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I read a study a while back that found that women are generally more happy, confident, and secure in their relationship when their male partner is slightly less attractive than they are. So, depending on the woman's perception of her own attractiveness and the attractiveness of their partner, I think that this can actually be beneficial--rather than a strain--on the relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/20 12:22 AM
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https://ifstudies.org/blog/number-1-in-2018-who-cheats-more-the-demographics-of-infidelity-in-america Here's the study from the actual institute that conducted the research. The research method was, of course, just a survey. So 10% of millennial men ADMIT to cheating and 11% of women. Then after age 29 it flips, and by age 50 men are cheating 8% more. In the later years they're cheating as much as 18% more. However, the entire institute is questionable in who funds their studies and that there i…
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/19 07:00 AM
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She hasn't stated any health concerns in relation to her weight... I think she just wants to be a little thicker for aesthetic reasons.
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/19 12:29 PM
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The side effects are definitely hard on you, but the mood changes are probably hard on him too. Sounds like he's just being a considerate human being, and that he's probably right. It's up to you how important hormonal birth control is, but it sounds like your health is more important to him at least.
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/19 03:31 AM
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Well hey I'm sorry that this happened, but you'll find that you have to use your gut instinct and reasonable sense in the future. Each time you allow a man into your life in this way, you are placing some amount of faith in him. Faith that he will treat you kindly, with respect; faith that he will not intentionally harm you. The fact that you must face is that not all men are worthy of this faith. Some have zero respect for you or your boundaries, and will lie about it to no end. Some have littl…
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/19 12:51 PM
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So wait, he was rubbing coconut oil all over your dress then? And it was round 3, not 2? Agreed with u/WarViper1337, this doesn't make much sense
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/19 12:05 PM
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On a first date? You liked that? Seriously. Seems really weird.
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/19 06:34 AM
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I had the same thought. Too many scrubs.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/19 03:29 PM
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r/codependency helped me a lot. Time to walk away, I believe. Take some time to work on yourself and treat yourself with kindness.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/19 07:45 PM
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I'm very much more like your husband in terms of love language/attachment type. I've dated people who are more like you and would give me letters and such like this. The initial response was always a massive internal cringe, then bracing myself to conjure up some kind of equally cringey response-- because that's obviously what they were after. If it's illiciting a similar response from him is what you need to feel loved, then that's up to you. It probably won't make him feel loved, but if he lov…
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/19 05:00 AM
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In my experience, nun-mode is initially just distracting yourself with self-improvement, and eventually results in a lot of self-love and joy. As for how to better yourself, the first and most important step is to figure out what your aim is. Then, set meaningful and attainable goals that will help you reach your aim. Or, even set goals that are what you'd consider an inch or two out of reach and see how far you can make it--you might surprise yourself! Here's a great video that describes the di…
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/19 05:58 AM
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Well that should scare you He has commitment issues + He had another relationship in the past that ended because he wouldn't commit + You want commitment = perfect recipe for heart break. That story of his is essentially him reassuring you that he won't commit to you either. If I were in this situation and I wanted to continue seeing him, I would take a couple baby steps back. I would not initiate some big, serious talk with him. I would simply not sleep with him, de-escalate anything that goes …
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/19 05:17 PM
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Sounds like there was some miscommunication, and some assumptions made on your part. The fact that he's looking for something serious does not necessarily equate to you two being exclusive. He's still shopping around--which is fine, he's entitled to do so until you guys both agree otherwise. Flipping out over this is just going to make him think you're a little nuts. As for what to do? I would not sleep with him. That's a privilege for a man who chooses to give you exclusivity and some level of …
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/19 02:28 PM
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I lean toward the avoidant attachment style myself, but OP's guy is absolutely dysfunctional and lacks self control.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/19 04:41 AM
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Sounds like you made the right decision. A relationship should not be this difficult.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/19 02:59 AM
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I'm in
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/19 10:36 PM
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How recent was the conversation? And what was the credit card debt spent on? Sounds like he doesn't really care about betraying your trust.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/19 04:16 AM
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I've had the same sort of problems. You'll find this sub, and r/Codependency extremely helpful. Read everything the wiki has to offer, enjoy Nun Mode, and really work on becoming the best you that you can be. Best of luck. You'll make it.
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/19 03:41 PM
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He's telling you to back off. Sounds like you're a bit too eager to jump into almost a wife role in his life. Might want to take a couple baby steps back, because it doesn't sound like that's what he wants. Also, staying there 5 nights a week when he's continuously reminding you that it's his apartment sounds a bit like it's smothering him.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/19 11:37 PM
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I love how you're diving into this argument in a post that is literally about trying not to be self absorbed. If his post really validates you so much that it hurts your feelings, you have several options: Report the post and wait for the mods to laugh at you. Or... Press the back button. Or... Logout. Or... Read a different post.
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/19 02:39 PM
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You know your culture better than most of us do, and you don't seem enthused about his behavior. Trust. Your. Gut.
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/19 05:34 PM
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Sounds like he's holding out to try to get you to cave. In a manipulative sort of way. I'd be wary of marrying someone whose only personality trait you know is their explosive temper. Trust your gut
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/19 01:39 PM
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Unless you're career track, maybe talk to him about finding a part-time job? If that's possible in your situation.
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/19 12:50 AM
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Taking care of yourself is the most important thing in your life. You have to take care of yourself in order to be a good partner to your significant other. This relationship does not allow you to take care of yourself. You are putting in tons of time, energy, and money and what you are getting back are words and promises. If you aren't already, you're going to become completely resentful of him and what he's putting you through. You will look look back on this moment and wish you had just ended…
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/19 09:17 PM
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Good Lord, cut your losses already. Otherwise he's going too drag you down too. Emotionally and financially.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/19 07:42 PM
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2.5 years, and yes sometimes. I really wish him well. He was sweet and silly, and we had the same sense of humor. He scratched my back until I fell asleep every night. However, 0 regrets about breaking up. He was lazy, gained 50 pounds in just a few month's time about 1.5 years in (which is a lot considering he was 5"6'). Huge pothead, lost a job because he was smoking pot onsite multiple times per day. Had no ambition. Hobby was watching TV. Didn't always save enough money for groceries after g…
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/19 05:05 AM
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Hard to tell if she's a crude idiot or intentionally sabotaging you. I'd try to make new friends and either ghost her, or slowfade.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/19 06:27 PM
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Do you really want to sit around and wait to be some guy's plan B?
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/19 03:47 PM
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This
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/19 03:41 PM
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Thank you for your advice! Very helpful Also, for your reading pleasure: https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/cgv0tj/introducing_chad_thundercocks_younger_brother/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/19 06:21 AM
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I guess I'll have to dive further into the bay more often! It's really not a long drive and I have several friends who would love to go with me. Yeah, I feel like most of the women on this sub think that I'm already a spinster at 25, but it's completely bay area normal to marry around 30-35 and have kids sometime before 40. Thank you for the advice! October 10th of this year is officially when I'll be able too start dating again, and I'll have your advice in mind then!
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/19 02:44 AM
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Thanks for your advice! It makes sense, I need to stick to what I want and be clear. One thing that I can say is that I've never actually gotten a single dick pic, if you can believe it!
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/19 01:59 AM
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Thank you!! That makes a lot of sense.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/19 01:57 AM
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Thank you!! I really feel like we're on the same page here. Moderate is definitely what I'm looking for, but currently I live in a college town in the northbay which is very leftist (not quite Berkeley level, but close). I'm not sure how easily I could meet someone down in Palo Alto/SF, though my goal is to get a job at Stanford Hospital. So, maybe in the next two years it will be more likely. I have a degree so I a least have that base covered. I'm relatively articulate, but get a bit nervous a…
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/19 01:56 AM
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Well why stop there? She should invite him in!
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/19 03:45 AM
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First she needs to use the bathroom, so she closes the door How dare she!
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/19 10:16 PM
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Some people are not birthday people. I grew up with 7 siblings. We never had birthday parties. We got a gift, and sometimes got to pick what we wanted for dinner. Because of this, I'm not a birthday person and birthdays do not occur to me as being big spectacular events. Just swallow your pride and tell him what you want. It might not naturally occur to him.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/19 01:01 AM
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Maybe give it a few days
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/19 07:46 PM
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It may have just been a learning experience. You could try asking him out though.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/19 07:44 PM
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I think he was interested but you gave him some rather mixed signals. It's good to hold strong on your boundaries, but where you chose to draw the line on these particular boundaries was really strange, and probably very confusing for a 31 year old man.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/19 06:25 PM
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Woah. Why are you choosing to act like a bully rather than dumping your loser boyfriend and moving on? Oh and out of curiosity, how old are you?
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/19 01:13 AM
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Username checks out. Keepin it eco-friendly ☆
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/19 01:03 AM
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Dancing! I do swing dancing and I meet a lot of great people of all ages
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/19 05:05 PM
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Well welcome to the CA bay! I've been here my entire life actually
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/19 04:43 PM
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Agreed! I live in the bay area in California, so I completely understand how you feel
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/19 05:04 AM
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Very sorry ): I've fallen for my fair share of manipulation too.
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/19 05:03 AM
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Listen to your gut. He's love bombing, which is a classic manipulation technique. I don't know if there is an easy way to know for certain he's lying, but just trust yourself. Here's my mantra: If it seems crazy, it probably is.
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/19 03:50 AM
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I was in a very similar situation to you about 3 years ago. I actually caught on slower, I did lose my job and most friendships during this relationship. I lost so much weight that I could hardly function. I realized it was not just a normal stress reaction when I collapsed on the floor while grocery shopping and didn't have the energy to get up until someone helped me. Codependency is a nightmare. through all of that I still loved and respected him, and I always could differentiate between depe…
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/19 03:13 PM
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That's really great, I'm so glad it's working out for you! I've been doing the same recently and I'm the same age as you, but I'm in a very leftist, ultra-feminist area (just north of San Francisco) so I'm really struggling to find men that are even marginally close to what I'm looking for. Send a little luck my way, and congrats to you! (:
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/19 11:41 PM
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So Dylan's goals don't align with those of any of the women here. This was pretty much the entire point of the Dylan post.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/19 01:55 AM
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Yup. This. Sorry Whisper, but I think you missed the point of the Dylan post.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/19 01:00 AM
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Sorry, you didn't quite get it straight. A lot of those details are not quite right. I had a great convo with some others in this post though and they helped me see that I was just being silly, and thinking too much about it due to bad experiences in previous relationships. I appreciate your input and attempt to help though.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/19 02:31 AM
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Thank you, your perspective makes a lot of sense and filled in a lot of details that I hadn't considered at the time.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/19 01:14 AM
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Thank you! I will absolutely read that. My problem usually was that I* was easily guilted/manipulated by the men that I allow in my life. I've improved myself a lot in the last year of being single and have built boundaries that I've been sticking to very well. I mostly asked this question to make sure that I don't go overboard on my boundaries. Trying to figure out what is reasonable instead of going way too far in the other direction.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/19 01:10 AM
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I appreciate your advice and I'm glad that it works well for you, but unfortunately I'm just not this way
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/19 12:37 AM
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Thank you, I think you're right. My past experiences just made me really worried.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/19 12:20 AM
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Thank you! You really understand my sentiment. I'm not calling this guy out or anything, I'm just not that good at vetting honestly
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/19 12:18 AM
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I offered because I thought we were going to be friends and that he was not interested in more. I'm not crying because I'll be missing out on money or because I think he's so terrible for accepting, I'm just trying to get some perspective and trying not to fall into my old patterns. And I think you might be right, I'm just a bit literal and serious sometimes haha
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/19 10:34 PM
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Oh shoot, I'm not sure you read my replies where I clarified. But I understand why you'd see it this way.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/19 09:23 PM
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Oh!! I just stalked your post history too! Always nice to bump into another nurse. And thank you so much that's so kind!
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/19 07:09 PM
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That's a very fair point, thank you
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/19 06:55 PM
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I completely understand why you responded the way you did, I didn't clarify well at all what went on or what I was feeling. I feel the same way you do, and I feel that this entitled quality in women is despicable and repulsive (Sorry to you 33% of ladies that feel this way). I've known a lot of women with this attitude and I try to stay away from them. My problem is that I tend to be too compassionate and let far too much slide before I allow myself to jump ship. I just really don't want to be t…
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/19 06:16 PM
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I added an edit at the top because I'm not sure that I conveyed my feelings to you all properly
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/19 05:22 PM
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Thank you, you transcribed perfectly what was going on in my brain.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/19 05:14 PM
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No, you're totally correct and that is my goal. I've just had a lot of bad experiences and made extremely poor choices in men because I don't speak up and ask questions. A tragic theme in most of them has been finances (ending up with them borrowing hundreds or thousands of dollars from me, and worse). I go to all you ladies for help and advice, and am more then happy to be told that I'm wrong or just being silly. Thank you
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/19 04:51 PM
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I was completely comfortable paying for a friend, it wasn't intended to be a moral flex. It's just when he showed me* that it was actually a date that I got a bit confused. But I think your perspective is valid on the spirit of his response
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/19 04:46 PM
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It was a question and a concern, not an attitude. Take a deep breath haha. Just wanted a little perspective.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/19 04:41 PM
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I felt completely comfortable for paying for a friend, it's when it became a date that it made me wary.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/19 04:25 PM
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Yeah, that seems awfully uncouth for a first date.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/19 06:26 AM
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I do to! But I have my old Kindle keyboard that lives in my purse.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/19 04:50 AM
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If only I lived in a 90s sitcom!
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/19 04:06 PM
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You certainly have a point. I just had a bad experience with it, but at the time I had no idea how to vet properly. I think at this point in my life it would probably go better. And I'll have to get out of my shell to make a more intentional effort. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/19 03:38 PM
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What is the military reserve contingent? I've been considering joining the reserves when I graduate.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/19 03:35 PM
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Wow, you're smart. That's a fantastic idea. Thank you so much!
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/19 03:34 PM
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Oh! That sounds great! I'd love to go to a language MeetUp. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/19 03:33 PM
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I tried church, but I was not raised religiously so I stood out more than I would have liked. I have thought about trying a different church though, because the particular one I was going to was a bit odd.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/19 03:32 PM
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I think volunteering is a great idea! Thank you! I've never been to speed dating, I'll have to look and see if that exists in my area. It should! I have been to church a few times, but I was not raised religiously so I feel like I stand out like a sore thumb. I was going to a couple of local young adults group, but it was a really strange group.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/19 03:31 PM
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That's really awesome! Congrats to you two. Did you go to a subreddit for that, or just a coincidence?
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/19 03:27 PM
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Best of luck to you too then! It's tough sometimes!
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/19 03:26 PM
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Also fair. I can handle awkward and am pretty good at pretending I don't care, but if someone kept showing up and bothering me it might get uncomfortable. I'll have to think about that
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/19 03:25 PM
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I think this is a great suggestion! Thank you. I've thought about asking men at the gym for help like that, I just get really nervous because I can be rather shy. I'll have to get out of my shell a little more, I think.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/19 03:23 PM
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Talk calmly to him about it. It might seem so obvious to you that needing to point it out seems ridiculous, not it might not be so obvious to him.
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/19 08:38 PM
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I'm exactly where you are. Bounced through a few bad relationships and finally decided to just give it a rest. I've just been spending my time on gradual self improvement and hoping I'll be ready/interested again in the next year or so. It's so nice once you hit the Acceptance stage of singlehood, but generally the thought of having a partner at this moment in time seems so uninteresting.
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/19 08:26 PM
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I'd report her to the Board of Nursing as well if she's a certified midwife.
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/19 04:00 PM
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Of course! https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/wiki/index Very simple words here in the wiki.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/19 05:33 PM
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r/codependency Helped me a lot to understand why my relationships were similar to yours
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/19 03:10 AM
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THANK YOU EVERYONE I can't believe how simple it can be to dress classy! I have poor taste in clothing and could not figure out why I wasn't hitting the mark on a classy look.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/19 05:23 AM
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PIV orgasms are all about the man. Men will pressure and push and do whatever it takes to get a woman to have a PIV orgasm, and the result will end up being mediocre sex. Enjoy the journey of it. Listen to her. Show her your desire. Focus on foreplay. Don't be the arrogant "I know what I'm doing!" guy when she asks you to try something different.
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