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You will soon tire of this. The man will claim he was blindsided and you will be blamed for not trying to "stick it out". You have done what millions of women have done and at some point, the overcompensating well runs dry.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 04:06 PM
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This is what is happening in my relationship. For 3 years, I made so many efforts to spend with my bf. He would complain about everything I did. Finally I decided to pull back. Now he is saying that I am not making an effort. It is so crazy that he never appreciated my efforts until I took them away. I am happy that he is now making an effort, but hurt that he is so self centered that he couldn't see how much I gave to the relationship in the beginning. Men seem to get too comfortable and think …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 02:27 AM
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It does seem sad that most people don't know how to create or maintain a heterosexual family. I think that we live in an era where women have low tolerance for men's nuances. So many of my friends opted out of their marriage for single parenthood. The men all did not meet the women's expectations after the children arrived. I feel for the men, because they truly wanted the nuclear family. But until society reduces the stress of parenthood, we will see more women creating ways to raise children w…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 02:12 AM
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Nonsense. Unless they look like Tom Cruise (with money). Age is the great equalizer.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 10:14 PM
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He is a picky jerk. He is bald, he has a beer belly and he is 50 year old who wants to date 30 year old. He doesn't have a lot of money. He is basically asking a 30 year old to settle for him.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 10:14 PM
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Have a friend who I used to date who is now 50. He used to invite all his girlfriends to a parties and now he is begging exes to fix him up. He is lonely. No kids, no family and friends are all partnered. I think men underestimate dating at an older age unless they are super handsome, with a good salary and a good working eggplant, if you know what I mean.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 04:32 AM
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Doesn't seem like you are honest with yourself and you need to do some self reflection. When your life is stable, healthy relationship will effortlessly show up.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 03:47 PM
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With all this going on, how could you possibly love or offer a supportive romantic relationship to any woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 07:01 AM
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Yes. This man needs help, not a girlfriend. The danger is if some unsuspecting girl does attempt to form a relationship with him, she will soon learn that he is dealing with a lot of adversity. This will make it impossible for him to love a woman in his adverse state. Thus creating more toxic relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 07:01 AM
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Often, when men have sex early, they lose interest. Yes. I think she might lack have a raw sexual attraction to the guy and that is okay. Sometimes we get intimate with men for sex beacause we won't get heartbroken if it ends. Other times we get our feelings mixed up. There are men that I just wanted for a good time so fast sex didn't make or break the situation. There are other men who I valued and I didn't want to suddenly throw in sex to mess up the outcome.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 04:07 AM
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I don't think you should end it. This is a normal problem in blended families. You just have to figure out how to communicate with her in a way that feels good to you and respectful to her. Your girls are still your priority, no matter how much that may hurt your girlfriend.
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/22 12:21 PM
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Why are men in this era so quick to choose this route? Men of the past had similar struggles but never so quick to want to call it quits. What has changed in how men process hardships?
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/22 12:16 PM
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You stand your ground. Your girls deserve dad time. You can fit in blended family time later. But there is something special about having time for your daughters. Have a sensible convo with your girlfriend, but if you start giving in, you will create more problems. I feel for men who are caught between women wanting their attention. It feels good to want to make the women in your life happy but your girlfriend should understand.
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/22 12:15 PM
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I struggle with the lack of accountability as well. I dated a divorced guy for 5 years who I thought was completely innocent in his divorce. Throughout my relationship, I learned that he doesn't talk to any family, he doesn't know when his kids have summer camp. He said he didn't do anything "divorce-able" but later tells me he kissed his wife's sister months after his wife gave birth. Then I realize he is just not a very loving and tender man. All the years of listening to him talk about how ho…
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/22 12:07 PM
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THIS! I recently had a conversation with a guy who told me all these sexual things he wanted to do to me. He closed that with, "How does that make you feel knowing that I want to do those things to you?". I told him that I am not flattered, excited, turned on nor do I feel special. What he really wanted was for someone to tell him all the sexual things a woman would do to him. I didn't judge it as good or bad. I just realized that men get a lot of validation from the physical world.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 08:08 AM
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I didn't know these stats on women. You are right, I am basing things on what I see in my city.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 12:35 PM
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I think this is the only reply that makes sense. We need to address the pain that is going on. I am not here to paint men with a bad brush . I would like to know who to treat men like human beings? What kind of human rights would help reduce violence?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 12:20 PM
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Great point! I keep wondering why do we need more women to have babies. Reminds me of the American slave trade economic model where they forced enslaved Africans to breed instead of changing the approach to how work gets done. Look how that turned out! I agree that we should change the model by which we fund our safety nets. Having more children, stressed out families, unsafe environments and an artificial currency is not the solution. Especially if basic income, baby bonds, and artificial intel…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/20 12:08 PM
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I agree with this reply. I am pro family, pro birth/natalism and I am a single mother of one. I grew up in a big family. Taking care of children is something that everyone just did. Once I had a taste of travel, partying, dating, education and fun, I knew I didn't want kids until my mid-late 30's. I am very happy now with my little family, with or without a partner. I would much rather have a 2 parent nuclear family. But I am so happy with the benefits, blessings and joy of raising a child. It w…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/20 11:59 AM
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Same here. Loving sex trumps a cold romp with a stranger.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/20 02:49 AM
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Mainly because marriage is a joke and lots of black men and women see it for what it is, a financial contract. Since most black people don't have money, there is no point of getting married. I think the cultural/moral view is up for debate. Black dads have a bad reputation, stereotypes or not. But the bigger question is why don't white women want to date white men?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/20 04:30 AM
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Only intelligent comment here.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/20 08:42 PM
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I don't think white men are okay. They are suicidal, depressed and these sub-groups online reflect an internal struggle with masculinity and power, especially for younger white men who feel that they should be happier considering so many material advancements. I think the pc culture shouldn't really threaten white males. They are still at the top of the food chain. But for some reason, they feel more on edge and volatile. I think you can tell the pc bullshit to f-off without alienating white wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/20 08:39 PM
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Well, I am curious becasue there are so many other men to choose from, Indian, Arab, Asian, Latino, but there is a curious fascination with black men specifically from white women. Is it all just sexual, color contrast, taboo, beautiful biracial children, fertility or just power? I don't have a problem with interracial relationships. I think all people are beautiful. White men have changed how they present their sexuality. Growing up, I thought Bruce Willis and Clint Eastwood were confident whit…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/20 03:50 PM
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Women of a certain class will definitely have "slumming sex" and commit a life to a less attractive man with more money. Falling for a guy based on looks is a bad dating strategy. Women know looks fade and money is the key factor in a quality relationship. Just curious if you ever felt like you valued your feelings more than the orgasm?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/20 04:42 AM
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Grow your hair long, Switch up your style a bit. Your beard could work for you in the bottom middle pic. The pic with the wine glass says "nice guy who gives mild orgasms." Do you play guitar, remodel furniture, improve? What makes you unique. I think you are cute, but you look like would be boring in bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/20 04:33 AM
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This guy is cute to me. I think lots of white girls will find him attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/20 04:23 AM
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Why do you think white women like black men so much? Seems to be a global phenomenon. Anecdotally, I notice lots of European women who travel to the Carribbean and Africa to find a man and the women are eager to have children. In the US, if the black man is successful, white woman are almost hunting them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/20 04:19 AM
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I have found more men want to the woman to ask for a relationship, even if the man claims he doesn't like it. Men like to be wanted. If a woman gives off a lackadaisical approach, the man feels inferior. But if he thinks the woman really wants him, his ego will let the woman lead him toward a long term relationship. I see this more in men 35 and older when dating becomes more challenging. Men get lonely but don't want to come off needy.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/20 03:57 AM
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Yes! Can't blame a gender, rather look at mismatched expectations and visions. I envisioned a hippie, low key small family lifestyle with my partner. While he liked the idea of it, he needed to have his wife and his family get along. I had no desire to bond with his family. I didn't notice that this would be an issue until year 3 of the relationship. He couldn't spend one holiday away from his family. It became a breaking point for us.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/20 08:24 PM
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If it was built off of something like philia, or the selfless love between deep friends, and later evolved into pragma, love and understanding between two peoples that's long lasting and involves compromise, maturity, conpassion and an understanding of each other that doesnt waver. This was so beautiful. Do you read Rollo May or Erich Fromme? Thanks for sharing these insights. They help me even as I am creating foundations for love.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/20 08:10 PM
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I am sorry this happened to you. I dated a man with a low libido and often heard a variation of the same thing. He was "too tired". He had "headaches from working". I was "too tight and made him cum too quickly". Or he was exhausted from running, biking or whatever sport he preferred. My breaking point came when we went on my dream vacation and we had sex for maybe 3-5 minutes. This was during our engagement period. I realized that he would never be the man I wanted in a romantic way. 5 years af…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/20 05:29 AM
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Old ladies are wise! My advice can help you be an old wise person like me!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/20 09:43 AM
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Exactly! These poor guys think sex will solve every problem. More to a connection than whether someone is "hot and young".
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/20 08:56 PM
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I have lived enough to know that finances matter. Men who don't think a financially sound woman is valuable is not the kind of man I want to have sex with. He can bang a young, hot chick who doesn't talk about work. Nothing lost over here. Just offering younger men some advice. Save and build your financial future.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/20 08:54 PM
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A surprisingly high number of men are not as financially stable as you would think around age 35-45. I think older women notice the disparity when we get older. I have a house, car, retirement, stable job and I would at least expect that from any man that I am dating. So many men over 35 are living with roommates, not settled in their careers, juggling child support payments or simply have no retirement plans. If this is the future of the middle class male over 35, many women rather just stay si…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/20 07:41 AM
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This is a tough one. I dated a guy who didn't care about sex. Easily the most thoughtful, caring and dependable man in my life. However, I was sexually unfulfilled. He would always say, "we have so many amazing experiences that are better than sex". It was true, we have traveled, climbed mountains, went to plays and had all these adventures. But in the end, I felt a gaping hole (Literally) and I felt rejected as a woman. Till this day, he is more of a supportive and dependable boyfriend, but I l…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/20 01:51 PM
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An ex-military man, 6'2, beautiful hair, broad shoulders, gorgeous smile who was interested in theater would definitely get my attention. He is NOT a pretty boy and his face does not look like a ken doll which is exactly what turns me on.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/20 03:06 PM
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Adam Driver is super hot, sexy, confident and his deep voice is an instant turn on. He has a great body and is a little quirky. He is in a league of his own.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/20 04:53 AM
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This is so wise. Beauty doesn't last. Of course you can trade in and upgrade to a newer hotter version with the hopes the person is as into you as you are them. Or you can pay for a hot body. But what happened to genuine connection, fun, understanding, support. Why must everything come down to how a person looks. What about how they feel? Good looks are just wrapping paper.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/20 02:12 PM
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Sugar and Estrogen are everywhere and wreaking havoc on mankind. Birth control pills get released into our water through urine. Sugar impact can even found in nature and animal life. No matter what filtration system is being used, we are all ingesting lots of estrogen and sugar. I don't think there is an immediate solution. I have traveled to countries where people are naturally slim, regardless of race (West Africa, Asia, C. America). People who don't have sugar or estrogen in their food or wat…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/20 07:55 AM
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Not a popular opinion, but science proves that women's eggs respond to genetic superiority over and over again. Sad that men with the best genes don't want to stick around. Those that do stick around tend to have amazing children. Women are the ones who have to nurse and unconditionally love the child. It is better if the child has good genes. This takes me back to a high school friend who got pregnant by the hottest dude. She kept the baby and the kid grew up to be just as hot as the dad. She r…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/20 03:42 AM
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My ex did this to me. I would have been his forever girlfriend. I was flighty, immature but totally into him. He met his new wife while he and I were off and on. He breaks up with me and marries the 2nd girl. 10 years later They have two kids and she divorces him after 2nd kid. He called me 2 years after the divorce and we hooked up again. He told me that she fit an idea in his head. She was sophisticated, educated and fit a beauty standard that he liked. I appreciated his honesty. For awhile, I…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/20 03:18 AM
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Same. Wish I dated more in my early twenties and didn't try to stick it out with a guy who ended up being a joke.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/20 01:34 AM
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Why were you attracted to a woman/ mother with a personality like this?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/20 11:57 PM
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I have been betrayed by more beta males than alphas. Most confident men tell you exactly what they want and don't want. They do not lead me on. The "nice" guys don't have the strength to be honest. So I agree with you!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/20 01:31 AM
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I really wish more "betas" were better in bed. The world would be a happier place. There has to be some sort of program or initiative to upskill these men.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/20 01:30 AM
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You have found the secret to men. So sad. Men value anything that appears to be a challenge. Make it to easy and you will lose his interest. Sad but true.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 03:33 AM
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Exactly. Women have stopped having sex with deadbeat dads, low income men, and abusive men. Most women may have made a mistake once or twice, but more women are willing to forgo sex with a loser for a lifetime of celibacy. Sexless men will only increase as women become more discerning. Let these men go pay for prostitutes and women will survive just fine without them. Sperm is everywhere. Good fathers are rare. Most women will create a society where kids are exposed to only good fathers are no f…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/20 06:48 PM
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Good point. The guys I dated with less than 5 partners had very little charisma or charm. They were awkward and even if they were good looking or athletic, they usually said something geeky or odd. I think men who realize they have charisma early put it to use on women immediately. They learn that their charisma can get them out of many situations, which leads to a lack of accountability.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/20 05:05 AM
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My partners who slept with more than 20-30 women have very difficult times empathizing with women. The positives: They were very good in bed, very attentive and almost every single sexual experience resulted in multiple orgasms. The negatives: They all had emotional issues or childhood sexual activity. None could maintain a healthy romantic relationship. They saw almost every person in a sexual light (teachers, cafeteria workers, clients etc.) They were not ever going to change their desire for …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/20 12:54 AM
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So many of these guys are racists/classist and think every woman who likes someone other than a white computer nerd is lusting after a black/latino thug. Some women really just like an interesting guy who knows something about the world that he didn't learn on a computer screen. Some women like men who are good at human interaction. Some men know how to make a relationship exciting and fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 10:39 PM
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Men are prostitutes too! LOL!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 09:58 PM
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New NPR podcast on cheating https://one.npr.org/?sharedMediaId=784668545:784668547&fbclid=IwAR1JsaODCq6LXsPbg2fQr4Qhqcjc1-jdH-iwzzH9Waa2C92-pJYVKWcIJSM
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 09:26 PM
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Quirky, affectionate, outdoorsy, book/movie/nerds, height /weight proportionate, good smell, nice teeth/breath, family oriented,dad/fatherly, loves my body.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 03:32 PM
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Yeah, pleasurable sex from men is rare. I didn't really start having great orgasmic sex until I was 32 years old!! Most men, alpha or betas were really selfish, inexperienced or lacked emotional connection. Women usually marry men who are a good balance of pleasurable, (not great) sex and good character. Men who are not really self aware will jump on the first hot girl and find out later that she does not please him in other ways. Most women take our time and the "safe" guy is usually a guy we t…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 04:38 AM
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False. Men like fun shit! My ex used to do the same thing every birthday with his guy friends. Bar, drinks and corny night club. I decided that we would all take flight lessons on his birthday and go camping. He remembered that for years to come. He liked having fun and not having to think of every detail. I also notice that men fall for women who plan really fun activities more than they do for women who just settle for the predictable stuff. I think over time, women get frustrated if he doesn'…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 04:43 PM
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Thanks for your honesty. Some men try to be the "sex" guy and then they get jealous, emotional, attached, angry, confused. Being the "sex" guy means being able to handle intense sexual experiences with lots of different people. That will usually mean discussing STDS, pregnancy, pleasure, orgasms with many different women qne being able to please them. Or having those intense engagements with one woman in a non-committed relationship. Both have consequences. I agree that women put too much expect…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 04:34 PM
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I was definitely a plain jane in my early years of dating. I had my own quirky interests, books, music and movies. I met a super hot football player from my college course. He had a perfect body, hair and was even a teen model. I could not believe he was into me. We loved the same music, jokes, and he liked being around women who sparked his interest. I was so insecure with him. We even traveled to Hawaii and had amazing sex. Every little thing he said about me would keep me up at night wonderin…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 04:20 PM
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Words for a long, stress free life! When I see a woman with a hot boyfriend, I see a woman who is dealing with a whole lot of bullshit. Unless that man is super self aware, unique and reflective, he is likely a burden. All of my hot high demand partners, were just not worth the stress. STD's, lies, secret women, bad treatment and sometimes lackluster sex. Give me an average, loveable, confident guy (who is great in bed), any day over a man of town.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 04:14 PM
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I don't buy the stats. I only see white upper class wealthy men with Asian women (of all classes). Poor white men are not more desirable or more attractive than a wealthy, intelligent Asian man.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/20 10:13 PM
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Sure, because of money. Not because white guys are desirable.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/20 10:11 PM
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Studies conducted by white men to prove white men are desirable. Got it!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/20 04:24 PM
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OMG. Do people think that white men are a prize? Unless they have money and treat women with respect, there is nothing special about white western men compared to other men. They are not typically attractive and terrible in bed compared to Latin, Black, Middle Eastern and Eastern European whites. This idea that white men are a trophy is crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/20 03:57 PM
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I agree. Women should not think sex can change a man. I also think men should not casually have sex with women without thinking there will be some kind of karmic or real backlash. Just wait until you found the girl you really want instead of sticking and dipping in women you don't really care about or like. The end result will be so much better for the guys and the girl you finally get with.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/20 08:38 AM
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Great question! I would first find some obscure hobby with women that I am attracted to like volleyball, belly dancing, hiking, paddle boarding. Then I would make sure i was interesting and unique. Find a roster of women that I was interested in and do fun and interesting things with them. Most women all fall for interesting and confident men.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/20 11:31 PM
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So trash women should stop screwing trash men? I am so confused. Should they get sterilized or have the kids taken away? Are married people better? Does being married make two people better to raise a family than two single parenting adults? How do you measure a trash person? Do all trash people work at fast food chains and clean medical rooms? Are all the people in offices and with big homes better people than people who pick up garbage? Is being a trash person a person who gets pregnant in the…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/20 05:08 PM
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You are ignorant and uneducated. I apologize for trying to intellectually engage you. Fairness is not reality. People cannot fuck whomever they want without consequences. Welcome to the real world. I won't even waste key strokes on "can have an abortion" argument. You just validated your reduced brain cells.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/20 04:47 PM
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Do you think anyone in history is prepared to be a parent? Only in the last 60 years has "planned" parenting been a real thing. People have been getting pregnant since they were teenagers! If society "planned" children, most would not have kids until they were in their 40s-50's. I live in an area with lots of intelligent, highly paid couples. Most follow your logic and have to use IVF, surrogacy, adoption or go childless because to be really prepared in today's society means waiting until women …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/20 04:42 PM
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A very real thing and so sad. To see a man you care about and want to be with struggle with his penis in a marriage can be heartbreaking. The man gets down and the woman starts looking elsewhere. These men are in for a rude awakening about life as they get older.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/20 04:10 PM
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You responded to how terrible single mothers are which is essentially saying, married mothers are amazing. Seriously?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/20 04:07 PM
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Research continues to prove that being able to walk away from a bad relationship is more important than staying for the kids. Yes, your stats say a traditional nuclear family is better for the child. But in this age, the mother's well being matters just as much. Women are making decisions to be single parents at every socioeconomic level of life, despite income/race/education. https://www.wsj.com/articles/despite-high-costs-more-women-are-interested-in-single-motherhood-11561800601 Children will…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/20 04:04 PM
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Every single time you have sex with a woman, you are agreeing to being a father. If that sexual encounter does not result in a pregnancy, consider yourself lucky. If every man viewed sex this way, single motherhood would end tomorrow.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/20 03:58 PM
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Wrong. Men married women immediately if she was in the "family way". In the past, men were looked down on for knocking a girl up and not marrying her. Even if she was a slut, the community looked at the guy and admonished him. He got stuck with the "fast girl". But now, men want to screw everything without consequence. Marriage is no longer a social norm and now we have fatherless kids, aimless poor deadbeats and relationships in shambles.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/20 03:54 PM
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Every man should deal with the consequence for unprotected sex. If more men thought about the consequences, they would be more selective with the women they ejaculate inside of. If I ever have a son, I will make sure he is extra picky with his women. He would never be confronted with a strange woman claiming he is the father of an unwanted child.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/20 03:50 PM
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Sucky men are a burden on society as well. Money for prisons, no soldiers for war, meth addiction, suicides and overall lack of good men. Women are not magicians, we can't bear the burden. The world is made of two sexes. Blaming all single mothers is just ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/20 03:49 PM
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Yeah I think if every single mother walked away like men walk away, we would have a social crisis. I don't think these men realize hating single moms is bad for society. Their anger or attention should be focused on increasing men's level of committment to his decisions.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/20 03:44 PM
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People idealize two parent homes. We still have Bill Cosby/ Betty Crocker fantasy. That shit is not real. Two parent homes are not the best. If they were, everyone would do it. Even the stats are often skewed to people with more money. People need support and sometimes fathers can be very toxic if they are under a lot of stress
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/20 03:40 PM
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Why not address the trash men and make them better? Are men really that terrible that there are so many selfish absent fathers running around? Put energy into shaming them!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/20 03:36 PM
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Exactly! How hard is that!? Get a vasectomy, put on a rubber, don't have sex. Are these string bean dicks really upset that they can't fuck and cum in anything and not have a consequence? You boys really believe that the woman is the only one who should be burdened for pregnancy? Even if she gets an abortion, the man should be identified and registered for the military or community service. Every man can't just spill cum and think there are no consequences. I really think men get off too easy in…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/20 03:32 PM
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Not having sex. That is a man's only "get out of jail free" card. If you don't to want an unwanted child, only have sex with women that you want to get pregnant. Not fair, but you don't have to carry the child, which is a blessing and a curse. Your biology is not designed to think how a pregnant woman's mind thinks. By terminating a pregnancy, you are going against your physical DNA. I have been pregnant and kept and terminated pregnancies. When you want to keep a child, you know. Women cannot p…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/20 03:31 PM
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Then what is so special about being a married mother? By being both a single mom and a partnered mother. I can say that having support is fantastic, but living together is overrated if both people are not equal contributors. I would much rather live alone and raise a child while he has his own place. My married mom friends complain constantly. They can never go anywhere. Their husbands have gotten fat, lazy and they don't want to have sex with them. They never get a break from the kids. The pare…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/20 03:24 PM
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You are so naive. Are you 12 years old!? Men who experience military service, job loss, depression, erectile dysfunction, loss of attention after the baby, mental health disorders, financial disaster CHANGE!!! Do you really think that all these new rates of suicidal men were always depressed? NO, they had something happen to them. Then go add a child/hook up/family/girlfriend/wife on top of it. This is a recipe for disaster. The men leave, the woman has the child. Post marriage, lots of men and …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/20 03:14 PM
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These men are Cro-Magnon thinking dolts. Instead of dogging the mom, why not go find these asshole men and change the way they are fathering! Shame the men for sucking up tax payer dollars with prison time/suicide and meth addiction. Blame the men for wasting away instead of being something meaningful to society. It is so easy to blame a slut woman (Scarlett Letter). Meanwhile there are so many men drinking beer with these deadbeat dads and making the single mother hood problem worse. It is a si…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/20 03:09 PM
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You really think being in two parent home or being a married mother makes someone smarter, richer or better is the dumbest thing I have ever read.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/20 03:00 PM
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You do realize that women are waiting longer than ever to have kids. The US is at a negative birth rate. Single mothers are the only thing keeping humans afloat. Also, women getting pregnant by random dudes is not new. I am pretty sure your grandma got pregnant by your goofy looking granddad and thought, "Oh gawd, well I have no choice, gotta marry him". Your granddad probably didn't want to be a jerk and stood by her. People of today do not have the same moral imperative. Today's man sees a pre…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/20 02:32 AM
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Back in the day, men were more honorable and married the woman they knocked up! If we really wanted to go back in time, more men would be married to women they were not in love with and sticking it through for the kids. Today's man just keeps dating, screwing and searching for the "perfect" woman which never comes, only to get divorced years later. There are no perfect relationships!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/20 02:25 AM
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This is a male maturity, financial and resources issue. Yes, most men want their wife to be the first to have their child hoping that the relationship lasts. If this does not happen before 45, I find most men regret not getting someone pregnant/ married or not. A man with no money, insecure future and immaturity will be terrified of the consequences. A man with resources, money and solid future will happily take care of his progeny, as long as it doesn't affect his financial future. Many wealthy…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/20 02:24 AM
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So many of my male friends over 40 who never married and didn't have kids are having a very difficult time mating. There are younger women who date them, but they want the men to have solid finances and pretty much be the breadwinner/leader and provider. Some of the men want the looks of a 20 something with the finances and self sufficiency of a 40 something woman. Men also start to look old, sound crochety and lose their sex drive.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 02:50 AM
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I had a friend who told me that his ex wife's dad called him and said, "Why haven't you proposed to my daughter yet?" They were living together and he hadn't made any plans. In a way, she proposed to him. Only to divorce him 8 years later with two kids. But yes, I don't think it is uncommon. Maybe most won't admit it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 02:56 AM
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What is wrong with saying I love you first? Shame? Embarrassment? Control? Don't get what the big deal is about telling someone how you feel. At least you know where they stand and if the feelings are mutual. Better than to be dragged along and emotionally toyed with. Plus actions prove love, more than words do.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 02:54 AM
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I agree. Seems more like a pride thing and the fear of rejection and embarrassment. I think if women want a more serious long term commitment, they should ask. If the man doesn't, then he should break up. There are worse things that could happen in a relationship than being proposed to.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 12:04 AM
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What is the worst that could happen? He says no, she then moves on with her life. If she keeps waiting, she misses out on peak beauty/fertility years and becomes a resentful girlfriend or older woman. If he says yes, then she gets what she wants. I say go for it. It lets both parties know if they have the same long term goals.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 12:02 AM
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Glad you mentioned this "lead up" to a proposal. I think there is some aspect where the men wants to have some autonomy in the direction of the relationship. I think about this often when a couple must have the "what are we" discussion, and define the relationship. Should the man or woman do it? Is there a magic moment where it just feels right for both? I also think this is generational, cultural and financial. More traditional men would want to lead the way. More financially established men wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 09:52 PM
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So confused. What does this have to do with a woman proposing?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 08:45 PM
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Back hair is equivalent to a woman's hairy armpits or legs. Wax, laser or hair removal. But we don't like to touch or see it. GROSS!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 09:23 AM
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Example 1: My ex-boyfriend hadn't been to the dentist since his mom forced him in high school. He was 26 years old and an engineering graduate student. I told him after a company party that he had terrible breath. He finally yielded and had a full dental cleaning. Disgusting! He refused to go to a doctor for a physical until he broke his arm playing soccer! I had to accompany him. Adult, smart, educated and middle class male. Don't get me started on his eating habits. So the answer is yes, men d…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 09:14 AM
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I came to make this comment. I am 20 years older and if I could go back to my younger self, I would tell her to be more demanding and make the men in my life see me as an adventure. All of my married friends were adventerous, bold and demanding. Men love a challenge. Looks don't matter as much as these young guys say. They will take a fun, difficult woman over an above average predictable woman ANY DAY! Go be yourself and be a little difficult, you will find a relationship within 6 months. The m…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 03:23 AM
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With adoption of white children at a premium, IVF and all the unknown long term health implications, and an overall sense of family defeat, why won't the U.S. government incentivize working class American families to start families. Not, just to have babies. A big part of a successful society is rooted in good family structures. Maybe offering student loan forgiveness to married couples with two children would help improve the economy and solidify families.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 12:14 AM
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"Just such a sad story, one thats so eff'n common these days - replaced, rinse and repeat - to another person that has just as many faults as the last -" Sending you a hug. I agree that people today really believe that they can replace the last person with a new person and end up realizing that everyone is flawed. People committed to really working on their problems together is rare.
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/19 02:50 PM
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If males have natural urges, surely women have natural urges to procreate, love and nurture. Why would women adapt and evolve and men stay the same? We all affect each other and men are not physically superior. Though men may be strong. We are all interdependent and need each other for survival. I think today's boys are being raised differently and using their masculinity for higher purposes. I have faith that humanity will evolve and prevail. Neanderthal thinking is of the past.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 02:20 AM
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I personally love men and really hope that we will somehow figure out how to bring out the best in male/female relationships that don't result in sexist harmful behavior. Imagine if women could follow passions and enjoy the beauty of family. Or, if men could feel desired, respected and confident to lead. We would have much more progressive societies, families and children because women and men see each other as two entities who can love, heal and bring pleasure. Not to use, oppress, betray or ab…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 01:06 AM
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The state forces women to study and places social pressure on them to get good grades in subjects that the women hope will bring meaning into their lives. To then turn around and be forced to be maids and sex slaves for the state can wear on a woman's psyche. I am not advocating for women to go to these extremes, but I can understand the rebellion.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 12:59 AM
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Some men like single mothers because they can confirm that you are fertile. I know men who want children but are terrified of dealign with infertility, IVF and other issues. Many childless men I know over 40 go after younger single moms because she is more focused, and if necessary, can have a healthy child naturally.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/19 02:47 AM
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Yes, if a man likes you, he gets off on spoiling you, nice gestures, fun escapes. A relationship is boring if you are just two best buds who do nothing for each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/19 02:39 AM
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Men are attracted to demanding women who give them a task/goal/mission. I have tried being the 50/50 partner, supportive and independent and it turns men ALL THE WAY OFF. When I turned into the damsel in distress, help me, I need your unique skill, the men all fall in love, hook-line and sinker. Many women are capable of doing things without men, but for those of us who love men and want them as romantic partners, we almost have to create a challenge or the men lose interest. I am much older (42…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/19 02:36 AM
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Most men have kids around the ages 25-40. So expect to care for the kids from well into your 40's or 50's depending on when you start. I think we should realistically plan to care for a kid up until 25 years old. They will still need support in buying a house, being a grandparent, or even getting a head start with marriage/wedding. Generational wealth is built by supporting our children.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/19 05:30 PM
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So they would rather have a stressed out, tired, overweight wife than hire someone to help around the house? What world are you living in?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/19 01:47 PM
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Men think that they can work and sustain a family forever. Companies are not secure and don't offer benefits like they did in the past. Folks are living longer. So you better have a plan beyond sex and looks for ages 50-70. Even if a man works a steady job, will his pension, health insurance and salary cover a family of four for 40 working years (ages 25-65)? I know lots of men who are hit with a sad reality around 40 when jobs no longer hire, lay off and the woman is not skilled to work, yet yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/19 01:43 PM
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Draft who into what?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/19 04:00 AM
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China now permits married couples to have two children. Ended in 2015. https://www.nytimes.com/2015/10/30/world/asia/china-end-one-child-policy.html
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/19 03:59 AM
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Great question! It seems like the Scarlet Letter Syndrome is in effect and the women are very reluctant to expose the single fathers. But in this article, some wealthy women are using surrogates to have the children. It appears that more affluent want children regardless of martial status and family planning norms.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/19 03:58 AM
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Such a great question and reminds me of Steve Harvey's book, Think Like a Man. The problem is that this won't prevent heartbreak, difficulties in a relationship or protect against feelings changing. Waiting to have sex, just prolongs the unknown sexual compatibility. Vetting does not account for unknowns. Like my ex could not handle confrontation and let his family walk all over him. He thought I would let them walk all over me too. I didn't learn this until year 3 of the relationship, when I me…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/19 12:10 AM
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LOVE THIS! I agree. All people have personality quirks that can be viewed as beneficial or negative. People are not one dimensional. My ex married a woman who was a trophy wife, upscale New England elite. When he didn't get his law degree fast enough, put her in a nicer home within 5 years, she already filed divorce papers and he pays over $2000/monthly alimony and child support. He knew the kind of woman he married but claimed he was shocked that she didn't love him for who he was! Give me a br…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/19 02:32 PM
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These single mom posts reveal that some men really feel defeated. Any man with intellect, success, self esteem and attractiveness, doesn't feel threatened by a single mom and her child.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 06:48 AM
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This is happening. Women are having more abortions and birth control is at an all time high. Yet, here we are with high rates of single moms and fatherless households. If men don't band together to change laws or stop having sex with women they don't want to impregnate, then this problem won't go away. Men are not pulling their weight and it shows which is why the laws are geared toward women. NOTE: OLD WHITE MEN CREATED THESE LAWS!! If they don't even trust men, what chance do women have?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/19 03:07 PM
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ots of men aren't cut out to have their children 50% of the time? Maybe they find it too exhausting, and are just not prepared to take on that responsibility? Seriously, I just don't see many men of all income levels, education levels being as involved in caring for children as women. There is no way to financially quantify all that mothers do for a nation. I think the future men will start to change because child support is a man's worst nightmare. But since women are required to work, birth an…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/19 01:10 AM
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Federal and State laws know that if men are not obligated to pay, women and children will slowly fall into poverty levels and the state will have to step in and charge more taxes for EVERYONE. Not just the uninvolved dad who refuses to pay. Economically, men have to be forced to do their share of caring, child rearing and even long term family financial planning. Local and Fed government don't want the burden of care to fall on them. The solution: Men, not just dads, just need to do better as fa…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/19 01:04 AM
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So this argument makes no sense. You really think enjoying sex with your husband makes you a ho?? You think they mythical "Madonna" didn't experience pleasure or orgasms when making her children? You think making a woman orgasm will turn her into a ho??? Not really sure what you mean by "whore", so I won't go down that road. I would think that a man would want to be the first to bring real pleasure to his lover, wife and mother of his children. Even in the bible, women experienced pleasure. Soun…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/19 10:29 PM
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Too many "good men" undervalue sexually pleasing their partners, dominance and being able to make changes without the woman nudging them along. Lots of good men overlook self reflection and wait for the woman to encourage them to "level up". This applies to more romance, a better job, nicer looks etc...
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/19 08:52 PM
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So glad you brought reality into the equation. Some people have no problem with being a single parent. Some people want kids more than the white picket fence or two parent home. More and more women are single by choice, especially after they notice work is unfulfilling. Unless the woman is upper class, most middle and low income women will go at parenthood alone than wait around for a low income and/or stressful male to complicate things.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/19 04:22 AM
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Single motherhood will only get worse unless women of all financial classes see the benefit of sharing the home with a male. Upper Class Women are facing a serious infertility crisis. Even if they do pair up with a great guy, the family typically can't reproduce and must adopt Russian, Asian, Ethiopian children if they can't pay $50k for an IVF baby. If it weren't for low income women and immigrants, America's population would be at an emergency level. Women are having lots of abortions. Single …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/19 03:46 AM
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Did you guys have regular check ins about how you feel about each other over the 15 years? Did you talk to each other about what makes you happy or sad about the relationship? Every anniversary asking hard questions? Did she just pretend for all of these years?
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/19 01:41 PM
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I used to think single motherhood meant doom. Then it happened to me. Strangely, I have had so much fun as a single mom and really enjoy my life. I have lots of married with kids friends and unless they are in a good financial situation, they constantly complain about their lives. Whereas, my single parent friends (moms and dads), have so much more freedom, time, and individuality because you don't have to parent 24/7. Motherhood is awesome and lots of women don't realize it until it is too late…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/19 04:48 AM
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Just curious, what makes a woman "high quality"? I have learned that waiting too long to have sex can signal one person has a hangup that they don't want to disclose. They like to get emotionally involved so when they drop their hang up bomb, you don't go running for the hills. Happened to me sadly. But I know men who have casual sex who are so disconnected, they feel like robots.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/19 02:22 AM
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Has this woman hypnotized you? How could someone who "madly" loves you threaten you into procreating? Money isn't everything. What about peace of mind. Being with someone you can trust?
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/18 01:40 AM
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Sounds like you are going through a typical mid life crisis. I am concerned that if you leave your wife and start dating, you will realize that your really love her and regret leaving. But I also think you need to take a break from the mundane aspects of your current life. Can you discuss this with her?
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/18 01:34 AM
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Send him a link to a therapist! I called myself helping an ex through his post divorce blues. I sent him a link to a great therapist and even listened to him talk for 1-2 hours or call me to complain about his ex wife on his lunch break. I thought I was building a connection with him. But really he was dumping his negative energy on me and he was too cheap and too self centered to see a therapist. Most men who are going through a divorce refuse to do the emotional work to sustain a healthy marri…
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/18 10:59 AM
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