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This is so niche you might just ask r/marriage and see what they say and use what applys
/r/RedPillWives01/10/24 01:27 PM
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This is very reasonable love how organized and deliberate you are in this 👍
/r/RedPillWives10/09/24 08:36 PM
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I currently have young kids but was a stay at home wife before kids so I would say youre experience something in the middle. I didn’t expect my husband to do anything other than man chores like lawn moving, furniture building. Weekly I’d cook, make and pack lunches, general house cleaning, without littles I’d spend more time on myself, working out , getting ready . Do more deep cleaning, organizing. And dive into a hobby
/r/RedPillWives10/09/24 02:13 PM
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My moms dead and I don’t have a brother 🫡
/r/RedPillWives12/06/24 02:41 AM
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I’m a red pill wife and I think this relationship is not worth staying in? That’s my opinion. I’m not going to give her advice on how to make this better because in MY OPINION he’s the problem.
/r/RedPillWives11/06/24 07:39 PM
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This sounds miserable and I would let this relationship go. No communication on finances ? No communication of his feelings before acting out? Expecting YOU to make changes to fix an issue you didn’t cause? All of this sounds bizarre
/r/RedPillWives11/06/24 07:04 PM
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Yess! It’s healthy to change directions/ focus. Hope you all the best on your new adventures
/r/RedPillWives02/03/24 03:13 AM
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Try forgiveness and remember why you’re in this. Be honest with yourself about having those feelings too at some point. If you can’t move past it start to reshape YOUR ideal. Start working towards a life of independence and identity outside of marriage. This will either remind you of how much you’re already living your ideal and maybe life in general is more lack luster than you thought (I’m guilty of this) or it will give you a second chance at life. Either way you deserve to feel safe and conf…
/r/RedPillWives02/03/24 02:42 AM
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Are you married or have children ? You’re not going to be able to submit to a man who is unreasonable. Red pill relationships only work if both parties are willing to grow together and support each other
/r/RedPillWives23/02/24 08:40 PM
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I am in no way trying to shame you for your choices. I was just curious because you didnt specifically mention you wanted to change that part of your relationship. My advice would be to downsize your life so you can work less, encourage your husband to make some type of money, and try to at least get to a more 50/50 with him on income AND child care. I would not have children and allow his to abandon his responsibilities as a man and stay home with them. Talk about resentment. Your hormones and …
/r/RedPillWives14/02/24 02:04 PM
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Op did not originally mention that she wanted to completely change the dynamics of her relationship. I never once mentioned the word trad. Also if your comment you you suggested him being sahd how does that tie into this life at all ?? I get that it doesn’t have to be a 1940s household but nothing about that seems to even swing in this direction. Of course there is nothing wrong with that choice i just don’t understand the point of having this community here if it’s just all ideals and any confi…
/r/RedPillWives14/02/24 01:42 PM
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Can I ask why you’re posting this to the red pill wives sub instead of just a regular relationship sub? Your relationship is farthest from this life style. If you’re looking to have a this type of marriage you’re not with the right man.
/r/RedPillWives14/02/24 03:55 AM
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My point is not to exclude her from this sub it’s to make the point that she’s only doing the hard part of this life with virtually no benefits. Thanks for informing me tho. Also if you read my second comment you will see that I do understand.
/r/RedPillWives12/02/24 07:49 PM
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If you desire this kind of relationship than you’re in the right place. Just not with the right person. You deserve so much more. You deserve to be taken care of for simply being there for your man. Sounds like you’re going to make a great wife one day
/r/RedPillWives12/02/24 06:01 PM
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You know this is a sub for red pill wives right? It’s not red pill relationships. Because you should be married , financially taken care of, and totally committed to be in this type of submissive situation you’ve found yourself in. I hope you can value yourself enough to leave this relationship and find your REAL husband 🩷
/r/RedPillWives12/02/24 05:57 PM
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A man who want a RPW will take a traditional route to dating and courting. A man who wants a woman will pursue & her feel wanted. This doesn’t seem legit and you sound desperate.
/r/RedPillWives03/02/24 09:29 PM
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That’s a great question !! I was definitely focused on being self sufficient when I was single. ( I HATED IT) it’s a man’s world and I had my eye on taking advantage of my womanhood by being taken care of…. But anyways I had my own place, car, job and decided to go to cosmetology school to pass the time. I ended up meeting my HV man while in school and he started stepping up and taking responsibilities off my shoulders…. Like paying for my school and buying experiences that I couldn’t afford. It…
/r/RedPillWives01/02/24 04:05 PM
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I don’t really have any advice but just to say I feel you !!! And to say it does get better. I stopped nursing two months ago and I already feel so much more desire. I don’t think I’ll ever return to the desire I had before kids but it is nice to actually orgasm and not feel the ick from my husband. I did just fake it until it got better. It was a really hard time for my marriage really I had lost apart of myself it seemed like. I’m pregnant again and going into this time with the confidence tha…
/r/RedPillWives01/02/24 02:32 PM
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Literally why are you here ? You’re not red pill and don’t want to be. Go find your people you should be banned here honestly
/r/RedPillWives01/02/24 01:10 PM
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I think you’re smarter than me this went over my head. Thanks for engaging anyways lol
/r/RedPillWives01/02/24 02:25 AM
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I liked this comment because I personally agree but why are you trying to sell her this life? If she doesn’t see it on her own she will be left disappointed when struggle hits. This is either something you just “get” and understand or it’s not…. I would argue that a feminist who lives a boss bitch life is still happier than a feminist stuck living for a man… even tho I still agree that living this life is ultimately the most full-filling
/r/RedPillWives01/02/24 02:22 AM
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Relationships straight up don’t work if you don’t agree on the fundamentals. It sounds like you two have totally different ideas on gender roles and expectations. Also if you feel like he’s waiting to find his dream wife he probably is. How long have you guys been together… and he still hasn’t married you? I’d be scared he’s just using you to fill the void while he builds his dream……If being a RPW means giving up on your dreams this is not the life for you. You will be left hurt, disappointed or…
/r/RedPillWives01/02/24 02:19 AM
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When you’ve had enough you’ll know. This was pathetic to read do better. And I’m not sure why you posted this here anyways try r/relationships or r/marriage this is not the vibe here
/r/RedPillWives26/01/24 05:00 PM
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