TheRedArchive

~ archived since 2018 ~

SunflowerSerenade11 Archive

View 3 posts and 43 comments by SunflowerSerenade11 on TheRedPill subreddit and various other subreddits related to The Red Pill community.
Search in:
In subreddits:
More
Filter by year/month:
Upvotes Comment on Subreddit Date (UTC)
3

Guys will mostly tell you what you want to hear. If he sees you put out a conservative vibe, he will for sure say he is looking for that since the player strategy would never work on you, however, his actions show his true character. So seems like he is still playing the field or looking for different type of woman during this phase of his life. Sometimes men carry resentment from previous relationships, times they were taken advantage of and such, or they have watched one too many Andrew Tate p…
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/24 05:20 PM
2

I was nice my entire life and I massively regret it. The good news is you are only 25 so you still have tons of time. If you are nice people will try to put their emotional labor on you, which is an energy drain and will prevent you from properly investing in yourself. I have two extremes from my family, there is one family member who puts everybody ahead of her, tends to their emotional needs, makes sure they are ok, does chores for them, as a result she spends all day doing things for other pe…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/24 09:41 PM
5

I disagree with this somewhat, these higher tier men still chase, they just end up with hotter and more accomplished women.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/24 09:55 PM
1

I tried to capture his interest and let him pursue me which worked. I've outright pursued men prior and it NEVER worked because men will almost never turn down free female attention, it's flattering and if you offer yourself to him like that he would be an idiot not to try to sleep with you. Men have a hunter instinct so if you give him a conquest he won't turn it down. Unlike women, men will date women with personal dealbreakers, they just know it won`t last forever. Many times men are just not…
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/24 04:01 PM
6

Ah definitely do not go to his place at 8 PM for 'coffee' I agree with the others, ask for dinner out or for a coffee date out. If he refuses after you made him homemade dinner then you dodged a bullet anyways.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/24 12:36 AM
8

I want to say I feel you, I also have a stressful job and in this day and age it's a reality that we have to find a way to make our own money and contribute, this takes a strain on the relationship despite being what is best for us (and it is the right thing what you are doing). It's very hard for men to take on this kind of support role that you are asking for. This is something that is more natural for women. Women will invest in men that might make a lot of money in this way (taking things of…
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/24 12:31 AM
3

I had this problem as well. I have an anxious attachment style. This is problematic because men will rarely turn down free female attention, at the very least if they are single they will often try to transmute it into sex if the woman makes it convenient enough. Women on the other hand will try to transmute some free male attention into friend-zoning, and other into more. I just think that men need to be ready for a long-term relationship, and if you make it too easy I think they will take it f…
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/24 03:00 PM
8

Here is why it's a bad idea from someone who has done it: You will naturally be the one who will be expected to cook, clean, and plan social things more, essentially subsidizing his career progression and relaxation time. It's kind of a quiet expectation that falls into place, and there is slight resistance and resentment when it does not. Men have an instinct to conquer, if you are out moving about in the real world with men being attracted to you and you do not live with him it creates a bit o…
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/24 02:56 PM
2

I got really accusatory because i assumed he thought i was ugly with wet hair, not very mature i know
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/24 03:38 AM
11

Thank you, yeah reading all of these comments makes it clear that I overreacted. Not sure why, I really should interpret them more charitably.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/24 03:15 AM
7

This makes sense because he's generally sensitive to these sensory things in general. It also makes perfect sense, not sure I would like cold wet hair either. Not sure why I became so angry about it.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/24 02:36 AM
14

Thank you I think I overreacted, not sure why i got so mad at him.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/24 02:32 AM
28

He just looked at me when I came out of the shower and asked me if I can dry my hair and when I looked annoyed he said he can do it for me. I asked him if he thought I looked bad with bar hair and he said that he never said that, I just FELT like a wet rat in that moment so you are probably right. Thank you. Not sure why I reacted so strongly.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/24 02:31 AM
34

Yeah you are probably right. Idk I guess I feel less attractive with wet hair, like a wet rat, and his comment struck that nerve.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/24 02:20 AM
1

Yeah I get this perspective too, when I was a student I had more time and a flexible schedule, it felt like I had endless energy to support my friends, family, etc. Loved doing that too. Now with work and other responsibilities it feels like for the first time I am hitting a wall. But yes I agree that coming up with boundaries seems great for me.
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/24 01:07 PM
24

It's the feminine energy. If you care for yourself you will have a surplus of positive feminine energy that will allow you to absorb bad moods and situations of the provider. My parents have this kind of relationship. If you radiate that you will also attract masculine men, but it's really important to vet because it also attracts narcissists who want to eat that energy up and spit you back out. Other than that, I would agree with the other advice to find a man who treats you well. You can't alw…
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/24 01:23 AM
2

That's an excellent point. The best friendships I have is where you both hype each other up in some way, and I've never felt drained by their presence. Very different from the other type, I guess for me I picked up somewhere that friendship is also created when you are there for someone, that is true but it probably doesn't mean as their doormat.
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/24 01:18 AM
1

Great advice thank you :) I aspire to have a friend group that healthy one day too
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/24 01:16 AM
1

I suppose your last paragraph is the crux of the issue. My boyfriend's family is very emotionally demanding, needs a lot of favors, emotional support, and since we are not engaged or married yet I don't see why I should contribute to improving their lives at the cost of my time and energy. It is not 'supposed' to be transactional but I do feel used and perhaps should scale back until then, thank you for your feedback :) Ah I used to, but I've learned to self-regulate with exercise, journaling, m…
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/24 12:32 AM
1

Ah this is excellent advice. I think like you said by inaction people would tend to attract those who enjoy using their energy. And this does leave connections closed for more reciprocal relationships. I will definitely look into that. I am used to 'everyone liking me' which I am sure is not really true, but I will definitely try to read some material about boundaries. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/24 06:43 PM
2

The main context I saw this in negatively is when both partners pay 50% of the expenses but the woman does 90% of childcare and cleaning. So the man has free time and less financial stress while the woman has to work hard at work and at home supporting the husbands lifestyle, thus this is a scam.
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/24 05:39 PM
4

This is just bad character.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/24 05:55 PM
3

This is why shared experiences are so important, and transcend the shallow checklist members of a relationship have. This other guy may have X but has he been there for you when you were going through XYZ? Have you seen him go through terrible situations and handle himself? Is he willing and able to be a provider for your family? Has he proven that he will remain loyal when he has other options? Have you spend a few weeks travelling around and having the time of your lives? Likely not. The more …
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/24 05:54 PM
2

It's also that marriage will move down in his list of priorities vs other things such as kids, and other expenses because he already has you there. Whereas if he doesn't it might be higher up to get you there too.
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/24 01:47 PM
18

Ugh I don't think it's a good idea if you have a choice. I did it out of necessity and here are the drawbacks: - You are always there, there is no more mystery in the relationship. He knows he has you. When you don't live together there is this element of thinking about what the other person is doing, who they are with, this elusiveness that makes the proposal faster. Men naturally want to conquer and this ties in with that. - You will be pushed to giving wife benefits at girlfriend wage. Likely…
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/24 05:57 PM
1

No problem, the world is still yours!
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/24 02:00 AM
2

It sounds like you are flattered by the attention. Which is normal I guess, but imagine if your current bf was receiving emotional texts from his high school sweetheart about how happy she is he found someone to love him when she couldn't, it kind of rubs salt into his wound all over again, idk. I would agree with other commentors to just block, this dude is someone else's problem now.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/24 01:54 PM
2

I find this very interesting, the differences between the two women. I wonder if he would have picked Maria if he did not have so many children. I doubt the Baroness would sacrifice her life to take care of them. She was probably off having children of her own with somebody else tbh. Anyway it does beg the question if men with the choice would pick an affluent, elegant, sophisticated woman, or a more innocent and down-to-earth type of woman, there are examples of both out in the real world. I of…
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/24 01:32 PM
4

I kinda relate, I was obsessive about my ex who wanted nothing to do with me as well. I couldn't stop sending him messages for years lol. In retrospect it was for the best, I wasn't that happy with him. You wouldn't have broken up with him if you were happy, breakups have some phases, there is always a phase where you want to get back together because of the comfort that is missing. Severing a connection like that is very difficult. You are also 26 you have SO much time. You should break up with…
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/24 04:34 PM
5

What made me turn to RPW: 1. The gap between what society says is attractive and desirable and looking at the women that HVM actually chose to marry and have children with. Horrible relationships. I was attracting men with mental problems, cheaters, and trying to "fix them". I don't think this only applies to RPW, but RPW helped me understand why this is a problem. I was chasing men since I heard that is what you should do and ended up with emotionally unavailable men who obviously wouldn't turn…
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/24 05:02 PM
8

Well you are 20, you have time. That being said there are some bad things about this. Maybe you will be able to pull a wealthy man for a LTR but in general these types of men are easy to have flings with, and difficult to lock down. There are two things I want to bring up: First, the time and energy you spend dealing with these men, spend it on yourself, create value for yourself. Go to the gym (the endorphins are all powerful), create a solid social circle that will help against loneliness, wor…
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/24 03:23 PM
3

Yes, I will die on this hill, yes it is. You will probably be looking at which pictures he likes and internally raging.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/24 03:48 PM
9

Are you pursuing these men? When I was younger I always pursued men and it always ended badly (they were either not in a good place mentally for a relationship, in some kind of transition, whatever it was) because even if men are not really interested, they will still show up and get what they can. If there is a power imbalance, your default should be distrust. When I finally allowed myself to be pursued, I got a much higher quality man than the ones who were not treating me well, which was surp…
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/24 12:45 AM
70

My bf misunderstood that I was going to make as much as my him and his first reaction was to panic haha. In my experience, it's if you made less before and suddenly you out-earn them that it hits harder because their identity as a provider is questioned. I also think that in general, men don't want to be stuck cooking, cleaning, and taking the majority care of kids. If you either out-earn them or make as much as them, they don't really have any negotiating power. They also want to make this as c…
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/24 12:41 AM
2

You know, if you are one extreme or another, you are supressing your inner voice. You will have preferences. It sounds like your inner and outer self is disbalanced. I actually experienced a panic attack because I was trying so hard to be the perfect girlfriend: cooking, cleaning, working 9-5, dressing up cute, staying skinny and blonde etc etc. Do some journaling and figure out what it is you want. Things somehow come out better in paper than in thought. For me I needed to let go of the notion …
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/24 06:35 PM
5

I completely agree, I do not think that these women looked particularly wealthy, just that I observed that they were put together, slim, and attractive. Put together means no oversized t-shirt and sweat pants, or greasy hair, or dumpy backpack. Almost anybody can achieve this look.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/24 04:41 PM
8

Yes exactly I am just saying that based on my observation, these women tend to be well put together, slim, and attractive. Well put together can be on a budget as well.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/24 04:33 PM
12

They didn't look like they were flashing their wealth, they just looked extremely well put together, slim, and attractive.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/24 04:32 PM
5

These women do not look wealthy as much as very put together, slim, and attractive. I didn't see that much evidence or hair or nails professionally done, just no greasy hair, uncombed hair, or big t-shirt and sweat pants. I am not sure about all the cars they own I just saw a lot of soccer mom SUVs.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/24 04:31 PM
10

Yes definitely, none of them were flashing designer clothing or anything, you can look put together without a lot of money. I was just surprised because myself, when I run errands I look like a husk of my work-self. I wonder if this is how they are or if the pressure of the other well put together moms is what causes this.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/24 04:21 PM
1

Hey, you are not ugly at all! Your features are amazing! I will also say many of those things take time. Cooking, style, and makeup are largely dependent on money. If you have money, you can buy things and try things out. Also time is not running out at all, you have so much time still. Also I used to think I was ugly but my environment was just shitty and making me feel like garbage. Surrounding yourself with good people can do wonders. For style I would use Instagram or other forms of media to…
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/24 10:32 PM
1

This does not directly answer your question but I thought I would chime in with some great fiction books about positive femininity, specifically it's about this 'feminine spirit' that men find attractive: - Little Women by Louisa May Alcott - Anne of Green Gables by Lucy Montgomery The first one kind of explains some scenarios of the feminine spirit attracting the attention of a HVM. It's fiction, and some of the story is a mess but it does a great job of that. The second is just an example of h…
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/23 02:03 AM
2

It depends whether he truly a directionless loser or somebody working on himself. I will just tell you a true story. My current bf had an ex who dumped him for similar reasons, he graduated a bit late basically. I think she thought she could do better than him, and she wanted to find herself because he was her first boyfriend. I think she was a bit spoiled by how nice he was and not too intelligent because she spent the next few years getting played basically, and she made this obvious on her ig…
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/23 05:03 AM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

© TheRedArchive 2026. All rights reserved.
created by /u/dream-hunter