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| 59 | The ‘DON’T LEAVE YOUR HOME’,’GET 50-50 CUSTODY’and ‘LET THE FAMILY AND FRIENDS KNOW ABOUT THE CHEATING’ are not an option anymore. | Rant | StrongEffort7747 | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/02/25 03:21 PM |
| 2 | What are the ‘alternative’ tactics that are available for men (like the Silver Bullet for women)? | StrongEffort7747 | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/03/25 05:38 PM |
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| 1 | Divorced Men On The Dating Market With Kids - Let the goal for the second round be about companionship rather than marriage and cohabitationWhat dolls? | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/03/25 06:55 PM |
| 6 | Divorced Men On The Dating Market With Kids - Let the goal for the second round be about companionship rather than marriage and cohabitationI think the best way to go about it after a divorce with kids in your late 30s or 40s is going solo poly. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/03/25 01:07 PM |
| 3 | Court is neutering me in the devorce.Trust funds CAN be imputed as income.What are your lawyers saying? | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/03/25 08:03 AM |
| 4 | How much am I going to looseIf a money transfer was made for legitimate reasons, judges will typically not consider it during asset division. However, some people attempt to move large sums to friends or family or spend excessively on luxury purchases before filing for divorce, hoping to shield assets from the settlement. Divorce courts see right through these tactics and won’t let them slide. If your soon-to-be ex tries to claim those expenses , you may need to provide medical receipts or other proof to show they weren’t … | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/03/25 04:01 PM |
| 5 | 18 days and she's outAre you going to let the Ap’s fiancée know?Also sent the screenshot texts to her friend group anonymously.You’ve secured custody and finances. Go scorched earth.People tell revenge is not the answer but that’s only because of retaliation.You’ e secured everything in the settlement that would matter. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/03/25 02:07 PM |
| 6 | 18 days and she's outYou don’t have to read it yourself.If you have a trusted sibling maybe a sister,ask her keep track of it.And let you know if the exw got something up and running.Reading it yourself is pure hell and you wont forget it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/03/25 02:04 PM |
| 10 | What are the ‘alternative’ tactics that are available for men (like the Silver Bullet for women)?There are also an alarming amount of guys who are dealing with false restraining orders,sexual abuse allegations against their own children ,DV allegations and parental alienations here too. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/03/25 06:40 PM |
| 2 | Question about attorney representing me…They can represent if party A waives it until the party b claims conflict of interest. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/03/25 12:10 PM |
| 1 | Question about attorney representing me…Due to conflict of interest | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/03/25 11:45 AM |
| 1 | Question about attorney representing me…If you consult him for a interview and discuss personal information,then he can’t represent her | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/03/25 11:45 AM |
| 1 | [NYC] How to avoid retaliation and false allegations while evicting my child's mother?What if the day he tells her about the camera and she proactively calls the police to file an DV incident that happened the day before(before the camera is placed).Surely,she would suspect why he wants the camera(to evict her without any problems). If he has two or more weeks of recording he can establish the state of their cohabitation. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/03/25 03:12 PM |
| 4 | [NYC] How to avoid retaliation and false allegations while evicting my child's mother?If the property is on your name alone,you can install secret cameras in all the rooms of your house and record.Secret cameras are easily available everywhere these days.At least record for a two weeks in or more before serving with eviction papers. She should not find about the cameras at all unless she files a DV complaint.For those two weeks,try to cohabitate with her as peaceful as possible.Put on an act.Tell her you want to reconcile or try to build a co-parent relationship or simply accede … | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/03/25 07:00 AM |
| 12 | What apps was she using to talk to other peopleGo to appstore>account>apps>Not on this iphone.Shows apps that were once installed but not there anymore. Check screen time.The total screen time will be higher than the list of every app screen-time. Check Battery percentage. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/03/25 12:17 PM |
| 6 | What Is Behind the Trend of Women Initiating Breakups and Divorces?They just want kids during the best child-bearing years and so that they wont end up alone.Most of them have no intention of staying married forever.They find a nice guy so that he will court them during dating,have a grand fantasy wedding and have children and check off to-do list and check out of the marriage.They will wait until the last interesting parts of the marriage gets boring and drop the bomb.They now have children and a nice guy who will pay child support because he is a nice guy and… | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/03/25 03:34 AM |
| 1 | Partner of 15 years and wife of 6 filed for divorce out of nowhere without even a discussion.Do they incorporate it in alimony or separate big pay for the abandoned spouse? | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/02/25 08:22 AM |
| 2 | Partner of 15 years and wife of 6 filed for divorce out of nowhere without even a discussion.Do judges really acknowledge this maneuver?Because when you paid or supported your spouse through school,you expect the advancement to better your lives TOGETHER,but it is not under duress or forced,nor any business/signed agreement were signed.Are there laws in divorce laws that ensure you reap the career advancement gains?Im asking because alimony is only considered with the duration of marriage.In this case ,OP is only married for 6 years (lower than the standard 7 years for many states in wh… | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/02/25 05:57 AM |
| 5 | The ‘DON’T LEAVE YOUR HOME’,’GET 50-50 CUSTODY’and ‘LET THE FAMILY AND FRIENDS KNOW ABOUT THE CHEATING’ are not an option anymore.But the thing about DV claims is, you can fake-claim it happened wherever and whenever you want it to ,it can always fit the narrative.You cant record all the time and everywhere you go and they claim it happened before the recordings even started. Attorneys and Women have gotten so good with these Silver Bullet strategies ,they worked out the cracks in it. I really believe Its better to leave the house when divorce is the path forward before they can hit with these charges.You’re in better posi… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/02/25 07:17 PM |
| 8 | The ‘DON’T LEAVE YOUR HOME’,’GET 50-50 CUSTODY’and ‘LET THE FAMILY AND FRIENDS KNOW ABOUT THE CHEATING’ are not an option anymore.Then you must have been lucky one.Some judges do really stand on principle but majority of them just give them to cover their asses should something bad happen to the woman later if its not given.There are many DV murders where women weren’t granted TROs previously and the judges get plastered on the media for it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/02/25 07:09 PM |
| 3 | The ‘DON’T LEAVE YOUR HOME’,’GET 50-50 CUSTODY’and ‘LET THE FAMILY AND FRIENDS KNOW ABOUT THE CHEATING’ are not an option anymore.Apparently, according to some other posts the recordings are considered misleading and harassment too.I read a post where this woman’s husband recorded her aggressive behaviour and still nothing came out of it.The woman said that she was goaded into it and the judge dismissed the recording stating that this is a malicious playbook strategy used by men to coerce women to lose their temper and recording it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/02/25 07:02 PM |
| 4 | The ‘DON’T LEAVE YOUR HOME’,’GET 50-50 CUSTODY’and ‘LET THE FAMILY AND FRIENDS KNOW ABOUT THE CHEATING’ are not an option anymore.https://www.instagram.com/reel/DGV49DxxQFp/?igsh=YXpxdDhmY3A4dWJx It’s due to men like these,these TROs are granted so effectively without any proof.Cant really blame the system fully though! | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/02/25 05:12 PM |
| 2 | The ‘DON’T LEAVE YOUR HOME’,’GET 50-50 CUSTODY’and ‘LET THE FAMILY AND FRIENDS KNOW ABOUT THE CHEATING’ are not an option anymore.Why was the emergency custody order granted?Due to TRO? | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/02/25 04:37 PM |
| 2 | Petition for Protection from Abuse, wants me to leave the house.Get a loan to pay them and document the funds used to pay the bills from the loan with irrefutable documentation.So when the divorce negotiations happens the debt can be negotiated to be shared or transferred to her.Since its on official record that you are not using the house due to TRO,you can convince the lawyers or the mediator for her to assume the debt. Ask your lawyer for professional advice | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/02/25 04:35 PM |
| 2 | Petition for Protection from Abuse, wants me to leave the house.Do you have kids with her? | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/02/25 04:29 PM |
| 1 | The ‘DON’T LEAVE YOUR HOME’,’GET 50-50 CUSTODY’and ‘LET THE FAMILY AND FRIENDS KNOW ABOUT THE CHEATING’ are not an option anymore.If you don’t expose the cheating,then the narrative will be you will the covert abuser and she will the silent victim who finally spoke for herself and the AP is the white knight who save her .You will lose your friends circle and reputation | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/02/25 03:32 PM |
| 8 | The ‘DON’T LEAVE YOUR HOME’,’GET 50-50 CUSTODY’and ‘LET THE FAMILY AND FRIENDS KNOW ABOUT THE CHEATING’ are not an option anymore.It’s not even about the kids.It is about keeping the Family Court Revenue generating while also covering their own asses. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/02/25 03:29 PM |
| 3 | Petition for Protection from Abuse, wants me to leave the house.The judges know what they are doing.But the thing is,in many instances in the past,still happening,where actual DV takes place and the woman were denied TPOs due to lack of substantial basis,they have been brutally assaulted or murdered consequently.If the media catches word that a woman was murdered in a DV assault and were denied TPOs prior,the judge becomes the scapegoat for the media.Hence,the ridiculous allowance of TPOs countrywide | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/02/25 03:04 PM |
| 9 | Petition for Protection from Abuse, wants me to leave the house.The reason these TPOs are granted is because if the judge doesn’t grant her due to unfounded claims and she gets assaulted or murdered and the media will obliterate the judge and it becomes the no 1 news all over ,that is why the bar is so low. If you do not have children with her ,there is no need to stay over there.In fact a change of residence will be better to deal with the infidelity emotions.You can get these charges dropped in s few months at the trial date. The house division standards w… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/02/25 02:55 PM |
| 3 | Update - She has been served todayFor all men out there,these false charges are almost the same narrative as “its been going on for years,but last night/week was the final blow”,so if you are going to serve her ,wait sometime.Start recording your conversations for a month prior to serving and do not let her know.Do not immediately confess to the police about the prior recordings.Its a game of ‘you poor thing’.If you get arrested and put in holding wrongly is more sympathising than almost arrested wrongly | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/02/25 09:55 AM |
| 0 | You might not be as appreciated as you think you are by your kidsOnce they are above 22-23 it is no more about their mother’s influence.It is upon them to take a hard look at things for what they are,not what they were told. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/02/25 05:46 AM |
| 2 | You might not be as appreciated as you think you are by your kidsThe thing is no matter what you sacrifice or go through for them ,if the children’s mother disrespect and disparages you to them,they will 100% lose love and respect to you.Children always mirror their mother’s respect to their father and other men in general and mirror their father’s behaviour to their mother and the women in general.Healthy Coparenting is necessary after divorce | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/02/25 05:44 AM |
| 1 | Need Advice for Mediation - FinancialsWhy would you have to pay child support if she earns 4x what you earn and the custody is almost 50.If anything she has to pay child support. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/02/25 01:55 PM |
| 2 | Need Advice for Mediation - FinancialsThats what.You are worried about her asking for child support if you go for her assets.If its 50/50 you would get child support and alimony and half her assets | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/02/25 12:48 PM |
| 1 | Need Advice for Mediation - FinancialsIf you get them 50/50 custody only she will have to pay child support ,if its 55/45 it can be brought to 50/50. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/02/25 10:03 AM |
| 3 | Seeing the exThat’s good.Just make sure you have an overwhelming amount of compelling evidence.Mothers usually just get a slap on the wrist for a lot of seriously messed up things in family court.Good luck. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/01/25 02:42 PM |
| 2 | Seeing the exThat doesn’t matter.If she keeps repeating this neglect while during her week,it establishes a pattern of questionable parenting obligation.There has to be multiple instances of neglect or contempt to modify child custody.Unless the kid was in danger,this one instance alone isnt enough ammo for the modification approval | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/01/25 02:33 PM |
| 2 | Seeing the exGet right of first refusal.Document when she leaves the kids with someone else during her time and when it piles up go to court.Make sure you get proof of her vacationing or other recreational activities during her week with the kids.Judges get furious over that. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/01/25 01:36 PM |
| 1 | Separated but living together until we can sell the house. Any advice managing heavy emotions and strained dynamic?This temporary arrangement and amicable split you seem to have is what most people in this sub would or would have died for.Do not rock the boat and the meanwhile do not let to be walked over too. This is definitely not a time to have emotional outbursts or fighting or arguing.You are still going to have lot of discussions regarding divorce and custody and house sale and other small things.Divorce is not about who’s winning both the parties are losing something.You decide what you want to lose.C… | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/01/25 01:02 PM |
| 1 | Separated but living together until we can sell the house. Any advice managing heavy emotions and strained dynamic?People who commit to have a baby and choose to break the family unit not even 5 years later are the most selfish/worst kind of people | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/01/25 12:33 PM |
| 2 | From “I do” to Parenting Time and Custody OrdersI meant this only when both the parents can be civil and put the children’s need first and not talk shit about them.If they are spreading lies then telling them the truth is the only option to protect your relationship with your children. I recommend it because I have read accounts of many adults who were children of divorce due to infidelity who came to know about their parent’s infidelity at a young age.They say their image of their perfect family is broken,their take on relationships,the conc… | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/12/24 06:35 PM |
| 0 | From “I do” to Parenting Time and Custody OrdersTelling the truth about their mother/father is bad for their development even if it’s the complete truth. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/12/24 12:47 PM |
| 2 | WTF!? I just received (expected) paperworkHow did you get full custody?Did she do something irresponsible to lose her parental credibility or conceded full custody to relocate to New Hampshire?The custody court is usually stacked against men | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/12/24 06:58 AM |
| 1 | Just feeling betrayed and heartbrokenWhat is MGTOW? | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/10/24 01:42 PM |
| 2 | It’s crazy how little rights we have have as fathers.This should be posted right in the front page of this sub | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/09/24 06:23 AM |
| 7 | Talk Me Out Of It BoysShe just wants to find herself a new partner before you do so she can win 🥇 in the separation If you went back to her she will keep you until she monkey branches and discard you | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/07/24 07:20 PM |
| 5 | I'm about to get destroyedStart recording everything secretly. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/07/24 05:58 AM |
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