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It cracks me up that people immediately jump to "oh noooooossss divorce" instead of the obvious problem. Unless you are independently wealthy and the working father loses his job: you're all fucked. Bills? Health insurance? Your wife won't have been paying into social security. So you're fucked in retirement too. Everyone ignores the actual practical shit of being in a relationship or marriage because everyone here is mentally speed running failure.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 01:03 PM
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Uh again it's rare I just see necrophilia here... Like it's as common as dv or something. That's a choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 06:37 PM
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Wait why did you slip necrophilia in there casually?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 02:54 PM
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You could delete the entire first paragraph of your post because you clearly don't actually care about the emotional impact just how long women would wait to date and have sex after their partners passed away.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 02:02 PM
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Why write the extra fluff in the post when this is the only thing you care about because it clearly isn't the emotional impact of losing your partner isn't actually something you care about. But 4 years and 26 days for dating. Making a FetLife account at the funeral reception/s
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 01:50 PM
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If he was unable to work due to disability, absolutely. If he were and requested to be a SAHH, I would not. Shit my friend won't even let his wife be a SAHM to two children. He's throwing her out the door to work. Though I will say I understand the urge to come home sit down after work, prop my feet up and read the paper while my wife makes me dinner like he does (minus the paper). I have a lifestyle to which I am accustomed. I won't drop it. Which is great considering my partner would crawl out…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 08:21 PM
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I dunno this ain't the gotcha you think it is. The study is reinforcing homicide as a risk factor often overlooked by obstetricians. Focusing on the patient holistically. When I fill out my paperwork at my current PCP they ask about adequate access to housing and food and questions I had never seen on annual forms, including domestic violence. They ask questions about my life in visits I have never been asked. This study is literally a direct indictment of your way of thinking that many OB's hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 07:51 PM
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Hey you miss 100% of the shots you don't take. I respect the attempt. Unless the dude is acting creepy about it or gets aggressive. It's no big deal. I may get annoyed if I'm busy. My partner does like to tease me though because it happens when people don't realize we're together. Which is also annoying.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 05:48 AM
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I dunno the only way I'd date a dude my dad's age when I was in my early 20s is if he was rich and bought me stuff and took me on trips and gave me lots money. It's just sex work. You're just providing the girlfriend experience making an old guy feel virile. Like at the end it wouldn't be a break up or getting dumped, it would be losing a client. 🤷 I guess the bonus is by then you will have networked and you can find another client. Or just go back to your normal life with a Dior saddle bag and …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 12:10 AM
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I did mention in my edit my SAHM friend does nice things for me that she can manage, home cooked meals and fresh picked flowers from her garden. We have been in situations when I have not wanted to impose but my partner has stopped me and said let them do this for you, it is their way of repaying you in the only way they can. My friend had a terrible year, his dad died, his two cats died. We were some of the few that attended his father's viewing. I paid for his cats treatment, then euthanasia, …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 05:30 PM
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I've always been in friend groups where there are people who pull in more than others by orders of magnitude. Could we not also say this is disparity is common in a dating scenario? Men typically have more money. Men here want to date younger women. An income discrepancy is inevitable. Wanting to go dutch seems ridiculous. Like if you're broke baby just say so. *Edit: as a note despite one of my friends being a SAHM with no income she makes me salmon dinners with homemade cucumber kimchi, steaks…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 05:01 PM
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I as a rule pay for my friends food? None of my female friends make as much as me so it's not a big deal to cover dinner, drinks, movies, snacks, and stuff like that. I also prefer to drive so yes. I also drive. My car is newer and I don't have ADHD so I'm a better driver. My one friend who lives down the street is a SAHM so she cooks dinner and invites me over but when she's stressed or sick I'll offer to order dinner for the family (I am also longtime friends with her husband). They are on a s…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 02:53 PM
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Yeah it's called CPTSD. My dad and his 5 siblings all got it. They all dealt with it differently. My brother and I are the only ones who got that inherited legacy. All my cousins dodged it by having cowed mother's or a dad who cried drunk about being afraid of becoming his dad in a McDonald's drive through while his 16 year old daughter drove him. Getting beat doesn't make you special. My brother got anger issues and a coke issue. I got hypervigilance and trust issues. Shit sucks but at least it…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 01:14 AM
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It's not being down voted that's deeply traumatic. That's like a duh. It's a pretty innocent question, what do you like about your partner? Basic. You get lovely heartwarming answers usually. Seeing people appreciate people and love one another nowadays is a nice change of pace. You're the one comparing it to wealthy people flaunting their wealth in front of the poor. So you went full nonsensical hyperbole my dude. Not me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 04:10 AM
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Look my dad's been divorced 4 times (he has terrible taste in women). He doesn't get mad when other people get married and he's invited. He puts on a suit and goes to celebrate the happy couple. Meanwhile some people could just simply not click on a post not read the comments and just not reply if the mere mention of someone... Liking their partner is so deeply traumatic for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 12:14 AM
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Like... What? What game is there for men to be off of?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 05:20 AM
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I have a higher sex drive than my partner. But I don't ever want him to expect sex as a given just because we're on vacation. Or staying in a hotel. Or ever. I don't want it to be like sex is a punch card. I want it to be because we both genuinely want each other. I am also very gogogo on vacations to a point he needs a break from how much walking and stuff I end up doing. Sometimes he just wants to sit in a coffee shop and read while I go out exploring by myself. Sometimes he just needs to pass…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 03:26 PM
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I think for online personalities: negative engagement is still engagement. Dude proves the point by stitching her. Are most men ugly? No, of course not. I can't speak to their personality, intelligence, capacity for empathy, or if they go down on you ie stuff that matters. But ugly? Genetic elimination? Icky take.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 10:58 PM
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If you're unemployed for a while in your 20s having multiple women take care of you: you're (or were) a hobosexual. I don't make the rules. I really hate the looks number thing or considering a person not being of worth because just because someone looks a certain way doesn't mean they're a catch. There are lots of nice looking people but I know so many women in the dating stage going to sports games they absolutely loathe. No I don't want to sit through something that long and that boring. Go w…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 03:20 AM
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Sorry autocorrect *hobosexual
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 11:51 PM
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This is what I don't get. He's doing well in his career but was effectively a hobosexual in the recent past? He can't get women "at his level" then doesn't that mean he's not at the level he or his friend thinks. Primal sex? Maybe for him but is this actually the opinion of the women. He just seems like the friend in the group people haven't realized they need to drop yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 10:01 PM
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But why should we expect a reward from society? I don't. I already get actively scorned for refusing to get married. Neither my partner nor I are big on marriage. We're also choosing to not have kids. More scorn. If you want a cookie from society for being in a relationship I just think that's sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 08:58 PM
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Uh I know I'm not a man but I don't feel I need a reward for staying with my partner. Getting to be with him is the reward. Maybe I'm just weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 02:57 PM
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False equivalency dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 05:09 PM
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I love how some people equate ugly people fucking to cannibalism. There's no followup, it's just genuinely funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 02:45 PM
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That do be a trailer park thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 02:42 PM
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Does it not count as fucking unless your partner has the face of someone demanding millions of dollars for an ad campaign?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 02:41 PM
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See. Never been to a trailer park.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 02:40 PM
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I love how we pretend the ugly don't absolutely fuck. Some of you have never been to a trailer park and it shows.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 06:27 AM
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Being blunt your analogy is kinda shit. Or I dunno maybe I'm just rolling in friends because I was just born with my little pony magic. Or like I said: I nurtured my friendships. Ended some that I came to find toxic. Etc. If you can't make a friend. Have an intimate long standing friendship. Communicate with friends or value them.... What the hell makes people think they'd be able to start and maintain a romantic relationship????? I do think men and women are socialized differently as children. …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 02:49 AM
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I think you're being a little overly vague. A woman may not feel appreciated by her husband. She may not feel valued as a homemaker or at work. In all aspects of life these things are possible. In terms of friends, those are relationships you choose and nurture. Can you not feel valued, seen, appreciated, or understood by friends? Sure. But if that's the case you should in theory talk to them about it. If they're assholes about it, find new friends. You should feel those things and if not you sh…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 10:29 PM
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Of course everyone does. But I notice men here don't regard friendships, with other men as fulfilling that goal of feeling seen and valued. I have felt I had value by being a good friend since I was a kid. I felt appreciated and understood. I don't think it's that all these men complaining here don't have anything of value other than being wanted. They just don't put weight or value into being perceived as a good friend etc. You have to give a shit about a person's opinion and their own value to…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 03:02 PM
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That's the entire tragedy of the modern man. Wanting to feel seen and valued by others.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 02:06 PM
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If I were single: It would be because I was a widow. That would be some pretty heavy shit. Much like someone who is divorced it's a lot of emotional baggage. I honestly would be pretty broken even though externally I would have my stuff together financially and otherwise. I probably would not deal well with casual sex because it could never be as good as it is with him. I'd always be disappointed. Knowing this I wouldn't be able in good conscious to date. Probably just travel, hang out with frie…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 03:24 AM
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If I invite friends out I cover the bill. I make more money than them but quite a bit so it just makes sense. I think it's good practice to go dutch in the early stages of dating just to avoid men feeling owed something for it. Now my partner and I have division of expenses, but he paid for me during dating. He was a master of check sniping. All that being said: most of you are broke. I completely understand being broke sucks, I too was once a poor. But if you're broke baby just say so. Don't ge…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/26 09:28 PM
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I was smitten with my partner the day I met him. We met through mutuals, I lived far away. We talked constantly often daily for two years. I didn't think he was romantically interested in me because a friend insisted he was interested in her. We got drunk and I kissed him at a party and told him I liked him. I told him he was my boyfriend a week later. Here we are all these years later. The problem is getting to know a guy before you approach with romantic intent. We spent two years getting to k…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/26 03:03 PM
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Isn't this the guy who smashes his bones and says women aren't attractive? Am I supposed to take anything this dude says seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/26 02:32 PM
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OPs premise was broken on the directionality of change being one way from the jump. OP chose to list only one method of conflict women complain about: avoidance. Then chose to voice another complaint that men aren't emotional enough. Ignoring no avoidance isn't the only conflict method that's an issue. We all know there are other ways men deal with conflict. We all know it's not that men aren't emotional enough: it's that they are very emotional they just don't consider anger an emotion. Men her…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 11:46 PM
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I'm saying there's a tie between how men process conflict and how they express emotions which I assume is a pretty obvious straight line. I'm not even going to put this on OP with men preaching stoicism, it's not just them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 02:43 PM
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Uh I think you might be off on that number.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 02:38 PM
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Are you going to argue watching a father lashing out in anger may not contribute to a child's socialization???
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 02:15 PM
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Are you going to argue societally there isn't pressure on boys and men to not express their emotions in a "feminine"way while we see all this preaching about stoicism?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 02:11 PM
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It's two points and applicable to processing conflict.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 02:07 PM
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Because it is a way many men process conflict.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 02:06 PM
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But men don't always withdraw. That's not the only negative way men deal with conflict. Additionally OP mentions men not being emotionally expressive enough, which men are very emotional, they just don't acknowledge anger as an emotion.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 01:08 PM
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"tolerate male style of conflict processing"
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 01:04 PM
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"tolerate male conflict processing", ugly truth is this is often a component.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 01:03 PM
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"tolerate male style of conflict processing"
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 01:01 PM
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So I guess I offer traditional masculine strengths. Confidence, ambition, emotional stability, and provision. So, if I'm checking these boxes... Is it really a one way directional shift? No. My partner and I rarely argue because we're very much aligned on things. When we disagree, we talk it out. Sometimes we give each other space before we talk it out. My brother and his girlfriend got into an argument and punched a hole in the wall. I for one have never done that. Nor has my partner. But I kno…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 04:31 AM
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The sheer volume of people on an app specifically looking to maybe potentially interact with you is higher than say: a grocery store or bar. Even if you're not swiping daily and not always hitting the limit. You're just playing a numbers game.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 09:00 PM
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This makes sense. I could say I've had more meals delivered via door dash if I just popped onto my phone daily than if I cooked or went out to eat.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 02:56 PM
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The math ain't mathing
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 04:23 AM
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Which one?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 11:52 PM
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In the US? Or did you change your country to the Philippines?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 10:17 PM
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I think the problem is "just be yourself" doesn't consider the possibility they suck. So the next step is: be a better man. So then you get into okay define what that is? Are you basing this on some social media influencer you think is super cool? The type of man your ideal woman wants? You know the answer is be a better man. But what is that? And why do women seem to often know what being a better woman is accurately? As for the advice? I get it applies to men in relationships. But like I'd giv…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 10:15 PM
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But being real: how's that swiping on tinder going?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 10:04 PM
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You can't be manipulated into doing something you don't want to via sex unless you allow yourself to be. You're just treating men like they're 5 years old incapable of passing the marshmallow test.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 06:54 PM
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If a man allows himself to be manipulated because of his sexual urges that's on him. For 1. Choosing to be with someone who would do that and 2. Not having better self control.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 03:40 PM
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But how would they know?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 09:56 PM
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Sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 01:40 AM
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It's almost like things in this world are nuanced, contextual, and often not able to be summarized in near packaged sentences because often people don't agree on a core premise something is based off of. Or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 08:29 PM
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Trust and believe in reality hairlessness from everywhere below your lower eyelashes you would literally never want. We even dermaplane now! I personally don't like armpit hair on anyone. It doesn't need to be shaved to the skin, just buzz buzz. I find it off-putting to apply deodorant like it's hair gel. But my partner doesn't because he's not comfortable with it. Your soulmate wouldn't reject you over hair.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 05:25 AM
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The only man I've ever known to straight up tell me he's involved in that movement is a coworker whose wife left him after their children both became adults. It seems like she had decided to hang on until they were both out of the house before filing, and had this in mind long before filing without ever telling him. He desperately scrambled to save the marriage. Only to.ask I change his beneficiaried to his children and tell me he advised his son to never marry. MGTOW seems overwhelmingly reacti…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 03:44 PM
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I don't think very much. I'm cautious of men I don't know, moreso than women I don't know. But I couldn't imagine saying I hate men or complaining as if there is something fundamentally wrong with their gender because it might hurt their feelings. I'm not going to say "don't worry, you're one of the good ones". They don't bitch about women collectively in front of me. I wouldn't be friends with someone who did. I can know the statistics. I can know common attitudes. But I'd never be anti man bec…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 03:18 PM
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After my friends double mastectomy we were trying to figure out if since she no longer has nipples but the most fantastic reconstructive surgery, like all transferred fat, no implants, can she go topless like on a beach? The male nipple is culturally not sexualized at all so just bottoms are the default for men. Men's fashion has suffered from the Beau Brummell effect we seem to be unable to shake. There's a professional uniform for men but a woman's business professional and casual is so diffic…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 03:09 PM
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I figured I might be a closeted bisexual. I got a lap dance from a stripper and sploosh. Definitely needed to change after. So confirmed. I think a bunch of us are kinda queers.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 05:50 AM
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I'm a clear minority I guess. The imbalance in the kink community makes it really weird for us. Also really weird the most masculine dudes are the biggest subs. Like a dude with gorgeous hair, perfect stubble, and a six pass asking to legitimately drink my piss. He also wanted my socks, to hold his key, and way more. It was crazy to me he never really told his girlfriends, he tried to "ease" them into it by suggesting something tame but they were hard nos so he just stopped. My cousin's boyfrien…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 08:27 PM
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Problems with cults of personality based on the founder just wanting dominion over others (and is a complete amoral pervert) amirite? Like the enormous houses are arguably the least weird thing about the Oneida community. Ineffectiveness of the pullout method? Never heard of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 07:39 PM
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I think back to hippy communes, era of free love, where women collectively cared for children, cooked, cleaned, etc. while men sat around doing drugs and philosophizing. Patriarchy. Is it still patriarchal? Are men going to rape and kill you if you reject them? I think your question leaves out a lot of factors so you can go down some crazy rabbit holes. You've completely forgotten the most important parts of monogamy: legal and monetary changes. Think about everything that goes into inheritance,…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 04:22 PM
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Never gave a dichotomy. There can be people that don’t have children, I’m just saying as a societal prescription we should advocate for families (in part due to birth rates, in part due to the other reason I mentioned). Nah you did. Because if you genuinely wanted to "advocate for families" you'd advocate for Medicare for all, maternity leave, a living minimum wage, affordable housing, affordable childcare, tax restructuring, you know: basic shit that would be advocating for families. Things tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 03:57 AM
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All countries have xenophobic people. Not all countries have xenophobic policies. You're asking a bad faith question and you know it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 10:32 PM
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Nope. I am white as hell but I am agnostic.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 10:11 PM
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Firstly, you’re missing my point which was that we need to establish relationships based off of virtues, duties, and responsibilities instead of blind materialism. If we put forth that as a societal expectation, I don’t see how it doesn’t logically follow that marriages will be founded on virtue, and so children will follow those virtues. It's really a false dichotomy to say it's either blind materialism or idealized marriage and children as the virtuous other path. Plenty of ways to live ethica…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 06:20 PM
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Most people have children thinking they'll be good parents, just like most people who get married think they won't end up divorced. Unfortunately people grossly overestimate their ability to maintain a healthy marriage and raise children properly. In my country, the government is trying to push existing citizens to have more children, there literally is a grand conspiracy that drives xenophobia. It's called the great replacement theory. Everything a potential thing a non existent human that will…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 02:27 PM
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US.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 05:21 AM
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I do live in a xenophobic country. That does want me to reproduce. But you can't divorce if you're never married. I don't believe in marriage unless you have children or for financial reasons. Otherwise separate assets etc. We're happy so we'll stick together over a decade now ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 02:19 AM
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I don't really get how building a family with a legacy is virtuous, unless you specifically adopt or foster or forgo children to make societal contributions via money or skills. Having biological children is pure selfishness. Which is actually fine: you get to make choices based on your wants so long as you accept your kid may end up permanently estranged from you, etc. I love my partner very much. I am so happy our lives allowed us to meet and we can be together. But if he ever passed away I wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 09:10 PM
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They're not constantly apologizing for things that aren't their fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 07:14 PM
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I personally don't like the word and don't use it as a descriptor for myself. That being said it was coined within the asexual community. So it's not for me. I've had friends nudge me point at someone and jokingly say: there's your type. And they're not wrong. But I'm just like yes: they are attractive. But I don't immediately think about having sex with someone. I've initially thought someone was attractive and then after talking to them for 15 minutes anything I initially thought goes away. Bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 07:07 PM
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So I am a firm believer of you like what you like and you get to decide who you wanna date. That being said do I give my friends over shit? Absolutely. I had coworker say she just isn't attracted to Asians, so I started pulling up pics of Henry Golding, Rowoon, Tony Leung, and my kill shot: Manny Jancinto. And she was like... Yeah okay fine. I'm like you can't say you're not attracted to an entire race of people that's insane. I have a preference for black hair, it doesn't mean I think Alexander…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 10:08 PM
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Also, why do you need to talk about tubal ligation? We're talking about vasectomies and how people, especially women, are uninformed and push the idea that they are easily reversible? Even some feminists think boys should get vasectomies and reverse it when they are "ready" and over 18yo... I'm sorry but that is an automatic sterilization of these boys. A tubal ligation is essentially the female equivalent of a vasectomy. Typically couples choose between one or the other. But I know that it's te…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 11:12 PM
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Poor dudes pushed into potentially runining their ability to have kids. Yk tons of men also advocate for circumcision and say it's better that way despite the proof it's not, purely because of indoctrination. Men's issues and suffering will never be taken seriously Uh one of them got it despite his wife not wanting him to because he didn't want more than one kid. The other two have actual healthy relationships with their wives and had a talk and are pretty chill about it. Both have two kids now …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 10:51 PM
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Nonono my beliefs are merely a modest proposal.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 10:24 PM
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If that makes you feel better I am happy to help you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 10:22 PM
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I cry daily for the Walton children as those Walmart employees leech off of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 10:18 PM
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May I propose a cabin in the woods.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 10:16 PM
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A vasectomy is a simple in office procedure and covered by insurance, sources: friends who got them and a doctor who performed them in his office until he retired. You are correct reversal is not covered by insurance. But neither is tubal ligation reversal. Which is a more intensive procedure (not in office) and it's reversal is even less effective and has a higher likelihood of complications. A tubal ligation is not an in office procedure and it's recovery time is longer. It's probably importan…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 10:12 PM
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If that makes you feel better about yourself then I am happy to help.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 09:19 PM
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So a lot of what you're saying is kind of are kinda bullshit talking points. Do we love to joke about pockets? Yes. But that's not the point. But you kinda just strawmanded that to hell and back. One thing that our government needs to fund research on and the FDA needs to review in terms of existing products is getting different types of male birth control on the market. It's an underfunded area and it needs to be made available. Obviously a vasectomy is possible and reversible, but an option th…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 09:03 PM
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Please proceed to read all previous posts. There is no warfare: but class warfare. Human rights are the focus a rising tide raises all ships. If you'd like to have the argument feel free to create a sock puppet account to have the conversation where someone is making that argument in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 08:45 PM
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Google it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 07:46 PM
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As a woman who isn't old enough to have been voting for 50 years, but has been since I turned 18, I haven't seen a single piece of legislation I could vote on that would oppress only men. Just crush us all. There is no warfare but class warfare. The sooner you wake up to that the sooner you get that solidarity y'all claim to want.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 07:33 PM
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Have you not been paying attention to the dumpster fire? This is human rights. Don't be myopic.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 07:27 PM
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You're just spamming bandwagon fallacy my dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 07:24 PM
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It's darwinian evolution no? Survival of the fittest or themost adaptable. We are not adapting and hence we are the parts of society that deserve to go the way of the dodo. No. You're operating under the false premise here that: people agree with your poor interpretation of evolutionary biology. I am agreeing with you. Men like me desver nothing and you aren't obliged to make me feel even temporarily better. You're not agreeing with me because I didn't say that in the first place. If that's your…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 05:28 PM
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That's a gross oversimplification for voting statistics. Because women and men being broken down by age, socioeconomic, racial, and educational lines all vote differently and are more likely to vote or not, and be or not be educated on what they are even voting on. I live in the dumpster fire so uh yeah ngl y'all practically look like a utopia comparatively.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 05:16 PM
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Loneliness epidemic? Being left behind? Lack of solidarity? Violence against them? High risk jobs? If we look at these things and say okay why are men experiencing these things disproportionately? You're not going to like the answer. The most obvious is income inequality, removal of human rights, lack of access to healthcare, education, etc. You can say yes but that's not specific to men. But a rising tide raises all ships. So now is it that men are doing poorly and there needs to be urgent reso…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 04:21 PM
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I wouldn't. But I'm also not going to pretend to be 100% accurate at sussing out the bullshit. I am pretty good at knowing when someone is a bad choice. But what if a guy is crazy and tries choking me or something. My friend tried to go down on a guy on the second date and he said he respected her too much. I was like oh dump him. She did not. He ghosted her on her birthday then dumped her the next day. He was still hung up on his ex. My partner had a string of friends with benefits prior to me.…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 09:55 PM
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I'm not the marrying kind but my long term partner is not someone I settled for. I didn't want to sleep with him before shit was established because well... If you do I have heard a lot of guys kinda don't take you seriously. But as soon as we were established bam. Maybe it's just my social circle but men have always attempted to date me once they get to know me and aren't just doing a drive-by and noticing my boobs. If a guy wasn't "husband material". You get what you get and that's it. No blow…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 08:55 PM
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Talking shit? You yourself said you use your man as a meat shield. It's not wrong to say you're up shit's creek if fate calls his bluff with someone he can't handle. I think you have me confused with another poster. My partner is just my partner. Not a meat shield. Get mad if you want (and this is where y'all always do) but you absolutely have no hope of refuting the basic fact that you avoid physical risk and outsource it to your man as if we still live in the Stone Age. You literally confessed…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 07:35 PM
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Not really. Profit for women is ego validation. As long as he doesn't break her boundaries the dating scene is all exploitation fun for her. Men provide 100% of the investment up front and nowadays get very little in return even if they succeed. I am not with my partner for who validation. I love him. I love being around him. But I understand a man complimenting me or showing initial interest does nothing for my ego. It's because I know it's not genuine. He wants something. It does nothing for m…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 07:32 PM
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This thread started with calling women lazy, then using a job application analogy. Ignoring there is an entire function within a company just to source for open positions and that their selection and hire costs money, takes time, and requires like min three departments coordinating to get to the offer letter part. Which is why I think OP has never been involved in or understands the hiring process. As someone who is regularly, I think there are many parallels, but it's not a perfect analogy. Say…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 05:02 PM
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There is no symmetry. I love and support my partner and come at shit from a realistic perspective. You're just talking shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 04:37 PM
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I mean realistically candidates are just firing away their resume like a machine gun. You updated just your resume. The hiring manager, recruiter, and HR made sure the job posting was greenlit. Then went through everyone's machine gun resume blast. And orchestrate all steps to get an interview. As an aside one time we were considering a dude for an interview. Afterwards when the manager was explaining the background check he'd have to go through dude said upfront he had committed a computer crim…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 04:34 PM
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So you agree. You're 40. Elderly people are fucking; people just don't want to admit it so we all just kinda pretend not to know.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 11:48 AM
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That's your decision? It's your choice to care about how overall society perceives you. Try having higher self esteem and lower esteem for everyone else. Honestly I try not to be perceived by society at all and only put on costumes/masks in certain situations to be perceived how I want. I have a work mask and costume for example I use the most. It accomplished what I need. Mostly I care what like maybe 10 people max think of me and everyone else can piss off.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 11:46 AM
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Hey man you do you. I don't know if it's equivalent to being 40 unemployed living with your mom and her boyfriend or being on workers comp for a "back injury".
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 11:33 AM
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If you think most women suck why pursue them? And why complain about it? Why complain something you don't even want doesn't want you? Drink the fukitol and just shush.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 11:32 AM
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You're the one choosing to devalue women in the same way idiots who buy McDonald's choose to devalue those that provide them with their mcnuggets.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 11:24 AM
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Eh I feel like matching your partner along the way can be really good too. My partner has always spurred me on to be better. I was broke as shit working two jobs and in college full time when I met my partner who was broke as shit delivering pizza when he was in college. But if you come in guns blazing setting rules for your potential partner instead of being up front. Like if you can't afford a dinner date and wanna do coffee or ice cream in the park just say you're broke baby. Don't act like y…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 12:39 AM
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https://www.clearancejobs.com/security-clearance-faqs#what-is-a-security-clearance-1
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 10:49 PM
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No one meets all of the qualifications. There's this woman who literally has an Excel spreadsheet for dating she sells and it's broken down by core values, flag colors, and a points system. Like a woman can have basic values, criteria etc. but think you cut people off too much while talking and it just gives her a negative impression that sticks. There's listable criteria but dating and especially prolonged dating is such a long list that's constantly evolving. So yeah, it's not like a video gam…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 10:33 PM
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The difference is that a relationship is something I want. A job is just something I'm required to have to live, lol. I don't think I'm less worthy because I'm single but I'm certainly less happy. Call me crazy but I put needs above wants. I was single for awhile because I had pretty strict qualifications. I didn't really struggle with it though but I have a tight social circle and then lots of satellite friends. So I was always with people doing something. When can I start 😎 Put your clearance …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 08:03 PM
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Yeah, but maybe it's because I do not tie my worth to work at all helps me not care about job rejections. Every time I get an interview I get a callback for at least another round, maybe I just don't care. And this is exactly how people should approach dating. Your worth is not tied to how attractive you are, how many people you've slept with, or if you're in a relationship. That's pretty good! My short one would be November 1st right after Halloween, I came into the office and it was completely…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 07:53 PM
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My friend says something all the time I love: "you miss 100% of the shots you don't take, but Christ aim". You gotta aim. I have had lots of employees and some friends ask how can they progress in their career. For employees it's easy, get more certs or frankly go to the private actual sector where there aren't stringent years of experience rules in place. For some friends I have to say I'm not in your industry so I cannot give accurate advice here. I can tell you what I did generally, but I can…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 07:44 PM
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So you'd have to make the interview first. You'd have to meet the experience, degree, certification, and skill set requirements before you ever got the interview. So while you may be a good interview you may be rejected before you ever get there. When I'm in a panel I am literally just there to vibe check for most positions unless they're in one of my departments. Generally I ask what's the silliest task you've ever done at your current or previous job? It gives you a good look at a person's per…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 07:01 PM
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I am speaking to my workplace experience. We do have 220k jobs. I wouldn't boil a human being to a dollar amount. But there are women appealing to men in a way a 220k job would be appealing to an applicant. I can see where it is coming from and there are parallels between job search and companion search. What I disagree with is that the screening, interviewing, hiring, etc takes effort, ie women can't be lazy. The only difference between a men vs womens here is; the man applies or here is expres…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 06:36 PM
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I wouldn't get pissy. I completely understand and that's reasonable. Why date someone you're not attracted to? Why date someone with a gambling addiction? But I do agree that women aren't a monolith and there are a lot of women who want things in a partner I personally do not. I wouldn't want a man who wanted me to be a SAHM. I wouldn't want a religious man. I wouldn't want a man who smokes or vapes. Etc. like everyone wants to be attracted to their partners. But will not agree on who is attract…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 06:22 PM
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I mean the biggest problem is most people just are suck candidates. Like instead apply to a job you're actually qualified for, get better qualifications, or be unemployed. These are your options.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 03:12 PM
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Honestly most companies don't even bother with that. Just having zero job openings makes people think you're dead in the water.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 02:54 PM
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No one in my company has ever posted a ghost job. Companies do this to seem like they're growing when they're not. But dating sites absolutely create fake profiles for women because their ratios are so overwhelmingly unbalanced. I'd rather stab myself in the eyeballs than go on a date with an asshole for free drinks. Money is a resource you can make more of: time is not. Your attention would have to be worth something to do anything for someone's ego. I 100% hired my friend for a remote job he w…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 06:17 AM
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So I don't know if you're familiar with recruiting at all in a job setting but depending on what and where you're posting you can get thousands of completely unqualified applicants. If you're a government contractor it gets even more stringent. You can be very explicit: this job requires a CISSP and a TS/SCI with FSP. And you'll literally have non US citizens applying. Or say they are they don't have an FSP "But I can get one" no sir you cannot because there is a 1-2 year backlog and we're hirin…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 05:04 AM
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This is why they gotta trim. Just some light buzz with a guard.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 06:14 AM
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Uh I have friends. That I listen to, support, have fun with, and some of them are even men. Lots of people care about men's problems the issue is societally we have moved away from well... Having friends. People like to yap about how things were better in the 50s with some stepford wife, but what we're missing is the bridge clubs. Bowling leagues. Block parties. Things our grandparents did while married and having kids that gave them a sense of community outside of immediate family and work. It'…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 05:30 AM
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I understand why this is debated endlessly but it's stupid. We all know a girl in our lives whose: mother father, siblings, grandparents, uncles and aunts would all hit the roof if she brought home a 32 year old man as her boyfriend. We also know there are a bunch of men who fantasize about dating the younger attractive women who wouldn't look their way when they were younger themselves now that they have money. We know there are girls who understand this guy is a walking wallet at their age but…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 03:15 PM
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I'm not completely straight, seeing Jennifer Tilly in a gold suit in liar liar as a child probably should have been the tip off. I don't think most people are completely straight. I just think men are more closeted about it because of toxic masculinity: see secret grindr accounts held by "straight" men. Y'all have an orgasm button in your ass so do with that what you will. Women being kinda gay is a turn on for a lot of men so it's seen as more acceptable. Additionally emotional and physical int…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 06:08 PM
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Dude I don't like cold approaches where some guys like hey I noticed you blah blah blah. But when people just treat me like a human being and can just like maintain a pleasant normal conversation a bitch might. Get friends. Except you're going to hear "not interested". Someone not wanting to fuck you doesn't determine your worth or value. But having no friends makes me wonder: are you really that unlikeable? Maybe that's why.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 11:21 PM
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Please review the earlier portion where I say: have friends. Like damn you expect a girl to want to spend multiple days a week and sleep over with you and you don't have a friend you can go to a concert with? I spent most of a wedding I was a guest at talking to a random deeply autistic dude mostly about his hyper fixation: pinball. Like it's cool how passionate about it he was. Because having something interesting about you and saying yeah I'll go to this random person's wedding with you is how…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 11:10 PM
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Where's that bike ride stick in the spoke meme.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 11:03 PM
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I mean I'm not going to lie I play videogames but I also sew, and read, but the secret is I am the friend that's down to clown. Bowling, laser tag, arcade, mini golf, hike, swimming, escape rooms, board games, conventions, concerts, travel to a random ass country, road trip to some weird ass attraction, strip club, roller rink, painting, fuck I went to magic the gathering night... I pretty much say yes to everything. Like just because you saw a meme that says all women do it like phone, eat hot …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 10:59 PM
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This is a bit unfair. Lots of guys have outdoor hobbies. How many guys are into fishing and hunting? The real issue is their hobbies aren't popular with single women. How many young single men? How often are they realistically doing this? Is that their only hobby? Like I said: try a new one if all your hobbies are isolationist. You might find you like them. You can't isolate yourself in a forest then complain you don't meet anyone. It's not unfair: it's reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 08:12 PM
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Or go with me here: having friends you see in person and hobbies that don't involve being in the house improve your life in general. Your mental and physical health improves, you are in more social situations, and you meet new people. All this makes a person simultaneously more desirable and puts them in a situation to meet women. No one is sayIng do pottery exclusively to pick up women. Pick something you have an interest in or do a trial session. You might really like it. Again: improved socia…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 06:06 PM
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I personally wouldn't use that word. I was not speaking to my behavior: but to others choice to use certain words as insults. If I'm going to insult someone I like it precise. Persona mapping, you know. Now would others use that insult? Absolutely they do all the time (then start a go fund me when they get fired but I digress). Is it generic? Yes. But the idea is to hit someone where it hurts, and usually within your own morality. Some people have zero.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 03:35 AM
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Obviously not. What an odd thing to say.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 03:11 AM
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I think it just depends on your flavor of autism? I met a guy who was a guest at a wedding and I spent a lot of the time talking to him. He was sitting with one friend looking bored and since I didn't know anyone but my partner I figured hell let's say hello to this dude. His hyper fixation was pinball. Playing them, repairing them, knowing the history of every machine. He was bright bubbly and passionate. But he would pause and give me a chance to speak or ask questions. That may seem like a we…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 03:10 AM
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For some people yes. I was really really afraid of men in my teens and early 20s and because of my upbringing, unwilling to admit I was bisexual even to myself. If I had the confidence I do now and was younger and single I would have likely been more involved in the kink scene and had a few submissives to play with. Because of the disparity in the field I would have been able to have pretty much anyone I wanted. So for me personally, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 02:52 AM
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It's an easy hitbox. Plain and simple. It's not that people even care about your level of actual sexual activity: they just know it will sting. Same reason men call women slags, fat, fatherless, etc. It's because it's an insult you can throw out that will hurt the person's pride. It's because it's important to the man. Not because virginity is a terrible thing. If your intention is to hurt someone you hit what's important to them not you. Oftentimes people give away their soft underbelly on acci…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 02:46 AM
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So this is pretty specific to OLD, these questions. It's the lowest effort method of looking for a partner and chances are people asking for gym and dick picks are either looking for a hook up or even more likely... Not even women. I think it's pretty reasonable if someone is looking for serious relationship and is completely in the dark about you to ask what do you do for a living, currently and if that's not where your ultimate goal is: what is it. If someone is settled and happy with their pr…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 05:49 PM
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I'm just in a relationship man. Like oh no sorry man. Relationship. Lived together for 10 years. Sometimes women aren't approaching because they are already locked in on a dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 06:30 AM
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Nah you're just assigning your own strict personal definition as if it's universal. Which it is not. I am not a poor and therefore can afford things. Like dinner and drinks. So it's not arrogance. It's just an accurate description of my situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 12:54 AM
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Nope. Courting is basically an old timey phrase when marriage was a transaction between two men. It later became a synonym for what we now would consider dating. It now is most commonly used by Mormons where there are highly strict rules on what is allowable during this phase. Oftentimes the pairings are flat out or borderline arranged. For the non Mormon population there is casual dating and exclusive dating ie boyfriend girlfriend. This may be done with the intent of marriage or zero intent. S…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 05:13 PM
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If you're Mormon. Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 04:21 PM
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I mean in the fake scenario you've created where a perfect man is beaten down by a harpy, sure. Realistically people are more complicated, life is more complicated than that. Our lives ebb and flow and sometimes we're giving our partners 80% when they're at 20%. But sometimes, you're both at 20%. People struggle to pay rent with both partners working. People's parents' health takes a nose dive and they become responsible. People get laid off. People get promotions. Car accidents. Pregnancies. Me…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 04:17 AM
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Maybe it's because women have been the target demographic of marketing for a number of industries for so long but we're aware of it. Cars, cigarettes, video games, ass wipes, deodorant, etc. It's all for men. Though the marketing geniuses are tapping into new previously insufficiently exploited demos, ie men. Your contributions to shareholder value in appearance based goods and services is appreciated. You don't even know that your opinion is one fed to you born not out of logic but by creating …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/26 08:34 PM
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Dude the way I got my fallopian tubes removed was by getting it piggybacked onto removing a cantaloupe sized fibroid sitting on top of my uterus. I had been asking for a bisalph for YEARS and because of my age and not having had children everyone said no. That was the only way. My doctor has recommended I get a reduction and they would support it with my insurance but I am too scared of the surgery recovery. It's brutal for a reduction.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/26 04:23 PM
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Adding? My friend that's the current process. Where have you been?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/26 04:01 PM
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In the US you can get a breast reduction medically covered FYSA. The significant back pain documentation and treatment in your medical records can help substantiate it. The reason a lot of people can't get them covered is because when they say oh I got a reduction what they actually got was a lift which also technically includes reduction but won't be medically covered. Kinda in the way gastric bypass is covered but the skin removal is not.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/26 03:59 PM
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You're already programmed consumer. The anger and rejection you feel is profitable to those that acknowledge and encourage it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/26 03:47 PM
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Sometimes reading posts here I feel like the mom in the babadook where the kid is in the back of the car just screaming and she yells "why can't you just be normal!?". Except instead of it being a metaphor for unprocessed grief it's like just a bunch of men... Who could also probably have benefitted from therapy.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/26 03:49 AM
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So first off you use like in your post title but then immediately veer into attraction and relationships. That's your issue. You don't believe women don't like you: you don't believe they're sexually attracted to you. Kind of misleading. To be honest as a woman I am not surprised. And I am one of those women who do feel lucky to have the partner I do because I don't see many men that are like him in general. I wouldn't say he's a paragon or some kind but he has qualities many men just... Don't. …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 05:26 PM
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In a sense you're kinda spot on. Periods suck.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 03:03 PM
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Honestly that's straight cougar bait right there. Older women are going to absolutely pounce on that if they smell blood in the water.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/26 05:41 AM
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There's a movie, I forget it but a man hooks up with his ex-wife who is there too whilst cheating on his much younger, fitter, prettier girlfriend. He complains about how acquainted he is with knowing everything that goes into how his girlfriend looks and he hates it. I like big man titties but I don't like hearing about protein powder, not being able to do things because of diets and exercise, and essentially all the restrictions just to maintain a certain temporary physique that won't really l…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/25 01:48 AM
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Proceeds to list rich women who go through men like tissues.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 02:59 AM
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It doesn't have: medical dental, and vision insurance. 401k match. A reliable salary. And statistics show most women on it make like nothing. The highest earners have existing fan bases from pre established entertainment careers. It doesn't make financial sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 03:07 AM
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I can't with the typing.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 12:09 AM
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From what I could parse due to spelling, an algorithm feed to you by all forms of Internet entertainment would certainly indicate I am not thinking men are born in 1925. If they were they would have more friends if they were born in 1925 as now with young men multiple self reports during studies and surveys show men to have few or no close friends. Men care more deeply about gender roles than women because they actually care more about how other men perceive them than women. Women are enrolling …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 04:43 PM
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Marriage has been a social and economic proposition for men for centuries for peasants as well. Farmers with only daughters needed son in laws. Blacksmiths needed apprentices etc. These agreements often were sealed by the trade of daughters for financial gain of some kind via labor or the removal of the burden of a mouth to feed. Again crack a history book.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 04:56 AM
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No most women here say men need to recognize women as people, stop trying to enforce traditional gender roles, make actual friends, get off algorithms, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 04:50 AM
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Projection isn't cute.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 08:13 PM
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I think that's an overly broad claim with no evidence based on your personal negative feelings but you're stating it as fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 08:11 PM
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Nah. Marriage was created for economic and legal deals, between men. Since women were property of their father's until they became property of their husbands. Assume historically nothing was ever done exclusively for the benefit of women, if they did benefit it was only because men benefitted more. Until way down the line in the women's rights movement. The purpose of marriage now is still primarily: legal, religious, and economic but as women are no longer property the agreement is between a wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 08:05 PM
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Lame dodge. Most states are no fault. You're so focused on your personal morality and imposing it on others you're ignoring the most basic thing: marriage and children are economic propositions.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 09:48 AM
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Women like that absolutely do exist. It's just a small percentage, not as small as women who actually receive alimony but that doesn't stop men here from bitching about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 09:44 AM
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It's not that his friends and family didn't accept me. I was just too afraid to try. I have an awesome relationship with his brother, I love our nieces, I try to stop him from fighting too much with his mom about politics, neither of us like his sperm donor but some of his family are great. I get along great with all of his friends and especially their wives and girlfriends. I used to be painfully shy but I had to really work hard to get over it. I consistently talked to him while we were broken…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 09:00 AM
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How we live our lives now shows children choices they have in the future. But technically no the possibility to be who I am now did not always exist. It took generations of women to get here. Gender roles are a social construct and vary based on religion, religion, etc. Gender roles are meant to compel people to behave in a way that the powers that be want. And absolutely calling bullshit people of the same gender don't enforce gender roles because I have gotten shit from men and women about not…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 08:31 AM
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Cool imaginary scenarios dude. Humans (yes including women) can learn from their mistakes in dating if they have some semblance of introspection and the desire to grow and change. Being real my partner dumped me. After a year and a half together. It sucked but he was right for doing it. I didn't take our relationship seriously because he was my first boyfriend and whose first relationship works out? Plus he initially said he wanted a kid later in life and I never did so I avoided things like mee…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 08:11 AM
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Yet you'd have a problem with a SAHM with no work history for 16 years getting alimony.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 07:54 AM
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As someone who voluntarily got their fallopian tubes removed to never have even the slightest chance of getting pregnant I honestly don't know what the fuck you're talking about. Changing gender roles starts with you. Individually. Most women have historically become mothers, it's still considered a default for our gender. I opted out. A friend is a SAHD to his daughter while his wife works at NASA. Men have an abundance of ways to not participate in bullshit antiquated gender roles, reject stoi…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 07:50 AM
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Forms of birth control, including vasectomies can fail. Children aren't a punishment for fucking. Exactly as previous poster said: removing foreign organism from body.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 07:36 AM
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Oh no women are allowed to do everything men have always been able to do! What is the world coming to. Not all states have common law marriage, I live in one that does not, a man who has fewer assets could also materially benefit from this as well so again: oh no women can do what men have been able to forever. Pretty obvious but there is no such thing as biological gender, only biological sex. And there aren't even two biological sexes so don't even try to start with me. Your post is tl;dr how …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 08:56 PM
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I don't inherently think women have amazing intuition about men. That being said Isaac Asimov wrote a short story called feminine intuition which basically explains it as just as a synthesis of small pieces of information and an understanding of psychology.It allows them to come to a conclusion that seems somewhat mystical but it's not. Which is why I say highly calibrated hypervigilant people typically have the best intuition. They spent their childhood analyzing subtle tone, face expressions, …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 01:55 PM
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Same. Give me a person who is hypervigilant due to child abuse and they're like a heat seeking missile for typically imperceptible changes and characteristics that indicate danger.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 06:31 AM
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It wasn't that people were having more sex it's just that people were doing a rape and calling it sex. Like I think this is fairly evident?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 08:03 AM
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Chuck Palahniuk wrote a book that I think you'll find very illuminating on this subject. Don't just watch the movie. It misses a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 10:48 PM
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If I could stay exactly as I am... so I look the same? Does reality warp it's perception of lookism, sexism, etc around me exclusively? I am confused.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 10:28 PM
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But pre prescribed gender roles don't bring what is needed to the relationship. Most homes are dual income. Both parties are working. Many have children. So both parties are making bread but the hourly wage, physical demand, flexibility, days of the week working and commute time likely vary. Which is one of the many reasons why traditional gender roles are garbage. Secondly: protector of the home is not an actual role. My partner doesn't do jack shit to protect my home. Realistically our biggest…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 06:47 PM
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I mean many religions are inherently patriarchal. Patriarchy is established in their texts. Traditional roles can work but aren't necessary and in the event they do "work" one or both parties aren't necessarily happy with the role placed on them. What we have now requires communication and compromise in terms of household roles and responsibilities that people are famously terrible at and would prefer to just default to I would like some prescribed role that seemingly benefits me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 05:52 PM
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If someone is not applying for a job because they like the one they have you can't really get mad at them for not applying.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 05:15 PM
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Patriarchy is an essential element of conservatism, at least American conservatism. There are also religious and ethnic elements as well. But it's not as if there aren't those who ascribe to liberal ideology who are also patriarchal.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 05:14 PM
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All my female friends have great relationships. They were selective and spent years with their partners before marriage. They made darn sure they were compatible and able to work together and compromise before making it legal. Out of my relatives I've been to a ton of 25 year anniversaries over the past 5 years. Out of my coworkers, I haven't heard anyone complain about their wives or husbands boomer style. Did gave a guy whose wife died and that was really sad. Christmas eve too. Our controller…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 07:45 PM
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People do but they're in you know... healthy committed relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 03:38 PM
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I saw a show with a mid 30s Japanese office worker. She had a routine of a steam bath after work, and would prepare an elaborate meal for after. She'd even pre chill her beer glass before she left for work. It looked not only luxurious but also romantic. It was just her. No man. But still romantic. I love my partner but when he goes on a business trip I do enjoy the quiet and ability to make a ton of plans to see friends and do things just for myself rather than factoring him into my schedule. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 05:46 PM
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Consider your algorithm is feeding you what you want you want to see. Most young women I know either fall into the dutch camp or have a boyfriend that does full on princess treatment because they did a trade school speed run and make good money to not really care about Ulta sprees, chocolate covered strawberries just because, and nice dinners.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 05:18 PM
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Historically it was on men to ask women out and pay for dates. It was so engrained in culture that a special dance was created in highschool where girls explicitly had to deviate from the norm and ask a boy. Again I have heard far more men like so many and even more here complain about buying dinner and "getting nothing in return". With women's earning power though things have drastically changed and I know women explicitly want to go dutch so their date can't hold it over their head to get some…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 04:52 PM
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That's statistics too. Stress from work increases risk too. That's not fantasy. It's an increase yes: but not as risky as trying to leave a relationship. Period. Men are already doing that. I'm just pointing out how women will react to that negatively. I don't need friends, because I don't need external validation unlike some people. According to statistics: men typically have few friendships if any at all and rarely ones that are emotionally intimate. You do need friends and if you think you do…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 04:34 AM
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Or a husband who takes his anger out of his wives due to stress from work. Or a controlling husband. There are holes here. You guys just like demonizing men for being single or non traditional. It's statistics. Not your fantasy scenarios. Statistics. Addiction increases the risk. A woman's pregnancy increase the risk. This isn't you spinning a narrative. These are just statistics on what increases the risk of ipv. Women say that's gay, or say men are emotionally attracted to men. You're just mak…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 09:15 PM
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Because it is BS and just a smoke screen. Since again those women already know husbands and boyfriends are more likely to harm women. But yet they are not pushing this narrative toward men in relationships. I wonder. 🤔 You're missing something really key here. When do husbands and boyfriends become the most dangerous to their partners? Oh yeah when they try to leave. Come on dude at least try to make a point not full of holes. They are afraid that sex robots will ruin the sex market. I for one c…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 08:05 PM
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Speak for yourself. My monster fucker dreams could be reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 07:56 PM
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Real shit: the non ADHD partner gets stuck with a disproportionate amount of work. Remember to pay bills? They could never. How long do they leave wet towels in the washer... when was last Saturday?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 05:19 AM
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Never heard of I have to pay for a date what's the point of being with a man. Have heard plenty of men bitch about paying for dates and not getting sex or some kind of physical intimacy after like a bowl of pasta is currency for sex. So not sure what the hell in it for the love you're talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 07:09 PM
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First person I met who knew who park chan-wook was. Like good movie taste is important.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 04:21 AM
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Two things, one: people figured out politics are linked to morality and ethnics and it's hard to be with someone that has ones incompatible with yours. Men seem more likely to overlook this than women. Two: men went mask off online. It used to be you'd meet a person at college or a party or through a friend. You'd talk about movies or TV shows or whatever you had in common. Now you're online seeing men with awful takes, getting harassment and dick pics (things men irl wouldn't be brave enough to…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 08:53 PM
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Shocker I didn't enumerate all the ways in one paragraph. Go logical fallacy someone else please.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 02:34 PM
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Marriage has always historically been more important for women. I said what I said. You can dance around and throw out a bunch of logical fallacies but it doesn't change what I said and it's accuracy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 06:00 AM
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Marriage has always historically been more important for women due to laws restricting a number of what we now consider a basic right, like property ownership for example. Access to education, good paying jobs, etc. Only now have we entered a time when restrictions have been removed.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 04:53 AM
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All proceeding human history.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 10:02 PM
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I think you're confused. Women didn't used to have the choice to not get married. And later when they did society bullied them into it. And they were indoctrinated to marry whomever was around and a "good provider". So no. It's not an illusion. But it does make men uncomfortable.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 09:43 PM
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Criticizing women is practically the internet's favorite past time aside from gooning. Same with real life. We can't make any life choice or live any kind of choice without being criticized for it. We're sluts if we have sex and prudes if we don't. We're wrong for putting too much into our careers but also not contributing enough to the household for making less and focusing on taking care of children. We're wrong for divorcing and not leaving. Anything a woman does is always subject to criticis…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 03:10 PM
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Yeah that's not an accurate or even good study. Sorry ppd.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 09:56 PM
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That's not how I hate works. That's not how any of this works.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 07:53 PM
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If women aren't attracted to 80% of men why are you assuming the 20% are all the same men? You're not allowing for variance of preference?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 06:44 PM
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Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 05:09 PM
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I've considered. Still seems like it's for someone else. I also don't feel compelled to address it because it's so out of pocket for this post.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 04:07 PM
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Eh disagree. The idea someone is going to purposely make their life really fucking hard and make people think they should literally die isn't a trendy choice for teens. It's important people in general understand biological sex and gender are not the same thing. That's pretty basic factual information people need.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 03:40 AM
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Eh disagree, they'll encounter it in the real world, potentially internally, and on the internet. But for safety reasons they should be given factual information. Because I really don't think kids should be getting their sex ed off pornhub and I don't think religions groups should have a say in what is taught in public schools. I didn't learn about it in sex ed, weirdly enough but in 11th grade we watched a documentary on intersex people many of whom had had surgeries on their genitals as childr…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 02:50 AM
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That's actually not the majority opposition however. Most religious groups who are heavily involved politically object to comprehensive sexual education that includes things like condoms and other forms of birth control and disease prevention items. They want an abstinence only program. A newly added issue is any mention of non straight sex as well because homosexuality is treated like a monster in the closet (pun intended) if you can't see it, it's not there, hide under the covers.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 07:53 PM
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I had sexual education in elementary school, middle school, and highschool. Elementary school primarily focused on puberty which many of us were already experiencing or would soon. Additionally it focused on the negative real world impact of teenage pregnancy. When I got my period at 12 I was not surprised or scared and knew what to do. Middle school focused on health and pregnancy prevention. So I knew about STI infections and how they were transmitted. Highschool was more explicit about STIs, …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 07:49 PM
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Sexual education funding and what is permissible to be discussed is consistently under attack in the US by various political organizations. Please feel free to duckduckgo it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 04:20 PM
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I believe you responded to the wrong person.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 03:21 PM
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You're still using polarization which is kinda my point about the importance and existence of nuance.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 03:19 PM
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Both. It sucks we live in a time where they're trying to nuke sexual education in schools because consent is something kids need to learn about. Consent isn't straightforward like people say, for men or women. Couples can struggle with implied consent, obviously sex under the influence is an issue, it goes on and on situations where a person feels socially trapped. I think consent is so often male focused because the overwhelming majority of violent registered sex offenders are men so that draws…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 06:20 AM
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I am a woman. I personally am not. Less interaction means less wasted time, less danger, and greater peace. So uh thank you men. Also again: no one wants to touch class.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 04:46 PM
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So when the not all women are a monolith thing comes up I always wonder why people never take class into account. If you're raised in a trailer park where two doors down there is a meth lab vs a middle class white suburbanite who goes to a four year college and lives in campus housing, these two young women will have vastly different experiences. They're exposed to different levels of criminality, social expectations, what is considered an attainable future, what is considered acceptable behavio…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 04:42 PM
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A healthier version on 1, basically a slightly modified version of how I maintain myself. I don't like men with underarm hair at a minimum, my personal ick. The hair is an unpleasant texture and deodorant doesn't apply correctly so they end up smelling. It's just like applying hair gel to their pit hair, it doesn't really touch the skin. I prefer no body hair honestly but that's just a feel thing and less of a smell and cleanliness issue. I like men in eye makeup and a moisturizing lip product. …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 05:48 PM
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No we know they in fact do. Also that men will pay money for them. Go figure.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 06:18 AM
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I don't think Whoopi Goldberg is necessarily the font of reality or wisdom on anything. At this point you're just making things up. Domestic abusers and just physically violent people regardless of gender aren't known for their excellent sense of accountability in general. So in summation your example is shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/25 11:14 PM
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Is this actually quantifiable or just your opinion? And is that accountability prison?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/25 10:41 PM
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But it isn't a women specific issue and so doesn't really answer the question.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/25 09:03 PM
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So it's not gendered. That leaves me very confused still since it isn't about women, it's just people trying to justify their shitty behavior. I admit I don't surround myself with people who hit other people, I was around a lot of domestic violence and child abuse when I was younger so as an adult I have a zero tolerance for any kind of violence... But even then I question you knowing plenty of people who resort to that level of extreme violence.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/25 07:50 PM
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This is always my question. I genuinely want to know but I think it would only be their personal experience with women and or potentially fictional women they have read about online.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/25 08:43 AM
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100%. You get out there and cheat on me RIGHT NOW.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 10:58 PM
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So if they are told these things apparently most men suck at listening judging by the number of men that do this shit and way worse. Like I frequently rode the train to work and never once felt the need to shove my hand up anyone's dress so maybe it's just that I didn't need to be told?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 10:37 PM
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I mean you'll definitely vote to take away people's rights which is why I personally don't fuck with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 06:39 PM
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People ascribing a collection of vague traits to an identifier that people can say "omg that's so me!". It's literally just men creating a different zodiac. I'm sure if you asked a libra they'd say it's real too.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 06:38 PM
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I think it's cute it's like zodiac signs. Like new astrology go off. But I think there should be more omega males. Mmmmm breedable.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 03:32 PM
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I'm very much in a just go be red pill and rot kinda mindset. If you don't see the value in equality I'm not sure I'd want you at the party.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 02:30 PM
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I personally don't have any envy or resentment about dating early because I didn't see a single relationship worth even having. The guys my friends dated were tragic and all of them make fun of their highschool and early college boyfriends now. I couldn't think of a single guy in my highschool that I'd have wanted to go on a singular date with. I do regret not having kinky sex as a young adult though. Just to see how far I could push it. But I was afraid of men and that I would get into a bad si…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 03:54 AM
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That whole thing was debunked which is why it's not available anymore. If a premise is too overly simplistic and has no controls it doesn't actually say anything. And we're not talking mathematical average but if we did men would still be lower. They put in less effort and grooming is a huge part of attractiveness: see neck beard.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 11:46 PM
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Sounds like the guys who think they're average are actually unattractive (maybe unattractive is the average?) and believe they deserve more than they put in work for out of sheer entitlement in all aspects of life. But especially dating. If the average man is treated like shit by everyone, maybe the average man is shit but he can't smell his own filth.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 08:34 PM
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Disrespectfully: bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 01:59 AM
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Ah yeah the bi people cheat stereotype. That old chestnut. I get red pill dudes are absolutely terrified of being cheated on because it destroys their tenuous confidence but anyone can cheat. You can 100% mitigate that risk though by never being in a relationship though.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 06:30 PM
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I am generally successful with people Except in areas where it matters but okay Believe it or not, men have a bunch of issues in common with each other that tend to be different than the issues that women have in common with each other You have a fundamental deficit from most of the human population. Whether you have other issues in common isn't relevant, yours explicitly are the result of a deficit the vast majority of the human population do not suffer from.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 11:33 PM
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ASPS and the like aren't terribly common. Not being successful with people in general kinda just makes you a comfy cog. You'd have to go to a specialist who deals with your issues, which do exist because they perform a different kind of therapy, not talk therapy which is kind of what you are using reddit for in this post honestly. Except your sneaking your personal failings by as if they span a gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 08:45 PM
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So psychopathy isn't a real diagnosis. Worth seeing someone. But knowing your family history why would you apply your own world view and problems onto men in general? You have a neurodivergence most men don't. So applying your issues to the general population makes zero logical sense. All that said if you have an issue that you cannot get what you want out of life due to a condition, seek therapy. May seem like bullshit but your current approach clearly isn't working.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 07:09 PM
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My excessive comfort with isolation, lack of interest in others, natural annoyance I feel towards people, preference for hobbies I’m actually interested in, habit of never keeping my connections with literally anyone, and low social battery? This sounds like a deeply unappealing type of person for anyone. This seems more the root of the entire issue you addressed as if it's an endemic problem. I’ve seen what isolation does to old people if they go for decades. They go crazy. Yes and the #1 thing…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 06:37 PM
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Question, and I can't believe this is an actual question I have to ask: why can't dudes just be genuinely nice and have genuine friends? Why can't they hang out, do activities, and go on outings for the sake of like enjoying their company and I dunno meet someone along the way? This sub is so weird in that men literally don't seem to have friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 06:15 PM
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So I think the issue here is that you're assuming that generally men and women value the opposite sexes attention, especially sexual interest in them, equally. But they don't. Women tend to value it much less. An attractive man wanting to have sex with you can be nice but probably not really. Men will fuck a cantaloupe. Consider the source. The roi for casual sex isn't high. Women have bad experiences dating because a lot of men just flat out hate women, but they like the feeling of sex and subs…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 08:16 PM
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So I feel like when my parents got divorced their social lives both benefited from 50/50 custody. They went from balancing parenthood and a larger house to only having their kids half the week and for my mom, a smaller apartment to maintain since she moved out of the house. So realistically imagine going from kids in the house seven days a week to 3-4. A lot of women generally end up with their spouse qualifying as a dependent. Cook, clean, shop, organize, majority child care, all while also wor…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 04:55 PM
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It depends on the person now doesn't it? My partner absolutely wouldn't seriously date a woman whose primary aspiration was stay at home mother. So I am a good match. But for a man who wants a 1950s marriage an aspiring SAHM would be perfect. So you need to align with future goals and lifestyles. That's step 1. If you don't do this it makes everything harder. Then there are the overall things; how you deal with conflict, are you considerate of things that are important to your partner, etc. It's…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 02:42 PM
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Just don't man.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 01:08 PM
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I get that but have multiple woman asked for it. Like explicitly and repeatedly. Because I don't know a single woman who has ever brought it up. And I've caught some weird ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 08:10 PM
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Because you can always trust Google.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 08:08 PM
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I said flat out: I have never met a single woman who has said yes I like being poked in the cervix. Not one. I have talked to size queens who express why, girth is important to them more often but length typically is appreciated on a position based type thing. Longer means certain positions just hit better but others like the mating press aren't preferred because of the depth of penetration. The vagina lengthens based on arousal but it has a max length.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 07:55 PM
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So they're explicitly asking you to hit their cervix and not suck on their clit? These multiple women whose vagina length is variable depending on arousal?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 07:51 PM
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A man on women's sexual pleasure: trust me bro Clit yes. Cervix no.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 07:24 PM
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Dude who enjoys being punched in the cervix? Legitimately because I have never met her. Please for the love of God never go near a cervix. Pain.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 05:24 PM
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So your entire previous comment isn't accurate. Cool cool.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 07:02 PM
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I swear you're saying we don't do risk calculations but most men here say we do too many. Trying to convince us to not work, have kids, trust men, etc. pick one!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 06:52 PM
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To understand the whole picture you need to hit all three parts: and say the quiet part out loud.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 06:42 PM
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It's more there is no silent majority, only a very loud minority. That being said I can't think of a podcast that does appeal to millions from varied walks of life. All have their overwhelming demo, insert age and gender, typically the content as time progresses becomes more honed to appeal to that demo. Preaching to the choir as it were. That's what right wing content is overwhelmingly. Secondary it's pipeline content to nudge people into full-blown right wing content where the algorithm helps …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 06:39 PM
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I don't think it's accurate to say right-wing content is very popular, it's viewed. It's heavily pushed by algorithms, about to be more so, and hate watched. Is it genuinely popular among some demographics? Yes. But women are generally not the target audience. They had to create an entirely separate pipeline, tradwives, the entice women.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 01:49 PM
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Ohhhhhhh I'm sorry unfortunately that's not the correct answer. We thank you for playing but the answer was actually white christian patriarchal ethnostate.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 12:42 PM
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So my partner has done things at certain points in our relationship men here would absolutely have a stroke over. I think the biggest thing for him though is: he wasn't broke. He wasn't hard up for money so if I wasn't contributing to rent or the mortgage 50/50, or at all it wasn't a big deal. The person with more to lose will typically be more invested in getting a prenup though, regardless of gender. But I think if someone is so incredibly paranoid about it it's hard to have a good relationshi…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/25 11:39 PM
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Just assume all roads lead to killing poor people and you'll be right 99% of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 02:14 PM
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Is English not your first language?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 12:10 AM
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Why would the government want to send people they classify as undesirable to probable death?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 12:03 AM
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Objectively? No. Do you know a linguist can be a combat rated position? Do think a really good translator needs stringent deadlift requirements? Realistically warfare is very different from what it used to be. Currently this is all just macho posturing to hide something more nefarious. Never ever believe the initial reason given. This move allows them to remove career military and screw them out of benefits. It allows them to deplete our service so that if a conflict occurs a draft where they wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/25 02:25 PM
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You're misreading, these standards are waived: in the event of the draft specifically. Realistically the administration announced they met their recruiting numbers earlier this year while omitting they dropped the target number. Any conflict would trigger a draft at which point standards go out the window.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/25 05:46 AM
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To be fair a lot of people don't fully understand the implications of these decisions. I certainly didn't and only do now because my partner was in the military during OIF and in a combat rated position, one you wouldn't necessarily even think is a combat rated position, and he explained it to me. They're essentially making it so the draft will pretty much auto trigger if we get into any serious conflict. And it seems unlikely the administration will conduct the draft as it was previously.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/25 04:11 AM
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Yeah my partner was talking about this. He was in the Navy. In addition to the physical fitness standards they changed things like shaving chits which disproportionately impacts black men. The physical fitness standards change will impact older men who have been riding a desk for 14 years and get little physical activity. By the end of the conversation I've concluded I'd like to formally apologize to the men here for saying the draft would not be enacted. They'll bounce people from the military …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 09:59 PM
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I have this dress with a print on it from an artist I love. Its got a fair amount of cleavage, but to me my boobs are just there. They're kinda big and even if I wear a crew neck tshirt you can still see they're obviously big. So do I sometimes wear 3xl hoodies? Yes. But I don't necessarily feel my best in them. I love fashion and art. So I try to do elaborate makeup and hairstyles when I can. Are they styles men like? Oftentimes nope, but I like them. Like I like my cleavagey dress. Do complime…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 07:06 PM
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Its the guy putting a stick in his bicycle wheel meme. They want to have the relationship arrangement they want and they don't want their partner to be able to break up with them if they don't agree to it. That's it. That's the real issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 03:46 PM
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Gender war and culture war is to distract us from class war. That's it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/25 06:59 PM
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I don't know at what number date you're having sex with prospective partners but I feel a bit like stating the obvious here: you'll either grow to like the person more or less. Or find out you have incompatible lifestyles or values or whatever. But yes. Someone will "grow on you" or you'll realize they're a waste of time and energy.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/25 03:00 PM
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Aqua Tofana is the only way. Ahem, I mean woman owned and operated small business. I've always had a passion for community and entrepreneurship.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/25 05:25 PM
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Fill in the blank.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/25 01:08 PM
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The entire crux of every man who has argued the exactly same thing is: "I don't want my girlfriend to be able to break up with me if I don't." That's it. Not that it takes god like power to not buy an engagement ring. Also: no that's not what the MGTOW was originally about or what it's about now. I don't know if you're just confidently misinformed or lying. Either way gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/25 01:07 PM
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Its not because neurodivergence is a wide spectrum and people fall in different places and some are very adept at masking. So what is OP leaving out? My friends don't like you because: fill in the blank.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/25 05:36 AM
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Men are notorious for being stupid as fuck when they think with their dick or have their rational faculties addled by emotions that were injected into them by women, especially when they think they're in love and just want to please the woman. This you? You're literally saying women inject men with emotions? like some kind of fucking neurotoxin. Men do have control over buying a damn engagement ring and proposing like holy crap. This doesn't require godlike powers to not do. My issue is every si…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/25 05:29 AM
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OP has stated he doesn't advertise he's ND. So what exactly are they saying to ward off these multiple women? He doesn't make eye contact?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/25 04:34 AM
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But if their friend group finds out who you are and warns them off you have to have some kind of reputation. I feel like you're leaving something out.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/25 02:59 AM
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You're taking away personal responsibility and autonomy when you say things are injected into men. A man doesn't have to be "red pilled" to make rational financially sound decisions. I am completely shocked you'd imply men are by default stupid and prone to make bad decisions. I knew I needed to take certain steps to ensure my quality of life. Complete the necessary education to secure a high paying job. Never marry or give a man children, be up front and honest with him on this. Choose a man wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/25 06:36 PM
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This is an obvious yes for me. I have been with my partner for over a decade. He regularly has to tell me "I am not a piece of meat" (he's only half joking). He's agreed to wear a Catholic priest cassock and I am so hype I'm salivating. But if he ever says "bad boys" my nipples will be completely soft and vagina as dry as the Sahara. Stop that shit. As for height I personally don't care. I think if you get off Internet brainrot you'll find while most women will prefer a tall dude but they won't …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 05:46 PM
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I think the largest part is I can't understand their lived experience so often the best I can do is sympathy. I have a friend whose father just died. He lost his mother to breast cancer three years prior, his parents had him when they were much older so he's lost his parents at such a young age now. I don't understand what that feels like. He knows I helped provide end of life care for my grandmother who was like a mother to me and my great aunt. So he has talked more to me about his experience …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 05:24 PM
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It's no different than a woman being pressured into having an abortion It's very very different. Marriage is a big expensive party with a legal contract that can be voided at anytime by either party. You're the height of dishonest. If a man is pressured to propose by his partner but he does not want to marry he is under no obligation to propose. He can simply: not. Will he lose his partner? Highly likely but this is a positive thing because there's a massive goal and value misalignment there. Yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 08:21 PM
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Breaking up especially with a long-term GF after 3-5+ years isn't a consequence-free decision, either. That can hurt women, too. Yes obviously. But do you know what's worse? Going through with a marriage you know has a high likelihood of failure and worse potentially dragging kids into it. Breakups hurt but getting hurt is a part of life. Obviously, no matter what you do, you're fated to choose, and doing nothing and rotting alone is also a choice - I'm just wary of easy answers. Just do X. Ofte…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 05:10 PM
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And that's a bad decision on their part! Don't make bad decisions then blame and resent your wife! You're asking for misery and or divorce. It's their choice and their fault. People need to take accountability for the choices they make in life. Its disgusting we're infantilizing men like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 04:35 PM
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No. If during any point in a relationship one party is not okay with the other person's behavior it's on them to communicate it. If they don't: that's on them. If it's a deal breaker: it's on them to end things. Do I think stressing about napkin colors is silly? Sure. Do I think spending that much on one day is silly? Sure. But it's not my life. And if they and their fiance want to do the damn things it's not my business.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 04:29 PM
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This is such a word salad. Either date someone, agree on values, future plans, and go through with it. Or don't. Its that simple. Who gives a fuck if your longtime girlfriend you're considering marrying calls you an incel? This is just the reddest flag telling you to end things immediately. Go find someone else. I told my partner straight up. I will never have children and am not interested in marriage when we first started dating. He did want a child and only thought marriage was applicable whe…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 04:23 PM
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Because it's usually what the woman wants, and the men are trying to make the women happy. And I will say it again: the fact a man would do this is beyond stupid. Will he do this throughout the entire marriage? Agree to things he's not okay with, things that don't align with his values just to make his wife "happy"? No. Of course not. The fact that this is getting ignored by you just doesn't make any logical sense. My only conclusion is you're desperate to remove all autonomy from men. They are …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 04:10 PM
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Again: men have a clear indicator by literally seeing the wedding planning. They are overwhelmingly the partner to propose: thus initiating the contract. How are they NOT the ultimate arbiter of their fate? You're just getting mad at women for acting a way that a man voluntarily opted into and oftentimes spends five figures to go through. I am absolutely mind blown you think men are somehow not entirely responsible for following through with their choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 03:57 PM
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a lot of men out their go through with a marriage because it's what their woman wants, and they want her to be happy. This is a beyond stupid reason to get married. Especially since it is literally a government sanctioned contract. You don't get married to make someone happy. Its a legally binding partnership. But they don't realize that they're digging their own grave once the woman realizes what is on the other side of that. Again this is their own fault if this is truly the case. Imagine gett…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 03:39 PM
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So I'm not a huge proponent of marriage (I'll never do it myself), unless you plan on having children because then the various legal protections and mechanisms benefit them so it should be non-negotiable. But you're really removing any autonomy from men. They have the option to not propose or call off an engagement. They don't need to proceed with something that doesn't align with their values and if they do that's their own fault. You're acting as though men have no say or can't foresee that ce…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 03:24 PM
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I think if you're looking at boomers and older Gen x, sure. But millennial fathers are spending more time with their children than any prior generation. I fundamentally disagree with OPs position. Realistically I grew up with a mixed bag of shitty boomer parents around me. I truly believe it's just endemic of their generation. Frequently divorced, often looking for. New spouse and neglecting their children to do so while struggling to blend a family. Not to mention untreated mental illness, a cu…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 06:27 PM
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So I may be an outlier here in certain respects but very common in others. My parents divorced when I was younger and they split 50/50 custody. My dad was very involved in my brother and I's life, less so when he remarried because he just worked all the time, and after my brother decided to live with my mom full-time... But this man took me prom dress shopping. He had pizza movie night every other Friday because he got us every other weekend and sat through the weird indie movies when it was my …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 04:52 PM
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No... Because in order to buy the cheap house you need a down payment. Which means you need a job that allows you to meet basic living expenses and save. Then you need a reliable car. Then you need car insurance, maintenance, etc. Then you of course need healthcare. So, no. No you cannot.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 04:06 PM
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None of this changes religious values are a key determining factor for many people. Like come-on. Don't lie. I do just find the Mormon points funny tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 01:06 AM
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Dude you get extra Mormon points if you convert someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 12:13 AM
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In my experience you can only argue the opposite. What I mean is if someone of the Christian faith argues Christianity is proven by various scientific phenomenon it's a very easy counter. No it can't because it is literally not designed to be. Your god wants you to take it on faith. The whole point is that you cannot definitively prove it. I personally do not care about being right or not. I concede I cannot truly know. But I do know that what is around me matters to me. My friends matter, my fa…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 06:41 PM
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I don't presume to know anything and I find talking to people with a faith based religion your kind of tact doesn't really register. Since they take things purely on faith you can talk science until you are blue in the face but at the end of the day you don't agree on a core premise. But I think we can all appreciate small joys in life and try to focus on that when we feel like life isn't worth living because of something like sexlessness which is highly likely to be temporary. Emotional distres…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 06:23 PM
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Limited sample size? Only responding to you and how you approach people and dating? This is in no way scientific and cannot produce empirical results.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 04:58 PM
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I'm not disagreeing? It needs to be an effort we all participate in.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 03:59 PM
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It is social conditioning to a large extent. You think homophobia and biphobia wasn't something taught and culturally pervasive? The thing about Grindr is it's informed by my experience with men in the LGBTQ+ community. It sucks seeing friends breakup due to pretty much infidelity options on tap. I know that their ex is shitty for cheating but dang. That being said in my personal life if someone makes a gross statement I'm going to call them out on it and try to have a conversation. But honestly…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 03:15 PM
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I've already said it's bullshit? I've already said it's patriarchy negatively affecting men. I've already agreed homophobia is at play. I don't know if you just want to desperately be victimized at this point.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 02:53 PM
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Virginity may seem like the end of the world right now but it won't be forever.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 02:51 PM
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Eh by virtue of you having access to Reddit and the bandwidth to complain about women I'd say your life isn't actually miserable but I understand you feel that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 02:22 PM
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Not dating or sleeping with someone based on perceived promiscuity is a secondary decision made after you are sexually attracted to someone. Yes. What you are talking about is a common excuse made by women to disguise the fact that they find male homosexuality sexually repugnant Repugnant or fear of being cheated on by someone of the opposite gender is typically what I hear. Like I said I prefer bi men, but there's a similar phenomena in the lesbian community that bi women are PNG for some women…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 02:20 PM
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I do hope you will speak with someone on this, if you are in the US please dial 988. That being said I believe that if this is all there is than this is all that matters, I do not believe in an afterlife. I used to tell myself there is still pierogi I haven't tried and that was just good enough to get me to the next day. I basically trained myself to find joy and beauty in the mundane. Ghibli films are great for this. Carry-on.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 02:17 PM
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Most do require a legitimate visa. And in the US it's not even unaffordable to buy a house for most but just to afford rent on a studio apartment with a roommate.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 02:13 PM
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Many can get by working part-time or a minimum wage job and have it be completely sufficient. This is not possible in the US where I live unless someone else like a parent is subsidizing your literal existence.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 01:40 PM
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Ultimately by feeding and educating children you create a better world for yourself. Less crime, younger individuals able to provide services and elder care as you age, etc. it's an overall benefit to you. You pay taxes for lots of stupid shit. But feeding kids is not one of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 01:37 PM
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Nope. Just facts.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 02:32 AM
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Not really when a large part of why women aren't sexually attracted to bi men is because of the assumed promiscuity. Bi women have a similar issue when they're dating women. Are some women upholding patriarchy and homophobia? Of course. That's a no shit thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 12:56 AM
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So I'm bi and my preference is bisexual men. The sex is just well more fun. They're open to a lot of things straight men aren't. And it's honestly a tingle moment when a guy is confidently bi. The issue is honestly: Grindr. Cheating is so easy for gay and bi men. You want to talk about women having casual sex on easy mode? We don't have shit on gay and bi men. Pretty much all my gay friends relationships ended due to the discovery of an active Grindr profile. Not kidding. But, and I cannot stres…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 04:43 PM
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Well yes, but this is a post to women on dating men. Divorce instantly makes someone less attractive, short of kids it's pretty much the ultimate baggage. It's just the way it is. No one wants to date or married someone divorced. If anyone lists qualities they want in a partner they will never list: divorced. Having money and a reliable car are great. But people can have that and no failed marriage. Its not a one or the other thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 09:08 PM
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Kay.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 07:33 AM
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Exactly what I said.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 01:01 AM
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So this is more due to the fact your social circle has decreased drastically, your age bracket is pretty paired, and dating a divorced guy in his 40s is pretty meh. Especially if he has kids. So comparing dating when you didn't have an ex-wife to two decades later is kinda a bad comparison.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 11:58 PM
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Hey man you do you.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 11:37 PM
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You're still dating in your 30s and 40s?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 11:36 PM
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I'm going to put forth an idea, if someone is extroverted and willing to put themselves out there, doesn't it stand to reason they'll have more dates and relationships? They'll have more life experiences overall? Could it be that more introverted men who marry later in life only do so because they feel a greater push to get out there and date because they see the clock running out? And that it has less to do with attraction changing and more to do with the men simply being visible and willing to…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 05:19 PM
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Kay.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 04:50 PM
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Nah. I just call it like I see it. I really don't understand how I can be that clear there's nuance and someone responds with "actually you just admitted there's only two". I'll correct someone every time. I get I hit a nerve with you. You can absolutely explain how you came to the wrong conclusion, please by all means.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 04:44 PM
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I call em like I see em. Me calling out a false dichotomy in the first post then you immediately following up trying to qualify it as one again is like damn dude. Like distilling nuance down to a point that someone did not make but you claim they did is exactly the line of thinking I called out. Hit dogs holler.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 04:34 PM
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A spectrum inherently means: there aren't two types. Not to mention since women aren't a hive mind what we qualify as husband material will be completely different. While a Mormon woman or conservative Christian woman will only accept someone in their religion or committed to converting, there are plenty of women who don't want that at all and immediately disqualify men with those qualities. You're trying to shoehorn in a false dichotomy simply because it's easier to not have to process nuance. …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 04:24 PM
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Nah. My partner was exciting to date, had amazing life stories. Was an Air Force brat. Went into the Navy. Spoke multiple languages. Got combat deployed. Lived in another country. All the shenanigans that happen during that. He'd drink and party with us. Lots of women in our circle were into him. But he also was and is the best dude. Like will help you move across the country kinda dude. Empathetic, supportive, compassionate, like everything anyone would want in a husband or father. I think ther…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 03:40 PM
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So to be clear: some forever alone virgins aren't abusers simply because they don't have the opportunity. As for abusive men being in relationships there's a whole defined process: love bomb, trapping the victim financially, through children etc. Most people don't know what they're getting into. The ones that have heard rumors? The community usually props the abuser up, their victim is a liar or the abuser knows to target someone for whom abuse is just a part of what they perceive as love, usual…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 03:22 PM
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He's a 5'11" short king.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 01:11 PM
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So you know the amount of time, effort, and money that goes into black women's hair yes?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 12:30 AM
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What are you selling? Fucking optivia like some Mormon wife? Or are you just like a cashier? Holyshit man I didn't even get into the politics, policing, cost, and maintenance of black women's hair. Like just shot yourself on the foot so damn hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 12:18 AM
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I specifically chose to focus on things people are born with or develop that are perfectly normal: but do not fit the beauty standard. So acne, body hair, skin tone, etc. and lots of people have acne. The skincare industry wouldn't be so booming if they didn't. Just starface patches everywhere I look. Women have more extensive grooming requirements. For example long hair for women is associated with femininity and beauty. Meanwhile some guys just go around with a buzz cut. Your haircare ain't sh…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 10:28 PM
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I maxed at 25 for stats on obesity. And didn't include children because... Gross. And not all men are attracted to big boobs? That's obvious? Just like all women aren't attracted to tall men. Weird how that works. I am also not allowed to have TikTok installed on my phone due to my job tho. But you're clearly somewhere in the Internet rabbit hole that's divorced from reality. You keep moving the goal post on the body thing. I also think you just have unrealistic body standards in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 09:31 PM
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Yeah but many guys love blondes so it wouldn't make anything difficult. You just personally don't like it but its heavily desired in our society. Especially if you live in the u.s. Whether you avoided the sun or not it still wouldn't make dating hard in the least. These are just your own personal dislikes. Which is fine of course. Its specifically my brows and lashes that come with my hair that are the problem as I pointed out. Dark think lashes are a beauty standard so are shaped defined brows.…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 09:25 PM
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Based on "eye tracking" even in younger crowds where pregnancies have little impact, girls are more likely to be obese than boys, and CDC data backs that up as well. Nope actually boys and young men are more likely to be obese. According to multiple sources. Including the CDC. Like I said pregnancy is a bitch. But men also die from more obesity related diseases too. So it gets y'all at every age I guess. Again... been married, I absolutely know what is important in my observations of beauty, and…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 08:58 PM
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They are plenty of en that would be into women that are pale and blonde. I know. I'm not single. I just personally don't like blonde hair and having to avoid the sun like the plague. Acne is an issue for sure but many makeups exist that can cover up any without much issue. So these aren't concerns that cant be taken card of. I have clear skin, I know about skincare (like actually), but I know lots of people for who it's been a struggle since puberty. Hormonal acne hit a lot of my friends really …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 08:43 PM
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This doesn't negate anything I have said. Billions of dollars across multiple industries targeting women's looks. Men just are finally having to deal with being really evaluated on their looks like women always have and they hate it. Welcome to the club! Attractive people have the halo effect in every industry. News to no one.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 08:17 PM
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Don't worry I don't feel bad. I have clear skin, thanks to actually knowing about skincare that fits my individual needs and I dye my hair red just because I like it better than blonde. Being pale just sucks for the inconvenience. Constantly avoiding the sun and stuff. But I have a partner. I feel pretty. I'm good. But I won't stand for bad skincare advice. That shits just evil.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 08:13 PM
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Yes because madmen were of course know for being all uh women. Marketing to female insecurity was invented by men. Literally.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 08:04 PM
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Yes the multi billion dollar industries that thrive on female insecurity about their appearance can simply not compete with the Supercuts and boat shoe industry.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 07:58 PM
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So problem with that NIH statistic is that it includes women who have given birth and post menopausal women. This messes up your body pretty severely and impacts your ability to lose weight. Like realistically you're not looking to date a 50 year old mother of two with a skin apron from her two pregnancies. Men don't have a life event like pregnancy that so fundamentally alters their body. But based on eye tracking the first thing men look at is: the face. Before the boobs, hips, belly, it's the…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 07:46 PM
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Dude I don't have energy to get into gerrymandering and overrepresentation of conservatives in state legislation and how that impacts state by state abortion laws. I don't need to get into doctors being afraid to perform procedures due to someone disagreeing with the medical necessity of a life-saving procedure. Again: Google Marlena Stell if you want a peek. Like honestly if you're curious why, don't ask me. Google it. Its established.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 05:58 PM
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Sorry for being born extremely pale and blonde? I'm not thrilled about it either. I am always covered in sunscreen. If acne were abnormal there wouldn't be so many skincare subs and so many products to address individual needs. Its all trial and error. I'm sorry you have misplaced confidence in a subject you know nothing about. The fact you talk about spas like it's a real casual thing just shows how out of your depth you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 05:51 PM
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Sir, third trimester abortions make up 1.1% of all abortions. Do you think women carry a pregnancy for 21+ weeks for funsies then go lol nah. 92% are 13 weeks or less. Don't be obtuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 05:43 PM
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Acne can be treated with salicylic acid which is ridiculously cheap, hyperpigmentation can be treated by kojic acid/hydroquinone also really cheap and these issues aren’t limited to one gender if anything I see more men with acne than women. So no. That is patently false. Ask any dermatologist if salicylic acid is the acne cure-all. They will laugh in your face. Hormonal acne women experience is something very different. Your years of research didn't pay off. Who’s asking you to have curly hair?…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 05:38 PM
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So it's always above 50% but the number can spike drastically based on say: in cases of rape or incest. Or when the life of the mother is in danger (this also taps into religious text as this is in the Torah where it is explicitly approved of). Typically people find the first and second trimester more palatable without connecting the dots that a third trimester abortion overwhelmingly occurs because something is wrong with the fetus or the birth will very adversely impact the mother. Strict anti…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 05:22 PM
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So 1. If you want it more of course you are going to put in more effort. This is an obvious thing. Being attractive is not only a shit to of effort: it's expensive. You have hormonal acne? Birth control or androgen blockers. You have persistent acne: accutane, at which point you go through dry gross skin. You have scars or hyper pigmentation: tret if you can get it and for most $90 a tube. And that's just clear skin and we're not taking on insurance or not. Then we have moisturizers, toner, exfo…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 05:08 PM
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Nah man my cousin has some embryos in a liquid nitrogen tank somewhere round town. But I think you're in the wrong thread.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 04:09 AM
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I know many women who begin a FWB in the hopes of it becomes a relationship is the thing. I caught some strays because my partner had multiple fwbs shortly before we got together. They mad.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 04:03 AM
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Yeah it's heart disease. Why you posting stats that prove it's heart disease then say it's not? Its odd. But anyway, OP was talking about creepy behavior. I think the issue is because there's thought to be no threat of danger behind it that it doesn't qualify, which it definitely does.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 03:49 AM
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Unfortunately it starts with: don't be born poor.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 03:41 AM
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Nah man it's heart disease. Second is cancer.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 03:31 AM
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Its heart disease bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 03:29 AM
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To be fair centrists aren't even centrists, thanks Overton window.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/25 09:46 AM
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Now do an age breakdown of the 40%.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/25 09:44 AM
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Not in the US. More than 50% are pro legalization in all or most cases. That percentage can vary 10%+ based on phrasing
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/25 09:43 AM
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Which is? Because realistically most people cannot afford lawn service and housekeeping so?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 03:02 AM
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Yes I understand not everyone can afford this but it is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 11:36 PM
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But that's men's choice to accept insecurity and date it. That's their choice, that they don't have to make. They could choose better but I listed two reasons why someone would be fine with insecurity.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 03:30 PM
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Everyone has insecurities, but I've seen people with really big ones do awful shit to others to feel better about themselves. This isn't gendered. I won't be friends with someone who you can tell us ragingly insecure 10 minutes into meeting them, why would I be attracted to them? I guess the only reason someone would be is because they want the satisfaction of fixing them and creating some kind of codependency or they just flat out want someone easy to control.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 11:35 AM
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I pay a guy to cut my lawn it's like $50 a month. I pay someone to clean and organize my house, she sets her price at $20 an hour. Both my partner and I work and honestly neither of us want to do chores. So we try to minimize what we can by just paying for it. Honestly it's not trivial. Its so fucking time consuming and annoying we decided to throw money at it to never have to deal with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 05:24 AM
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Its not. Moralizing: it's ick.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 01:20 AM
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Ick.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 09:39 PM
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Okay that is NOT something I hear. Literally ever. I hear about income inequality, how unaffordable everything is, how the minimum wage is not a living wage, but never how great it is living on a single income. This is from EVERYONE single men and women, cohabitating couples, and married couples. Why? Because our current state is: neo feudalism and it sucks. Now do I enjoy rights my grandmother did not have? Absolutely. Do I enjoy the lack of social pressure my grandmother and mother had to subm…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 08:28 PM
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Eh just sounds like someone trying to convince women to behave and think how they want them to. Pass.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 05:17 PM
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So you think it's better to... Be bound together out of the necessity of neo feudalism?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 09:49 AM
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Okay so we're going to need your reading comprehension because that's not what women are saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 04:06 AM
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What's the name of the post?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 03:27 AM
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I mean that's not my position. I have some really good friends though, my besties are women but I have male friends too. I legit feel sad for people who have no friends or even just really close friends. I think people can get too obsessed with having a partner to validate them they skip building meaningful friendships. So when they're single or get dumped they feel completely hollow. I don't know what women here said a boyfriend or husband is 100x better than a friend but damn. No. Never.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 03:20 AM
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I was not this crazy hardup when I was single. I hung out with friends and had my emotional needs met. I always beat this drum but do y'all just not have friends? Like intimate friendships?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 02:57 AM
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Okay but that just means guy who does the bare minimum and is like vagina please. This is understood. The other one just gives the ick.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 02:54 AM
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Did you ever consider maybe people want other people's lives to be better too? Not like government assigned gf's but like healthcare? A living wage. Just because someone's life is peachy doesn't mean they inherently want others to suffer... Why would you think that they would? That's... Is that how you think?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 02:43 AM
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I swear y'all are usually the phrase "bad boys" tooday to give me the ick so hard I don't make it to the plane tomorrow.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 11:15 PM
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For me it's really hard because the definition of blue pill and red pill varies from person to person. There is no actual true consensus. I mean there is married red pill for crying out loud. But the thing that always got me with the red pill is that it's inherently a lie from it's very existence. Its adherents are not Neo. You do not know the truth only a select few know. You are fighting no system. You are simply chasing your true desire. It's accepting a truth about yourself, not society or w…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 06:10 PM
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So I guess my question is what classifies as a "bad boy" because all I can think of is some 1980s dude riding a motorcycle your dad doesn't really like. Whereas I think, and I could be wrong, men mean fuck boy but don't want to use those words. But also only a small subset of women are living like this so what I said: still stands. 100% disagree on knowing if someone is marriage material. Shit so many women have get out moments after moving in with their boyfriends they think they'll end up marr…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 03:48 PM
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I guess I have two initial questions, are you happy now? And are you getting bitches now?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 03:41 PM
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Aren't women just behaving like men now that they have the privilege? But also I disagree with the premise. Women are trying to find out if someone is worth an LTR and since people like about themselves on such a grand scale (surprise I actually have a whole ass child) it's difficult to parse through. Also please stop using the term "bad boys" it's so cringe.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 03:09 PM
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There is a substitute shortage unfortunately. Teachers don't have a lot of flexibility to even take sick days so granting the required drills days seems like a bit of a hurdle. I really just think pay is the way to go. There are many shortages occurring in necessary fields typically due to low pay plus high burnout. Nursing, teaching, mental health services, primary care physicians (you get more money if you specialize), etc but it's becoming such a problem and will only get worse. But everyone …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 12:50 PM
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How would they work around the required drills?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 01:00 AM
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I assume we're not talking about Bisphenol A... So not sure what bpa pollution you're referring to is. Boys would typically be 19 as opposed to 18. And it gives them a year to close the gap in terms of critical development by delaying a year. For example my friends son was evaluated prior to entering kindergarten. They recommend based on his development he be in the "young 5's" program. He gets an extra year of schooling and will graduate a year later than traditionally. They are now concerned f…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 12:59 AM
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So Richard Reeves has an interesting proposal and that is redshirting all boys as a policy. This means starting boys a year later in kindergarten than girls to close the achievement gap. He also advocates for more male teachers however I feel like until the low pay is addressed that it's not likely. What's interesting is primary school educators have historically been majority women. But the education gap has only been identified recently, as children are on college preparatory curriculums and a…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 10:20 PM
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Dude it's highly subjective for men and women. With women they're acknowledging that attractiveness is subjective, but also if you don't have anything nice to say... I won't say it. Men in a group will defer to what they know is conventional even if they are dyed in the wool chubby chasers because they don't want the judgement from other men. For me men are more likely to lie about what they are attracted to when around other men whereas women will tell other women to pluck their unibrow.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 09:17 PM
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This is the truth the way and the light.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 08:52 PM
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I don't submit to my boss. I choose to work instead of "submitting to my man" because: I collect a paycheck, get health insurance, 401k, and contribute to social security and Medicare taxes. But most importantly: the money is mine. I don't have to ask to make purchases or get an allowance like an adult child. Also divorce isn't kind to a woman with no education, work history, etc. I have set work days and times. I am not a 24/7 365 on call servant, which is effectively what you are if you don't …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 08:45 PM
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So you admit women are not calling for men to be killed. Your issue is a theoretical draft. Quick question, who put in place the draft? Who excluded women from combat positions? Just out of curiosity. Also no. 97% of all college grants are not women only. I don't know if you're purposely lying there or just misreading something.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 01:21 PM
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And that's lovely your aunt told you about them. But you aren't from some great dynasty. You're just some guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/25 03:26 AM
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I feel like it's strange when people talk about legacy as if they're someone from an important dynasty. Your great grandchildren won't even know anything about you. Most average people just end up planted in the ground where family doesn't even bother to leave flowers. I think in terms of career it depends on what it is and what you did in it. A researcher who improves quality of life for millions of people leaves a legacy but the father of Brayden and Brynlee doesn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 08:02 PM
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Dude I know how much those magic the gathering cards cost. They can afford deodorant.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 05:15 AM
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Yes yes yes same with my partner. Still love. I have vastly different advice based on LTR status. Like #1. Before you get pissed off at him ask yourself: is this the hill I want to die on.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 02:09 PM
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Yes yes my partner says the same thing when I'm on the couch in a giant sweater playing videogames. But that's love, not attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 01:00 PM
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You'll note I said skip OLD. A friend was on a second date before he told her he had a five year old, so he hid his child from her. Then when a guy asked her if she'd mourn him if he died she said I don't really know you so, no. He flipped out on her. Berated her and she just said okay please never talk to me again. But I find friends of friends safest. Mixing friend groups is the easiest way to meet someone. Go as your friends plus one to their event etc. just say yes to going random places. Ju…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 09:03 PM
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For the plot I mean free trips and stuff. I don't mean dating some 45 year old divorced dad. That's not a good drinking story.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 08:05 PM
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In no particular order. Never send nudes. No matter how much you like him they can always be used against you maybe not even by him but they could end up in the wrong hands. If he's a decent guy he won't ever even ask for them. Have fun date around don't commit too early. Primarily focus on friendships with women. Moving in with your boyfriend in your early 20s sounds fun until all you do is fight about bills. Leading into that: don't fall for the sunk cost fallacy. Leave if it's not working how…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 06:04 PM
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Here here. It's why I won't marry my partner. He wasn't a virgin. And it's why I won't give him children. No marriage means no children. Sluts don't get a bloodline. I do love his slutty ass though.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 02:19 PM
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I appreciate the concern. Short of my partner (of over a decade) getting a traumatic brain injury I trust him. That being said I won't have children and I won't ever get married so fortunately my belief system and what I want out of life protects me even if he does get a TBI.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 02:12 PM
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Honestly I am not sure. If someone is exposed to a lot online content that gives this kind of impression then could they genuinely believe this is how women talk? I mean it's not as if the poster is in women's private spaces to actually know. But either way it's not accurate.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 05:16 PM
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I am not sure. I have never heard a woman say any of these things in my entire life.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 04:17 PM
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But would you concede it's a pretty reasonable question if he has a restraining order? A divorce? You know a serious red flag? Wouldn't you want your friends to care enough to ask the same questions if they had concerns?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 04:16 PM
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I'd think that's a pragmatic response? We have to deal with the unfortunate reality of our world. I think you're the one here focused on getting a gatcha or putting points in the board. I know this is a debate sub but it's not like people are at two opposing podiums. I often ask questions to better understand where a person is coming from. My partner often says if you're going to talk to someone about something you need to agree on a core premise, otherwise it's pointless. I don't think we agree…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 03:58 PM
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Nope. Just genuinely curious. I appreciate his position.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 02:01 PM
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Not in my experience. All the husbands of SAHMs I know can't wait until their kids are old enough for her to at least get a part time job. Extra income is nice to have. But everyone bitches about their job. My partner hates that he keeps bringing up issues and then 6 months later when it inevitably happens they ask him how do they fix it and he says well I had a solution 6 months ago per this email but let me just solve it by COB now that everything is melting down. Or that his counterpart talke…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 10:44 PM
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Okay in all seriousness though I hard passed on motherhood and being a SAHM because it seemed miserable as hell. I work an office job and regret nothing. I log off and you know what I do? Whatever I want.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 10:33 PM
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The commenter I was responding to discussed gender neutrality and roles we're supposed to perform in society. Painting one's nails is not a form of gender expression. It's just wanting colourful nails. It's an activity that was gendered. Doing an activity or wearing something that was arbitrarily gendered and society reacting negatively is due to the expectation we perform our gender a certain way, our gender role. I was clarifying with the commenter. Your comment is unnecessary.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 10:09 PM
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Just checking. Sometimes people think neutrality is inherently masculine activities. Rock on.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 04:27 PM
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For me it is informed by my life experience so I don't view my bias as inexplicable. I have been sexually assaulted by multiple men. So I am more wary of men. This means taking precautions like only sitting next to women in the metro. And getting up if a man asks me to move my bag to sit next to me. I have been sexually harassed by multiple men. So I avoid them to be perfectly honest. I find in the workplace they aren't often cooperative or refuse to accept my words that their ask has been depri…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 04:22 PM
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I mean yes. But serious question how do you feel about boys engaging in traditionally feminine things. Like mom painting her nails and her son asking if he can have his nails painted orange. Or wanting an Elsa costume because his hyper fixation movie is Frozen?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 03:59 PM
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I have never known of any job that pays the efforts you put in so I am genuinely curious what industry you work in. I am just saying my approach and many women I know is different? Basically there's a mini checklist first it varies but like: am I attracted to you? How old are you? Do you want children? Do you have children? Have you been divorced? Do you have a criminal record? What is your education/vocational training? Are you religious? What is your political affiliation? Then once the base c…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 07:08 AM
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Yes and that is why dancing is a good indicator of if someone is a good fuck. I have no guarantee a gym rat is not going to not do oral and just lay there and want cowgirl or reverse cowgirl every time. That being said some weight behind a mating press is *chefs kiss".
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 06:50 AM
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It feels very strange that some men seem to look at women and evaluate their ROI (dates ie money the investment return is sex). I understand that you'd like that initial investment to pay dividends overtime. Is this why so many men who aren't well positioned in life think they want they do about themselves? Because they are expecting women to invest in them (albeit much more long-term)? I often hear men wanting who support their "building" or something to this non specific effect. Generally the …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 06:44 AM
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Respectfully this doesn't not mean they will not starfish.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 06:32 AM
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I am deeply confused why men think baggage is exclusive to women. I know a guy who got dumped by a Mormon girl in highschool because he wasn't Mormon and he made his entire life about opposing the Mormon church. And I am not being hyperbolic here because he: moved to salt lake City Utah, protested outside their churches, and is now in seminary school to become an evangelical pastor. All this because a girl in high school dumped him. His wife doesn't know.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 06:33 PM
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If this is how you view women, relationships, and this is the strat you are setting yourself up for failure.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 05:15 PM
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Not enough liquor in the world could get me through that.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 05:09 PM
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Yes I do tend to treat well groomed people who smell nice better.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 05:08 PM
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I think if you said that for many subjects it could be true. Now for human interactions and understanding dynamics, absolutely not. I think it's really important to remember studies of human behavior are often inherently flawed. If they're survey based, if they're only located in one geographic location, if they only have a small sample size. If they're limited to a dating app. Unfortunately the value of reading somehow rarely included understanding studies and how to interpret statistics. Many …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 05:07 PM
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So I don't know how you personally feel about it but I've seen many comments from men who certain things are weakness and just simping. So I guess I am just wondering what earning it looks like to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 04:55 PM
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I won't answer a question that fundamentally misrepresents what I said. That is a trap. That is a dishonest question. As I said: I don't agree the small percentage of men women are attracted to are the same men. Hence me taking issue with your use of "the top 10%". Because this is literally what my initial comment already addressed. Many men are under the misconception that the "top" 10 or 20 percent get all the women. They believe the "top" men are rich, tall, fit, etc. Problem is what they are…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 08:07 PM
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Why do these men care? They're not going to date those women, thus problem solved.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 05:09 PM
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Nono. "Top" why top. Stop misrepresenting. Just answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 05:08 PM
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You're simultaneously saying men are the "prize" but then talk about them as if they're simpletons incapable of making good decisions for themselves. How is that a prize? Viewing people as prizes to be won isn't particularly healthy. I'm all for self esteem but why would you try to date someone it seems you fundamentally don't respect or even seem to like.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 08:50 AM
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So why don't men just not?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 08:31 AM
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Who makes them feel this way? What are the hoops?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 07:33 AM
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How are men being manipulated?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 07:23 AM
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Why edit out "top 10%"? If the meaning is the same?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 07:19 AM
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I never said I agreed women like only the top 10% of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 06:40 AM
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Yes it is. Pro-birth is pro women for starters. Its not. Giving women the choice to have birth or not is pro woman pushing towards only one option is not. Providing parental leave is pro woman. Access to healthcare. Lots of things. But pro natalism is not pro woman, and so you don't purposely create a strawman neither is anti natalism. There's a reason so many conservative men want women to have more babies, but it's for pretty insidious reasons. Great replacement theory etc. And before you say …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 07:29 PM
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IFS is: pro birth. Pro traditional marriage. This is in no way "gyno centric". But if you don't want to follow the money and think critically by all means be my guest.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 05:52 PM
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I agree that most women are only attracted to a small percentage of men. I just disagree it's the same men.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 04:23 PM
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I find it interesting especially since Gen Z men are leaning conservative politically. I think the gender wars are kinda a distraction from income inequality because it's an easy tactic to blast culture wars rather than address people can't afford rent let alone a home. I like to poke around people's brains and see why they think the way they do, especially since every insult is an admission so I wait for someone to betray themselves. I've always been quiet in real life and just listen to people…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 04:13 PM
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People really gotta check their "statistics" source matters. Method matters. How participants are selected matters. Etc. Its very frustrating because I see statistics bastardized here so often and I just cannot. I won't deny that while I am not married I have a gorgeous partner and he makes my life more joyful, I am still on antidepressants, a mood stabilizer, and anti anxiety medication. I have a genetically inherited illness and bad anxiety from a not great childhood. It doesn't mean I'd sudde…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 03:13 PM
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Eh there are studies that cite unmarried childless women as the happiest. A direct contradiction. Also I struggle to take a man who divorced the mother of his child and wife of 27 year's for a much younger research assistant on his word about the felicitations of marriage and children. Also published by the IFS, a conservative think tank (look at the sources cited at the bottom of your article), which is a source cited so you really have to question the validity since a primary part of the Ameri…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 01:46 PM
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I'm sure into a very prosperous blobfish.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 06:15 AM
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So pick a different golden period and reconcile you'll be worm food soon.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 06:12 AM
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I said what I said. You're like slavery! What a golden era! I'm not surprised. But in a way it makes me really glad humans are so fragile and die so the subsequent generations can piss on their graves.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 06:06 AM
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1800s to 1950s is the wests golden period? I'm just going to assume you do know the 13th amendment was ratified in 1865... So you're counting golden period as: slavery, civil war, Jim crowe era south, WWll... I can keep going but oh boy my guy. You're really saying the quiet part out loud.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 05:59 AM
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Didn't you hear you're the last plane out of nam.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 05:47 AM
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I view curation of personal style as a part of someone. Taste is something someone has. So it is a part of you. Now if you want genetically determined features you had absolutely nothing to do with being praised I guess that's your prerogative. Now if you want compliments on intelligence, humor, or perspective those will be rarer in general because it requires a more in depth conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 10:35 PM
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No. Men should be encouraged to dress better so they can stop complaining no one compliments them! I love when men wear florals and aren't afraid of patterns or know what bold colors suit them so I always give compliments. Statement shoes. Being confident enough to accessorize. Come on guys stop complaining start putting together fits.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 09:39 PM
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Now what kind of pics are they asking for sir? Is it one of her smiling in a turtleneck? Cuz I don't think so.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 05:56 PM
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What kind of women are you hanging out with that are attracted to felons!?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 05:39 PM
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My partner is a pacifist, he's a vegan for christ sakes. But he's a big guy with intimidating eyebrows. So he deters creepers by just existing near me. I think aggression is kind of unnecessary? Most men won't mess with you if you're with a man, any man, he doesn't even have to look like a mob enforcer. I also feel like there's this survival instinct in me that screams in your ear even when his aggression isn't aimed at you: if he can do that to someone else he can do it to you. Which is probabl…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 05:37 PM
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Two people choose to be with one another and both parties can choose to commit to one another or not. This isn't hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 04:52 PM
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I buy most of my clothes online which are usually shown on a size 2 or 4 model. It arrives and I find out it doesn't exactly fit me quite the same. The dress has way more cleavage than expected, the skirt cups my butt where it didn't on the model. You run into the issue where if you order a size up its too large on the waist and or shoulders. I'm willing to tailor higher end pieces but a dress that's only $100 it's kinda not worth it. One of my favorite dresses has a print from an artist I reall…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 04:44 PM
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Eh I think you're basing your beauty standard on something that's enhanced and filtered. Plus I think people find it psychologically gratifying to call people ugly especially when they feel that way themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 06:10 PM
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How can you be a hopeless romantic if you fundamentally hate women? The math ain't mathing.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 04:58 PM
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Already did a test. We good. Its not pure agar agar, its teaspoons added to primarily water. It thickens it similar to a vegan jello or Panna Cotta.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 05:19 AM
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I'm a monster fucker with a slight medical kink and I like butt stuff? But yes 100% it will melt. It's just water, pectin, and agar agar. Safety is key.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 05:15 AM
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This is why you're married my dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 05:11 AM
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My asshole obviously. Because who doesn't want a man in nitrile gloves popping alien eggs into their butt? But in all seriousness my friend is an EMT and told me they'd kill me if I used silicone ones. So you can make them and they just melt in your body and my other friend whose a pastry chef helped me make them and she cracked the code that if you're going to use a gelatin alternative: agar agar mixing it with pectin as well gives it more stability. Don't want it breaking during entry right? B…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 05:09 AM
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That's still too complex to answer due to variable circumstances and I'm making agar agar eggs for my partner to shove into me tomorrow after he comes home from his business trip so I know a lot about relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 04:31 AM
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I mean I made a guy delete his comment because he fell into the every insult is an admission trap. So he got something.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 02:02 AM
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Again: geography. Realistically if you live in Missouri your odds of running into a 200k man is more challenging where in Loudoun county you just gotta throw a rock. The dating market is a lie because unfortunately dating isn't widgets. It just makes men feel better. Nuance is scary so people make shit up to be less scared. You're not even giving anecdotes btw you're just making statements with no supporting evidence, it's just trust me bro. But if you're bay area does that mean you're not upper…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 12:56 AM
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Honestly nah? Like 200k depending on where you live could get you upper class or just flat middle class, looking at you San Francisco. But there's a range of dudes who make that much and career wise but the men in my circle are in tech. Like I'm cute but by no means a dime. Neither are the wives and girlfriends of the men in the $200k club. You have 1. The career woman with the fat butt (look I am just going on observation here but it's a unifying trait). Or 2. The SAHM whose status as one is a …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 12:22 AM
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Only because their geographic location and not socializing in certain circles.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 11:52 PM
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Already done! Get good.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 11:51 PM
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Nah because you can just date someone you really like who makes over 200k. Like why settle?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 10:13 PM
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Note how option 1. Is crossed off. You still have two options. Pick one.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 05:16 PM
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Look who cares god didn't put an orgasm button up your butt for you to not.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 02:54 PM
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The problem is if your initial filter is incredibly harsh, then you aren't going to find anything close to what you want. To take your dress example, you are assuming that even after all your filters, there will be the perfect dress. That is an assumption. Typically, you pick the best option not the perfect option. By lowering the looks standard and judging the other standards first, you leave yourself more open to the possibility of finding a 100% compatible personality man, with 80% of your pr…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 06:05 AM
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If you are cutting out a massive proportion of men with your looks requirement, then you are selecting largely for looks. Any additional filters won’t really matter past that. No. Literally no. I know this is a weird example but I am looking to buy a pink formal dress. I go to a site that has formal dresses I use a filter for color. But I also want it to be floor length, second filter. I don't like halters, asymmetrical shoulders or strapless dresses, third filter. This leaves me with still a ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 04:24 AM
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1. Embrace your bisexuality Accept some people are going to have an easier time getting sex with you and don't be a weirdo about it. Whine about it on the Internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 04:05 AM
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Okay see you picked #3 and you're committed. You picked one. Problem solved.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 04:03 AM
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Nah. How to deal in 3 easy options: Embrace your bisexuality Accept some people are going to have an easier time getting sex with you and don't be a weirdo about it. Whine about it on the Internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 12:08 AM
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I never said straight men should hit up Grindr did I? OP never even specified straight men. You did. That's a you issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 11:18 PM
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Stop with your bisexual erasure. It does illustrate that while there are more options for women, they're not options we would necessarily be attracted to. Or are we going to pretend guys here are all zeros on the Kinsey scale? I'm bisexual and find myself more attracted to women. But men are easier to connect with initially because everyone is assumed straight until proven otherwise and I am incredibly femme and lesbian dating apps and sites are full of straight men or straight women looking to …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 09:13 PM
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I'm American so it's possible I have a different perspective but most people are one bad day away from homelessness. One car accident can completely financially destroy someone. The average American's retirement? Savings? Abysmal. No good tends to come from that. In terms of the village burning I referenced, I don't assume the man will be in a relationship and disappoint a woman; I assume he will never be in a relationship and be incredibly upset about it if you couldn't glean that. I assume thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 09:04 PM
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To be fair some men have red flags in their photos. Also you can want someone who is hot and has excellent taste in movies and a great sense of humor. Caring about looks isn't shallow but only caring about looks probably is. Attraction is complex for everyone though. You can be the ripest juiciest peach but some people just don't like peaches.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 04:25 PM
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Download Grindr. There is a man a stones throw from you who will definitely perform oral sex on you available tonight. Is he of questionable looks? Potentially married with children? Old? Sure. But congratulations you have the equivalent experience women do.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 04:10 PM
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I don't see deciding you'd like to meet your survival needs and nothing more as a moral failing for single men. I wouldn't want to date it but that's just because they don't fit into my lifestyle. That being said there's a proverb: "A child who is not embraced by the village will burn it down to feel its warmth". While men aren't children it begs the question what happens to people who choose to not be a part of the village but must interact with it's inhabitants everyday and see the lives they …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 04:01 PM
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I think we can all agree dismissing anecdotal evidence is something everyone here does.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 04:10 PM
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I think you're operating on a flawed premise to start. Spending money doesn't equal love. But that's not anyone's contention. Good financial security allows love to persist and flourish. But you're positioning yourself like you have offended me (you didn't) and that I said love is transactional (I didn't). I said 1. Love is not enough 2. Marriage is a legal contract nothing more 3. Marriage should only be undertaken when it is financially a good choice for both parties. Getting her a ring she lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/25 08:20 PM
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Don't worry I am not offended. You just seem to really really not want to address the elephant in the room and it looks like I am the one who is perpetually offending you. Money. You won't acknowledge finance's impact on life, relationships, or at all, except to I guess patronize Walmart for 50 years without regard for inflation. I stand by what I said, and only what I said: love is not enough. And love doesn't negate the fact money is also involved in your relationship. You seem to want to avoi…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/25 03:44 PM
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I see your math: but it's dumb math because like I said: she'll have a sentimental attachment to what you proposed with. End of story. You should be financially well off enough where a $500 ring is nbd. In lifetime relationships love is quite literally not enough, not even "authentic love", if it were so many damn people wouldn't get divorced. Finances is one of the top reasons cited for divorce. Like I said: get your finances in order before you get married until it is financially beneficial to…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/25 05:54 AM
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I don't believe in marriage for myself but I do wear a sterling silver ring on my left ring finger when I go out, just to level set with the world. That being said for the marriage minded: a ring should bare minimum last her until she's in her rocking chair next to yours when you're old together. And no don't justify it with you'll get her a bigger rock later because it will never mean as much as what you actually proposed with. So a $20 ring from Walmart won't cut it. There are plenty of reason…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/25 04:36 AM
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It will take years before they're both in school. Years of running negative isn't possible. And again: trade school and apprenticeships don't adjust to your childrens needs. Its like you have no concept of reality. You could look at it as she fucked herself by someone who can't provide better. It all depends on how you look at it. But again men here love to mention they don't care about a woman's education or earning power until reality hits them like truck. You want support from your partner? Y…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 06:16 PM
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They're not in school. And it's not a short term cost. Also trades don't work around your schedule, especially apprenticeships. I don't think you get parenting or how expensive childcare is. He also has a degree whereas she only has: a trade certificate that limits her income to be far lower than his. Because not all trades are equally profitable. Men here complain women don't want to be traditional women and say they don't care about a woman's education until it actually comes to brass tacks. F…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 05:56 PM
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Cost of childcare, gas and car maintenance would cause them to have less money if she got a job, not more. So can she get a job? Yes. Should she get a job? Only if they want their household income to go down. Children are expensive it turns out.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 04:13 PM
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This exactly.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 04:06 PM
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Talked recently with my friends (they're married, two kids, she's a SAHM). Dude hates his job and isn't sure what to do. Despite having a 4 year degree he still has a blue collar job. He asked me if it would be dumb to just go the trade route and I said it wasn't a bad idea. Later I was talking alone with the wife and she expressed while it does pay well, it only pays well eventually and realistically their family can't financially afford the time it takes to finish an apprenticeship and get rea…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 01:52 PM
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I think it just depends what's right for everyone. I really enjoyed just hanging out with my friends in my early 20s, going to clubs and concerts and throwing stupid parties. I never had relationship drama like my friends did and none of them are with those people anymore anyway. No big deal not rushing dating. Being single is fun too.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 11:30 PM
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I got parental issues. Both of them were wildly inconsistent. One day dad's going to every dress shop to find my prom dress even though I know he's miserable, another day he's hitting me and screaming and spitting in my face. My mom would do arts and crafts with me one day, another day she'd throw glass figurines at me so they shattered at my feel or on the wall next to me and tried to breakdown my door. Mixed bag. I wasn't even a bad kid. No drinking. No underaged sex. No staying out late. No s…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 04:46 PM
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Simplest answer: children. My cousin was adamant her boyfriend propose because she wanted her older father to walk her down the aisle and for him to meet his grandchildren before he dies. He's gotten prostate cancer and then skin cancer multiple times so his lifespan is questionable. Any woman I have known that has had the when are you proposing talk has always had children in mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 04:34 PM
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Nonono. No buzz words. You can do better. You did create a paradox.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 02:30 AM
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Looking at statistics it doesn't seem too terribly common. I think you're safe.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 02:29 AM
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Literally yes. People go there just for the bread. I don't know man I'm American I can't defend my trash panda people because I am one.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 08:44 PM
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I stand by some hacks. Like taking a woman to Texas Roadhouse because women love that bread and she'll positively associate you with bread. Secondly it's a test because if she orders her steak well done you can ask her politely yet firmly to leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 06:25 PM
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No one goes into a marriage expecting to be cheated on so it's like some kind of paradox. So no one is a whore until they are so (mostly) by your definition lots of people unknowingly marry future whores.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 06:10 PM
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I don't know where you live but in the US your dating pool is going to vary from Omaha to NYC. But hey man find love wherever the wind takes you.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 04:42 PM
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But you do realize anyone of any attractiveness level can cheat right? Like you're not a cheater right up until the moment you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 04:39 PM
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Look my dad's been married and divorced four times. I would say a certified divorce professional. Everytime he paid for it. Yes I rag on him about his terrible taste in women constantly, but thankfully they've all been age appropriate and actually single mothers except for my mother his first wife. My dad can get a date in line at a bank. Literally has happened. Home Depot. In line at Disney World. The man has that boomer rizz I guess. Fortunately he has declined all age inappropriate women. Don…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 04:37 PM
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What's a whore?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 04:21 PM
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Isn't that just not aligning with preferences in your geographic location? Also can we not pretend Coachella is at all an accessible or common experience? Like so expensive, no place to pee, loud, dirty, did I mention so expensive?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 04:18 PM
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So thing is I have never heard a woman call her partner average. A jerk yes. A godsend yes. Ultimately we all vary from moment to moment. Our partners see us at our best and worst. I personally don't believe in marriage because I find them expensive and unromantic. I like waking up everyday and choosing my partner. I'm bound to him by nothing but love. We even keep our finances separate. I don't need him, I want him. Everyday. As for marriage it doesn't factor in cohabitating and there's more to…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 04:09 PM
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I think it's sadder than that. They want to feel they are attractive and matter. But instead of getting plastic surgery, developing an ED, and learning to apply makeup they formed a cult. Both are messed up and the real code is: fuck external validation.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 03:58 PM
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It's not a slip. I realistically simp hard for my partner. He's exceptional to me. My friend who has great wisdom frequently says if your relationship isn't based on mutual simping why are you even married? And rp/bp men seem to desperately want women even women they're not interested in to be attracted to them. They essentially want the same sexual interest women receive from women to themselves and if they don't they feel like failures.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 03:44 PM
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Marriage isn't what it used to be and people forget that millennials are the first generation for it to be completely optional and to an extent disadvantageous. Gen Z is feeling the effect of the change and there's a clear divide on it. Traditional marriage was the exchange of property (woman) between two men (father to husband). It sounds gross but where is the lie? Then we move into marriage as a woman securing future survival. Men providing or doing the primary providing while the wife bears …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 03:32 PM
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I get paid for the work I do. Seems like a better deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 02:50 PM
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I'm attracted to my aging partner despite him having exactly zero tentacles. Why do I need to be attracted to anyone but my partner? Why do women need to be attracted to the average man? Would any woman describe her partner as an average man? Would a man want that?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 02:27 PM
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If that's the reward I feel like the answer to your question is: women shouldn't bother with marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 02:22 PM
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Quote was only in reference to specific topic: as evidenced by all subsequent sentences reference preferences in partners. Please stay on topic. If you would like to discuss other specific issues please feel free to make a separate posts. Because I'm also the worst type of person to consult on preferences because it's a running joke with my partner saying I'll be the first person to contract space AIDS.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 04:18 AM
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Woah woah woah we're talking criticism of preferences here and you immediately jump to men can be victims of rape which I am not disputing. You're creating a straw man here and you know it. Stop it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 10:15 PM
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Sending good juju he gets the job! It's a whole new level of stress though. Definitely put a cramp in our vacationing style. But I do tend to see weak men as needing submissive wives. So fragile they can't at least talk things through, compromise, or occasionally concede their wives suggestion or way of handling things is better on not "traditionally feminine" wheelhouse type things.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 07:01 PM
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I see your point and fair. I was coming from the point everyone had sufficiently covered that OP is using their personal opinion as fact in terms of what is "natural". But you are correct.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 06:46 PM
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Unprotected sex leads to higher rates of STD's. You're so intellectually dishonest I can no longer engage.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 06:40 PM
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Lol I'm trying to be vague? You're treating billions of people like a monolith. You're trying to be vague because you're at every turn intellectually dishonest. Women In which country? What's the economy there? What are the education opportunities for women there? What pressures are exerted culturally or religiously. It goes on and on and on. And regardless that's not the argument or the question but you're trying to steer it there on purpose. Tsk tsk.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 05:51 PM
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Yes it's OP is being disingenuous.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 05:48 PM
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Which is exactly what bigots who try to demonize homosexuality do, mentally link horrible things to it. Obvious and very old trick. Adult incestuous relationships that result in children lead to birth defects. Not to mention that's really really cherry picking since a lot of incestuous relationships also involve sexual abuse and pedophilia and do not always involve an adult at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 05:47 PM
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Lying? I guess lying about intentions would be it?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 05:18 PM
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Some don't. You're asking a bad question. Boo.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 05:17 PM
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Not all dominant sex involves collars and whips, choking, hair pulling, slapping, etc. All count. Its not like men have to have a whole toy box here.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 05:15 PM
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Don't conflate a normal sexual attraction to acts harmful against children. That's sick and wrong. Two men who love each other hurts no one except bigoted people's feelings. Incest and pedophilia hurt children. Full stop.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 05:09 PM
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I am by no means a dominatrix but my partner is C-suite. He did not want a submissive wifey. He explicitly did not want that and dumped a woman over her dreams of a white picket fence. Men that have been attracted to me beyond first take, I am visually hyper feminine so my personality doesn't match, are usually more submissive dudes because if they like my personality then they like a dominant woman. So anecdotal as well but my partner is pretty anti SAHM because he thinks they're boring and all…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 05:02 PM
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You can think that all you want but men are more than willing to talk in detail about vanilla sex, even dominant sex in front of each other so why the taboo on submissive sex? Because: judgement.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 04:51 PM
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Again millennials are the literal first generation with full choice (and potentially the last due to legal and economic changes) in the US. Other countries are still behind in terms of women's rights so looking globally is a moot point. Men won't be honest and to some extent don't realize the preference. All those jokes about the wife wearing the pants in the family... What do you think that is? You're using your personal opinion as fact. You literally called it deviant. Sorry. Its not something…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 04:32 PM
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There's a reason why men who are sexually submissive are not open about it because of judgement. They are absolutely not telling their bros. Especially if they're into pegging and things like that. Now women there are statistically way fewer dominant women than men currently. It's why it's basically unicorn hunting.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 04:27 PM
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"Quite popular in the right circles" is key. So are femme boys. People are more willing and have the space to be more honest about their sexual desires which I think is great, even if it's niche. As for men's preferences being more varied I just don't think you know enough women because oh boy. It gets wild. We just don't talk about it in front of men because we know the judgement will be off the chain. Always has been. Shit I couldn't even date someone not white without nasty commentary. My bro…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 04:23 PM
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I think the root problem is how accurate are those "biological studies" or were they just confirmation bias. Because the first generation of women truly able to make the choice of having children: are increasingly choosing to not have them to a point economists are panicking. Kinda weird right? But you get to decide what a deviant preference is? See what did I say about how men will judge other men's preferences? Based on my experience men choose women's temperament based on their emotional need…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 03:16 PM
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Just wait until a man says he wants a dominant woman. See how that goes over, not just with women but men especially. What you're missing is that both men and women also react to each other's preferences in really negative ways as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 02:40 PM
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Nah but the crazy kinds of logical leaps you have to make to say women care less about the men in their families than women they don't know so you can feel like a victim is wild. I get you're desperate to be victimized here but at least try to make it semi grounded in reality. Like you have lots of options, capitalism, patriarchy, oligarchy, etc. pick a better victim narrative for yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 05:16 PM
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What an odd thing to say.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 03:47 AM
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I think of it as more "traditional" marriage I guess? For women in the past marriage was an economic proposition. Realistically for women in other countries where the US dollar is very strong a foreign man's mid salary from a western country can support her and her relatives. She can provide a comfortable life for her parents, cousins, and children if she has them so she's making the best choice for her. So long as the man is honoring these financial obligations and treating her well I don't rea…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 04:30 PM
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If you are unhappy you are not given a human you don't have to work or pay taxes, now there may be repercussions for that like failing to survive but it's certainly an option you can choose.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 05:46 PM
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Nah. My friends have great husbands and fathers and they dated for awhile, cohabitated prior to marriage, chose carefully, and waited to have children with him. You don't "get got" if you wait. You don't "get got" if you make sure he demonstrates good husband and father traits prior to marriage. I know this is a crazy concept: but there are awesome guys out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 05:40 PM
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Hard disagree and I'm a freaking childfree woman. I have friends who are SAHMs and working mothers and they would have their children all over again. They love being mothers. They accept it's hard. They even experience disproportionate labor. But they found a life that works for them that brings them joy. And you know what: their husbands are supportive and loving and don't view caring for their children as a chore because gasp they love their children too. Now I'm not saying I also don't have a…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 02:37 PM
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If you don't define what you mean by "lower class" you're engaging in a bad faith debate. You're just giving yourself ways to weasel out of counter arguments. Please provide what you are defining as "low class".
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 04:46 PM
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I want my partner to think I am attractive and I don't want other men to look at men ever. So like to borrow a phrase and use it in a completely wrong way: not all men? Also like green eyeshadow is for the girls and the gays. What I'm saying is, it's not a binary thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 01:32 PM
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I thought men hit the gym to impress other men?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 01:24 PM
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The packaging makes a difference. I actually love blue hair but I don't want to deal with the maintenance, damage, and stained towels, sheets, pillow cases and clothes.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 03:32 PM
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Its not a must have everything, just a check a few boxes and you're good. Being thin gets you extra points because it's associated with virtues in people's minds like self-control, etc. whether it's true or not. I do think you're being WAY harsh on yourself. You do have full lips not filler ones but natural ones, doe eyes, a flatter nose bridge (see attractive), beautiful skin, long healthy looking hair, and a nice jawline. I would say if someone says you're not beautiful I would call 100% bulls…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 03:05 PM
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Added benefit of lipo (gotta harvest the fat from somewhere) and it can remedy the dreaded violin hips. A butt can be built but an hourglass cannot. A lot of fitness influencers who haven't had a bbl have to pose very specifically and wear certain leggings and bikinis to look like they have an hourglass figure. It's why you won't see pictures of them just straight on or they edit their photos and videos to get that coke bottle shape that is either pure genetics or surgery. But then people clock …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 07:08 AM
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Oh no doubt and the cake is all natural because she has the thick thighs to match. BDH, a gorgeous ass in a land of bbl's.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 06:41 AM
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They're both conventionally attractive people with accents? They aren't my brand of hot though. Everyone has their own thing. Manny Jacinto's fine ass got me through the acolyte and I would like Salma Hayek to sit on my face.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 06:33 AM
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BDH is a baddie but like... <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 06:24 AM
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Just compare yourself to the beauty standard. Is your face symmetrical? Is your nose small? Are your eyes large? Are your teeth nice? Do you have clear skin? Are your lips full? Do you have high cheekbones? Do you have a feminine jawline? Are you thin with tits? I think people confuse attractiveness with being well groomed for women. You look clean, smell nice, your hair is coifed, your makeup is applied expertly, your outfit is stylish and flattering, etc. all these things are appreciated by me…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 04:58 AM
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I never understood why they're so against tattoos. It shows she's into commitment and potentially to something she'll realize she should have chosen something different 2 years after the fact but it's too expensive to have removed. So what I'm saying is perfect for an underwhelming dude with a fear of abandonment.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 04:33 AM
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I have a theory, and it's more than just sex. I'm a leftist but I am very feminine presenting. Majority of the time dresses and skirts. No tattoos. No vivid hair color. No piercings aside from ears. Make-up on point. But a bunch of conservative guys have wanted to date me when I was single (and not, hoping my partner and I will breakup). Its more they hate certain liberal women who don't conform to their idea of attractiveness. Because if you're not there to be eye candy, why do you exist? I gen…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 04:49 PM
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I think if they'd like to move to a country and find a woman they can financially benefit and are kind, respectful, and loving to her that doesn't seem like a bad thing. It removes a potential time bomb from the US and benefits a woman who is financially disadvantaged. So long as he's not controlling and abusive and good to her and her family I say bon voyage.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 03:23 PM
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So I feel like if this is targeted at the US audience it's kind of all built on false premises. We don't even have free market capitalism and truthfully never have. The government has always had its thumb on the scale too hard and it's only gotten worse. Secondly attractiveness is subjective for men and women. I know a lot of men will fight to the death that it's objective and for that person they essentially consider their personal tastes objective but other men will disagree with you so it's d…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 03:13 PM
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No. I'm childfree. I wouldn't even date a man with adult children. But there are lots of women with children and custody from partial to full who would definitely do a blended family situation. I think the people who will answer no are women who don't have children but want their own with no step kids in the mix, which is pretty darn traditional, or women who just don't want kids period.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 05:46 PM
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It's currently iteration I think you're confusing confidence with narcissism, lack of accountability, with a dash of dehumanizing others. These are not the same thing. The red pill is not "simply" what you described. What you described is a lie by omission. You omitted all the harmful philosophy contained therein and only mentioned things any halfway decent therapist would tell someone. Social interaction good. Isolation bad. Focus on challenging yourself generally good, but in what areas specif…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 04:33 PM
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I'd ask a different question: how does this (red pill ideology) serve you? Because based on the core need that the red pill belief system serves its devotees: it provides the idea of safety via prevention of emotional harm. It enforces the idea there is something fundamentally wrong with the world, not you, and if there is something wrong with you it's nothing chicken breast and a gym membership can't solve. What it does in actuality is alienate yourself from people. It's an ideology that the va…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 03:51 PM
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Yeah. My partner got one for me unexpectedly. I told him I was going to wait at least a year before I considered buying one, maybe wait for like a special edition or something. He knows I like handheld consoles though and we played Mario kart together so I guess our household got two. I think I need to buy a new everyday purse though now because it doesn't fit nicely in like my switch lite did. I definitely feel like if you got money to burn sure but if not don't sweat it and wait.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 12:36 AM
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Well we live together and interact with each other's families and friends. When you're a couple you have couples friends, couples events, and couples activities. We are at our core an alliance, a powerful endlessly supportive one, no holds barred. We are each other's number ones. No one is above him and no one is above me and everyone in our lives understands that. There are certain interests that he and I share that my friends don't. We initially connected over park chan-wook movies and smt noc…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 11:17 PM
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I had a friend in highschool who mocked her ex. But then got back together with him. A friend of a friend repeatedly mocked his own dick size in front of us which leads to believe he doesn't even actually have a small dick. I haven't personally but in my understand it's low hanging fruit that will often hit a mans insecurity, but I prefer you are a disappointment to your father. I feel like the accuracy is higher if you're firing blind.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 06:02 PM
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I am in a relationship but being completely blunt: I literally do all of these things with my platonic girlfriends too, sometimes in a more fulfilling way. The activities aren't necessarily more fun with my partner. My partner doesn't like most horror movies, he can't stand gore, extended torture, or any extreme violence. So I have a friend I regularly go to the movies with and watch movies at her house to hang out with her cats because we both enjoy them a lot. I watch lots of movies with my pa…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 05:49 PM
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I stopped reading at tiktok.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 05:11 AM
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Well I guess that's your fault for having a bad default assumption. Like what a boring fucking conversation that would be. And generally you handle it like an adult. Like have sexy fun show time first. But hey people can break up for whatever reason. Including if a guy doesn't do oral. It's whatever works for people.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 04:56 AM
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It's 4-6" past the opening of the vagina, problem is realistically an overwhelming majority of women find it difficult or can't even orgasm from penetration alone. It's all about the clit. I don't know why men can't accept their fingers and mouths are more effective than their dicks.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 04:46 AM
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Talking about dicks does not equate to bragging about dick size. Reading comprehension my dude. Getting hurt during sex isn't really a brag it's like an oh shit hope you heal up. Some men just don't even attempt and it's deffo way more talked about than size.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 04:39 AM
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You are aware it's not like there's an orgasm button at the end of the tunnel right? It can fucking hurt if you get hit in the cervix.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 04:33 AM
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As a person with a vagina it lengthens bout 7 inches max when aroused but feeling "full and stretched out" is definitely not a thing for me personally but it is for my friend whose a lesbian who likes it's when their girlfriend fists them. But girlfriend has like tiny hands to be fair. Like her ring size is a 3.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 04:12 AM
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I mean in my circle of friends never happens not when we were in our 20s and not in our 30s. But how often he goes down and his skills in that department, frequently. Also preferences on period sex stuff like that. I don't know who these women are but they sound boring.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 04:07 AM
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The human vagina only gets so long my friend. But if you truly think this remember some people end up in the ER with tearing and fissures.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 04:08 PM
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We had a party once and made an alcoholic beverage called "cervix punch". It was made because our friend's ex-boyfriend did it frequently and it was painful. Just like our hangovers.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 04:06 PM
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Well duh? How is this a debate? You can reject anyone for any reason. Now there is obviously a psychology and societal influence on what we find attractive, it's not innate, there has been throughout human history. And I guess that's something you could debate? But not the right to reject someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 08:07 PM
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Oh god when it's your parents friends 🤢🤢🤢🤢
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 10:23 PM
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Did I say that? It ultimately boils down to who the "elbow" is, much like in a ffm threesome. And much like in a ffm threesome shit tends to work better if the FF and mm are both bi regardless. But considering this whole post is about bi men.... I don't really get where your hostility is coming from.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 06:12 PM
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Um he got a dick and mouth still don't he? The whole point of a threesome is everyone's involved. Where exactly is your imagination. It's called a dude being the elbow. Boyfriend can be sandwiched, getting fucked in the ass by a dude while you ride him or he goes down on you. You riding him while he blows the other dude. Like again: where is your imagination?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 05:58 PM
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Why are you assuming a man is fucking a girl here? It's MMF.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 03:19 PM
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Y'all know we can see what ya post on other forums right? So we can know gender and age. From you. You told on yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 11:54 PM
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Uh I think that's what redpill dudes on YouTube want? But as a 34 year old with zero procedures I can say: nah. There has always been societal pressure to remain young and beautiful on women. Women for a very long time were taught they needed to secure a husband young and be shapely and beautiful to attract a husband. Redpill dudes on YouTube are just kinda trying to use an old outdated playbook like it's still relevant. Granted beauty standards have finally started impacting men, but that's onl…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 09:16 PM
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You said it's a power thing and women just enjoy bullying. But lie more I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 01:00 AM
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It is about power, it has nothing to do with safety. I know this, i have o served this very much in detail. That cap isnt goingnto fly with me. Yeah because you wanna play victim. I did not. I dont think you read the post completely before replying. I did. Ya didn't address it. Yeah AFTER the evidence came out in court. Before that people had already sided with her and so did the media. There were plenty of people who didn't and plenty of outlets that didn't. Unfortunately people can't grasp the…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 11:18 PM
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I mean if someone fundamentally feels unlovable then that is a therapy issue, probably thank your parents. In therapy you would probably delve into why your self esteem hinges entirely on a romantic partner. Then you'd also probably address the practical reasons you might not have succeeded. Do you have friends? Do you socialize? Do you pursue interests. Chances are you're going to uncover it's not that you're unlovable, you just don't have a healthy robust life or good mental state which makes …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 06:06 PM
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Yeah because if you didn't it means women are at risk and you don't want to acknowledge that. Open your eyes. People are bullies sometimes. But I think it's kinda bullshit to think women just wait for perfectly normal guys to bully. Unless it's some kind of fetish.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 02:41 PM
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It rarely has to do with safety. Its just womem exervising their power. It's not, you are literally just saying it's not because you want to be mad. I didnt say it was gender locked. But ignored that fact completely. What would you say the johnny depp situation was? That was a modern publich lynching. He came out fine after the American trial. Their biggest issue is they're both drug users who can't help fuck up their own lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 08:22 PM
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I think the key here is men are more than willing to exclude and carry out attacks on men too. This isn't gender locked. The difference is the motivation behind it. Women do it because they often literally are not safe or they feel unsafe. You can't really openly admit to men's actual physical brutality against other men then ignore it as a factor. The difference with men is that it's often to eliminate competition. Or you know they can also be creeped out and feel unsafe too. Then there is of c…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 03:32 PM
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I think it's just a running gag at this point, about the color of texts. I have android. Who isn't using an encrypted messenger anyways tho? My brother made a joke about it when he was dating but he's an apple boi and a Linux admin. So he's very serious about his IT. So I wouldn't even say it's a gender locked thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 03:09 PM
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I usually had two part-time jobs and a full course load during college/my late teens and early 20s. I genuinely didn't have time to date. Once I dropped down to only one job during college I did end up having a serious relationship but it was only after we were friends with a lot of flirtation for 2 years because again: couldn't really even have a relationship while burning that hard. It was really hard to even see my friends and honestly I would rather have friends than be that serial monogamis…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 06:38 AM
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I mean that only works if young men will tolerate a woman bringing "nothing" to the table. It's their choice to accept that, so it's the young men's fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 03:00 PM
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Not really. It's men just not knowing how to do like basic human shit because old school masculinity kinda fucked them up and we're in the middle of a transition so it's extra confusing for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 02:00 AM
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Eh I think it's more men having to like do more than show up with a job.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 07:42 PM
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Are they?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 05:41 PM
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Nor will it ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 04:45 PM
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Men are the new women. Go with me here, 6' is the new 36-24-36. Basing all your worth and value on if you're in a relationship. Redpill blogs are just Cosmo magazine. Shits super weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 04:12 PM
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Macaroni and cheese.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 04:05 PM
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If I had a dollar for every woman who looks back at her first boyfriend and says: "wtf was I thinking" I would be richer than Bezos. But seriously like every statistic to the contrary of what you said my dude. I don't know if people are hung up on their highschool girlfriends or what but it's odd.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 02:50 PM
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At a coworkers wedding we all helped one of the directors who just broke up with his long term girlfriend take pics for tinder. It was actually really fun. I guess it ended up being a weird team building exercise? But getting additional traits from a picture is just a good idea. Like had a friend swipe right on a guy because he had a sphinx cat in a pic. She asked if the cat was his, found out: yes and the cat had a pretty clever name. They went out.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 04:01 AM
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See this is why it rules being into thicc men. I get to truly enjoy the decline. 😎
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 03:53 AM
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Let's be real the vast majority of weddings are just really expensive parties. Where some gets offended the photographer you spent 5k on didn't include them in a group shot. Don't get me wrong I love an open bar but that's really the only awesome thing going down at a wedding. How many women are wearing bring white wedding dresses and reading their Bible? They're getting a party bus and going to vineyards for their bachelorette and day drinking while kayaking. Or doing a spa day and shit. Don't …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 10:33 PM
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And the point you've been making against yourself is what would destroy you even more. Your one and only you've waited forever for cheating on you because they feel they've missed out or even just wonder what something else may be like. It's not a matter of strength so much as having good values in terms of a relationship. My partner is not his sexual past. We're together now. That's what matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 06:14 PM
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We may differ there. I don’t deny feeling special for being with someone for long periods of time. But I would definitely feel even more special being the only one. In terms of timing? I mean you could say the same thing about anything. You say you have been with your partner for a decade, he is likely not the only person you could have loved for a decade or longer. There could even be someone better out there for you that you haven’t met. But I did not select a partner with virginity criteria, …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 05:35 PM
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For a month of not being bothered by straight dudes you're giving women a vacation.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 02:57 PM
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I wouldn't feel special because I was the only one someone had sex with. I would feel like it was all just timing. Because realistically if it wasn't me, it would be someone else on a different day in a different place. You're not waiting for the one you're waiting for someone at some point who meets criteria. This is the opposite of special. I've been in a relationship with my partner for upwards of a decade. Realistically the love we have, the time, care and dedication we have for one another …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 02:47 PM
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Do you think the person is robbed of their ability to feel special to their partner because they aren't their first? Do you think they still can't feel they're the best sexual partner for their more experienced significant other? I'm saying the feelings you want to inspire in your future someone aren't exclusive to those abstaining from sex until marriage. But I think making a "sacrifice" no one asked you to in the hopes they'll value it very much is a very very bad idea. It's a lot to put on so…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 02:06 PM
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What if someone with a body count of 1 who was still with their initial partner said it didn't matter? What if the initial partner had a double digit body count? You choosing to not have sex outside of marriage can never be for nothing, regardless of the decisions of others. It's a choice you made with intention. How you feel about it later doesn't change your reasoning now.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 01:52 PM
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Concern. There were always girls in highschool and college dating much older guys. The commonality was they did not end well and almost always included some form of abuse. I have a 15 and 14 year old niece who are careening towards adulthood and no one would be happy if they showed up at 18 with a guy a decade plus older. Now everyone can say the consenting adults thing and legally: sure, but you never want to see someone in a relationship that's doomed before it starts and a party with bad inte…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 12:49 PM
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Specifically in what way are women supposed to express the empathy you desire? In what way can we serve you? In what way can we random women be held accountable for your validation, because clearly men are exempt from this equation of solution as they are not required to practice "empathy" to each other? And again specifically.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 12:37 PM
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It's cute you acting like some men don't lose their absolute shit upon polite rejection. Because you know: the gross sense of entitlement some men have. Their insistence they are owed a chance. Or oh pretending that men don't trash each other for lack of sexual history. When in theory men should be a source of comfort and companionship to each other through friendship. You know, helping each other with loneliness. At the end of the day you can't force anyone to like you. Relationships are a two …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 09:58 PM
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The men's issue in question being that women won't voluntarily fuck them? What are we supposed to do government mandated gf? Charity sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 06:03 PM
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Even so, the advice given to men is terrible. It's really hard to give advice on: my wife is too fat. People typically don't lose weight for others. So it's more of a: that sucks dude. Again, those perceptions aren't reliable. This sounds vaguely gaslightey but okay And there are many, many factors that can affect this. Regardless they've identified an incompatibility That's not a rational take on the OP. We just shouldn't send men on a fool's errand. How is men are being lied to poor men not th…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 08:34 PM
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Probably because the reasons for lack of desire for sex are different. Casual browse through r/deadbedrooms will tell you that. For men lack of attraction due to weight gain seems to hit a lot. For women it's resenting their husbands for usually a litany of reasons usually involving laziness in some other aspects of their partnership, mental health issues, childbirth/children. What's most interesting is the adoption of the HL and LL identifiers. They've identified there is a fundamental mismatch…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 08:22 PM
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Are we going to pretend deadbedrooms only affect men? Please disabuse yourself of that by visiting r/deadbedrooms. I think the chores thing is missing the point. It's not about the chores, it's about wives feeling like bang maids. Tired bang maids. It's low effort bad sex so what is even the point. It's feeling like a warm real doll. If you'd like more info like I said get some firsthand accounts from women in r/deadbedrooms there are a lot of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 04:53 PM
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I am hollerin at the "his face triggers my fight or flight mode". I'll take things that have never happened in real life for $500 Alex.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 04:06 PM
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I do. All the time. Twitter ain't real life. Again open communication doesn't mean anyone gets what they want. You fundamentally don't understand what the thing you're complaining about is.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 01:43 AM
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First mistake: using Twitter as a basis for reality. But seriously that's not open communication. If a husband wants more sex and expresses this it doesn't mean the resolution will ever actually be more sex. Please see r/deadbedrooms where men and women both experience this issue. Tons of reasons and gasp: more than one reason can result in less sex in a relationship. Open communication doesn't actually mean positive resolution. Sometimes the resolution can be separation. It's not a matter of "a…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 12:39 AM
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Yes right women aren't into guys with a lower body fat percentage, easy muscle gain due to higher testosterone, all their hair, no ex-wife, or step kids. We hate that.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 04:58 PM
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I have literally never shamed a guy who approached me to his face. It's too dangerous to do. Guy who started waiting for me on the train platform and getting on my car to sit next to me to talk, I was polite and guarded, mostly one word answers, attempts to use headphones and mentioned I was going home to my boyfriend multiple times. Guy who approached me in grocery store; had headphones in said I needed to hurry up and get to work for my shift. Guy at library, was definitely put off by him talk…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 04:42 PM
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Because: We like good sex where we actually orgasm? A hit it and quit it won't put in the time or effort to give you multiple orgasms before they even penetrate anything. Less chance of STDs. More opportunities to try the weird stuff with someone you know is safe. Emotional connection heightens everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 04:42 PM
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I wonder what the reaction would be if a dude asked for a paternity test and the response was: "yeah sure but fuck I should have gotten an abortion rather than have your child shouldn't I?"
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 01:49 PM
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I am shocked this delightfully wholesome take exists here.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 11:22 PM
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If you need a side hustle get a better main hustle is my motto. Get equity, company sells, ????, profit. I just actually want to spend time with my partner not deal with him working all the time when we don't have hip problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 07:55 PM
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And how is this exactly advocating that dudes without college degrees are a good pick? Sounds miserable. My dad's 63 and dying to retire to spend more time with the grandkids.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 07:50 PM
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But like my partner could afford to do that now and he's not even 40? Not that we have grandkids. I'd want to retire and enjoy that time traveling with him not watching him be broken down. Doesn't help one of my employees just died of cancer at 71 last week. Waiting on his death certificate to process everything. Lot of good working did him.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 07:42 PM
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College educated or skilled trade, but only certain trades. I'd miss my man if he was always working OT, weekends, and holidays. I did worry about trade school guys because they would be threatened by my higher income potential and education. I briefly saw a bartender while in college and he was extremely insecure about where I was going despite being 5 years younger than him, it was pretty clear I would eclipse him. The insecurity is annoying. It wasn't even as if he made bad money or anything …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 07:35 PM
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He's 70 and still working? Yikes.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 07:22 PM
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Most men can't afford a surrogate, most people can't and artificial wombs that can carry a human to term don't exist. Plus men realistically don't want that single parent life. It will be the greatest barrier if they ever do become a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 04:39 PM
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Shut in. Shut in. Shut in. That's the reason. That's it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 08:09 PM
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What passes for redpill teachings these days has diverged from the original messaging and been infiltrated by a lot of trad values. Instead of enjoying the decline there's a fuckton of blatant hatred. Granted in RP there was always some level of dehumanization of women but it was more passive if that makes sense. I'm never going to argue with people being healthier, more well read, happier in their careers, etc but if the only motivation is to get pussy I feel it will always create a void inside…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 06:19 PM
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Men love makeup and plastic surgery on women. They just don't want to know about it, just see the end result.they want women to be beautiful, naturally and polished, with no effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 01:09 PM
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Of course because no one on PPD can fathom a good relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 05:35 PM
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Of course I give him gifts. He is adorable and I want to spoil him. And you get good sex if you communicate and take feedback. Which we both do. So it's a fun time.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 03:57 PM
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Self-esteem shouldn't be at all derived from others and self-esteem shouldn't be based on something as fleeting as physical appearance. Men are very sensitive. Being called out in my experience doesn't work super well. If you acknowledge their attraction it means you care. And every man but my partner is beneath me, and therefore beneath my notice.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 02:12 PM
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I know lots of short ugly married men who earn jack shit. If someone is single the answer is almost always: lack of exposure to the opposite sex. Increase exposure, increase odds. Now if that's not the problem then the answer is: that person is truly unpleasant but doesn't realize it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 01:57 PM
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And that's on me to communicate them truthfully. The male friends I have made myself have never given uncomfortable compliments. It's weirdly my partners friends who became my friends where it's the problem. I don't want to offend them and I don't want to put my partner in a position where he has to tell his friend to potentially damage his friendship. This is generally why I started wearing 3XL stuff. Thanks to Billie Eilish people think its a fashion thing. Generally when someone laments not g…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 01:54 PM
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I prefer no complaints from men on my physical appearance, even my dude friends. Now from women? Bathe me in compliments. I have never felt prettier when I was in Japan and two employees were talking about how cute I was and how pretty my eye makeup was to each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 01:25 PM
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Can't disagree. The most interesting point is men insisting women need men as protectors. It's always amusing when you ask them from what would they be protecting the women from? The answer is other men, which is why they never want to actually answer that question.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 01:21 PM
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You're kind of missing the point, desirable as an entire person. Lack of emotional intelligence and maturity will make you not relationship material. And the post addresses needed a man if you wanted a house back in the day, clearly meaning marriage. No one said we don't like to fuck on occasion.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 01:18 PM
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It depends if the relationship is in a bad place then outside compliments can mean a lot to people. Reinforcement that it isn't them as it were. It's best to just not compliment a taken lady. Even, nice dress, usually translates to wow your tits look amazing in that.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 02:28 AM
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I don't about sex. This is how you get bad sex. I don't want bad sex. If anything I'm overly blunt. "Reverse cowgirl sucks for me because of how curved your dick is, it just hits the wrong spots. I don't want to do it.", "You're going too deep and I'm going to hit you with my legs if you go too far to knock you back if you keep doing it." I do about gifts though. He loves giving me gifts and he prides himself on getting me very good gifts. Sometimes I have to react unauthentically to make him ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 04:09 PM
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My partner and our friend and I were at an event recently and a guy full-on ignored them to interact with me, giving me a gift and clasping my hand directly in front of them. He did it the next day too. So twice. I was like wow the confidence on this dude but also the audacity. My partner was right there. I was with two men. He was taller, more built, and more physically imposing than both of them so I don't think he cared. I have closets full of beautiful boutique clothes but I've started dress…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 03:55 PM
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To some extent I don't even believe that believing reproduction is the sole purpose for existence even aligns with nihilism. I would consider you a natalist. Not a nihilist. Your impulse is to create, not destroy, your belief is to propagate and that is the meaning which is not the absence of meaning. I don't believe life has any particular inherent meaning, not even reproduction, only the one you choose to assign to it for yourself. You can believe what you want and your "nihilism" is likely a …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 04:56 PM
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I'm here for a good time not a long time. Eat the good food. Drink the good booze. See the world. Fuck the man I love. Spend time with friends. Nihilism is for losers. All my homies love ethical hedonism.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 12:56 PM
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Disgust comes from a place. Social pariahs are made by enforcing certain things in a social construct. Making things undesirable is to benefit a certain group of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 12:49 AM
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Well jack the ripper was never caught but violence against women regardless often stems from feelings of insecurity from men. That and the need to control or possess. So far the only things you've put forth are: insecurity and treating women as less than human.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 12:38 AM
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So you are saying 6 is a convoluted way of saying social pressure or internalized social pressure? But you bring up shame which is interesting because it's linked to: insecurity. You couldn't live with your own failure, where did that bring you? Back to insecurity.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 12:07 AM
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Okay so problem, only 4 actually addresses my actual question. I don't need justification on why people can care, I want to know why they do. 4 indicates fear of being cheated on, an insecurity you may not be enough if you will.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 06:28 PM
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I guess my question is, you date a woman, no STDs, she even has completely clean paps so she has no HPV even. She really likes you. Does it matter if she's slept with 1 or 15 people? If it does matter why does it matter?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 02:15 PM
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Setting aside bmi is a terrible indicator since it classifies super muscular people as obese.. Absolutely. I'm attracted to certain weight distributions and shapes that honestly aren't attainable for most people under or at a generic weight. My partner has legs like tree trunks. They are so thick and sturdy, they're genetic not from leg day, and he has broad shoulders. He has the physicality of a fictional character. I don't see men built like him often. With women I like incredibly pear shaped …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 05:14 PM
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Casual arm touches are acceptable in public so are mildly seductive ones. I can't very well go about groping licking my partners thighs in public. As much as I would like to.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 09:40 PM
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Gimme them thick tree trunk thighs. That's the problem. All these chicken legged motherfuckers out there. How am I supposed to be attracted to a man with thin thighs? My partner proudly proclaims it's a family trait his lesbian aunt shares.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 03:13 PM
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I mean my parents divorced and had 50/50 custody. Neither of my step father's "raised me" they just existed in proximity to me. Occasionally more current stepdad would take me to the gun range to shoot. But otherwise my brother and I had not much to do with them. Both had children of their own from previous marriages but had less custody of them and never fought for more. My former stepmother did a lot more "raising" since my dad worked so much in terms of feeding, had some but not much situatio…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 02:33 PM
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Highschool me was all about the subcultures but egl was my scene. Still gyaru is fire. Hyper femme glory.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 01:12 AM
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Honestly go for it. Pam is a queen and gyaru should have never died.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 01:07 AM
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Predators and weirdos.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 12:19 AM
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All women are complaining about fuck bois and single motherhood or some women? Women interested in motherhood or not? Honestly I really do think most women push for commitment because of children and social expectations. Realistically if my partner were to pass away I honestly wouldn't feel very motivated to be in a relationship ever again. My partner is special, I never wanted any man the way I wanted him when we met before or since. It doesn't seem worthwhile to be with another person ever aga…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 06:58 PM
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Again purity isn't something you use, it's a liability that attracts predators and weirdos.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 06:38 PM
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And people acting as if their conclusions aren't informed by personal experiences is disingenuous and laughable. And I did speak generally as well but you ignored that, wonder why? In reality being perceived as being pure and innocent isn't a privilege, it's a weakness. Period. There really isn't any getting around it. "Choosing" purity isn't really a thing. Men are seen as sexually motivated which based on this sub is absolutely true, and you yourself define purity as little to no sex, so by yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 05:19 PM
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Being considered pure and innocent isn't a privilege. It makes you a target and a fetish. Being attractive to a certain kind of despicable man isn't a privilege. It's disheartening speaking from personal experience. I had sex for the first time with a person who regarded my status as frankly concerning and a bit off putting. Men engaging in lots of sex are lauded and inspire envy in other men. Whereas a man who dedicates himself to one woman is whipped a simp or a loser. Same thing with men who …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 03:50 PM
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Classy.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 03:17 PM
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Cite your source.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 01:30 PM
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What country?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 08:59 PM
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What's your language and culture?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 07:55 PM
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I think you could do family annihilation for Florida too. Todt family anyone?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 06:31 PM
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Eh my coworker is currently using the apps. Guys her age absolutely ghost but they also act suspicious and typically ghost after she asks them if they're married. A huge number of people on the apps are looking for affairs but lie about it. The dudes she has hooked up with are all 7-10 years younger than her and only matched with her because they lied about their age because if they hadn't they would have been filtered out. Things haven't gone well though because they've been possessive despite …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 02:46 PM
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What no oxy addiction from back pain?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 02:42 PM
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And this is why you keep your own income stream.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 02:26 PM
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Ahhh I wasn't sure if that was a euphemism based on the states you mentioned.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 02:20 PM
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It's more like there's a tipping point. My partner and I have enough in common but he also has interests that are super technical that makes my eyes glaze over. But I don't consider it boring, it's really cute he has something he's so passionate about. He also is really knowledgeable about the military because he was in the Navy and pretty knowledgeable about philosophy and geopolitics. It may not be my cup of tea but I know that he doesn't share my deep love of horror movies, historical costumi…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 02:17 PM
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Is white people things meth?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 02:01 PM
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My ex flew me out to see him so we could talk. He asked if we could try again. Needless to say I came out ahead because he's stuck with me now.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 01:53 PM
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Half of first time marriages? For which generation? Are we counting that more people are cohabitating and not marrying? The statistics are actually super ambiguous.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 09:46 PM
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Yeah I don't understand why people keep insisting on lying about this kind of thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 09:44 PM
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Because a. She got knocked up b. She's poor c. Religious d. Any or all of the above combination
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 09:30 PM
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Are you on medication for your anxiety? Something like Klonopin?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 02:43 PM
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Have the professionals who diagnosed you been treating you?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 03:20 AM
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Are they situations with women you're attracted to? Or are you also selectively mute with men?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 03:04 AM
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So can you never speak or only in certain situations?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 01:22 AM
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Why are you mute?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 12:59 AM
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No one wants to be a stepmom. It's just something you begrudgingly accept.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 05:44 PM
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Well now that's two lies. Because he's not insecure about his height: it's a shit test. I'm confrontational as shit so I'd probably say he's lying and start a fight. I also hate the idea of dating someone a full foot taller than me. So it's a no from me. I couldn't even kiss him on my tippy toes. I expect men under 6' to fudge their height by 1-2" but I've never ever seen someone subtract 6" from their height. Tbh though in my brief OLD stint I absolutely did not put my best pictures and I over …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 02:43 PM
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Grasp at straws harder.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 02:00 PM
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Since you can't read: Just look at any modern romance media, it's the same trope every time — woman meets a bad boy who realizes the err of his ways and is reformed into the perfect partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 02:58 AM
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That's not what we're talking about? Read the parent comment next time.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 12:41 AM
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So. So many.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 12:22 AM
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And I can tell you're overly invested in this. It's all bought. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 12:21 AM
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With what? Pregnancy do make you pack on the lbs.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 12:21 AM
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They dehydrate prior to shirtless scenes to make muscles pop. There's also makeup contouring involved. But men's testosterone begins dropping in their 30s. They're definitely on TRT especially the men approaching social security age. But none of its natural.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 08:22 PM
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Just like Kylie Jenner's inflated lips was just skillfully applied lip liner.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 08:19 PM
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Brad Pitt in Troy? Fight club? Tom Cruise is 61, his testosterone has dropped like a rock and yet? Anyone who tells you no is selling something. Funny how no one denies the face work though.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 06:36 PM
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Yeah that's what they say to avoid that they're taking roids. But they are. Especially as they age and muscle mass is harder to maintain and build. They are. It's one of Hollywood's worst kept secrets.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 05:39 PM
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It all depends on the person. If a guys passions were sports and cars I would be bored as fuck. This however might really rev up a different lady. You're not going to find one viable strat. Being socially active is great. Having lots of friends and going out will at least make you not seem boring.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 05:37 PM
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Given how quickly these actors are required to change their physiques for roles it's impossible for them to not be on steroids for periods in their careers. Again they also have frequent treatments and mini procedures.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 05:15 PM
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I admit if I were in a dead bedroom situation I would really really struggle. I have hypersexuality which my partner knew before he entered into a relationship with me. I try very hard to not aggressively initiate as much as I used to because I realized it made him feel bad. It was all the time. And I know I can be a lot. He jokes about getting be a girl to play with but I am hyper fixated on sex with him specifically. The thing people never consider about dead bedrooms though is the state of th…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 05:13 PM
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Goddamn King. You dropped your crown.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 04:59 PM
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People always forget most women in these studies have gone through at least one pregnancy. And those things wreck your body.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 04:52 PM
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Plastic surgery and roids is why they look the way they do. They've both also likely had hair transplants to lower their rising hairlines. Not to mention expensive Lazer treatments, filler, and potentially mini facelifts. Nutritionists on staff and personal trainers. They're rich and their looks are of vital importance to their careers. Spending millions to look slightly better is completely standard.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 04:43 PM
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Y'all haven't seen J-Hope in his military uniform. Get you a man who can do both.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 12:52 AM
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Again: not brain surgery. Someplace public. Someplace social. I've been approached at school, bars, clubs, grocery store, work, library, on the bus, on the train, at a convention, etc. Did I say no? Yes but at no point did I fear for my safety, at worst I was annoyed. If you can't figure out where to meet women that's just a... A lack of fundamentally understanding how people and the word works. And honestly what more likely is guys who can't figure it out have: zero, few, and or all male friend…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 06:41 PM
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Bars, clubs, venues for activities (gym is generally a bad idea tho), parties, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 04:54 PM
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Duh that's why I'm saying don't be a fake friend. And again false premise women don't think acquaintances are being fake friends they think men who present themselves as genuine friends are sidling. Remove acquaintances from the equation completely. And not always. I had a friend who was empirically physically attractive. As my male friend said "he was a fucking god 100% would". I just didn't like his personality in a romantic context.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 04:52 PM
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Depends. If you spend the time trashing her ex or current boyfriend and emphasizing what good friends you are, building emotional intimacy my sidling radar is going off. If you hang out once or twice every month in a group setting it's not an issue. There are no hard and fast rules here. Sometimes expressing your interest early actually is best, especially if a few people are interested and sitting on their hands until they think it's a lock. My partner and I were "friends" for like two years be…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 03:07 PM
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If you're in Vegas you get g&t's so long as you're playing. Pretty dope.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 02:44 PM
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It's a sausage fest. Like your odds are shit. You're better off playing blackjack in a casino.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 02:42 PM
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No one is saying don't approach acquaintances. Literally no one. In fact acquaintances and friends of friends are some of the best ways to meet someone. Trying to initiate a romance with someone you were interested in from the start but tried to weasel your way in is what women don't like. Women frequently point out the statistically for OLD, that it's overwhelmingly men. No one is saying OLD is great for men, except men. Approach women in safe public spaces that are appropriate. This isn't brai…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 02:33 PM
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Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 06:53 PM
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Since I was sexually active? 4 months. Masturbation is fun. The biggest issue was dealing with the breakup.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 05:03 PM
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For my partner and I's first date we went to one of those gastro pubs. He bought me mac and cheese and a coke. I don't like appetizers because then I'm not hungry for the entree. Afterwards we walked around and talked but it got late and he needed to prepare for his roommates post birthday brunch the next day so I actually went grocery shopping with him. I thought it was cute how he was going to make brunch for her, her boyfriend, and her friends the next morning. Our dates now tend to be pricey…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 03:47 PM
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I think it depends where you live and which circles you travel in. You'll get a different view if you're in the Midwest vs San Francisco.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 02:57 PM
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I think an increase in school social workers. And health classes that teach children about more than just abstinence like dealing with mental illness would probably help. But children are always going to be dealing with developing brains and everything that comes with it. They're not always going to make the best decisions or be focused on their futures. These things rightfully take time to figure out.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 10:55 PM
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Children have poor impulse control. Their brains are still cooking. https://www.inverse.com/article/35834-teen-breakups-leading-cause-of-suicide
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 10:50 PM
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Nah.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 10:14 PM
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To be fair you don't know what a C cup looks like.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 10:12 PM
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Not really. https://www.instagram.com/p/CueB7VIAS58/?igshid=MmU2YjMzNjRlOQ==
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 10:07 PM
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This actually isn't how cup sizes work and most people have no idea what a DD breast size means.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 10:06 PM
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I've got a worse one. Brothers close friend and coworker has to start paying bills at his house. His dad got laid off from his software development job he had forever. They get into an argument and my brothers friend calls his dad a loser and a failure. Brothers friend finds dad the next morning with a plastic bag on his head hanging from the basement rafters. Cuts him down and tries to give him CPR, but realistically his dad has been dead for hours.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 09:39 PM
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Imagine how his father felt. Again children aren't going to make good decisions about relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 09:31 PM
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My neighbors son in highschool hung himself because his high school girlfriend broke up with him. His dad had to cut him down. When we say these kids brains aren't developed: it's not a joke.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 08:31 PM
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Highschools aren't out there giving kids divorce statistics either, mostly just trying to not have one of their students get pregnant. Teaching children to take relationships seriously to encourage early marriage is what families like the Duggars do. Religious cults and stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 08:29 PM
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Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 04:37 AM
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So like 1. People aren't as closeted as they used to have to be 2. Half of your shit? All of their shit. Not your shit. 3. People generally are really conflicted 4. This has happened with gay men
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 01:02 AM
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The post... The replies... I'm just saying
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 09:01 PM
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No it kinda sounds like a fixation. A very rare scenario to fixate on.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 08:43 PM
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Why does OP ignore all the historical takes?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 08:39 PM
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This is the historical fashion take I showed up for.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 08:33 PM
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What's with this late in life lesbian fixation thing going on?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 08:29 PM
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My dad's smashed multiple fingers and toes, got a metal shred in his eye (running joke that he was wearing his safety glasses: on top of his head), has almost been crushed to death multiple times, fell off a machine and was temporarily paralyzed from the waist down, and had me hold a fire extinguisher on him while he was arc welding something once. Also running joke my dad is Tony Stark. But I think any young guy would look at his job and be like fuck this. It's why I roll my eyes whenever men h…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 08:15 PM
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Hi! Bi lady here. It's the same in the kink community, where there is no restrictions on being single. Less cargo shorts though and more black jeans and button ups but yeah the women are generally significantly more attractive and put more effort into themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 07:14 PM
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No it's not. They're written off as loones. You don't want to pay for beef Wellington don't. Who cares. You either get dates or you don't. Whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 03:51 PM
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Then why is everyone always complaining?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 03:33 PM
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My dad works in a factory. His hands are grey because the oil is trapped under layers of callous. His hands feel like sand paper. My dad actually likes what he does. He is also always remodeling his and everyone's house, fixing things for people, repairing cars, etc. I always say my dad can fix anything even if it's not broken. He likes being the go to guy, it gives him purpose. I told my dad I was having surgery and I would be on the first floor of my home for a few weeks before I was allowed t…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 03:02 PM
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If it's pretty obvious isn't it easy to avoid? And if it happens correct me if I am wrong the worst that happens is a guy pays for dinner and doesn't get a second date or sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 02:44 PM
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Is this just men being mad there are fat girls out there with pretty faces cleaning up? And they're within a normal BMI but don't get play so they're trying to do this weird creation of a societal norm that actually doesn't exist. Because the words butter face exist for a reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 01:57 PM
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Personally not a fan. Mostly because growing up I saw the physical toll the "manly" jobs took on the men around me. They're completely ground down in their mid 40s. Also the resentment they carry for jobs that are considered more prestigious and where higher education is required. The "male essence" leaves out the torn rotator cuffs and spinal disc degeneration. I personally love IT nerds. If I need someone to fix my fence I'll throw money at someone. I don't want to see my partner break apart h…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 01:56 AM
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Intro to psych was earlier but like 2015 for later classes. Gotta pump that GPA with blow off classes.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 05:13 PM
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No one in the class was. The professors weren't either. The only time I was in a class where everyone hated someone was because it was the "um actually" dude that just annoyed the shit out of the whole class.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 05:07 PM
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Nail on the head with criticizing other male friends. It's like why do you hate William? You guys have been friends longer and he's a cool dude. But just mad like actively mean shit talking. They're trying to make sure you don't go for anyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 04:12 PM
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My high school got a state grant and they got all the equipment for circuit training. So we learned to use equipment safely. Gym wasn't about competing it was about physical activity. After school sports where you tried out and made the team were about competing.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 04:08 PM
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Zero of my psych classes were like this. Not 101. Not developmental. Not abnormal. We covered Jung, the Milgram experiment, schizophrenia, never how terrible men are. We had people drop because of bad test scores but not because of male persecution.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 04:05 PM
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If men are aiming to appeal to the female gaze they wouldn't dress the way they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 01:41 PM
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I can say I have never been mesmerized by a man's overwhelming manliness. But I am feral. Men now are not brave or hunters or anything like that. They're Steve from IT. Some are predatory but that's like a rapist. I think with harems the things people forget is no one actually ever wanted to be in them for the dude. Proximity to power/wealth and a life of comfort. Never the dude. People fall for toxic people because people who are manipulative are really good at manipulation.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 01:06 PM
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I think you're forgetting something. Men react when you reject them, and tell on themselves in the confession. "I've always liked you, from the moment I first saw you." "I've wasted all this time!" "So you can go back to your fucking ex!? You dumb bitch." Etc. It's often not assumption. It's based off of what men say.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 12:53 PM
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Sometimes I think men want to be a heroine in a romance novel. Walking down the street where a woman is struck by his quiet beauty. It's a bit funny. It reminds me of all the romance novels where the woman is described as being as common as possible so women can see themselves in her. Is the equivalent harem anime?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 03:19 AM
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Acquaintances work best. Mutual friends. Or at a social event that establishes mutual interest. Not in the frozen food section.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 06:24 PM
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Acquaintances. Don't pretend to have like some deep friendship.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 06:22 PM
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Because I have a man and when I didn't I was not interested in randos.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 05:46 PM
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I can't take anyone seriously who uses mate in reference to human relationships. Unless it's like in a British way.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 05:45 PM
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Oh so now we're breaking it out into pieces of the body? Beta hairline? Alpha hands?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 03:25 PM
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Which he classifies as what kids? "ALPHA MALE!" Thats right kids!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 02:55 PM
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You've clearly never been to a trailer park. Kyle has 7 kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 02:25 PM
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And then comes the fucking.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 02:19 PM
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If they're approaching me with romantic intent and have no interest in friendship: yes. Shoot your shot and fail.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 02:17 PM
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And bonobo moneys are lead by female monkeys and resolve conflict via sex. Also Macaques are baby rapists. I have a friend who is a primatologist. Human "alphas" are made up.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 02:15 PM
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Explain trailer parks.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 02:09 PM
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Yes and went on to define it and comment on the difference between a healthy and non healthy alpha. He's absolutely appealing to the concept.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 02:06 PM
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Throughout human evolution, the traits of an "alpha" male have often been associated with leadership, confidence, and strength. However, it's essential to differentiate between a healthy alpha male and one who exhibits domineering or aggressive behavior. You sure about that?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 06:29 AM
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They do not. But okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 03:28 AM
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And some things are a collection of beliefs or practices mistakenly regarded as being based on scientific method. Like the alpha thing. And most of the arguments are about feminism are just men saying feminism is something it isn't or like not understanding waves and shit. I'm not angry about anything. Just being honest. If there's an "alpha" there's a "beta" etc. You can't all be alphas. Just like you couldn't all be royals or knights or merchants or farmers or paupers.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 03:27 AM
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Do they need a definition? A rake? A lothario? A jock? A hunk? A Chad? An alpha? Seems the word can be applied to any many of any stature, build, or attitude; so long as he's successful with women. Men classify eachother because they wish to dominate other men and understand themselves in a hierarchy. If you're on the bottom you have to like lift and watch your macros and you too can be the top of the hierarchy, whatever we're calling it this decade.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 03:17 AM
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I mean some zoos only have two wolves. Although that one at that one zoo did murder the other wolf so 1... I guess. But like opposable thumbs? Ability to use tools? Speech? More complex brains? The internet? Air planes? Sporks? Swedish massage? Wage slavery? We're not wolves.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 03:00 AM
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If someone doesn't want to be my friend that is okay. But don't pretend to be my friend in the hopes I'll fuck you at some point and if that is your goal be up front about it so you can be dead to me sooner rather than later.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 02:57 AM
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It's not though. Because the definitions aren't consistent because it's a concept someone made up online after reading something about wolves, and then people added onto it and took parts away. Then they created other types thanks to the fucking Greek alphabet so now you can be the cooler sigma male some dude just made up after jacking off to hentai who has no friends. It creates an easy classification to glorify and put down other men. Men just found another way to create and trap each other in…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 02:47 AM
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Not really.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 02:38 AM
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Beauty standards for women have changed over time. In the past they were based on physical health and weath specific to that region. The US is interesting because it's a mixing pot but also it's media is influential world wide and influences other countries. As previous beauty standards are diminished and changed men seem to get more and more angry, that they don't cater to their personal preferences. As for men, men only ever do anything to impress other men. Men are again angry that the kind o…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 12:56 AM
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Right only captive wolves.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 12:48 AM
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I think there are dick measuring contests among men, and they vary based on group, but I don't particularly think it has much of an impact on women. Men live to impress other men. Even their pursuit of women is often just to impress other men.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 11:44 PM
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Not the word, the concept. It's basically just pseudo science bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 11:16 PM
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So then why does the wealthier man simply not eat the poorer man?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 11:15 PM
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So it's made up.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 10:16 PM
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Oh totally mutant babies only.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 09:50 PM
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30 years old and all the eggs are rotted and sperm is dust.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 09:46 PM
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GIVE US CHILDREN.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 09:42 PM
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I thought we all knew the concept of an alpha male was from a study of captive wolves and debunked?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 08:24 PM
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Yes absolutely. You're 30. It's over. Time to die alone. No one could ever genuinely love a 30+ man. Every single woman who would be willing to date such a mutant is clearly only doing it for money or babies because a single man of 30 something has nothing to offer anyone besides those two things. Give us children pls. Okay sarcasm over. Jesus if he doesn't want to be single then: yes obviously. If a guy doesn't want to date: then don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 08:22 PM
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Uh no. Sterilization is between a person and their doctor. I would hope someone would have a discussion with their partner prior to their surgery but if the partner doesn't like the decision and does want children: they can leave. Plain and simple. There are people who choose sterilization without any partner so they can enter into a relationship with everything final, so there is no maybe they'll change their mind. If someone regrets not having kids? IVF? Adoption? What if they regret having ki…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 06:28 PM
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Again if your interest is never being friends in the first place: don't pretend to be. Problem solved.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 05:09 PM
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So I think your perception of friendships with women is pretty off. I have some close guy friends and I value the heck out of them. They're great guys and we have common interests so they're fun to hang out with and shoot the shit. I often give them advice as well, it can be romantic, career, or financial, just like I do for my girlfriend's. I don't expect them to carry heavy boxes or any of the shit you just said. It's very weird that's what you think friendship is. It honestly feels made up. T…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 05:02 PM
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I said they did better because if they were not they were punished harder. I know that's what you said. I don't agree. If the consequence of a behavior is more harshly punished, you are more likely to change it than when the punishement is lesser. This doesn't make sense by your own logic because then men would be proud at masking right? Because women are just seen as cute according to you. And changing the behavior IS masking..... Yes. And women are better at masking. Well okay then dont ask so…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 02:04 PM
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He was never overweight or anything. He had a pretty cute hobby where he did like wrestling. He was literally out there shirtless, and pantless performing. A lot of the guys who do it weren't built like him though. I think the insecurity was mostly his height but he was taller than me so 🤷‍♀️ I just need flexibility in my life. That's all. If having muscles helps you that's cool. It's just not for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 01:54 PM
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I like flexibility in life. It's important.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 10:38 PM
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And people respond well to authenticity, but only if it's likeable authenticity. If your authenticity is to be a bullish know it all people won't like you.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 05:20 PM
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You missed the point purposefully or it fly over your head i dont know what to say about that. You didn't make a point. Yeah because they have even harder social punishment for it so yeah and the "You cant be autistic you are too cute" That's not what masking is. They flat out mask better than men. It was an exemple but there is no pill for autism...moreover it does not treat the issue. Enforcing too much social norm and punishing harshly the ppl who dont fit. You can't force people to like some…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 05:18 PM
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Its like saying ppl poop....but if you need to poop 2kg every day it's an issue. It's really not. That's a very silly thing to say. The mask for neurodivergent folk is way heavier because they have to inhibe A LOT more than other ppl because the way of thinking, see, etc is way more different. They shower that ppl with ADHD had like 45% more connections so 45% more though/ stimulation and they we wonder why they tend to be sensory overloaded.... And I get that but it's interesting women with aut…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 03:45 PM
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So what I have noticed with people on the spectrum, especially men, is that they express themselves in a way that comes across as not having manners which is a huge problem. Info dumping, monopolizing conversations: rude. Difficulty concentrating, irritability, agitation: rude. Bluntness: rude. Struggling with volume control: rude. This doesn't register for a lot of autistic people. And unless someone is aware of your diagnosis and knowledgeable about autism this won't register for them either. …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 03:01 PM
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I mean neurodivergent people should mask. We all mask. Even neurodivergent people. I have my work mask, my close friends mask, my acquaintance mask, my immediate family mask, we're different people to everyone. We all try to not rudely dominate a conversation. We all try to be mindful of the people around us. Unless you just don't give a fuck about other people but that's not charisma, that's just being an asshole.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 01:37 PM
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It has nothing to do with my feelings. I eliminated guys who got too excited I hadn't had sex yet from consideration and chose a guy who was iffy about it. Doesn't bug me. The body count thing bothers me because mine is low and only fucking creeps I would never date let alone fuck were into it. So everytime I see it I just think oh you poor dumb bastards. If you have better examples of experiences that are actually achievable by men please do share. Again financially a lot of experiences aren't …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 12:58 PM
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Well with that mindset sure. It's just one thing. Pick one thing to improve your life and go. Or don't and rot a failure. Ultimately I can't choose for people.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 12:52 PM
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It's called rizz sweaty.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 03:21 AM
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See second paragraph. Then read first paragraph. Keep going.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 12:40 AM
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Everyone in my entire life that I have known says you're incorrect. Including my own. Men absolutely think about class, not for casual sex but for relationships absolutely. They want the approval of others. Other men. Their family. Why take an attractive poor girl when you can have an attractive woman who will make money? In terms of men wanting to be first that way be you but not all other men. Not all men want the hassle of dealing with virgins either. But again it's probably a reflection of y…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 06:06 PM
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If they don't put in the time or effort yes that is true. However it is never too late to focus on improving your life. Going to community college on a Pell grant. Gaining technical certifications. Going to a trade school. Joining hiking clubs, running clubs, fuck an adult kickball league. It's never too late to try. It just takes effort. For the people who did succeed in their 20s while you may not recognize the effort it was there. They did grind to get a good job. They did put in the work mai…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 05:38 PM
2

Same. My dad didn't want my mom as a SAHM. Or working her shitty paying job working with disabled adults. It's why she went to nursing school.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 02:46 PM
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But even if a man were in the same circle say stopping at a McDonald's to grab a hash brown they're still not going to ask the cute cashier out. They know she has no education or is in school still. They know their life experiences are different. But also they want someone of the same class as them.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 02:45 PM
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Generally lying. "I'm not in a relationship.", "I'm only looking for something serious", etc. Then we have the absolutely insidious shit: "of course I'll wear a condom", "no I am clean, I was just tested" That being said I have personally never been lied to where it resulted in sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 02:39 PM
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My partner likes to joke I don't know any better when I compliment him on the fucking. He's objectively amazing. I know a few of him FWB prior to our relationship and they're also like yep he has magic hands. So I tell him he has impeccable references. This never fails to shut him up. If you orgasm multiple times, every time, it's damn good. It's not about incompatibility all the time. Sometimes it's just someone is too aggressive with their tongue or just jackhammers or is constantly flipping y…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 02:35 PM
0

I dated a guy who was extremely into diet and fitness very briefly. It was annoying. I let him know I wasn't interested in dating him but was down for play sessions. He got extremely jealous and his gym schedule was annoying. It had nothing to do with my insecurity, it was his. If a guy is so incredibly inflexible it's usually because he's insecure and terrified of going back to whatever he looked like before and losing the approval of other men. I don't mind meal planning because it's efficient…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 02:07 PM
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We thank you for your service.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 01:12 AM
0

When did men invent romance? Before or after they treated their wives and daughters like property?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 12:43 AM
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I don't. I have a partner. When I was single I preferred to know them a bit first, cold approach would be a dead ass fail. I'm not wary of all men there are just places and times where it's appropriate and even then men fuckup and say inappropriate shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 08:25 PM
1

It's not hard to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 08:15 PM
10

Wealth consolidation is the problem. It has nothing to do with population. It has nothing to do with a liveable wage being unsustainable. Our government doesn't function. We're effectively an oligarchy with extra steps.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 06:11 PM
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Again male attention comes with potential danger. Not getting it also means less threat. It also comes with ulterior motive so it's not genuine. Some women don't see that. I know women who love male validation but they also had their mothers tell them they were too fat or their tits were fucked up and no man would love them. There's damage there and I think men who live for random compliments have damage too. You ultimately choose how much value others attention and validation matters to you. I …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 05:03 PM
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In sickness and in health I do. VS I'd like to date someone I'm attracted to and no we aren't dating the same 15-20% of men and Joseph M. Juran is rolling in his grave.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 04:22 PM
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Because men can seriously hurt you? Stalk you? Threaten you? Plus sexual assault is sexual assault any way you slice it. It's not "attention". Street harassment starts for girls at a very young age. 9-12 usually. And it happens throughout our lives. Usually vile things are said too. Even when things are said respectfully, not "damn you got a fat ass and you're a white girl", we know it's in the hopes we'll say thank you and become interested romantically or sexually. It is attention with the hop…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 04:11 PM
1

Campsite rule?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 03:46 PM
1

My friend is married to a guy she is significantly more attractive than. He had a thing for her in highschool and they remained friends the entire time and basically she fell in love with him via midnight Taco Bell stops and talking. One of the things she references wistfully and not infrequently is when her husband cried on their honeymoon. He had never been on something so nice, he had a hard life and she loves that moment. That he was willing to drop the walls and cry in front of her and in a…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 02:05 PM
5

I don't know of anyone who has had this complaint.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 01:47 PM
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Realistically the women doing this are young women. There's a lot of pressure and shame around abortion exerted from family and society in general. I mean roe v wade was overturned. In some states getting an abortion is straight up illegal. Women who have a pregnancy where they have a fetus that will not survive birth are being forced to deliver their soon to be dead children, sometimes endangering their own lives in the process. And that's just the US. The conversation often revolves around "pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 01:44 PM
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He can't because he'd have to admit when he says holding women accountable, what he means is punishing "sluts" with children. Children who will grow up unwanted and damaged by it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 01:35 PM
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I have never complained about that and neither have any of my friends. Stage 5 clingers: yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 10:11 PM
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Had the same potential to be horny, cruel, dumb, boring, pushy, and shallow as any guy. We just had a few mutual interests.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 09:19 PM
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Nerdy guys will be sweet, intelligent, and respectful. Thanks high school for setting me straight.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 08:56 PM
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Yeah the nice tits comment doesn't make sense because it's objectification, it's dehumanizing and bad. Whereas husband material is like wow based on looks, personality, and stability that's a man I would like to go on vacation with and give blowjobs for the rest of my life. It's a total package eval.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 05:14 PM
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No you were going off an incorrect urban dictionary entry. You're talking about NLOGs. Not saying there's no overlap with pick mes but it's like a venn diagram.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 03:55 PM
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There are excellent paying blue collar jobs. Welders for example. Skilled trades are where it's at. But I would worry for their physical health. Ultimately I wouldn't date someone making 40k. I don't want to fight about money all the time because I make way more and I would like them to contribute to retirement and cost of living. Had it been when I was younger making very little? Sure. But only if they were working towards something.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 03:52 PM
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Dude we're not going to want to spend our lives with someone not fuckable if we have a semblance of a libido. It's in the package of long term partnership material. Like is your girlfriend fucking you on the regular? Does she initiate? Does she also want to marry you? Congratulations you're husband material and sexually validated. We can't figure out if you're sexually appealing until we actually fuck you because you may be selfish and lazy. But we gotta make sure it's safe first.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 03:28 PM
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It's just kind of starting a post off by saying: I have no idea what I am talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 03:19 PM
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So probably a bad start to define NLOGs as pick-mes.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 02:17 PM
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Eh when I worked extremely low paying jobs they were harder than my current job that pays a lot more. Putting in more money isn't necessarily more work.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 12:23 PM
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76-100k+. Get on my level, or at least close. This is a relationship not a build a bitch. I am not putting my foot up a guys ass to force him to develop his career. Realistically we're not getting social security so let's fucking play this bullshit capitalism game and retire early.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 03:18 AM
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I'm not going to bullshit and say international travel and retirement aren't important to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 06:58 PM
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Lump: Comes home, sits in front of a computer or TV, doesn't interact with friends in person much if ever. Doesn't plan or even like attending outings or events. Gets annoyed by family events because he'd rather lump in front of a screen than do pretty much anything else. He feels working 40 hours is enough to excuse him from doing anything else despite his partner also doing that or more.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 06:57 PM
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Depends. Does he make enough to travel internationally multiple times a year, contribute to his 401k, and the household? Or is he only making like 50k? Does he have anything else he's really passionate about that's cool? Like is he really into volunteering or wood working in his free time? Because childfree is awesome but I wouldn't want a lump either. Or someone who doesn't understand my mindset with work.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 12:33 PM
4

Getting the best years. As opposed to those worse ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 11:14 PM
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Distillation.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 10:24 PM
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You wrote way more than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 06:36 PM
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From you. What you wrote essentially boils down to that.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 06:03 PM
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And the over prioritization of "young love" is problematic. It's usually messy and fucked up and not all that great. Because it's just you finding out damn this person wasn't who I thought they were. Or damn I was never really that into them, I was just wasting time. As a woman being sexually desired means nothing. Unless it's by someone you desire. Then it matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 05:36 PM
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Does it? And does this mean that men just want low effort sex? Does this mean men just don't view women as people but holes?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 05:25 PM
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All I am hearing is men just want to fuck young women and don't care about personality or value or anything beyond looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 05:20 PM
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The passed around by Chad is a myth. Realistically she and Josh got into a fight and broke up.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 05:18 PM
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I find it kind of fucked up men view being viewed as being someone that a woman wants to spend the rest of her life with and fuck exclusively a bad thing. I also find it weird men think women actively think teehee I'm in my slut phase rather than being serial monogamists in their 20s and all the guys they did sleep with were men they were in relationships with who they decided weren't good enough. Dudes fantasize about these men "pumping and dumping" but really it's more likely a guy turning to …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 12:53 PM
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Coffee dates are basically like interviews. You have those with recruiters. I like activity dates. Parks, museums, mini golf, etc. You have fun, relate through the activity, then conversation springs from that instead of two people sitting down where the guy is figuring out how long until you fuck and the girl is figuring out if you just want to fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 02:56 AM
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Me too. It's because it doesn't go with the rest of my house, it doesn't fit in there.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 07:02 PM
1

Okay I would probably pick a different color because people are just going to call it greencardpill.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 06:22 AM
2

We're doing fantasy? All IPV stops All harassment and stalking stops People stop lying about what they want out of a relationship, full transparency.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 04:45 PM
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Not really. Money has value. Tinder matches do not.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 12:24 PM
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No. No one's really ugly, just poor. People who struggle with dating just aren't socializing with the opposite sex enough or at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 01:06 AM
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My friend is 42 and currently doing the online dating thing. She is getting lots of interest from men in their 30s, many of whom have admitted to lying about their age because women her age would have them filtered out if they told the truth. There are men closer to her age that she is horrified by. They all look more or less the same: white, shaved head, goatee, single father, hefty dad bod. Then there are men in their 50s and 60s lying about being in their 40s. It almost seems like women in th…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 02:59 PM
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I am 5'4". My friend is 6'4" it was his birthday and I hugged him and his head was easily over mine. I feel 6'4" is too tall. Generally I prefer 5'7" to 5'11". Not that I would ever completely dismiss someone based on their height. I just don't like being towered over.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 02:52 PM
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Or go with me: both parties are in relationships and are just friends. And those relationships they are in started as just friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 06:11 PM
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Why are you so obsessed with this guy being attractive? Like he's not for everyone. His face looks like he has Botox droop. Women don't hit the age of old&ugly and forget what they were like at 20.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 03:07 PM
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Well they won't all fit in my blouse and accessory closet so it's very necessary.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 03:00 PM
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Most people are just a rectangle or pear. Not an apple shape, which is when you retain a certain proportion of belly fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 05:24 AM
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Hard disagree. Women's fat distribution is far more varied than men's. Men are far more standard issue man.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 08:37 PM
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Attractive and well off. I can have both. Not choosing between a false hypothetical that doesn't apply to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 04:41 PM
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Okay this is outright biological ignorance. Having larger muscles is a direct effect of testosterone. Or ya know: working out. If it were just testosterone more men would be muscular. Weight lifting is great for women as it improves bone density which women lose as they age. tennis and golf swings are not based on muscles, they are based on rotation of the whole body. Power for drives and serves. There are entire gold and tennis specific weight training regiments professionals use. Can you just …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 04:28 PM
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Having muscles is inherently masculine. It's not. They do not lift weights with the goal of being muscular. and the majority of tennis and golf training is NOT based off of weight lifting. Yes they do. They want more power in their swing or serve. Muscles do that. Believe it or not muscles are functional. Well your a masculine woman then. No you just have an incorrect idea of what femininity is. You did describe my 13 year old niece though to a t.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 04:19 PM
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you are generalizing here. Do you think tennis or golf pro women athletes are weak ? Why is lifting weights only for men? Do you think pro tennis and golf players don't incorporate weight lifting into their fitness routines? Do you think Serena Williams doesn't lift weights? My point is femininity for me is about doing things in line with a woman's biological or physical presentation. They should recognize some forms of activity as more geared for men, like lifting weights, or swatting spiders, …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 04:13 PM
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I hit 1,2, and 5 just fine. My blush stash, separate dress closet, and squishable collection are impressive. It's 3,4, and 6 I'm concerned about. Those are all just weak and childish. My question is why do you define femininity as being scared, weak, being taken care of, and enjoying stuffed animals?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 03:57 PM
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I gotta say that was my initial very skeeved out impression.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 03:48 PM
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No. I don't even notice the vast majority of men exist. I could ride the train with the same guy everyday and not tell you what he looks like or ever even notice he was there. You can't consider someone unattractive if you don't consider them at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 02:27 PM
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Because you're the one who keeps saying you're not attracted to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 02:21 PM
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Average doesn't mean not attractive if women are generally more attractive. I definitely think grooming plays a big part with men because they all look the same and start to bleed together. There's nothing to distinguish them so you just look past them. It's not that women and men would be similar looks wise though even if they did something about their dress and grooming.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 01:40 PM
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Again idolization. What you want to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 01:29 PM
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If they were more distinguishable and displayed personality and expression through their adornments: I would likely find more men attractive than I do currently. How am I supposed to tell a bunch of white guys apart in the same black shirt same blue jeans and same mouse brown hair? You can be a delicious candy bar but if your wrapper isn't attention grabbing, well designed, appealing no one will think to buy you. As much as women? Not sure. Estrogen features are very compelling.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 05:14 AM
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You're expressing idolization. Not attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 05:11 AM
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I'm sure there are like some women who are Kinsey 1's and 2's and men who are Kinsey 4's and 5's but yeah most of the bi folk I know men and women do prefer women.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 02:49 AM
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It's more men are more generic? It's not that they need to fit into a narrow mold, it's that there are only a couple of molds men decide to shove themselves into it's like a bunch of indistinguishable assembly line dudes. Men self police to a shocking degree. Saw a guy in a really beautiful floral button up called gay for it. Don't step outside the uniform. Plain solid colors. Same 5 haircuts. No jewelry. 2 styles of glasses. It's like the character customization is very limited.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 02:47 AM
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Grooming is a part of attractiveness yes. But overall women are just more attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 02:45 AM
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Rarely but men are usually less attractive than women overall. Don't come for me I'm bi and I'm just speaking facts.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 01:34 AM
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Honestly it looks like he's suffering from Botox droop.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 11:02 PM
2

Being on reality TV doesn't make you an actor or celebrity. It makes you that one guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 10:58 PM
2

Type of followers, engagement, and follower spikes.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 10:03 PM
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"Actor" "I took the red pill" Pays for Instagram followers 90% of pics are him in swim trunks This guy is corny as hell.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 09:49 PM
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He's what men want to look like, he's not the ideal for women. Men confuse their male ideal with what women want, primarily because if the male ideal isn't what women want then that means men have to strive to be something they don't fantasize about becoming if attracting lots of women is their priority. Men are essentially in the early stages of what women started decades ago. Saying yeah I don't really care if I'm the male ideal I'm going to do my own thing and if people like it: great, if not…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 09:43 PM
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I have literally never seen any of these arguments. Ever. What are you talking about? Even with women in foreign countries the issue isn't education that's brought up, it's the relative income disparity and desire for citizenship of another country for themselves and often their family. I will say I met the father of my nieces on my partners side. He was asking me if I was in tech like my partner and I explained no, I was in my field and his response was so weird. It was "yeah with him being so …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 04:44 AM
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No. Not most men. Some men don't. But they're usually deeply flawed and have no reason to have choosing power. Why should someone who brings nothing to the table have the ability to get exactly what they want? Women wanting commitment reinforces mens ability to choose.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 03:13 PM
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Eh that's a huge fallacy. Attractive doesn't mean problems unless the problem is other men looking at her and the man having a jealousy problem. I also think it's bullshit women see men as a loss, it's a fear men have. Am I the best she's ever have? Was her ex more attractive? It's called insecurity. Men dating in their 30s know they weren't compelling enough to be locked down in their 20s.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 03:09 PM
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I think that's not accurate at all. Men absolutely have choosing power, just not all men. It's insane to me guys here act as though there aren't women dying for their situationship to commit or long term girlfriends obsessed with their boyfriend proposing.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 03:07 PM
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Y'all realize men don't marry the woman they're most sexually attracted to either. "Girl you can bring home to mom" anyone?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 12:27 PM
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I've seen it in men and women. They want the outcome but not to be acquainted with what it takes to get there. A person has a high paying high responsibility job and they other person likes the financial security but hates that they rarely see their partner and when they do they're burnt out. People want fit partners but don't want to hear about their gym routine or see them measuring and weighing food or turning down date night to hit their macros.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 07:03 PM
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Oh I did the hentai succubus contract deal with my partner so I only bang him per my magical succubus contract. The dick too good. Something something about his magical sperm being the only thing that keeps me full. But also dude you clearly don't read much succubus hentai. Most involve preying on a singular protagonist.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 03:28 PM
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Finally confirmation I am not a woman, but a succubus.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 03:15 PM
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You are just stating that there are overlaps between dark triad traits and those shown as a whole by autistic people despite the fact that these diseases being pretty much the opposite of each other neurologically and symptomatically. Some Your entire other point was ‘oh, the researchers are just biased in trying to defend autism.’ Yes. Autism advocacy. It's a thing. Anyway you are just trying to convince yourself that the reason that women dislike autistic men is because they are actually, like…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 12:43 PM
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Like the guy with a good welder job at the factory who has barbeques in his backyard?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 12:20 AM
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There is overwhelmingly evidence women prefer attractive men. Dark triad doesn't factor in. Psychopaths literally have difficulty maintaining interpersonal relationships. I feel like "bad boy" really just means: "guy who's better looking than me and has the life I want therefore he is an asshole." There is absolutely overlap between autistic men and dark triad traits. They just lack the key ingredient of risk taking behavior and not giving a fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 09:37 PM
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I am saying there are common presenting traits across both, not that the reason for them is the same, and not that they share all traits. I am saying how the traits present to a person who is unaware of the person's diagnosis, lack of empathy is lack of empathy regardless when interacting with people. Also not all autistic people have alexithymia it's just more common than among the general population. Many autism advocates are attempting to rebrand autistic traits so that people look at the beh…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 09:29 PM
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Okay but losers can have NPD and be cold and immoral. None of these things are attractive. These are just mental defects and have no indicators of it they'll succeed. In fact many traits of the dark triad are can be found in autistic men, renowned for not doing well with women. Narcissism: a lack of empathy; Machiavellianism: emotional coldness and a focus on self-interest; Psychopathy: continuous antisocial behavior, impulsivity, selfishness, callous and unemotional traits So I'm not buying thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 08:09 PM
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They're also not the highest quality people. No one who works in the prison system is.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 04:14 PM
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I have always been romantic. I have always with great frequency walked up to my partner and said "gimme that dick" or "I am approaching you with romantic intent".
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 02:59 PM
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Maybe for you but blech for me. My mom also worked in the ER and called them donorcycles and called helmets brain buckets. But it's not like you can feel even sorry about it because they drive so unsafe, speed and weave through traffic, they do it to themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 02:43 PM
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Are we though?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 02:34 PM
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Oh that's a good point. They suck in rain and snow. Just so impractical.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 02:33 PM
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That's what I am starting to suspect because no one can seem to explain what it is!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 01:56 PM
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...in prison?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 01:35 PM
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Of course attraction matters but all the other stuff keeps you from beating your head into a wall every time they open their mouth. Like you can find someone attractive but they don't meet your other quals. It's how it works.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 01:33 PM
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This is how people go to jail dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 01:15 PM
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But I hate motorcycles. They're loud, have no air-conditioning and mess up my hair. Also waste of money. Like there are so many better uses for that kind of money.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 01:14 PM
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What is a, I hate this turn of phrase, "bad boy". What are the characteristics? Does he drive a motorcycle wearing a black leather jacket and brush his pompadour with a switchblade comb?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 01:12 PM
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They're actually in opposition to incels... Unless you're saying they're the same thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 01:09 PM
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It takes all kinds. But if you want to make fun of people's looks go ahead a post pics yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 01:03 PM
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You said people who are struggling and lonely just have high standards. Then proceed to post people who you think are unattractive people who repost crazy things incls say. Except you accidentally post someone who actually is a self identifying Incl who gets his posts deleted because they're Inc*l initiated.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 01:02 PM
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Being a conservative doesn't just mean voting republican. It's a way of life. Those women aren't conservative. Attractive liberal women who get with conservative men for their traditional values are more conservative than they are. I repeat: no true Scotsman fallacy. Also politics are one of the reasons so many millennial and gen z men are single, turns out women aren't a big fan of conservative men anymore. Conservative ideology is synonymous with social hierarchy which ambition is a fundamenta…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 12:58 PM
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That's what I'm saying 2 is a literal Incel.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 02:24 AM
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So it's actually 2 that's the incel. 6 just needs a haircut.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 12:42 AM
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Traumatic childhood core memory.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 11:48 PM
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I said attractive to me? It's literally first.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 11:19 PM
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I mean the conversations don't go quite like that. Usually more: Man: god women live life on easy mode they have no idea how hard it is to be a man all these women want us to pay for dates and they're not even sexually productive (actual term someone used yesterday). So in comparison it makes this man's particular complaint seem a bit... Dumb.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 11:10 PM
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TOM 1. That was my TOM.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 11:06 PM
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RIP TOM.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 11:04 PM
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I don't believe in marriage. It's for religious people and people who want ankle biters.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 10:54 PM
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Like I said if you're into boomer woman that's cool. GILFS. Different strokes for different folks.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 10:45 PM
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Oh no not into boomer mom's.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 09:59 PM
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Childfree doesn't mean doesn't have kids currently. It means never wanting children at all and not having them ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 09:56 PM
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Someone who lives in a trailer park isn't a conservative. They are a liberal racist. Nope. Don't no true scotsman this shit. I also didn't say your partner couldn't have some liberal views, but he also inherently has to have conservative economic views to be ambitious which you said "no conservative views". Actually I said no conservativepolitics. But there are no conservative economic views required to be ambitious. He went to college. Studied for certifications. Grew in his career and was alwa…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 09:44 PM
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Nah.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 09:35 PM
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You didn't check if the users were actually adversarial incels though did you? Because I did. And they're there.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 09:31 PM
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Tasteful? Maybe if you don't want to see it you shouldn't be on a sub that discusses sex and gender issues? And no one's putting you as parallel to murderers, rapists, or wife beaters. No one is talking about you specifically.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 09:26 PM
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That's a contradiction in itself. lmao Nah. My partner is extremely ambitious and a leftist. I know lots of trailer park conservatives who will never make an effort to do anything with their lives but collect social security disability for that one "back injury".
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 09:15 PM
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Acknowledging something is a problem doesn't mean never talking to another man again, but to be forewarned is forearmed. It's good to know things like the cycle of abuse, what love bombing looks like, and that the most dangerous time for a woman in an abusive relationship is when she tries to leave. What's weird to me is why do men absolutely melt down when something like this is brought up? Like you're not going to murder your wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 09:05 PM
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It does. Because being shocked by violence and murder stats has nothing to do with not liking men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 08:57 PM
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Because they announce they're going to beat and or kill you upfront.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 08:55 PM
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Like I said if it makes you feel better.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 08:53 PM
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Yup. God forbid a man feel genuine affection while having strong boundaries.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 08:24 PM
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Everything but the FFXIV. That's an add on since I didn't go hard on it until after we started dating. Prior it would have just been willing to play videogames with me. And through dating: yes. Some I knew up front, we were both in college, I found him attractive, and he had strong friendships with men and women (we met through mutuals). Everything else came up later. Some of it faster than others politics came up while we were in the talking phase and a number of other things like his extensive…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 08:21 PM
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Nah because when we met initially I was 21 and dating anyone too much older would have been super weird. Don't be mad I got what I want.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 08:17 PM
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Half of the items on your list are nebulous moving targets like “have ambition” and “don’t punch down” Not really Who gets to define what ambition means at any given moment? That would be you. Sorry about that, I should clarify: career ambition. For example, If a guy has an “ambition” to restore a classic car or rebuild an engine or get in shape, apparently that would not only not count but also make him unattractive to you because the other parts of your list basically say “I don’t want a guy w…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 08:15 PM
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Nah just ensuring compatibility. Also clearly not since I got a man who meets all criteria.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 08:06 PM
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It's true, groups of men feel like hunting parties. But developing less solitary hobbies and going to places other than bars and clubs is a good path. Best path is make friends with your friends significant others.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 08:05 PM
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I mean yeah. It's why I have no shame in having the list. I am a hardcore committed monogamist so compatibility is really important to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 08:03 PM
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You know you gotta increase that frequency. That's how you get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 07:56 PM
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Hey I wait until I read their comment history before going there and it's hard confirmed.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 07:49 PM
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I like "you'll never find a man". And then when you say have one they say either "he's unlucky" or imply we'll break up. Like damn bitch how much did I trigger you?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 07:45 PM
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Do you regularly socialize with friends in person?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 07:44 PM
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Spoken like a man who has never been with a drooler.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 07:41 PM
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10+ years and still going. But please feel free to wish ill and imply people's relationships will end if it makes you feel better.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 07:30 PM
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Nah. It's called knowing what you want and sticking to it so further down the line you don't judge and henpeck because you didn't know what you wanted until you committed to a guy and realized all the parts of him you don't like. That sounds like a living hell. Not having a clear grasp on what you really want is a reason people get divorced. Or settle. Whichever. I feel bad for anyone who doesn't have a list or one that displays zero standards. I kinda knew car/gun/sports guys and conservatives …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 07:26 PM
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I didn't realize overweight boomer Walmart moms were the hottest. They're the majority of conservative women. But hey different strokes for different folks.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 07:10 PM
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Lol I already have someone who meets all these requirements. We are very happy together.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 06:26 PM
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Oh I should add this to the list: no guys whose only requirements are don't be fat and don't be a bitch. Apparently I'm not that entitled and delusional since I got everything I wanted. He make lots of money too 🤑. Also lol car guys are mad.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 06:25 PM
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I am very fortunate to have a man who meets all these quals. But I think a lot of women have very similar lists. Yes they are long: but important.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 05:11 PM
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Attractive to me. Ambitious. Has education beyond highschool, this includes trade school or some college. Not religious. Childfree. (Difficulty level: hell mode) Enjoys traveling. Is financially responsible. Has solid friendships with both men and women. Has a sense of humor but doesn't punch down. No "conservative" politics. Is willing to accept my giant extended family and engage with them. Is not a "sports guy", "car guy", or "gun guy". Will go out with his friends without me. Enjoys boardgam…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 04:54 PM
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It's not but okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 04:44 PM
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Nah. So the thing is a lot of men with these traits hide them. Then they do subtle tests. Just to see. Then eventually: they go full mask off. They don't go in asshole guns ablazing. Now are there people who accept less. Who accept being treated poorly, but there are other issues at play there that don't factor in attractiveness.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 04:44 PM
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What on the laundry list is not attainable?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 03:45 PM
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Today I learned I am a pick me. But seriously none of this is pick me behavior me
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 05:03 AM
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If my friends with kids didn't constantly say: "you made the right decision" and "don't have fucking kids", I wouldn't be so confident in my statement.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 04:43 AM
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Power is not derived from a person. It is derived from society. Without at least two people, there is no power. Everyone fights for power, not just men v. women. I'm also not saying women wanting the power that males have is inherently wrong. It's natural to want things. I'm saying what is happening now - women wanting absolute power over males (which is what happens when one takes power rather than trades for it) is wrong. I guess you could say power is derived from the consent of the governed …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 04:36 AM
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That's not me defining feminism. That's me responding to a person saying feminists want to take power from men. Which was also not a definition. It's commentary.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 04:11 AM
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And I cannot stress this enough, do you know what self-determination means? I also was not defining feminism. Anywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 03:54 AM
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It's literally not. Time is worth more than money.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 03:37 AM
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Do you know what self-determination means?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 03:36 AM
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I didn't misunderstand you, you just didn't say any of that or even indicate it. No one is talking about taking a majority earner for granted.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 03:27 AM
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Oh I can vouch for this. It's so fucked up that my shit paying jobs were more stressful and damaging to my body than my current. I make more money and it's easier.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 03:04 AM
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Okay go earn more time.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 02:39 AM
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I would never have kids because God what a miserable slog. But I will say as a person whose only job it is to work and not take care of kids? It's way more cake than working and having kids. So I'd take that over kids any day. But if both parties are working a FT job but the guy earns more and the woman earns less than it doesn't somehow offset the time one should put into raising their kids. Time is more valuable than money.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 01:32 AM
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Same. It's also not been studied a lot. Or even well. I also find it hilarious dudes aren't putting two and two together: women go off birth control to have babies. Babies decrease any desire for sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 01:15 AM
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It's not having less power either. It's just not getting what you want when you want it how you want it because another human being is involved and you cannot make them just like they can't make you.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 11:01 PM
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Again you not getting what, or who you want when you want it/them is not a loss of power. You wanting something more is not a loss of power.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 10:58 PM
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Again: men have the same ability to say no. No one can force someone to have sex with them or date them. If you want something more than someone else that's not you having less power, it's just you not getting everything you want when you want it, and that's the actual point.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 10:43 PM
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They have the exact same ability to reject who they want and you already know that. But please lie more.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 10:36 PM
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It's interesting you say feminists want power. More interesting that you follow it up with power that they take from men. There is nothing wrong with wanting power, especially if it's the power of self-determination. But you view power as something to be fought to maintain by one gender or the other, not a person's. When men talk about "women's power" here it's often, most often, in reference to them having the ability to self-determine namely who they will not date and who they will not have se…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 10:08 PM
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Everyone has the right to break up with anyone for any reason. Everyone has the right to think they were dumped for a stupid reason. If someone finds your behavior toxic: they can say it and you can disagree. But at the end of the day it doesn't really matter. Go find someone whose values align with yours. If modest dress is important to you: date someone who also values modesty. That being said weirdly in my life when men complain about their wives dress it's that it's too frumpy, not too provo…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 09:50 PM
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Lol "sexually productive". But my partner never did that kinda bullshit. No tit for tat viewing me like a prostitute. It worked out for him tho. He gets a hypersexual partner who can do reverse cowgirl anal. But seriously if guys think paying for tacos and a mojito is what sex costs. You're a cheap bastard. Go to a pro and see how much she costs.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 07:29 PM
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Uh no. That's not common like at all. What k-dramas are you watching?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 03:42 PM
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Eh considering the popularity of k-dramas and more modern media that appeal to younger women I'd say holyshit are you off base. The thing you're looking at is devotion to the female lead, a single mindedness. He's not interested in other women. That's the most common thing in romance. He prioritizes her above all else. Also: love triangles. Which again: dedication to the female lead.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 12:31 PM
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Because I know at some point Jordan Peterson probably talked about the Pareto principal and now men repeat it ad nauseum and apply it in incorrect ways. Like the word solipsism. He probably used that one too and then the parroting began. It's offensive because these men aren't thinking they're vomiting up the same shit over and over and over again. I don't like faux intellectualism which is why I avoid Peterson in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 12:13 PM
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Yeah I remember that thread that woman was dragged.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 08:57 PM
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It's not even to chase pussy. I try to encourage my partner to have guys only hangs and meets but he wants me there. A part of me always thinks it's because he likes showing me off, he used to ask me to work happy hours, it's tech so almost 100% dudes. His friends even insist I come with them and hang or play videogames with them despite the fact I actually have some things I would like to do by myself. I am without fail invited to everything and even pressured despite being the only woman and v…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 12:25 PM
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Yes. Good talk.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 11:15 AM
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You're the one literally say "beautiful gorgeous cut penis" which is a literal gay porn line. Like wtf. The overwhelming majority of religions are patriarchal. Many have provision women cannot be heads of the church, only apart of the obedient flock. Mohel are overwhelmingly men. You're talking about simplistic and yet the only thing you chalk circumcision is the females wanting a "beautiful gorgeous cut penis" which again is such a line from a gay porn while ignoring the centuries old history o…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 06:46 PM
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I mean it's factual. That's the thing. Unlike literally anything you have said. There is no equal blame here. Religious circumcision? Enforced, preached, and performed by men. Then you have the whole John Harvey Kellogg thing, which yes he was a seventh day Adventist but he went extreme with encouraging circumcision of teenage boys, sewing the foreskin shut, and encouraging pouring carbolic acid on girls clitorises.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 06:27 PM
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That's pretty common knowledge. There are entire famous movies and songs with food and sex. How did you miss this? But I'm calling bullshit on parents looking down at their infant and saying well let's circumcise him so the females will be pleased with his penis when he is sexually active. That's insane and made up. A way to blame women despite historically men pushing the practice. Even my partner doesn't get the big deal about why I'm so against circumcision. But again if he did he'd have to c…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 06:13 PM
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Oh he knows I am SUPER into it but like I said being in cyber security he's ultra wary of those things. It has absolutely nothing to do with punishment or "acts of vanity".
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 06:06 PM
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I have literally never heard of this. I have had a number of my friends put their foot down on not circumcising their sons with their husbands though. They're like hey this is genital mutilation which the husbands react like I am circumcised is something wrong with my penis? It's nbd. Now my mother decided to impart cursed knowledge on me that apparently my dad's not circumcized and insisted my brother because he felt like a freak and wanted my brother to be "normal". My mom's an asshole.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 05:42 PM
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I wish my partner would send nudes but he's in security so he would absolutely never. He won't even be in pictures because of facial recognition. Like goddamn what I wouldn't give for a pick of him laying on his back with his boxers pulled down and his dick and balls out.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 05:39 PM
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TRP is actually pretty shattered and scattered at this point. You have married RP which is overwhelmingly comprised of men in sexlessness marriages. You have RP women which is mostly just men larping as women. The most prominent voices are literal grifters. Then you have the fact TRP has been infiltrated and co-opted by in**ls. Essentially anytime anyone talks about trp at least one guy will say that's not what TRP is without ever clarifying why it's not and what is actually is. And I can't blam…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 05:30 PM
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I think the point is autistic men are more vulnerable to the redpill ideologies but it ultimately has a negative psychological impact on them. Autism is a spectrum. But many like that's it's laid out as a very easy step by step process. Do exactly this. Do exactly that and everything will come to fruition. People are classified as easily understandable archetypes with zero nuance. Which allows them to not struggle so much with empathy which man ND men do. Except real life doesn't work that way a…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 03:49 PM
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Why didn't you just say people? This also applies to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 12:57 PM
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Uh it depends? Like how old is the dude? What's his testosterone? Is one of them bipolar (if so it's them). There are a ton of factors that play in. Impossible to determine by gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 05:07 PM
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Eh the genuinely nice guys I have met did/do have women lining up for them. My partner for example. My friend who rejected a really really hot mutual friend because he was hung up on what he thought was a nice girl but was actually the worst. So nice guys also don't always make the best decisions either. Most men consider Steve a douchebag out of envy and resentment but Steve is actually a better man, usually in every way.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 03:50 PM
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That's kind of the point of the tweet? That the body pictured isn't fat and a man who considers her as gets no bitches.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 03:44 PM
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If they had been in one and it went terribly and they swore them off that would be a plus because then you don't have to ever worry about them asking for one. If they loved it? Hard pass.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 03:37 PM
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Honestly accurate tweet. I'm chubby and guys have always been into me. Maybe it's the boobs. Probably the boobs. I identify myself as fat, it doesn't bother me. But if I say it I am always told, no! Or as a VP at my company said to my face: I'm not fat, I'm nicely shaped (everyone can be inappropriate with HR). The "nicely shaped" is what people actually use to determine if you're fat or not if you're a woman. I was at a recruiting event on base and there was this incredibly tall absolutely jack…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 01:59 PM
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Step moming is worse by far. You marry some washed up man whose testosterone is dropping like a rock every year and you raise his kids and clean his house while he goes back to doing absolutely nothing but bringing in a paycheck which statistically: so do you. Conversely stepdad: you don't have to raise the kids or put in any effort if you do, if you try bio dad will probably beat your ass, all you have to do is bring in a paycheck.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 02:00 AM
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Nah prenup just assures mutually agreed upon equitable division of assets.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 12:07 AM
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I think people need to acknowledge reality. A marriage could end. And if you love the other you'll want them to be secure, even if you're not together. It also helps align your priorities which I feel a lot of people don't do prior to marriage which is a reason they fail.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 07:31 PM
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Everyone but one friend is dating, engaged, or married. Personally I don't think any of them are particularly attractive except for maybe my lawyer friends husband who is handsome, very striking eyes but he is a bit too tall, he's over a foot taller than me but she is very tall for a woman so it works. In terms of exceptional? I think all of them are wonderful considerate dudes. They're funny and have cool hobbies. A lot of them have average incomes though. My single friend is in his early 40s. …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 03:44 PM
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Amen. With a strap on you can spit roast your boyfriend. Like goddamn. Where is the downside because I'm not seeing one.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 03:34 PM
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My friend is tinder dating and she got a guy who's been pretty forward sexually and is bi. She expressed concern that because he's bi she's afraid he will be more likely to cheat. She knows I'm bi and like hey that's a shitty stereotype, if anything he is more likely to cheat because he's hyper sexual.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 03:33 PM
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I think you should date to your preferences. You might meet a 5'11" woman and really hit it off but if your preference is short women, aim for that. I do agree short women tend to be really into much taller men but I think it's maybe because they've been teased all their lives for their height but people tend to look very favorably at a couple where the woman is petite and the man is much larger.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 03:29 PM
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I think the key there is "ex". It's also about value. If you place low value on casual dating the value for you doesn't change because someone else values it extremely high. If you highly value committed long term relationships and another person does not, again it doesn't change the value for you. Ever hear the term gotta kiss a lot of frogs? A lot of men are frogs. Some are rapist frogs to boot. Some are obsessive and violent frogs. Some are lying frogs. And you can say not all frogs, but enou…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 03:26 PM
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Definitely for the streets.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 03:10 PM
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Honestly yeah. The word no longer means what it used to. It's why the woman who coined it disavowed men using it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 02:40 PM
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I feel like you're missing a really important part here, she was high. Bad she not been she might have never had sex with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 02:29 PM
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We love incarcerating people.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 11:39 PM
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Just say you have no sources and you're just making stuff up.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 08:48 PM
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None of your links work.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 08:36 PM
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https://www.thebump.com/a/breastfeeding-interfering-with-sex-life https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/inspired-life/wp/2015/06/30/when-threes-not-the-charm-how-to-manage-the-higher-risk-of-divorce-when-baby-comes-along/ https://www.denverpost.com/2009/04/09/study-marital-bliss-plummets-after-birth-of-first-child/ But next time Google it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 08:26 PM
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Because women have a history of using sex/relationship to control men... The famous "I wasn't (sic) a nice guy". Any source to back this up?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 08:19 PM
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Yes and the women that ascribe to that Outdate way of thinking are women who don't identify as feminists. Duggar style. Feminism comes in waves. Get with the times.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 08:08 PM
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Ah yes what a woman in her 70s knows about the modern woman! So timely and accurate.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 06:50 PM
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It was bullshit then and it's bullshit now! Amazing!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 06:31 PM
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Lol. Yes as we all know modern women's main concern is finding a provider husband who will give them children. You can tell because the quote is torn from a book from 1971 which is incredibly socially relevant. "Give us your wallets and children" I say with no fallopian tubes as I make more money than most dual income households.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 04:58 PM
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This is probably a better point: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6328097/ But the reason that study out of Scotland got so much attention is because the headline is pure clickbait. Unfortunately men read one damn thing and run it into the fucking ground here. They do literally nothing to verify the validity.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 04:40 PM
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I took birth control for 10+ years and have been with my partner for a good majority of it. Since being off it my desire for him has not changed. I joke that I am "partners name" sexual because I don't notice or acknowledge other men. One of the key things I think is missing in consideration is the other things that occur when women typically get off birth control. Usually: they have children. This can often lead to a drop in libido, especially if a woman is breastfeeding. It can also reveal cra…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 04:04 PM
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4 uninsulated walls. There's actually a lot more money and effort that goes into building a container home. Chiefly land to drop it on. So you buy rural to save money. And you need water and electricity and plumbing. Okay so you probably need more than one container too. So septic system, well water. And you need this cash money upfront except for maybe the land. And then your container home won't have any real value since it's resale is for shit. Oh crap this area with cheap land has nothing bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 03:14 PM
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If he was in prison at 18 the odds are he's from the US.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 01:44 PM
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Shipping container homes can often be a horrible idea because many of them are contaminated. Unless you get it from a good source that discloses it's past shipments you could be poisoning yourself. Additionally once all the insulation is completed the ceilings tend to be too low. A lot of the shipping container homes you see are actually built from custom non standard dimension containers made explicitly for home construction. Also you gotta buy land.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 01:15 PM
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It helps in custody disputes as well. The court ultimately mandates child support and if the couple can't agree and the children are too young: custody. A factor in that is the financial situation of both parties. Having a smooth post marital transition is best for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 01:00 AM
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You could do that with any relationship. No marriage needed. But with marriage? You should approach it with a prenup and willingness to work through difficulties and lend support. You should value every moment you have together. You don't have to get a prenup but you should both always know where you stand in the beginning and throughout a relationship. Call me unromantic but I like being in a relationship by waking up every day and choosing love. Not staying in a relationship because I worry ab…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 12:57 AM
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And this is why: prenup. Write it in.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 12:03 AM
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You have to go into a marriage as if it will end. Your post wasn't is marriage for the rest of a person's life till death do them part. Divorce is a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 10:52 PM
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It depends on the woman. Me personally being childfree? No. I think all married couples should approach it for what it is: a contractual agreement. So this includes an iron clad prenup. Can't come to an agreement? Causes fights? Probably a sign you shouldn't marry. Is this romantic? Absolutely not but neither is marriage inherently. But generally the marriage license doesn't add much. There's the additional problem that once you move in men bring their things, their habits, their mess, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 09:18 PM
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So on Halloween we all decided to go to this big haunted house and bar hopping after. My friend invited some of her friends I wasn't yet friends with. There was this dude. He was funny and ordered the same drinks I did at the bar. He added me on social media after. We had a ton in common. Blam-o. Decade together.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 03:34 PM
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You probably haven't met this man because men don't talk about the inner workings of their relationships with you, especially moments of vulnerability.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 03:39 PM
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The shaming and neging tactics aren't effective. Time to develop a new strat.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 01:15 PM
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I'd be more than fine since it sounds like he's going to a gay bar.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 12:48 PM
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Someone saw a boomer dad drive pre smartphone.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 12:32 AM
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I don't know what on earth possessed you to comment on posts from 5 months ago but stay mad I guess. Also be civil.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 12:08 PM
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Me out here paying like $20 for one clionadh stained glass eyeshadow like a crackhead agrees.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 03:59 AM
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You know as well as I do that people with autism have differences in brain structure from NT people, as well as differences in the way that the brain functions. Increased activity in the amygdala: difference in processing emotions. Decreased activity in the prefrontal cortex: difference in decision-making and social behavior. Etc. The differences in brain structure and function are what cause certain common hallmarks of autism to express in people on the spectrum. Like you know lack of empathy. …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 01:59 AM
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I think they're born with a higher likelihood to be rude. To talk over people. To be easily agitated. To struggle with reading social cues and empathy. To have social anxiety. To develop overly restrictive habits. And subsequently because of these things to have few to no friendships leaving a romantic partner as their only support, when they get one, the only person to do things with, and giving them a very narrow world. Also more likely to develop resentment over how their autism has impacted …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 01:39 AM
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You didn't have to edit your post to add a strawman.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 01:30 AM
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I think you probably did not mean to post a variation of the same comment 6 times. Probably attempted to edit but accidentally reposted? But the statement: women are almost as shallow as men are and they'll spread their legs for assholes all the time Indicates certain resentments does it not? I'm like an empathy precog.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 01:14 AM
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Those are all traits associated with autism. Do all autistic people have them? No. But many autistic men have a combination of a few. But I imagine it's easier to focus on looks rather than someone's brain wiring predisposing them to being, at best socially inept at worst an asshole. That would be a hard pill to swallow. All that being said intellectual disabilities are more common among autistic people than the general population. But the majority of people with autism don't have an intellectua…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 12:49 AM
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No. Obviously that would not be the conclusion anyone would draw if they read and comprehended anything I wrote. Autism is a spectrum and how it expresses may be different but there are some common traits, however not everyone with autism displays them. It entirely depends on the individual. Women also being individuals may react differently or have other feelings because: it entirely depends upon the person. There is no one answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 09:22 PM
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Like I said: I have never once in the numerous threads here made by autistic men and commented on by autistic men ever seen a woman respond she felt she would be taking advantage of them. So you're essentially saying hey this one extreme outlier, let's talk about it. In the PPD demographic autistic men are over represented. The fact you've seen it once should indicate it's not really a thing. Again a "profoundly" autistic person on the spectrum with a sub 50 IQ level who cannot dress or bathe th…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 06:51 PM
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Definitely. Being in a relationship and then being in a relationship makes things pretty clean. So we can bullshit about video games, board games, anime, memes, and talk about the emotional shit. I really appreciate my male friends because it's hard to find women who share my interests sometimes. Don't get me wrong I have lots of friends who are women but we just vibe on other things.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 06:27 PM
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As I said I have literally never heard any woman ever say they felt like they are taking advantage of an autistic man. Never. Not once. I am not sure where exactly you have noticed this: but it's not here, it's not in real life, it's nowhere. Now someone with a below average IQ? Sure. What I am saying is: your premise is false.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 05:49 PM
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Is the chat going well with Tim? Because if he's demonstrated superior taste or opinions or values it's heat seeking missile time. Are there other men in the room? The fuck would I notice for?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 04:05 PM
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I've literally never seen this as a reason why women don't like dating autistic men. I've seen they're rude. Talk over people. Are easily agitated. Struggles with reading social cues and empathy. Social anxiety. Few to no friendships leaving a romantic partner as their only support, person to do things with, and giving them a very narrow world. Overly restrictive habits. Resentment over how their autism has impacted them in highschool and college causing a hyper fixation on what they missed out …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 03:46 PM
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Because having kids means having to change your lifestyle. Duh.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 03:03 PM
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I have been with my partner for a decade and I actually don't agree with you. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying we don't have a strong bond but growing together for a lot of couples in their 20s means growing parallel and apart. A bond is strong because you work at it and prioritize your partner. Not because of the length of time you spent together or a piece of paper or even a kid. It doesn't matter if you're 25 or 45. In terms of arriving as a "finished product" he's almost 40 and I'm 34 and …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 01:25 PM
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Examples of the movies you've got beef with?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 07:30 PM
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He's actually trying to deliberately trojan horse in bp ideas. He's not talking about unconditional love he's talking about initial attraction. So no I got it even though his post is a mess.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 12:53 PM
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Your post it's your post.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 12:59 AM
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Your entire post is a fallacious concept.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 12:47 AM
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Your entire argument is literally a strawman.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 11:21 PM
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