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This story’s full of red flags. The one that pisses me off the most is the parent part because I know from experience how frustrating it is when your MIL starts influencing her daughter in a bad way, causing tension between you and always being manipulative. But that’s not even the worst part—the real problem is if your wife doesn’t back you up and tell her stupid mother to shut up and respect your boundaries. In the end, it’s not even the MIL’s fault, it’s your wife being a pushover. It’s not y…
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/24 05:30 PM
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I used to overanalyze every damn word she said and all the promises she made. I believed it all and tried to act accordingly. After a while, I realized it was all based on her mood at the time, or there was always some bullshit excuse. I told her straight up that from now on, I don’t give a shit about what she says—I’ll only pay attention to what she does. I started looking back at our issues that way, focusing on what she actually did. She obviously didn’t like that I wasn’t paying attention to…
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/24 07:52 AM
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Exactly. And if you think about it, this wouldn’t even be an issue if people had any self-awareness and actually bothered to check their sources. Before I take advice from anyone online, I’m reading up on their qualifications, background, the whole thing. But these days, if you look hot or seem rich and talk some convincing shit, that’s enough for most people. They’ll only realize they’ve been screwed later. if they even realize it at all.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/24 08:43 AM
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It’s a really interesting question, and I could talk about it for hours. But in short, if any relationship is based solely on feelings, it won’t have a long-term, quality future. Men and women should understand this and put in the effort together. Especially now, when we spend so much time at home, glued to screens, with less movement and less connection to nature…it messes with us and leads to messed-up feelings. But with some knowledge and effort, it’s actually pretty easy to manage and keep t…
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/24 08:35 AM
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You know what I mean. Reddit is more like an anonymous forum to me, cannot even compare to IG, tiktok or FB
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/24 08:08 AM
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I have never met a single woman in my life, no matter how smart or educated she was, who was familiar with how emotions work: how thoughts, lifestyle, and current physical conditions can affect the functioning of dopamine, oxytocin, serotonin, etc., and how these chemicals influence what they feel. Emotions were always perceived as some kind of spiritual, mystical guidance from nature that they had to follow. I really hope I will meet someone in the future who is capable of understanding this.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/24 12:18 PM
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I am really sorry. I decided to stay in the same house after she left a few months ago. I redecorated, got rid of all the shared memories. Mostly, I am doing well, but it’s still a rollercoaster. I didn’t think of her for a week, and then yesterday, when I went back to the bedroom, I could smell her. It was probably an old blanket or sheet she had washed before, or maybe my mind was playing tricks on me, but it just crushed me, and I started crying like a baby. Now, I’m thinking it might be bett…
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/24 11:31 AM
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In one year, we went on vacation three times to different countries. By the end of the year, I was told that we have the most boring life, that we never go anywhere, and we're always at home. OK.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/24 09:39 AM
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Yeah, but you can't really compare it with Facebook, TikTok, or Instagram. I've never met a single woman who was addicted to Reddit and seeking the same kind of validation nightmares there. Of course, I’m sure they exist, but the proportions are incomparable. Look at this thread: we're having a nice conversation without tits in your face, six-packs in the Bahamas, or Lambos in the garage.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/24 09:36 AM
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Yes, it’s definitely changed, and people are showing themselves less overall. What has worsened is that the content has become so exciting that people choose to scroll, avoiding reality and dealing with problems. It’s also shaping their opinions due to the countless stupid influencers confidently saying the most ridiculous things.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/24 09:24 AM
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My ex scrolled on her phone almost every day until 1 am. She told me it was because she couldn’t sleep. I explained to her how the process works: you look at a bright screen, which leads to lower melatonin production, and you’re watching exciting things, which increases dopamine. that’s why you’re not sleeping. I asked her to change her routine and spend some phone free quality time with me in bed, talking, cuddling, or anything. I also told her several times that I have to wake up early and can…
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/24 01:49 PM
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When I met my ex, I carefully asked her what she thought about social media. Of course, she said she used it sometimes but barely posted, etc. The reality was that, though she didn’t post about herself, every time we had a problem in our marriage, she would lock herself in a room and start seeking cheap dopamine by scrolling. This led to hours of watching stupid TikToks and Instagram content whenever she felt bad about something. I’m sharing this honestly, but I feel really ashamed. It got so ba…
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/24 08:51 AM
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That’s so typical, I’m dealing with something similar right now. She moved out because she wasn’t happy. I begged her to stay and work things out together. I told her that no matter what happens, we should stick together and support each other. I admitted what I was doing wrong and how I planned to change. But she didn’t say a single thing about what she wanted to change—she just listened to my plans. Then she kept threatening to leave. I told her straight up, if she moved out and kept using tha…
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/24 09:36 AM
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I’m just thinking out loud: in your situation, the bad news is that betrayal hits hard, especially after so long. You lived with someone you thought you knew and trusted, while she was living a second, hidden life. You’re probably blaming not just her but yourself for being blind and trusting. It hits harder and takes more time to heal, for sure. The good news is that you don’t have to think about ‘what ifs’ or possible solutions to fix this marriage. If you have the same values as me, betrayal …
/r/Divorce_Men15/09/24 10:49 AM
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Divorce cake… what the f—-?! What’s wrong with the world? These annoying, loud people are often the most miserable when they’re alone with their denial. But they’ll be the first to offer fake support to someone, only to drag them down to their level. And she won’t see it until it’s too late, no matter how much you try to warn her. Once you’ve experienced the truth, there’s just one small problem—there’s no going back. You made your choice, my dear ex, and even though it breaks my heart to see yo…
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/24 11:07 AM
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Thanks for sharing this, it was beautiful. I shed a few tears last night—I could relate to those feelings, even though we didn’t have kids or a dog together, the pain felt familiar. It made me think of a time long ago when I lived with a previous partner for years. After we broke up, I had to go back to that place. For a few weeks, I stayed with my parents to give her time to pack and leave. It was so depressing just thinking about going back to that house and seeing it half-empty, like the bath…
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/24 10:34 AM
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I’m happy you found your way, and that things are better now. I only wrote this because, for a lot of non-religious people, what you described might feel overwhelming. A small step, like starting to pray, can be a huge improvement. It’s not that I don’t believe in your story or don’t support you—it’s just that for some people, a step-by-step approach works better. Praying is actually very simple: it’s like talking to a good friend or a trusted family member—sharing your life, your problems, and …
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/24 10:13 AM
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Guys, I think it doesn’t really matter if there’s a white-bearded God sitting somewhere listening to your prayers or not. The psychological factor of praying (having an inner monologue, at least) helps process your trauma and might provide the good feelings you need in these hard times. And I’m not talking about the Christian God, but anything you feel comfortable with. Try it for a month and pray regularly. If the situation improves, great. If not, no one will know or think you’re stupid, but a…
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/24 07:13 PM
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Yes, it's so easy to be deceived. Our brains play against us if we don't regulate them. My mind would automatically replay the same picture of her after every unreasonable thing she did: when we first moved in together, the way she looked at me—big eyes, smiling, pure kindness. I haven't seen that smile for a long time, but after every mean thing she did, I didn't act accordingly. Instead, I nurtured that beautiful image of her. Now that I don't let this happen and regulate my mind to not go wit…
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/24 04:28 PM
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My eyes were caught by the 'mean girl' part. I don’t know if it has anything to do with your current situation, but it made me start thinking about how quickly a new friend group can change even the purest soul, especially someone who is naive and not confident. I’ve experienced this when my ex got introduced to a new 'mean girl' group at work and started spending time with them outside of work as well. Imagine the following characteristics of the group: girls covered in tattoos, smoking cigaret…
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/24 03:50 PM
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