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0	Why I quit dating apps forever (and what I now do instead) Ha wonderfully combative. I’m not fighting you. I asked how old you are. And yes. I speak, like, really good English. My entire life. Anyway, I asked your age not the age you pursue. Because going after 24 year olds at 50 is… Leonardo territory.	/r/seduction	21/10/25 10:03 AM
2	Why I quit dating apps forever (and what I now do instead) How old are you?	/r/seduction	21/10/25 09:09 AM
19	Assholes always win..... You have been traumatized by the way you were raised. Pleasing your parents meant you were protected and safe. You have brought that into adulthood. Connect with yourself. Learn to regulate yourself at all times. That means always feeling safe because you have got you. This will lead to loving yourself. And the confidence comes from loving yourself. I’m on this journey too. It takes a long time to heal these wounds created in childhood	/r/seduction	11/10/25 04:28 PM
1	Friendzoning a girl Ok you didn’t like the callous argument. How about the energy expenditure. This sounds like a lot of work. If you are already using dating apps, I think bumble has a friendship feature. Just swipe right blindly until you find a match. And then actually truthfully hangout with that person. From there you can both expand and meet women, or others together.	/r/seduction	26/09/25 01:35 PM
2	5 Tightly Guarded Secrets of Female This entire thing rings so true for me. I have failed exactly these tests. Girls saying they don’t want to kiss then feeling dejected that I didn’t kiss them. Girls who threw themselves at me only after i didn’t care. It’s all momentary, and I take their views as permanent.	/r/seduction	24/09/25 02:30 PM
1	Why am I able to flirt effortlessly while being drunk but not when sober? Frontal cortex.	/r/seduction	25/03/25 02:30 PM
3	i find myself always pulling away and i don’t know why Listen to the answers given. You have an avoidant attachment style. You can get the ick when they become interested. It’s almost self-sabotaging. And another framing of the same thing is you are becoming fearful as things go well that you will then screw them up. This could be caused by childhood trauma or needing to please one parent or not wanting to piss them off. These answers although simple are also really deep. Meaning, look into these, and address them. It’s going to take years. You will…	/r/seduction	25/03/25 02:23 PM
1	He Thought Women Would Always Chase Him... Until This Happened Agreed. This is a cautionary tale. That the game is seduction. But the goal is to make connections with women, presumably to find one that you connect with the most. And to actively do so, not passively.	/r/seduction	07/02/25 11:45 AM
2	Anyone in OC? Like Orange County, California? This app is used worldwide. Anyway I hope you find people. There are meetups for meeting guy friends. Maybe that will help.	/r/seduction	06/02/25 04:24 PM
2	Th power of saying no ! It’s been said a few times but what you have is actually a fearful avoidant attachment style. You are not following through with the encounter because of a fear of intimacy, it not feeling right, detachment, or some other similar factor. It’s fine, you’re fine. But the years will go on and you won’t address it, and you’ll start being resentful towards yourself for missing the opportunities. Just take them home and see if there is a physical spark at least. Likely you won’t feel the spark because…	/r/seduction	10/01/25 06:33 AM
3	You’re a 10 in looks literally but you give off 7 energy Women want to be seduced. Not teach a guy how to seduce them. They don’t gain anything from that. Maybe a friend might. But a friend also tells you your new haircut looks good when it doesn’t.	/r/seduction	25/10/24 07:08 PM
3	You’re a 10 in looks literally but you give off 7 energy I love this answer so much. Because it’s honest and truthful to women. And to myself and the OP, look at this ridiculous list. Look at it! Holy yikes. Literally to me it looks like, hey be perfect in every way, but don’t pretend to be perfect, you have to be perfect, and then also don’t be cocky about it. So you know do, this naturally. And calming, be calm while you do all these things. Oh you have traumas that cause you to not act this way. Well. Don’t. But hey, we are not here to be coddled. …	/r/seduction	25/10/24 07:06 PM