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I honestly don’t get why dudes on here think they are dropping the reddest of red pills on us sheeple by telling us that that chicks are attracted to good looking guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 04:38 AM
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I’m unclear why you think this is some kind of revelation.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 04:34 AM
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You’re right - I’m conflating the swingers with the poly people, which isn’t fair. My earlier statements apply far more to poly people than swingers.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 03:05 AM
2

I dunno dude - all the open relationships I’ve seen end quickly in the most melodramatic ways possible. Apart from anything else, everyone I know who’s in open relationships seem to use the label as an excuse for being emotionally unavailable and refusing to work on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 10:44 PM
15

Look - if you wanna have an open relationship, have at it. I’ll be a shoulder to cry on when it eats shit. Monogamy works, bitches.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 10:23 AM
1

Well obviously - but that’s not what the question was.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 10:56 PM
2

Our brain is a product of evolution. But that doesn’t make our behaviours hard-coded. The brain is infinitely plastic. It’s not a hammer - it’s a shed full of tools. Actual science bears this out.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 10:45 PM
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People might meet on apps, but the form relationships in person. If you’re a dork-ass shut-in with limited social skills, you’re going to struggle, no matter how many matches you get on Tinder.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 08:00 PM
23

I dunno dude. I'm a plumber. I'm married to a lawyer. My job has never been an issue. If anything it’s been a bonus - I can fix shit and build things that our white collar friends can’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 07:10 PM
7

How are women supposed to form an attraction to a dude who's sequestered at home doing nerd shit? There is a subset of women who solely go for dudes with money, but most chicks are far more interested in how a guy makes them feel. Why do dudes here think that women are so mercenary?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 07:09 PM
5

Groan No. Evolutionary biology is actually a science - based on observation of physical remains and more recently on genetics. It has testable hypotheses, thanks to advances in genetic and biochemical techniques. Evolutionary biology has cute stories based on vibes and the skewed observations of a few well-meaning people, and a huge number of bad actor dipshits who want to explain why things can never get better than the status quo. Now - there probably are a few behaviours with a genetic/evolut…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 06:59 PM
0

Pls stop.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 11:14 AM
1

Stop being weird. I am begging you.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 11:01 AM
3

Sure dude. Arrows, knees, things of that nature.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 09:35 AM
2

The Blank Slate. By noted brains genius Steven Pinker. Maybe next you can suggest something by Malcolm Gladwell or Jordan Peterson. Or maybe tell me about this thought-provoking read by a couple of edgy go-getters called Freakanomics.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 09:14 AM
4

My belief that evo psych is bullshit? The “science” that’s shooting arrows and drawing targets around them?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 07:46 AM
3

I understand it's uncomfortable to accept that males and females have evolved specific psychological and behavioral adaptations to tackle the different reproductive challenges men and women faced in our ancestral history. Source: Vibes.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 07:27 AM
1

I’ve been married for 15 years. It’s never come up.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 05:15 AM
8

Eco psych is unscientific gibberish. It’s just-so stories wearing a labcoat. Anyone treating it like it’s actually science is a deeply unserious person and should not be listened to.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 05:08 AM
4

All of Gods children are not beautiful. Most are barely acceptable.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 11:22 AM
5

I did enough of it to work out it wasn’t for me. It wasn’t revelatory, it wasn’t harmful. It was just a thing I did at a certain point in my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 01:01 AM
4

What looking at the world like it’s an RPG, and thing that you just need to optimise your build to get pussy does to a MF.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 07:04 AM
1

Why does everyone make this shit so high-stakes. There is zero harm in talking to a cute guy. You’re just talking - maybe even flirting a little. You don’t need to throw yourself at him pussy-first. Say you go on a date? You don’t have to fuck him till you’re reasonably sure he likes you back. WHY CANT YOU PEOPLE BE NORMAL?!?!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 09:26 PM
1

Why are you intent on punishing the kids for the parent’s relationship breakdown?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 07:18 PM
1

Someone’s read Nietzsche and not understood it I see.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 07:46 PM
2

Morality isn’t just for evangelical moonbats screaming about abortion or the gays, y’know.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 03:44 PM
1

I’d forgotten how many weird nihilists there were on here…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 03:39 PM
1

Well, the word consensual is a clue. Leaving consent aside for a sec; there’s a gap in experience and power which is ripe for exploitation and abuse. Now - not every such relationship is exploitative or abusive; but enough are that all such relationships become suspect.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 03:38 PM
7

If you’re gobbling off in the comments about your open relationship with a 25yo, I’ll lay money on the barrelhead it’s because you’re young at heart, and all the boys her age are immature.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 11:12 AM
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JFC. You hentai weirdos need to take a pill. You don’t tick over to 18 and immediately become capable of standing toe-to-toe with every adult dude. We draw a line for allowing the shit you’ve listed because we need to draw a line somewhere. Law and social sanction are two different things. I’m in my 40s. I could fuck an 18yo legally. Morally is a different matter
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 10:54 AM
2

For you, maybe.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 12:24 AM
2

Seconded. The biggest nerds I know are poly. Nary a Chad or Stacy to be seen.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 07:59 PM
5

Well - you’re certainty verbose enough to be a M-L. Literally no one is stopping you from dating a conservative. Go be as horny as you like about Tomi Lahren.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 06:28 PM
3

Nah. Again that's another copout. I already have those. Are ya sure?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 10:17 AM
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Dude - you’re the one dropping “fact bombs” and acting like having a slightly different viewpoint and communication style is some insurmountable barrier. It isn’t, unless you’re being intentionally obtuse; or doing a Henry Higgins and wondering why a woman can’t be more like a man. The slightest bit of patience and empathy will easily get you over the line.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 05:17 AM
1

Or you could take a non-bonkers interpretation of it and say she’s making a joke about her poor taste in men.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 12:22 AM
2

Because asking if you need “women” is a dumb fucking question. You need relationships with specific people in our lives because we’re social animals. But we don’t need “women” any more or less than we need “men”.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 12:16 AM
2

Yeah - if all you’re looking for is something warm to stick your peepee in.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 12:08 AM
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Women are complicated to men who lack empathy and/or get really pressed when faced with someone with a slightly different pot of view. Seriously dude - they’re just people. Chill.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 12:07 AM
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Puzzled as to how old mate here managed to draw this conclusion.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 12:20 AM
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I dunno - I’ve never been super ambitious. I just married a chick who isn’t either. We have a nice life.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 11:05 AM
1

Dude - why are you obsessed with the good opinion of people you obviously hate?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 12:24 PM
1

Strangely enough - the number of matches you get on Tinder is not a metric of your worth. Tinder sucks and dating is hard for the righteous and the wicked.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 12:04 PM
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Stoicism can get in the fucking bin. You can have emotions boys - you just need to understand them so they don’t burst out every time you’re challenged.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 10:51 AM
10

Y’all think about this shit way too hard. I like my wife’s “masculine” traits (her not taking shit, her assertiveness, her calm and logical manner where I’m much more emotional) But I like her “feminine” gentleness, kindness and patience. I don’t think about these as masculine or feminine. I think of this as her character.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 10:46 AM
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Women have the whip hand on the apps. It’s hardly surprising you see some bad behaviour.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 10:37 AM
2

Log off and go outside. I beg you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 02:41 AM
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Dude - you not getting matches on Tinder doesn’t mean there’s an unbridgeable gulf between women and men.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 02:40 AM
1

Dude - where is this happening? What evidence can you provide other than vibes?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 02:37 AM
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Lol. No we’re not. I’m so masc if you read this you’re probably pregnant now. For real though - masculinity is an artifice. A social construct. It changes. There’s no point getting your panties in a bunch about the masculine ideal looking different to how it did in the past. I say we need to return to 14th century masculinity; with the obsession with clothes, poetry writing and cucking each other. Also - the social view that women were the horny ones and that men were naturally chaste.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 11:10 PM
3

There is a chasm between the “ideal” terp, and what terps are actually like. The ideal is a self-actualised dude with strong boundaries and a rich life. The reality is a sulky man-baby with an all-pervading sense of entitlement whining about teh woms.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 11:05 PM
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This is one of the most unhinged things I’ve read on this sub - and there have been some doozies.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 10:58 PM
1

Lol. …and are these women in the room with us right now?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 08:55 PM
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She’s barely even got a platform. She keeps getting banned from TikTok for breaching the TOS.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 08:52 PM
0

I…what?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 07:05 AM
31

Absent any further context, I’d assume she’s feeling a bit burned by relationships that went nowhere, and she’s just read The Rules or similar.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 07:03 AM
8

…and I didn’t mention feminism. See - I can play the “there’s no such thing as context and I wasn’t implying anything”-game too. My point is that there is drastically less distance between men and women than the weird terps on here make out. Stop being weird about this shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 01:18 AM
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No I’m not. Women are people. They’re not a different species. WHY WONT YOU BE NORMAL?!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 12:49 AM
4

The stuff that’s just “improve yourself, be active, have boundaries” is fine. It’s just that it’s not unique to terp shit in any way. What is meaningfully unique to terp-world is a particularly virulent and noxious misogyny.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 12:43 AM
1

Oh my God dude - women aren’t aliens. What the fuck is wrong with you freaks?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 12:40 AM
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I do. I just don’t see any chicks talking about terp shit like it makes any kind of sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 08:01 PM
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JustPearlyThings is great for terp dudes who wanna "I have a black friend" their horrifically misogynist views. She posted some dumb shit, a bunch of dumbass guys came along yelling "Yaaaas Qween", and she kept posting dumb shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 07:06 PM
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Because it's mostly dudes on here espousing the dumbest shit imaginable.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 07:03 PM
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Evo psych is only really problematic if we hold it in the same regard as science. There would be no point to discuss anything if we held everything to a scientific standard you'd expect from peer reviewed research in a journal. Yeah. Problem is the terp community keep going back to that well like they're doing science; and pat themselves on the back for doing lOgiC anD ReAsOn. If they'd knock it off and call it "cute stories" instead, I wouldn't care. as if a) there's reputable objective researc…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 06:57 PM
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Dude - what’s with that dork-ass tagline you put on every post?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 06:20 PM
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Stop projecting Yeah. Really adding weight to the idea that your debate style isn’t just telling chicks they’re hysterical for disagreeing with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 06:19 PM
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I love it when weird reddit dorks think they’ve got women’s sexuality all figured out. I mean - I don’t claim to know much; but I’ve actually spoken to a woman. Unlike this dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 11:18 AM
1

For “discuss politics” read “don’t disagree with me”.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 11:13 AM
3

Observations that need to be interpreted. Almost inevitably as "Women Be Shopping".
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 07:12 AM
4

Millions of years of evolution and environmental factors. And cultures evolving. This is not the own you think it is, cob. Evolution leaves its marks - but our cultures are far too complex and all-encompassing to pay any more than cursory attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 07:05 AM
3

Evopsych doesn't determine the future it just offers an explanation for a phenomena. An explanation based on what? Vibes? Tell all the cute stories you like - but it's not science.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 06:59 AM
3

Okay - I'll indulge you. Rant incoming. It's pseudoscience because it's not fucking science. End of. Science assumes you're following some kind of scientific method - in that you make a hypothesis, make observations (preferably through controlled experiment), and see if your observations fit the hypothesis. Now - that works real well when you can design experiments to test your hypothesis. You can build a Large Hadron Collider to smash subatomic particles into each other at relativistic speeds t…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 06:55 AM
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Evolutionary Psychology is pseudoscientific bunkum. It’s a series of just-so stories wearing a lab coat. We are products of our evolution to an extent; but we are products of our society and culture to a far, far greater extent. Anyone espousing evo-psych bullhonky is looking for an excuse as to why things can never get better. Fuck evo-psych. Fuck evo-psych with a rusty screwdriver.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 12:23 AM
1

The opposite. The young lads were happy to see him getting his end in, my old ass was happy to see him moving on with his life.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 12:12 AM
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Thing about red pill views is, where they’re not grotesquely misogynistic, they’re bleeding obvious.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 12:00 AM
1

You have read the comments here, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 09:25 PM
1

Not being a self-pitying, insecure, passive-aggressive shut-in definitely helps.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 08:35 PM
1

No - that happened several months previously. This was celebration that he was healing, and admiration that he was smashing mad puss.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 06:43 PM
2

Sure they do. It’s more of a young dude thing; but a workmate in his 30s ended a long term relationship and (after licking his wounds for a few months) got on the apps and went on a tear. He was definitely getting kudos.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 05:09 PM
2

U mad lol
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 05:04 PM
4

One of my workmates married a Canadian chick. That’s not seen as weird. Another a Bolivian chick. Not weird. A friend married a Colombian and another a Slovakian. Not weird. But I did meet a guy who married a much younger Thai woman. Definitely sus. Context, my dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 04:50 PM
0

Yeah. For every horror story, I’ve seen dozens of examples of people just working out an arrangement and sticking to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 04:46 PM
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A lid for every pot.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 04:41 PM
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I love it when dudes come on here and post this stuff like they’ve got the straight dope that’s gonna blow everyone’s mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 04:39 PM
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Honestly, most celebs are pretty physically interchangeable. They’re all beautiful - it’s kinda part and parcel of being famous. I don’t really give celebs much thought unless they do something I love. Like - PJ Harvey is probably not top of most peoples lists; but I have had a massive crush on her since I first heard her voice.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 04:34 PM
2

Wat? Where have you been? I’ve definitely heard it. Many times - though not using those exact words. Dude crushes. Pussy magnet. Gets more ass than a toilet seat.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 04:23 PM
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defeminising Good Lord… No one wants to approach - it’s nerve-wracking. But sooner or later you’re going to have to put on your big-girl pants and talk to a dude. The landscape has changed. A lot of dudes who wouldn’t have hesitated to go and casually chat with a chick pre-Me Too will pause now. And these are the good dudes who will respect your boundaries. The ones most likely to approach are the ones most likely to blow by your boundaries. If you wanna date anyone, sooner or later you’ll have …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 12:29 AM
1

Oh cool. We’re playing the “There’s no such thing as context and I wasn’t implying anything” game. You go to therapy to deal with mental health issues. So if you’re not looking for a man who’s doing therapy, and you’re not looking for a man with no mental health issues; you’re either looking for a man who’s refusing to deal with poor mental health, or has found other ways of coping. Watch out for that second one though. Maybe he’ll pick a healthy outlet. But if he doesn’t it’s a pit with no bott…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 09:33 PM
1

Last time I checked, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 08:14 PM
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I don’t get this idea that women shouldn’t approach; but sit like demure little wallflowers. That might work if you’re very good-looking; but most chicks are going to have to be a little more pro-active. At its core, game for women is essentially the same as game for men - look after yourself, have boundaries, be confident. What it looks like in practice - you gotta learn to flirt.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 07:58 PM
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You want a man with no mental health issues. Fine. You may be looking for a minute. Men have leaned on women for too long for emotional labour in dealing with our mental health. I’d like us to cut that shit out and lean on each other - to the point of not relying on women at all. I’d have thought you’d support that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 07:49 PM
2

“Just go to therapy”. Every damn time 🤦‍♂️ There’s any number of barriers; especially for men. Cost. Availability. Difficulty getting referrals. The tendency for a lot of doctors to reach straight SSRIs. And that’s before we even get to the cultural barriers keeping men away from therapy - which are even harder to overcome. I know you’re done dealing with men who don’t wanna go to therapy, but I’m gonna meet them where they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 06:59 PM
0

So no.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 10:33 AM
1

Well - yes. We don't like anyone venting that much. We don't like venting because it's mostly just getting worked up about shit you can't change. But I'm not really talking about venting per se (notice that I only used venting in relation to online stuff). If a dude at work is venting about his ex wife, I can see he's upset. But I don't wanna hear about his ex - how's he doing?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 10:31 AM
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That doesn't say to me that talk therapy isn't beneficial (FWIW, I don't think it's a panacea either). What I do think the Blitz effect showed was that if you can take on a task that visibly and tangibly benefits your community, your mental health with drastically improve.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 10:26 AM
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That is definitely a danger. The ol' circle jerk about your bitch ex wife isn't a meme for no reason. You don't wanna get stuck in that. But there's a horrible tendency for guys (especially older guys - the demographic with the greatest suicide risk) to really bottle stuff up. Getting some of them to admit having a feeling that's not just anger is hard work. I'm a believer in meeting guys where they are, not where you'd like them to be. A lot of men don't have any kind of emotional vocabulary to…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 10:04 AM
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Oh dude - totally agree. (I will talk your ear off about this shit; but there's only so many hours in a day.) But I do think what a lot of guys are missing is someone to just listen. There's so many guys who have zero opportunities to just let shit out in a healthy way. Don't get me wrong - this is in no way a panacea. But I think giving guys a safe and non-judgemental place to just say stuff is valuable. I think that's the reason there's so much venting online - there's literally nowhere else t…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 09:39 AM
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Some of them yeah; but a lot don't know where to look; or are so mired in toxic notions of masculinity that they actively reject seeking help. I'm involved in men's mental health advocacy in the construction trades. It's an initiative set up by the construction unions. It's more of a suicide-prevention initiative - but I think that has a lot of value. The bigger issue is that men really don't have a lot of places to turn for support when things are tough. A lot lean on their partners - but in th…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 08:09 AM
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Getting no bitches usually.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 07:58 AM
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The red pill is saying women want men that are good looking, rich, and confident, contrary to women that say they want "nice guys." No - they want both. Why do you terps act like this is some kind of Illuminati-secret?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 07:57 AM
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Well - not since I met my missus. Before then I did enough of it to realise that it’s really not my thing. As a result, I wasn’t big on dating women who I knew had a heap of casual sex - I didn’t wanna be another notch on the bedpost, I wanted a girlfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 10:09 AM
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Do you get the feeling that maybe - just maybe - banging 37 men in six months might not be a typical woman’s experience?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 10:06 AM
1

You’re aware that words mean things, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 08:03 PM
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If a woman could do something small to make me feel physically safer at work; then yeah. Why is this hard for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 07:58 PM
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Does that matter? It’s just making someone feel safer. If you can’t spend five minutes doing that for someone, I’d posit that you’re a selfish piece of shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 07:53 PM
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Stop acting like a grown-up, sir. I do not come here for common sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 07:07 PM
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What the actual fuck did I just read? You’re feeling oppressed because a coworker asked you to do the absolute bare fucking minimum to make them feel more safe at work? Am I having a stroke?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 07:05 PM
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Dude - you’ve literally invented a bunch of women in your head to get mad at.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 10:56 AM
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“The women I’ve invented in my head are silly, and I’m extremely mad about it”.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 10:55 AM
2

I dunno dude - if I got 10 years into a relationship before I got told what I’d been providing wasn’t it, I’d feel pretty fucken betrayed. Not to mention horrified that she’d been living that whole 10 years with so little trust in me. That’d fuck me up real bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 01:25 AM
1

Maybe Ive lost track - but wasn’t the top level comment on this thread about men being shit in bed?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 12:18 AM
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FWIW, I would absolutely not describe my missus as delicate. She's a lawyer and no stranger to confrontation. But she expects me - her husband, ffs - to be gentle and caring. Any deviation from that is jarring. So, as I said earlier, I worked out pretty quickly that fighting is a bad way to resolve problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 11:50 PM
3

I mean - there's such a thing as being too focussed. Then you feel like you have to perform enjoying something. The absolute worst sex I've ever had was on E with a chick who was determined to make me cum when it absolutely wasn't going to happen. I just wanted to cuddle, but she wasn't taking no for an answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 11:45 PM
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What? Where? Like - there's dudes here saying "wHy WoUlD i maEk wiMMen CuM?"; but there seems to be a lot more who are willing to learn, but feeling kinda vulnerable and frustrated about the obvious gaps in their knowledge, and the women lining up to tell them how bad they suck. Like - we don't need our hands held; but some hints would be nice. You don't need to give some painfully long monologue that's designed to placate our egos and insecurities. Just tell us if something's not working and wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 11:40 PM
2

To me that's just an expression of the fact that these women don't know what they like/want and don't know how to work out how to go about working it out. It's a double bind. I the case you've mentioned, they've just projected that frustration elsewhere. They're expecting someone else to work it out for them and they feel threatened when it's put back on them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 11:29 PM
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If you think showing no emotion is an effective way of dealing with the fact a woman might burst into tears, you're acting like a toddler. That's why I said fights are awful for resolving problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 11:24 PM
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Bruh. If you only do anything difficult because you think it'll improve your chances of getting laid, you're living a horribly stunted life.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 11:21 PM
2

Yep.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 11:17 PM
2

It's a lot less complicated than you think. My friend and I flirt and banter with one another because that's how we've always communicated - and we've known each other for more than 20 years. I've directly asked my wife if it makes her uncomfortable (obviously if it did, I'd knock it off). Her response was to laugh and say "It reminds me of how shit you are at flirting". Regardless - your sexual feelings towards others don't disappear the second the ring goes on your finger. I am friends with a …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 11:08 PM
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It's not even a matter of right or wrong. It's purely down to feelings. Indulge me here while I talk about feelings - not the rights or wrongs of what you're actually arguing about. You get angry and build up a head of steam about something she's done that's pissed you off. Doesn't matter if it's a legit thing or not - you're mad. I don't mean screaming and yelling btw - I just mean pissed off. So, you confront her about this thing that feels egregious in the the moment - and you're full of the …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 10:56 PM
5

You typed this with one hand, didn’t you.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 09:19 PM
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Yeah - that’s my point. You have to work on becoming emotionally aware enough to express what’s upsetting you. Sadly, as men we’re usually not emotionally well-equipped from our upbringing; so we default to anger, which is one of the two permissible emotions for dudes. It serves no one’s interests.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 11:22 AM
1

Great coping mechanism. Never fails 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 11:16 AM
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straight guys don’t experiment with men. Lol. Lmao. I have some bad news for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 11:01 AM
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It’s not that simple. People don’t fall into a would/wouldn’t dichotomy. I have a female friend I love to flirt with. If we were both single, and absent context, I absolutely would - she’s sexy as hell and a great laugh. She also introduced me to my wife and I’m her daughter’s godfather. You need to make peace with complicated feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 10:56 AM
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I call bullshit on that. I’m sure my missus is happy that I like to stay in good shape; but after 20 years together, I’m not doing it purely for her benefit. I stay in shape because I like to look in the mirror and not see a saggy old man. Also, I have a very physical job, and I don’t want my guts to come flying out of my arsehole because I picked up something a bit too heavy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 10:51 AM
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ONS is a terrible environment for sexual expression. The only factor in it’s favour is novelty. Everything else goes by the wayside.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 10:10 AM
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Some - yeah. But I think the bigger problem is them being afraid to ask for what they want, or literally having no fucking clue what they actually like. I’m not saying dudes are any better; but making a guy cum isn’t exactly rocket surgery - certainly not in comparison to your average woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 10:06 AM
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Crying can feel emotionally manipulative. For your average guy, fights tend to follow this script: Dude is mad and brings up grievance - gal counters - dude gets madder - gal cries - dude feels like the bad guy and has to drop grievance to tend to her emotional needs. Grievance continues to fester. As a result, I worked out ages ago that fights are awful for resolving problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 04:31 AM
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If by “explaining how we feel”, you mean: Women: “You’re really bad at this” Men: “Ouch. Tell me what would be better.” Women: rolls eyes “You just don’t get it…”
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 04:14 AM
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If you’re looking at FDS as a yardstick of normal women’s opinion, you’re barking up the wrong tree.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 03:57 AM
1

You understand how casually fucking horrible men are to fat women, right.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 03:45 AM
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You make good points; but in my experience, most women are absolutely hot garbage about communicating their sexual want and needs - or even understanding what they are in the first place. Women need to take some ownership of their sexual needs and ask for them explicitly. This can't just be a matter of rolling your eyes at how clueless men are in bed. I mean - that might be fun; but do you wanna bitch, or do you wanna get off? Like - I get that womens' pleasure is horribly decentralised in our c…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 01:44 AM
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The corollary of this is dudes obsessed with their Testosterone level; like it's the defining metric of their masculinity or even their personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 01:17 AM
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Why would anyone care is the more salient question.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 01:15 AM
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Women don't normally have the option to trade up either dude. And very few women are getting divorced specifically to marry a richer/taller/better looking/whatever dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 12:52 AM
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Sure dude. Men view all women as equally desirable, and never trade up.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 09:27 PM
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Yes, but not directly. I never hooked up with chicks I had common interests with; but they introduced me to their friends, which was a freakin’ goldmine.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 06:56 PM
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I got married (partly) for religious reasons, but also because making a public affirmation of commitment to one another has weight that cohabitation doesn’t. Marriage seems a slightly anachronistic institution these days, but I think there’s still value to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 06:54 PM
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They need a girlfriend first; and that would require them to be normal for a bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 11:02 AM
1

I was…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 11:00 AM
5

Blackpillers growing increasingly rational 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 10:59 AM
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Calm down. Marriages are going down because people are marrying older, or are opting for de facto relationships. The pressure to marry isn't there, so people are less pressed about it. It's not because women be going to uni.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 07:11 AM
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Hell - who has $100K lying around period!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 07:09 AM
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On one hand it was good - the house has never been in better shape and my missus didn’t have to lift a finger to organise anything. It was nice to see her less stressed and we had more time to spend together and just chill. On the other, it’s nigh-impossible to escape that social programming that as a man you need to be financially providing. I found that a nagging source of ongoing stress. It made me question a few things about my own attitudes.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 12:13 AM
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If you’re so certain about that, why are you posting here?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 12:06 AM
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The previous generation at least felt like they were building a better tomorrow. You can put up with a lot of you think your kids aren’t going to live good lives thanks to your sacrifice. The current generation simply don’t see a better tomorrow.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 12:03 AM
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There’s been a bit of flexing in the last couple of days. Techbros and crypto-nerds feeling a little insecure all of a sudden?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 11:58 PM
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In 2020, I spent about 6 months as a househusband due to losing my job as a result of Covid. My missus loved it. Tbh, the only reason we wouldn’t do it full time is that I don’t like the idea of being 100% financially dependent on my wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 11:56 PM
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In this context it means “has no identifiable personality or needs of her own”.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 06:54 PM
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If it's a social context, it's not epigenetic. I mean - I get what you're going for (social mores depend on environment), but it's kind of an inane question.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 10:04 AM
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Everyone's standards are influenced by societal ideas of beauty, and they always have been. For example, the 14th century European ideal female body was thin-shouldered, extremely pale with a huge forehead and an absolute dump-truck of an ass. I can't see many people calling that an "ideal" today.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 09:55 AM
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WOMEN HAVE THE FREEDOM TO DATE WHO THEY WANT AND THEY'RE DOING IT WRONG!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 09:49 AM
1

Dude - I've done Evolutionary Biology 101. I'm aware. We are in no immediate danger of going extinct, absent some kind of truly catastrophic event. If that happens, the fanciful bullshit that only crypto-nerds get excited about will hardly matter. IIRC, parthogenesis doesn't happen naturally in mammals; and can't be induced without some pretty heavy biochemical tinkering. I can see some pretty significant pushback to seeing if we can do that to humans.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 08:07 AM
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I feel like you're confusing the needs and wants of a few rich, tech-obsessed weirdoes with the rest of us.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 06:54 AM
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I think this is closer to the truth. I know a few single chicks in their 40s. What’s on offer for them isn’t great. When they get dates, the dudes are weird or flaky as hell.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 12:34 AM
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Nature /= Good. I fully expect, and encourage a wider range of relationship styles; but let’s not make appeals to what is “natural” as the arbiter of what’s good.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 12:30 AM
1

parthenogenesis Wat? Why? It’s not like donor sperm is hard to get.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 12:27 AM
1

Have a cry.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 10:56 AM
1

Okay - prove that they are stopping you from rejecting your gender role. And I mean proof - not vague assertion.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 08:26 AM
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There's zero proof or evidence feminism is doing anything to free men of their gender roles. What the actual fuck are you talking about? Feminists are literally the only ones fighting for this.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 07:16 AM
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I think it's cool that you've taken your view on what feminism is from a bunch o' angry online dudes, and haven't bothered to engage with any...y'know...feminist thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 06:16 AM
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feminism does nothing but shits on men Bruh.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 04:39 AM
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Dear God there's some gibberish in here. ​ Bluepillers are the biggest proponents of family-destroying policies like abortion, no-fault divorce, welfare, sexual freedom, and the end to traditional gender roles. You're not putting that toothpaste back in the tube, my man. We will not be Retvn-ing. The meaning of family and relations between the sexes needs to adapt. ​ Marriages were not about love, they were agreements between families to extend their influence and wealth, serving as a vehicle of…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 01:04 AM
1

Feminism is when mean to boys.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 10:18 PM
1

TLDR.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 11:47 AM
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Is this post just a way to brag about your crypto? Cause it sure sounds like a way of bragging about your crypto.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 11:45 AM
1

They say women are half of people?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 11:41 AM
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FR you need to delete TikTok and stop listening to these ding dongs. Just talk to some actual people ffs.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 10:39 AM
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Because…women are half of people…? I mean - if you wanna frame existence as a ruthless dog-eat-dog battle of domination, I guess keeping women down makes sense; but that’s a really fucking miserable world to live in.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 07:50 AM
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Question for Red Pill: How do you explain women who don’t date “bad men” They usually do it by jamming their fingers in their ears and yelling "LALALA I CAN'T HEAR YOU!!"
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 06:35 AM
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I find that most dudes who have large sums of money in gold or crypto or memestocks will never shut the fuck up about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 06:31 AM
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This question doesn't take into account the variation across feminist thought. What a libfem thinks about masculinity vs what a radfew things are going to be diametrically opposed. You can only answer this in the most general terms possible; but I'll have a crack. Feminists consider that the hegemonic masculinity that currently exists is harmful to women (and men, before you terps get your panties in a bunch); and needs to be redefined along a line that allows women to take an equal and active r…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 04:54 AM
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“Genetic Programming” Fucking spare me…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 12:12 AM
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The whole idea of men becoming less manly is so fucking dumb it hurts. Every generation is convinced that the kids are turning into weak, unmanly little puss-boys, and it’s to be the death of us all. FFS Cicero was bitching about the kids being weaklings and unworthy of their forebears. If you seriously entertain this idea, you are a chump, and I laugh at you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 12:10 AM
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Much as I hate to offer individual solutions for systemic problems, it's all I've got for now. If you're getting no play on dating apps, they're not for you. You're gonna have to find another way to meet chicks. The problems are bigger than dating apps. The dating landscape has changed - that toothpaste isn't going back in the tube.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 10:54 AM
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If anything it's made me less sympathetic to guys getting no bitches. Seriously - the guys I meet IRL getting no play I feel genuine compassion for. It's not 'cause they're bad dudes - they're mostly just shy and a little awkward, and don't have a huge number of opportunities to socialise with women where the stakes aren't super high. The guys I see here on the other hand need to come with warning labels.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 10:51 AM
0

There’s a range; but it’s basically the same vibe for both men and women: Longing, loneliness, missed connections, disappointment and heartbreak; but mostly boredom; interspersed with the odd moment of excitement. Almost no one is getting laid as well/frequently as they’d like. Despite it all, people occasionally meet and make a lasting connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 05:19 AM
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No. What they mean is “I don’t want a guy who’s gonna be working minimum wage part time and living in a sharehouse with sheets for curtains when he’s 30”. Tbh, me and most of my male friends have spouses that outearn them. It’s never been a big deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 06:42 AM
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I get out plenty. I only come here for self harm.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 11:05 PM
2

If women are aren't as good at or as interested in systemizing, then that would explain why so many women on PPD misunderstand and/or dismiss empirical research on human sexual behavior, cognition, and preferences. You're taking an article (an old one at that) by a researcher specialising in autism, and using it to say "bitches be irrational". That's a big ol' leap in logic there champ.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 09:58 PM
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I think I've met about two women ever who were that pressed about wanting a guy who makes more money than them. Both of them came from very rich families. I've met a couple of women who've explicitly said they want a guy who makes around what they make, because they're into travel and they want a guy who can afford to come with them. What I've mostly seen is women who just want a dude with a job and some level of ambition beyond gaming and smoking weed.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 09:52 PM
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Men: you won’t find your dream girl: while clubbing Bullhonky. I met my missus the old-fashioned way. Shitfaced in a pub at 1am.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 04:15 AM
3

IQ is trash. In the words of Stephen Hawking “people who care about their IQs are losers”.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 12:30 AM
3

But…there’s gotta be some kind of deep existential aspect to having a cheeky wank…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 04:19 AM
1

Once again, I am begging you no-fappers to be normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 04:18 AM
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Height is an absolute requirement for some women, doesn’t matter at all to some women, and there’s a million in-between. Being short will limit your dating pool; but so will a lot of other things.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 04:12 AM
0

Trading up has always been a thing. There’s a reason that “rich guy runs away with his secretary” is such a meme. It’s just that the chicks are doing it now too.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 04:09 AM
4

Are you okay bro?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 04:06 AM
4

I hate myself and I want to die.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 04:05 AM
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Red pill - women are Machiavellian sex robots who want your precious bodily fluids, but are also too stupid to be trusted with anything. Blue pill - Please, I beg you, be more normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 04:04 AM
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IMO when women say they want men to be traditional, what they actually mean is they wish he’d stop being such a pussy and just ask her on a damn date.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 04:02 AM
2

Some guys have never even touched a boob, why not share yours? If it'll make a dude feel better, I'm happy to let him touch my boob. It's probably a little harder and hairier than most straight guys are hoping for; but I'm a big-hearted fellah.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 07:52 AM
1

Go on…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 08:35 PM
4

Dude - I live in one of those godless communist countries with a (kinda) functional welfare state and socialised medicine. I cheerfully see my money redistributed. If anything, I’d like to see a little more redistribution.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 06:06 AM
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For the millionth fucking time: SEX AND ROMANCE ARE NOT COMMODITIES THAT CAN BE REDISTRIBUTED. This is the dumbest "by your logic" in the fucking world. I genuinely sympathise with dudes having dating difficulties. It's hard out there. It's really fucking hard if you're not the best-looking or most socially adept dude going round. But...what do you want? Some kind of expansive social program for the compulsory redistribution of women's sexual goodies? Cool. Very cool.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 05:49 AM
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Very few college-educated women see dating guys without degrees as "dating down". College-educated women date college educated guys because that's the guys they are most likely to meet on a day-to-day basis. Regardless; it's hardly unusual for white collar woman to date a blue collar dude. I'm a plumber, my wife's a lawyer. Two of my apprentices are dating students.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 05:43 AM
2

Cool. My counterfactual is pee pee poo poo.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 08:15 PM
5

WTF is this gish-gallop of unsupported bullshit? Citations or GTFO.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 07:07 PM
5

Well - not being terminally online definitely helps. Having friendships with women confirms that they’re just people and not sex robots. Being married to a woman who is better looking and has a better paid and more prestigious career than me for 20 years. Presumably she’s gonna hYpErGaMy me at some point. Ditto a number of my friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 07:02 PM
2

It just a corruption of TRP.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 10:04 AM
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Most terps are hardened misogynists - so I don't think they're the dudes to ask about men being friends with women. If you're an even vaguely functional dude, having friendships with women is...pretty normal. If anyone comments about "orbiters", you can safely disregard their opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 09:26 AM
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The horrifying idea that it does in fact take two to tango.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 08:03 AM
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None. Just like there are no alphas. This meme needs to be taken out behind the shed and given one behind the ear.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 05:02 AM
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Inseam <2" or you're a fucking coward. Let's see them pins, boys.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 04:57 AM
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The "Alpha Male" as characterised by internet dickheads is total bullshit. The guys I know who are great with women are all funny, outgoing and very good at making people feel like the most important person in the room; but most of all they adore the company of women. The guys I know who are natural leaders are great consensus-builders and are good at getting people who might not get along so well to work together. They're not in the business of bossing people. The guys I know who everyone respe…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 04:55 AM
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I’d go with “unlucky”. The majority of romantically unsuccessful dudes aren’t any more sexist than cohort; it’s only a select few weirdoes who turn getting no bitches into an identity.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 04:56 AM
2

Divine light severed. You are a bag of organs driven around by neurotransmitters.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 04:45 AM
2

Women with 40-50 previous partners are vanishingly rare. Calm down.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 12:32 AM
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TF are you talking about? I’ve been with my wife for 20 years. We don’t have kids and never wanted them. Is our love defective?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 12:30 AM
2

Yeah. I did a unit of Psych in my Bachelors. It was enough to convince me that a lot of it is kinda made-up bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 12:26 AM
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I’m not even sure it’s that deep. I think it’s usually people trying to put a fig leaf of science over their ingrained sexism and racism.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 12:19 AM
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Because it’s not science. No testable hypotheses. Just vibes.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 09:38 PM
2

Eco-psych is pseudoscientific drivel. It’s astrology wearing a lab coat. If we’re going to talk eco-psych, imma talk star-signs. They’re equally valid.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 08:02 PM
1

Know thyself Calm down nerd.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 02:14 AM
0

I thought you were gonna say something like “we need to take care of our physical health, we need to constantly learn and grow, form meaningful connections” That would have been a good take. Instead we got...whatever the fuck this is.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 11:48 PM
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You're doing the worst possible job of selling emotional self-improvement, my man. This take sucks and I hate it. You're just buying into the (extremely dumb) idea that every chick is out there furiously banging Chad, settling for Billy Beta when she hits the wall and then hating him. Maybe you should develop your personality and emotional maturity because it's a good thing to do in itself. Not everything in your life should revolve around whether it will get you laid. That's a horrible, stunted…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 11:47 PM
0

Don't drag me into this trash take.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 11:41 PM
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Yeah. Cause before Tinder good looking, socially adept men never got laid. I came up in the 90s. It was every bit the current hellscape with different haircuts and bigger pants.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 11:36 PM
0

You can have all the preferences you want; but you have to make peace with the fact that every preference you have narrows your dating pool. If the two circles in the Venn Diagram of who you find attractive and who finds you attractive don't cross over, you'll end up single. I mean - that's not the worst possible outcome going; but if you want a partner, something will have to give. FWIW, I'm talking generally here. You may have a partner you're very happy with for all I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 11:32 PM
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The amount of vitriol directed at women who dare say that they have preferences was off putting to say the least. These dudes are the corollary to the "men are trash/the bar is in hell" crowd. They're just scarier.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 11:30 PM
1

People still read honest-to-goodness dead tree magazines?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 10:44 PM
1

Go with God my dude; but prepare to be disappointed.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 12:06 AM
1

Your sex life is gonna be a struggle if you can’t get over the idea your girl had a life before you turned up my man.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 06:42 PM
1

Yes. Remarkably chaste, I’d say. Why are you so horrified by the idea?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 06:31 PM
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Do they tho? Terp dudes are the most feels-over-reals people you’ll ever meet.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 01:23 AM
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I’d stay away from women dude. They want your precious bodily essences.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 12:58 AM
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Rates of casual sex were higher for GenX my man. The idea of a woman having a lot of partners doesn’t phase me in and of itself. It’s more the fact that the women I know with high body counts have BPD vibes, and I don’t want that in my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 12:41 AM
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I think threesomes for many men don't turn out to be as great as they are in porn Can confirm
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 12:23 AM
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Stats mean nothing. It’s all about the feels.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 12:20 AM
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Dude - I’m certain I could throw any number of stats supporting my view at you; and you’d still go with yr feels.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 12:19 AM
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I’d say 20+ is getting up there; but it’s kinda contextual. If I found out a woman my age (mid 40s) had a body count that high, it wouldn’t phase me. If I was 18, I’d start asking questions.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 12:13 AM
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CDC says different my man. Median for women 25-44 is 4.2.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 12:11 AM
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No. Very few women have high body counts. Y’all terps need to stop assuming every chick is banging a shitload of dudes, because they just aren’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 09:21 PM
2

You still won’t have a girlfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 03:09 AM
1

Ok. What then?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 03:02 AM
1

Dunno why you’re interested in women. They sound awful
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 02:33 AM
1

A vanishingly small number maybe. For almost all use cases, being a bit taller won’t turn you from invisible to pussy-magnet.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 02:09 AM
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I care plenty mate; but sulking about being doomed to sexlessness because you’re 5’9”, and refusing to countenance any solution that doesn’t involve other people doing something different doesn’t put me in a mind to be that sympathetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 02:07 AM
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Dudes acting like if they were six inches taller they’d be drowning in pussy.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 01:49 AM
-3

Dude - we’re not trying to tell you height doesn’t matter; we’re trying to tell you that getting hung up and resentful about it isn’t going to help you, and that your personality is going to have to do the heavy lifting.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 01:49 AM
-1

Sure are a lotta dudes tripping over their dicks to explain why their version is the correct one, rather than just asking chicks for their opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 01:24 AM
1

The one thing I do know about anal is that if not everyone involved is bang up for it, you’re gonna have a bad time
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 06:24 PM
1

A vasectomy should be treated as permanent. Reversals are about 70% effective. Not great odds.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 10:48 AM
12

Hooboy. No.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 10:46 AM
0

This is unusually low effort, even for this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 10:45 AM
18

So many guys here are just tripping over their dicks trynna make their lives worse. I don’t get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 12:06 PM
1

We all die alone, my man.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 11:48 AM
14

Yeah - almost as if kids raised in environments with more money tend to do better. Who’d a thunk it?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 11:44 AM
30

“I have invented a woman to get mad at, and imma get mad at her”. Dude - fuckin chill out.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 11:43 AM
7

Dude - a woman can’t “take your children away”. I know a bunch of divorced dads. They share custody with their exes. It’s fine. Chill out and stop listening to the mgtow pearl-clutching.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 02:41 AM
9

That study says a lotta things. But sadly for my ageing brethren, it’s not saying chicks are thirty for our saggy, greying asses. I thought the “both men and women reach up the desirability ladder” bit was interesting. Seems like hYpErGaMy isn’t just a chick thing. I was also struck by how flat the “desirability curve” was for men by age vs women - ie, a 20yo chick is a lot more desirable than a 50yo chick; but a 50yo dude is only slightly more desirable than a 20yo dude. My hypothesis is that a…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 02:35 AM
1

Why are you mad at the women in your head dude?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 12:13 PM
1

And are these women in the room with us now?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 12:09 PM
1

Traditionally being obvious and pursuing a man got women fuckzoned and/or rejected. Faint hearts never won fair ladies gentlemen. Dynamics are changing. A lotta women are gonna have to get some more skin in the game as far as risking the humiliation of rejection. As far as the fuckzoned thing - I only kinda buy it. I mean, if you're being super thirsty and throwing yourself pussy-first at the object of your affections - yeah, it's a very real possibility. But if it's not pure horniness attractin…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 07:21 AM
0

You weren't led on mate; you just read something into a situation that wasn't there and got all butthurt when it didn't eventuate.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 07:12 AM
15

Are you okay dude?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 11:33 AM
9

Why do you think if someone gets older and comes to terms with themselves and so lower their standards that they won’t truly love their partner? These terps really place themselves in a double bind. According to them, women in their 20s will fuck anyone; and in their 30s, they decide they won't fuck anyone. Equally, they think that women in their 20s only fuck Chad, and in their 30s they will only fuck Billy Beta. Regardless, they're not getting laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 11:32 AM
1

she has high IQ Oh no...
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 11:24 AM
8

Only people who live online assume all women anyone even vaguely normal lives online. FTFY.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 11:23 AM
2

Because I'm adorable. For real tho - I see dudes I work with pissing about for days texting some girl. These are the guys getting zero pussy. The guys actually getting dates (etc) have the stones to ask a chick out. Preferably quickly.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 11:21 AM
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i also don’t see how being tall and muscular would look threatening unless you carry yourself that way.. Exactly. I'm 6'1", big, bearded and tattooed. But I have a winning smile and I laugh a lot , so I have rarely been described as threatening. Dafuq is OP up to?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 08:26 AM
1

Don’t worry Kanye. The gold diggers are not coming for you. If your wife has a job, you will almost certainly not be paying alimony. Alimony happens when the partner in question has no means of supporting themselves. Usually because they’ve been a stay at home parent for an extended period.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 05:49 AM
12

Dudes on here acting like being nice to your girl is some unbearable act of emotional labour…😑
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 10:13 PM
2

So the feelings of the party who doesn’t want to end the relationship are more important? Both parties in a relationship need to want the relationship to continue. As soon as one person wants out, it’s over. That can be awful and painful; but it is what it is. I’ve been with my wife for 20 years. If she suddenly announced that she wanted a divorce, I’d (obviously) be shattered. But I can’t make her want to continue the marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 10:02 PM
1

Dude - alimony is pretty rare nowadays. You terps gotta get over that shit. Child support is another matter but that’s for the kid, not the mum. Regardless - if women are leaving marriages for financial benefit, they’re taking a shithouse deal. Women are much more likely to end up in poverty, or even just financially diminished, after divorce than men are.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 09:08 PM
2

Well…it usually is a good thing. Where a relationship breaks down, it’s because it’s not working for someone. If you’re not that someone, it’s rough. If there’s kids involved, the relationship breakdown isn’t the problem - it’s the parents being unable to put their bickering aside for the kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 09:03 PM
1

Why is that a problem?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 11:11 AM
3

Why is a relationship ending such a terrible thing? A lotta relationships just reach a conclusion. That's fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 11:10 AM
1

Hell no. The robe and sandals are hella drip.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 10:26 PM
1

I choose to read it as “don’t be a creep”.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 10:26 PM
1

No. We mostly become fatter, greyer and wrinklier. I’m mid 40s now. I looked waaay better in my 20s. That’s okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 08:00 AM
2

Not impossible. Just extremely unlikely. In the event a woman sexually assaults a guy, he’s likely to have been very intoxicated.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 06:54 AM
1

Disagreeing with you is not bad faith. Sulking when someone calls you out for making bullshit “trust me bro” statements on the other hand… And it’s not a matter of writing off men’s issues. I’m a volunteer mental health advocate for men in my industry. I’m very cognisant of the issues. Being paranoid about vanishingly uncommon bullshit isn’t one of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 05:24 AM
3

Yes. All the modern women. It’s exactly what the paper says 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 04:56 AM
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The paper isn’t bad - but then IFS are hardly likely to bring attention to a paper that says “marriage is for losers and you should go bang it out”
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 04:45 AM
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Yeah - I find the idea that more than a tiny number of people are involved in “hook up culture” for more than very short periods pretty laughable.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 01:44 AM
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Lol. Being a decent human being hasn’t got me sex; so the obvious conclusion is that being a raging cunt will
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 01:23 AM
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Interesting; but I’d say the Institute of Family studies might be prone to bias - given that they are explicitly pro-marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 01:20 AM
2

I was clueless, introverted and weird with nerdy hobbies when I was younger. I went to an all-boys school and was extremely uncomfortable around women. It took quite some getting over.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 01:15 AM
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TLDR: Be a good person. Have boundaries. Don’t be a pushover.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 01:12 AM
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Yeah - cause one is a justifiable risk assessment. The other is paranoia. If we’re going to put the absolute pointy end of sexual harassment (ie being raped and murdered) on the table; it’s depressingly common, to the point that it’s only reported if it’s a pretty white girl. How many Jill Meaghers or Euridyce Dixons (two high profile cases of women violently raped and murdered in my fucking suburb in the last couple of years) are there for every Johnny Depp? And let’s not put being raped and mu…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 12:36 AM
2

I’d ask that you take a charitable reading of my comment and read “overpowered” in a broad sense - to include intoxication etc
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 09:32 PM
7

predatory women …again - a thing that happens all the time 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 09:29 PM
7

False accusations have literally happened in the real world Yes. But the clowns around here act like it’s an ever-present threat to their wellbeing, and they have a laundry list of people in their lives that’s is happened to - more than once in many cases. Yeah - false accusations happen; and sometimes they have serious consequences. But they’re orders of magnitude less common.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 09:22 PM
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Much as I dislike the saying, there’s some MFs here who really gotta touch grass.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 08:04 PM
5

There’s a difference between your imagination and the real world dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 08:01 PM
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My brother in Christ - I implore you to think about what you said for a second. How many women have you met with stories of being creeped on, groped or worse? Or even just had to deal with a dude who wouldn’t take no for an answer. Now think how many men you know have had their lives “ruined” by a woman accusing them of such behaviour.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 07:56 PM
1

Oh yeah. The real # MeToo.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 05:30 PM
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You’ll have to find a more sympathetic example than Depp.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 05:29 PM
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No. Obviously these women have chosen to have had a less-that-functional developmental relationship with their fathers.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 12:25 PM
1

The point just passed over your head at 80,000ft doing Mach 3.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 12:06 PM
0

I...wasn't disagreeing...
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 12:04 PM
1

You should hide in your bedroom. You'll never have to experience the real world be sent to jail by the woke stasi which definitely exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 11:58 AM
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And the world is lousy with such scenarios. I saw a good two dozen fat slow midget men being sexually assaulted by 6'8" women just this afternoon on the way home from work. Crazy ass world...
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 11:51 AM
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Sure buddy. Things which happen every single day. I know they do. It happened to my friend's uncle's brother. Back in the real world...
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 11:49 AM
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What do you think can be taken away from this What I take away is a lotta dudes shaking their tiny fists and screaming "IT'S NOT FAAAAAAIIIIRRRR!!!"
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 11:34 AM
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When you can get overpowered and r*ped or otherwise violated by a woman who won't take no for an answer, you get to talk about "gender can't be taken out of it" with the same amount of skin in the game. If a chick is creeping me out, I can just leave - I'm a 6'1" dude. What's she gonna do about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 11:31 AM
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Give me a fucking break dude. Women get trained how to treat young men from when they're tiny. "Be nice", "Don't upset them", "They're trying their best, why won't you give him a chance?" We're the problem dumbass. We are the ones who need to learn to hear "no" without either getting aggressive or turning it into our identity. Look - I'm sorry that women have been dismissive of, or even unpleasant to you. That sucks, but tant pis, man.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 11:27 AM
1

Lol no. I thought was sex supposed to be mutually pleasurable. Apparently it’s something you do to try and alleviate your hangups about the size of your hog.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 04:05 AM
1

Australian Whitey McWhiteperson.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/22 09:48 PM
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It’s not an unreasonable assumption to make bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 11:08 PM
1

Kinda my point dude - it’s not a man/woman thing, it’s a cultural thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 11:06 PM
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Dude - did you read my comment? Just talk to women. It doesn’t need to be a big fucken production. You don’t need to be attracted to them. You’re just talking to another human. The sooner you see women as people rather than sex vending machines, the better off you’ll be.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 12:23 PM
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Only the good ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 12:10 PM
0

If you’re only worried about appearance, just stay on tinder.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 12:09 PM
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Not to be too glib - but shouldn’t you be checking if you like them?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 11:57 AM
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What really helps men date is getting out there and talking to women - casually, as friends, flirting, whatever. Doesn't matter. Talk. To. Chicks. 99% of the bloviating from men on this forum is basically down to being scared of girls. Women are just people. You're not going to vibe with most of them. Some of them will be fine to just have a one-and-done chat with. Some will be kinda cool. There's so much catastrophising about how you're going to laughed at/branded as a creep/arrested by the wok…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 10:56 AM
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What would you rate yourself 1/10? Most women would say 10. Whoa there hoss. Any kinda evidence there? "Trust me, bro" or "Vibes" doesn't count.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 10:47 AM
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Dude - I don't think either sex get the harder time of it. I think it depends purely on your culture and background. I never got any pressure to have a girlfriend - any "pressure" I was feeling was purely from within. I think this was a pretty common experience for most of the people I know. My friend from a pretty traditional Coptic Christian family definitely got a heap of pressure to find a nice Coptic boy. What she found was a nice white Aussie boy - and had to spend over a year sneaking aro…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 09:24 AM
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Lol. I love the paranoia about this stuff. I promise you are not going to jail for making a joke that doesn’t land.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 05:58 AM
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You mean I’ll have to develop an authentic sense of self to be a more attractive version of me? Stop talking sense you maniac!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 09:02 PM
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Sure buddy. Go get yourself a rep as being evil and violent. The chicks will absolutely flock to you 🙄 I have met a lot of guys you’d probably describe as evil and violent (in real life. Not through media). Their lives are a fuckin mess. The only ones getting laid are full-blown sociopaths; and the women they are sleeping with are usually some flavour of damaged. Their only point of connection is their mutual train-wreckedness. This is not - I repeat - not a model to imitate.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 08:56 PM
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I think most of them would like a man, but only if he’s a net gain to their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 08:10 PM
3

What you’re doing is widening the range of people we can interact with; while removing any risk or stakes to that interaction - flattening and debasing it to valuelessness. People become interchangeable units of stimulus. Online relationships are wide as an ocean and deep as a puddle. The human soul cries out for nourishment, and you feed it poison.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 03:02 AM
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I will not live in the pod. I will not eat the bug. I will not have my interpersonal relationships mediated and commodified by a bunch of Silicon Valley lizards who think a glorified Zoom call is a reasonable substitute for human interaction. I mean, I’m glad you like your job and all; but you are undoubtedly making the world a worse place.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 02:44 AM
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There’s no one type. Most of the ones I know are in LTRs, they just haven’t bothered getting married. Getting married seems fun and exciting in your 20s, but after a certain point, a lot of people just don’t want the stress and expense. Legally there’s not a huge difference between de jure and de facto marriages in my country. The single chicks are single for a whole range of reasons; but it’s mostly because they have pretty full lives and don’t really see any huge advantage in adding a dude to …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 02:35 AM
4

Massive hog.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 02:24 AM
4

Text chat is not socialising and AIM created a generational cluster of socially maladroit freaks. Everyone I knew with an AIM login wasn’t even remotely normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 02:08 AM
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The tools don’t matter if it’s all gonna be owned by Silicon Valley lizard people.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 01:19 AM
7

Why you gotta project your weird horniness onto the rest of us dude?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 01:16 AM
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Hell no. Half the reason we’re all becoming angry social retards is that most of our interpersonal relationships are mediated through the internet. Greater Internet Fuckwad theory holds. Just because we get to put on a VR headset and get even more of our data stolen by Zuck et al doesn’t mean we’re gonna get better at this.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 12:14 AM
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Of course it’s a spectrum. Everything is. But you wouldn’t know it talking to terps. And pretty much all terp caricatures of men are based on unprocessed high school jealousy and self-loathing. Im not saying y’all need therapy; but - for real - it wouldn’t hurt.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/22 11:14 PM
1

It makes me hoot with laughter that you guys genuinely think that if you’re not one, then you’re the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/22 11:02 PM
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Every dude I know IRL who genuinely slays with women tends to actually like women and enjoys their company. I guess that’s just coincidence…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/22 08:47 PM
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Sure you are buddy. Good for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/22 03:16 PM
2

You can choose to interpret people actions in any number of ways. You guys seemed determined to interpret womens’ actions assuming that they are maliciously trying to make your pee pee sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/22 09:39 AM
1

Control how? If you’re 5’5”, you’re just gonna have to work with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/22 09:36 AM
2

I think it’s just a matter of not taking each other for granted; something that can be very easy to do in a long term relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/22 12:34 AM
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It's just a matter of greater diagnosis. We have a tendency to pathologise everything. I've got friends my age (mid 40s) who would probably be told that they're "on the spectrum" now; who were just "kinda weird" back in the 90s. Likewise, I would probably be diagnosed ADD and given a prescription for Adderall if I was in high-school now. As it was back then, I was "bright, but doesn't apply himself to his studies."
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/22 12:06 AM
2

What types of exercises should men vs women focus on? Probably the ones they enjoy enough to do regularly. I'm dealing with an ankle injury atm, so rather than running (which I love), I have to spend time on the eliptical at the gym (which I fucken hate). If I thought gym-based cardio was the only option, I don't think I'd bother. At least I've still got enough ankle mobility to keep lifting.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/22 11:59 PM
1

Bluepillers think guys should just marry promiscous women, out up with their shit, and worship women in their 30s while shaming men who like women in their early 20s, calling them a pedo. Sure bud. That's what we're about. What we're mostly about is pointing out that terp shit is misogynist bullhonky; and mostly a good way to make yourself poorer and/or miserable. We're pretty keen on the "could you stop treating women like malfunctioning sex vending machines, and start treating them like people…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/22 11:53 PM
1

I would think that most who want a more "even" distribution of sex would like that provided by sex workers paid for by the government, not forcing random women into relationships with them. How do you feel about that? Pretty sure Marx wasn't advocating that the state provide everything; nor did he suggest that your every whim be catered for. You're not gonna "by your logic" this one mate. ​ Ok whatever, you're not answering the question. Is it a service or a commodity, It's a service. and is it …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/22 01:35 AM
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didnt bother making the guy wrap up, My brother in Christ - that sounds like his fuck up to me. As a dude, you’ve lost control of the outcome the second you nut in a woman. Crying about how she “tricked” you cuts no fucken ice. Don’t want kids? Tarp up, get a vasectomy, or take your chances. Those are your options. You want certainty? As the Christian Right love to remind us, abstinence is 100% effective. Or is that the wrong kind of “personal responsibility”.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 02:32 AM
1

I mean the specifics. I’ve heard everything from “protruding gut and skinny arms” to “any dude with >10% body fat”.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 01:59 AM
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These were not healthy, cheerful people till some chick in high school turned them down for a date. Getting rejected sucks, but people get rejected all the time. They don’t turn it into their identity.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 01:10 AM
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This article takes the proposition “men need to be more emotionally intelligent” and argues that “being agreeable won’t get you laid” They’re not the same thing, dumbass.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 08:28 PM
4

The only consistency in dadbod is that noone can agree on what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 08:24 PM
4

One chick on Reddit said a thing two years ago. Your argument is invalid.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 08:21 PM
0

Mate - if you want your world to suck, have at it. Not to get too hippy, but I’m pretty firmly of the belief that we attract situations that confirm our beliefs. If you wanna believe that every relationship is transactional, everything is zero sum, and there’s no room for transcendence , I guess you can sit in that and feel smug about seeing the ones and zeroes; but I’d fucking top myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 12:43 PM
1

Lay down and rot? Bah! If you accept that you're never going to get laid (which I don't buy, but whatever...) doesn't that open up vistas of wonder? So many men spend their energies in furious effort chasing women who will never want themback! You are liberated! Pursue what is meaningful! You are a free spirit! The great works of literature, philosophy and art of medieval Europe were almost entirely crafted by celibate men. Just sayin'...
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 12:20 PM
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"Focus on yourself" is very good advice for the Forever Alone crowd. Most of those folks are suffering far more from a lack of self-esteem and depression than from not having a girlfriend. If they take the focus off how unfuckable they are for a while, be a bit kinder to themselves, and focus on stuff they like and can do, they might feel happy enough to (a) go outside for a minute and (b) not convince themselves they're going to fail at everything - particularly connecting with women at some le…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 12:13 PM
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There was casual sex in the 90's. We were just much more judicious about tarping up. We had "if it's not on, it's not on" drilled into us from the get-go.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 12:06 PM
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force all average to slightly above average men to date old fat unattractive women No one is holding you at gunpoint and forcing you date women you're not attracted to dude. Fucking calm down.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 12:01 PM
0

You wanna view everything as a transaction? Prepare to be transacted with. If you wanna live in a world that's so desperately fucking grim, that's on you homie. It's not my experience, and it's not what I see around me.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 11:51 AM
1

Some of those groups have legitimate grievances. More often it’s dudes whining about having to pay child support.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 04:52 AM
1

And I’m Australian. Take out the Roe reference, and you’re still left with a lotta single mums who’ve had kids assuming the support of the father that suddenly disappears or is reduced. Is she - or more importantly the child - to be punished?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 04:50 AM
2

My man never heard of Instagram filters or facetune either.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 02:47 AM
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Gee. I can’t imagine why women get pissed off when weird fuckin internet dorks “rate” them. It’s not dehumanising at all… Also - lol @ at you dorks saying “I won’t date anyone under a 6”, and then posting huge screeds about womens’ unrealistic standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 02:10 AM
1

So you are fine with people being forced to provide goods and services to people they don't want, No. I either want excessive wealth expropriated by the government and redistributed; or even better, the means of production to be owned by the workers who use it to produce things. but you draw the line at fucking, because it is somehow "not a commodity." Yup. It’s not a product. It’s not a service - unless you’re talking sex work, which is another can of worms. It’s a relationship between people -…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 01:13 AM
1

Wat? No! Where the hell did I say that?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 12:59 AM
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Some are, some aren’t and there’s a billion in-between. The problem is when we demand that they all are at the threat of social sanction (or worse).
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 12:38 AM
2

Lemme tell ya about population health vs personal health… Let’s be clear - I am not going in to bat for the terp weirdoes who want compulsory paternity testing because they’re certain everyone is being cucked; so I’ll thank you not to lump me in with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 12:33 AM
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I’m being flippant man. I just really liked Fury Road. I promise I’m not one of the dudes who demands we take the tiddies out of your anime. I just reckon there’s more interesting stories out there than a lot of what’s being told; and it’s a shame we don’t tell ‘em. Like - we can have a female protagonist who’s a huge badass like Furiosa, but is also cool and interesting, and a part of an exceptionally well-told story. Then we get cardboard-cutout girlboss shite like WW, or crap rehashes like Gh…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 12:29 AM
1

It takes two to tango alright - you need a sperm to fertilise an egg; but that’s not where my qualms actually lie. Thing about thought experiments is that they’re great till they meet reality. Who takes the swabs? Who keeps the data? How can you guarantee that’s all the data will ever be used for? What about user error? What about tester error? What about the accuracy of the testing? How do you deal with lost data? Corrupted data? Incomplete data? Flat-out wrong data? We already have a way to ne…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 12:19 AM
2

The terp conception of an Alpha Male is a photocopy of a photocopy of a caricature. Actually admirable, charismatic men aren’t preening clowns like Andrew Tate whose status is built on punching down on people weaker than them.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 12:09 AM
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I’d argue against Fury Road - simply because I think it’s damn near a perfect movie. Please don’t mention it in the company of Wonder Woman or the Ghostbusters reboot.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 12:04 AM
0

Well…kinda. I’ve got no qualms because I’ve never cheated; and I certainly don’t plan to. And here’s the Kardashian-sized “but”: Certain things need to be taken on faith in a relationship. You can’t know that your partner will never cheat on you. You can only do your best to give them no reason to do so. As far as your argument that this lie detector testing is equivalent to paternity testing - No it isn’t. That’s an asinine comparison. There’s a kid involved now. Hurt feelings over cheating are…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 12:00 AM
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Sex and romance isn’t a market. I mean - you can understand it as one; but it’s not a great analogy, because you end up stretching the metaphor to breaking point at a certain stage.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 11:10 PM
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As I said - sex isn’t a commodity; ergo it can’t be redistributed. This is the major problem with talking about sex and dating as a “market”. I want a more materially equal society. That doesn’t necessitate me requiring people to fuck anyone they don’t want to.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 11:06 PM
0

You say that, but you’d make such a pretty lady.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 10:13 PM
1

Thanks to to Roe decision…not so much anymore. Anyway - what’s the attitude when some dude stays for the birth, promises support and bounces? Or even the much more common scenario of marital breakdown? You guys really do build up this “welfare queen” idea, doncha.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 09:03 PM
0

When me and my antifa comrades take over, you’re gonna have to be trans.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 08:45 PM
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It’d probably have something to do with the fact that it’s goals are explicitly anti-feminist.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 08:35 PM
0

Welp. I can’t argue with that logic…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 08:33 PM
1

My brother in Christ - I beg you to realise that sex is not a commodity.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 08:21 PM
1

RP is not about misogyny - ITS ABOUT WHAT FUCKING WHORES THOSE BITCHES ARE!!1!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 09:33 AM
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Samuels has a real chubby for women being submissive, and seems to have a real problem with single mums - like it’s inevitably their fault for being single. There’s only one acceptable model of woman to him, and it’s some kinda hybrid tradwife/working mother. Kinda fucked up IMO. As for me hating masculine men - bruh. I’m so masc I’d get you pregnant.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 08:42 AM
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Parts of it are anti men. Parts of it don’t give a shit. Parts of it are kinda neutral. Parts of it are pretty man-friendly if you’re not an ass. There’s a range of thought. But why does it have to be about teh men?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 08:27 AM
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Man - the spectre of being canceled really haunts your dreams, doesn’t it. Meanwhile - has anyone suffered more than a mild inconvenience as a result of being canceled? Most of them seem to make fucken bank from credulous rubes by whining about cancel culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 07:38 AM
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Lolololololololol! Anyway…back in the real world.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 07:22 AM
2

Man - some dudes really go out of their way to fuck their chances up…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 05:31 AM
0

There’s the option - and hear me out - of not watching porn Works for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 05:25 AM
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Schrodinger’s promiscuity.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 05:22 AM
1

Wowee. I thought it got bonkers when we dipped into eugenics… …nek minnit…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 05:21 AM
2

That wasn’t even a reference to NoFap. But since you’re here - NoFap is incredibly weird. Not honking off will not - I repeat - not give you superpowers. There are other ways to gain control of your life that don’t involve white-knuckling your way through life without any kind of sexual release.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 05:08 AM
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So - when terp shit is sensible it’s terp shit. When someone points out that it’s misogynistic, dumb or wrong-headed, it’s a troll. Oooh! Schrodinger’s terp!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 05:04 AM
0

Yeah. Including marginalised people. A notably regressive measure.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 05:02 AM
2

No, motherfucker. You gotta answer for the shit opinions of your fellows. Especially if they have huge followings. Like - Andrea Dworkin has some fucking stupid-ass takes, but I’m not going to deny she’s a feminist because she makes us look kinda crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 04:03 AM
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Oh yeah. My mistake. Andrew Tate, Fresh & Fit, Kevin Samuels, et al are actually just stand up dudes who are just concerned about men; and show nothing but respect for women. If you think about it, they’re the real feminists.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 03:44 AM
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Don’t give me this No True Scotsman bullshit about terps. It’s utterly lousy with misogyny. And no. It’s not “just telling the truth”. It’s trying to make women subordinate to men, and/or reducing them to objects. It’s dumb and misguided at best, and flat out hateful at worst.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 03:29 AM
2

…and yet we’re lonelier than ever. I guess people are just wrong?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 03:05 AM
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That’s the thing - their descriptions of what is happening isn’t always wrong or bad, it’s just that their explanations why are usually bonkers.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 03:03 AM
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If dudes just dip into the absolute surface level Terp stuff, they’re probably going to hear some vaguely useful stuff. Improve yourself. Have some self-respect. Get some exercise. Develop boundaries and enforce them. If they bail before they hit the rampant misogyny, they’ll have been reasonably well-served. Of course, there’s any number of other places they could have heard the same advice. It’s kinda like Jordan Peterson. If you clean up your room, that’s a good thing. If you start rotting yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 02:45 AM
2

I’ll lay money on the barrelhead that creepy little bald fuck in the sunglasses is making more than any cam girl you care to name.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 02:32 AM
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I dunno if it’s RP dudes putting pussy on a pedestal (though plenty of them do). It’s more the fact that they treat women like they’re robot-daemon-aliens with hyper-agency over their own emotions and actions, while at the same time thinking they’re essentially children. Watching the cognitive dissonance play out is breathtaking at times.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 02:28 AM
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Helen of Troy has joined the chat
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 02:25 AM
1

No. Terps simp harder for manosphere creators than anyone does for e-girls posting hole on OF.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 02:22 AM
1

Cool. But it’s not technology causing the atomisation.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 02:15 AM
2

Wat.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 02:09 AM
2

Sexual bf + emotional bf poly? Or, y’know, friend. I mean, it’s never been tried before, so who knows if it’ll work 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 01:12 AM
1

Race is a social construct that we desperately need to leave behind.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 11:54 PM
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What I’m suggesting is that we’re crawling towards a new model that’s a synthesis of the “old” model and the “free-love” model. I hope it’s one that makes us less lonely, and helps us realise that the Venn diagram of “sex” and “intimacy” isn’t a circle.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 11:32 PM
1

Nooooo!!! You’re doing it wrong! You have to dump him and find a Chad who earns more money. Which your lady-brain will absolutely force you to do. It’s science.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 11:23 PM
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I take issue with the idea that sexlessness is a new and concerning thing. Two data points don’t make a trend. If anything, I’d suggest we’re returning to a historical mean. The sexual revolution, and the following 50 years was the west’s (I would argue necessary) “hoe phase”; where we as a society worked out that rootless promiscuity is a really poor substitute for intimacy. Well - for most people anyway. Unfortunately, that realisation has run headlong into our current impossibly lonely age of…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 11:14 PM
4

Yes. Your refusal to touch they pp will be the end of us all.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 10:56 PM
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What’s your big takeaway here? Women only wanna bang Chad? Or is it just that Women are not distributing their sexual goodies evenly, and it’s to be the death of us all? So - the sexually top-tier dudes are getting a bigger slice of the pie; and as we all know this has never happened before. Seems to me that rising sexlessness just reflects the overall increasing sense of loneliness, dislocation and atomisation that we’re all experiencing under capitalism.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 10:43 PM
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Yeah - but the empire took decades, centuries even, to collapse. Your view would very much depend on where you were and what you were doing. If you were in Britain, it’d be very hard to say when the empire ended for you. Was it 4th century? 5th? 6th?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 10:22 PM
1

Do what you gotta do homie. Just don’t point that thing at me. It looks like it might go off.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 09:29 PM
1

They also had the good pingers.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 09:17 PM
1

What is it with terminally online dudes ascribing deep moral and spiritual significance to not cumming?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 09:01 PM
1

The fuss about “Birthing people” and pronouns is just the birthing pangs of social and linguistic change. A few people are making hay by getting big mad; but it’s gonna change - probably in ways no one really expects.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 09:00 PM
4

Just have a wank and a nap dude. I promise you’ll feel better.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 08:53 PM
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Venting is the solution. It’s really not that big of a deal to listen to my missus unload about her day for 15 minutes while I make dinner.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 08:43 PM
2

MBTI requires numerous data about your personality, preferences, values, behavior and lifestyle Garbage in, garbage out my dude. MBTI is just a series of non-specific prompts to make you think about how you interact with others. Rather like getting your chart done…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 08:40 PM
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Lol no. They care so hard. There wouldn’t be a huge cottage industry of dudes getting big mad at chicks with blue hair otherwise. Or 12 year old boys parroting Tate for that matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 08:29 PM
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Acknowledging that your partner has emotional needs = emotional tampon. Cool…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 08:24 PM
1

Go ahead. Explain why.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 06:02 PM
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Jesus Christ. By that definition, every woman I know would take emotional intelligence over empathy any fucken day of the week. More than anything women want to be understood by their partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 12:39 PM
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Maybe it’s confirmation bias, but I see a lot more dudes throwing histrionic tantrums than women. I see dudes having screaming matches at work all the fucken time that could be sorted out easily if they knew how to recognise what they were actually annoyed about. Women aren’t the ones punching on in pub car parks over some imagined slight. Your girlfriend upbraiding you for doing something thoughtless, or bursting into tears in the ensuing argument don’t compete.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 12:36 PM
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Again, I think you’re working on a different definition of empathy to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 12:28 PM
2

Women aren’t perfect at this shit dude. They’re just better at it on average.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 12:17 PM
2

Again, chicken or egg. Financial stress breaks up more relationships than anything else. Dudes in insecure or marginal employment (thus working less hours) are more likely to be in financial stress. This shit is complicated, yo. You can’t just handwave at a number and call it proof.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 12:13 PM
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Wat? Didn’t I just say Emotional intelligence = understanding your own emotions + the emotions of others. Are you working on a different definition to me?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 12:10 PM
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Well yeah they can be kinda fun - but as a tool of self-analysis they’re no more valuable than Astrology.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 12:07 PM
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Chicken or egg? Are dudes working more because being married makes them work harder; or are naturally harder-working guys more likely to get married. Also - married dudes are more likely to have kids. Nothing quite motivates you go go for that promotion quite like having to support a couple of crotch-goblins.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 11:54 AM
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True - the other part is empathy. It's also important to understand what your partner is feeling. Part of that is understanding those feelings in yourself. So the two can't really be teased apart.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 11:51 AM
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Yeah - that's because emotionally intelligent people aren't terrified of their own emotions and don't feel the need to bottle them up so no-one else can see them.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 11:49 AM
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The two tend to go hand in hand. But an emotionally intelligent dude knows what he's feeling and can explain it, and knows when he needs time to process an emotion and can articulate that. An emotionally dumb guy will just puke unprocessed emotions out as hissy fits, hysterical episodes, sulking and outbursts of tears. This is very difficult to deal with.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 11:44 AM
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Right symptoms, wrong diagnosis, my man. Average dudes are losing interest in working hard because it's become painfully obvious that hard work is decoupled from rewards. For your average young guy without a heap of parental wealth or connections, it's very hard to envisage a future where they can hope to gather the markers of what used to be a decent life. It's bleak, man. No argument. But shifting that anger about your material conditions onto women (who are every bit as boned as you are) does…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 11:40 AM
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You keep pulling up these sites. None of them are supporting your argument. ...and these two are about how to pull a chick for an ONS. ...and they're written by men, for men. Bro. Let it go.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 11:22 AM
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This is kinda waffly - but you've got a point buried in there. Women like Emotionally Intelligent guys with good social skills. Too many dudes here take this to mean "guys who vomit their unprocessed emotions all over you like its The Exorcist", and on that basis call bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 11:17 AM
3

MBTI personality, A thing which is definitely not made up. Nosiree. Totally based on the best available science and testable hypotheses, and totally not pulled out of two women's asses in the 40's; based on Jung who absolutely did not work totally on "stuff I think" and vibes.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 11:14 AM
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That's a fair interpretation too. I'll buy that. I'm a leftist, so I'm certainly not unfamiliar with the idea of people longing for Revolution. I'm also a keen student of history; so I know that revolutions tend to involve vast, senseless, indiscriminate human suffering. Sometimes it happens to the people you'd like to see suffer; but more often it just rains on the just and the unjust alike. I'm genuinely concerned with this nihilistic attitude a lot of people here have - they can't conceive of…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 11:04 AM
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I'm kinda failing to see how that refutes what I've said. They're talking about the kinds of relationships they want (casual, FWB, serious, whatever). There's no mention about the want in a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 10:56 AM
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Dude - I’m not dredging through your impenetrable links to make your half-baked point for you. Explain it yourself, or gtfo.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 08:37 AM
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Probably go to Home Depot, get a couple of dozen 2x4s, build a bridge and get over it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 07:44 AM
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In your case it’ll be a septic puncture wound from treading on your spiked codpiece in the dark that gets you.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 07:38 AM
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It’s pretty fucken implicit dude. Or is subtext something that doesn’t exist? Why would old mate here be horny for societal collapse if it was going to make his life worse? (And I absolutely fucken guarantee that it will. ) Is he, perhaps, so hopelessly nihilistic that he just wants to see the world burn provided the people he’s poopy at suffer along with him?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 07:35 AM
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…and that will be better how? Or even different, for that matter. It’s mostly dudes in charge now.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 07:31 AM
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What point? You’re not making any sense. If the hookup link was full of sites saying “I’m a woman and I look for the exact same thing in a hookup as I do in a partner”, you’d have a point. But it doesn’t, and you don’t. What am I missing here? Explain it to me - please.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 07:30 AM
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From every iota of evidence we have, collapses are messy, chaotic, happen unevenly, and mostly fuck up poor people the most. No one here will be the iron-handed warlord of Nu-Earth. We’ll most likely die ignominious deaths from gastro-intestinal diseases while the wealthy hide behind high walls and armed guards. Y’know - just like the Romans.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 04:51 AM
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All of you dudes horny for societal collapse are making the (erroneous) assumption that you’ll be the ones in charge afterwards. Lol. Lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 03:53 AM
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I used to go to gay-friendly clubs back in the day because they had better music; but also because I’d feel fucking gorgeous after being hit on all night. …kind of a dick move, with the benefit of hindsight, but it felt real nice at the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 02:15 AM
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MY BROTHER IN CHRIST - JUST BE NORMAL. THIS ISNT SOME GREAT MYSTERY. I went to an all-boys school. I did a STEM degree. I am a very ordinary-looking dude. I was not good at talking to women for a long time. I just kept doing it till I wasn’t a nervous, bumbling wreck in front of chicks. Once I could engage with women like they were normal people and not arcane sex-puzzles to be solved, things got way better. There isn’t an easy way to do this. You just need to suck at it for a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 02:09 AM
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I would steer clear of having any contact with women dude. They sound awful.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 01:56 AM
0

Who said I’m not strength training? A solid strength routine is an essential part of a distance runners program. I mean - my deadlift ain’t what it was six months ago, but I’m not quite a noodle-armed weenie just yet. And I used to work in endocrine research (albeit many moons ago). I’m not totally clueless on this stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 12:07 AM
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No.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 09:42 AM
1

Are we speaking the same language? Wtf are you on about?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 09:15 AM
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i would assume you need to start exercising vigorously and regularly, eating better, losing weight and possibly getting your T levels sorted out. I'm running my first ultramarathon in 10 weeks. I can't exercise a whole lot harder, eat much better, or get too much lighter without risking injury mate. As for my T levels? I'm good. Couldn't give you a number, but I'm not suffering any symptoms of low T. The hand-wringing about T levels is almost entirely from dudes who are insecure about their masc…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 06:20 AM
2

There were a few fringe second-wave feminists in the 70s advocating for female supremacy; but go right ahead and show me a current day feminist academic advocating for female supremacy. I’ll wait. And no. Angry chicks on Twitter don’t count.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 05:32 AM
1

Depends what you mean by Red Pilled. For the women you're talking about, if you just mean jaded and defensive, then yeah. For the men you're talking about, if you mean they use terp magical thinking as cope for their romantic failures (real or perceived), then yeah.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 04:13 AM
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Lol. Lmao. Spend more than two seconds on any terp forum, and you'll find incel/migtow/misogynist shit fairly dripping off the walls. Virtually every comment on current society is how we're degenerate and fallen; and that we need to return to some kind of former model (which didn't really exist).
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 04:07 AM
2

Good God this is a bad take. "Some men are mean to fat girls, so women should feel free to body-shame men". No, dumbass. No-one should be body-shaming anyone. Your body is your own, and you don't owe it to anyone to look a certain way, or to have a particular set of attributes. That's what fucken body acceptance is suppose to be about.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 04:02 AM
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The same viewpoint about what? My wife? Well - presumably if the marriage ended, it’d probably put a damper on my attitude towards her. Younger women? The thought of dating a woman in her 20s at my age fills me with existential dread. I would absolutely be looking for someone my age.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 12:11 AM
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That’s…cryptic
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 12:07 AM
3

Not gonna argue that there aren’t a lot of shitty dudes out there. Or even that good dudes don’t do shitty things sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 12:04 AM
4

I have a passing grip on reality; so no.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 11:55 PM
1

Wat? Do you think that you match with someone on OLD and immediately have sex with them without exchanging a word?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 11:37 PM
7

Relationships are good. Would recommend.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 11:33 PM
5

Who said they “lost their beauty”. They’re just not young anymore. Your tastes change.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 09:20 PM
20

Not really. I’m surrounded by married dudes around my age who still seem absolutely delighted by their wives, wrinkles and all.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 09:08 PM
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This is a simple question with a complicated answer. I'll do my best to be brief. Background - I'm now in my mid 40s, and I've been with my wife for over 20 years. My sexuality is very different to what it was 20 years ago. What I'm attracted to, and how I express that attraction are unrecognisable between the two - they might as well be from different planets. But that's true of pretty much every aspect of my character. For guys my age - and older - who remain in love with their partners, it's …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 11:45 AM
1

…and somehow you’re entitled to some woman’s time because…? …and what the fuck does getting treatment for mental health issues have to do with this?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 09:36 AM
0

Entitled how? Yeah - no shit you’re going to have to be interesting and entertaining. That’s what you do on dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 08:51 AM
2

Oh noes! You might have to make some sort of effort to get pussy! The temerity of these chicks!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 06:00 AM
1

Yep. Nailed it. I had a dude a work bitching about not getting any matches on Tinder/Bumble. I asked to look at his profile, and it was the worst fuckin' thing I've ever seen. The full tragedy - blurry photos, photos with fish, every photo you can actually tell what he looks like and he's wearing sunglasses. And this is a good-looking young dude who can hold a decent conversation. Contrast that with another guy I used to work with who absolutely killed on Tinder. He was passably handsome, but pr…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 06:00 AM
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IIRC less than 5% of divorces see the inside of a courtroom. If you're in court, a bunch of things have gone wrong. They're not representative of the vast majority of divorces, let alone breakups. Most divorces are just the dull filing of paperwork. The real administrative nightmare is divvying up the assets of a single household into two.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 05:38 AM
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If you’re with anyone for a while, a breakup is going to be an administrative ordeal regardless. I’ve been with my missus for 20 years. Getting divorce papers signed would be one of the less complicated issues in splitting.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 09:55 PM
0

It’d be a crock of shit if it were true…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 10:55 PM
1

The stats understander has logged on.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 10:53 PM
2

No last time I checked, no.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 07:42 PM
1

I can blow smoke up your ass every day for the rest of your life mate. You’ll still hate yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 12:45 PM
2

I didn't deserve any praise for it. And yet when a woman is strong and independent we praise her for it Do we tho? Like - really think for a sec about the women you actually interact with, and not just Beyoncé numbers. It’s a sadder and dumber existence out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 12:40 PM
1

Because I’m in Covid isolation and I’m climbing the walls.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 08:55 AM
3

Hardened misogyny, usually.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 08:54 AM
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Lots. I think it’s a mistake to pay much attention to self help. It’s pretty much all the same stuff. The authors typically don’t follow their own advice (JBP), or are a particular type of psycho with a psychology that doesn’t really apply to others very well (Wilnick and Goggins). Aurelius is okay, but it’s a book of him congratulating himself on what a chill guy he is. Rogan can be entertaining, but he’s dumb as a post. I think it’s worth finding people who do admirable things consistently and…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 07:06 AM
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Relax dude. I’m saying no one should be a prick. We don’t have to be attracted to everyone, but we can at least be respectful.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 06:27 AM
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I reckon 90% of the fucking around at college is done by 10% of the people. Everyone else is paired up, or looking to get paired up. It’s way more conservative than dudes around here think.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 05:02 AM
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I do. Don’t be a prick. Simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 01:05 AM
2

Andrew Tate appeals to young men because he provides a power fantasy of being rich and surrounded by hot chicks. It's pure self-indulgent bullshit - but it's very appealing if you're a young, insecure, socially awkward guy who doesn't have a lot going on in his life, but can't really figure out a way to improve things. ​ In the meanwhile find more positive male role models There are not a lot left but I personally recommend Jocko Willnick, David Goggins -Natural Hypertrophy, Joe rogan -Marcus Au…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 11:19 PM
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The problem with this question is that’s it’s framed in a way that doesn’t reflect reality. There’s this implicit idea in your framing of this question that women are either chaste virgins or flaming whores. Then you fail to draw a line between them. Or appreciate that there are shades of grey. Then you fail to provide a timeframe. A woman might be pretty sexually conservative, have a bit of a hoe phase for a couple of months, sleep with a couple of guys, then go back to being conservative. Is s…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 11:05 PM
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Helo ppl. I am sex thrpy smart persn. I am definitely not scam. Call me pls.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 10:56 PM
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Nothing to do with your look. Women do have preferences, just not visual ones. Sure pal. That’s why Hollywood’s leading men are all ham-faced, balding 50-somethings with skinny arms and protruding guts. I mean…it’s kinda refreshing to see a terp saying something other than “girls only wanna fuck Chad”.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 10:10 PM
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Ben Shapiro?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 07:20 PM
2

I do so love having “the truth” of my gender explained to me by a woman. It’s not patronising at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 01:12 PM
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Honestly it's getting harder and harder to tell.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 12:51 PM
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Yeah. Strangely enough my intent in doing the vacuuming and cooking the dinner tonight wasn't to make my missus mad horny.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 12:49 PM
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RP are for this generation of young male who lacks a father figure to teach them things... like common sense. If terps were just teaching common sense, I'd applaud them for it. Some of the advice isn't bad - improve yourself, be physically active, have interests, work out your boundaries and stick to them. But that's not all they're teaching. The shit about "female nature" is absolutely bonkers. It's derranged gender-astrology masquerading as science. Also why the harsh language like "bro" and "…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 12:48 PM
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Dudes' opinions on here of what women want just keep getting more and more unhinged...
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 12:39 PM
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I think you are mixing things up between PUA, Terps, and RP. All turds from the same cesspit, my man. It's part of the filtering processes to learn about the dating scene and even how to process any facts an information you learn in life. You test it out (hypothesis testing) and if it doesn't work, then you know it's false. There's nothing inherently RP about this. I wish terps wouldn't lay claim to common sense like it's some deep, dark well of forbidden knowledge. I think that's a shared exper…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 12:32 PM
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Stop whining? There would be no forum if that rule was followed. Touche. Look dude - if you pay attention to every dumb girlboss-ass talking point that gets farted onto social media, you'll get a very jaundiced view of women. I promise you - almost all of them are very normal. Some of them are even quite nice. They just get frustrated by sub-par behavior. Kinda like a person.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 12:25 PM
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I'm thinking specifically around the terp ideas of dealing with approach anxiety. It takes mad nards for an inexperienced guy to just go and hit on some chick he's attracted to. Terps invented a whole suite of PUA bullshit, canned lines and assorted fuckery to deal with the very real problem of "what do I say?" Worse, they've invented an insane psuedoscience of how women be. If she rejects you, it's because of something in her programming; not because she just wasn't that interested. It's a cope…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 12:20 PM
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I can't help but agree. Barring the stories above of dudes doing fucked up things (spitting? WTF dude?), I can't help but think that women just aren't real well socialised to deal with romantic rejection. I mean - it's not like every dude deals with it all that well either, but I can't help but feel there's something of a pattern at play.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 12:11 PM
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Dude - you should do those things because it's part of being a functional human being. The bar is a baseline. You don't get a girlfriend as a participation trophy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 11:58 AM
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For a lady I have a lovely beard. And penis. Look - I'm not hating on these dudes. I was a real fuckin' piece of work in my late teens/early 20s. I took a couple of years to get my shit together. But I still had to do it - and I didn't deserve any praise for it. It was just part of growing up.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 11:52 AM
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Dude - this post is in such purple prose I'm not 100% sure what you're saying; but I'll bite anyway. Women expect dudes to be able to manage their own shit - clean their house, wash their clothes, groom themselves, remember relatives' birthdays, keep their appointments, etc. There's a lot of dudes - particularly young dudes - who suck at this stuff. Part of that is on their upbringing (girls get this stuff drilled into them), but a lot of guys don't do themselves any favours either. There are wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 11:31 AM
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You're unfamiliar with pastry chefs, I see. Some of the most hard-knuckled, fucked-up, swearing-fighting-and-fucking motherfuckers I met in commercial kitchens were pastry chefs. And they produced the most elegant, dainty, downright girly cakes and desserts you'll ever see.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 11:11 AM
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No. I'm sure they do what they can to please their partners - but only in the ways that they think are "appropriate". It's kinda like that asinine "Steak and a Blowjob Day" meme from a few years back. Now - it's not like there's anything wrong with steaks or BJs (au contraire...); but it's kinda patronising to assume the only way to please a dude is with something so...boilerplate.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 11:06 AM
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high mediatic firepower The what now? Anyway - I'm an ordinary looking guy. If I were single again, I wouldn't be hitting on the hottest-looking MILF at the school pickup - I'd be shot down hard. Imma stay in my lane.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 10:44 AM
3

Because getting the working wrong will just make your life worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 10:26 AM
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It’s more that terps think we don’t think it’s important.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 07:10 AM
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There are a lot of dudes on this sub whose lives would improve drastically if they were occasionally told to “Calm Down” by a stern-voiced woman. 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 06:01 AM
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What is with the chicks on here being so horrified by the idea that a dude might like a brownie in a box, or a cute little note? Y’all need to stop policing dudes’ masculinity.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 05:48 AM
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I’m 6’1”, 90kg, hairy-chested, bearded and tattooed. I lift at least three days a week. I work as a plumber. Two of my biggest hobbies are hand-tool woodworking and blacksmithing. I can fix a car, castrate a sheep and fell a tree with an axe. There is meat in my freezer that I killed myself. I also occasionally like to sit on a picnic blanket and eat a cupcake with my missus. I contain multitudes.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 05:37 AM
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Yeah. They’re also waaaaay less concerned than you are about whether you’re performing masculinity “right” homie. Eating a pink cupcake on a picnic blanket in the park won’t make your dick drop off. You might even enjoy it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 05:25 AM
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The vast majority of women are pretty normal. I’ve met the odd one here and there and haven’t been stabbed or poisoned even once.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 05:05 AM
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I’m bluepill, but the terps have it right about looks being important. Doubly so if you’re on OLD. They’re disastrously wrong about pretty much everything else. Even when they draw the right conclusion, it’s for the wrong reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 05:02 AM
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Masculinity is a prison, my man.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 04:57 AM
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Speak for yourself motherfucker. My missus made a picnic basket on our fourth date that was so good I damn near proposed on the spot.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 04:56 AM
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Hey - your beardy metal head boyfriend might love a picnic. Sincerely - another beardy metalhead.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 04:53 AM
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Well…I assume I proposed nicely, because after she stopped freaking out she said yes. And yes, I do still like hanging out with her. She’s my favourite person.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 04:38 AM
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We were at a big group dinner in a pub and she was a friend-of-a-friend. She sat next to me and just started talking to me. One thing led to another and we ended up making out in the parking lot. I was going overseas for a few months a couple of weeks after the dinner. I thought she seemed cool, but I figured now wasn’t the time. She called me and said “this probably isn’t the greatest idea - but do you wanna get a coffee?” So we hung out while I was in town, stayed in touch while I was OS, and …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 02:47 AM
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It may be a cultural thing too. I’m Australian - over here the guys still do more of the approaching, but it’s hardly unusual for a woman to hit on a guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 02:39 AM
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And I’m here to laugh at terps who think they’ve got it all figured out, but still get no bitches.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 02:37 AM
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Looks matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 02:34 AM
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W…why would someone do that when a simple “no thank you” would suffice?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 02:33 AM
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My missus approached me. I guess it worked, because we’ve been together for 20 years…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 02:30 AM
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Sometimes yeah; but often no. Try asking a fat girl about some of the shit people have said to her.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 11:23 PM
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No. Because terp shit is a) wrong; and b) predicated on the idea that women are basically robots responding to some sort of programming. There’s no room for different circumstances or preferences.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 10:15 PM
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The problem is almost never the standard. It’s the dehumanisation of the people who don’t meet the standard.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 10:09 PM
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You really think it can only be one or the other, don’t you. For the love of God, step away from the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 12:20 PM
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This definitely happened. No question. It is definitely not made up.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 06:29 AM
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Just because you’re an introvert, it doesn’t mean you’re screwed. What it does mean is that you’re going to have to get out of your comfort zone and talk to some women. That doesn’t mean walking up to them and saying “sex pls”.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 03:41 AM
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That’s making the very big assumption that you can afford jaw surgery. Or the end result will actually be that much of an improvement. You’re probably less of a wretched bridge troll than you think you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 02:23 AM
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Ok. What’s your point?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 02:17 AM
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“You shouldn’t worry about what you can’t change” is better expressed as “Work with what you have”. Getting hung up on your height, or your hair or your skin or your jawline or your wrists isn’t going to help.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 01:54 AM
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Dude - what? The grocery store et al thing is a terrible analogy. You’re dealing with other human beings here. You can’t just keep blundering up and asking them like you’re trying to brute force a password. You need some kind of rapport. This is why cold approaches don’t work unless you’re uncommonly good looking (and even then…)
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 01:48 AM
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No young chick needs advice from my old ass. Go get ‘em, tiger.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 01:41 AM
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Please. For the love of God. Go your own way. Just STFU afterwards. It will make everyone happier.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 09:28 AM
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Even doing meaningful things don't necessarily give satisfaction. Not always, I guess - particularly in the short term. However, they're a shitload more likely to give satisfaction than toiling your life away in pursuit of material rewards you can't (or won't) share.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 09:22 AM
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God this take makes me laugh. Ending simping would cut off the income of a few Onlyfans creators and that's about it. Women aren't going to suddenly turn into submissive tradwives because some egirl isn't posting hole anymore. But I do agree insofar as there are a lot of dudes who could really use a sense of purpose beyond being incredibly thirsty.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 09:16 AM
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For the love of all that's holy, don't view the dudes on this sub as more than an outlier.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 09:09 AM
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Okay. Let's assume you're right - what higher purpose should the average dude be aiming for? I never see you terps come up with anything but "make money". It always ends with you in a big house with a fancy car, lonely as fuck. Your alternative is so hopelessly bleak, it's no fucking wonder you think dudes would rather off themselves that live a sexless existence. There's never talk of making sublime art, or delving into sciences that could improve the lives of your fellow people, or serving you…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 09:08 AM
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No. Only tiddy. Tiddy only thing make do stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 09:00 AM
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Cool theory. Were the porn addicts gonna invent cold fusion?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 08:58 AM
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It is not "poor self-esteem" when it is an accurate assessment of ones worth that makes you sad. It's just reality. For all the talk of what traditionally masculine stoics you terps are, you sure are terrible at Stoicism.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 03:34 AM
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Dude - this is what people mean when they say “relationships take work”. It’s honestly not that tough to do the odd thoughtful thing for your partner. It should pretty much be a habit.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 02:54 AM
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Lol. ONS are not a good place to explore your sexuality. Look - everyone wants to feel desired, but being all cut up because you haven’t had an ONS is pure FOMO. If you’re living your life in a haze of sadness because you’re not receiving constant affirmation from women, it speaks to pathologically poor self esteem.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 11:45 PM
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Because romance is fun! A lot of dudes on here seem to think that romance has to be involve elaborate gestures or spending heaps of money. No motherfucker. You’ve got it all wrong. At the core of it, a romantic gesture is just a thoughtful gesture that makes the object of your affections feel like they are the most important thing in the world to you - even if fleetingly. Seeing your partner delighted is the reward.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 11:29 PM
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Do not get to, or do not want to? Seriously - a couple of ONS is all it takes to reveal to most guys that they’re not particularly pleasurable or fulfilling.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 11:24 PM
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Dudes on this sub sure do spend a lot of time inventing reasons to be mad at the women in their head. FWB relationships are almost always short term and unstable. They suit people in a specific time and place. Any change in circumstances or needs and they have to be “upgraded” or ended. It’s not some weird power play.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 11:21 PM
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Just because you’re the most divorced man alive, it doesn’t mean the rest of us have to be too.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 03:20 PM
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Because for every hot chick, there's a dude who's sick of her shit. Just because someone's hot, it doesn't mean that they're a good fit for you. Do you want a partner, or a homosocial trophy?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 11:02 AM
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I don't know any SAHDs (who the fuck can afford a full-time SAH parent anymore?) but I do know quite a few guys who've taken on the role of trailing spouse. It's usually done because the wife has a better paying job, a more reliable income, or has better prospects in the future. These dudes take a step back in their careers to be the partner who does more of the heavy lifting around child and home care - so ensuring the kid gets to and from daycare on time, gets cared for when sick, dinners gets…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 10:57 AM
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Manhood isn't some immutable fact. It's pure social construction. There is no "classic manhood". It's a contrivance. I look at how radically different the men of my father's generation are to mine, and how radically different the men of my nephew's generation will be to mine, and I am filled with hope. I'm tall, bearded, athletic, covered in tattoos and work in a stereotypically "manly" trade job. I will also tell you masculinity is a prison, and encourage you to be your authentic self so fuckin…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 10:49 AM
1

Oh. Right. I forgot that AF/BB is an immutable law of nature. 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 04:55 AM
0

And yet, we still pair up and fall in love. WHAT IS THIS LUNACY!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 04:51 AM
2

I have a four-tine grass-fed beef ribeye in my fridge at home. I could pull that sucker out tonight and cut it into four very large steaks. I could have high-end beef on my grill every night this week. Or I could save it for this weekend and have friends over for roast beef, expensive wine in cheap glasses, and a lot of laughs. Guess which is more appealing.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 04:46 AM
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I wouldn’t be living in a nice house in a nice suburb if I’d had to do it alone. Anyway - sharing things is cool.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 04:38 AM
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Dude - I dunno how things work in your part of the world - but there’s just not an assumption of splitting things down the middle in the event of a relationship breakdown these days. Regardless - if you’re basically equal partners financially - splitting equally kinda makes sense. Where there’s kids involved it gets more complicated; but a lot of jurisdictions assume shared custody, and most arrangements are made without going anywhere near a court. People don’t get into relationships due to som…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 04:34 AM
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The average woman is more and more off late on onlyfans, engaging in eprostitution or getting pumped and dumped. Selling your body and hookup culture is becoming increasingly common and is being pushed heavily by the media. Good God man. Step away from the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 04:28 AM
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If you think sex is the sole purpose of being in a relationship, sure. But that’s a pretty stunted and self-absorbed vision of a partnership.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 04:24 AM
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Love, support, companionship. Sensitivity. A sounding-board and counsel. Good sex. Caring. A manly chest to cry on. An equal share of housework. Financial contributions (as distinct from providing. Calm down.) Also - lawn mowing and spider-killing. Some gender roles refuse to die.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 04:11 AM
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Men don’t have much to offer in dating if they’re determined to stick with the old models of manhood. If you recognise that the old provider/protector model is obsolete, and you need to offer something else, you tend to do better.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 03:37 AM
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I’d argue that TBP, or at least my conception of it, is a reaction to the emergence of Red Pill ideas; i.e. women are not actually robots and you don’t need to be a borderline-sociopath to meet chicks.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 03:27 AM
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Every bit as dumb and self-defeating as terp shit, though for slightly different reasons. Like - if you don’t like men, why the fuck would you want to date one?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 02:18 AM
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Dude - the vast majority of people have 10 or fewer lifetime sexual partners. Iirc the average is 5-6. Only a small number of people are having a heap of anonymous sexual encounters. What you see online isn’t borne out by reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 10:06 PM
14

You describe as if there were only two types of men - submissive kpop twink and giga chad. Lol. There are two wolves inside you…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 09:39 PM
14

It’s kinda uncanny how terp “science” falls apart at the slightest inquiry.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 09:35 PM
0

You can have your standards - but you’re gonna find it next to impossible to find a woman who’s mind doesn’t wander. It’s a pretty human thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 09:42 AM
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Why are you so horrified about the idea of your wife/girlfriend having fantasies? For real - why would you want to be the soul outlet of her erotic life? That's a hell of a lot of pressure, IMO. Better hope you measure up all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 06:38 AM
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Sure bud. Never share anything. Be an emotional void. It will totally never backfire.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 06:35 AM
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Anyone who talks about “logic” outside the realm of formal philosophy or coding deserves to be mocked.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 07:31 AM
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All this paranoid shit about women not being attracted to you is terp hooey. Every chick I know who’s tried to slow things down has done so because not only was she attracted to a guy, she genuinely liked him and didn’t want to accidentally fuck things up by getting sexual too early. Either that, or they’d had a couple of relationships start very sexual, then eat shit; so they’re making perfectly reasonable logical Leo to “maybe I oughtta keep it in my pants till I know if I actually like him”. …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 07:29 AM
0

Oh noes! My logic!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 04:41 AM
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Yeah. That’s because it’s a terrible analogy.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 04:07 AM
3

Women aren’t consumer electronics dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 03:48 AM
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Dude - people do weird inconsistent shit to protect their feelings. Men, women, those in-betwixt. Everyone. This is not a revelation. I wish dudes here would stop making it seem like it’s some kind of conspiracy to cuck all the non-Chads; and the only way to beat the conspiracy is to be a horrid cunt to women and to make yourself paranoid and miserable.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 01:55 AM
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Oh yeah. I forgot. They’re also a hive mind, so one woman’s standard is every woman’s standard.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 01:32 AM
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Read my post again. Look - if you don’t wanna wait six months to bang a girl who’s slept with half your friends, go with God. But the attitude here seems to be that once a girl has crossed a line, she must continue to work from that standard forever, or she obviously doesn’t like you and something something betabuxx
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 01:31 AM
4

Ahh yes. I forgot. Women are robots whose decisions are based on a series of immutable logic gates that never change over time.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 11:43 PM
9

What goal are you achieving? Talking yourself out of what might be a good relationship because it’s not faaaaaaiiiirrrr!!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 11:05 PM
21

All the dudes on here throwing their toys out of the cot because a girl made them wait till the third date to fuck when they heard that chick once fucked a guy on a first date.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 10:08 PM
1

Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 11:45 AM
1

You’re doing a bad job of expressing it. It sounds more like “dudes in relationships are successful because the ghastly harridans they’re chained to henpeck them into getting a better job.”
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 12:30 AM
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You’ve got this completely the wrong way around. A stable relationship is usually a better place to build a successful career than on your own. If you can rely on someone to help back you up, and to share the load of just existing, it’s a hell of a lot easier to have the drive to push ahead with a career. Also - people in successful long term relationships that last tend to be good at negotiating compromises and working with other people. Pretty important skills in the workplace.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 10:10 PM
2

Whenever I feel old, saggy and wrinkly, I go to the beach and realise that’s just kinda what bodies look like.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 10:04 PM
1

It’s only true if you’re absolutely determined to make it so because you’re too chickenshit to be vulnerable or honest about your feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 09:24 PM
1

Nope.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 11:12 AM
2

I'm with you dude. I love it when my wife does something nice for me - but the idea of being "served" makes my skin crawl. I do most of the cooking in my house; but that's basically a function of the fact that I start and finish work before my wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 10:45 AM
0

Chivalry is a code for how inbred dudes on horses deal with other inbred dudes on horses. Everything else is vibes.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 02:26 AM
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No. Marriages were created to ensure property got passed down to legitimate heirs. Kids in two-parent households do better, true. Functional two-parent households.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 08:34 PM
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We do, the difference is that we're honest about it and don't get triggered when women point it out. Have you spoken to a women - like, ever?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 07:54 AM
14

I swear to God "gaslighting" means "said something I disagree with" now.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 07:24 AM
1

women have different rules for different men. Why do you terps talk about this like it's some deep truth that's being hidden? I will bet my house to a donut that you treat different women differently, depending on what you want from them.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 07:15 AM
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I’m an advocate for a more concise, but broader definition of family. Not so much nuclear, nor multi-generational; but an extended family system. Where Filial Obligation extends past grandparents and grandchildren. To uncles. Aunts. Cousins, nieces and nephews. In my culture it’s more of a “clan” mentality. I agree, but I'd encourage people to go further and opt for a village mentality - seeing as families tend to be spread across countries now. My family is scattered across a good 2000km of Aus…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 07:07 AM
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I think the idea of “growing old and dying alone” is predicated on the idea of your family being the only people you can rely on. Back when we had big multigenerational families under one roof, that made more sense; but it’s a terrible idea in the nuclear family era. I’m a big advocate of having a looser definition of family, and of having friends of different ages.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 02:42 AM
1

Asian people kinda get the model minority treatment; but at the end of the day, you’re still a
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 02:31 AM
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I disagree. Feminism, anti-racism and anti-colonialism have all kinda made (or forced) people to confront some of their shittiness. We’ve had to expand our empathetic urges. Try reading something written before the 1960s. Some of that shit is fuckin wild.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 01:40 AM
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Lol. People have always been weak, venal, selfish, mean and immature. There’s no “these days” about it. We are not living in a fallen time. If anything, we’re more empathetic, no matter how much capitalism doesn’t want us to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 01:27 AM
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Not really. I think pushing people to not rush into marriages in their early 20s would probably help lower the overall divorce rate; but that’s just fiddling around the edges. But honestly, I think we would do better to just accept that a lot of relationships break down, and that’s really sad, but it’s not necessarily a failure. If a couple are together for 10 years, and most of those are happy years, I don’t see that as a problem..
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 01:19 AM
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Tate is popular because he is selling warmed-over terp shit - to whit - your being a decent person is holding you back. You need to lean into being the most wretched, borderline-sociopathic shithead you can be to succeed. In other words - you are, and must always be the main character. Anyone who says otherwise is wrong and must be crushed. That shit really appeals to young men who feel like they’re missing out.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 11:58 PM
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That’s why I said sociopath. Not psychopath. Regardless - all the guys I know whove been really romantically successful without being super good-looking have all been high-energy, friendly, outgoing, slightly goofy and cheeky. They’re not dark triad in any way. I know some women can’t resist the dark triad bad boy, but most prefer the sweet, funny guy who makes them feel good.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 11:01 PM
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I think we’re kind of in furious agreement here. The attitudes to the other sexes are pretty similar, as you said. My point is that heteropessimism isn’t at 20th century phenomenon, or a product of feminism. The document that Janega cites in the piece goes on to say what a bad deal being a wife was - that you were basically the property of your husband to be a brood mare and worked like a slave. Kinda similar to the line taken by second wave feminists, I’ll grant you. To go along with the materi…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 10:52 PM
3

Oh lord. You don’t need to act like sociopath to make yourself more attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 05:56 PM
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Not exactly. Heteropessimism is nothing new. It predates feminism by a long way. https://going-medieval.com/2022/08/04/on-heteropessimism-and-maternal-expectations/
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 05:18 PM
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Spot on. The whole “whoever cares less wins” thing is so grim.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 02:36 AM
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I disagree with your premise (mostly because I think you can’t pry eroticism away from romance), but I think I get your point. There are a lot of terp dudes who really seem to glorify men as the superior sex, and almost seem to resent the fact that they’re attracted to women. It’s male heteropessimism.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 02:34 AM
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I did. It doesn’t make any sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 01:38 AM
2

Hot women are a dime a dozen. Hot means precisely fuck all if you’ve got nothing in common. A woman you can joyfully share you life with is rare. Just remember, you spend most of your time doing things other than fucking.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 12:58 AM
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Okay. But even if it’s true, I’m still baffled as to how the two are linked.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 09:40 PM
1

Big if true. But - again - what does that have to do with my comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 09:23 PM
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You sure do make a lot of assumptions about what women are into.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 03:37 AM
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Cool. Cool. What does that have to do with my comment?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 02:26 AM
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Lol. Women tend to have jobs these days homie.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 11:24 PM
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You’re sorta comparing apples and oranges. I don’t know if there’s a market of women who’ll pay a “guru” for their dumb book/course/whatever in the same way men will. I mean Female Dating Strategy has a podcast, and I don’t think it’s doing big numbers. For that matter, there’s a billion dating podcasts, and even if they have a decent listener base, they don’t have much cultural cut-through. There’s probably female analogues of the dickheads you listed above, but they wouldn’t identify as a reac…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 09:47 PM
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Why does this come as a shock to anyone? Have they been living under a rock?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 09:31 PM
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Giving compliments and being polite in isolation will not get you laid. You have to be able to hold a conversation, or (even better) flirt. And learning those skills takes either confidence or courage. One of the bigger problems around here is that dudes take exactly the wrong lesson when they see some cocky asshole pulling chicks. They assume he’s successful because he’s an asshole and not because he’s confident enough to try it on without getting discouraged.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 09:28 PM
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These dudes really don’t get the idea of running a household.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 03:30 AM
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Lol. You seen 40 year old dudes recently my man? It’s tough out here for a dude born in the 70s. My shit needs ironing.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 03:26 AM
1

You can never look too slutty for a group shot.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 03:23 AM
1

Tbh dude, your brother sounds like he’s dealing with depression.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 01:12 AM
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Basing human behaviour on a book about wolves that turned out to be so wrong the author disavowed it, and requested that all extant copies be destroyed.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 08:35 PM
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Dudes on this sub don’t actually know any women. Their experience of women is almost entirely mediated through media - so they’re either prizes or puzzles to be solved.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 08:33 PM
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R/lostredditors
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 08:26 PM
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That was…strangely well-articulated and nuanced for this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 08:25 PM
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Other times it’s “guy is nice for attention and the warmth of companionship but this does nothing for me sexually.” You could just say “the guy is my friend”. Cause that’s kinda what a friend is. You weirdoes know that women don’t view their friendship as a booby prize, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 08:22 PM
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It’s a cope. If you call it unrequited love, you’re pining for a love you can never have. If you call it friendzone, it’s something that FUCKING BITCH DID TO YOU COS FEMOIDS ON WANNA FUCK CHAD
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 08:16 PM
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The correct answer. Maybe take people on face value every now and then. Most people don’t have some weird shadowy agenda.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 11:52 AM
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I can change her.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 11:49 AM
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CMV: I like music that sounds like hobos screaming in a basement. My taste in music is flawed. Does that sound dumb? Try: How about “I know my horrible sounding music isn’t gonna be many peoples’ cup of tea, but there always seem to be two dozen weirdoes at every gig I go to, and they’re fun as hell to get drunk with”.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 10:50 AM
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BRB. Gotta check if my wife would rather be a prostitute. Edit: she said “are you high?”
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 10:45 AM
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You're purposely framing it as some awkward defense mechanism. Understanding how you turned a woman off and avoiding that behavior in the future is not a "weird mental model". Well - it mostly is. Getting shot down is tough. The better part of romantic success is having the courage to talk to people and to not take rejection personally. The weird little mind games and pop-psych word salad are almost entirely bullshit. The blue pill version of the advice is vague, lacks in-depth actionable advice…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 09:20 AM
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No. I’m a Social Justice Berserker. I’ll show up naked and frothing at the mouth, screaming “trans rights are human rights”, then burn down your house and steal your cattle.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 09:09 AM
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I can’t have grown up in that different a cultural milieu to you guys - but my mum and dad taught me how to cook, wash my clothes, iron my shirts, clean my house, and generally not live like a fucking slob. Every dude I know can cook at least okay; and they cheerfully share cooking duties with their SOs. It’s nice when a gal tries to impress you by making you something nice - but I’d just as soon try to impress a chick by cooking for her. Like - if she can’t cook at all, I’d think it was a indic…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 02:38 AM
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Dude - it’s tough playing the game on hard mode. But you don’t win if you don’t play. And you definitely don’t win if you assume you’ll always lose.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 02:31 AM
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Yeah. You gotta learn to flirt. But that’s a whole ‘nother skill set; and you don’t wanna tell a dude to run before he can walk. Just learning to talk to women without turning into a gibbering halfwit is a pretty good start.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 02:29 AM
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If the sole purpose of marriage was sex, you might have a point. However…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 02:24 AM
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Every single divorced guy I know who has kids has sorted out some variety of joint custody/child support arrangement with their ex without going to court, and with a minimum of unpleasantness. The whole “divorce rape” happens - but it’s usually some high-conflict dirtbag who decides that financially supporting his kids isn’t necessary once the separation happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 02:20 AM
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Speak for yourself man. I’m not bankrolling some chick because she’s hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 02:15 AM
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Am ageing guy. Can confirm. Was waaay better looking in my 20s. Would like to think I can partially compensate by being slightly less of a cocky, entitled, selfish little shit than I was back then…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 02:12 AM
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My man here really didn’t think this stream of logic through too well…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 02:08 AM
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Side note - why do dudes here keep talking about women cooking for them in the same sentence as sex? Do y’all live on frozen pizza and Door Dash? The fuck is going on out there?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 02:06 AM
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I was replying to another poster. You never said anything about body counts, so I’ll give you the benefit of the doubt. But seriously bro - if you like her and you’re not really that fussed about these two other girls you’re seeing, why not try being exclusive? She’s not like she’s demanding a ring.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 08:32 PM
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True. But in this case one standard makes sense (is careful around sexual intimacy, and wants some kind of minor assurance of exclusivity before moving the relationship forward); and the other doesn’t (is horrified by the idea of calling someone his girlfriend).
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 08:27 PM
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Dunno why you’re single. You seem like you’d be a great boyfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 08:21 PM
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And I’ll assume that you’re one of these dudes who are salty because “bitches only wanna fuck Chad”.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 08:11 PM
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But you’ll refuse to call her your girlfriend until she’s touched your pee-pee; thereby making your relationship contingent on her comprising her standards. Cool, cool.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 12:02 PM
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No. Why would I? One of the biggest problems I see in dudes having trouble finding a girlfriend is taking the attitude that talking to women is this enormously high-stakes thing. They catastrophise about it - building up the consequences of it not going perfectly into a terrifying tale of social humiliation and probable criminal charges. No. You're just talking. Anyway - you might not even like them. It's not red pill advice to tell guys to talk to women. It's red pill to ward yourself from poss…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 11:39 AM
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Advice to OP: Please - for the love of God - just be normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 11:28 AM
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Lemme guess. You're one of these dudes who's obsessive about womens' body counts. The second a woman indicates that - just maybe - she's a bit more choosy than average about who she sleeps with and when, you're in high dudgeon. It's a world of dizzying cognitive dissonance for you terps, isn't it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 11:27 AM
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I seriously don’t get this weasely-ass hesitation to call a chick your girlfriend. It’s not like it obliges you to do much beyond paying her some attention and not sleeping with other people. “Vetting” for six months? WTF? Can this dude not make any decisions?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 02:33 AM
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Of course it’s a big deal. Loneliness and rejection really chafe at the soul. But let’s keep a sense of perspective here. Read it again. Something can make your life suck without it killing you. A horrible boss. An emotionally distant family. A lack of friends. It just shits me that dude around here act like sex is the big, base layer in Maslow's hierarchy of needs, and that they are literally dying from lack of pee-pee touching. What I'm saying is that these terminally online mfs need to touch …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 09:52 PM
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How about neither? Well…yeah. Ideally. I don’t find the argument convincing that being sexless is “not a big deal.” Let people decide for themselves what is a big deal and what isn’t. And don’t mock their concerns by reducing it to “no one touched your pee-pee,” it’s condescending and infantile. Of course it’s a big deal. Loneliness and rejection really chafe at the soul. But let’s keep a sense of perspective here. No matter how much sex you’re not getting, it isn’t gonna kill you. Obsessing abo…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 08:46 PM
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No. I’m saying given the choice, I’d rather be sexless than homeless.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 07:55 AM
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No - by this logic, it would be dumb for a woman to say her getting passed over for a promotion to a less qualified guy is as bad as children starving in Africa.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 07:54 AM
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Imagine telling a homeless person that 99% of people will sleep with a roof over their head one day... Imagine telling a homeless person that no-one touching your pee-pee is just as bad as sleeping rough.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 02:29 AM
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Context matters dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 05:01 PM
2

Just say women. It's an oldie, but a goodie.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 11:26 AM
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I would find it very difficult to respect any woman who goes out of her way to be my inferior. I despise the idea of a marriage as a hierarchy. It frankly makes my skin crawl.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 02:34 AM
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Honestly, the idea doesn't really do it for me. Give me someone with a few more runs on the board and a few less hangups. I'm not saying that can't be a young woman, but it almost certainly isn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 06:05 AM
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I've said it before and I'll say it again - as a mid 40s dude - 20 year olds are nice to look at, but the thought of dating one fills me with existential dread. I'd rather date her mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 05:02 AM
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You okay bro?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 01:03 PM
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I'll be in my mid 30s, so I'll too old for most things Why? Unless you’re talking about kids, I guess. But even that’s not completely off the table. I mean, I’m not saying you can just hand-wave away your circumstances, but there’s no point in just ruling shit out before you’ve even dipped your toe in the water.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 11:42 PM
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If you’re not unusually good looking, cold approaches are a mug’s game. Warm approaches ftw.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 11:33 PM
1

In my experience people can’t judge height for shit. I’m 6’1”. I’ve been called everything from 6’ to 6’6”. My 5’8” friend has been told he’s 6’ numerous times. People can pretty much only categorise height as taller than me, shorter than me, or about my height.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 11:29 PM
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Nah. Men are conditioned not to cry. Women are conditioned to expect that men won’t cry. It’s a social contract. When we break the social contract it’s jarring.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 11:24 PM
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I dunno. I think it’s kinda fucked up to expect your partner to deal with grief in a way that you find convenient and comforting. Grief is the time you’re at your worst. You might need comfort, but I might be in no place to provide it. You might need to talk, but I might be hurting too much to speak. It’s like any other part of a relationship - there’s gotta be some give and take.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 11:21 PM
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I feel seen.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 11:09 PM
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Every preference is superficial my dude. Just recognise that this shit probably isn’t hardwired. Maybe you’ll only ever be attracted to tall ladies, but maybe you’ll meet someone that makes you change your mind. And - please - don’t turn what you like into something to be ashamed of. If you’re not hurting anyone, it’s totally cool.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 12:08 PM
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Just because some whiny internet crybabies are super fucking weird about the other sex doesn’t mean everyone avoiding each other is a good idea. Most of us can have a relationship with the other sex that is at least functional.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 04:05 AM
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I’ve been power-washing a plant deck in the middle of winter here, so the grievance studies production line is looking real good right about now.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 02:50 AM
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Did you miss the memo? The woms only have jobs in the social justice factory.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 02:35 AM
3

You were invisible for the last 15 years? There’s probably a reason for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 02:21 AM
1

Poly/open relationships are more common than they used to be; but they’re not even remotely the norm.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 08:50 PM
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Dude - you have a preference for tall women and you don’t wanna be domme-y. That’s not a fetish - you’ve just got a type. There’s no need to pathologise this - you’re just into what you’re into. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Of course, having specific preferences makes it harder to meet partners; but that doesn’t make it destructive. May you find the imperious 6’ woman of your dreams.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 08:47 PM
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Because mostly every guy on here saying they are most attracted to 20 year old's. I'm mid 40s. 20 year olds are nice to look at, but the thought of dating one fills me with existential dread. Beyond bone-headed porny fantasies, I have zero interest in 20 year old women as partners. Any dude my age who's being even vaguely real with himself probably feels the same way, unless he's deep in the throes of a raging-hot midlife crisis. If I was single again...does that 20 year old have a hot mom aroun…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 11:15 AM
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Dude - it's hard not to get jaded around here. This place is full of dudes who view every mild slight they suffer at the hands of women as evidence of some kind of feminist-deep-state conspiracy against them. If they'd accept the fact that women can any number of reasons for rejecting them - from the perfectly reasonable to the utterly baffling - and it's not some judgement on high from the female hive-mind they'd be a hell of a lot happier. Look - if you get rejected, the reason matters much le…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 11:07 AM
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To be fair, some guys just have terrible profiles, despite being pretty good looking dudes. I had a guy at work whining that he didn't get any matches on the apps. Dude is late-20s, fit and pretty good looking. He's been in relationships before and is giving the apps a go. I asked to look at his profile, and I swear to God it was the worst thing I've ever seen. Blurry photos in sunglasses. Photos with fish. Bathroom selfies. Incorrectly spelled gibberish in the text. If I had a vagina, it would …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 09:24 AM
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Young women can lose interest in a dude for dumb reasons. Immature people do immature shit. This isn't a revelation.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 09:18 AM
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Gaslighting implies a sustained effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 10:49 PM
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No. Following you around and telling you that you’re remembering it wrong and that you actually enjoyed your experiences would be gaslighting. Saying “hey - I’ve got some personal experience that’s at odds with yours. Maybe it was just bad luck” isn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 10:13 PM
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“Why will this hideous crone not accept my horrible penis? This is clearly entitlement!”
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 08:35 PM
8

Disagreeing with something you said isn’t gaslighting.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 08:31 PM
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Look - I don't wanna get all bOtH SiDeS, but everyone deserves some sympathy. Everyone has some kind of body issues. As a dude with a history of body dysmorphia and disordered eating, I can tell you that for a fact. It's tough out there. Not to sound too twee, but I'd just like to see people being a little kinder and more accepting of each other; and I'd like even more for them to be a little kinder and more accepting of themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 11:12 AM
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Idk what Peterson has to do with anything, but I think he is also some kind of psychologist. C'mon dude. Don't play dumb. ​ Genes literally are destiny to a huge extent. No they aren't. There's almost never a "gene for x"; and there's never a gene for a behaviour. Or even a group of genes for a behaviour. At most there's a gene associated with a particular trait in a particular population. And then there's a huge range of variables on gene expression between populations. And that's before we tak…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 11:04 AM
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Evolutionary psychology is pretty much accepted by most real scientists Sure. If you think Jordan Peterson is a "real scientist". Evo psych isn't useless. But it "isn't useless" in the same way tarot cards and astrology aren't useless. I'm no social constructivist. My background is in biochemistry and molecular genetics. Genes influence behaviour. But they're not destiny. The major problem with evo-psych is that you've got an insanely broad scope for interpretation. And this usually means that g…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 10:25 AM
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As a man who's a straight line from shoulder blade to calf despite a moderately impressive deadlift/squat, I have proof to the contrary.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 10:18 AM
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Ideal beauty standards are pretty much impossible to achieve for both genders; unless you're unusually genetically blessed. Let's not play the "who's got it tougher" game. It's dumb as hell and not constructive.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 10:12 AM
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Evo Psych isn't science. You can't test any of the hypotheses in any meaningful way. It's cute stories and vibes.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 10:07 AM
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“Real Evo Psych”. Tell me more about your Myers-Briggs types and other things which are definitely based on sound science and testable hypotheses.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 05:48 AM
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MGTOW would be fine if they'd just shut up an GTOW. Instead, they stand on the sidelines and scream heinous shit at women.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 05:39 AM
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People are intensely fuckin' weird about other people's bodies. Doubly so where celebrities are concerned. But I don't think that a couple of dickheads talking shit on Instagram represents a systemic double standard about mens' and womens' bodies just yet. For now, people are far more keen to pick apart womens' bodies and whatever perceived flaws they might have.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 03:21 AM
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Yes. But to be fair, I was being creepy.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 10:42 PM
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Religious areas have church communities. There’s no need to cold approach because there’s an organic way to meet eligible people.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 08:23 AM
2

JUST TAKE A SHOWER YOU WEIRDO.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 01:09 PM
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but by the time we were 20 most of the girls grew out of their "rebellious phase" and went from gushing over skinny artsy guys to a general preference for men who either look like military contractors (masculine and bearded) or corporate types (sharply dressed and with a designer stubble) most of the girls from my high-school who were heavily into the "alternative look" now date the most casual looking men ever. A lot of y'all really never got over high school, huh. Your priorities change. Your …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 01:13 AM
1

Not sharp pain, just a dull ache and general discomfort. My op went perfectly and there was no infection or complications. This is not an uncommon side effect at all. Post op discomfort can stretch out for quite a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 09:42 PM
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True. I had a vasectomy. It was unpleasant. The three days immediate recovery was nasty, and mynards hurt for a good couple of months afterwards. It was still nowhere near as serious as tubal ligation would have been for my wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 11:12 AM
1

No it isn't, the data on what women find attractive in men is extremely clear and there's no bell curve. The relationship is linear for most traits up to a plateau and small downward correction (too much muscle is a turn off for some women but still better than not enough muscle for example) not even close to a curve. The relationship is linear for most traits up to a plateau and small downward correction (too much muscle is a turn off for some women but still better than not enough muscle for e…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 11:10 AM
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Dude - you’re the one that mentioned dad bod. That’s an issue of nomenclature. I wouldn’t dispute that womens’ tastes tend to a mean (just like mens’), but the bell curve is flatter than you’re suggesting. Also, people tend to not actually be horribly fussy when it comes down to it. If you make a woman feel great around you, she will tend to overlook your skinny arms, receding hairline or slight gut. Just like a dude will tend to overlook a woman’s saggy tits, flat butt or chubby thighs if he li…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 11:20 PM
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You’re talking about a problem of nomenclature. An out of shape guy might think “Dad Bod” means skinny arms and a gut that hangs out. A gal is probably thinking more along the lines of “goes to the gym, but isn’t cut and has a bit of a tummy”. I don’t think they’re expecting Momoa. Same thing with dudes. You think the mums at the suburban school drop off conform to any kind of mommy porn stereotype?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 07:49 PM
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Ben Shapiro?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 07:43 PM
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Dude - no one is good at objective advice. It’s the human condition.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 09:56 AM
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No lie - my short kings got it tougher. But you play the hand you’re dealt.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 06:47 AM
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No lie - my short kings got it tougher. But you play the hand you’re dealt.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 06:46 AM
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Who’d have thought women might have differing or inconsistent tastes? Almost like a person.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 06:43 AM
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If anyone needs a reason to wear a condom…google Multidrug resistant gonorrhoea. You’ll be fine. Then you’ll piss fire. Then you’ll be sterile. Tarp up you clowns.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 08:28 PM
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Dude - I promise I'm no oil painting.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 11:27 AM
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Why is everyone here so fucken shocked to find out that women like tall, in-shape, well-groomed, stylish, outgoing men? And that getting in shape, working on your grooming and working on your social skills tends to make you more attractive to women... ...Like it's some big secret the woms have been hiding? OH GOD OH FUCK WHAT ELSE HAVE THEY BEEN HIDING FROM US!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 11:24 AM
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I mean - sometimes you gotta look out for number one; but a life lived for yourself is a pretty stunted existence.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 11:16 AM
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Dude - if you don’t like women, just do everyone a favour and stay away from them.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 07:31 AM
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No. I’m a Ligma male.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 05:50 AM
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Bitches be trippin’
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 05:42 AM
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It’s just some dickhead trying to impose a taxonomy onto society so it fits their dipshit idea of hierarchy. It’s so amazingly dumb.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 05:40 AM
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I went to an all boys school, had limited socialisation with girls, and was pretty painfully shy. I was pretty much convinced that I was an unlovable freak, and women would only even view me as a friend at best. Then one day in my last year of high school, a friend mentioned that his cousin had seen a photo of me and said something along the lines of “who’s your friend? He’s kinda cute.” That gave me just enough confidence to start talking to girls I met through inter-school sport about things o…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 05:19 AM
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Dude - I worked on male hormonal contraceptives about 20 years ago. To be fair, the one I worked on never got to human trials; but - don't hold your breath. Hormonal birth control for men is hard yo.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 10:51 AM
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My wife has a professional job, and has always outearned me. It’s never been an issue. Many of my male friends have spouses/partners that outearn them. AFAIK, it’s never been an issue. I have a woman friend who massively outearns her husband (she’s a partner in a big five consulting firm, he’s a physical therapist). He’s cheerfully taken on the role of trailing spouse. It seems to work really well for them - they’ve been married for 15 years, have two great kids, and seem really happy. Now - ter…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 04:48 AM
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If you were just bemoaning the fact that you’re lonely, find dating tough, and find women hard to understand or connect with; you’d probably have a more sympathetic audience. But as soon as you guys start screeching about foids only wanting to fuck Chad or being repressed because no one will touch your dick…well… If it walks like an incel, and it quacks like an incel… If you actually wanted to discuss men’s issues, you’d be a good faith contributor on subs like MensLib. But you don’t actually wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 03:01 AM
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There’s a lotta dudes on here who really need to log off and talk to some normal people. They really get super angry about the women that live in their head. That said, getting shot down takes its toll, even if you’re pretty well-centred.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 01:38 AM
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My wife isn’t an oil painting; but neither am I. What she is is funny, ferociously intelligent, incredibly kind and compassionate, and patient enough to put up with the less adorable parts of my personality (to a point - then she tells me to dry up). Don’t get me wrong - I am definitely attracted to her; but the biggest reason we’ve been together for 20 years isn’t physical.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 10:44 PM
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JFC. This post is just a shower of Autism.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 10:34 PM
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It isn’t, bro. Girls hit on guys all the damn time.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 10:30 PM
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What? Why? It’s the year of our Lord 2022 - you can ask out whoever the fuck you want. You’ve got no guarantees that they’ll say yes, or be a good match; but how is that particularly different from the old ways?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 10:28 PM
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Dude - you’d need to be an absolute ice-chewing narcissist psycho to not feel a least a little hurt when you’re rejected. Even the most well-adjusted people suffer when rejected - they just don’t spiral.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 10:21 PM
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No there isn't. I've been with my wife for 20 years. I can't imagine life without her. She is - bar none - the most important person in my life. I would die for her. But there's no reason I couldn't feel the same about someone else. "The One" is sentimental rubbish. It's a way of setting yourself up for disappointment; or of giving yourself a "get out of jail free" card for not putting the necessary effort into a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 11:20 AM
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My wife and I were dumb, immature and broke as fuck when we got together. We helped each other grow up. Ours is not a unique story. People do it all the fucking time.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 11:16 AM
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Where does the idea that a relationship is the thing you go for when you've got your other shit in a pile? A relationship is the basis on which to build a good life. Most of the people I know in successful relationships grew up in the relationship. They worked their shit out together. The idea that you work your shit out alone is solipsistic. No man is an island. Y'all have this shit ass-backwards.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 11:13 AM
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That’s a lot of five dollar words for “I’ve never made a girl wet”.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/22 05:57 AM
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Oh No! Kids be on they phone! Whatever dude. I predate phones, and people have always been dumb as shit. IIRC, the Very Smart Men of the Regency period were up in arms about these new Novels rotting the brains of of the youth (especially the woms), and it was to be the death of us all...
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 10:27 AM
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My man looks like he's got some self-hatred going on. No number of deadlifts is going to help there. It's a lot easier to work your shit out with a professional interlocutor.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 10:19 AM
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What’s the problem with wanting to be desired? Seems kinda like a prerequisite for good sex to me…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 11:42 AM
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A haircut. And some therapy. The gym won’t hurt though. Exercise is never a bad idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 11:39 AM
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You don't need to push boundaries. You just need to be clear and honest about your desires, and - more importantly - not turn into a whiny little bitch when you get knocked back.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/22 10:19 AM
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Well...yeah. As I said - I got told fuck-all.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/22 10:17 AM
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I mean - it wasn’t bad advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 11:14 AM
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"Grow up, dickhead."
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 10:35 AM
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I honestly got told fuck all about attracting women per se. I was told to be polite, and that was about it. The rest I learned mostly by fucking up.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 10:34 AM
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No. Stop. Don’t rely on women for emotional support. It’s not fair on women, and it sells men short. Expect better of your male friends. And offer them non-judgemental support and absolute confidence. Be the change you want to see, my man.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 12:40 PM
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JFC dude - women aren’t aliens. You can just have a normal-ass friendship with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 07:56 PM
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It's like different women have different preferences... Almost like...they're individuals and not a monolith!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 11:27 AM
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Dude - working class women have always worked for cash. It's nothing new. It was frequently in the informal economy; but there were plenty of working class chicks who were married and in what amounted to full time employment as servants, retail workers, postmistresses, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 11:24 AM
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This whole post is deliciously bonkers, and I am here for it. I've heard that marriage and prostituton were two sides of the same coin. Due to the madonna-whore dichotomy, men have vanilla sex with their wives and kinky (even violent) sex with prostitutes. Man - how come people get this idea that every married dude is just itching to burst off the chain and perform unnatural acts with sex workers? Mebbe we actually like having vanilla sex with our wives? Most men wouldn't marry unless they know …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 11:21 AM
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Men don't like women, or want to date women, they just want to have sex with women. Yeah. We call those dudes misogynists. But some of us aren't fucking weirdoes, and can actually engage with women beyond wanting to get our peepees wet.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 11:13 AM
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I think it’s fine to be “relationship deprived”. Of course it's fine. But you're still lacking in experience that others have. You need to play catch-up. I went to an all-boys high school. I had to spend a couple of years catching up before I could be even remotely normal around women. “Dating market” sounds like a bullshit term in my opinion. Yeah - I hate it too. It's just a useful shorthand.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 11:08 AM
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Just because he uses a lot of five dollar words, it doesn't mean he's right. I've got a better explanation: This is pretty much the first generation where men actually have to make women like them if they want them to stick around. It appears to be breaking a lot of dudes' brains - so they're coming up with a truly dizzying array of "scientific" explanations as to why they're divorced.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 11:04 AM
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I think it's more to do with what Geneticists call "Girl-Next-Door effect". Basically it boils down to the fact that humans reliably partner up by proximity. If you spend 3-5 years at University meeting new people, then go into a job where you meet other uni-educated people, you're almost certainly going to partner up with a person from a similar background. I'm living proof that it needn't be the rule though - I'm a Plumber, and my wife is a Lawyer. Our match is not quite the norm, but it's def…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 10:58 AM
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Leave it to a Quillette article to hit every Terp talking point.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 10:48 AM
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I think of people who look out for their future selves (short term pain for long term gain). Nothing wrong with a bit of delayed gratification. But the people who compartmentalise their lives into monomaniacally focussing on study, or work or whatever before they decide "now is the time to find a relationship" inevitably have a hard time. They're kindergarteners trying to attack college. Then they get shitty that the dating market isn't what they'd imagined.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 10:19 AM
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Realistic opinion - guys who are struggling to meet women should work on not being such wretched little bridge trolls and develop a personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 08:55 AM
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WTF is it with Terps and their just-so stories about how people get laid, and who's getting laid. I mean - sure. Get out there and lie your arse off. If you're a sociopath. Most people actually have at least some level of guilt around lying.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 08:53 AM
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I mean that engineers (and various other STEM-brain weirdoes) are always looking to quantify things; in this case - why they are "high value" and deserve to be dating hot chicks. Their criteria is inevitably about how they earn $X and go to the gym enough to not be complete physical wrecks. Then they run headlong into the messy, chaotic reality of a person's attraction to them only being (at most) tangentially related to the dry stats of their money or physique; and far more to how that person f…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 08:48 AM
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https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinsey_scale It's the view - originally espoused by sexologist Alfred Kinsey - that sexual orientation occurs on a spectrum. He expressed it in values from 0 (only attracted to the opposite gender) to 6 (only attracted to the same gender).
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 10:56 AM
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Oh yeah - it's all about value and metrics; with zero understanding that you actually feel attracted to someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 10:50 AM
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Well - I guess you're a Kinsey 0 then. You don't need to understand it - it just is. You'd do better to just accept it and move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 10:45 AM
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Reading signals is tough. Even very well socially calibrated guys misread signals. It's not a matter of thick-headed dudes being unable to read signals. I mean - women will talk about how incredibly obvious they made their interest; but I've seen instances of women friends coyly batting their eyelashes at a crush across the room, and getting shirty when he doesn't immediately mind-read her intent. Not only that, but in your classic girl-opens-the-door-guy-enters dynamic, women don't really have …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 11:19 AM
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I think we place far to high a bar on what constitutes a "successful" relationship. Why does it need to last till death and be blissfully happy the whole time? What's the problem with a relationship ending? Sometimes a relationship is good till it isn't. That doesn't make it a failure. My missus and I have been together for 20 years. If it ended tomorrow, I'd still consider our relationship very much a success.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 11:13 AM
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Yeah. It also tends to correct your stride. You can’t heel-strike in a barefoot shoe. You start running more efficiently and with less impact on your knees. It does take a few weeks of sore Achilles’ tendons and calves to adjust though.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 07:04 AM
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Some of the really hardcore guys do; but mostly it means wearing a minimalist shoe - something with no padding, support or heel lift. Something like this: https://www.outdoorgearlab.com/reviews/shoes-and-boots/barefoot-shoes/merrell-vapor-glove-4
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 07:35 PM
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Slow down and enjoy the scenery. I almost always run at sub-MAF pace (180-your age heart rate). I find it very relaxing and meditative. I lift to avoid injury at work, but running is the most enjoyable exercise I do.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 12:16 PM
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I didn’t go full barefoot - I switched to a minimalist shoe (which sort of amounts to the same thing). It teaches you very quickly not to overstride, to land on the balls of your feet, and maintain a much higher cadence. I prefer running off-road, but that’s just because I like the scenery better, and I think it toughens up my ankles. I still spend a fair bit of time running on pavement though.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 12:07 PM
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Is that not incels you mean? Oh yeah - them too. As I said, if all the MGTOWs said was "If your romantic life has brought you nothing but misery, the best thing you can do for yourself is get away from the dating game, and just focus on yourself", that'd be cool. Like - I know a couple of guys who've had relationships break down, try to get back into dating, and found it overwhelmingly stressful and a source of misery. Going their own way for a year or two was the best thing they could do for th…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 03:52 AM
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This is very true. I was always a terrible runner. I'd ask guys who were good at running how to get better and they'd say some variation on "Uh...you just run more..." Cool. I'd get up to about 5km and my knees would blow out. Then I found a book about barefoot running. The author got into it when he kept getting injured. Barefoot running allowed him to avoid injury and work up to ultramarathons. Lo and behold, it worked. I now run half marathons, and I'm working up to an ultramarathon early nex…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 03:34 AM
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For instance manosphere has a lot of angry bitter men which try to influence other men into hurting women, and womensphere has a lot of angry bitter women which try to influence other women into hurting men. Any advice that suggests it has some kind of hidden knowledge about the fundamental nature of the opposite sex is uniformly bad advice. People are just people. They all have their own idiosyncrasies and drives. Actual, good advice usually involves a lot of uncomfortable work on different asp…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 03:27 AM
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Is the philosophy of MGTOW not to just stay away from women? If it was, no-one would really care. As it is, MGTOW is a cesspit of virulent misogyny.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 03:21 AM
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I lift 3 days a weeks, and I’m in early stage training for an ultramarathon next March, so Im running about 30-40km/week. I also have a physical job. No idea what my body fat is, but I’d guess around the 12-15% range. It could be lower, but I like beer and pasta. Aesthetically I’ve looked better in the past, but I’m definitely in shape. I look a lot better than most guys in their 40s.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 12:16 PM
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Quit deflecting. We’re not talking about rape. You won’t get sent to jail for flirting.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 09:30 PM
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Dude - mattress girl was one bizarre outlier. It sucked for the guy alright, but it’s not a trend. Dudes hit on women awkwardly every fucking day. You are not going to jail for making an innuendo that doesn’t land.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 08:31 PM
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They were bad. You’ve also gotta reach back the best part of 20 years for them. Regardless - we’re not talking sex and consent here. That’s another can of worms. We’re talking about flirting.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 08:19 PM
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Autistic guy at two-bit college. Definitely indicative of society at large. Yep.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 08:06 PM
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I have a happy marriage. I have zero interest in my wife’s n count. I feel like giving a shit about it would not improve things.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 07:59 PM
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Whataboutism. Do you want to be right, or do you want a girlfriend?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 07:54 PM
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I feel like the two needn’t be at odds with each other. The problem with “working on yourself” is deciding when you’re ready to add someone else to the mix. I’m not saying you shouldn’t work on yourself (you absolutely should), but you can do that in a relationship. Having a committed partner isn’t codependency. You needn’t be reliant on them for everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 07:51 PM
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“Muh valyoos!”
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 12:26 PM
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Did you read my first post? Hitting on a woman isn’t harassment. Refusing to stop hitting on one woman is harassment. But I’m sure you have your own definition. Care to enlighten me?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 11:58 AM
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Not special. I just have a passing grip on reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 11:46 AM
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Lol. Yeah. Prisons are full to overflowing with men who awkwardly hit on women. Yessiree.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 11:40 AM
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Yeah. If guys weren't such crybabies about getting shot down, they'd probably do better. Getting turned down sucks alright; but it's not the end of the world. It's pretty much the only reason any of the PUA stuff ever works to any extent - it keeps you getting back out there to have another go.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 11:08 AM
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It must be a rough life when you're this paranoid. Dude - you don't hit on one woman and refuse to take the hint when she's not into it. You're hitting on a bunch of women and seeing if any of them are into it. I promise you that the woke-sjw stasi aren't going to throw you in Horny Gulag for flirting.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 11:04 AM
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Because the terps around here are, at their core, terrified that they're actually shit in bed; and think a low n-count woman having fewer points of comparison will be more likely to be fooled by their inept groping.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 11:03 AM
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Yes. FFS yes. A good relationship isn't the icing on the cake of a functioning life. It's the foundation on which to build a functioning life. Life is a hell of a lot easier when you know someone has your back. And focussing on someone else's wellbeing motivates you, and stops you from disappearing up your own arse. If you've had a slow start, that's probably fine. Some women will be turned off, but they're not for you. If you're not a total fucking weirdo and you're willing to get out there (wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 10:57 AM
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Some sex happens within relationships, but relationships are still "somewhat" casual, and the guys who can get casual sex also have the upper hand when it comes to getting relationships. Some Most sex happens within relationships. FTFY. I have a friend who is 6'3", in great shape, and very good looking (MF looks like the scary German henchman who has the big fist-fight with the hero at the end of the movie). He's quite charming and a great conversationalist. Every time we hang out in a bar, wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 10:44 AM
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Dating is hard. It's always been hard. Making a real connection is rare and special. What's harder now is that we're absolutely convinced that everyone else is having way more success than we are because we're more connected and more isolated than ever before.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 10:36 AM
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Man people round here are convinced that lifting is a panacea. I mean - being in better shape doesn't hurt; but if you're still a wretched little troll with no social skills, you'd be better off working on that.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 10:31 AM
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If by "educated and intelligent" you mean massive sperg; then yes. Socially adept people do better romantically, regardless of their intelligence and education.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 10:27 AM
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Tbh, I’d be kind of in awe that someone gained 100lbs in 4 years. That takes commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 04:18 AM
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HRT? If you’re talking reproductive function, there are very few peri menopausal women who still wanna have kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 04:14 AM
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I mean…it’s cool you can personally bounce back from rejection easily. But not everyone does. Being rejected isn’t the end of the world - but unless you’re an ice-chewing sociopath, it still hurts. While dudes are doing the bulk of the approaching, they’re going to be the ones dealing with the bulk of rejection. That isn’t whining, it’s just how things are. We could all stand to be a little more compassionate.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 04:20 AM
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Lol. I’ve been with my wife for 20 years. I’ve made my choice. I just remember my single days. And I’m not talking about women being deliberately mean here. I’m talking about any kind of outright rejection. Rejection can hurt. Here’s an example from the other side. I was in a pub with my wife and father in law. I went to get drinks, and as I’m stepping up to the bar, a woman steps in front of me, smiles a little too effusively and says “Hi!”. Oh God. She’s hitting on me. Normally I’m kinda chill…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 09:15 PM
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Most rejections are as simple as "no, thank you", worst case that actually happens irl may be she sent a screenshot to her friends and he'll never know. Women brutally mocking a man in rejection like this is simply not some super common phenomenon and thinking it is is outright delusional unless you believe carefully selected stories worthy of putting on the internet represent that majority of cases. Well…yes and no. The average dude isn’t hitting on everything in a skirt. Most guys really have …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 11:15 AM
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People are into what they’re into.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 11:08 AM
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Sure is feels over reals round here. Just cause you’re not getting laid, it doesn’t mean no one but Chad is getting laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 11:41 AM
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Pretty sure they’re just telling you that you’re less attractive than you think you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 06:49 AM
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Huh? No one is holding a gun to your head dude. You don’t need to enter a relationship with someone you find unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 06:36 AM
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"I'm not here to back any of my arguments. It's all vibes."
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 06:18 AM
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Lol. I love you guys who think that a relationship is a booby prize. You wanna get laid? Get a relationship. Only the absolute pussy-slayingest dudes get even remotely as much strange as the average dude with a girlfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 06:11 AM
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Something like this? https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/2019/03/21/its-not-just-you-new-data-shows-more-than-half-young-people-america-dont-have-romantic-partner/ Roughly half of young (18-35 y.o) people are have a romantic partner? Yeah. That sure does reflect that only Chad is getting his dick wet. You don't get to handwave that away by saying that anyone outside The Elect are only getting the odd crumb of pussy; as is the usual Terp line.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 06:09 AM
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Only 10-20% of men are getting all of the play Wat? Step away from your keyboard and go outside dude. There have always been a small number of dudes who are socially adept and/or good looking enough to get a lot more dates/sex than most guys. However, we seem to still have a heap of people boning and getting into relationships despite the fact that WoMen OnLY FucK CHad!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 05:58 AM
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What if I'm a guy who thinks that almost all tattoos aren't a red flag, they're just incredibly lame? There are two types of good tattoos: Pieces of highly individual and unique body art, beautifully rendered by a talented tattooist that works with the person's body shape. Really crap stick-and-pokes done while drunk/high. All other tattoos are lame.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 08:10 AM
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I’m Australian. The thought of having a bunch of randos walking around with guns - concealed or otherwise - is deeply unsettling. Look - you Yanks do what you gotta do; but most other western nations scratch our heads at the gun thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 12:04 PM
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If I lived in an open-carry state, I'd feel uncomfortable every time someone came into a building I was in carrying a gun. Most gun owners are law abiding. But I can't tell the difference between Mr Second Amendment and some Elliot Roger wannabe about to make himself famous just by looking at him.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 11:06 AM
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Sure. But interrogating what it means to be a man while acknowledging that there are parts of masculinity that don't serve us - or are fucking us up - is a very valuable thing. What's not valuable is blaming it all on women, or pining for a return to an age that never existed. Feminism is here and gender roles have changed - whether we like it or not. Its on men to get with the program.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 01:11 AM
5

The reward for tolerating shit is more shit. You gotta put on your big-girl pants, decide what your boundaries are, and defend them. No exceptions. You don't have to be rude or violent - just firm. It will be awkward to say to a co-worker "Dude - that's not cool. Don't talk to me like that." But that's what it is - and you won't have to do it many times before guys work it out. A lot of dudes have their minds absolutely blown by a woman pushing back. A few of them will probably decide that you'r…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/22 10:46 PM
4

It has to be, or it'd get flooded by dudes whining about those mean wimmenz. It's supposed to be a forum about interrogating and liberating men from the bonds of toxic masculinity. "Toxic Masculinity" is a concept that came from feminist thought; so it necessitates looking at things through a feminist lens.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/22 10:34 PM
6

Yeah - the bill is just a mild irritation at the end of a meal. No need to turn it into negotiating the Treaty Of Ghent. Just take my credit card and make it go away.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/22 05:39 AM
4

I honestly don't get why people are so weird about this. It's seriously not that big of a deal. Terps - are you really going on so many dates that buying a chick a drink or a meal is going to break the bank? FDSers - if you put your hand in your pocket every now and then, Prince Charming isn't going to immediately turn into a *gasp* Low Value Man.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/22 05:36 AM
18

Oh, it's not just the guys. Most arty girls are painfully self-absorbed, run incredibly hot and cold and will cheat on you, tearfully confess their infidelity, and then have a complete screaming freak-out when you refuse to forgive them (and break up with them). Just in case this sounds oddly specific, it happened to me twice...
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/22 04:11 AM
1

all this pride bullshit. We can't let these hambeasts not hate themselves! Where will it lead? Look - a lot of overweight people overeat as a self-soothing measure. A lot of the need to self-soothe is because they feel like shit about being overweight. Maybe giving people a few seconds to feel a little bit less shit about themselves is a good thing. If that has to look like chubby girls in pretty dresses saying nice things about each other, where's the fucken harm? Let 'em feel beautiful and des…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 10:33 PM
1

Dude - there’s nothing borderline about this. If everyone was getting off to their partner’s tales of previous sexual encounters, you might have a point, but they’re not and you don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 08:25 PM
3

Work with a very good looking and outgoing dude who broke up with his long term gf, and set about a hoe phase with gusto. He got real tired of it after about three months.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 08:18 PM
19

Had a thing for tall, willowy, aloof, artsy women when I was young. Was perpetually miserable. Married tiny, loud, sports chick with filthy sense of humour. Have been happy ever since.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 08:15 PM
1

It’s a sweet and romantic idea, but it’s just not real. If I cheated on my missus, who has never shown me anything but love, kindness and respect, I’d suggest she might find it hard to love me anymore. If my dad reversed 50+ years of behaviour and started slapping my mum about, I’d probably have a few things to say. If your son grew up to be a serial rapist or a kiddy-fiddler, I suspect you’d view them in a different light. There are limits. They vary circumstantially - but they are there.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 11:18 AM
4

No. You’re projecting your weird fetish onto everyone else’s normal behaviour.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 06:26 AM
4

Fine. Fill your boots. But coming up with these bonkers theories about "cuck culture" to justify why you're squeamish about women who've been exposed to other men's penises is insane.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 04:41 AM
2

Dude - fat girls receive no end of reinforcement of the idea that their desirability is linked to how thin they are. How much is the diet industry worth again? $70B/year IIRC? Yet, when a few women say some well-meaning shit about your value not being linked to your thinness, or that you can be desirable without being thin everyone loses their goddamned shit. You ask the vast majority of overweight people to answer honestly and they are going to tell you that they know being overweight negativel…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 04:37 AM
1

Dude - you wetting your pants over the idea that a woman might have (gasp!) had experiences in her life before you doesn't make a culture. If you can't deal with the idea that a woman doesn't spring into your life from the aether tabula rasa, you're a solipsist. Every long term partner I've had has had a history before me. Who they'd boned was probably the least interesting part of that history.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 04:26 AM
-1

Unconditional love isn't a thing. But you can be prepared to put up with a lot of shit for someone you really love.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 10:10 AM
145

"Lower your standards" tends to mean "Your long list of things that a prospective partner absolutely must have is hamstringing you. Consider which of the things on your list actually matter".
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 10:06 AM
1

Silly little man.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 09:19 AM
3

Yeah. I'm never sure if posting here is funny or digital self-harm.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 04:21 AM
2

Aagh! Watch your elbows!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 04:09 AM
2

WTF are you on about? JFC this red pill shit is utterly bonkers sometimes. If she spent her life testing my boundaries to see how alpha I am, we would have broken up years ago. That's some serial killer shit. We know each others' boundaries, and we accept them because we respect one another.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 04:01 AM
3

Meh. I don't really need responses. I just wanna see some people getting big mad.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 03:55 AM
4

This thread will be overwhelmingly bonkers, and I am fucking here for it! *Grabs popcorn*
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 02:02 AM
1

k.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 01:20 AM
12

If you're short, fat and not great looking, you're playing dating on hard mode. But this applies to both genders. If you're socially inept, you're really up against it. But you can improve on all of these (well - maybe not the short; but it's less of a big deal than people here make it out to be).
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 09:12 PM
1

Dude - she's my wife of 20 years. If we haven't sorted out our boundaries by now...
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 09:06 PM
1

Kinda. There are activities and traits that are coded as masculine or feminine. You could say that your affinity for these places you between poles. But honestly, the distinctions get real fucken arbitrary at a certain point. Is a mother dying defending her children masculine? Is a father soothing a crying infant feminine?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 08:48 PM
4

That's a valid interpretation; but I'm personally disinclined to it. Honestly, I think it's just a metaphor for strength in unity - a threefold cord being an object that everyone at the time would have been very familiar with. But no - I don't think Solomon was talking about setting up a polycule.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 08:43 PM
1

WHY WONT AOC SEND FEET PICS!1!!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 07:21 PM
1

Yeah - I never quite got that “threefold cord” bit…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 07:16 PM
9

Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up. Again, if two lie together, then they have heat: but how can one be warm alone? And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 10:24 AM
2

I think if they really thought about it, it would stop bothering them, I think the problem is that they've thought way too hard about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 02:08 AM
4

That somehow your identity as a man is brought into question by the act of holding a woman's bag.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 01:58 AM
6

I honestly don't get the bag thing. Why would you ascribe deep, existential meaning to a woman wanting you to hold her bag for a sec?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 12:13 AM
1

VR porn isn't going to be the end of us. It probably won't change things much at all. People pursue relationships for many reasons other than sex. Regardless; part of the appeal of any kind of consensual sexual relationship is a confirmation that another person finds you appealing enough to have sex with. That's very affirming. We've had prostitution forever - it hasn't replaced relationships. For that matter; if we're talking about pure sexual release, we've had masturbation even longer. Both o…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 11:52 PM
1

That wasn't the question I asked.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 08:42 PM
10

Nuclear shit tests are actions - "grabbing food from your plate", You mean when i was at the pub with my wife and she took a chip off my plate it wasn't because she wanted a chip, but because she was shit testing me? I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO BELIEVE ANYMORE!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 08:40 PM
1

My cynicism knows no bounds where The Spectacle is concerned…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 08:28 PM
2

If we get on well - yeah. Why not? New friends are good to have. On a more selfish level - she probably has friends you might vibe with. I met an ltr this way.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 08:26 PM
16

Bruh. I think you’ll struggle to find a woke type who doesn’t think this is fucken textbook toxic masculinity.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 07:56 PM
4

Not really. Love and relationships have always been tough. You-like-them-they-don’t-like-you, and vice-a-versa. It’s a vulnerable place, and ripe for humiliation and hurt feelings. There’s a tendency on this sub to view the current moment as a uniquely difficult time in the romantic realm because feminism. I would argue it isn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 07:46 PM
7

No. It’s always been discouraging, humiliating and filled with thwarted ambition. Source: am mid-40s.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 10:14 AM
3

Coding hobbies to genders is dumb, and just excludes people for no reason. I know a hard-knuckled steel-fixer who got into knitting. I was complaining about having sore hands in the cold, and he knitted me fingerless gloves. What a fucken legend!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 09:48 AM
5

Looks like you’re SOL for connecting with women through hobbies, then. And I laugh at the idea of hobbies as inherently masculine or feminine.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 09:42 AM
7

Lol. Are you only into MAN hobbies done by MEN who like MANLY things? I love beekeeping with my bros.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 09:40 AM
1

You lost Oh noes! I have lost the internets!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 07:01 AM
1

are you a biochemist somewhere Not anymore. I retrained as a plumber. It certainly pays better. Jordan Peterson could teach you a thing or two Like how to pontificate and get addicted to benzos? Hard pass. kid. Lol. I'm probably older than you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 06:32 AM
5

Bruh. Did you read my post? None of my "interesting" hobbies bring in money or increase my status. Unless by "status" you mean "are interesting", which is an amazingly circular argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 06:28 AM
1

a degree doesn't prove intelligence Uhh...didn't I just say that? Seriously though - you're pointing me towards Youtube for my education. Youtube is cat videos and Jordan Peterson. I'll read a book by someone with an actual academic pedigree if I wanna learn. link proof. Lolololol. No. You're a SJW. There's no getting through to you. And you're the most divorced man alive.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 05:59 AM
1

I have an honours degree in biochem. I'm plenty educated. Still dumb.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 05:43 AM
3

even a lot of men that get years in prison for false allegations with no proof whatsoever Woo Nelly. Gonna need a citation there, homeboy.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 05:41 AM
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It's mostly dudes on here making up a woman in their head, and getting really, really mad at her. There's also a contingent of dudes on here who think any woman over the age of 28 is a spiteful, dried up husk with a biological clock absolutely screaming in her ear.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 05:38 AM
0

Oh God no. Watching Youtube will make me waaay dumber. And paying for The Great Courses is even dumber than that...
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 05:00 AM
2

Dude - why are you so obsessed with virginity? Get help.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 04:56 AM
7

Women only care about your hobbies if they bring in money or increase your status. The hottest of garbage takes. Most women won't care about your hobbies if they're mundane, lame or dad-ish. They care if they're relatable, charitable or exotic/weird. If I was talking hobbies with a woman, I wouldn't talk about eating (mundane) or gaming (lame) or woodworking (dad as all hell). I'd talk about cooking (relatable), Food Not Bombs (charitable) or beekeeping (exotic). I'd do all of these regardless -…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 04:49 AM
5

I WILL NEVER READ THEORY
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 01:54 AM
11

Damn. Go off queen.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 01:50 AM
1

I’m not going to bat for OP here - she sounds like a PITA.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 11:28 PM
4

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dQw4w9WgXcQ
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 10:42 PM
5

Being able to have fun, but being dumb as a rock, is a problem. I feel attacked.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 10:39 PM
7

Dude - every guy I know who is quietly assertive and has properly developed boundaries has never suffered from a lack of female attention. You're seeing these guys because they're loud and obnoxious.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 10:34 PM
16

Dude - I'm a hard leftist. If you think I'm going into bat for Andrew Fucking Cuomo... Media shitlibs are every bit as aggravating as proudboy moonbats.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 10:32 PM
10

A journalist said that he really gives her a “lady boner”. Pay no attention to the horned-up libs. Imagine if a male journalist wrote a piece about how a female head of state gives him a raging hard-on. Try watching any Fox piece about AOC. There's mind-bending levels of horniness going on there.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 10:15 PM
16

Bill Marr is always on the spot with a lukewarm take. All the media takes about Zelenskyy are fawning gibberish by horned-up libs. It's the same in any crisis. Where I live, during the height of the pandemic there was endless twitter fawning about our Chief Health Officer. The reason everyone's fawning over Zelenskyy is because he is seen as the little guy standing up to the bully. Contrast that to the preening "man's man" Putin likes to project with the shirtless horse-riding photos and so on. …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 10:11 PM
14

That’s possibly the sanest comment of marriage I’ve read on this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 09:34 PM
2

If you’re obsessed with everything being exactly 50/50, you’re gonna have a bad time. I’m not sure why everyone here is so obsessed with who pays for dates. It’s fucking pathological.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 09:30 PM
1

If anyone is looking to "coaches" to practice what they preach, they're setting themselves up for disappointment. Honestly though, the stuff of his I've read isn't bad advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 12:32 AM
1

Look - I know it’s a little unusual. But we’re not circus freaks. I don’t want my wife to find my friends hot, but I acknowledge there’s some good-looking roosters out there, and she’s got eyes. But we’ve honestly interrogated what our boundaries are. There is no fucking way we’re having an open relationship or whatever - we know that’s over our limits, and it’s a deal-breaker. But if she flirts with the cute waiter - lol. Where’s the harm? I know that energy comes home to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 06:41 AM
2

The harder the journey, the more likely you are to die in a ditch by a lonely track somewhere and be forgotten.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 06:34 AM
2

yeah see, to me and most people I know this is fucked up and not a friendship at all. “Jen - I know we’ve been friends for over 20 years and you introduced me to my wife, but some lady on the internet says we can’t be friends because you’re an incorrigible flirt and we like to banter.” I feel so bad for both you and your girlfriend Wife. to look at other people this way To acknowledge and let go of the desires that don’t serve our love. If I was into woo bullshit, I’d call it Mindfulness.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 06:26 AM
2

I think there's a huge stretch from having a passing thought that some character in a show is hot and considering your friends attractive (and the way you described them - omg). Hey - I know some sexy people. Some folks just gotta vibe. Or that you'd expect your wife to find your friends hot - what the hell, who thinks like that? She’s a red-blooded woman with healthy desires. And I know some real Chads. Look - we’re both very secure in our attachment to each other. There’s no one I respect more…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 06:11 AM
2

Man - I don’t get how you expect your partner to be the sole outlet of your erotic spirit. It feels incredibly unfair to me. We are absolutely monogamous, but we’re still human. I think you’re asking for trouble if you refuse to acknowledge the part of you that’s still a horny teenager.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 05:33 AM
1

I’ll pass that on to my missus of 20 years. And honestly, if she doesn’t find at least some of my friends hot, I’d wonder what was wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 05:27 AM
1

Lol. I hope you like horses, chinstrap beards and inbreeding then.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 04:32 AM
2

Lol. Y’know rumspringa is a thing, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 04:23 AM
1

R/oddlyspecific
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 04:20 AM
0

I wouldn’t say Nerdlove hates on guys. He does goes after Nice Guys for being inauthentic and creepy. Not to mention that it’s a terrible dating strategy.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 04:00 AM
6

Years ago, I was friends with this chick who was the biggest party girl. Super cool chick. Loved going to clubs. Always had guys lusting after her. We were a little drunk one night, and we were talking about body counts. I told her my (modest) total. “Gee - that’s kinda high.” “What? You’d have to be higher.” “Umm…how many guys do you think I’ve slept with?” “I dunno…20 or 25?” “WHAT THE FUCK? NO! ONLY THREE!” “But…you’ve always got dudes chasing you.” “Jesus Christ superannuatedpunk! Just cause…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 03:56 AM
1

I’m attracted to all of my women friends at some level. Some of them are insanely sexy. But that doesn’t mean I’m going to try and bang them. Contrary to bad stand-up, men are not a pile of meat being led around by a dick.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 03:46 AM
1

Well…I wish you good luck, my dude; but it’s gonna be tough.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 03:40 AM
3

My man can have all the preferences he likes, but every addition to the list narrows the field. I’m not saying that he’s just gotta ignore his partner’s sexual history; but how much does it really matter compared to…say…does she make him laugh? Does he genuinely enjoy her company?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 03:36 AM
3

Again - why? I’m not gonna say sexual histories are meaningless - cause they’re not - but the strict requirement for a virgin is going to cut your options off at the knees. There’s probably a bunch of women out there who’d be great girlfriends for you if you’d ditch the virgin thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 03:32 AM
2

He sounds like Zoomer Dr Nerdlove.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 03:26 AM
2

Why? Look, if you’re insecure about your limited experience, I get why someone who’s also inexperienced seems like a better match. But it’ll be less of a big deal than you think. If you think women who’ve had sex with other partners are “unclean”, I dunno what to tell you.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 03:22 AM
22

No. No friend for bi people. Only sensible shoes and purple lighting.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 03:18 AM
3

Middle schools? Look - most people don’t have a heap of sexual partners. Odds are any woman you meet isn’t going to have a long list of partners. For the love of god, just chill out.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 03:15 AM
3

I’ve been with my missus for over 20 years, and have heaps of women friends. I thought having women around that you’re not trying to fuck was pretty normal - then I came here…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 08:00 PM
5

What we need is more games without politics. Like Call of Duty and Battlefield. 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 11:09 AM
1

Those…those are literal numbers…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 04:50 AM
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Becoming a millionaire don’t mean shit any more. I’m a millionaire on paper. But serious wealth - nah bro. That’s inherited, or at the very least backed by a very upper middle class beginning.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 04:40 AM
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Lol. Just when I thought we’d gotten past ethics in games journalism…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 04:37 AM
1

Is this just a really wordy way of saying “treat em mean, keep ‘em keen”?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 02:05 AM
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If you’re not unusually attractive, You may be waiting for some time, my dude. Also, plenty of chicks don’t have the stones to approach.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 01:58 AM
2

I’m not a circus freak, but I’m very generic. I’ve probably played a background character in one of your dreams.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 01:25 AM
0

If you saw my head, you’d know why I used the word improbably.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 01:07 AM
4

When you’re a young buck with a full head of hair, a six-pack and a delusional sense of self confidence, you can occasionally bag an improbably hot chick. Doesn’t mean you’ll actually like her…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 11:25 PM
5

I’m in my 40s. There are two main reason most 40s guys look like shit: Your metabolism grinds to a fucking halt. Unless you’re genetically blessed, it’s much harder to stay lean, and your gains seem to vanish overnight. A lot of guys have kids and busy/responsible jobs. It’s tough to find the mental bandwidth to stay on top of things.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 10:38 PM
11

This has nothing to do with "troo wuv". Assuming you don't have terminal STEM-brain, the important bit about courting isn't leagues or /10 numbers. It's how the other person makes you feel when you're with them. I have scored dates with very hot women who made me want to stick a fork in my ear after 15 minutes of conversation. On my first date with my wife I laughed so hard I snorted beer out my nose.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 10:12 PM
4

Firstly, the numbers rating system is a joke. Yep. There's so much fucking STEM-brain on this sub. Not everything can be neatly quantified.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 10:06 PM
2

Young GenX here. Dating has always been difficult, discouraging and humiliating. Thwarted ambition, longing and boredom has always been the order of the day. Our media of communication are different, but people haven’t changed. Women are perhaps less willing to put up with men’s bullshit, and - post MeToo - men are slightly cagier about how they behave towards women. Neither of these are a bad thing. The only major change I see is that people seem to spend a lot of time fucking about online chat…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 09:09 PM
1

I think it was Wil Anderson - quite a few years ago now. Maybe 2012-ish?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 07:41 PM
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As a comedian I like said “You can joke about whatever the fuck you want - you just need to be funny. So that rape joke had better be a fucking killer.” The problem with most dark humour is that it’s dark but not humorous. It’s not that I’m offended; it’s just that you’ve revealed yourself to be the most tiresome kind of person - the guy who thinks he’s funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 09:07 AM
7

Man…this 80/20 rule seems to explain everything. I don’t know why theoretical physicists are bothering trying to reconcile quantum mechanics and relativity. They can just hand wave at everything and say “80/20”.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 09:02 AM
2

Dumb, immature people are fun. End of. It is slightly galling when someone in a relationship decides that they need to grow up now, and just expects the other to just get on board. But sometimes you head in different directions.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 03:17 AM
1

Lol. Most of the chefs I used to work with all looked like meth gremlins. I include myself there. You spend all day tasting the food you make for seasoning, so you never get properly hungry. Couple that with horrifically long work hours and never seeing the sun - it does not an attractive person make.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 03:09 AM
0

Cool. Glad it worked out for ya.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 09:56 PM
3

If you’re prepared to take those L’s, then yeah. But risk is part of courting. You can’t go in with a bunker mentality, expecting the other party to take all the risks and do all the heavy lifting. By this, I don’t mean you’ve gotta put out straight away to keep a guy; but the two of you are going to have to reconcile your expectations if you’re going to form a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 09:51 PM
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Not really. Most eating disorder sufferers view their behaviour as a method of asserting control in a chaotic life, or a life they don’t have much say in. My disordered eating had very little to do with “being attractive”. Ditto all the other sufferers I’ve ever met, male or female.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 09:40 PM
7

Sure. Yeah. Straight men don't get eating disorders. Doesn't happen. Something to do with the "straight gene".
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 08:54 PM
1

the ones that are really invested on you as a person stay To a point. Eventually, most guys are going to assume you are a) dithering and not really invested; or b) not fond of sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 08:52 PM
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I don't dispute for a second that women suffer disproportionately from eating disorders. But it's incredibly counterproductive to say bullshit like "the rest are gay men". Where did sexuality come into this? Eating disorders are a complex mental health nightmare, and sufferers need support and understanding. Hand-waving away male sufferers as unimportant or "gay" is just adding further stigma to a small group within eating disorder sufferers who are already stigmatised.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 08:45 PM
3

Waterboarding
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 08:22 PM
4

I can’t even fathom how you can have a relationship without the dumb, goofy shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 08:21 PM
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Straight guy and former disordered eater here. Let’s not play this game.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 08:17 PM
2

I’ll take comfort till I’m calm, then I’ll take her input.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 08:14 PM
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Kinda failing to see why self confidence and emotional honesty are mutually exclusive here. You can be emotionally honest without it turning into an overwhelming emotional deluge. Emotional honesty is important; but you need to process your emotions a bit before bringing them to your woman. Women say they want you to be open - but most of them want you to be open in a way that they don't find threatening. That's not a specific diss on women - not many people are particularly well equipped to dea…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 11:00 AM
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That's true - but a lotta dudes here think that being "enough" means that they should automatically be deluged in pussy. Like women are prizes for being a decent human being. Then they go and decide that being a decent human being is actually the thing that's standing in the way of them getting laid... Oy.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 03:17 AM
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It may not be the case, but any dude getting a little too overexcited about your thirst traps is kinda sus.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 03:08 AM
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Yeah. It's a pretty classic dumb Lib take. It's why us woke lefty types acknowledge that intersectionality is a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 03:05 AM
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Women seem to only pay attention to the most attractive/rich/powerful men. Which is why only models and CEO ever get laid. This is the same flavour of whining as women who complain that men only like dumb chicks with big boobs.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 03:01 AM
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It's quite possible - nay likely - for your SO to be attracted to his female friends, but have zero intention of ever doing anything with that attraction. I'm attracted at some level to all of my female friends. Some quite a lot. But I'm never going to act on that attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 02:37 AM
1

My missus would laugh in Dan Bilzerian's big stupid face, call him a shitcunt, and skip away while I applauded.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 02:33 AM
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Ha. He’s a lot less stacked than I remember. I guess it was 1999. I’m bigger. He does looks like a fighter though, which works for the movie. Regardless, the look of Insta baddies isn’t a look most people can practically achieve without making it damn near a second job, and that’s assuming they have the genes for it. This is not to say that being fit and healthy and making the best of the body you have isn’t laudable in itself. I think we’re actually in furious agreement on this point.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 09:50 PM
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It’s got some pretty strong “I want my girl to top, but it’s not her thing” energy.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 08:00 PM
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You can just say bullshit dude. Your mum isn’t watching. And I work out six days a week and eat well. Still don’t look like Brad Pitt. I’m cool with that - I mostly work out so my spine doesn’t come flying out my arsehole when I lift something heavy at work. As for looking like Jackman…I don’t wanna take PEDs. Look - you’re trying real hard to turn me into a fat acceptance weirdie. It won’t work - I’m not a fan. But not everyone gets to look like an Insta-baddie. And that’s fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 07:54 PM
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Dude - I didn't see a lot of curlers or archers in the link you posted. Also - have you met any elite-level surfers? They are in amazing shape. And like I said - you don't need a freakish diet and training regime to be healthy and trim. But what full-time social media influencers mostly are is genetically blessed. The average Becky can eat nothing but kale smoothies and do all the Yogalates she likes, but she'll never have the same figure. Likewise - I'm a reasonable physical specimen and I'm in…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 10:16 AM
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Insta-baddies with any significant number of simps are a tiny proportion of women. Lets not pretend they're skewing anything. There's plenty of chicks posting thirst traps on Insta, but they don't have any army of simps following them around. Maybe the odd thirsty guy posting fire emojis, but that's it. You're way overstating the importance of social media. Regardless - how are these women so horribly entitled? They're expecting dudes to actually wash their filthy buttcracks and show some intere…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 09:31 AM
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You're seriously pointing to Olympic Athletes as "just healthy young people". Yeah. Healthy young people who have to obsessively manage every aspect of their diet, training regime and recovery; and can't live even vaguely normal lives as a result. You don't need to have some freakish diet and training regime to be healthy and trim; but this is a terrible example.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 09:24 AM
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Man terps are weird about soy. Apparently it's some sort of (((globalist))) plot to cuck the white race.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 09:12 AM
1

Lemme guess. You're into crypto, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 09:07 AM
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Oh dear. If you live in a rich country, you're going to be in debt. Neoliberalism is a bitch like that. Everything about living in a rich country is geared towards over-stuffing you with food and giving you no time to burn that energy. Being thin is a luxury. Try living in a food desert and working two or three jobs to make ends meet and not gaining weight. Try working a stressful and mentally exhausting desk job 50-60 hours a week and not gaining weight. Hell - try just being over 40 and not ga…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 09:54 PM
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And you said only the "top 5%" of guys get any matches. So I poked fun at you. Given that roughly half (IIRC) of new relationships start on the apps, I think more than 5% of dudes are getting matches. It's just not the smorgasboard people would like to think it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 09:46 PM
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WTF is "average" anyway? My wife doesn't want to be with me because I'm statistically a good bet. It's because we work well together. The idea of an "average" person is dumb as hell if you're not talking about a single data point (e.g. height, income, etc), and only gets dumber with the more data points you want to add.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 09:34 PM
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It's hard to be "high value" when you're so badly beaten down trying to make your way in the late-capitalist hellscape we live in. Hardly anyone has the time and energy to engage in any kind of self-reflection or self-improvement. Couple that our perception that everyone else is living perfect lives through our consumption of curated social media, and you have a recipe for a truly toxic self-perception. We all desperately need to cut ourselves, and each other some slack.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 09:29 PM
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I think there's a very strong tendency on this sub to view the warped market of dating apps as the only way to meet women. If you don't look good in a photo, you'll struggle on the apps. Rather than bemoaning your wretched state, it kinda behooves you to find other ways of meeting women.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 09:19 PM
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…and, as we know, 95% of men are permanent-virgins; sadly jerking off and wondering what it’d be like to touch a boob.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 08:34 PM
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Sorta depends on context. Normally no. But I don’t usually talk to randos. I got shit to do. Am I at some social gathering, and there’s some lady looking awkward and lonely? Fuck yeah! Who knows? Maybe she’s cool?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 11:28 AM
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So many dudes with beards thinking it’s an excuse to do less grooming. No motherfucker - a beard is much more work than shaving.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 11:21 AM
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The 80/20 rule has shrunk to the 95/5 rule I see.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 11:19 AM
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This sub is obsessed with partners as signifiers of value to other people. Trophies. Just buy an expensive car, already. A good match has very little to do with being “average”. I’m pretty “average” in a lot of respects, but I think I’m an excellent husband to my wife. If the longevity of our relationship is anything to go by, she agrees.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 11:18 AM
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Dude - I’m 6’1”, bearded, tattooed, and I lift. You couldn’t find a more masc guy than me. And yet, I seem to have many women friends, and no one gets weirded out when I chat to the young chicks I mix with. Because I’m not trying to fuck any of them. Are you sure you’re having a “casual conversation”?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 11:09 AM
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She’s a borderline sociopath, he needs some boundaries. End of. This vid is is not instructive to even vaguely healthy people.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 11:04 AM
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Did you seriously get butthurt at all of my comments? Relax bruh.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 10:57 AM
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Many powerful women and minorities wouldn’t agree that their influence belongs in air quotes. You're aware of what quotation marks are actually for, right? ​ Women can do what they want, even if it’s not preaching to the choir. Umm...yes? Did I suggest otherwise? But, like I said - it's not their responsibility. Many nonwhites are not liberals. A high number of incels are nonwhite. And some of the liberals pushing confused young men away are men too. Hooray for diversity.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 10:51 PM
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Because this is the internet. Are you new here? Seriously though - they tend to make commentary on men's issues insofar as they relate to women. That's valid, and I'm inclined to listen. However - if a woman starts holding forth on say...circumcision, I'm very much inclined to tell her to stay in her own fucking lane.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 10:46 PM
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How did you leap to implying that I’m transphobic Whoa, whoa, whoa. No accusations here, homie. That was just supposed to be an example. Why so sensitive? Like I said - you gotta cut people some slack.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 10:42 PM
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Again, agree. To a point. I've seen so many videos from these creators on YouTube where they just bash the alpha male and manosphere content endlessly, but none of them seem to really have a clue as to why guys turn to this stuff in the first place. Well - yeah. It's super easy content. And YouTube rewards quantity, not quality. You can do 20 videos dunking on Lil' Ben Shapino in the time it takes to do one with some actual thoughts in it. "Like, have you just tried seeing women as people and be…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 10:40 PM
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It's the responsibility of men to talk to other men because men listen to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 10:24 PM
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The word "influence" is doing some heavy lifting. Look - if you've got a woman who's "influential", is her energy better spent rabble-rousing among a group who are generally facing it the right direction, or debating the merits of her ideas with people who may or may not be engaging in good faith (and if it's online, almost certainly aren't). Regardless - it's pretty clear that people are bad at listening to people from a perceived out-group. White dudes are much more receptive to ideas that com…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 10:23 PM
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Any group of people (particularly a political group) is gonna be filled with factions of people being catty, obsessed with a particular issue or ideologically immovable. It goes with the territory. You seriously think that the right is somehow immune to this? Look - if you're gonna get all pissy when the trans chick wants to make everything a trans issue, you're gonna have a bad time. You've gotta be patient, even when others are testing your patience. You've gotta be kind when you wanna start b…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 10:15 PM
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The online left is not the left. The anarchists and socialists I hang out with are pretty chill people.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 09:43 PM
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Uhh...yeah? Plenty of creeps on the left. Is this your big own? Said creeps got caught up through matters of proximity. Hollywood was the big screaming nexus of MeToo, and it skews Lib real hard. If MeToo had happened as a phenomenon of the evangelical churches (wrap your head around that idea...), it would skew Conservative real hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 09:40 PM
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the current online left alienates the lonely, isolated young men and basically just leaves them to be snatched up by the right-wingers Agree. To a point. It's not the responsibility of women and PoC to kiss the boo-boos of assorted lonely young men. It's the job of the men on the left to deal with them. If you're a young dude with some semi-formed ideals of collectivism and solidarity, one of the big steps you need to take is to get comfortable with the idea that you are not the main character.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 09:36 PM
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All you seem to be suggesting here is that conservative-minded dudes are upset about women not being the sweet little wifey types they'd hoped they would be. I'd suggest that the conservative terpy types around here are pretty much immune to the WaW effect. If anything, I'd suggest they've already swung hard in the opposite direction. In practice, the WaW effect doesn't mean much. You might assume women have more noble intentions, but for the most part, women are given less agency to actually ac…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 09:30 PM
1

Oh noes! I am defeated at internets!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 03:01 AM
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True - but like "simp" (and most terms coined on the 'net) it's pretty much lost all meaning. Do anything nice for a dude, and there's sure to be some jackass who will call you a pickmeisha.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 02:58 AM
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I've never seen a single RP person claim that those particular things are exclusive to red pill. You've seriously missed the reams of verbiage on how girls say they want a nice guy but what they want is for you to be RIPPED BRO!!1!! Can you link some examples of absolutely bonkers drivel that RP says? r/theredpill Have at it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 02:48 AM
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Well...may your many flower'd crown be fragrant.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 02:41 AM
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Honestly, in terms of dating advice; or even just general life advice, Models isn't bad. Have some self-respect, don't be needy, be honest about what you're feeling, cultivate a life you're proud of. Those are all good ways to live your life. If you live a good life, you tend to naturally attract good people. Some of those will be dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 01:56 AM
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Yeah. I'm BP as fuck; and a very big advocate of being more active. Specifically weight-bearing exercise. The terps think they've got the mortgage on basic sensible advice like "Be active. Have hobbies. Dress well. Develop some social graces. Have some self-respect." and then shovel a bunch of absolutely bonkers drivel on top of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 01:49 AM
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Both mid-40s. We met around 20 years ago the old fashioned way - shitfaced in a pub at 2am. To be fair, she was a friend of a friend. I met pretty much all of my previous girlfriends that way. I am a big advocate of meeting through friends. OLD can be horribly dispiriting. It's a lot tougher to ghost someone you're vaguely connected to, and allows both of you time to consider each others' virtues beyond a couple of mugshots.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 01:39 AM
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Adorable. (Also - is the flair a Lingua Ignota reference? Because, if so, bravo.)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 01:35 AM
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The passive-aggressiveness is delicious and I laugh at you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 01:29 AM
1

Women who play instruments. Ooo-ee.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 08:36 PM
1

I said toxic masculinity. Not masculinity is toxic. Don’t be obtuse. And I honestly don’t dwell on womens whining about how awful men are to date either.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 12:02 PM
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Men have plenty of problems champ. I’m a mental health advocate for men in my industry. I’m more than aware of what the problems are. I’m trying to get men to shed some of the toxic masculine bullshit and talk about their problems. Loneliness, drug and alcohol abuse, family breakdown, mental illness and - yes - low self esteem. These are problems. Being shitty with women for not matching with you on Tinder isn’t. Dwelling on how awful women are isn’t addressing your problems. It’s fucking wallow…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 11:50 AM
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Dude - I'm a plumber married to a lawyer. Women "date down" all the fucking time. And while we're on it - women get told to stop bitching about their problems all the damn time. Y'know - little things like sexual harassment, worse pay for the same jobs, not being taken seriously. Lady problems - not real man problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 10:00 AM
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If they got comfortable with the idea that getting dates takes work and they they are going to get a lot more misses than hits, and to not take them personally, that'd be a start. There's so much whining about OLD here. Yeah. It's tough. Maybe it's not your lane. Try meeting IRL. IRL meeting is tough too - you've gotta break the ice and risk awkwardness and rejection. Yeah. It's tough. Rejection hurts, and nearly everyone faces a lot of it. If you've got reasonable self esteem, you'll have the r…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 08:43 AM
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Average guys get laid because they're in relationships. Getting into a relationship is hard, but once you're in one, getting laid becomes a pretty simple matter. There seem to be a lot of guys who have internalised this idea that women are basically a sexual buffet, and they've been denied their birthright of being able to just fill their plate and come back for seconds. When they find out it's more of an expensive a la carte situation, they act like they've somehow been cheated.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 06:10 AM
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The vast majority of men would do fine with dating if they weren't constantly tripping over their own dicks. Average looking dudes with average jobs get laid every fucking day. There's not this insane ghettoisation of dating that I keep reading about here. There's nothing new about average dudes finding it hard to get laid. It's always been hard to get laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 04:24 AM
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I'm a construction worker. I use maths constantly; but it's all simple stuff. Add, subtract, divide, multiply. If I really push the boat out, I'll occasionally use Pythagoras or even some basic Trigonometry. But really, there's no call for me to know anything more complicated. I don't need to know how load ratings or airflow volumes are derived - that's someone else's job. I just need to know whether I'll need a 10mm or a 12mm threaded rod to carry the load of the Fan Coil Unit I'm installing in…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 04:19 AM
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IMO, there's more than one type of intelligence. IT/Engineers are good at math and general logic; but taken out of that context they tend to be straight-up drooling halfwits with all the social intelligence of pond scum. Your average construction worker might not know one end of computer from the other, but won't turn into a gibbering freak at the sight of a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 04:09 AM
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“Be yourself” is shit advice with a kernel of truth. Everyone has good things about them, or at very least things that can be improved. Just gotta push them to the fore and throw a tarp over the less desirable parts while you work on them.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 06:04 AM
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Speak for yourself dude…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 06:01 AM
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Sometimes posts on here feel so extreme like I’m reading about a different planet. Mate - most of the posters on here are terminally online weirdies who desperately need to go find some grass to touch. You might as well be reading about another planet.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 08:17 PM
10

I’m mid 40s. If I was single, I would not be chasing a college-aged woman. I’d be chasing her hot mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 08:36 AM
1

Ditch a couple of military boondoggles or refuse to bail out a couple of rich dickheads who’ve run themselves into the rocks of their own hubris and you probably won’t even notice.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 08:28 AM
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Whichever one is lying around.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 08:21 PM
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I look hot as shit in eyeliner, so yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 12:14 PM
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The wall is a cope for thirsty dudes who can't fuck. They're sure that all these nubile young chicks they're lusting after are going to wake up one day and find that their sex appeal has evaporated and men won't give them the time of day anymore. Of course, they will have aged like fine wine and be rich and all the hot young chicks will be forming an orderly queue to suck their dicks. Look - if you take care of yourself, you'll probably look reasonably good regardless of what age you are. I'm in…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 05:14 AM
-1

Not only are men increasingly sexless Nah bro. Just you.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 05:06 AM
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And neither side seems to have any problem at all contradicting the values that they otherwise foam at the mouth for in either situation. Probably 'cause sex isn't a commodity you can redistribute, champ.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 05:04 AM
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Piglet in elevator.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 12:09 AM
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Wat? What does that have to do with equality? I'd call the person best set up to help me out. In 99.9% of cases, that's gonna be my wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 11:38 PM
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I work in construction; so it's 99% dudes. As a result, I talk to a lotta dudes in an environment where their unfiltered opinions on women tend to come out. The young guys (Zoomer and younger Millenials) still say sexist shit, but on the whole they seem to view women as basically equal, and people worthy of respect. The older guys (GenX and Boomers) will say shit that will peel the chrome off your bumper. So yeah. I reckon men are becoming less sexist.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 10:52 PM
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TLDR: Something something evolutionary biology feminism bad why don't girls like me I'm a nice guy they only wanna fuck Chad. Jesus Christ you terps are predictable.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 10:48 PM
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You're making the very big assumption that Tinder gives any kind of a fuck about finding you a partner. ATM, it's business model seems to be attracting just enough women to keep the guys on the app and paying for superlikes, promotion etc. Hinge and OKC would probably do the exact same thing if it were more profitable and Tinder hadn't crowded out that market already. IMO, where people actually form relationships through online dating, they manage to do it in spite of the apps, rather than becau…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 10:44 PM
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If you’re always concerned about showing yourself to be strong, you’re going to end up completely fucked in the head. This is what we mean by “toxic masculinity”.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 09:45 PM
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Sooo...maybe get off Tinder? You're like the dudes on here sooking it up that Tinder isn't Door Dash for a girlfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 08:29 AM
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I work in construction, which is 99% male. It's really not much of an issue - though I do have to supress a giggle when a Grindr notification sound goes off in the smoko shed.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 07:45 AM
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Tell me you're angry at good-looking men getting more chicks than you without telling me you're angry at good-looking men getting more chicks than you.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 07:42 AM
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Being good-looking and rich with a cool job is gonna help you get your foot in the door. No argument. But dudes trip over their own dicks thinking that their average looks, average wealth and average job mean that they'll never snag a woman. Hell - if you can back that up by being funny, charming or genuinely kind, you might even snag an above average woman. Where I see dudes complaining about women not being into average guys; what I usually see is a lot of guys doing nothing much but swiping o…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 02:59 AM
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Looks money and status gets rejected by women Where are these women saying that these things are unattractive? I think what they're actually saying is that these things in themselves don't make a man a good prospect as a partner if he's an ass. You're adding 2 and 2 and getting 5 bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 02:44 AM
3

GET OUT OF MY ROOM!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 02:38 AM
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NGL - doing this with the distinct aim of meeting chicks sounds like absolute serial-killer shit to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 02:38 AM
5

I find it super interesting that things like “be more alpha” don’t come up lol If by "alpha" you mean "not weasely and non-committal, or lazy and half-assed about dating", I'd say it's an oversight. But that's not what terpers mean by "alpha".
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 02:35 AM
0

You see - your girlfriend has to think you have no flaws - otherwise something something divorce. It's the corollary to the FDSers High Value Man.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 02:25 AM
1

Bruh. You are not Quasimodo getting pelted with rotten vegetables. Calm down.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 02:12 AM
1

Eh? What attitude are we talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 02:10 AM
1

When thirsty dudes start routinely breaking into people's houses to pay for their next egirl vidya, you may have a point. If people would pay money to see me play games in a low-cut top, you bet your ass I wouldn't getting up at 5am to go unblock people's drains.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 02:09 AM
2

I'm superannuated. And practical. Sex work is work, and it can be fuckin' hard work. The hours usually suck, it's potentially dangerous, it can take an emotional toll, and even with the best will in the world your sex life is gonna suffer. I'm not saying sex workers are bad people or even bad partners; but I'm not sure I wanna sign up to help carry that load.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 02:00 AM
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It is possible to support the right of sex workers to be safe and accepted, but still not want to date one, y’know. Like - I support women who are professional athletes, but there’s no way in hell I’d ever date one. Ditto professional musicians or comedians. There are elements of their lifestyles which would make it very difficult to have a functional relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 10:23 PM
8

Dude. Go outside. You’re confusing Reddit with real life. Stop.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 10:18 PM
1

If a dude is watching hours of porn a day, he has serious problems; well beyond the scope of most dudes porn usage.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 05:58 AM
4

Truth is that in any LTR, your attraction is gonna wax and wane. There will be times where you wanna tear their underwear off with your teeth and bang on the kitchen counter; and there will be times where you wonder how the hell you haven’t murdered each other. Fact is, rampant horniness can’t be sustained, and would frankly drive you bonkers if it did. Regardless - to butcher the old saw - for every Chris Hemsworth, there’s a woman who’s real tired of his shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 05:52 AM
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No. I’m a dude. Hook up culture is overblown. As much as terps might think every chick is slutting it up like mad in their 20s, the stats just don’t bear that out. Most women have 5 or fewer lifetime sexual partners. What people mostly experience in their early 20s is rejection, thwarted ambition, longing, missed opportunities and boredom. Men and women both. Regardless, it doesn’t take a lot of one night stands or short term hookups to work out that they’re pretty empty and unsatisfying for mos…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 05:36 AM
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Sex can be commodified, but it’s not inherently a commodity. Do you slip your girlfriend cash every time she gives you a wristy?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 12:47 AM
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Yeah. They should keep doing that. It totally works and can never backfire.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 12:42 AM
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In the same way, as women get older, they shouldn’t be in the same position to be demanding exactly what they want due to diminishing beauty, right? That's probably true. But only if a particular kind of fresh-faced, teenaged beauty is your thing. And also if it's the only thing you value. You're looking for a trophy to show off to other men mate, not a partner. Just buy an expensive car instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 11:10 AM
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Your analysis is dumb as hell because sex isn't a commodity; regardless of how much terps want to treat it like one. Look - everyone's dumb and horny when they're young. It's pretty much the defining characteristic of your late teens and early 20s. Likewise, most people reach their late 20s/early 30s and realise that hookups actually kinda suck.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 11:05 AM
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What? Why? Are you a masochist? I'd much rather be let down gently. There is no world in which I'd prefer "Get away from me you beardy freak" to "I have a boyfriend". They both end with me getting rejected, but I don't see why that rejection needs to be deliberately unpleasant.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 09:22 AM
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Dude - you’re hop, step and a jump from pulling out the skull calipers. Calm down. Being emotionally intelligent is good, but you don’t foster it at gunpoint.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 12:26 PM
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Wow there’s a lot of unbacked assertions here…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 12:10 PM
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Ahh PPD. Where dudes invent people tut-tutting them in their heads, and proceed to get mad at them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 08:55 AM
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then you're equals, if youre the same age. Well, we are the same age; but we’re equals because we met as dumb, horny kids and built a life together over 20 years. I can’t say I was thinking too much about her yOuTh anD FerTilliTY when we met, and I doubt my pay check entered into her mind. was i supppsoed to know all that? why are you acting as if thats a good gotcha Well, I alluded to being male and not single in previous comments; but you were busy building a picture in your head of a 30-somet…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 10:06 PM
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Well…three main reasons: I’m married I’m a dude I’m straight Oh yeah. My wife outearns me and pretty much always has.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 09:44 PM
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Look, if you can’t stomach the idea of dating a woman your own age, thats fine. You don’t need to invent a whole fAcTs And LoGiC post-hoc justification for it. Don’t worry - if you keep looking for long enough you’ll find a younger woman who wants to touch your dick.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 08:05 PM
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Okay - I’ll humour you and say you’re 100% correct. What do you do with this sage wisdom?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 11:33 AM
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