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| 50 | I've been considering dating men recently. Unfortunately, this is the 'best' response I've had so far, and it STILL contains red flags. | #JustLVMThings | Sunday_V | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 08:34 AM |
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| 183 | Makeup Give UpSame, I stopped wearing makeup or removing body hair and I'm much happier for it. I'm now used to seeing my own damn face in the mirror. It was hard at first, but I'm glad I did it. The skin on my face and body is also so much healthier and happier now :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 09:01 PM |
| 101 | Friends with Men?Every straight male "friend" I've ever had has eventually made it clear that he wants to fuck me. Now the only men I'm friends with are the spouses of my close female friends. I'm much happier this way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 05:15 AM |
| 126 | Men think we are crazy, ugly psychos for having physical standards. Never change your standards and these “short kings” can go cry themselves to sleep. (The last guy seems hopeful though.)The thing is, I HAVE rejected short guys because of their height, but it was because THEY were so consumed by it. When I dated men, I had a preference for guys 5'10 and under, but so often allll they could talk about was how hard they had it because they were short. It got old really fast. On a first date, one guy even revealed he had written a "one man show" about the discrimination he faced as a short man 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 07:13 AM |
| 27 | Let's talk about picky eaters.EXACTLY. How am I supposed to enjoy your mAsSiVe c0cK if you aren't willing to give me appropriate foreplay? 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 07:03 AM |
| 289 | "Why Does He Do That?" by Lundy Bancroft has a whole section describing the abuse tactics of softbois (Mr. Sensitive in the book)Holy fuck, I dated this guy! He was my first real boyfriend. Everyone loved him and told me how lucky I was that he was my first. It wasn't until YEARS later, in therapy, that I started to understand how monumentally fucked up that whole relationship was. It's awful that these guys exist and dupe other women, but there is a certain relief in realising it wasn't just me. Thanks for sharing this, it's going on my book list 👍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 06:52 AM |
| 22 | Why is popular culture trying to convince us that a dad bod is more attractive than THIS? (No shade at ppl who like that just saying it seems like a way to shift women’s standard of physical attractiveness, something they would never do to men’s)Yeah, Hemsworth looks incredible here, but is almost certainly on performance enhancing drugs to look this shredded. If you see what he looks like between movies, he’s a bit smaller, still 🔥🔥🔥 and athletic, just a bit less massive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 09:40 AM |
| 8 | What's the WORST COSMO ADVICE you've ever seen on the topic of dating, sex, and relationships?Oh, I’ve been using clean underwear to tie my hair up since I was a kid. Hair ties were gold dust in my house, so unless you were going outside, it was normal to use underwear instead 🤷♀️😳 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 05:23 AM |
| 9 | Thoughts on Anna Bey?I like some of her style tips, they’ve helped me move out of my hoodie and jeans aesthetic into something that garners more respect. I also liked her advice on being more elegant at home. I definitely tend towards leggings and old t shirts with holes in at home, but I found that when I tried a bit harder to wear nice fabrics and treat myself with more respect when I’m alone, I felt a lot better about myself. I hate the bit about looking good for your man at home, that’s some 1950s, internalised … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 08:20 AM |
| 42 | I came across an interesting troll today who said that all of our lesbian and bisexual members are fake accounts. Said they are all new accounts and implied all are created by the FDS mods. So please ladies make your presents known in this poll.It took me years before I accepted my attraction to women, and I got kicked out of half my family (jehovas witnesses) when I eventually did come out. I don’t see myself dating men again, but this is still my favourite sub. I cherish female only spaces, there are so few of them left now. Thanks to the mods for keeping the trolls at bay 💖💜💙 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 09:30 AM |
| 8 | Good evening my fellow queensYES | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 07:18 AM |
| 28 | Image being so addicted to porn that you associate winged eyeliner with being a c*msl*t... DisgustingI remember a few years ago when chokers were back in style and I liked wearing them. I was told by the guy I was dating that it meant I was into 24/7 BDSM. I just couldn’t even process what he was talking about. Now I know. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/21 08:29 AM |
| 9 | Degrading names during sexOh god, I legit used to do this! I told men I have a “praise kink” and wanted to be “worshipped like a goddess”. It was much easier (and more successful) to get the kind of sex I wanted by pretending it was a kinky sex game than it was to try asking for more oral/foreplay. 🙄 Turns out it’s even easier to just worship myself 😅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 02:54 AM |
| 7 | This is an actual life size model of a clitoris. This why DICK SIZE MATTERSI really want someone on Etsy to turn this into a necklace, or maybe tiara. Fully life size, but like gold plated or something. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 10:39 PM |
| 84 | I made a post about hating my course work and after a short convo about it I get a willy pic. Usually I block/delete this behavior but I just couldn't this time!The sassy come backs can feel good, but all you’ve actually taught him here is that sending unsolicited dick pics to women gets rewarded with further attention from those women. Also, there’s a chance you’re just playing into some infantilism/ mommy fetish thing here too. IMO you’re better off continuing to block/delete. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 10:22 PM |
| 7 | The contempt some of these men have for their wives is EVIL.He thinks not lying about the flowers is the part of the story that makes him a possible asshole? No. I refuse to believe that. He despises his wife and knows everything he’s doing is beyond cruel. I seriously hope she gets out of that situation before his aggression stops being so passive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 09:53 PM |
| 15 | Men won’t even put in the bare minimum these days and it’s because there are women who tolerate it.Exactly. I take her point, but I don’t like calling other women ‘weak’ when they’re doing exactly what they were raised to do, what society constantly tells them they should do. It’s hard to break out of that if it’s all you’ve known and it’s how you’ve learned to value yourself. Places like FDS are peaking women daily, but you can see from the many support posts that it’s hard to break a lifetime of conditioning and learn your own true value separate from male approval. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 10:54 AM |
| 3 | "Fetish Mining". Yet Another Way Women are Targeted Online.This is awful, I’m so sorry this happened to you. Thank you for sharing your story x | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 08:12 PM |
| 51 | The number of comments saying that the man acted this way “because he really likes her”. 🙄 this is not about affection - what you’re seeing here is the very early stages of controlling and abusive behaviour.“Many a true word lies in jest” is the English variant. The wordplay of it is particularly pleasing to me. It’s not surprising that this same sentiment is expressed across multiple languages/cultures. I’d like to know some others, if we’ve got any multi lingual ladies who might know? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 02:39 PM |
| 1 | It’s the “active in” communities for me 🤣 (blocked this rumplescroatskin immediately after my response)Twinsies! 😂😂😂 this guy is so sad, it’s hilarious 😂🤣😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 08:00 AM |
| 19 | I don’t understand men who hide important stuffs on their OLD profile(divorced, kids, height etc) and claim that they aren’t insecure about itAny guy who omits his height on his profile is almost certainly 5’6” or less. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 06:14 PM |
| 69 | Most straight males see bi women as harem generatorsI went febfem a while back and am much happier for it. I never claim to be a lesbian, but I let people make that assumption. If anyone outright asks about my sexuality, I ask why they want to know, then tell them they aren’t my type. I’m sick of being a fetish. When guys found out I was bi, they’d ask stuff like “Are you a boob or butt girl?” and I’m just...???? I don’t reduce women to isolated body parts. That’s not how attraction works for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 05:19 PM |
| 13 | And you can customize the skin color. 😉I mean, 🥜 (peanut) has been doing a good job, but I'm glad there's now an alternative option. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 10:24 PM |
| 28 | Should I remind NVX about how much cash I sent himDon’t text him. He knows what you gave him and he doesn’t care. The only way you stand a chance of getting anything back is taking official legal routes, but that would mean giving him attention and it’s unlikely to be worth it financially. I’m not a lawyer though, and don’t know any specifics, so could be wrong about that bit. The $10k is the price you pay for learning this lesson. It’s steep as hell, and I’m sorry. You already knew all this though, otherwise you wouldn’t have made the post. St… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 10:44 AM |
| 11 | Women are finally allowing themselves to admit that they do not support the porn industry and they do not want their partners to do so eitherThe comment you wrote is amazing and so well written. I often have trouble putting my thoughts/feelings into words, but you really captured it all right here. I’m almost crying with how heard and validated you’ve made me feel, and it’s not even remotely directed at me, so I can’t imagine how helpful it was to the woman in question. Thank you for taking the time to write the response and for reposting it here. FDS is truly my favourite subreddit. The women here are so supportive of each other, bu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 08:53 AM |
| 140 | “Don’t You Miss Sex??”I don’t miss sex. I have substantially better and more reliable orgasms by myself. I do miss touch. Having someone rub my feet after a long day. Cuddling up to someone on a cold winter night. Covid has made the desire for human touch greater. Trouble is, I want all that with someone I love and trust. I think I ought to get a dog 🤔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/20 06:42 PM |
| 2 | Apparently I wasn't actually having fun because I didn't drink.Ok but a ceilidh is SO MUCH FUN, and you need to keep well hydrated during it. I drink pints of water at those things! I wish I was at your party. Dude’s just jealous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 08:32 PM |
| 116 | Booked an appointment to take my IUD out. However,the only gynecologist available for this month is a man. I plan to wait longer for a woman because I'm not comfortable with the idea of man removing it. Am I the only one that questions why a man would want to be a gynecologist in the 1st place?I mean, gynaecology is a fascinating discipline, and has lots of opportunity for research and private work, so I totally understand that there are legitimate male gynos out there doing it for good reasons, but yeah. I avoid male doctors these days whenever I can. Honestly, I kinda avoid men in general as much as I am able. I just really like the women on this sub and the general advice here has helped me so much 💖 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 07:42 PM |
| 38 | I screamed lmaooPast me is feeling very attacked right now 😅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 03:18 PM |
| 13 | Zero percent surprised he's still singleRight?! You get so little space on hinge to say anything about yourself, imagine wasting it like this 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 03:10 PM |
| 3 | Cracked me upOh god, I think I need to buy this now 😂 Edit: oh no! It’s called a knodd over here. I’m suddenly less inclined to get it now I just have to knodd along 😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 07:39 AM |
| 32 | Hyper-sexuality after trauma.For years after I was raped, I denied it happened. I told myself I was too drunk, I didn’t put up enough of a fight, I’d slept with him before, so on some level I must have wanted it. It took years before I finally admitted, in therapy, that I didn’t want it. It wasn’t my fault. I wasn’t asking for it. In the years between the assault and the therapy, I became very outwardly sexual. I talked about sex with male “friends”. I hooked up with lots of random men from dating apps. I dressed provocativ… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 07:23 PM |
| 13 | Just a lil funnyOk I know this is a post about disappointing dicks, but can we take a moment to talk about how tricky carrots are to grow? I’ve harvested so many carrots with huge foliage only to find the tiny shrimp of a root at the bottom and it’s so disheartening. I’m gonna try the Paris round carrots next year, so at least I’m expecting to pull up a little ball. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 07:30 AM |
| 55 | Men can't provide for families, can't pick up after themselves, can't pay for a whole date, and now they're demanding that they don't ask women out on dates at all but they still want access to us. Don't ask men out, leave these losers to die alone.Lol @ the suggestion that men would only date 20% of women who asked them on a date. The delusion is strong with this one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/20 05:40 AM |
| 29 | I've been considering dating men recently. Unfortunately, this is the 'best' response I've had so far, and it STILL contains red flags.Haha, yes thank you! I unmatched after I took the screenshot, but started to doubt myself when I got so many initial comments not seeing what I saw in his message. I'm used to IRL friends not seeing the issues that are clear to me, but wasn't expecting it in this sub. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 01:35 PM |
| 22 | I've been considering dating men recently. Unfortunately, this is the 'best' response I've had so far, and it STILL contains red flags.I got condescending vibes off him too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 11:51 AM |
| 12 | I've been considering dating men recently. Unfortunately, this is the 'best' response I've had so far, and it STILL contains red flags.Thank you! I was starting to doubt myself for a moment there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 09:53 AM |
| 25 | I've been considering dating men recently. Unfortunately, this is the 'best' response I've had so far, and it STILL contains red flags.Yeah, that was it. Do you think I'm being too harsh? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 09:52 AM |
| 20 | I've been considering dating men recently. Unfortunately, this is the 'best' response I've had so far, and it STILL contains red flags.Complimenting me by denigrating other women (nights out and bants); and to me the bit about teaching each other skills with the tongue emoji is too suggestive for my liking. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 09:51 AM |
| 66 | I've been considering dating men recently. Unfortunately, this is the 'best' response I've had so far, and it STILL contains red flags.I think I was right to stick with dating myself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 08:35 AM |
| 2 | reddit is obsessed with spreading this narrative that women are afraid to age compared to men lolYeah, I commented on that post about the “women aren’t expected to look 20 forever” nonsense in the title, because of course a 50 year old woman in the entertainment industry will try to look younger, it’s the only way she will be considered valuable and relevant. Her career quite literally depends on being perceived as being young and hot, which is so fucking depressing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 06:47 PM |
| 11 | Pre-FDS me would have been chasing this loser LOL “ur really weird”Off topic, but damn I’d like to go to a beach soon. Just sitting in the sun, listening to the wind and waves, tasting the salt air. I have a duck pond in my local park though, and that’s nice too I suppose. Maybe I should take myself on a day trip when it’s safe again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 07:30 PM |
| 10 | Thank you Carrie ❤️Yeah, I’ve discovered in this lockdown that I just don’t wear underwires when I’m not out in public. I need a sports bra for exercise, but around the house I’ve mostly been wearing those soft sleep bra thingies. My breasts are too large and droopy to be comfortable without a bit of support, but fuck underwires. Also makeup, it turns out I don’t wear makeup for myself at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/20 06:20 PM |
| 10 | There's a lot happening here, and none of it is good.Yes! I make mine at home. You just need sugar, water and an acid (I use lemon juice, but you can use lime or vinegar, just have to adjust the recipe). I prefer it to shaving and I find it less irritating and less painful than waxing. The abetweene YouTube channel is really helpful. Just FYI: I still wouldn’t do an at home bikini wax with it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/20 09:34 AM |
| 30 | The real reason why LVM want to go Dutch and why they prefer drink dates over meal dates.In the past I’ve always preferred coffee dates because I like to meet in the daytime and at a place where I can easily get out in 15mins if need be. It’s not an issue currently because I’ve decided not to date men for the foreseeable future. I just wondered if you had any advice for someone who is uncomfortable meeting for a meal on a first date? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/02/20 08:35 PM |
| 6 | FDS as applied to F/F relationships; what works, what doesn'tI went febfem a couple months ago, and this is so helpful, thank you! This sub has helped me with self esteem issues so much but I often thought a lot of the advice just wasn’t applicable to my situation anymore. I like how you broke it down here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 12:21 PM |
| 9 | What was your biggest Pickmeisha moment?Ugh, I’ve got years of shameful stories! One of my earliest was the first guy I slept with, who used to rank all my friends, and tell me what order and how he’d fuck us all. He also told me that the Kaiser Chief’s song ‘Everyday I love you less and less’ reminded him of me. Very emotionally manipulative. I stayed with him for over a year. 🤦♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/20 07:02 PM |
| 20 | “Men are logical, women are emotional” is a lie. Anyone have go-to shit tests that will quickly show you a man’s ability to use reason and logic?One I discovered incidentally a few years ago was to go to a board game cafe and play for a few hours. You can see how he handles learning the rules to something complicated, what his reasoning skills are like in a strategy game, and (especially interesting) how he handles losing to you (repeatedly). I originally did this because I love board games, but soon realised that getting a man to play games he’s unfamiliar with can really show you some aspects of his personality early on that he might h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/20 09:48 PM |
| 19 | Block these fuckboysHaha, oh god I actually had one of these texts this weekend! I didn’t even remember the dude he was so dull originally. Needless to say, I had myself a good laugh at the pitiful creature, and deleted/blocked as I should have done months ago. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/19 02:57 PM |
| 13 | I'm ok with being rude for a minute. I'm not ok with being dead.My problem is that I’ve become confident in telling strange men to shove it, but I still really struggle when I already have a social relationship with them. When it’s a colleague at a party or a ‘friend’, my BE POLITE socialisation kicks back in so strongly, it’s hard to resist. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/19 04:47 PM |
| 17 | Hickey- what are we, 16?Possibly a fetish of some kind? Either way, it’d irritate me to be marked as property, and I’d want rid. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/19 12:37 PM |
| 14 | When I saw Lizzo at a concert she said something that I'll forever love. And ladies this is the truth right here "dont love fuckboys because fuckboys dont love themselves."Someone said something the other day that I found exceptionally helpful, “If you don’t have enough of your own self confidence, some of Lizzo’s will be fine.” Her ‘Truth hurts’ song should probably be my ringtone, so I get a little reminder that I’m my own first priority. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/19 08:35 PM |
| 3 | The Law of Dating Married MenI need to make little cards with this written in them to hand out (and maybe also leave in strategic places around my house 😅) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/19 06:59 PM |
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