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Stunning-Ad14/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 12:49 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYStunning-Ad14/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 12:12 PM
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Poor impulse control and emotional immaturity/instability predispose to premature selection of a mate before seeing the person truly tested. With enough time and honest inspection, red flags accumulate.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 03:28 PM
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Wrong, anime pilled male. There are only two people responsible for entering or exiting a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 11:42 AM
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Ultimately, emotionally weaker people are the ones who enter marriages that fail. Emotionally savvier folks don’t marry unless they know it will work out.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 10:23 AM
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I wonder where that number comes from. I didn’t kiss a guy until I was 25
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 04:21 AM
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My n count is 2 and I’ve enjoyed both of them immensely. Ladies, anyone else relate?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 04:13 AM
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Men who use the phrase “hit the wall” have not yet (and may never) hit the maturity milestone to inspire attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 04:03 AM
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You are free to believe anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 12:18 AM
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That's incorrect. Everyone deserves understanding and empathy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 11:47 PM
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The lack of empathy displayed by men here is repellent. It’s incredible they won’t take us at face value when we tell them that. But ultimately, it’s a useful signal to us to avoid them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 01:36 PM
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It’s more accurate to say I despise the minds of men who believe this to be true. It’s so frustrating when certain men dismiss the truths you communicate as lies. It’s no wonder we stay away from them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 01:47 AM
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I’ve never once heard that term before. Why would you encourage any person to feel ashamed of something out of their control? It’s bizarre.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 11:37 PM
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Yes, stronger community among women helps with this a lot — it takes the focus off of what isn’t there (an husband) and puts it onto positive, meaningful relationships that contribute to their greater community. Instead of getting stuck in “What am I lacking?” it encourages “What can I give?”
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 05:28 AM
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Why do you ask questions that will not meaningfully enhance your understanding of the world or your emotional experience while in it? Whatever you glean from these replies will not benefit you in any way. It’s like spinning one’s wheels in the mud.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 11:50 AM
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Because I’m not friends with them
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 07:02 AM
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Honestly, not recognizing the sense in it is unintelligent.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 12:38 AM
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Intelligent women would not risk participating in porn. They are thinking of the future and wanting to protect their professional reputations even decades in advance.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 11:19 AM
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You are not entitled to agreement.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 11:28 PM
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It depends on your morals. A lot of people believe that all people deserve respect.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 01:10 AM
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Whether you wanna expand your mind to understand others’ lived experiences or not is up to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/24 02:05 AM
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You’re projecting.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 02:54 AM
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Nah, swing and miss.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 02:44 AM
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Lololol there’s no way you really believe “there’s just no way”
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 02:43 AM
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Speaking as a woman, I’ve never been attracted to a man with a child.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 12:28 AM
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Quote me or the gaslighting stops here.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 09:35 PM
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Not “appreciating” parenthood does not mean disrespect.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 09:24 PM
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Everyone deserves the same level of respect. Parents deserve no additional respect for unnecessarily creating life.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 09:18 PM
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The human population will peak in the 2080s. There will be plenty of people I can employ to do that when I’m 80+. Even if not, everyone will die eventually and there’s nothing inherently bad about dying sooner rather than later. Medicine often prolongs suffering and years of low-quality life.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 09:16 PM
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People would likely become more self-sufficient in the future. Life will adapt.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 09:00 PM
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There is nothing wrong with the human population gradually growing smaller over time. Eventually going extinct out of compassion for others would be a finer fate than blowing ourselves up, which we are more likely to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 09:00 PM
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As a woman, I don’t particularly appreciate motherhood since it’s unnecessary to create lives that need to be cared for. There are plenty that already exist and deserve care and love. I am especially appreciate of people who dedicate their lives to caring for people they didn’t create.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 08:33 PM
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“Deceitful”… “refined”… “morally superior” <— there are some cognitive distortions at play here. Saying that I’m attracted to less than 1% of the population is about as straightforward as I can get.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 02:58 PM
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Choosing to see the world that way is unattractive (hence, another factor).
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 12:36 PM
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Attraction is multifactorial, based on physical appearance, emotional awareness, intelligence, kindness, confidence, and several other factors. I don’t feel attracted to 99% of the men I encounter (including all “stereotypical hot jerks” and those “nice guys” who are unfulfilled living life single), but I don’t feel shallow because of it. Who would be shallow enough to want to be in a relationship with someone who isn’t attracted to them?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 12:06 PM
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Why would a person be dumb enough to stay in a relationship with someone who cheated?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 08:36 PM
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Women are much less likely to be attracted to (or “bang”) men who write lengthy posts on this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 06:10 AM
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“Mansplaining” makes you even more unattractive My attraction count is so low you’d never make it. Sorry
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 07:38 AM
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“Go your own way”
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 10:04 PM
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Attraction isn’t just physical. Almost every man who’s posted something on here is unattractive to me based on how he thinks. But, attraction is in the eye of the beholder.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 10:04 PM
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Speaking of “apparently”… https://youtu.be/rz5TGN7eUcM?si=Wbxfp5Lj91UFPcOw
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 02:50 PM
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The above factors will contribute to a lot of women uttering sighs of relief when they realize these men have removed themselves from their dating pool. Fewer profiles to swipe left on.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 12:52 AM
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I’m glad you and your children are safe now. No adult or child deserves abuse in their lives. My question was mainly rhetorical to make the point that initially, right when the abuse begins with something small, women subconsciously know there’s something wrong with the man but excuse, justify or ignore the behavior until it gets worse (sometimes due to feeling trapped by factors you’ve mentioned). I wish we were all taught in school to have literally zero tolerance for abusive people. Even one …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 12:33 AM
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I’m good
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 03:32 PM
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By non-self-defense violence. Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 03:31 PM
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What?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 12:02 PM
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Why do abused women stay?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 12:01 PM
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Lol you act as if women repulsed by violent men don’t celebrate when those men lose interest in them. Violence in anything other than self-defense (very rare) is the mark of a criminal loser.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 11:39 AM
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Some women are attracted to that. Some are repulsed. Some are in the middle.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 11:26 AM
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Some women can tell but are in denial, lying to themselves about what a man is capable of. That’s different from not being able to tell.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 11:25 AM
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Attractiveness and penchant for violence are not correlated. With time, it’s easy to tell who’s a kind, non-violent person and who isn’t. Why would we compromise on either measure?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 07:13 AM
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The plurality of commenters in this thread are in the US, where this is all incredibly relevant
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 03:16 PM
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What's the average age of trolls these days?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 03:14 PM
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You don’t comment on legal matters like insurance, health care decision making, tax benefits, and inheritance. Marriage makes all of these easy peasy. Plus, you can socially legitimize your commitment to another person with just one word: “spouse.”
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 01:20 PM
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I'm fine with the unmarried man in my life, thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 12:02 AM
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Women hate other women. Women love other women. Are both true?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 12:02 AM
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Bring this to a therapist and give CBT a shot.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 11:59 PM
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Women invest in a higher number of supportive relationships in their lives with family and friends, so being single isn’t the same cross to bear as with men
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 10:00 AM
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Yes!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 09:58 AM
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You either don’t have friends who are women or have chosen really poor quality woman friends (in which case, have higher standards).
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 05:42 AM
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We are happy enjoying those shows and fiction whereas men get depressed when they're alone. "LOL!" <-- Is it really so surprising our standards don't allow us to spend time with men venting unregulated emotions like this? So much woundedness that's not our problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 05:34 AM
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Women can afford to have higher standards since they are happier single than men
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 05:06 AM
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"Weaknesses" are not attractive. Women are more comfortable being single than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 04:39 AM
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Redditors are free to shitpost (within the constraints of a sub’s rules and mods). Commenters who do anything but draw attention to the silly troll posters have only themselves to blame.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 07:10 PM
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Those women are free to accept empathy. Those men they “gave the middle finger to” should refuse to give empathy. Those men only have themselves to blame.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 07:08 PM
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“Appearance”
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 05:50 PM
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They also think all other women will feel threatened by hearing them express their desire for 18-year olds and 18-year olds alone. In fact: it’s gross and causes us to feel immensely grateful that these men avoid us. We prefer spending our time with high-quality people or alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 03:26 PM
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It always baffles me: why the fixation on “women” instead of “people”? The same could be said about younger men with full heads of hair being “better” (do you actually mean “more physically attractive”?) than older men who are losing it. Men who accept the hand they’ve been dealt by shaving their head are more attractive than those who cling to what’s left. Or: beer bellies, double chins, leathery skin, liver spots… but you prefer to focus exclusively on women, perhaps because you’re resentful y…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 03:00 PM
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Men who are not nice are also repulsive. I guess some men here would believe something as extreme as that all women are repulsed by all men. Maybe a few of those men actually feel repulsed by all women
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 05:27 AM
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If you live a few more years and keep expanding your social network, you'll get to see it
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 01:26 PM
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I know a lot of nice women happily married to nice men. They reward kind and loving partners. It’s wonderful to recognize once you see it in real life
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 08:14 PM
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Women are louder, men also complain. Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 11:07 AM
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I marvel at how you limit the statement to women instead of observing how both men and women reward asshole partners
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 07:44 AM
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There is nothing wrong for a person feeling the “ick” toward their partner for any reason and choosing to leave them because of it. If “ick” outweighs love, then it’s a shoddy foundation for a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 02:36 AM
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In targeting your dating app exclusion toward women only, it sounds like you believe the brains of young men develop before 25 — why is that? As other feedback for you, the tone of your post would be tolerable to <5% of women. I’m sorry you’ve had trouble finding and keeping a relationship, but that won’t change unless you do some soul-searching and focus on what you have in common with women, not why you hate them.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 02:10 AM
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Why did Jesus love instead?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 09:53 PM
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Christianity (like all mainstream religions) is often illogical. Hatred is similarly illogical when you could be filling your thoughts with love instead, as Jesus did. Why not wish the best for others? It'll make you feel better, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 09:28 PM
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“I hope they never find anyone.” Why? Most of the rest of us here hope as many people as possible find true love, including you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 08:44 PM
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Obviously yes
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 02:19 AM
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Yes. No person should be forced to become a parent without their consent.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 06:58 PM
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Your lack of experience in the industry is showing. In the US, about 80% of donor conceived people can identify their biological parent/family by testing on Ancestry and 23andMe. Of course, the industry conceals that to keep the business running.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 06:37 PM
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As a taxpayer I’d honestly rather not be paying more than current levels for the raising of young children, since more young children aren’t needed here — young adults are all we really need. Parents/s can continue to shoulder the costs of their decision to have kids. I agree with OP that ideally, a man would be able to document via legal contact that he does not wish to have a child with whatever particular woman he’s seeing (she would sign too), so that any woman who unethically gives birth to…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 05:56 PM
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No such thing as anonymous donation anymore due to DNA testing. “Anonymity” is a thing of the past.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 05:45 PM
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Immigration based on academic or work qualifications. There’s no shortage of young adults wanting to immigrate to the US.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 05:41 PM
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Immigration.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 05:18 PM
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This sub adds very little meaning to the lives of its participants.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 07:35 AM
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Newcomers to the sub, not to the ideas.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 06:58 AM
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Is this type of generalization a new idea to anyone reading it? I think everyone here has read this before.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 06:40 AM
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Substitute “women” for “men” and each financial reference for “sex”. What does either version of the post accomplish?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 06:28 AM
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One of those most important things for people to realize is that most other people don’t actually care about you as a human being.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 06:24 AM
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What phrase?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 09:15 AM
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Is this a post being dismissive of men’s violence against women? I think no woman wants this attitude in a man. “Going his own way” might be best.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 09:05 AM
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It’s strange to write “the reason” instead of “one of the reasons.”
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 09:48 PM
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Is English not your first language? English speakers use “females” and “males” or “women” and “men.”
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 11:11 AM
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Any cheater is scum
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 04:26 AM
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Some women who have been abused probably value the superficial strength of violent men by hoping they can be their protectors
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 06:25 PM
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Any failed marriage is the fault of both the man and of the woman for committing to it in the first place
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 02:23 PM
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You can ask any woman out for a coffee. If she's interested, she'll say yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 11:42 AM
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Only non-toxic ones up in here
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/24 12:57 AM
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Only insecure women bang that
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/24 12:56 AM
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Pros: It inspires women to barf, so they run far away from the toxic man and toward her soon-to-be lifelong companion
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 01:37 AM
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"It's 150%" <-- someone really doesn't like the alternative
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 02:08 PM
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If you're only ever meeting basic people, then chances are you're basic too
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 01:31 PM
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Thank you for posting -- your thinking/writing is refreshing, grounded, intelligent, and kind, and I wish we had more of that in the world (at the very least, on Reddit). If you were to write a book someday, no doubt the world would benefit.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/24 01:41 AM
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Divorced men or women with kids is certainty a crappy category, but why would the others be viewed as crappy? Personally, I view any man interested in reproducing to be a crappy option, but obviously that’s just personal preference and many other women would be happy with them. Any 60-year old man who chooses to father children is a selfish person by virtue of guaranteeing that any grandchildren he might have someday will never meet (or remember) their grandfather. For parenthood, mid-40s is old…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 03:21 PM
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Men who are more interested in dating 19-year olds than women their own age are irretrievably unattractive themselves. So, it turns out their attractiveness peaks while young.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 03:07 PM
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I don’t hate the question, just wouldn’t feel any attraction toward a man who actually asks it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 02:06 PM
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Thankfully for those of us here, English-speaking Reddit users who are surveyed in women's happiness studies are unlikely to live in those communities
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 07:28 AM
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I agree because ultimately, women are more satisfied staying single than men are. I have lots of enjoyable, worthwhile things to do in life and it rarely bothers me not to find the type of person I’m looking for
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 11:42 PM
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They're boring in their ubiquity. So many other beautiful types of stones out there but only ~10% venture beyond the societal script of diamonds.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 11:15 PM
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Diamonds are not only unethical but boring and a waste of money. No matter the gem, lab-grown is the way to go.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 03:51 PM
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Sounds like an excuse for poor decision-making either way.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 12:42 AM
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If a person repeatedly posts low-quality topics of discourse, this also indicates low intelligence.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/23 05:43 PM
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Casual sex is gross on anyone. I’d never date a guy who spends his time that way
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/23 10:44 AM
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“There is no correct way of [doing anything] which cannot at some point be construed as annoying or inappropriate”
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 11:27 PM
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the attraction is there, but rhe vast majority of those 40 year old men still marry someone much closer to their age or stay single
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 11:43 AM
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same is true of men who start to lose hair and get dad bod
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 11:42 AM
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who will divorce her when she ages another 5-10 years? no thanks (:
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 11:41 AM
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Women tend to be happy enough with their own lives and don't think about this too much. The most productive dating advice I could give men is to learn to love yourself, your life, and your community so that you will be happy even if you never end up partnering. That's where I am and if I die tomorrow, I'll die happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 12:34 PM
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They're all "her choice." It's my choice to judge all -- except #3 -- as reflecting a person I can't relate to and wouldn't like to get to know.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 11:18 PM
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They have symbolically married themselves off to the ultimate male deity.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 09:50 PM
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There are red flag signs that schools should teach teens to identify to decrease risk of picking violent/abusive partner. It’s too easy not to know until someone goes through it
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 11:23 AM
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People should choose better people
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 07:26 AM
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Caring for others is the most fundamental and universally shared experience. Everyone has at one point loved another, whether a parent, relative, child or friend. Reproduction is a biggie, but not a necessary one to live a joyful and meaningful life
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 09:35 PM
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From this perspective, everyone “misses out” on one “fundamental” life experience or another. There is tremendous joy and meaning in dedicating one’s time to get to know and care for people in one’s community, from all different backgrounds — one of the greatest miracles of life on our diverse planet, the realization that through our differences we are all one. This is harder for parents to experience since their attention is understandably focused on their children. Since everyone’s time is lim…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 08:44 AM
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People who would be bad parents don’t deserve kids
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 08:27 AM
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Not a problem
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 04:33 AM
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Instead of strengthening themselves mentally, which sex chooses to spend their time writing 90% of the content on this sub?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 08:31 AM
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This is good advice for everyone, women just as much as men
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 01:16 PM
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No obligation for someone to date someone else if they don’t want to for any reason. Based on this sub alone, women are seemingly more likely to be okay with enjoying life single while men are more likely to be terrified of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 01:12 PM
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Men who’ve dated around with one-time fucks or short-term relationships are gross
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 10:08 AM
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The women you’re referring to are glad to say goodbye to men choosing to rule them out.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 03:09 PM
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Totally fine! I feel the same “ick” toward male promiscuity.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 12:49 AM
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Would feel much happier outside of a relationship than in one with a guy who doesn’t live up to my standards for a healthy, loving partnership.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 09:20 PM
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No one should be dehumanized as useless or as resembling an animal. Such language only “outs” the people who use it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 03:43 AM
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I think it’s more a reflection of who you choose as friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 04:31 PM
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I wouldn’t be attracted to someone who enjoys having superficial sexual relationships with dozens of women rather than doing something more interesting and/or meaningful with his time.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 02:46 PM
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Not alcohol?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 02:56 AM
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Seek out psilocybin in a therapeutic environment
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 03:34 AM
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It always puts a smile on my face when I hear a woman sharing that she used to assume she’d have kids without ever really thinking about it, but then woke up to the fact it’s not something she ever actually wanted.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 08:45 PM
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The flaw in behaving in such a calculated way is that you might be able to sustain that for a few days, a few weeks, or a few months, but eventually you’ll grow fatigued of it and start acting more like yourself. If you’ve been putting on an act inconsistent with your true identity the whole time, there’s a much higher chance of the relationship imploding. “Being yourself” is really the best thing that can be done early on, for both parties’ sakes.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 12:41 PM
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1 and 1. Very happy with that
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 09:08 PM
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For some men, sure. Just like for some women
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 06:40 AM
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No kids is a blessing
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 06:26 AM
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A few practical reasons come to mind: Legal benefits: tax, health insurance, surrogate decision making benefits in case of health crisis, etc. Social benefits: referring to your partner with one word that indicates you’re committed for life; optionally celebrating your union with family/friends, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 08:47 AM
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I agree. A high count is a big turn-off for me given that I’m looking to find a partner for life. I’m not interested in someone seeking to pass the time with sex who finds difficulty opening themselves to a committed, loving relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 10:21 AM
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I highly respect any person who goes their own way.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 04:44 AM
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Providers of sperm, which have longer shelf lives than eggs Wonder how these age brackets look for the childfree
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 10:31 AM
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I really appreciate the effort behind this post. The point that I find myself reflecting on is how a lower number of lifetime sexual partners corresponds to a lower rate of divorce or infidelity. I could never quite put my finger on why I find men with a high number of previous sexual partners less attractive, but I'm realizing now it's concern over them not having been able to find lasting happiness and contentment in such a large number of prior relationships. I don't enter a relationship unle…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 05:00 AM
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I will never contribute to someone else’s reproduction. Only attracted to dudes not hellbent on creating a next gen. “All sex is based on reproduction” is false, as you know.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 11:05 AM
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I look down on almost anyone who’s in a large age gap relationship that leads to having kids. I wish people would keep their unhealthy/toxic relationship dynamics to themselves instead of creating a new generation who has to grow up with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 08:44 AM
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The age cut-off for sperm donors is typically set at 35, at most 40. Very rare to see clinics collecting sperm aged 45-50 since buyers don’t want that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 02:37 AM
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The DENNIS system should come with the caveat that any man genuinely seeking to implement it is profoundly emotionally unhealthy. He’d be better off committing to something non-relationship-related that shakes up his way of thinking, else risk spending his life not alone in his life dissatisfaction but coupled with someone equally miserable.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 10:39 PM
3

No one knows 100% of someone else's background, but everyone is capable of getting to know another individual decently well over a period of weeks to the point of being able to answer the question: "is this person likely to make a good parent?" If the answer is no or maybe, the man shouldn't stick his dick in or the consequences are his fault as much as mom's.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 10:18 PM
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A man who decides to reproduce with a woman incapable of raising their child in a healthy way is equally responsible for the outcome. I have tremendous disdain for any parent of a person with a traumatic upbringing or a criminal. It's both parents' fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 03:28 PM
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Thanks for the correction, glad you agree
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 06:31 PM
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Always very strange to make these sorts of non-overlapping generalizations about men and women. Plenty of women couldn’t care less about jewelry, myself included. Plenty of women also date so frequently that they’re clearly not hung up on the rarity of it — they’re more interested in the enjoyment of just having someone an intimate someone around, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 03:11 PM
2

Heights below a certain threshold are an absolute no for me I can be convinced to meet up with a guy with any facial appearance if he chooses photos that flatter him as much as possible and shares several of my interests
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 04:48 AM
1

For folks who struggle to imagine anything other than having kids as a deep source of meaning, they should probably go ahead and have kids
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 09:43 PM
1

? You're super young so it wouldn't be expected to be a drama like it would for a 40+ year old, even some 37 year olds
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 09:41 PM
2

Since they needed to take care of the children… all the more reason kids shouldn’t exist!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 07:18 AM
1

It’s purge week 😮‍💨 I’d never want to sleep with anything close to 20 guys, ew
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 01:30 AM
2

The true red pill — don’t have kids at all!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 02:28 PM
1

“Retard”
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 02:27 PM
1

Moreso to eggs by the age of about 40 Having said that, I see reduced reproductive rates as a net positive for the human species
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 02:26 PM
0

It’s true that by 40, eggs are mostly ruined. By 44, not gonna happen. All the more reason not to have kids!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 02:24 PM
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Interestingly (and to my absolute surprise), single mothers by choice (as in, planned from conception that no father would be involved) have no worse outcomes than couples when it comes to raising their kid/s.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 04:43 AM
2

You might be thinking of marital status
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 03:33 AM
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Yessss, our own childfree utopia — keep out the dogs, too!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 03:28 AM
2

To be fair, kids look good in photos too (even the vapid staged ones) but still grow old and die. Their kids (if they have any) will grow old and die too. Eventually the line will die out entirely. Meaning is entirely what a person makes of it
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 03:24 AM
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Yup, two of my closest friends are like this. It’s a shame because they originally dreamed so big! Now they’ll be passing big hopes onto their kids instead of them as parents setting an example and going for it themselves
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 03:17 AM
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I agree that “kids are the only assured path to meaning in life” is weak. Where’s the creativity?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 03:15 AM
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Hear hear
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 08:38 PM
1

My tummy gets filled in other ways <3
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 08:22 PM
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Good for your mom to raise you lovingly! Of course, you will never understand the joys of living a childfree life, or of caring for many individuals at once instead of only a child and a parent — but you will still come across many joys of your own, as do all of us with the unique paths we each take in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 06:12 PM
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Exactly! Childfree women date childfree men while baby-desiring women date baby-desiring men — we live and let live ✌️
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 06:05 PM
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I 100% support you too, and wish you and your daughter the very best! I don’t know how your relationship is doing but if it’s been a little rocky I hope it stabilizes through understanding, support and love… if it’s ending/ended, I hope a few years down the line you find a man who will cherish you and your daughter just as brilliantly as you will him.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 05:52 PM
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I know! They (the possible future children) are doing so perfectly fine right now before existing. Why ruin it?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 05:47 PM
4

You left out “cat-loving” 😮‍💨🐈❤️‍🔥
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 05:38 PM
3

Sexy Single Schlongin’ Redheaded Introverts, mmmmmmm
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 05:16 PM
2

Blessings to you, dear OOP stranger. Come join us on the sterilized dark side. beckons you with index claw of red- & black-striped hand
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 05:12 PM
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I’m very glad for you. You have a very grounded perspective. The number of women who have multiple babies with a loser or abuser only to realize he’s toxic for her and the children is sobering, for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 05:03 PM
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Thank you for your thoughtful comment. You strike me as someone who will be an absolutely wonderful mother in leading by example for your child. My “have it all” fantasy is to continue in the meaningful job I have while making full use of my free time to enjoy hobbies and relationships with family and friends. My fantasy specifically includes not reproducing, though does include working as a youth mentor. If I end up with a partner equally motivated to do so, I might also try out fostering teena…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 05:01 PM
6

Double thumbs up for the rec and triple for the username 👌
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 02:58 PM
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Who says I eat with a fork? I eat my food off my favorite male surfaces with all the time I don’t spend raising kids 👅
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 02:47 PM
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Yes, loose vaginas Campaign for us to join them But we shall resist! 👶🏼❌🙅‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 02:07 PM
3

Another hobby to add to the list, in 69 styles!
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 01:22 PM
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🤔 I don’t make the rules here, take it up with https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/zzhgee/the_biggest_lie_men_are_told_is_to_contribute_to/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=mweb
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 01:09 PM
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Fanfiction about men worth dating, yes!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 01:04 PM
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Ooh, volunteering to fap for global betterment is a stellar idea! Spares women from getting impregnated and all
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 01:01 PM
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If a woman is looking to make money through sex, it’s reasonable she might focus on a limited series of relatively few wealthy men who are hopefully less likely to mistreat her or transfer an STI compared with the risk of dealing with hundreds of men she doesn’t know well at all
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 01:25 AM
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The psychology behind cosmetic surgery of virtually any type seems more aligned with anti-self-improvement in practice though (fixation on something so superficial rather than meaningful), which is the reason I personally wouldn’t group it in with the rest
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 01:20 AM
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Every sentence written here is true, can you quote what you’re misunderstanding as “bullshit”?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 11:29 PM
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I agree completely except for medical cosmetic improvements, which I wouldn’t recommend to anyone unless there is something functionally wrong with how their body works
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 11:27 PM
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Love is a special little phenomenon that offers a simpler answer here. Sure, it’s ultimately “selfish” since loving others gives you purpose and makes you feel good, but what aspect of behavior isn’t selfish in the end?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 05:53 PM
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Best comment I’ve seen in this sub
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 11:06 AM
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Exactly — they need some perspective that if they just stay alive and keep living life, most of them will find the partner they’re looking for.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 03:56 PM
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Citation: https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2020/08/20/a-profile-of-single-americans/
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 02:49 PM
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In the U.S., 80% of men 65 and up are in a relationship, making fixation with the supposed “top 5%” very silly indeed.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 02:46 PM
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Ice cream is delicious, but aside from one long-term ex who was absolutely worth dating at the time, I still haven’t found a flavor so incredible that it’s something I want to incorporate into my daily routine. That’s fine! Ice cream has many downsides too and only a flavor that’s truly captivating is one I’m willing to embrace the downsides for. I’m happy with either situation — that I find the most delicious flavor to me and eat it daily or end up going without ice cream altogether. There are …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 02:40 PM
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Abuse by men in families is more common than you realize. You’re fortunate not to have witnessed or experienced it in your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 09:03 PM
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I’ve never dealt with an asshole — not on a single one of the 30-ish first dates I’ve been on, and certainly not in any subsequent dates either. Strange to suggest that other individuals in one’s family (male or female, but especially head-scratching to settle upon male only) should be expected to know a partner better than the woman dating him. Very rare for someone’s family to know an individual’s personality, values, interests, and major criteria for attraction as well/accurately as their clo…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 09:00 PM
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1 in my late-20s. Grateful for it since there were a ton of positives that extend till today despite it not working out romantically. Sets a decently-high standard for my next one. I’m glad I won’t feel pressured to waste my time with one that’s less healthy or enjoyable
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 04:26 PM
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It’s rooted in the biology of not wanting to “waste” your life helping to raise another man’s child
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 04:07 PM
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Disagree with the misuse of the word “empathy” when “sensitivity to rejection by a stranger” is more accurate, and finding a partner over one’s lifetime is much more common than not so there’s definitely more than just a “few at the top”
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 08:06 AM
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Strange to specify “women” instead of “all users”
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 12:04 AM
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People can find their niche echo chambers in which a handful of folks share their extreme views, which would be exposed as illogical and absurd if you ask the average person on the street since only a tiny sliver of the population agrees with them. Nevertheless, people continue to keep their heads in the sand so they can have their egos stroked
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 03:35 PM
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Nah, men are more shallow than women since a larger portion of their interest in any given woman comes from superficial beauty and sex appeal. I think what you’re observing is that men are more emotionally invested in the outcome of whether a stranger will accept or reject them
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 08:01 PM
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I’m always baffled by the tendency to overgeneralize with extreme language like “the most,” which tends to illegitimize an argument right from the get-go.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 06:47 PM
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Men who don’t commit aren’t “high value”
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 10:43 AM
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Fascinating to find someone who rejects the notion that all humans have equal innate worth, believing it to be an unpopular opinion
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 03:26 AM
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I’ve got no interest in dating men with a high body count since it means we’re wired differently, motivated differently and aren’t looking for the same thing — doesn’t necessarily mean they’re unhealthy, though. Also possible they were less healthy in the past when they amassed the bulk of the count yet are doing fine today
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 03:24 AM
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I’m just looking for that one person to spend my life with either way, don’t care what my total “count” is since there’s other ways to enjoy life in the meanwhile
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 12:31 PM
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Why write "man" instead of "person"? Women arguably do even better than men without marriage on average, which that 80% statistic would substantiate -- women leave because they can envision doing better on their own. Yet marriage is definitely not "just a piece of paper" when it comes to benefits related to finances, health insurance and the like, so there's clearly more than "zero" reasons for a person to marry.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 09:47 AM
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I don’t see the problem with this, and maybe that’s the answer in itself — that women place a lower value on early relationships compared to men, thus the burden falls disproportionately on men to seek out these early connections that they value comparatively more highly
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 10:21 AM
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Good for you. Ultimately, taking advice from trusted friends (of both genders) and people who know you in real life beats taking advice from strangers online. Treat yourself (your mind, your body) kindly, do things that bring you joy with people you love, and that special person will come your way someday.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/22 12:38 AM
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At first it was to get used to the format of Reddit. Now, because this sub reminds me just how many folks out there think in ways that seem to be fairly self-centered and uncompassionate toward the other sex. It reveals how a fixation on inaccurate, rigid pronouncements about gender/sex can fill minds and conversations with exchanges that are often repetitive, uninteresting, and unhelpful, as well as sometimes disturbing when someone shows how entrenched they are in one bias or another. When it …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 09:58 PM
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Fewer pricy dates and fewer kids. I'm looking forward to the fewer kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 04:05 PM
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Dario without thinking twice.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 03:57 PM
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Yes, most definitely. I recognize that despite being commitment-oriented, monogamous and fitting a "low body count" standard, I wouldn't be interested in a man prioritizing inexperience so highly due to the traits that strong preference tends to correlate with.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 01:03 AM
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I *don't* care -- I merely regard it as helpful information that we aren't a match due to his prioritization of sexual history over other traits I value as more important in a relationship, and move on. Similarly, if I hear a guy has been with 20+ women, I personally feel less attracted since it often reflects how he values sex over committing to a long-term relationship. However, I doubt the guy would mind if I explained that to him. He'd just accept we are different, and move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 11:14 PM
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I agree, especially when those (naive? misguided? codependent?) folks choose to have kids with the shitty person, therefore subjecting those kids to a minimum of one shitty parent. They are culpable for being neither strong and/or wise enough to prevent this from happening.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 11:48 AM
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"Most" is far more accurate than "every." Rather than generalizing about all women, it could be helpful to recognize you're limited to an anecdotal pool of contacts like I am. My anecdotal experience negates your false generalization that "everyone fucks people that don't meet that ideal." There are also plenty of women out there who would disagree with the statement that "the majority of men [are] fuckable."
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 04:01 AM
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Using words like "everyone" or "never" is usually a pretty good indication that a take is an extreme one, or that you're only encountering a particularly uniform slice of humanity for some reason or another (the book Factfulness does a great job of explaining our common unconscious biases). Among my closest friends who are women, zero of the four would characterize the majority of men as "fuckable," and only one has engaged in "casual" sex without a relationship. Two of the four have previously …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 03:36 AM
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Exactly.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 12:28 AM
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They're selective because they're going to lose social credibility if they get down with whoever. Most of us are selective because most of the men we encounter aren't attractive to us. Why would anyone prioritize "social credibility" over an enjoyable, fulfilling relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 12:27 AM
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I'm only going to be intimate with men I'm attracted to. How women are judged by people I don't have any direct contact with (nor care about the opinions of) won't change when and how often I feel attracted to a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 12:24 AM
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For a lot of women reading this who are single, we haven’t found someone compatible with us as a long-term partner. Hearing about how dating is more difficult for men is tiresome when I haven’t found the love I want. I can't just marry any man because I won't marry a man I don’t love. But I don't create posts complaining about this being difficult, because what's the purpose of them?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 10:06 PM
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Toxic dads, equally so. They're the one who chose the toxic moms.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 06:01 PM
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Sex before committing is essential, however many folks only need to do so with less than a dozen before finding the right match. Different strokes, different folks.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 06:20 PM
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It sounds like you enjoyed those experiences. To others more inclined to find a long-term partner and stick with them, that would be a total waste of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 06:40 AM
0

You’re assuming there’s food without mold.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 10:44 PM
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They just want to avoid food poisoning.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 09:10 PM
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It sounds about right that about 90% of guys’ profiles are near-empty and devoid of any noticeable attempt at making themselves stand out as guys worth dating. The low effort approach seems to be a self-fulfilling prophecy. Ultimately, most of these guys might be better served staying off OLD and saving all that swiping time.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 03:37 AM
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How detailed is your online dating profile? Mine is a novel. I spend as quick as 2 seconds each swiping past profiles of the many men who’ve put in zero effort on their own. I put in 100% effort by answering around 2000 questions on OKC. When I see <50 questions answered, it’s a quick pass. I put in the work and won’t waste time on someone who hasn’t. Granted, most profiles have <50 questions answered, men and women alike — so it’s no wonder people go on so many dates that result in unsatisfying…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 02:56 AM
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It can be. “Never” is a cognitive distortion.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 11:31 PM
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I’m a women who is interested in dating about 0.1% of the men I meet — men who happen to possess the unique set of characteristics that my brain interprets as attractive. So far, I’ve had only one relationship in my lifetime, ended by the man. If I have another someday, I’ll rejoice in it, but otherwise will get along with enjoying my life solo. A lot of what I’ve seen online leads me to believe that many men out there believe they can’t enjoy life without a partner and thus fixate on finding on…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 08:32 PM
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A good date can be as simple as picking a tasty restaurant and enjoying a nice conversation. Men and women can trade off who does “the work” to plan a date.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 08:25 PM
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Seems like some women find it hard to emphathize with some men’s dating struggles while some men find it hard to emphathize with some women’s dating struggles.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 08:06 PM
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Wait, men could definitely wear makeup to enhance their appearance but choose not to.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 10:01 PM
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I tried to participate several times but rarely, if ever had my posts approved. Their over-the-top moderation process drastically limited the participation of potential members with low tolerance for the "pick me" process of "look at my dozens of paragraphs-long posts espousing FDS ideology, please accept me!" If their ideology is truly superior to the rest, they should feel more confident it will hold up in discussion next to slightly different beliefs.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/22 04:05 PM
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If you’re interested in learning more about the experiences and views of donor conceived adults, check out wearedonorconceived.com. Lots of stories and a comprehensive annual survey shared there.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 01:41 AM
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Having said that, if my SO wanted to donate, I’d encourage him to do so since his motivations would be altruistic — knowing him, he wouldn’t be doing it just for the money at all, but rather since he’s a healthy adult with minimal family history of disease and he’d welcome contact with his future offspring. I’d encourage him to proceed with known donation so he could be in open contact with the recipient parents and child from birth, and would emphasize to him the importance of making himself em…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 01:34 AM
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Many of us donor conceived people believe that anonymous gamete donation is unethical since it blocks us from cultivating a relationship with our other biological parent providing 50% of our DNA — which is extremely hypocritical considering infertile parents who chose donor conception often do so because they value and treasure that 50% biological bond with their child. Is it so hard to imagine their child would similarly value and treasure their 50% biological connection with the other bio pare…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 01:30 AM
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(Originally wrote this as a FDS post but didn’t get it approved, though it fits as a comment here along the lines of whether any level of stress added should be tolerated in the context of starting/establishing a relationship:) I’m curious if anyone here has vetted extensively and found no red flags to suggest someone isn’t a HVM, only for their subconscious/emotional mind to send them (rare) signals indicating that something still isn’t quite right despite finding no explicit evidence to the co…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 10:24 AM
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Also more likely to have been infected with the whole gamut of STDs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 12:42 AM
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I once had a stranger creep-glare-staring at me in the gym for a number of weeks on end. I used to dread being in there with him at the same time, and would scuttle past him quickly to try to pass by without him being alerted that I had entered — all while I was filled with an inner rage that he wouldn’t just lose interest in me. In retrospect it was silly to let this bother me so much. I should’ve just completely ignored him like he was a fixture on the wall and didn’t exist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 07:42 PM
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Threatening to block you doesn’t sound like a healthy response at all. I’m curious if he makes you feel bad about “little things” regularly or if this is a new occurrence. If you frequently feel upset over misunderstandings between you, I’d consider ending the relationship before meeting up since these behaviors would only get worse once you meet in person, and you deserve someone who is genuinely invested in your happiness and truly committed to your relationship.
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