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As a woman, it's not only refreshing to hear this, but also feeling genuine happiness for you that you've embraced this, because YES, like you said, letting society dictate your worth is having an external locus of control, which inherently undermines the basic psychological needs for well-being, as outline in Self-Determination Theory: competence, autonomy, and relatedness. If you're curious, also recommend looking into the mitzvot of Simcha, which is part of Pikuach Nefesh. Basically, the latt…
/r/ExRedPill11/08/25 08:55 PM
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Why do you think it's creepy? Part of the difficulty with neurodiversity can be poor self-monitoring, meaning awareness of what our body is doing. That means we have difficulty with social proprioception: paying attention isn't enough if you can't make heads or tails of what it means
/r/ExRedPill31/07/23 07:27 PM
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As an autistic woman having watched those, I find them helpful like: "Here's body language that usually communicates ____" If you're interested in body language content, I highly recommend the channel Observe--he studied body language for his education I would say Charisma on Command is like a pamphlet: it gives you information that's helpful. But it's not a religious text: it's not meant to be taken as part of your identity, if that makes sense? A metaphor: some people tie their sneakers, and s…
/r/ExRedPill31/07/23 04:43 PM
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I'll have to check both that and the podcast out. Whenever a creator I like is mired in controversy, I still want to take the time to see what is being said.
/r/ExRedPill30/07/23 07:48 PM
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Video 1 Video 2 Video 3 I have more to make, but run out of spoons easily, so I make them in spurts
/r/ExRedPill30/07/23 07:45 PM
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I'm working on my own YouTube videos for ExRedPillers, from the perspective of social science and women's perspectives (and I make sure to note that women are not a monolith). I'd appreciate your feedback actually, if you're interested?
/r/ExRedPill30/07/23 01:44 PM
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I haven't heard of him: what does he say about her? / Do you have a link?
/r/ExRedPill30/07/23 01:43 PM
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I should have been more specific. So the actions suggested above by OP, yes I agree. Looking twice, their writing is more ambiguous than I thought The way I inferred it the first time is "not about your technique," as in, it's not about playing mind games, such as waiting to text back in an attempt to elicit the desired result (a date) by playing hard to get. By value, I took it as feelings of self-worth. The immature techniques of redpill are based on feelings of inferiority and insecurity, so …
/r/ExRedPill30/07/23 01:31 PM
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Keep us posted 😊
/r/ExRedPill30/07/23 03:35 AM
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People think she's a cult, which, I'm not entirely sure why. I think it's fear of New Age and spirituality because absolutely, it's exploited. As someone who grew up groomed and sexually abused though, she had videos that were thought provoking, helping me to challenge the engrained beliefs as a survivor. I also suspect she is autistic, hence the unusual body language. It's not for me to say, but there is a term I forget where neurodiverse people tend to flock together somehow, and I'm much bett…
/r/ExRedPill30/07/23 03:34 AM
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She's not an Andrew Tate. She's definitely not a lot of people's cup of tea, and that's okay. And I agree with doing research. Masculine and feminine energy that she talks about is not the same as sticking people into gender roles. I'm genderfluid, which means I oscillate between masculine and feminine: that's more along the lines of what she means. Think Carl Jung's archetypes.
/r/ExRedPill30/07/23 03:22 AM
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Teal Swan helped me a lot, and I'm aware of the controversy around her and have done my own digging. As someone who has studied social science extensively, a lot of what she talks about is actually supported by it (the need for connection, implicit expectations, the harm in being disingenuous). I always encourage people to remain in critical thinking, and realize that how she presents topics as a spiritual mindset can be a turn off to some people, because so many cults HAVE abused that. I've wat…
/r/ExRedPill30/07/23 03:17 AM
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Great advice As much as it hurts, at least they showed their hand early on, saving you time down the line
/r/ExRedPill29/07/23 09:25 PM
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First off, just putting it out there: as an autistic woman, texting culture is a GODDAMN NIGHTMARE Now that's off my chest, needy is not the same as enthusiastic. (Crap, I'm running out of physical spoons because I have chronic fatigue and illness), but I genuinely want to help with your question, luv ♥️ I have a crap load of education in psychology and human connection, and how American culture skews genuine need for human connection as "needy," it pisses me off. It's about understanding bounda…
/r/ExRedPill29/07/23 02:29 AM
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Listen, if you're a sociopath or psychopath, just own it. Seeing your negative account karma, it'll make it easier to have conversations if people know why you're posting what you're posting. TW: . . Sociopathy is made, psychopathy is born. I was headed toward sociopathy when I was being severely sexually abused, that my empathy was getting burned out because I was in such hardcore survival mode. I even had some sadism developing. Thankfully, therapy (and getting the fuck outta that situation HE…
/r/ExRedPill29/07/23 12:55 AM
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That's what confuses me. I have seen instances though of where statistics are used, but improperly. Yes, there are absolutely shitty things men have to go through. However, the points are quantitative only, and are used to dismiss what women have to survive. For instance, on Reddit, I've had men use statistics to say that men have more to fear going out than women do, and then I share how my next door neighbor stalks and harasses my home aide and I currently, (and it's not even the first person …
/r/ExRedPill25/07/23 10:43 AM
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I haven't heard of either of these (I'm a woman trying to understand more about RP), but I'm commenting to follow to learn
/r/ExRedPill25/07/23 02:04 AM
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What is learning "game"? Gender expectations are something I'm still learning about: I'm very forward, would happily ask a man out, kiss first, etc., but I feel like I creep men out sometimes, or at least make them feel like they're losing their balance, socially? I've always had difficulty with social norms (I tried to adhere to my religious upbringing where women are basically expected to be like the sisters in Sense & Sensibility.... GOD IT WAS HORRIBLE). Made me feel so disempowered. And dat…
/r/ExRedPill25/07/23 02:03 AM
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That sounds exhausting 😳 What is the rationale behind these things attracting women? Like, I know the US culturally in general promotes looks, wealth, and status, but those tend to translate differently for women. Is hypergamy having multiple sexual partners? Or being attracted to many people? I've only heard the term in regards to RedPill terminology.
/r/ExRedPill25/07/23 01:05 AM
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1) holy shit that sounds exhausting 😳 2) how does adopting RedPill strategy at least seem like it was working effectively, like "Before RedPill, ___, but now? ____!" 3) .... what's a Chad? 😅 4) Why is the concept of a Chad harem appealing? 🤔 I'm polyam by nature, so uh, I'm into some things 👀 lol 5) What kinds of things did peer pressure expect from you? And I'm sorry for the lack of friendship and support, I know the feeling 😞💔 I hope that changes for you 6) Why does having such authoritarian c…
/r/ExRedPill25/07/23 12:50 AM
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How is "success" defined? My autistic af brain has always found the term ambiguous. Granted, metrics vary from individual to individual, but how do these metrics tend to be socialized/preached? Another part of my specific autism is that peer pressure was never an issue for me, because the things I saw peers do to fit in always struck me as asinine--all through childhood, and even teenagehood, I thought teenagers were weird 😂 And 20s has morphed into extended teenagehood in a manner of speaking, …
/r/ExRedPill25/07/23 12:02 AM
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I've lost friends to redpill, friends who were interested in science and research. I'm so sorry 💔 My suspicion is that it awakens hidden entitlement that they've been socialized with. I've also heard of cases in the TwoXChromosomes of cases with heterosexual spouses where the man ascends into a higher income bracket, and gets absolutely flooded with classist, misogynistic propaganda. I highly recommend reading this book by Lundy Bancroft. It's painful, but it also provides a lot of clarity and i…
/r/ExRedPill24/07/23 11:25 PM
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I'm just seeing this after the last comment, idk why Reddit didn't show it until now 🤦 I'm sorry that happened to you, that's horrible 💔 My dad sexually abused me growing up, showed me his erection, molested me, would purposely walk in on me while I was in the bathroom or in my room changing, would grab my ass while I washed the dishes, and tried to make me do what he called "cheesecake" (erotic pinup, basically) photos, and got angry whenever I showed any modicum of discomfort. He'd lick my fac…
/r/ExRedPill22/07/23 12:55 AM
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You're saying this as if you just explained your life story. Also, clearly I know women are capable of being perpetrators if you read my comments. You're making assumptions about what I would say before I've said anything. That's on you, bud.
/r/ExRedPill22/07/23 12:49 AM
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Aww yay to hugs ☺️ I'm sorry you've experienced such touch starvation 😞 I'm very affectionate with people whom I'm comfortable with/close to, to the point where it can be overwhelming, because I'm very NOT touchy with most people. I spent a good chunk of life touch starved (well, sorta--the CSA I went through isn't really within that same category though, lol macabre humor 💀). I try to be careful of getting into pissing contests (because in this case I'd lose, my corny double entendre 😁🧀) about …
/r/ExRedPill20/07/23 03:26 AM
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Thank you for sharing ❤️💔 As autist to autist, I'm so sorry for all the pain and loneliness 😞 it's really painful, especially when people who claim to care about you will do the most inhumane shit.... I don't get it. Hugs (but only if they are consensual) are offered. When written as you put, that makes a lot of sense at the appeal. I don't think there is a female equivalent to the manosphere, because our experiences are so diverse depending on our demographics (e.g. I'm white, well-educated, bu…
/r/ExRedPill20/07/23 12:36 AM
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Commenting to follow ☺️
/r/ExRedPill20/07/23 12:07 AM
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Hello fellow spoonie 💕 If I may ask, how did it suck you in in regards to having chronic illness?
/r/ExRedPill19/07/23 10:30 PM
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As an autistic woman, would you be willing to elaborate? I replied on another comment, but I have been searching to understand this like crazy, and this is the first time I've been able to find input from autistic men. There seems to be a wider discrepancy between male vs female autists, and as someone who used to have several ND male friends, they got cold and cruel after the pandemic hit (not all of them, but the majority). Whereas my female ND (and autistic) friends seemed to bond more closel…
/r/ExRedPill19/07/23 05:51 PM
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Following your and u/Darkorigins7323 thread, because as an autistic woman, this hasn't been intuitive at all, and I've been looking for these answers. The more I learn about autistic experiences, the more I'm seeing a discrepancy between autistic men's vs autistic women's experiences. Connecting with autistic women and talking about our experiences, we're absolutely baffled by some of the behavior of our fellow autists who are men. My current hypothesis is because we experience exclusion from th…
/r/ExRedPill19/07/23 05:44 PM
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Oh god, this guy is red flags. He shouldn't be a therapist because it requires more flexible thinking and openness, and he's also refuting the science of both quantitative and qualitative data. As a white person, I can tell you racism absolutely does exist. I haven't just read about it or consumed media: I've witnessed it and it's absolutely horrible and dehumanizing. The 1619 Project documentary and Let's Talk About Race by Ijeoma Oluo are great starting points for learning about it.
/r/ExRedPill19/07/23 12:57 AM
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I'm trying to read into it, and holy lexicon, there are a lot of terms that I just don't know that are throwing off my reading. So you have a basic synopsis for the theory? I'll keep looking too, but I'm definitely out of my depth here 😂 Edit: do, not so
/r/ExRedPill18/07/23 01:59 PM
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Okay That wasn't at all clear in your original post Still need to be careful though too with talking about physique, because there are men who may be disabled, who may not have the finances or health to work out. Exercise is different from working out. e.g. I have spontaneous muscle failure, so I can't work out like I used to (because I enjoyed it). I still get exercise though by doing paces through my apartment. Also, if a woman is blind, I doubt looks would matter at all. Working out can also …
/r/ExRedPill18/07/23 01:50 PM
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It's about sweeping generalizations vs systemic issues. When women bring up harmful patterns, we get #NotAllMen ed all the damn time. In this case, your writing is not clear, and several users have pointed out that we really don't want anything pill or incel to have a spot to grow here, and given how those hubs are notorious for sweeping generalizations, yeah, a lot of users are saying not all women. Context is key
/r/ExRedPill18/07/23 01:44 PM
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Shit, that's a good point with algorithms--I don't understand enough about how they work, so idk how to curate my content I guess? Is there a way to reset them?
/r/ExRedPill18/07/23 01:39 PM
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I've never heard of the theory, so no clue what you mean atm. I'd have to read into it.
/r/ExRedPill18/07/23 01:11 PM
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Jeez... You did the right thing defending yourself. I'm sorry you got blamed for it We live in a perpetrator-protected society, it's horrible
/r/ExRedPill18/07/23 01:10 PM
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You've never had to deal with this kind of stuff is my bet
/r/ExRedPill18/07/23 01:08 PM
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After reading through a lot of your comments: Either you wrote in a way that understandably confused a lot of people and you refuse to just own that and edit it, or we actually are interpreting you correctly, and you're upset we are. Which is it?
/r/ExRedPill18/07/23 12:19 PM
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You also put in your opening post that we need to "read between the lines." It's not our job to read your mind, and if you aren't clear, and a lot of us are actually misinterpreting what you actually intend, then why don't you just edit your original post to clarify instead of, you know, getting upset that a lot of people misinterpreted a post that wasn't clear to begin with? 🤨
/r/ExRedPill18/07/23 12:16 PM
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Getting a taste of #NotAllMen causing cognitive dissonance?
/r/ExRedPill18/07/23 12:14 PM
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You're purposely going out of your way to commit confirmation bias. The rest of us see that and are pointing it out. You're not an authority on this topic. Why do you think you are?
/r/ExRedPill18/07/23 12:13 PM
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A woman
/r/ExRedPill18/07/23 12:12 PM
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How about asking us (women) what we like instead of telling us what we like?
/r/ExRedPill18/07/23 12:11 PM
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You're clearly miffed, but instead of being combatant about it, try opening up and coming from a place of vulnerability instead. Unless you're using aggression to "prove" something to yourself?
/r/ExRedPill18/07/23 12:10 PM
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Genetics ≠ inherently muscle bound The real question is why do you think you need to "prove" a point, and what even is the point you're trying to make?
/r/ExRedPill18/07/23 12:08 PM
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Thanks for writing about this and bringing it to greater awareness As a disabled person, I just don't bother to look at those videos, because why? 😂 Lol But I still want to be in-the-know without having to consume the poison content itself, so thanks for writing ❤️
/r/ExRedPill18/07/23 03:27 AM
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Omg, I've never heard the term, and my mind immediately thought, "SOUNDS LIKE HUMAN TRAFFICKING 🤢" Thank you for sharing: it's another term I now know to watch out for
/r/ExRedPill17/07/23 11:48 PM
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You haven't been on Reddit long enough then 😂
/r/ExRedPill17/07/23 11:01 PM
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Oh god, I'm so sorry 😔 Eh, I wouldn't really say we can defend ourselves either, because there is a high risk of escalation--we usually have to pretend we didn't notice or that it's not a big deal... There's still also a lot of problematic points of view that we somehow deserved it, or "didn't do enough" to try to stop him.. Me to the world: How about we stop blaming people for getting assaulted/molested and hold the perpetrator accountable instead?? DON'T TOUCH PEOPLE is not hard Again, I'm sor…
/r/ExRedPill16/07/23 03:32 PM
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If a woman doesn't know what she needs or wants, how would she even be capable of rebelling?? 🤣🤣 If this stuff wasn't so harmful, I would totally hate watch it I wanna watch the different sects debate 👀🍿
/r/ExRedPill16/07/23 03:28 PM
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Thanks 💕 I have an SSI lawyer, and my case is now moving on to appeals, so I feel like I'm almost there 🤘 But absolutely, as long as it's consensual, legal, and environmentally safe, people should do whatever they want in regards to sex work--I would even say it overlaps with the arts, because it is a form of expression Someday, maybe if my health allows. It seems like fun (even knowing the risks)
/r/ExRedPill16/07/23 03:25 PM
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Thank you for your kind words ❤️ And no one should be mistreated because of how they look, whether they're made to feel invisible or the other end of the spectrum (it's just so, so stupid 🤦 if it wasn't so dehumanizing) Wishing you continued safety 🙏❤️
/r/ExRedPill16/07/23 03:22 PM
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Right! I also grew up in a religion that painted men as 24/7 horndogs, which is such a harmful stereotype. I genuinely thought that was the case until Real Life™ knocked at my door. I had to learn the hard way, and for a while, I thought I was unwantable when male partners said "No," to sex. Sex is an activity, not an indicator of value. Also, their comment got deleted, but if it hadn't, I'd tell them: Some men are even asexual, can you believe that? such wow
/r/ExRedPill16/07/23 06:05 AM
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It's a redpill thing (source: I'm a woman) I've dated men who are attractive to me even if they're not "conventionally attractive." I have had some instances where I've been attracted to men who fit the "conventional attractive" pigeonhole, but they didn't let any of their personality out, and trying to get to know them just made them clam up more / they were emotionally unavailable. That loses interest real quickly, because why not just date a wax statue of their likeness? i.e. that would be mo…
/r/ExRedPill16/07/23 03:47 AM
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Good job being right? If you feel like being right is the most important thing, especially feel the need to be snarky about it, all that does is speak to whatever is going on inside you. I have no idea where the OP is at in the world. Maybe they're in their home country. Maybe they're traveling. What about the content they consume online, where are the creators from? It's not about being right, it's about being open and checking our own assumptions. With all the horrible things I've been right a…
/r/ExRedPill16/07/23 03:36 AM
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You're the one dehumanizing men, mate. I'm a hypersexual woman, and absolutely men have said no to me when I wanted to have sex. Men aren't "always in the mood." Men have varying sex drives. Men can have a lot going on that can interfere with their sex drive. You're missing the point of treating someone as human--you see them as potential sex dolls, your writing makes that clear. Also, I'm a woman having to educate you that men are not homogeneous, wtf bro? 😂😂
/r/ExRedPill16/07/23 03:29 AM
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YAYYYY!!! I'M SO HAPPY FOR YOU!!!!! 🥳🥳🎉🎉 As a woman, wow, this gives me hope. In my area specifically, crime, violence, drug use, are high, which isn't helped by the poverty. And I've been really depressed and angry, because I genuinely enjoy male connections and am exhausted being harassed and stalked, getting into a deep despair. And then finding these communities on Reddit, ExRedPill and IncelExit, it's making me feel hope again 🥰 If you ever decided to publish your experiences or maybe make …
/r/ExRedPill16/07/23 03:21 AM
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In my area, I'm considered reasonably attractive because my breasts are cartoonishly large (as in I need a reduction based on medical necessity, but doctors won't give it to me for some reason--breathing isn't important?). I live in a low SES high & violence area, so being attractive in any way makes the target on your back even bigger. I commented above on someone else's comment the specifics, but basically is that the harassment and stalking is so bad I can't leave my apartment without another…
/r/ExRedPill16/07/23 03:14 AM
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I like your confidence 🙌
/r/ExRedPill16/07/23 03:08 AM
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Yes, and that last bit 😂 my periods used to be so bad, I didn't even feel the contractions when I was in labor. The doctors had hooked me up to a monitor and told me--only reason I knew. The flip side to looks is being aesthetically pleasing (enough) and getting men to LEAVE ME ALONE. I live in a poverty-stricken, high-violence area, and the targeting has gotten so bad, I can't leave my apartment without another adult with me for safety (I'm visibly disabled with wrist crutches = I can't fast wa…
/r/ExRedPill16/07/23 03:07 AM
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Writing is 👌 Please take my poor woman's gold 🏆
/r/ExRedPill16/07/23 02:58 AM
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I knew college students who used measurement systems that were native to them while in the US (even had a joking debate about which is better: Fahrenheit or Celsius). You shouldn't assume where someone is. You should ask and recognize they may not be comfortable answering.
/r/ExRedPill16/07/23 02:32 AM
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Thanks for letting me know That's one that's puzzled me, and I keep my eyes peeled for any answers (because asking them directly is not an available option). But yeah, it's strange 🤷
/r/ExRedPill16/07/23 02:21 AM
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I haven't heard the term before, thanks for sharing I was interested in making solo porn but I became fully disabled before I could start, so 😩 (not that disabled individuals can't make porn--my illness affects things like balance, breathing, circulation, etc., so even basic things like walking from one room to another can exhaust me/I have a home aide, that's how sick I am)
/r/ExRedPill16/07/23 02:08 AM
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Precisely ☝️
/r/ExRedPill16/07/23 02:06 AM
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How do they keep themselves separated? Sounds exhausting to have to nitpick 🥴😂
/r/ExRedPill16/07/23 02:05 AM
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As a whole, at least in the US, agree that we need better preventative and intervening healthcare in regards to disability. Especially if the disability is invisible. Which, now that I think of it, I haven't met many disabled men in my life (not sure why that is--I've met several disabled women). Having their perspectives would help. I think mind exercise is important. Also important to note that the US (I'm not sure if you're in the US?) places a lot of allostatic load on people, especially in …
/r/ExRedPill14/07/23 07:52 PM
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Omg, I'm gonna need to make a list to keep them all straight lol It's like hearing about Proud Boys and Neo-nazis fighting at a Pride event, and so many people (myself included) were like, "..... what's the difference?" 😆 This stuff sounds like it's straight outta the IBLP 🤮
/r/ExRedPill14/07/23 05:15 PM
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Is 'con' for 'conservative'? Whenever I hear "-con," I'm thinking "convention" like Comicon, so I just got an image of a bunch of fundies having a trad-convention 😆
/r/ExRedPill14/07/23 04:50 PM
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Well shit, I guess I just ~poofed~ into thin air out of existence. Thanks a lot, Descartes 😆
/r/ExRedPill14/07/23 04:48 PM
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I certainly relate to the feeling, that's part of why I got to ExRedPill and IncelExit, because it's been restoring some hope again, seeing men be vulnerable and who care. As a mom, I want to keep pushing forward to make the world better for my daughter
/r/ExRedPill14/07/23 04:43 PM
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Thank you for saying this 🙏 Do you know why gay men might do it? I've had it happen several times with gay men, and that one absolutely boggles my mind
/r/ExRedPill14/07/23 03:25 PM
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Haha no problem, I've accidentally done that too 😂 Reddit formatting can be wonky sometimes
/r/ExRedPill14/07/23 03:24 PM
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Some of these are your opinion though. Toxicity/unhealthy traits in regards to gender roles have to do with believing how a person of a certain sex "should" be[have] and why. There are toxic beliefs regarding masculinity and femininity--what makes something toxic is that it is unhealthy--it perpetuates behaviors and mindsets that deviate from organismic wellness (better described by Self-Determination Theory). For example, assertiveness may be seen as more masculine, but it can be taken to the e…
/r/ExRedPill14/07/23 01:23 PM
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I think exercise is good, if someone is able: it can help with mood, channeling emotions, creating endorphins, etc. What are your thoughts on men who are disabled? For example if they have a kind of paralysis, spontaneous muscle failure, respiratory impairments, any kind of condition that limits usual abilities like walking out jumping? What do you mean by ability to acquire knowledge? For example, what about memory impairment, or cognitive impairment, something that limits language processing a…
/r/ExRedPill14/07/23 12:21 AM
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(Are you in the US?) I know other countries are going through strikes as well, but in the US, how employees in general are treated is like trash--it seriously seems like we just started the Industrial Revolution, which didn't have the labor laws we have now. Finding work that 1) pays a livable wage and 2) actually treats you like a person is really hard to find, which is a negative mark upon workplace culture and how those in power (employers) see themselves vs employees in subordinate positions…
/r/ExRedPill13/07/23 11:53 PM
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They might be speaking from their personal experience, but that's not everyone's.
/r/ExRedPill13/07/23 11:31 PM
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Thanks for sharing ❤️ And I'm sorry you have to qualify with that last bit 💔 The more I learn about RP (I'm a woman), it seems like it's 24/7 getting pelted with emotional rubber bullets. It sounds exhausting and demoralizing 🥺
/r/ExRedPill13/07/23 11:30 PM
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As a woman, thank you for writing this ❤️ I'm autistic and brutally honest, so the upside is that that tends to repel a lot of people who wouldn't befriend me for wholesome reasons. What sucks though is men who acted like they were my friend (this includes gay men), then hate me out of the blue (or have become apathetic), and give me zero explanation as to what happened--this has been such a common experience, I've been trying so hard to figure it out. Confuses the absolute fuck outta me 😞
/r/ExRedPill13/07/23 11:27 PM
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Hi, I'm a woman: First, thank you for sharing and being so open ❤️ Given what you've experienced, it seems like you've had a lot of difficulty feeling connected to others growing up, and based on the context, it makes sense why. I studied linguistics and human development because I'm passionate about understanding the human experience, including multiculturalism and identity in relation to it. 11 years old is already a difficult time emotionally, because of the transition into adolescence. I've …
/r/ExRedPill13/07/23 03:44 PM
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Logical, I agree with, because everyone, men and women, can benefit from learning formal logic and critical analysis. Not sure what you mean by the rest: is strength physical strength? Having thick skin? Having courage? Intelligence isn't something that can necessarily be changed, but emotional intelligence is. Do you mean knowledge, not intelligence? What do you mean by charismatic? Something like charisma is subjective, and according to the eye of the beholder. For instance, what's typically d…
/r/ExRedPill12/07/23 09:36 PM
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Sure!
/r/ExRedPill12/07/23 12:24 PM
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Hi! Following out of interest for your research I'm not sure if I counted as a Redpiller: I was raised über religious, had pretty bad internalized misogyny, but I'm not sure if that's helpful to what you're studying
/r/ExRedPill12/07/23 12:10 PM
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In that case, you and I align with those values. What do you think of the ideas from the Redpill community? (Which sounds vague to ask, because I'm not sure how far it extends, and also I'm still pretty new to learning about it)
/r/ExRedPill12/07/23 05:11 AM
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I wish I could say or do something to help. I know I'm a rando on the internet, but fuck that cruel, heartless ideology. I may not fully understand what you're going through, but I'm glad you're here asking for help ❤️ It think it takes great strength to be vulnerable, and I admire that 😊
/r/ExRedPill12/07/23 03:28 AM
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(sleep apnea, yes, that's what I have, I forgot the name 🫠) I've never heard that it could lead to sleep apnea; I thought it was just a symptom. I've always slept with my mouth open and it'd get all dry, blah One would think that the concern would be someone who stops breathing.... Even if strong evidence pointed to a causal relationship between mouth breathing and reduced intelligence.... That's not someone's fault... This group sounds like they were absolutely awful to you 😕 I, for one, hope y…
/r/ExRedPill12/07/23 03:16 AM
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Right 😂 I'm trying to figure out how to respond, because clearly these zarkin' froods have treated you horribly, and I don't want you to feel invalidated by my incredulity at their.... dumbassery But holy Dunning-Kruger
/r/ExRedPill12/07/23 02:20 AM
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(I'm still trying to wrap my head around it ..) How did they even justify that...? Some people have smaller sinus passage ways. Some have problems with jaw position, tonsils, etc. That's not a mark of intelligence or not ... It's just... anatomy?
/r/ExRedPill12/07/23 02:18 AM
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Wow.... 😳
/r/ExRedPill12/07/23 02:15 AM
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Hi, I'm a woman, so I'm still learning terminology. If I may ask, what is facial recession? By mouth breather, do you mean breathe more through your mouth? I breathe primarily through my mouth, because I got black mold poisoning, so I have 24/7 post nasal drip (will wake me up sometimes coughing), and I have a CPAP machine for sleep, an O2 concentrator machine, Albuterol inhalers, and a spacer to help with my mystery lung issues (still trying to get it diagnosed). Sometimes, the air pressure fro…
/r/ExRedPill12/07/23 01:52 AM
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Aww, nice to meet you too ☺️ If it's too forward of me, let me know, but if you're open to chatting, I like connecting with fellow religious survivors. We speak a language that is specific to religious abuse survival, and it can be harder when we feel alone.
/r/ExRedPill11/07/23 11:40 PM
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Noooo, not TMNT! 😢
/r/ExRedPill11/07/23 11:12 PM
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Woman here: NGL, your confidence and self-esteem are quite sexy 👀
/r/ExRedPill11/07/23 11:10 PM
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Out of curiosity, what do you define as being redpill? I'd like to understand more about your experiences if that's alright?
/r/ExRedPill11/07/23 09:55 PM
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I'm so sorry you went through this growing up 💔 I survived religious abuse too, it's an absolute mindfuck. I'm happy that you're free and much happier and in a better place. Thank you for being so open and sharing your experiences with us; may this give hope to others reading here ❤️
/r/ExRedPill11/07/23 09:54 PM
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Commenting because I would be very interested in watching once it comes out!!
/r/ExRedPill11/07/23 07:51 PM
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/r/ExRedPill09/07/23 06:14 PM
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This ⬆️ I've also noticed there seems to be an avid pursuit of confirmation bias?, but that's my perspective. It's confusing and exhausting, because it comes across as, "I don't like how things are, I want them to change, they should just change for me, why haven't they changed for me???" Maybe it's being an autistic XX, because we are treated much differently (worse) than XY, autistic or neuroconforming. Idk?
/r/ExRedPill09/07/23 02:19 AM
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Hi, Learning terminology still: what is the difference between MGTOW, manosphere, and redpill, if any?
/r/ExRedPill09/07/23 02:09 AM
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I think it's great you're going to therapy, and actively working on and questioning things 🙂 And good question about capitalism: trying to make a long answer brief, basically it forces humans to live in survival mode, by circumventing our evolutionary nature to engage in necessary generosity, which diminishes our psychological need fulfillment. Sex at Dawn covers a range of topics, not just sex lol It makes an excellent case with interdisciplinary research about our ancestors and how their socie…
/r/ExRedPill05/07/23 09:16 PM
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Thank you for sharing your perspective ❤️ I'm neurodiverse, so I pretty much defy the common expectations regarding attraction. I don't have a specific height range preference. I'm 5'5", so the downside of a taller man is craning my neck back too far if I'm looking at his face lol It would be fun to piss off red pillers when they have asinine standards of measurement for what's "attractive" by saying, "Well, if you're not American, you're not using English Standard measurement, so numbers don't …
/r/ExRedPill05/07/23 08:14 PM
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So, here's what I'm wondering: is this feeling something you genuinely want to change? Let's set aside truth value (as in, whether you are 100% correct, not at all, or somewhere in between--let's not focus on that just yet). I ask because I've dealt with (and still do) limiting beliefs, and I genuinely want to challenge them, but at the same time, it feels like there isn't any changing them because I've tried everything under the sun and it's still there, and so it can feel futile a lot. And our…
/r/ExRedPill04/07/23 08:27 PM
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(oh damn, Reddit just deleted what I was typing, I hate how much it glitches 🤦) PART TWO in my experience in women's subs, I've run across many fellow women who also adore shy men. Here's what I'm wondering about what is feeding your belief: when did you begin to think that women view shy men as "pathetic"? And who primarily fed it: was it from direct feedback from women? Was it from other men saying that? Was it from what you came across in media? And if you have experienced any women genuinely…
/r/ExRedPill01/07/23 08:27 PM
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Okay, so in addition to answering what you brought up, I also want to highlight some of the thinking bubbling up from redpill here. In regards to formal logic, redpill commits a host of fallacies. You're assigning a value judgment to your perception. Women vary in taste, and it's one thing to feel uncomfortable, because for example, many people are uncomfortable with "awkward silences" (I usually am not uncomfortable with silence, so I don't find it awkward). But thinking/judging someone as "pat…
/r/ExRedPill01/07/23 08:10 PM
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I think I already posted the link to the study, but pheromones actually DO play a role. Like I said to OP, next time ask for clarification before making assumptions as to what "must be" driving the behavior. That's very common behavior from red pill, that as women we get talked around, instead of just asking us directly. It's infantilizing and dehumanizing, and is what we mean by being talked over by men. It still baffles me that men seek answers about women by... looking at what other men say? …
/r/ExRedPill01/07/23 12:03 PM
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Some advice: you ought to have asked me for clarification instead of guessing--I offered to answer questions for reasons such as this. Because we lack in-person context, I'm annoyed, but this isn't a conversation-ending-thing because I realize you're working on changing your perspective, so I know it's not personal. In regards to red pill, that's something else that happens: men are giving answers for "what women want," instead of asking women directly. That is something that drives us bananas--…
/r/ExRedPill01/07/23 11:58 AM
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https://ny.pbslearningmedia.org/resource/tdc02.sci.life.evo.sweatytshirts/sweaty-t-shirts-and-human-mate-choice/ Also a good source is the book Sex at Dawn Toxic traits are a big turn off. And the men I tend to be attracted to: some are considered conventionally attractive, others are not.
/r/ExRedPill01/07/23 11:52 AM
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I'm a woman, so I'm still learning about red pill ideology, but what little I know, I agree (ETA: I agree with you lol not redpill 😂). There are definitely hard spots, because learning how we each communicate, how we need to be communicated to, just takes time. What took me a long time to understand was the implicit expectations, that people "should be" a certain way (I'm autistic--I just don't think like that). As long as a person is being honest, attuned, and accountable for their own emotions…
/r/ExRedPill01/07/23 03:15 AM
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Hi, So I'm a woman; my question is that are these your personal experiences only, or are some yours + other men you know? I've been learning that subculture can make a difference too (violence and domestic violence are very common where I live, for example, so everyone is pretty wary overall, men and women). And personally, I've had a kind of(?) opposite experience: I tend to intimidate men, because I'm very straightforward, I speak what's on my mind, and maybe being college-educated adds to it …
/r/ExRedPill01/07/23 03:05 AM
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Hi, I'm a woman here, and first, good for you to be vulnerable and honest. You want to do better and are asking for help, and I think that's great ❤️ Please never lose that, empathetic honesty is something women love in men. Struggling with body dysmorphia, I want to ask that you please be kind to yourself. I do understand that there is a science to symmetrical faces and body ratios in regards to being attractive. In statistical terms, being some standard deviations away from the mean is not the…
/r/ExRedPill28/06/23 05:27 PM
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It might seem like that, but some perspective: • Dating isn't really easy as a woman, no. Do we have more likelihood of landing dates? Yes. But we also have to worry we might not make it back alive. We share live location tracking, let trusted people know where we're going and with whom we're going (and share their photo) in case they need that information for a formal investigation. I never meet a first date at a bar, because the possibility of getting roofied is so high--have to keep my drink …
/r/ExRedPill28/06/23 04:21 AM
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I appreciate you letting me know
/r/ExRedPill19/06/23 09:00 PM
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I can see you're still active online, so it's not like you haven't been on. The behavior you exhibited is exactly what I keep running into, and why so many of us as women are absolutely exhausted. I'm not surprised that you lashed out, because frankly, I have come to expect being treated like this by men. That, or just stonewalling and zero explanation for no contact. And this is all kinds of circumstances, not just online. I can trust that men will not take ownership of explaining why they're u…
/r/ExRedPill19/06/23 02:32 PM
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What? I'm genuinely confused. We might be using the term differently. There might be a side to it that you know, that I don't, that's bubbling up, but I am asking in good faith. 🤦 Actually, this is a smaller example of what tends to happen with men specifically when I ask questions, because I genuinely want to understand. If I offend a woman, she'll usually take a beat to explain, so at least I can understand how it seems I came across, and make amends, you know? I'm autistic, here = I have zero…
/r/ExRedPill18/06/23 04:37 PM
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Thanks!
/r/ExRedPill18/06/23 04:28 PM
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Oh, I'm surprised that posted! The mod bots said it was removed according to rule 2, so I couldn't figure out why exactly. Lundy Bancroft's work, omg, it has been amazing. He is the reason that I am aware of it at all, and basically I am parroting what he says in his resurrection with the zeal of someone thinking The Rapture™ is coming any day now--why his book is not talked about more in women's circles....???? So I kind of get the idea academically (usually how I have to approach understanding…
/r/ExRedPill18/06/23 03:52 PM
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"Holy Polaris, Batman!" 😳 Thank you for explaining, I'd definitely never heard of 1488--at first I thought you were gonna say it was a year in history that was important to white supremacy, and I was all confused, but then I kept reading (lol at my blunder, not white supremacy). I didn't realize "male presenting female" was anti-trans! 😲 I took it too literally, that, "Oh, it's someone who identifies as a man, and they like dressing femme, maybe like drag or something." Being autistic, fuck... T…
/r/ExRedPill18/06/23 03:43 PM
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Omg your first girlfriend's distance on that spit is impressive! I'm just a tad envious of her, damn hahaha 😂 Especially if she wasn't spitting seeds, that's HARD. Cherry pits always seemed to get the best mileage, whereas watermelon seeds were too likely to almost get swallowed, especially if they hadn't fully matured and were still kinda squishy--hard to aim and not just spit up on my chin instead 😆 But actual saliva-only spitting? Snorts, Rose from Titanic probably did better 😆 Why is it scar…
/r/ExRedPill18/06/23 03:32 PM
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Oh wow 😲 I get along well with veterans (used to be part of a writing group for veterans and family members/friends), but the demographic spanned from WWII to Vietnam, the largest population in the group. There was a marked absence of anyone younger, and the group noticed it too. Especially Iraq and younger, nope. Just nope, not there. They could be a bit more old school, but not greatly, or at least overtly? They were very down-to-earth people. What is it about white supremacy that appeals to v…
/r/ExRedPill18/06/23 03:17 PM
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Granted, of course there is nuance and every situation is not exactly the same, but what is it like being raised as a boy in western culture? Mark Greene talks about the Act-Like-A-Man-Box culture, and how boys are made to police each other, which is the first insight I'd really gotten into it, and even that tidbit absolutely blew my mind. What's it like seeing movies and video games (as a gamer myself) that so often have male characters, especially if they're ridiculously chiseled, or have too …
/r/ExRedPill18/06/23 03:01 PM
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Again, thank you for sharing--I could see the stars, but not the constellations, if that makes sense? It's very hard to get the perspective of men, and this is the kind of perspective I've been seeking for a while now. Yeah, I'm definitely wired different, lmao. Part of it's poverty mentality, but also just not a materialistic person, so western culture's standards of "success" never made much sense to me. That's not to say I didn't internalize some of it, as in go to college and grad school = g…
/r/ExRedPill18/06/23 10:10 AM
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That's what confuses me a lot, because it must make men miserable too, no? Feminists actually want men to be happy, and you can't have true intimacy if you feel entitled to dictate and control others, namely, women, like???? Even reading what Bancroft writes about why men are motivated to stay abusive, it makes sense academically, but emotionally? I can't imagine treating my loved ones like perpetual White Lotus staff, 🤮
/r/ExRedPill18/06/23 08:52 AM
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Wow, thank you for writing this all out, I really appreciate it! It definitely helped me to connect some dots, please accept my poor woman's medal 🥇 I'll definitely ponder this, and also, what you have written has helped me to realize yes--I'm missing context, and for several reasons: being AFAB, being autistic, and growing up in such a small religious school, we had like 50 people K-12, so not a big enough sample size to get a good enough sense of hierarchy there. And the way you've written it.…
/r/ExRedPill18/06/23 08:28 AM
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Translation: Stop calling me out and let me think dichotomously without any accountability 😤 Also, I'm LGBTQ+ No Redpiller given a gesture of good faith, here??? In ExRedPilled???? You don't say! /s It wasn't clear that I don't live in Hamtramck when I said I pulled up an article to read about it, when I said I live in the NE....? Geography, man 😳 Yikes If so many details are meaningless to you, why are you even here?
/r/ExRedPill18/06/23 07:49 AM
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English definitely is hella amusing from a linguistic perspective, and when it's coupled with the language of bigotry .. 🤣 Of course I don't like bigotry, but sometimes how they try to English.... and fail.... it's like watching a bunch of turkeys puff up and try to fly and SCHLOOMP woops they just fell back to earth. If I didn't have to worry about the very real danger posed, omg, it would be so amusing to watch, like MST3K, only M stands for 'Millenial' now 😂😂😂
/r/ExRedPill18/06/23 07:36 AM
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Lundy Bancroft researched abusive men for 15 years and wrote Why Does He Do That? Yes, they absolutely know what they're doing. As an AFAB, my jaw dropped, but it was also a relief to finally know the truth. Cannot recommend this book enough
/r/ExRedPill18/06/23 07:07 AM
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That it seems relative probably means you have a fair amount of privilege / you don't receive the same impact that minorities would from said misguided good intentions. That kind of thinking is what leads to black & white thinking, dear. And just reading one article about Hamtrack now, it sounds like a nuanced situation, and there's more to it than just "being Muslim," because gender socialization plays a role into perceptions and stances as well, not to mention there are Muslims there who oppos…
/r/ExRedPill18/06/23 06:47 AM
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Even good intentions can still cause harm, bud. Calling something "right wing" is pretty serious nowadays, because of the escalation of bigotry and violence.
/r/ExRedPill18/06/23 06:29 AM
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What instigates that kind of thinking? Is it observing other men whom he deems as "more attractive," or that those other men are considered attractive by society at large? I'm sapiosexual, so looks really don't have the same affect on me--a man could be considered the most beautiful in the world, but if he has an off-putting aura, he seems unattractive as hell to me (someone's character affects how they look to me, if that makes sense?) So if a man feels he is unattractive, what kinds of thought…
/r/ExRedPill18/06/23 06:23 AM
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Like a "you're attracted to boys, ha-ha Nelson laugh"? I'm trying to understand by reversing it too, but if someone called me a genis, girl + penis, I'd laugh so hard I'd need my inhaler
/r/ExRedPill18/06/23 06:11 AM
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Wait.... Do you know what a woman is? Like, are you wearing a Men In Black Edgar suit?
/r/ExRedPill18/06/23 06:08 AM
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As a former Christian fundamentalist and now atheist, I gotta say how taken aback (in a good way) I am by the love and devotion I have experienced from Muslims. Western Christianity ["Christianity"] is rooted in oppression and white supremacy, and when it comes to the love of God that "Christians" claim to have, it's like, "uh, you mean Muslims, right?" There's more I have to learn, but watching my fellow AFABs talk about being Muslim, why they choose (choose) to wear a Hijab or Niqab... That is…
/r/ExRedPill18/06/23 06:04 AM
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You really haven't met and gotten to know any Muslims have you? No I'm not Muslim
/r/ExRedPill18/06/23 05:54 AM
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I'm an AFAB reading this, and hoo, it's taking me a second. I can understand the competition mindset to a degree because I was abused growing up, but here is where I am stumped: do men often buy into red pill because they think it will help? (Genuinely asking, yes I'm quite dense when it comes to this topic 🙃). Does red pill advertise itself as helping men? I've already been caveating this a lot in this sub, but I'm autistic, which probably is making this specific subject in social science very …
/r/ExRedPill18/06/23 05:51 AM
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😳 Omg, that sounds creepy... Like, pedo territory. Shudders Is it supposed to elicit that feeling?
/r/ExRedPill18/06/23 05:36 AM
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I'm confused.... What does Wales have to do with it...? 😵‍💫
/r/ExRedPill18/06/23 05:34 AM
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This is an interesting intersectionality I'd like to understand more of, because how much can get lost in translation in the wake of systemic entitlement that so many boys are raised with, versus girls being raised to take on everyone's emotional labor. As an AFAB, I'm seriously trying to remember any women saying this about men, as in just not giving a fuck whatsoever (and I grew up in a conservative Republican hub until I was 20, and I still don't remember this--if anything, women were expecte…
/r/ExRedPill18/06/23 05:33 AM
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What is blackpill? I've never heard of it before (I'm reluctant to Google, because internet searching misogyny as an AFAB is a rabbit hole that very quickly gets confusing and overwhelming)
/r/ExRedPill18/06/23 05:23 AM
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I like that last bit you wrote especially, nice use of language That targeting sounds a lot like grooming behavior 🤢 would you consider it grooming? (Genuinely asking)
/r/ExRedPill18/06/23 05:18 AM
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Idk if this is me being autistic and not getting this kind of behavior in general, or if something like dog whistling is specific to hate groups, or? What does it accomplish, psychologically and socially? I'm really not trying to be obtuse--the "rewards" of this behavior genuinely do not make sense to me. I was also that teenager who had no problem walking away from peer pressure, and thought my peers were idiotic for being concerned with such triviality (eh, I probably still have a chip on my s…
/r/ExRedPill18/06/23 05:12 AM
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Bussy? (I thought someone was just misspelling 'busy')
/r/ExRedPill18/06/23 05:05 AM
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Is the that guy mentality actually envy, masked? As an AFAB, incels come across like toddlers throwing a tantrum, but in adult bodies (and not even, because I have a 2 year old, and they're much more rational/mature than many adult men I've interfaced with.... I wish I was kidding). In other words, do incels see themselves as superior to other men? If that's the case, definitely a wow, I'm surprised because to many AFABs, they just come across as entitled and trying (and failing) to elicit pity,…
/r/ExRedPill18/06/23 05:04 AM
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AFAB here--does anyone else immediately think of Old Greg when they hear the term? Okay, I'm going to read the comments now and learn some new insights today ☀️
/r/ExRedPill18/06/23 04:59 AM
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I'm an AFAB, reading what you wrote, and the comments, and HOLY FUCK it sounds like an exhausting mindset (I'll take my chronic illness and chronic fatigue, thanks 😂). I have so many questions, additionally also being autistic, so there is a lot of NT thinking (if you have insight into that?) that just absolutely baffles me--hell, my therapist is trying to help me understand, I research human behavior ardently when my health allows (including academic journals--it's ruined fiction reading for me…
/r/ExRedPill18/06/23 04:57 AM
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