Sunupu Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
267	Getting shamed for dating women younger than me Your twenties are about impressing others, your thirties are about learning to live life on your own terms. If it makes you happy and you're not hurting anyone with your actions you don't owe anyone an explanation	/r/seduction	31/03/22 08:27 PM
6	Rejection is just soul-crushing for me Is it better to approach and get rejected or watch her and some other guy hit it off? You're thinking about this in a purely success/failure binary - 80% of the time you're not going to hit it off with someone regardless of how charismatic or good-looking you are. That's not failure, that's just people. The first goal should always be your happiness, not appeasing the girl. You can't live in other people's heads, so don't try to - if you're a catch and she doesn't see it that's her problem	/r/seduction	10/01/20 03:06 PM
1	Women always dump me. The first few dates/weeks go great, then it’s like my “game” vanishes. Tips? Seek common ground and have relationships develop naturally out of that. Game is great for hookups but in relationships you end up tiring yourself out and looking disingenuous - find someone you can be around without constant action	/r/seduction	30/12/19 10:28 PM
21	I did it. I finally did it, no cheat code. Why's the local pub a no-go? I understand you don't want to just blindly agree to any idea she has, but I'm curious to the logic behind this	/r/seduction	16/12/19 03:49 AM
18	Women are attracted to..... There's a difference between telling a girl you like her and telling her you like her because you want something in return. Everything with a woman should be free and should be understood to be free. Buying drinks isn't the problem - the problem isn't the implicit understanding that in exchange for that drink you're gonna talk her ear off for five minutes. Same goes for compliments, paying for dinner, giving her a ride, or really any act of kindness. You have to approach liking someone and showi…	/r/seduction	13/12/19 11:40 PM
3	Here’s a reminder that even “good looking” dudes can have difficulty on dating apps. Number one is spot-on, and it goes both ways. When you match with someone and talk for long enough it's like you got what you wanted. The only thing left is awkward socializing and interpersonal drama - the thing you're avoiding with dating apps in the first place. You're better off approaching women you like in person and developing the necessary social skills. It beats the shouting contest of social media	/r/seduction	13/12/19 08:48 PM
2	Ladies and gentlemen, I fucked up. My go-to response has always been, "I'm not going anywhere". Girls aren't worried just about sex - they're worried about you being reliable, especially if she gets pregnant. It's inherent to sex and doesn't matter if you're using protection - she needs to make sure you're not a flake. That being said, your response was totally appropriate given the circumstances. It's not your job to figure it out for her - let her sit with it and come to whatever response she was going to come to anyway	/r/seduction	24/09/19 07:27 PM
4	Very hot girl gave me a record-breaking number of shit tests on our first date. I deflected most of them and she ended up initiating the kiss My response is “Bullshit, I can tell by the way you’re looking at me now that you think I’m handsome”. Fucking killed it bro. She's gonna be thinking about you for decades after this line	/r/seduction	18/07/19 04:21 AM
1	How do I make sure that it's a date and not a friend hangout? Mmmmblow me	/r/seduction	22/05/19 02:06 PM
0	How do I make sure that it's a date and not a friend hangout? "I'm sorry, but I like you and I think being friends would get messy. I respect if you're not looking for a relationship, but I think we should agree to keep our distance before one of us gets our feelings hurt." Your goal needs to be being pure in your intentions, and that means setting rules for yourself and your relationships. Most think of this as kindness versus pushiness, but it's actually manipulation versus authenticity - you can be respectful and kind while establishing what you want ou…	/r/seduction	18/05/19 07:27 PM
2	Why aren’t we having sex? Two possibilities: either she's somehow getting turned off or she's worried you'll bail the second you two have sex. The first problem is easy to solve - focus on erogenous zones, practice basic hygiene and avoid distracting or unattractive conversations. The second one is more complicated but still has an easy fix - next time you get hot and heavy just look her in the eyes and say "I'm not going anywhere". She'll see you as reliable if you put it out there	/r/seduction	29/03/19 03:52 PM
2	Is it ok to just want casual sex? It's simple - ask them what they're looking for and when they ask you the same question answer honestly. At that point it's either gonna end there or you'll know she's okay with it continuing. The pratfalls of casual sex are jealousy and transparency. You have to set the precedent and be as open with women as you want them to be with you - don't lie and don't set rules for them you wouldn't set for yourself	/r/seduction	15/03/19 04:13 AM
2	The Cure to Approach Anxiety According to Cognitive Psychology You don't need to have 'something to say' to talk to women. That kind of thinking is what causes AA. Guys overcomplicate it. Seriously, just say "Hi, I'm (you're name here), maybe throw a compliment and then talk about what's going on around you. That's it. Seriously. ...or I guess you could sit around for hours thinking of clever or engaging things to say. Seems counterproductive and dishonest, but go right ahead if you think you need that.	/r/seduction	08/01/14 07:23 PM
1	"I feel like you have slept with a lot more women than that" I actually get told that nobody buys my number, that it's too high. It can be irritating, but other times I find it plays in my favor. I don't really get that "you probably say that to all the girls" bullshit that all my friends get. In the end it's really about what you're in it for. I got into this because I wanted to meet some cool women, which I have. Locker room high-fiving is fine, but it shouldn't be the goal.	/r/seduction	10/12/13 08:30 PM
29	Lesson's for pickup from Orwell's 1984 [SPOILER ALERT] The whole point of 1984 is that you don't have the choice to determine what your worth is as a man, that it's determined for you. The love he had, the little rebellions, the manhood he discovered - all temporary escapes. There are plenty of literature that could apply to seduction - Man from Underground and The Great Gatsby make for great cautionary tales - but 1984 is about the polar opposite of what you pulled from it.	/r/seduction	10/12/13 07:37 PM
2	Fear of Rejection isn't the only fear in Approach Anxiety Here's a maxim I always tell myself - It's not about you. The girl misinterprets you? Not about you. Guy nearby laughs? Ain't my tragedy. Rejection will always sting, but until you get it through your head that it's ultimately inconsequential you won't give yourself a chance to succeed.	/r/seduction	10/12/13 12:08 AM
2	It appears the majority of Reddit has a grossly misrepresented perception of the Seduction community... I think it has to do with "inner-game, outer-game" confusion. It's easy to stereotype seddit as "Say this clever line and get laid", but the truth is that a lot more of the advice now has to do with personal improvement than performance. Let's be honest - it doesn't hurt that more than half the coaches out there are scammers promising what no man can deliver. Empty promises like "you'll get out of the friend zone" and "every woman will love you" are not only false, they're unhealthy. It's import…	/r/seduction	09/12/13 11:44 PM
6	Don't let your interest get noticed Vs. Stating your intentions from the beginning. The thing is women have the most to lose when it comes to sex. Pregnancy, rape, murder...all these risks fall to the woman. A lot of how women see you has to do with trust. You have to have a baseline self that isn't willing to change just to get pussy. None of this means you shouldn't show intentions - you should. You just shouldn't be a slave to these intentions. That's the only way she can see you as dependable and therefore attractive.	/r/seduction	29/11/13 08:58 AM
12	Share excuses you've used and why they don't matter Excuse: I'm not ready. I need one more drink/minute/clever line to say. Why it doesn't matter: There is no such thing as "ready". It's an arbitrary point of view I made up to avoid possible embarrassment.	/r/seduction	20/11/13 01:55 AM
30	The 20 Lessons to Learn in Your 20s About Women and Dating or Be Single Forever Lesson 1: Money & Looks are Constructs of Society Cut to: male model smoking and drinking expensive scotch	/r/seduction	22/10/13 06:16 PM
6	Keys to (winning) at the game. "A Ha" realizations. Focus on yourself. Women can sniff out if you're desperate to impress them. You have to know you're pursuing them primarily for your sake, not theirs.	/r/seduction	26/02/13 09:56 PM
3	What do I still fear? You are nervous because either a) you're subconsciously thinking about past failures or b) you're subconsciously thinking about hypothetical future rejections. These both have one thing in common: They only exist in your brain. They aren't real. Focus on the real, on what you can directly see right in front of you. In the example you gave, she's already agreed to hook up with you later. Focus on that, and only that. Don't be smug, but let it feed your confidence. If she likes you, there's nothin…	/r/seduction	24/02/13 12:26 AM
1	Wow, seeing guys try to hit on your girlfriend at a party is weird. How should you act in that situation? I come up and say something upbeat, like "who''s your friend?" It gets the message across and lets her know your concerns, all without being a douche.	/r/seduction	17/02/13 10:27 AM
3	What not to do You can't try to convince yourself you don't need a woman in a marriage proposal. You either propose, or you don't. Also, vhy too shurts?	/r/seduction	22/09/10 05:37 AM
3	So...Erika Awakening, the so called female pickup coach, is...ummm...FUCKING INSANE! I was with her with in the beginning the no condom thing, because she was referring to relationships (not one night stands). It is about intimacy, and condoms do block that. Then, of course, she condemned pulling out and refused to mention any other forms of birth control. "If I get pregnant, it's meant to happen."? Intimacy is more than a way to make people, and she should know it more than anyone else.	/r/seduction	02/01/10 12:16 AM