Such-Living6876 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	Perspective on some comments / emotional affairs Oh yes, totally agree. Like ive replied on all comments including to OP about some historic things ive said, not condoning the behaviour. It lacks self reflection. But we learn and grow from mistakes. But yes, i agree.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/07/24 05:02 PM
1	Perspective on some comments / emotional affairs That happens frequently. I have experienced men behaving the same.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/07/24 02:12 PM
1	Perspective on some comments / emotional affairs Agreed. Humans are complex. In order to do that, a lot of self reflection is needed as to why they feel triggered/the need to behave that way. This is difficult to do in the middle of an argument, unless you truely know yourself. Most people dont. Im simply offering a female perspective, to the OP, who wanted a view on his wifes (female) behaviour. It would be difgicult for a man to act with a female perspective.....i know i couldnt give a male perspective on male behaviour.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/07/24 02:05 PM
2	Perspective on some comments / emotional affairs I totally agree with you. I didnt say i condoned the behaviour. I gave an honest perspective of how women sometimes behave, in fear of being abandoned. Its not delusional.....this behaviour happens and many psychologists have written about it. Sometimes it comes from fear.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/07/24 02:04 PM
1	Perspective on some comments / emotional affairs Op is asking for views on a females behaviour i gave a perspective i see most females do.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/07/24 01:22 PM
1	Perspective on some comments / emotional affairs I do not have BPD. I have had clinical evaluation via therapy for ADHD, Autism, BPD and narcissism for a variety of reasons (i believed i may have something). I have no mental health conditions other than grief and PTSD, which was from being in a difficult marriage. For clarity, i used to push my stbxh by saying "well we may as well get divorced" and similar comments. Nothing personal to him/about him or his personality until the end. This was after being treated poorly.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/07/24 01:15 PM
0	Perspective on some comments / emotional affairs Yes. I didnt say its right but its common.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/07/24 12:55 PM
4	Perspective on some comments / emotional affairs Ah. Thanks for the clarity. Just wanted to post a differing view as i used to act like this (although not quite like your wife) and it was because i felt like my stbxh would abandon me. Sorry for your situation OP. Still be the calm in the storm thoygh, but this time for yourself	/r/Divorce_Men	09/07/24 11:19 AM
-6	Perspective on some comments / emotional affairs As a female i would like to pose a different perspective. She may feel scared you will leave, so she is subconciously pushing you. Seeing if you will stay. Seeing how emotionally strong you are to weather the storm. How do you react when she is like this? Do you calmly reflect back to her, that the way she is acting isnt really who she is? That she can push all she wants put you wont go? That saying those things is hurtful and unacceptable, without attacking back? Its easy to go "well yeah, fuck…	/r/Divorce_Men	09/07/24 08:34 AM