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| 3 | Has learning latin dance forms like Bachata help you get a lay?If you have success with salsa/bachata in such a loud environment - there are more efficient ways like online dating that will be just as efficient. Never met a guy who does well meeting gals at loud dances like that and can’t do well with online. | /r/seduction | 24/09/24 10:43 PM |
| 40 | What advices given to you in this subreddit, would you say have worked for you?The general advice of “if she was interested, she would” is what I found to be most useful. Just move on as soon as you feel there’s any significant hesitation or feeling of lower interest. I can’t really remember any time that a woman with what seemed like low interest turned out to actually be someone worth spending any time on. It’s difficult because many of us feel like we don’t have many opportunities but that’s the real problem you need to fix. Your issue isn’t figuring out how to get the … | /r/seduction | 17/09/24 05:19 PM |
| 55 | Do you believe that there are truly some people are unattractive and cannot become attractive?There are people who will be physically unappealing and there’s nothing that they can do to completely change it. Almost no one focuses on that stuff here because it’s kinda pointless to discuss. Inherently, it’s a discussion that centers on “I can’t change or do anything”. It’s kinda like wishing you could change the moon and stars. For most people, it’s not really a productive conversation and that’s why you’re not going to see it talked about here. It is the reality for many people reading in… | /r/seduction | 17/09/24 05:33 AM |
| 358 | Going to a singles event with about 100+ women in attendance (and 100+ men). Any tips on sticking out of the crowd?Have low expectations. The women showing up to these events are the ones who couldn’t crack it on apps - so beware. | /r/seduction | 15/09/24 09:22 PM |
| 4 | Tinder experience as “Ripped” good looking maleI’m one of the few people who doesn’t look good with a lean face. If I get below 10%, my face has hollow cheeks and all that. I end up looking like a chemo patient. | /r/seduction | 10/09/24 01:13 AM |
| 1 | Tinder experience as “Ripped” good looking maleFacial attractiveness is also important. I’ve known several dudes with physiques like yours but are ugly. They don’t get any action. Women are very sensitive to the facial attractiveness of their partners. I’m not saying dudes shouldn’t get ripped but know even with this kind of physique, you might be severely disappointed. | /r/seduction | 10/09/24 12:59 AM |
| 65 | Anyone here a loser who turned it around?A lot of the stories you’ll see boil down to “I was 16 and then I was 24”. Another common one, “I was fat and then I wasn’t.” One I find most humorous, “I was a 300lb autistic redditor but then I met my 300lb autistic redditor wife”. Unless you’ve intentionally went the wrong way (e.g. got fat) or went way too hard on bad PUA (sarging through every bar you could find while being super drunk) - most people just steer the ship a bit better or eventually just find someone through sheer time in the … | /r/seduction | 07/09/24 08:02 PM |
| 2 | Weird Problem, but You Ever Feel Like You Have Too Many Friends?Go on a cut for 3-4 months and lose 20lb of fat. You know you need to. Your friends will never tell you that you’re fat btw. People are too nice and they don’t care about your dating life/overall happiness. Only really close friends who think you can take harsh feedback will say stuff - and I think that’s not what you’re mostly encountering. I’m in your position overall. I have no real advice other than keep trying to improve your looks. In all likelihood, it’s your looks that are holding you ba… | /r/seduction | 07/09/24 01:53 PM |
| 1 | Does location matter for cold approach?Location matters. Bay Area has about 35% more single men between 25-34 than single women. NYC has about 3% more single men than single women between 25-34. In some places like Silicon Valley it’s actually 50% more men. That means if 2/3 of men are in relationships then there’s literally zero single women. | /r/seduction | 07/09/24 01:46 PM |
| 101 | How are you navigating the insanely flaky nature of the dating scene right now?1 This is causes by women having an insane amount of options available. Women are flaking on you because you’re not her first choice. They like the attention because it doesn’t really cost them anything. They don’t need to dress up and go out with you to respond to DMs. It’s low investment from their part and you’re a backup option. 2 Not getting involved with low effort women. If a woman acts low effort, just drop her and move on. Spend very little time or investment on a woman. If she’s intere… | /r/seduction | 07/09/24 01:38 AM |
| 11 | Any guys here on the more average side have a good amount of success?Not really. I haven’t seen it. Almost everyone who ends up saying they’re doing well and is “average” ends up saying, “I mean yeah, I used to model part time” or “I’m 6’4” etc. That or their version of beautiful is your average woman on Reddit. (300lb+) | /r/seduction | 06/09/24 11:41 PM |
| 2 | Bootcamp adviceOr a great way to lock yourself into your hotel or go out and never interact with anyone. I’ve traveled the world and just because you’re in some new destination doesn’t mean you’re gonna be socializing with people. Especially if you don’t know the native language and you’re not talking to another tourist. I was in Athens for about a week and the only conversation I had with a stranger was at an Indian restaurant with an Indian couple who was asking me if the food was any good. That’s it. Travel… | /r/seduction | 06/09/24 09:12 PM |
| 71 | Tip for newbies - go the online route firstThis only works if you’re a physically attractive guy. If you’ve got an ugly face, you have to stick with IRL. Apps will make you spiral if you’re an ugly dude. If you’re getting dates off apps, you’re already in the top 10% and life is on easy mode since day 1. | /r/seduction | 06/09/24 11:21 AM |
| 3 | Why self improvement won't solve your dating problemsBoth can be done at the same time but I find going out and trying to meet women while I’m doing self-improvement to actually be self-defeating. Getting rejected while working so hard on your self makes you feel like what you’re doing isn’t working. I don’t recommend going out at all if you’re gonna be focused on self-improvement. Getting rejected by women over and over will lead you to doubt whether what you’re doing is worth it. You’ll see your bench go up and yet your dating results be nothing… | /r/seduction | 03/09/24 04:11 PM |
| 3 | Throwing small house party, need advice on how to pull a girlThis is basically the only thing he actually needs to do. | /r/seduction | 01/09/24 03:25 AM |
| 81 | Average looking men - What is your medthod of getting laid on a night out??Guys who get laid often have abysmal standards and/or are extremely hot and/or pay in some way. Most of the guys I know who go out with an intention to get laid and make it happen are often very good looking, hookup with someone utterly forgettable, and are often buying that girl $200+ in just drinks alone. If you fit those three criteria - you too can have shitty and forgettable sex. | /r/seduction | 01/09/24 03:11 AM |
| 15 | What causes girls to not want romantic ties and "just stay friends"?Because it’s the one that most guys can never really achieve regardless of how much effort they put in. A pipeline of women is something that requires high genetic luck (or fascination with BBW) | /r/seduction | 27/08/24 01:31 PM |
| 5 | The one texting frameworks that consistently gets me laid with online dating.The framework is good - which I think is what you should focus on. The texts themselves maybe don’t translate well to English but you’re also 21. If any woman in NYC above 25 heard these - they’d cringe and promptly unmatch. For anyone out there thinking, “I need master text game” - you don’t. This guy shows it. The conversations are pretty mild and mostly unsophisticated but it works for him. I do think the level of physical attraction they have for you and the fact you’re not looking for anyth… | /r/seduction | 25/08/24 12:09 AM |
| 12 | Did meeting girls in real life work better for you than online dating?He’s working at a grocery store dude. It’s not a place where there’s anything on the line. If you were making good money in tech or something then yeah - don’t do it. | /r/seduction | 23/08/24 03:52 PM |
| 0 | Did meeting girls in real life work better for you than online dating?This really isn’t the case. Women who aren’t looks focused aren’t on apps because it is entirely based off of looks. A woman who judges primarily based off other attributes won’t use a dating app because a dating app entirely uses looks as its filtering mechanism. I’ve talked to hundreds of women about this. Your other points really speak to what I’m talking about. An ugly man will never have matches on apps regardless of how “good” his profile is. | /r/seduction | 23/08/24 05:15 AM |
| 11 | Did meeting girls in real life work better for you than online dating?I have a gym that has a social component to it. So, hot tub, sauna, the pool - places like that. Otherwise, dancing or other hobby type activities. There are singles groups too like singles run clubs and so on. | /r/seduction | 23/08/24 01:46 AM |
| 62 | Did meeting girls in real life work better for you than online dating?In person has been the only way that has worked for me. I’d assume that’s true for a ton of other men as well. If you’re not physically attractive, you’re not going to get any traction online. In real life, the women who are more flexible about looks will be more open to you. These women don’t exist on apps. | /r/seduction | 23/08/24 12:49 AM |
| 4 | Any guys here who can explain why they don't approach?By just manning up and dealing with it. | /r/seduction | 22/08/24 03:37 PM |
| 11 | Any guys here who can explain why they don't approach?Depends on the context. There’s lots of places I see women I’d love to interact with but I don’t approach. That’d be on the street, shopping, lifting, or at most bars/clubs. The reason I don’t approach there is because that’s when I need to be more physically attractive than most men. Objectively, I’m just not there and probably will never be there. I’ve done all of it but I’ve not been given any kind of decent amount of warm receptions in my hundreds of attempts. My lack of physicality is all g… | /r/seduction | 22/08/24 03:01 PM |
| 3 | Let’s flip to the other side of the coin, what have you found makes women approach you?I live in NYC. | /r/seduction | 20/08/24 03:32 AM |
| 6 | Let’s flip to the other side of the coin, what have you found makes women approach you?I’ve literally never seen that in my hundreds of times being out at a bar. Where do you live? | /r/seduction | 20/08/24 02:33 AM |
| 11 | Let’s flip to the other side of the coin, what have you found makes women approach you?Useless. | /r/seduction | 20/08/24 12:59 AM |
| 4 | Let’s flip to the other side of the coin, what have you found makes women approach you?What’re the contexts of the women approaching you? Where are you having them approach you? For instance, I don’t see this happening at bars or clubs. Just wondering where you’re getting this experience. | /r/seduction | 20/08/24 12:48 AM |
| 18 | Solo bar tipsDude - women aren’t going to be coming up to you. Who gives a fuck what you look like when sitting alone at a bar? I’ll give you a tip: you’re literally invisible to women. I know it sounds crazy but women cannot see you unless you’re in their face and talking to them. 99% of gals literally don’t pay attention to the men in their surroundings unless they’re on a sidewalk alone at night. When a gal is in a bar - she isn’t scouting out the people or anything. You’re thinking like a man. What you n… | /r/seduction | 20/08/24 12:46 AM |
| 3 | I'm having a hard time believing that looks aren't that important when wanting to hookup or something casualIt’s important. We don’t talk about pretty privilege much in the mainstream because it’s one of these uncomfortable facts about life. Some people are lucky to be born beautiful and some people are born unlucky to be born ugly. And you really can’t do anything about it. Your face is what it is and even with surgery - some folks just be ugly. Doesn’t change that normally surgery isn’t until you’re in your 20s anyway and you’ve had to endure 20+ years of ugly life. That’s not fun. It doesn’t sit we… | /r/seduction | 19/08/24 07:30 PM |
| 1 | Why do women say: "The bar is so low for men" yet to get any results from cold approach as an avg guy, the interaction has to be exceptional basically. And even then nothing is guaranteedIt’s good you’re making progress with getting attraction but yeah - you’re basically acting like the men these women complain about. That said, it’s also the fault of these women. If they want someone serious then they need to not put out - it’s an easy filter for someone who is actually serious about you. A man who genuinely likes you and wants to spend time with you won’t care too much about not having sex the first few times you see each other. But, a lot of women think “but if I have sex wit… | /r/seduction | 19/08/24 06:46 PM |
| 7 | Why do women say: "The bar is so low for men" yet to get any results from cold approach as an avg guy, the interaction has to be exceptional basically. And even then nothing is guaranteedI never said it’s his fault. I said women put up a very high first bar - the one he’s complaining about. | /r/seduction | 19/08/24 02:10 PM |
| 48 | Why are girls attracted to intelligence?There’s a floor that each woman will have for all variables you’re talking about. Some women will find more intelligence more appealing than extra inches of height over their threshold. For example - guy gets a 4.0 but is 5’9” (her floor) vs guy who gets 3.0 (her floor) and is 6’2”. But that kind of woman is rare. Most women will prefer the superficial. You’re probably underestimating the non-intelligence parts of yourself. Most women will say shit like “you’re so smart/smooth/funny” etc. but th… | /r/seduction | 19/08/24 04:18 AM |
| 195 | Why do women say: "The bar is so low for men" yet to get any results from cold approach as an avg guy, the interaction has to be exceptional basically. And even then nothing is guaranteedThe bar they’re talking about is for behavior of when someone is in a relationship. Women will acknowledge the bar they put up for initial attraction is actually very high but they don’t care about that. After all, a ton of men pass that bar. It’s about how the men who pass that bar behave after with them. And, the reality is, the men who do very well at passing that initial bar often have no interest in passing the second bar. That’s why they’ll do situationships, lead the gal on, pump n dump, … | /r/seduction | 19/08/24 03:56 AM |
| 13 | What are your experiences with speed dating events?Run clubs still have the same issue imo. I’ve gone to ones with over 1000 people showing up. The hottest girls you saw were those who weren’t running with the club. It’s just be random woman running on west side highway. It’s not a close contest either. It was like there was some invisible filter for women who were significantly attractive. It boggled my mind how in this group of 500+ women I wouldn’t see almost any above a 6-7. I wouldn’t even label most as cute - just more physically fit/thinn… | /r/seduction | 13/08/24 10:19 PM |
| 8 | What are your experiences with speed dating events?Like everything - it’s all contextual. Online dating probably won’t be super effective if the type of individual you’re looking for doesn’t use it. Same for speed dating. You have to think about markets and the type of individuals who would go to speed dating events. | /r/seduction | 13/08/24 07:59 PM |
| 77 | What are your experiences with speed dating events?Pretty terrible. Comment I’ve often heard outside of them, “why did I even go to this? The women at the bar are way hotter.” Especially in a place like NYC, I found the women at speed dating events to be highly undesirable. It makes sense. Why would an attractive woman go when she can just schedule infinite dates off dating apps and meet people easily at bars/clubs/etc.? Maybe it works better in small towns | /r/seduction | 13/08/24 07:46 PM |
| 7 | Why is it that the answer to a man's inceldom is, 99.9999% of the time, to "just work on yourself bro," even if its for the next 50 years, "just work on yourself bro?"What is your suggestion then? State mandated girlfriend? Violent revolution? Lay down and rot? Oh - I see. It’s get on Reddit and bitch and whine. Cool. | /r/seduction | 09/08/24 01:03 AM |
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