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Why are they waiting until they are 35+ to date? Absolute delusion and avoidance. It’s a bunch of autistic guys online debating strategy while their peers are out having normal lives. It’s like winning an argument with yourself in a shower, kinda pointless. These are not normal guys who happen to be short or a bit ugly, sometimes they are both autistic and short and ugly but the real driver is they can’t hold a normal conversation with a girl because they have slow processing and an inability to…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 05:18 PM
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No, I’m married now. And no, not always. I was mostly there to have fun, but socializing and going out alone sucks. I don’t mind it as much now, traveling for work I’ve gotten better at chatting up people at the airport bar and such but that’s one of those places where it’s more acceptable to be alone. I’ll say that a few times I did go out with just getting laid in mind and it didn’t go terribly well, except after a recent breakup for some reason. I learned that the goal was to have fun. Also, …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 07:41 PM
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OP is right but she’s wrong about how normal men actually approach women successfully. It’s almost always a group effort. The problem here is these men mostly don’t socialize with other men and go to parties and such anymore. Most of my success with meeting women in person was at house parties and frat parties and bars, when I was out with friends, sometimes just dudes, sometimes a mixed group. If your with a group out partying it validates your purpose there, if there’s women in the group it he…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 05:49 PM
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The question is how much that’s a cultural thing and how much it’s a deep seated instinctual thing. If gender roles are malleable or not is the ultimate question, it seems like any move to eliminate them is ultimately doomed if they are fixed, hard wired things. But if it’s simply a social construct, then both men’s expectations of women’s gender roles and women’s expectation of men’s can be changed. I’m not sure if anyone really knows the answer to this yet though. Maybe it’s a combination of s…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 08:46 PM
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Yeah that makes sense and they have been targeted for a very very long time. Bi erasure is and was a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 10:14 PM
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Exactly, the disease is intolerance and men are the symptomatic carriers and women are the more asymptomatic end of it. Don’t get me wrong right wing guys are more imminently dangerous because they will act on those beliefs in more harmful ways, but as someone who’s seen conservative women shape their kids into absolute hateful religious fundamentalist assholes even when the dad is more liberal or apolitical they do create harm in raising kids with those attitudes every bit as much as conservati…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 05:37 PM
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Women in general are more polite about expressing disinterest because of, well those same manosphere men potentially assaulting them, being diplomatic is a reasonable survival strategy when rejecting a guy. Men are less worried about this and generally will say what they think or become violent because they feel they can hold their own. It doesn’t mean their dislike of us isn’t coming from the same place. The manosphere conservative men are 100% being disingenuous and using bi men to hit at wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 05:04 PM
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I guess the question I have is why women and men have biphobia and is it coming from the same place? Is it a symptom of heteronormative standards? Is it mostly straight cis men and women attacking bi men? And if that’s the case than I’d say both cis straight women and men are being harmful here and perpetuating that heteronormative standard. But from what I’ve seen bi women are fine with bi men, it seems like it’s mostly straight, conservative woman problem and that goes for conservative men too…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 04:45 PM
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Now that I would watch.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 04:51 PM
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I don’t think people who read Issac Asimov are usually very attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 04:42 PM
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Oh come on there’s lots of men and women who can’t take accountability for their actions.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 08:41 PM
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Of course not, we know men and women cheat at roughly equal rates for instance, and those are terrible people regardless of gender but that’s not really a crime outside the military in the US for instance.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 08:30 PM
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There’s certainly more violent men out there but there are many forms of evil and shitty people.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 11:47 PM
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Sure, I won’t dispute that, but that’s a tiny percentage of the male population. About 3% of the total adult population has spent time in prison. Even if we say most of that 3% is men, that’s a small slice of the population. Among black men that’s about 15% but that likely reflects over policing. https://news.uga.edu/total-us-population-with-felony-convictions/
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 11:40 PM
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I don’t think there’s many good men I also don’t think there’s many good women. I’d say the number of good women and good men are about equal. I’d also say most good men and women are paired up with other good men and women. So that leaves mediocre women whining about how all they can find is mediocre men. And also mediocre men whining about the same. I don’t see this as a male or female issue, I see it as people being unable to look in the mirror and realize they are not D1 material.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 11:10 PM
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I get that but I mean people who would likely be diagnosed on the autism spectrum. And yes that includes most of the women on Reddit. I can almost predict when I’m going to see a dude who’s profile is all table top games and a girl who’s profile is tons of posts about reptiles or a very specific type of cactus. And that’s fine! But it doesn’t reflect your average man or woman in the dating world.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 08:30 PM
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Women discussing sex and gender on Reddit, just like men who discuss sex and gender on Reddit, tend to skew neurodivergent. Neurodivergent people often have extremely rigid views on politics that do not reflect average people's views. I would take anything said on here with a grain of salt, you are literally arguing with a very small slice of people that don't represent the views of your average person who puts politics pretty far down in their dating preferences. Reddit is not, and never has be…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 12:05 AM
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Well yeah that makes a lot of sense, probably a lot of Redditors exaggerating things or leaving out critical details or just posting rage bait.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 09:27 PM
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Ah that does make sense. This isn’t the platform for happy people that’s for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 09:12 PM
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Holy crap these people have to have the worst attorneys on earth.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 07:57 PM
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Ah that is helpful!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 07:54 PM
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What if there’s no kid?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 07:49 PM
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Sure. I’m aware it’s heavily jurisdiction dependent. California gives lifetime alimony after 10 years so in theory you could get divorced at 28 owe someone money the rest of your life. Texas caps alimony duration and makes it rehabilitative like you said. It’s a complex issue with very very different outcomes based on where you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 07:47 PM
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I hear that a lot but I usually see some wild posts on Reddit over the years that seem to paint it as pretty common. So not really sure what to believe on this one. And again not saying the person doesn’t deserve half the assets, that’s fair, but it sounds like a lot of people in the 20’s and 30’ are getting yoked for lifetime alimony even when their spouse works.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 07:40 PM
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You are 100% correct here, deadbeats suck and deserve scorn and people who whine about child support are awful. Giving alimony to grown ass women (and rarely men) in their 20’s and 30’s who have a job however can fuck right off. Made sense in 1950 maybe but not today. Children are helpless and deserve support, old women whose husbands ran off on them with their secretary deserve support. Healthy ass adults in their prime earning years? Nah.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 07:26 PM
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No, but I sure loved harpooning them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 05:34 PM
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This stable, postmodern society isn’t going to survive an end state where 90% of men are unable to find a partner. Their best interest becomes breaking down that new power structure, and I can’t imagine that’s going to be a smooth transition. So it really depends on how high those standards are. That said, I don’t think your advice to men is too far off, entitlement is a turn off and something I expect to see from toddlers not adults. I want my son to be confident and controlled and I think that…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 04:42 PM
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So when I was at my first air force duty station in a rural area I got the nickname “Ahab”. I’m sure you can guess why. When I got out and went to college at. A party school with a lot more women than men I did much better. Some environments are -not- good for dating period,
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 12:08 AM
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What are men asking for and women asking for that you are comparing here? Sexual attraction isn’t something that people can just turn on when asked.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 12:04 AM
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It is, however if it’s important to someone they can certainly increase their chances a lot of different ways. The simplest one, especially for guys, is lower your damn standards if you need to. When I was stationed in a middle of nowhere Air Force base I was going home with some girls I wouldn’t even consider a couple of years later when I got out and went to college and suddenly was surrounded by beautiful women, 21 and in great shape. I wasn’t picking up the girls the football team was but it…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 09:57 PM
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I’m officially neurotypical but I probably suspect I’m not. I have career reasons not to explore that further so I won’t though. I had an even weirder group I first got into the military, my first girlfriend was a furry, and I got into that community for a bit (Yeah that’s probably not neurotypical and the Air Force is full of undiagnosed autistic people) but it was even weirder back then but holy shit those girls were insane, after we broke up I dated a few more that I met on livejournal and th…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 09:33 PM
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Exactly, more demand for something with a finite supply is good for the seller and bad for the buyer. If you have something some people inherently want you don’t need to advertise or compete with others as much, you can just exist. Women can get better guys with improving but for many women that’s not what they want anyway. Average dudes and an average life are fine for them. I know it’s hard for people to think about relationships and sex in economic terms but that’s always been the case. Men h…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 02:56 PM
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Men are less picky about who they date and sleep with so women don’t have to play the same game. Watch any nature show, this isn’t an uncommon situation. Or just basic economics, a buyer with urgency has less leverage than a patient seller. It’s not about fairness it’s billions of years of evolution.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 02:50 PM
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I think it’s beyond just not wanting to be alone. It’s not wanting to be alone and broke. Walking away from a girlfriend is one thing, walking away from a marriage where men are usually the higher earner means paying alimony, sometimes for life even if kids are not involved. I think a lot of guys in unhappy marriages would walk away and get a dog and just be happy if there was just a 50/50 asset split and child support if there are kids involved. But the system as it is locks men into pretty awf…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 02:09 PM
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6’1”
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 10:29 PM
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The reality is women had full rights in the 1990s and 2000’s and dating was still fine. I know because I was there and even my kind of awkward ass did fine, both online and offline. Literally the only thing that’s changed socially that isn’t technology related from say, 2000 to now, is greater acceptance of LGBTQ rights, and that’s a great thing and doesn’t really negatively affect straight people dating. So the argument that feminism is at fault is crap. I dated feminists, I lived in Portland O…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 04:41 AM
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But he can also be nice. It doesn’t matter, he’s still hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 09:01 PM
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Because women have a lower sex drive on average so if men are respecting consent it makes sense that there would be less sex. A lot of sex that happened before was probably questionable consent wise at best.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 08:57 PM
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I did plenty of times when I’d had enough drinks. I didn’t get the nickname “Ahab” at my first duty station for no reason. Love me some torta pounding.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 05:15 PM
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Yep, I hear it over and over. It’s the same line. Our jails are overflowing with guys who asked if they could by someone a drink at the bar it seems! What they mean is “I’m afraid she will say no and shatter what remains of my fragile ego”.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 05:50 PM
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God they have deteriorated especially among men. If I could just shut down every online gaming platform and make everyone carry a fliphone I would. I often go out with just my Apple Watch with cellular and nothing else, I know my adhd ass can’t help but bury my face in my phone. But staring at a watch is weird so I gotta talk to people.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 02:58 PM
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I have taken some of my very introverted interns out to bars, and have had at least one go home with a girl for the first time. Again, these are nicer bars in a mid sized city but there’s a good mix of ages and people at them. Kind of places you go and chat up the local ADA. I went to law school in NY and learned life doesn’t end after undergrad and I’ll be going out to socialize at nice upscale bars until I’m too old to do so. It’s just natural to me. The most destructive narrative I see is guy…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 02:54 PM
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The problem technology is basically just smartphones with social media on them. We could literally solve the problem with 2005 era Motorola Razers.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 12:26 AM
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I think it can easily be solved by responding people’s autonomy. Everyone struggles in different ways, some thrive under it, some buckle, but it is what it is. No one has a right to anyone’s body. No one should force anybody to fuck anyone coerce them or anything like that. No one has a right to police anyone’s sexual or reproductive rights or partner choice among consenting adults. Likewise, no one has a right to prevent people from ending their existence if they have been dealt a shit hand, pl…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 12:13 AM
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I mean they might be happy failures which is better than an unhappy failure but does their existence have any societal worth or are they just dead weight? And do we want to keep dead weight around?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 07:08 PM
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More like feeds a delusion about who you can actually get to select you back for more than a night but I mean I can’t blame you, getting to fuck someone out of your league is fun as hell. Happened to me only a couple of times but damn it’s great. Fucking loved college. But I didn’t get a cat and give up on dating because I couldn’t get someone like that to commit to me either. I looked for people I actually clicked with, in person, and it worked. It’s as bad as incels bitching they can’t get a m…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 07:04 PM
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But to what end? They would still be failures.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 06:41 PM
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Actually that’s a pretty good video. Makes me want to never let my 7 year old get into gaming, football it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 06:37 PM
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They have not been reliant for decades. I dated in the 2000s before getting married and at least out west no one was looking to be a stay at home mom. Almost every girl I dated had career goals, as did the woman I married. All were pretty selective, had an idea of what they wanted out of a partner, and when I didn’t meet that I got dumped, and same for them. Girls in 2005 were not dumb or helpless or dependent. Only thing I can think of driving that huge increase in selectivity is the rise of da…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 04:43 PM
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Yeah that’s the case sometimes, not everyone can win. This is why I think we will be happier when the world accepts assisted dying on demand, we have a lot of people who just are never going to have happy lives and just cause issues. There are pointless failures in the world and letting a good chunk of themselves check out would be helpful for society.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 04:27 PM
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Birth control and Abortion have been widely available since the 1970s though. Why the change in the last decade or so?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 04:24 PM
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So what did change?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 04:20 PM
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Yeah the data kinda plays out there. So what did change?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 04:19 PM
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Honestly the best career advice for people sometimes is just bum it, try to rack up some felonies that’s attractive apparently. Hilariously the scrawny short Waffle House line cook I see when we go there after church is like 20 something with missing teeth and a hot ass girlfriend (I think?) coworker is all over him (also missing teeth) so apparently he’s been “methmaxing”. He’s not providing much, but he’s out there dancing and humming to himself and chatting and serving up banging breakfast pl…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 04:18 PM
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If they are autistic and/or look like they got hit by a train there’s not much they could have done about that. They have an adverse situation and need to try to overcome it. They should only be mad at themselves if they have sat in their asses in self pity rather than doing everything possible to overcome the shitty hand they inherited. If I see someone who’s trying their hardest and doing the right things but still losing the game I don’t think they should be mad at themselves and I get why th…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 04:07 PM
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Should they be logically? Nope. Will they be? Yes. Mad at women, their parents, God, nature, whatever keeps the fire going. Generally people like to keep fighting and not just lay down and die because they got dealt a shitty hand. That’s also human nature. The question is if they use the anger to improve their situation or just rage on the internet which is a waste on that I agree. The only other alternative is what, sit around playing video games and scrolling Reddit until they die? I hope not.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 03:07 PM
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Hmm that is a much more reasoned take than the “you gotta live no matter what” crap I’ll say that for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 04:31 PM
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That’s true as well, plenty of unhappy old couples! Being forced to be with someone you don’t want to be with is worse than being alone many times. That said, who is anyone to decide if someone’s life is worthwhile? That’s why anti suicide messaging is so dumb. Whats tolerable to one person may not be to another and it’s patronizing to insist someone stay alive if they don’t consider their life worthwhile.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 03:16 PM
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I mean there are unpaired people who I can think of who were driven and even happy, and probably were not ace/aro either. Some were likely bi or closeted but that wouldn’t be an issue these days. Some had complicated or unusual relationships or just straight up were hitting up brothels and such. But they also tended to have exceptional lives with great purpose which just isn’t possible for most people. Most unpaired people probably just lived miserable lives and died alone and forgotten. Most pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 03:01 PM
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Sure I’m in one. I just got lucky enough to be slightly more functional socially. But as you can see, I’m still an asshole. And of course not, asexual/aro/ace people deserve to exist and find means to happiness. However they also don’t find any pleasure in those things so it’s meaningless for people who have regular sex drives and romantic desires. If you are a person with a normal sex drive and desire for romance, the idea there are other paths to happiness is ridiculous. What other means can r…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 02:10 PM
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It hurts because it’s true. I mean the reality is these are people are are never going to have a complete life, never going to find a partner, and are going to be stuck playing video games in their parents basements for life. There’s no cure or treatment for autism in adults, and there’s a certain subset who have a high libido but will never find a sexual partner. They fall between those functioning enough to compensate and find a partner and those who are too disabled to notice or care they don…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 01:21 PM
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There’s nothing no point in basic human decency to people who shouted “your body my choice” on election night. It’s lost on them. They stopped being humans and started being active threats to society a decade ago when they started killing school kids because they couldn’t get any. They need to just disappear and leave everyone else in peace.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 01:05 PM
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They 100% should not, that’s everyone’s bodily autonomy. No need to sugar coat how both men and women feel about guys like that, after all the same people are usually right wingers who think they can call ethnic and sexual minorities slurs because a certain asshole won an election so they are fair game.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 12:27 PM
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Yeah there probably are, some people have nothing better to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 12:15 AM
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A woman saying she shouldn’t have to sleep with some autistic mistake of a person who should have been aborted to keep a roof over their head is both feminist and red pill at the same time. There’s not a neat alignment between feminism and blue pill stuff. Feminism by default acknowledges the same thing that red pill does, that some dudes are just unfuckable. Even Andrew Tate has had a bunch of posts saying that weak men deserve nothing from women. That weak or genetically flawed men are owed no…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 12:03 AM
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Girls are not attracted to moral virtues, nor are guys. I have never been asked about my moral principles on a first before someone slept with me, neither by female or male partners. If people were into moral principles there there would not be the phenomenon of prison pen pals and women who are otherwise smart and capable somehow ending up with unemployed felons as boyfriends because they exhude a bad boy image. To be fair guys are not really attracted to moral principles either. Those are tota…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 11:53 PM
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I think that anyone enraging with online rage bait needs a life but I also get the algorithm is pushing them hard for engagement. False flag operative would be too generous, at least people in a real false flag operation are getting paid. The one exception appears to be Reddit mods who just seem to push agendas for the love of the game. I’ll never understand that. I like being paid for my labor.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 10:24 PM
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Read them, still think you are being trolled. I can make an account that bitches about whatever and farm engagement and make money if there’s an audience and I’m good at pushing buttons.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 10:04 PM
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I recently realized I am Bi at 40 and I have to say my mental outlook has greatly increased. It only hurts your dating options if you fly it out there for all to see. I don't recommend that. Things like past partners are things that shouldn’t be brought up until people are going steady anyway and talking about exes is always a red flag. I wouldn’t lie if asked but not gonna be like “I like dudes too” until it comes up.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 11:47 PM
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Yep I had the same issue after my kid got my Spotify and I was getting K pop…had to get them their own account and retrain mine but it still drops a song or two from that genre in. “Songs you vibed to last year” haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 01:50 AM
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You are the target audience. This content is geared to make men mad. They say proactive things that get eyeballs from dudes. That’s literally what rage bait is. Check the comments sections, it’s all pissed off dudes. You are being trolled, and making them money while taking the bait. Women are seeing videos about make up and gossip. At least regular non Reddit women.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 01:29 AM
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Can you reset your algorithm somehow? Like if he started watching baby donkeys would he see those, or rage bait videos about how Chad horses are stealing all the ponies?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 01:24 AM
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As a dude I choose that for women too. Man I wish girls actually liked guys that act like that so I could skip weight training and be more openly bi.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 08:03 PM
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This is 100% the thing, we can do what we need to do for having a kid very quickly (In my case disappointingly quickly sometimes I’ve been told…) whereas for a woman they are having 9 months of discomfort and years of health effects. Eggs are expensive but so is a womb. My wife almost died during a c section, and now we are in a dead bedroom years later. I love her for what she’s sacrificed in the past and the risk she went through for our son, but now I also have real needs and no way to satisf…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 02:07 PM
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Why don’t poor people just buy more money? I can see how having something available easily sometimes takes the fun out of it. People have varying libidos. Being an average looking libido woman is probably easier than being a an average looking high libido man, if you want hook ups they are there and have been for a long time. Men will lower their standards for a one night stand so why not? Just is what it is. But, not everyone is high libido and some people just straight up do not enjoy sex. If …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 01:31 PM
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While those exist I think the more ideologically aligned subreddits can’t distinguish between bad faith and disagreement. If your opinion is that anyone who thinks otherwise is evil and must be silenced and only speech that affirms what you already think, it seems like bad faith because how could they possibly think that way?! That goes across the political and ideological spectrum too. The main conservative subreddit is famous for banning and restricting debate to those who have proven ideologi…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 07:23 PM
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It’s almost like not banning people for wrongthink on site allows for actual substantive debate. I’ve had my mind changed on some things here from the feminist side that I would not have listened to had I just been told I’m being disingenuous because my view differed.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 07:19 PM
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Yep when I was depressed the smile was gone, fat was there, and fuck I smelled lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 02:44 AM
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I think it’s a lot to do with existing notions about feminism. I have friends who are tomboy girls who basically behave the same as dudes friendship wise. First friend to come over when I found out my son passed away was a female friend where there’s really no attraction either way romantically. Tomboys rock and I will die on that hill, sad they seem to have all been told they are ftm trans rather than just girls who are fucking awesome.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 02:23 AM
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Oh yeah if it’s between two guys that pass the “yeah I’d hit that” bar, of course personality matters. I think we just as guys gotta level with other men if they are not going to meet the bare minimum of fuck ability based on looks so they don’t waste their time trying to and can make informed choices on where they go next in life. Like, it would be be bad to let someone think they had a shot at the NBA if they couldn’t dribble a basketball.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 02:15 AM
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Yeah it is, it’s like you you can’t survive just with oxygen but you sure as hell won’t without it. Some things are essential and some people just don’t have those. Too many people subscribe to a just world fallacy, it’s why people are so against things like assisted suicide on demand, people want to believe the world is just but it simply is how it is and bends for no one.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 02:03 AM
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Yep it is what it is, I wasn’t getting anyone when I was depressed and fat and hadn’t had a haircut in two months. If some dude is like super ugly and autistic it’s like, probably ain’t happening bud. The bridge is that way if you can’t accept that. We just gotta be realistic and open with people.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 01:10 AM
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Not a virgin but in a dead bedroom marriage so basically feel like one after going a few years without sex. I’m fairly sure I’ve come to understand their mindset and somewhat adopted it, it sucks but it is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 12:51 AM
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I mean this is spot on, but a bit silly in the US where any adult can become a major threat to innocents for a few hundred dollars at bass pro shops, with no real way to stop them until it’s too late. Our daily lives going smoothly basically hinge on those around us having some sort of moral compass, or at least a fear of death barring that. The fact we live relatively peaceful lives tells me most people have some sort of belief in right and wrong even if their lives suck. I’m married and white …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 12:49 AM
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Validation matters first because historically validation is survival. Being wrong, and especially being held accountable for being wrong, could have had fatal consequences for women when people could just be cast out from a tribe. Instincts built upon dependence on others for survival will kick in and you’ll do anything to avoid consequences. Is that adaptive in modern society? No. But you don’t overcome hundreds of thousands of years of the women who seek comfort first then resolution surviving…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 03:08 PM
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Yeah! Both times I got cheated on, fat girl and a not good looking girl. Why are people like this? Rather than being happy someone likes them, they want more?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 11:38 AM
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Kinda over moderated if we can’t say hookup arnt we? I get not wanting things like people posting racist screeds or whatever but talking about sexuality on a subreddit designed to debate sexuality with the nuanced and balanced purple pill view can’t let people say hookup? It’s almost as dumb as people saying “dih” or “sewer side” on YouTube. It’s not like these are horrid racial slurs, they are normal words used in civil daily discourse.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 11:35 AM
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I mean yeah if someone was worth being around they would have friends and people interested in them romantically.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 06:22 PM
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I’m fine with western values, I don’t want a sex slave. There are women in between “submissive Asian who secretly hates you” and “Gross American feminist with a huge ego who definately secretly hates you. Any relationship motivated by anything other than genuine attraction is fragile as fuck. Best I’ve seen is religious girls with decent values but who also have a brain and a sense of self and don’t have unrealistic expectations but also don’t have any, you don’t want a bangmaid that gets old fa…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 11:40 AM
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Lol most western women are not retarded reddit feminists. Not saying you won’t get girls who laugh in your face sometimes but you gotta toughen up and get used to that, it’s been that way a long time. It’s the ones that you get somewhere with that you remember. Ads have been heavily sexualized since the 70s, still didn’t make a difference to us back then. And yeah I’ll edit that, meant “that” not “zen” haha
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 08:02 PM
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Hmmm, as long as it’s always been that way and you are happy. If it gets to where your libido is the same and hers is slipping, be careful because you may not notice it and end up in a dead bedroom relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 07:40 PM
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I’m from a different era, relationships usually followed sex but not always. In the 2000s the only people waiting were religious. The ones that hurt were ones where it was a slow burn and the relationship came first, deep connection and the hurt isn’t because of sex but because of the relationship itself. I can’t think of a ONS I regret but boy can I regret except for a friend and I who drifted apart after hooking up, and I kinda blame us having sex for that making it weird. I think she wanted m…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 07:36 PM
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Well yeah I’m 90% sure I’m on the spectrum and have been able to date and hook up, but I was also in my prime like 2000-2010 and that was a much different time. Even suggesting a girl lower their standards now will 100% set off women in a way that I find hilarious. Like I didn’t walk off with a chubby German girl at closing plenty of times because I wasn’t taking a cab back on base alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 07:28 PM
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I would hope that would be the case, I have dated autistic women and they were great. It was fun to have a girl who’d show you anime she liked, have a car full of plants on the dash because she was obsessed with them, and then just nonchalantly say they wanted sex while making dinner. Almost surreally great, no games, no hidden motives. Too bad I fucked up both those relationships…the one thing they wanted was loyalty and I failed there. I guess I like pain and don’t know a good thing when I hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 07:21 PM
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You can’t tell me there are not normal women your age you can try to date rather than cranking your hog to some poor girl getting sex trafficked while killing your drive to actually get your dick wet with someone real? Porn in the days of pinups or having to flip through a fucking playboy was one thing, unlimited porn on the Internet will kill your drive for the admittedly tougher task of actually getting someone to want to fuck you.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 07:17 PM
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Because actual women around you look attractive when you are not blowing your dopamine receptors out jerking off. You should be showing sexual interest in actual women unless you live in a lighthouse alone or Afghanistan where they are covered from head to toe. Is easy don’t look a porn. That zen can be alone, but shouldn’t mean avoiding actual sex just to meet some dumb internet challenge.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 07:15 PM
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Or you see normal women around you as attractive and are willing to put in effort to pursue them and actually have sex which is good. NNN should just mean no jerking off, especially to empty porn which is a fantasy that has no bearing on your reality. Nutting because you are actually having sex with someone who wants to have sex with you too is healthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 07:10 PM
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There’s a lot of guys who will smash a disabled girl, mentally, physically or both. Fat girls too. Maybe all three combined. In the end it all feels the same down there anyway if someone’s desperate enough. Male sex drive being pretty much unstoppable except for a few asexual oddballs means women will almost always be able to find someone if they lower their standard enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 06:56 PM
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It depends on if women’s preferences for men fitting a patriarchal norm are a nature or nurture thing. If it’s nature, their sacrifice is pointless because women will always prefer men who meet the patriarchal, dominant standard. If it’s nurture and a function of societal norms, then lots of men have already been going down that road and women have not responded positively to it so maybe more time is needed? In the end it comes down to of women’s dating preferences are changeable or not, or hard…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 06:52 PM
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Sorry I can’t hear you up here.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 12:42 PM
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https://youtube.com/shorts/pCadS49P2xM?si=HB1PVFfwGNzgckoP hehe
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 12:41 PM
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“Hell, I didn’t have sex with my first two partners because we were too busy playing Diablo lol.“ And that’s right there is the issue. Too many other sources of dopamine now. I had StarCraft, Diablo 2 and Counterstrike in the early 2000’s but after awhile I’d get bored and want to go hang out with people.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 07:59 PM
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I turned 18 in 2002 and I am from a smaller town and I didn’t know anyone who hadn’t lost their virginity by the time we graduated high school, not even my dumb ass. We also drank and partied a lot. Kids don’t really drink and party anymore like they used to, to the point where alcohol companies are realizing they are in deep shit. It seems like there has been a huge shift in the current generation. I think those 80s stats were good up until the mid 2000’s.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 07:57 PM
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You hit it on the head. There has absolutely been a change in the last decade any it’s noticeable to someone who dated successfully before it. I’m a guy who’s average looking and I suspect a bit autistic (Can’t get tested because of being in the military but there are signs) and was fine dating in the 2000’s and now about to get divorced and pretty much convinced I’ll never find anyone again seeing how bad dating is. I mean my PTSD probably won’t do me any favors either but at least I get paid f…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 02:40 PM
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It’s the screens and the apps on them. And I don’t mean even TVs or Desktop computers. Dating apps based on photos you swipe and YouTube shorts and TikToks are just a dopamine slot machine and they do real damage. For dating, online dating apps broke things for young men who always had a tougher time historically. I’m not a looker and suspect I probably have autism (Won’t find out until I retire from the military) and was fine dating in the 1990s and 2000’s. There used to be a lot of very crazy …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 02:33 PM
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Sex is the one thing where ableism is fine. People have a right to be accommodated but that right ends at the boundary of other peoples bodily autonomy. The right not to have a romantic or sexual relationship with someone because they are autistic is something most people would agree with, left right and center. Employment and public transport and such are things where ableism is bad. But sex has always been treated differently, we can’t ask people to make reasonable accommodations with their bo…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 08:14 PM
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Hey earthling can you drive us to the bar?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 02:54 PM
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Talking about OP not you haha. My understanding is it’s very fast.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 02:54 PM
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He’s going to the one place that hasn’t been corrupted by chadism… Space!!! 🤪
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 02:26 PM
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This is the most elaborate short guy cope I’ve ever read. It’s almost magnificently salty.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 02:24 PM
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Ooompa Loompa Dippity Do, if your a salty “short king” this reply is for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 02:22 PM
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This tracks, every relationship where I let off the gas pedal in bed and tried to let them lead sometimes died out. Including my marriage. 50 shades sold 165 Million copies for a reason. This doesn’t mean girls are not assertive, and most don’t want to be treated like a 1950s housewife. But in the bedroom? Most absolutely want to be led. Sexuality isn’t a function thats rooted in the enlarged parts of our brains that separate us from other animals, it’s the little part that is hard wired and it …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 11:38 AM
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That’s great and I don’t disagree. Modern dating is fucked because of dating apps and social media, not because women have jobs and independence. Don’t want someone to who feels trapped but also don’t want someone who’s going to jump ship at the first bump on the road either. Personally I’m glad I grew up in the 1990s and 2000’s where women were both liberated career wise -and- not arrogant because they were, like men, limited to those around them socially. People found partners through their fr…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 01:25 PM
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You are not just an onlooker, healthy men and women are always looking to improve their lives, you just do it naturally and seek advice from friends and family rather than internet strangers. But some people need a bit more encouragement and frankly not all of them get where they want to be. Like if someone’s a total mess and 500 lbs or dresses like a slob it will make a difference but really it’s a combination of looks and personality that matter, and some of those things you can’t change like …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 12:55 PM
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Yep I wish I had better depth perception and could have been a fighter pilot but I don’t. Doesn’t mean I couldn’t find other careers that I enjoy. Nothing wastes the time we have more than getting hung up on what we can’t have. If someone’s really sore about the hand life dealt then they are free to leave anytime no one’s gonna stop them lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 12:32 PM
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Women with rich husbands are not on Reddit they are showing off their great lives on instagram. Let’s be real so are the husbands. No one wastes their time on Reddit if they have lives that are not lacking somewhere. In my case it’s a dying marriage and just giving up and quiet quitting my career because I have little hope I’ll find someone new as a 40 year old with depression. It is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 11:16 AM
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We have proven interventions for autism in early childhood, my wife works for a program doing that (Autism ABA) and sees remarkable changes. However that’s 3-5 year olds going into intensive treatment and socialization vs socially awkward 18 year olds with less flexible brains and fewer resources, I’m not sure if there’s any peer reviewed treatment for the people who are generally adults by the time they figure it out. The good news is we are screening early and catching these disabilities much …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 07:39 PM
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90% of the time the skill issue is just plain old autism or developmental disorders. People without those would be fine in Jack’s position. It’s not really a skill issue, but it’s not really fixable either, so they are kinda fucked and need to decide if it’s worth putting in a ton of effort. It would be like eating right, doing lots of lifting and getting ready to run a marathon but then finding out you had a heart condition ending up in the hospital after running a 5K. All the effort in the wor…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 03:54 PM
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The problem is it leads to a society that’s going to not be great for men either because it needs to be straight up oppressive with arranged marriage to work or you get China or South Korea, little feminism but still men are not getting anywhere. A free society with economic mobility got me out of poverty, in a theocracy I’d still be poor. You’d get better results with improving economic opportunity for younger men and perhaps getting rid of dating apps and a lot of social media that’s had a det…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 09:27 PM
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Women just hate low value men, looks or otherwise. We have hundreds of thousands of years of primate evolution hammering that fact into us. Men likewise want to fuck anything that moves at their core. It’s worked and kept us alive as a species. Always have and always will, it’s biologically there because if you have a kid with someone who’s weak, you are helpless, human babies are helpless. You are fucked. Is the short balding autistic dude with a funky face going to protect you? Nope. It’s a fu…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 08:53 PM
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Basically the only way you get a high birth rate is being a backwards agricultural society where women have no education and no power over their own bodies like Afghanistan. And it’s a shit country for everyone there men included.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 08:44 PM
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I think the problem is before the internet the typical ugly autistic dude was either in a mental asylum, hidden away from family, or if high functioning working a job and living alone but not really realizing what they were missing. The internet and social media allows them to share a common experience and also see constant reminders that an ideal life is with a romantic partner. But realistically they can’t achieve that and it builds into frustration and rage (A constant problem with autism), e…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 08:08 PM
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100%, we have a pretty autistic dude in my family who rents a condo from my wife and I. We charge him just enough to pay taxes and insurance and he still can’t respect the place and his neighbors. He’s very manipulative and always trying to get money from family. We felt sorry for him and realized we got conned after. I think it’s just the nature of his disability and years of being coddled. These people don’t need a girlfriend, they need a mental institution.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 08:01 PM
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I think that’s a very good analysis but most of the guys having issues are just not paying attention to the nonverbal cues, and I’m sure the majority of them have some sort of neurodivergence that makes that not come naturally. Several times I have had my partner tell me a girl was flirting with me and get mad thinking I was flirting back and I didn’t even notice they were flirting vs being nice. I’m likely in the same boat.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 08:18 PM
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