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Are men supposed to protest this?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 07:44 AM
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When it’s a man I don’t want to date he is laying with human trafficking victims When it’s a woman in sexwork she has ‘patrons’ and is just trying to get a bag. Funny how that works
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 08:58 AM
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Notoriously poor ugly loser with nothing going for him. Oh wait
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 08:49 AM
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Completely uncorroborated
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 08:48 AM
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This is just one more stipulation to dating on the many thousands that various women have when it comes to dating. I hope no-one in this thread is swayed by this post out of fear of not attracting girls. You cannot appease women of this type. Simply carry on as usual and disregard the female opinion on male sexuality. And if you are truly concerned down the line, keep your history of sexual liaisons to yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 08:44 AM
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Of course when men do something it must always be because they have ill intention. But when a woman does it she has a ‘legitimate’ reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 09:41 AM
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This assumes every man wants to participate in hookup culture. While most men desire consistent sex, a large percentage are not interested in a constant flow of ONS’s. A lot of people who participate in hookup culture are actually just rotating between fwbs.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 07:49 AM
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Hell yea
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 03:32 PM
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Cool post! But why go thru all that rigmarole instead of temporarily withdrawing from the dating market while you amass desirable attributes? "status, wealth, personality, etc. only come into real focus over time. Those traits have value, it's just they take awhile to shine."
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 08:47 AM
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That’s a red flag right there. Thanks for the thorough explanation. Gave me a lot to think about. Then self-improve. Ingenious. Sure if it’s reasonable. Thanks for your input.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 08:40 AM
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You can pick two of the above, the vast majority of the time. I think if men can pick 1 & 3 they would be pretty happy. What is the 'beta strategy'? I don't really understand the noise about being 'beta' anyways. I think it's just another BS term to make men feel bad about themselves, I hate it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 08:29 AM
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But I'm not in the market for marriage or a live-in girlfriend or anything like that. You are not the demographic I'm targeting. It also doesn't sound like you are compromising on your standards, Godspeed friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 08:25 AM
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there will always be horny dudes who will say yes to fat/provocative/high-n women and ruin whatever attempt at solidarity is being made. The only thing we can do is reduce this percentage of men. Additionally, most of this applies to good quality men that are actually eligible in the dating market (the ones that women actually want). It is important to note that this is a battle to change men's way of thinking at large. The same way much of second wave feminism was a mental struggle to free wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 08:20 AM
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If what I said offends you why not just move along? Are you trying to bait me into volleying insults at you, is that it? Gosh.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 07:59 AM
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It may or may not, but it's better for men to not lie to themselves either way. However my theory is that both men and women can make changes in the dating market (perhaps small) but it will take men standing up for themselves en masse.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 07:56 AM
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My conceptualization of love is likely very different than yours. Love for me is often a premeditated, pre-planned sort of exercise. You don't fall in love in my view, you grow in love.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 07:53 AM
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Men will never have control and power over how another person values themselves Of course that's true. You can value yourself how ever you want where did I oppose that? I'm only interested in dating market value and in that instance only the market can decide one's value. no matter how influential they believe their shaming tactics to be. I always find it amusing when a man's standards are always interpreted as shaming tactics. I think something about men selecting their choice in mate unnerves …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 07:48 AM
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I understand that you are angry but please redirect your rage elsewhere. This is a discussion, please remain civil.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 07:26 AM
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lmao they already don't. I'm trying to get men up to speed.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 07:24 AM
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What are you on about?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 07:16 AM
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Please listen carefully. As I said, I don’t know the guy so I am not at liberty to make a judgement call however Instagram is pretty poor evidence to use that a relationship is going well. It could be! But we can’t know that for sure. Thanks for listening.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 07:10 AM
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This whole post is about building solidarity. You can have no faith but I also would not expect you to understand as you are a woman. (And there are other ways to ‘nut’ without being in a relationship btw) I also do not expect you to understand the qualities that men find attractive in a woman either so I won’t bother. It is my assessment that you are wrong as a matter of principle. There are many reasons a man might date an overweight woman (I.e. fetish, believing fat women are nicer/less snobb…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 07:07 AM
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If being thrilled was the barometer than I’m sure the white men who fetishize Asian women would also be ‘thrilled’ at the thought of being in a relationship with one. I don’t know this guy so I am not at liberty to make a judgement call unlike what you are doing but Instagram is pretty infamous for displaying a facade while veiling inner turmoil. I would hesitate before jumping to conclusions.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 06:59 AM
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I don’t see things the way you do. Let’s just call it a civil disagreement. I am a big advocate for male solidarity. You may not realize it but women are much more unified on certain topics than you might believe. They can rally call with “gurl power” and behave in an ‘institution-esque’ way. Sorry for my optimism but I’d like to see men rally other men in a similar way. There are whole programs dedicated to steering troubles boys away from crime but forgive me for wanting to steer adult men awa…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 06:55 AM
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Your taking the word far too literally. I mean, “Forgiving” in terms of overlooking things you find undesirable.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 06:50 AM
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In the current dating market you need leverage to actually participate in relationships. Instead of giving up, work on accumulating more to yourself first that way when a girl loses you she loses qualities that she won’t easily find in another man (in shape, financially successful, high social status).
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 06:08 AM
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who else is left?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 06:33 AM
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Don’t throw a tantrum just because someone countered your point. What a baby.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 03:36 AM
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You did not make a point since men would rather avoid both of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 03:28 AM
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Here are some things you would probably encounter as a man that you definitely didn’t consider. -Take your current friend group and reduce by 80% that’s your friend group now if you’re lucky. This also applies to insta followers/ fb friends. -Your friends are now “homies” and do not expect the same emotional support you receive from your “sisters”. You can expect silence and maybe playful teasing at best. No one is gonna care when you post a selfie online the comments will be devoid of “you go g…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 07:42 AM
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Men are also at great risk of being victims of DV. Your pivot doesn’t work here.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 08:03 PM
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That’s the only thing stopping you from hurling an insult? So you’re not a good person??
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 05:44 AM
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Unfortunately this is tremendous cope. Men are not being dishonest about what they like. Men tend to just have a bit more variety in sexual interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 05:38 AM
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This question always puzzles me. Think about how many women you know who like fat men. Think about if you like fat men? The answer you came up with is the same one for how men feel about fat women.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 05:35 AM
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Which is more common; adultery or Murder?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 05:31 AM
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nobody does that I'm so curious if you know what the word hyperbole is. Please say no or I'm gonna cringe.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 02:00 AM
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Did I tell you what you have or haven’t experienced? Please keep up omg
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 12:46 AM
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Just because something may or may not exist does not mean it explains a trend or in anyway represents the whole. This is the first thing taught in Critical Thinking 102. I am embarrassed for you even if you aren't.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 09:57 PM
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Yes. The dating pool is what's off.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 09:53 AM
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This is an embarrassing response. Threatening western women is a waste of time and nobody does that. Passport bros are men trying to make other men aware they have more options.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 09:50 AM
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What is it about male standards that makes you so angry?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 09:48 AM
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Stop telling consenting adults what they can or can't do.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 09:45 AM
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I'll stay single. Speaking as a man, yes you certainly will.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 09:17 AM
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Average men are reminded everyday of how average they are based on their romantic success. A man can only stay delusional if he never tests his theory of attraction or if they have some mental illness. This is the opposite for average women as they don't experience rejection at nearly the same rate or frequency as men. They ascertain where they land on the attraction spectrum based on tinder likes and insta dms which skews their ability to know where they land among other women.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 09:14 AM
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Interestingly, when you had the best chance at finding a good guy you squandered it on below average men. Now when you have the least amount of choices in the dating market you refuse to settle for one. More screening as your choices dwindle is...a strategy...
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 09:09 AM
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When women behave rationally we all benefit. A healthy market means a prosperous economy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 01:26 AM
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It’s not a boycott unless all men are doing it. That’s the whole point.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 12:54 AM
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I don’t think they do. Boycotting is an adequate reaction to irrational market behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 12:04 AM
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Sounds like we agree. The market is perverted due to irrational behavior from women.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 09:10 PM
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80% of men being classified as ‘subpar’ is irrational
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 08:08 PM
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Because women have become more and more picky while becoming less and less desirable. There’s no incentive to improve.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 04:55 AM
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Men are generally known for having lots of options in the dating marketplace. Please think a little.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 08:12 AM
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Yes we all watched house of cards can you please post an original comment? Maybe something more coherent?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 07:04 AM
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except for Seinfeld I've never heard of that phenomenon.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 12:30 AM
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They aren’t ready to hear this.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 07:41 PM
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Its the other way around I would say. I very rarely encounter a good looking woman dating an ugly dude. Usually the gym bros have a “curvy girl” around their arm. Men have acquiesced into becoming forgiving creatures visually I would wager. While women have been increasingly demanding about things like height, hair loss, weight; things women cared little about before.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 10:11 AM
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Just be picky, man. Ignore the naysayers. Enjoy your slim women!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 10:05 AM
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Nobody’s looksmatch is trying to date up? I’m doubtful.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 10:00 AM
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Attractiveness is balanced by economic status. A perfect 10 may not find a guy who is a perfect 10 physically but will be higher up on the economic ladder.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 09:56 AM
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My mom made me think all or most women were like her: polite, dignified, and feminine. Entering the real world shattered this perception of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 06:54 PM
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as men age and accrue more wealth it becomes easier to cheat since their wealth opens up their options. Is that the logic
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 05:30 PM
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Did not answer the question
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 04:46 PM
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“Walk around outside” Speaking of being unscientific…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 08:14 PM
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Men pine for 10s but go for 4s and 5s. Women both pine and go for 10s.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 06:11 PM
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Why would below average women get treated better than their male counterpart? Because below-average women still have dating prospects
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 05:32 AM
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I can now see exactly why you came to this conclusion.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 12:56 PM
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The question isn't a bad one because men don't have the answer. That's not why it's bad. It's a weird question because it puts a single dude up against an entire ideology. IE "What can women offer that is better than egalitarianism?" Idk it's just a strange way to frame it. ​ If a woman does not have high sexual value, how does it make sense that she base her future on landing a husband over self-sufficiency? Feminism can mean a lot of things. It can mean self-sufficiency, or it can mean bra-bur…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 02:04 AM
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Lol this question is malformed because what could possibly be the answer. What could a man as an individual offer compared to an entire ideology. But to answer the other question: the only reason why the modern woman should at least be highly skeptical of feminism is that if they do not possess high sexual market value it's their best shot of landing a decent husband. To mutilate my answer to better suit your strange question format: men offer their own masculinity to women and if women can acqu…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 05:12 AM
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lol you came with receipts!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/21 10:33 PM
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In other words, someone who has genetically XX Chromosome, was born that way, and can't change that. The insult doesn't mock the fact that a person is a woman, it mocks the fact that a woman is entitled. It's typically used as a derogatory term for lesbians. It's homophobic. Based on my experience, the term is also typically used for women who "look" more masculine. Essentially the stereotype of what people assume lesbians "look" like.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 11:27 PM
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The insult of "Karen" while usually directed at women, describes their personality only. Napoleon complex describes both personality and physical qualities. I.e. Calling a woman with a larger frame a d*ke would also be body shaming.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 04:08 AM
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not one piece of evidence or proof? prepare to have your mind blown
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 12:52 AM
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Napoleon complex is a particular type of inferiority complex. The type that derides someone for their height (body shaming)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 12:46 AM
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Based on their personality You could use "inferiority complex". But you know what the implications are of saying napoleon complex. Of course it's actually a derogatory body-shaming remark.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/21 09:43 PM
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Most women don't shit on men for traits they can't change. I disagree completely.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/21 09:40 PM
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Had to double take that to make sure you were serious.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/21 09:37 PM
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Fat girls are low value (on the sexual market). Nothing inherently wrong with them, but there's something wrong with their health choices. No different from men.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/21 09:36 PM
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bingo
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/21 03:56 AM
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that flair lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/21 03:55 AM
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I think some old-fashioned guys would feel embarrassed but I don't know any guy in my age range (19-35) who would feel insecure about their GF paying. In fact, if the person I'm with doesn't at least offer I get a little suspicious.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/21 03:54 AM
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I'm not an RP'er but many of the generalizations about women I have also apply to my mom as well. In fact, that is how I found out about some of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 07:48 PM
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The qualm is that women made a concerted effort to propagate the idea that men are shallow horn dogs and women aren’t. Now that’s it’s becoming better understood that women are often more shallow, the pendulum is swinging the other way in terms of criticism
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/21 07:42 PM
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Young liberal women usually want to explore and experiment. As Gavin McKinnes once said these “bi” women usually calm down with sexual identifiers in the late thirties early 40s. And likewise I have seen very few middle aged women call themselves Bi. They usually say “I experimented in college”.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/21 07:24 PM
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Something about your comment pisses me off.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/21 05:18 PM
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Yeah the main issue here is that men’s body standards are TOO high. If they’d only stop looking for porn star bodies they’d be drowning in female attention. 😒
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/21 07:56 PM
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Reminds me of “you’re a cashier!!!” From Seinfeld 😂
/r/PussyPassDenied10/03/21 05:05 AM
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This sub is supposed to be about discussion and battling ideas. FDS isn’t exactly known for ideological tug-of-war...
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/21 11:35 AM
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How about calling men deragatory terms like “scrotes”? How high is your bar to qualify as hatred against men?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/21 11:26 AM
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I’m looking on this exact thread you are commenting on and seeing a library of links and quotes?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/21 11:24 AM
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Do we only protect and accept those that love their jobs? Where did I say anything about denying love and acceptance? I already said I wouldn't disown my daughter if she was. I'm just saying as a hypothetical FATHER, (who obviously plays a critical role in development) I would feel sick to my stomach if my hypothetical daughter engaged in sex work. I would feel like a FAILURE. That is all. I'm not talking about society or anything larger than the confines of my own soul and hers.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/21 06:35 AM
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LMAO I'm telling you what I don't know? The hell? I'm telling you what any sane father would feel if their daughter became a sex worker. I'm willing to concede that the "black sheep" of the family may have some emotional abnormality that needs to be addressed as you said. But other than that, it seems clear to me that environmental stability plays a critical role in a child's development into an adult. I'm not saying all sex-workers were abused or necessarily came from broken homes, (although I'…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/21 06:14 PM
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“People are born with their personality already set” Cmon are you being honest with yourself? Let’s throw out the BS. Are you truly saying this honestly? Parenting has zero effect on a child’s behavior and personality? That’s the hill your dying on?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/21 06:52 AM
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“Sometimes, jobs have nothing to do with parents.” Ok but sometimes they very much do. People who’s parents where in the mafia are more likely to head down a certain path. When people analyze serial killers and domestic terrorists the first questions they ask are about how they were raised. It really shouldn’t be underestimated how much a parent can influence a child.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/21 08:15 PM
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While I disagree with disowning, it comes from a place of deep inner anguish. I can only imagine how much of a failure you would feel as a father to discover something like this about your daughter. I personally would feel disgusted with myself, and might have to nurse myself back from the brink.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/21 08:32 AM
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Do you have a six pack? Shove off. He is perfectly within the normal range of weight for his height. Nitpicking about not having a razor-sharp jaw is the kind of scrutiny a woman never in a million years would have to live up to. A woman with a similar BMI would be swimming in opportunities. Why should a man have to be in pinnacle, magazine-cover, shape to get a single date?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/21 09:51 PM
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Honestly, I feel like there are a lot of simple things one can do to look more physically attractive, if you just take some time to figure it out. There shouldn't be a comma after the word "attractive".
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/21 03:08 AM
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What a stupid idea for a study. How often is it that a kid is directly involved in tanking a marriage. It’s always the result of deeper problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/21 02:05 AM
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My theory is Female lizard brains would adjust to the influx of male beauty and seek out the cream of the crop. Women’s pickiness appears to be nature not nurture.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/21 02:01 AM
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Most men are trying to find 1 person but uh do you know how many women that adds up to? If most men find a woman who agrees to a prenup then that’s essentially saying most women will agree to a prenup? You do know men and women have roughly the same population right?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/21 08:56 PM
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You're trying to find ONE PERSON to marry you, not a harem of the entire female population. don't gaslight me, I'm not talking about myself only I'm talking about men in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/21 08:17 AM
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It's not your job but if you were honest with yourself you'd know that it is extremely common for women to be offended. I'd wager over 80% of women would be appalled. A staggering statistic like that is less about "vetting", it calls for a societal-wide change. If the previous statement is true it would take activism rather than "vetting" for something to be done about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/21 06:59 AM
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What your saying just is manifestly false. And you are failing to incorporate the fact that women and men are equal in population. Male competition dwindles pretty quickly as they age because their SMV doesn’t depreciate nearly as much as women’s. As a woman’s youth disappears their demand doesn’t become “more extreme” that should be obvious.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/21 04:38 AM
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No they don’t. Women may be the limiting factor in reproduction but they can’t afford to be picky their entire life, they have to choose a suitable partner before their biological clock runs out. In terms of “sexual market value” this translates into men being more valuable the more women run out of time to reproduce. And men do not value what “women are”, they value being sexually satisfied which can be taken care of in many ways outside of a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/21 04:08 AM
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I didn’t say it’s your fault but value is not an unbalanced scale. Men don’t value women more than the reverse it’s a give and take. A man who wants to satisfy his libido can go to prostitutes, etc. Why should he value a woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/21 01:47 AM
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Listen up cause I don’t usually waste my time talking with low value women. You are not special because of your vagina. If you don’t want life to teach you that lesson then I suggest heeding that warning. That’s your only chance of landing a decent guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/21 11:23 PM
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Your position is incomprehensible. Whether it's intentional or not I can't say.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/21 10:48 PM
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I don't date people who want to put their dick inside me because that is not my preference. If that is not your preference you shouldn't date them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/21 10:42 PM
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Can’t say I do. I usually make a point to not date people who make me feel unsafe but hey maybe that’s just my weird preference. It’s your life ✌️
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/21 10:33 PM
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Precisely.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/21 10:08 PM
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However the unfortunate side of this logic is the higher up the quality ladder, the less men feel the need to have to deal with low effort gold diggers from FDS.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/21 10:05 PM
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Very wise. If there’s one thing I like doing it’s purposefully and repeatedly putting myself in danger.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/21 10:02 PM
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so you go on dates with people who make you feel unsafe?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/21 09:53 PM
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I was referring to the dates themselves but perhaps I should ask, what exactly do you not “enjoy”?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/21 09:27 PM
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So you are wasting men’s time by going on dates you aren’t interested in? What a bother. I’d rather be single!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/21 08:58 PM
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A woman who has this kind of perspective of relationships is low value and is not worthy of any effort a man might put forward. A relationship is 50-50. Being a female is not enough effort. Speaking to men: if a woman refuses to do her part, you dodged a missile, move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/21 08:45 PM
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Don’t flatter yourself, men do not value women more as a gender, they value sexual satiation and meaningful intimacy. Yes with simp culture, it’s hard to see that nowadays but a sexually satisfied man is completely indifferent to women as a gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/21 08:41 PM
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Not everyone is that in touch with their own feelings. Often people try to make excuses to themselves thinking that maybe they will show they are high value.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/21 06:41 AM
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They thought they were dating someone high value but over time slowly realized it
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/21 01:28 AM
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Lol wow projection? Where in my comment did I insult you? Anyways I'm not sure how else to reply since half your comment was emojis. I'll just make this as my last comment. Wouldn't want to get emoji'd to death.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/21 09:54 PM
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"Trigger" isn't the right word. It's moreso "comedic" when girls think being sexual is bringing a lot to the table. But since you are being so defensive, I'm guessing that is all you have to offer. Pity.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/21 09:17 PM
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4 of the 7 things you listed are either sexual or expected in a relationship. 2 of them is you giving him a drink and a meal. Hm. If you were in an accident that left you injured to the point where you couldn’t have sex or prepare meals what would you bring to the table to be romantic towards your partner?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/21 01:08 PM
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I guess women want “female oriented” sex? Then we are right back to square one with men giving and women receiving.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/21 01:00 PM
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I wonder if these survey reports take into account those who would be embarrassed to say otherwise? Self-reporting on virginity should probably do something to account for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/21 06:08 AM
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The VAST majority???? Can I see these studies? I have a mountain of anecdotes that would contradict this statement I'd like to know where you are getting this data.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/21 04:14 AM
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Would you be offended? Did you sign a prenup? Why not direct your efforts into making prenups more acceptable instead of telling men to search for the female needle in a haystack who won’t get offended.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/21 11:29 PM
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Um there’s no way?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/21 11:26 PM
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Men I imagine are typically fighting biological forces when deciding not to cheat. Women on the other hand get male attention all the time and can still not be tempted. Therefore when women cheat it's a very premeditated middle finger to their significant other. Neither is more or less reprehensible, as men are expected (and should be expected imo) to fight their urges, and women of course should deal with problems in the relationship in a more ethical manner.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/21 03:26 PM
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If women didn’t get offended over being asked to sign prenups you’d have a point but that’s not typically the case. Every man would sign a prenup if every woman they were trying to marry was enthusiastic about it. Men, as usual, tend to be as accommodating as possible and pretty much grow up trying not to stir up trouble. Whenever a woman has a tantrum about something it’s the men who are too afraid to shatter the relationship who end up prostrating to the woman’s yelling.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/21 08:30 AM
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I love how Men being kissless virgins only to get hit on at 33 by a twice divorced single mom in her late 40s is proof that all men are “exaggerating” about not getting pussy lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/21 08:23 AM
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I’m guessing the typical kind in his area. Just a guess
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/21 08:14 AM
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If women had male sexuality things would pretty much stay the same the only difference is that women would be hornier. The female sex drive never was a wedge it was choosiness in women that seems to be a catalyst for these discussions. Men's top complaint is not that women aren't sexual enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/21 11:15 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/IncelsWithoutHate/comments/l1rano/its_all_so_tiresome/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/21 12:32 PM
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That’s not really what I’m saying either. I mean women’s attraction is so fickle it will contradict itself often. Women have preferences that are diverse that’s fine but their preferences seem to change almost moment to moment.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/21 05:25 AM
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“Women are more reactive with their sex drives” Pretty much sums up what I’ve been saying. Women’s attraction is fickle and can be set off by subtler things.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/21 04:56 AM
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Lol thank you! I didn’t think my point was that unclear but reading the above thread made me question. I’m talking about individual women’s attraction seems to be very fickle and fleeting compared to individual men. I was not saying “all women aren’t attracted to one thing”
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/21 04:42 AM
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If a girl says “where are all the nice guys 🥺” how can I blame guys who assume that she is attracted to nice guys. This is what I mean by complicated; women who signal what they want but reject men with those same qualities.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/21 12:06 AM
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This male is not a jerk or any males I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/21 10:05 AM
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I think this grows out of most guys after high school. I've heard of clingy guys but it was mostly when I was a teenager. Although it had nothing to do with sex. If anything sex makes guys distant and standoffish at least in the immediate moments afterwards. This phenomena is similar to "post-nut clarity".
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/21 02:07 PM
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I would love a corresponding study to reinforce this opinion. From what I understand, satisfaction among women is decreasing.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/21 11:15 AM
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Likely not. Although “transactional” can be interpreted biologically, generally speaking intimacy is about closeness. Anything inorganic about a relationship is not intimate.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/21 11:07 PM
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I never made such a claim
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/21 05:44 AM
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If you have to pay for intimacy it’s not intimacy
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/21 05:27 AM
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Can undesirable men have intimacy?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/21 03:06 AM
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I admit I was hoping there would be less evolutionary biology in the comments. I’m no good at translating it into practical terms.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/21 01:29 PM
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Do you kiss your mother with that mouth?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 01:11 PM
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No they wouldn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 01:09 PM
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“Get creative” what an annoying thing to say. Your idea of men also is completely wrong. I can’t even imagine a man would make a woman feel guilty for something his ex did that’s beyond stupid. Yes some men might be traumatized and be more cautious in subsequent relationships but any woman would do the same if they came out of a bad manipulative relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/20 07:46 AM
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Literally prefaced as an anecdote, clearly not definitive proof lol. Also n-count is considered in attraction metrics, its not avoided for concerns over bonding.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/20 07:39 AM
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Femcel subs have a policy against “be my gf” posts/comments. If the situation were even close to equivalent there wouldn’t be so much blatant counter evidence
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/20 07:35 AM
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I’m not taking about sex really. I’m talking about attractiveness. Your right that it might lead to more insecurity but on a sliding scale where both ends of the spectrum only account for attractiveness it’s clear who’s the winner.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/20 06:01 AM
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I was gonna say. It’s way less attractive to be with many partners than to do it a lot with 1.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/20 07:04 PM
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Your conflating motives. Men who want to sleep around probably don’t mind the experience. But the Men who are really interested in getting married someday prefer someone more chaste
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/20 06:59 PM
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Lol she took it personally
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/20 06:13 PM
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I think it will reverse because those are the very sentiments stated here often I.e making abortion illegal, bc harder to acces, no welfare ect. The men here often gripe about women’s choices in sex directly affecting them & how they wish we could return to the 50s. Well, that is not the sentiment I was promoting with my post and I don't feel the need to defend men who do believe in such things. Just because a man prefers low n-count women doesn't mean they are nostalgic for the days before wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/20 09:17 PM
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“If they could” is such a tremendous “if” because promiscuity and attraction based on it is a very physically based metric. The high libido men have is almost directly tied to the fact that they don’t carry sexual leverage. Would men do the same? If men could they would probably be biologically programmed with lower libido. It’s not really a fair inquiry to begin with. And this post is not about your sexual freedom at all. It’s entirely about individual preference. The fact that you think progre…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/20 09:26 AM
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hey didnt i just say you do you? actually no you didn't. I'm sometimes blown away by how much height is calculated into partner screening from women since it's a largely genetic distinction but it doesn't really matter what I think when it comes to women's preferences. And likewise, it doesn't really matter what you think when it comes to men's. And your distinction between toleration and respect is something I couldn't care less about.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/20 09:44 PM
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it's literally just attraction. I would never say to a woman "why don't you just find peace with whatever height a man is" because I respect that they are attracted to certain characteristics. I respect the preferences of women, why won't you respect ours?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/20 08:24 PM
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Why are you assuming I’m white? Are you one of those racially minded people?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/20 07:34 PM
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There are cultures separate from religion that value chastity. In East Asian cultures “purity” is considered an important value.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/20 06:04 PM
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What’s confusing? Just because a marriage looks happy doesn’t mean it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/20 05:54 PM
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Not all marriages are openly abusive or oppressive.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/20 05:51 PM
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Sexual variety and sexual frequency are not the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/20 05:37 PM
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Because men’s standards are too low of course it’s not hard to get married. Putting a ring on anything with a pulse is kind of the bar right now and that’s what I’m trying to prevent
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/20 09:09 AM
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Maybe not all but clearly an alarming amount. I’m reminded of that Louis CK bit where he essentially said things (dating life) get better for lonely dumpy looking guys when girls start getting desperate. That’s the phenomenon I’m trying to curtail. The idea that men get so lonely that they will take scraps even if these girls have serious flaws that would otherwise be dealbreakers.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/20 09:06 AM
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Chastity is common in religious communities but it’s not exclusive to it. I only mentioned because that is the most known community that values non-promiscuity
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/20 09:00 AM
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A bit generous with that percentage don’t you think? It’s probably higher.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/20 08:19 AM
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As am I. The results are quite clear
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/20 11:34 PM
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Believe what you want I suppose. But ask any man if they would marry a slut and the answer is usually “no” which indicates an obvious inverse correlation between n-count and wife material. This conversation will not change reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/20 11:11 PM
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Yeah 4-6 would probably be fine for the average guy, but every man has their own individual line and that is essentially my point. There is a limit that matters to every guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/20 08:54 PM
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As a guy myself who talks to other guys, I would say they don't care in the bedroom but when thinking about her as a bride they care more. Again this is not a blanket rule but more like an x-axis with the y-axis being desperation. The more desperate a guy is the more things he is willing to overlook. Guys will date girls with kids too, but generally speaking, most men would prefer no baggage.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/20 05:58 PM
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behavior? I don't see lots of men putting a ring on 50 n-count girls unless they had a child together and are doing it out of necessity.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/20 05:24 PM
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being good in the sac does not mean having a high n-count lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/20 05:20 PM
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Hm. I would bet if you ask them plainly “would you marry a slut” you’d see what I’m saying
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/20 08:35 AM
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All men want that. But they wouldn’t wife that woman if hell freezes over
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/20 08:23 AM
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Why would it have to be a diverse array of guys? Its very possible to have a partner with a high sex drive who did it a lot with just a few partners?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/20 05:32 PM
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I’m sure you do. We all have standards and I don’t judge women for theirs. And I’m sure I don’t need to tell you that not everyone with a high sex drive gets to fulfill it via a sex partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/20 04:11 PM
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Not the right way to frame it. Men do not mind if their partner has a high sex drive. Men who are looking for something long-term however do care about frequency of sexual encounters in the past (especially guys who’ve been cheated on). For me my cutoff is 5 or so although for other guys it could be lower/higher. But for most men there is a cutoff.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/20 04:02 PM
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For me, if a woman catches bodies like it’s going out of style I’m already headed for the hills so don’t worry about me. And trust, men who are interested in something long-term do care. They may not express that to you but I promise you that is something any man in a relationship would care about.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/20 03:36 PM
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Men need to know so they can decide whether to break it off or not. Simple. The same way many would be curious if someone they were dating had a criminal history.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/20 07:37 AM
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That’s why we get hints about the sexual history and then break off the relationship I suppose. Men have to be better detectives in order to sniff it out.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/20 07:35 AM
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Literally this sub is 99% English speaking. It is really not that bold
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/20 07:31 AM
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Talk to em!!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/20 07:28 AM
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This is the real answer. Cogent!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/20 07:41 PM
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I tried but skin care is a confusing web of information so much so that it is hard to distinguish fact from fiction. My skin isn’t that bad but I suffer from pretty bad discoloration. My face and neck have a different tone than my torso and arms. I have no clue how to remedy that...
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 06:48 AM
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Studies actually show that women are more obese than men in the US
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/20 06:44 AM
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Why is that sad? What man would swipe right back on these girls
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/20 07:46 AM
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