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SuggestionVisible930/r/askMRP03/12/25 04:14 AM
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Always appreciate your perspective dude. To be fair lurking for 6 months then 6 months OYSing is not enough to draw conclusions. I thought I read it takes about 2 years for guys to really hit their stride here. Hard mode or not. I’m grateful you got me to read HSP and whisper. On N Count - Any other recommendations- I’m all ears. One thing I’m confused about is how much you guys are actually picking up girls not using OLD. Im comfortable opening on girls and conversing or whatever.. but moving t…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/26 03:11 PM
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“They are living within the context of others opinions of them” That’s not living it all. That’s being dead while attempting to live in the context of others opinions. I’ve spent half my years on this earth like that. Thank you Blarg.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/26 02:44 PM
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I think it may be less about white washing my weak past… I was weak and shitty. No qualms. The unending babbling I’m doing about my divorce week in and week out is me trying to find a way to white wash my guilty conscience about leaving a woman who committed no act of infidelity.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/26 02:16 PM
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I can’t believe this is free advice. You’re gonna have to start charging soon. Thank you .223
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/26 12:37 AM
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Dude. This is an absolute game changer. Comment saved.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/26 05:51 PM
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You’re smelling correctly. I’ve got a lot of insecurities. Some surface level (balding and height mainly). Some deeper. My hope is that as I consistently put in the work here that some of these insecurities begin to resolve. Some examples: Am I really an attractive man? Am I really capable of getting and keeping a good relationship with a woman I’m deeply attracted to? Can I be solid and am I really a masculine well developed man capable of enduring and accomplishing whatever I set my mind too? …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/26 03:10 PM
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I honestly don’t know. Maybe it’s because she is the first loyal woman I’ve ever had. I trusted her completely. I still basically trust her completely. So any new girl I welcome into my life kind of gets measured not only in looks but in character and virtue.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/26 01:54 AM
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Thanks man. Duly noted.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/26 11:07 PM
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>divorce without doing the work first Agreed. It was dumb. In hindsight, I would have liked to do it differently. >course Please clarify what you mean by “not halfway through the course”? Then to take it one step further… what are some objective milestones one can expect to reach at halfway?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/26 09:51 PM
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I appreciate you taking the time to respond. I believe I see the point you are trying to make. Will chew on this for a while.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/26 09:45 PM
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There’s probably some truth to what you’re saying. I want to defend myself. But I’d rather understand you clearly. What delusions are you referring to? Can you name them? And how are these delusions different from anyone else here that would uniquely diagnose me as bipolar?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/26 05:44 PM
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It all comes down to ego and entitlement. My big fat ego. Building fantasy in my head without putting in the methodical work and patience required to attain success… “I should be fucking 26 year old dimes with ease because I’m a red pill man who lifts big weights.“ When the ego (fantasy) settles down… I ask myself why did I feel like I needed these things to be happy. And do I really want those things beyond the initial dopamine and ego rush? Of course the other extreme is to just give up all to…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/26 03:49 PM
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OYS 20 Vision: 5 year vision - Done offline Current Mission: lift, read, STFU and put ego in a box, and consistently OYS Divorcing (final phase) 3 school aged kids 35 5 foot 8 180# 35 inch waist (goal <35in) Body fat 17-19% Bench - 275x1 (goal 300) Squat - 380x1 (goal 400) Deadlift - 405x1 (maintain or improve) Pull-up max-15. (Maintain and add weight) Lifting heavy 3x a week Special edition OYS- Last week u/hornsofapathy made a comment that struck my ego. He basically distilled my entire reason…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/26 11:53 AM
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Damn HOA. running to find that box to put my ego in.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/26 02:38 AM
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Fair enough. Did you see the edit at the end? I feel like I resolved the dissonance. Horns original question… > what do you want? I’m for the LTR and my mind remains somewhat open to marriage (very cautiously). But if I’m to enter into some sort of serious exclusive relationship…I want a woman who is beautiful and absolutely captivates me. I don’t want to have to white knuckle my sexuality for her. I want to WANT to fuck her and no one else. Except for the very initial stages of my marriage, sex…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/26 07:00 PM
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[u/hornsofapathy](u/hornsofapathy) I feel the need to clarify. When I say “I don’t like her”. I don’t mean she isn’t an objectively “like-able” person. I mean I don’t feel any strong romantic connection to her. Atleast not one strong enough to remain committed, monogamous, and reasonably happy at this time. On the other hand, if I heard a woman say she wanted to divorce a man because she felt no “strong romantic connection” to him. That would be a detestable statement and I would very much hate …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/26 04:07 PM
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No qualms.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/26 09:17 PM
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Horns, I was tempted to give you some multi-paragraph bullshit intellectual answer. But I’m gonna dive into the feelings… The honest truth is that I just don’t like her, man. I am glad she’s the mother of my children because of her values. But, there’s almost no part of me that wants to do anything, yet alone live with that woman ever again. Gonna speak like a woman for a second… there’s absolutely no passion. Even the thought of going back to her brings on some sort of wave of sadness and loss …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/26 05:05 PM
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Oys 19 Vision: 5 year vision - Done offline Current Mission: lift, read, STFU and put ego in a box, and consistently OYS Divorcing (final phase) 3 school aged kids 35 5 foot 8 180# 35 inch waist (goal <35in) Body fat 17-19% Bench - 275x1 (goal 300) Squat - 375x1 (goal 400) Deadlift - 405x1 (maintain or improve) Pull-up max-15. (Maintain and add weight) Lifting heavy 3x a week Reading: Book of Pook 2. Work / Money still waiting on salary negotiation reply. It’s been 5 weeks no clear answer. Reque…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/26 12:33 PM
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All points duly noted. I’ll be revisiting this surely. > that’s a lot easier said than done 100%. I made the claim that I was my own judge maybe 6-7 months ago… I’m only barely starting to actualize it. > vision A few OYS back one of the challenges was to do a proper 5 year vision instead of just “spinning my tires” on here in a sort of constant validation seeking loop. That exercise was enormously helpful to create my own “North Star” and was the first time I’ve actually ironed out what I want …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/26 12:19 PM
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Futile, good to hear from you man. Glad I could summon you from some heavy back squats and weighted chin ups. > ex wife vs 1st new woman make you sick to your stomach I think it’s a guilty conscience thing. It somehow felt wrong to “replace” the first wife with another “wife” immediately. This feeling of guilt was also compounded with a sense of stupidity or naivety from all the negative feedback I got here initially about being exclusive with the first girl post divorce. A sort of double “whamm…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/26 11:41 PM
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>fantasy, however, provides comfort exactly because it is never achieved. It ENABLES ego, kills OI, and discourages living in the present. I like the way you put that.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/07/26 08:23 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/s/ouYKVJtZoi
/r/MarriedRedPill04/07/26 03:14 PM
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>still affected by sexual repression Why do you think that is? What do you fear might happen if you pushed yourself to where you truly want with your woman or (women)? What does worst case scenario look like (rejection, shaming, etc) and what would be your plan to overcome this? Concerning STFU good and bad. Monogamy good and bad. [u/teh1whosees](u/teh1whosees) seems to be pushing us towards greater and greater congruency. You mentioned acting “like a strong man”. Why act? Is that not just part …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/07/26 03:10 PM
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I don’t know how much more fruitful it’s going to be to belabor this this topic anymore. You have done your due diligence, and then some. I guess you’ll have to take my word that I read the guide (multiple times over), have a vision, and that I’ve got a decent girl. You and other vets have hit this subject pretty hard and I’m not sure what else intellectually there is to gain by continuing this discussion. The ball is in my court. Whether I GFTOW or devote myself to my current is on me. Whatever…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/26 03:03 PM
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I’ve also been pretty heavily influenced by u/futilefighter where he said he moved out and then fucked a bunch of women and then ultimately reconciled with his wife (she would take me back tonight if I wanted). Something about that always intrigued me. The idea of ex-wife vs 1st new woman has always made me somewhat sick to my stomach, and I resent myself that I’ve unwittingly put myself into a psychological position like that. Like some sort of cosmic injustice. It’s almost like, look man (talk…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/26 05:46 PM
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Obviously there is nothing morally wrong with it. It could be unwise - Which is the dominant opinion here.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/26 05:22 PM
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Sincerely thank you for taking the time to write this out. I like the way your mind works man. [Put your ego in a box](https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/s/w0sRL3mpVi) is probably top 3 most influential posts I’ve read so far on here. I come back to it often. Big fat ego lol. I don’t think we have any real disagreements here with what you wrote. At the most basic level I feel as though I’m missing a critical developmental stage here by going from monogamy straight back into monogamy. I’m no…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/26 04:17 PM
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1.) she’s the only girl I’ve dated/fucked post divorce. So I’m really only comparing her to my ex wife. She climbed by default I guess and a combination of being fun, sexual, submissive, and crazy about me. 2.) my answer was “I don’t know.” In all my reading and thinking I couldn’t answer your question. There’s no tangible benefit for me at the present moment of offering devotion and exclusivity. That could change. I tend to agree with what you’re saying about explicit exclusivity would require …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/26 03:54 PM
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Man…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/26 03:09 AM
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OYS 18 Vision: Done offline Current Mission: lift, read, STFU and put ego in a box, and consistently OYS Divorcing (final phase) 3 school aged kids 35 5 foot 8 180# 35 inch waist Body fat 17-20% Bench - 275x1 (goal 300) Squat - 375x1 (goal 400) Deadlift - 405x1 (maintain or improve) Pull-up max-15. Lifting heavy 3x a week Using this week to respond to u/Future-loquat-3411 ⁠What would the Bitch Management Guide say? ⁠What is the upside for me in granting exclusivity to a particular woman? *Should…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/26 12:19 PM
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Yeah dude. 100% with you on that plan. I was kinda surprised by your answer. I assumed the MRP approved answer would be get shredded by any means possible.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/26 01:02 PM
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Damn. Navy puts me at 20.4. Welp I guess I’m in the fat camp. Will take this more seriously.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/26 10:25 PM
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No. Good call out. “Gamed” was an overstatement. Socialized would have been the more honest term. On your questions - will have something in writing by next week.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/26 04:39 PM
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Used InBody scanner. 17% did seem generous. I’ll run navy measurements going forward.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/26 04:37 PM
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Roger that. Will read.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/26 04:36 PM
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OYS 17 Vision: Done offline Current Mission: lift, read, STFU and put ego in a box, and consistently OYS Divorcing (final phase) 3 school aged kids 35 5 foot 8 180# 35.25 inch waist (I’ve been underestimating my bodyfat at 15% -had it measured at 17.2%) Bench - 275x1 (goal 300) Squat - 375x1 (goal 400) Deadlift - 405x1 (maintain or improve) Pull-up max-15. Lifting heavy 3x a week/ I was doing HIIT after lifting sessions and I’ve decided to drop 1-2 of these sessions as they dig me into a recover…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/26 01:58 PM
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Roger that. Good shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/26 01:14 PM
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good challenge. I’m aware of the fact the I could be shooting the arrow and painting the bullseye around it. I don’t yet trust my instincts to say I’m not deluding myself at some level here. But I’m simply not convinced NEXTing her is the move right now. I don’t mean to pull rank here but even Blarg chimed in - https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/s/0SYtnsdzaW But for the sake of honesty - 2 years from now, suggestionsvisible walking around fully divorced, successfully coparenting, jacked, ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/26 01:11 PM
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Future, GF first fuck post D yes you’re mostly correct. Ofc I’d like to think I’m the special snowflake, got lucky, and everything will work out just fine. Maybe it will and maybe it won’t. I’m mostly at peace with either outcome. I’m going to keep upgrading myself regardless. The girl fits into my vision right now - that could change. Proceeding with cautious optimism. Glanced at his OYS from year 2. But I’ll read in detail protoworms situation. Appreciate the rec. On Anal, that’s a good rule o…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/26 06:40 PM
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Noted
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/26 06:12 PM
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On silicone lube and butt plugs - this is going to be a big leap for me and my girl - she is taking finger tips well. Im not exactly sure how to introduce this but u/deerstfu had some good tips of evolving from A to B to C to 100% dick in her ass (which will be a challenge, average length above average girth so training will be a requirement). Did u have any more to add? Not a call out just picking your brain. Borings mini FR above is obviously enviable but there’s some intermediate shit that ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/26 01:01 AM
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> so if this important to you set your ego aside and take more steps towards making this actionable that’s the plan. Again, I think as I let go of my own shame around this, praise my girl, and take consistent action the sky is the limit. I’m not there yet, more work ahead. But I’m excited to work towards what I truly want. Appreciate the notes. Always excited to see your user pop up in my notifications.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/26 12:12 AM
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I think you’ve read me and the situation pretty accurately. I’ve appreciated you popping in from time to time and the straightforward approach and feedback over these past 6 months. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/26 03:24 PM
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Good point.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/26 09:46 PM
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All points duly noted. Lmao damn. Yep RIP your inbox daddy. Typing up request for tips rn.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/26 09:01 PM
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Agreed. I was planning to press on with divorce preceding unless I have some major clear epiphany on this. More will definitely be revealed. I’m not afraid to disagree with HOA either. No disrespect, the guy obviously knows his shit and has been to hell and back in his own right. I’m not trying to say I know better. But I am not willing to take full radical ownership of all my ex wife’s mental health issues. Did I contribute to her problems? Absolutely. Was I a bitch? Absolutely. Was I weak? Yes…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/26 08:38 PM
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>”Be grateful we had sex on Monday Damn. Haha I know you are trying to save your marriage and are in a tight spot but laugh for a minute if you can…this reminds of the scene from Saving Silverman when he tries to make a move on his girl but she hands him a porn mag and some lotion and shuts the lights out. What’s stopping you from gaming other women right now?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/26 06:18 PM
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I appreciate the thought out response. Your add on resonates well with me. The goal is to become the guy who fucks and leads sex how I want it - which obviously requires real frame, confidence, and a belief in one’s self/ lack of self-SHAME that can’t be faked long term. I think there’s a difference between being the kind of shy lil boy who wants to fuck his girls ass spontaneously and covertly vs the man who takes charge, has open and fun communication, and leads his girl where he wants her. I’…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/26 05:00 PM
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OYS 16 Vision: done on paper- available on request Mission: lift, read, STFU and put ego in a box, and consistently OYS Divorcing (final phase) 3 school aged kids 35 5 foot 8 180# 15% bodyfat Bench - 275x1 Squat - 375x1 Deadlift - 405x1 Pull-up max-15 Lifting heavy 3x a week Protein 180g minimum daily Reading: Book of Pook/ Rational Male Year 1 2. Work / Money Key actions taken: I received promotion and verbally accepted offer at 18% raise from previous position. A few days later after some thou…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/26 01:56 PM
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Why didn’t you fuck this girl right then and there?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/26 07:55 PM
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Lmao. If you wanted MRP validation all you had to say was “received low quality blowjob from local village girl in the back of car” in your OYS. Didn’t need the borderline homo-erotic extras. If I told this story like this to my bros IRL I might get ass kicked.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/26 05:43 PM
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Idk man. You’re a dentist. You’ve got a career 99% of the world would kill for. Be more grateful and start a daily gratitude practice. There’s a start. Don Juan finds the good in everything. Gratitude > better mood > increased positive energy
/r/askMRP03/06/26 04:14 PM
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You need to keep scrolling down on that post and read u/jacktenofhearts comments. Theres your answer.
/r/askMRP03/06/26 04:07 PM
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Lmao are you ok? Who hurt you my guy? There’s no law against having fun and laughing at yourself during this phase of self improvement. Most of us are clearly going through some serious shit - divorces, custody battles, marriages on the brink, broken families we are trying to piece back together etc… Borings clearly having fun. And shit I’m having a little fun too. Doesn’t mean his comments landed on deaf ears. Far from it.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/26 04:43 PM
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didn’t let her “figure me out” If you can’t be vulnerable your frame is shit
/r/askMRP28/05/26 07:16 PM
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Genuinely curious - What makes you think you “had MRP down”? More specifically, what concrete behaviors did you display and what weaknesses did you overcome that led you to this conclusion?
/r/askMRP28/05/26 05:13 PM
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Noted Edit: Is the butthole licking Asian dime looking for a husband? Apparently I’m volunteering
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/26 07:37 PM
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OYS 15 Vision: I’m an attractive man who can generate options. Mission: Lift, STFU, read, and consistently own my shit. 35 5 foot 8 182# 15-16% bodyfat Bench - 275x1 Squat - 375x1 Deadlift - 400x1 Pull-up max-15 Divorcing (in process, living separately) 3 kids 11,7,5 negotiating final settlement Completed: NMMNG, WISNIFG, MAP Reading: Book of Pook/Rational Male Year 1 Gym: Heavy 3x per week. Creatine 5g daily. Protein minimum 180g daily (ideally 200g as I’m in a calorie deficit on non training d…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/26 03:24 PM
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I re-read this after a few hours of sleep. If you ignore the ego and chest thumping, my central point I was trying to make was that if you continue to put in the work on yourself here, in the weight room, and go after what you want the hair thing really won’t matter to you (hair or no hair). And that’s coming from a guy who was extremely insecure about balding.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/26 01:58 PM
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Oh boy here comes another early morning suggestionsvisible reply. Gonna be a long one… Fellow 5 foot 8 bald guy here… You’ve done a ton of reading and are only on OYS 2, so I’m gonna assume you lurked for a long time before jumping into OYS. I did the same thing, I was a bit of a pussy but also lazy. I probably lurked for about 6 months while I started lifting. Here I am about a year in. 6 months of lurking and about 6 months of OYSing. My hands are fucking callused, traps are yoked, divorce abo…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/26 10:35 AM
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validation needs that are poisoning your sex life And praise and compliments should be worthless to you Regardless something is off here with both your wife and your feelings of inadequacy. It’s going to be hard for a bunch of internet randos to figure out why your wife is googling random shit. It would be good to know your body stats to get a general idea of your physical frame and attractiveness. You didn’t mention if you have other options so we’re skeptical of you. OYS on Tuesdays.
/r/askMRP21/05/26 09:33 PM
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“Laugh if you will” - you care what others think about you a lot. I’d get away from this and just own your shit honestly. You’ll get progress way faster.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/26 03:10 AM
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Misogynistic sex addict. Not at all. If anything, based on what I’ve read of your stuff you are one of the few guys I’ve come across online or IRL who seems to be leading the charge on sexual fulfillment within the context of a lasting relationship. In an extremely blunt and practical manner. Pretty rare actually. Wish I would have come across your stuff earlier in life but I don’t think I would have been ready to listen.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/26 12:07 AM
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Good additions there Horns. Also, reminds me of - Pathologizing the male sexual response I have a literal shit ton of thoughts on sexual shame and how this plays out on and wreaks havoc on men and their women. Mostly from my failures. I suppose that’s why I feel a little sympathy for OP. It’s been a joy to build new constructs in my mind here and start to see a little progress. The first time I called my girl my little slut unashamedly (admittedly nervously) and then a few weeks later to see her…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/26 09:39 PM
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Fuck It’s 5 am and I’m up thinking about far_independent. I’ve been following your journey a little bit from time to time because I can see a younger version of myself in you. If you’ll allow me to, I think I can offer you something. If your heart is open I think you may be able to have a breakthrough and make some progress. This is going to be a long one so brace yourself… You have been dunked on pretty good here by some of the flared guys for requesting your flair removed. I can see your frust…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/26 11:08 AM
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There’s a fair amount of validation seeking here in this OYS on second reading. Looking for an atta boy. A couple of other add ons: my ex wife has completely turned against me and is making every effort to sway my children’s opinion of me. I was naive and thought somehow she would be better than this. I’m finally motivated to turn this over to my attorney and stop trying to mediate on my own. At the least - all that guilt I alluded to in earlier OYS about initiating divorce is pretty much gone. …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/26 10:43 PM
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OYS 14 Vision: I’m an attractive man who can generate options. Mission: Lift, STFU, read, and consistently own my shit. 35 5 foot 8 183# 16% bodyfat Bench - 275x1 Squat - 380x1 Deadlift - 400x1 Pull-up max-15 Divorcing (in process, living separately) 3 kids 11,7,5 Approaching final settlement Reading: Book of Pook Gym: 3 Days heavy per week. Still Working on 400+ DL singles cleanly. Protein minimum 180g/ creatine at 5g daily. Goal 15% body fat. Work / Money given massive opportunity and leadersh…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/26 03:03 AM
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put your ego in a box and STFU Get off Reddit and go lift right now. OYS on Tuesday.
/r/askMRP09/05/26 10:10 PM
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Golden. You’ve been generous with your time. Thank you. A lot to chew on here. Let me see what I can put into action in these coming days.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/26 09:46 PM
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You’re probably right. Truthfully, I don’t know what I want yet when it comes to additional women and what my exact motivation for being here is. I appreciate your questions, you always give me much to wrestle with.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/26 02:31 PM
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Because the girl has consistently and repeatedly been good to me and I’ve developed a strong attachment to her. I’m scared to fuck up a good thing that’s working and lose her trust I’ve been rejected recently a handful of times by girls that I thought were of similar caliber and/or hotter.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/26 10:15 PM
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You’re gonna be pushing 2 plates in no time. Keeping eating protein. I love the elation. Fuck that those are some manly tears My bad on being a fag last week. I appreciate your comments.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/26 08:40 PM
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Thank you for your question. No I do not. I’m currently seeing one girl. No other plates currently.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/26 02:50 PM
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OYS #13 Vision of what I want and why I’m here: to be an attractive man with options. Mission: Lift, STFU, read, and consistently own my shit. 35 5 foot 8 183# 16% bodyfat Bench - 275x1 Squat - 380x1 Deadlift - 400x1 Pull-up max-15 Divorcing (in process, living separately) 3 kids 11,7,5 Approaching final settlement Reading: Book of Pook/ put your ego in a box Gym/training 3 Days heavy per week. I want to be able to do 400+ DL singles cleanly. Protein minimum 180g/ creatine at 5g daily. Goal 15% …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/26 12:05 PM
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u/BoringandSucks this was a good critique. I responded very weakly. Thats 100 percent on me. One thing I’m struggling to understand is what you mean by “clown shit” specifically. Are you willing to elaborate on this? This is a genuine question. Speak your mind, you have my word there will be zero arguing, comebacks, or DEERing from me going forward. Other guys who read this, if you want to jump in and elaborate I’d welcome it also. Edit: no need to reply. I can see this is more of the same bulls…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/26 01:04 PM
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“Plateau in lifts comes from not eating enough protein” 100% accurate. This was solid advice you read.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/26 09:49 PM
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Environmental, good points. Duly noted. I appreciate you sharing the “put your ego in a box” article as well.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/26 04:08 PM
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I didn’t accomplish anything by deleting my comments. Truthfully, I was embarrassed about the way I acted. In hindsight, deleting was a weak move. Won’t happen again unless there’s legitimate opsec reasons.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/26 10:34 PM
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I’m sure your daddy loves when you jump in and defend him. You expect me to roll over when someone essentially repeatedly calls me an incompetent retard. Nah. I still got nutz swinging between my legs.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/26 11:56 AM
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I love it when you get all feisty 😘 lol big fat ego, dancing monkey. Takes one to know one, betch
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/26 01:00 AM
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u/BoringandSucks, not the first time you’ve called me on this And honestly, that question is literally posted at the top of my notepad when I’m writing my OYS since you first challenged me a couple months back on validation seeking. At this point I’m asking myself how, practically speaking, I’m supposed to kill off the validation seeking behavior as I’m making an honest and concerted effort to be conscious of it and eliminate it. What’s concerning is that despite conscious effort at seeking genu…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/26 08:32 PM
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good call out.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/26 07:00 PM
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OYS 12 35 5 foot 8 185# 16-17 % bodyfat Bench - 275x1 Squat - 380x1 Deadlift - 400x1 Pull-up max-15 Divorcing (in process, living separately) 3 kids 11,7,5 Approaching final settlement Mission: Be an Authentic man. I will not outsource my agency to anyone. It is my responsibility to place my wants and needs first so that I can live, give, and receive abundantly Invest time and energy into what builds strength, wealth, and what translates into me becoming the man I’m proud of. (Ripped of u / hori…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/26 04:06 PM
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No the callout is warranted. My progress here has been far from linear. Still early days. I find myself exactly as you described “understanding things intellectually” but lagging behind irl. I’d like to think I’m teachable and I appreciate your personal call out.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/26 09:05 PM
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No disagreements bro just some mind games and head tricks you’re recommending. You’ve made similar points way more concisely already. Correct me if I’m wrong - aren’t you essentially saying and repackaging 2 core MRP truths… 1.) let go of fixation on the need for approval (ie validation) from women (could be stretched out to all external validation). And ultimately rely on his own sense of authority and approval. 2.) let go of the mistaken belief that a woman’s love is truly unconditional as he …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/26 07:22 PM
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It’s not that deep. Romantic love is simply not the greatest form of love on this earth. Men will be constantly unsatisfied if they think it is. Don’t throw the baby out with the bathwater. It’s pretty natural for man and woman to be together. It has a myriad of benefits and challenges.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/26 02:50 PM
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I liked this take on plate theory Might be useful to you if you haven’t already read it.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/26 03:37 PM
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Wolf, Appreciate the notes. My fear is my limiting factor. Plain and simple. Only thing left to do is execute.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/26 12:52 AM
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Maybe my reading comprehension is that of a 3rd grader.. but what am I reading here? So the girl went on the GNO to Vegas? What actually changed concretely in your life?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/26 08:59 PM
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Good shit HOA. “It’ll only be awkward if it’s awkward for you.” It’s ironic how appropriate this line is for me beyond just sex. I like the wording - “fumbling”. The opposite of a man in charge. Will keep that in mind.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/26 03:14 PM
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We gotta get your squat up bro. Can’t go “caveman” until you’re lifting like one. What’s up with your hip? Assuming your mobility isn’t great. Have you tried heel elevated squats?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/26 02:31 PM
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You got dunked on last week by a few flaired guys for attaching too quickly to one woman. Now It’s seems like you’re panicking about not acquiring enough plates. What does appropriate beach really want?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/26 02:10 PM
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OYS 11 35 5 foot 8 182# 16-17 % bodyfat Bench - 275x1 Squat - 380x1 Deadlift - 400x1 Pull-up max-15 Divorcing (in process, living separately) 3 kids 11,7,5 Approaching final settlement Mission: Be an Authentic man. I will not outsource my agency to anyone. It is my responsibility to place my wants and needs first so that I can live, give, and receive abundantly. Vision: I will commit to be physically strong/fit and mentally tough so that I can handle the challenges of life and love those in my l…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/26 01:43 PM
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Assuming you are putting in the work and are attractive - Nothing kills the inner slut of your woman faster than your own sexual shame. On the converse, nothing awakens it faster than you when you are free. Thats been my experience. I made every mistake in the book in past relationships to limit my woman and myself. Free your mind, Neo.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/26 02:35 PM
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“Sex is still 2-4x a week but that’s the extent of the value provided beyond some basic kid logisitic shit.” Genuine question - what additional value are you looking for in a wife/woman? I’m selfishly picking your brain (for my own inner work) while curious to see if you have a concrete answer in an effort jog your brain.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/26 05:16 PM
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Roger that. For sure had some autistic moments when it comes to qualification. Thanks dbm
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/26 04:02 PM
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“We can't manipulate people into swallowing our boundaries by sugarcoating them. Boundaries are a "litmus test" for the quality of our relationships. Those people in our lives who can respect our boundaries will love our wills, our opinions, our separateness. Those who can't respect our boundaries are telling us that they don't love our nos. They only love our yeses, our compliance. "I only like it when you do what I want.” - Henry Cloud Good shit Merlin.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/26 02:17 AM
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OYS #10 35 5 foot 8 182# 16-17 % bodyfat Bench - 275x1 Squat - 380x1 Deadlift - 400x1 Pull-up max-15 Divorcing (in process, living separately) 3 kids 11,7,5 Approaching final settlement Mission: Be an Authentic man. I will not outsource my agency to anyone. It is my responsibility to place my wants and needs first so that I can live, give, and receive abundantly. Vision: I will commit to be physically strong/fit and mentally tough so that I can handle the challenges of life and love those in my …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/26 01:27 AM
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Gold
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/26 03:59 PM
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There’s nothing new under the sun. u/BarracudaRP said- “ "The Stay Plan is the Go Plan" means that YOUR mission doesn't change based on circumstances. It means that your actions don't change based on being single or in a relationship. Here's a good example: Imagine you became single today (for most of us, this means divorce.) That means it's time for the "Go Plan", right? What would your priorities be? For many guys, being newly single would mean their priorities shift back to lifting, reading, …
/r/askMRP11/04/26 03:30 PM
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Deleted. Upon further review- Rule 3 “There is only just you and your actions”.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/26 12:25 AM
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FF thanks again for the ongoing time and investment. If someone else you knew were in your exact position, would you judge them for making the same decision? Good question. Of course I’d be curious about why they are ending a marriage and whether or not they’d thought it through. But if I knew circumstances were exactly the same I’d probably remind them to take care of themselves and try to find joy and a path towards hope. Divorce is never easy or painless regardless of initiator role vs non-in…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/26 03:58 PM
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“…such as covering my fear of possible rejection…or fear of being alone and not having a woman be interested in me because my life is mundane…” This is good self awareness. You have identified your core fears. What concrete actions can you take to eliminate or at-least shrink these fears? Do you believe there is a version of you that could walk around knowing that there’s plenty of women who would jump on his dick if given the opportunity while also accepting some rejection along the way? Is the…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/26 01:54 AM
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That’s fair. As I look back on a lot of OYS comments (not posts) I see myself projecting a lot of my own shit on people. Agreed frame is a primary concern here. For me as well. Seems like this is the setting (OYS) in which it gets sharpened.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/26 07:35 PM
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Archetypes- so damn true. I’ve been on the other side of this. Seeing friends and family go through divorce. It’s almost fun in a pathetic way to blindly pick a side and just berate the other without all the facts and nuances accounted for. “What if you’re scared to realize that the “bad” version of yourself you felt you needed to hide, was fine all along”… Damn. Every once in a while a quote will come along on this sub that describes my intuition better than I can describe it. This is one of th…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/26 07:25 PM
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Wolflord, I appreciate you chiming in as always. It’s a tough paradigm shift to get into - doing something purely for my own self interest. If anything, I felt like I would self- destruct one way or another. So ending the marriage- in a roundabout way benefiting not just me, but my children. But that’s still about others. I get your point. Mind you, I come from a very fundamental Christian religious background and even remotely making a decision based on self-interest is frowned upon. At the ver…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/26 05:14 PM
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Suitable, good shit. I think your assessment is pretty spot on. You’re right, there is now a huge validation hole missing in my life. When you’re constantly being told how sweet, brave, kind, strong you are - and then boom - script is flipped to those very same people calling you scum and vile… yeah my ego is taking some time readjust and normalize. I’m just a man. Learning to be ok with this. Albeit slowly. Jesus. I guess what I’m maybe not communicating clearly is that I’m starting to recogniz…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/26 04:59 PM
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OYS 9 35 5 foot 8 180# 16 % bodyfat Bench - 275x1 Squat - 380x1 Deadlift - 400x1 Pull-up max-15 Divorcing (in process, living separately) 3 kids 11,7,5 Approaching final settlement Mission: Be an Authentic man. I will not outsource my agency to anyone. It is my responsibility to place my wants and needs first so that I can live, give, and receive abundantly. Vision: I will commit to be physically strong/fit and mentally tough so that I can handle the challenges of life and love those in my life,…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/26 02:32 PM
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I think we are on the same page brotha. You know what you’re doing probably more than me. I just know I had a tendency to be kind of a pussy there for a while - where I would back off due to minor aches and strains. I guess my advice was more for the beginner to let them know they can probably safely push the intensity for a really long period of time before needing a true deload.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/26 06:44 PM
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For sure. Have to listen to the body. I just know for me over the years I had a tendency to under train and be deterred by every little ache and pain. Now I just push through or modify. But never outright stop training. I always recommend guys who aren’t natural lifters or have athletic background to get a trainer if they can afford it. A good strong lifter who understands what they are doing can push you farther than you thought possible. Benefit 1 - you don’t have to be disciplined enough to m…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/26 04:22 PM
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At your numbers you don’t need deload. Deload is really only necessary once you start hitting genetic max potential. You just need consistency. Keep lifting. If your program calls for a deload every 4th week. I’d just skip that and go straight to the next training block.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/26 03:18 PM
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Merlin, brother. Those questions you’re asking yourself seem a little goofy. A lot of rumination going on. How would you behave if everyone who depended on you died… lol what? I don’t think your family dying produces a lot joy. Viewing your dependents as a burden - as opposed to integration into the awesome life you want to live. “How would you behave if she refused to leave you?” You could just go date some really fat or dysfunctional women and see I guess. You can do whatever you want no matte…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/26 02:07 AM
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Damn that’s some incredible insight into married life dynamics. Just read. It’s funny, I came in the door looking to get more ass and be freed of being beta. Now that I’m here I’m realizing what a shitty and weak man I’ve been at times. I guess that’s part of the growth process… Hindsight is 20/20. Edit: The idea of little escapes over fancy and complex vacations is straight gold. Jack ten seems to be highly intellectual. It’s probably not that complicated. I think “happy marriages” and leading …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/26 03:04 PM
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You’re still afraid to embrace your sexuality without fear. “…will happen with the next woman.” You’re right the next woman is going to get a pussy not a man. Especially if you keep playing it safe and limiting yourself. I was thinking about this comment. Ignore it. The deeper questions… does your gf know you’re in SAA? Also, if you were single tomorrow, what are you afraid would happen?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/26 02:35 PM
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Dogshit days at the gym are actually the ones that mean the most. Anyone can go to the gym when they’re all high on life and feeling sweet and sunny. Fuck that. Frame is built on the grey days. You want a physique that’s not average? Don’t do average shit. Keep going when you don’t feel like it. Edit: obviously take care of yourself and do what you can to optimize energy levels
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/26 08:54 PM
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Yeah Teh, I think you are speaking my mind better than I could articulate. That’s pretty amazing man… get out of my head lmao. Ultimately when I’m clear headed and feeling good about myself (putting in the work on my own attraction,mission, health, fitness, friends etc all the shit that goes into a full independent/manly life) this girl and potential others get put in their proper place. To dump her would be retarded. Rn she’s my little slut and she’s dtf any time/any where plus fun to be around…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/26 08:51 PM
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“Rarely can you think your way to it without proving it to yourself with action” A hard truth. A truth nonetheless. Thank you, I think ultimately I’ve arrived at the same conclusion throughout our exchange. By next OYS I’ll have some concrete shit to post. Might be a minute.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/26 06:32 PM
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Yeah man. I know what I need to do and the path I’ve got to walk. I’ve just got to get out of my head. It’s like skateboarding. You know physically and intuitively you can land the trick. You’ve just got to not be a bitch long enough to get out of your head and commit. Appreciate it bro.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/26 04:19 PM
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Yeah man I hear you. I was irritable yesterday. That’s on me. For any other new guys reading this. I was not trying to shit on FF. Bro knows his shit. I got some sleep and did some thinking. These fears are one and the same huh? Fear of rejection, fear of abandonment. The crazy thing is I think I’ll likely succeed and probably will get laid a good handful of times if I really want it. The next move is to accept that I’m probably not going to be exclusive to one woman for a while. This is a big m…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/26 03:00 PM
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Who gives a shit. We’re both getting good pussy 2-4x a week. We lift, read, stfu. Who cares if the girl is LTR, wife, or Susie one-night-stand from tinder. I think I have some major fucking holes in my spirit from depression, grief, and problems that aren’t going to be backfilled by novel pussy, redpill, or this chick. I know you’re trying to give me good advice. I appreciate that.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/26 01:02 AM
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OYS # 8 35 5 foot 8 178# 16% body fat (give or take) Bench - 255x1 Squat - 335x1 Deadlift - 365x1 Pull-up max-15 Divorcing (in process, living separately) 3 kids 11,7,4 Mission: Be an Authentic man. I will not outsource my agency to anyone. It is my responsibility to place my wants and needs first so that I can live, give, and receive abundantly. Vision: I will commit to be physically strong/fit and mentally tough so that I can handle the challenges of life and love those in my life, especially …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/26 05:10 PM
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… and we neglected to fill out cut the shit why?
/r/askMRP21/03/26 04:43 AM
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There’s a lot to unpack here in this comment. Going to be chewing on this for a few days. “The key is not to do that (or anything) out of fear.” Damn. Strength and courage. Appreciate you.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/26 02:22 PM
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Weighted pull ups and chins are just fucking cool and manly. You’re right not a lot of guys can do them irl. It’s definitely a masculine display of strength. Especially since it really is a man’s lift - Basically all upper body. I get an insane pump from pull ups too. Hard to replicate with any other lift.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/26 02:18 PM
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Futile. I can hear the experience here and I’m fucking impressed. Not that you need this new guys validation. I appreciate it. I was lurking back on some of your posts. Did you reconcile with your ex wife? I’ll say one more thing. Then I’ll stfu and get to work. I’ve got this really strange fear of getting sucked back into marriage with my ex. I don’t know if this is normal with initiators. I’m not sure if it’s driven by guilt, societal pressure, or what. One thing that has happened, I’ve got th…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/26 10:15 PM
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Physique - damn brah. 445x4 huh. Must have some thunder thighs. Weighted chins sound good. Assuming this is the palms facing you version? I usually get a pretty good response from pull ups and chin ups so will do. Relationships - On the positive, up to this point She seems to want to live and operate in my frame. Ironically, I’m about 95 percent sure she would not break things off if I hooked up with some chicks right now. Not saying she’d be overjoyed. But I don’t see it as an automatic deal br…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/26 08:48 PM
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First off. Thank you for response. I appreciate the investment. Physique - Mostly gaining the weight to get deadlift up. It’s always been my weakest lift. I’ve got a big chest and big legs. I’d like to get traps, rear delts, and biceps to dense and size up. I don’t think I’ll end up living at 185. I already feel chubby and a little unhealthy - you’re spot on about the eating - this is my experience too. - 185 is temporary/ 180 is the real sustainable sweet-spot. A nice blend of hunk/ athletic/ f…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/26 03:37 PM
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Damn OP, this shit is masochistic. It’s a deep ocean out there and there are women who don’t act like this. Granted, I haven’t read through all your stuff and don’t know if you did something egregious. Of note, some of the best years of my childhood were with my father after he divorced my mom.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/26 05:48 PM
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OYS 7 35 5 foot 8 177# Bench - 255x1 Squat - 335x1 Deadlift - 365x1 Pull-up max-15 Divorcing (in process, living separately) 3 kids 11,7,4 Mission: Be an Authentic man. I will not outsource my agency to anyone. It is my responsibility to place my wants and needs first so that I can live, give, and receive abundantly. Vision: I will commit to be physically strong/fit and mentally tough so that I can handle the challenges of life and love those in my life, especially my children and woman. I will …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/26 03:04 PM
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“My body feels more and more like a high-performance machine.” It’s not. But it will be in about 6-12 months if you’re consistent with compound lifts, progressive weight gain, and pushing your sessions to exhaustion. Have you thought about getting a trainer or joining class based fitness?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/26 10:09 PM
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Hits PR on over head press. Comes home jacked and feeling great about himself. Plays with kids. Wife is doubly turned on by dad vibes and pumped chest. Want his dick immediately in her mouth. This shit is almost formulaic at this point. Bro pound.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/26 08:43 PM
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“Rationalized when someone has been married for 20+ years” - keep feeling sorry for yourself. Dude. Clearly you’re unattractive. Get off of OYS and go actually lift for 3-6 months. You’re 49 not 79. These little lifts you are doing are not going to change the way you look and feel. Smith machine good morning is the craziest shit I’ve ever heard. Fellow snowboarder here, recognize that even though this is fun it’s actually going to cause muscle loss if you’re not careful with protein and calories…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/26 02:07 PM
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The blessing - you’re going to get unfiltered feedback. The curse - you’re going to get unfiltered feedback. Either way you’re going to have you use your brain and sift through the shit. There is going to be some damn good advice, some ok advice, and some bullshit that may not apply to the nuances of your life and journey. Don’t expect to be coddled. If you feel you have a point or rebuttal make your point clear. Either way the mods will challenge you towards some form of growth or erasure of eg…
/r/askMRP06/03/26 05:59 PM
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I don’t disagree. Attaching confidence to some arbitrary 1rm is retartded and not necessary. Rather the question Merlin and any man has to ask is…Am I putting in the work to be the man I can be? Or am I sitting on the sidelines watching Chad get stronger and feeling sorry for myself? Lifting is one of the crucial ways that I’ve increased my sense of wellbeing. But the juice has been in the journey and on the days when I didn’t want to do it. Maybe you’ll recognize this..A wise man once said “Rat…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/26 03:12 PM
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Idk man… Your bench matters. It increases your confidence and attractiveness. Seems like a weird thing to say on MRP. But it is not going to turn you into a man who automatically or can instinctually lead your woman. Of course, It certainly won’t hurt. In my humble new guy and probably retarted opinion - frame to me is navigating and dealing with your own emotions successfully first. If you’ve accomplished this you’re in a much better position to lead (love) your woman. There are a lot of false …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/26 10:07 PM
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Lmao all I saw was bukaki bar. So instead of listening to this woman who is going to be your wife you start running through a mental rolodex of “tools” Take that with a grain of salt. I used to think it was my job to be a therapist for my ex wife. But damn is this woman that annoying to you? Your presence is a gift to her as is her feminine energy to you (“emotional outbursts”). Don’t overthink it.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/26 04:54 PM
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Not gonna let you off the hook here… you’ve got an elite deadlift, but why is your bench press lagging so far behind? Injury or something? You’re clearly a strong dude, but this could be a missing piece. Bench press provides that hunky look that deadlifts just don’t. I’ve seen guys deadlift almost 500 with twig arms, no chest, and beer belly. Also Socratic method? wtf? You could just say nothing and listen. Oak trees don’t talk. Not saying be mute but damn man. If you are anything like me, I wou…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/26 03:32 PM
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“Example - I was finally able to stop watching porn when I put words to why I was doing it compulsively. “I want to feel the validation that I’m good enough as I am, without having to change, for a hot female I want to fuck, wanting to fuck me too.” It’s addictive because I briefly felt a cheap and hollow version of what it feels like to have finished the work. To have a woman at my command. I realized watching porn was like taking heroin for back pain instead of doing the painful PT that would …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/26 10:24 PM
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Here I am at 35, freshly divorced, feeling like a retard. So when I feel like I’ve made a breakthrough, only to be shot down or jabbed, I react poorly. I own this, it’s weak and counterproductive. It’s my pride. 3 things that I have done recently that made me feel alive: 1. Lifting heavy 2. Skateboarding (solo is great bonus points with friends) 3. Snowboarding 4. Applied for bartending jobs 5. Got lost in a good movie 6. Tickled and wrestled with my kids 7. Gamed a woman (didn’t always get the …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/26 03:05 PM
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Damn I’m a defensive little girl sometimes, that’s my bad. Fucking mods know how to push the right buttons. I’m at work and want to respond to this last comment with some thought and conviction… I’ll get back to you.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/26 03:50 PM
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That’s fair. Alright. Apparently you feel I’ve misunderstood something and am giving canned AI answers. I do over rely on chatGPT, guilty as charged, and I’m sick of if too. Persimmon, Oh enlightened one, perhaps we would better understand eachother if you spoke clearly instead of in cryptic one-liners.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/26 03:26 PM
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Persimmon, I think you’re right. I wondered if someone might call that out. I’m learning there seems to be a diminishing point of return on rumination, reading, reflecting. Life and growth happen in the real world. Bold actions produce the results, taking my licks, surprising myself with wins, etc…The only caveat is the grief work has actually produced some tangible peace.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/26 02:51 PM
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OYS 6 35 5 foot 8 174# Bench - 255x1 Squat - 335x1 Deadlift - 365x1 Divorcing (in process, living separately) 3 kids 11,7,4 Mission: Be an Authentic man. It is my responsibility to place my wants and needs first so that I can live, give, and receive abundantly. Vision: I will commit to be physically strong/fit and mentally tough so that I can handle the challenges of life and love those in my life, especially my children and woman. I will love myself first. I will say what I mean, and mean what …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/26 01:23 PM
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Took me a second to sift through the little jabs and crazy internet condescension but I actually appreciate this comment. Will work on identifying my neediness, and ultimate lack of work put into being comfortable and even genuinely proud to be in my own skin. Woman or no woman. Plate or no plate. For me this is end game type stuff.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/26 08:41 PM
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I’m aware I could ChatGPT that question. I wanted your original thoughts on it.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/26 07:11 PM
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What’s wrong with having needs?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/26 06:50 PM
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“What do you think it is?” I think I was over confident and misread the situation with this girl. “What is you want to do here?” I want to grow into most confident and authentic man I can be, I’ve noticed positive changes, I want more. “What do you want to get out of this exchange?” I want my blind spots to be made visible. A lot here, Wolflord. Will be unpacking this over the next few days.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/26 03:47 PM
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I have a pathological need to be liked. I also haven’t really dated or asked girls out in 11 years. So I’m rusty. Always looking for tips. It seems like the Mrpdaddys might have some practical wisdom on the subject. Especially the above scenario about girl from gym/misreading the scenario etc
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/26 03:10 PM
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OYS 5 35 5 foot 8 174# Bench - 255x1 Squat - 335x1 Deadlift - 365x1 Pull-ups - 15 strict unbroken Roughly 15 % body fat Divorcing 3 kids 11,6,4 Mission: Be an Authentic man. It is my responsibility to place my wants and needs first so that I can live, give, and receive abundantly. Vision: I will commit to be physically strong/fit and mentally tough so that I can handle the challenges of life and love those in my life, especially my children and woman. A few people may hate me and some may love m…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/26 02:45 PM
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Mommy loves her little boy
/r/askMRP16/02/26 04:55 PM
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You probably shouldn’t post in OYS without a mission. Start there. Everyone is shitting on you, and maybe deservedly so. But come back next week with a mission statement as a man and things MIGHT start making more sense in your fucked up life. Mission first. Always.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/26 10:41 PM
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“I don’t tell my wife anything about what’s going on at work now” - Good.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/26 09:48 PM
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Back squat, front squat easily can beat it for hypertrophy. Put 225 on the bar and squat until failure and call me in a week. Also, squatting will give you caveman strength which sounds like something that plays to your advantage with your woman.
/r/askMRP11/02/26 07:02 PM
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So your bench one rep max is somewhere around 315? If that’s accurate and you’re 5 foot 11? You should be more jacked than 99 percent of men IRL. Lose some body fat. Leg press is gay.
/r/askMRP11/02/26 06:49 PM
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Just like with OYS the more honest you are about your shit… the better (and probably harsher) the feedback will be that you need to
/r/askMRP11/02/26 06:10 PM
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You neglected to fill out the required “cut the shit” before posting here. Which tells us you’re not doing the work to be an attractive man with options.
/r/askMRP11/02/26 03:51 PM
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What’s stopping you from looking in your wife in her eyes and saying “I’m not going to be married to a woman who gets close with other guys.” Are you afraid you won’t mean it? What would it take to for you as a man to get to that point? Where you can stand tall and believe that you have options? If she sees that power in you, she will likely drop to her knees and submit or you’ll walk over to the next chick who literally can’t wait to get your balls in her mouth all night.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/26 09:33 PM
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Word, BT. Assuming you’re saying actual dates…Not just generally being social and flirting with women at random
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/26 03:16 PM
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Jesus this is good. I can’t believe this advice is free. Reminds me, had a coworker recently tell me he bought a flesh light. I pulled him aside and said wtf dude. The guys a handsome, young, outgoing dude. He got his heart broke by his first real “love”. He’s been out the game since. When I told him he could actually be banging real chicks, his eyes lit up like I put his soul back into his body.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/26 08:34 PM
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Teh, I think I’m with you here. I don’t think it’s a Hail Mary with this girl or a grenade in pond situation. But it’s definitely not a lock either. The truth is you’re right on the ego piece. I was feeling good about getting her number but was too afraid to push it to the next level of yes/no.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/26 04:09 PM
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Boring, this is all pretty actionable advice. Pretty easy to implement. I appreciate that. As far as the nice, soft, warm, reactive ego… you’re right and it’s probably ultimately what led me here. Alright, what would it take for a man to shed this? I know this is a “daddy please fix me” question. But you struck a nerve and I genuinely want to work on this.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/26 04:01 PM
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Alpha, are you saying absenteeism as a father is nothing to be worried about? Genuine question. The context is that she knows I’m previously married/ actively divorcing. I doubt she cares that much. But yeah in general I’m being a pussy. Will reengage the target. Book of pook. Roger that!
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/26 03:49 PM
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OYS 4 35 5 foot 8 174# Bench - 255x1 Squat - 335x1 Deadlift - 365x1 Pull-ups - 15 strict unbroken Roughly 16 % body fat Divorcing 3 kids 11,6,4 Mission: Be an Authentic man. It is my responsibility to place my wants and needs first so that I can live, give, and receive abundantly. Vision: I will commit to be physically strong/fit and mentally tough so that I can handle the challenges of life and love those in my life, especially my children and woman. A few people may hate me and some may love m…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/26 01:52 PM
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May want to explore the concept of hard no. Especially with your involvement in masturbation anonymous. I know we’ve given you shit about this. But keep in mind, your baseline is probably to view your dick and balls as a curse. Your woman wants them, bad. Even if she doesn’t say it overtly. I could be wrong, but you may need to embrace your aggressive side more. “Since Nice Guys see sex as the ultimate form of acceptance, and they believe a woman must be in a good mood before she will have sex, …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/26 03:37 PM
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After anniversary sex - since you weren’t at home I’m assuming you were in the car. Sounds like you kinda gave up here dude. Did you get a hard no?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/26 03:02 PM
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Hanging out with the bros is always a good call. They’re just chicks dude. I know MRP is about getting pussy, but it sounds like you living in your own frame and doing things you want to do actually enhanced your sex life. Take note of that.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/26 12:09 AM
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Also yeah I’ve been noticing how little women care about divorce or my kids. It is kind of shocking.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/26 04:31 PM
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Lifting. Frame. And STFU has already increased my sense of confidence and positive self image dramatically. Admittedly with a ton of work remaining… For HVM guidance I also like to look at steel’s sidebar list… the one that starts with” if you’re not this then you’re doing it wrong”… maybe not so much as a checklist but a good mirror of what attractive men with options act like
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/26 04:30 PM
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Notch count was 9 pre marriage. Does the number reset? Good point. I like your mindset on this. There’s technically no reason for this. My mission is to love and protect my kids at all costs. Yeah I won’t pretend that my vetting skills are top notch anyway. Obviously look at my life right now. However, while I’ve got retarded moments. I don’t think I’ve gone full retard. I still have a brain that functions… most of the time. You’re right it is going to get old. I do believe women will typically …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/26 05:25 PM
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Agreed
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/26 06:22 PM
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Thanks. Honestly. I love this. All the feedback. Feels like walking into the boxing gym for the first time. Yeah you get your ass kicked up and down the place. But after a while you leave a bad mfer. You’re right though, early days. More to come.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/26 06:20 PM
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Fair. I got kind of insanely offended and defensive. Embarrassingly so. To be fair to hickorywind he was working with limited information and with that information he made a harsh critique. Can’t say I wouldn’t have felt similarly. I think the source of my shame and defensiveness comes from my strict religious upbringing and community. Divorce is seen not simply as a failure of a relationship to work out between adults, but a complete moral failure, where the initiator is evil to the core. I agr…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/26 04:01 PM
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Agreed. I was just saying for the first time at 35 years of age I’m realizing how unattractive it is. I’m growing…. Slowly
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/26 12:56 AM
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I’ve always been one to say therapy was of no use for men. But I think you are onto something. Duly noted.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/26 12:42 AM
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Actually I’ll admit… this is a solid comment
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/26 11:50 PM
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lol that’s right. Resort to infantile humor because you know your comment was stupid and offered nothing of substance. You’re back peddling.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/26 11:42 PM
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That’s what I thought. Name tracks. All wind. No substance.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/26 11:27 PM
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Admittedly my writing on this has been flippant, brief, and with a lot of levity. But make no mistake, this situation is not sudden nor being taken without care. I’ve purposefully left out a lot of details so as to remain anonymous because it was my understanding we were to avoid using her, she, and generally talking about our wives.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/26 11:10 PM
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How’s the weather up there on your high horse? I’m not going to defend myself to some punk hiding behind a keyboard. But I feel compelled to put you in your little place. You couldn’t walk a mile in my shoes. Missing weeks of work so you can comfort a baby all night because moms in the hospital and can’t breastfeed her anymore. Seeing your life’s savings wiped out by a manic episode. Or handle half of what I’ve gone through. You’d probably be crying in the fetal position. I’m also getting full c…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/26 11:02 PM
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I think I see what you mean. I need to remove my head from sphincter. I’ll keep my eyes wide open. Lifting, reading, shutting my little mouth. I like the idea of spinning plates, even if not necessary sexually. I can get behind that. I’m still developing “the prize” mindset. I haven’t quite got there. I can kind of see it off in the distance…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/26 09:55 PM
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Horns, your words are sharp but that means they are closer to the truth than I’d like to admit.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/26 08:15 PM
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Do you have any recommendations for specific milestones? Getting my shit together seems vague and subjective. Not saying you’re wrong. I like the idea.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/26 07:51 PM
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OYS 3 35 5 foot 8 172# Bench - 250x1 Squat - 324x1 Deadlift - 330x1 Pull-ups - 15 strict unbroken Roughly 16 % body fat Married with 3 kids 11,6,4 Mission: Be an Authentic man. It is my responsibility to place my wants and needs first so that I can live, give, and receive abundantly. Vision: I will commit to be physically strong/fit and mentally tough so that I can handle the hardships of life and love those in my life, especially my children and woman. A few people may hate me and some may love…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/26 01:30 PM
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I get it. Some guys are built for connection. Not every alpha male necessarily spends all his free time slaying strange pussy 24/7. Some would say there are more noble pursuits and perhaps more satisfying pursuits (not trying to moralize). Plus it’s hard to argue with the best sex coming with genuine emotion and affection. But yea in general cohabitation is probably going to be viewed as a kind of half assed retarded marriage. Plenty people do it. You’re not the only one. Women respond and follo…
/r/askMRP05/01/26 11:08 PM
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lol bro not trying to be an asshole but your upper body is just weak. You’ll notice as this gets stronger your whole physique will change
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/26 09:04 PM
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Not a typo. Bodyweight barbell squat x 15 is the standard minimal strength for most D1 college football teams. It’s pretty attainable. The bench will take you the longest.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/26 08:35 PM
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You’re 6 foot 4 and 215 pounds? Your strength and size potentials are off the charts. Your numbers are decent for a guy half your size. If you got your deadlift to 430, bench up to 215x15, and your squat to 215x15 you’d probably look like a NFL player. All very doable in less than or about a year. You won’t need to “think” about getting side pussy, you’ll be thinking about which side pussy you have time for. Or you can keep wrestling with sweaty dudes and watching porn.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/26 08:24 PM
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This is the comment.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/25 09:50 PM
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I live in the West. Agreed it’s definitely naive. Bear in mind it’s a high level overview. Will plan to consult attorney each step of the way and before any significant plays. Good reminder on the different beasts thing. She has bipolar 1. So I’m going to expect the unexpected.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/25 10:50 PM
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I’ll get to reading. Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/25 05:33 PM
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My wife has not agreed to anything yet as I have not directly stated my intent to divorce. I agreed to do marriage counseling for atleast 1 session. I’ve already made up my mind but I want to at-least show that I’m not taking this decision lightly. Phase 1: I’m going to rent and begin to furnish an apartment. Phase 2: File for divorce while simultaneously letting wife know. This phase will be the messiest with transitioning between two homes and providing stability for the kids. Phase 3: kids of…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/25 04:48 PM
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Why are you threatening anything? Either do or don’t do. What’s your plan to separate? My guess is you don’t have one. So you just pout. You don’t yet mean what you say or say what you mean. Get more attractive.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/25 08:57 PM
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If you are in SAA I can guarantee you have HUGE amounts of sexual shame that is going to hinder your life and happiness as a man. See Rollo’s https://therationalmale.com/2012/07/27/pathologizing-the-male-sexual-response/amp/. Browse the comments as well.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/25 09:56 PM
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OYS 2 35 5 foot 8 170# Bench - 250x1 Squat - 300x1 Deadlift - 320x1 Pull-ups - 15 strict Roughly 16 % body fat Married with 3 kids 11,6,4 Mission: Be an Authentic man. I will place my wants and needs first so that I can live, give, and receive abundantly. Vision: I will commit to be physically strong/fit and mentally tough so that I can handle the hardships of life and love those in my life, especially my children and woman. A few people may hate me and some may love me deeply along the way. Reg…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/25 04:16 PM
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Keep lifting heavy and eating big/clean. This will help your own anxiety levels come down. You can’t control your wife’s anxiety levels. Also the porn thing. It’s a bad habit but it’s not going to kill you. Maybe try reframing it as that and simply take a break from it.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/25 02:42 PM
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Roger that. Next time I’ll plan to have some concrete goals and what I’m doing to achieve them.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/25 08:34 PM
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OYS 1 35 5 foot 8 170# Bench - 250x1 Squat - 300x1 Deadlift - 320x1 Pull-ups - 15 strict Roughly 16 % body fat Married with 3 kids 11,6,3 Mission: Be an Authentic man. I will place my wants and needs first so that I can live, give, and receive abundantly. I will commit to be physically strong and mentally tough so that I can handle the hardships of life and love those in my life, especially my children. A few people may hate me and some will love me along the way. I will accept the consequences …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/25 03:36 PM
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Haha. Yes. Working on it.
/r/askMRP08/12/25 09:18 PM
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Thought provoking. Thank you. Can’t say I disagree. Of course, there are nuances to every situation and marriage. I’m looking forward to getting some OYS posted to unpack some of this.
/r/askMRP07/12/25 11:21 PM
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I’m realizing this. Wouldn’t have it any other way.
/r/askMRP06/12/25 04:28 PM
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That’s fair. A solution is to be reasonably happy and free. The fact is it seems like I’m in an LTR that no longer provides me with either of those things. I’m at a serious intersection of break it off or continue. Regardless, I have some serious work ahead of me to improve myself and continue to grow into an attractive man with options. I’m hoping with time, over the next days, weeks, months this decision becomes more clear. One thing is for certain, I can no longer be Mr. Nice Guy.
/r/askMRP06/12/25 04:28 PM
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Interesting. I’ve noticed a tendency towards self destructive habits and thinking when I consider staying.
/r/askMRP04/12/25 03:52 AM
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Good points.
/r/askMRP03/12/25 05:06 PM
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That’s what I’m saying.
/r/askMRP03/12/25 02:35 PM
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Succinct. Ok.
/r/askMRP03/12/25 02:34 PM
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Crying on the internet - yep Being a bitch - yep Special situation - not as special as I think Better than - yeah I see your point. I came across as better than. Head up ass/ basically retarded - can’t say that’s entirely wrong. Do you have any recommendations or practical tips other than criticism? Right sub/ but won’t help- care to elaborate on this contradiction?
/r/askMRP03/12/25 02:34 PM
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I appreciate the thought out response. Distilled down- not a “special” scenario, keeping owning my shit, let go of sexual shame/guilt, get an attorney, stop trying to be a savior Fair?
/r/askMRP03/12/25 02:30 PM
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I have tried so hard not to be viewed as a “piece of shit”. That’s gotten me to this point. I had doubts and thought of breaking our engagement before marriage. But I had already made a commitment and didn’t want to be a… you guessed it, piece of shit.
/r/askMRP03/12/25 06:06 AM
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I think you’re missing the point. You’re feeling sorry for yourself when in fact you sound like a valuable man.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/25 09:21 PM
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Bro. Don’t worry you’ll find the one. She’s out there. Jesus. Pre-oneitis. Dude, in all seriousness get a new primary goal in life. Are you a chick or something? Do you want to have a family or LEAD a family? Nobody cares that you’re in elite shape, 6 ft millionaire blah blah blah. You sound like a soulless boring person. Patrick Bateman? Is that you. What excites you about life? You’re a man with infinite options. You’re 31 not 81. Go post this on an ask subreddit or something. What value are y…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/25 09:02 PM
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