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I was the one who walked out after years of being taken advantage and never appreciated. Our two kids are much closer to me than her. Always having to make more and more $$$$$ without giving a shit what it was doing to me mentally. Meanwhile she was winding down her work hours. So what does she do? Posts quotes about how wronged SHE was by me. How glad she’s done with our marriage, etc. She hasn’t dated anyone at all since.
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/26 08:29 PM
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Blameless! Exactly.
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/26 08:24 PM
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Lol. My now ex-wife does the same thing. Posts quotes about how strong she is. How she’ll never be broken, etc. My kids make fun of the quotes she has around the house now like one about friends and wine. But the one they really hate is the word “Breathe” on a rock.
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/26 08:23 PM
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Are you sure the child is yours??
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/24 01:06 PM
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Without a “wife”, we can do whatever we want, when we want to and not adhere to a schedule she sets. A timer to play video games? Fuck that.
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/24 01:34 AM
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I love refried beans.
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/24 01:32 AM
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Sounds like my ex.
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/24 12:22 AM
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No. Never. I would prefer being alone to ever being with her ever again.
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/24 12:22 AM
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Some women (and men) are empathetic, kind, just want happy vibes, etc. We just managed to marry the ones who aren’t.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/23 09:45 PM
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Oh yeah. This kinda triggered me. NGL. Minor (very minor) “mistakes” would send my ex-wife reeling sometimes. Making brownies once for a holiday party, I used an entire bag of walnuts instead of half. Cue ranting how they were ruined. You know what? They were actually better with the full bag. Speaking of milk: I have a tradition of making pancakes every Christmas morning. After we ate, she noticed the use by date on the milk was something like two days before. She called me Stupid and said we’r…
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/23 04:51 PM
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My exwife was never diagnosed but my therapist said she had Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Sounded spot on to me.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 05:54 PM
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She would make a list for me on days that I was off when SHE had to go to work. Passive aggressive me would deliberately “forget” to do one or more things on The List. Cue emotional breakdown. One time I did the unthinkable: I accidentally threw out one of her lists. I swear I did not do it on purpose (or I dunno? Maybe?). She had so many lists lying around and I was actually the one who would tidy up more. So one day I was cleaning off our kitchen table (which she always filled up with her stuf…
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 11:27 AM
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Fun times, amiright? Now I do chores IF and when I want to.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 11:19 AM
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Did your soon to be ex wife make lists of things that “have to get done”? Mine did. All the time. Every Saturday was a list of things we had to do (always with me driving). She’d make a list for herself when she was off from work (including mundane tasks like “Go to gym”). Going on a trip? That was her time to Shine, list wise. She would ask me “Aren’t you going to make a list? What if you forget something?” Three guesses who always, without exaggerating, always managed to forget something even …
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/23 07:56 PM
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Whoa: excellent observation and totally true. It’s not about you. It’s bragging rights for her
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/23 11:21 AM
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It was the same for me. From the outside looking in, we looked like a perfect family. That’s what my ex-wife wanted and that’s what I gave her. And it was Ok until it wasn’t for me any longer. Was this how my life was going to be from now on? It wasn’t just the no sex. It was ALL affection was gone. Could I live the rest of my life like this? No. I couldn’t. It took me months to leave. And it was very hard afterwards but my life since then (5 1/2 years) has been so much better.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/23 09:45 PM
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I feel for you. Especially the last thing you say: “somethings gotta give.” I felt exactly the same way. Separating is not easy. In fact it was pretty rough. That’s why I don’t think a lot of men actually go through it. In the end, our lives are defined by the decisions we make. DM me if you’d like to chat.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/23 08:01 PM
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You ask a great question and I wondered the same thing. I think most women who exhibit the kind of behavior never ever consider that the husband will leave. My guess is that the OP is probably a really nice, easy going guy (like me) who doesn’t want to fight. Eventually enough is enough (or the last straw, like the OP wrote) and they’re outta there. Cue the wife’s shocked face and quick transition to the victim.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/23 04:03 PM
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I heard a comedian (I forgot who) say “I’m so glad I married my wife. I wouldn’t know how wrong about everything I am.”
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/23 03:57 PM
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Exactly. She wants to find someone who’ll make her feel “Special”.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/23 03:54 PM
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This was my now Ex-wife. Married 25 years. She did this exact same thing on and off for most of our marriage until about three years before I split where it was EVERYTHING. It wasn’t aggravating. It was frightening. She would blame me for things SHE did. Example: she wanted to book a family vacation to Mexico one summer. Found a great place and wanted to book this family suite but didn’t want to until she knew what my bonus was going to be. I wasn’t going to find out until a month later. I SPECI…
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/23 03:52 PM
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Father of two now adult children. Now divorced. What I have seen is that many (but not all women) have their kids and believe it is “The Most Important Thing Anyone Has Ever Done”. They want to be stay at home Mothers and devote every hour to their children. Oh I have a husband? Well too bad. The Children come first. I honestly think these women feel like their children will be this way forever. Then as each child gets older, more independent and less Dependent, the mother slowly becomes irrelev…
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/23 12:46 AM
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Thank you. You are right. It’s a complicated situation (he’s on the spectrum, they’ve not gotten along for years, yada, yada, yada). I want everyone to be happy. I initiated the separation and still feel guilty about it.
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/23 12:19 AM
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What can I say. I’m a pussy and she guilted me into it. Like said our son (who still lives with her) was a burden on her.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/23 11:52 PM
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Is there a possibility that your wife is suffering from depression?
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/23 05:59 PM
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Oh wow. “Atomic Rage”! Yes! That behavior definitely leads to a PTSD.
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/22 09:17 PM
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It’s so tiring, right? They don’t “get it” how demeaning it is. It is a mental disorder. My ex had a narcissistic personality disorder. Of course she didn’t see it that way.
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/22 08:03 PM
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Don’t you (or rather, didn’t you) love the “I’m not happy” talks? Jesus Christ. What’s with that? I went well above and beyond what any person let alone a husband should do in a marriage. Cooked, cleaned, laundry, great salary, long hours so she could “wind down” her work days from 5 to like 2 1/2. Oh and her mother moved in with us for over 10 years necessitating $200K in home renovations. And did I mention how good I was to our children? And she hits me with how I have to change because she’s …
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/22 11:59 PM
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Amen, brother.
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/22 11:53 PM
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I feel for you. I went through something similar. My ex wife could be so loving and sweet but most of the time she was either just indifferent or cold. Now I see this as her way of communicating that I needed to improve something. That she was dissatisfied. So I would double down on whatever I could do to please her (all to my detriment) and if I was “lucky”, she would respond positively. Some love bombing followed by a return to indifference. A horrible vicious cycle. YOU are not to blame. YOU …
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/22 01:12 PM
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Might??
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/22 12:16 PM
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First off: I am really sorry about what happened to you. She’s a Narcissist. She love bombed you. She basically brainwashed you which is what narcs do. Then they abandon you when you are no longer of use to them. Your confusion about the situation is totally understandable. Narcs make you think what you have is “once in a lifetime Special” so when they make that abrupt emotional departure, the confusion is like the end of the world. I wonder if she found someone else, too. My best to you.
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/22 12:14 PM
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Ugh. Just divorce already. Seriously. You’ve got one life to live and how much more time do you really have? Her life is about you being wrong and her being righteous. Oh how she suffered! Get. Out.
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/22 12:37 PM
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Perfectly stated.
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/21 06:35 PM
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Get out of the marriage as soon as possible. Stop negotiating or rationalizing. As far as kids are concerned, in the end it is better for them because they probably sense the marriage is not working. Don’t use them as an excuse to stay and be miserable. You have a right to try and live the life you want and deserve. It won’t be easy but it’s better than what you’re dealing with now. (I went through it and never, ever thought I would leave but I did. DM me if you would like to chat. Best of Luck …
/r/MGTOW215/07/21 07:18 PM
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It sounds like you might be married to a narcissist. You often hear how a narcissistic partner will drain the life out of someone AND subtly degrade them to the point that they feel they are unworthy of love and respect. All points made in your post.
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/21 04:54 PM
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I should clarify about at least the use of alcohol as far as my experience goes. I used it to shut my Real Self up because it was telling me, sometimes YELLING at me that the life I was “living” had to change. Because I could not face it, face the reality of the situation, I turned to alcohol. It enabled me to continue the charade, the facade, that ours was a “Happy” and “Stable” marriage. And from the outside, I am certain it looked that way. But I could only hide the truth for so long. I see S…
/r/MGTOW213/06/21 06:53 PM
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Don’t get married. The “Love”, however real it is at times, will fade and then vanish. You’ll be left living robotically. One day will bleed into the next. 5 years becomes 10, then 20. You’ll drink or do drugs or gamble to “wake” yourself up. At some point you’ll be faced with one simple choice: continue the charade or get your life back. The latter requires courage, is scary as shit and will involve a lot of pain. But as someone who did it, it’s worth it.
/r/MGTOW213/06/21 01:30 PM
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Saturday’s with my ex were the errand days. She always had a list. I was the chauffeur and personal assistant there to lift and carry things to her car (yep, she referred to everything we owned together as “hers”: her house (my salary paid the mortgage), her cars, her bedroom, etc.).
/r/MGTOW213/06/21 01:57 AM
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Good. Don’t. Now don’t think I am against relationships but marriage? No way. Forget about any financial sense. It’s the emotional toll marriage takes. It’s not worth it.
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/21 07:23 PM
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It depends on the state the divorce takes place in and (probably more importantly) your future exwife’s attitude.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/19 10:12 PM
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DO Not get her pregnant. Consult a lawyer. Just a consultation. Find out the particulars for your state. This is very important. You need to know what your options are.
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/19 02:26 AM
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Interesting about your husbands predicament. My ex wife’s first ludicrous “offer” (which she fully expected me to sign and not involve a lawyer) had me paying half my monthly income her as alimony in perpetuity like your husband. No way was I going to settle on that. We settled on me paying till my retirement in 15 years. It can be negotiated down if I can prove that any new job I get cannot pay me my current salary. Right now I’m overpaid for my position, I know it will be impossible to get my …
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/19 03:45 AM
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