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People actually meet up and try to form a a relationship? Im 29 and it's dry as a bone out there. I gave me up.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 09:24 AM
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29m can confirm, last time I had sex was in 2017. It sucks but it's not something im consciously worried about. Still on Hinge , Bumble and Tinder (so many bots) I live on my own and no shame I really don't have any friends. Some days it gets dark, but I bounce back. I just never really had my moment with a girl. And every first date is the last, but if you look up some of Bobby Rios videos on YouTube that's helping better understand the fluidity and unmasking
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/22 12:32 AM
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Time travel, and mainly going back and preventing the invention and evolution of social media. It died somewhere in 2009
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 02:48 AM
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I'm looking through these comments and I can't seem to find a common ground. One thing is for sure. If you're any sort of independent person moved out, living on their own, having a career, being a homeowner in their late 20s, like me. And and finding any sort of time outside of the 9-5 grind to do anything with friends if you have them - or if they moved away which is most likely the case, or if you work out at home and have gym in your basement like me- there's absolutely no way to meet or gai…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 02:43 AM
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That's exactly what life is like after college and most people don't understand and aren't acutely aware and unless you have a strong group of friends that haven't moved away, then you're pretty much just on your own trying to figure out how and where to find a social circle. But let me tell you it's just not possible because everyone's either on dating apps or already settled down with someone. So trying to figure out a reasonable way to gain social proof without any intention of getting into a…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 02:01 AM
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That last part is the cold hearted truth though. Corrupted through screens psychologically, it’s really technology to blame for the average Jane Doe.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 10:51 PM
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I think this alone leaves a bigger question, as a collective hold , and with technology now, it has changed and fundamentally warped the pathways in that line of thinking. Media and information flowing everywhere always being distracted is something that’s a serious flaw that is not even noticed because everyone is sanitized to it as normality. That of which you can’t change.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 04:50 AM
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Biggest issue? I’d have to say the whole build up process, getting chemistry leading up to a date and then just being dropped off at baggage claim at the turn of a hat. Nothing is consistent anymore. No one wants to put in effort despite showcasing it it from the phones screen but then it’s just the same game being played like chess over and over why. It leaves both people at a loss because even if you rationalize saying “this is just a hangout” “it doesn’t have to be anything more” it’s an invi…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 04:30 AM
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Realistically - and even subconsciously women can choose to continue deny needing sex with men to be full filled, but that’s not true. It’s in human nature to l seek out and find pleasure and value in sex. I don’t understand why this is what society looks down on or looks the other way , which is stupid and convoluted. Sex is fun and to be desired. Sure you can have a path of goals and a main willing ness to strive towards career wise, but why deprive yourself of sex? That’s what society is now …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 12:23 AM
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It’s more important that a man has the social structure and networking outside of screen time- this becomes harder when aspects of school social circles and surroundings slip away and work becomes the norm in your late 20s (my experience) You can work on yourself to the point of infinity, gym, diet, mind what have you. If there isn’t a way to branch out and have friends to go out with on the weekends and the social backbone to support the progress it’s impossible to stand out as a high value man…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 11:55 PM
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I still think what you’re seeing and what I also believe is that couples and men who act bluepilled and still have the relationship is because it was formed pre-dating app era. There’s still a large majority of people that even my age- 28 haven’t had to download any dating app because they settled for someone in their teens who they are still with. So basically the level of energy and attraction (if positive I’m assuming so if they are still together again many walks of life can fall into this) …
/r/askTRP31/05/21 01:59 AM
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Same problem- for me it’s because I’ve gotten so grid locked into a routine with work and not working and what I do to keep up with my self care, on top of that my career doubles as a hobby I’m invested in. Any time I go out to bars I feel out of place and I always feel like I’m a thousand miles away thinking about what I need to do tomorrow, never living in the moment. Which is probably why I lost friends along the way, slowly stopped hanging out and became a busy body. It sucks because I can’t…
/r/askTRP12/05/21 01:49 AM
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This guy gets it. Learned helplessness.
/r/askTRP24/04/21 12:03 AM
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You’re actually on to something and this post woke me up to that exact scene but I was actively looking for it I suppose, and the ending was shit too. Why did they focus on her life? Why not actually show that they made it Mars? Biggest windfall ever.
/r/askTRP23/04/21 11:57 PM
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Yes, I graduated high school in 2011. I lived in the pre social media boom. Life was simpler. There’s nothing that would convince me otherwise.
/r/askTRP12/04/21 02:26 AM
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I agree but where does it go from here? Is the future really that bleak to think all these apps have permanently changed dating? I’d hate to believe that. But I’ve seen the transition over the past 10 years and more. You can eliminate yourself from the online part but it’s always there with every interaction, every plate, every time. Trying to keep their attention for long enough to maintain something stable is not possible anymore. And it’s completely messing me up.
/r/askTRP04/04/21 04:10 AM
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Wondering the same thing, 27m, live way out in the burbs. The meetup app looks abandoned even looking at events in Chicago.
/r/askTRP23/03/21 01:57 AM
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What you’re looking for is Adderall
/r/askTRP17/03/21 02:52 AM
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This right here is the question to ask, where could it honestly go from here. I hate to say it maybe some sort of paradigm shift among males to not settle for this? Just seems like Gen Z is the most sanitized to this way of normalcy. Combined with Testosterone being a fruit of the past, stolen by the shaming of toxic masculinity in media- propagating our current status quo. I just don’t see the disinterested younger generations doing anything about it, which is flat out scary. Too invested into …
/r/askTRP04/03/21 03:57 AM
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Bingo. Share the same thought. 10 years. All you have to do is go back 10 fkn years before the toxic chronic idiotic methodology women have now of dropping any guy for anything at all because the next best guy is a swipe away. Hate this society. And this internet age that brought this to life. What’s even more scary to think about where does it go from here?
/r/askTRP22/02/21 03:08 AM
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Don’t forget the ones with awful pictures that look like their from the MySpace era. Like jfc, either you’re a bot or using a flip phone.
/r/askTRP22/02/21 01:40 AM
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I read through it all, and I can deeply relate. Especially with how the undertones you mentioned in conversations carry over and fit into the just view that helps with coming up to the societal baseline just to adequately fit in. I find myself struggling with loneliness in my late 20s- I won’t bore you with my words. I appreciate it.
/r/askTRP17/02/21 04:11 AM
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I just desperately want to know where was the point in my generation (26-29 year olds) where in the last 5-8 years they deemed it totally necessary to change their attitude towards men and I believe dating apps played a huge role in this, where their options have inflated their ego making it impossible to settle with, and stay focused on one person
/r/askTRP09/02/21 04:04 AM
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Yeah, especially the women that are so desperately holding that independence mentality in the late 20s like you know damn well it’s not going to last forever, you can’t act like you do f need men til the world ends but you will give in, those Instagram likes aren’t worth the screen you stare at all day. They refuse to maintain attention into one person like it’s a disease.
/r/askTRP09/02/21 03:51 AM
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What are you 13?
/r/askTRP02/02/21 03:22 AM
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This. ☝️ anyone who says 30s are better than 20s are in denial. Unless you have a social circle to carry you over, chances are you’ll be alone because it’s inevitably harder to make friends beyond college. The weight of it all is pretty unbearable. I’m 27 and I refuse this outcome. What I don’t get is why attractive women my age refuse to put any effort into anything, this generation I’m sucks. It’s horse shit to the highest degree. The only ones who are lucky are those who dating young stayed t…
/r/askTRP01/02/21 11:50 PM
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Omegle? Jeez more likely to see all dudes jerkin off than someone to talk to
/r/askTRP01/02/21 11:39 PM
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That’s because they do, the internet era fucked their brains up and inflated their ego.
/r/askTRP12/01/21 04:12 AM
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What? Dating prospects have nothing to do with lifting. I look good. What has to do with my prospects is the fuckin pandemic and not being able to go anywhere
/r/askTRP08/01/21 09:34 PM
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Uh yes. Why is this even a question.
/r/askTRP08/01/21 03:23 AM
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5’10, only do cardio on my bike in my basement of my townhouse. Can’t really go on a hike in the middle of winter lol
/r/askTRP06/01/21 10:53 PM
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I already know it’s because of my dating profile pictures, they are a few years old. I really want to make new ones but how can I possibly make new ones that look good and put in the world doing stuff. I refuse to take selfie’s. I already know they look lame and obviously don’t work for girls. I work from home so it’s like how do I take new pictures?! It sucks
/r/askTRP05/01/21 10:17 PM
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Really? I find that friends sort of give Social Proof to women. I mean I’m 27 and don’t have any friends and my career is my hobby so it’s rough for me.
/r/askTRP05/01/21 04:36 AM
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Yeah I have this problem, usually because every interaction I have seems like a chore and unproductive- especially since women and dating in your late 20s is a waste land.
/r/askTRP05/01/21 04:29 AM
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What? Exact opposite for me. I’m 27 too. Not sure where you even get girls now seeing as everything is closed and the apps are well.. the usual amount of disappointment. It’s been a drought for me for 4 years now. Just livin on my own focused on my career. No social game which doesn’t help.
/r/askTRP05/01/21 04:25 AM
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If she’s remotely hot fuck it.
/r/askTRP29/12/20 10:49 PM
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10 years ago this worked. I wish it still did.
/r/askTRP12/11/20 02:47 AM
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Lol OP I can relate in an unfortunate way since I’ve taken part in this on weekends, in my late 20s. It’s a thrill in my downtime when I’m not getting any luck on dating apps. I just like the attention from girls to be honest but there comes a point that it is super unhealthy and equating it to a hobby would be something I could see myself saying but once you quit it’s better for your mind than to be plagued by that garbage on there.
/r/askTRP08/09/20 12:44 AM
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COVID has helped foster this ideology even further to a point it wasn’t at before. While I don’t doubt the severity of what’s going on- introversion is at an all time high even those who would ever see themselves like that. Everything is done through a screen. Meaningless, emotionless text void of human expression. Often there’s two lives to people, online and offline. After screens it will develop into something even more distopian I feel like, implants maybe like Elon Musk wants but who knows …
/r/askTRP08/09/20 12:39 AM
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Same bro, that was a golden era. Got news by radio and TV, family values, theres a lot the Internet has done to influence the whole world view and in person interactions that just will not return to a contemporary way ever again.
/r/askTRP08/09/20 12:35 AM
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Nothing wrong with Adderall. Taking it daily therapeutically it’s fine. Depends on the person.
/r/askTRP30/08/20 02:56 AM
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I completely understand that barrier of not having anyway to even meet people, I’m 27 and I live on my own in a Townhouse. All I do is go to work, the gym, and chores on the weekends. Any resemblance of “friends” from HS or College I’ve lost touch with, my coworkers are all married, there isn’t exactly a way to meet people now during this pandemic on top of that. Dating apps even before the pandemic and now lead no where, I’ve been focusing on developing my skills in my career (IT) but it’s such…
/r/askTRP03/08/20 05:04 PM
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Ah I work in IT I’m 27, 6 years of experience. Hire me. Lol I’ve started going to interviews again, need to get outta my miserable 50K gig, Sys or Net Admin is the goal.
/r/askTRP24/07/20 01:34 AM
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Paying half the amount of everything it costs in the city is worth it by itself. I live on my own in a townhouse in the burbs, also commute going all back roads to work which sucks. My social circle is non existent but that wouldn’t change if I was in the city anyway. Renting makes me wanna vomit. The only girls I match with on dating apps are ones fresh outta college moved back with their parents and playing the game hard.
/r/askTRP24/07/20 01:27 AM
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You lost me at 24 and making 85K.. what do you do?
/r/askTRP24/07/20 01:19 AM
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I did Nazi that cüming
/r/askTRP28/04/20 01:32 AM
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Moved out 3 months ago, was 26. Got kind of lucky with swinging and being able to afford a new construction townhouse. First week was a shock. Somehow I mentally tuned out all the family drama of parents yelling brother arguing etc. Now I definitely enjoy the silence, it’s appreciated. Learning how to prioritize tasks and realizing how much actual work there is to do, laundry, dishes, meals, grocery shopping, stuff like that adds up. You get use to it, the loneliness is there though. But it’s th…
/r/askTRP28/04/20 01:18 AM
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Thing is, and I’m sure this won’t be the case with you-but many people come out of school quitting adderall in hopes that they achieved what they needed and they don’t need it anymore. Then comes the 40 hour work week, and the attitude starts up again “in order to get ahead” of others, and output as much work and grind harder than others to move up the pay scale, many go back to adderall for that reason. Pretty unique that you’re able to flip the switch back to your personality after such a shor…
/r/askTRP26/04/20 05:04 PM
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Couple that with not having a way to organically meet people and relying on dating apps and getting matches that go no where, it’s impossible to get ahead especially working full time. Zero friends. No fault but my own. It’s like I see the unfortunate outcome trekking into my 30s alone, no feasible way to meet a girl. It just sucks. I know guys my age, taller, better social structure, carry themselves have no problem. I’m stuck living with the ghost of my prime on my shoulders every day. It’s a …
/r/askTRP26/04/20 04:31 AM
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Been on Adderall for 4 years now daily, (27) definitely see the personality blunting and in effect makes my interactions with women boring. There are tons of students who use it during school but then when finished they just are able to “get off it” I have no idea how that’s possible. Any day I take off I’m literally bed bound. And you say you’re back to yourself in 2?? How?
/r/askTRP26/04/20 04:24 AM
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Tis true, women in the late 20s are more selective than ever. Grounding one to a reality that isn’t tainted by the corrupt dynamic of society now is impossible.
/r/askTRP26/04/20 04:19 AM
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I agree with you, so did mine. Anyone who says 30< and beyond being single is the best times of their life is a liar and would make themselves believe anything to mask their depression
/r/askTRP26/04/20 04:15 AM
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I’m struggling with losing my personality completely after being on Adderall for 4 years now, I’m turning 26. My early 20s/late teens is the personality I want back, I don’t know what psychological barrier I have to get over from this robotic boring feeling that kills my conversations with females and makes them disinterested in me. The double edged sword is that I rely on it for work and over all structure to my established life now. But social elements are completely abismal now. It fucking su…
/r/askTRP15/04/20 12:15 AM
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Gen Z is worse. The Tiktok cancer is horrible, all they do is mindlessly scroll all day long.
/r/askTRP06/04/20 05:16 PM
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18-25, ten years ago was different then it is now. Apps and internet age malformed that age range what it is now.
/r/askTRP02/04/20 01:35 AM
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Turning 27 this month and with 30 on the horizon I feel like life’s already over. Greatest hits were definitely late teens early 20s, didn’t see it back then of course. Every woman past 27 looks ridden hard and dating in your 30s with woman at that age is a straight boner kill. None of them look appealing. Everyone here seems to praise their 30s as being some new chapter of their inevitable ending up alone life, which I can see I’ll end up. You can dress up in your head that it’s going to be gre…
/r/askTRP02/04/20 01:26 AM
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Then start utilizing it more as a utility, get your dose upped. Get more motivated and excited about your hobbies and interests. Use it and fuel. And soar.
/r/askTRP03/03/20 09:14 PM
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Weed is unproductive, getting an Adderall script for your journey helps a ton.
/r/askTRP03/03/20 07:36 PM
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Because social media is the fuel that is injected into the horseshit state of society of how it is now. Validation, ego, all is overly expressed on there. It’s changed and manipulated the minds of females every where and will never be the same as it once was 10 years ago.
/r/askTRP26/02/20 06:00 PM
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downvote me all you want, you can't even comment with a defense. You can't honestly believe the internet in the last 10 years has changed the landscape of dating and human interaction.
/r/askTRP31/01/20 06:57 PM
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So for Community College: I would not waste time with the wrong people who didn’t have my best interests in mind For University: Not drop out. Had to pay my way into going, didn’t get any hand outs from parents on this one, still got my associates degree and I’m working full time but a bachelors would be better. Not self medicate with eating Adderall like it’s candy (ironic part is I’m prescribed it now and need it for work, back then the campus psych hit me with non stimulants, I was super depr…
/r/askTRP15/01/20 05:46 PM
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Definitely agree with you on the ego bit, it is a turn off for me too knowing that. In fact I’m 26 and I’ve never been to a strip club, it’s not my thing. I don’t see the appeal of throwing money at girls for a lap dance so you can blow one in your pants and use it as a memory later, I think it’s a waste. Then again so is wasting money on dates with girls that you pay their tab for in hopes to get something in return. Everything is a transaction at the end of the day, just your road as ends to a…
/r/askTRP31/12/19 01:32 AM
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Thanks! Budget definitely stretched thin, trying to move into a Sys Admin/Net Admin role, been trying to study for possibly an MCSA/E cert something to stand me out, I feel limited though. I need to get outta the educational sector more than anything. Feels like a dead end. Everything closer to the city pays more that’s a given, which I wouldn’t mind. I’m pulling at strings. Kinda stressed to say the least lol. I’m figuring it out, did you jump straight into Software Development after college?
/r/askTRP28/12/19 02:13 AM
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I work in IT and I’m 26, 6 years of experience now in it altogether. I’m stuck in a 50k a year Desktop Support position at a school district, it’s not terrible I just closed on a new construction townhouse I’m moving into. I suck at coding so I envy you software developers making that much!
/r/askTRP27/12/19 09:55 PM
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I mean, anyone that values their money knows that renting is literally taking xx $$ per month and setting it on fire. It’s a terrible long term strategy, real estate and owning your own place is a smart financial move once you figure out where you want to move to. Than again, you’re probably looking at pennies with that kind of salary so it doesn’t matter either way.
/r/askTRP27/12/19 09:21 PM
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I take it you're rather new to Adderall, because you're emphasizing how it's boosting your confidence and focusing on the topic at hand and making you appear interesting. Likewise, it did that for me, years ago. If you keep taking it regularly enough (I'm prescribed) it will start eating away at your personality to the point where it makes you sound robotic. Eventually, those confident thoughts may or may not translate to critical anxiety-inducing ones. Whether not or it happens to you is a matt…
/r/askTRP23/12/19 03:02 PM
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I come with only my own experience, no answer. I’m stuck in the same exact situation I’m 26 working full time. All my co workers are 10 years older and married, I don’t get out at all on the weekends and have basically no friends. I still talk to a few on Facebook from college and high school but besides that nada. I just bought a new construction townhouse, I work out during the week, I’ve focused on bettering myself in every aspect but I’ve never really had a true LTR. I’ve had Hinge flings ov…
/r/askTRP20/12/19 01:58 AM
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Again, it’s a different era now as opposed to what it was for me.
/r/askTRP13/12/19 05:56 PM
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It was the opposite experience for me, my teenage years were amazing, 2008-2011 was when I was in high school. Right before the internet took over every aspect of daily life. It’s funny because if you were to ask me back then I would be saying something completely different but that’s when I peaked. At 26 now and the past ~4 or 5 years have been a drought.
/r/askTRP13/12/19 05:34 PM
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This post is hilarious
/r/askTRP05/12/19 05:44 PM
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Ya this is literally me. Girls I’m finding and plating are basic boring with dry humor, but it’s also what I’m attracted to which sucks. Me on the other hand, my humor is pretty dark. I find stupid things funny (memes) which typical people don’t or think are super weird. Makes it that much harder to find a common ground.
/r/askTRP20/11/19 03:25 AM
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Just wanted to add I had the same high school experience. I graduated in 2011 though, yet it feels like forever ago. I met girls through MySpace and AIM, man those were the days. It was so easy growing a connection with people and just talking to them back then I don’t know what it was. Undeveloped brain? I definitely missed out on some serious LTR material because I was jumping from one girl to the next all the time. If only I could go back and re-do my Autism differently, what an ending it wou…
/r/askTRP20/11/19 03:21 AM
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I’m all outta cocaine sadly
/r/askTRP20/11/19 03:09 AM
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I find it kills my personality and turns me into a robot to the point it kills any magic. I have a hard time getting past the generic questioning and then it’s too late as her interest fades.
/r/askTRP15/11/19 06:29 AM
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This reminds me of the days in middle school if you didn’t fit in or want to associate with a group of people and you ignored them they coined the term “gay” for you. Not going on defense only makes it worse especially denying it.
/r/askTRP15/11/19 06:24 AM
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Same reason on Amphetamine, false confidence being drug induced.
/r/askTRP13/11/19 06:21 PM
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I’ve had this issue too many times, and it’s probably why my dating app game is constantly in a shitty cycle. I can bullshit whatever they want to hear online, in person though, the silence is deafening. I can’t get beyond the common ground of questioning and agreeing because everyone I’ve met to a degree is as basic as you can imagine. The stuff I enjoy talking about isn’t exactly what they would want to hear. (I work in IT) When I try to fill the void of silence between generic conversation to…
/r/askTRP12/11/19 03:04 PM
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That is exactly why I never plan on moving to the city, too much anxiety with weird ass people and being hyper aware. Plus everything is so expensive. Nice to visit, but to live there? For me, forget it. It would never happen.
/r/askTRP12/11/19 02:57 PM
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What I feel like would have changed the situations I was in with women is letting them know about my ADD earlier on but they never stuck around long enough for me to even get to that point.
/r/askTRP06/11/19 08:22 PM
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I feel like I wrote this 3 years ago, went to a real university a few years after getting my Associates and wanted to attempt getting my Bachelors. I had to support myself through the whole process. Worked 2 jobs while trying to attend classes full time. Got burned out. Bought Adderall like crazy, lead to a serious Amphetamine addiction, later getting prescribed to it LOL. Was too little to late. Dropped out and still work in my career, IT. It’s one of the few that experience is more valued than…
/r/askTRP25/10/19 12:09 AM
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Avoid drugs, I dropped out because of all the stress I gave myself and working two jobs on the side while attending full time and driving home on the weekends to my other job. Never gave myself a time to study. Pissed away a year, still an interesting experience. Still have my associates degree and I work full time in my career so it's not terrible. But if I could get a chance to go back and change my attitude towards it all I'd do it differently. Smoked too much weed, did way too much Adderall …
/r/askTRP04/09/19 12:35 AM
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We literally have the same ideals and insight into how society is now, I'm 26. Glad someone said it!
/r/askTRP30/08/19 12:17 AM
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Lol I have actually haha. They need to program an app that bans girls who don't respond. That would be one hellva eye opener and would change the game completely.
/r/askTRP30/08/19 12:15 AM
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I agree with you and appreciate the advice. I need a rude awakening, I just need to change my ways which is so beta fucked sideways it's asinine and it's leading me down a lonely path. I don't have much in the way of personality anymore, I'll give you that. That's why I killed anything that could have been a relationship quite a few times during interactions. Insecurity is still a thing, I would say I'm above average looking with a dog shit personality and not at all confident. Terrible awful co…
/r/askTRP17/07/19 02:34 AM
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Yeah that's my line up thinking too. I'd expect this more from Tinder but Hinge geared towards dating more and the quality of matches is far greater. I haven't met up with someone from a dating app since last year and it almost turned into a relationship. It's really just girls viewing it with a mindset that's not taking it, at the very least, minimally serious which sucks when you get your own hopes up. Seems like it's been this way for years now, and you can't change the way they view it. What…
/r/askTRP17/07/19 01:37 AM
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Well adulting in its nature is waking up going to work, coming home hitting the gym, going home and to sleep repeat. Whatever happens in between is nothing short of a miracle and nearly impossible to meet new people outside of that routine.
/r/askTRP10/07/19 12:26 AM
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Saged
/r/askTRP09/07/19 01:31 AM
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Not always true, in fact I never considered myself apart of any popular crew. I had friends in all sorts of groups. I mainly was apart of the skater, outlyer group. I was shy had my own anxiety issues and kept to myself. I had the most success in High school with girls and enjoyed it even though at the time I probably would have said different. Problem ended up being my attitude at the time was high and mighty thinking there was something better than what I currently had, which is why I shuffled…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/19 03:12 PM
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