. Which is actually more important? Both and neither. It's all a matter of perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 01:16 AM
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Brother you have to work on making statements. Almost every line is a question.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 01:12 AM
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This is a game of semantics. Most people are not using transactional in the literal sense. You can do so but you will be misunderstood and it will be your own fault. This is a belly button gazing post.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 01:10 AM
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I don't even see how you got to the conclusion that he was in any way adding chastity or purity. He literally gives the example of kindness vs money. He doesn't bring up sex at all really. You're the one that seems to be adding the caveat falling in love with someone for their kindness precludes enjoying sexual intimacy with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 01:07 AM
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Yeah because abusers are usually very forthcoming about their abuse. They don't hide it and slowly ramp up the abuse as they gain more control over and isolate their victims. That's definitely not what happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 11:45 PM
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None of those things necessarily make a good partner though. The main thing that anyone can bring to dating (in my mind at least) is kindness. Because at the end of the day, nobody wants an intelligent, competent, ambitious, wealthy, attractive partner who is an asshole. It also is the case that these jobs don't actually mean they hold those traits. I've met stupid scientists. I've met unambitious engineers. I've met people who make good money who spend it so poorly that they might as well be on…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 09:53 PM
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I have to believe that these posts are all cope from men who don't know why they're not successful with women. Much easier to blame it on women choosing assholes than self-reflecting.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 11:45 PM
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The answer is no in almost all circumstances. If your partner has a celebrity crush that they speak about enough to make you feel insecure you should talk to them about it. I mean first you should examine if it's actually that they talk about it a lot or if you're ruminating on an off hand comment, but then you should talk to them about it. You can tell your partner that you're feeling insecure and they can choose how they respond to that (in most loving relationships it will be to reassure you …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 09:46 PM
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A mentally sound man should be able to understand that asking for a paternity test is essentially saying that you don't trust your partner. You shouldn't expect that she isn't going to be offended.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 09:39 PM
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How much you need to make will adjust to what other boxes out tick. If you tick a bunch of other boxes it's less, if you tick no other boxes it's more. Essentially if you're butt ugly and suck to be around you'll need to be RICH to find a partner. If you're average looking and suck to be around you'll need to be well off to find a partner. If you're average looking and fun to be around then median income probably works. If you're hot and fun to be around you can be making minimum wage. And it's …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 03:24 AM
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I don't think it's quantifiable. Empathy is for the most part an internal process so how are we going to decide one is better at it than the other. If you're talking about being better at the expression of empathy then maybe, but I also think that statement places some ways of dealing with emotions above others.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 02:18 AM
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I've said it before and I'll say it again, "choose better" is not real advice. And even if you give specific examples unsolicited/unwanted advice will never land with the audience. I also don't like using the term "your own fault" for something like this. I do have a very 'personal responsibility' view of dating because you can only control your own actions but I don't think that someone who has been falsely led into an abusive relationship and had their self esteem chipped away is "at fault" fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 10:37 PM
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It's embarrassing to have written a post like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 07:02 AM
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A proposal should be specific to the couple. A proposal is as much about the person proposing as it is about the person being proposed to.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 10:09 AM
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That's not what that statistic means. That statistic means that of all CURRENT MARRIAGES the median CURRENT LENGTH is 20 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 09:52 PM
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I'm assuming your 20 years comes from the median duration of current marriages from the US Census Bureau, which isn't telling you how long people were together before divorcing but how many years they've currently been married.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 01:21 PM
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Everyone gets divorced anyway. Except no they don't. The divorce rate is 42% so in fact the majority of marriages DO NOT END IN DIVORCE.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 09:35 PM
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It's an active choice. Do you choose to be horny? Very telling that I'm more mindful of relational dynamics... Very telling that you view other people as beneath you and problems as something that you must come out on top of rather than something to be solved for the betterment of all involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 03:07 AM
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Why do you not think of it that way when sex is dissolving in the first place? Because it is mostly not an ACTIVE CHOICE made by the partner who isn't in the mood. If your partner is purposefully withholding sex as a means of control then yes, that would be them dissolving the relationship. If your partner just isn't in the mood, then the sex not happening isn't a choice they're making. That doesn't mean sit there and let the bedroom die, it means have a conversation and figure out what is going…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 02:30 AM
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It's no one's duty to remain faithful as well then. You're literally just advocating for the dissolving of the relationship with the extra step of being an asshole and getting some sort of strange tit for tat revenge for your partner having the audacity of not being in the mood. Talk to your partner. You said in another comment: Conversation without punishment is just yapping... You shouldn't be punishing your partner. You should be trying to solve problems. If you bring up something with your p…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 02:10 AM
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I don't learn anything from Reddit. Or to be more precise I don't learn anything from only Reddit. Sometimes comments will cause me to do a deeper dive on certain subjects that probably end in my mind being changed in some way but I wouldn't remember what comment spurred that on once it was done. On something like this sub where a lot of debates boil down to either experience vs experience or trying to interpret personal intent from data it'd be really hard to change my mind with just a post or …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 10:33 PM
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An introvert? I don't know man. You can not go out with your friends and not be an asshole. If you're not feeling it you're not feeling it, take care of yourself king. Now if this was a planned thing that you agreed to and you bailing changes things like cost or even ability to do the pre-planned activity, then you'd be an asshole. You see the difference? Focussing on yourself vs focussing on yourself to the detriment of others.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 03:30 AM
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It's degrading to be expected to prove yourself Is that not exactly what you are trying to get men to do? Prove themselves to you by taking you on a fancy date. But that's okay because? This logic is weird. If you're upset about a coffee date you're probably one of the kinds of people he's trying to weed out anyway so it's a net good for both of you. I'm looking for a partner, not an expense.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 03:25 AM
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Prerequisite of being rich? Yes. Prerequisite of being successful? No. Focussing on yourself isn't an asshole trait, focussing on yourself to the detriment of others is. You have to put on your mask before helping others and all that. Rich people usually have to pretend to be nice until they get to an amount of money where money creates more money.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 03:02 AM
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I could list you a bunch of reasons why monogamy works better for me that range from feelings of jealousy all the way to being autistic and needing time to become comfortable with other people. Even just not seeing/talking to someone for two weeks will set back my level of comfort around them, so just the logistics of being in a non-monogamous relationship would suck for me. It really does just come down to the fact that based on multiple factors about myself, monogamy works much better for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 02:57 AM
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That's just not my experience. Nice people have always done and been treated better than assholes in my experience. The only exception has been in politics and industries where backstabbing is expected. (Edit: and even there a false sense of niceness is still usually required.) It's a good thing we use the modern definitions of words and not the etymological/archaic meanings, otherwise any 'terrific' ideas would be frightening.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 01:59 AM
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People do not instantly associate being nice as being beneath them. But if you think that acting nice requires you act as though you're beneath someone they may start to treat you like it. I've known plenty of extremely kind people who I have seen as equal or even better than me precisely BECAUSE they were kind.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 01:34 AM
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That depends on your view of what constitutes the most important factor of anything. That's also a different claim to your original, which is that it is ONLY based on looks. You've shifted because you were backed into a corner.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 01:24 AM
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You're saying this as though it's disproving what I'm saying. It's not.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 12:17 AM
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Yeah, but that's still not dating only on looks. You should be specific about your wording. I also think you're overestimating the threshold to have people that view you as decent looking.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 11:56 PM
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If I think of my ideal woman she's dressed pretty modestly. That's also just because I'm not a very sexual person and I often find things like flowy dresses to be aesthetically appealing vs being drawn to more revealing clothing. I don't think clothing would be a make or break for me. Like I'm not going to not date a woman because she wears low cut tops and mini skirts. But other men who like modestly dressed women for other reasons may be more likely to have it be a bigger deal. At the end of t…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 11:23 PM
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It's literally not. That's just an incorrect statement. Does a company hire based only on qualifications if you need to have a certain degree to get an interview? Does a sports team bring in players only on skill if you need to have certain metrics to get a try out? If a person needs to be attracted to someone to give them a date, the date still plays a factor in whether or not they end up in a relationship. That means that they cannot be choosing partners based on ONLY looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 11:02 PM
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Two things. 1) It would be weird to want to do things with your partner but be turned off if they enjoyed it too. 2) Fantasies aren't always a reflection of real world desires. Or more accurately, are often a more extreme version of what you really want. Sometimes you need more extreme and/or taboo stimulus to get off by yourself than if you're with a person. That goes for both genders.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 10:47 PM
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Well if YOU'RE sure then I guess it must be true.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 05:15 AM
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I like kissing men. She likes watching men kissing. Sounds like a match made in heaven! /s In all seriousness, I consume stuff that people find weird so who am I to judge?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 05:14 AM
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2 whole girls?!?!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 05:11 AM
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I wouldn't price this service. If the idea was brought to me I'd laugh in their face. I'm already iffy on standard escorting, this just adds another level of discomfort to something I'm already uncomfortable with.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 02:39 AM
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It also depends on the environment. For me it's also about feeling othered vs feeling included. So I don't like having my feminine traits pointed out by men most of the time because it feels like they're telling me I'm different. Whereas when I'm hanging out with a lot of women, I'm cool with them pointing out my feminine traits. I'm even fine with non-masculine gendered language being used to refer to me. When I'm hanging out with women and they call me "girlie" it feels like I'm being included…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 02:28 AM
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I wouldn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 02:12 AM
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I think that at least some of the stigma probably comes from peoples perceived roles. Men are "supposed" to be providers, women are "supposed" to be mothers. You can be a provider with no children and even no wife but you can't be a mother without children. I don't think everyone thinks that explicitly but I think it's the root. Obviously I also disagree with that thought process but the question was why not whether I agree with the reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 02:09 AM
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You THINK yours are intelligent. They're not though.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 11:47 PM
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Sigh these are all just silly speculations. This whole thing is speculation. Every single aspect is speculation. You're not worth discussing this with because you've made up your mind and therefore anything that is contrary to it will be dismissed, but your own starting point is speculation based on the assumption that murder and domestic violence rates are linked.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 11:41 PM
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Academic research requires funding, do you think that a feminist researcher would definitely be able to get funding for that kind of inquiry? What would be the benefit for them in the time period, not us looking back now? A survey on the reported experiences of specifically women who were married in the past ~4 decades. Women's studies didn't become a thing until the 1980s and most other social scientific research was focused on far more lofty things. This absolutely false. As I said in my post.…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 11:08 PM
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Feminism has always been a political movement for women's rights. Not an organisation that collects data. As for your argument, there isn't much of a way to know for sure but we can make educated guesses based on advertising and media from the time. By that metric it would seem that it was acceptable. Even if it wasn't as 'normal' as some people may think, it was definitely viewed as a normal reaction to certain behaviours/situations. Perhaps there weren't more women who were on the receiving en…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 10:01 PM
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I agree. As an autistic man who was labelled "creepy" in high school I know first hand how deleterious it can be to the psyche. I don't think it happens that much past teens though, at least in my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 02:10 AM
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I mean this really depends. When you say the advice "choose better" do you mean literally just saying those words to someones face? If so then no it's not good advice, it is in fact the opposite of good advice because it only serves to shake someone's confidence in their own abilities without giving anything meaningful. If you mean giving unsolicited advice and opinions on what to look out for or telling them that their partner is shitty apropos of nothing then it's also bad advice because no on…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 10:03 PM
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I don't give these answers but I'm pretty sure it's mostly insecurity on the part of the men who do. They feel inferior to these attractive men and need to find a reason why they're actually better than them if you squint a little.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 09:45 PM
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Woman B as we both have hobbies that you stay in to do and 'parallel play' is one of my favourite things to do in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 09:50 AM
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Based and correct-pilled
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 10:27 PM
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1) I'm going based off of the original comments logic which assumes that there are more jacked dudes now than before. Because they're essentially saying 'too many jacked dudes exist and it's raising women's standards to the point that they expect you to be jacked'. 2) Obesity rising doesn't actually preclude a rise in jacked men. Gyms are more normalised than ever, regular dudes know way more about lifting. The likelihood that that is the case and there aren't more jacked dudes is low. Both can …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 04:29 AM
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The more obvious answer is there are a group of women who like the aesthetic. 10 years ago less men had that aesthetic which meant that the men that did were in high demand. Now more men have that aesthetic so there is more competition for matches. There are still plenty of dudes who don't workout who have wives and girlfriends, so it can't really be that being ripped is an expectation.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 12:59 AM
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I just don't think it is when there's a much larger thing that far more obviously is to blame. Misandrists feminists are likely the way they are because of that same capitalist forward march. They're both groups of people that are lashing out. You also assume all feminism is misandrist, which just isn't true in my experience. Most women in my life are feminists, all women in my life are not misandrists. Maybe you see lots of misandrists feminists online, but that's because the internet is mostly…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 12:48 AM
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I think that societal atomisation caused by the forward march of capitalism to turn everyone into a 24/7 consumer is far more to blame than feminism.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 12:34 AM
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Incels also used to need to leave the house. They likely had a greater sense of community with "normal" people. Through both family and the community around them. They may have been upset about being sexless but it would have been much harder for them to become isolated in the same way they often are now. Society always had outcasts but many incels are self selecting outcasts now.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 12:25 AM
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The thing about psychology and reported preference is that perception is a major factor. What does "most important" mean? Does it mean the thing that gets you initial attention? Does it mean the thing that keeps you around? What I'm trying to point out is that this is a subjective measurement. Maybe to you the fact that women only give a shot to men they find attractive means it's the most important factor. But maybe to women the fact that they've been on dates with attractive men that went nowh…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 12:10 AM
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Who said to give them a pass? They're arguing fallaciously. Treat them as though they're arguing fallaciously. But since we can't know if it's gendered, to treat it like it's gendered is stupid. My position is literally to not presume anything about this trait beyond the fact that humans do it (easily verified if the person doing it to you is human).
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 11:28 PM
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Sure, theoretically I could be wrong. Women could do it at twice the rate of men. Women could do it at 20x the rate. Women as a whole could have done it one more time than men as a whole. In the real world though, there's no way to find out. So treating it as a generic human trait is more useful.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 11:17 PM
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Because I have no reason to believe otherwise. There is no mechanism by which whether one does it more than the other would be verifiable. If I went off my own experience men do it more. If I went off OP's experience apparently women do it more. You literally just can't know which is correct so it's more useful to just treat it as a human trait and deal with it as and when you encounter it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 11:05 PM
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25 is the most agreed upon point at which a brain is usually done developing, that's why 25 is the cut off in my mind. That's why a 20 and a 30 year old is bad, because it's someone with a brain that hasn't fully developed and someone with a brain that has been fully developed for a fair while. That's why it's viewed as taking advantage. This isn't an all or nothing rule, any cut off is going to be to some extent arbitrary because brain development isn't exactly the same for everyone. I'm sure t…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 11:02 PM
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Everyone does this. Even you probably do it sometimes. I probably do it sometimes. This is a fault of humans, not women.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 10:34 PM
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The Age Gap "Issue" Is a Modern Invention As was at one point or another: Racial equality Women's rights The rights of non-land owning men The concept that you have a right to your life Need I go on? Something being a recent idea isn't an argument against its validity. 20 and 25 might be an extreme level of caution but I think when we're talking about 30 year olds dating 20 year olds it becomes pretty obvious that most of the time the dude is doing it because she's more naive and either easier t…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 10:10 PM
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Also blowjobs can feel amazing or eh depending on the penis and the technique. Some people just aren't going to find it as pleasurable, and sometimes the problem is technique.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 12:17 AM
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It's the same as oral sex performed on a woman, you do it for your partners pleasure and if they're clean and healthy none of the tastes or textures should be too bad. It seems like a lot of your arguments boil down to "well I'd feel degraded doing that," which like, yeah. You don't like penis or the person attached to it in that way. It's not degrading to give pleasure, it can be a massive turn on in fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 12:16 AM
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Ok
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 08:29 AM
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It didn't, like I said they're not criticisms of the concept just of the tools used to measure it. (And some just criticisms of the specific claim that higher Emotional Intelligence made better leaders.) They mostly still seem to assume that it's some sort of phenomenon. If we couldn't measure intelligence would it cease to be the case that some people are just smarter? Again, I'm not even claiming that Emotional Intelligence IS legitimate psychology. I just think your argument isn't showing wha…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 07:38 AM
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I'm not reading all that because I'm not even really invested in emotional intelligence in psychology, I just thought it was funny that your link didn't add to your point at all. By the looks of it neither does this link as it's to a Reddit comment you made with no mentioned sources from what I can see with a quick skim. I'm neutral on the concept of emotional intelligence, you're just not making your argument very well.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 07:14 AM
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My man you linked to the criticisms section of the Wikipedia page. A criticism section where most of the criticisms don't deny the existence of emotional intelligence but instead how it is measured and how effective of a predictor it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 06:45 AM
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No it's not what I 'truly desire' because I'm not a caveman and I have higher order brain function. The fact that I'm horny doesn't mean that I 'truly desire' to blow up my life or upset my partner which are consequences I'm capable of thinking of and understanding. My decision on what I 'truly desire' isn't based on impulses, it's based on an understanding of what I desire my future to be, the potential consequences of my actions and how they will impact my future.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 04:33 AM
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Questions not for me but I don't think you should get a vasectomy too early, at least 25 but preferably 35. I know men who didn't want kids in their 20's who switched up in their 30's or when they met the right woman. That's not to say someone will change their mind or even that most change their mind, hell I don't want kids as it currently stands. But I do think it's always better to leave your options open.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 03:13 AM
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I'm not from America, but here in Australia it doesn't seem to be an issue of obesity. Our obesity rate isn't quite as high as yours but I don't think we're far behind. It's more about atomised society and overuse of social media, which I understand the irony of saying as I post a Reddit comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 02:59 AM
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It's also about shape. A woman who is fat but stores it in the "right" places will still have an attractive shape to enough men that dating won't be an issue if she's pleasant to be around.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 02:54 AM
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In the average relationship, all of them. However, you can also decide in your relationship what boundaries you have. Maybe you don't care about them sending flirty texts, maybe you don't care about dirty dancing, maybe you don't care about kissing. Those are things that should likely be discussed with a partner. But I think the default assumption is that none of these are okay when you're in a relationship outside of specific circumstances.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 02:42 AM
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Based and nuance-pilled.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 12:59 AM
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The Pressure to Be Good Enough... This simply isn't the case. If you look at an online bubble maybe it is but I have friends who have low tier jobs, aren't highly attractive, and just all around are pretty average who have long term committed partners. This isn't the real world, it's perceptions built by rage bait online. The number one factor in getting a partner is soxial skills. The Rise of the "Alpha" Male Myth... This is to some extent true, but to some extent self imposed. It's true that t…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 10:57 PM
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Yeah, this is true for most people. Some people are just assholes but not exclusively or disproportionately women. Just treat women like people and be nice (like you would to anyone) and they'll generally treat you nicely.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 10:33 PM
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Ah dick size, just another example of an unchangeable characteristic that some men obsess over.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 04:18 AM
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I agree with the title but not the post. Many young men internalise internet opinions that reduce a nuanced and complex thing like dating down to Chads who get dates and neckbeards that don't. They look at their height, or their jawline, or other things they can't really control because the internet tells them that these are the most important part of getting a girl and they give up before they even start. Or they get these complexes that they have no personal reason for other than seeing rage b…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 03:23 AM
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Bi men also have the stereotype of being gay men who are "halfway out of the closet" which I can't imagine helps.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 10:33 PM
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Lillith at least comes across to me as potentially legitimate, like I see her posts being reactive and her views slightly changing when she reads an argument she sees as being good. Windmill is just constant bait posts with the most obviously bad examples available.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 09:37 PM
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There is no such thing as a break up where nothing is wrong. Only a break up where you don't want to admit what's wrong or you don't know what's wrong. If everything is perfect and you break up with someone, you're likely a malcontent which IS a problem in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 09:33 PM
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The only problem with that survey is, what do men consider violent in porn vs what do women consider violent in porn? Like is grabbing someone's hair violent? (Also I'm aware they bring this up in the article as something women liked but I didn't see anything about these specific acts being brought up with men.) There are other examples I could give but I feel they would be inappropriate. Is it just that men are less likely to view 'consensual aggression' as aggression at all? I say this because…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 10:28 PM
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I mean sure, maybe they're hanging around women who do that but usually shitty people are kinda shitty all around. I've known abusive (specifically manipulative abuse) people, they weren't cool people outside of their relationships. I also think women often feel a need to push back because they are often presented as general statements or the prevalence is overstated. There is probably an element of "you can never be sure" but I think the actual bigger reason for the deficit in men who say they'…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 12:44 AM
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The simple answer is some men put in effort some men don't. The slightly more complex answer is some men have an easier time doing the "right things" in dating. An extrovert will have a far easier time being extremely social because it energises them. An introvert gets drained and needs alone time more often. A man with expendable income is more likely to pay to socialise (and cover some cost for women) because it's not going to affect him that much. A man living paycheck to paycheck who has may…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 09:51 PM
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Dude it's really simple. If using your natural advantages actively hurts someone it's bad. If it doesn't then it's fine. This is morality 101. Your ability to swing your fist ends at my face. "Oh but, but your arms are shorter so you can stand closer to me when you swing your fist." <--- that's what you sound like.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 09:37 PM
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I'd say the flow chart is more like: Hot and nice > hot and a little mean > average and nice > hot and mean > average and a little mean > average and mean > ugly and nice > ugly and little mean > ugly and mean I make a distinction between "a little mean" and "mean" because I do think that average looking and nice is better for outcomes than being hot and an absolute bellend but I'm not deluded into thinking that hot people don't get away with more. I also added an "average" category because I th…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 05:25 AM
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The opposite of my experience. I've only been on dates with friends of friends and the women I'm friends with are always excited to set me up with someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 12:46 AM
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I wholeheartedly agree. I have only gotten dates by having a robust friend group (that includes women). Every date I've ever been on was a friend of a friend, and while only one ever become a relationship (that lasted 1 year) it is more success than I've had with cold approaching or OLD. They've also been fun experiences and some have been willing to be direct with me about why they didn't want to pursue anything further (because they were reassured I wouldn't become a threat to them because I h…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 10:58 PM
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This is true of most OLD profiles in general. A good portion of the profiles I see for women are 1-3 pictures with very generic information. OLD will always attract lazy people who don't want to put in the work at a higher rate than having to approach in person. Here are a few reasons for some things that don't just boil down to laziness: 1) A lot of people in general don't have a hard political leaning or religious affiliation. 2) A lot of people don't realise that their views are very right/le…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 10:39 PM
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I personally wouldn't mind receiving a subscription but I also understand why it might feel wrong to receive a subscription for flowers because as far as I'm aware from observing the women around me the point of flowers is the thoughtfulness and the spontaneity. So receiving a monthly subscription for flowers would make it feel less thoughtful and spontaneous. It's automatising something that is supposed to be a nice surprise.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 01:09 AM
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There's a mysterious third factor that seems to be causing her struggles and it's called being an asshole. You can be smart and confident and it may intimidate some men but none of those men are what you want out of a partner. I think most men would be fine with a confident, smart, kind woman. If you're an asshole, your options become limited. There's also the looks factor, though it is subjective there are still certain aspect that limit options more. Being overweight limits options significant…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 11:48 PM
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I said within. If it's 2 or 3 dates the that's cool. 6th is the latest I'd be willing to wait for exclusivity.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 08:45 PM
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Like I said, I'm also autistic so I'm accounting for a personal amount of needing to get comfortable before wanting to see someone more often.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 08:41 PM
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I'm certainly not an example of a normal man's expectation as I'm autistic, but I'd be willing to wait like 3 months of being exclusive for sex. I'd expect to be exclusive within like 6 dates. So like a month and a half? So all up from first talking to sex I'd be willing to wait 4 and a half months-ish. It also depends on how she's communicating with me. Telling me, "hey I'm someone who likes to take things slow" is going to make me willing to wait but someone who just isn't showing interest in …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 09:42 AM
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I can't help but feel that my comment inspired this post.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 09:23 PM
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I disagree. I think a lot comes from guys who have spent most of the friendship fantasizing about dating the person. It's not that they don't value the friendship, it's that they've spent most of the friendship building a fictional version of this person in their head. I did this in my youth into very early adulthood. I'd hold onto a crush for too long and become attached to this fake version. I still valued the friendship, I just had unhealthy thought patterns. Now I'm upfront, if I'm consisten…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 02:54 PM
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Women aren't given abortion rights as a way to absolve themselves from the financial responsibilities of being a parent, it's because they have to carry the pregnancy and deal with the physical ramifications. The financial aspect is a consequence but not the point. Men do not have to carry the pregnancy and therefore do not need protection from being forced to endure the physical ramifications, this is why we are not given any kind of "financial abortion" option because that was never the point …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 07:09 AM
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I was pretty sure you were a troll before, but this post cements it for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 09:36 AM
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Nah, I've got plenty of friends that are women. Some of them are my closest friends. If you don't/can't it's a skill issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 09:36 AM
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I think the rule is stupid, but this is a bad counter argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 06:57 AM
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If you create two boxes that make too many assumptions about the thoughts, behaviours and desires of those contained by them and then throw half the population in each because they share the same biological sex you're going to find that most people in the boxes actually don't fit in. This is why "gender roles" suck. They are all or nothing statements for groups that are as different in these aspects from each other as they are from those in the other box.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 02:40 AM
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Thank you for your response :)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 09:56 AM
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Thank you for your response :)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 09:54 AM
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Yes I am formally diagnosed and yes I am aware of the fact that autism is a spectrum.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 09:53 AM
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Thank you for your response :)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 08:03 AM
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Thank you for your response :)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 07:13 AM
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My mum definitely raised me to be aware that other people will have different expectations of a conversation than I do. A lot of it is just erring on the side of caution and being selective about what I say and adding caveats to make sure I'm not being misunderstood as well as reminding people that they can tell me if I'm overstepping even a little bit and I won't be upset (and also practicing that when/if they do bring it up). Thank you for your response :)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 07:10 AM
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I swear to god sometimes it feels like people live on a different planet from me entirely. Most of my male friends aren't traditionally attractive and have met their SO through hobbies. It works. It's not even like they went to the gym to control what they could about their looks. Short and chubby, but they have girlfriends by being sociable people at their hobbies and having good hygiene. I have no experience with people in situationships and therefore have no opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/25 11:58 PM
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Is this a joke or are you being purposefully obtuse?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/25 01:07 AM
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Real men is not a categorisation that I subscribe to. There is no such thing as a "real man". The video specifically refers to single mothers. I think someone being a single parent is a perfectly valid reason to not want to date them. I don't think anyone is under an obligation to enter a relationship that has factors they don't want to deal with. I wouldn't want to date a single mother because I don't want to be in a relationship where the options are being the second priority or knowing that I…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/25 12:34 AM
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Some yes, some no. It doesn't really matter though.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 11:06 PM
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I think "general truths" has already broadened the topic to the point of absurdity.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 10:44 PM
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I find this kind of attempt to understand the differences between men and women's sexuality to ultimately be meaningless belly button gazing. Every single person experiences sexuality differently. "General truths" are rarely as general as you think. Also single men and women can definitely be friends. I'm single and friends with single women. It's not difficult.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 10:32 PM
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I love these questions posts that proceed to make BIG claims in the body text. They're always so fun and DEFINITELY NOT getting old.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 09:49 PM
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I think there is a big difference between living in fear and taking reasonable precautions. I think you'll find most women take reasonable precautions but don't live in fear. I say that most don't live in fear because that would look like never being close with any men (since it's most likely to be someone they know). I think men who are scared can take precautions when it comes to false accusations (though obviously they are probably less likely to happen) and a lot for them probably look the s…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 10:57 PM
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I'm cool with it but I'd prefer not to know what she's watching. I know logically that she can be attracted to me and people who look nothing like me but I also realise that I'm a little insecure and may not be able to apply that logic to my emotional reaction.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 01:40 AM
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I'd like a woman who likes me and doesn't quantify me as a risky or safe choice but instead the person she wants to be with.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 01:17 AM
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some of them were drunk and didn't understand what they were reading. So presumably they read and signed this agreement while in a state of impairment to the point they couldn't comprehend it. So this isn't a case of women not taking accountability but of women being coerced and then suing because of that coercion.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 08:07 PM
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There are a couple of things that i think would likely help men (not all but many): 1) Traditional talk therapy often doesn't work for men. Whatever reason that may be, it seems important that we create spaces where therapy isn't just talking in a room. There's a therapist near me who has a shit ton of male clients who love his therapy and feel that it actually really helped them when other therapists didn't. The difference? He takes them on hikes while they talk. They're doing an activity toget…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 12:18 AM
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It only serves to inflame people and isn't going to help anyone understand your point better.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 11:26 AM
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While I agree that pointing out that the average man isn't struggling doesn't help those who are I don't think that comparisons to rape are in anyway helpful or accurate.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 05:30 AM
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I agree people lie to themselves and others about their wants and intentions. This is known. If you don't believe this is something that everyone does to some extent then you haven't paid attention to the people around you. Without others to hold them to account humans will justify their actions in any way that makes them feel better.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/25 09:01 AM
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It depends, lack of intimacy is a killer in relationships and it can make you feel unwanted/uncared for. The way this specific spreadsheet is written does make him seem like kind of an asshole but it also strikes me as the same sort of thing as writing a pros/cons list about a partner. Something you do for yourself so that you better understand and never show to your partner. To me the bad behaviour here isn't the tracking but showing it to his wife. If he did this to make sure he wasn't just ge…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/25 08:25 AM
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How can women who are celebrating their promiscuity realistically not expect unwanted sexual attention? Are you trying to say that enjoying consensual sexual engagement makes you less able to complain about unwanted sexual attention? Because that's an odd jump in logic to make.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/24 12:26 PM
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I mean if they're visiting the webpage then they are seeking help so saying "hey you guys don't open up" is kind of counter productive. It's essentially preaching to the wrong audience. The guys who seek out help aren't the ones who need to be told to seek help.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/24 04:59 AM
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Probably not. I don't think I'd be able to be with a woman if when I search her name I see other dudes having sex with her. Abstractly I don't care about sexual history but I'd prefer not to have it be so in my face. It's probably insecurity on my part but it's insecurity that is extremely unlikely to ever affect me or the people around me so it's not really worth the energy to focus on.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/24 02:39 AM
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I think being desired is a fundamental want/need for most people. I don't just mean romantically desired but also just people wanting you around, desiring your presence. I think for people who don't feel desired they look to the most obvious example of being desired as the thing that's missing.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 01:24 PM
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I agree that these stats don't really show anything and will add that there are lots of things you could try to explain them with, women having higher trait neuroticism, men having more social pressure to "fix" their relationship, I think I've seen stuff about high rates of abuse in lesbian relationships but I'm not sure if that's true and can't be arsed to fact check right now because my point is that the reality is we don't know and will likely never know. Each case of divorce is an individual…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/24 02:24 AM
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Actually, being in physically good shape does help with premature ejaculation. Combining that with other techniques as well as knowing and adapting to one's own limitations will lead to the best outcomes for all.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 11:17 PM
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As a general statement on the concept any partner will experience lust for people other than you unless you're dating an asexual person. Everyone should understand that on an abstract level. Should you tell your partner about this? Unless it's something you both enjoy then no you shouldn't. It's the equivalent of "I thought about doing a bad thing and I could have but I didn't." Of course you're going to question that person and if they will eventually or already have done that. Some thoughts ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 05:12 AM
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I think this is a bias of the kind of people who are likely to discuss this topic. It's those with strong opinions. I feel most women truly don't think about, as don't most men. If confronted with it I think most people would say "weird, why would you do that?" And move on with life.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 02:37 PM
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Abusers usually start nice and slowly dial up the abuse. Like a frog in a boiling pot kind of situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 07:00 AM
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