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who says i am?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 05:37 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 04:56 AM
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Damn I'm torn. I do agree that seeing the worst of humanity up front tends to harden you in lots of ways but I think, for whatever reason, we human beings always reserve a soft spot thinking "my future girlfriend/spouse won't be like this" I mean, could be you're just smarter than me, but that's pretty much how I parsed it. I had a lot of experience to show me the best and worst of humanity prior to meeting my ex wife but I always assumed the best of her because that's just what love was to me. …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 04:36 AM
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Feminist women barely exist anymore bro, this is 2026, it's all about OF and sugaring woman luring men into spending our money via gender traditionalism
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 04:32 AM
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Maybe the fact that my post was deleted by reddit gives you a hint how you can apply that +2 STR
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 04:08 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 04:05 AM
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I'm on the spectrum so it took me a while to understand that the majority of people are just talking shit, spewing their half baked ideas, faking morality without actually comprehending it, saying and believing whatever is useful to them etc Even people on PPD are wrong about a lot of things and this is a community of spergy, over-analytical people. So just imagine how full of hypocrisy and contradiction the average normie is.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 03:36 AM
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Why would they? It costs men nothing to fuck, zip up and move on with life
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 03:11 AM
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Not all men will succumb but enough will that woman needs to put in very little effort comparatively This experiment, woman asked men on campus to sleep with them and got a 75% yes rate https://www2.hawaii.edu/~elaineh/79.pdf It’s not misandry if it’s true
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 02:52 AM
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Even for that man its time expenditure to let his game do its magic Whereas a woman can pull up to a dude and be like “wanna fuck” and he’s like “ok queen 🤤”
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 02:48 AM
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It all works out for the best
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 02:29 AM
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Fuck ill lavish you, i didnt work hard to become a senior engineer to not lavish on women
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 02:23 AM
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Counterpoint: Nuh uh.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 02:21 AM
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Hmmm maybe youre right
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 02:14 AM
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You get +2 STR and +1 INT to compensate
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 02:12 AM
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Well yeah, wouldn’t you? Id love it if every woman I met lavished me with gifts and affection in hopes of getting in my pants and I could just pick and choose which gifts I want to receive (including free pussy) Sounds 10x better than boring “equality” where I have to work for everything Slay queenz~~
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 02:06 AM
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Goddess!!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 01:49 AM
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Me
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 01:49 AM
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“Cheating happens sometimes”, you are really confused about why society condemns this? It’s one of the worst forms of betrayal. Let’s not normalize cheating or pretend its inevitable or even slightly forgiveable Im ok with acknowledging that society is too fucked up and far gone to support monogamy, or maybe the problem is the human species itself. But monogamy is rightfully romanticized. If it doesn’t work, it’s because we failed the ideal, not the other way around. We should be less romantic a…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 01:45 AM
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It takes much more effort and skill to fuck women as a man than the reverse, thats the point
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 01:39 AM
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You were saying theres no fundamental difference between them and thats untrue One group is seeking to get better at a difficult activity the other is just quantitymaxxing an easy activity
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 01:08 AM
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I dont think its hard to get fucked as woman. But its hard to fuck women as a man
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 12:58 AM
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politically I’m pretty left leaning Every fucking time
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 12:11 AM
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then I will absolutely love them and commit to them. With respect, and I absolutely do respect your post and your stance.. but with respect, you can't know that up front. Maybe you fall out of love for reasons unrelated to the quality of your sex life. A lot of shit can go down. If you have a high attraction and desire for novelty, socializing, etc .. other traits that tend to coincide with, or lead to, sluttiness.. then the chances are good that you won't mesh well long term with a guy who does…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 12:10 AM
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if this was true men would be lining up to date sluts and men would have no evinced preference for low n count women but that's not the case cmon now, we have transgender and transracial and fucking stargender, furry people walking around.. this is 2026. not everything can be blamed on patriarchy and religiosity.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 12:08 AM
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"just" leave after kids, financial entanglement and investing years of your life into building a relationship with someone? That's not a normal take brother. Yes you can leave, but the point is you want to minimize the risk of having to leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 12:06 AM
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They're linked though, if you don't want to admit this you're just coping. Cmon now. Have SOME ability to admit that your premise isnt bulletproof.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 12:05 AM
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Lmao Gigachad response
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 12:00 AM
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and they don’t cheat or demand something different than monogamy Big assumption
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 12:00 AM
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I find that they usually are but at the same time they’re more “ok with being lonely” than women
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 11:58 PM
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Exactly, this is why we fucking need the redpill bros to cut through all the victim olympics bullshit Its ok to just admit that women are hard wired to have a big social network moreso than men. No is wrong or at fault. We’re just built different
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 11:56 PM
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They don’t, and that’s why we chose to not go that route anymore. For better or worse, men (and older patriarchal women) lifted the boot off women’s neck Are the consequences good? Jury is out on that. I am not sure unrestrained female sexuality/behavior is sustainable long term. Declining birth rates, societal breakdown like in the rat utopia experiment. I suppose our society will serve as the test case for this theory of gender relations. That’s why I think we need we need to “make the suicide…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 11:35 PM
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Some things do last forever, though. Investments in yourself most of all. I know I sound like a fucking douchebag, and that is not my intent, but seeking empathy and support is generally more feminine than masculine. Now, being 100% masculine is unrealistic and unhealthy. Its ok to be in touch with your feminine side as a dude. But you probably should not seek empathy quite as much as women do and try to default to powering and self improving through your problems more. Not you specifically OP, …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 11:31 PM
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Love is a recently invented modern concept, not a requisite. You are right though, should not have mentioned it in that context. Its ok for the woman to not love the man but just be moral, decent to him, give him sex and children, not betray him and not nag and make his life hell. It is only very stupid modern men like me that care about being loved by a woman, our male ancestors didn’t give a shit. They were smarter in that respect. Don’t emotionally invest in a passing breeze. Also keeps life …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 11:22 PM
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Aye, and the most dangerous truth is waking up to the essential differences (and corresponding social implications) that our ancestors well understood So dangerous that it gets removed from reddit if you try to talk about it
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 11:20 PM
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I dont care how it makes me look, id rather be peterson and retain my wife than tenz You have to be crazy to succeed in an insane world
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 11:12 PM
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Dude thats nothing, Tenz (streamer/influencer) helped his girlfriend battle cancer and she cheated on him and left him for the new guy shortly after You’re thinking things like logic and sanity apply here. Probably the transition between fighting for her life and then just having a smooth wonderful existence was too jarring for Tenz’s girlfriend and then projection kicks in and she thinks he’s the problem rather than her own Unboringnessmaxxing female psychology Recall that good things (ie overc…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 11:09 PM
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If he didnt do crazy shit his wife would get bored of him being an unremarkable professor and cheat with her physical trainer You have to be actively retarded and psycho spiritually jestermaxx making your life into a zesty tragicomedy that has infinite room for critique so women don’t get bored. It requires you to bend the laws of logic and non-retardation Eve, pandora’s box etc. womens boredom is a long standing problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 10:58 PM
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If what she did to me was unusual then i’d agree, but observation of people in real life as well as stats, online communities etc leads me to the conclusion that cheating/branch swinging is not that uncommon. To me its all a matter of degrees. If there is one woman on planet earth somewhere that has ethics that does nothing to dispel my spiritual malaise. If my ex wife did something truly uncommon like try to kill me in my sleep I could just get over it knowing is unlikely to happen again It is …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 10:56 PM
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Why is any of that bad lol Sounds like just had a wild and interesting life. Women will say you’re boring if you haven’t done shit like that
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 10:50 PM
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Thanks boss. I have done most of what you describe. Friends in particular were helpful for restoring my faith in humanity. Still, something feels missing for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 10:46 PM
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Serial killers are rare, but cheaters and branch swingers are common. I cant put an exact percentage on it, but it could easily be over 50%
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 10:45 PM
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Right, but you’re allowed to have an opinion or stance towards life based on what it is. I don’t dispute that that’s life. Life has a right to be itself, and I have a right to adapt
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 10:44 PM
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I think you should limit seeking empathy to whatever is needed to achieve mental clarity (ie others do not think i am crazy to be upset… or if they don’t think I’m right to be upset, what was my flawed premise) After that adjust your mindset and grind until you have resources and skill needed to reduce the probability of being hurt again. Get good at the game basically There will still be a part of you that is deeply spiritually unhappy and dissatisfied with how life is but it may go away as you…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 10:39 PM
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Thats ok BUT Men can do the same thing women can do and just go into relationships and leave when he’s not happy It turns out not having sex makes the vast majority of men unhappy Its ok to have a boundary. No the onus is not on men to say “if you stop having sex with me I leave”. Maybe he wont know that until it happens? Maybe she cooks really damn well. But it’s a probable thing to have occur I think you just want to “win” and have men who disagree with your worldview have a dating malus. Sorr…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 10:25 PM
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You said you worked really hard to move past the heartbreak, I’m curious what that looked like for you
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 10:18 PM
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Could you go into that bro? Genuinely curious how you made the judgement call that it’s better to continue having relationships with women after having seen what I describe
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 10:14 PM
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the MSM machine trying to parse internet culture has never not been cringe
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 10:07 PM
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that's cool but the man can just leave her then if women can leave a man at any time because nOt HaAaaAAaaaaAaaaaaAAppy then men can leave cuz no sex. fair is fair why do you want to IMPRISON men by forcing them to stay in relationships where their needs aren't being met? 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 09:57 PM
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Rare instance of us agreeing, so this must be the correct answer. We can close OP's thread now.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 09:55 PM
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No no no, the woman can be honest first and say "I demand the right to stop having sex with you entirely but you still have to be monogamous to me and support me" Ladies first, I insist ~~
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 09:41 PM
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that's normal bro, that always happens, nothing revolutionary there
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 09:36 PM
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I think I envy the people at work who achieved a sort of zen, zero-morality state where they say whatever the fuck they want on a resume, eventually get called out, but were already putting in new resumes so the bill for their behavior never really comes due. Seemed insane the first time I encountered someone doing frantic lateral moves like that. But then I realized, it's just an adaptation to an insane market. In a dangerous world, you need dangerous men. From what I hear, almost all the young…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 09:33 PM
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Tried giving me thoughts on this subject and reddit removed the post. Suffice to say, keep reading and learning from the sages of our past bro, there is nothing new about women today, but men in the past were not deluded by the equality narrative.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 09:32 PM
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Sexually successful men includes russel brand, Harvey weinstein, epstein, R kelly, Diddy, etc. I feel like you're trying to make everything be the morally pure version of itself but a cursory examination of society shows that a sexually successful man is just as likely to be an asshole as a good virtuous person. Thats not TRP's fault but let's not go off the deep end here with just world fallacy thinking that all sexually successful men are "good" which would imply women are selecting for that a…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 09:30 PM
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I agree with that, but there's nothing either of us can do about that other than enjoy the decline
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 09:25 PM
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That "occasionally heartbreaking" is the problem. Drifting apart due to incompatibility or realizing you don't want the same things is ok, but when the other person was actively using you... cheating, branchswinging, just taking money/time/sex from you while planning their next move... That leaves a sour taste in my mouth. I can't quite look at humanity the same after experiencing betrayal. And it's all too common based on what I've read and seen. I guess a lot of people are out there having fun…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 09:23 PM
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I think the anti-nice circlejerk has gone a little too far. Yes, niceness is often tied to inauthenticity, conflict avoidance, and a lack of boundaries, that's true. But you can easily horseshoe in the wrong direction and go all-in on every single disagreement or incompatibility and create a relationship that is rife with conflict over trivial issues. No relationship is perfect, no person is either. It would be good to call the other person out every single time he/she is wrong, or every single …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 09:12 PM
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Not all men qualify for relationships (majority of men did not breed through history, women are hypergamous and rate majority of men as unattractive, etc). Maybe not all women qualify for monogamy either Welcome to equality
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 09:01 PM
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Wait wait wait… WHEN sex stops at some point? Not even “IF sex stops”? You are outside your mind if you think any man, anywhere is interested in being with a woman if sex is inevitably stopping at some point. Most women won’t even agree to that
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 08:59 PM
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Could also be the increase in mental health issues in women, any time I hear of a woman being physically abusive to one my friends she’s always BPD or bipolar
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 08:58 PM
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Basically just go all-in on alternatives to having an actual woman love you (which is borderline impossible for a large subset of men). Free chemical castration to any many who wants it. Huge government investment into sexbots, AI porn. Maybe incels get an “onlyfans stipend” or “prostitution stamps” or similar. Obviously prostitution needs to be legalized everywhere. Culturally I think the celibate man could be more lionized than he is. Asthetics, monks, shamans, other sexless male archetypes we…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 08:50 PM
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Scientists have studied the y chromosome and discovered that the majority of men through ancient history and prehistory did not breed. It seems nature herself decided that the average man is a lemming and must give his existence in service of humanity while only the best men breed. The only thing weird here is the modern insistence that each life has equal value. This was not taken as an assumption until very recently in history. Most lives were lives of toil and squalor. Intense hierarchy impos…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 08:38 PM
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Empathy is like a drug, you seek it out, it makes you feel better temporarily and long term you get weaker. You lose the ability to power through problems like an angry stoic loner curmudgeon and start needing people and their support more and more. I think this is ultimately why dudes feel hollow and unsatisfied after getting empathy. Some degree of empathy can help, maybe. Confirmation that your worldview is not crazy and that your perceptions of the dating market or what life as a man is (dif…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 08:32 PM
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Oh yes, its actually very interesting to me how sociopathic people can also be very empathetic and understanding as they lull you into a false sense of security shortly before plunging the knife in. Its an intriguing contrast. You would think that as their theory of mind and ability to process the emotional state of others increases that their willingness to harm others decreases in turn but it’s not the case. For me, i have to exert constant mental energy to be less kind to others than i want t…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 08:23 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 08:17 PM
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I'm against it for moral reasons too
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 06:58 AM
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I know most people disagree with me but your point about commodification applies in both cases First instance, trading money for sex Second instance, trading their sex for your sex In an actual committed relationship, sex becomes an expression of the relationship, no longer a trade. If it's NSA you primarily want the sex, not the person Just my 2c.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 12:36 AM
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Could be an age thing. Younger men = dumber. I guess older single men are somewhat dumb too though since the smarter ones just marry well
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 11:51 PM
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They are both equally meaningless, hollow and degrading in my opinion. Objectification in both cases.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 11:48 PM
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Lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 11:45 PM
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Just curious but are you also opposed to casual sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 11:43 PM
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I think women are more bothered by it when considering a male as a possible romantic partner for herself If he’s an incel or whatever I think women are relieved that there is a professional class that can “defuse” him so he never goes on a rampage or negatively effects her in any way.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 11:42 PM
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This would imply the average woman has the capacity to think all of this through to its logical conclusion OP. Probably not even the average male has the mental circuitry for all this. I think it's much simpler, western becky got told by feminism and social studies class that arranged marriage is an ugly old rich man beating and raping his young innocent wife every single night for 60 years and there is nothing she can do about it. Therefore Becky does not like arranged marriage. She was simply.…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 11:35 PM
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I disagree, the market framing is healthy because it protects you from people who are parasocial, narcissistic users. If I had adopted it much sooner then I would have seen how truly one sided my relationship with my ex wife was and not have to go through 14 years of never being enough for her, only to be cheated on in the end. Subjectivity is death. Opinions are death. Emotions are death. All that we have in the end is computation. The one thing a sufficiently high EIQ sociopathic piece of shit…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 11:18 PM
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It sounds nice but our advanced societies are sliding into rot and decadence. Nothing is salvageable in this world of endless cycles of civilizations rising and falling. You have to just let go and let the whirlwind of eternal universal darkness and chaos push you where it will. Maybe try to navigate the storm to a little island of shelter that you create. But in the end, life is suffering. As Alexander the great said, the world is damned and lost for everywhere the large fish devour the small f…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 08:55 PM
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We can agree there
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 08:33 PM
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These are men I talk to IRL though
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 08:18 PM
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No, it could actually mean she is bad if she has an expectation that you will do right by her but no intention of reciprocating Too much bad behavior gets excused as emotional inevitability which is somehow immune to judgement. Bad people exist I do agree about leaving her though
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 08:17 PM
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There is a temptation to treat beautiful women better but imo, a wise man will resist that temptation because it just leads to unsustainable pedestalization
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 07:41 PM
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I think theres a flaw in your reasoning - being an asshole IS inherently interesting, even if negative. It creates drama, emotional weight that woman might not experience if the guy was good and had all the same hobbies etc. I don’t think it is the case that every asshole with a woman creates good times to make up for it. It’s possible that drama and disparity between awful and neutral times can seem like good times. I think you make lots of assumptions about relationships are and should be base…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 06:16 PM
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I guess the door’s closing and I better move fast. Thank you for the insight good bro
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 06:07 PM
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Doesnt matter
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 06:05 PM
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You really want to insist that all dating advice men receive is solid and non biased and that bad advice givers operating on their own assumptions and neuroses cannot possibly exist, huh? Im sensing bias from you against unsuccessful men, they cannot be the only human beings in life that have problems or make mistakes. Sometimes the advice givers are bad too. Seems like you have a kind of extremism or ax to grind on this subject
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 06:05 PM
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Its the other way around, fixing your personality, values and mindset is long and grueling work. Anyone can put in a job application or go get a physical trainer
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 05:57 PM
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Interesting. Good for you for having a code, bro
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 05:55 PM
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I mean, are you going to go dig up a bunch of sources and references to prove the point in your OP? no? Exactly I have a going rate for such activity im not doing it for free for the sake of a reddit argument
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 05:54 PM
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Yeah how do you deal with that bro? For me i just accepted the malus that comes from having a code. I will have mid success with women unless I get lucky and find a unicorn and thats ok Having pussy but no self respect feels worse in the long run Maybe schopenhauer is right and we shouldnt aim for actual happiness, just mild contentment with a 6/10 woman who doesnt bitch too frequently
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 05:52 PM
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I disagree, there are plenty of good people on reddit asking for advice on all kinds of subjects, this is exactly the kind of toxic assumptions Im talking about. Thats a very nasty assumption to make honestly
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 05:50 PM
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Nah im too lazy Isnt it the premise of your OP though?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 05:46 PM
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How do these “demands” from the hot girls work OP? Be specific
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 05:45 PM
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Yeah theres evolutionary reasons for it im sure This is why I keep trying to practice detachment, everything kind of sucks if you dig into it, this is a reality of endless suffering so you have to be somewhat inured and blase towards everything
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 05:41 PM
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For those men I agree that they are fuckups and ignorant, destined to fail. However I have frequently seen the opposite problem where a non problematic dude will express his frustration with dating and then a female or BP commentator will arrive to confront him with “advice” that is really more about the narrative of “men suck and behave badly towards women and have toxic attitudes”….. because it takes very little provocation to get her started on that topic
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 05:40 PM
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If the message was “improve your looks, status, money and attitude towards women” thats reasonable because it doesnt auto assume the guy is failing specifically because of a bad attitude towards women But the more blue pilled someone is the more likely they are to say flippant shit like “pretty sure the problem is your misogyny” or “treat women like human beings that could help” To the feminist hammer every male loser looks like a nail
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 05:37 PM
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Fuck that guy
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 05:34 PM
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Sucks to have to keep that up forever though
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 05:33 PM
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How do i fix it elder sister
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 05:32 PM
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Then telling people failing with women to be better, more moral person makes zero sense Better to tell them to ape whatever traits the male sociopaths are using to seduce women
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 05:31 PM
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It never even occurred to me to get a gay male therapist but the more I think about it the more it makes sense He is a rare human that has no skin in the game with straight relationships and can be unbiased You’re fucking high IQ bro
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 05:29 PM
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Yet people keep telling others to be moral and assuming he is not if he’s unsuccessful with women. If your premise is correct they should assume he IS moral but has a moral-yet-bad personality
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 05:21 PM
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I’m glad it works for you but in my experience always paying for someone or having them pay for you leads to resentment. Maybe male-to-male relationships are more haughty and pride based than female ones
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 05:20 PM
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Couldn’t disagree more. We only live once so you protect the only things that matter, your word and your balls. There is no problem from leaving that you can’t power through with your will. But loss of honor is unfixable Don’t think we will ever persuade each other on this.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 05:18 PM
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Character and morality doesn't have the importance blue pillers claim until much further stages of a relationship. Yeah and even there if the woman is BPD or avoidant or just vaguely sociopathic/evil DND alignment - which exists in far greater numbers than people want to admit - then you being a good person to her will just result in incompatibility Some women don’t actually want you to be good. A dirty secret of reality that we are supposed to minimize
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 05:17 PM
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The hot ones prolly get away with it, woman is that desperate to keep him Therefore no mugshot
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 05:14 PM
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I would argue they don’t matter as much as people think Rizz, vibes, aura, confidence, social adroitness, being interesting and “fun”, physical attractiveness, height, all matter more
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 05:13 PM
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I think you’re missing the core point Immoral men are successful with women. Boring nice guys fail and then with annoying frequency they are told to “just be a better person bro” which, by your own analysis solves nothing as the factors that lead a woman to sleep with a man have absolutely nothing to do with that It’s advice given because it makes the advice giver feel good and morally superior. Not because it will help the recipient and not founded in realities of dating
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 05:10 PM
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All bets are off? Nah dude. Be a man, be honest, leave her. Cheating is never justified Your integrity should not be based on how one woman happens to be treating you
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 04:50 PM
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You’re using wordplay to justify your actions because taking responsibility is too hard for you. Which is what everyone has come to know and expect from cheaters
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 04:49 PM
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Another pro cheating psyop huh?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 04:49 PM
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But you would admit those guys ARE assholes, yeah?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 04:47 PM
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I think women do support each other emotionally, buy little gifts, go out to eat or have fun together, etc but what’s being talked about in the OP is like that effort multiplied by 5… expensive stuff, long interesting high effort vacations.. you might do that with your female best friend but probably not every friend. It’d be too taxing Men don’t even do this shit for each other, we hang out, play vidya, do BJJ beat the shit out of each other, make fun of each other, fart, laugh. So doing it for…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 04:46 PM
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My friend keeps urging me to try out escorts and casual sex for this reason. He says it’s enlightening to experience that the “deal” a woman gives you in a relationship is often financially and emotionally inferior to what you can get from an escort or sugar baby or woman who’s also just out for casual sex. Would theoretically make me less likely to put up with bullshit from women in future relationships I’m an old school romantic though :/
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 04:41 PM
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And all the dudes beating and abusing their girlfriends are nice guys too with a secret heart of gold…? Your fanfic does not line up with statistical reality
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 04:38 PM
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The point is that morality is over emphasized by people who want to give men dating “advice”. Usually the morality of the dude in question is not what’s holding him back, but for some reason more bluepilled types LOVE the idea that any man who complains about dating must be harboring toxic views about women or whatever. I have almost never heard a man attribute his success to women to being a good man. It’s always “I improved my confidence” or “i got in shape” or “I practiced talking to people u…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 04:36 PM
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Yea. Can’t be too nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 04:25 PM
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Interesting philosophical point, maybe it’s ALL just different forms of prostitution
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 04:24 PM
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I’m sensing extreme dishonesty here, based on my observations of female friendships IRL
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 04:22 PM
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Your income disparity with your friend group is unusual though
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 04:22 PM
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A girlfriend who wont sleep with you is basically free so you can just get that part elsewhere
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 04:21 PM
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500 is for an attractive escort and sex is guaranteed. Not the case for dating a non escort. Risk has to factor into the formula
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 04:20 PM
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Did it effect you at all? Did you get the ick because of their tryharding?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 04:18 PM
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Only works on some women unfortunately. Others feel suffocated because avoidant attachment and predilection for emotional distance and mild toxicity If only life really were as simple as “be good to woman = romantic success”
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 04:17 PM
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I disagreed with the other version of this post and I'll disagree with this one too. There is such a thing as maturity, wisdom, standards that do not vary no matter what amount of lust or attraction you're feeling. Men and women both have free will.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 03:25 PM
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Yeah women will give you this look
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 03:42 AM
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Hmmm I feel like you're moving the goal posts. Either money/status matter or they don't. If he's an unemployed coach surfing druggie then by your logic, it doesn't matter if he has sufficient ThatGuyness. If you disagree then it's a much weaker theory and it's basically the same as saying "attraction is important" which no one was ever disputing My opinion: I don't give a shit if a woman is 10/10 and wants to suck my dick like she's proving a fucking point. I will never ever allow a woman with r…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 02:35 AM
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I guess thats a good point lol But you dont wanna just aim for the casual sex
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 10:53 PM
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I actually can hear my own accent because I grew up in a multilingual home where I would have to shift accents depending on who I am speaking with in order to be understood. When I went to school there was yet another accent to be learned, and the point I’m making is that under some conditions, perhaps autistic need to question every axiom of your existence to an obsessive degree for instance, it IS possible to be a social outsider and be objective observer relatively untainted by the biases of …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 07:45 PM
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Nah, because there could be a gynocentricism meme which offsets the natural inclination of men to compete, protect, provide, seize power etc All the evidence you view as the unravelling of a harmful meme could just be the instantiation and increasing acceptance of a different meme with its own set of harmful attitudes
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 07:35 PM
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That seems like us spending a lot of energy on something that will not directly improve our lives OP
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 05:33 PM
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how easily a man gets sex shows his value No, a man shows his value by building his best life, having an internal locus of control and standards for himself, challenging himself, accomplishing his goals Your philosophy leads to men just being slaves to women’s collective desires. Even if you win, you lose, because your entire life became about being what they want you to be You don’t need all women to like you. You need to have a great life that you enjoy and then find one woman to share that li…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 05:21 PM
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It was already a red flag when they admitted to sexual degeneracy, the fact that they wouldn’t do it to you is a few orders of magnitude less important
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 04:44 PM
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So what do you want here though OP? Force men to be in relationships with women who did stuff in the past that we aren’t comfortable with? Or that we feel don’t value us as highly as previous partners? Anyway if a man is like “I did the marriage thing once already and didn’t like it” to future women he dates we all already know they aren’t going to be cool with that and are going to assume he takes them less seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 04:42 PM
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It had a much more solid rationale for existence when fault divorce was a thing, but now not so much. Someone can betray oaths they made in fucking court, not to mention church and in front of all their friends and family and suffer zero repercussions. Since we aren’t taking those vows seriously I (fellow autistic person) see no reason for the associated cultural charade. But neurotypical folk seem comfortable going to some hypocritical sham event where you watch people swear til death do us par…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 04:39 PM
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On god
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 04:10 PM
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Dont kink shame~
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 04:03 PM
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I should count as 100 N if thats the metric
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 04:02 PM
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thanks sensei
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 03:28 PM
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Ah ok. I guess i'd say that's low.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 03:28 PM
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It could actually be healthy, might be that successive generations of men developed an aversion to female promiscuity due to it lending an evolutionary edge over blase bonobo-like men with glazed eyes and slack jaws who are content to watch women (theirs or others) fuck anything that moves
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 03:28 PM
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it didn't work, i felt his hit land but the pain... the pain doesn't come why doesn't it come?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 12:28 AM
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Hmm... I think most reasonable people that come from good families and weren't abused don't think they're goated, they're grateful. Why? Because they came from a good family that taught them to appreciate things. I also don't think abuse factors into sexual success much. If you are abused enough you kind of "check out" of morality and become dark triad which ironically leads to success with women. It only really sucks if you became a simp/people pleaser to escape the abuse. I mean, even then, it…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 12:17 AM
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if that's the case there's no hope left lol, i'm headed to another planet with the AI and robots. i leave this one to its fate.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 11:44 PM
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I do think there is a degree of this going on most of the time OP, especially with younger women and more... I don't know a kind way to put it, but dumber women. Dumber people tend to view situations as binary, and to over-identify with others based on demographic similarity rather than mental/ethical similarity. I hate to say it but I think women are biologically, culturally superior in this aspect. Demographic groups that have no in-group bias are disadvantaged against groups that do. You can …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 11:11 PM
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Sure, economic situation and online grifters radicalizing people with easy answers isnt helping matters. No argument there. I dont think its quite as simple as men = aggressors or women = ingrates. Lots of factors fuelling the tribalist death spiral
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 10:00 PM
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Fair
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 09:36 PM
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But that's what I'm getting at, a significant amount of "struggling with dating" comes from that part. Quality over quantity.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 09:34 PM
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I agree that being a doormat is bad, but I'm just saying, even if you stop being a doormat and like yourself, and be exactly who you want to be instead of others, there is a chance others still might not like you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 09:27 PM
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I'm currently at ~18% but it's not just my personal experience, my whole group of friends who lift are saying that it only helps with initial attraction and even then, only with a certain set of women. Others don't give a shit. I will say that you unlock like a "prestige class" of women who also lift or do martial arts, they tend to not want to be with a scrawny dude at all. What is your theory for maintaining attraction in an LTR bro? Surely you acknowledge it can't all be your body and becomes…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 09:25 PM
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I agree that this is important, but it's only for getting your foot in the door. If you can't maintain boundaries, keep her behavior within acceptable norms without alienating her, seize opportunities to create chemistry, and have a kind of higher order joint life plan running to ensure you stay connected, have shared meaning in your lives and show how you add to her life... etc etc etc... then it all falls apart anyway. I took up lifting about 2 years ago, and have a group of friends who are in…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 09:05 PM
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at least it's amusing to watch OP contort himself into a pretzel mentally
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 08:46 PM
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A good point. Trying to control outcomes is a fool's errand to some degree. Better to focus on cultivating a certain level of robustness so even when disaster befalls you, you have many other sources of happiness and supportive friends to fall back on. Thanks for a productive convo!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 08:42 PM
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You have a better rationale than the one OP expressed.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 08:39 PM
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This will not work if your authentic personality is too divergent from what women find attractive. Mixed results at best.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 08:38 PM
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You cold approach much? In 2026? What dark magic is this
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 08:37 PM
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Autism won't let me do two even mildly contradictory things at the same time. Objectivity + care can't go together. Solutions??
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 08:36 PM
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Hmmm yeah you're right, I'm being too harsh on all women generally. I think the point I'm trying to make is that you have to have a system for dealing with the bad people, too. Can't assume everyone is going to be good or even ... medium, in terms of morality. Life has unfortunately taught me that being able to compute and judge and form systems for dealing with people objectively is more important than the capacity for love. The latter is a luxury, the former a necessity.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 08:34 PM
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Thanks big sis <3
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 08:31 PM
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Yeah, although my ex wife is frantically pursuing her education and for some reason all the philosophical and biomedical ethics classes didn't filter into her own interpersonal morality. I guess education only works on most people but not all. Maybe some people can only grasp virtue in the abstract and can't put into practice in real life. I definitely intend to vet more for ethics and stability in the future. It's top priority for me now.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 08:25 PM
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We did do 50/50, but in my state, there's still child support allocated based on income disparity. And I get what you're saying about the child support having to go to the kids, IN A SANE WORLD where the mom gives a shit about the kids not having clothes or food. The reality is the woman can just redirect the money to herself, deprive the kids of basic necessities and there's not much you can do about it other than pick up the financial slack and make weak legal threats that even your own lawyer…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 08:22 PM
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You CAN do something about it, you can divorce her
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 08:18 PM
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And empathy? Caring about other people? Is that gone too?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 08:17 PM
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Yes cheaters basically are disallowed from thinking because even cursory amount of thought reveals the fact that they are a massive piece of shit. And that's uncomfortable to sit with. So no thinking allowed.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 08:15 PM
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What the fuck are you talking about lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 08:14 PM
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Ok. Sounds like you two have a lovely marriage and you respect each other's contributions equally. I wish it were always like that. Wish you all the continued success and happiness~
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 08:13 PM
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There is no enforcement mechanism to ensure the money gets spent on the child after you're removed from your ex wife's life. I guess there was no guarantee of that before either, but you could at least control the finances somewhat. My ex wife is spending the thousands I give her on mommy makeover tummy tuck, shit like that. To look better for the affair partner I guess, or have an easier time roping in the next poor fool. It's all good though. God is my vindicator.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 08:11 PM
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ok then carry on
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 08:09 PM
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I thought you were low n. False advertising? Or is the bar for "low" now merely double digits and not triple.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 08:07 PM
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Higher physical bar and lower personality bar, maybe. It's possible to be "fuck zoned" as a Chad, I believe.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 08:05 PM
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Dna strand and biological impulses overriding the rational mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 08:04 PM
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Stop crying and accept reality = learned helplessness. Better approach: continue crying and hit the fucking gym and stack your cash until you have more clout and can get what you want - then stop crying. Work out so hard you both cry and shit yourself - it's what i do on the reg.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 08:04 PM
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Our own behavior, while often ambiguous to us, can be patently formulaiac and explicable to others. It is often easier to analyze from the outside.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 08:02 PM
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Pathologizing something doesn't make it invalid 🤷‍♂️ It's possible that retroactive jealousy is the correct approach to life and decades of psychoanalytic theory are wrong. Happened with phrenology, for instance. No doctor calls women hysterical anymore even though once it was a clincial term
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 07:59 PM
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Hmm... nah. Strikes me as inaccurate. It's depressingly closer to parity: evil men will sow their wild oats and then dump hot crazy BPD Stacy to eventually settle down with dumpy-frumpy Becky who has better domestic skills and ability to genuinely love him. Eventually he will cheat on Becky though. Guy doesn't have to be a Chad to pull this off, just sufficiently sociopathic and suave. For both male and females of the beta variety, you "win" the game by being the person everyone wants to marry. …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 07:56 PM
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I would argue that men have a much lower baseline need for comfort and emotional support, hence valuing it less. And an inverse effect for sex and physical expressions of affection.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 07:52 PM
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Intelligence does not equate to being hardened against manipulation, EIQ and IQ are two different things. I don't think anyone reasonable would dispute that women have superior EIQ. Also, the median man and woman are of equal intelligence. However, there are more male geniuses due to higher genetic variation in the y chromosome. Men are nature's experiments. It all dovetails together with the majority of men not being able to breed in ancient and prehistoric times - nature makes men evolve quick…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 07:47 PM
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They realized you can just fuck the single moms and future faking is a super effective strategy against them. Who is going to turn down easy free pussy?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 07:46 PM
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You're married and getting DMs from random guys, how do you know what races and ages they are? Your man is ok with this? Lol. Turn your DMs off then and honor thy partner imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 07:44 PM
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Lol my solution to this as a mixed person was to date white and asian women alternately.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 07:43 PM
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Hey there.... 🤓
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 07:42 PM
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Wait which one? Millenial men or millenial women? https://nwlc.org/mind-the-gender-wage-gap/ <-- this source says millenial men outearn millenial women. It's surely not equal.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 07:40 PM
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This only works if you take a purely sex focused view of life. If you actually care about your children having a better world when they grow up you understand that the long term consequences of cultural rot are bad news for your progeny. I personally care about neither so feminism is free to stamp and piss on the long-dead corpse of patriarchy for another 50 years for all I care. Everything dies with me anyway. The game world ceases to exist when I press the power button.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 07:36 PM
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They do that if they don't like you and the solution is to leave. "But if I leave after marrying her there's legal/financial consequences". I thought about this too, but there's a solution to this as well - just make her buy in. Only marry women who have fucked you about 500 times or so. Multiply that by the going rate for an escort, gives a very high number. About the average child support/alimony package for sending that woman on her way later. Resentment only comes when you are surprised by a…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 07:33 PM
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Demanding less and offering more didn't work out for the previous generation of men (millenials) so even though this appears to suck on the surface, probably under more intense scrutiny it doesn't suck, and in fact makes sense. Maybe women don't reward men for offering a lot and demanding a little. Maybe there's an ideal level of both where sexual outcomes are greatest and men just keep adjusting trying to find that sweet spot. Maybe when life becomes too good for women they get bored and start …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 07:28 PM
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I agree a lot with your premise but not this point: The best approach obviously is ofcourse to be yourself, but since most men don't know who they are, they hate this advice Nah, dudes know who they are, it just doesn't meet the bar for women or society generally. If you have a calm, stable persona where you just focus on a few interests or hobbies and mostly want a peaceful life, society pathologizes you - you lack "passion". Basically the feminine imperative's crushing hand trying to force you…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 07:10 PM
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Sensible, and those things should make a comeback. Not the reality of the world we live in currently though
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 06:23 PM
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It is hard because you’re trying to find someone who feel an emotional pull, chemistry, unusual level of attraction and connection to. But those factors interfere with rational computation. To whatever extent your experience of another human being is effected by emotion, it becomes proportionally less effected by logic
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 01:48 AM
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Your post seems maximally calibrated to try and make men seem somehow bad when in reality they’re just humans like women responding to incentives, having to go through life, get treated well by some members of the opposite sex and badly by others, have to adapt their behavior to not get taken advantage of… etc. There’s not this huge gap between men and women where men are somehow worse than women, physiologically our brains aren’t different enough for that. I think you’re a bit biased
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 01:37 AM
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Humans have always compared potential partners Not healthy ones, or ones that would make for good partners. Comparison is the thief of joy, grass is always greener - aphorisms that predate social media. Why? Because toxic individuals comparing the reality of their partner to the fantasy of someone else has always existed. Part of true coming of age, maturity, is losing the excessive focus on “what if” and making the best of what is. Live in reality and build it up incrementally rather than daydr…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 01:30 AM
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Thats the pattern I’m currently stuck in. Not sure it makes me stronger but pain is more edifying and ennobling than pleasure, certainly
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 01:20 AM
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It is important to pay on the first date to show you understand the relative scarcity and therefore value of pussy compared to dick and can operate in a world of hidden subtle unspoken truths that undergird sexual relations rather than needing it explained to you or autistically make it explicit and therefore subject to social opprobrium which women find offensive and panty-drying every time Women basically reward you with sex for maintaining the masquerade of equality while being a benevolent s…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 01:14 AM
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Do you think you would become un-demanding with a sufficiently intrinsically caring man? Or have you pretty much given up on the idea of such a creature existing in the real world. I lean towards the latter personally. For whatever reason god won’t allow two inherently kind caring individuals to pair up. Not enough drama and sexual tension perhaps.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 01:04 AM
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Congratulations, I’m very glad you found your island of happiness in this ocean of depravity and suffering.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 01:03 AM
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For whatever reason I tend to attract extraverted ambitious type A women. I tend to radiate stability, empathy, supportiveness, willingness to listen instead of talk, basically traits that somewhat narcissistic people would gravitate towards because it makes for a great “support class” persona in a world where she is the star. Eventually those women get bored of that dynamic though, and start to initiate conflict and it all unravels. Predictable as the sun rising in the east. You could set your …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 12:55 AM
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Yes OP there is a myth of male hyper agency where he is responsible for any negative outcome that befalls him and a corresponding myth of female hypo agency where any negative outcome in her life is because of a dearth of quality men. Its best to just accept that as the nature of existence. 100 years ago society was ridden with homophobia, racism, religious extremism etc. Any point in human history, future or past there will be parts of it that suck and dont make sense
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 08:45 PM
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Nah I was an abuse victim and I blame myself. Just kept ignoring red flags. I am quietly masochistic in some deeply spiritual way. Maybe repeating bad patterns that happened early in my life due to my BPD mother. Doesn't mean it always happens like that but I think some women are just repeating childhood patterns unintentionally like I was.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 06:58 AM
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You have to correct for woman's self perceptions basically. No woman ever considers herself to be an argumentative, contrarian, conflict seeking, narcissistic, domineering, caustic, aggressive, arrogant bitch, yet many are. How do you filter these women? Simple, they would never ever self identify as remotely submissive. Now whether a woman is actually submissive to me or not doesn't matter. Imo, even the self proclaimed submissive woman will still try to top from the bottom and get what she wan…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 06:52 AM
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I feel like this is cap, and comes from inexperience/wishful thinking. It sounds good on the tongue and then in real life it doesn't bear as much fruit as grinding dating apps or even cold approaches. If only being a cool, good, well-liked person actually led to dates....... nah. It helps after you start having dates because you have shit to talk about but actually GETTING the dates? Doesn't ring true to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 06:40 AM
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Love is a cognitively overloaded term. Infatuation, raw physical lust, dedication/commitment, warm companionate love, and even familial ties, are all separate things that get cognitively muddled together under the umbrella concept of love. In my opinion, dedication and companionate love are the only ones that matter. The others are determined by base animalistic hormones or biological determinism rather than free will, imo. I personally believe that the love that older couples experience, the ki…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 06:35 AM
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Asexual, demisexual, mostly trends and "look at me I'm so unique" nonsense. On par with being a furry or stargendered.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 06:28 AM
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Just assume they're all lying about everything all the time OP, makes life a lot simpler and straightforward. My mind became much more relaxed after realizing this. Talking with woman at all = auto loss, try to completely bluescreen and shut off your brain when talking to woman and just make supportive noises. You will still lose somehow in the long run but it's slower, a lot like mathematically randomizing your moves in rock paper scissors. We cannot defeat their EIQ but we can slow them down.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 06:25 AM
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My perception is the opposite from yours OP, I see men get criticized for being delulu/toxic for not wanting a fat woman or single mom and if you criticize women's dating standards it's somehow rapey. Basically my personal experience completely nullifies yours, the score is 1-1 now.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 06:23 AM
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My opinion OP: You need the willingness to build skill as well as the ability to shrug off bad RNG and not feel too bad about yourself. Both are needed. If dating is completely unpredictable then all you get is the cope part and not the skill part.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 06:18 AM
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Why do women engage in casual sex then OP? Genuine question. Brainwashed by eight seasons of sex in the city?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 06:15 AM
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Were they taught to? Or is it an evolutionary outgrowth of the fact that sperm is cheaper than eggs and so in the vast majority of sexed species men compete over women rather than the converse?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 06:14 AM
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Men can overpower women.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 06:13 AM
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Competing with them as if you're in the same race is just weird. It's not weird if you believe in egalitarianism as a moral imperative that applies universally and not just a cudgel to batter your enemies with when convenient.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 06:12 AM
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Solve through technology: get a vasectomy. This is my solution to the problem OP. Same thing will eventually happen with abortion, once artificial womb is perfected then the logic of "I can't be forced to be an incubator" no longer works and men can now adopt the baby and force the woman to pay him. Ofc when this happens there will almost immediately be legislation that unwanted babies have to be paid for by the state so you'll be proved right at that point in history OP. We can reconvene to dis…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 06:10 AM
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I wish men were as smart as women, then NiceGuy behaviors would not be framed as rapey and instead get classified as "unpaid emotional labor" and eventually lead to legally mandated financial reparations from women.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 06:07 AM
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Is a race to the bottom really a good thing, OP? Food for thought. Maybe good that you're free to be a bigger dickhead than the person already being a dickhead to you? Seems like the winner of that contest doesn't gain much in the long run. Cooperative strategies beat competitive ones long term, otherwise human beings would not be social animals. Also... I guess maybe you didn't consider that the "younger woman" the guy is leaving for is eventually going to cause untold psychic and financial har…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 06:05 AM
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I do think there is something to the idea that women are putting more mental pressure on themselves than their male counterparts. What else explains the fact that they have more education and higher pay now? Not to mention retaining their larger friend circles and larger median (if this is to be believed I guess) number of sex partners, putting more effort into the domestic sphere, etc. There is a conversation that is defeaning because of the extent to which it does NOT happen in our society, an…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 05:56 AM
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Yes, and the male response was just a counter to women wanting a relationship but then treating you abominably when in the relationship, ie, reducing sex, trying to manipulate you, being overly entitled with their demands etc. And that behavior from women was a counter to male laziness and over-optimization of life leading to slightly suboptimal outcomes for her and her progeny... and THAT was a counter to excess caloric expenditure or unnecessary physical risk which led to the deaths of many a …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 05:45 AM
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If you refuse to touch a hot stove, aren't you only refraining out of fear of getting burned? Yes, but not all fear is invalid. Do you expect people to be weak minded and approval-seeking enough to slam their hand down on a hot stove just to prove a point to you OP? Your point about dying for your spouse but not accepting disrespect from them is much weaker than you think. Death-before-dishonor was the norm for male cultures through most of human history. Still is in many places. It is much bett…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 05:38 AM
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