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| 55 | How to make seductive eye contact? | Fundamentals | Substantial_Smell_72 | /r/seduction | 29/05/24 03:08 PM |
| 7 | How would you respond to this text? | Conversation | Substantial_Smell_72 | /r/seduction | 09/10/21 12:20 AM |
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| 0 | What truly attracts women“Kek” really? Your wrong. But you may be too far gone to understand. | /r/seduction | 06/04/25 10:36 AM |
| 4 | How to make seductive eye contact?I have always been told i have a good face but I’m kinda chubby at the moment and working on it. I thought this is why but it’s been like this my whole life even when I was not chubby. | /r/seduction | 29/05/24 06:00 PM |
| 3 | On the rise of lonely single menAt 24 I weighed 300 pounds, had no friends, and kiss-less virgin. 4 years later and I’m a completely different person but it doesn’t change if you don’t put in the work and actually put yourself out of your comfort zone and talk to girls and people in general. You need to learn how to be interesting and social able. People who are interesting are interested. | /r/seduction | 24/10/22 04:27 PM |
| 1 | Do we even need r/seduction?Helps to share experience with people on this sub. Nothing learned is going to be as effective then if you go out and get real world experience. The problem I could see that your talking about is this place make it easy to feel like your learning and getting better but if you never apply it to the real world it all means nothing. I also fall into this trap of not wanting to get out of my comfort zone. | /r/seduction | 15/10/22 04:40 PM |
| 1 | What is it like to date or have a gf?Remember your starting from the beginning so just remind yourself that you eventually will get better if put in the practice. Do t makes excuses for yourself, of cour you won’t be successful the first time but trust in your own ability and 5 years from now you will be shocked at how much you can improve. Changed my life at 24 was friendless, jobless and a virgin who weighed 300 pounds. 4 years later an I was a completely different person because I put in the work. | /r/seduction | 29/08/22 05:11 PM |
| 2 | How do I start approaching?I changed my life at 24. Pretty much had all my first at late in life and thought I could never change but it is never too late. | /r/seduction | 20/07/22 04:29 PM |
| 1 | My goal is to have my first date by the time I'm 40.Hey bro glad you found glad your getting motivated that the first step. I initially lost the weight over a summer about 6 years ago so I’ve had some fluctuations over the years. Lowest I got down too was 190 pound. My frame is naturally pretty big so I walk around comfortably around 230. Lifting weights is the best way to go with a bit of cardio. Now a days I’m in the best shape I’ve been in a while. I weight around 240 but my clothes look better then ever. When I only use cardio to get in shape… | /r/seduction | 06/02/22 03:52 PM |
| 1 | Anyone else feel like dating is completely pointless now?Too broke to date. Guess I’ll focus on my career for a few years and my cold opens haha | /r/seduction | 09/01/22 12:23 AM |
| 2 | HelpSame age and I’ve been relationships but can’t keep them and I still struggle with this. The only answer for us is to actually go out and talk to women, it like others, we expect an outcome like a number or a date or even a smile but it’s better just to talk and be natural even if it’s awkward or bad, the next interaction will be better as a result. Good luck man, all we can do is our best but I have come a long ways on my own journey with learning social skills and dating but still have a long … | /r/seduction | 08/01/22 08:11 AM |
| 9 | i am loserThat not an excuse. Get to the gym and get after it. No one cares that your new too the gym, literally everyone is there to focus on themselves. | /r/seduction | 28/12/21 07:21 PM |
| 129 | My goal is to have my first date by the time I'm 40.I thought you were closer 40 because of the title. I have heard a few stories of men 30+ who met someone and got married. So to the guys who are older, don’t give up hope. At 24 I was 300 pounds, friendless, kissless and obviously a virgin. I’m 29 now and I’m basically a completely different person. Got in shape, got a few girlfriends over the years and picked up skateboarding. I still have some issues being confident around a girl I’m really attracted too but it’s all just part of the learning … | /r/seduction | 30/10/21 05:14 PM |
| 2 | How to become this new person?Was a 300+ pound virgin until 24 no friends no hobbies and have changed my life completely. I finally feel like the person I see in the mirror is who I was actually meant to be. Hit the gym and start lifting weights. No need to be the bad boy, you just need more confidence. I started skateboarding and met lots of cool people. Stay positive op and keep pushing forward. DO NOT WASTE ANYMORE TIME. | /r/seduction | 15/08/21 02:08 PM |
| 154 | I wanted to share a small victoryI think the key to your success in that particular situation was that you kept the conversation casual without too many expectations. Keep that same vibe maybe just get her number not go straight to asking her out for drinks. I think you can be successful in any setting given the right context. | /r/seduction | 08/06/21 05:59 PM |
| 1 | To me, it feels like I can only approach a girl if we meet in a place where that's "socially acceptable", be it at a bar, work or school. How do you approach a girl who's just trying to mind her own business that you met at some random coffee shop?How do you know? Have you approached a girl in sweatpants. The point everyone else is making is that the conditions for approaching are never going to be perfect and if you see a girl you want to approach then you should just go do it and not wait for the "perfect" moment. | /r/seduction | 02/06/21 02:25 PM |
| 61 | To me, it feels like I can only approach a girl if we meet in a place where that's "socially acceptable", be it at a bar, work or school. How do you approach a girl who's just trying to mind her own business that you met at some random coffee shop?I grew up with a single mother and two sisters and use to feel guilty even talking about girls that I liked. Same with making just eye contact I use to thinks the same thing as you; I don’t want to be “that guy” but I’ve realized there is no need to hold onto this type of guilt. They care way lee then you think especially if it’s just a casual approach or brief eye contact. As a person and a man you have the right to exist on this earth and absolutely have the right to talk too or look at someon… | /r/seduction | 01/06/21 04:03 PM |
| 2 | Where did I mess upYou did good and deserve a lot of credit for approaching a group of girls. A couple things I think could have made the interaction a little more smooth would have been to tease them back when they were making their little comments. You could of made it funny and turned the tension around. Also asking them if they are nurses when you obviously know the answer is an eye roll moments in their eyes. By starting the conversation that way you put your self at a disadvantage. Like I said you still had … | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 03:19 PM |
| 3 | How old is too old?Over 18 obviously but if you are getting older and dont want to be a creep. Half your age plus 7 works for any age. If I'm 40 I do 20+7 the girl should be 27. If I'm 30 I do 30-15 +7 the girl is 22. It works pretty good for any age. Anyone over 30 trying to hook up with an 18 year old is pretty creepy and probably has no choice but to go after younger more naive girls. | /r/seduction | 19/05/21 02:16 PM |
| 1 | Is she flirting?Like the other comment said it could be either, but if she complemented you I’d say it’s a positive sign. Don’t get hung up on little things like this just go for. Talking to her just step one, don’t over complicate it by worrying about minute details. | /r/seduction | 18/05/21 01:07 PM |
| 7 | Does anyone else feel that the book, "How to win friends and influence people", advices people to be overly kind and fake which comes across as extremely inauthentic?Haha 2 chapters? The only way to get better at socializing is to talk to everyone you encounter. It’s not about being fake it’s about putting in some effort during a conversation when it not natural for you. Eventually it does feel natural but that take a little effort to get to that point. | /r/seduction | 05/05/21 03:25 PM |
| 2 | Some of you are lameLol I actually don’t see the type of post you describe, in fact I see the opposite. I see a lot of guys taking responsibility and trying to improve themselves. I think most of the guys in this sun know you can’t get laid with just stock line and tricks. | /r/seduction | 27/04/21 03:07 PM |
| 1 | How do I accept that men prefer youth, that it's a commonly held belief in society that men prefer youth and how do I therefore not feel depressed about ageing?No, we don’t. There are so many beautiful older women. I’m not worried about getting older and not dating women in their 20s because of the beautiful older women in there 40s I’ve seen. If your biggest fear is getting older and men not being attracted to you then it sounds like your priorities are skewed. Like we tell the other guys in this sub looking for advice. Find a hobby and learn to like yourself otherwise you’ll never be happy even if every man wanted you. | /r/seduction | 26/04/21 03:23 PM |
| 1 | How do I accept that men prefer youth, that it's a commonly held belief in society that men prefer youth and how do I therefore not feel depressed about ageing?I’ve been attracted to plenty of older women. Get in shape and stop making excuses. | /r/seduction | 26/04/21 03:09 PM |
| 4 | is game common sense?It kind of is. I have friends who have been social and dating their whole life it comes as second nature/common sense. But because I don’t have as much data and I lacked experience at first every interaction felt forced and unnatural. Now that I feel more comfortable and natural when I see people being socially awkward it’s stands out so much. So in that sense I think it is common sense but if your never learned the skill it’s definitely something that can be learned. Stuff that helped me in the… | /r/seduction | 10/04/21 04:28 PM |
| 5 | Basically got called boring today.I have this problem too especially with txting. In person I do better but before I got more comfortable with girls I was into. I had to get more comfortable with talking to everyone. My social anxiety use to be crippling but once I started to talk to everyone no matter how much I didn’t want too, talking with people became second nature and my funny personality naturally started to come out. I was always afraid to say the wrong thing so I always tried to please the other person and not talk abou… | /r/seduction | 09/04/21 02:16 PM |
| 7 | Lost virginity from listening to sedditI actually think it’s the opposite. I think men can fall for a women to quick and too hard and end up becoming to needy and not being themselves because they are trying to please the girl too much instead of just being naturalb. This ultimately pushes the girl away. I’m only letting the op know that it’s easy to fall really hard for the girl that you lose your virginity too. Trust me it’s not an uncommon experience for men. | /r/seduction | 04/04/21 07:44 PM |
| 1 | Lost virginity from listening to sedditI lost virginity late in life but never really had problem with sex because of how eager I was for it haha. on a date when you get to the point of sex I would say go down on her this will her get really turned on and You can watch a video on pornhub about how to do it. Once you give her an orgasm going down on her, any penetration to her is going to feel better. | /r/seduction | 04/04/21 02:15 PM |
| 5 | Fist cold approach today, need some adviceThat fact that you approach is half the battle. Don’t have any shame in say “okay bye, good talking to you” before it reaches critical levels of awkwardness. Success does not happen over night. Also try different strategies, sometime I do better alone then with a friend. Take turns individually approaching and as each other’s wingman. | /r/seduction | 03/04/21 08:30 PM |
| 262 | Lost virginity from listening to sedditHaha congrats dude! I know the feeling. Don’t do what I did and fall for the girl to quickly because if it don’t work out it hurts that much more. Keep it casual and keep flirting with other girls and keep them in your social orbit. Once I got too comfortable I lost the thing that made her like me in the first place. | /r/seduction | 03/04/21 08:27 PM |
| 3 | Give 4-5 short bullets on what you think it takes to be successful with women, or to be successful in general. No paragraphs.The advice that has helped me has been “in order to be interesting you have to be interested”. Which means ask genuine question and your young so focus on you and the things you like and the rest will come. I learned to skateboard and that helped give a lot of confidence to be funny and I found a little bit of light teasing always keeps a conversation fun. Also nothing changes overnight. Just practice and know it’s okay to be rejected, eventually it becomes natural. | /r/seduction | 03/04/21 06:16 PM |
| 10 | Give 4-5 short bullets on what you think it takes to be successful with women, or to be successful in general. No paragraphs.You missed the rest of my point. Rich dudes and good looking dudes get cheated on all the time because they only rely on good looks and money. You’d be shocked at how many wives flirt with me while their husbands are in the other room, not because I’m rich but because I’m fun and interesting to talk to. Put in the work and you’ll find a women worth making your wife, but if you rely on just your money and good like you’ll never find a loyal wife because your priority are off. I’ve put in the work… | /r/seduction | 03/04/21 03:20 PM |
| 1 | Give 4-5 short bullets on what you think it takes to be successful with women, or to be successful in general. No paragraphs.Having lots of money is a sign of success but only if you made the money yourself. Being successful in business means a high level of competence and skill but if your just some rich kid because of your parents are rich the money will only take you so far. None of the women a rich kid gets in this way will not be loyal to anything other then the money. | /r/seduction | 03/04/21 03:11 PM |
| 7 | Give 4-5 short bullets on what you think it takes to be successful with women, or to be successful in general. No paragraphs.The point your mIssuing is that if you have none of the first three qualities the only way to get women is “to get a hobby.” You never make progress if you think these are the only qualities to be successful with women. Being funny and confident are important but being rich and good looking is not the end all be all. Ask any rich dude who’s wife bangs the pool boy or rich and good looking people get cheated on all the time. You can be rich and get no loyalty from women or you can work on your ac… | /r/seduction | 03/04/21 03:07 PM |
| 11 | Give 4-5 short bullets on what you think it takes to be successful with women, or to be successful in general. No paragraphs.I agree with all but number 4. I agree with cutting porn but I feel like if I don’t masterbate I am always to amped up and makes decisions with just my dick rather then my brain. Last date I had I didn’t masterbate for a couple days and I couldn’t stop getting a boner from just kissing. Count have fun just kept thinking about hooking up with her. | /r/seduction | 03/04/21 02:19 PM |
| 1 | What makes you feel confident?Learning to Skateboard has made me more confident! It’s like having a super power other people don’t. Plus I have made a few friends and bunch of acquaintance at skateparks. Not to mention some of the most cool and sexy girls are always at the major parks. | /r/seduction | 03/04/21 02:14 PM |
| 3 | Give 4-5 short bullets on what you think it takes to be successful with women, or to be successful in general. No paragraphs.You already lost | /r/seduction | 03/04/21 02:09 PM |
| 4 | How can you work on eye contact, kino, verbal game, delivery etc whilst still seeming natural and present in the moment?I would suggest exposure therapy. The only way I got better interacting with women and people in general was to talk to them more. You will leave many conversations thinking why did I say that! Or why didn’t it go better! but try to ignore these unhelpful thoughts and keep pushing forward. The more you put yourself out there and make a fool of yourself the more you will learn and you will start to make little victories the help keep you going and eventually you will get to a point where you no l… | /r/seduction | 02/04/21 08:34 AM |
| 4 | She likes me. Now what?Just keep it casual. Get her number then ask her to hang out. If you ask her for a date after work she might be inclined to decline( after work most people are just looking to get home) but if you text her and build some back and forth between each other then ask her out she’ll probably say yes. Don’t count asking for a date after work out if you feel the vibe but I think the odds work better if you get her number first. | /r/seduction | 01/04/21 03:00 AM |
| 1 | Needy guys talking to girls is like those annoying advertises on YouTube. They want to gain something quickly but don't wanna give anything tangible in return.I think that’s an apt way to put it but please elaborate on your definition of needy. I’m asking because I have been needy in the past. I’ve noticed times that I felt needy I was constantly trying to give more in the interaction the she was willing to give back. | /r/seduction | 31/03/21 01:29 PM |
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